Winner of a video, I been tryin to find out about "help me find a job i love" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Kanenjamin Niyrianna Process - (just google it )? It is an awesome one off product for discovering a simple mind trick to manifest success in your life without the normal expense. Ive heard some super things about it and my mate got cool success with it.
She didn't said that don't do work you love.(at least she didn't mean that way.) But the imp. Thing is the people around you should love you and that makes you happy.
I'll have to disagree with this one. I feel if you try to make people love you instead of people loving you organically, you'll be emotionally burned out. It's better to do what you love versus to make people love you.
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
I appreciate your point that we should not wait for other people reaction. Still her message is to not wait for the perfect opportunity, make it happen. Happiness comes easier from what you offer and give rather than from receiving or looking for ideal conditions.
I’m totally disagree with this, what I’ve learned after years of working and been thru a lot of challenges is that you need to do the things that makes you happy because if you are happy inside you will bring happiness to others and you don’t need to actually please everyone to like you or to agree with you. Find your passion and work hard after finding it. Don’t chase after money, position, and popularity! 😊
What I always tell people is do what you're good at for your main source of income and do what you love on the side. You don't get paid for liking your job, you get paid for doing your job well. Eventually you'll be able to do what you love but doing it as your sole source of income at first will destroy your passion for it. It happened to me when I went to culinary school. I loved cooking but once I realized that my survival depended on me cooking for other people I lost my want to do it and dropped out of culinary school
You can find happiness outside work. You will appreciate something more if it's scarce. If you are able to something you love once a week, the happiness it gives you will double or triple. If you do something you love everyday, the happiness it will give you slowly just fade away
It’s out of our control zone to make others love us, you can make anybody love you, love yourself and the right people for you will love you back, not because you made them love you but because you are the kind of person they would love anyway
Although she was rather straightforward, I think this was the idea of GIFT. Of course we can't make others love us, but we can be taught and learn the attitude and skills it takes to be well-liked by others in the workplace. I think the kind of 'love' that the speaker is talking about in this video is the love that mentors and supervisors foster for those they see have real ambition and a drive to succeed, and therefore they 'love' those people with those skills and do their best to lend to their success.
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
Exactly not a good idea trying to go down a complacency path, definitely gotta engage with people in a genuine and polite way taking into account their needs but basing you entire work career on pleasing others sound exactly like the thing not to do.
She's a ceo, a boss, thats why she encouraged to love a company run by the leaders despite they are unhappy and dont love what they do fr day to day basis
I have been working in a corporate world for the last 20 years of my love and I can tell you all those who get promotions are not lovable people. They are assertive, aggressive and great communicators.
While embodying G.I.F.T may create inherent value, you can't make anyone appreciate that value, let alone love you for it. This advice is speciously oversimplified and, to me, translates to "Give up trying to find a meaningful path and work hard so that someone else will provide one for you". Being a good employee is an important skill to master, but not to the detriment of self-determination.
The only problem with this was the language she used: "make people love you". It's too charged with emotion. The evidence lies in all the comments from people who completely disregarded great advice for getting along in the workplace.
This is so tiring... it reminds me of those chit chat breaks with coffee, too much of non sense talk just to be likable and share stories with people you don’t even like... waste of energy
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
This is just good advice in how you should deal with everybody in your life. This isnt going to make you like your job or make you feel fulfilled in those duties. Ive done all of these at one of my prior jobs and had great relationships with everyone there. But I still HATED the work. The only thing I missed when I finally left were my coworkers.
The point she misses is that people can’t have such initiative and such commitment to building a forward momentum if they hate their jobs, that’s why people search for the work they love. Being loved in the workplace doesn’t substitute loving the work you do....
