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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 พ.ย. 2020
- Sometimes a husband or wife is at the receiving end of their spouse’s sharp tongue. One such husband asks Sadhguru how he can deal with his wife’s tongue lashing.
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“Love the person, but give the person total freedom. Love the person, but from the very beginning make it clear that you are not selling your freedom.”💚
Freedom is difficult thing to give in relationship
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@@Gurpreetsinghpreet1 how so?
@@Gurpreetsinghpreet1 freedom is love... Relationship is chained.. And don't sense wrong if u r chained... A lion is served best food in a zoo.. And taken care of.. So be free talk to your better halves... Rest all is ok.
Seems all these Jr. Sadhgurus are unmarried.
01:53 never saw sadhguru thinking that much before for speaking on anything else. That gives you an idea how complex the question is.
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If Mr shankar had to find a soln on his own(someone else for thorn part to.someone else n rose part to himself as said by sadguru), why would he ask u sadguru?
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Both the man and the woman should conduct themselves in a manner that is kind and respectful of one another. This makes for a happy and successful marriage. Love is kind.
“The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human can alter his life by altering his attitude.”
― William James
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My physically and mentally abusive dad needs to see this! He has been abusing a Beautiful Goddess he is married to🙏 Thank you sadhguru...
God bless your family❤...everything will be fine one day..much love
@@inspired4780 thank you so MUCH 😭🙏💚God bless you and your family too
Oh that's bad.
No worries brother think positive and everyone else will be happy soon
But you should take a lesson that you have to behave properly with your future spouse
Same problem in my home but here my mother has a sharp tongue and she is very annoying and disturbing
He is making negative karm...each hurtful word he says will come back to hurt him ..in his next incarnation and there are many other forms of suffering added into this.
The sweetest person outside the home can be the most bitter one inside the home. it is the tragedy. No matter what you do to make him happy, he will find another reason to stay unhappy-angry just with you and may punish you by neglecting you, doing complete opposite things than what you have wished or requested for. It is his strong negative, prejudiced and closed mind set for his spouse. He is blind to see you as a wife, as a mother of his children and as a person. He will try everything in his power to make you unhappy. You can defeat this mentality by changing focus from him to you. you must stay happy. You must stay good person and do good karma. You must stay strongly positive. Mainly you must stay detached from his negativity, prejudiced and closed mind set. Intelligence, affection and empathy brings peace in the family. Ignorance, arrogance and ego brings disaster.
Well said👌👏👏
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Absolutely right
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Perfect response
Repeat after me:
Thank you for my joy;
Thank you for my happiness;
Thank you for my success;
Thank you for my abundance;
Thank you for my wealth;
Thank you for my prosperity;
Thanks for my health.
Repeat every day and the universe will certainly serve you.
It is serving.. what do you want now after this 😇
Why should I repeat after you? I will create my own lines 🙂😃
Even in the dark times .. it is important to be grateful for what you have ... and start from there
@@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 🙏
Thanks
A capable wife is a crown to her husband yet she must be treated with dignity and respect. She must be recognised for her unselfish deeds for her family.
A capable husband is like beautiful necklace for his wife yet he must be treated with sense of understanding and tender love. He must be recognised for his devotion towards family.
Sounds crazy
Non sense
A man needs respect not tender love if a man gets respect he sees that as love
Wisdom
What have you been smoking 🚬
Relationships thrive on mutual respect, mutual trust, reciprocity, and fellow - feeling !
Agreed
Tell my wife that
I often wonder - why does some people make a mockery of themselves by evolving stories out of nothing ! I very much pity someone's stupidity and abysmally low level of intelligence, although one pretends to be so smart !
Why don't someone take this onerous responsibility on one's safe shoulders so as to ascribe some semblance of authdnicity to it !
I have watched many many videos of Sadguru. I have been married 18 years. First time I didn't understand what he was getting at. His answer was very cryptic .I did have a sharp tongue and used to make the other person cry , but changed when my mother advised me at the time of my marriage. I understood and always try to make a conscious effort to not hurt anyone through my words. In the process of becoming more spiritual every thing which is irrelevant falls away.(Sadguru mentions this in another video) That is a guarantee. These material feelings and emotions will shed if we adopt righteous way of living. One thing I definitely liked about what he said was for 1 rose with 100 thorns , nourish it and make it grow 100 roses . Yes that is a very good way to improve the thorny situation.
