1- They're insecure about themselves. 2- Jealousy issues. 3- He actually sees her as beautiful. 4- Has other preferences. Examples: intelligence, wisdom, caregiving, etc. 5- Prioritises her background and path in life.
From what I’m getting is women only love men when they provide for them, buy them gift a nice dinner etc. selfish. And marriage will be a problem in this generation. Women are gunna be more hungry for marriage while men aren’t cause they gain nothing from it. They’ve seen the side affects of it.
Facts. I want an average looking woman that a has a good heart to me that's all that has to matter, this "beautiful" women get lost in the sauce too much.
@Depy K Narcissistic men marry women who are unattractive too. They’ll marry her knowing that she’s more likely to put up with their narcissistic behavior as she doesn’t have many other men interested in her. They’ll treat her bad, cheat on her while she’s pregnant, have her preoccupied with a job while they sit in their cubicle at work and go online to talk/meet up with other women. Also, nothing wrong with a man showing off his beautiful woman unless that’s his sole reason for being with her. Beauty is important to men as being a provider is important to women.
Strangely enough, the most handsome men I knew were the least concerned about beauty in a mate. Two very handsome men I dated both settled on plain, slightly overweight women to marry. Both are also nice, intelligent men, wives are nice, and intelligent women too. So maybe handsome men are weary of shallowness from people, and want something with more depth like you said. The plain guys I dated seemed more concerned about beauty in a woman. Go figure.
Interesting! I dated a stupid man and I mean LOW intelligence and I was dumped because I wasn't "pretty enough!" THAT was in 1983. I was 32 then. Those plain guys you dated that "were more concerned about beauty in a woman" was due to a lack of confidence in themSELVES!!!
right! its usually/always the guys that dont have anything and look like nothing themselves that always talk about wanting a "hot" woman. like please. the handsome and extremely handsome guys are cool as hell. its the average and hideous guys that think they deserve or are entitled to beautiful or hot women.
@Full of Mischief well damn papi! this is a whole gem! i know i noticed/remember(and just now thought about b/c of your comment) men who would break their necks to finally talk to a girl they thought was so hot and they finally would but it would always seem shortly after you wouldnt hear him talk or even conversing with her any more, i found it strange b/c there they would be still trying to have stimulating conversations with me.
Sue-Anne Gayadeen yup! This is the story of my life. Sorta. When I don’t like a man I can be myself and they alwayyyyys start liking me when I like the man? I try to be cool but really acting like a fool and I miss out. Wellll I did back in my dating days
I did a similar thing! I am average looking, maybe even below average and I dated the MOST attractive and popular guy in the town. All the popular gorgeous girls would literally fight over him. I had a huge crush on him for many years and was too shy and nervous to talk to him. One day I just gave up and talked to him like I would anyone. He started liking me in that very instant and we dated for 2 years. I ended up breaking up with him---he wanted to marry me and I wanted to experience more of the world before getting married. He was the sweetest boy ever, on top of being tall and handsome. Girls would literally just come up to me and tell me they liked my boyfriend. Lol. Or as we walked by people at a party or something, all the girls would say, "Amy, your so lucky." The most popular girl--rich and cheerleader type...all the boys really liked her---she pulled me to the side and said she thought I should know that she liked my boyfriend. Lol. I didn't care because I was very secure in our relationship. He could see past all the superficiality. It was awesome. He cried so much when I broke up with him. 😔
I married a very rich man and all my friends gone. But I have been with my husband about 20 good years and then I have some many friends then. Once I we got married, they were all bitter. Well as know that , I didn't care about them. If you can't be happy for me, then you are not a good friend. I am still married to the same man and thank God. Fake friends bye.
Ohhh I think that’s what has happened to me recently! When I got married, the friends I had since childhood, some of them, stopped being my friend. They don’t even give me a like on my marriage photo on Facebook. Wow. But as you said, if they can’t be happy for me, they are not real friends, thank you for that sis :)
I'm engaged to a man who can't even afford a 300 dollar mortgage in a crappy run down cabin and I also lost all my friends when we got together. Literally have nobody but him now and my parents.
@@nadiablue5989 some people value loyalty over money. its not a bad thing. You can always earn more money but its very very hard to change a rotten character and instill good morals in people.
@Sweetpea Especially now. He was hot when he was younger but people keep using Brad Pitt and George Clooney as like the epitome of hotness even though that stopped being true like 2 decades ago lol.
I've worked in finance and dealt with a lot of wealthy clients. In almost every case I've encountered where the woman is less physically attractive than her male partner, her mind more than makes up for it. These men are not insecure. They want a woman who is sharp and intelligent and is not there to take his money because she is out there making her own bank. These women are in finance, enterpreneurs, attorneys, surgeons, executives, i.e. high power individuals.
gelatoallimon wow really? I go to med school, and I alway hear that I’m pretty so do you think I have a chance to catch a wealthy ( maybe attractive man) if i want to?
Yes, this is very accurate. Usually self made men who didn’t inherit their money have very different mindsets than other people and prioritize certain things in women more than others.
@@i_only_simp_for_myself800 of course sweetie.....every one has a preference so ....u make your wish list about what you want in your life & work for it ...by work i mean self development work tooo ....men usually notice a woman who is quite unfazed at anything coz they are quite relaxed with their life which makes them wonder🤣🤣 i don't know if it has scientific back up...but try to love your own life..... people will come running to you coz they don't find peace in themselves sometimes 🥰🥰
My husband is actually way better looking than me and younger than me. I never thought he would be interested in me and that's the reason I was normal around him and didn't try hard for anything. After watching your video I think he was one of those types where be didn't know he was a catch! Good for me!
I'll never forget this old French film where this businessman was married to the most gorgeous, model like woman. Literally a 10/10. And he ended up falling in love and having an affair with his plain, chubby and frumpy secretary. He said the wife looked perfect but she was shallow and self obsessed while the Secretary was kind, interesting and made him feel like a king. Looks aren't everything kids -especially when hot girls are everywhere!
@Diamon.Yeah I think the message is more revolutionary than the idea that it's stereotypical for a gorgeous woman to be self centered. A lot of people can think of one gorgeous woman they know that is unattractive internally but not a lot of people would easily accept when a wealthy/handsome man falls in love with a '4/10' instead of a '10/10'
I'm pretty sure I saw that, with Gerard Depardieu. It didn't ring true. Yes, he might choose someone less beautiful than his model wife, but not to that extreme.
I think there are two things at play. 1) Men and women have different standards of beauty. What women might call 'beautiful' could be boring or dull-looking to a man. What some men call 'beautiful' can look tarty and basic to women, etc. And 2) you have to remember that a lot of times very rich men have already had their share of beautiful women! They've slept with models, actresses, escorts, etc. At that point in their lives, beauty is abundant and far more available to them than an average man. That's why a woman who has other qualities besides beauty can seem more interesting when she's compared to the exceptionally pretty women he has had before.
Also to become rich you must be discplined and have a daily routine. A girl that is supportive may have build him up and given him that chance to have stable and push through that difficult job.
Most of these comments imply that attractive (or mode type) women are not smart, or that they're shallow and high maintenance. Some are, some aren't. Don't judge.
When you live your life obtaining opportunities from beauty it's hard to develop your critical thinking and logic I agree with you that not all beautiful people are not smart but it's hard to be smart if you focus on shallow beauty
She nails it. Everytime. She is real, raw, and unafraid to be honest. I absolutely admire her for that. She speaks so much truth, and is very knowledgable of looking at things from all perspectives. Love this video, so true.
Honestly, when I first started watching her, I thought the videos might be kind of sexist. But after watching her videos, I think she’s really sensitive to other people’s views, and being really respectful and inclusive of everyone. It’s a really wonderful thing, and I’m glad she decided to start a finishing school. I think she’s great at it.
It's been my observation that my very good looking friends have struggled to find a stable man. I've had men say to me they wouldn't dare ask my friend out, because she is too good for him. The ones who do ask them are the arrogant, narcissistic types who believe they deserve. I'm 64, so have spent many years watching this phenomenon. This is a very interesting topic; thank you. 🌹
Not only because of her intelligence, but also her talents and artistic abilities. A plain Jane who knows how to play the violin and can paint a scenery into a beautiful piece of artwork ( a painting) is way more attractive to a wealthy man than a bombshell who lacks brains and talents. Moreover, there's also a higher chance that less fortunate men out there would be physically attracted to the bombshell and have affairs with her which would lead to divorce and the wealthy man would eventually lose half of his assets and having to pay a monthly alimony for the rest of his life. In other words, a wealthy man is usually much smarter than the average Joe.
I agree. My co worker is a very nice and highly intelligent woman. Whenever I talk to her I feel like I’m talking to someone who has a very old soul and that’s so beautiful. Even I have never met someone like her. She is really an intriguing and amazing person. But if you look at her she is not really pretty... her husband on the other hand is so handsome and has a good job, comes from affluent family . And she comes from a very normal family but she did study law but didn’t do anything with her education. For him it doesn’t really matter. He loves her for her mind and that’s beautiful.
*Im pretty sure no man cares about that. They all want beauty.* That is a stereotype about men. Sure, there are lots of men who think only in terms of a woman's physical appeal hence the sole reason he gets with her. But there are *plenty* more that value a woman for her independence, child-like nature, creativity and intellect. Beauty and what constitutes it his highly subjective and in fact, no society has ever come to an agreement on what it looks like (paintings and art of once rounded women to now slender ones) can attest to this. Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Barack Obama and plenty others all have average/attractive looking wives at best that do a great job taking care of themselves. I would wager *MOST* wealthy men who stand to have lots to lose prefers a woman he can build a legacy with beyond superficial "beauty" that will look aged in 15-20 years. I feel like there are a lot of immature thinkers under this video projecting their own insecurities.SMH
Even if some of her points are valid, this was hard to listen to. It's sad we are such judgemental creatures....I would rather have self respect before having a man control me... but then again, I bought my own BMW, botox, laser treatments and vacations... it's best to be beautiful inside and out and financially stable from your own success. I have a successful career and told am hot, beautiful etc.... have it all... mostly secure people approach me. I can smell a narcissist a mile away... learned the hard way... but I learned. Doing it on my own feels better than being arm candy...I know first hand.
Most can't sense a "narcissist" right away UNLESS you've already been burned to the point of learning your lesson. Otherwise, you're just paranoid and really not sure what to do when you do smell it!
@My Sunglasses I agree looks do play a part but generally we're attracted whether we like it or not to what we deserve. Intelligent men are attracted to intelligent women.shallow insecure mwn will be attracted to shallow insecure women. If you want insight into a person's character look at the type of people they are attracted to.
Iam wealthy and I got wealthy male friends, in general when you know that you can get any girls, the only thing that will be attractive in a woman is her mind, how intelligent artistic unique in case of originality, this type of thing. Cause we already got all the money the power, we don't chase beta males meat no more... I'm going to tell you a secret but 🤫. When an average male chase the most attractive woman ( most of the time) that's a low self esteem issue, an ego thing. In their head they are like "if I can't get the MONEY, I will go for the attractive woman" this is about what they represent in society. When you already got all that you want, achieved your material goals, got high self esteem, you got nothing to prove the car, the suit, the money prove it for yourself, you as a man will start look up for something more, something bigger more profound and high vibrational, then all the superficial girls look the same and overtime the physical attractiveness became completely shallow and you become what we call a Sapiosexual, love of the mind the originality. That's why if a rich man marry a girl just for her beauty, he will end up cheating or something else cause in reality he's completely lost. Make sense right. Well I was, just passing by have a good day!!
