My 13year old daughter feels that I am only seeing the negative things she does and never the positive. I truly wish to build a healthy and loving relationship with her and I will follow your advice. Love from Kenya
Do you praise her good behavior as often as you punish her bad behavior? I learned if kids never receive praise from their parents, they will act out because they only receive attention when they are being punished. Generally speaking of course.
I'm 17 and a few months ago I told my Mom that I had no will to live and hated every aspect of my life and wasn't sure how much longer I could carry on like this. I asked her if I could see a therapist and she brushed it off and said that I should read the bible more and read self-help books. That's it. It was my most raw and vulnerable moment and she shut me down and never followed up. I honestly don't see how I could feel confident enough to approach her again because that's one of the first times I've ever opened up about my feelings and she made me feel insignificant and ignored, but at the same time, I don't know what to do with myself anymore because I feel so empty all of the time (I'm not seeking pity, I would just like some advice)
I'm sorry that happened to you. It hurts to feel shut down by people who are supposed to be there for you. Hopefully you have a mentor, school counselor you can talk to about your feelings
How awful for you to reach out and your shut down like that you deserve love and caring im sorry that you was treated this way you deserve unconditional love xxxx
Yeah that's the same thing that happened to me, I told my mom how I felt and she told me I watched to much movies and that the devil was telling me that , she literally called a pastor to pray for me and I don't think I could ever really talk to her about anything again , I just stopped trying to get her to listen to me
@@vardonwindett3648 Oh my God I'm sorry that happened. I wish they would actually just listen and try to come up with solutions instead of just panicking, attributing it to technology, and hoping that it'll go away if they ignore it.
@T Th Self help books do help, but very minimally. Also she wouldn't have to pay for the therapy. Our insurance (which I help pay for) covers therapy, she just doesn't think mental health is important.
Yes," how was your day today" when you build a bond with your children right from childhood they tell you everything and any thing.. Giving them a hug every now and then helps too
You want to build a relationship with your children because you don’t want them going to the wrong person and they give them the wrong advice and they manipulate them
I just got custody of my 14 year old niece. She has a lot of trauma. I have to remind myself to not take it personal and know that “she’s not trying to give ME a hard time… she’s HAVING a hard time”. As parents of this generation, we have to instill the values of more simpler times, meaning: focus on experiences that build self confidence like building a campfire, pitching a tent, cooking a meal, etc INSTEAD of social media!!! My niece doesn’t have a phone right now (been about a month-this is mainly to protect her from toxic family members she originally left to come live with me) and I have noticed a more consistently confident kid as a result of the limited screen time. Phones and social media are not a right. Wish more parents would know that and take the stand.
You are doing good. I'd just add that it gets harder for those with more than one child, particularly single parents. The tendency to let kids on screens is very easily done especially considering all the other stresssors one is facing in life. Relationships, money, mental health. Etc.
@@abaIdrisiyas no regular screen time till 18, 17 over here!! unhealthy overall. more bad than good. thank you for sharing, Alice. tempting to offer them the screen, but we are intentional and must not. a game here or there...yes....
Thank you so much for your advice! The second option it really worked for me... I didn’t realize that since this pandemic 😷 I let her be more on her phone to “socialize “ with her called friends on Tiktok and Snapchat ( which I’m not too happy about) but I don’t want her to get in depression so I’m ok with it till she can go out normal again.... so after watching your video and stopped at the part where you where saying that I should tell her that I miss her it made me cry and realize that that was our problem... I was doing my thing as all mom do( cleaning, cooking, working, etc) and I miss our time.... our lovely ☺️ times together before this crazy pandemic happened... so I waited for her to finish with her online school and we grabbed our two dogs and the weather was beautiful and went for a looong walk and she started talking about her friends and it was like old times... thank you so very much for your help! I was sooo frustrated lately and I couldn’t figure it out what’s going on between me and her... less phone and more Mommy and daughter time!
I know im randomly asking but does anyone know of a method to log back into an instagram account? I stupidly forgot the password. I appreciate any tricks you can give me.
* Don’t interview for pain * They still love me 😢 * Show “genuine” interest * Communicate what I want from our next interaction with an open heart * Give them complete power for a brief moment to decide when to open up * Remember the foundation I set in early childhood * Go get the book Thank you for the advice. I will let you know how this goes.
Thanks! It's nice to read everyone's stories in the comments too. I'm glad I'm not alone. I've got a 14 year old myself and all I get when I try to communicate is some form of "ok" or "fine". I'll try the scale next time and give her the power to decide how it unfolds.
Why do i feel like a lot of these relationship's are missing a strong, confident, compassionate, listening & capable HUSBAND & Father figure within the home? Just because a man is physically present, doesn't mean he's doing his full job. I feel sorry for many of these mom's & daughter's. Most modern Public school's definitely don't help either.
My daughter, who's play softball since she was little, has just announced over the weekend she wants to quit. I don't know where it's coming from. I figured maybe she's wanting a temporary break because she's constantly on the go year round, or is it something else. My relationship with my mom was she was an unloving mother more specifically to me compared to my younger siblings so I TRY so hard not to be the same to my daughter but from time to time I struggle to be affectionate or communicative down to the nitty gritty. Like I'm afraid to fail so I tend to tip toe around things. I'll try some of these tips as I've worked all my daughter's life to break the cycle I've had with my mom.
Good for you for trying to break the cycle. I would love to help you further to have specific strategies and tools to help build your relationship and communicate in a way that will create intimacy and closeness. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session or check out my e-Courses on communication and connection on my website: barbsteinberg.com.
Omg I had to memorize this video in 10 min before seeing my 14 year old daughter. She has being difficult so I bought some flowers and told her what you said in the video and it went amazing. We are going to do more stuff together. Thank you so much for your advice 🙏
I need advice!!! I'm a mother to a very independent and beautiful 14 yr old. She can go about days sometimes weeks without talking to me, she will ask others for "favors" as in to pick her up, or feed her dog and will not come to me. I feel very hurt and I'm stuck. I dont know how to approach her without letting her know how hurt I feel and then turning into a guilt trip. I don't ground her, or yell at her. I try to give her her time and not bother her but she just keeps getting further and further away from me.
It is possible to let your daughter know that you miss her and love her and you enjoy spending time with her without giving her a guilt trip. She has a heart. She doesn’t wanna hurt you. And if she hears that you want to spend time with her and can feel that it’s coming from a place of love and missing her… she might respond in a kind loving manner back to you.