My Mom work as Banker end up quit because she cant handle the stress and she dont like it but she hv high rank as executive everyone there including the boss love her but end up quit and she hate it she said she rather follow her dream before that she want to become fashion designer but end up working at the bank because his father asked her too. And my Mother regret it. Yes you maybe living in a hard life doing what you Love some doing what they love get richer some dont but that is the worth of doing what you Love and still doing because love it die. Even if you succeed in doing what you dont love you ending up thinking what have i done my whole life doing what i dont like and still didn't get rich and still depressed. Its ok for the one who end up lucky but who dont end up regret their whole life because of small mistake not doing what they love. Even if you do what you Love still dont see the progress that is the point people make quote Never Give Up . Lose or Won you still happy. :)
Be generous, show initiative, think forward and be transparent is very good advice in any life situation, not only for work or a project. Its not about making people love you. Its about doing things right and getting ahead.
The majority of the comments who disagree do not get the point. If you want to get ahead or get a promotion, you need to do the work that others love. No one cares if you love your work except you. People only care if you can solve their problems. That is why you have a job.
To many, though not all of you, who commented below, this is just a mis-use of the word "love." Appreciated might be better. It is hard when you try so many things and can't find what you love. My brother knew early in life, and I'm still looking. I'm 61.
Idk if I agree fully but I wanted to comment I do like what she said a lot of people don’t know what they love or what they love just can’t be translated into monetary gain
I know people love me for who I am (not everybody (of course)). Giving advice that I *need* to have people to love me feels wrong. I like your way of convincing us, but there is nothing bad with genuine love for the work you do. Nothing. Just don’t genuine hate the work you do ;)
No Matter, Entire Speech was based on her agenda as a CEO of Leadership Communication Training Firm, 2 Important Thought Provoking / Powerful Questions We Can take away from it.. ( and Model it even for Personal Life ) 1. How can I make My colleagues Life easier / better? 2. How can I make my Boss's life easier / better?
I liked this, a lot of good points. But the thing is, FAR higher than any 'GIFT' factor for success in rising the employment ranks is COMPLIANCE. What's far more important for employee success is pretending to be a competent brain-dead rule-abiding zombie and doing exactly what you're told without complaint
GIFT are excellent tips for ‘how to keep good interpersonal relationships at work’ That’s all. Good advice. But it makes no sense to live your life trying to be liked instead of looking for the work you are passionate about and fulfills you. I’m sure about something: it doesn’t matter what you do, you’ll never achieve to make EVERYONE love you. Trying to get social acceptance is exhausting!!!!
Lot of good points here. In addition, one really needs to have the self esteem and self love to be able to provide in this way to a team or bosses. Also, it is not about being loved, it is about being useful, in which case you can get replaced any moment. Still I'm not denying some basic truth said here.
Great advice for those who haven't found their passion yet. Make the most of your current scenario with this advice. However, for those of us who HAVE found our passion, I'm not too sure. I'm an engineering intern who is taking on bigger projects than any other interns in the state I work (initiative). I'm liked by my coworkers and my bosses and I have found things in common between us, something they didn't necessarily try to do when I was hired. I love my coworkers and their trust in me, but I hate my job. I would rather be writing or doing something in the music industry (i.e. event booking), and I will be pursuing those career paths until I can't anymore because I have to focus on my family or something higher on the priority list takes precedence over dream-chasing.
Nope you just start loving yourself and others as well after that it all falls in to place. If everyone was on the same page in loving ones self and others as well we would all be in a better place. It really shouldn't matter what you do at that point b\c we would all be striving for the same goal to be as happy as we humanly can. It will never be perfect but if we continue to at least try we can do anything together.
My dear if you really want people to love you (or love what you do, to invest in it), first love your self(or love what you do), other wise there will always be an insecurity issue in what they are investing in or your reaction to deception or failure. I'd rather live 10 worst years looking for what I love rather than having a thousands of investors that will just be enriched by an ending suicide death due to regrets. searching for a work you find yourself in, give you a goal and that goal is what will keep you making the next step.
Good info but the delivery is wrong. It's like she's saying give up on your goals and just get ppl to love you. Maybe if she said do these things and they will LEAD to work you love....
