My experience turning 30 years old (feeling behind)
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- I recently turned 30 years old with no career, no relationship, and no financial stability... here is my story.
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You're so talented and good at film making. I'm 31 and I feel you, same position and I struggle with health issues.
Thank you! Let's both keep striving and not being too hard on ourselves ❤️
Right? Her footage is so soothing and beautiful...
I turned 30 last year and just turned 31 a few days ago. I felt very similarly when I turned 30, and my entire life flipped and accelerated like crazy from about April of last year to where it currently is. This past year alone has felt like 10 years of growth all compacted down into 1 year and it's been a rollercoaster but it's been incredible.
The most powerful thing we have is our own story. You not only have a powerful story, but you are great at communicating it. Just think of how much more powerful it will be if you keep going :)
I’m a few months out from 21 and this brought me a lot of comfort. Discovered your videos recently and loving your storytelling, honestly, and great cinematography! Keep on doing you!!
Timely video, thanks for sharing. Felt behind in my thirties and unsure if I would get the career, financial stability, or vibrant social life/relationships I envisioned. Felt like I reached an invisible wall in life. That message of embracing the present moment and realizing your past brought you to where you stand today resonates.
Happy birthday!
I'm 27 and going through the same thing. Your videos look very professional and high quality. Good luck for your 30s.
Oh damn. I feel you. I'm 30 too and struggling a lot. It's hard. Stay strong 😊
Stay strong too ❤️
Belated Happy Birthday Kirsten! I hope your next 10 years see all your dreams come true!
Thank you so much!!
28 is here and feeling the same way😅 thank you for your content! You helped so so much and still helping while i'm struggling through this life❤❤❤ I hope someday we all find our place in this world. Hug you very very tight my soul sister❤
I am so glad to hear it is helpful. Hugs to you as well and I wish you the best!! ❤️❤️❤️
This and your channel need way more views! Glad I found this video just before my 30th
I feel that my story is simmilar to yours, and after all my struggles I've came to some conclusions, which I would like to share. I think that it could be something hard to wrap head around, and I don't know if I can really explain that in a clear way, but I'll try. It would be probably really long though. I'm currently 25, and I'm one of those guys that whole internet call loosers - living with parents, I was out of job for so long, I failed one business, never had girlfriend, incel, no muscles whatsoever bla bla bla so on and so forth. The other thing was that I was constantly rejected by other people, I don't mean like romantic rejection, but for example in school I was that unpopular person, I had couple of friends, but most people were either laughing at me or just rejecting. In high school it was better, but still everyone was hanging out, but I never did that, because nobody invited me. And really early in life I realise that I don't fit in this society at all. Later on I saw that eveyone around have job, girlfriend or even getting married, building house whatever. But I wasn't even close to that. So as you may imagine I felt falling behind in life, and it wasn't good for my mental health either. I developed a mental disease, and actually it was so bad that I started taking medication. But at the lowest point, when I was feeling worst in my life (because of that disease) I realised some things. Basicly I realised that all of that bullshit that I was affected by it's just some societal rules. I heard a track Art of Fighters - Keep on rocking (music generally was big part of everything that happend to be honest), and there's a line "everything around us we call life is made up by people that are no smarter than you". And what I realised that such a thing that you schould get married, have enormous amount of money in your 20's is just a rule made up not by a God, just people not smarter than me. That helped, but the most helpful thing for me was finding Hardcore music, and Gabber subculture. I watched one documentary about Gabbers, and next day I've become one. And if I could tell about that in couple of words it's just extreme unity. No matter who you are how you look nobody would reject you there. The other thing was that this subculture was always a little bit we against society, so I found a place where nobody would reject me, and if they don't want me in their society, I don't give a fuck, I have my own place. And after that I broke free from any bullshit that I was affected by previously, because I don't be giving a fuck about societal opinion, when I don't even belong there. But next part is more important I guess. When I was really down (maybe it would sound strange) that some day I'm gonna die. And in one moment everything what modern society promotes lost any sense for me. I actually struggled for couple of weeks because I didn't see any purpose in life, seemed so meaningless, like the biggest scam ever. I had also thoughts that I would prefer not to born at all, and that I feel like in prison here, because I didn't ask anyone to be here, but I am and I can't escape that. But then I realised that I like so much making this music, listening to that, dancing, going to the party, that it's litteraly a reason why I'm waking up every day, because it's my true passion. I realised that it's not about being "succesful" ie. in terms of music getting streams, but rather just making it makes me fully satisfied, just a process of doing that, and I don't need any money, streams etc to do that. I mean "success" not