HORROR Stories About Cheap Men (Be Careful!)
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- These are the real life horror stories of cheap & stingy men that I want to share with you, so you can stop and reevaluate how you’re being treated by men and hopefully stop accepting, the unacceptable treatment. Live a more fabulous future by taking part in my FREE workshop: fabulousfutureformula.com/
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"You don't need to have a lot of money to be a good man" - I agree with this
S. B. But it sure helps
For me you need to be good looking and educated.
She teaches women to rely on men a women who is self relying is more attractive then a women who relies on a man is crazy how women want equal rights but don’t want equal responsibility such hypocrisy
@@punisherlol4368 self reliant women deserve men who respect and provide for them more than what women do for themselves. When self reliant women tag with when cheap men, they just drain the women. We don't want that. Be quality woman and chose a quality man
Some time good attitude.. polite.. silently make u look elangace..
One time my boyfriend (now fiancé) and I had economy class tickets on a flight. He was upgraded to first class because he travels a lot and has status on the airline, whereas I do not, so I was not upgraded. He made me sit in first class and he sat in economy. I will never forget how that made me feel - cherished. Ladies, hold out for a man who treats you like this. I have had the other kind and honestly I would rather be single.
Amazing. Hold on to that man!
very gentlemanly in a time when chivalry is practically dead! you found a good partner for life!
And that is what you deserve and now a man should behave.;)
You know you don't like this simpin'
I understand you abusing men for money, but i know that's not what you really want.
Yo amen.
My grandmother used to say "Always avoid two kinds of men: cheap/greedy and alcoholics".
I've seen alcoholics recover, I've never seen a greedy person become generous.
Both of those are signs of personality disorders and self medicating mental illness. Ask yourself why a man is an addict or why a man is so lacking of empathy. It isn't just that they're cheap, how they treat you is how they feel about you or even how they feel about themselves.
@@Andromeda_M31 do you think a greedy man could change?😐
My aunt actually said the same thing❤
I had been married to cheap alcoholic. I wish I knew before, but thank God, I'd divorced him.
I totally agree with you. I divorce my first “deadbeat” husband after 4 years of marriage who treated me like a trash. This is his words to me “You’re going to be stuck with me because nobody will get interested with you because I over-used you and you’re like a rotten fruit that nobody wants to eat” but he was wrong because I married my second husband who showered me expensive jewelries, bags and we’re living in a nice place here in Mallorca, Spain. Ohh and more, he also sent my son (from my previous husband) to an exclusive school. There you go, there’s always a way to get out from a toxic relationship.
I dont knw you, but I'm so proud of you 💖
@@tehsinbhati Thank you dear
@@veronicajata3121 Thank you dear :)
Wow..awesome.. glad u could change your destiny
@@Lima3578user thank you for your nice words, yes! i couldn't ask for more what my life change for the better now. I do believe now, as long as we're breathing and alive, there's always a second, third, fourth and so on CHANCE in life. Have a nice day and keep safe always :)
True story: my fiancé and I were flying from one foreign county to another. And on one of our flights, the air company upgraded him and him only to business class seat. There were no other passengers at the business class. No kidding. I asked to be moved with him, but was rejected a number of times without any explanation by every air company rep. So, without further ado, my fiancé refused to seat at the bus class without me and asked for us to be seated together at the economy. And that’s how we flew))) I assume this was a very good sign of someone who truly cares...
This type of emotional abuse is unacceptable, and both partners in a committed relationship are equal in status. One does not deserve more than the other, and both are equally responsible in their ability to provide the financial solidarity for the couple.
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Nah girl u just seem very Whiney. Their was no need for you to continue asking after the first rejection like it would be awkward if he was the only one that went, after you repeatedly asked them/begged them to be seated with him. It’s just a flight wats the worst that can happen??
So the fiance can't sit one flight without you? If it was me, I would sit alone on that flight.
@@pauljones4763
What a bastard.
You deserve to be alone.
