Times People Ordered The "Safeword Drink" To Escape A Date
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If someone tells you they're straight, you stop, you DO NOT continue. Sure, talk and joke with them, but don't keep flirting, it's sad how many people don't seem to grasp the concept
Yea. I'm a gay guy and it's disgusting how some of us keep persisting, it's the same is straight guys thinking they can turn lesbians straight but it isn't treated us such.
terazc I feel the same way as you man
And I’m a lesbian
It’s so gross
No means no, no matter who you are.
I mean this applies to anyone - if someone says they’re not interested, just stop. It’s not specific to any sexual orientation, it’s just a universal thing
every sexuality is guilty of this... except for me aromatic fellas
I find it extremely wholesome when men are taken care of and protected like this, since more often then not they don't get taken seriously
Big facts, a lot of people don't care for guys and they don't usually think about our safety
I watched the show WWYD and it broke my heart that women and men are less likely to do something about seeing a man’s drink drugged. Thanking the universe for the people who help people, no matter what.
@@giraffe4bortion513 Yeah they wont even bother if a man is publicly physicaly harassed by a woman, but when you accidentaly raise your voice on a woman, everyone loses their shit. what a fucked up society isnt it?
@@160end PREEEAAAACH
Agreed!
Girls and women are statistically more likely to be victims than straight men,
but boys and men need protecting and care, and abuse/harassment of men is very underreported.
Bad things
(including *trigger warning*
Domestic violence, abuse, molestation and rape) can and do happen to them-- plus, no one deserves repeated, unwanted sexual advances! I hate when people treat men (and even young teenage boys) as if something is wrong with them if they arent thrilled by any advance at all from any woman. Gross, man.
I love these stories. The bartenders efficiency in saving customers makes them sound like a SWAT team in disguise.
We always try to keep an eye on everyone and talk about weird behaviour with eachother, so that the others are aware of it too...
There are a lot of creepy people out there, especially if drunk
TheGreatHX I’m your 666th like lmao
Bartenders get paid to be observant.
Unless you're at the "Tattle tail" in Culver City, USA. Bartender is probably in on it.
Honestly makes me want to become one so I could do the same for others in disguise
As a dude, now 22, I've been to like, 3 bars. I've ordered the "Safeword" on accident once. Apparently "Bloody Mary" is a good choice for a safe word, because obviously no one wants an actual Bloody Mary
That got a chuckle out of me
What happened then?
I want an actual Bloody Mary. I do wonder what happened though
Bloody Marys are great done correctly!
I want a bloody mary. That's a poor safeword.
Didn't know safeword drinks were a thing. That's very smart.
Samuel Soderberg i dont rlly get it?
@@ChriLsiao if you want to leave the bar becuase you feel unsafe/think the person might follow you to the car ypu can order a safword drink and the bartinder will walk you to your car
@@ChriLsiao or call you an uber
Tostastarone how do you find out those safewords?
@@ChriLsiao ik some bars will put them inside the womens restroom. But idk how other places do it
There should be “ask for Angela” posters in women’s bathrooms and “ask for (i don’t know, how about) Susan” posters in men’s bathrooms, that way neither sex knows what the other is doing.
Although it might not help as much when you have someone of the same gender creep on you.
Ask for Angela and Ask for Andy?
Maybe all bathroom stalls should have "ask for (name of different person)" so only person who have used that bathroom seat, and staff know?
Dimas Akbar Yeah And Maybe they switch it occasionally or not
The gays: 😏
“Text to speech” *Pronounces “Eindhoven” almost perfectly.* (I am dutch).
“Also Text to speech”
*Mispronounces the word “safe”.
Super Saiyan Matt
Viewers: can you read English?
TextToSpeach:Well, yes...but actually no
Hey ik spreek ook nederlands, ik ben Belgisch :)
text to speech made by a dutch programmer?
I've seen japanese games with voice command gimmicks that work best when you put on an exaggerated Japanese accent (because it was tuned to deal with certain sound and parts of words using a limited sample of testers).
Super Saiyan Matt can you teach me ur language???????? I need to know a foreign language for HS and im taking German but would like to know a second foreign language. Pleeeease
John Marston dude, dutch is kinda difficult for english speakers to learn, (I was lucky, learned it at a young age)
Anyway, why not go to classes or something? Or find an app? We can’t exactly give you lessons
“A man should pay for the bill no matter what”
...what if it’s a lesbian date?
