7 habits of a self - destructive person : 1.You hold on to a self defeating mindset (0:49) 2.You hide from your emotions (1:25) 3.You fail to take ACTION (2:05) 4.You hold on to force Incompetence (2:35) 5.You are socially isolated (3:11) 6.You are unneccesarily self-sacrificial (3:47) 7.You have problems with alcohol and drugs abuse (4:21) Hope this helps ! ❤ Have a good day!✨🤩
I know I'm self-sabotaging because I can relate to all except the last sign. I am fully aware that I'm doing it, the problem is it feels like I know that I have to stop, but when I try, the successes only last a little while, then is followed by a long period of quiet suffering. I know I have to at least try to do many things and stop myself from thinking those ugly thoughts, but it feels impossible to even start doing something good for myself. I've been aware that a lot of bad things that have happened to me are my fault, but somehow I just never learn my lesson or take the severity of the situation seriously. I have had so many meltdowns and I always feel like I'm in a sad haze for another week straight after my meltdowns. I just don't know how to stop it, the answer seems so simple, but it's so hard to do.
I relate to everything you said except I kinda feel more numb than sad. I know what I'm doing to myself but I just can't stop - I feel kinda arrogant when I'm saying good things to myself. I tried fixing my behaviour but it didn't last long and now I'm in the same mindset. I'm few months late with the respond haha but I wanted you to let you know you're not alone. Sending lots of love ❤️
I feel the same but I guess it has become better over time now the periods of productivity are longer and the sad periods only last one or two days at most and I feel like they will get shorter in the future ....if I can do it you can do it too!!
@Ran Mori don’t worry I haven’t done anything physical but sometimes I think about it then I watch a video of a seal spinning around in circles in a pool for 10 hours
The worst part is knowing all of that and being told about constantly but not being able to do anything about it because you have no motive, no soul, no nothing
I relate to that so much buddy… I’m aware of almost everything i do and done wrong, and my family supports me but also repeats these obvious facts about my behavior. And still, I don’t make progress in anything and don’t take action in what’s important.
Summary: 1) You hold on to a self-defeating mindset 2) You hide from your emotions 3) You fail to take action 4) You hold on to forced incompetence (You won't try to learn and practice if you believe you don't have an innate talent for something) 5) You are socially isolated 6) You are unnecessarily self-sacrificial 7) You have problems with alcohol & drug abuse Recommend watching for better understanding Ps: Nice new voice :D
i can literally relate to everything except no. 7 (but that's only because i don't have enough money to buy alcohol, drugs, etc.; if i had money i assure you i would've somehow done 7 too)
"No more excuses. No more self-sabotage. No more self-pity. No more comparing yourself to others. Time to step up. Take action right now and start living your life with purpose". Anthon St. Maarten
@@teenshii If you want to look for one, get yourself up by doing small things as a new habit, and see how it goes. For example : watering flowers, walking your dog in the afternoon, or lying at the ground at night just to look for some peace. From trying new stuff, you can start to understand why wouldn't you want to do it before in the first place and what's good about it if done together with someone else.
Ronan Harris it’s so hard when nothing brings you pleasure. even worse when it does, but it’s too short-lived. soon you just feel like an emotionless blob doing pointless things. no matter what you do.
Indeed, there are seeds of self-destruction in all of us that will bear only unhappiness if allowed to grow. For example, hate is self-destructive because you are hurting yourself much more 🖖
I never asked to be hateful, these feeling were forced upon me by my abuser, and for that, I genuinely hate them for what they've done to me, it took me a long time to realize that I wasn't supposed to keep giving this person chances, or accept their false Idea of "love". Hate makes you weaker when it's unprecedented. Hate in my instance is my only shovel out of this.
@@FriezaSucks It may not make a lot of sense just now... BUT you'll understand it in time, and it needs said. Beware of who or what you hate, and how much you hate it/them... It's too easy to become exactly and everything you've hated. They were awful to you. It's likely, they've been and will continue to be awful to others, too. Sooner or later, they will be awful to the worst choice of person, and they'll get everything they deserve. That's not a reason to either do nothing at all, nor to forgive or forget... You should remember so you learn from the past, as not to repeat it. Heal yourself... then let it go. I believe in you. ;o)
I am constantly self destructive, and it's cost me many friends/relationships. It really sucks. I just want to stay home and sleep constantly. I know I need to talk to someone close to me, or get help, but I can't. They most likely all hate me and I really can't handle them verifying that.
I'm only thirteen, but you have made me better understand psychology A LOT more. You've also helped me better understand myself, and have inspired me to want to become a psychologist. And most people my age don't know what they'd want to do when they're older so I feel very lucky to have come across this TH-cam channel to get me interested in psychology. I don't know what I would be without you guys. Thank you so much! :)
It's hard to overcome these habits when you've been doing it for years (in my case over a decade). I am no longer in a place of self-hatred and yet I tend to fall back into self-destroying behaviours. I'm not sure if I ever get out but I hope that it'll become less and less.
This video just told me everything i already known about miself, and left me more depressed, because i don't know how to chance that. I don't know what to do to change my mindsets and my behavior towards miself and other people. It's super hard to make a positive change when u are so negative and i don't know if its worth the effort...
I’m happy that I saw this video. It reconfirmed to me that I’m just going to ruff time and I’m not self destructive. I’m going to be just fine. Please remember that change is possible. You can do it!
I've realized that none of these videos make me feel any better. Just confirms a lot of what I already knew and feared. And what is definitely wrong with me. And the comment section is disappointing and frustrating sometimes.