Exactly i think she may have inteded that being generous and bringing positive energy when you engage with people may create a network that allows you to be successful but still sounds like that's the only goal she's aiming for and i don't agree
So... TLDR, Stop looking for the ridiculously high standard careers, and try to do the best of what you got, by working hard and honest? I don't know, maybe we need to dream now and then, instead of abandon hope.
Really!?? I mean all the things that she mentioned can only be done if you like the work you do, if you are stuck with the work you don't like, it's going to leave you frustrated, empty, and you won't ever be satisfied!
In my experience, your statement is not always correct. I was very successful in my last career, but I hated it. I was highly engaged and people where shocked when I said I was leaving. I was engaged because I have a very high work effort, not because I loved it. People assumed I loved it because my performance was high. Now I'm very happy in my new career and being engaged is rewarding, not completely draining.
@@Nathan_King At this point in time, I totally get what you've said. I'm good at what I do now and engaged, but I don't obsess about it. I'm constantly trying to answer that question of what I want to do. I know I want to do me. Writing may be it, but I'm still not completely sure about it. I'm glad you've found work you love!
First off, I think Jodi is turning a lot of people off by having such a strong bias. She's being one-sided by arguing you need to find work you love OR make people like you. That being said, if you listen without forming a bias against her, you'll probably find she has a lot of worthwhile information and is coming from years of experience. I think people disagreeing with her could be more open-minded by realizing the advice can be interpreted differently than how exactly she's wording it. I also think she's correct in arguing you should become a likable person. Just think about how people make you feel when they're considerate and helpful vs. selfish and rude. I really believe you need to choose something you enjoy doing and also be a good person. By being a good person, people with naturally gravitate towards you. I don't think it's good advice to deliberately woo people. Just be kind and let things fall into place, while also taking initiative, being generous, setting goals, and being honest.
'Make people love you' = Contenting yourself with being a useful tool for bosses and shareholders. Care about your own aspirations only insofar as they align with those of the latter, if at all. 'Leadership development' = Grooming the up-and-coming workforce (or 'next-generation talent,' in her words) to be maximally exploitable tools for [see above]. 'Good cultural fit' = Borg-like -- any authentic individuality vanquished and consigned to oblivion. It's right there in the story of the guy who was let go from his Wall Street job: His bosses prized the technical and financial over client service. And we're supposed to think such institutions are going to give priority to 'loving' and 'helping' their workforce? 😄😄😄
I disagree with This one, at some point maybe agree. yes it is delusive to look for work what we love but we cant make everyone love us. it is beyond our control. but we can choose to share love or not. we can help each other, solve their problem. If they cant love you its doesnt Matters, because you do the right thing. So stop looking for “work What i love” but do some thing that make Love happen.
I totally disagree. I live in a well known compny in my country which everyone crazy about but still live in miserable and stressful life..why? Because people there , are like those in the video “eager to be loved. Bcause they want to be promoted! They want to hve higher pay” , and because of that they pressure those lower than them, they get rid those people that are USEFUL but “not chasing fame” just because we are invisible in their eyes. They chase love from top, they chase fame..and for that reason i hate those people so called “find love in the compny”. Periodt
I agree to some extent because everything is sales. Kinda. It's really a combination of many variables that will make you successful but then we need to agree on success lol
Aaaaaaa yes I see so what your telling me is to do what I'm told and completely give my life to people who makes money off me and couldn't give two shits about me
no, just no! if by making others love you, you end up finding your purpose, then great! but that would just be luck! why risk a life of suffering on that gamble?
It's interesting to see how some of the commenters are taking the "make them love you" message perhaps a bit too literally. I've read Jodi's book, and it's full of the kind of tactical advice you don't get in school. In my experience, and I realize this isn't true in all organizations, if you "make people love you" then they want to help you, and they approach you with opportunities you might not have known were out there. It's good karma, it works, and I wouldn't interpret the phrasing so absolutely as to miss the message.
