I believe when you hit 50 your tolerance for bullshit lessens exponentially and more so as the years go on. I have found that I am not willing to pick up any drama or negativity and this is helped me out greatly in avoiding toxic friends.
Absolutely! Prioritizing peace and letting go of negativity is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves as we age. It’s empowering to focus on what truly matters. Keep thriving!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful to hear that you embrace solitude and the peace it brings. Here's to a life filled with tranquility and joy!
I am never bored when alone and specifically, when with my beloved dog. Birds outside, green friends, friends all over. Many people bore or annoy me despite I am always kind and genuinly appreciate everyone but from a distance.
I am 79 years old and I really enjoy being alone. I really like technology, cell phones, laptops, television, and reading. I no longer feel like going out with friends. I only go out with my family from time to time.but I don't need it to be very often. Thanks to technology I travel around the world and I am aware of everything that is happening in different countries currently in Israel, Palestine, of course everything that is happening in America, I am very grateful to God for the life I have.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's wonderful to hear how you’ve embraced technology to stay connected and explore the world while enjoying your solitude. Your gratitude and perspective are truly inspiring!
Thank you for what you wrote. I agree so thoroughly that I check back to the name of the person who wrote it because it sounded like something I would write. ❤🇨🇦
I’m 75 , and I have no desire to be around crowds or some people all together….. I’ve never been one to feel lonely or need someone around me 24/7 … If I need a smile,I go to the mirror and 💥 there it is 😅 I get along with me better than anyone else I know… I like my own company ❤ Happy New Year to everyone
My only child, my son, my best friend, died covid related in Dec 2021. I miss him every day. The bugs, arguing, etc. I enjoy being with others but at times uts overwhelming. I do suffer from depression, but am seeing a grief counselor thank God. I enjoy soending time with younger folks. They dont discuss their illnesses. They have a spark that makes me laugh out loud. Im having brain surgery soon, and im scared. Hugging my son would help. He would tease me. How i miss that. I live in a building where u can choose to see folks, or just take a nap, pray. At 75 i still want to live, write my book. Please keep me in your prayers. Or as the younger generation says, send me good vibes. Thank you for taking the time to read my message. Happy New year. God bless. Peace.❤❤❤😊😊
@@bernadettevelasco6323 I wish you well with your coming surgery. I’m a believer in life after death, and that our loved ones are close by, helping us. However I do understand that at times like this, you just want the physical contact of your loved ones. That precious hug that reassures you that all will be well. That is the most painful of grief to endure. Take the spark from your young friends, and let their energy carry you through. God bless ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your resilience and determination to keep living, writing, and finding joy, even in the midst of such profound loss, are truly inspiring. We're keeping you in our thoughts and prayers as you prepare for your surgery. You have so much strength and wisdom to share, and your son would be so proud of you. Sending you love, peace, and all the positive vibes. Happy New Year and God bless! ❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s okay to feel that way-sometimes taking a step back and prioritizing your peace is exactly what you need. Take care of yourself!
I'm 72 and I agree with everything you said. What has helped me most in life is the saying: Beware of people in groups, they probably don't know how to be by themselves. I do, and I enjoy it.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! It’s great to hear how embracing solitude has positively impacted your life. Your perspective is truly inspiring! Keep enjoying your peace and independence! 🙏
I'm 75 and for the past few years I've avoided social gatherings because being in a room with too many people, I find it stressful and overwhelming. I was told that I needed to overcome this, but I thought why should I at my age. It made me feel abnormal but I've learned that it's okay to enjoy your own company.
Thank you for sharing your experience. There's nothing abnormal about valuing your peace and enjoying your own company, especially as we grow older. It's wonderful that you've embraced what feels right for you-self-awareness is truly empowering. Keep prioritizing your well-being!
Tonight is New Years Eve and we have been invited to a party with neighbors. So my husband and I have decided to say thanks but no thanks and spend the evening quietly by the fire with our books and a glass of good wine. We are both 80 and don't need all that noise and 'celebration' of simply changing the date!
That sounds like a wonderful way to ring in the New Year! Sometimes the most peaceful moments are the best ones. Wishing you both a relaxing and cozy evening! Enjoy the fire, books, and wine. 😊
@@sylviamarlow9149 “changing the date” is just one of those excuses for people who actually enjoy a party atmosphere. The year, 2025, doesn’t offer much, if anything, to celebrate!
@@nirvonna I'm afraid I share your feelings about the coming year. Our poor planet is suffering and there is little hope that the less fortunate in our society will have a better life.
I've worked 45 yrs as a nurse,finally retired. Now trying to decompress and recover from all the chaos and trauma of it all. Fully enjoying solitude and listening to word of God
@@pattisarokas3366 I miss walking into a room of strangers who were DELIGHTED to see me. I was a ROCK STAR ! It was one of the MOST rewarding stages of my life. Now I relax in the memories and live a quiet life. I enjoy my solitude with my husband ..and I hope we have many years ahead of us. I am 77.
I'm 73 as well. And while I'd likel socializing with those who want to relate in a nonconfrontational way, almost every one i know wants to dwell on the negative. I'm happier being by myself.
I’m 72 and been alone for many, many years. I’m so content being alone. I enjoy my grandkids but I also find peace by myself. I like pondering God and his magnificence. I enjoy small things like sitting in my garden and watching my animals. I love giving thanks for all my blessings. ❤❤❤
It sounds like you've found such a beautiful sense of peace and gratitude in your life. Embracing solitude and appreciating the small joys truly brings contentment. Wishing you continued peace and many more blessings! ❤
I had a loving marriage high school sweetheart but passed way too young. Many young and old people became alone due to loss of spouses in past few years. It’s unique not everyone enjoys being alone they love being with friends and family it’s a joy for many. Balance is key to a good life.
Lovely video. Starting the day with prayer and devotions gives me a peace that surpasses all understanding. A word for me this year is “Expectation”. 🙏💖🕊
I had a 40 year marriage with a narcissist before I ended it, and I love the peace and quiet of my own company, doing what I like, how and when I like. I'm 75.
i just turned 80, my husband of 60 years died last year and though my heart is so lonely without him, I cherish my alone time. My sleep pattern changed, my daily patterns changed and I spend days in silence. NO it's not depression, it's peace and it's choice. I don't want to waste time at noisy lunches or dinner with a group of people. I love people but my time alone is the most precious. My days are quiet and I look forward to an evening with a good movie or a good book. I also stay off the phone during the day. I don't have any inclination to keep a conversation going. I choose now who I associate with and have learned that life is 'choice' I've made mine regardless of what others think and do.
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful perspective. Your choice to embrace solitude and peace, especially after such a meaningful chapter in your life, is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued strength and tranquility as you navigate this new phase. Your wisdom is a gift!
A beautiful life. Together forever with your husband ♡ Wonderful you are able to still cherish your days and memories. Enjoy your privacy. God bless you 🙏
Long, drawn-out events and lonnng driving distances to get there is Super Duper Draining! Just thinking about it has me exhausted already!😨😁 Nope, No Thsnks! LOve my 'me time' with just my fur babies, books and tv shows!!😍#Serenity💜
You hit the nail on the head, 48. At age 66 now, I look back and developed what you described in my 40’s. The 50’s were great too. Now the 60’s are pretty awesome as well. I have a fantastic history to reflect back on (was far from perfect though) but still value and enjoy the present while looking forward to the future.
At 72 this is the best recording I have ever listened to. This has been my life for the past 15 years after dealing with so many crises one after the other. I understand myself so much better and realise I am not actually suffering with depression as I have been told. Looking forward to prioritising myself more 🤗🤗💕
Only child here, 85 years old this month, like being alone, learned how to be alone when I was a little girl. Alone is finding reasons to live! I’m glad to know there are so many friends I have now we can all be alone together L O L.🎉 happy new year
Thank you for sharing your beautiful perspective! It’s inspiring how you’ve embraced the strength in solitude. Wishing you a joyful 85th birthday and a Happy New Year filled with peace and happiness! 🎉
I am 77. For a long time I fought getting a smartphone including texting. Recovery from foot surgery pushed me to get one and then came Covid. I discovered podcasts and TH-cam and now I am on my phone every day. I am grateful for this technology as my social life is much less with loss of friends. Discovered how much I can entertain myself and I love to read and learn.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's inspiring to see how you've embraced technology to enrich your life and continue learning. Wishing you many more moments of joy and discovery!
