Thank you for this. I’ve been studying Islam for over over a year now I’m going into Ramadan. I was questioning if I was ready to say my shahada. After watching this, I’m definitely never going to become a revert.
If you've seen a lot of different cultures, you'll find that some are really strange to Western people. The strange thing is that the verse that talks about this is in the Qur'an, not hadith. But in the hadith there is a modification of the verse where the "beating" is more symbolic after other things have been tried. The hadith says to beat the woman lightly with a miswak, (like a toothbrush) I don't understand the whole reasoning behind this, because this kind of behavior will not bring a woman around, it will make her hate you. I know that in the time of the Prophet, the Arabs would beat a woman for anything or nothing. I guess that introducing a breakdown of actions to take was meant to slow down the sequence of events that might follow a suspected infraction. I don't know. First of all, if a man has to talk to a woman over a period of time, and ignore her in bed over a period of time, he will probably have forgotten what he was mad about by the time it's time to beat her. Or at least the "killer" energy will have dispersed by then. As I said, I don't know, but there are enough great things in Qur'an and Hadith that I believe in them anyway. I put some things on hold until I do understand them. I became muslim about 40 years ago.
This is simply an argument from Satan dear sister in order not to convert👎 as you have to admit that and beside there are lots of advantages for women in Islam 👍
Your loss. And lemme write this hadith for your reference: Allah said in Hadith Qudsi: "O My servants, you will not attain harming Me so as to harm Me, and you will not attain benefiting Me so as to benefit Me. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as pious as the most pious heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not increase My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as wicked as the most wicked heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not decrease My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all to stand together in one place and ask of Me, and I were to give everyone what he requested, then that would not decrease what I Possess, except what is decreased of the ocean when a needle is dipped into it. O My servants, it is but your deeds that I account for you, and then recompense you for. So he who finds good, let him praise Allah, and he who finds other than that, let him blame no one but himself. - Sahih Muslim
Prophet Muhammad pbuh said: “By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the heavens [i.e. Allah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with her.” Also, Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Reported by al-Bukhari, 4794)
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 but if she doesn’t go when he wants her to, regardless of how she feels about it, she will be cursed. Been there… husband is disrespectful, rude, inconsiderate, mean, etc. Wants sex. Woman expected to please him. What about her needs? Her need to be treated with respect and dignity? Does she not have the right to refuse then? I don’t mean for this to come off as rude but this is a huge issue. If I’m going to say my shahada, I’ll be expected to marry a Muslim man. If this is what is expected of me, I need to reconsider.
@@Xtine72 a marriage is about harmony. In a case like that if a husband is not within Islamic bounds, then the wife can ask for community arbitration to fix it. If it doesn't work, during and after 3 menstrual cycles, she can ask for permission for a divorce. If there is violence and it is provable, a religious judge known as a kadi can grant the divorce. Also, the belief in an afterlife of heaven for all hardships in this world is the gain at the end of the day. Islam is about dignity for the man and woman.
If she wears revealing clothes and wants to go out wearing that, and you don't want her to do that, u tried to advice her but she is arguing. This just one example of disobedience from wife. I am not telling you to smach her then and there😂, u can apply the methods that the sheikh said step by step
Our Prophet said (ﷺ) "Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death." Dont forget to recite Ayatul kursi before sleep Our Prophet (ﷺ) said, "When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi and you will be protected by Allah, and no devil will come near you until morning."
It's not strike her as in hit astaghfirula. It's to tap her with the miswaak as in to get her attention like how you would tap your friend in the hand with your pen for example, to get their attention.
Sheikh in the modern days these steps leading to too many divorces. Absolutely can't be any beating, i think best to talk about the differences and allow time to fix things, ultimately if agreement cant be reached, separate for few months to reflect on things, divorce has to last resort. Save Muslim families and keep family foundation strong insha'Allah
He mentioned the beating as symbolish, with something like "aswak" so basically it will not make the wife suffer any physical pain but rather emotional. I don't quite understand why the brother is talking about in today's world and rejecting what the sheikh says....one cannot be wiser, loving and caring than Allah who revealed this revelation.
Who cares about modern days. Quran is for all times not just for the time of prophet PBUH we have to follow it no matter what. People like you not following is the reason why marriages end up in divorce and also coz many modern day men lack the masculinity to carry out these steps
Brother, if there is a ruling that we may be in doubt of, or deep down disbelieve in, then it's best not to speak on it. Allah knows fully of any hypocrisy we contain in our hearts; if He does not expose our hypocrisy, then we shouldnt either (by talking). Allah knows best.