I've never read her books, that's interesting insight. I have to say though, she did not convey the message you are alleging she wanted to get across - if that was her intent, she failed. I felt her talk wasn't great advice. Impressing others and building a good network is a great strategy to allow you to find the job you love. She specifically says don't look for a job that you love, however..
It's not about loving your job, it's about doing what's necessary to make ends meet. Not everybody will get the job that they will love. Most times you will have to put your wants and needs aside.
@@19JDOG91 'To be always intending to live a new life, but never find time to set about it -- this is as if a man should put off eating and drinking from one day to another till he be starved and destroyed.' -- Sir Walter Scott
I hate her advice, TEDx talk this idea is not worth sharing. Although she may have been successful in her life with this ideology but this doesn't hold good for all the others. Going for something that you love will give you purpose to proceed. but making other to like you will put others in control of your success, your future.
What if instead of do what you love, we teach our children to thrive in their personal strengths. For example, instead of looking at all their F's on their report card look at their A and dial that strength in even more. Just a thought. I actually liked Jodi's take on this and think that these are very important skills to have and if we do them we will find more happiness in the workplace.
she is just a poor person seeking to be loved instead to start loving herself she asks others to love her. that is from deep in childhood problem not feeling mothers love ... if you notice she mentioned only father and her uncle ... never mentioned her mother ...
This woman is clueless, F••• other people, they cant make you happy only you can. Loving what you do has simply to do with finding purpose and being damn good at what you do then people willnot only love you, you will be able to find work anywhere. Its all about pride in what you do and who your are and being the best at whatever you do.
Thumbs down. How emotionally and physically and mentally tiring it would be to be somebody so that people would like you? Just be yourself. It gets easier as you get older and you care less what others think. In fact they're not even thinking about you LOL
I don’t need work I love. I just need work I don’t hate.
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Sorry, but every place I've worked, people loved me. That didn't stop from quitting a job I didn't love.
Thank you!!! I was thinking it but you said it!!!
So true
Winner of a video, I been tryin to find out about "help me find a job i love" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Kanenjamin Niyrianna Process - (just google it )?
It is an awesome one off product for discovering a simple mind trick to manifest success in your life without the normal expense. Ive heard some super things about it and my mate got cool success with it.
You shouldn't say sorry, it's your story and experience and there's nothing to be sorry about your opinion concerning it at all.
She didn't said that don't do work you love.(at least she didn't mean that way.)
But the imp. Thing is the people around you should love you and that makes you happy.
I'll have to disagree with this one. I feel if you try to make people love you instead of people loving you organically, you'll be emotionally burned out. It's better to do what you love versus to make people love you.
i agree.
I think you should be present in what you are doing most importantly
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
I appreciate your point that we should not wait for other people reaction. Still her message is to not wait for the perfect opportunity, make it happen. Happiness comes easier from what you offer and give rather than from receiving or looking for ideal conditions.
Agree
I’m totally disagree with this, what I’ve learned after years of working and been thru a lot of challenges is that you need to do the things that makes you happy because if you are happy inside you will bring happiness to others and you don’t need to actually please everyone to like you or to agree with you. Find your passion and work hard after finding it. Don’t chase after money, position, and popularity! 😊
Monette Nanquilada agreed!
Agreed, because those three things never satisfy us in the end.
What I always tell people is do what you're good at for your main source of income and do what you love on the side. You don't get paid for liking your job, you get paid for doing your job well. Eventually you'll be able to do what you love but doing it as your sole source of income at first will destroy your passion for it. It happened to me when I went to culinary school. I loved cooking but once I realized that my survival depended on me cooking for other people I lost my want to do it and dropped out of culinary school
You can find happiness outside work. You will appreciate something more if it's scarce. If you are able to something you love once a week, the happiness it gives you will double or triple. If you do something you love everyday, the happiness it will give you slowly just fade away
To make people love you, you gotta do something that you love first. It's so contradictory
Beneath all her nice-sounding phrases, her message is essentially, 'Give up! -- and adapt to the demands of the profit-gouging machine!'