True. What I've noticed is that average men don't want original, artistic and highly intelligent women. They simply run away from them, even if those women are also very beautiful.
kireo scalers Several good looking smart successful women get prejudiced by how they look. I think most rich men don’t need a challenge. They find it very difficult to cope with a smart attractive women. It’s very challenging to have a healthy marriage with a smart attractive woman, as it brings out masculine insecurities and controlling issues in most men. Obsession with looks can underestimate good men and human. You can’t judge a book by its title. Can you?
I think a lot of men do this because a. they don't want to have to deal with a high maintenance woman, or b. they are looking for something deeper like personality, kindness, brains, etc.
High maintenance?... I thought the better you look, the less you have to do to make it look good... or at least the less time it takes... I would not want to spend my life in the beauty salons, although I do spend quite a bit time on self care.... doesn't make sense.
Kindness isn't only a plain Jane character. It depends how the person was raised. Just because someone has looks doesn't mean thats all they have to offer the world.
@@songbirdforjesus2381 Yes, once I was at a music shop at the mall in a amall town near where I live. The cashier saw me checking out the many posters of beautiful, famous young mexican & mexican-american female singers. Then she tells me 'it takes a lot of money to look like that' & she smiled. I have to agree with her. There's the gym memberships and/or personal trainers, hair salon visits, nail manicures & pedicures, braces, teeth whitening, beauty spa treatments & the list goes on. Sigh. I try to do what I can with what I can afford but I refuse to be a slave to todays beauty standards. I no longer wear fake nails & I won't wear fake lashes. I also color my own hair at home. 😊
Usually rich men marry sensible, calm, down to earth, mentally-stable women with common sense and that could be called a form of intelligence. Even better if this type of woman has money and is from money. Looks are secondary. A rich man can have an affair with a beautiful young woman on the side anytime he wants; and wifey if she is smart will deny or ignore it.
Mia Manning I agree with you on compatibility. However looks are very important as well as being intelligent. I think everyone has his/her own opinion and desires, people are different. Same vain it’s what causes attraction.
Internal beauty is priceless Ana. Humble hearts are so more attractive than a beautiful harping woman who wants only things she brings headaches and heartache to these men.
there are alot of ugly plain women who are high maintenance unpleasant dumb controlling bitchy and undercover gold diggers as well. just because a basic plain or down right ugly woman gets chosen by a rich good looking man doesnt mean she is exceptional- or smart or nice or non shallow. or beautiful on the inside..the guy has low self esteem or childhood issues or insecure control freak or fetish for certain type of woman.
Kar Doubleyou couldn’t agree more!!. I am speechless at how many people automatically assume that the plain Jane is the “nice” one and that the pretty girl is the “bitchy” and “high maintenance”. It’s not that simple- people are much more complex than their appearance. In fact many plain looking girls are jealous, manipulative and catty with attractive girls- I see this all the time.
Some women can’t help being beautiful. It’s not something they can choose or turn off. They were just born that way. They just possess an innate femininity and magnetism that attracts certain men. Not all beauty is manufactured. And for those women who have it, they should absolutely use it to their advantage. Some men want a woman who is sexy and gorgeous, some men want a woman who is smart and educated and financially successful. Some men want a woman who is domestic and maternal. This to me is great news! No matter what a woman’s attraction is, it simply means that there is a place for her! And all women have to do is hone in on what they uniquely and individually have to offer. The differences we as women have is what makes being a woman so wonderful.
It takes couple of months to help someone to improve their looks (ie food, exercise etc). It takes forever (if ever) to drastically improve her personality to something sweet, nice to be around and caring
I've noticed that these men might date more plain looking women, but not "unattractive" women. That is because plain women are still beautiful but not overdone and they come across as more genuine. But, you have to look at little harder to see their beauty. It is not screaming "look at me!" I used to wear more make-up and attention-getting clothes until someone in high society explained this to me, and I have toned it down some. You may not get as much attention, but the attention is more quality and not just men trying to hook up. Let's face it, people think a very made-up woman is shallow, even if she's not and wealthy men don't want that type of judgment on their wife or their family. It's not fair, but it's life.
Not even close just the girl that is a 7/10 will save you less bullshit and will be real and the girls that are 10/10 just are a headache they ask for too much it gets annoying. I would gladly choose the 7/10 any day, I own a business and really don’t have time for bs so 7/10 is good 🤣, I mean she’ll appreciate it more when she finds out I’m making 6 figures 🤫🤣🤣🤣
It might also be a Eurocentric cultural thing. I know in the east a gorgeous women (who yes, can also mutually be seen as regal and intelligent) is preferred as a wife
@@bilboriches7216 so true lol. The most guys I know whom are attractive they go for attractive women, not even looking at plain jane, maybe for a hookup but thats it. Also rich male celebs go for the looks
well a low libido and prude person like You shouldnt judge. Id rather be with a woman who likes a high sexuality then one like You who criticises it, become a nun and stfu
I'm engaged to a quality man and I've always seen myself as plain and nothing special but he told me that he chose me because I can make him laugh, I take care of him, and he loves that I'm kind to animals. He says I'm a combination of Audrey Hepburn and Angelina Jolie 🥰🥰🥰 And I don't feel so plain anymore.
I make men laugh, LOVE all animals (they love my soft voice ) a good listener. BEEN said, I'm almost 70 now, that I resembled Natalie Wood and/or Jill St. John. Did that mean I could have had a chance with Robert Wagner?!! Just a bit of levity, there. Only still trying to find answers. Part of the problem is that I cannot be "unevenly yoked with an unbeliever" in Biblical sense. But OTHER friends have been able to find husbands. Still people say I look incredibly young for my age. Hair is it's natural color, too.... Will likely delete this in a month's time. Did anyone ever tell "you" that life would be fair? My Mum used to say that....All I have to say
I've come to accept that you seriously cannot judge a book by its cover. Dated a very beautiful woman, for a short period of time, and what ended it was the fact that our conversations were horrible. She was more into common gossip, and I was not. Since, I've noticed that I tend to stay much longer with a woman that can engage me in great conversation and laughs, and who enjoys getting out and doing "outdoorsy" things, regardless of whether she's considered a '10' or not by society.
You dated 1 beauty and just assumed they were all superficial, dumb bimbos so you settled for an unattractive woman?thats even dumber i think. If you like attractive women you just keep pushing until you find a beauty who also has the wits and can carry an interestimg convo w you!
Ohhh yes! I've been fortunate to see many older women in my community as they go about their lives, and oh man, being tied to one with bad character would be absolutely horrific. Like with post-coital clarity, now you are stuck with the person: the whole person!!!
I disagree with the "insecure rich men go for ugly women cause he feels he cant do better" no no no. Actually insecure men i find are the MOST likely to be seeking other people's validation and so go for the MOST CONVENTIONALLY attractive women that look like they were manufactured. I doubt there is a RICH man no matter what he looks like that thinks he cant do better uh uh. The attractive rich men who choose plain are actually MORE secure in themselves because they know they are alpha and dont have to prove anything. They lit have women flocking to them but they choose the plains because the plain jane are entertaining and good conversationalists OR she has something else like her own thriving career OR comes from a well off respected family. For example, you really think George Clooney went for Amal because he is insecure????? The guy is HOT and RICH and has dated models, etc. You think Ben Affleck went for Jen because he is insecure?????
@Diamon. I'm with tiger on this one, I don't find stick thin beautiful at all, in fact, I find it repulsive. If I can see your bones without you stretching then you're too damn skinny for me.
@Diamon. Who considers models as trophy wives? We obviously don't, models are good to look at. Just because you are good to look at does not make you wife material.
@Diamon. Okay I want you to think about what you just said then go back to your original comments towards us. We explained that we are not interested in trophy wives, but you said she had the entire package. Do you see the issue here?
@Diamon. Giselle is athletic build and is not stick thin like amal. Kate moss has wide hip bones so she doesnt look as straight up and down as amal and is currently dating a nobody. When I say gorgeous I mean Scarlett Johansson, Amber heard, Halle berry, Miranda kerr(model that is not too thin) in their prime. MEN find these women attractive not Amal, who WOMEN only find attractive cause she can dress but doesn't have the assets to be a threat to other women
i think the guys who are tired of shallowness and looks don't necessarily go straight for "plain janes" rather they become more open to dating women they would never have considered before. Because some plain janes can also be really plain, dull and shallow also.
I've learnt a lot from reading these comments. I love how different people have different positive perspectives on this topic and how many people can relate. This video and comments definitely made me have a broad perspective of things. I don't only have my version of the topic of this video but also many other peoples versions. Thank you
Looks aren’t everything, once you hit 25, 30 it’s more about an inner connection. Unless your extremely superficial. Intelligence, kindness, authenticity out weighs looks any day.
I agree with kindness. You can learn that proces being more nice during your life, but intelligence is something you are also born with or without it like looks does, so to me its also superficial to say i love him because he or she is smart
As a man, I can understand why successful men find “plain janes” appealing over “conventionally attractive” debutants. I’m not ignorant of the fact that women, even in our liberalized society, can’t seem to escape the ever constricting and vigorously enforced narrow standards of conventional beauty. Furthermore, I think our society upholds this Disney-esque fantasy of every woman being a princess or queen and should be treated as such. There’s a lot of grown women who haven't fully matured out of this “Princess” phase and to most successful men, that is not an appealing quality. A plain jane represents realness and true confidence. Being conventionally beautiful in the 21 first century is much easier than being a real confident woman. Food for thought.
Unfortunately our modern society creates a large number of "Princesses" and "Peter Pans" Traditional societies emphasize duty, honor and loyality thereby instilling those values in the young by the parents' examples.
Wow! Secure a guy when he s vulnerable and week?! Girls, put your efforts into developing careers and yourselves rather than having it as a goal to find a rich man. You can make your own money. Respect, compatibility and love are the most important in a relationship if you want a happy life and peace in your hearts.
Think about plain Jane as Amal Alamuddin: elegant, sophisticated, u can take her out socially. Then think about the prize girl that looks like a pornstar usually football players, musicians and some business types go for. Wich one is more stable and has a future? :)
I am a woman and I have to laugh at all these “men may be in love with her personality” rhetoric. I think this lady hits a lot of good real facts. I think some men marry less attractive women because they are cheaters and they believe the plain wife will put up with it, because she feels good just to have a rich handsome husband. She hates his cheating but accepts it because he comes home to her, she is the mother of his children, she gains social status being his wife. Now beautiful women can be insecure enough to put up with a dog husband also. But if she is beautiful, he might fear she will cheat on him and has a better chance of getting another handsome rich husband. If they divorce the men she dates may feel inferior to her ex if he is less accomplished than him.
fletcher373 what also makes me laugh is how they talk as if attractive women are automatically dumb and evil, and all plain women are nice and sweet. But i totally agree with you, I also noticed the decent looking rich men know that they can easily get a gorgeous woman, so they play with them to brague about it to their friends, but a gorgeous wife won’t easily worship them ( aka accept their shitty behavior, unfaithfulness, lack of romanticism ...) the way a plain woman would , that’s men’s selfishness. The problem is that many women wants to believe in true love so much, that they prefer to deny that cold truth That’s the main reason why many attractive smart women tend to be single and alone, it’s because they’re clever enough to understand this nature about men, and pretty enough to see them trying to flirt with them behind their wive’s back, so they prefer to avoid them
One of the main reasons, is that young, well educated, successful men are looking for well educated, successful women to settle down with and build a family. The women who are top performers academically are not usually the beautiful, or pretty ones; they are usually plain. However, there are some women who are beautiful, very well educated, and have successful careers; but they are few and far between. These women are in high demand, and they know it. They are usually out of reach for the average man. The competition to snag a beautiful, well educated, successful woman is very stiff.