@@cool08player no doubt on ruling, rulings has wisdom behind it and knowing how to and when to apply. I work with thousands of people and unfortunately too many of our people lacking knowledge and wisdom. We need to try our best not to break families.
The Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him said about the coming of the Dajjal (Anti-Christ/False Messiah): "Most of those who go out to him will be women, until a man goes back to his wife, his mother, his daughter, his sister, and his aunt to shackle them tightly, fearing they would go out to him.”
It doesn’t make any sense strike them lightly this is the wrong interpretation rather is legal separation because no one is going to change if you hit them lightly.
First of all your so stupid you don't know cameras are reversed secondly just because someone eats or drinks from the left hand doesn't make them a shaitan
The beating is according to the Hadith : do not leave a mark, do not touch the face, do not cause pain. How is that a beating ? That’s a simbolic touch to show that this is not a joke you are going to destroy the family. If the simbolic touch does not work then you divorce because there is no solution
Thank you for this. I’ve been studying Islam for over over a year now I’m going into Ramadan. I was questioning if I was ready to say my shahada. After watching this, I’m definitely never going to become a revert.
So don't. It is your choice
If you've seen a lot of different cultures, you'll find that some are really strange to Western people. The strange thing is that the verse that talks about this is in the Qur'an, not hadith. But in the hadith there is a modification of the verse where the "beating" is more symbolic after other things have been tried. The hadith says to beat the woman lightly with a miswak, (like a toothbrush) I don't understand the whole reasoning behind this, because this kind of behavior will not bring a woman around, it will make her hate you. I know that in the time of the Prophet, the Arabs would beat a woman for anything or nothing. I guess that introducing a breakdown of actions to take was meant to slow down the sequence of events that might follow a suspected infraction. I don't know. First of all, if a man has to talk to a woman over a period of time, and ignore her in bed over a period of time, he will probably have forgotten what he was mad about by the time it's time to beat her. Or at least the "killer" energy will have dispersed by then. As I said, I don't know, but there are enough great things in Qur'an and Hadith that I believe in them anyway. I put some things on hold until I do understand them. I became muslim about 40 years ago.
This is simply an argument from Satan dear sister in order not to convert👎 as you have to admit that and beside there are lots of advantages for women in Islam 👍
Your loss.
And lemme write this hadith for your reference:
Allah said in Hadith Qudsi:
"O My servants, you will not attain harming Me so as to harm Me, and you will not attain benefiting Me so as to benefit Me. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as pious as the most pious heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not increase My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all as wicked as the most wicked heart of any individual amongst you, then this would not decrease My Kingdom an iota. O My servants, if the first of you and the last of you, and the humans of you and the jinn of you, were all to stand together in one place and ask of Me, and I were to give everyone what he requested, then that would not decrease what I Possess, except what is decreased of the ocean when a needle is dipped into it. O My servants, it is but your deeds that I account for you, and then recompense you for. So he who finds good, let him praise Allah, and he who finds other than that, let him blame no one but himself.
- Sahih Muslim
We dont need feminists.You guys follow your desires.
Zikir like so more poeple can see inshallah Sadaqah jaariyah for you
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BARAKA ALLAHU FIIKUM
السلام عليكم. ما شاء الله. جزاك الله خير.
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Prophet Muhammad pbuh said:
“By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the heavens [i.e. Allah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with her.”
Also, Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Reported by al-Bukhari, 4794)
So forced sex is okay in Islam???
@@Xtine72 This is regarding a wife, not when she's on her period or is sick. It is about taking care of her man's needs.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 but if she doesn’t go when he wants her to, regardless of how she feels about it, she will be cursed. Been there… husband is disrespectful, rude, inconsiderate, mean, etc. Wants sex. Woman expected to please him. What about her needs? Her need to be treated with respect and dignity? Does she not have the right to refuse then? I don’t mean for this to come off as rude but this is a huge issue. If I’m going to say my shahada, I’ll be expected to marry a Muslim man. If this is what is expected of me, I need to reconsider.
@@Xtine72 a marriage is about harmony. In a case like that if a husband is not within Islamic bounds, then the wife can ask for community arbitration to fix it. If it doesn't work, during and after 3 menstrual cycles, she can ask for permission for a divorce. If there is violence and it is provable, a religious judge known as a kadi can grant the divorce. Also, the belief in an afterlife of heaven for all hardships in this world is the gain at the end of the day. Islam is about dignity for the man and woman.