It’s out of our control zone to make others love us, you can make anybody love you, love yourself and the right people for you will love you back, not because you made them love you but because you are the kind of person they would love anyway
Although she was rather straightforward, I think this was the idea of GIFT. Of course we can't make others love us, but we can be taught and learn the attitude and skills it takes to be well-liked by others in the workplace. I think the kind of 'love' that the speaker is talking about in this video is the love that mentors and supervisors foster for those they see have real ambition and a drive to succeed, and therefore they 'love' those people with those skills and do their best to lend to their success.
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
Can’t say I agree with this one, making people love you will just end up making your life about pleasing others instead of yourself
Exactly not a good idea trying to go down a complacency path, definitely gotta engage with people in a genuine and polite way taking into account their needs but basing you entire work career on pleasing others sound exactly like the thing not to do.
She's a ceo, a boss, thats why she encouraged to love a company run by the leaders despite they are unhappy and dont love what they do fr day to day basis
I have been working in a corporate world for the last 20 years of my love and I can tell you all those who get promotions are not lovable people. They are assertive, aggressive and great communicators.
While embodying G.I.F.T may create inherent value, you can't make anyone appreciate that value, let alone love you for it.
This advice is speciously oversimplified and, to me, translates to "Give up trying to find a meaningful path and work hard so that someone else will provide one for you". Being a good employee is an important skill to master, but not to the detriment of self-determination.
The only problem with this was the language she used: "make people love you". It's too charged with emotion.
The evidence lies in all the comments from people who completely disregarded great advice for getting along in the workplace.
This is so tiring... it reminds me of those chit chat breaks with coffee, too much of non sense talk just to be likable and share stories with people you don’t even like... waste of energy
Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you researched - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (do a google search)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my cooworker finally got astronomical results with it.
This is just good advice in how you should deal with everybody in your life. This isnt going to make you like your job or make you feel fulfilled in those duties. Ive done all of these at one of my prior jobs and had great relationships with everyone there. But I still HATED the work. The only thing I missed when I finally left were my coworkers.
The point she misses is that people can’t have such initiative and such commitment to building a forward momentum if they hate their jobs, that’s why people search for the work they love. Being loved in the workplace doesn’t substitute loving the work you do....
My Mom work as Banker end up quit because she cant handle the stress and she dont like it but she hv high rank as executive everyone there including the boss love her but end up quit and she hate it she said she rather follow her dream before that she want to become fashion designer but end up working at the bank because his father asked her too. And my Mother regret it. Yes you maybe living in a hard life doing what you Love some doing what they love get richer some dont but that is the worth of doing what you Love and still doing because love it die. Even if you succeed in doing what you dont love you ending up thinking what have i done my whole life doing what i dont like and still didn't get rich and still depressed. Its ok for the one who end up lucky but who dont end up regret their whole life because of small mistake not doing what they love. Even if you do what you Love still dont see the progress that is the point people make quote Never Give Up . Lose or Won you still happy. :)
If one does something that he/she doesn't love then he/she is going to live a miserable life no matter how big the love of people is.
Love is for rich people! We poor people try to like what we do! Because our love for something runs far ahead of us a lot faster than us!
Be generous, show initiative, think forward and be transparent is very good advice in any life situation, not only for work or a project. Its not about making people love you. Its about doing things right and getting ahead.
When you take advice from the comments instead of the video it’s self 😂 you guys are awesome
The majority of the comments who disagree do not get the point. If you want to get ahead or get a promotion, you need to do the work that others love. No one cares if you love your work except you. People only care if you can solve their problems. That is why you have a job.
seeing all the comments here and it seems that this ted talk is kinda fail?
