The mistakes: 1. Trying to create deep connection over text 2. Always initiating conversation 3. Trying to be funny always 4. Grammar and spelling mistakes 5. Texting again when not replied 6. Discussing serious issues 7. Sharing intimate pictures 8. Texting late every night when people are gonna unwind 9. Always starting with a question
Well, according to 93% of men, women are wronge in what we say or do anyway so way not be who we are and if men don't like it we can't just be single or date each other🤪
Thank you for posting this, although I feel like I'm done texting men if they react this way. It seems like a woman can't be authentic around men. It turns me off, you know? If I have to wait too long for him to read my message, I don't think he is interested. Women work as well, we get tired as well, introverted women stay in their caves as well. But I will always respond to someone I care about. I expect the same thing. We can all respond and text we are very tired and will interact later. If it feels too hard, it means it's time to look for someone who can communicate more clearly. I'm disappointed.
@@lunatantri Basic respect and communication should not be a sex feature, but a human feature. I like my personal space a lot but I can express that. It's women who justify men's crappy behaviour so maybe that's what we should stop doing.
I'm a man and I always respond right away to people I care about. Also authenticity is extremely attractive. If it turns someone off, it means they're not compatible with you and you should move on.
Yea I'm like well stuff it then I won't communicate at all. And it did come across like we need to supress every instinct we have so it was like sounds too hard.
Short message ladies: isn't it better when he calls or texts you? Don't chase, beg, be needy or desparate. You devalue yourself, and he will treat you accordingly.
@@nahtschMaybe so, but pursuing men rarely works out for anything longer than a brief window of time. They are wired to be repelled by females pursuing them the same way that women are wired to be repelled by men who refuse to protect them. Hope it works out for you nonetheless
@@khaiabigail5508 Exactly. I stopped talking to that guy and recently got in a relationship with someone who made it clear that he have genuine feelings for me.
I understood that she wants to wait in silence. My excuse is I want her to be a part of my daily life already because I never take Sun in the morning for granted. (I appreciate Sun every single day.) But, I can wait in silence for her. Will do. I think she needs to be focused on her life now. And I must respect that for her. Many thanks to all.
All men and boys out there… Never ask a woman or girl for nude pictures because that indicates that I’m not the first one you’re asking (no matter what you say)
I agree to all, except number 6. I am a person with slow mind. Whenever I try to discuss something serious orally, the other person misunderstands me, changes the subject or dismisses me altogether. So writing a long text is my only chance to explain myself and make myself clear.
I am an introvert. I am guilty of 1, 6. But yes I do agree with you. But is easier for me to collect my thoughts first. In real life, in the moment I never sound as well spoken or eloquent as I do in writing. I need to work on that.
I used to text long paragraphs lol now I just keep it short and simple like a man haha when you do the same thing back to them you will see the same reaction you had when they treat you the same way. I learned to treat a man how he treats me. If he goes on days without a reply he better not expect me to reply right away when he finally gets back to me. If he don't reply in a reasonable amount of time and just start replying back like nothing happened and have no reasonable explaination then he is getting ignored too.
That’s a practical approach. Mirroring communication styles can be a good way to set boundaries and ensure you’re treated with the same respect you offer. It’s fair to expect consistency and timely responses from others if that’s what you’re giving in return.
Okay, I'm glad I just have to reduce my smiling emojis. But here's texting habits from men that annoy me: 1 - Trying to have naughty convos without having asked your number previously or knowing you better. 2 - Not wanting to stop the convo even if it's late and you say you want to sleep. 3 - Being very enthusiastic one day and cold as ice the next one. 4 - Posting pics of him with other girls when there's no need. 5 - And as @rebeccawhite9395 said, ending suddenly the conversation without saying good night or I have to go now (Terrible, bloody terrible. And rude. Please, Ismael "educate" those men on this one.)
oh so true, and naughty convos before you've even met them, i want to have adult/open factual discussions about all topics including sex because it seems like an adult thing to do to communicate and make sure all are on the same page and comfortable, but they seem to think it's an invite, so I don't know what to do there.
This was interesting and valuable! Thank you. Here's two complaints I have for men texting women: 1. I don't like it if a man texts me using AI. I don't want to talk to a bot. I can't get to know him and feel that his text doesn't mean anything to me because he's not giving me his feelings or reponses if he has to has to use a bot. I can always tell. 2. Grammar means a lot to me. If I haven't met a man yet, then his texts show me if we are going to be compatable or are too different. I'm not saying I would look down on him, it's just that I'm a teacher and mistakes are fine but not when his grammar is always wrong.
Text by AI ! Is this really a thing? I'm glad I'm in a long-term relationship. I never want to be out there again. So many horror stories. So what if he has no money. He's a good man, and this appears to be a rare thing these days. Probably always has been. I thought my ex husband was a good man, until he left me after 21 years for a younger model.
These are some annoying texting habits i found in men To be always available for texting To ask for phone number even when its quite early to do so To show themselves desperate or much interested since the beginning of the conversation Thanks for this video ❤
Texting mistake 9: I was always told it's good manners to check on someone how they are doing and how their day was (when you are talking almost every day). If it's a mistake, then what's the right way around it?
I have three sons, and I raised them to NEVER be rude, "superior," or demanding to a girl!! There's absolutely no excuse! Thankfully, they are amazingly kind, respectful, and caring. I say it's because they were raised by their divorced single mother since before any of them were old enough for kindergarten (who's had 35 serious surgeries and counting). I taught them to have mutual respect, not her submission!
It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve instilled those values in your sons. Teaching mutual respect is so important, and it sounds like they’re turning out to be wonderful individuals. Your strength as a single mother is truly commendable.