The best method for helping someone who is self-sabotaging is to point out that no matter what you say, they always find excuses, or find things wrong. But if they truly want to address these destructive behaviors you'll be there for them by telling them the truth and staying genuine to who you really are👍
This isn't best method and for persons whom this style isn't appropriate often leads more to some things mentioned in the vid like hiding from expressing emotions around others, forced incompetence because this is just another failure to add to the ever growing list, and social isolation. Thus leading some deeper into the often overlapping depression and consequences thereafter. If going to take on the task then choose a method appropriate for that person. It takes some active awareness instead of the idea of awareness
OMG. IT’S A MALE VOICE. I’VE ONLY EVERY HEARD A MALE VOICE IN ONE OTHER VIDEO. Not complaining at all, it’s still really nice. It just caught me off guard a bit 😁
It is possible to break that self defeating mindset! It was only after getting diagnosed with depression that realized I hadn't focused on loving myself for me, for a really long time. My inner voice had become so negative without me realizing. But recognizing that is the first step in the right direction! From there on, don't shut the voice up but just listen to yourself, realize how negative it is and counter it with a positive thought. In the beginning it might feel forced or awkward, but that's only because you forgot what it was like to be kind to yourself. Eventually the negative will start to have less grip and grow more silent. Even then, don't forget you still have to actively nurture the positivity inside you. We all deserve to feel loved, especially by ourselves! I believe in you, so please believe in yourself too ❤️
I have 3 of them I consistently do, but I’ve gotten better! I told myself this year that I’ll probably always be anxious, so I’m gonna have to learn how to live with that pressure, and am pushing myself into situations I’m not comfortable with like, shadowing a wedding photographer, and learning portraits.
I never thought of myself as self destructive, But while I watched this video, I relate to some of them. I always hide my emotions to others, always make others happy instead of myself, always having mental breakdowns at night (Especially when bad moments and depression starts haunting me and reminding me) and always keeping my distance on others online ;-;
“You are unnecessarily self-sacrificial” Me who just gave up my blanket even though I was freezing so my dog could lay on something more comfortable than the floor: 👁 👄 👁
I just stumbled on this video, and I thought, “Oh well, it couldn’t hurt to check it out.” At first, it just seemed like a coincidence, but as you mentioned, “unnecessarily sacrificial,” it just clicked. I’ve been getting ready to join the army by any means, whether that be West Point or enlisting as a private, because I thought to myself, “You’ll get what you deserve either way.” I had no idea how ready I was to just give up on myself and cut everything short. Thank you so, so much for showing me this, it made me realize that I was doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. I’ll try to work with myself on these things.❤
I'm socially isolated, but it's not because I cut myself off from society. I was rejected by the kids in my neighborhood before I even started school. I was desperate to start school, thinking I would find friends there--but I didn't. I wish you would do a video on peer-group rejection.
Oh God I’ve been in this vicious cycle for years and can’t seem to break it. I never had support system that completely understood me, until now I gotten more help mentally, how to keep up with my schedule and to be more social. It’s baby steps but I am always scarred to dead I’ll go back to being self destructive…
3:22 "Or they don't reach out to you anymore cause you ignored all their texts, calls and invitations to hangout." Uh nope, that's the other way around.
I realized that I might be a person who sometimes likes making situations worse just to be able to hopfully solve them and feel better having solved it
I'm only disappointed when I don't try and don't get it. What kills me is when I try my absolute best resisting to that voice telling me that I would not be able to do it and it coming victorious and saying,"See, I told ya. You're not worth anything at all."
Why is it everytime I watch one of your videos I feel like you're out to attack me not help me. All I got from this is "here are 7 habits of self-destruction and they're all your fault" Yes I am self destructive, I am something of a self saboteur I admit that but I also have a diagnosed mental health and learning disability. Alot of the traits you mention coincide with alot of those conditions. The low self esteem, the self destructive behaviour, talking negatively about yourself. And being bad at math is not because I am self defeating and deciding to give up, it's because I have dyslexia and traits of discalculia. I genuinely can't work with or understand numbers in the same way others do. So thank you very much.
I also suffer from dyslexic style issues related to math, pretty sure it’s also affected my ability to communicate with people in a healthy fashion, never mind countless frustrations in academia throughout my teenage/college years. but please do yourself a favor, and not be defensive about the way these videos make you feel. This is clearly a generous free public service being offered, and educational tool. What we do with it, is up to us. But nobody is blaming anyone, for anything they do here.
I often think we are all way too hard on ourselves! Is there actually anybody out there that is “the best version of themselves”? Is there really anyone who has it all together? If there is I want to know who they are. I believe even those we THINK have it all together and are living their best life, I bet they’re secretly just as messed up as we are! Point being let’s all just be a little kinder to ourselves and not expect ourselves to be some kind of perfection like we see on some infomercial or some self-help guru speak!!!! We’re all just doing the best we can!
At the start of 4 yrs old, I grew up with internal anger and intense emotions negativly directed at myself. I was outwordly very friendly with others and responsive to others who had similar problems like me. But my sens of self was so warped and damaged as I grew up cause now I fear positive intentions and have a general hate for my emotions and reactions to when people are nice to me. Any directed ppstive reinforcement sent my way will quickly get crushed by the side of me that thinks im undeserving of such an honor. Part of me craves appreciation for veing a kind and outwordly good person...but tye other part of me tells me im not worth it and that any positive intention is actually a fusaude Ive been to 4 therapysts and have been told im a hard person to deal with.