success, because this "success" in light of modern society is probably failure, because it's just about material things. For example what I quickly realised that the most popular tracks, are most often the shitiest and most empty, and you couldn't even call it art. It's just some empty piece of music, made without any craetvity, any passion, just to make streams and money, but guess what, most of the people on this planet likes such a music. It's just small example, but it scales for everything about society. What I realised the same as most people likes the most shitty music, the most people operate on extremly shity values. What is see the most important thing in this society is sex (not love, just sex), money, fame, power, likes and followers on social media. That's it. It does feel really empty. So if this society is made up on such weak foundation, most of the things that they are telling you is probably bullshit (and from what I see it is like this in 90% of cases), so you don't need to follow that and care about opinion of that people. And what I've learned is that you don't need to worry too much about material things because all of that would be lost, but everything non material would stay witin you forever. There are many things in life like this for example making art. And I do really believe that you can't be fall behind in life. What I see life it's not about getting whats socially apreciated in a specific age, but rather like finding your passion and start doing what you love. The other thing is to try to break free from inherently human nature - try to became a better person. For example what I've managed somehow to break free from jealusy, it's wierd but I feel like I just don't feel it any more, and that's real success not that I would buy myself a car. The other thing what happend during my mental dissease is that I've became religious for real. I was going to the curch my whole life but to be honest now I see that I wasn't religious at all back then, and then I was thinking that there's one true religion, but thats seems really naive now for me. When I realised that I'm gonna die, I thought that theres no way that life isn't ethernal. If so, live would be 200% meaningless and the biggest scam ever. I would prefer not to born then. But if life is ethernal, you have infinite amount of time so there's no way to be behind if you have eternity to catch up. Maybe it would sound wierd, but to be honest from that video, although maybe it seems like, but I feel like you are much beyond most of the society, definetly not falling behind. Sorry for so long comment, I know that most of that things may seem hard to understand, but I hope that it will help you some way. KEEP ON ROCKING!
You're an amazing person, Kirsten!
I genuinely cant relate to someone more. Everything you share I feel on a deep level. I too, will be 30 in a matter of months. And the shame and regret of waiting my 20s has been heavy on my mind this year. I just thought I would tell you that you are not alone. In fact, I think there is more people like us than either of us realize. You turned the page on a new chapter in a book, and the pen is in your hand. I hope we both write something beautiful. Take care.
Turning 27 in less than two months and let me tell you I was feeling that I’m way behind but watching your videos makes me realise that I’m not alone ❤😊
Happy birthday.
The person that texted you sounds like a wonderful friend!!
Thank you! ❤ And yes I'm very blessed to have them as a friend!
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Hi Kirsten :) your videos are just awesome. I just turned 30 in late February, felt the absolute exact same way. Your videos have been extremely helpful and mentally comforting since I discovered your channel. You are not alone! Thanks again for all you create, I can't communicate just how helpful your videos are to me, and I'm sure to many others :) keep on keepin' on!
You know what make me feeling behind? Watching this video I feeling behind by your amazing skill of editing and ideas on how make a good video.. I'm 41 and still can't have skill like yours
Woman... you are an ARTIST!!! And SO relatable... I literally feel like we're wearing the same shoes. Walking the same path. I just turned 40. You don't want to feel this way 10 years from now, trust me. But it sounds like we're both trying to solve it the same way, with art (TH-cam). Bless our respective journey's. I woke up on my 40th birthday in the Walmart parking lot in OroValley in Tuscon, on my first ever epic car camping trip. I had a full day of Doordashing when I'd rather be doing something to celebrate, but the important part was I was finally OUT THERE DOING THE DAMN THING! And that settled my heart in a way I can't describe. It's OK. Just keep going! This is your decade! Let's DO THIS! ❤❤❤
Ps, I ABSOLUTELY subscribed and HIT THE BELL! and that's really rare for me. I NEED you to keep making videos... I love your cinematic style and it provides a great example of how I want some of my videos to be once I get all my shit together. Lol (which I should have by now, coming from a professional photography background, but there's reasons for my cell phone start.) You're inspiring me to see the worth in picking up my Canon again.
You’re beautiful and talented. I needed to see this today. Thank you
i love your videos thank you for being so transparent i feel so identified i watched your 27 y.o video im 27 and i feel really lost i don't know noone or nobody and i dont have any drive to do anything because i've tried and failed so much i feel like i have no talent and im just a ghost that watches as life passes by gratfully for other people but not for me.
i was surprised when i saw your video i din't think much more people thought the same way as i do, thank you for taking the time to make these videos it really means a lot to someone like me.