My grandpa had very little money so he walked my grandma home to be sure she was safe, everytime they met; so, ladies, money isn’t an issue if the guy is a true gentleman
Oh and the same did my father with my mom, but now he does have a car haha
That is so sweet of him
thats such a nice gesture... I am keeping such a guy no matter what
What if he gets a gf and stops walking you home or simping 😂🤦🏽♂️
@@leftlibgang7839 If you don't help women you are rude person your mother should be ashamed . If you help a women then you are simp👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
When a man shows you his true nature don't try to change him ladies just observe and then make your exit.
Ooooh this! I just broke up today because he shows his true color several times 😟
Thank you 🙏
So true!
True!
I needed this 7 months ago but I learned my lesson
When a man flies on his private jet and you are given a cheap non-direct economy flight......? He's married.
No, he is just a cheap guy
That was my first thought
It does sound like he is hiding something. You are just the side chick.
didnt see it that way... You’re right
It sounds so. He would take you with his private jet if he is really in to you and he doesn’t hide something.
my grandmother always told me that if a man truly loves you then he will give you the world, poor or rich, he will find a way
Totally agree
It’s true. A man who truly loves you will give you the world. You will never have to constantly split the bills or whatever.
Yes, so true
My husband is not rich, we are rather poor actually. When we had our first valentines day, he transformed his lounge into a beautiful room, with a gorgeous table, set to perfection, fire going. He cooked me a wonderful meal.
He has always treated me like I am the most amazing woman in the world.
I was shocked when he proposed to me, as the ring cost a large amount. I was amazed he would use that much of his savings, didn't have to! He then did the same with wedding ring and recently my anniversary ring.
He is incredibly romantic.
😎 Neither of you are poor; perhaps financially embarrassed, but you are both RICH. YOU have a loving, respectful mate, and HE has a loyal, adoring wife, who can boast of him! How many women have this? Few. How many women wish for exactly this? ALL.
It's not all about money.
It's about heart's attitude. 😏😉
That is so sweet🥰 It is never about how much the man makes but how much of an effort he puts in and the fact that he is willing to take care of his woman. May The Lord strengthen your relationship and bless you with happiness🤲🏽
Monique F 😍😍😍😍😍
Good I love hearing such stories, I got married in July had to separate for 3 months due to his job and traveling and my husband now doesn’t want me..he needs a break god knows from what...but this taught me to never sacrifice a career or even a simple work for anyone
Yes it’s not ALL to do with money 💰 it’s to do with a man respecting you and treating you like the woman you deserved to be treated, you sound like you have a lovely man, you chose well! Good Luck to you both 👩❤️👨
Anna casually saying “low level men” without batting eye is a total mood.
I admire Anna's straight forwardness, it is refreshing to see that the "old ways" are not forgotten. Ladies I have married a very successful man, who treated me like his Queen. I am recently widowed and would never settle for less. Best wishes to all I hope everyone finds there King. 🍷
I LOVE IT!!! & 💯 on point!!!
@@ravenstillwaters5195 sorry for your loss.
@@crazykat710 Thankyou ⚘
This woman is a mood, I love her sm
Ladies, Anna is so right. Men of a higher caliber are always generous and always show class, even just to be kind (i.e. not wanting to date a lady). I was recently on an overnight in another city, so my husband was not with me. For reference I wear a very visible diamond on my ring finger, and there is no question as to whether I am married. As I was staying at a resort with a country club, I chose to have my dinner alone at the bar, speaking with the female bartender. I ultimately found myself in an enjoyable discussion with a married couple and a third person, who also happened to be there alone. The third person was an older gentleman who had been playing golf, and he spoke a lot about his wife who was at home. Prior to leaving he ordered his wife her favorite dessert and shortly after he left I asked for my own bill. I discovered that the man had discreetly paid my bill. I was shocked because I had ordered the wagyu beef as a special treat for myself. It was over $100. I was so genuinely touched that I asked the bartender to thank this man for me when she saw him again. But guess what else? I tipped the bartender and then I got up to leave, but two men who had been at another table having dinner came up to me and insisted on paying for my dinner, too! Talk about gracious! So of course I had to let them know it had been taken care of. Ladies, these men exist.
lovely story! revives the hope for the menkind (i spelled it like this on purpose).