What would be an example of arrogance or disobedience from wife. Please give an example.
If she wears revealing clothes and wants to go out wearing that, and you don't want her to do that, u tried to advice her but she is arguing. This just one example of disobedience from wife. I am not telling you to smach her then and there😂, u can apply the methods that the sheikh said step by step
If you don't know if it is disobedience or the husband is being unreasonable. Make him go to a trustworthy muslim arbitrator.
Our Prophet said (ﷺ)
"Whoever recites Ayatul Kursi immediately after each prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entering Paradise except death."
Dont forget to recite Ayatul kursi before sleep
Our Prophet (ﷺ) said,
"When you go to your bed, recite Ayatul Kursi and you will be protected by Allah, and no devil will come near you until morning."
SubhannAllah
Did the shaikh drink with his left hand?
It's not strike her as in hit astaghfirula. It's to tap her with the miswaak as in to get her attention like how you would tap your friend in the hand with your pen for example, to get their attention.
Clearly mentioned in Qur'an that it's not a problem strike in needed situations.
Sir you have added the word 'slightly'. Quran does not have this word.
It in the Athar from prophet companion
And there's no hadith from the prophet that explains this ayah?
Jazzakallah Tabarakallah shekh Assim al hakeem. I see u drinking using a left hand. 😂😂😂
The screen is mirrored. He is using his right hand. Look at the text at the left upper side :D
Sheikh in the modern days these steps leading to too many divorces. Absolutely can't be any beating, i think best to talk about the differences and allow time to fix things, ultimately if agreement cant be reached, separate for few months to reflect on things, divorce has to last resort. Save Muslim families and keep family foundation strong insha'Allah
He mentioned the beating as symbolish, with something like "aswak" so basically it will not make the wife suffer any physical pain but rather emotional. I don't quite understand why the brother is talking about in today's world and rejecting what the sheikh says....one cannot be wiser, loving and caring than Allah who revealed this revelation.
Who cares about modern days. Quran is for all times not just for the time of prophet PBUH we have to follow it no matter what. People like you not following is the reason why marriages end up in divorce and also coz many modern day men lack the masculinity to carry out these steps
@@sankofa010indeed we can’t disobey Allah
Brother, if there is a ruling that we may be in doubt of, or deep down disbelieve in, then it's best not to speak on it. Allah knows fully of any hypocrisy we contain in our hearts; if He does not expose our hypocrisy, then we shouldnt either (by talking). Allah knows best.
@@cool08player no doubt on ruling, rulings has wisdom behind it and knowing how to and when to apply. I work with thousands of people and unfortunately too many of our people lacking knowledge and wisdom. We need to try our best not to break families.
The Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him said about the coming of the Dajjal (Anti-Christ/False Messiah): "Most of those who go out to him will be women, until a man goes back to his wife, his mother, his daughter, his sister, and his aunt to shackle them tightly, fearing they would go out to him.”
This hadith is not reliable at all.
It doesn’t make any sense strike them lightly this is the wrong interpretation rather is legal separation because no one is going to change if you hit them lightly.
Only take his advice when it comes to spirituality and prayer. Salafi's are terrible at everything else.
You know this is from the Quran 😂
This from the Quran
Surat a Nisaa
@@adamvibritania5735 understanding and interpreting the Quran varies. Salafi's believe Arab culture is wajib upon all.
😂@@Big-gp9bi
Shaitan drinking with his left hand!. 1.30
Sheikh Assim wears his watch in his right hand. Don't always assume of the worst things. This video gotta be flipped
Maybe he did that purposely so that others would not elevate him based of his knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Allahu alim…
First of all your so stupid you don't know cameras are reversed secondly just because someone eats or drinks from the left hand doesn't make them a shaitan
Video could be mirrored
Disgusting.
Yeah bro married a wife made a house pretty videos food shelter gives the wife alot of money is loving just for the wife to be disobedient
The beating is according to the Hadith : do not leave a mark, do not touch the face, do not cause pain.
How is that a beating ?
That’s a simbolic touch to show that this is not a joke you are going to destroy the family.
If the simbolic touch does not work then you divorce because there is no solution
@agentyearsago me?
@agentyearsago it is thoroughly disgusting to treat your wife like a small child.
Logical people do not allow themselves to believe that hitting your spouse is acceptable.
wow there is a similar story in the jewish talmud!