9 Signs Your Wife is Toxic | Pooja Priyamvada x Bonobology

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  • People feel a strong sense of stability when they get married because they have one person who they know will be their support system. Unfortunately, when you have a toxic wife, it is the exact opposite. Instead of being your rock through thick and thin, she is the one that will make your life feel unstable.
    A toxic marriage can make you feel more alone than if you were single. A toxic wife will not only affect your life at home but can have a detrimental effect on your career, mental health, and friendships. So, if you have a gut feeling something is wrong but can't quite place your finger on what it is, maybe you have a toxic wife.
    Spending your life intertwined with someone is not easy. This is why fights are very normal between married couples. It is important to make sure you are not confusing routine marital troubles with something more serious. You cannot expect your marriage to be smooth sailing all the time. It is only natural for there to be a little bit of choppy water. However, if it feels like you are perpetually stuck in a thunderstorm, then you must reflect on your marriage.
    Renowned psychologist, Pooja Priyamvada, discusses 9 signs that you have a toxic wife. Watch the video and contemplate how many sound familiar. Don't worry if the similarities in the situations she describes match those in your life. It is never too late to seek help and heal your relationship. Book a session with one of our 30+ experts today: www.bonobology.com/online-lov...
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  • @Bonobology
    @Bonobology  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Learn how to stop your wife’s control and manipulation with the help of our counsellor. Find out more:
    www.bonobology.com/online-therapy/

  • @imDeify
    @imDeify ปีที่แล้ว +540

    Whats even more sad is the amount of men who searched for this video because how their wives are treating them..

    • @wasankar
      @wasankar 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I did

    • @lawschoolpro
      @lawschoolpro 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So did I

    • @Silent_Shadow
      @Silent_Shadow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Nail on the head. I'm one of them.

    • @CADAVATV
      @CADAVATV 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      On vacation even. I need to leave her.

    • @lifeisbeautifulandsodoeska6264
      @lifeisbeautifulandsodoeska6264 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      😔

  • @Silent_Shadow
    @Silent_Shadow 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +239

    I'm a mechanic and I'm sitting out back tearing up because every single thing you listed is accurate. 18 years and 3 kids. I absolutely hate my life.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      We’re so sorry to hear that. Having a toxic wife becomes an even more complicated situation when children are involved

    • @ramship59
      @ramship59 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      She made you hate your life... gain control over yourself and start doing things you like, like the things you did when single, you will start feeling good again...

    • @nikz_88
      @nikz_88 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Watch some Andrew Tate and take the control of your family..

    • @chefty88
      @chefty88 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Move on the best way you can bro.

    • @colin3651
      @colin3651 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Ya men are controlling ??? Never ever . She says why don't you ever want to do anything. I say in my mind " cause I'll make a wrong turn on the way and get into a huge fight then she well yell in public . Oh it's F bad I'm absolutely broken

  • @aarzoogadal5517
    @aarzoogadal5517 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I am a lady I have realized I am being toxic to my husband .the fear of losing him and about future ,kids makes me do somehow this behavior.i have never realized I am effecting my husbands mental health I am going to work on myself now thanks for the information 🙏

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s amazing that you’ve recognised your mistakes and want to make active changes to be better!

  • @BoksCar29
    @BoksCar29 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

    Yes, my wife is toxic. My wife is highly manipulative, demanding, threating (often with divorce), explosive anger, name calling, condescending, silent treatment. She is ALWAYS right, never interested in any other point of view to name a few. My wife controls ALL the money and I'm given an allowance. I'm always questioned what I spend my allowance on, but she Never tells me what she spends money on. Yes, my wife is toxic.

    • @JohnJacob-zv5vh
      @JohnJacob-zv5vh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your wife have Narcissist personality disorder. Please check with consultant psychologist and also you will get good information from google and youtube.

    • @MrPrabuutube
      @MrPrabuutube 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Feels same..

    • @tennbones
      @tennbones 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Run like the wind bro. I’m serious. Get out of there today.

    • @phanigurram
      @phanigurram 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm a victim of silent treatment (its not treatment ) :(

    • @ashleybellerose7104
      @ashleybellerose7104 หลายเดือนก่อน

      See i control the money but he made his own bed when we almost lost everything because he blew his money on bad things. I cant trust him with money now so i told him the choice was his. Let me control the money until i can trust him raising his allowance as i see improvement or i leave. And he agreed to give me the money. I hate it. I feel controling i hate it but like god dammit i do not wanna move into a box with my kids cuz i always try to trust him. So far this video is teaching me im not toxic. Maybe some ways but thank goodness. Im not as bad as my spouse makes me feel :( im in a very toxic relationship with him. I just wanna be happy. He says he doesnt think ill be happy with anyone. Idk maybe. Maybe i should he alone for a while

  • @soanbabustores1596
    @soanbabustores1596 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My parents always told me from childhood that betting and gambling is a bad thing. But, now as a married man I feel it is better than the Gamble of MARRIAGE.
    I suggest young boys to be away from marriage. Take care of your old parents. Take your parents for a vacation and Llive a Happy SINGLE life.

