I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make amends be happy for them.
I just discovered you guys from a short on instagram and so far I love you’re content. I hope more people discover your content because the advice you guys give is awesome 🤩. Can’t wait to watch more!!!
I have severe resentment towards my partner mainly because for 20+ years, I have been "into " my partner way more than they are "into" me. It slowly eats your soul until your just an angry mess. What a waste.
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make amends be happy for them.
I just discovered you guys from a short on instagram and so far I love you’re content. I hope more people discover your content because the advice you guys give is awesome 🤩. Can’t wait to watch more!!!
Same!! I’m not even in a relationship I’m watching for my family and friends lol
Same
Thank you!! We are glad you found your way here!!
Staying resentful after years because it still happens everyday..
I have severe resentment towards my partner mainly because for 20+ years, I have been "into " my partner way more than they are "into" me. It slowly eats your soul until your just an angry mess. What a waste.
So very true! At a certain point the door closes behind them.
Definitely a trigger for me is when someone tells me not to be resentful and just let it go. That pisses me completely off.
I really needed this episode. I’ve been in my head and this conversation is really helping me come to terms with my feelings
Very well put guys, this describes my life right now and I’ve gained so many valuable insights from this episode. Thank you ❤
This is very validating, thank you for sharing.
Of course! Glad it is validating
Really loved the conversation. Can you post the link to the episode you referenced about repairing resentment!? Thanks!
Thank you. You saved my night.
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Very informative i wish you could jave told us how to stop resenting but of course..you want us to pay for it....
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This spoke to my soul. What an amazing way to explain how I’ve been feeling for years.
So if you have had the resentment conversations a million times already...
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