I have been married to my best friend for 54 years. We are both introverts and are very happy just doing our own thing. We have always given each other space. At 76 years old we walk the dog together, go out to lunch occasionally but we love our quiet time. We both love reading. Husband plays chess on his iPad and I love playing games on mine. We are happy entertaining ourselves.
That's beautiful! It sounds like you and your husband have created such a peaceful and fulfilling life together. The way you both respect each other's space while sharing activities you enjoy is truly inspiring. Wishing you many more years of happiness and quiet joy!
This is exactly how I feel. I realised after Covid lockdown that I didn’t need social contacting. I realised I was comfortable with my own company. My joy now is taking my dog for daily walks, enjoying the peace. I love being in the silence.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how solitude and simple joys like walking your dog can bring so much peace. Embracing silence truly has its own kind of beauty.
Im 74 , I have a sweet puppy, and we party every night and walk every day, we greet people with enthusiasm and a smile, but we are quite happy and content and grateful for each day.
This is all so true! I’d like to add one thought, though, and I’d be really curious to know if any listeners agree. I’m 70, and I find that my reaction to to social situations is exactly as you describe. However, I frequently force myself to go to something when I’d really rather just plop on the couch with kitty and pup-and the reason is, I don’t want to turn into a cranky old person or crazy cat lady that no one wants to be around. I think too much isolation can make you forget your manners and how to behave in a social situation and can feed into the eccentricities we develop as we age. So lots of times I just tell myself “you can be agreeable for two hours-just go do it”!
I agree with you up to a point. I dont force myself frequently, but do gently push myself occasionally, as I dont want to forget all the social graces that one does need on occasion.
@@pleasebekind9115 Spending all your time alone in your own head and recycled thoughts is NOT good. God wants fellowship with up through Jesus and Christians should value the communion of the saints
I completely understand your point! It’s all about finding a balance between social engagement and personal comfort. Sometimes pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones can help maintain those social connections and prevent isolation. Your approach of setting a time limit sounds like a healthy way to manage both!
So well said. A quiet evening with peace & quiet , a good book & your cat is soothing & relaxing. All the big socialising has been done & was often draining. Now it’s whatever you feel like- freedom!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I completely agree - there's something incredibly peaceful about enjoying a quiet evening with a good book and the company of a pet. The freedom to choose what feels right is such a gift!
I find it difficult to get the right balance. I love so many things, peace, serenity, friends, my big house, exercise etc. I don’t know what I should drop, thus I have a very busy life. 2025, I am drinking much less, so I have more energy to pursue interests that are driving me giddy. 😅
I'm so proud of you for embracing this journey of self-love and growth! It takes strength and courage to learn to like yourself, and your story is truly inspiring. Keep shining!
I agree 100%. Loving my quiet life with my doggie. No longer feel the need to be in a relationship except with those precious few people I love. At 76 I am happier than I ever imagined.
That's wonderful to hear! Embracing the peace and joy of solitude, especially with a loyal companion, can truly bring happiness. Wishing you continued happiness and contentment on your journey!
Absolutely true at whatever is said in the video. Im 63 years old and slowly beginning to distance myself from social events. Love nature and loving peace and quiet moments. Besides seeing my loved ones. Love them to bits.
Gosh it's New Years day and I cane across this and did hubby and I need it. I'm 70 and hubby 76 and we were starting to think we were becoming cranky😅😅😅. But no just fed up with making all the effort. Really made me realize I do all the running and contacting with my brothers. But as sad as it is, they are not interested in me or hubby. I constantly invite but always no reply so am going to "let them be". Yes it hurts but no more. Thank you for this we realize its all ok and how things are. Hapoy New Year🎉
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that this video helped you and your husband reflect on things. Sometimes, stepping back and giving ourselves permission to let go is exactly what we need. Wishing you both a Happy New Year filled with peace and joy! 🎉
I agree. I’m 61 and have been naturally going in this direction. I was concerned that maybe I was depressed and self isolating. Completely the opposite. I’ve never been more joyful and at peace liberated from societal norms and expectations. Now I truly enjoy people and fully present when I socialize. This is a great video. Pass it on. Change the norm.
I can’t handle large crowds or shopping centres. Whenever I go to the shops I get in and get out as quickly as I can. Sometimes I struggle as I live with my daughter and a 10yr old and a 7mth old. For economic survival we have no choice. Before that I lived by myself. I had a vegetable garden and had to consider no one else unless I chose to. I was married and became a mum at 15yrs. I have spent most of my life in service to those I love. I am now trying to write 10 children’s books. There never seems to be enough time. I guess life is not boring!
I am 74 and this completely describes me. I am so tired of defending my choice to be alone to my friends who judge my life style. Thank you for validating me!!!!
I'm so glad this resonated with you! Embracing solitude is such a personal choice, and it’s important to live in a way that brings you peace. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I avoid people now because far too many of them are STUPID, hateful, boring, rude. Never have cared for crowds, parties, etc. I’ve already been very different. I DO dislike most people. I cherry few but real friendships.
It sounds like you're finding peace in solitude and valuing meaningful connections over superficial ones. It's important to prioritize your well-being and surround yourself with those who truly uplift you.
I’m 61, been retired early since 55 out of necessity. I’m deaf without hearing aides. I had a few years after early retirement began that I was extremely lonely. But I realized at the same time my body was learning how to let go of built up stress and boy was it a process. Now I look forward to “me time” and cherish it… reading my Bible, watching birds and enjoying nature. I only wish I lived closer to a particular family member. Other than that, I’m good!
Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced “me time” and found peace in nature and reflection. Cherishing the little things truly makes a big difference. Wishing you continued joy and connection with your loved ones!
I'm 57 and started this a few yrs ago, now that my kids are grown I don't need to socialize so much for them. I have a feeling everyone thinks I'm depressed, but I'm not at all, I've always been an introvert so I feel much more happy & peaceful now.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's wonderful that you've found peace and happiness in embracing your introverted nature. It's important to honor our true selves, and it sounds like you've done just that. Keep enjoying your journey of inner peace!
I am 61-have always been an introvert, a loner. As the years go by, the more I enjoy my alone time. My immediate family is caught up in their own lives, we get along great. It feels burdensome to fake interaction with others.
It sounds like you've found peace in solitude, which is great! Embracing your need for alone time can be incredibly fulfilling, especially as you age. It's important to honor your feelings and enjoy the relationships that bring you joy without forcing interactions.
I'm 73 & this video is spot on! I no longer feel the need/desire to have a bunch of friends around or attend social gatherings! Having my kids & grandkids around occasionally is all the social interaction that I truly enjoy! But they have their busy lives to live & I certainly don't expect them to be my "entertainment committee"! I'm perfectly content being alone (not lonely) & doing my own thing at my own pace! I've spent my entire adult life doing for others & catering to THEIR needs; now it's MY turn! I love my life & I thank God every morning for blessing me with another day! 😊🙏
Have always been a solo flyer, even more so as I go forward in life. Home truly is where the heart is. I am never lonely, bored or restless. I decide when, where and what I want to do. This is the gift moving forward bestows on us.
It sounds like you've found peace in your independence and personal freedom. Truly embracing solitude can be a powerful and fulfilling journey. Wishing you continued growth and contentment!
Thank you for your amazing video. I am almost 84 and enjoy being alone but have a group of younger friends who are more active and i feel guilty that I don’t want to do everything they want to do; now I will be empowered to tell them “thank you but I’d rather stay home.”
I’m now 76 and one who looks exceptionally young for my age. As a beautiful young woman my favorite thing was dressing up and strutting my stuff, turning heads. Now I don’t want to wear anything that’s not comfortable-I still have a good figure-and that’s my favorite jeans and Zeba shoes. “Dress up” is now a pair of well-fitting black jeans! I hate loud music. I no longer enjoy dancing. And crowds are actually a dangerous place to be. I no longer want to bother dressing up, not even to go out to dinner with my husband. I even stopped wearing make-up most days-I never thought that would happen! Why should I care what all those strangers think of my appearance? And significantly, I hate traveling now-hate it. I love my home and there’s no place I’d rather be than home. Traveling used to be like a competition, something to brag about. There used to be a big element of “LOOK AT ME! Look how capable and adventurous I am! Aren’t you jealous?” Our neighbor friends are actually going all the way to Japan just to snowboard!!!😂 Hard to relate to that! Seems purely dumb to me, not to mention a pointless insult to the health of the planet-different strokes.