    • @theclairvoyant.9816
      @theclairvoyant.9816 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The emotional need and passing youth often makes men make such gambles. But you are right. It is indeed a deadly gamble. Not worth it.

    • @theclairvoyant.9816
      @theclairvoyant.9816 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Taking care of your old parent and making them happy gives far more genuine happiness and fulfilment.

  • @sameermujawar1790
    @sameermujawar1790 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    I had toxic relationship. I walked away from my wife. Everything you listed in video is right. She tried to intimidate me . She always abuse me and my parents. She never allowed me to talk to other relatives. She was evil. Just because of my baby boy i was bearing this torture . Later on i realised that i deserve a better life . I simply walked away from her and decided to never go back.

    • @paulaujero3998
      @paulaujero3998 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I hope my relationship will not end up like yours. I wanna leave her, but i have a baby girl and I dont wanna see her growing up without a father

    • @sameermujawar1790
      @sameermujawar1790 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I know she will never change...after walked away from her...after a month ...i got legal notice with all false allegation ..i filed directly for divorce in a court but now i am thinking about my baby boy...what will be his future without father..her people coming to me for asking my forgivenes and settling up this matter out of court... I m also thinking to give her one last chance...just due to my son....

    • @MrJitendra007
      @MrJitendra007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@sameermujawar1790 wow thats great that you have thought of giving a last chance, thats your greatness but has she ever approached you directly seeking for a last chance? matter is that if not she has that ego. People coming to you on behalf of her ...requesting or appealing...i am a kind skeptical..Anyways giving her a chance a good move though😅.

    • @sameermujawar1790
      @sameermujawar1790 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      She regretted losing me...She came with her people along with my son .... She hugged me and asked for my forgiveness ....I also ask her forgiveness...Matter settled down...l love has been restored again...Let's hope for the beautiful life.....

    • @MrJitendra007
      @MrJitendra007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sameermujawar1790 Thats amazing and so sweet...Atleast you both have regretted and asked for forgiveness....thats what is needed...Go ahead and Start a beautiful life..God bless your family...

  • @user-tw4mu7pi2e
    @user-tw4mu7pi2e 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

    I absolutely don't trust my wife. She hasnt ruined me and my life though, I have allowed her to do so. I wish i could go back in time and never have met her.

    • @asofotida443
      @asofotida443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Same here.

    • @asofotida443
      @asofotida443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@raftaarsingh3327 is your name really Raftaarsigh? I ❤️ your name.

    • @ardra738
      @ardra738 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Same 😢

    • @AshTheDuke
      @AshTheDuke 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well, on the other hand, we cannot be a control freak either and if you don't control some things, it will go out of hand and she will cross boundaries

    • @AshTheDuke
      @AshTheDuke 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Most wives become toxic after her husband's mother dies

  • @hishighness2105
    @hishighness2105 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    Sucks we don’t learn these things until it’s too late now we’re pretty much screwed…

    • @deamo1119
      @deamo1119 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      They wait until you marry them or have children together before they show their 'true self'

    • @temelseviyeingilizce7292
      @temelseviyeingilizce7292 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@deamo1119 NOTHING could be more correct than this at the moment

    • @ardra738
      @ardra738 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@deamo1119exactly!!!!!

    • @TylerGibbons-be1bl
      @TylerGibbons-be1bl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      At least we enjoyed the screwing.

    • @chrisburnsed6349
      @chrisburnsed6349 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s only too late if your a ball less wuss. Kids are no excuse to stay married to some snatch. It’s actually worse. As much as you try to hide it they see what’s going on and will grow up seeing this as normal in thier relationships . Not to mention they grow up knowing they have a whipped pussy for a father. Show them it’s not ok to be treated poorly.

  • @omniserveinfotech
    @omniserveinfotech 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    My wife is also super toxic. She never supports me in my decisions and is always critical of what i do. she always demean me in front of my neighbours and family members. it is so painful for the last 25 years. even on a spiritual visit ,she does not miss to fight on very petty issues. she always complains about everything and have a negative view of everything. Anyways, i spend a lot on her and never say 'No' to any of her demands.
    at times,she is so much abusive with me and calls names to my parents.
    She does have all the characteristics of a toxic spouse. for the last 3 days, i m damn seriously thinking about moving to other city
    and live alone.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very difficult situation to be in. Before you move, we have a video with some tips on how you can deal with a toxic wife: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html - it might help you!

    • @tennbones
      @tennbones 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Run like the wind brother. I’m serious. Get out of there today.

    • @Redpen1883
      @Redpen1883 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ma I know present situations

    • @francismbugua8230
      @francismbugua8230 หลายเดือนก่อน

      SvI

  • @MrSaurav1983
    @MrSaurav1983 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    13 years & 2 kids. Your video is almost like my life's story. I am living with someone who is ever critical of everything I do. She wouldn't take responsibility or ownership of anything but criticize every decision I take. She'll go out of her way to make me suffer if I am even speaking to my parents or sister. She's the reason I spend every single day for the past many years under stress. I've gained weight & do not feel like moving out for a walk even though I like to play badminton and tennis. I want to work on my career for achieving better prospects but her behaviour creates conditions in my house that I always feel mentally tired and exhausted.