After having three boys, my daughter was my helpful, outgoing adventurous little girl and we were very close. Now once you turn 14 and social media became so popular it's hard to protect what mood she is in, if she's going to communicate today or not. And now she clarified to me that she wants to identify herself as a tomboy that still remembers he wants to be a girl. It's so hard to figure it out it makes me sad..
Do your best to try not to take her moods personally. They rarely have anything to do with us as parents but more to do what is going on in her world socially and academically. Be sure to find a time when she is not busy or engaged in something else or running out the door to sit with her and check in with her. Maybe give her a back rub. maybe hold her hand. Make sure that you spend some time just being with her. And other times you can check in by asking scale of 1 to 10 how well as your life going? Scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you with school? Scale of 1 to 10 how content are you with your friendships? Etc. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session if you want more in-depth support. barbsteinberg.com. Good luck!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW ow hi! Its amazing that you answered! Ammmm, one of my problems are that i get very angry about stupid things but it goes awful with me like I make a big argument and I feel very angry and could not handle my anger, so I think talking about how to control my self would be good. And how to not take things personally and seriously. I Aslo think if you talked about how a mother want her daughter to be or about the things that mothers hate about their teens, ( so we can see where is exactly our problem) and find a solution for these problems, especially problems about behaviors I think it will make a teen see how their mothers want them and work on themselves to be a good daughter. I was arguing alot with my mother these days and I think I'm being a bit Naughty child, I always heard that these are only problems of a teenagers and I'm the one who is taking it seriously 🤷♀️ Sorry im not good at explaining😐🙏 Anyways, thankyou for reply ❤️.
@@asmasm9372 hi, I will do my best to create a video answering your questions. Why don’t you send me your email (barb@barbsteinberg.com) and I can create a video and put it in dropbox for you to watch.
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW ow hi, ammm, don't worry I already subscribed to you, I'll get a notification whenever you do the video. And I have a small request : please don't mention me in the video. ❤️ And thank you ❤️
I like the idea of being sincere and telling your daughter you miss her and love her. But I will stop there and not continue with so many thoughts…that may not be necessary- assuming she wants privacy, that you understand about her space- bla bla blast be already too much.. Loving statement go a long way- I miss you I love you- I want to get to know you.. these words open the doors and gives her a green light. I’ve noticed I can come her room late at night when daughter is about to sleep and sit next to her or lay next to her hugging her in silence is more valuable. It open the heart and she often times start conversation about what is bugging her. In the darkness she feels safe and opens up and I love as when she was a baby. I have told myself to stay up at night to have moments like these even if I am on my last straw and exhausted and stressed.. It is the same as waking up when I was nursing or changing her diaper and being beyond exhausted- I can endure resilience and not be so tired and know that moments like these are the only ones I may have. She is too preoccupied with phone or activities or not missing a moment on her phone. A mom of a 15 year old.
Me and my 12 year old daughter are going through this right now. She will be 13 in a month and iv noticed how much she has started pushing away from me and she is my only child and I am terrified of the only child I have may not want to be around or talk to me as she gets older. I know I'm jumping the gun bc she is a preteen but its still scary and I want to be the best mom I can be for her bc she is my everything and she is and always will be my only child. So I feel like I only have one chance at this to raise a respectful and honest person who is grateful for the little things. A big issue im dealing with right now is she has started hanging out with a group of kids at school who have money. So now she doesn't want them to come over here bc she is imbarriesd when before she always had her friends here and she never wanted to leave and stay anywhere else. She would get bad anxiety if someone asked her to stay the night and would end up saying no most of the time and if she said yes she knew I would pick her up anytime of the night if she got scared for any reason. But this past weekend she stayed 2 nights at a girls house who she had never stayed before and she lives in a gated community and everyone's houses are big and beautiful and it is normal for the parents there to allow their kids to walk around all over the place when at our place I am not comfortable letting her walk around our neighborhood like they did there. I have loosened up on that recently bc she is getting older and she has friends that live in our neighborhood and I know she walks with them to their house not far from ours but thats the only time I allow her to walk in the neighborhood is if she is going down to her friends house. I know I'm a strict mom but we have not lived in this Town or City for very long so it is all new to her and me. I don't know many people here like I did in our home town. But sorry got off track. When she stayed with her friend in the gated community the mom of the friend allowed both her daughter and mine run around anywhere they wanted. This is a pretty big community with 3 lakes. Its huge actually. I would have never allowed her to do that. Then come to find out my daughters boyfriend who she just recently started dating showed up at his friends house who was dating the other little girl and all 4 of them were swimming in the lake and walking around this big community not just a neighborhood bc there are multiple neighborhoods in this community. But my daughter lied at first when I picked her up about her boyfriend being there and told me all these fabricated lies but slipped up and mentioned him being there and that she did not know he was going to be there. I said where was the mom this whole time all 4 of yall were swimming in the lake and running around and she said she was driving by to check on them all the time. For me that does not matter bc that mom should have never allowed 2 boys to be alone with 2 girls that are 12 and 13 years old. I have not yet talked to the mom about this and I'm trying to find the right words to say to her and the right things to say to my daughter. Everything this other mom allowed them to do is and never would be ok with me. I know thats why my daughter tried to lie about her boyfriend being there in the first place but when she did finally tell me everything that happened and even told me that he kissed her over 7 to 10 times i was panicing on the inside but tried to be cool about it in front of her bc I was that age at one point and I didn't want her to close up on me and never want to tell me these things again. On the other hand I ended up haven a talk with her the next day with my mom there with me so I had backup so I didn't look like I was the only one saying the things that happened at her friends house was inappropriate and not ok for the other mom to allow them to be alone together. We told her 2 girls and 2 boys should never be in a lake swimming alone at their ages as well bc My daughter also told me that the other little girl was hanging onto her boyfriend in the lake and that they were kissing. We told her that behavior is not ok for girls and boys their age that its not even appropriate for teenagers to be doing those things. She came home today telling us that a girl in her gym class who is in 7th grade had a baby last night and my daughter was going on and on about how its the gym teachers fault that she went into labor way to soon. I said wait thats what you think is wrong with this picture. I asked her if the little girl was r**** and she said no and I said for a little girl in 7th grade to have a baby at 12 years old is not a cool thing and is not ok or something to look up too. Idk if she was but when she was telling us about it she was smiling and saying its all ok bc the baby is doing ok. I said it is not ok at all that she had a baby when she is still a baby herself. I didn't call the other girl a baby obviously bc then my daughter would then take it as if I'm calling her a baby but I was definitely thinking it. I just really need advice on all of this and how to talk to her about this new best friend of hers and the mom allowing them to be alone with there boyfriends and the mom thinking its ok to not contact me or anything about any of it. I'm terrified of saying the wrong thing and my daughter along with most girls her age will only hear what they want to hear and when you tell them things they come back saying o so your never gona let me see my friend again when those words never left my mouth but to her thats all she is hearing. Help plz!!!!!