Oh! I can relate. Those were the days my friend🎶 When I was young I’d look at old people and wonder if there’d come a time when I would simply stop caring. Well, I care a lot. About me!!! I throw myself parties. I’m the most fun guest, the best dressed, best conversationalist, dance to 60s and 70s music, reminisce and kiss myself good night. Oh, and I can buy myself flowers 🎶💐 Life is good😘🎉🪅
Why get on a plane to go to a faraway beach. Buy a couple bags of sandbox sand, spread it out in the backyard, lay a beach towel on top and enjoy your private ‘beach’.
Boy your words sound like something I would write. Can’t believe how much I’ve changed and would not want to go back to my younger attention-seeking days.
At 73, I found a group of ladies and a couple of men who want to play casual pickleball. No stress, just laughter. Three times a week we gather. That's all the socializing that I’m interested in. I swim on other days for more exercise. I avoid gatherings because I’m hearing impaired. I don't mind. I like me. I enjoy me. Glad to read so many responses in favor of taking control over our lives as we age.
Your routine sounds wonderful-balanced, joyful, and full of self-care. It's inspiring to see how you've embraced what works best for you. Thank you for sharing and for being a great example of living life on your terms!
I’m hearing impaired also and wear hearing aids but large noisy places with crowds is exhausting after a few minutes. Most people with normal hearing just do not understand this situation. A broken leg would be much easier to have at a large noisy gathering - even if crutches were involved. In conclusion, I totally am in sync with this video 😊.
This resonates with me. I’ve been in public positions. Now I want peace and quiet. My grown kids want to live with me. At 78, I have come to value who I am even when not recognized and treasure deciding with whom I want to share my precious time. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s inspiring to see how you've embraced peace and the value of your own time. Wishing you continued serenity and happiness on this journey!
Thank you for this video. Well stated….. I feel the same way. I finally feel I have the choice to choose who is in my life or not. No more drama, judgement, small talk, or shallow conversations. I don’t want to hehe or haha when I don’t want to or be somewhere I don’t want to be . I don’t want to be fake. I keep my boundaries up around me. I am friendly, respectful, helpful when needed and kind to those reciprocate. Everybody doesn’t need to be my best friend or acquaintance. I cherish my quiet time……. To do as I please.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It’s empowering to set boundaries and focus on what truly brings peace and happiness. Embracing your own space and authenticity is a beautiful way to live. Keep honoring your journey! 🙏✨
I am doing exactly what you are doing. I find myself enjoying solitude more day by day. From now on, I would spare my time for myself and my loved ones only.
I grew up in a big family. 7 siblings grandma grandpa anties oncles and a cook and a nanny. Sharing laughing crying arguing... Sharing is what I miss most. Now that I'm on my own, at 77, I miss my family. Sharing joy and sorrow. I'm not sad but I miss those days. Some days I like solitude though.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories. It's heartwarming to hear about the joy of family togetherness. Solitude can be peaceful, but those cherished moments of sharing will always hold a special place in your heart.
All my life I craved solitude. I was criticised as being a recluse, being non social, being unfriendly etc. Now after retirement, I enjoy my solitude and don't care what anyone think s. I do the things I enjoy and feel good.
It's wonderful that you've embraced your solitude and found peace in doing what you love. True happiness comes from within, and it's inspiring to hear how you've found contentment in your own company!
I'm so glad this video resonated with you! Embracing your own company is a beautiful way to find peace, especially as we age. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I’m 72 and totally agree with this. It took me awhile to stop feeling guilty because I did nothing some days. Feeling this way made me feel depressed too. I thought there was something wrong with me. Now I do what I want to do when and where I want to do it. I feel so much better now.
So thankful for this video. I've been feeling everything you talked about & this helped me understand I'm not alone, that it's a normal process as we age. My husband passed 4 years ago & living now without him after 54 yrs. together is certainly a new journey but I know I'm never alone. My Lord's promise is to never leave or forsake me. Deuteronomy 31:6
I'm so glad this video resonated with you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful perspective. You are never alone, and it's inspiring to hear how you've found strength in your faith. Wishing you continued peace on your journey.
It seems like everything you read and hear about aging is to get out there and be social. It makes you feel "less than". Thank you for normalizing being true to yourself. I'm 74 and have lived my later years to your seven points, and it feels right and rewarding!
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced being true to yourself. Living authentically truly brings the most peace and reward. Keep shining!
I’m also in my 70s and have found immense comfort setting my own terms and perimeters in relationships. The terminology used in this respectful video/podcast is so well expressed and helpful to feel connected with my age group and beyond! It’s an excellent dignifying to be content with who you are while aging. I have lived in 3 different countries long enough to learn, enjoy, and adopt the new cultures to a comfortable extent. Came away from my experiences speaking 4 languages. Learned greatly from the years of exploring and from the diverse people I met, which I believe have been helpful to appreciate and value the individual I became, and the personal mixture of cultures I grew into and express, as a result.
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring journey and thoughtful words! It’s incredible how you’ve embraced life with such openness and wisdom, and your story beautifully reflects the message of the video. Setting your own terms and blending diverse cultural experiences into your identity is truly empowering. Your perspective adds so much value to this discussion-thank you for being part of our community!
As I've aged, many of my friend's alcohol issues have become worse. I've had enough of them when they don't know how to behave. I really enjoy solitude and don't feel lonely.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Embracing solitude can be incredibly peaceful and empowering, especially when it aligns with your values. Stay true to what brings you peace and happiness!
I totally agree! I am 65 nearly 66, but this is exactly how I feel. I was so shocked and happy to hear this message. I was feeling guilty at turning down family gatherings but now I understand and feel comfortable with my self and the decision to stay at home and not attend. Thank you for this message. God bless.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm glad the message resonated with you and brought comfort. Your well-being and peace of mind are so important. God bless you too!
There is something that is so wholesome about the lives we’ve led, that it leads us to become the people we’ve evolved into. We are now the best versions of ourselves and are our own best friends. I thank the universe for all its varied experiences and I am grateful.
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful reflection! It's truly inspiring to see how life’s journey shapes us into our best selves. Gratitude for all the experiences really does bring peace and growth. Wishing you continued strength and positivity! 🙏✨
Great insight into the wisdom that eludes most people. I was fortunate to come to this conclusion in my 50's and now at 71 it has become the norm for me. Thank you for the insight as to the reasoning.
When I first retired, I had this list of things I thought I’d want to do - joining groups of interest, taking classes, volunteering. But I found that what I wanted after all was being on my own, having occasional lunches and outings with friends. It surprised me to realize how much I enjoy my own company. I’m getting better at setting boundaries for my time and not labeling myself as antisocial. What a difference it’s made allowing myself to go at my own rhythm.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how we can discover so much about ourselves in retirement. Embracing solitude and setting boundaries is such a powerful way to nurture your well-being. I’m so glad to hear that you’re finding peace in going at your own rhythm! Keep enjoying those moments of self-discovery.
Thank you for sharing! It’s great to hear you’ve found contentment in solitude and your hobbies. Sometimes, being around certain people can be draining, and it’s perfectly okay to prioritize your peace. Keep embracing what makes you happy!
This sounds like Al, but yes it helped. Rather have an wise woman speaking instead of the photos. Getting authentic is part of this. I wish I'd been given this information of self-care when I was 20! Then 70 has come and gone. And now at 80 having fulled my earthly obligations I am turning 80. There is even more changes when entering the next decade. Even more solitude into deep spiritual retreating. As it turns out, love, peace and solitude are the factors for bliss. Took me a long time to learn to say NO. Now I see the price paid for not being able to.
I am 71 and love being alone. Unfortunately, I’m married for 52 years now. He just told me that I’m selfish because I do too much for others and don’t want to drink and play pool with him. I just want to join a convent.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's so important to honor your own needs, and sometimes solitude can provide the peace we crave. It's understandable that your husband may feel hurt, but perhaps having an open conversation with him about your feelings and needs might help both of you find balance. Remember, it's okay to seek personal space and fulfillment while also nurturing relationships in a way that works for both of you.