    • @larryc5361
      @larryc5361 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Quit feeling sorry yourself. Get off your ass and do something. Start by walking every day, eating less and getting to bed early.
      Exercise, 100 push-ups and 100 body weight squats a day.
      And stop overeating.
      This is all much easier to do than making your wife happy. And the results will change your life for the better.

    • @nmazhar1979
      @nmazhar1979 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Take control of your life. Join a gym. Lose weight that you have gained. Do something for yourself and stop feeling sorry. She won't like it and will try to make your life miserable. Don't retaliate or be cruel. Just do your own thing and improve physical well-being which will give you a positive outlook out of her domain and control.

    • @TylerGibbons-be1bl
      @TylerGibbons-be1bl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@nmazhar1979Be extremely manipulative and get in shape and pretend to care then one day dump her and leave the state without warning.

    • @Abmafatima
      @Abmafatima 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You hate your life but you got 2 kids with her ahahahah thats funny. 13 and 2 years old... thats very strange

    • @kuchbaten1823
      @kuchbaten1823 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      buddy... i can understand u

  • @ajaygoel1860
    @ajaygoel1860 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    My wife is just opposite of what you have mentioned in this video..glad to have her in my life.. thankyou

    • @ibrahimnahri474
      @ibrahimnahri474 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      U r lucky not everyone is including myself ...

    • @benellis5646
      @benellis5646 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      He probably has been married for two months. Six years from now, he’ll be right here in the comment section with the rest of us. These broads are insane!

  • @tusker2093
    @tusker2093 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I wish I could leave behind everything and go away far away..

  • @sulakshansharma2171
    @sulakshansharma2171 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I’m even afraid of saying anything against her,…fed up of everything,life’s hell now

    • @johanv4668
      @johanv4668 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      just leave

  • @asofotida443
    @asofotida443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    A very famous saying “happy wife, happy life” … 99% marriages are where men are henpecked and miserable.

    • @VividPark
      @VividPark 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Choose one

    • @williamhutchinson8881
      @williamhutchinson8881 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Henpecked is a good word for it

    • @MrEliasdl
      @MrEliasdl 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      That saying is the problem. It turns women into an idol who think their feelings are the measurement of right and wrong.

  • @arizonasasquatch
    @arizonasasquatch 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    My wife doesn’t work, doesn’t try to work and if she had a job, found excuses to leave it and dump her crap on me. She spends our paycheck as soon as it hits the bank. She demands I do everything for her. I work 60 hours a week, take care of our child and do nearly all the household chores because she is an excuse within an excuse. She demands I do things for her and expects me to do it without saying anything. I’m constantly picked apart for anything I do, I can’t do anything for myself because it’s wrong to her. If I stand up to her, she turns up the threats and mental and verbal abuse. It’s insane and I know I need to shut her down. I just don’t know what to do in fear of losing everything.

    • @tpsprinting8314
      @tpsprinting8314 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No matter what you lose but you should consider ending this relationship. Things will only become worse with age. Your peacefulness is the most important thing in life.

    • @TO-dl2gg
      @TO-dl2gg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don’t kid yourself losing everything is a very strong possibility in a divorce and worse the older you get but hey if you wind up homeless and broke at least you’ll have peace !
      Nah no way protect yourself and the life you’ve worked hard to build ..think outside the box

    • @WolfWin
      @WolfWin 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

      We are on the same situation.
      My wife and I are in this situation as you describe.
      She thinks I'm toxic and I think she's toxic, it's never-ending yelling so in the end I shut my mouth and stop engaging with her every time we are in a heated argument. But then I started getting fed up with this situation.
      We have 2 kids and she does not work which is no issue for me but I was expecting she would help me keep the house clean, cause at the end I'm tired at work then I have to keep the house clean also and even do the dishes and clothes. My main complaint to her she's not contributing at home even with house chores. The house is messed up, and she'll do house chores every time she felt like doing it.
      My main concern is the kitchen, she rarely cooks, and if she cooks the oven, microwave, and stove are left messy. This messy kitchen is affecting me since I don't want insects especially cockroaches will start to creep out of our home. If I raise this concern with her and remind her every time she leaves the kitchen messy she talks back to me that I'm a nagging husband, toxic husband, and compares me to my father (who is never been a good father or husband).
      I'm lost on this, it's very difficult to talk to this person especially since I already tried this. I want to talk this out to my relatives cause I really felt there is a need of intervention..

  • @cloudygrosso1106
    @cloudygrosso1106 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    My wife has all the characteristics mentioned. We've been through months of counseling, with different counsellors resulting in my wife being told she is the problem and her breaking down in tears with remorse, then going back to square one the very next day denying the outcome. Tried every approach, to no avail.