Oh my gosh, the auto-generated captions were actually 99.9% accurate (at least for me)! The only thing it screwed up was changing writing out numbers to using digits! Amazing 👏
I’m trying to limit my time on TH-cam more considering that I use it as a form of escapism to not take charge of my present, but I honestly feel so far gone that i wanna get this out. I self sabotage myself because I expect others to do things for me, I always had things done for me by my overbearing members and it got to the point I thought I was ready to just take in the world alone. Now I realize I have to do it alone, I have no friends to go too anymore when things get out of hand and feel caged everyday in life so slowly harm and so destructive behaviors that are repetitive the more I stay inside of the house and have others decide my time
Ooo early! May as well repost: Hello! I was wondering... My friend and I are making a google site called Mental Helper, which is an information source about mental disorders. My friend has used several of your videos as sources for information. I wanted to ask... Is this okay? She didn't ask so I figured I would. If we don't have permission I'll ask her to remove the videos right away. If you don't want us linking your videos, can we at least mention your channel as an incredible information source? It's not as though the website is gonna get super popular or anything, and your channel is AMAZING for psychology stuff explained in a simple fashion. It's okay if we can't use this as a source though. Sorry for this crazy flood of words, and thank you for reading! Like so Psych2Go sees
You should email Pysch2Go directly through their business email or something to guarantee a reply rather than writing it in the comments where t was get lost in the rest.
@@teffley2766 It's worth pointing out that using a proper "Citation" (and I'm not sure what that constitutes online) is the difference between "fair use" and plagiarism... In video form, I'm not even sure where to point you to for better explanations on how to do it properly... BUT that even when you paraphrase (use your own words for the same material) you should cite the material from whence you got it... In text, there are two forms, both of which could be at least "satisfactory" for use in an end-card and in your descriptions or the pinned comment, so you cover all bases...something like this : ["Paraphrase or Quote directly the material" (Book/Vid source, page or min/sec notation). ] AND you can directly link the video either directly after, or below, with a bracketed or parenthetical note about it being the "complete video"... Part of the flexibility here is so you can still make your "Doobly Doo" or the Pinned Comment(s) "look pretty"... which they should. Finally, don't degrade your work. Yeah, I know, in all honesty, it's a pretty far and few between instance that "blows up" online and gets wildly popular... BUT if you reign your hopes in TOO hard, you'll start to forget to put your passion into the work. Frankly, I doubt P2G would get totally pissed about you linking or citing their work as source for your own... AND that said, it's worth sitting through the P2G vid's TWICE... First time, you just absorb the video undistracted. THE SECOND time, you go through and pause periodically when THEY reference something or someone, so you can hit Wikipedia... AND look through the bottom of the wiki's... There's a wealth of bibliographical information (Wikipedia CITATIONS for their sources for information in the article)... In fact, it wouldn't be a bad idea to just glance over how Wikipedia does their citations so you have a good idea of how to flesh out your own Doobly-Doo's and add bibliographical information for your own videos. It's a work in progress, so have some patience for yourself. You may (probably will?) eventually be asked or have the demand to take down a vid'... whatever. It happens. Try to pursue what exactly was the problem, and see how you could fix it... whether you find a different source of very similar information, so they can't keep flagging you, or you just cut that fragment out in a re-edit, and put the rest back up. I'm just hoping to help you out... not just for now, but for a LONG time to come. ;o)
Thanks & good job. I'm starting to look at psychology from a healthy relationship perspective..it sounds like you are arguing that people need to conform to a toxic society that expects them to sacrifice themselves to fit in. Maybe these destructive behaviors are healthy ways of coping with a toxic society.
How to change the cycle? How do you find motivation when the things you loved are not enjoyable anymore? How to stop feeling anxious when someone helps you?
#2 trying to be a peace, but I got sick of the nonsense and exploded at someone accusing me of having an attitude when I was just breathing out a heavy sigh, trying again to keep my emotions in with the way they approached me. #3 is something everyone seems to accuse me of when I'm actually taking a break but it's quite the opposite, I activelg plan and start, change the plan as I go along but my major issue is money right now...otherwise I hesitate before sending off applications to jobs thinking I'm under qualified...working on that part. #4 but I actually want to work on my skills, my circumstances has me in a bind at the moment but I want to try to gain hands on experience so I won't feel lost anymore. Someone is trying to help me with it. #6 I used to be but I'm working on stopping as it always ends badly for me. I give up on myself to focus on others needs..now that person is gone, doing fine and moving on with their life while I'm recovering and picking up the pieces.
Hey, some of these sound like me! Lol! Seriously though I definitely have a hard time seeing something better in me, partly because I have made certain choices in the past and because I've had a critical patent. I've also delt with some depression and it's easier to look at the positive side for others than inside my head. I also have a hard time trying something new because I either talk myself out of it, thinking about things too critically, or I'm more focused on the possibility of failure instead of looking at mistakes as part of the whole process. Sometimes people choose videogames or sugar instead of alcohol and drugs.
My dad died when i was three years old and since i was so young i didnt properly understand, now that can comprehend it im really sad all the time and i inherated his anxiety the basicly prevented him from being a funtioning adult. Yay.
Psych2Go, keep in mind that you have a wonderful channel and one of the reasons it’s so great is because you’re able to bring about sensitive issues, usually involving trauma and otherwise vulnerable foundations of our identities, in a non-threatening peaceful manner. This has been especially true because of the absence of masculine energy in your channel. I literally had to close this video because of the VO - keep that in mind a bit please. Men already have a platform for everything else in the world - please don’t expose vulnerable populations to gross masculine energy. Thanks for everything you guys do!
I have had these things like this week & I have hurt the woman I love & we are still thankfully Engaged.I am surprised she still wants me in her life.I am trying so hard to forgive myself how I treated her.