What he meant is, feminine intelligence is not about survival, but instead they have pronounced emotional and subtle intelligence. Now, if in the name of good manners this expression is curbed then our world will be in the loss. This world is all about the masculine, example, survival, order, properness etc. So his message is to allow the feminine to get more expressed. In the bargain all may not be proper or in good behaviour. But he is not propagating bad behaviour or rudeness.
@@tamaleesen2759 wow 🤩.. Very well put 👍. I too interpreted it that way .. thanks for endorsing
He clearly responded that its upto the husband to make the spouse happy and channel negativity elsewhere..
Even I got totally lost in his journey of answering.. Nothing came out of it...
In short he is saying … say sorry when u r guilty and say sorry when ur not guilty.
The problem is not the spouse but the anger.
and the thorns in the spouse that results to such negative reaction
Summary ( my opinion) - Focus on the good behavior of your spouse, work on improving/adding other good things in her life (like enroll her in dance/singing class, help her to learn new language, help her to learn new recipes, appreciate her on her good things. In a nutshell work on improving the roses and thrones will automatically become insignificant.
Great 👍👍👍💐 thanks
I love this video ❤I am learning so so much from your videos 🙏Thank You ❤
When a woman speaks in anger still she wants good of her partner. Although shes in rage and anger because she gets underestimated, and this happens specially where the woman compromises herself for her partner. So ladies, have a life for yourself, love yourself first.
Absolutely right
Sounds like you need a few Roses 🌹 Darling 🤣🤣🤣
@@gregocull1690 yes when a man speaks in anger also he wants good of her partner???
Endless talking is one of the most horrible situations...🌻
This is a good advice thank you.
Might sound silly but couldn't take off my eyes from the serene background ..what a feel😍😍
Speaking of thorns and that is hurting your hand all the time just remove the thorn . if it is stuck in your hand and the pain is unbearable hide your hand and keep it away . In the mean time who placed the thorn will realize that now he is alone and there is no one around to hurt anymore .
You are laghing as never before...What I saw...Great!🌻
it just takes one relationship to make you or break you....i wonder how people manage to have multiple relationships at once
They don't
@@masternobin hahaha
It's easier than expecting the same one to always be nice. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
They think they have
Not when the relationship is sexuqlly based .
Guruji ,If husband and wife have different spiritual levels then their frequency will be different how to solve this..in married life and ..maintaining a good relationship..
Good one. Thanks.
I liked this video much... absolutely true...each word
I recommend reading the book Trilogia Krysthos by Marianna Escribano, where among many other things he gives some tools to raise awareness such as: "Don't fight." "Shake hands with your enemy." "Give what you have to your brother." "Not wishing you could." -Love freedom and give freedom. Never hold a human being from his freedom. "Preserve the planet." "Flee from violence." Never face. "Forgive with love and without rancor." "Humility in your hearts." -Aim for simplicity in demonstrations. -Not stop being unique in your essence. The book contains a lot of information, for example when and how did life begin on the planet and the evolution of being human, also reveals which race we belong and that the project for the human being it is eternal life on the planet and much more.
Well said!
You are such a beautiful being of love and light. Thank you for being here on earth during this powerful transition :) The universe and God love you unconditionally.
Wasn't he accused of murdering his wife or something?
Today I made meditation according to Sadhguru. instructions.I received a message. By Ancaint diety. I'm at the starting point understanding the basic rules of the Universe.Thank You so much - Your Wisdom & Knowledge is far behind perception & immortality. You Are a Bright Light of a Star - Shining upon Darkness & Void.
"You must find another victim for her , and you get the wonderful part of her" LOL, after 30 years of being together and 25 years of marriage I have watched my wife destroy friendships with girlfriends, colleagues at work etc., I always watched from the sidelines, then to realize I was next on her list to be destroy......why did I spend 3/4 of my life with this toxic person?
Perhaps because it has always been convenient to blame her for your issues? Because leveling is so attractive? Hahaha. Now another woman's tongue has answered.