Maria Smith Yes and for those few women who are beautiful _and_ successful, she doesn’t always stay that way for long. After years of being a broke college/grad student, then several grueling years of interning at low level positions, then competing with men in the corporate world, by the time she’s reached her success, she’s aged, burnt out, probably gained weight, and has sacrificed looking after herself for her career. This is the sad and harsh trade off.
Actually your information is incorrect : there is a correlation of good looks and high IQ.I would suggest looking at studies on this topic and many magazine articles reflect the studies.
@@maridupre7356 I don't understand how there could be a correlation between good looks and high IQ because many good looking people, both men and women, are only good looking because they put more time and effort into their appearance, not necessarily because they were born that way.
every third beautiful girl is bitchy type she want us pay date for everytime from everything from vacation to party then even after marriage they have attitude her money is for her make-up and my money is her personal property it's her decision to make divorce take 50% Money.
Sometimes he searches for a woman, who reminds him of his mother, and that maybe the reason, why a lady close to him is not a beauty at all, but has a light heart, caring etc.
I went on a date with a rich man who told me he chose another woman over me because she had three jobs vs. my one. He was looking for an "average" looking woman and he said I was "athletic".
Beauty is within the eye of the beholder. Many women "level up" with the fake hair, make-up, plastic surgery & still aren't attractive. In most case they look worse I would prefer the natural, plain Jane with substance
Nonea Yobusiness it is true because attraction is subjective. Societal notions of what’s beauty are just that-socially constructed. Having a societal standard is bullshit.
definitely agree with the safety, my first girl was extremely good looking she came to the gym with me 5 times a week to keep in shape. She definitely had a lot of options but chose me. But through time dating her it got very tiring she was very spoiled by society and she acted like she had a lot of options other than me which slowly got old since I had heaps of options too but chose her. Now I have a girl I would say is 6/10 when she wakes up most of my friends find her average but my attraction for her grows more and more. As she's a good daughter to her parents, the most valued person in her friend group and extremely loyal.
She sounds fantastic. She has many more options than some schmuck who’s giving her a number rating for strangers on the Internet. I wonder what she, her parents, or the friends who love her would think of that? 🤔
@@edoboleyn Women rank men, too, either numerically or nominally (attractive or unattractive). You probably do the same in some capacity. This is reality. Stop being so sanctimonious.
Even the most beautiful woman if she is a boring person to be with she'll become ugly for a man. Men like to be with a fun, smart, natural, delicate and feminine woman. If she has these attributes, she doesn't have to be a beauty queen. 😉
Or maybe they just connected in some deep level and fell in love .... real love ... you know that when a man is with a not so attractive woman that he really and truly loves her and nothing will break that because he loves her for who she is
You forget that not all wealthy men, started off wealthy. Most self made men had a strong woman encouraging and supporting him along his rise. And for that the men love them and cherish them beyond just looks.
I think a lot of it has to do with is remembering that being the best version of yourself is more than looks - as you also believe Anna - and to remember that there is someone for everyone and a lot of it has to do with trusting you'll end up with the right person for you.
i'm kinda ashamed to acknowledge that ive been binge watching your videos since 10pm. im super hooked. thank you soo much for this great content. there i'm super excited to put these things to practice.
I hate the title- its click bait, that's what I had a problem with and I didn't need to. I knew it was going to be click bait, to get those views. You can tell just by reading the description.
From my experience, a wealthy, powerful man may marry a plain Jane because she is safe and he assumes she will be faithful to him, while he may be out cheating often.
Sarah Smile Bigggg Facts they know u don’t have many options when dating especially to get into a high society circle. So you won’t want to come out and settle in the sense that you tolerate even questionable treatment!
The average man doesn't cheat on his wife it's actually quite the other way around. You wouldn't want to average man that treats you well you would rather be with the rich man who treats you like crap which is why a lot of men are just done with women. Oh and by the way men are not walking ATMs. You supposed to be with a man because you love him
@@radriffs2 Lmao, brother this is the wrong audience to be spouting this stuff to. You would never be able to get anyone here to understand your point of view.
A man can choose a mate because of common faith, culture, connection, interests....so many reasons! And makeup comes off at the end of the day, not your personality.
Rich, attractive men of inner substance marry women they LOVE and have a strong connection with in all the ways that count in a committed relationship. Whether the woman is plain or beautiful, does she fit into his life and his long-term goals? He may be very family-oriented, and background very often does count. Old money men tend to marry old money women, and if they want a beautiful side piece, well...that's where mistresses come into play. For these men, family bloodline and legacy is all. If you're all that and beautiful, you've got it made! If a man only loves you for your beauty and sexual desirability, beware. If he doesn't introduce you to his friends & family or take you to places he frequents, that's a bright red flag!
This is about the women in the comments & not so much the person making the video as she made good points. A lot of women use this question as a way to validate themselves. There are a lot of these types of women in this comment section boosting their egos by categorizing themselves as the beauty who can't "bag" a rich guy becuase she's too intimidating. There are people who choose less attractive women for the reasons anna said, but the "I'm just too pretty, he would prefer me if he wasn't so intimidated by my beauty" "why would he want a normal looking girl when he could have an expensive looking one" are often coping mechanism type questions.
I’m a gay male and wanted to bag a richer, older man. But I’m a top, and I know most sugar daddies are also tops. Plus I’m not willing to give up my sexual desires and dreams just so I can get money from him. So I’ve decided to pave my own way to wealth.
😂😂seems like way too much work, at least when you have your own wealth you can eventually retire from kissing ass & being a slave to someone else's beauty standards.
I’m telling you as a woman... umm.. there are straight rich guys that like to be the ‘bottom’... on the down low... if you don’t mind, just look carefully, very carefully, and you will find them.. once you bag one, make sure to get your money from them 🤠☝🏼🔍
Sometimes is because the woman is a challenge to them. Men usually like to chase and when they find a challenge they want to conquer. A woman can be “plain” but also complex and mysterious , which can make some men feel like they have to overcome those walls and show the world they were able to get the prize.
Darlicia TV why you interpreted that way when I was mainly talking about what other people consider as a “plain” woman (which is the topic of the video), will remain a mystery to me.
Yeah, sure! The true is the plain or ugly woman would do things in bed and outside to humilihate herself. Some men are narcissists and prefer an ugly woman who kisses the Earth they stepped on to a beautiful woman who keeps him on his toes and doesn't give him so much admiration because she respects and loves herself.
You're right my ex left me for the plane chubby girl because he said it was easier and I'm a bit too much and required too much his loss I won't change 😎
Actually, I think a lot of men choose something 'easy' too, prehaps because they're often primarily driven by reason/logic when making a decision, not feelings.
Kind of like Bobby Brown beating the crap out of Whitney Houston and getting her hooked on drugs these men are intimidated by beautiful successful women and want to drag them down to their level and dominate them to feel better than they are
@@sofiabianchi5284 Maybe shes way better in bed then you and satisfies all his desires. Maybe she gives him a neck rub after work when he's in pain. Maybe she knows how to cook something other than hot pockets, maybe shes more feminine. Maybe she gives him her all. Maybe she doesn't spend all her time on facebook with a bunch of guys liking her pics and sending messages. Maybe when you send her a text message or call her she actually calls you back and doesn't make you wait 2 days while still updating her social media SMH. Many girls these days don't realize then men want to feel masculine and consider being more submissive as a negative trait when its not really. All the comments from girls here are so focused on this idea of control. Keep being a strong independent women who shall not be "controlled" and submit to any man and see how far that takes you...
I'm not rich just middle class but I do consider myself attractive and I've been hit by women for most of my life. I'm not attracted to very attractive women because most of them are very shallow and are not very intellectual. I care about beauty but I also need intelligence otherwise I get bored fast. This also applies to relationships with male friends; if they can't hold an intellectual conversation with me I get bored of them fairly quickly.
It could be a good man with character and integrity looking for a real relatioship based on more than just looks. An intellectual match, emotional support, a perfect soulmate. And these woman are likely not the vapid desperate types that throw themselves at men. Men want to chase and hunt for you, if you are hard to catch, you are high value
When looks are the most important thing on your list, you have a high chance of a failing relationship. These men will say things like "she got fat so im no longer sexually attracted to her." If you look at couples who stay together 40 years they are usually with their best friend. When I was 20 I went for the most attractive woman I could get. Now at 39, I go for the most genuine woman that can build with me, that I can get. Ive broken up with several attractive women in my life to pursue better woman that arent necessarily as societally "hot".
@You stole my burrito, Charlie So you think a woman would be more attracted to a superficial man with no substance? You must be as stupid as your screen name.
This is an awesome, awesome video. I notice that a lot of men at my church (usually pastors who are attractive) tend to marry these plain Jane women that wear zero makeup and wear nothing but dark colors and Jean's. Some of these women tend to be closed off, boring and are cold too..and that throws me off the most. Sometimes I just sit and wonder " why did he choose her" especially if he's kind & has a great personality. I assumed that it was for some of the reasons that you mentioned, but I also think that these men go for these types of women b/c she's low maintenance, not only physically, but she's submissive as well. The plain Jane doesn't require much BUT she tends to treat women like myself, who embrace their femininity and beauty while being modest and humble, like a threat because she's insecure. I'm dealing with something like this right now and it's soooo annoying. I'm like" lady, it's not my fault that I'm feminine and I don't want your man!". I've never even had a full conversation with this woman but you would think I've offended her entire existence just based on the way that she looks at me. She's insecure and is taking it out on other women. It's pathetic
Society doesn’t always reward you for being beautiful and attractive! I myself have been harassed so many times, and even physically assaulted for looking above average ( I was a professional dancer, my body was super toned and fit), that at that time i seriously started thinking i was doing totally wrong for dressing elegantly and trying to look my best... In recent years, I have relaxed, but the harassment and assault experiences still haunt me.