I’m a yes to all of those except alcohol and drug abuse): I dropped that about 3 months ago cuz I knew it wasn’t really helping, but only making things worse. Everything else remains though): I’ve been so alone for years and feel like it’s so hard to find like minded people..
I am in all of those holes. Half out of it though.. improved since two months ago for sure... it’s a climb and not an overnight change. The mistake I made before was trying to change everything overnight.
I'm tired of myself. I was average kid from childhood. But deep down I always felt that I'm here for a great purpose. But from past 2.5 years after graduation I'm starting to feel as a failure. I've applied more than 100 internship, nobody wants to hire me. I got an internship in a reputed company in previous month but at the end of probation I'm not offered to continue. I just don't want to live of my parents money. My whole 24 years are fucking shame in terms of personal achievement. I failed my purpose on Earth. I just want to end this endless spiral. It's just killing me every day and night. It's been years since I've taken a happy sleep. I'm just a shame. I'm a good being, but I've did some horrible things in life, maybe that's what I'm paying off. I'm just caged in my own soul.
"The WORLD around you keeps going and you keep falling behind "
Felt that
The thing is, it's the world itself that is falling... So, why would we want to fall along with it in the first place?
@@deavult3643 maybe coz we're done fighting and lost here in this world
@@vaibhavy1761 Very interesting view... Maybe this world is but the reflect of how we all feel.
Every one have their own unique journey. Destinations are different so fuck world.. Use them but don't follow shit
@@deavult3643 exactly
THE VOICE IS DIFFERENT I ACTUALLY JUMPED
love it tho heheh hes so calming and sounds chill heh
Same I was like ooooh a guy! It's been a while lmao
sameeee ahahha
It’s nice and loud
Same!
It caught me off guard hearing a different voice still good video though
Me: sees title
*Sweats in relatability*
*Relatability intensifies*
SWEATING * I N T E N S I F I E S *
*intense sweating*
YES
Yup.
7 habits of a self - destructive person :
1.You hold on to a self defeating mindset (0:49)
2.You hide from your emotions (1:25)
3.You fail to take ACTION (2:05)
4.You hold on to force Incompetence (2:35)
5.You are socially isolated (3:11)
6.You are unneccesarily self-sacrificial (3:47)
7.You have problems with alcohol and drugs abuse (4:21)
Hope this helps ! ❤
Have a good day!✨🤩
I hit 2, 3, and possibly 6.
*_DINGDINGDINGDINGDINGDING_*
I got all but seven-
Eating disorder can be added to the 7th point
Thank you❤
@Mylee [f.u.ск мe] ТАР 0N МY РIC excuse me , what the fawk is this
I wasn't expecting that voice it threw me off lol
Same
Same
Lol me too
I knew there will be something about the voice.
For once I don’t fall asleep
I saw the title and was like "Are they talking about me?!"
This is accurately relatable😆
@@zg5415 LOL
How many signs did you relate to?
@@Psych2go All of them LOL i just noticed XD
Lol me too
As a self sabotager, I know I ruin everything good in my life ...
:[ I'm sorry
@@mioislost5387 Yea... it really sucks
@@SamElle I hope you can do better even tho idk what you're going through I just hope everything can be ok for u :)
You and me both
and that’s on everything that is in shambles
I know I'm self-sabotaging because I can relate to all except the last sign. I am fully aware that I'm doing it, the problem is it feels like I know that I have to stop, but when I try, the successes only last a little while, then is followed by a long period of quiet suffering. I know I have to at least try to do many things and stop myself from thinking those ugly thoughts, but it feels impossible to even start doing something good for myself. I've been aware that a lot of bad things that have happened to me are my fault, but somehow I just never learn my lesson or take the severity of the situation seriously. I have had so many meltdowns and I always feel like I'm in a sad haze for another week straight after my meltdowns. I just don't know how to stop it, the answer seems so simple, but it's so hard to do.
You can do it, I believe in you! Know that things will get better and that you are worthy of the things you want. (:
I know how you feel *sends warm hugs
Thank you for summarizing the feeling i have been having since online classes started
I relate to everything you said except I kinda feel more numb than sad. I know what I'm doing to myself but I just can't stop - I feel kinda arrogant when I'm saying good things to myself. I tried fixing my behaviour but it didn't last long and now I'm in the same mindset. I'm few months late with the respond haha but I wanted you to let you know you're not alone. Sending lots of love ❤️
I feel the same but I guess it has become better over time now the periods of productivity are longer and the sad periods only last one or two days at most and I feel like they will get shorter in the future ....if I can do it you can do it too!!
I’m a self destructive person mentally but not physically. I’ve thought about it, but never did it.
Yeah me too
Please don't it's not worth it
same
@Ran Mori don’t worry I haven’t done anything physical but sometimes I think about it then I watch a video of a seal spinning around in circles in a pool for 10 hours
Same bruh
The worst part is knowing all of that and being told about constantly but not being able to do anything about it because you have no motive, no soul, no nothing
I relate to that so much buddy… I’m aware of almost everything i do and done wrong, and my family supports me but also repeats these obvious facts about my behavior. And still, I don’t make progress in anything and don’t take action in what’s important.
@@Chloe.Lucero nah, only getting worse
You good now? Uve had 2 years
Hugs and understanding to you ❤... and you will be able to overcome this with God's grace. I will be praying for you. Don't give up please.
Habit 1: They explode their own Minecraft Base
LMAO...
And eat a victory steak
They run their horse boff a cliff in RDR2..