Wow that's great! What city was this ??
This is refreshing
What a beautiful story. There is still goodness in the world.
what city was this in? I need to make a trip 😂
I always get the feeling selfish stingy men would throw a woman off the Titanic and he would get in the life boat.
Great analogy!
And he wants people to admire him for it. So demonic.
Cal.....
So you would sacrifice yourself, while your boyfriend/husband was floating?
I laughed soo hard at this😂
Also, there are men who lead lavish lifestyles but have cheap characters. Be wary of those who shower you with gifts while demeaning and disrespecting you
Same here and argue with me in $1,50-
So so true!! That's why taking your time and being a good judge of character is so important
Maya those men are in a special horrific category
Yes probably because really he’s cheap but acting all that!
Graceland ❤
Mama always said: never marry a stingy man... even if he gets to be rich, he will always still be stingy.
Starting to think this is true. Will take into consideration now
Mhm amen!!!
Your mom was 100% on point. We worked for an attorney in the top 100 list and he was a millionaire. He had his secretary search 12 tire stores for 1 tire he needed!! We could write a book about his cheapness👺!!
Mine told me get a career make your own money so you can kick someone to the curb if you need to
My mama once said: If a girl hasn't got the self respect to earn her own way in life, she'll never respect you either, just the money you make. And she'll walk when it's not enough for her.
Never had to tell me twice.
I can't believe women are being treated like this, let alone putting up with it. Here is a tip for free, if he is not treating you like his Princess, then he is just wasting your time, while he is waiting to meet his Princess.
So true
So so true
I went on 3 dates with this young guy. For the first 2 dates, he kept constantly complaining about the price of the food. On the 3rd date, he made me pay for both of us. Some backstory, this man was a Marine and receiving 3000 in government checks a month and was a full time student living with his family and paying no bills. At the time I was also a full time student living at home on a 200 dollar a month allowance. I had 40 dollars left in my wallet for the rest of the month, and he still made me pay for both of us. When I told my mother this, she said if I ever saw him again she would lose all respect for me. Now I'm in a relationship with an older situated blue collar man who refuses to let me ever lift a finger for anything and spoils me rotten. Never settle, ladies!
I'm wondering why there was a date 2 & 3.
@@tereseday4060 I was young, dumb, with low self esteem.
The key about being spoiled rotten is that it means you are rotten and a brat. And yet you expect praise for that!?
So basically you don't do anything whatsoever but show up and are basking in and glorifying your position of being lazy and a parasite? LOL. Go get to work.
Idk why people give her and her channel such a hard time. She’s teaching women to have self respect and high standards.
Because men wanna hit it and quit it.wanna free sex and she thought us the opposite of that
Because when men do the same they are called all types of names. We should ALL have standards.
Exactly. What happens is that many women and men have huge or errant egos and can't admit their faults that led to their own downfall or mistakes.
@@KimmyQueen imagine the size of ego you would need to believe that someone else owes you THEIR own money just because you exist.
@@robbylebotha Men like you want what you want without the effort. I bet you think you are wonderful and deserving and you should not have to work for it. With that said, my point was about women and men having egos so large that they won't admit they should have and deserve someone that has high standards. It is a two way street. Women should not presume and abuse, and men neither. Women should be of value and men too.
Some time ago, I met a guy who had just retired as a Lt Commander in the Navy. We went to a salad bar for dinner (the meal actually coat $7). Then he brought me home and expected sex. Sex for a salad? Like I owed him for that? He didn't get what he wanted and I decided never to see him again.
This type of guy is only just up for fun.
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So he took you to a mess hall🤣🤣🤣
I kid you not, I had the same experience with an Indian Navy officer who's in the rank of Lieutenant. So, ours was an arranged marriage set up, very typical in India.
This guy always talked about being respectful to ladies and his etiquettes that he was taught in Navy. He was all good words but 0 actions.