I just turned 79. Although I enjoy my alone time, I’m a moderate extrovert. I find that getting out of the house and engaging with other people recharges my energy and increases my psychological well-being. The problem is that my mental and physical energy decreased in my 70s and it takes more effort for me to get going or stay going. I may leave a social gatheringI early, but I’m usually glad I went. I always enjoy talking with people. I still take pride in my appearance to impress myself mainly but it’s also nice to get a compliment once in a while. People’s personalities and life circumstances vary greatly regardless of their age. We each should do what makes us happy without worrying about what other people think.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It’s wonderful to hear how you balance your social life and alone time, especially at 79. Embracing what makes you happy, whether that’s connecting with others or taking time for yourself, is so important. You’re absolutely right-age is just one factor, and we all have our unique ways of thriving! Keep shining and doing what brings you joy. 😊
You're absolutely right! Time is our most precious resource, and it's important to focus on what truly matters. Choosing to spend it wisely brings more peace and fulfillment. Thank you for sharing this insightful thought!
Yes! Thanks for the affirmation. Some of us are from a place of constant socializing with groups of friends or best friends from the past as well as the present. I do not need to be affirmed by the amount of people in my life any longer. A few bffs and my own company are all I need - and want now. I have a home business and am an artist and writer so I need a lot of alone time to create. I have stunning nature outside my big picture windows. That’s good enough for me. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful journey! It’s wonderful that you’ve found peace and contentment in solitude and the company of a few close ones. Your creativity and connection with nature sound truly inspiring. Wishing you continued success in your artistic endeavors! 😊❤
Hello and Thank you for an amazing video. It gets a 10 from me! I am 79 and resonate with every word. I love my own company, my hobbies, my prayer time and most of all those quiet Moments .❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad the video resonated with you. It’s wonderful to hear how you’ve embraced the peace and joy of your own company. Keep shining, and I appreciate your support! 💖
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s truly inspiring to hear how embracing these ideas enhances the beauty of being a senior citizen. Stay wonderful!
Ageing changes your preferences for self focus selfcare first.Previously I have spent a lot of time taking care of family and working as well as being distracted by people who takes up your energy. I realized i have neglected myself and my own well being. After going through challenges of life, I am enjoying slow living quiet lifestyle that is healthier for me. Silence is golden and stillness restores your inner peace and serenity. Absolutely agree with independence.Many thanks for highlighting the joys of embracing this solitary self aware life on my own terms. This really does resonate with me 9! It is a contrast from my younger days.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It's wonderful to hear that you've found peace and fulfillment through self-care and embracing a quieter, more independent lifestyle. Your journey truly resonates with the message of slowing down and prioritizing your well-being. Wishing you continued serenity and joy on your path!
I retired a couple of years ago and love being alone without drama and hearing about people’s problems. Work was becoming almost intolerable. I have my two dogs and my home with all my stores I need nearby. I swim every day at a fitness center and I come and go without saying a word. I love peace and quiet. I eat and sleep better since I have the TIME now to plan my meals.
Thank you for this wonderful video. This resonates of how I have always been living my life even in my younger days. I’ve never enjoyed going to parties, bars or crowded places. Everything that’s been mentioned in this video is exactly how I feel and spent my life. Though I’ve loved to travel and still do. So this video is not only applicable for older people. It could be for most adult.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It can be tough when we face loss and changes in health, but please remember that you're not alone. Life has a way of bringing new connections, and taking care of yourself can open up new opportunities for joy and peace. Keep going, and know that there’s always hope ahead.
I always hated social events. Now I am not obligated. An occasional shower, wedding or funeral. And lunch with a friend. I see my kids and grands every month for a few days. Hubby and I enjoy our alone time and have more the enough to do on our small rescue farm! Happier than I have ever been. The noise and chaos is something. I don’t miss!
I'm so glad to hear that you're enjoying your time and finding peace in your routine! It sounds like you've created the perfect balance for yourself. Wishing you continued happiness and fulfillment with your family and farm!
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Remember, age is just a number, and each day holds new possibilities for growth and joy. You're never alone in your journey-embrace the wisdom that comes with age, and keep moving forward with hope. You’ve got this! 🌟
I believe when you hit 50 your tolerance for bullshit lessens exponentially and more so as the years go on. I have found that I am not willing to pick up any drama or negativity and this is helped me out greatly in avoiding toxic friends.
Absolutely! Prioritizing peace and letting go of negativity is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves as we age. It’s empowering to focus on what truly matters. Keep thriving!
I find that listening to a load of bullshit from well meaning people intolerable and I too avoid toxic friends.
Facts..age 52
@@tarpleyk935258. Agree. I can count on maybe 2 ppl if I need them..maybe 3. Things have changed since 2020.
Yes I do agree. I’ve had friends that went against me. .,, I no longer need people around me. I like alone time
I am 67 but agree 100% with what you are saying. Solitude and peace and quiet and being a home body is what I love!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful to hear that you embrace solitude and the peace it brings. Here's to a life filled with tranquility and joy!
Solitude is good for the soul but don’t dismiss being with people, also good for the soul.
It would be nice if more people would understand this.
I am 92 years old and an introvert. I knew that being an introvert will come in handy someday.
That's wonderful to hear! Embracing your introverted nature can bring so much peace and wisdom, especially as we age. Stay strong and keep shining!
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Wise!!!!!
Ha ha. Love this as I can identify. :) INFP
I am never bored when alone and specifically, when with my beloved dog. Birds outside, green friends, friends all over. Many people bore or annoy me despite I am always kind and genuinly appreciate everyone but from a distance.
I am 79 years old and I really enjoy being alone. I really like technology, cell phones, laptops, television, and reading. I no longer feel like going out with friends. I only go out with my family from time to time.but I don't need it to be very often. Thanks to technology I travel around the world and I am aware of everything that is happening in different countries currently in Israel, Palestine, of course everything that is happening in America, I am very grateful to God for the life I have.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's wonderful to hear how you’ve embraced technology to stay connected and explore the world while enjoying your solitude. Your gratitude and perspective are truly inspiring!
Thank you for what you wrote. I agree so thoroughly that I check back to the name of the person who wrote it because it sounded like something I would write. ❤🇨🇦
I’m 71 and agree wholeheartedly!
I’m 75 , and I have no desire to be around crowds or some people all together….. I’ve never been one to feel lonely or need someone around me 24/7 … If I need a smile,I go to the mirror and 💥 there it is 😅 I get along with me better than anyone else I know… I like my own company ❤ Happy New Year to everyone
@@brendberryman Happy new year 🍷
My only child, my son, my best friend, died covid related in Dec 2021. I miss him every day. The bugs, arguing, etc. I enjoy being with others but at times uts overwhelming. I do suffer from depression, but am seeing a grief counselor thank God. I enjoy soending time with younger folks. They dont discuss their illnesses. They have a spark that makes me laugh out loud. Im having brain surgery soon, and im scared. Hugging my son would help. He would tease me. How i miss that. I live in a building where u can choose to see folks, or just take a nap, pray. At 75 i still want to live, write my book. Please keep me in your prayers. Or as the younger generation says, send me good vibes. Thank you for taking the time to read my message. Happy New year. God bless. Peace.❤❤❤😊😊
@@bernadettevelasco6323 I wish you well with your coming surgery. I’m a believer in life after death, and that our loved ones are close by, helping us. However I do understand that at times like this, you just want the physical contact of your loved ones. That precious hug that reassures you that all will be well. That is the most painful of grief to endure. Take the spark from your young friends, and let their energy carry you through. God bless ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your resilience and determination to keep living, writing, and finding joy, even in the midst of such profound loss, are truly inspiring. We're keeping you in our thoughts and prayers as you prepare for your surgery. You have so much strength and wisdom to share, and your son would be so proud of you. Sending you love, peace, and all the positive vibes. Happy New Year and God bless! ❤
Sending sweet and positive vibes my friend ❤✌🏼
You seem like a wonderful person and we need that here on earth. I pray you do well. ❤
I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I find people are so exhausting to me now more than ever. I do not have the energy to deal with them very much anymore.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s okay to feel that way-sometimes taking a step back and prioritizing your peace is exactly what you need. Take care of yourself!
Exhausting with insipid reminiscing.