You just be thinking about Minecraft
All your brain cell has filled with minecraft
(Btw youre like Justin y of Psych2go)
Summary:
1) You hold on to a self-defeating mindset
2) You hide from your emotions
3) You fail to take action
4) You hold on to forced incompetence (You won't try to learn and practice if you believe you don't have an innate talent for something)
5) You are socially isolated
6) You are unnecessarily self-sacrificial
7) You have problems with alcohol & drug abuse
Recommend watching for better understanding
Ps: Nice new voice :D
6/7 let’s goooooo 😃🔫
I dont relate to no.7 but i relate a lot to 3 & 4 :(
i can literally relate to everything except no. 7 (but that's only because i don't have enough money to buy alcohol, drugs, etc.; if i had money i assure you i would've somehow done 7 too)
All of them :/
Except 7
I've learned of the sort of destructive thing drugs and alcohol do, so I'll never do that
"No more excuses. No more self-sabotage. No more self-pity. No more comparing yourself to others. Time to step up. Take action right now and start living your life with purpose".
Anthon St. Maarten
Its not as easy as that.
But I don‘t have a purpose in life
Literally looking for purpose right now.
@@teenshii If you want to look for one, get yourself up by doing small things as a new habit, and see how it goes. For example : watering flowers, walking your dog in the afternoon, or lying at the ground at night just to look for some peace. From trying new stuff, you can start to understand why wouldn't you want to do it before in the first place and what's good about it if done together with someone else.
Ronan Harris it’s so hard when nothing brings you pleasure. even worse when it does, but it’s too short-lived. soon you just feel like an emotionless blob doing pointless things. no matter what you do.
Indeed, there are seeds of self-destruction in all of us that will bear only unhappiness if allowed to grow. For example, hate is self-destructive because you are hurting yourself much more 🖖
I never asked to be hateful, these feeling were forced upon me by my abuser, and for that, I genuinely hate them for what they've done to me, it took me a long time to realize that I wasn't supposed to keep giving this person chances, or accept their false Idea of "love". Hate makes you weaker when it's unprecedented. Hate in my instance is my only shovel out of this.
@@FriezaSucks That type of hate is definitely an exception, abusers deserve it! Lots of love to you
@@haveagoodmourning Thank you my friend, I will try my best to only aim it towards the people that deserve it ❤
@@FriezaSucks It may not make a lot of sense just now... BUT you'll understand it in time, and it needs said. Beware of who or what you hate, and how much you hate it/them... It's too easy to become exactly and everything you've hated.
They were awful to you. It's likely, they've been and will continue to be awful to others, too. Sooner or later, they will be awful to the worst choice of person, and they'll get everything they deserve. That's not a reason to either do nothing at all, nor to forgive or forget... You should remember so you learn from the past, as not to repeat it.
Heal yourself... then let it go. I believe in you. ;o)
Hatred arises from fear. You cannot hate something if there's no fear involved.
I am constantly self destructive, and it's cost me many friends/relationships. It really sucks. I just want to stay home and sleep constantly. I know I need to talk to someone close to me, or get help, but I can't. They most likely all hate me and I really can't handle them verifying that.
SAME
I'm only thirteen, but you have made me better understand psychology A LOT more. You've also helped me better understand myself, and have inspired me to want to become a psychologist. And most people my age don't know what they'd want to do when they're older so I feel very lucky to have come across this TH-cam channel to get me interested in psychology. I don't know what I would be without you guys.
Thank you so much! :)
2:15 omg that BMO reference haha
I love adventure time!!
Did you like it? :)
Psych2Go
Of course !
omg i was like YAAY BMO :')
It's hard to overcome these habits when you've been doing it for years (in my case over a decade). I am no longer in a place of self-hatred and yet I tend to fall back into self-destroying behaviours. I'm not sure if I ever get out but I hope that it'll become less and less.
The second I read the title the first thing I thought about was bakagou
I agree 😩
i mean,,,,yeah,,,
this comment made my night
Gon Freecs Desu I’m glad it did 😌
This video just told me everything i already known about miself, and left me more depressed, because i don't know how to chance that. I don't know what to do to change my mindsets and my behavior towards miself and other people. It's super hard to make a positive change when u are so negative and i don't know if its worth the effort...
8: Buying stuff to get an emotional high
I know i'm guilty of this sometimes
would you mind to elaborate a bit by giving some examples please? is it like being an imposter or what?
Oops👀
Not me spending over 100 Euros for a game because it made me happy for a moment
@@celinasbasiic lol thats not too bad. Try spending $1k + on stuff you don't need.
@@karakunai_dev no just spending money on stuff you dont need to be happy for a moment then regretting the purchase later on
@@JonathanS89 thanks. That sounds like the average smoker that understood the risk of doing so.
I’m happy that I saw this video. It reconfirmed to me that I’m just going to ruff time and I’m not self destructive. I’m going to be just fine. Please remember that change is possible. You can do it!
I've realized that none of these videos make me feel any better. Just confirms a lot of what I already knew and feared. And what is definitely wrong with me.
And the comment section is disappointing and frustrating sometimes.
The best method for helping someone who is self-sabotaging is to point out that no matter what you say, they always find excuses, or find things wrong. But if they truly want to address these destructive behaviors you'll be there for them by telling them the truth and staying genuine to who you really are👍
I tried expressing this habit to a friend of mine, but I don't think we were getting anywhere. I just don't feel comfortable sharing after that..