He always talked about respecting women but was always so so disrespectful of me and my family. He was never consistent with his efforts, never bothered to call me or bother to meet me. He would keep ranting about his ex infront of me. Never bought me anything, not even some flowers or chocolates.
The breaking point came when he was in the same city as me and never even bothered to give me a call or meet me. When I confronted him, he as usual blamed it on me.
I dumped him after that.
Don't regret it.
This man came from an affluent profession and was yet so so CHEAP!
Sex for a salad 🤡
Good call!
Got one too: It was my birthday, and a friend of my brothers offered to take my out for it, because my family was busy. He left the table to "ensure the birthday dessert would be ready"; apparently, he told the restaurant that I was getting the bill and walked out. I had to call my dad to talk to the owner. It was so humiliating since the bill was way over what I could afford. Good news, the owner banned the guy and red flagged him to every other restaurant in Aventura's business council. Lesson learned.
Is he still your brother's friend?
Aventura in Florida? Wow that guy was really stingy
Owner rocks
@@kmen07 definitely not, they are good brothers. *Smiles gently*
Wow what an ass!
For me, a generous man automatically becomes extremely attractive. No more pretty boys.
There are generous men who are still disrespectful.
Nothing like a gentleman
Many very good looking men are used to being catered to first by their mothers and sisters and family. They will continue to expect this from the women in their life. Ugh.
For sure! I mean who wants a man who poses in front of the camera or mirror , more than a woman?!
@@Maria-0017 Oh gosh, that is such a turn off ... and to think I dated a guy like that.
Shout out to the strength of Anna to speak topics which almost everyone is afraid to speak loud.
Really!! You need to be strong to tackle these topics
Adriana N ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
School Of Affluence ❤
Adriana N Anna isn’t the first woman on TH-cam to talk about hypergamy
@@crystal3160
I know, but I think it's a very sensitive topic to speak nowadays.
So I wanted to appreciate her strength as much as I appreciate the ones who are capable of exposing theirself as she does.
I one time went on a date with a guy who worked at a movie theatre and got free popcorn, he got a large and we shared. I was being very mindful and was eating slowly and respectfully. He then took the popcorn away from me and told me I was eating too much and went on to eat majority of it. I was so mad, how do you be stingy about something that is free ?
OMG! What a creep
Omg thats crazy. My husband buys us like 2 popcorn because i eat fast and when i ran out. He offered me his... what a stingy person! Stay away from people like that gosh
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Wow. I don’t know what I’d do if that happened
On the first date with my ex he paid for everything. He was only 21 (a few years younger than me) and worked as a garbage truck guy and did not make a lot of money, but he even bought me the taxi home because the date lasted so long that public transport quit for the night. We dated for three years, and soon I got a great tech job and my salary exceeded his. He still payed, every time. I of course spoiled him as well, with expensive gifts as well because I loved him, but he was a true gentleman all through out. It did not last for other reasons, but I still think very highly of him and the woman he ends up with, despite him having a working class job, is very, very lucky.
When my husband and I met neither one of us had much going on in our lives. But even with no money he treated me like a queen. He always has opened doors for me , I don’t carry anything EVER! He’ll break his back carrying all the groceries while I don’t lift a finger. He gets mad if I insist on helping. He opens my car door and always gives me his arm as we walk. He works long hours but still comes home and will change diapers and let me take a break. 3 years ago we finally found our way in life and now live a financially comfortable life. He works hard.... denies me absolutely nothing. Still brings home flowers randomly and I still don’t carry anything EVER! We found our “money” together. He protected and doted on me from the moment we met and still cherishes me dearly....These men exist. They don’t always have money... But because they love you they will find a way to make something out of themselves so they can provide everything you want and need in life. ♥️😊
Your love story is the best! 😍
What a beautiful story.
Ramsey , they are dead. Keep dreaming. You are lucky because you look beautiful and have one.....the rest dont exist.