To my 30 year old self,
I'm 26 and counting. Time seems to be flowing fast now. To make good decisions we should have experience. To get experience, we should fail. So I think it is a necessary step for life. Life is not always fair. So let's give our best try. I hope you are in a good position.
I'm 35, And Yes Time Is Flying By Fast. Use Your Time Wisely. 💯
Ive been subscribed for some months and with every new video released I think about commenting here how grateful I am that you do this kind of content...I never comment, but Ill press enter this time. Stay focused and positive, 😊
I'm so glad you did comment! Thank you so much for your kindness ❤️❤️
Use your 30's as an opportunity for growth and maturity. 💯
I just turned 20 today, I already feel behind in life, dealing with anxiety and depression. Hope we can all make it out of it.
much love to you kirsten.
Bro same I mean what's happening in this world... Looking too far from now. I mean like 45 /50 above we are compared to young... I mean if u are below 50 .. I would se young.. But I'm myself 21 but feeling tired and failed.. I think it's our mindset... We need to change it bro
@@Soso87652 You are right . I think it might be because of social media. we feel pressured to be successful at a young age
I am 27 turning 28 very soon I also don't want to follow the tradition that in our early 20s I need to have it all
Happy Birthday! What can I say, my 30th is way farther behind me than I would like to. Feels like it was yesterday. Only just few years ago I stopped worrying about most of the things that bothered me for the majority of my life. My advice - don't overthink. Set goal, go for it. Make use of every day, no matter if you make it or not. Time can be great adversary but also a great ally, if you know how to synchronize your life with it. Accept that life is tough with some soft breaks. Maybe I am speaking from a privileged position but there will always be someone who has it better than me and those who has it worse. You can compare yourself to others but remember that you're comparing only what's visible on the outside. Being sad and frustrated is also a part of life, but it's not something that we should focus on. The same way we should not focus only on being happy or having pleasures. I believe that balance is one of if not the most important key to a fulfilling and true life (a bit of a casual keyboard philosophy for you) ;)
I’m currently 28 and only got my shit together when I was 25. I can personally relate to where you are. I just simply don’t have anything figured out even if I turn 30. Also Happy 30th Birthday!
I'm really glad things are going better for you! I suppose none of us will have it completely figured out at any age. But we can strive to grow and do our best given our limitations and circumstances!
And thank you 😊
Kirsten, it’s so true; you HAVE come Such a long way in the last few years. You were lovely when I first met you, and you are so much more awesome and experienced and talented and creative a woman than you were then! I love you, and I want you to know (as someone who is starting to think about what it will be like to be 40) that the best is yet to come! Cling to Jesus, and give Him the wheel:) He knows exactly where you need to go❤
Hugs!
Thank you, you're the best! ❤️ I love you too!
Your videos are just 😍😍😍 so amazing!
Thank you so much!
Great Edit Kirsten.... Happy Birthday
Thank you! 😊
I’m 53, have dealt with many of the doubts that you have, and I find you both an inspiration and someone to emulate. You got this 🙂
I'm 27 and feel like this (because I am a bit)
We might be behind where we wanted to be, but that doesn't mean it's too late to make positive changes. Wishing you the best❤
30 is still young. I wish I were still 30. Im 38. I do have a career, good income, but I still live with a parent. I still feel lost. Toronto canada is simply unaffordable. I am however happy being single. But I'm lost in a sense where I want my own life and not live with my father who depends on me for companionship and housing. He is afraid of being alone too. You're such a talented film maker. I hope your success on youtube comes
You always captivate me with your videos Kirsten! And a very Happy Belated Birthday to you! Your friend is right - we often have a sense of not making big enough progress because we keep comparing ourselves to others. It does not make any sense as life might be preparing you by making sure that you are growing your roots first - it knows you will need it because you are meant to do some great things in your life. When you focus only on what is above the roots, you might get a completely wrong impression. It's OK - life is not a competition. If needed - keep growing your roots. One day you will shoot up so much so quickly that you will overshadow all the people you were comparing yourself to! Have a wonderful 30-ies and beyond!
Beautifully put, thank you so much for your kindness and wisdom ❤️
Hey Kirsten, following your channel for some time now. I stumbled upon your channel from some focus related video I guess. Following since then. I just want to say that you're super talented. Love your channel. It's a shame it hasn't blown yet, considering how much effort you put in content and editing.