Government-sponsored lesbian dates, coming to your city soon!
we’re so powerful that we just get free drinks
They get the nearest man to pay
Lez be honest, one of them is gonna be more of a man than the other. Problem solved. Even when they're gay they look for a manly woman. Lmao.
RealLifeHater um.
It’s smart but their should be two separate lists in the men’s and women’s bathroom
LargerOyster ! There should. If both have the same safeword and the aggressor has been to the bathroom, they’ll know what the victim means and probably get even more angry. This wouldn’t really work for gay couples though.
They have
We had that at one of my bars.
Females could ask for "Trina"; Guys could ask for "Toby"
Someone kept vandalizing that sign in the Men's room. Eventually we found out it was one of our own bussers, a female, because she thought it was ridiculous that men could need help. Oddly enough, we had easily twice as many requests for "Toby" than we did for "Trina."
Jasmin Mikaelson not most of the time most people think only women can be harrasses
smart
When I was 18 I noticed a guy in a public toilet looking at me pretty intensely. When I left I could see in window reflections that he was following so ducked into a pub and went straight up to the bar. I described him to the bar staff and asked if he had followed me in. She said yes and that he'd gone in the toilet so I should leave now. I sprinted through a park and doubled back behind a hedge, managed to lose him. Don't know if the girl at the bar was named Angela but she saved my ar$e that day!
That's fucking terrifying.
I don't know why woman-on-man harassment/assault aren't talked about more; they're just as much an issue, if not more of an issue, than the stereotypical man-on-woman harassment/assault.
Instead, men expect to be belittled or have their problems ignored, which is far from healthy for either them or for society.
As a former bartender I can confirm. When I guy harrassed a woman, they'd usually get the hint when you intervened or in the rare occasion, bouncer could step in & respond accordingly.
When it was the other way around, the women who start acting insane & then try to act like they were the victim. They would almost always need to be restrained & arrested.
iirc male suicide rate is ~4x higher because of this
@@garlicbreadjenkins5780 And male homelessness far outstrips female homelessness.
Richard Samuelson the thing that really bugs me is when you hear the stat about homelessness, it’s usually brought up like “1/3 homeless people are women” like okay? Then what are the other 2/3? Why is it only a problem when women are affected by something?
I mean, it's a stretch to say man-on-woman harassment is less of an issue because it literally is more common and widespread than woman-on-man. Though male victims face different issues and are less talked about (which should change), all assault and harassment is bad and I don't see the point in arguing who has it worse (as these replies have started to do).
I’m surprised by the amount of men that used the safe word. Not because men can’t feel vulnerable and unsafe around their dates but because it’s uncommon for men to express that discomfort and fear.
Good to hear that some are brave enough to ask for help.
Mainly because men, overall, aren't taken seriously when it happens. For example, I'm a bouncer. Any time we see a guy lay a ginger on a girl in an unwanted way he's gone and the managers practically expect us to jump him on the way out. Meanwhile, I've been groped and fondled against my wishes more times than I can count only to see people, staff included laughing hysterically at my predicament. Then when the girl doesn't get the hint and I bounce her, they act like I'm an asshole and it's all in good fun. That's why the bouncers in the one story took it so seriously and why I do as well, because we know better than most how demoralizing it is as a man to not be backed up in instances like this because "you're a man, you should love the woman's attention".
Also the video is about Men only who asked for safe words
asking for help isnt brave tbh it undermines actual bravery but its just used to discourage the idea that asking for help is weak, kind of dumb really
Man, you cant even say cocktails? TH-cam really be messed up
Tyler Spanier but you can see naked yoga on TH-cam, they’re fucked up
You can legit look up videos of people dying but can’t say “cocktail” excuse me TH-cam? Tf are you doing
@@insertnamehere6757 wait what?!
Tyler Spanier bc it says cock
Hector Najera naked yoga? What channel? for school 😉
10:25 Male abuse victims don't get help often enough. I'm glad this guy did get help
Ale Titan Exactly!
Facts. Men get under estimated in domestic abuse or harassment situations. When it happens to women they would get through therapy and gain like 50 friends and the man somehow gets imprisoned for 50 years(dramatizing). Then when it happens to a man they get yelled at for being a pussy, woman gets away Scott free, and nothing happens to the women.