You have got a man. Touchwood
Joe Hoe they do exist! I meet my now husband 2 years ago, and he’s is like that, he even was the first person that I meet with the same point of view of Anna
When I was in college, I dated a guy who, when we went out to dinner, would get angry and berate me if I ate too much of an appetizer and couldn't finish my entree ( they were late dinners, I was coming from class and starving!) It tolerated it for far too long. On my first date with my husband, I couldn't finish my entree. I began to apologize profusely. He looked at me like I was crazy. He said, " Eat it, don't eat it, have it wrapped up and take it home- I don't care! Whatever makes you comfortable. I just enjoy your company." That's when I knew he was The One!
Wow such a nice guy
That’s my husband too. He doesn’t care as long as I’m happy. If I met your ex, I will run as far as I can!
crazykat 😍😍 so cute !
My then boyfriend (now my fiance) treated me to the most expensive restaurants he could afford when we were dating and he encouraged me to try new, good stuff and I knew he's a keeper.
Honestly I don’t expect men to pay for me on dates, it would be nice if they offered, but it’s only fair since I don’t want them to expect me to fit into traditional gender roles either. But that’s just unacceptable, how much you eat is strictly your business and whoever you date would have absolutely no right to get mad at you for it. There’s absolutely no need to apologize for something like that
I agree with this even though my husband isn't particularly well off. I met him when we were both students. He insisted on paying for every date dispite my offers to split. Fast forward 10 years I am a stay at home mother & he still corrects me every time I say it's his money I am spending, saying 'our money'.
my husband would tell me the exact same thing that his earnings are our money.
God bless him
Y'all have good husbands😊
Praise God for his life. ❤
Geez, this is why I'm single and working towards making enough money to buy myself the life style I like. Thank you for these lessons so I know what red flags to look for.
the Singer Cher said: "A man is not a neccessity. A man is a dessert" so choose the dessert that compliments your meal.
I've never heard that before but I love it! Wow she is on point!
@Ha Nguyen lol :)) love that one 👍👍👍
Ha Nguyen yeah listen here the true wisdom! 😂😂😂😂 (pls note sarcasm)
@@phoenixalbastru3706 Saying something is sarcasm does not hold an argumentative point. I could reply "nipple dusters" and it would have the same meaning.
True
My mom says: when poorness enters the door, love jumps from the window
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😋😎😍😉😉
Lol
Agreed💃
I thought my mom came up with that sentence lol!
Very popular and true saying in México.
"MONEY IS A LOVE LANGUAGE" I've always understood the meaning but Anna has perfectly expressed it in words
I always used to say if a man is cheap with his money he is cheap with his heart.
My ex-husband didn't have a ring when he proposed to me, so I ended up buying/paying one myself to avoid the awkward moment where people would ask me to show off a ring :) It didn't have to be expensive, but he didn't even buy me a cheaper ring or a "placeholder" or whatever.
Ended up paying for 90% of the wedding myself.
Needless to say, we got divorced now.
Thank you for posting this. This happened to me recently and I'm really embarrassed by it. He also lied about how much debt he was in. He ignores me and I am so bitter I snap at him alot. He claims my attitude is destroying us. I pay for everything. I bailed him out if debt and to this day (3 yrs later) he still has never planned a date. Ever. I feel so stupid and embarrassed. I will be filing for a divorce soon. Thank you for helping me not feel so alone. I hope you received many blessings after this happened to you
This is what happens when you are too desperate to be married. I am glad you found your way out of thay and realised you don't have to put such pressure on yourself to be happy
Should have just said , NO!
Same but I bought the ring, the wedding and honeymoon and the divorce 😭🤦♀️
@@carrieduvall4579 Wow... he owes you !
I sent this to my mom a few minutes ago. She said "This is why I'm divorcing your dad. I don't want to be a cheap man's money bag, while he treats himself like a king."
@niki nina don't think twice, ditch him
yeaaaa
Hanna Hwang annnnd I..OOOP....... 😯
@niki nina are you in america theres alimony.