Life is all about experiencing sweets & sorrow moments... infact no pain no gain... U are feeling the pain to gain the happiness & prosperity for your future i.e your children 😀.. that's why we all need to compromise here..a tough ball can be played effectively by a skilled batsman..2ndly marriage relationship can't be compared with normal friendship kind of relationship..how to deal with 🔥 use water,ghee or sand options are always with us..be revengeful or being kind is always our options.. 🙏
Always feel grateful for happiness been received in other relationship as son or brother.. finally har kisi ko mukammal Jahan nahi milta..kisi ko jamin kisi ko asmaan nahi milta 😀🙏
Yes sooner or later the toxic partner will turn on you when they think they’re no longer dependent. Best to have a long engagement or not get married at all
Craving leads to suffering.The only way to be liberated from suffering is to be liberated from Craving.And the only way to be liberated from craving is to train the mind to experience reality as it is.
And to deal with the problem .. rather than run to addictions and quick fixes.. our problems are opportunities
You r 100% correct Sadguruji.
This is for all such unfortunate males who r like me got affected & in a swamp(DalDals).
I handled in two ways diagonally opposit to each other (only verbal).
One way is tell her
"If you continue to show your anger like this I have no other alternative except to leave you for ever." You can see a sea of change gradually in her attitude, infact she will
start realizing her shortcomings sooner than later.
Second you have to be saying regularly "I love you da chellam" you shud be remembering her birthday,anniversary,,festival days & give her gifts (nice saree, golden ornaments)
taking her out for dining,picnic, tours etc.)
Any ill-health of her,invariably she needs yr kindest attention(certainly no faking), if possible you cook a simple pepper,jeera rasam, rice,with some fried items & try to feed her with your arms around. In general she must b treated gently.
Be careful & forget about all her erstwhile love affairs(in case, if any) & be kind to her after all those r due to infatuation.
During & after menopause you must b very much supportive.
In case of forced marriage with you
ask her if she is not comfortable with you,if yes, then you should arrange a counsellor or a council of both parents & settle her with her old acquinttance.
Nowhere your violent behaviour shud b shown to her even if you r getting irritated by her words & attitude. Be patient,solve the issue amicably. Violence is the weapon of a weak, pl bear it in mind.
At no time you must involve yr friends between your wife & you during arguments, he can betray you by befriending your spouse.
Bye friends, please write your feedbacks down the line.
Nice and it is true, Thank you!
Women who have sharp tongue because they are neglected by their spouse , by their inlaws, they are being judged. sometimes when spouse fails to understand a woman then what else she can do,,,,,
A woman who is treated nicely , prioritised and loved she will become more calm more lovable and more soft.
This nobody understands
Hello my dear
Its seems all is okay my friend
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On the other hand, some women are never satisfied no matter what you do. No man should waste his time with a woman who can’t even make herself happy.
For complicated questions, there are no easy answers. Sadguru is very diplomatic when answering these kind of questions.Anyone who watched the video to get any answers, may have been left with even more questions.
So true
Yes
true
8.00a.m Tuesday 30th May 2023. Isn't it truly said that one has to prepare one's own dishes if what is on offer isn't agreeable to us.?! One has to customise ones understanding of how to go about solving ones own problems not look for one size fits all!🙏🤝👍👌
sadguru pranam i keep on listening to your videos one thing i have to understand is that you make things simple and give very simple examples to understand a certain problems and your words is definately making life more happier....someday i would love to take some blessings from you
Sadghuru I think you're the best, I wanna be your friend one day♡
I love it!
Well Said
Love you sadhguru apko koti koti naman....prabhu kripa karo....
I believe every word Sadguru says 🙏🏻
Don't believe anything unless you perceive it totally
@@deepaksoam1515 true
Me too !
@Kapish Agarwal all I'm trying is to be receptive rest is my guru's presence
Saprem Saheb Bandagee Sadhguru Saheb Jee........🙏💐💐💐
The one reading this
You are phenomenal my friend. you are not alone. You are Loved. You are beautiful, we are all connected through our pain, and in our pain we come out stronger. For all of you hurting inside, for all of you wanting to scream, to jump, to cut, to fall, to pull the trigger,- for all of you who can't do it anymore, I'm here and I pray for you. *Hug if needed - take care of yourself and stay safe❤.