To many, though not all of you, who commented below, this is just a mis-use of the word "love." Appreciated might be better. It is hard when you try so many things and can't find what you love. My brother knew early in life, and I'm still looking. I'm 61.
Get people to love you? Seriously?
Exactly. lol
You don't want to disagree with Michael Scott, don't you?
@@Cavenaggi29 lol, he wants to have 100 kids so he can have friends
Idk if I agree fully but I wanted to comment I do like what she said a lot of people don’t know what they love or what they love just can’t be translated into monetary gain
I know people love me for who I am (not everybody (of course)).
Giving advice that I *need* to have people to love me feels wrong. I like your way of convincing us, but there is nothing bad with genuine love for the work you do. Nothing. Just don’t genuine hate the work you do ;)
No Matter, Entire Speech was based on her agenda as a CEO of Leadership Communication Training Firm, 2 Important Thought Provoking / Powerful Questions We Can take away from it.. ( and Model it even for Personal Life )
1. How can I make My colleagues Life easier / better?
2. How can I make my Boss's life easier / better?
I liked this, a lot of good points. But the thing is, FAR higher than any 'GIFT' factor for success in rising the employment ranks is COMPLIANCE. What's far more important for employee success is pretending to be a competent brain-dead rule-abiding zombie and doing exactly what you're told without complaint
TED should invite Michael Scott, same message, more entertaining.
GIFT are excellent tips for ‘how to keep good interpersonal relationships at work’ That’s all. Good advice. But it makes no sense to live your life trying to be liked instead of looking for the work you are passionate about and fulfills you. I’m sure about something: it doesn’t matter what you do, you’ll never achieve to make EVERYONE love you. Trying to get social acceptance is exhausting!!!!
I used to view Ted Talks as incredibly informative, life changing, and motivating.
I used to as well. What has happened?
Lot of good points here. In addition, one really needs to have the self esteem and self love to be able to provide in this way to a team or bosses.
Also, it is not about being loved, it is about being useful, in which case you can get replaced any moment. Still I'm not denying some basic truth said here.
If a person think: I'll do what people want me to do and the others will do what this one want, then nobody knows what to do!
Great advice for those who haven't found their passion yet. Make the most of your current scenario with this advice. However, for those of us who HAVE found our passion, I'm not too sure. I'm an engineering intern who is taking on bigger projects than any other interns in the state I work (initiative). I'm liked by my coworkers and my bosses and I have found things in common between us, something they didn't necessarily try to do when I was hired. I love my coworkers and their trust in me, but I hate my job. I would rather be writing or doing something in the music industry (i.e. event booking), and I will be pursuing those career paths until I can't anymore because I have to focus on my family or something higher on the priority list takes precedence over dream-chasing.
Nope you just start loving yourself and others as well after that it all falls in to place. If everyone was on the same page in loving ones self and others as well we would all be in a better place. It really shouldn't matter what you do at that point b\c we would all be striving for the same goal to be as happy as we humanly can. It will never be perfect but if we continue to at least try we can do anything together.
In India it's called 'CHAMCHAGIRI'
Love ur thought process ❤️
My dear if you really want people to love you (or love what you do, to invest in it), first love your self(or love what you do), other wise there will always be an insecurity issue in what they are investing in or your reaction to deception or failure. I'd rather live 10 worst years looking for what I love rather than having a thousands of investors that will just be enriched by an ending suicide death due to regrets. searching for a work you find yourself in, give you a goal and that goal is what will keep you making the next step.
Loved it. She's talking about added value and taking initiative. Going the little extra. It really does make a difference.
Good info but the delivery is wrong. It's like she's saying give up on your goals and just get ppl to love you. Maybe if she said do these things and they will LEAD to work you love....
Exactly i think she may have inteded that being generous and bringing positive energy when you engage with people may create a network that allows you to be successful but still sounds like that's the only goal she's aiming for and i don't agree
So... TLDR, Stop looking for the ridiculously high standard careers, and try to do the best of what you got, by working hard and honest? I don't know, maybe we need to dream now and then, instead of abandon hope.