IS the world will live in now so artificial and superficial that true love doesn't play a role anymore in choosing of life-mate? or why do we base everything on looks, am annoyed with the presumptions of so many people thinking that the only way you can fall in love is if the person is perfect and gorgeous. THE HEART CALL TO WHO THE HEART WANT!
baba! The world has always been like that. When I was younger I didn’t agree with this mentality either, I only believed in true genuin love, totally uninterested love etc. I am not a materialistic women, but to be honest I realised that it’s not only ‘the heart wants what it wants’, we have to think at many things, not only at the fact that ‘I love him’ because this is not the only thing in choising a life mate. When i date a guy and I think about something seroius with him like maybe marrige, I also thik: Ok, I like him, he is handsome, kind, intelligent and what other qualities he has. But I really think about this things: If he is well educatef, if he has a financial stability because this is very important if we want to build a family (ofc I earn my own monney too, but I don’t want a men that earns less because it won’t work out because he won’g feel masculin anymore because historically talking the man is the provider and he has to look after his family. So he has to earn more than me), if he comes from a good family (not necesserly a rich family, but a well educated, intellectual family, also with financial possibilities etc). You have to think at the whole specter, not only ‘I love him’. It’s valable also for men
The ‘I love him, he loves me and that’s altt that matters’ thing only applys when you are young and genuin. These are nice relationships but most likely they won’t tutn into marrige
As a man, I watched and was pleasantly surprised, that in today's climate there are still women like you who self-reflect in the public domain speak in a way which is realistic and keeping both genders in mind in her approach without falling in the trap of political correctness or preaching the gospel of feministic utopianism. More power to you!
I am single because I have not found anyone in my league. I am not willing to settle. I am not that picky either. I have dated guys who were not gorgeous or wealthy. I need a bunch of characteristics like I have. It is so hard to find. I love your channel Anna. You are like a wise mentor. Thank you.
I used to have the same question until I heard a conversation among my cousins they were all for going out with the cutest girl but as a partner, to marry, then the criteria turned into how intelligent and educated a woman is. They were looking for a woman who could, for example, bring new ideas to improve the family business
Many women Believe that make up and accessories make them look more attractive to men; all it does is capture a man’s attention initially, but it doesn’t captivate him long term. In terms of appearance men are very forgiving. Men are primarily attracted to very soft smooth skin, a nice body shape, and long hair. If you are decent in these three areas, you don’t really need to alter yourself to much. Men don’t really appreciate how well designed your eyebrows are or the color of lipstick you’re wearing or the brand names of your clothing or clunky heels. A naturally pretty girl with simple t shirt, shorts and her hair up in a bun can capture a mans attention more than a completely made up one.
It's about the attitude. You can be plain or elegant, but at the end of the day, handsome high value men will marry a woman for her supportive, respectful, unselfish, family-first attitude.
I've dated the narcissistic type and it's true that sometimes they'll go for less attractive women, but if they are true narcissists it doesn't matter, as they'll move on to another victim soon enough. In my case, my ex dated me because he considered me very beautiful, as did his friends, and this made him look and feel better (socially). You have to look at the other variables surrounding a relationship.
Came across one due to my shyness and insecurities so yes they target plain janes because the plain janes are how can I say are more often down to earth kind loyal type so they are perfect targets for them
Yes, exactly! They are "Safe" as if all beautiful women don't have deep feelings and don't cheat. Smh. Every guy I date always want me to take my extensions out and wear no makeup, to plain me down basically
Thetasteofhoney1 thing about it is, not every unattractive woman has a good personality and a nice looking woman doesn't always have a shit personality. so it's like idk 😂
Thetasteofhoney1 girl. We'll never know lmao I used to work retail in the mall and be ringing up and this couple will come up, girl scowlling already and he just starts kissing her right in front of me. Oh please save it idc🤣
Beautiful hair, makeup, nails, shoes, purses, perfect teeth gives off the vibe of very high maintenance. A man will always have to work hard to maintain her.
Ive met many women who are both gorgeous and intelligent. They can hold conversations and be interesting and yet they like to look aesthetically pleasing. It's possible!
I love beautiful woman, but in my experience , generally they are shallow, dramatic, illogical, unintelligent, and HIGH MAINTAINENCE (time and money). As a successful man, ofcourse I have married an average but intelligent girl but who doesn't have those qualities. What she lacks in beauty, she makes up in other areas. It's all about ease and joy living for a LIFETIME. That's what marriage is all about. Just ask the successful and handsome men with average wife, those are the main reasons. It''s so super rare to see a beautiful woman with the right qualities and wife materials. But she may play the part. Maybe it's just my misfortune lol.
As Dita Von Teese says: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches."
agree
Because beauty fades away and stops being a barganing chip or a value.
Meaning the oldest peach?
No they are afraid to approach you .Just give men a chance lori
So true
No man goes for plain woman. She's only plain in the eye of other women. Men see things differently.
This is very true, she is not a plain jane, for him she is extra ordinary
She has a beauty or appeal that others cannot see.
O v O
Wow...the only answer that shows that knows more than the host of this video giving false statements...
Exactly
1- They're insecure about themselves.
2- Jealousy issues.
3- He actually sees her as beautiful.
4- Has other preferences. Examples: intelligence, wisdom, caregiving, etc.
5- Prioritises her background and path in life.
From what I’m getting is women only love men when they provide for them, buy them gift a nice dinner etc. selfish. And marriage will be a problem in this generation. Women are gunna be more hungry for marriage while men aren’t cause they gain nothing from it. They’ve seen the side affects of it.
Maybe he just doesn't want a girl who's not the town bicycle.
@@onetwo4932 exaclty
@@onetwo4932 Who hurt you, lmao ? You sound like an incel.
Usually 4, from what my male friends tell me re the sort of woman they ask me to help them meet....
Actually many insecure men just date beauty woman(don’t matter her personality) because they see her as a trophy.
True.
Facts. I want an average looking woman that a has a good heart to me that's all that has to matter, this "beautiful" women get lost in the sauce too much.
Αs well as narcissistic men in order to show off....
@Mortal Silence yeah and probably lose half of your wealth in alimony after a divorce ( really wise choice )
@Depy K Narcissistic men marry women who are unattractive too. They’ll marry her knowing that she’s more likely to put up with their narcissistic behavior as she doesn’t have many other men interested in her. They’ll treat her bad, cheat on her while she’s pregnant, have her preoccupied with a job while they sit in their cubicle at work and go online to talk/meet up with other women. Also, nothing wrong with a man showing off his beautiful woman unless that’s his sole reason for being with her. Beauty is important to men as being a provider is important to women.
The look attracts the man, the mind makes him stay 💋
NOT ALWAYS!
Women, too...
@Dorian Grey right🙌
Dorian Grey 98% of men have no mind and respect for women
@@solarlola5953 atleast 2% have all 100% women's don't have respect towards men
Strangely enough, the most handsome men I knew were the least concerned about beauty in a mate. Two very handsome men I dated both settled on plain, slightly overweight women to marry. Both are also nice, intelligent men, wives are nice, and intelligent women too. So maybe handsome men are weary of shallowness from people, and want something with more depth like you said. The plain guys I dated seemed more concerned about beauty in a woman. Go figure.
@Dominique Lavalle Nobody wants to make themselves feel insecure wtf are you saying
Interesting! I dated a stupid man and I mean LOW intelligence and I was dumped because I wasn't "pretty enough!" THAT was in 1983. I was 32 then. Those plain guys you dated that "were more concerned about beauty in a woman" was due to a lack of confidence in themSELVES!!!
right! its usually/always the guys that dont have anything and look like nothing themselves that always talk about wanting a "hot" woman. like please. the handsome and extremely handsome guys are cool as hell. its the average and hideous guys that think they deserve or are entitled to beautiful or hot women.
100% agree
@Full of Mischief well damn papi! this is a whole gem! i know i noticed/remember(and just now thought about b/c of your comment) men who would break their necks to finally talk to a girl they thought was so hot and they finally would but it would always seem shortly after you wouldnt hear him talk or even conversing with her any more, i found it strange b/c there they would be still trying to have stimulating conversations with me.
I picked up a rich man being a plain Jane because I thought he wouldn't be interested in me lol so I was comfortable talking to him normally
Sue-Anne Gayadeen yup! This is the story of my life. Sorta. When I don’t like a man I can be myself and they alwayyyyys start liking me when I like the man? I try to be cool but really acting like a fool and I miss out. Wellll I did back in my dating days
@s c simple don't let him leave the house hungry or horney
I did a similar thing! I am average looking, maybe even below average and I dated the MOST attractive and popular guy in the town. All the popular gorgeous girls would literally fight over him. I had a huge crush on him for many years and was too shy and nervous to talk to him. One day I just gave up and talked to him like I would anyone. He started liking me in that very instant and we dated for 2 years. I ended up breaking up with him---he wanted to marry me and I wanted to experience more of the world before getting married. He was the sweetest boy ever, on top of being tall and handsome. Girls would literally just come up to me and tell me they liked my boyfriend. Lol. Or as we walked by people at a party or something, all the girls would say, "Amy, your so lucky." The most popular girl--rich and cheerleader type...all the boys really liked her---she pulled me to the side and said she thought I should know that she liked my boyfriend. Lol. I didn't care because I was very secure in our relationship. He could see past all the superficiality. It was awesome. He cried so much when I broke up with him. 😔
@Venth Z I have never heard that attractive women are more slutty. Actually, the other way around. Plain Janes tend to be more desperate.
@@lootangshellhouse2506 And if you have kids, don't hire a nanny.
Maybe some men... actully go for personality lol
sunsbookishgamesx haha yes!
noooo
@@kp782 noooooooooooo
Ana Ayana what no? It is a fact
Yea men do look for personality, women Go for looks and money. That's why they keep losing in the dating world
I married a very rich man and all my friends gone. But I have been with my husband about 20 good years and then I have some many friends then. Once I we got married, they were all bitter. Well as know that , I didn't care about them. If you can't be happy for me, then you are not a good friend. I am still married to the same man and thank God. Fake friends bye.
Ohhh I think that’s what has happened to me recently! When I got married, the friends I had since childhood, some of them, stopped being my friend. They don’t even give me a like on my marriage photo on Facebook. Wow. But as you said, if they can’t be happy for me, they are not real friends, thank you for that sis :)
They are not you friend.
You are very lucky. Got yourself a good man and got rid of bad people. 🙏🏽
I'm engaged to a man who can't even afford a 300 dollar mortgage in a crappy run down cabin and I also lost all my friends when we got together. Literally have nobody but him now and my parents.
@@nadiablue5989 some people value loyalty over money. its not a bad thing. You can always earn more money but its very very hard to change a rotten character and instill good morals in people.
Even Brad Pitt got dumped.
In hindsight, Jennifer would have been better for him. Plain Jane.
@Sweetpea Especially now. He was hot when he was younger but people keep using Brad Pitt and George Clooney as like the epitome of hotness even though that stopped being true like 2 decades ago lol.
Jennifer Aniston must move on.. She's a beauty. Brad have done so much.
@Sweetpea he is got the perfect face shape for a man😍
Cuz Brads got a pit down there.
I've worked in finance and dealt with a lot of wealthy clients. In almost every case I've encountered where the woman is less physically attractive than her male partner, her mind more than makes up for it. These men are not insecure. They want a woman who is sharp and intelligent and is not there to take his money because she is out there making her own bank. These women are in finance, enterpreneurs, attorneys, surgeons, executives, i.e. high power individuals.
gelatoallimon wow really? I go to med school, and I alway hear that I’m pretty so do you think I have a chance to catch a wealthy ( maybe attractive man) if i want to?