@SaveTheMessenger Thank you so much! ❤️ I'm so happy to have 3 sons. I'm an only child and said, from the time I understood reproduction & women carrying babies, that I wanted FIVE sons! I was always a Daddy's Girl (my beloved Daddy passed away 19 years ago; I miss him every single day 😢). I had a miscarriage before my first son, and my third son had a twin that I miscarried, so I say that I DO have my 5 sons I wished for, just two are in Heaven with their Grandpa. 😢💙🙏🕊❤️ Thank you again for your kind message! ❤️
I love hearing a male speak with such insightfulness and has obviously thought deeply about this subject. Being a sigma woman, i appreciate any mind that considers topics so thoughtfully and gives respect to it. I agree with all you've shared on this video. Thank you for taking the time to create your content, i appreciate hearing a man's perspective treated with such care. 😊
I’m so glad I’ve detached from this texting conversation business. I no longer consider it to be effective communication. I don’t text like that anymore. In the other hand long story short, I recently blocked 🚫 a guy who kept texting me often, late and wanted deep connection when I’d already told him I’m not interested in that. I muted his texts but noticed them in my WhatsApp. It was so annoying. I decided to put an end to it
This really helped me. I was raised when things were just beginning to change. It took me a while to get used to calling boys when I was a teenager. But then I developed the habit of getting too clingy. I appreciate these guidelines so I can restrain myself.
As usual I appreciate and welcome your insight . Texts have their place for facilitating quick messages as a method of communication and that is it . Anything that requires serious and consistent back and forth dialogue should be done by the phone or in person so there is no miscommunication of what is being said . Texts cannot portray tone and emotion and therefore lends to a lot of assumptions being made which are not always good and creates misunderstandings.
I got really overdosed with Gifs lately from a guy. Cat gifs do amuse me, but I wasn’t getting much else, tho the aim was to make me laugh which wasn’t a bad motive. So I just sent very short answers or none at all and eventually he asked if I was ok and got very worried.so that got a swift reassurance from me saying “yes’m ok , too many gifs” and he made the effort to call and talk. He genuinely does struggle with spelling, but now makes much more effort to send a proper message. My advice is, if in doubt don’t text at all, and absolutely not to get his attention or check up on him. It looks desperate so a turn off. He will get in touch you when he’s ready, and if he doesn’t, ignore him and get busy with other things in life which make you a more diverse and interesting person. Always good to be just a little elusive without being rude or cold. A fine line sometimes.
5:59 and that's the reason why he broke up with me ... For not sending those , not pleasing him, for not obeying his orders... But i know my self respect for which i never gonna do that! Ismael I really wanna Know , what do you think about the guys who are P0rn Addicted and in a Relationship? Are they ever even loyal to anyone, do they even have any genuine feeling? Watching this Video made me really realize some of my mistakes. And now never gonna Happen. But sometimes i still miss him 😞 Really hate to say this ....
Do you consider watching P*rn as cheating on you? I can tell you most guys don't feel that way. But if it bothers you, then you could find someone who doesn't watch it.
This video teaches me alot,i text aman the whole week just gives me blueticks,i cry alot,now i know no need of begging aman,if he text me i will text him back,and if he gives me silent treatment i will do the same,,thank you so much,wooo,i send messages double,double saying hurtful words why he ignore me,but now i know how to behave good so that no one will take me for granted,,❤
The spelling and abbreviations drive me nuts if it’s consistent. Ur, K, etc And if someone doesn’t know the difference between your, you’re, they’re, etc 🤨
Absolutely!! Confident women do what the hell she wants!!😅 thinking too much.. shall i write or what to write just reveal fear of rejection and cut your authenticity 😢 energy is important and man can feel it 😁 so.. be yourself, be vulnerable, do what you love and if the man doesn’t recognise you, then he is not your type or he is not confident and cant be attracted by a confident women 🤨
So basically, what we must keep in mind is - Less is more. Just like having too much stuff in our homes. We need to keep open space in order to not feel burdened and to keep space for new things to enter. I've just realized this can apply to communication with others. I'm an introvert and don't even like making phone calls. However, this has resulted in me texting too often and writing too much. Thanks for this reminder.
Agree! All the videos for men instruct them on how to get women interested or secure a second date, but fail to even address women’s desires or emotional needs. And those that purport to say what it is women want are usually just assuming all women want material things
Y'all need to look harder. There are tons of videos for men on what women want. There are men who care! I think these comments show a bit of prejudice here instead of actual research before commenting. Try to avoid thinking men don't care. If you think that way that is how they will show up. There are tons of caring loving good men out there that want to give a woman everything she wants! Trust! ❤
I'm always so happy and cheerful when I see the sun in the morning, or a beautiful sunset in the evening❤😊I always say the words of prayer for the sun! Saint-Petersburg, Russia.
Thanks. I learned some valuable things just now from your audio. I realize that women like questions better than men such as "how was your day?". Men DO like their cave time for sure, especially late at night, they are unwinding. I'm 57 years old and NEVER too old to learn about men!
That's why they are selfish in nature. No matter how a man claims to love a lady,he still loves himself first. One thing ladies need to start doing more.
I used to think that about grammar, now I have a brain injury I do make mistakes in grammar and not notice, I learned society needs to take a chill pill on that one.
Men who expect you to keep the conversation going even if you ask them if there's anything they would like to know or what interests them to talk about and they leave you hanging
What I feel is different my man wants me to text him all the time if not he would think I ignored him or talk to other man n we are long distance relationship....when we talk we always joke around he makes me laugh n always tease me n sometimes I tease him back..he called me everyday n we facetime everyday unless he work long hours..we always miss each other
Thank you very much whoever said, how come there isn't anything about things men should and shouldn't do. I'm so tired of all these videos concerning what women should and shouldn't do concerning a MAN.
I admit I need to make changes, but when there are people pretending and truly being fake and acting as if they are perfect that they don't ever need to take on any accountability, that everything they ever told me and that they are presenting to others is nothing but a lie, (and you know exactly who he is)! I have a problem with this! I'd say sorry about putting this long text on here but you know exactly why I have to!