Hi Samantha. I can hear your worry. I would be happy to help you with the situation and give you appropriate responses to give your daughter. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session on my website barbsteinberg.com/contact.
She just turned 16 she’s my little angel princess we used to be tight and now she’s just one word answers very quiet when she wants to be? I don’t understand!!! Loving father
I’m a mother 24 seven 365 days a year my daughter and me are friends but I’m still momma too always been when I get off from work I’m gonna get us some Popeyes chicken before I come home every time I go out I’m bringing her something back home lol that’s how my mother was with me she’s spoiled I love my daughter and she know that.. I got her back
Hey Jess, let your mom know what she can do to help you to feel more comfortable opening up and sharing with her. Since she has tried all of these things, that tells me that she wants to have a closer relationship with you and that is a good thing even though it’s sometimes can be hard. Good luck.
I have a teenager just give them they space they will come talk to you but People tell me I shouldn’t be her friend but she tells me everything yes and I rather her talk to me then talk to the wrong person and they give her the wrong advice
I need help and advise. My two teenage daughters doesn’t listen to me anymore and will always go with their boyfriend after school and go home late. I told them I’m not comfortable with it but they still do it. It hurts me so much and my eldest daughters boyfriend parents really likes my daughter . Me and my daughter’s being so distant and not much communicating. Im a single parent and im having so much hard time
Thank you for your Important information. Thank you for sharing! God bless you! I appreciate your approach how to talk with my daughter! Blessings!!🙏🥰😇♥️
My daughter is sleeping until 3pm and going to bed lste at night. How can I help her to get up earlier and mske our day productive and fun? I just hope she is not avoiding me. How can I make it better?
I am a 16-year old that sleeps at 7 am and wakes up at 6 pm. Maybe your daughter is sad and sleeps a lot and at unusual times because she wants to avoid feeling low.
Can you make a video of how to deal with a teenage sister ? I think I am not doing well being the bigger sister, and maybe it's because I have many problems within myself that I don't want her to have
what advise do you have for 13 yr old daughter who is snarky and mean spirited ( like tesing her mom) and she says this is how she shows affection ????
I have a question how do I make my daughter understand that the way that she behaved is going to affect her when she grow up like not following rules dressing up baggies I already talked to her and I let her know so you guys can give me any
My 17 year old who we seemed to have a close relationship just suddenly left home and won't talk to me simply because I shared my disappointment over no thought for my birthday and she doesn't like my husband ( not her biological father we divorced when she was 5) We talked about everything so I thought.
It sounds like there may be more to say on her part. Maybe you can ask her if there’s more that she would like to say. Let her know that you’d like to listen to her point of view and hear how she is feeling…
I’m so happy you found the video helpful! For even more in depth tools and tips on raising teen girls, you can check out my e-Courses On my website barbsteinberg.com. 😊
Honestly I was never like this wen I was younger. She hardly texts bck and never want to spend time with me. We got divorced wen she was 2 years old. But now she's saying it's not normal to have to separate houses. After being ingored for Father's day I decided to take her phone away and just let it be.
Well, if you don’t feel like talking to her because your feelings have been hurt one too many times, then honor that feeling and take a break from each other. When you are willing to take the risk to engage in conversation, make sure that you are in a good place emotionally and mentally to have patience with her. Ask her what you can do to help your conversations go better. See if she has any tips. You might also consider purchasing my eCourse “talking to teens: tools for a happy household”. You can find that on my website barbsteinberg.com. There are loads of effective ideas in that course to help you have easier, more positive conversations.
One more little thing: What if I'm actually asking what I can do to make our conversations better, but she just gets too angry to me because she had a hard day on work and she splits all of her stress at me, and I end up shouting what have I done wrong and what do I need to do to make things better, and then slam the door of my bedroom and stay there, listening to my favourite band till my mother comes in and the only thing she says is "Music off, off to bed"? And then I try to seem angry with her but I want to tell her that I'm sorry, but I'm scared of her...? Because when she's angry at one of me or my two siblings, she shouts only at me, just because my brother is her only son and my sister is the youngest, so I'm the only one left shout to? And then- okay, I'm sorry for this, you probably have lots of better things to do than talking to a stressful eleven-year-old for her problems. I'm sorry...
@@hinnylovertilltheend6920 If she has had a hard day at work and is feeling stressed, then it is probably not a good time to engage in conversation. Give her some space, let her be alone and decompress from her day and let her know that you are available to talk when she is ready. I have many more videos on having good, connecting conversations with your girls. Keep watching! I also have two online courses: one on talking to your teens and another on connecting to your daughter. Check them out at my website at barbsteinberg.com. And good luck!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW Thank you!!! I'm also trying to avoid her when she finishes a hard day at work, but she just keeps yelling at me, and it's not like my own school is THAT easy to take that I don't have my own nerves!
My daughter is being abused in school and she doesn’t have any friends. As she says her classmates are all against her and someone is trying to be her friend they say some bad things about her so as a result she doesn’t have any friends also her sister says that they call her crazy. I don’t know what to do about her loneliness. She even doesn’t get along with her sisters too
I do the first two. Always gave. My girlfriend Sat's I'm monotonous and tgat makes my kids up set that I'm..barely asking...I'm noria. The same family drinking alcohol having a great time. I do a the cooking. But the alcohol killing me. So much family is killing me. I am serious. I THINK YOUR RIGHT BUT THATS TO EASY
I have a question. So what to you do if you have been alienated from your child for 6 years and you have just been reunited but she thinks it's all your fault as if you just didn't try to see her. She has no clue. What do I do? I talk to her but she has walls up. She's been brainwashed. She doesn't know the truth. It's so hard to just swallow it all. It's so hard.