@@i_only_simp_for_myself800 Jeez dude just stop looking for self-affirmation from these videos
Yes, this is very accurate. Usually self made men who didn’t inherit their money have very different mindsets than other people and prioritize certain things in women more than others.
@@i_only_simp_for_myself800 of course sweetie.....every one has a preference so ....u make your wish list about what you want in your life & work for it ...by work i mean self development work tooo ....men usually notice a woman who is quite unfazed at anything coz they are quite relaxed with their life which makes them wonder🤣🤣 i don't know if it has scientific back up...but try to love your own life..... people will come running to you coz they don't find peace in themselves sometimes 🥰🥰
@@digitaljosh_ seriously!!!!!!!
“Catch a man when he’s weak or vulnerable” LOOLL sounds like catching a Pokemon 😂
Zed truth!
@@KawaiiGoddess2023 not with that fake blonde wig on....
That is what men do to women
I guess that was my wife's strategy when I was a broke teenager XD. I see it totally different now
Yet this is so true. Timing is everything.
That’s the cleanest kitchen I’ve ever seen.
Shes in the kitchen section in home depot
Diego Galindo ahaaaahaaaaahhaha
Diego Galindo likely
Jay facts that’s why men go for normal women because they have common sense
Uber Eats ftw :P
I really like the fact that there are men amongst us who have watched this video and also commented.
My husband is actually way better looking than me and younger than me. I never thought he would be interested in me and that's the reason I was normal around him and didn't try hard for anything. After watching your video I think he was one of those types where be didn't know he was a catch! Good for me!
I can see why you're thinking that way. Kudos to both of you!
He's probably making fun of you behind your back those types of guys do that.
@@jacindapeters2303 as long as it's behind my back. He is still with me after 15 years. He gives me everything I desire. Treats me like a lady.
@@suman2175 plain jane where? Dear you husband know what he was doing, you look amazing. Don't sell yourself short.
@@tellatt4211 😘
I'll never forget this old French film where this businessman was married to the most gorgeous, model like woman. Literally a 10/10. And he ended up falling in love and having an affair with his plain, chubby and frumpy secretary. He said the wife looked perfect but she was shallow and self obsessed while the Secretary was kind, interesting and made him feel like a king.
Looks aren't everything kids -especially when hot girls are everywhere!
@Diamon.Yeah I think the message is more revolutionary than the idea that it's stereotypical for a gorgeous woman to be self centered. A lot of people can think of one gorgeous woman they know that is unattractive internally but not a lot of people would easily accept when a wealthy/handsome man falls in love with a '4/10' instead of a '10/10'
Nous Nous what is the title of the film? Would like to watch thank you!!
Trop Belle Pour Toi (Too Beautiful for You) is the film and it stars Bond Girl Carole Bouquet. The end is really interesting.
@Diamon. Or the self-esteem of men.
I'm pretty sure I saw that, with Gerard Depardieu. It didn't ring true. Yes, he might choose someone less beautiful than his model wife, but not to that extreme.
I think there are two things at play. 1) Men and women have different standards of beauty. What women might call 'beautiful' could be boring or dull-looking to a man. What some men call 'beautiful' can look tarty and basic to women, etc. And 2) you have to remember that a lot of times very rich men have already had their share of beautiful women! They've slept with models, actresses, escorts, etc. At that point in their lives, beauty is abundant and far more available to them than an average man. That's why a woman who has other qualities besides beauty can seem more interesting when she's compared to the exceptionally pretty women he has had before.
This is so true too!! I love how you wrote this.
@@timelessredlipstick And he will still sleep with them on the side.
My favorite answer thus far.
man i got have change inside
Also to become rich you must be discplined and have a daily routine. A girl that is supportive may have build him up and given him that chance to have stable and push through that difficult job.
Most of these comments imply that attractive (or mode type) women are not smart, or that they're shallow and high maintenance. Some are, some aren't. Don't judge.
S O 💯
When you live your life obtaining opportunities from beauty it's hard to develop your critical thinking and logic I agree with you that not all beautiful people are not smart but it's hard to be smart if you focus on shallow beauty
Yup! Look at Madison Beer ! Best combination of personality, beauty and brain.
As I listen to Anna, she states, it is just a general observation as everyone knows there are exceptions.
@@moucoucoubg9564 Well, some people are just blessed by the puberty fairy, you can still be smart
She nails it. Everytime. She is real, raw, and unafraid to be honest. I absolutely admire her for that. She speaks so much truth, and is very knowledgable of looking at things from all perspectives. Love this video, so true.
She doesn't nail it every time. Sometimes she is just superficial.
Undercover Hamster - yeah she is superficial just like heir “attractive” (fake,unnatural) body
she is the female version of incels. adopting her attitude will make you very unlikable
Honestly, when I first started watching her, I thought the videos might be kind of sexist. But after watching her videos, I think she’s really sensitive to other people’s views, and being really respectful and inclusive of everyone. It’s a really wonderful thing, and I’m glad she decided to start a finishing school. I think she’s great at it.
👌👌👌
❤👍👋
It's been my observation that my very good looking friends have struggled to find a stable man. I've had men say to me they wouldn't dare ask my friend out, because she is too good for him. The ones who do ask them are the arrogant, narcissistic types who believe they deserve. I'm 64, so have spent many years watching this phenomenon. This is a very interesting topic; thank you. 🌹
Struggled? You mean they’ve been monkey branching between men to find the right rich one but it’s now too late because they’re old sags 🤣🤣🤣
@@SheIsTired She probably has younger friends too and she has been seeing this since her youth.
I believe that a lot of times when a wealthy man goes for a plainer woman it is because of her higher intelligence.
There is substantial evidence behind this I have seen this time and time again Wisdom is very attractive #facts
Not only because of her intelligence, but also her talents and artistic abilities. A plain Jane who knows how to play the violin and can paint a scenery into a beautiful piece of artwork ( a painting) is way more attractive to a wealthy man than a bombshell who lacks brains and talents. Moreover, there's also a higher chance that less fortunate men out there would be physically attracted to the bombshell and have affairs with her which would lead to divorce and the wealthy man would eventually lose half of his assets and having to pay a monthly alimony for the rest of his life. In other words, a wealthy man is usually much smarter than the average Joe.
Sultana Yasemin but as Anna said, the man my find a person that we find plain, to be very attractive. It is quite subjective.
I agree. My co worker is a very nice and highly intelligent woman. Whenever I talk to her I feel like I’m talking to someone who has a very old soul and that’s so beautiful. Even I have never met someone like her. She is really an intriguing and amazing person. But if you look at her she is not really pretty... her husband on the other hand is so handsome and has a good job, comes from affluent family . And she comes from a very normal family but she did study law but didn’t do anything with her education. For him it doesn’t really matter. He loves her for her mind and that’s beautiful.
*Im pretty sure no man cares about that. They all want beauty.*
That is a stereotype about men. Sure, there are lots of men who think only in terms of a woman's physical appeal hence the sole reason he gets with her.
But there are *plenty* more that value a woman for her independence, child-like nature, creativity and intellect. Beauty and what constitutes it his highly subjective and in fact, no society has ever come to an agreement on what it looks like (paintings and art of once rounded women to now slender ones) can attest to this. Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Barack Obama and plenty others all have average/attractive looking wives at best that do a great job taking care of themselves. I would wager *MOST* wealthy men who stand to have lots to lose prefers a woman he can build a legacy with beyond superficial "beauty" that will look aged in 15-20 years.
I feel like there are a lot of immature thinkers under this video projecting their own insecurities.SMH
Even if some of her points are valid, this was hard to listen to. It's sad we are such judgemental creatures....I would rather have self respect before having a man control me... but then again, I bought my own BMW, botox, laser treatments and vacations... it's best to be beautiful inside and out and financially stable from your own success. I have a successful career and told am hot, beautiful etc.... have it all... mostly secure people approach me. I can smell a narcissist a mile away... learned the hard way... but I learned. Doing it on my own feels better than being arm candy...I know first hand.
Lisa Eve is that really it?
Truth. It's still best to be financially independent for women so there's no guilt of splurging money for yourself no matter how expensive. 😊
S O L P A H M for unwanted pregnancy as well ^^
Most can't sense a "narcissist" right away UNLESS you've already been burned to the point of learning your lesson. Otherwise, you're just paranoid and really not sure what to do when you do smell it!
I aspire to be like you 🥰💓. Congratulations on everything you have earned. Have a beautiful day.
Its because we look for heart above beauty. When you reach a certain success it comes with wisdom. Simple as that.
@My Sunglasses I agree looks do play a part but generally we're attracted whether we like it or not to what we deserve. Intelligent men are attracted to intelligent women.shallow insecure mwn will be attracted to shallow insecure women. If you want insight into a person's character look at the type of people they are attracted to.
Absolutely true.
Yeah.. Right
@@HeavenlyRainPath because she is only one night stand material then😂
Boom! Well said!
Iam wealthy and I got wealthy male friends, in general when you know that you can get any girls, the only thing that will be attractive in a woman is her mind, how intelligent artistic unique in case of originality, this type of thing. Cause we already got all the money the power, we don't chase beta males meat no more... I'm going to tell you a secret but 🤫. When an average male chase the most attractive woman ( most of the time) that's a low self esteem issue, an ego thing. In their head they are like "if I can't get the MONEY, I will go for the attractive woman" this is about what they represent in society. When you already got all that you want, achieved your material goals, got high self esteem, you got nothing to prove the car, the suit, the money prove it for yourself, you as a man will start look up for something more, something bigger more profound and high vibrational, then all the superficial girls look the same and overtime the physical attractiveness became completely shallow and you become what we call a Sapiosexual, love of the mind the originality. That's why if a rich man marry a girl just for her beauty, he will end up cheating or something else cause in reality he's completely lost. Make sense right. Well I was, just passing by have a good day!!
Lies!
I see this a lot
True. What I've noticed is that average men don't want original, artistic and highly intelligent women. They simply run away from them, even if those women are also very beautiful.
kireo scalers
Several good looking smart successful women get prejudiced by how they look. I think most rich men don’t need a challenge. They find it very difficult to cope with a smart attractive women. It’s very challenging to have a healthy marriage with a smart attractive woman, as it brings out masculine insecurities and controlling issues in most men.
Obsession with looks can underestimate good men and human. You can’t judge a book by its title. Can you?
Ofcourse they have to have chemistry and a good personality. While physical beauty is important, it's not everything.
I think a lot of men do this because a. they don't want to have to deal with a high maintenance woman, or b. they are looking for something deeper like personality, kindness, brains, etc.
High maintenance?... I thought the better you look, the less you have to do to make it look good... or at least the less time it takes... I would not want to spend my life in the beauty salons, although I do spend quite a bit time on self care.... doesn't make sense.
@@garnetsword maintaining good looks over time is expensive
@@songbirdforjesus2381 ... and depends on what all you want to get done
Kindness isn't only a plain Jane character. It depends how the person was raised. Just because someone has looks doesn't mean thats all they have to offer the world.