@@ethanbeadling6978 I know right? Like seriously men can get abused too lmao. It's also the fact that sometimes people get too caught up about men getting abused and forget women can be abused too. I'm not saying thar's what you did, your point was amazing, but I wish people could remember we all have feeling and emotions and the ability to get hurt, not just man to woman abuse, not just woman to man abuse, not just man to man abuse, not just woman to woman abuse, but all forms of abuse on gender types and couple types are serious. Except women are treated more than men, and then people who have a heart start caring about the men, and then it creates a loop hole
@@sarahnarah8909 i never have agreed more
@@ethanbeadling6978 damn you reply crazy fast. I honestly loved your comment, it really did talk about how men are really ignored. It's sad the world is this way.
"A man should pay for the bill no matter what"
What if the lady is rich and the man can barely afford to piss because he cant afford water?
As far as I'm concerned, the one who did the asking on said date should pay...girl asks guy, she pays, guy asks girl, he pays, etc
@@Kiwi_Tea Both should split the bill, no matter what. If either side wants to the other to pay, or wants to pay in full. Bail hard.
@@fatcatsnuggleparty4272 Well of course you should split it IF it's agreed upon. Otherwise, it's good etiquette for the asker to pay.
@@Kiwi_Tea i think your latter statement is more accurate
That's some broke next level
You know YT has gone too far when they have to censor the word "Cocktail"
ikr its absolutely ridiculous
Spectre
Yep
Apparently, North Korea is less controversial than cocktails. Good to know.
Heck I've seen a video that was originally taken down because the british guy said the word "bloody" and you bet everyone including me grabbed their brit friends and raged the heck out of youtube
@@lisa101561 Oh bloody hell ;) lol. I like watching someone called the Vaping Bogan. He's an Aussie, and uses 'cunt' and 'fucker' quite liberally. Doesn't censor a damned thing XD
The first one:
"...calls the man a taxi"
Me:
"You're a taxi"
That's a dad joke, but not at an appropriate time lol
@@olymolly3637 I dont get it
You're a taxi, Harry
NO yOu
That waiter at Chili’s made my heart grow like the Grinch who stole Christmas, it was sweet, he cared and got him out of there and did something I can confidently say I don’t think a whole lot of other servers would do, Way to go guys, I hope you got a large tip
That story was fake. I checked out the dudes Reddit account (i_cape_runts) and he's a total incel. His Reddit username tells you all you need to know.
Ophelia awe that’s sad
F for all the confused Angela’s
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Guys, quick tip, if you’re ever going to a bar, get some tissue/napkins from home and write ‘I feel uncomfortable please help’ on one of them. If someone makes you feel comfortable, accidentally knock your drink over when the bartender is near and pretend to help them by handing them the napkin that you wrote on
6:19 Had a feeling that my post would make it onto one of these videos!
what
Oddbodd that’s really cool that you got your post on here
Wait Lincolnshire? LINCOLNSHIRE. Finally found somebody in the same county as me on the internet haha
@@allybear2380 Haha, yeah a lot of people on the subreddit were really suprised to find that I was talking about certain clubs in Lincoln. It's really weird since not many people on the internet has even ever heard of this county haha
Why was the supervisor hesitant at first???
Thank you for “normalizing” male abuse.
People always focus on men abusing women, so men are often discarded and not taken seriously even when they are in dangerous situations.
Abuse is scary for everyone and anyone could be a victim regardless of gender, age, physical appearance and sexual orientation.
The waiters and manager helping the man with the cruel ex wife are literal angels and deserve the absolute best
We are all possible victims, men, women, whatever.
Be safe out there people, no matter who you are
@ITS YA BOI MIKE WAZOWSKI Yeah, try standing up for yourself in a public place when a woman does that to you. A bunch of random guys will come over and beat the shit out of you can assume you were the problem, leaving her free of consequences. A guy not wanting to get his ass beat and go to jail for something he didn't do isn't weak.
ITS YA BOI MIKE WAZOWSKI Ooookayyyy.......
@ITS YA BOI MIKE WAZOWSKI fuck you, you sexist dick.