Michael, I’m sorry for your struggle. It sounds hard. I’m not sure how old your daughter is but I would recommend taking it very slowly to not push too hard, but to let your actions match your words… Showing her that you love her and want to spend time with her and want to get to know her. Let her know that she has every right to her feelings and that you can handle whatever she feels and you would like to, hear how she feels and what she thinks about the situation. Giving her that kind of respect overtime will hopefully move the needle and improve the situation. This is a much bigger conversation …there’s more to say about it so if you feel like you’d like further support. Please feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session on my website barbsteinberg.com. Hang in there.
WHAT ARE THE ADVICE YOU GIVE ME IM TRYING TO BETTER MY RELACIONSHIP WITH .MY DAUGHTER MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN IN THE CORT SISTEM FOR 4 YEARS AND IM FIGHTING TO TRY TO GET MY DAUGHTER BACK BUT LUGERY HAS BEEN THE PROBLEM
My child is so extreme, there is nothing other than 0 or 10. All hese things don't work with her. Im not able to do enough. She needs more than just me. Ahe needs a aid to help her. Her mom is basically out of the picture. The rest of the family is out of the picture. Im the only adult left at home. She only respect a limited amout of adults outside the house and she hates anyone that challenges her.
I HAVE A TEENAGER THATS 15 YEARS OLD AND MY. DAUGHTER HAS BEEN THOUGH SEXUAL ABUSE AND MY DAUGHTER RIGHT NOW DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO ME THAT OFTEN BECAUSE RIGHT NOW MY DAUGTER IS IN A FOSTER HOME WERE LA FOSTER PARENTS GIVE IN TO.HER WHAT WOULD BE THE ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE ME
Try to find another time in the day that she is relaxed, not in the middle of something like an important TH-cam video or television show or conversation with a friend. Find a time when she is not super busy or in a rush to get out the door. Set yourself up for success by finding a window of opportunity to sit with her and hang out with her and see if she bring something up first or you can ask a general question like “how’s your life going these days? “Or “scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you in your life?” Or “if there’s anything about your life you could change, what would you change?…
I’m so sorry for your pain. I would be happy to help you heal your grief and possibly create a new, closer relationship with your daughter. Feel free to reach out on my website for a parent coaching session: barbsteinberg.com hang in there.
My 14 years old states that I am embarrassing and she does not want to be seen with me. She told me she didn’t want me to take her to her birthday party. I had her when I was 41 so the age gap can be a trigger. She also told me that she does not have anything in common with me but has a lot in common with her friends ‘ mothers. The girl is stubborn and oppositive. I welcome any advice. Regards
Sorry, Anna. Some of that is her trying to separate from you as an adolescent… Individuating and becoming her own person. I know how painful those comments can be. I have lots of tips on communicating and connecting with your daughter on my TH-cam channel … keep watching! I also have an E course for parents called how to connect with your teen daughter. You might want to check that out on my website barbsteinberg.com. I can also help with a parent coaching session. It can get better!!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW thanks Barbara. I will visit your website and get back to you. With regard to your coaching sessions can you give me the times as I live in United Kingdom. Regards Anna
@@annac9766 Anna, when you go to my website, fill out a contact form. I will email you directly with times that we can meet that work with both of our schedules. Thanks and hang in there
Any advice for a mother of a 13 year old daughter who lives in California and daughter lives with her father and his unwilling to cut the umbilical cord mother in Idaho? What I'm currently getting from my daughter is she's not speaking to me but she's speaking to me enough to tell me she's not speaking to me?
Honestly, I would invite you to consider writing a heartfelt letter sharing some of what Ms. Steinberg recommended. It worked for me. Keep writing. You will get an answer. Expect it!
So when you say: “I know that the love is there, they may not show it” can you give me an example of HOW you see that the love is there? Are you just being a hopeless optimist or are there really signs that the love is there?
I would love to hear your answer to that. If you had to really look critically can you think of the smallest moments that could be signs that she actually loves you? I firmly believe that if a teenager is shown love consistently and acceptance consistently, they feel love for their caregivers whether they show it or not. I hear it daily in my coaching practice from teen girls. I also believe that parents don’t always notice The small signs they’re teenagers give to show love or caring: the smiles, the nodding of the head, asking a personal question of their parents or any question at all, sitting in the living room and not leaving and going to their room, letting their parent hug them, not rolling their eyes and talking back when they really want to, being willing to watch a TV show with them, etc.
My 13year old daughter feels that I am only seeing the negative things she does and never the positive. I truly wish to build a healthy and loving relationship with her and I will follow your advice. Love from Kenya
Do you praise her good behavior as often as you punish her bad behavior? I learned if kids never receive praise from their parents, they will act out because they only receive attention when they are being punished. Generally speaking of course.
I'm 17 and a few months ago I told my Mom that I had no will to live and hated every aspect of my life and wasn't sure how much longer I could carry on like this. I asked her if I could see a therapist and she brushed it off and said that I should read the bible more and read self-help books. That's it. It was my most raw and vulnerable moment and she shut me down and never followed up. I honestly don't see how I could feel confident enough to approach her again because that's one of the first times I've ever opened up about my feelings and she made me feel insignificant and ignored, but at the same time, I don't know what to do with myself anymore because I feel so empty all of the time (I'm not seeking pity, I would just like some advice)
I'm sorry that happened to you.
It hurts to feel shut down by people who are supposed to be there for you.
Hopefully you have a mentor, school counselor you can talk to about your feelings
How awful for you to reach out and your shut down like that you deserve love and caring im sorry that you was treated this way you deserve unconditional love xxxx
Yeah that's the same thing that happened to me, I told my mom how I felt and she told me I watched to much movies and that the devil was telling me that , she literally called a pastor to pray for me and I don't think I could ever really talk to her about anything again , I just stopped trying to get her to listen to me
@@vardonwindett3648 Oh my God I'm sorry that happened. I wish they would actually just listen and try to come up with solutions instead of just panicking, attributing it to technology, and hoping that it'll go away if they ignore it.
@T Th Self help books do help, but very minimally. Also she wouldn't have to pay for the therapy. Our insurance (which I help pay for) covers therapy, she just doesn't think mental health is important.
Yes," how was your day today" when you build a bond with your children right from childhood they tell you everything and any thing..