I'm 72 and I agree with everything you said. What has helped me most in life is the saying: Beware of people in groups, they probably don't know how to be by themselves. I do, and I enjoy it.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom! It’s great to hear how embracing solitude has positively impacted your life. Your perspective is truly inspiring! Keep enjoying your peace and independence! 🙏
I'm 75 and for the past few years I've avoided social gatherings because being in a room with too many people, I find it stressful and overwhelming. I was told that I needed to overcome this, but I thought why should I at my age. It made me feel abnormal but I've learned that it's okay to enjoy your own company.
Thank you for sharing your experience. There's nothing abnormal about valuing your peace and enjoying your own company, especially as we grow older. It's wonderful that you've embraced what feels right for you-self-awareness is truly empowering. Keep prioritizing your well-being!
Large groups are a chore for me. It has to be an event of major importance.
Tonight is New Years Eve and we have been invited to a party with neighbors. So my husband and I have decided to say thanks but no thanks and spend the evening quietly by the fire with our books and a glass of good wine. We are both 80 and don't need all that noise and 'celebration' of simply changing the date!
Enjoy!
Same here and we are 69 and 63!🥂
That sounds like a wonderful way to ring in the New Year! Sometimes the most peaceful moments are the best ones. Wishing you both a relaxing and cozy evening! Enjoy the fire, books, and wine. 😊
@@sylviamarlow9149 “changing the date” is just one of those excuses for people who actually enjoy a party atmosphere. The year, 2025, doesn’t offer much, if anything, to celebrate!
@@nirvonna I'm afraid I share your feelings about the coming year. Our poor planet is suffering and there is little hope that the less fortunate in our society will have a better life.
I've worked 45 yrs as a nurse,finally retired. Now trying to decompress and recover from all the chaos and trauma of it all. Fully enjoying solitude and listening to word of God
@@pattisarokas3366
I miss walking into a room of strangers who were DELIGHTED to see me.
I was a ROCK STAR !
It was one of the MOST rewarding stages of my life.
Now I relax in the memories and live a quiet life.
I enjoy my solitude with my husband ..and I hope we have many years ahead of us.
I am 77.
I'm 73. Thanks for affirming how I feel and making me feel like it's normal.
You are so welcome!
All most 73 and feel the same way. 👍
I'm 73 as well. And while I'd likel socializing with those who want to relate in a nonconfrontational way, almost every one i know wants to dwell on the negative. I'm happier being by myself.
I’m 72 and been alone for many, many years. I’m so content being alone. I enjoy my grandkids but I also find peace by myself. I like pondering God and his magnificence. I enjoy small things like sitting in my garden and watching my animals. I love giving thanks for all my blessings. ❤❤❤
It sounds like you've found such a beautiful sense of peace and gratitude in your life. Embracing solitude and appreciating the small joys truly brings contentment. Wishing you continued peace and many more blessings! ❤
Amen, older but wiser, God is altogether Good ❤
Amen!
You and I would get along just fine.
I’m 72 and 100% agree with everything said here. Survived an abusive marriage many years ago. Peace is priceless.
Thank you for sharing your journey. Your strength is inspiring, and I’m so glad you’ve found the peace you deserve. It truly is priceless!
I had a loving marriage high school sweetheart but passed way too young. Many young and old people became alone due to loss of spouses in past few years. It’s unique not everyone enjoys being alone they love being with friends and family it’s a joy for many. Balance is key to a good life.
Lovely video. Starting the day with prayer and devotions gives me a peace that surpasses all understanding. A word for me this year is “Expectation”. 🙏💖🕊
I had a 40 year marriage with a narcissist before I ended it, and I love the peace and quiet of my own company, doing what I like, how and when I like. I'm 75.
@ I’m happy you have peace now. ❤️
i just turned 80, my husband of 60 years died last year and though my heart is so lonely without him, I cherish my alone time. My sleep pattern changed, my daily patterns changed and I spend days in silence. NO it's not depression, it's peace and it's choice. I don't want to waste time at noisy lunches or dinner with a group of people. I love people but my time alone is the most precious. My days are quiet and I look forward to an evening with a good movie or a good book. I also stay off the phone during the day. I don't have any inclination to keep a conversation going. I choose now who I associate with and have learned that life is 'choice' I've made mine regardless of what others think and do.
Thanks for your input I’m not abnormal I’m not lonely my dear quiet husband enjoys the same quiet times together We have no friends now
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful perspective. Your choice to embrace solitude and peace, especially after such a meaningful chapter in your life, is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued strength and tranquility as you navigate this new phase. Your wisdom is a gift!
Sadly, most doctors don't understand this. (unless they are over seventy...but by then they have retired in the Caymans)
A beautiful life. Together forever with your husband ♡
Wonderful you are able to still cherish your days and memories. Enjoy your privacy. God bless you 🙏
All well said
Thank you for describing my lifestyle. I'm 72 and happy.
You are so welcome! God Bless You 🥰🤲
Long, drawn-out events and lonnng driving distances to get there is Super Duper Draining! Just thinking about it has me exhausted already!😨😁
Nope, No Thsnks! LOve my 'me time' with just my fur babies, books and tv shows!!😍#Serenity💜
I am 49 and happy
Very insightful. So pleased I found this site. Thank you
I am 48 , already start to enjoy solitude. Do not care how other people think of me, I do not need recognition from others anymore.
That's a great mindset! Embracing solitude and focusing on your own happiness is so empowering. Keep enjoying your journey!
You hit the nail on the head, 48. At age 66 now, I look back and developed what you described in my 40’s. The 50’s were great too. Now the 60’s are pretty awesome as well. I have a fantastic history to reflect back on (was far from perfect though) but still value and enjoy the present while looking forward to the future.
At 72 this is the best recording I have ever listened to. This has been my life for the past 15 years after dealing with so many crises one after the other. I understand myself so much better and realise I am not actually suffering with depression as I have been told. Looking forward to prioritising myself more 🤗🤗💕
I'm 70 and autistic. Can you imagine how much more I long for peace and quiet? Thank you for writing this. I feel affirmed.
Welcome and Thanks too ❤️🥰
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Some of the best and most interesting people I've ever met are autistic . I've learned a heck of a lot from them . God bless you all 🤍
That’s fascinating. I’ve often wondered if I’m bit autistic
Only child here, 85 years old this month, like being alone, learned how to be alone when I was a little girl. Alone is finding reasons to live! I’m glad to know there are so many friends I have now we can all be alone together L O L.🎉 happy new year
Thank you for sharing your beautiful perspective! It’s inspiring how you’ve embraced the strength in solitude. Wishing you a joyful 85th birthday and a Happy New Year filled with peace and happiness! 🎉
Thank you .
I am 77. For a long time I fought getting a smartphone including texting. Recovery from foot surgery pushed me to get one and then came Covid. I discovered podcasts and TH-cam and now I am on my phone every day. I am grateful for this technology as my social life is much less with loss of friends. Discovered how much I can entertain myself and I love to read and learn.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's inspiring to see how you've embraced technology to enrich your life and continue learning. Wishing you many more moments of joy and discovery!
I have been married to my best friend for 54 years. We are both introverts and are very happy just doing our own thing. We have always given each other space. At 76 years old we walk the dog together, go out to lunch occasionally but we love our quiet time. We both love reading. Husband plays chess on his iPad and I love playing games on mine. We are happy entertaining ourselves.
That's beautiful! It sounds like you and your husband have created such a peaceful and fulfilling life together. The way you both respect each other's space while sharing activities you enjoy is truly inspiring. Wishing you many more years of happiness and quiet joy!
@@lindat768 So am I love technology 86 and find it fascinating but difficult things as when they go wrong I ask my doughter Great!
This is exactly how I feel. I realised after Covid lockdown that I didn’t need social contacting. I realised I was comfortable with my own company. My joy now is taking my dog for daily walks, enjoying the peace. I love being in the silence.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how solitude and simple joys like walking your dog can bring so much peace. Embracing silence truly has its own kind of beauty.
Here in the most locked down city in the world during covid, I railed against rules and regulations and saw family and some friends.
Im 74 , I have a sweet puppy, and we party every night and walk every day, we greet people with enthusiasm and a smile, but we are quite happy and content and grateful for each day.
I'm 68 & fine myself doing this.