@ITS YA BOI MIKE WAZOWSKI bruh
@@franklydankly1343 i wanna know what he said why y'all mad
it's sad that a lot of places in the US don't have things like this. all we need is one or two (i know it's separate for the guys and girls sometimes) if these orders with posters in both bathrooms. good on the UK for AskAngela. wish the US was like that
AskAngela is usually just for girls
How would our politicians and media figures sexuality assault someone if there were safe words? They don't want to stop the "fun"
The problem with the askangela thing is, for me for example, I might as well just say hey i need to get out of here this is going south. I'm gay, the dude im with knows the same safeword or safedrink... I mean, i dont really drink so i prolly wouldnt be going on a date or anything at a bar, but still, if i did i would be screwed if things go south xD.. Especially cuz my taste is dudes that are a good bit bigger than me.. If he finds out im tryna bounce, and hes all drunk and shiz, it could either be fine or really bad
If I owned a bar I would tell the bouncers at the door to whisper the safe drink of that night (different for men and women) to them that way it constantly changes and no one can get a opposite gender friend/someone they met at the bar, to tell them a code from the bathroom signs.
Or put an electric sign that you can put into both bathrooms to replace the posters. Then you can just change what the sign says each night and no one else will be able to mess with it or change it
Yeah, but change it too often, and then drunk people will not remember what it is. I can see changing it every season at least though.
Those places are so noisy I'm sure you can just say, "can I have a safe word drink?" and your "friend" won't catch on. Or just tell your friend to f off.
The problem with that is, if you have the type of friend who would tell you what the safe word drink is by going into the bathroom and finding out, they'd also tell you what words the bouncer whispered on the way in. Not to mention that drunk people will have trouble remembering new phrases with every visit. From a realistic bar workers standpoint, people get paranoid when anything happens other than showing your ID and getting drinks. A poster in the bathrooms looks like a nice no obtrusive safety measure, whispering new secret phrases every night will have half your patrons think this is a rape bar and you're trying to clean it up.
Its actually fuckrd up how many men get harassed but its still “weird”
It's fucked up how many PEOPLE get harassed. Please.
@@Kidomaru222 or that someone still finds it weird.
Hey, men get harassed, bullied, r*ped too, alright? But it's not too known because the victims are, well, men.
@@Kidomaru222 same energy as ‘men get r@ped too’ but the genders are switched
If the question specifically asks “have you ever had a man use the safeword drink?” Why is the video title worded to make it sound like it’s about women too?
A lot of these reddit speech videos have clickbaited titles
Well i don't know why, but one consequence i can observe is that now people can pretend that 90% of harassment comes from women.
Yuki
I mean sometimes we do. But both genders have it equally worse than the other, but they always catch back up to be equal.
@Yuki This is one of the most disgusting reactions to sexual abuse I’ve ever seen.
Are you proud of yourself right now? I hope you are, because I’m going to remove that for you. You, who act like only women can suffer and be hurt. You, who dismiss another person’s suffering because “we have it so much worse.” You wanna know why women never got helped a century ago? You wanna know the real reason? Because it had very little to do with sex. Nobody wanted to care about it. They had their own problems. They all “had it worse.” Their response to a cry for help was to ignore it and say “I have enough to worry about, don’t expect me to help you.” The same exact attitude you’ve just revealed in your words. So congratulations! You’re part of the problem!
I hope you are ashamed of yourself. Your heart spits out hatred like the sea spits out foam, and now everyone who has read and will ever read your comments will see that. Millions of people who scroll through comment sections will remember your hateful, vile remarks, and you will never be able to erase that. NEVER! The internet remembers. That mark is upon you forever! You have no cloak to hide your hypocrisy, you garbage human being.
I hope you’re still at least capable of feeling shame. Then perhaps you’ll be able to learn from this experience to question your own cruel biases. If not, well, it no longer matters. Now the whole world knows who you are. And that record will exist forever. So congratulations. Are you proud now?
@Yuki Well I guess you at least had the honesty to say it, rather than feign that you read it.
jesus they saved S from GG and prevented sexual assault happening. They probably protected S from getting traumatized. I wonder if they all even realize how much they saved S's ass
I honestly wish I knew about “ask for Angela” prior because I remember this one date where I almost had to get a restraining order at 18
I was drugged in what I thought was a safe place to be at the time. Never let your guard down for anyone.
Remember folks safety first
safety off!
@@bishop51807 Oh, what I wouldn't give to safety off those people.
Not sure how I feel about 'Moonlight Sonata - Beethoven' in the background. Really makes these stories extra creepy/dark.
..the first was messed up when she said that
No, She a Entitled Person AKA Karen
@@log_by_bolb Not all Entitled People are Karens... Some are Lindas
@@king_archfiend5311 lol
@@king_archfiend5311 Helen.