Giving them a hug every now and then helps too
totally agree! 🙌
You want to build a relationship with your children because you don’t want them going to the wrong person and they give them the wrong advice and they manipulate them
I just got custody of my 14 year old niece. She has a lot of trauma. I have to remind myself to not take it personal and know that “she’s not trying to give ME a hard time… she’s HAVING a hard time”. As parents of this generation, we have to instill the values of more simpler times, meaning: focus on experiences that build self confidence like building a campfire, pitching a tent, cooking a meal, etc INSTEAD of social media!!! My niece doesn’t have a phone right now (been about a month-this is mainly to protect her from toxic family members she originally left to come live with me) and I have noticed a more consistently confident kid as a result of the limited screen time. Phones and social media are not a right. Wish more parents would know that and take the stand.
You are doing good. I'd just add that it gets harder for those with more than one child, particularly single parents. The tendency to let kids on screens is very easily done especially considering all the other stresssors one is facing in life. Relationships, money, mental health. Etc.
@@abaIdrisiyas no regular screen time till 18, 17 over here!! unhealthy overall. more bad than good. thank you for sharing, Alice. tempting to offer them the screen, but we are intentional and must not. a game here or there...yes....
Also, Thank you Barb, some gold and gems in this presentation. I am going to use the vulnerability part some. (for sure.)
Thank you so much for your advice! The second option it really worked for me... I didn’t realize that since this pandemic 😷 I let her be more on her phone to “socialize “ with her called friends on Tiktok and Snapchat ( which I’m not too happy about) but I don’t want her to get in depression so I’m ok with it till she can go out normal again.... so after watching your video and stopped at the part where you where saying that I should tell her that I miss her it made me cry and realize that that was our problem... I was doing my thing as all mom do( cleaning, cooking, working, etc) and I miss our time.... our lovely ☺️ times together before this crazy pandemic happened... so I waited for her to finish with her online school and we grabbed our two dogs and the weather was beautiful and went for a looong walk and she started talking about her friends and it was like old times... thank you so very much for your help! I was sooo frustrated lately and I couldn’t figure it out what’s going on between me and her... less phone and more Mommy and daughter time!
That makes me so happy to hear! I’m so happy that it worked for you, and I’m sure it made your daughter really happy as well!
I know im randomly asking but does anyone know of a method to log back into an instagram account?
I stupidly forgot the password. I appreciate any tricks you can give me.
@@alvinkhari3197 You Tube How Too Videos helped me☺️
* Don’t interview for pain
* They still love me 😢
* Show “genuine” interest
* Communicate what I want from our next interaction with an open heart
* Give them complete power for a brief moment to decide when to open up
* Remember the foundation I set in early childhood
* Go get the book
Thank you for the advice. I will let you know how this goes.
Thanks! It's nice to read everyone's stories in the comments too. I'm glad I'm not alone. I've got a 14 year old myself and all I get when I try to communicate is some form of "ok" or "fine". I'll try the scale next time and give her the power to decide how it unfolds.
I'm in the same boat. I feel like she loves me but doesn't like me. Either way I'm always here for her
It's the same from my 14 year old. 😕
Why do i feel like a lot of these relationship's are missing a strong, confident, compassionate, listening & capable HUSBAND & Father figure within the home? Just because a man is physically present, doesn't mean he's doing his full job. I feel sorry for many of these mom's & daughter's. Most modern Public school's definitely don't help either.
My daughter, who's play softball since she was little, has just announced over the weekend she wants to quit. I don't know where it's coming from. I figured maybe she's wanting a temporary break because she's constantly on the go year round, or is it something else. My relationship with my mom was she was an unloving mother more specifically to me compared to my younger siblings so I TRY so hard not to be the same to my daughter but from time to time I struggle to be affectionate or communicative down to the nitty gritty. Like I'm afraid to fail so I tend to tip toe around things. I'll try some of these tips as I've worked all my daughter's life to break the cycle I've had with my mom.
Good for you for trying to break the cycle. I would love to help you further to have specific strategies and tools to help build your relationship and communicate in a way that will create intimacy and closeness. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session or check out my e-Courses on communication and connection on my website: barbsteinberg.com.
thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to hear this. I love my daughter so much, and miss her. So this is amazing
Omg I had to memorize this video in 10 min before seeing my 14 year old daughter. She has being difficult so I bought some flowers and told her what you said in the video and it went amazing. We are going to do more stuff together. Thank you so much for your advice 🙏
That makes me so happy for you! I’m so glad the video was helpful for you and for your relationship with your daughter!
Thanks for this i try this now with my daughter as we speak she is almost fifteen. I have a hard time sometimes talking with her 😕 😪
I need advice!!! I'm a mother to a very independent and beautiful 14 yr old. She can go about days sometimes weeks without talking to me, she will ask others for "favors" as in to pick her up, or feed her dog and will not come to me. I feel very hurt and I'm stuck. I dont know how to approach her without letting her know how hurt I feel and then turning into a guilt trip. I don't ground her, or yell at her. I try to give her her time and not bother her but she just keeps getting further and further away from me.
It is possible to let your daughter know that you miss her and love her and you enjoy spending time with her without giving her a guilt trip. She has a heart. She doesn’t wanna hurt you. And if she hears that you want to spend time with her and can feel that it’s coming from a place of love and missing her… she might respond in a kind loving manner back to you.
After having three boys, my daughter was my helpful, outgoing adventurous little girl and we were very close. Now once you turn 14 and social media became so popular it's hard to protect what mood she is in, if she's going to communicate today or not. And now she clarified to me that she wants to identify herself as a tomboy that still remembers he wants to be a girl. It's so hard to figure it out it makes me sad..
Do your best to try not to take her moods personally. They rarely have anything to do with us as parents but more to do what is going on in her world socially and academically. Be sure to find a time when she is not busy or engaged in something else or running out the door to sit with her and check in with her. Maybe give her a back rub. maybe hold her hand. Make sure that you spend some time just being with her. And other times you can check in by asking scale of 1 to 10 how well as your life going? Scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you with school? Scale of 1 to 10 how content are you with your friendships? Etc. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session if you want more in-depth support. barbsteinberg.com. Good luck!
Can you please do a video about how to be a brave teen daughter.
Like how to be a good daughter even though I'm a teen.
Hi! I would love to do a video for you. Tell me a little bit more about what it is that you would like some guidance on. Thanks!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW ow hi! Its amazing that you answered!