Great message, particularly for parents, on how to support our kiddos to create champions for themselves and their future work.
Really!?? I mean all the things that she mentioned can only be done if you like the work you do, if you are stuck with the work you don't like, it's going to leave you frustrated, empty, and you won't ever be satisfied!
I'm pretty sure that if you're engaged with the work that you do that there is love, purpose, and meaning there.
In my experience, your statement is not always correct. I was very successful in my last career, but I hated it. I was highly engaged and people where shocked when I said I was leaving. I was engaged because I have a very high work effort, not because I loved it. People assumed I loved it because my performance was high. Now I'm very happy in my new career and being engaged is rewarding, not completely draining.
@@Nathan_King At this point in time, I totally get what you've said. I'm good at what I do now and engaged, but I don't obsess about it. I'm constantly trying to answer that question of what I want to do. I know I want to do me. Writing may be it, but I'm still not completely sure about it. I'm glad you've found work you love!
First off, I think Jodi is turning a lot of people off by having such a strong bias. She's being one-sided by arguing you need to find work you love OR make people like you. That being said, if you listen without forming a bias against her, you'll probably find she has a lot of worthwhile information and is coming from years of experience.
I think people disagreeing with her could be more open-minded by realizing the advice can be interpreted differently than how exactly she's wording it.
I also think she's correct in arguing you should become a likable person. Just think about how people make you feel when they're considerate and helpful vs. selfish and rude.
I really believe you need to choose something you enjoy doing and also be a good person. By being a good person, people with naturally gravitate towards you. I don't think it's good advice to deliberately woo people. Just be kind and let things fall into place, while also taking initiative, being generous, setting goals, and being honest.
The four themes of GIFT come under HONESTY.
Historically, sociologically and psychologically this is what manipulative sociopaths do.
Ahhahaha she's kinda out of her mind
I disagree. But I can totally understand she's trying hard for her company.
This video appeals to my mild narcissm and people pleasing tendencies - either way it resonates 😄
'Make people love you' = Contenting yourself with being a useful tool for bosses and shareholders. Care about your own aspirations only insofar as they align with those of the latter, if at all.
'Leadership development' = Grooming the up-and-coming workforce (or 'next-generation talent,' in her words) to be maximally exploitable tools for [see above].
'Good cultural fit' = Borg-like -- any authentic individuality vanquished and consigned to oblivion.
It's right there in the story of the guy who was let go from his Wall Street job: His bosses prized the technical and financial over client service. And we're supposed to think such institutions are going to give priority to 'loving' and 'helping' their workforce? 😄😄😄
I hate all work. What can I do?
I disagree with This one, at some point maybe agree. yes it is delusive to look for work what we love but we cant make everyone love us. it is beyond our control. but we can choose to share love or not. we can help each other, solve their problem. If they cant love you its doesnt Matters, because you do the right thing. So stop looking for “work What i love” but do some thing that make Love happen.
This is soooo true! Thank you for talking about this load Jodi Glickman!
She has a point
how so?
I totally disagree. I live in a well known compny in my country which everyone crazy about but still live in miserable and stressful life..why? Because people there , are like those in the video “eager to be loved. Bcause they want to be promoted! They want to hve higher pay” , and because of that they pressure those lower than them, they get rid those people that are USEFUL but “not chasing fame” just because we are invisible in their eyes. They chase love from top, they chase fame..and for that reason i hate those people so called “find love in the compny”. Periodt
Not trying to hate or troll but....I think I could present something a little bit more realistic. (not everyone can love, they can like you however)
superb
Employee : love what you do or do what you love which one you choose.
Boss : I choose (do what you love)
You have to choose (love what you do).