@@songbirdforjesus2381 Yes, once I was at a music shop at the mall in a amall town near where I live. The cashier saw me checking out the many posters of beautiful, famous young mexican & mexican-american female singers. Then she tells me 'it takes a lot of money to look like that' & she smiled. I have to agree with her. There's the gym memberships and/or personal trainers, hair salon visits, nail manicures & pedicures, braces, teeth whitening, beauty spa treatments & the list goes on. Sigh. I try to do what I can with what I can afford but I refuse to be a slave to todays beauty standards. I no longer wear fake nails & I won't wear fake lashes. I also color my own hair at home. 😊
All my rich male friends are married to very intelligent women looks are second..it’s about compatibility..true something for everyone 👍
Usually rich men marry sensible, calm, down to earth, mentally-stable women with common sense and that could be called a form of intelligence. Even better if this type of woman has money and is from money. Looks are secondary. A rich man can have an affair with a beautiful young woman on the side anytime he wants; and wifey if she is smart will deny or ignore it.
Mia Manning is that really it?
Sunday Esisio Yes ..I believe Geny Meade has it right..see above commenit
Mia Manning I agree with you on compatibility. However looks are very important as well as being intelligent. I think everyone has his/her own opinion and desires, people are different. Same vain it’s what causes attraction.
Mia Manning You sound good, how about you?
Internal beauty is priceless Ana. Humble hearts are so more attractive than a beautiful harping woman who wants only things she brings headaches and heartache to these men.
there are alot of ugly plain women who are high maintenance unpleasant dumb controlling bitchy and undercover gold diggers as well. just because a basic plain or down right ugly woman gets chosen by a rich good looking man doesnt mean she is exceptional- or smart or nice or non shallow. or beautiful on the inside..the guy has low self esteem or childhood issues or insecure control freak or fetish for certain type of woman.
Well said !!!
Kar Doubleyou couldn’t agree more!!. I am speechless at how many people automatically assume that the plain Jane is the “nice” one and that the pretty girl is the “bitchy” and “high maintenance”. It’s not that simple- people are much more complex than their appearance. In fact many plain looking girls are jealous, manipulative and catty with attractive girls- I see this all the time.
So correct that's what he said
Exactly! Usually its the opposite!
Some women can’t help being beautiful. It’s not something they can choose or turn off. They were just born that way. They just possess an innate femininity and magnetism that attracts certain men. Not all beauty is manufactured. And for those women who have it, they should absolutely use it to their advantage. Some men want a woman who is sexy and gorgeous, some men want a woman who is smart and educated and financially successful. Some men want a woman who is domestic and maternal. This to me is great news! No matter what a woman’s attraction is, it simply means that there is a place for her! And all women have to do is hone in on what they uniquely and individually have to offer. The differences we as women have is what makes being a woman so wonderful.
Thank you, your comment made my day 😃 i love it
Aurelia Avalon
Awwee you’re so sweet! Glad I can help :)
Yes, great comment Ashley 😘
Sweet
Beautifully stated🤗😍
It takes couple of months to help someone to improve their looks (ie food, exercise etc). It takes forever (if ever) to drastically improve her personality to something sweet, nice to be around and caring
Best not to go for people you have to improve.
So true
Marry me
food exercise wont change body type
I've noticed that these men might date more plain looking women, but not "unattractive" women. That is because plain women are still beautiful but not overdone and they come across as more genuine. But, you have to look at little harder to see their beauty. It is not screaming "look at me!" I used to wear more make-up and attention-getting clothes until someone in high society explained this to me, and I have toned it down some. You may not get as much attention, but the attention is more quality and not just men trying to hook up.
Let's face it, people think a very made-up woman is shallow, even if she's not and wealthy men don't want that type of judgment on their wife or their family. It's not fair, but it's life.
Agree with you.
Makes sense!
You nailed it with this comment......wowwww
Not even close just the girl that is a 7/10 will save you less bullshit and will be real and the girls that are 10/10 just are a headache they ask for too much it gets annoying. I would gladly choose the 7/10 any day, I own a business and really don’t have time for bs so 7/10 is good 🤣, I mean she’ll appreciate it more when she finds out I’m making 6 figures 🤫🤣🤣🤣
It might also be a Eurocentric cultural thing. I know in the east a gorgeous women (who yes, can also mutually be seen as regal and intelligent) is preferred as a wife
Also, men sometimes prefer a woman that makes them laugh and have a good sense of humor.
yes
A shallow reason to marry someone
@@Lana.a_ everything fades....nothing is permanent
Lol, that never happens.
@@bilboriches7216 so true lol. The most guys I know whom are attractive they go for attractive women, not even looking at plain jane, maybe for a hookup but thats it. Also rich male celebs go for the looks
Men can see more deeply into a woman's beauty than she can see when she looks in the mirror.
When the erectile dysfunction disorder kicks in that’s when they want to faithful.
Muriel Oduro hahahahah
Not. Even. Then.
LOL True
yeah but when women hit their late 30's thats when they become hoes where their only validation of youth comes from sleeping with a 19 year old boy
well a low libido and prude person like You shouldnt judge. Id rather be with a woman who likes a high sexuality then one like You who criticises it, become a nun and stfu
I'm engaged to a quality man and I've always seen myself as plain and nothing special but he told me that he chose me because I can make him laugh, I take care of him, and he loves that I'm kind to animals. He says I'm a combination of Audrey Hepburn and Angelina Jolie 🥰🥰🥰 And I don't feel so plain anymore.
Awwww that's lovely 😊
none can be plain being a mix of Angelina and Audrey!! :D
Beautiful.
I am autistic and stupid my millionaire handsome smart bf loves me anyway
I make men laugh, LOVE all animals (they love my soft voice ) a good listener. BEEN said, I'm almost 70 now, that I resembled Natalie Wood and/or Jill St. John. Did that mean I could have had a chance with Robert Wagner?!! Just a bit of levity, there.
Only still trying to find answers. Part of the problem is that I cannot be "unevenly yoked with an unbeliever" in Biblical sense. But OTHER friends have been able to find husbands. Still people say I look incredibly young for my age. Hair is it's natural color, too.... Will likely delete this in a month's time. Did anyone ever tell "you" that life would be fair? My Mum used to say that....All I have to say
I've come to accept that you seriously cannot judge a book by its cover. Dated a very beautiful woman, for a short period of time, and what ended it was the fact that our conversations were horrible. She was more into common gossip, and I was not. Since, I've noticed that I tend to stay much longer with a woman that can engage me in great conversation and laughs, and who enjoys getting out and doing "outdoorsy" things, regardless of whether she's considered a '10' or not by society.
You dated 1 beauty and just assumed they were all superficial, dumb bimbos so you settled for an unattractive woman?thats even dumber i think. If you like attractive women you just keep pushing until you find a beauty who also has the wits and can carry an interestimg convo w you!
You are a man of culture. Actually having partner with desired personality is more important than looks in the long run.
Ohhh yes! I've been fortunate to see many older women in my community as they go about their lives, and oh man, being tied to one with bad character would be absolutely horrific. Like with post-coital clarity, now you are stuck with the person: the whole person!!!
I disagree with the "insecure rich men go for ugly women cause he feels he cant do better" no no no. Actually insecure men i find are the MOST likely to be seeking other people's validation and so go for the MOST CONVENTIONALLY attractive women that look like they were manufactured. I doubt there is a RICH man no matter what he looks like that thinks he cant do better uh uh. The attractive rich men who choose plain are actually MORE secure in themselves because they know they are alpha and dont have to prove anything. They lit have women flocking to them but they choose the plains because the plain jane are entertaining and good conversationalists OR she has something else like her own thriving career OR comes from a well off respected family. For example, you really think George Clooney went for Amal because he is insecure????? The guy is HOT and RICH and has dated models, etc. You think Ben Affleck went for Jen because he is insecure?????
@Diamon. yes to you but most guys do not find stick thin like that beautiful. She is skinnier than most victoria secret models.
@Diamon.
I'm with tiger on this one, I don't find stick thin beautiful at all, in fact, I find it repulsive. If I can see your bones without you stretching then you're too damn skinny for me.
@Diamon.
Who considers models as trophy wives? We obviously don't, models are good to look at. Just because you are good to look at does not make you wife material.
@Diamon.
Okay I want you to think about what you just said then go back to your original comments towards us. We explained that we are not interested in trophy wives, but you said she had the entire package. Do you see the issue here?
@Diamon. Giselle is athletic build and is not stick thin like amal. Kate moss has wide hip bones so she doesnt look as straight up and down as amal and is currently dating a nobody. When I say gorgeous I mean Scarlett Johansson, Amber heard, Halle berry, Miranda kerr(model that is not too thin) in their prime. MEN find these women attractive not Amal, who WOMEN only find attractive cause she can dress but doesn't have the assets to be a threat to other women
i think the guys who are tired of shallowness and looks don't necessarily go straight for "plain janes" rather they become more open to dating women they would never have considered before. Because some plain janes can also be really plain, dull and shallow also.
I've learnt a lot from reading these comments. I love how different people have different positive perspectives on this topic and how many people can relate. This video and comments definitely made me have a broad perspective of things. I don't only have my version of the topic of this video but also many other peoples versions. Thank you
Looks aren’t everything, once you hit 25, 30 it’s more about an inner connection. Unless your extremely superficial. Intelligence, kindness, authenticity out weighs looks any day.
I agree with kindness. You can learn that proces being more nice during your life, but intelligence is something you are also born with or without it like looks does, so to me its also superficial to say i love him because he or she is smart
Sarah Drake wow is that really it?
Sensible comments
As a man, I can understand why successful men find “plain janes” appealing over “conventionally attractive” debutants. I’m not ignorant of the fact that women, even in our liberalized society, can’t seem to escape the ever constricting and vigorously enforced narrow standards of conventional beauty. Furthermore, I think our society upholds this Disney-esque fantasy of every woman being a princess or queen and should be treated as such. There’s a lot of grown women who haven't fully matured out of this “Princess” phase and to most successful men, that is not an appealing quality. A plain jane represents realness and true confidence. Being conventionally beautiful in the 21 first century is much easier than being a real confident woman. Food for thought.
Unfortunately our modern society
creates a large number of
"Princesses" and "Peter Pans"
Traditional societies emphasize
duty, honor and loyality thereby
instilling those values in the
young by the parents' examples.
Maybe its men who don't reach "princesses" standard and love to complain about women being high maintenance because they cant maintain them?
@@EughhBrothereughh One would hope in a 21st century modern western democracy, a woman would have every capability to "maintain" herself?
@@EughhBrothereughh grow up and high maintenance is the biggest turn off for any type of man
“A man of quality is not threatened by a woman of equality.” Having money doesn’t mean that you must be a smart man of quality.
Wise words!
To simplify your saying a quality person is not threatened by a mate of equality 😎😇
Wow! Secure a guy when he s vulnerable and week?! Girls, put your efforts into developing careers and yourselves rather than having it as a goal to find a rich man. You can make your own money. Respect, compatibility and love are the most important in a relationship if you want a happy life and peace in your hearts.
Well said .
"Some like apples, some like oranges." Nicely put, concluded.
Perhaps the "Plain Jane" is not an embarrassment?
@Seeker Of Word lol maybe your attitude is the cause? Reading what you wrote kinda gives off bad vibes lol
@Seeker Of Word lol. Maybe guys dont like you cause your a narcissist
@Seeker Of Word I laughed so hard when I read your comment. Thank you. It's very simple like that!
Think about plain Jane as Amal Alamuddin: elegant, sophisticated, u can take her out socially.