Ammmm, one of my problems are that i get very angry about stupid things but it goes awful with me like I make a big argument and I feel very angry and could not handle my anger, so I think talking about how to control my self would be good. And how to not take things personally and seriously. I Aslo think if you talked about how a mother want her daughter to be or about the things that mothers hate about their teens, ( so we can see where is exactly our problem) and find a solution for these problems, especially problems about behaviors I think it will make a teen see how their mothers want them and work on themselves to be a good daughter.
I was arguing alot with my mother these days and I think I'm being a bit Naughty child, I always heard that these are only problems of a teenagers and I'm the one who is taking it seriously 🤷♀️
Sorry im not good at explaining😐🙏
Anyways, thankyou for reply ❤️.
@@asmasm9372 hi, I will do my best to create a video answering your questions. Why don’t you send me your email (barb@barbsteinberg.com) and I can create a video and put it in dropbox for you to watch.
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW ow hi, ammm, don't worry I already subscribed to you, I'll get a notification whenever you do the video. And I have a small request : please don't mention me in the video. ❤️ And thank you ❤️
This was great refresher on dealing with talking to your teen. Thank you
Kizella Austin You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!!
Did it hurt?
When you feel from heaven😘😉
I'll try it. My eleven year old has turned into Wednesday from the Adams family overnight 😮
I like the idea of being sincere and telling your daughter you miss her and love her. But I will stop there and not continue with so many thoughts…that may not be necessary- assuming she wants privacy, that you understand about her space- bla bla blast be already too much.. Loving statement go a long way- I miss you I love you- I want to get to know you.. these words open the doors and gives her a green light. I’ve noticed I can come her room late at night when daughter is about to sleep and sit next to her or lay next to her hugging her in silence is more valuable. It open the heart and she often times start conversation about what is bugging her. In the darkness she feels safe and opens up and I love as when she was a baby. I have told myself to stay up at night to have moments like these even if I am on my last straw and exhausted and stressed.. It is the same as waking up when I was nursing or changing her diaper and being beyond exhausted- I can endure resilience and not be so tired and know that moments like these are the only ones I may have. She is too preoccupied with phone or activities or not missing a moment on her phone. A mom of a 15 year old.
Me and my 12 year old daughter are going through this right now. She will be 13 in a month and iv noticed how much she has started pushing away from me and she is my only child and I am terrified of the only child I have may not want to be around or talk to me as she gets older. I know I'm jumping the gun bc she is a preteen but its still scary and I want to be the best mom I can be for her bc she is my everything and she is and always will be my only child. So I feel like I only have one chance at this to raise a respectful and honest person who is grateful for the little things. A big issue im dealing with right now is she has started hanging out with a group of kids at school who have money. So now she doesn't want them to come over here bc she is imbarriesd when before she always had her friends here and she never wanted to leave and stay anywhere else. She would get bad anxiety if someone asked her to stay the night and would end up saying no most of the time and if she said yes she knew I would pick her up anytime of the night if she got scared for any reason. But this past weekend she stayed 2 nights at a girls house who she had never stayed before and she lives in a gated community and everyone's houses are big and beautiful and it is normal for the parents there to allow their kids to walk around all over the place when at our place I am not comfortable letting her walk around our neighborhood like they did there. I have loosened up on that recently bc she is getting older and she has friends that live in our neighborhood and I know she walks with them to their house not far from ours but thats the only time I allow her to walk in the neighborhood is if she is going down to her friends house. I know I'm a strict mom but we have not lived in this Town or City for very long so it is all new to her and me. I don't know many people here like I did in our home town. But sorry got off track. When she stayed with her friend in the gated community the mom of the friend allowed both her daughter and mine run around anywhere they wanted. This is a pretty big community with 3 lakes. Its huge actually. I would have never allowed her to do that. Then come to find out my daughters boyfriend who she just recently started dating showed up at his friends house who was dating the other little girl and all 4 of them were swimming in the lake and walking around this big community not just a neighborhood bc there are multiple neighborhoods in this community. But my daughter lied at first when I picked her up about her boyfriend being there and told me all these fabricated lies but slipped up and mentioned him being there and that she did not know he was going to be there. I said where was the mom this whole time all 4 of yall were swimming in the lake and running around and she said she was driving by to check on them all the time. For me that does not matter bc that mom should have never allowed 2 boys to be alone with 2 girls that are 12 and 13 years old. I have not yet talked to the mom about this and I'm trying to find the right words to say to her and the right things to say to my daughter. Everything this other mom allowed them to do is and never would be ok with me. I know thats why my daughter tried to lie about her boyfriend being there in the first place but when she did finally tell me everything that happened and even told me that he kissed her over 7 to 10 times i was panicing on the inside but tried to be cool about it in front of her bc I was that age at one point and I didn't want her to close up on me and never want to tell me these things again. On the other hand I ended up haven a talk with her the next day with my mom there with me so I had backup so I didn't look like I was the only one saying the things that happened at her friends house was inappropriate and not ok for the other mom to allow them to be alone together. We told her 2 girls and 2 boys should never be in a lake swimming alone at their ages as well bc My daughter also told me that the other little girl was hanging onto her boyfriend in the lake and that they were kissing. We told her that behavior is not ok for girls and boys their age that its not even appropriate for teenagers to be doing those things. She came home today telling us that a girl in her gym class who is in 7th grade had a baby last night and my daughter was going on and on about how its the gym teachers fault that she went into labor way to soon. I said wait thats what you think is wrong with this picture. I asked her if the little girl was r**** and she said no and I said for a little girl in 7th grade to have a baby at 12 years old is not a cool thing and is not ok or something to look up too. Idk if she was but when she was telling us about it she was smiling and saying its all ok bc the baby is doing ok. I said it is not ok at all that she had a baby when she is still a baby herself. I didn't call the other girl a baby obviously bc then my daughter would then take it as if I'm calling her a baby but I was definitely thinking it. I just really need advice on all of this and how to talk to her about this new best friend of hers and the mom allowing them to be alone with there boyfriends and the mom thinking its ok to not contact me or anything about any of it. I'm terrified of saying the wrong thing and my daughter along with most girls her age will only hear what they want to hear and when you tell them things they come back saying o so your never gona let me see my friend again when those words never left my mouth but to her thats all she is hearing. Help plz!!!!!
Hi Samantha. I can hear your worry. I would be happy to help you with the situation and give you appropriate responses to give your daughter. Feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session on my website barbsteinberg.com/contact.