I think that that doesn't work for everybody. Sometimes you'll just dig them deeper if you point out their sabotaging
I think maybe the way to do it is assuring the person that you're not judging them, and to be supportive
This isn't best method and for persons whom this style isn't appropriate often leads more to some things mentioned in the vid like hiding from expressing emotions around others, forced incompetence because this is just another failure to add to the ever growing list, and social isolation. Thus leading some deeper into the often overlapping depression and consequences thereafter. If going to take on the task then choose a method appropriate for that person. It takes some active awareness instead of the idea of awareness
Omg the little crewmates in the thumbnail made my day. 😔🤍
Edit: grammar
I DIDN’T NOTICE THEM THEY’RE SO CUTEEEE
3:52 - _Are you so focused on making others happy, that you forgot to look for your own happiness?_
Me: ... *yes.* 😢
This was me. I say was because I dont want to be THAT guy anymore
As soon as I read the title I was like yep this is me
aww, poor amajiki
@empress maiko I kinda do need one lmao
How many of these did you resonate with?
@@Psych2go All lmao
OMG. IT’S A MALE VOICE. I’VE ONLY EVERY HEARD A MALE VOICE IN ONE OTHER VIDEO.
Not complaining at all, it’s still really nice. It just caught me off guard a bit 😁
I love this channel so much
Galaxy _mooncat77 same
Same
Same
me too
It is possible to break that self defeating mindset! It was only after getting diagnosed with depression that realized I hadn't focused on loving myself for me, for a really long time. My inner voice had become so negative without me realizing. But recognizing that is the first step in the right direction! From there on, don't shut the voice up but just listen to yourself, realize how negative it is and counter it with a positive thought. In the beginning it might feel forced or awkward, but that's only because you forgot what it was like to be kind to yourself. Eventually the negative will start to have less grip and grow more silent. Even then, don't forget you still have to actively nurture the positivity inside you. We all deserve to feel loved, especially by ourselves! I believe in you, so please believe in yourself too ❤️
I never thought I'd make it this far, so I guess my brain freaks out and I'm self destructive.
How many signs did you relate to?
I have 3 of them I consistently do, but I’ve gotten better! I told myself this year that I’ll probably always be anxious, so I’m gonna have to learn how to live with that pressure, and am pushing myself into situations I’m not comfortable with like, shadowing a wedding photographer, and learning portraits.
I feel attacked by creatures who have plants on their heads.
Thank you for the non-judgmental tone while you hold up the mirror to me and my life. I like this voice too!
Accurate tho, feels like I'm about to cry & having a mental breakdown for being exposed ♠️
Same, I feel worse now (which I kind of expected to happen but I clicked anyway)
I never thought of myself as self destructive, But while I watched this video, I relate to some of them. I always hide my emotions to others, always make others happy instead of myself, always having mental breakdowns at night (Especially when bad moments and depression starts haunting me and reminding me) and always keeping my distance on others online ;-;
Haven’t heard Jim’s voice in a while
I love Naphia’s art so much!
“You are unnecessarily self-sacrificial”
Me who just gave up my blanket even though I was freezing so my dog could lay on something more comfortable than the floor: 👁 👄 👁
I just stumbled on this video, and I thought, “Oh well, it couldn’t hurt to check it out.” At first, it just seemed like a coincidence, but as you mentioned, “unnecessarily sacrificial,” it just clicked. I’ve been getting ready to join the army by any means, whether that be West Point or enlisting as a private, because I thought to myself, “You’ll get what you deserve either way.” I had no idea how ready I was to just give up on myself and cut everything short. Thank you so, so much for showing me this, it made me realize that I was doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. I’ll try to work with myself on these things.❤
I'm socially isolated, but it's not because I cut myself off from society. I was rejected by the kids in my neighborhood before I even started school. I was desperate to start school, thinking I would find friends there--but I didn't. I wish you would do a video on peer-group rejection.
Oh God I’ve been in this vicious cycle for years and can’t seem to break it. I never had support system that completely understood me, until now I gotten more help mentally, how to keep up with my schedule and to be more social. It’s baby steps but I am always scarred to dead I’ll go back to being self destructive…
3:22 "Or they don't reach out to you anymore cause you ignored all their texts, calls and invitations to hangout."
Uh nope, that's the other way around.
exactly, feeling abandoned/ignored by everyone fuels the hopelessness/loneliness. it’s like an endless downward spiral of doom.
I'm trying to get my first job, and I'm very nervous about socializing and talking to customers. I really need to be more confident in my abilities
I haven't even seen the video yet and I already feel attacked.
I don't believe it.
I realized that I might be a person who sometimes likes making situations worse just to be able to hopfully solve them and feel better having solved it
I'm only disappointed when I don't try and don't get it. What kills me is when I try my absolute best resisting to that voice telling me that I would not be able to do it and it coming victorious and saying,"See, I told ya. You're not worth anything at all."
Love how they snuck BMO from Adventure Time into the video 💙 seriously love this channel 😍 thanks for the video guys !
I really like this guy’s voice.
Why is it everytime I watch one of your videos I feel like you're out to attack me not help me. All I got from this is "here are 7 habits of self-destruction and they're all your fault"
Yes I am self destructive, I am something of a self saboteur I admit that but I also have a diagnosed mental health and learning disability. Alot of the traits you mention coincide with alot of those conditions. The low self esteem, the self destructive behaviour, talking negatively about yourself. And being bad at math is not because I am self defeating and deciding to give up, it's because I have dyslexia and traits of discalculia. I genuinely can't work with or understand numbers in the same way others do.
So thank you very much.
I also suffer from dyslexic style issues related to math, pretty sure it’s also affected my ability to communicate with people in a healthy fashion, never mind countless frustrations in academia throughout my teenage/college years. but please do yourself a favor, and not be defensive about the way these videos make you feel.
This is clearly a generous free public service being offered, and educational tool.
What we do with it, is up to us. But nobody is blaming anyone, for anything they do here.