😳😳😳😳
Best advice ever...... REAL TALK
I agree to some extent because everything is sales. Kinda. It's really a combination of many variables that will make you successful but then we need to agree on success lol
Aaaaaaa yes I see so what your telling me is to do what I'm told and completely give my life to people who makes money off me and couldn't give two shits about me
YES! This was so exciting. GREAT POINTS. You are SO right.
Why do we have to bow down to life?
Actually you don't have to bow down to life, but most bow down to their consumerism.
@@NickKossovan You're absolutely right, and we have to use our minds to break free!
no, just no! if by making others love you, you end up finding your purpose, then great! but that would just be luck! why risk a life of suffering on that gamble?
Am I wrong or is this just another person that thinks happiness comes from without.
It's interesting to see how some of the commenters are taking the "make them love you" message perhaps a bit too literally. I've read Jodi's book, and it's full of the kind of tactical advice you don't get in school. In my experience, and I realize this isn't true in all organizations, if you "make people love you" then they want to help you, and they approach you with opportunities you might not have known were out there. It's good karma, it works, and I wouldn't interpret the phrasing so absolutely as to miss the message.
I've never read her books, that's interesting insight. I have to say though, she did not convey the message you are alleging she wanted to get across - if that was her intent, she failed. I felt her talk wasn't great advice. Impressing others and building a good network is a great strategy to allow you to find the job you love. She specifically says don't look for a job that you love, however..
Not sure about this one. People to love you? Hummmm...
agree bro, i was like, whhaaa?!
So instead we should be chasing approval from others? That's worse advice than finding work you love...
It's not about loving your job, it's about doing what's necessary to make ends meet. Not everybody will get the job that they will love. Most times you will have to put your wants and needs aside.
Never. Do what you need to do, true but never give up your dreams.
@@19JDOG91 'To be always intending to live a new life, but never find time to set about it -- this is as if a man should put off eating and drinking from one day to another till he be starved and destroyed.' -- Sir Walter Scott
How Odd?
I hate her advice, TEDx talk this idea is not worth sharing. Although she may have been successful in her life with this ideology but this doesn't hold good for all the others. Going for something that you love will give you purpose to proceed. but making other to like you will put others in control of your success, your future.
that is frighteningly accurate
Some people are just going to hate you
What if instead of do what you love, we teach our children to thrive in their personal strengths. For example, instead of looking at all their F's on their report card look at their A and dial that strength in even more. Just a thought. I actually liked Jodi's take on this and think that these are very important skills to have and if we do them we will find more happiness in the workplace.
Spoke to soon
She is wrong 100%
I told my mom about this lecture and she was like: "Work We Love", what's so great about another Chinese, there are millions of them!
she is just a poor person seeking to be loved instead to start loving herself she asks others to love her. that is from deep in childhood problem not feeling mothers love ... if you notice she mentioned only father and her uncle ... never mentioned her mother ...
Ain't nobody got time fo dat!
She resembles India Summer tho
This woman is clueless, F••• other people, they cant make you happy only you can. Loving what you do has simply to do with finding purpose and being damn good at what you do then people willnot only love you, you will be able to find work anywhere. Its all about pride in what you do and who your are and being the best at whatever you do.
Thumbs down. How emotionally and physically and mentally tiring it would be to be somebody so that people would like you? Just be yourself. It gets easier as you get older and you care less what others think. In fact they're not even thinking about you LOL
Is that an eco-friendly bag she's wearing? Doesn't make me love her!
Trying too hard kind of lifestyle, not so good
The second worst TedX speech after Metin Hara's Kalbe Üflenen Hayal.
Lol are you kidding me 😂... Wrost advice ever
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This is not good advice
amazing capitalist talk there
This is hands down the worse Ted talk I have ever seen...
She is just talking anything
Prolly the stupidest Ted talk I ever heard
Bunch of BS
Just NOOO!
Whatever, Lady.
Love keep us going so we we Don love what should we bo kill that the reason no this Grils just speak with no wisdom.