Ok, too many funnies. Thats hard because i am funny. But i think i can try harder to keep my jokes in my head and not spill them out. I only do abbreviations when I'm in a hurry, sometimes spelling gets past me because of auto correct most times, but i try to fix it when i see it. I also use emojis. I think sometimes i text something and then a person will think I'm being serious and im not for example, so i put emojis so I don't have to fight anyone but i also don't want to run a guy off because of it so I'll work something out so i don't ruin my chances anymore than i probably already have.. Thanks for the advice!
You are awesome bro no one ever conveyed this topics so easily to us. We all need this thanks for sharing your valuable knowledge with us. It will help a lot 👏😊
It applies to both Men and women. Once someone used to call me Sexi instead of Sexy.. you can think it is a cute comments, but it used to bother me with those incorrect grammar after some time I stopped correcting them because I realized whatever is ingrained in them, It will never change.
These tips sound like a great conversation with your teenager, boy or girl. Learning to communicate is so important, and it seems like kids just have online conversations in place of face-to-face ones anymore.
You make an excellent point. Encouraging open communication is essential, especially in today’s digital age. Conversations can truly strengthen relationships and help develop important skills.
You are so right on this! My long distance boyfriend hates texting because things get taken the wrong way, and we always end up arguing. I wish we could text without this happening, but unfortunately it can't. We have decided to only text very short texts, and not go on and on. It's hard, but we do see each other once a month and talk on the phone 5 nights a week, and that is much better for our relationship!
I have no words to say thank you for this wonderful video. ❤ Feeling blessed to connect with you (Love you ismael) God bless you dear 😊🥰 I would like to share that never ever easily get attracted by their romantic & overshow love because its difficult to understand someone's intention . Always remember - Action speaks louder than words 👍
Answering the question: Basically there are men who do exactly the same errors. I would only add - trying to rush intimacy and - persisting to "obtain the permission" to call even when you have expressed that you wouldn't like that or that it is inconvenient at the moment.
I am perceived as slightly cold over text. He is the long texting Voice msg sender. Pic sharer etc. I think my coolness is like some kind of challenge so he's always trying to get me to open up ❤
Sometimes, different communication styles can lead to interesting dynamics, but it’s important to stay true to your own way of connecting. If you’re comfortable, you might consider discussing your preferences with him to find a balance that works for both of you.
I don't mind texting first to be honest. I'm confident with who I am and I don't like thinking or planning too much about when I should text or not. I think when we begin to plan too much then we aren't authentic anymore. But if you see the person does not really respond then respect yourself enough to pull back. I feel I am a sociable person and I like to make an effort as i don't expect a guy to be the only one making an effort. It should be equal. But yes, I definitely do not believe in sending nude images. There's no need when those things are more special in real when you're with the person. The things that annoy me about a guy in texts would be when he plays the hot and cold game and also when he is trying to be extra intelligent with his vocabulary if that is not who he really is.
I agree… we should not spend too much time overthinking, it just makes things awkward and is anxious. Worst case scenario, he won’t reply. If a potential relationship fails because of who texted who first, then it would never work anyway.
Since real and masculine men are "Hunters" let them hunt you. If you don`t give them the chance to hunt you, they will lose their interesst in you. Otherwise only very feminine men will fall for you. And who wants to be with a feminine man?
Yea talk about mixed messages, another guy was saying 'we have to be our authentic selves' and now this one sounds like games don't send this or that. Trying to be ourselves while changing ourselves to fit what guys want, na, I'll be me and they are on board or not, there's no point changing ourselves to keep a guy around, if he wouldn't stay around for the authentic us, better to know sooner right.
@@braininjurydiy I think pretending to be someone else is common for men, but for women it’s very hard. That’s why we can’t put up with these games for long, but men do it all the time.
Very good and useful points you covered..thank you so much... What everyone needs to improve is to self upgrade in all aspects to keep any relation going and interesting for them.. dats y i'm watching ur videos daily👍🤗
I’m really sorry to hear that. It’s understandable to feel hurt and frustrated when a breakup happens over text. You deserved a more respectful and personal conversation
Be yourself there is someone out there that will like you for who you are. If you have to change any aspect of yourself then that is not the person for you so move on.
I say these works only for a certain type of connection. Most of the men i I talk to..LIKE late night convo starters. Also most I deal with can only get deep in text, due to not being available during the day or in person. Also, the pic thing..sometimes thats all they want and you want from them. I say figure out what type of relationship you both want and then proceed. The double text thing is always a no. The grammer, sure. The always being funny..also depend on what you want. The guys I chat with are always making jokes..the differences is they send it and dont need to laugh react their own jokes. It also depends on the culture. I find these don't fit as well, if you are talking to someone in the UK..so keep that in mind. I think these are mostly for the younger generation and those looking for love. We dont all want that.
I'm so glad I came across this video because I thought it was only me that was really put off by all this rubbish and it seems to be endemic. Out of over 2,000 men I've talked to online, only about 5 didn't follow the pattern you describe in this video - that's pretty abysmal isn't it!
That’s horrible. I guess I’m gonna stick to being single, I'm going to love my family, my friends and my pets, and use my time to help people. I thought true love was a thing, but with men I guess that doesn’t exist
In texting back and forth between guy friends (just friends mind you) I get discouraged about writing a lengthy text...& when I call no answer so I end up leaving a message stating I know you are there so why didn't you pick up the phone? Texting is another level of controlling someone. It's a lazy relationship binder. There's no give & take.
Well, people like myself Generation X, we love writing letters--it is very personal and we only write letters to people we actually like. So, get use to it
How about funny pictures or jokes I share from Internet? Once in a while I send him hilarious statements or dialogs that I find humorous and his reaction is always 😂
Most of these points are reversed in my case. Men want to call after 10pm. I tell them I’m not available after 10pm (unless I’m in super close relationship with someone 😅😅) Comon, after 10, it’s my ME time.. it’s time to unwind.. doesn’t matter if I watch a movie or whatever. But initial stage of talking and all… I can’t give them too much of late night control 😅
Thanks for the advice. What if a man uses many emoticons all the time in his texts but has no time to actually meet up. I find it quite challenging not to ask questions when we are getting in touch.