Then think about the prize girl that looks like a pornstar usually football players, musicians and some business types go for.
Wich one is more stable and has a future? :)
@Seeker Of Word They cheat on you because you let them
I read somewhere that the majority of men (of all ages) most value two things in a woman 1) honesty and 2) if he has fun with her.
I am a woman and I have to laugh at all these “men may be in love with her personality” rhetoric. I think this lady hits a lot of good real facts. I think some men marry less attractive women because they are cheaters and they believe the plain wife will put up with it, because she feels good just to have a rich handsome husband. She hates his cheating but accepts it because he comes home to her, she is the mother of his children, she gains social status being his wife. Now beautiful women can be insecure enough to put up with a dog husband also. But if she is beautiful, he might fear she will cheat on him and has a better chance of getting another handsome rich husband. If they divorce the men she dates may feel inferior to her ex if he is less accomplished than him.
fletcher373 what also makes me laugh is how they talk as if attractive women are automatically dumb and evil, and all plain women are nice and sweet.
But i totally agree with you, I also noticed the decent looking rich men know that they can easily get a gorgeous woman, so they play with them to brague about it to their friends, but a gorgeous wife won’t easily worship them ( aka accept their shitty behavior, unfaithfulness, lack of romanticism ...) the way a plain woman would , that’s men’s selfishness. The problem is that many women wants to believe in true love so much, that they prefer to deny that cold truth
That’s the main reason why many attractive smart women tend to be single and alone, it’s because they’re clever enough to understand this nature about men, and pretty enough to see them trying to flirt with them behind their wive’s back, so they prefer to avoid them
Yes I agree with you both ❤️
So true and the men like all the attention for himself and they look at other women
Preach!!!!!!!!!!!
Leveling up has a lot to do with inner self,confidence, being presentable ....
They may be plain women who know their worth.
One of the main reasons, is that young, well educated, successful men are looking for well educated, successful women to settle down with and build a family. The women who are top performers academically are not usually the beautiful, or pretty ones; they are usually plain.
However, there are some women who are beautiful, very well educated, and have successful careers; but they are few and far between. These women are in high demand, and they know it. They are usually out of reach for the average man.
The competition to snag a beautiful, well educated, successful woman is very stiff.
Maria Smith Yes and for those few women who are beautiful _and_ successful, she doesn’t always stay that way for long. After years of being a broke college/grad student, then several grueling years of interning at low level positions, then competing with men in the corporate world, by the time she’s reached her success, she’s aged, burnt out, probably gained weight, and has sacrificed looking after herself for her career. This is the sad and harsh trade off.
Actually your information is incorrect : there is a correlation of good looks and high IQ.I would suggest looking at studies on this topic and many magazine articles reflect the studies.
This isn't true at all.
mari dupre So how come none of the nobel prize winners, wealthiest people in the world, or most politicians are never hot.
@@maridupre7356 I don't understand how there could be a correlation between good looks and high IQ because many good looking people, both men and women, are only good looking because they put more time and effort into their appearance, not necessarily because they were born that way.
May be the so called less attractive girl has character and personality which is more attractive then self obsessed beautiful girl
Modesty
every third beautiful girl is bitchy type she want us pay date for everytime from everything from vacation to party then even after marriage they have attitude her money is for her make-up and my money is her personal property it's her decision to make divorce take 50% Money.
Some men are insecure around a beautiful woman. Deep down they feel unworthy and undeserving. Always check his ex before u date him!!
My motto "check the ex"
@@keliekiwi561 Bravo!!!👌
Yup!! You said it!
@Fires And Flowers no one will marry less unless he feels less! substance is not the twin of ugliness!
@Fires And Flowers They need to love themselves first...they do not..or they would be beautiful too!
Sometimes he searches for a woman, who reminds him of his mother, and that maybe the reason, why a lady close to him is not a beauty at all, but has a light heart, caring etc.
I went on a date with a rich man who told me he chose another woman over me because she had three jobs vs. my one. He was looking for an "average" looking woman and he said I was "athletic".
Beauty is within the eye of the beholder. Many women "level up" with the fake hair, make-up, plastic surgery & still aren't attractive. In most case they look worse I would prefer the natural, plain Jane with substance
"Disclaimer: All women ARE beautiful." You really believe that or are you just trying to avoid your inbox from blowing up?
Yes, women are unique you just need to look beneath the veneer.
Some woman are just plain
@@ashchan0504 most are
Nonea Yobusiness it is true because attraction is subjective. Societal notions of what’s beauty are just that-socially constructed. Having a societal standard is bullshit.
All woman are beautiful. We all have something beautiful about us!
Maybe men are tired of fake beauty fake class, and gold diggers, and are looking for someone more authentic.
The plain looking woman may have not always been plain or even plain on the day he met her. A first impression last forever.
Imo, people date people who they like. Looks aren't first priority, I can't imagine things ever being that way.
Because: A attractive, smart, successful men knows that there is more then looks in a person.
Also, another problem with this video is ..attractive men..according to who? Maybe what is atrractive to her is not attractive to other women.
definitely agree with the safety, my first girl was extremely good looking she came to the gym with me 5 times a week to keep in shape. She definitely had a lot of options but chose me. But through time dating her it got very tiring she was very spoiled by society and she acted like she had a lot of options other than me which slowly got old since I had heaps of options too but chose her. Now I have a girl I would say is 6/10 when she wakes up most of my friends find her average but my attraction for her grows more and more. As she's a good daughter to her parents, the most valued person in her friend group and extremely loyal.
She sounds fantastic. She has many more options than some schmuck who’s giving her a number rating for strangers on the Internet. I wonder what she, her parents, or the friends who love her would think of that? 🤔
@@edoboleyn yes, came here to say that.
He really thinks he did something here, but actually sound like a douche.
@@edoboleyn I don’t know what don’t you go ask and find out?
@@edoboleyn Women rank men, too, either numerically or nominally (attractive or unattractive). You probably do the same in some capacity. This is reality. Stop being so sanctimonious.
@@edoboleyn Oh please. Women are just as shallow and looks obsessed as men are. Get over yourself
Even the most beautiful woman if she is a boring person to be with she'll become ugly for a man. Men like to be with a fun, smart, natural, delicate and feminine woman. If she has these attributes, she doesn't have to be a beauty queen. 😉
*Feminine* is the most important. No man wants to date another man just without the penis.
So true
@@sipe254 not true. Some guys are into girls like that
Feminism has ruined many women and men; sadly.
Or maybe they just connected in some deep level and fell in love .... real love ... you know that when a man is with a not so attractive woman that he really and truly loves her and nothing will break that because he loves her for who she is
You forget that not all wealthy men, started off wealthy. Most self made men had a strong woman encouraging and supporting him along his rise. And for that the men love them and cherish them beyond just looks.
Am sorry but bob the builder Chics always lose,,ask Mackenzie Bezos..lol
Diamon. Well look at Lebron James wife , she was a “ bob the builder” chick and her and her husband hasn’t had any scandals . It depends on the man ..
@@djhanecostin4165 he cheated on her white rihanna & a couple of other women he just Sneaky about it.
Amanda W girl how you know ?
I think a lot of it has to do with is remembering that being the best version of yourself is more than looks - as you also believe Anna - and to remember that there is someone for everyone and a lot of it has to do with trusting you'll end up with the right person for you.
i'm kinda ashamed to acknowledge that ive been binge watching your videos since 10pm. im super hooked. thank you soo much for this great content. there i'm super excited to put these things to practice.
Or maybe they marry someone "ugly" because they actually like that person.
Did you actually watch the video?
I hate the title- its click bait, that's what I had a problem with and I didn't need to. I knew it was going to be click bait, to get those views. You can tell just by reading the description.
Well then, don't. You're judging her before you let her a chance to speak. She said no one is ugly.
@Seeker Of Word I guess youve never met a woman
But don't they want someone who's beautiful AND has a good personality??
From my experience, a wealthy, powerful man may marry a plain Jane because she is safe and he assumes she will be faithful to him, while he may be out cheating often.
Sarah Smile Bigggg Facts they know u don’t have many options when dating especially to get into a high society circle. So you won’t want to come out and settle in the sense that you tolerate even questionable treatment!
Also true.
I am sorry to say, but this is true....
The average man doesn't cheat on his wife it's actually quite the other way around. You wouldn't want to average man that treats you well you would rather be with the rich man who treats you like crap which is why a lot of men are just done with women. Oh and by the way men are not walking ATMs. You supposed to be with a man because you love him
@@radriffs2 Lmao, brother this is the wrong audience to be spouting this stuff to. You would never be able to get anyone here to understand your point of view.
A man can choose a mate because of common faith, culture, connection, interests....so many reasons! And makeup comes off at the end of the day, not your personality.
Rich, attractive men of inner substance marry women they LOVE and have a strong connection with in all the ways that count in a committed relationship. Whether the woman is plain or beautiful, does she fit into his life and his long-term goals? He may be very family-oriented, and background very often does count. Old money men tend to marry old money women, and if they want a beautiful side piece, well...that's where mistresses come into play. For these men, family bloodline and legacy is all. If you're all that and beautiful, you've got it made! If a man only loves you for your beauty and sexual desirability, beware. If he doesn't introduce you to his friends & family or take you to places he frequents, that's a bright red flag!
They marry the one they love and sleep with the one they're attracted to. Lol
As a mother of 2 handsome sons, I tell them look for a woman who is a good partner looks fade
Judge Judy actually said. Beauty fades, dumb is forever....
This is about the women in the comments & not so much the person making the video as she made good points.
A lot of women use this question as a way to validate themselves. There are a lot of these types of women in this comment section boosting their egos by categorizing themselves as the beauty who can't "bag" a rich guy becuase she's too intimidating.
There are people who choose less attractive women for the reasons anna said, but the "I'm just too pretty, he would prefer me if he wasn't so intimidated by my beauty" "why would he want a normal looking girl when he could have an expensive looking one" are often coping mechanism type questions.
I’m a gay male and wanted to bag a richer, older man. But I’m a top, and I know most sugar daddies are also tops. Plus I’m not willing to give up my sexual desires and dreams just so I can get money from him. So I’ve decided to pave my own way to wealth.
This is the kind of motivation we need on this site😂😂😂👍
😂😂seems like way too much work, at least when you have your own wealth you can eventually retire from kissing ass & being a slave to someone else's beauty standards.
TigerMonthlyHits um ok
I’m telling you as a woman... umm.. there are straight rich guys that like to be the ‘bottom’... on the down low... if you don’t mind, just look carefully, very carefully, and you will find them.. once you bag one, make sure to get your money from them 🤠☝🏼🔍
Love!
Because we get along perfectly. It's that simple. Peace is worth so much more than looks.
Preach!
Sometimes is because the woman is a challenge to them. Men usually like to chase and when they find a challenge they want to conquer. A woman can be “plain” but also complex and mysterious , which can make some men feel like they have to overcome those walls and show the world they were able to get the prize.
Well put. This is very true x
Evellyn B. Ooh that’s a good explanation- makes sense
So a pretty woman can’t be smart and mysterious?
Darlicia TV why you interpreted that way when I was mainly talking about what other people consider as a “plain” woman (which is the topic of the video), will remain a mystery to me.