Thankyou for making me see I'm not selfish
Welcome & God Bless You 🤲
This is all so true! I’d like to add one thought, though, and I’d be really curious to know if any listeners agree. I’m 70, and I find that my reaction to to social situations is exactly as you describe. However, I frequently force myself to go to something when I’d really rather just plop on the couch with kitty and pup-and the reason is, I don’t want to turn into a cranky old person or crazy cat lady that no one wants to be around. I think too much isolation can make you forget your manners and how to behave in a social situation and can feed into the eccentricities we develop as we age. So lots of times I just tell myself “you can be agreeable for two hours-just go do it”!
I agree with you up to a point. I dont force myself frequently, but do gently push myself occasionally, as I dont want to forget all the social graces that one does need on occasion.
@@pleasebekind9115 Spending all your time alone in your own head and recycled thoughts is NOT good. God wants fellowship with up through Jesus and Christians should value the communion of the saints
I completely understand your point! It’s all about finding a balance between social engagement and personal comfort. Sometimes pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones can help maintain those social connections and prevent isolation. Your approach of setting a time limit sounds like a healthy way to manage both!
@@vester7457 Should? Should? Should?
I disagree with your statement.
You still haven't learned how not to care about what others think. Until you do you'll not have peace.
So well said. A quiet evening with peace & quiet , a good book & your cat is soothing & relaxing. All the big socialising has been done & was often draining. Now it’s whatever you feel like- freedom!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I completely agree - there's something incredibly peaceful about enjoying a quiet evening with a good book and the company of a pet. The freedom to choose what feels right is such a gift!
You can enjoy your own company AND still enjoy others. It is all about finding the right balance, which is different for each of us.
@@lorraineedmond5921 Well said
Absolutely! Finding that balance is key, and it’s such a personal journey. Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight!
I find it difficult to get the right balance. I love so many things, peace, serenity, friends, my big house, exercise etc. I don’t know what I should drop, thus I have a very busy life. 2025, I am drinking much less, so I have more energy to pursue interests that are driving me giddy. 😅
I am 72 and been on my own since my hubby passed away. It has been 10 now. I am learning to like myself
I'm so proud of you for embracing this journey of self-love and growth! It takes strength and courage to learn to like yourself, and your story is truly inspiring. Keep shining!
I agree 100%. Loving my quiet life with my doggie. No longer feel the need to be in a relationship except with those precious few people I love. At 76 I am happier than I ever imagined.
That's wonderful to hear! Embracing the peace and joy of solitude, especially with a loyal companion, can truly bring happiness. Wishing you continued happiness and contentment on your journey!
I’m 84 and have enjoyed my own company for many years: this doesn’t mean I dislike company, but am able to choose with whom I spend time.
I’m just sick of people
Absolutely true at whatever is said in the video. Im 63 years old and slowly beginning to distance myself from social events. Love nature and loving peace and quiet moments. Besides seeing my loved ones. Love them to bits.
Thank You so much 🥰
Gosh it's New Years day and I cane across this and did hubby and I need it. I'm 70 and hubby 76 and we were starting to think we were becoming cranky😅😅😅. But no just fed up with making all the effort. Really made me realize I do all the running and contacting with my brothers. But as sad as it is, they are not interested in me or hubby. I constantly invite but always no reply so am going to "let them be". Yes it hurts but no more.
Thank you for this we realize its all ok and how things are. Hapoy New Year🎉
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear that this video helped you and your husband reflect on things. Sometimes, stepping back and giving ourselves permission to let go is exactly what we need. Wishing you both a Happy New Year filled with peace and joy! 🎉
❤❤❤ thank you for sharing that you are going to just let them be. Even though it hurts. I am right there with you.
Maybe they are going through the same thing we all are and don't want to be invited anywhere. They are happy to stay home! 😄
I agree. I’m 61 and have been naturally going in this direction. I was concerned that maybe I was depressed and self isolating. Completely the opposite. I’ve never been more joyful and at peace liberated from societal norms and expectations. Now I truly enjoy people and fully present when I socialize. This is a great video. Pass it on. Change the norm.
I can’t handle large crowds or shopping centres. Whenever I go to the shops I get in and get out as quickly as I can. Sometimes I struggle as I live with my daughter and a 10yr old and a 7mth old. For economic survival we have no choice. Before that I lived by myself. I had a vegetable garden and had to consider no one else unless I chose to. I was married and became a mum at 15yrs. I have spent most of my life in service to those I love. I am now trying to write 10 children’s books. There never seems to be enough time. I guess life is not boring!
I am 74 and this completely describes me. I am so tired of defending my choice to be alone to my friends who judge my life style. Thank you for validating me!!!!
I'm so glad this resonated with you! Embracing solitude is such a personal choice, and it’s important to live in a way that brings you peace. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I avoid people now because far too many of them are STUPID, hateful, boring, rude. Never have cared for crowds, parties, etc. I’ve already been very different. I DO dislike most people. I cherry few but real friendships.
It sounds like you're finding peace in solitude and valuing meaningful connections over superficial ones. It's important to prioritize your well-being and surround yourself with those who truly uplift you.
Yes. There is a difference in ppl since 2020. They are more me, me, me..also more self-centered and superficial.
I’m 61, been retired early since 55 out of necessity. I’m deaf without hearing aides. I had a few years after early retirement began that I was extremely lonely. But I realized at the same time my body was learning how to let go of built up stress and boy was it a process. Now I look forward to “me time” and cherish it… reading my Bible, watching birds and enjoying nature. I only wish I lived closer to a particular family member. Other than that, I’m good!
Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced “me time” and found peace in nature and reflection. Cherishing the little things truly makes a big difference. Wishing you continued joy and connection with your loved ones!
I'm 57 and started this a few yrs ago, now that my kids are grown I don't need to socialize so much for them. I have a feeling everyone thinks I'm depressed, but I'm not at all, I've always been an introvert so I feel much more happy & peaceful now.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It's wonderful that you've found peace and happiness in embracing your introverted nature. It's important to honor our true selves, and it sounds like you've done just that. Keep enjoying your journey of inner peace!
I am 61-have always been an introvert, a loner. As the years go by, the more I enjoy my alone time. My immediate family is caught up in their own lives, we get along great. It feels burdensome to fake interaction with others.
It sounds like you've found peace in solitude, which is great! Embracing your need for alone time can be incredibly fulfilling, especially as you age. It's important to honor your feelings and enjoy the relationships that bring you joy without forcing interactions.
I'm 73 & this video is spot on! I no longer feel the need/desire to have a bunch of friends around or attend social gatherings! Having my kids & grandkids around occasionally is all the social interaction that I truly enjoy! But they have their busy lives to live & I certainly don't expect them to be my "entertainment committee"! I'm perfectly content being alone (not lonely) & doing my own thing at my own pace! I've spent my entire adult life doing for others & catering to THEIR needs; now it's MY turn! I love my life & I thank God every morning for blessing me with another day! 😊🙏
Gosh that's so me. Thank you. Your words comforted me.
Welcome 🥰 thank you too ❤️
Amen, me too.
I love my alone time. I am happy to stay home with my fur baby.
That's wonderful! Enjoying your alone time with your fur baby sounds like the perfect way to find peace and happiness.
Thank you. I truly love being at home and so related to this video.
Ive been this way my entire life!
Have always been a solo flyer, even more so as I go forward in life. Home truly is where the heart is. I am never lonely, bored or restless. I decide when, where and what I want to do. This is the gift moving forward bestows on us.
It sounds like you've found peace in your independence and personal freedom. Truly embracing solitude can be a powerful and fulfilling journey. Wishing you continued growth and contentment!
Thank you!! ❤
You're welcome 😊
Thank you for your amazing video. I am almost 84 and enjoy being alone but have a group of younger friends who are more active and i feel guilty that I don’t want to do everything they want to do; now I will be empowered to tell them “thank you but I’d rather stay home.”
You are so welcome!
I found this really valuable. I also prefer solitude now at age 68, I can't relate to all the small talk. Thank you for the validation.
Yes, I agree. I'm also 68 and feel exactly the same.
You are so welcome!
By age 45, I was ALREADY saying NO and not feeling guilty. I was NEVER a people pleaser so it wasn’t difficult
That's great! It sounds like you've mastered setting boundaries early on, which is so important for personal well-being. Keep up the good work!
I’m now 76 and one who looks exceptionally young for my age. As a beautiful young woman my favorite thing was dressing up and strutting my stuff, turning heads. Now I don’t want to wear anything that’s not comfortable-I still have a good figure-and that’s my favorite jeans and Zeba shoes. “Dress up” is now a pair of well-fitting black jeans!