    • @10ksam
      @10ksam หลายเดือนก่อน

      As is mentioned in this video, toxic people never take responsibility for their behavior because they know very well within themselves that they are wrong. They are highly selfish and don't care exploiting others. It is an illusion to expect that any counselling and therapy will change such people because they do all their bad deeds with full awareness.

  • @billytothe6thpower
    @billytothe6thpower 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The moral of the story is never get married to begin with. You can then walk away at any time with no worries

  • @sumitsaha2799
    @sumitsaha2799 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    At present we did not expect anything from our wife's, not even love, not even respect, not even peace in life.
    But we are also not expecting disrespect and every time controlling our emotions.

  • @user-vb6ep8oh8v
    @user-vb6ep8oh8v 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I was isolated from my friends and family and ripped to shreds by her I'm out of it and healing thanks to friends family and channels like yours thank you❤

  • @nmazhar1979
    @nmazhar1979 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    I realise that in the last 31 years of marriage everything you mentioned is true about my wife. Surprisingly I also recognise my own toxic behaviour after reflecting on these last 30 years. It's not all black and white. I apologised to my wife three years ago and decided to do what I can to remove toxicity from our relationship. On my suggestion we started couples counseling and with good results and so I thought. Gaslighting control and financial control all is true. I love her very much but apparently she doesn't have any feelings for me. So we are living separate lives in different countries. I wish her well. We are not officially divorced but there's no more toxicity due to our distance and my commitment to give her the space she needs.

    • @spilledit
      @spilledit 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Keep going. Sounds like you have made positive changes and you're making progress.

    • @SuchindraMailwartimmaji
      @SuchindraMailwartimmaji หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry to ask but do you have children? If yes, is your decision affecting them?

  • @v1e1r1g1e1
    @v1e1r1g1e1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    THere is no solution for living with a toxic spouse. Divorce is the only answer. You can worry about all the healing - of yourself - after. As for the (ex) spouse... to hell with them!

    • @deamo1119
      @deamo1119 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And if you have kids?

    • @TylerGibbons-be1bl
      @TylerGibbons-be1bl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@deamo1119 Give her a blumpkin on only fans and give the kids up for adoption.

    • @TylerGibbons-be1bl
      @TylerGibbons-be1bl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@deamo1119 Give her a blumpkin on only fans and give the kids up for adoption.

    • @AshTheDuke
      @AshTheDuke 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed divorce is the only way but divorce is expensive

  • @dienar3717
    @dienar3717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Toxic is also using vulnerabilities they are told or realise against you.

  • @aadi2282
    @aadi2282 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    It took 8 years to identify that it was a toxic relationship right from the start. Now atleast I priortized myself and just moving out to breath again

    • @djdigital3806
      @djdigital3806 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Walk Away

    • @asofotida443
      @asofotida443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awesome! 👍👍👍

    • @allahkakafirbanda1939
      @allahkakafirbanda1939 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right.
      Indian males are thoroughly groomed entire life to feel that their duty is to please and care everybody and everything around. They don't know how to take care of themselves. It is difficult to learn later, but it is really good to learn. It can make you come out of quicksand.

  • @chico5286
    @chico5286 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am proud of my wife. She trusts me with almost everything including, money, emails, and any difficulties/challenges she faces in life despite me encouraging her to be more independent and have greater confidence. I love you .....

  • @gregrogers4376
    @gregrogers4376 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I have watched this video and have decided that there are enough difference that, while our relationship is very difficult, it could NOT be considered toxic. This gives me hope. Thank you.

    • @davidm4566
      @davidm4566 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to hear it. Mine was toxic.
      You absolutely have hope. Many churches have marriage conferences in Feb so I would check that out. Get in some couples counseling so you can both learn to communicate when something bothers you and what you need (and how to give each other what you both need-it can be harder than it seems at first.)

    • @davidmckay4423
      @davidmckay4423 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Give her time and she will become much worse. Look at the red flags and decide what you want. I decided to stay for my children and she is killing me slowly

  • @insurancereact
    @insurancereact 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Never trust your wife if she's being in toxic guys.

  • @niravpatel6615
    @niravpatel6615 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is so true!!!! Also, there is no solution to such a situation. Work on yourself, gather strength and wisdom, focus on self and make yourself a priority. When you have good people around you, you will no longer need or need to tolerate toxic ones!!!!