@niki nina I hope you find a way and come out of it strong. My friend faced a similar kind of life, and I can sympathize with you because I know it can be so so difficult to get out of such a marriage. Life can seem so daunting. Sending best wishes your way xx
My husband always paid while we were dating, always drove over an hour to take me out.....and now, he provides everything we need for our family. It’s important to not date a cheap man! We are not wealthy, but all of our needs are met, we travel, have a family and I’m a stay at home mom. Choose wisely ladies!
Bianca Robertson congratulations
I have a relationship like yours. Not affluent , but i stay at home. He's happy that I do.
Thank youuu ❤️
Went on a date with this guy, he had no money so i paid AND HE KEPT THE CHANGE
Wow 😂
🙊🧐
You're lying 🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😱😫😱😫😱😫😱
On a first date with a guy, we went to a historic tour site. In the midst of it I told him I’m thirsty and if he would be kind enough to get a bottle of water for me (deliberately, to test his stinginess). He pretended to look around and said there are no vendors nearby. After a few mins I asked him again and said i see a vendor selling water and asked him to get me a bottle again. He then proceeds to grumpily comment “this is why one should be responsible in preparing their water bottles from home. “ 😱
I hope you didnt date that grumpy child again.
deadly experience.
To be fair, I am on this guy's side. I never buy water, always bring my own water bottle...
Buying water is such a waste of money
Trashy dude who lacks chivalry and generosity. That's so selfish of him.
Oh really? Did he bring any water bottles even for himself?
Being cheap doesn't mean he's poor and cant afford to give you nice things, it's about being selfish and not showing you respect!!
squishy booty respect needs to be earned. You can’t expect someone to spend money on you just because he’s rich 😀
Martin Zhel it not just about respect, it doing what is right! You did the invitation, then you know you are responsible for anything that follows. Simple knowledge!!! Dating or friend.
Perfectly on point!!
It’s impressive how guys after this video still come here to disturb girls positive feelings and ideas and start convincing about machist ideas.... like “the girl has to conquer respect”. Ah my God, yeah so the man don’t? It’s always about woman’s fault. Girls don’t get into this machist argument. That’s pretty stupid.
Love reading the bitter comments of men who are likely the low-level men Anna was talking about 😂
And another thing.If a man doesn't spend money on you , dont expect him to financially support the children that you have with him too! So many mothers love to complain that their ex doesn't financially help with their kid but when you ask them if he was generous with them , most times the answer is no.Your children are also negatively affected when you only date cheap men so don't do it !
Exactly! Amen!!!! Ladies don't make babies with these men!! Look out! How can you think that you're children have nice things without you always providing these things if he doesn't even spend much on you!!!!!! Children should grow up having a pleasant supported childhood! They're less likely to end up stealing/get into drugs etc!!!
>Gets knocked up by a broke guy dropping a woman off in HER car at HER career
>Man is not a generous or active father
Surprise! Lol I see this all the time 🙄
The way you look from the photo on your profile, I would be surprised if you find a man that takes you to Mcdonalds once a month 🤫
This🙌🙌 so many women need to hear this.
I just hire a hit man. And the money is yours 😉🤑
They're doing it on purpose. Men like to test women and see what he can get away with and what she won't put up with.
That's so true. They want to see how much they can manipulate you, how nice or naive you are. They'll take advantage if you're too kind
well some things are tests and in the end if they are testing a woman if the women doesn't leave then its a win win she loves him and it doesn't matter if she has to fly in a crappy sat on a plane
@@cinnamonteeth haha all the more have to avoid this kind of man. Sounds like a machiavellian! 😕
Precisely
@@lazy-boi-oh3674 I said the same thing!
Self-respect is the most important thing we give to ourselves.Never let anyone to take it away!
Stinginess is NEVER an isolated fault. Stinginess is the tip of the iceberg of a turd of a personality.
i agree. It could represent all kinds of negativity: lying about who he really is (it's the lying that matters), he might turn out to be financially controlling and abusive too. Who wants to be with a man who loves money before you?
Stitch that on a pillow. I would buy it!
Mara Zampariolo True.