Yeah, sure! The true is the plain or ugly woman would do things in bed and outside to humilihate herself. Some men are narcissists and prefer an ugly woman who kisses the Earth they stepped on to a beautiful woman who keeps him on his toes and doesn't give him so much admiration because she respects and loves herself.
My brother married less attractive woman and told me he did it so he can have a peaceful relationship. They been together for 20 yrs now.
I asked my husband what he thought about this topic and he said “I think men just settle because it is easier”🤔
Did you and your husband settle for each other?
@@EM-is9ti Excellent question🤔
Hmmm....
You're right my ex left me for the plane chubby girl because he said it was easier and I'm a bit too much and required too much his loss I won't change 😎
Actually, I think a lot of men choose something 'easy' too, prehaps because they're often primarily driven by reason/logic when making a decision, not feelings.
also men will play this game with their women by devaluing them to maintain control
Kind of like Bobby Brown beating the crap out of Whitney Houston and getting her hooked on drugs these men are intimidated by beautiful successful women and want to drag them down to their level and dominate them to feel better than they are
creolelady182 just like my ex
Exactly! They date unattractive women so they have the control in the relationship and treat her terrible/cheat. It’s a mind game.
Please, like attractive women dont use ugly men all the time for drinks etc
@@sofiabianchi5284 Maybe shes way better in bed then you and satisfies all his desires. Maybe she gives him a neck rub after work when he's in pain. Maybe she knows how to cook something other than hot pockets, maybe shes more feminine. Maybe she gives him her all. Maybe she doesn't spend all her time on facebook with a bunch of guys liking her pics and sending messages. Maybe when you send her a text message or call her she actually calls you back and doesn't make you wait 2 days while still updating her social media SMH. Many girls these days don't realize then men want to feel masculine and consider being more submissive as a negative trait when its not really. All the comments from girls here are so focused on this idea of control. Keep being a strong independent women who shall not be "controlled" and submit to any man and see how far that takes you...
I'm not rich just middle class but I do consider myself attractive and I've been hit by women for most of my life. I'm not attracted to very attractive women because most of them are very shallow and are not very intellectual. I care about beauty but I also need intelligence otherwise I get bored fast. This also applies to relationships with male friends; if they can't hold an intellectual conversation with me I get bored of them fairly quickly.
Beautiful women can be good too, just saying.
It could be a good man with character and integrity looking for a real relatioship based on more than just looks. An intellectual match, emotional support, a perfect soulmate. And these woman are likely not the vapid desperate types that throw themselves at men. Men want to chase and hunt for you, if you are hard to catch, you are high value
But does he lose value for you if he is just excited by the hunt?
What about being a strong women, earn your own money and not running after men?
I agree. Icanteven believe tihis is a topic for a video.
This channel is about affluence and dating an affluent partner. There are other channels for what you’re talking about lol
Good
You'll end up alone because of the hypergamy.
Magical Key Readings is that really it?
When looks are the most important thing on your list, you have a high chance of a failing relationship. These men will say things like "she got fat so im no longer sexually attracted to her." If you look at couples who stay together 40 years they are usually with their best friend. When I was 20 I went for the most attractive woman I could get. Now at 39, I go for the most genuine woman that can build with me, that I can get. Ive broken up with several attractive women in my life to pursue better woman that arent necessarily as societally "hot".
@You stole my burrito, Charlie So you think a woman would be more attracted to a superficial man with no substance? You must be as stupid as your screen name.
@Mortal Silence 80 percent of divorces are initiated by the woman. So no, statistically that is not true.
@Mortal Silence nice try, women cheat at the same rates as men.
@Mortal Silence ad homonym attacks. Sign of a low intelligence person. Calling an engineer with a math degree a dusty...lol priceless.
This is an awesome, awesome video. I notice that a lot of men at my church (usually pastors who are attractive) tend to marry these plain Jane women that wear zero makeup and wear nothing but dark colors and Jean's. Some of these women tend to be closed off, boring and are cold too..and that throws me off the most. Sometimes I just sit and wonder " why did he choose her" especially if he's kind & has a great personality. I assumed that it was for some of the reasons that you mentioned, but I also think that these men go for these types of women b/c she's low maintenance, not only physically, but she's submissive as well. The plain Jane doesn't require much BUT she tends to treat women like myself, who embrace their femininity and beauty while being modest and humble, like a threat because she's insecure. I'm dealing with something like this right now and it's soooo annoying. I'm like" lady, it's not my fault that I'm feminine and I don't want your man!". I've never even had a full conversation with this woman but you would think I've offended her entire existence just based on the way that she looks at me. She's insecure and is taking it out on other women. It's pathetic
I can relate to this situation with women :)
Society doesn’t always reward you for being beautiful and attractive! I myself have been harassed so many times, and even physically assaulted for looking above average ( I was a professional dancer, my body was super toned and fit), that at that time i seriously started thinking i was doing totally wrong for dressing elegantly and trying to look my best... In recent years, I have relaxed, but the harassment and assault experiences still haunt me.
Kate Savva
I am so sorry to hear what happened
Have you seeked help? If yes I hope it is helping 🙏🏾
I was told that my good looks were the biggest impediment to getting a job.
She’s a very articulate person
If a woman supports your goals understands who you really are and is always on your side, Then she becomes the most beautiful
woman in the world
Unfortunately the majority of beautiful women pay more attention to their appearance than improving their personalities and minds
Social media makes women obsessed with their looks
IS the world will live in now so artificial and superficial that true love doesn't play a role anymore in choosing of life-mate? or why do we base everything on looks, am annoyed with the presumptions of so many people thinking that the only way you can fall in love is if the person is perfect and gorgeous. THE HEART CALL TO WHO THE HEART WANT!
baba! The world has always been like that. When I was younger I didn’t agree with this mentality either, I only believed in true genuin love, totally uninterested love etc. I am not a materialistic women, but to be honest I realised that it’s not only ‘the heart wants what it wants’, we have to think at many things, not only at the fact that ‘I love him’ because this is not the only thing in choising a life mate. When i date a guy and I think about something seroius with him like maybe marrige, I also thik: Ok, I like him, he is handsome, kind, intelligent and what other qualities he has. But I really think about this things: If he is well educatef, if he has a financial stability because this is very important if we want to build a family (ofc I earn my own monney too, but I don’t want a men that earns less because it won’t work out because he won’g feel masculin anymore because historically talking the man is the provider and he has to look after his family. So he has to earn more than me), if he comes from a good family (not necesserly a rich family, but a well educated, intellectual family, also with financial possibilities etc). You have to think at the whole specter, not only ‘I love him’. It’s valable also for men
The ‘I love him, he loves me and that’s altt that matters’ thing only applys when you are young and genuin. These are nice relationships but most likely they won’t tutn into marrige
Simplicity is a sign of sophistication to me. Plain women are more interesting and less narcisitic.
As a man, I watched and was pleasantly surprised, that in today's climate there are still women like you who self-reflect in the public domain speak in a way which is realistic and keeping both genders in mind in her approach without falling in the trap of political correctness or preaching the gospel of feministic utopianism. More power to you!
I am single because I have not found anyone in my league. I am not willing to settle. I am not that picky either. I have dated guys who were not gorgeous or wealthy. I need a bunch of characteristics like I have. It is so hard to find. I love your channel Anna. You are like a wise mentor. Thank you.
I asked my husband about this topic, and he said “men settle with them because it is easy “
@@rigacosmeticsurgery4351 thanks so much for responding, listening to the male perspective is always interesting and enlightening 😊👍
yes your husband is right. unattractive women don't spend money haha
@@sokosoko9372 that is actually true 👍
So sad for couples, then
I used to have the same question until I heard a conversation among my cousins they were all for going out with the cutest girl but as a partner, to marry, then the criteria turned into how intelligent and educated a woman is. They were looking for a woman who could, for example, bring new ideas to improve the family business
Would they cheat on her thinking she wasn't attractive enough?
@@catonamushroom1019 of course
Wife someone with ideas, a mistress for outdoors. Lmao men r pathetic
Many women Believe that make up and accessories make them look more attractive to men; all it does is capture a man’s attention initially, but it doesn’t captivate him long term. In terms of appearance men are very forgiving. Men are primarily attracted to very soft smooth skin, a nice body shape, and long hair. If you are decent in these three areas, you don’t really need to alter yourself to much. Men don’t really appreciate how well designed your eyebrows are or the color of lipstick you’re wearing or the brand names of your clothing or clunky heels. A naturally pretty girl with simple t shirt, shorts and her hair up in a bun can capture a mans attention more than a completely made up one.
Don't we all just dream of being that girl who is beautiful in a simple T, shorts & a bun🤩😆😇
Couldn't said it better my self
I could't agree more. Well spoken.
It's about the attitude. You can be plain or elegant, but at the end of the day, handsome high value men will marry a woman for her supportive, respectful, unselfish, family-first attitude.
I've dated the narcissistic type and it's true that sometimes they'll go for less attractive women, but if they are true narcissists it doesn't matter, as they'll move on to another victim soon enough. In my case, my ex dated me because he considered me very beautiful, as did his friends, and this made him look and feel better (socially). You have to look at the other variables surrounding a relationship.
@Nostalgic _99 narcissists are incapable of treating anybody well, including their own parents.
Came across one due to my shyness and insecurities so yes they target plain janes because the plain janes are how can I say are more often down to earth kind loyal type so they are perfect targets for them
Yes, exactly! They are "Safe" as if all beautiful women don't have deep feelings and don't cheat. Smh. Every guy I date always want me to take my extensions out and wear no makeup, to plain me down basically
Thetasteofhoney1 it's ridiculous, rich or not they still act that way with pretty women.😑
Thetasteofhoney1 thing about it is, not every unattractive woman has a good personality and a nice looking woman doesn't always have a shit personality. so it's like idk 😂
Thetasteofhoney1 girl. We'll never know lmao I used to work retail in the mall and be ringing up and this couple will come up, girl scowlling already and he just starts kissing her right in front of me. Oh please save it idc🤣
Thetasteofhoney1 right!? What's real about both people having to stroke each other's egos lol
Montana Chanel But a beautiful woman would still be beautiful even without weave and makeup.
Beautiful hair, makeup, nails, shoes, purses, perfect teeth gives off the vibe of very high maintenance. A man will always have to work hard to maintain her.
Good point
Ive met many women who are both gorgeous and intelligent. They can hold conversations and be interesting and yet they like to look aesthetically pleasing. It's possible!
I love beautiful woman, but in my experience , generally they are shallow, dramatic, illogical, unintelligent, and HIGH MAINTAINENCE (time and money). As a successful man, ofcourse I have married an average but intelligent girl but who doesn't have those qualities. What she lacks in beauty, she makes up in other areas. It's all about ease and joy living for a LIFETIME. That's what marriage is all about.
Just ask the successful and handsome men with average wife, those are the main reasons.
It''s so super rare to see a beautiful woman with the right qualities and wife materials. But she may play the part. Maybe it's just my misfortune lol.
You haven't looked hard enough for beautiful woman who have stability, brains and looks. They doooo exist.
Ashiana Chan but women who have a personality but aren’t considered “beautiful” shouldn’t be written off because they aren’t “attractive”