  • @Bk77183
    @Bk77183 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Here to share my story with the people in comments section as well.
    I work 2 jobs because my wife hasn't gone back to work when we had a child 6 years ago.
    The house is a complete mess, the laundry is never done and piles of dirty clothes are in every room on floor I have to help. The toilets are dirty i clean.
    I work 7 days a week and also need to find time to buy some workclothes when they wear out because thats all I wear everyday, including socks.
    Last time my wife got clothes it was because I went to buy her some she refuses to go to the stores to dress herself decently, I shop for both of us with what little time I have.
    I get yelled at for missing my child's school moments because Im always at work, and get yelled at for not planning a vacation for us.
    I just can't do and plan everything and being scolded for it. I am mentally and physically exhausted.
    We fight everyday, it starts with me being yelled at for something so miniscule its not worth mentioning to a partner, and results with me exploding lately in front of our child because I cannot take it anymore.
    I am always afraid of saying or doing anything around her that she will get mad.
    I sometimes hold my breath when she comes downstairs from a nap that I will get scolded for something like a dog.
    But now, I no longer can contain my inside rage that has built up for 12 years. and explode screaming profanities at the top of my lungs because I no longer respect her.
    I feel terrible all around for becoming something I never was but Im tired of being bullied and living in fear. Part of problem is she has lost alot of my respect. I am aware of that fact, and want to be proud of my wife, but most of the time I am dissapointed because the house is a dump, her appearance is terrible, her attitude is lousy, things don't get done unless I do it, always complains and hates my parents who have contributed huge sums of money to us to buy our first house and a new car when we got married.
    No matter what, she is never grateful and Im tired of working 7 days a week for us to be financially comfortable, if she does nothing but complain as a stay at home wife.

  • @SHIVAKUMAR-cx5gg
    @SHIVAKUMAR-cx5gg 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Excellent analyses !!

  • @user-lc8qs1pb3y
    @user-lc8qs1pb3y 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much, but I did seriously contribute to this.

  • @sudiptabasu8528
    @sudiptabasu8528 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Many thanks for this valuable video 🙏🙏🙏

  • @eyasumarkoswoldesemayat4835
    @eyasumarkoswoldesemayat4835 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for the explanation.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful! If you're looking for tips on how to deal with a toxic wife, watch this video: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html

  • @TheOtakuKing
    @TheOtakuKing 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Wow. I feel so much better Watching this.😊

  • @symkvs
    @symkvs 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very correct 👍

  • @derciomabota4961
    @derciomabota4961 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Boa tarde, sou de Moçambique, è a minha primeira vez neste canal.
    Quero agradecer pela informação esclarecedora, sou jovem, 38 anos, estou a quase 18 com a minha esposa, ela era respeitosa, cuidadosa, e seguia a minha liderança, bastou casarmos em 2017, que o problema começou atè hoje, e hoje, vivo todos esse sintomas citados neste video e muito mais...já gostaria de ter saído desta relação há anos...mas os meu filhos 😢
    A guerra agora è de recuperar a minha autoestima e voltar a ganhar a minha vida.

  • @allahkakafirbanda1939
    @allahkakafirbanda1939 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It took me 16 years to realize my wife came into my life only for the sake of using me. By any means.
    Now i understand that there's nothing called love. It is only a means of using somebody for personal needs, wishes, desires, etc. Needs keep on changing. So does the behaviour.

  • @winsomeplanet
    @winsomeplanet 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks for giving insight.

  • @kalimuthu5821
    @kalimuthu5821 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I never seen any video in this channel, simply subscribed just after watching this one.
    With Love🙏

  • @user-fq5mf3us9n
    @user-fq5mf3us9n ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Very insightful and direct information. Would like to see more realistic content like this!

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks!

    • @psharmarao
      @psharmarao ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you, glad you connected with this

  • @williamhutchinson8881
    @williamhutchinson8881 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She wanted me to clean more. That’s fair. I started doing all the dishes. It wasn’t enough, so I started doing all of the laundry. That wasn’t enough. I did more. That’s not enough. I asked her not to tell me I’m not doing enough for 1 week. She agreed and was back on it the next day.
    I’m done doing dishes and laundry and anything. If I’m going to be treated like I’m not doing anything, I might as well not do anything.

  • @pflegerbenni1381
    @pflegerbenni1381 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much

  • @munterboy1744
    @munterboy1744 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Help me, my wife is like this, I'm so afraid of her that I just sit at home and don't go out or see my family because I don't want her to get in bad mood and get angry with me, I just feel like I'm always walking on thin ice

    • @joshuamac6302
      @joshuamac6302 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Communicate what you just said to her. And if she's not willing to change, leave.

    • @colin3651
      @colin3651 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Remember to be a MAN don't be wimpy or timid . I loss it on my wife when i have had enough of her controlling bs . I MEAN loss it nothing volant but very clear that you better shut up or im going start smashing the house up . Japanese woman are so good to there men they don't even know how to yell . Very calm and i can asure you all the men here hate YELLING from our bitch wife . We need to bring Japanese woman here .

    • @asofotida443
      @asofotida443 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Just do what you want and ignore her. BTW, record her whenever there is an argument. Do not get get angry at all, be fully in control all the time. Unless she accepts your masculinity, divorce her. Keep all the recording since you will need those to prove how bad her behaviour was all the time. She will try to put false 498A but these recordings will prove she is lying. Become free once and for all since people never change, they just become worse over time.

    • @DS-dn4ml
      @DS-dn4ml 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Run, get away, Brother. They manipulate you by using your family, money, and so forth. I couldn’t change her no matter what.