I hate loud music. I no longer enjoy dancing. And crowds are actually a dangerous place to be. I no longer want to bother dressing up, not even to go out to dinner with my husband. I even stopped wearing make-up most days-I never thought that would happen! Why should I care what all those strangers think of my appearance?
And significantly, I hate traveling now-hate it. I love my home and there’s no place I’d rather be than home. Traveling used to be like a competition, something to brag about. There used to be a big element of “LOOK AT ME! Look how capable and adventurous I am! Aren’t you jealous?” Our neighbor friends are actually going all the way to Japan just to snowboard!!!😂 Hard to relate to that! Seems purely dumb to me, not to mention a pointless insult to the health of the planet-different strokes.
thanks for sharing 🥰
Oh! I can relate.
Those were the days my friend🎶
When I was young I’d look at old people and wonder if there’d come a time when I would simply stop caring.
Well, I care a lot.
About me!!!
I throw myself parties.
I’m the most fun guest,
the best dressed, best conversationalist, dance to 60s and 70s music, reminisce and kiss myself good night.
Oh, and I can buy myself flowers 🎶💐
Life is good😘🎉🪅
Why get on a plane to go to a faraway beach. Buy a couple bags of sandbox sand, spread it out in the backyard, lay a beach towel on top and enjoy your private ‘beach’.
Boy your words sound like something I would write. Can’t believe how much I’ve changed and would not want to go back to my younger attention-seeking days.
At 73, I found a group of ladies and a couple of men who want to play casual pickleball. No stress, just laughter. Three times a week we gather. That's all the socializing that I’m interested in. I swim on other days for more exercise. I avoid gatherings because I’m hearing impaired. I don't mind. I like me. I enjoy me.
Glad to read so many responses in favor of taking control over our lives as we age.
Your routine sounds wonderful-balanced, joyful, and full of self-care. It's inspiring to see how you've embraced what works best for you. Thank you for sharing and for being a great example of living life on your terms!
I’m hearing impaired also and wear hearing aids but large noisy places with crowds is exhausting after a few minutes. Most people with normal hearing just do not understand this situation. A broken leg would be much easier to have at a large noisy gathering - even if crutches were involved.
In conclusion, I totally am in sync with this video 😊.
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This resonates with me. I’ve been in public positions. Now I want peace and quiet. My grown kids want to live with me. At 78, I have come to value who I am even when not recognized and treasure deciding with whom I want to share my precious time. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s inspiring to see how you've embraced peace and the value of your own time. Wishing you continued serenity and happiness on this journey!
Grateful n thankful I’m glad in am doing it now. At times I’m always telling them “NO” n a peaceful day for me. Heaven bless you n thankful
Thanks and God Bless You 🤲🥰
Thank you for this video. Well stated….. I feel the same way.
I finally feel I have the choice to choose who is in my life or not.
No more drama, judgement, small talk, or shallow conversations.
I don’t want to hehe or haha when I don’t want to or be somewhere I don’t want to be . I don’t want to be fake.
I keep my boundaries up around me. I am friendly, respectful, helpful when needed and kind to those reciprocate.
Everybody doesn’t need to be my best friend or acquaintance.
I cherish my quiet time……. To do as I please.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It’s empowering to set boundaries and focus on what truly brings peace and happiness. Embracing your own space and authenticity is a beautiful way to live. Keep honoring your journey! 🙏✨
I am doing exactly what you are doing. I find myself enjoying solitude more day by day. From now on, I would spare my time for myself and my loved ones only.
I grew up in a big family. 7 siblings grandma grandpa anties oncles and a cook and a nanny. Sharing laughing crying arguing... Sharing is what I miss most. Now that I'm on my own, at 77, I miss my family. Sharing joy and sorrow. I'm not sad but I miss those days. Some days I like solitude though.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories. It's heartwarming to hear about the joy of family togetherness. Solitude can be peaceful, but those cherished moments of sharing will always hold a special place in your heart.
All my life I craved solitude. I was criticised as being a recluse, being non social, being unfriendly etc. Now after retirement, I enjoy my solitude and don't care what anyone think s. I do the things I enjoy and feel good.
It's wonderful that you've embraced your solitude and found peace in doing what you love. True happiness comes from within, and it's inspiring to hear how you've found contentment in your own company!
This all resonates with me so much at 68. I need my peace so much now.
I am 70 have been alone for a long time and learning to enjoy my own company! Love this information! 🌸
Yes me too. 🎉
Thank you for sharing! It’s wonderful to hear you’re embracing your own company and finding joy in it. Keep thriving and enjoying your journey!
From now on, I need not feel guilty about preferring my own company! Thanks for describing my living preferences at age 68!
I'm so glad this video resonated with you! Embracing your own company is a beautiful way to find peace, especially as we age. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I’m 72 and totally agree with this. It took me awhile to stop feeling guilty because I did nothing some days. Feeling this way made me feel depressed too. I thought there was something wrong with me. Now I do what I want to do when and where I want to do it. I feel so much better now.
Finally meeting the person u have been living with ur entire life….. profoundly accurate
It's amazing when we truly connect with ourselves. Glad you found it meaningful!
So thankful for this video. I've been feeling everything you talked about & this helped me understand I'm not alone, that it's a normal process as we age. My husband passed 4 years ago & living now without him after 54 yrs. together is certainly a new journey but I know I'm never alone. My Lord's promise is to never leave or forsake me.
Deuteronomy 31:6
I'm so glad this video resonated with you. Thank you for sharing your beautiful perspective. You are never alone, and it's inspiring to hear how you've found strength in your faith. Wishing you continued peace on your journey.
It seems like everything you read and hear about aging is to get out there and be social. It makes you feel "less than". Thank you for normalizing being true to yourself. I'm 74 and have lived my later years to your seven points, and it feels right and rewarding!
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve embraced being true to yourself. Living authentically truly brings the most peace and reward. Keep shining!
Am 77 n that's the exact lifestyle which I cherish. Thanks for describing it.
You are so welcome!
I’m also in my 70s and have found immense comfort setting my own terms and perimeters in relationships. The terminology used in this respectful video/podcast is so well expressed and helpful to feel connected with my age group and beyond! It’s an excellent dignifying to be content with who you are while aging. I have lived in 3 different countries long enough to learn, enjoy, and adopt the new cultures to a comfortable extent. Came away from my experiences speaking 4 languages. Learned greatly from the years of exploring and from the diverse people I met, which I believe have been helpful to appreciate and value the individual I became, and the personal mixture of cultures I grew into and express, as a result.
Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring journey and thoughtful words! It’s incredible how you’ve embraced life with such openness and wisdom, and your story beautifully reflects the message of the video. Setting your own terms and blending diverse cultural experiences into your identity is truly empowering. Your perspective adds so much value to this discussion-thank you for being part of our community!
Just turned 75. I’m definitely there.
This resonates with me deeply. As I’ve aged, I’ve found peace in solitude and the freedom to focus on what truly matters to me.
I'm so glad this resonated with you! Embracing solitude can bring such clarity and peace. Wishing you continued fulfillment in your journey!
As I've aged, many of my friend's alcohol issues have become worse. I've had enough of them when they don't know how to behave. I really enjoy solitude and don't feel lonely.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Embracing solitude can be incredibly peaceful and empowering, especially when it aligns with your values. Stay true to what brings you peace and happiness!
I totally agree! I am 65 nearly 66, but this is exactly how I feel. I was so shocked and happy to hear this message. I was feeling guilty at turning down family gatherings but now I understand and feel comfortable with my self and the decision to stay at home and not attend. Thank you for this message. God bless.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm glad the message resonated with you and brought comfort. Your well-being and peace of mind are so important. God bless you too!
There is something that is so wholesome about the lives we’ve led, that it leads us to become the people we’ve evolved into. We are now the best versions of ourselves and are our own best friends. I thank the universe for all its varied experiences and I am grateful.
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful reflection! It's truly inspiring to see how life’s journey shapes us into our best selves. Gratitude for all the experiences really does bring peace and growth. Wishing you continued strength and positivity! 🙏✨
Great insight into the wisdom that eludes most people. I was fortunate to come to this conclusion in my 50's and now at 71 it has become the norm for me. Thank you for the insight as to the reasoning.