Wishing you all the best on entering thirties, will be joining that club next year. You are the reason people like us stay motivated. Thanks to your videos. Love, from India. ❤
Thank you for the kind words! ❤
Thank you 🙏🏻
I'm just a few years younger than you and I'm feeling the weight of comparison and being "behind" in life. I'm trying to process all of this with my therapist, and you are right - it matters if you yourself make progress. Your videos are always a gentle nudge to keep going, so thank you for creating and showing us your world ❤ And happy 30🎉
Your videos are refreshingly honest and beautiful!!!
I wanted the video to be more detailed and specific. What specifically do you envision as success? Why have you not found a relationship? Do you have high standards or feel that you should be a provider?
Wish you a very happy birthday ❤😊😊
Thanks!!
Im 29, and Im making 30 this year! Excited to see what the future holds! BTW, Happy Birthday!!
Happy Birthday Kristen. I'll be turning 30 in a couple months and I'm pretty close to the same place as you. I'm sure financial stability and a career is coming your way with the all artistic talents you display on this channel. You're a superstar already in my eyes. Abide in faith, good things are coming.
Thank you ❤❤
Im turning 30 in 4 months. It’s interesting that, while you felt deep sadness turning 30, I am met with a lot of anger. Looking back, I can see that my 20s were jeopardised by my childhood traumas, unsupportive parents, financial difficulties and mental health issues. I know that I could have done much better with my life but I was sabotaged. And it sucks…. I would sell my soul to be 20 again and do everything differently.
such a heartwarming video, thank you. happy belated birthday!
I turned 27 in June this year. I haven't been excited abt celebrating birthdays for a while now but this birthday was the one that actually made me really sad and kinda hate myself. As to how behind I am in life compared to my friends. Doing a job that i really dont enjoy. Wanting to learn certain skills and dreaming of making a career out of it but deep down knowing my parents wouldn't support it dismissing it cuz its a "bad friggin idea." Sometimes I just want the earth to swallow me whole. I dunno for how long i m gonna be in this mental rut or if i m even gonna make it out. I really am feeling lost man.
I love this so much! You're amazing at 30, and God is still at work in you, helping you become all that He created you to be. Happy belated birthday! (Mom was on my account and she wrote this, but I am in complete accord. Thank you for sharing the gift that you are ❤)
Thank you ❤️
Love you Kirsten, these videos just keep getting better and better! You're vulnerability and tenacity in making these videos is so admirable. Love you lots and happy belated your big bro.
Thanks ❤❤
Wow, this is excellent! It's so tempting to measure our success and progress by comparing ourselves to others, but that's not how life works. You've come such a long way, and you're going to amazing places. I'm grateful to witness some of that journey! ❤
Thank you. Yes, it is easy to compare, but we have to resist that urge!
It took me 10 years after returning home living with my parents to figure how to live peacefully with no friends, no social life... I just start learning about myself by watching a lot of youtube videos and do experiments. As long as I understand myself, I feel happy and less lonely.
I am broken man, i have no future, but here i found peace for almost 8 minutes. Thank you Kirsten Quist, i feel you and i love you ❤
I am so glad to have brought a little peace. And while you may be broken, there is still healing available. Be kind to yourself and have hope... you are deeply loved ❤️
Thanks for sharing your story! Such beautiful editing! We need to change but also forgive ourselves for the past and the mistakes we've made. Maybe you aren't really behind but your 20's have shaped you into the woman that you need to be to take on your 30's. ❤❤❤
Yes! Thank you!
This was beautiful! You are so talented in storytelling! Thanks for this video and reminding me that each journey is unique, success looks different for each of us, and comparison is not helpful. 🙌
Thank you ❤️
Happy birthday:) I hope you find happy way in your live... gl :) I dont have good time too...
I wish you the best Kirsten. 😊
I couldnt help but to think of the animated Disney movie 'Inside Out" after watching your video. 😆 Trust me i can relate with everything you're feeling, being 49 myself and not even close to the basic expectations of: homeownership, meaningful career, debt free, etc... so when you see me laughing, i'm not laughing at you, i'm laughing at us ! 🤣😂 Because we look like "sadness" from that movie.🤣😂🤣 Oh my Lord. That's sooo funny! 😂 You helped me today! 😂🤣 Much Blessings to you sis! ❤️ And happy Belated! 🥳
Hi Kirsten.