I thought angel shot was the safeword
Angel Shot is a really well-known one, the whole point of drink safewords is to let the staff know something's up without alerting whoever you're with.
L G it can vary
Depends on where you are bit Angel Shot is a really common one
During my time in Brisbane, I noticed that while there all bars I saw had ask for Angela, one near my apartment used to have a male equivalent, being Alex, and kept the notices more discreet so that if they were to use the safe word then there’d be less chance of the other party knowing, I think they used a different name to Angela for females as well for vice versa, but I’ve seen a fair few instances in smaller bars without security where someone asks for Angela and immediately their partner turns on them since they know, whole Ask for Angela has had too much publicity to work if you ask me
"Man up" Oh my god, harassment is HARASSMENT. THE GENDER DOESNT MATTER
You go Nezuko
Agreed 100000000% gender shouldn’t and doesn’t matter!!!
Wisdom from Nezuko
Lol the reader said “safue word”.
Cocktails arent a bad word...
Me : *looks at TH-cam*
Also me: Oh nevermind..
I feel sorry for the guy who accidentally orders one of these safeword drinks and ruins their night out.
I’m very glad to hear that men are being listened to. Men DO get abused. Abusers have no sex only an evil, manipulative nature. I’m glad other men took it seriously and didn’t tell them to “man up”. That is so abusive and dehumanizing. I’ll be sure to look out for this type of situation with the same vigilance as I do everything else. Thank you for making me aware. It’s not lost on me.
Or in some banks if they ask for Audrey it's code for "robbery" so it's subtle and no one gets alarmed
If a bank robber see this
What if someone called Audrey actually worked there? Would she have to go by a different name?
what if someone works there who's first name is rob and last name is bary
@@CanonOverseer at the store I work at they call a member of department 9 (each department has a specific number- womenswear is department 8, kidswear is department 5, etc- , so it just sounds like a regular tannoy call to a customer) to call security
For me the second he mentions anything sexual
I'm like : I'm sorry I got a text from my parents they're outside my apartment waiting
I'm going to have to steal this I'm afraid.
The first one: men should pay no mater what needs to be assigned to the dumpster of history along with women should "put out" if the guy pays.
I live in the UK and have never heard of this ask for Angela thing. So I feel if I ever said that in a bar, they'd probably have no idea what I was on about.
I thought the safeword drink was like, McDonald's secret menu item. I once asked the bartender what the safeword drink was, and he said it was something called sambuvodka. I was gonna go order that today. I think now I'm just gonna stay in and mix up some sambuca and vodka myself. Also, the fact that cocktail has to be censored now just blows my mind on how far past the line YT has gone.
“men should pay for the drink no matter what”
lesbians: **visible confusion**
gays: *“goddamn it”*
These employees are really just heros. Sometimes being observant is all that's needed. Good to know they're out there
I'm glad to hear that those bouncers took that sexual harassment issue seriously. It doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman doing the harassing, it is wrong, it is completely unacceptable, and it should be dealt with immediately.
Definitely shouldve stuck with "men" for the video title like the question asked for, my dude
Wasn't everyone in the video who asked male?
@@iantos1813 Yeah, exactly hahaha
Posted ask for angels only in ladies rooms.. ffs this is the problem
I'm watching this and it's amazing the compassion that people share for each other. So nice to know that even through the worst relationships, people can become friends with anyone, such as a helpful bartender.
I like how the word “cocktails” was blurred out😂
These bartenders and all the staff are so amazing🤗🤗🤗🤗Thank you so much, you protected all these people 🤗🤗🤗
I love the Moonlight Sonata in the background.
Yeah for some interesting reason a lot of reddit channels put really nice music instead of beats
Makes it feel kinda terminal though
A lot of that gave me goosebumps. I'm glad there are good people willing to help when someone is in trouble.
I love how they give the safe word to females and not males. because according to society men never need out of a dangerous situation. I hate how one sided everything is.
Thank you for making a video about uncomfortable situations that happen to men... not enough public light shed on that, and even though I’ve never experienced anything like it I appreciate you showing the world a little of this dark corner as well.
yayyy, now everyone can meet up in this fantastic comment section to explain how women are all harassers that can get away with it because they're women ^-^
Kidômaru-Kun I like your way of thinking too. You and a couple other people. Ya’ll are good.