Thank you.. well wishes for you and your family..
Thank you dear💫💜Stay blessed😇
Thanks i really need to hear this 😔
Very nice listening to you
My parents need to see this, i hope their endless quarrel will come to an end soon😔
I always love to hear him... He makes the problem so easy...
Sadguru thankyou 🙏🇮🇳
roses with thorns .. what an analogy .. spot on .. I'm impressed .. thank you
Oldie
How you deal with this is"not to deal". Go gray rock and find inner peace. Sometimes could be a personality disorder [like BPD, NPD] based on the born and brought up.
Read about them, learn about them. But don't think about them, whatever happens find peace. All the best.
I think my wife has NPD
@@munterboy9298 You can confirm with there traits and the cycle. Read about NPD and you will know every move of them. There is no treatment for NPD. The best way to handle it is Grey rock method.
It is most difficult to become a family man/women. Having a satisfactory relationship is most challenging. When we face a difficult person we want to get out of that relation. Becoming a yogi and leaving everything and everyone is an easy solution to let go all your burdens. But not the right way because you choose that life earlier and now want to escape the problems that come with it.
so whats the solution according to you
Naman hai apko🙏🙏🙏🙏
Namaskaram Sadguru
The fire smoke is just billowing into his eyes the whole time. What a boss
Ya, he reeeaallll high.
Ohh you meant the campfire..
All human misery are caused by the "attachment"
Agree 100%
Good information
Short tempered people spoil the life of their spouses. And own life too. Even if you try to focus on yourself, they come anytime & pounce upon you. No remedy for ‘tunakbaaj’ spouse. Not sure how to handle?
I'm truly getting a great experience! Daily
Nice clip
Impressive 👍
Happy wife, happy life.
Nah. I rather be happy on my own than sacrifice that to keep the wife happy.
You know if its the spur of the moment, you must fight and take out the grudges. It builds mutual respect and understanding. If you compromise on this , one side starts dominating and leads to the otherside looking for a way out. Most failed marriages are caused due to this. Fu*k media, take matters into control before you end up alone.
"Happy wife, happy life"?! That is the mind of a servant who thinks that. Both need to meet in the middle to have a happy life. If one has to only give and the other only takes, bitterness will brew. Guaranteed.
Nah women r trifling !
For a spiritual seeker, it's a boon to get such spouse. It's a good opportunity to practice with own's ego. When someone abuses us , our ego gets hurt.
Yes it's a challenge, my husband is like that,l talk with him a lot
I wanna see one on how to deal with spouse not getting along with parents
me too bro....i am dealing with the same situation
First comment. Love you sadhguru🙏
dude? love it.
Perfect explaination😁😁😁😁😁
the best thing ever heard
First time I have not get direct Answers from Sadhguru 🙏. Sadhguru it's an diplomatic answer. I also have such problems, so how can I unleash her wonderfulness?, how to get roses not thorns everyday 🙏
If you want to see the change, be the change. (from my experience, in this context) 🙏
But then even then you dont see the cchange. Its hard to go through and hard to make any decision.... its like stuck in mudd :(
Sadhguru giving wisdom as Geeta. The another Reincarnation Lord Krishna ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖
brilliant
Do not redirect angriness to another person. It will be hard, but you should have a constructive conversation about how each feels and why. Help her to find the cause of being angry, both of you should find the solution to remove triggers which cause fear and angriness.
Only if, she is agreed to listen and she is agreed to solve the issues with constructive conversations. She cant be logical, and cant discuss logically.
@@JawwadRafiq true.
@@JawwadRafiq ideally a man should avoid being with a woman like that
@@brianhanes5413 yes
What if ur spouse husband doesn't want to talk at all... Shuts u off all the time.. or uses ur conversation and twist it as he can use later.. doesn't really care about you at all.
Nice
I dont have a spouse yet. But surprisingly, i can understand every aspects and words he said 🙏🙏🙏 thank you, Sadhguru
Clever sadhguru..you had me there again...
Remember one thing. You can never fix an angry sharp tongued woman. So choose wisely!
My advice is to never get married
U must be happiest person on earth. 🤣🤣🤣
@@ranimouf have your ever asked about her past... Or what she has been through..??... If u love her or she is somebody help her... Because these things are signs of mental retardation and steps towards depression.