Thank you for sharing your journey and wisdom! It's inspiring to hear how you've embraced these insights over time.
When I first retired, I had this list of things I thought I’d want to do - joining groups of interest, taking classes, volunteering. But I found that what I wanted after all was being on my own, having occasional lunches and outings with friends. It surprised me to realize how much I enjoy my own company. I’m getting better at setting boundaries for my time and not labeling myself as antisocial. What a difference it’s made allowing myself to go at my own rhythm.
Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s amazing how we can discover so much about ourselves in retirement. Embracing solitude and setting boundaries is such a powerful way to nurture your well-being. I’m so glad to hear that you’re finding peace in going at your own rhythm! Keep enjoying those moments of self-discovery.
EXACTLY how I feel 🕊️Thankyou for this powerful confirmation 💖
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad this resonated with you. Stay strong and peaceful! 💖🕊️
So true. And i am in my late 40s
I really like the comfort of my home and my dog
Big gatherings drain my energy...i am exhausted.
Thanks for sharing!!
I’m 67 female, not in my seventy’s yet, but some people exhaust me, and zaps my energy, I like being alone, I’m content with my hobbies.
Thank you for sharing! It’s great to hear you’ve found contentment in solitude and your hobbies. Sometimes, being around certain people can be draining, and it’s perfectly okay to prioritize your peace. Keep embracing what makes you happy!
Very informative.
Chill time in Canada 🇨🇦
Blessing to America 🇺🇸
Thanks for watching!
65 years old here, and I SO relate to this video. Thank you for posting it!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so glad the video resonated with you. Wishing you continued strength and positivity on your journey!
This sounds like Al, but yes it helped. Rather have an wise woman speaking instead of the photos.
Getting authentic is part of this. I wish I'd been given this information of self-care when I was 20!
Then 70 has come and gone. And now at 80 having fulled my earthly obligations I am turning 80.
There is even more changes when entering the next decade. Even more solitude into deep spiritual retreating. As it turns out, love, peace and solitude are the factors for bliss.
Took me a long time to learn to say NO. Now I see the price paid for not being able to.
It warms my heart to be given permission to be everything you’ve talked about in this video. Thank You! 99999
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad this video resonated with you and gave you that sense of encouragement. Stay true to yourself!
Thank you, I absolitely agree with your video
You're very welcome ❤️🥰
I like everything you said. Living my life in my own terms brings me joy and a sense of fulfillement never known in my younger age.
Thank you for sharing this! Living life on your own terms truly brings unmatched joy and fulfillment. Wishing you continued happiness on your journey!
For me I honestly don't like ppl much. I prefer my animals.
It's perfectly okay to feel that way! Animals can provide a sense of peace and companionship that's hard to match.
Absolutely!!
I pulled out of groups at church no one really understood I was craving solitude. Ty for the words in this vid.
Thank you for sharing your journey. Craving solitude is a powerful step toward self-discovery and peace. Glad the video resonated with you!
I am 71 and love being alone. Unfortunately, I’m married for 52 years now. He just told me that I’m selfish because I do too much for others and don’t want to drink and play pool with him. I just want to join a convent.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's so important to honor your own needs, and sometimes solitude can provide the peace we crave. It's understandable that your husband may feel hurt, but perhaps having an open conversation with him about your feelings and needs might help both of you find balance. Remember, it's okay to seek personal space and fulfillment while also nurturing relationships in a way that works for both of you.
I just turned 79. Although I enjoy my alone time, I’m a moderate extrovert. I find that getting out of the house and engaging with other people recharges my energy and increases my psychological well-being. The problem is that my mental and physical energy decreased in my 70s and it takes more effort for me to get going or stay going. I may leave a social gatheringI early, but I’m usually glad I went. I always enjoy talking with people. I still take pride in my appearance to impress myself mainly but it’s also nice to get a compliment once in a while. People’s personalities and life circumstances vary greatly regardless of their age. We each should do what makes us happy without worrying about what other people think.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It’s wonderful to hear how you balance your social life and alone time, especially at 79. Embracing what makes you happy, whether that’s connecting with others or taking time for yourself, is so important. You’re absolutely right-age is just one factor, and we all have our unique ways of thriving! Keep shining and doing what brings you joy. 😊
Nice to hear .. it is really true.. was thinking what is wrong, now understand myself
I'm 74 and always felt this way.I was a professional dancer but always seeked out solitude when not on stage😂
That's amazing! It sounds like you've mastered the balance between your vibrant profession and the peace of solitude. Truly inspiring! Keep shining! 🌟
I think it isn't energy that is finite...it is TIME. I don't want to waste the time I have left doing things that are stressful or not meaningful.
You're absolutely right! Time is our most precious resource, and it's important to focus on what truly matters. Choosing to spend it wisely brings more peace and fulfillment. Thank you for sharing this insightful thought!
Yes! Thanks for the affirmation. Some of us are from a place of constant socializing with groups of friends or best friends from the past as well as the present. I do not need to be affirmed by the amount of people in my life any longer. A few bffs and my own company are all I need - and want now. I have a home business and am an artist and writer so I need a lot of alone time to create. I have stunning nature outside my big picture windows. That’s good enough for me. 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful journey! It’s wonderful that you’ve found peace and contentment in solitude and the company of a few close ones. Your creativity and connection with nature sound truly inspiring. Wishing you continued success in your artistic endeavors! 😊❤
Hello and Thank you for an amazing video. It gets a 10 from me! I am 79 and resonate with every word. I love my own company, my hobbies, my prayer time and most of all those quiet
Moments .❤
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad the video resonated with you. It’s wonderful to hear how you’ve embraced the peace and joy of your own company. Keep shining, and I appreciate your support! 💖
These thoughts not only resonate but are some of the reasons being a senior citizen is beautiful.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s truly inspiring to hear how embracing these ideas enhances the beauty of being a senior citizen. Stay wonderful!
Thank you for this video! I can completely relate to all you talked about and I totally concur!!!
You're so welcome!
Ageing changes your preferences for self focus selfcare first.Previously I have spent a lot of time taking care of family and working as well as being distracted by people who takes up your energy. I realized i have neglected myself and my own well being. After going through challenges of life, I am enjoying slow living quiet lifestyle that is healthier for me. Silence is golden and stillness restores your inner peace and serenity. Absolutely agree with independence.Many thanks for highlighting the joys of embracing this solitary self aware life on my own terms. This really does resonate with me 9! It is a contrast from my younger days.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It's wonderful to hear that you've found peace and fulfillment through self-care and embracing a quieter, more independent lifestyle. Your journey truly resonates with the message of slowing down and prioritizing your well-being. Wishing you continued serenity and joy on your path!
I retired a couple of years ago and love being alone without drama and hearing about people’s problems. Work was becoming almost intolerable. I have my two dogs and my home with all my stores I need nearby. I swim every day at a fitness center and I come and go without saying a word. I love peace and quiet. I eat and sleep better since I have the TIME now to plan my meals.
Thank you for this wonderful video. This resonates of how I have always been living my life even in my younger days. I’ve never enjoyed going to parties, bars or crowded places. Everything that’s been mentioned in this video is exactly how I feel and spent my life. Though I’ve loved to travel and still do. So this video is not only applicable for older people. It could be for most adult.
My friends are dying or moving away. Also my hearing aids are not the same as good hearing.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It can be tough when we face loss and changes in health, but please remember that you're not alone. Life has a way of bringing new connections, and taking care of yourself can open up new opportunities for joy and peace. Keep going, and know that there’s always hope ahead.
I always hated social events. Now I am not obligated. An occasional shower, wedding or funeral. And lunch with a friend. I see my kids and grands every month for a few days. Hubby and I enjoy our alone time and have more the enough to do on our small rescue farm! Happier than I have ever been. The noise and chaos is something. I don’t miss!
I'm so glad to hear that you're enjoying your time and finding peace in your routine! It sounds like you've created the perfect balance for yourself. Wishing you continued happiness and fulfillment with your family and farm!
I am 73 and have always avoided gatherings . I prefer peaceful places . I prefer being near nature .
Thanks for sharing
Thank you. I'm 75 and feel very sad becouse old age.....😢😢😢😢
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Remember, age is just a number, and each day holds new possibilities for growth and joy. You're never alone in your journey-embrace the wisdom that comes with age, and keep moving forward with hope. You’ve got this! 🌟