The animation is so cute this episode, I've been loving the recent animations so much
I often think we are all way too hard on ourselves! Is there actually anybody out there that is “the best version of themselves”? Is there really anyone who has it all together? If there is I want to know who they are. I believe even those we THINK have it all together and are living their best life, I bet they’re secretly just as messed up as we are! Point being let’s all just be a little kinder to ourselves and not expect ourselves to be some kind of perfection like we see on some infomercial or some self-help guru speak!!!! We’re all just doing the best we can!
*Sees dream rascal and techno plush*
Me: ah I see you're a man of culture as well.
and another among us reference in the thumbnail
YEEEESSSSSSS DREAM AND TECHNOBLADDEE!!!!
i was so happy
At the start of 4 yrs old, I grew up with internal anger and intense emotions negativly directed at myself.
I was outwordly very friendly with others and responsive to others who had similar problems like me.
But my sens of self was so warped and damaged as I grew up cause now I fear positive intentions and have a general hate for my emotions and reactions to when people are nice to me.
Any directed ppstive reinforcement sent my way will quickly get crushed by the side of me that thinks im undeserving of such an honor.
Part of me craves appreciation for veing a kind and outwordly good person...but tye other part of me tells me im not worth it and that any positive intention is actually a fusaude
Ive been to 4 therapysts and have been told im a hard person to deal with.
Thank you Psych2Go! You guys have helped me locate my negative behaviors.
Oh my gosh, the auto-generated captions were actually 99.9% accurate (at least for me)! The only thing it screwed up was changing writing out numbers to using digits! Amazing 👏
Me watching this video rn and avoiding all my homework assignments that are due today
I’m trying to limit my time on TH-cam more considering that I use it as a form of escapism to not take charge of my present, but I honestly feel so far gone that i wanna get this out. I self sabotage myself because I expect others to do things for me, I always had things done for me by my overbearing members and it got to the point I thought I was ready to just take in the world alone. Now I realize I have to do it alone, I have no friends to go too anymore when things get out of hand and feel caged everyday in life so slowly harm and so destructive behaviors that are repetitive the more I stay inside of the house and have others decide my time
*"I'm just not good enough"*
Basically my life hahaha
help
Thank you for letting me know i sure wont ignore what i learned and keep doing most of these things :D
Ooo early! May as well repost:
Hello! I was wondering... My friend and I are making a google site called Mental Helper, which is an information source about mental disorders. My friend has used several of your videos as sources for information.
I wanted to ask... Is this okay? She didn't ask so I figured I would. If we don't have permission I'll ask her to remove the videos right away. If you don't want us linking your videos, can we at least mention your channel as an incredible information source? It's not as though the website is gonna get super popular or anything, and your channel is AMAZING for psychology stuff explained in a simple fashion.
It's okay if we can't use this as a source though. Sorry for this crazy flood of words, and thank you for reading!
Like so Psych2Go sees
You should email Pysch2Go directly through their business email or something to guarantee a reply rather than writing it in the comments where t was get lost in the rest.
@@rio5793 Oh you're right tysm!
@Clovertoe 3352
Np
@@teffley2766 It's worth pointing out that using a proper "Citation" (and I'm not sure what that constitutes online) is the difference between "fair use" and plagiarism... In video form, I'm not even sure where to point you to for better explanations on how to do it properly... BUT that even when you paraphrase (use your own words for the same material) you should cite the material from whence you got it...
In text, there are two forms, both of which could be at least "satisfactory" for use in an end-card and in your descriptions or the pinned comment, so you cover all bases...something like this :
["Paraphrase or Quote directly the material" (Book/Vid source, page or min/sec notation). ] AND you can directly link the video either directly after, or below, with a bracketed or parenthetical note about it being the "complete video"... Part of the flexibility here is so you can still make your "Doobly Doo" or the Pinned Comment(s) "look pretty"... which they should.
Finally, don't degrade your work. Yeah, I know, in all honesty, it's a pretty far and few between instance that "blows up" online and gets wildly popular... BUT if you reign your hopes in TOO hard, you'll start to forget to put your passion into the work. Frankly, I doubt P2G would get totally pissed about you linking or citing their work as source for your own...
AND that said, it's worth sitting through the P2G vid's TWICE... First time, you just absorb the video undistracted. THE SECOND time, you go through and pause periodically when THEY reference something or someone, so you can hit Wikipedia... AND look through the bottom of the wiki's... There's a wealth of bibliographical information (Wikipedia CITATIONS for their sources for information in the article)... In fact, it wouldn't be a bad idea to just glance over how Wikipedia does their citations so you have a good idea of how to flesh out your own Doobly-Doo's and add bibliographical information for your own videos. It's a work in progress, so have some patience for yourself. You may (probably will?) eventually be asked or have the demand to take down a vid'... whatever. It happens. Try to pursue what exactly was the problem, and see how you could fix it... whether you find a different source of very similar information, so they can't keep flagging you, or you just cut that fragment out in a re-edit, and put the rest back up.
I'm just hoping to help you out... not just for now, but for a LONG time to come. ;o)
The narrator's voice is so soothing ❤
1:05 This reminds me when Dream and Techno fought lol 😭
same askfksl
patiently learning to break patterns of self destruction
Thanks & good job. I'm starting to look at psychology from a healthy relationship perspective..it sounds like you are arguing that people need to conform to a toxic society that expects them to sacrifice themselves to fit in. Maybe these destructive behaviors are healthy ways of coping with a toxic society.
You have an Awesome voice
Keep up the great work you guys!
Hey hey, im here and *damnn* it's been along time since I've watched Psych2go's videos-
Army💜
@@toughhope9627 SAME!
ARMYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Armys are everywhere
AARRRMMYYY!!!!!!!💜💜💜💜
BORAHAE💜💜💜💜💜
💜 a r m y 💜
Thank you always for all the great information. I appreciate it!