Sometimes you need to double text. Messages fail to go through and you don’t know. I’ve had a guy to get upset that I didn’t text him when I did. Checking my phone I see the text never did send.
If the things which are coming out from yourself spontaneously is annoying for others.... Dear girls, PlZ be yourself.... Don't try to be someone who is pleasing others.... Be the girl that pleases you... A friend is a person who will never be judging you..never take you for granted......and that friend if exist anywhere... Universe will bring that person to you... U don't have to try....and someone taking you granted was never ever your frnd... And mind it men understand nothing bt sex...it may hear harsh bt... they are with you u only for that... they will go wherever they get that...they will do whatever...say whatever... is only and only to achieve that physical intimacy....they always like to see them better over you... They can never accept your success over them... and believe me no men is an exception... everyone is a sex hunter... I am not blaming them... Bt organically they are that.. They too have nothing to do with it.... Emotion is something quarternary or even nowhere for them... Where as for girls emotion is the basis of everything...I don't know how two opposites stay together gor so long... probably they act to be happy... Actually no couple is happy ... rather in fear of insecurity at oldage.. they just adjust everything for ownsake meeting own purpose...though being selfish too is very organic.... Bdw sorry for writing a length...
And another thing is that attraction is the basis of interaction for girls too.... Bt after that attraction girls get emotionally attached bt guys get no attachment at all..... Attachment is nowhere in their genes.. they just have temporary hunger for sex
Can you please make a video about how do you know you're in love with a man or like or crushing on him, cause I am always the last one to find out until the other person says it or I find out when I'm in too deep and end up getting too attached and hurt :(
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Thankyou .
Some men need to get over themselves. If a man wants you he will pursue you, forget those who do not .👍🏽
Wonderfully put, thanks for sharing your thoughts!
You’re preaching that’s true!
The more I see these type of videos, the more I think being in a relationship must be exhausting😢
yea made me want to give up completely and they say women are high maintenance
Being in a relationship with men*
@@braininjurydiywomen?
It is…. It’s really best we stay single
These videos are bs don’t worry
my personal conclusion from the video
never text him, because no matter what you write it is wrong anyway 😂
and Men are men!
Funny you😂
Yea I got that just felt like you're shit women no matter what you do.
Exactly 😂 if I write less there's a problem if I write more there's a problem. Like wth. And my problem is I'm a text girl
Girl what we do 😂
The mistakes:
1. Trying to create deep connection over text
2. Always initiating conversation
3. Trying to be funny always
4. Grammar and spelling mistakes
5. Texting again when not replied
6. Discussing serious issues
7. Sharing intimate pictures
8. Texting late every night when people are gonna unwind
9. Always starting with a question
Grammar, otherwise-excellent points!! ❤️
@@janewasson4845 Oops. Thanks for pointing out. I am correcting it.
so basically all we do are wrong
Thank you!
Well, according to 93% of men, women are wronge in what we say or do anyway so way not be who we are and if men don't like it we can't just be single or date each other🤪
Thank you for posting this, although I feel like I'm done texting men if they react this way. It seems like a woman can't be authentic around men. It turns me off, you know? If I have to wait too long for him to read my message, I don't think he is interested. Women work as well, we get tired as well, introverted women stay in their caves as well. But I will always respond to someone I care about. I expect the same thing. We can all respond and text we are very tired and will interact later. If it feels too hard, it means it's time to look for someone who can communicate more clearly. I'm disappointed.
Men are born different I think. If we want a man who react like a woman maybe we should just date a woman?
@@lunatantri Basic respect and communication should not be a sex feature, but a human feature. I like my personal space a lot but I can express that. It's women who justify men's crappy behaviour so maybe that's what we should stop doing.
I'm a man and I always respond right away to people I care about. Also authenticity is extremely attractive. If it turns someone off, it means they're not compatible with you and you should move on.
I agree with you 100%.
Yea I'm like well stuff it then I won't communicate at all. And it did come across like we need to supress every instinct we have so it was like sounds too hard.
Short message ladies: isn't it better when he calls or texts you? Don't chase, beg, be needy or desparate. You devalue yourself, and he will treat you accordingly.
And that’s how I have become single for a long time now 😂 the moment I start to chase men and do all that stuff I get a boyfriend
Good! Now, quit, and let him chase you awhile.
Exactly
The guys can do these same things to the point of turning off women.... too many calls, texts, chasing.
@@nahtschMaybe so, but pursuing men rarely works out for anything longer than a brief window of time. They are wired to be repelled by females pursuing them the same way that women are wired to be repelled by men who refuse to protect them. Hope it works out for you nonetheless
I'm talking to someone rn but he's not as intrested as he was in the Beginning. I really needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️
Me too I guess is because of my text messages 😊😊
same here
But ladies,this is simply not ur fault
It's just there are lots of guys who just don't want to settle
@@khaiabigail5508 Exactly. I stopped talking to that guy and recently got in a relationship with someone who made it clear that he have genuine feelings for me.
Not letting a person know when the convo is over such as saying goodbye, goodnight or even just I got to go now.
@@rebeccawhite9395 Yes!! This is a very, very important one! Terribly annoying (and rude). Very good to remind it! 💯👏👏
@@rebeccawhite9395 Yes!! This is a terrible one (and very rude). Thank you for reminding it 💯👏👏
I understood that she wants to wait in silence.
My excuse is I want her to be a part of my daily life already because I never take Sun in the morning for granted. (I appreciate Sun every single day.)
But, I can wait in silence for her. Will do. I think she needs to be focused on her life now. And I must respect that for her.
Many thanks to all.
I struggle with that one, but I do have mild autism and a brain injury.
I did that. Not out of rudeness but because I was so anxious I didn't know how to respond. I'll be careful now. This was with someone I liked.
So basically never text or talk to men ever 😂 that’s the only way you’ll never make any mistakes and live a happy life.