Comparing ourselves all the time to others sucks a lot of energy; there will be always people above or below us, in different aspects. We all have different background, talents, challenges and so forth; I find it's better to focus on the aspects that we can change in our lives, all else just adds noise and is ultimately irrelevant.
Also, life is too short to be chasing what society or others consider successful; find what success is for you and go for it. I hope your 30's are more enjoyable than your 20's. Cheers!
Happy b-lated birthday. Your video was nicely done. The cinematography was excellent. You are young and exceptionally talented. You have nothing to lose but a lot to gain. Stop thinking that you've gained nothing and stop looking down on yourself. Look forward. Your future is still ahead of you. Reach out your hand and grab whatever is out there, in front of you. Dare to dream.... you are alive and breathing; life is still stirring about. Walk into it. You are beautiful. Single. Attractive and talented. Make use of your mind and don't limit yourself with numbers,such at age, for example. It's a quick reminder for you to act properly in a productive way to put joy into your spirit to better your mind and reshape your future. Only this time put all your heart into it. Happy birthday. Remember, someone out here loves you and wants you to succeed. In your life; with your life.
Life is exciting when God is with you
Lots of love to u kristen❤ ur video quality and editing are so good🎉wishing u the happiest birthday and the best days are coming dear😊
Thank you ❤️
Hey, just came across your channel. You have some good talent. I am not 30 yet but what a perspective, was feeling down about something i did and this video came up.
A little advice i got from someone - "persue opportunity and not passion."
I'll follow your channel closely, rooting for you.
- From a stranger, I love you.
hoping for some brighters 30s for you, good luck with everything you're planning!
A much more productive 30th than I had; pretty sure I smashed a half bottle of brandy.
Keep up the positive outlook, I like to look at it as managing expectations. Take it from someone who’s been ‘thirtying’ for a bit now!
Managing expectations is a good way to put it! And managing the inner critic too. Thanks for your support ❤️
where the same i feel sad when turning at 30 because i miss being young like 20s 😢
Stay positive
Just watched your 27 years old video. Now seeing you at 30 looking so much older. You really need to CUT THE STRESS OUT before trying to improve anything.
I love u🥀🥀
U are a ture fighter
Queen,,🥺🥺
Hello, Kirsten. I hope you are well. I hope you are doing good. I hope there is a smile on your lovely face. I hope you are still making videos/Content. I hope we (mainly, I) get to see a video of you again, that you uploaded. I hope to see you smiling and having fun on (if you're going to) the next video you create. I hope to one day get to actually write you on a private DM or email. I hope you get creative again as far as uploading another Content. I hope... I hope... I hope. Jai.
You come across such as such likeable person.
Happy birthday...
Thank you!
I feel the same way😢
Well you're certainly aging beautifully Kristen.
Hey people Greetings all. Enjoy your life .
PLEASE don't marry the first guy you date just because you feel pressured n you feel old. If you marry the WRONG guy then u may end up financially drained, used, abused blah blah blah.
It's all about frequency vibration and energy- you must become who you want to attract in your life.
Hello Kirsten 😃
In my 20s i discovered time travel, astral projected, married my soulmate had children I am greatful. I could of made better choices but thing is i am alright, have forgive myself, and others. After the vac I discovered I have abilities and I can remote view.
WE MISS u
no need for degree, unless it leads you straight to your job or career path...
❤
you did great 😘😘
I am 30. I am happy in my life. I have everything I want now. Except a partner that is what i regret in my 20s. I only have two goals left is to find my ideal partner and get too 1,000,000 subscribers. If you want to chat let me know. You probably ignore this message. ❤😅😊
Have a nice weekend
In Vietnam age is counted from the pregnancy on so this would have been your 31st birthday - it's all relative :-) I like your videos!
Happy birthday! May the next 30 years be far greater than you can ever imagine and may every moment spent living them inspire you to love your uniqueness more and more!
In the end when you said "I hope every day in my 30s is like this" I felt that. I've ever wished more happiness upon someone I don't even know.
Thank you ❤️ 😊
Wow this like qabbalah...can you mentor me?
You need to have challenges
It's a shame how the west has failed so many young men and women.
You should have already formed a family by this age. If you had a kid at lets say 21, your kid would have been 9 by now almost done with elementary school. It's not too late for you but it's getting close to the point of no return. Best of luck.
Find a neighbour mentee or neighbor mentor
Quran.
Get a husband, have kids, dont divorce. Youll be ok
What happened to this channel? I thought you'd make more videos after winning that competition. When I voted for you I didn't think you'd take the money and disappear...