How to change the cycle? How do you find motivation when the things you loved are not enjoyable anymore? How to stop feeling anxious when someone helps you?
I feel like giving a hug to someone now🥺
How to overcome this type of behaviour?
I'm shit scared now!!!!
#2 trying to be a peace, but I got sick of the nonsense and exploded at someone accusing me of having an attitude when I was just breathing out a heavy sigh, trying again to keep my emotions in with the way they approached me.
#3 is something everyone seems to accuse me of when I'm actually taking a break but it's quite the opposite, I activelg plan and start, change the plan as I go along but my major issue is money right now...otherwise I hesitate before sending off applications to jobs thinking I'm under qualified...working on that part.
#4 but I actually want to work on my skills, my circumstances has me in a bind at the moment but I want to try to gain hands on experience so I won't feel lost anymore. Someone is trying to help me with it.
#6 I used to be but I'm working on stopping as it always ends badly for me. I give up on myself to focus on others needs..now that person is gone, doing fine and moving on with their life while I'm recovering and picking up the pieces.
Let’s just admit it already, we only watch these videos because they talk about all the things we do
I think I'm in love with his voice 😅 It's so unique and his tone is so calming✨💜
Hey, some of these sound like me! Lol!
Seriously though I definitely have a hard time seeing something better in me, partly because I have made certain choices in the past and because I've had a critical patent.
I've also delt with some depression and it's easier to look at the positive side for others than inside my head.
I also have a hard time trying something new because I either talk myself out of it, thinking about things too critically, or I'm more focused on the possibility of failure instead of looking at mistakes as part of the whole process.
Sometimes people choose videogames or sugar instead of alcohol and drugs.
My dad died when i was three years old and since i was so young i didnt properly understand, now that can comprehend it im really sad all the time and i inherated his anxiety the basicly prevented him from being a funtioning adult. Yay.
From this channel i have learned i am Self Destructive and i hate myself
It’s all a cycle and what you make of your decisions you choose to do in life ☺️
Psych2Go, keep in mind that you have a wonderful channel and one of the reasons it’s so great is because you’re able to bring about sensitive issues, usually involving trauma and otherwise vulnerable foundations of our identities, in a non-threatening peaceful manner. This has been especially true because of the absence of masculine energy in your channel. I literally had to close this video because of the VO - keep that in mind a bit please. Men already have a platform for everything else in the world - please don’t expose vulnerable populations to gross masculine energy. Thanks for everything you guys do!
Literally have done everysingle one of these.
I’m a self destructive person, by I mean I just spontaneously combust randomly…
WHERES THE CALM PRETTY FEMALE VOICE
IKRRR
This is ok but like
I really hope she she comes back
ya
Sexist
I have had these things like this week & I have hurt the woman I love & we are still thankfully Engaged.I am surprised she still wants me in her life.I am trying so hard to forgive myself how I treated her.
Hey, nice male voice replacement you got there!
I’m a yes to all of those except alcohol and drug abuse): I dropped that about 3 months ago cuz I knew it wasn’t really helping, but only making things worse. Everything else remains though): I’ve been so alone for years and feel like it’s so hard to find like minded people..
Why is the video titled "Self-Destructive" I thought this was a ticked bomb LOL
UwU
But, is it wrong tho? The extent that you might go when you are a self-destructive person makes you one (speaking from experience)
For 7 years I have been over using my phone, I don't know what to do at this point anymore...
18 views - 62 likes
I think TH-cam needs more help then the people watching this
I would love to see a video about signs that you aren’t emotionally ready for a relationship
this is gonna be me isn’t it lmao
and i haven’t even watched it yet
Army
ISAWJUNGKOOK
Samara Lobo we’re everywhere 😌👉🏼👉🏼
I watched this out of curiosity and was surprised at how much I reconized myself in this.
My main issue, acording to my psycologist is my failure to take action. How would you sugest I overcome this?
No hate, just that we are so used to her beautiful voice, this one seem like 😒 oh no! Please bring that lady's voice 😍
I agree. So much soother. No offense to the male voice. Women know how to touch the soul. I guess it's a Yin energy.
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@@bluhummingbird2179 no no, its just that she has good explaining skills and awesome voice 🙂
Great video and important information to know. Love the animation and voice over on this one as well!
Thanks for your positive feedback! Glad you enjoyed it! What other topics would you like us to cover?
WHO IS THIS GUY I NEVER HEARD HIM HERE WHERE THE GIRL VOICE WTF I'M SCARED!!!
I am in all of those holes. Half out of it though.. improved since two months ago for sure... it’s a climb and not an overnight change. The mistake I made before was trying to change everything overnight.
Who got scared not hearing the girls voice? Just me? Ok..
I'm tired of myself. I was average kid from childhood. But deep down I always felt that I'm here for a great purpose. But from past 2.5 years after graduation I'm starting to feel as a failure. I've applied more than 100 internship, nobody wants to hire me. I got an internship in a reputed company in previous month but at the end of probation I'm not offered to continue. I just don't want to live of my parents money. My whole 24 years are fucking shame in terms of personal achievement. I failed my purpose on Earth. I just want to end this endless spiral. It's just killing me every day and night. It's been years since I've taken a happy sleep. I'm just a shame. I'm a good being, but I've did some horrible things in life, maybe that's what I'm paying off. I'm just caged in my own soul.
Who else missing her voice?
Me 😢
WE NEED ANOTHER VIDEO FOR HELPING US TO GET AWAY FROM THIS!!!!
THE AMONG US DUDES!!!AH!!!
They are adorable!
@@Psych2go I love em. :]