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A beautiful picture of my face and " I love you forever" is enough for my husband we have been married 17 years. Love your videos
That’s beautiful. It’s great that you both know what works for your relationship.
All men and boys out there… Never ask a woman or girl for nude pictures because that indicates that I’m not the first one you’re asking (no matter what you say)
Completely agree, respect and boundaries are key in any relationship.
Any man requesting for a lady's nude is a BLACKMAILER
and an unserious niggar❤
I agree to all, except number 6. I am a person with slow mind. Whenever I try to discuss something serious orally, the other person misunderstands me, changes the subject or dismisses me altogether. So writing a long text is my only chance to explain myself and make myself clear.
Same here❤
Reeking of desperation
Yea some guys only read what they want to hear so if it's in writing they can be reminded that it was said in a text.
I like your style of communication. You are straight forward and give aspects of a healthy relationship. I am grateful for your advice. Thank you
I’m so glad to hear that, your feedback made me smile!
I am an introvert. I am guilty of 1, 6. But yes I do agree with you. But is easier for me to collect my thoughts first. In real life, in the moment I never sound as well spoken or eloquent as I do in writing. I need to work on that.
I used to text long paragraphs lol now I just keep it short and simple like a man haha when you do the same thing back to them you will see the same reaction you had when they treat you the same way. I learned to treat a man how he treats me. If he goes on days without a reply he better not expect me to reply right away when he finally gets back to me. If he don't reply in a reasonable amount of time and just start replying back like nothing happened and have no reasonable explaination then he is getting ignored too.
That’s a practical approach. Mirroring communication styles can be a good way to set boundaries and ensure you’re treated with the same respect you offer. It’s fair to expect consistency and timely responses from others if that’s what you’re giving in return.
Okay, I'm glad I just have to reduce my smiling emojis. But here's texting habits from men that annoy me: 1 - Trying to have naughty convos without having asked your number previously or knowing you better. 2 - Not wanting to stop the convo even if it's late and you say you want to sleep. 3 - Being very enthusiastic one day and cold as ice the next one. 4 - Posting pics of him with other girls when there's no need. 5 - And as @rebeccawhite9395 said, ending suddenly the conversation without saying good night or I have to go now (Terrible, bloody terrible. And rude. Please, Ismael "educate" those men on this one.)
I dislike everything you wrote here, especially the last one. I get so pissed
5th one- guy telling il text you Tomorrow and hasnt contacted since 3 months 😂
Yes to everything! Wow can’t believe there are other men who do that. Men, level UP
oh so true, and naughty convos before you've even met them, i want to have adult/open factual discussions about all topics including sex because it seems like an adult thing to do to communicate and make sure all are on the same page and comfortable, but they seem to think it's an invite, so I don't know what to do there.
You sound too eager and desperate
This was interesting and valuable! Thank you.
Here's two complaints I have for men texting women:
1. I don't like it if a man texts me using AI. I don't want to talk to a bot. I can't get to know him and feel that his text doesn't mean anything to me because he's not giving me his feelings or reponses if he has to has to use a bot. I can always tell.
2. Grammar means a lot to me. If I haven't met a man yet, then his texts show me if we are going to be compatable or are too different. I'm not saying I would look down on him, it's just that I'm a teacher and mistakes are fine but not when his grammar is always wrong.
I’m glad you found the content valuable. I completely understand your concerns.
Text by AI ! Is this really a thing? I'm glad I'm in a long-term relationship. I never want to be out there again. So many horror stories. So what if he has no money. He's a good man, and this appears to be a rare thing these days. Probably always has been. I thought my ex husband was a good man, until he left me after 21 years for a younger model.
These are some annoying texting habits i found in men
To be always available for texting
To ask for phone number even when its quite early to do so
To show themselves desperate or much interested since the beginning of the conversation
Thanks for this video ❤
Wish I could meet a great guy like Mr. Gomez. Glad to know there are men like you out here in this world!
@@hollyslaz842 you mention Mr Gomez what is his first name is it Eddie ?
@hollyslaz842 - Where are they???
Texting mistake 9: I was always told it's good manners to check on someone how they are doing and how their day was (when you are talking almost every day). If it's a mistake, then what's the right way around it?
@@TheAyesha2009 Just start with one topic from the previous day and discreetely, in the middle of the convo, ask how are they doing ☺️
I have three sons, and I raised them to NEVER be rude, "superior," or demanding to a girl!! There's absolutely no excuse! Thankfully, they are amazingly kind, respectful, and caring. I say it's because they were raised by their divorced single mother since before any of them were old enough for kindergarten (who's had 35 serious surgeries and counting). I taught them to have mutual respect, not her submission!
It’s inspiring to hear how you’ve instilled those values in your sons. Teaching mutual respect is so important, and it sounds like they’re turning out to be wonderful individuals. Your strength as a single mother is truly commendable.
@SaveTheMessenger Thank you so much! ❤️ I'm so happy to have 3 sons. I'm an only child and said, from the time I understood reproduction & women carrying babies, that I wanted FIVE sons! I was always a Daddy's Girl (my beloved Daddy passed away 19 years ago; I miss him every single day 😢). I had a miscarriage before my first son, and my third son had a twin that I miscarried, so I say that I DO have my 5 sons I wished for, just two are in Heaven with their Grandpa. 😢💙🙏🕊❤️ Thank you again for your kind message! ❤️
I love hearing a male speak with such insightfulness and has obviously thought deeply about this subject.
Being a sigma woman, i appreciate any mind that considers topics so thoughtfully and gives respect to it.
I agree with all you've shared on this video.
Thank you for taking the time to create your content, i appreciate hearing a man's perspective treated with such care. 😊
Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad the content resonated with you and that you appreciate the thoughtful perspective. Your feedback means a lot.
Love your videos and your content@@SaveTheMessenger
I’m so glad I’ve detached from this texting conversation business. I no longer consider it to be effective communication. I don’t text like that anymore. In the other hand long story short, I recently blocked 🚫 a guy who kept texting me often, late and wanted deep connection when I’d already told him I’m not interested in that. I muted his texts but noticed them in my WhatsApp. It was so annoying. I decided to put an end to it
I’m incredibly proud of you, may good things come your way!