    • @krengkhat1099
      @krengkhat1099 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Run as far as you can. Go visit my Cambodia and find a good wife there, and she'll treat you like a king

  • @barrymayo7421
    @barrymayo7421 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    20 years in and I just want to give up not because I don’t love her but I’m tired of being the blame for everything wrong with my marriage

    • @bhagymad
      @bhagymad หลายเดือนก่อน

      🫂get well soon dear

  • @kent005111
    @kent005111 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this video.

  • @Karthikeyansundar-rl5ym
    @Karthikeyansundar-rl5ym 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    In my life , to be honest, there are 50% of the signs strongly present, but 50% not. And it is episodes of extreme toxicity. Also the life partner is normal after all such instances and I am left completely wrecked up and to deal with the after effects completely on my own. The question of separation is impossible because of the children and because of my life life partner financially dependent on me. I find myself completely helpless.

    • @bhaveshkatara8967
      @bhaveshkatara8967 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have the same problem, have u got the solution?

    • @Karthikeyansundar-rl5ym
      @Karthikeyansundar-rl5ym 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bhaveshkatara8967 🙁 Sorry my friend, please read the last line of my comment, you ll get the answer..

    • @deepikapc3211
      @deepikapc3211 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She looks like Narcissist to me!

  • @thunderhorse6666
    @thunderhorse6666 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank youn for that video

  • @pradeepk9310
    @pradeepk9310 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much mam

  • @Sahil-gx1pk..
    @Sahil-gx1pk.. 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you maam.. you are doing what a tremendous job

  • @mostlysunny4u
    @mostlysunny4u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you for the video. I understood where I Stand. Can you also make a video on the next steps to be taken so that we can come out and maintain our well-being?

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Glad this video helped you. Here is the video you requested: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html

  • @jeffwilliams9086
    @jeffwilliams9086 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Very good video, thank you!

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you liked it!

  • @srikanthgajula2128
    @srikanthgajula2128 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Correctly said my sister❤❤❤its reality now a days😮

  • @lukebalane9024
    @lukebalane9024 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great. I cannot agree more with what you are describing as toxic.

  • @gauravarya7593
    @gauravarya7593 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very informative Video ❤️❤️

  • @DustyLeeSledge
    @DustyLeeSledge 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My wife told me ...
    "I like you, but I don't like/like you."
    Damn.

  • @gaurang511
    @gaurang511 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙏mam. A lot of respect for your words and inherent truth it bears. I surprised after seeing the video made by a woman, who portrayed the reality and suggested remedies in details.

  • @thomasokeefe3081
    @thomasokeefe3081 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are " SPOT ON ".

  • @longtsasangtam572
    @longtsasangtam572 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I have a one year child and i have to go out from my house for dinner since my wife didnt cook thou i had a tiring day, having diiner from a car watching this video,,this video explains my life,all i wanted was a good wife but my wife is toxic as hell she will never listen to my problems

    • @AshTheDuke
      @AshTheDuke 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How about divorce

    • @krengkhat1099
      @krengkhat1099 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's not too late to leave. Yourself is the most important.

  • @user-cv1it7yg7b
    @user-cv1it7yg7b หลายเดือนก่อน

    Spot on on every point unfortunately.....

  • @akshaydhawale4094
    @akshaydhawale4094 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent... 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

  • @tibupanda3648
    @tibupanda3648 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Informative.

  • @fernandoarnaldovilanculo8286
    @fernandoarnaldovilanculo8286 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you lady. Somehow this video cleared my mind. It was foggy.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We're glad you found it helpful!

  • @RamBabu-qz7vn
    @RamBabu-qz7vn ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you for this ma'am . Apparently I have a toxic wife and I wasn't aware of it . Regards

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We’re glad you found the video helpful!

    • @psharmarao
      @psharmarao ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh! Thats sad

    • @mostlysunny4u
      @mostlysunny4u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That’s really painful 😢

  • @koukimonzta
    @koukimonzta 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Single here! Living the best of life ever ! 😂😂😂

  • @45615
    @45615 ปีที่แล้ว

    More valuable information shared

  • @kabirraji7341
    @kabirraji7341 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You are a blessing to my life this is the video that solved my mystery questions self doubts.....forever grateful

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad this video helped you. We have another video on how you should approach this situation if you have identified your wife is toxic: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html

  • @laudercarame7265
    @laudercarame7265 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    If i show this to my wife, i do not think she will accept it and will try to find reasons to justify her behavior. I have never seen a video i can relate to in this regard. Thank you very much.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm glad you found this video helpful. We have some advice on dealing with it here: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html Hopefully that will help you :) Please take care of yourself

    • @scottbraddy5755
      @scottbraddy5755 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I couldn’t even show this to my wife! She would refuse to watch it !