We should do this in the USA. As a waitress I saw a few I would have intervened in if I could. I was told to "mind my own business" but as someone who has had an abusive husband it went against every natural instinct. Some years later my daughter (6 feet tall, 300 + pounds), saw a man hitting a woman and ran him right over. The police had already been called, and they arrived to find her ON him. They arrested the guy but warned her that she should not have intervened. She explained that after having witnessed her mom getting the same treatment as a little girl that she would NOT tolorate abuse as an adult. That's my girl! *pride*
Another one I've seen used was a guy who clutched at his stomach and screamed like he was in pain. As soon as his female friend reached into her bag he looked STRAIGHT at the bartender and mouthed help me, she's crazy in between screams. The whole bar was staring and because of all the attention, so she went outside to ring an ambulance for him. He jumped to his feet immediately, and took off towards the bathrooms, at which point the Bartender followed him and told him the police were already on the way, and to lie on the floor of the office and keep pretending to be in pain (office was in earshot of the bar if you screamed in there). The police notified the ambulance service that if they received a call from X bar to respond only if they could spare an ambulance for a show of force and the situation as it was reported to the police.
Conclusion, she was arrested and had to pay for his ambulance call out charge as there was no patient in need of an ambulance.
There was this 26 year old dude hitting on me when I was 16 in one of my PSEO classes at college. He asked for my social media and at the time I didn’t really know how to say no so I gave it to him (I know how to deal with that situation now, thank god). He would always instigate conversation and I would always try to keep it friendly but he just kept saying suggestive and inappropriate things. At one point he asked what my friend and I were being for Halloween and I innocently told him we were being hippes, and he responded with “that’s hot”. At that point I told him to stop and he apologized but literally within the next 20 minutes he made another comment like that. This went on for about a week because I just didn’t know how to deal with it without pissing him off.
He was in my class, so he would also kind of follow me out of class and talk to me. I usually walked to the building right across from the one where our class was, but I tried to get him to stop one time and walked further towards the library. He kept walking with me. When I got there I said I had to use the bathroom and find my friend (lies) and he left saying that the had to actually go to the gym, which was in the opposite direction of the building our class was in. So he went extremely out of his way to follow me.
I was friends with a few other guys and a girl in that class and they kind of caught on and walked with me everywhere after I told them that I was kinda freaked out. Literally three dudes a girl never left my side until the creepy guy was out of sight, every day. Eventually I blocked him on social media and he stopped trying to talk to me.
He actually apologized when he caught me alone waiting for my ride home one day. I stayed leaning against the opposite wall and meticulously avoided saying “it’s okay” or “it’s fine” by saying things like “just don’t do it anymore” or “thank you for apologizing”. But the entire time he was speaking he was very obviously checking me out. He left after the apology was over and never spoke to me again.
Another time, I got a guy to stop hitting on me by saying that my best friend (who was sitting right next to me at the time and had a boyfriend) was my girlfriend. This fucking queen literally kissed my cheek and put her arm over my shoulder and just said “sorry dude.” The guy left and didn’t bother me again. I fucking love my best friend.
I'm happy so many guys got help! Great job from these employees
At around 11:50 it sounds like the robot (Daniel) chuckles between "life" and "honorable"
Oh my God I love that the males in the stories are taken seriously and are protected from these terrible people! I've seen so many times where the men in harassment situations get a punch in the shoulder and get told to "man up". Men can get harassed, men can be abused, men can be raped, and they are. Ignoring it brews horrific behavior and a damaged society, so seeing these men getting the help they need without hesitation made me feel better about the changing world
I always have cash on me when I go on a date, because, no, a man shouldn't have to pay for the date, and I shouldn't expect him to cover my share, ever.
That’s messed up. When a person says no they mean it, no matter the gender. I’m glad that the staff members in these stories handled the situation professionally and calmly
8:35 This part of the 1st Movement of Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata really adds to the dramatic tone of the story.
What do the men in this video who were brave enough to ask for help in a scary/abusive/dangerous situation get? My respect and full support. These things happen to everyone, and we can’t invalidate someone’s genuine fears or emotions regarding a situation like this just because of their gender.
One time me and my friends were in a not so crowded bar and this man kept following us and trying to talk to us, made us super uncomfortable. Didn’t even have to ask the staff for help, the bouncer noticed right away and told the guy to leave us alone, and proceeded to follow him around the bar to make sure he stayed away from us. Pretty sure they ended up kicking him out
I love how wholesome these are, but I’m also learning safe words for bars.