Grammar and spelling is everything! Thank you for pointing this out
Glad you found it helpful, and yes, grammar can make a big difference.
I've always texted him with a question. Late at night. Lol.
I don't mind texting him first every time. Cuz I can walk away any time I wish.
This really helped me. I was raised when things were just beginning to change.
It took me a while to get used to calling boys when I was a teenager.
But then I developed the habit of getting too clingy.
I appreciate these guidelines so I can restrain myself.
As usual I appreciate and welcome your insight .
Texts have their place for facilitating quick messages as a method of communication and that is it . Anything that requires serious and consistent back and forth dialogue should be done by the phone or in person so there is no miscommunication of what is being said . Texts cannot portray tone and emotion and therefore lends to a lot of assumptions being made which are not always good and creates misunderstandings.
I got really overdosed with Gifs lately from a guy. Cat gifs do amuse me, but I wasn’t getting much else, tho the aim was to make me laugh which wasn’t a bad motive.
So I just sent very short answers or none at all and eventually he asked if I was ok and got very worried.so that got a swift reassurance from me saying “yes’m ok , too many gifs” and he made the effort to call and talk.
He genuinely does struggle with spelling, but now makes much more effort to send a proper message.
My advice is, if in doubt don’t text at all, and absolutely not to get his attention or check up on him. It looks desperate so a turn off.
He will get in touch you when he’s ready, and if he doesn’t, ignore him and get busy with other things in life which make you a more diverse and interesting person.
Always good to be just a little elusive without being rude or cold. A fine line sometimes.
True
Love your analogies, makes things make more sense 👌
Im confuse,, what we girls do when they are in relationship,??,,
I think we do what our heart says that's great ❤
5:59 and that's the reason why he broke up with me ... For not sending those , not pleasing him, for not obeying his orders... But i know my self respect for which i never gonna do that!
Ismael I really wanna Know , what do you think about the guys who are P0rn Addicted and in a Relationship? Are they ever even loyal to anyone, do they even have any genuine feeling?
Watching this Video made me really realize some of my mistakes. And now never gonna Happen. But sometimes i still miss him 😞 Really hate to say this ....
Do you consider watching P*rn as cheating on you? I can tell you most guys don't feel that way. But if it bothers you, then you could find someone who doesn't watch it.
I mean watching that trash is a turn off anyway so...
@@angie001 I agree.
This video teaches me alot,i text aman the whole week just gives me blueticks,i cry alot,now i know no need of begging aman,if he text me i will text him back,and if he gives me silent treatment i will do the same,,thank you so much,wooo,i send messages double,double saying hurtful words why he ignore me,but now i know how to behave good so that no one will take me for granted,,❤
The spelling and abbreviations drive me nuts if it’s consistent.
Ur, K, etc
And if someone doesn’t know the difference between your, you’re, they’re, etc 🤨
Exactly ugh, that’s elementary level type s
Me too...I feel annoyed when someone sends K instead of Ok.. u instead of you. One fellow used to send S instead of Yes🤣
Its such a turn off thingy for me.
Kk, S,hw r u, etc etc.
care less. text whatever you really want😂🎉that works
Absolutely!! Confident women do what the hell she wants!!😅 thinking too much.. shall i write or what to write just reveal fear of rejection and cut your authenticity 😢 energy is important and man can feel it 😁 so.. be yourself, be vulnerable, do what you love and if the man doesn’t recognise you, then he is not your type or he is not confident and cant be attracted by a confident women 🤨
Instead of the impersonal texting. I mean how many other girls is he "texting" ? Best to call instead. Let him chase you.
So basically, what we must keep in mind is - Less is more. Just like having too much stuff in our homes. We need to keep open space in order to not feel burdened and to keep space for new things to enter. I've just realized this can apply to communication with others. I'm an introvert and don't even like making phone calls. However, this has resulted in me texting too often and writing too much. Thanks for this reminder.
Why aren’t there any videos out there instructing men on what women want???? Like, the opposite of this advice….
There are a few bur it is not that they do not know they just do not care !
Yeah, really all the time I see how fragile men🙂🙂🙂
Agree! All the videos for men instruct them on how to get women interested or secure a second date, but fail to even address women’s desires or emotional needs. And those that purport to say what it is women want are usually just assuming all women want material things
Y'all need to look harder. There are tons of videos for men on what women want. There are men who care! I think these comments show a bit of prejudice here instead of actual research before commenting.
Try to avoid thinking men don't care. If you think that way that is how they will show up. There are tons of caring loving good men out there that want to give a woman everything she wants! Trust! ❤
'Taking the sun for granted ...' not if you live in England, mate! 😂
Hahaha good one
😂
Same in Canada, Vancouver. 😂
I'm always so happy and cheerful when I see the sun in the morning, or a beautiful sunset in the evening❤😊I always say the words of prayer for the sun! Saint-Petersburg, Russia.
In Norway too
Thanks. I learned some valuable things just now from your audio. I realize that women like questions better than men such as "how was your day?". Men DO like their cave time for sure, especially late at night, they are unwinding. I'm 57 years old and NEVER too old to learn about men!
Never too old indeed.
This man is teaching me that a man is only in it for himself and cant love
And they say men are simple creatures 🙄 🙆🤦♀️
That's why they are selfish in nature. No matter how a man claims to love a lady,he still loves himself first. One thing ladies need to start doing more.
It was really helpful. 💯💯 Thankks
I used to think that about grammar, now I have a brain injury I do make mistakes in grammar and not notice, I learned society needs to take a chill pill on that one.
yeah same here. im dyslexic so its bound to happen. plus we're all humans, no ones perfect lol
💯👍
I agree. Unless I'm writing an essay or cover letter, I honestly don't waste my time proofreading what I had written.
@@catlover_abbybest to call them than text. Texting is too impersonal anyway. If they are interested they can pick up the phone..