Same situation with my daughter she is 12,only child. We used to be so close. But not it's just so hard.
She just turned 16 she’s my little angel princess we used to be tight and now she’s just one word answers very quiet when she wants to be? I don’t understand!!! Loving father
I’m a mother 24 seven 365 days a year my daughter and me are friends but I’m still momma too always been when I get off from work I’m gonna get us some Popeyes chicken before I come home every time I go out I’m bringing her something back home lol that’s how my mother was with me she’s spoiled I love my daughter and she know that.. I got her back
Awesome tips! I really like the idea to ask about any funny things that happened in the day! Gold!🎉
Great! Let me know how it goes!😀
i feel awful watching this knowing my mum has tried these on me and now I'm here as well because i wanna fix it as well but its genuinely hard
Hey Jess, let your mom know what she can do to help you to feel more comfortable opening up and sharing with her. Since she has tried all of these things, that tells me that she wants to have a closer relationship with you and that is a good thing even though it’s sometimes can be hard. Good luck.
I have a teenager just give them they space they will come talk to you but People tell me I shouldn’t be her friend but she tells me everything yes and I rather her talk to me then talk to the wrong person and they give her the wrong advice
I need help and advise. My two teenage daughters doesn’t listen to me anymore and will always go with their boyfriend after school and go home late. I told them I’m not comfortable with it but they still do it. It hurts me so much and my eldest daughters boyfriend parents really likes my daughter . Me and my daughter’s being so distant and not much communicating.
Im a single parent and im having so much hard time
I would love to help. Please reach out for a parent coaching session via my website barbsteinberg.com.
Listen-and be flexible. Listen carefully-without interrupting-so that you can get the full scope of the problem
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Yes, not interrupting is key to good listening! 👂
Thank you for your Important information. Thank you for sharing! God bless you! I appreciate your approach how to talk with my daughter! Blessings!!🙏🥰😇♥️
Glad you found the video helpful, Jennifer!
Me as a teen daughter watching this....
Thank you for sharing. Really needed this.
My daughter is sleeping until 3pm and going to bed lste at night. How can I help her to get up earlier and mske our day productive and fun? I just hope she is not avoiding me. How can I make it better?
I am a 16-year old that sleeps at 7 am and wakes up at 6 pm. Maybe your daughter is sad and sleeps a lot and at unusual times because she wants to avoid feeling low.
My daughter knows she never have to leave until she’s ready I would never put her out the house 🏠 for nobody they can go but she stays
What about parental alienation? The pain is excruciating
Thank you. This helped me a lot to compare what approach (approaches) in practice i use on daily bases. )))
I’m so glad to hear that the video helped!
Can you make a video of how to deal with a teenage sister ? I think I am not doing well being the bigger sister, and maybe it's because I have many problems within myself that I don't want her to have
Help with my daughter
what advise do you have for 13 yr old daughter who is snarky and mean spirited ( like tesing her mom) and she says this is how she shows affection ????
So basically she is acting like a 13 yr old girl?
I have a question how do I make my daughter understand that the way that she behaved is going to affect her when she grow up like not following rules dressing up baggies I already talked to her and I let her know so you guys can give me any
My 17 year old who we seemed to have a close relationship just suddenly left home and won't talk to me simply because I shared my disappointment over no thought for my birthday and she doesn't like my husband ( not her biological father we divorced when she was 5) We talked about everything so I thought.
It sounds like there may be more to say on her part. Maybe you can ask her if there’s more that she would like to say. Let her know that you’d like to listen to her point of view and hear how she is feeling…
This is really helpful! SO glad to find your channel
I’m so happy you found the video helpful! For even more in depth tools and tips on raising teen girls, you can check out my e-Courses On my website barbsteinberg.com. 😊
Am here waiting to get my daughter from exra lession and shes having a bad day so i want help. So i will try these thank you
Why did this make me cry
Honestly I was never like this wen I was younger. She hardly texts bck and never want to spend time with me. We got divorced wen she was 2 years old. But now she's saying it's not normal to have to separate houses. After being ingored for Father's day I decided to take her phone away and just let it be.
Very bad
What if I don't want to talk to her because I'm her least favourite and she gets angry with me for whatever I do, even when it's not wrong?
Well, if you don’t feel like talking to her because your feelings have been hurt one too many times, then honor that feeling and take a break from each other. When you are willing to take the risk to engage in conversation, make sure that you are in a good place emotionally and mentally to have patience with her. Ask her what you can do to help your conversations go better. See if she has any tips. You might also consider purchasing my eCourse “talking to teens: tools for a happy household”. You can find that on my website barbsteinberg.com. There are loads of effective ideas in that course to help you have easier, more positive conversations.
This means really a lot to me, thank you a lot Miss!
One more little thing: What if I'm actually asking what I can do to make our conversations better, but she just gets too angry to me because she had a hard day on work and she splits all of her stress at me, and I end up shouting what have I done wrong and what do I need to do to make things better, and then slam the door of my bedroom and stay there, listening to my favourite band till my mother comes in and the only thing she says is "Music off, off to bed"? And then I try to seem angry with her but I want to tell her that I'm sorry, but I'm scared of her...? Because when she's angry at one of me or my two siblings, she shouts only at me, just because my brother is her only son and my sister is the youngest, so I'm the only one left shout to? And then- okay, I'm sorry for this, you probably have lots of better things to do than talking to a stressful eleven-year-old for her problems. I'm sorry...
@@hinnylovertilltheend6920 If she has had a hard day at work and is feeling stressed, then it is probably not a good time to engage in conversation. Give her some space, let her be alone and decompress from her day and let her know that you are available to talk when she is ready. I have many more videos on having good, connecting conversations with your girls. Keep watching! I also have two online courses: one on talking to your teens and another on connecting to your daughter. Check them out at my website at barbsteinberg.com. And good luck!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW Thank you!!! I'm also trying to avoid her when she finishes a hard day at work, but she just keeps yelling at me, and it's not like my own school is THAT easy to take that I don't have my own nerves!
Thanks gonna think about it for a bit...
I will try your advice. I hope it works.
It’s interesting how only now that I’m 18 my parents are so interested in having a friendship ....
I wish for you that you felt like they were interested before you were 18. 😌
I’m 19 and I want to know what I can do about talk to my mom and it is not been what I excepted to be.