I mean, unless you go to the exact bar in the stories, the safeword changes from bar to bar lol
"a man should pay for the bill no matter what."
No wonder why he ordered those shots
Big props to all the bar staff in these stories to make sure everyone is safe and taken care off regardless of gender/orientation. Luckily I've never been to a bar where this type of thing would be a problem but every bar should have this type of training because unfortunately you never know what can happen
I enjoyed this video along with the “moonlight sonata” in the background
Censoring “cocktails” and “unisex?” Lol ok
They have too cuz the youtube algorithm is gay
Hastily written find and replace. I was once on a forum with an automatic swear filter, replaced all dirty words with the word "smurf". Lots of guys talking about their smarsmurfches.
@@thegardenofeatin5965 😂
Who else is loving the Moonlight Sonata in the background?
I’m glad so many men felt comfortable seeking help and so many people were happy to help them. This is how the world would be without toxic masculinity. Wonderful.
I am so glad that both men and women have been assisted with this programme.
How do they know it is a safe word drink?:
You mean the staff or the person pretending to order it? How it works is there's a poster in the bathroom that says the safeword and to order it if you feel unsafe, and the staff are trained to specifically remember what the safeword means.
fearful Thank you
@@subbyneko theres really no foolproof way to do it. its not perfect, but its good enough. what would you suggest?
@@skuas4558 a better way would be to have every bar with their own safeword. It wouldnt work as well over time if all bars used the same safe word. It should be something unique to the bar so it doesnt sound out of place.
Tana Collier bit it is easier if there is a constancy that way the person seeking help would not have to go to the bathroom in order to know the safe word drink because it could potentially look sus if the person went to the restroom then immediately or after a while ordered a drink
not a bar, but a laundromat. I was doing my laundry and was nearly finished, when this guy started freaking out on a lady who had politely removed his clothes from the washing machine so she could do her own laundry (if the laundromat is busy you need to make sure you're on the ball in getting your stuff switched over, because people have lives that don't revolve around you). He kept going on about how rude she was, and it was a violation of privacy, etc.
Even though my laundry was done, I remained in the laundromat for almost an hour until he finished and left. I figured the presence of another guy might keep this weirdo from going too far. I just sat there watching the guy, waiting for him to get violent, trying to make eye contact with the lady to let her know she had backup if needed, but she just kept her head down, sometimes muttering quiet apologies to the guy. he finally left, and as soon as I saw his car pull out, I got up and left. Lady never even knew I had stayed for her.
Cis White Dad you are a good person. I would of done the same too
@@vwalt6804 sometimes doing the right thing is just a matter of hanging out for a while.
Cis White Dad that’s a perfect way of putting it. Good on ya
@@paxromana7162 thanks!
good work bro, you possibly saved her life 👍🏾👍🏾
this is prolly my favorite thing to ever read on these videos. made my heart soft.
Dude this is my favorite reddit channel. Instead of stupid “LiKe iN fIve SeCoNdS aNd PupPeR gIveS GoOd lUcK” it’s just nice music to let ya know the video is over. I listen to these to fall asleep and it’s so much less intrusive than what some other channels do. Small thing, but I seriously appreciate it lol
Geez... Almost all of them were men. It's so effed up that some women think that they can just get away with this kind of stuff. My son is only 7 but this kind of stuff worries me already. I hope the climate gets better before he gets old enough to date but I'm not gonna hold my breath.
kailani yates This video specifically asks for *men* who needed the safeword.
@@KnakuanaRka That's what I get for missing so much dang sleep, I end up missing the biggest things. Big oops on my part.
@@LINKINPARK262 actually no- the title was a bit clickbait. The title says "People" but the actual question says "men". Don't worry I missed it too at first
You can make a start by telling him and setting a good example of boundaries and bodily autonomy, and when to watch out if anyone is trying to groom him. I am doing this for both of my children who happen to be boys. Female on male exploitation is still undereported.
You were pretty fast to jump on a conclusion... That's worrying.
This isn’t a drink story but it’s a story from school where I needed help
I’m the mom friend of my group and I’m very protective, nothing bad has really happened to my friends but some stuff has happened to me.
Once in gym class, we were playing batmitten, I’m not good in gym, so I would get glared at but I was used to that, two of my close friends were in that class with me, so we stayed together and made sure everyone was okay.