Omg this video is so educating, thank you so much for always helping us to be a better version of ourselves in a relationship
Men who expect you to keep the conversation going even if you ask them if there's anything they would like to know or what interests them to talk about and they leave you hanging
Men ☕️
What I feel is different my man wants me to text him all the time if not he would think I ignored him or talk to other man n we are long distance relationship....when we talk we always joke around he makes me laugh n always tease me n sometimes I tease him back..he called me everyday n we facetime everyday unless he work long hours..we always miss each other
Thank you very much whoever said, how come there isn't anything about things men should and shouldn't do. I'm so tired of all these videos concerning what women should and shouldn't do concerning a MAN.
It’s because you, women chase man, and look really desperate
I admit I need to make changes, but when there are people pretending and truly being fake and acting as if they are perfect that they don't ever need to take on any accountability, that everything they ever told me and that they are presenting to others is nothing but a lie, (and you know exactly who he is)! I have a problem with this! I'd say sorry about putting this long text on here but you know exactly why I have to!
Ok, too many funnies. Thats hard because i am funny. But i think i can try harder to keep my jokes in my head and not spill them out.
I only do abbreviations when I'm in a hurry, sometimes spelling gets past me because of auto correct most times, but i try to fix it when i see it. I also use emojis. I think sometimes i text something and then a person will think I'm being serious and im not for example, so i put emojis so I don't have to fight anyone but i also don't want to run a guy off because of it so I'll work something out so i don't ruin my chances anymore than i probably already have..
Thanks for the advice!
Hey ismael I'm from India (west bengal) ❤ love ur videos ❤
Women love their solitude, too, especially in you're a sigma female. Also, there is a lot men need to learn regarding women and texting too ✌️
I'm a Sigma female.... I need time with myself to figure things out, deep thinking and problem solving.... I think I need a Sigma male 😂
Thanks, as women, we need to hear these
You give solid advice!
I especially agree with #7. This is a point I like to talk with my granddaughter about.
Thx so much for sharing this, I am loving this and learning , also seeing my own errors🙏🏾🙏🏾
You are awesome bro no one ever conveyed this topics so easily to us. We all need this thanks for sharing your valuable knowledge with us. It will help a lot 👏😊
It applies to both Men and women.
Once someone used to call me Sexi instead of Sexy.. you can think it is a cute comments, but it used to bother me with those incorrect grammar after some time I stopped correcting them because I realized whatever is ingrained in them, It will never change.
These tips sound like a great conversation with your teenager, boy or girl. Learning to communicate is so important, and it seems like kids just have online conversations in place of face-to-face ones anymore.
You make an excellent point. Encouraging open communication is essential, especially in today’s digital age. Conversations can truly strengthen relationships and help develop important skills.
@@SaveTheMessenger lack of communication is the death of a relationship.Thank you for the video and reply.
You are so right on this! My long distance boyfriend hates texting because things get taken the wrong way, and we always end up arguing. I wish we could text without this happening, but unfortunately it can't. We have decided to only text very short texts, and not go on and on. It's hard, but we do see each other once a month and talk on the phone 5 nights a week, and that is much better for our relationship!
It’s tough when things get misinterpreted, but good thing you found what works for you. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I have no words to say thank you for this wonderful video.
❤
Feeling blessed to connect with you (Love you ismael)
God bless you dear 😊🥰
I would like to share that never ever easily get attracted by their romantic & overshow love because its difficult to understand someone's intention .
Always remember
- Action speaks louder than words 👍
Thank you for your heartwarming feedback, it made me really happy!
Whenever ever a notification pops, i just hope to his text...
Nvr got that lucky till nw😂
Thankyou for sharing this important messenge❤❤❤❤🎉🎉
Answering the question:
Basically there are men who do exactly the same errors. I would only add
- trying to rush intimacy and
- persisting to "obtain the permission" to call even when you have expressed that you wouldn't like that or that it is inconvenient at the moment.
Thank You for sharing important things to remember how to handle a relationship 😊
I am perceived as slightly cold over text. He is the long texting Voice msg sender. Pic sharer etc. I think my coolness is like some kind of challenge so he's always trying to get me to open up ❤
Sometimes, different communication styles can lead to interesting dynamics, but it’s important to stay true to your own way of connecting. If you’re comfortable, you might consider discussing your preferences with him to find a balance that works for both of you.
I don't text. I CALL HIM, respectful of his time, his privacy, and his person.
We arrange future dates in his presence.
I don't mind texting first to be honest. I'm confident with who I am and I don't like thinking or planning too much about when I should text or not. I think when we begin to plan too much then we aren't authentic anymore. But if you see the person does not really respond then respect yourself enough to pull back. I feel I am a sociable person and I like to make an effort as i don't expect a guy to be the only one making an effort. It should be equal. But yes, I definitely do not believe in sending nude images. There's no need when those things are more special in real when you're with the person.
The things that annoy me about a guy in texts would be when he plays the hot and cold game and also when he is trying to be extra intelligent with his vocabulary if that is not who he really is.
I agree… we should not spend too much time overthinking, it just makes things awkward and is anxious. Worst case scenario, he won’t reply. If a potential relationship fails because of who texted who first, then it would never work anyway.
Since real and masculine men are "Hunters" let them hunt you.
If you don`t give them the chance to hunt you, they will lose their interesst in you.
Otherwise only very feminine men will fall for you. And who wants to be with a feminine man?
@@Discovering_world-jj1yj I agree.
Yea talk about mixed messages, another guy was saying 'we have to be our authentic selves' and now this one sounds like games don't send this or that. Trying to be ourselves while changing ourselves to fit what guys want, na, I'll be me and they are on board or not, there's no point changing ourselves to keep a guy around, if he wouldn't stay around for the authentic us, better to know sooner right.
@@braininjurydiy I think pretending to be someone else is common for men, but for women it’s very hard. That’s why we can’t put up with these games for long, but men do it all the time.