  • @BobzUrUncle-te6dj
    @BobzUrUncle-te6dj 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My Wife of 34 years complains about anything and everything that I do. NOTHING I do, is done to Her approval. Her opinion always overrules mine, she will argue with me over most things. My Wife also has taken control of most, not all of our financial decisions. My Wife rarely, if ever supports me in my successes in life or in my hobbies. I used to be very friendly and outgoing, but now I find my disposition is more dark and negative and often times confrontational, even with some friends. It has most certainly changed me, and if I could do things over again...I might not have married her.

    • @leakabbabe3767
      @leakabbabe3767 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think you should see first how you are behaving with her, are you supporting her emotionally? Are you supporting her financially? Are you supporting her passion? Are you having intimate relationship with her?

  • @isaackihoro5396
    @isaackihoro5396 ปีที่แล้ว

    Fantastic...now I know...

  • @treybarnes5549
    @treybarnes5549 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I can’t believe the direction of my marriage the past 5 years. I am living in a strange world where nothing she does or wants makes sense to me

  • @md.sumonmia9316
    @md.sumonmia9316 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very informative.

  • @GeorgeHickson
    @GeorgeHickson 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I have tried everything. Now my mental health is worst. I can not even live my life happily. She is being so judgemental. She wants me to love her parents and hates mine. My parents have done something vad with her and i took a stand for her. I stopped talking to my parents i never take care of them because of that reason. But now its been high time. Even after doing this she is still giving me tentrums and i never said a single word to her. My parents also understood their fault but even after that she is not letting it go. I asked her to leave this house but she refused and everyday she is harrassing me for no good reason. Everyone from her side thinks im selfish i dont care about her then let me tell you one more thing I'm in sexless marriage. I totally kill my all sexual desires after marriage. But she never think about that. I never asked her to get physical after hearing that she dont want to she dont like sex from the beginning. Still i love her. My love is pure for her but now it's at its worst stage. And suicide is the only option for me. I don't want to live my life. Just want to end it. So atleast she and my parents can live happily. Im sorry mom dad and wife.... I. Can not tell this to anyone but whatever happened in the past i love you all. Now everything will be ok and no ine is going to put you in more trouble.... Will see you on the other side of the stars............ Hope Jesus forgive me for my sins....

    • @anuj602
      @anuj602 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Do opposite, change urself , screw her with money supply, let her feel same as u felt all ths long , let her do sucied why u . Stet dating meeting ppl , believe u r staying with dead person

    • @saaiHarish07
      @saaiHarish07 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Things happen for a reason.. run away from her don't turn back.. things will change after a year. Trust me I have come across the same.. your life will be wonderfull. Just trust God and end the relationship.

    • @ibrahimnahri474
      @ibrahimnahri474 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      U r a man be a man don't ever be weak ..
      Suicide is for cowards who cannot face their problems..
      Believe me it only takes a decision from u to stand up for yourself...
      When there's a will there's a way..
      Good luck..

  • @morgankafata140
    @morgankafata140 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks woman!!!
    All these apply to my wife!!
    Help me because am concerned with many children I have with her

    • @manikyum
      @manikyum หลายเดือนก่อน

      Should have used a rubber

  • @virman8939
    @virman8939 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In India, we can't leave our wives, terrible laws, they do not support financially only depend on your finance

  • @nayanmdesai
    @nayanmdesai 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My twin brother's wife MS.Hyde is watching the video sitting together in a romantic mood.
    MS.Hyde is the twin sister of my wife Dr. Jekyll.

  • @baboys86
    @baboys86 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I don't think generally people who aspire perfection are toxic, they may be restless to do better; it's generally those who think of themselves higher than their capabilities, and generally don't have much success in career or life but they think they are something...change yourself to be emotionally ruthless, and make sure to isolate them while still staying there as a provider, you cannot fix a evil person by talking to them...

  • @muhammadrafiqulislamkhan6994
    @muhammadrafiqulislamkhan6994 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I learn new points here. Though I am single but if I have a chance to choose life partner, I will definately remember your nine points of toxic partner. I will request you make a video for me that how I understand the girl is toxic or not when I go to choose a life partner. Give me few signs pls. Lastly I would say, your speaking tone is so soft. Thank you.

  • @picllu
    @picllu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thanks for the knowledge...as you mention about the facts, among them all is not fit for any person , may be some are as it is and some are not . in that case hoe will you describe the relation or how one can assess him self that i am in a toxic situation or i am having a toxic wife

  • @RajaFarhan82
    @RajaFarhan82 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I absolutely loved this video. My wife has always been controlling. Deciding our vacations. Choosing kids' school even without my consent and then forcibly asking for money when she is overspending. Not respecting me and also trained her friends not to respect me. Then shifting blame and said something was wrong with me. I was confused for many years but finally had the courage to walk out when she stopped her wifely duties.