Help her make her talk.. Make her cool down.. Don't make situations where she sparks.
Same here Sadhguru ....please help, guide n bless us :(
You can watch his videos all life time but Experience is the only parameter to understand this individual.
It’s not just women it’s men too, sometimes I just wanna hit the bar and forget about the freaken negativity 😅
يا لطيف
It's by thy grace that I feel Your holy name
🙏Love Sadhguru🙏🌸🌸🌸
How to deal with an angry spouse? RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK! If they ever disrespect you call them out straight away and if they don't change leave. I had low self esteem my whole life and never stood up for myself against anyone, I always avoided confrontation. After 25 years I an controlling and abusive marriage where my wife would not let me see my family or friends. I left my wife, my kids don't speak to me anymore but all the stress and build up emotional damage is gone. My parents might not be around anymore but I hope they are looking down and happy that I escaped to enjoy the last few years of my life.
I wouldn’t say I would phrase the things he’s saying the same but it is good advice in a way. It’s proven that women mature faster than men and we also perform better in school so our way of being can often be more mature. Men can have a hard time speaking about emotions and some men are raised not to be able to have a argument without pissing their pants after 3 second. I think this causes a lot of misunderstandings between certain couples
Sometimes Sadguru solutions are so vague which are not practical.
Genius cannot be learnt. You have to unleash it.
Hallelujah
That was informative and pretty funny 🤣.
Every word of sadhguru inspires me..🙏🙏🙏
“My name is Celaena Sardothien," she whispered, "and I will not be afraid.”
― Sarah J. Maas
Love this 🙏🏼❤️
🌺🙏🌺Radhey Radhey 🌺🙏🌺Jay Ho Sadhguru 🌺🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌺
One hundred thorns needs one hundred roses 🌹
Now don't come to the question part..I am very bad at math 😬
he said *thorns*
@@LoVeInADiUniVerSe yes 👍 my spelling is bad lol 😆
@@catherinele1580 oh ok.. ha.. i just wanted ta make sure u didnt mishear.. bless...
Strength is life, weakness is death. - Swami Vivekananda
Sadguru 🙏
Some people can’t change, sometimes that growth has to come from themselves. Even your kindness shouldn’t suffer such injury to get those roses. Some of them will never bloom.
I agree
Good one सद्गुरु.. But you only focussed on women as angry spouse.. It can be other way also right? Please tell us what to do then? Waiting for another great learning from you🙏
Let me join you in the queue, I'm also Waiting. .... 😢😢
I send love and smil to sadguru from danmark🙏❤🙏
Need to Listen carefully
For the first time I felt that even sadhguru was thinking and a little afraid of answering this question :D
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Hmm 🤔 Very broad, very general…🤷🏻 That is as close to ‘stumped’ as I have observed Mr S…😉 Even he was chuckling at the difficulty of answering that in any definitive way - Everyday life, the universe, the totality of being, & ‘properly functioning’ are one (or several) thing(s)… but the eternally mysterious dynamic between man & woman quite another - Rough translation: ‘You’re on your own son, work it out, go to the heart of it, no blame/no failure, no rationale… give your best, stay on your feet, keep it (very) real, & good luck❗️’ 👍😁 🦆
If u think, sadhguru is like some kind of god, he is just a person like u and me, who translates his developed and trained inner voice into human words. Trying to tell us that every person has this inner voice, and we must always keep looking for it, develop and train it, and then share it, like Sadhguru is doing right now. ❤️
Someone ask guru how to deal with bad things you have done or link me video of him answering something like this
Same question here.😃
If I am angry , she calms down. But she is different. She would feel that if I am not with her she's alone in this world and feels very sad (tears) /emotional. So we are back at square one- even after 41 years of marriage.
@@anantvyas2211 it's not your duty to please her if she doesn't understand. Women are like children that needs attention. You as a man should be strong and disciplined in your values. Trust me she would respect you for that. Be strong not weak.
Hahahhahaja omg the question is so funny!!! Sadhguru is right on point that women has sharper tongue hahaha...
Goodvideo
I am getting very angry when something doesn't goes the same I want. How to overcome such situation?
Please help 🙏