Very good and useful points you covered..thank you so much... What everyone needs to improve is to self upgrade in all aspects to keep any relation going and interesting for them.. dats y i'm watching ur videos daily👍🤗
All of this advice from different people while appreciate, only makes me overwhelmed and makes me more unsure of what's right or what's wrong to do.
Do you. You can never go wrong investing in yourself and your self-worth.
My man broke up with me via text message. I felt compromised and angry he couldn't at least do it face to face!😢
I’m really sorry to hear that. It’s understandable to feel hurt and frustrated when a breakup happens over text. You deserved a more respectful and personal conversation
Be yourself there is someone out there that will like you for who you are. If you have to change any aspect of yourself then that is not the person for you so move on.
That’s a powerful reminder about authenticity. It’s important to find someone who values you just as you are.
I say these works only for a certain type of connection. Most of the men i
I talk to..LIKE late night convo starters. Also most I deal with can only get deep in text, due to not being available during the day or in person. Also, the pic thing..sometimes thats all they want and you want from them. I say figure out what type of relationship you both want and then proceed. The double text thing is always a no. The grammer, sure. The always being funny..also depend on what you want. The guys I chat with are always making jokes..the differences is they send it and dont need to laugh react their own jokes. It also depends on the culture. I find these don't fit as well, if you are talking to someone in the UK..so keep that in mind. I think these are mostly for the younger generation and those looking for love. We dont all want that.
Thanks for your teachings
I'm so glad I came across this video because I thought it was only me that was really put off by all this rubbish and it seems to be endemic. Out of over 2,000 men I've talked to online, only about 5 didn't follow the pattern you describe in this video - that's pretty abysmal isn't it!
That’s horrible. I guess I’m gonna stick to being single, I'm going to love my family, my friends and my pets, and use my time to help people. I thought true love was a thing, but with men I guess that doesn’t exist
Wow I really benefit from you Thank you so much Ismail we love you!!💗
I’m glad to hear that you’re finding it helpful. Thank you for the support and kind words.
@@SaveTheMessenger You're welcome😍
Number 6: I SO agree!! And for heavens sake, Not #7. Goes without saying.... Agree with #8, too. In fact, I agree with ALL!!!
Thank you Ismael. However, can you explain with more examples?
This was really good Ismael. Thank you!
I really appreciate it.
This channel is a blessing
I’m really glad to hear that. Thank you for your kind words.
Hey am so glad to learn something new ....
So I have been acting so cheap all along 😭😔. Thank you for this advice ☺️
At least I know I have faults, I'm not placing myself on a pedestal
Thank you very much.I am put right on the track.
In texting back and forth between guy friends (just friends mind you) I get discouraged about writing a lengthy text...& when I call no answer so I end up leaving a message stating I know you are there so why didn't you pick up the phone? Texting is another level of controlling someone. It's a lazy relationship binder. There's no give & take.
What alot of work,when u have to worry what u say,every minute.
Either one cares,or they don't.
Sending a nice text to wish well on an important second interview, or Happy Birthday text and never says any gratitude response.
Thank you this is so true 😢😢🥺
Well, people like myself Generation X, we love writing letters--it is very personal and we only write letters to people we actually like.
So, get use to it
Thanks for this info..
How about funny pictures or jokes I share from Internet? Once in a while I send him hilarious statements or dialogs that I find humorous and his reaction is always 😂
Thank s for this video because I learn a lesson.
Most of these points are reversed in my case. Men want to call after 10pm.
I tell them I’m not available after 10pm (unless I’m in super close relationship with someone 😅😅)
Comon, after 10, it’s my ME time.. it’s time to unwind.. doesn’t matter if I watch a movie or whatever.
But initial stage of talking and all… I can’t give them too much of late night control 😅
Thanks bro this is a good advice
The only point i disagree is that, actually yes, I do say and think how grateful i am when i wake up to a sunny day. Always.
Thank you for teaching ❤❤
Thanks for the advice. What if a man uses many emoticons all the time in his texts but has no time to actually meet up. I find it quite challenging not to ask questions when we are getting in touch.
Sometimes you need to double text. Messages fail to go through and you don’t know. I’ve had a guy to get upset that I didn’t text him when I did.
Checking my phone I see the text never did send.
If the things which are coming out from yourself spontaneously is annoying for others....
Dear girls,
PlZ be yourself.... Don't try to be someone who is pleasing others.... Be the girl that pleases you...
A friend is a person who will never be judging you..never take you for granted......and that friend if exist anywhere... Universe will bring that person to you... U don't have to try....and someone taking you granted was never ever your frnd...
And mind it men understand nothing bt sex...it may hear harsh bt... they are with you u only for that... they will go wherever they get that...they will do whatever...say whatever... is only and only to achieve that physical intimacy....they always like to see them better over you... They can never accept your success over them... and believe me no men is an exception... everyone is a sex hunter...
I am not blaming them... Bt organically they are that.. They too have nothing to do with it....
Emotion is something quarternary or even nowhere for them... Where as for girls emotion is the basis of everything...I don't know how two opposites stay together gor so long... probably they act to be happy... Actually no couple is happy ... rather in fear of insecurity at oldage.. they just adjust everything for ownsake meeting own purpose...though being selfish too is very organic....
Bdw sorry for writing a length...
And another thing is that attraction is the basis of interaction for girls too.... Bt after that attraction girls get emotionally attached bt guys get no attachment at all..... Attachment is nowhere in their genes.. they just have temporary hunger for sex
Can you please make a video about how do you know you're in love with a man or like or crushing on him, cause I am always the last one to find out until the other person says it or I find out when I'm in too deep and end up getting too attached and hurt :(
Yes please make it . I would like to know as well
@@Kimsangte07 haha
@@Lisalee-xj1xb what haha? ... It's true
@@Kimsangte07 Yeah
Bad texting habits from men: ignoring you or replying after a long time, not able to initiate conversations, ending a conversation without signal, etc
Very good insight.
Appreciate that. Always aiming for the truth.
Ur correct ...absolutely !