One day, I was doing worse then usual cause my mental health was already swarming in my head, I was forced to be with a girl that was mean to everyone, so she couldn’t keep her mouth shut about how I was playing the game, now, I’m openly pansexual, so I’ve had to deal with many homophobic remarks, but she pushed the line, I hadn’t noticed, but when we were against her friends, she walked up to the net and started whispering to them, my two friends were bystanders, and one just happens to be good with hearing when somethings wrong, so, she heard the girl say some really mean stuff, when that round was over she told me, and I snapped and broke down crying, my friends hugged me, I couldn’t stop crying, some people that I didn’t even know walked up and asked if I was okay as my best friend explained to them what happened and to leave me alone, for the rest of gym, I didn’t do anything except stand there and cry, my teammate and the bitch that made me snap, didn’t care, except a lot of people we were against did and even stopped in the middle of the match to step on me, but I brushed them off. After class we told the teacher, we then left the class and my friend that had the rest of the classes in the day with me, had to help me from crying for the rest of the day.
I really like how this also shows that men also have problems with sexual harassment. I am so glad the people took it seriously when a guy was having a problem. Unfortunately there are some instances where men feed the problem and say that they should like it. Men don't always want that kind of attention just like women. Consent is key on both sides. I really appreciate their stories being shared. I really also love how well all the staff in this handled things very well and were really nice.
"Help will always be given to those, who ask for it."
~Dumbbelldoor
Even "cocktail" is sensored
Wth?
harleybynature because it says “cock” and will get the channel demonetized
i gotta say, the woman around 6 minutes reminded me of marla from fight club. same description and character
I'm glad that all these people were able to get help, especially the men since it's not so often taken seriously.
If someone says they'll off themselve if you leave them that's the biggest incentive to leave.
You are not their happiness you are not their life. If they "need" YOU so they live then you need to leave THEM.
Cocktails is censored??? Ok then...
Edit: Unisex too?!?!
Keira Choc it needs to be a SAFEPLACE
The AI think « Unisex » means sex at university or something
“A man should pay for the bill no matter what”
What if it’s two girls on a date (like not as friends)
The bartender says "Sorry, only guys can pay a date" and then the girls have to vomit the food they've eaten, I guess
we’re so powerful that we just get free drinks
Well they just call over the nearest man, of course.
I had no idea that "safe drinks" were a thing! Its so nice to know if a date is going south, male or female everyone should be able to get help or the assurance of safety!
I never even knew that safeword drinks existed, that would have been useful to know a number of times. After quarantine I gotta find out if my favorite bar has these.
Ayyy Lincolnshire mention
Wasn't sure what a safe word drink was so I googled it... It's shocking how all of the results were centred about women needing help, how men are the abusers... I know society has a thing for men acting thought etc but jeeezzz
It's mostly because women are mostly victims of this, ofc it happens to men but mainly women, that's why the results are all about men.
@@nonono7620 hmm I don't actually think so, you would think that but it's not the case (unless I'm wrong then give me your source) but it's the same with domestic abuse, you always hear how women are the victims but actually 75% of times it's the men who are the victims
@@mateuszbiernat9892 I mean you can google it, there aren't a lot of sources on it though. It's common sense to me. women are at a higher danger of being raped compared to men, and most drug spikes lead to rape. Also, what you said is false.
"From April 2014 to March 2017, 73% of victims of domestic homicides (homicides by an ex/partner or family member) were women. This contrasts with victims of non-domestic homicides, where the majority of victims were male (88%) and 12% of victims were female (ONS, 2018)." where did you hear that 75% from?
I didn't get the chance to ask for help. I was dancing holding my drink, arms over my head in a crowd. Suddenly a guy dumps a drink on me. He apologizes, but pulls me to the bar next to a bouncer. He grabbed my drink and handed it to the bouncer saying this other guy put a pill in it. The bouncer motions another bouncer and they detain the guy. My drink was tested and popped for roofies. This stranger ruined my top but probably saved me from something bad.
I feel so bad for these people who have horrible dates that make them feel uncomfortable. Honestly this video is making me consider working at a bar when I'm older. Even though I'm 13 and no where near getting a job yet. Just so I can help people who feel uncomfortable.
"wickens" im crying XD yes im a candlestick???
This should be called have MEN ever used the safe word drink, for clarification
I know the safeword at my local saloon/bar/restaurant and though I’m young, I still deserve to be helped if harassed just like everyone else, blessed be 😌
Thank goodness for safeword drinks! What a brilliant idea by wholesome, good, bar staff.