  • @StrongBodyandMind33
    @StrongBodyandMind33 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Then you get to the point where you dgaf anymore about what they think and begin to rise up as a Phoenix 😂 stay strong gentlemen

  • @WolfWin
    @WolfWin 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My wife and I are in this situation as you describe.
    She thinks I'm toxic and I think she's toxic, it's never-ending yelling so in the end I shut my mouth and stop engaging with her every time we are in a heated argument. But then I started getting fed up with this situation.
    We have 2 kids and she does not work which is no issue for me but I was expecting she would help me keep the house clean, cause at the end I'm tired at work then I have to keep the house clean also and even do the dishes and clothes. My main complaint to her she's not contributing at home even with house chores. The house is messed up, and she'll do house chores every time she felt like doing it.
    My main concern is the kitchen, she rarely cooks, and if she cooks the oven, microwave, and stove are left messy. This messy kitchen is affecting me since I don't want insects especially cockroaches will start to creep out of our home. If I raise this concern with her and remind her every time she leaves the kitchen messy she talks back to me that I'm a nagging husband, toxic husband, and compares me to my father (who is never been a good father or husband).
    I'm lost on this, it's very difficult to talk to this person especially since I already tried this. I want to talk this out to my relatives cause I really felt there is a need of intervention..

  • @mixedmasala2382
    @mixedmasala2382 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Tqsm your all points expirenced every day of toxic wife😢

  • @topnosundar6258
    @topnosundar6258 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very informative

  • @treyichabod5840
    @treyichabod5840 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don't need anyone to tell me how to know if your wife/girlfriend is toxic. I know from personal experience, thank you very much. 😂

  • @charlesdelile8547
    @charlesdelile8547 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pooja every thing you say is so true this is my wife inside out after 15yrs of marriage I have to get away for my own good .🙏

  • @YourAashique
    @YourAashique 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Everyone should watch this video. 22nd February 2024.

  • @othmanhawk1832
    @othmanhawk1832 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Divorce and live happily…..God make man strong and weak in emotional so bring out your strong part out and F the emotions

  • @kabirraji7341
    @kabirraji7341 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's the worst relationship of my life ...I lost everything including myself can't recognize who I am anymore..use to be all bright and knowledgeable..fell sick becos of her behaviour then she treat me like a trash, her brothers smoke weed in my house she's defensive her sister brings men to chill she's defensive...my home was torn apart...

  • @user-vc6pd5mh8u
    @user-vc6pd5mh8u 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I see 100% truth on what you are saying, It been since 1 and half year of my weeding one kid, I am tired of my life whatever you are saying is 100 I am facing, I am on the point to be alone and single one more time for my entire life this kind of life really sucks

  • @ramrodeo9
    @ramrodeo9 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    3:28 pooja jee
    For me your advice has come too late. My ex-wife was not just toxic she was the devils own poison. More than all the points you have mentioned and I must say your description is mild compared to what she did to me.
    Thank God I recovered but it took me a few years.
    I wish youtube and you had arrived earlier. Please keep up the good work. May Allah bless you and keep you in good health always. ❤❤

  • @vinu281k_Creator1
    @vinu281k_Creator1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ma'am, Since 13 years I am facing the same issues, my children & my parent also can not do anything in this... It is very critical for me to make situation right or make comfortable.

  • @ponzie1674
    @ponzie1674 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    To safe your life just walk away. You have one life to live, enjoy it.

  • @scottbraddy5755
    @scottbraddy5755 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can relate to this topic 100%

  • @peteralbertd
    @peteralbertd 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is the truth.n it hurts very bad

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sure it must be very difficult to be married to someone toxic. We recently made a video that might help you: th-cam.com/video/05sXK84DYac/w-d-xo.html It has some advice on what you can do in this situation

  • @brendadacruz7280
    @brendadacruz7280 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    If a man feels his wife is controlling like this then leave, move on. Why stay in a toxic relationship if you think this is your wife or your relationship.

  • @imnikhilg
    @imnikhilg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think this is the life story of most Indian Men nowadays. I am a Man with 15 yrs of Marraige with 2 kids, all what you have said, fits right....Thanks a lot for the Video, I will atleast stop to cure her now and start taking care of myself.

  • @RoyAsastha
    @RoyAsastha หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    A Toxic and controlling husband is someone who don't allow his wife to have affairs with other men. A good husband is someone who allows his wife to have an Open Marriage System... 👍

    • @Rosie82333
      @Rosie82333 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Eww no… I don’t want to sleep with a bunch of other people.

  • @smoothvelvetsinger
    @smoothvelvetsinger 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Thank you. I'm in a very toxic marriage, it's stressful.

    • @Bonobology
      @Bonobology  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry to hear that. Please do write how/what has helped so the readers here can gain some insight.

    • @Officialprodbytreybeats
      @Officialprodbytreybeats 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same here man. I haven't been the greatest husband at times and I can accountably aay I have hurt others... I can also say that she treats me like shit and I don't have to proper tools or vocabulary to accurately say how she does this, but in many ways she does.

    • @Coolx111
      @Coolx111 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If u are not happy.. If she is not happy them divorce her..

  • @pramoddhangar5855
    @pramoddhangar5855 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes
    I am suffering from wife,your video helpful to me .

  • @sdiwakar84
    @sdiwakar84 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, it is too late now to know ..😢