My daughter is being abused in school and she doesn’t have any friends. As she says her classmates are all against her and someone is trying to be her friend they say some bad things about her so as a result she doesn’t have any friends also her sister says that they call her crazy. I don’t know what to do about her loneliness. She even doesn’t get along with her sisters too
I’m sorry to hear this. It’s sounds hard. I would be happy to help you. Feel free to reach out for parenting coaching on my website, barbsteinberg.com
Thank you so much. Please, share some more.
You’re welcome!
Thank you!
You’re welcome Angie!
I do the first two. Always gave. My girlfriend Sat's I'm monotonous and tgat makes my kids up set that I'm..barely asking...I'm noria. The same family drinking alcohol having a great time. I do a the cooking. But the alcohol killing me. So much family is killing me. I am serious. I THINK YOUR RIGHT BUT THATS TO EASY
Thank you, these words are so helpful!
You are welcome, Nicole! Glad you found the video helpful!
I have a question.
So what to you do if you have been alienated from your child for 6 years and you have just been reunited but she thinks it's all your fault as if you just didn't try to see her.
She has no clue. What do I do? I talk to her but she has walls up. She's been brainwashed. She doesn't know the truth. It's so hard to just swallow it all. It's so hard.
Michael, I’m sorry for your struggle. It sounds hard. I’m not sure how old your daughter is but I would recommend taking it very slowly to not push too hard, but to let your actions match your words… Showing her that you love her and want to spend time with her and want to get to know her. Let her know that she has every right to her feelings and that you can handle whatever she feels and you would like to, hear how she feels and what she thinks about the situation. Giving her that kind of respect overtime will hopefully move the needle and improve the situation. This is a much bigger conversation …there’s more to say about it so if you feel like you’d like further support. Please feel free to reach out for a parent coaching session on my website barbsteinberg.com. Hang in there.
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW that's very reaffirming to how I am approaching her. Thank you. Thank you
WHAT ARE THE ADVICE YOU GIVE ME IM TRYING TO BETTER MY RELACIONSHIP WITH .MY DAUGHTER MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN IN THE CORT SISTEM FOR 4 YEARS AND IM FIGHTING TO TRY TO GET MY DAUGHTER BACK BUT LUGERY HAS BEEN THE PROBLEM
My child is so extreme, there is nothing other than 0 or 10. All hese things don't work with her. Im not able to do enough. She needs more than just me. Ahe needs a aid to help her. Her mom is basically out of the picture. The rest of the family is out of the picture. Im the only adult left at home. She only respect a limited amout of adults outside the house and she hates anyone that challenges her.
Great tips ..thank you so much!
You are so welcome, Ed.
I HAVE A TEENAGER THATS 15 YEARS OLD AND MY. DAUGHTER HAS BEEN THOUGH SEXUAL ABUSE AND MY DAUGHTER RIGHT NOW DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO ME THAT OFTEN BECAUSE RIGHT NOW MY DAUGTER IS IN A FOSTER HOME WERE LA FOSTER PARENTS GIVE IN TO.HER WHAT WOULD BE THE ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE ME
loved this
Natalie Ozkan Glad it was helpful, Natalie!
Thank you for this ❤
You are welcome!
Very helpful
T Shaf Great! Thank you for watching!
What if you are not able to drive and pick up your kid from school??
Try to find another time in the day that she is relaxed, not in the middle of something like an important TH-cam video or television show or conversation with a friend. Find a time when she is not super busy or in a rush to get out the door. Set yourself up for success by finding a window of opportunity to sit with her and hang out with her and see if she bring something up first or you can ask a general question like “how’s your life going these days? “Or “scale of 1 to 10 how happy are you in your life?” Or “if there’s anything about your life you could change, what would you change?…
Help I feel like I never knew my daughter and I am grieving the loss
I’m so sorry for your pain. I would be happy to help you heal your grief and possibly create a new, closer relationship with your daughter. Feel free to reach out on my website for a parent coaching session: barbsteinberg.com hang in there.
Super helpful thank you
Gals to hear it, Juan!
My 17 years daughter she so angry never lissen to as allways playing game iam so sad so can you give me any advice
My 14 years old states that I am embarrassing and she does not want to be seen with me. She told me she didn’t want me to take her to her birthday party. I had her when I was 41 so the age gap can be a trigger. She also told me that she does not have anything in common with me but has a lot in common with her friends ‘ mothers. The girl is stubborn and oppositive. I welcome any advice. Regards
Sorry, Anna. Some of that is her trying to separate from you as an adolescent… Individuating and becoming her own person. I know how painful those comments can be. I have lots of tips on communicating and connecting with your daughter on my TH-cam channel … keep watching! I also have an E course for parents called how to connect with your teen daughter. You might want to check that out on my website barbsteinberg.com. I can also help with a parent coaching session. It can get better!!
@@BarbSteinbergLMSW thanks Barbara. I will visit your website and get back to you. With regard to your coaching sessions can you give me the times as I live in United Kingdom. Regards Anna
@@annac9766 Anna, when you go to my website, fill out a contact form. I will email you directly with times that we can meet that work with both of our schedules. Thanks and hang in there
Any advice for a mother of a 13 year old daughter who lives in California and daughter lives with her father and his unwilling to cut the umbilical cord mother in Idaho? What I'm currently getting from my daughter is she's not speaking to me but she's speaking to me enough to tell me she's not speaking to me?
Honestly, I would invite you to consider writing a heartfelt letter sharing some of what Ms. Steinberg recommended. It worked for me. Keep writing. You will get an answer. Expect it!
So when you say: “I know that the love is there, they may not show it” can you give me an example of HOW you see that the love is there? Are you just being a hopeless optimist or are there really signs that the love is there?
I would love to hear your answer to that. If you had to really look critically can you think of the smallest moments that could be signs that she actually loves you? I firmly believe that if a teenager is shown love consistently and acceptance consistently, they feel love for their caregivers whether they show it or not. I hear it daily in my coaching practice from teen girls. I also believe that parents don’t always notice The small signs they’re teenagers give to show love or caring: the smiles, the nodding of the head, asking a personal question of their parents or any question at all, sitting in the living room and not leaving and going to their room, letting their parent hug them, not rolling their eyes and talking back when they really want to, being willing to watch a TV show with them, etc.
Am also new to your channel 😊
Thanx : )
You’re welcome!
I need help!!!!!
Give advice for non robots
Are you in Illinois? I wish I can see you.
I’m in Texas and offer parent coaching over Zoom.