Would if the woman in the relationship is stingy and not wanting to fully provide for her man? My boyfriend doesn't have a job and I pay for everything currently. I don't like it and it makes me feel resentful and act selfish.
@@zainajenkins there's probably something else going on in your relationship. Since you're earning all the money, is your boyfriend managing everything at home? Is he actively looking for a new job, or is he just lazing about?
Every relationship is different, it doesn't *have* to be the man makes all the money and women stays home, but every relationship *should* have mutual respect. I feel like if you were feeling respected and appreciated by your BF, you wouldn't mind being the breadwinner.
I was with a stingy man for about 4 years. He never changed... quite the opposite, actually. He got worse with time. It wasn't about the money. I have a career and make my own money. It was about generosity and kindness. I'm so grateful I finally got out of that relationship.
Yes! I was with a stingy man too. I thought it would get better because he wanted to make sure I wasn't with him just for his money (even though I made plenty) and he just got worse.
It was so bad. We couldn't do something unless it was free. If he was going to pay for our meal/drinks it could only be during happy hour. If he got me a gift I knew it was something he got for free.
I'm so embarrassed when I look back at these memories.
Love this!! You are so right it is all about generosity and kindness at the end of the day, and it doesn’t come out more crystal-clear how well (or not) a guy is doing in those two areas than in his spending habits.
They NEVER change.
I was in a relationship with a stingy man for about four years aswell. I catch myself sometimes wondering how come I stayed in it for so long, given that my dad and whole my family is lovely. I fell in love and thought love and time will change him, I guess...
you were in for the money only, money supply reduced, you exited.. quite typical
I was so in love with my bfriend in my 20s that I didn't see signs that he's absolutely worthless. He put my emotions on the edge constantly until I invited him to my home and he met my family and family friends. His first impression, when he arrived was: "You Really live HERE?!! OO" I never showed my quite high social status by my clothes but he didn't get it by my good manners and love.. until he saw the money viewing my home and meeting ppl around me. Then he changed 360ds: he started to give my little gifts as golden earings etc. To me it was obvious that he wanted to buy his place. To me our relation was over because he didn't treat me the same way before he noticed material value. Sad.
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The cheapest date I had been on, I split a plate of dumplings which cost less than a dollar (converting from my currency) with my date. He pulled out his card and I offered to pay too as I usually do,.... he asked the waiter to split the bill so that each ended up swiping less than 50 cents.
The waiter was rolling his eyes, I am embarrassed, And this dude was just glowing like he's achieved the top tier of being feminist.
Sounds like a king
King Turd
@@JosieStev king of all kings
Men do this on purpose! They laugh behind your back about how little they have to do for you yet they still get your attention.
STOP! And let him know you will not settle for the basi or "at least".
Jane Doe true
Jane Doe Amen:)
but the thing is, most men who are stingy or careful with money, tend to be rich. Rich men got rich by being very careful with their money. Most men who spend a lot tend to be poor, and not financially stable.
zurzak ne-etra that’s true, my family is very comfortable and I don’t take Uber luxe haha it’s a car who cares if it’s a Prius or an s-class, if you are insecure about your wealth that’s one thing but I actually prefer not to draw attention.
True Jane!
A man that is stingy with his money will be stingy with his affection
I sign that.
dian kreczmer Yes!
David h no. There's no excuse for being a stingy cheapskate man.
dian kreczmer yes! My husband is like that😞
this is true
I absolutely agree. Men expect a woman to raise their own status by looking beautiful on their arm, give them companionship, love and sex, then treat them like that? No way! This is what the sexual revolution, the best thing ever for men, has done to women. Ladies, don’t cast your pearls before swine!
Well said!!
Exactly. That’s why I’m not a feminist.
@@rosedawson1646 aww feeling left out and offended?
Amen!
So what is it that you actually do for the Man anyways!? Since you basically listed everything that relationships are supposed to be about as if it's all bad things to do for a Man. I don't pay for anything for Women, that's what loser slave Men do.
If a burger is expensive for him, how about diapers, how about maternity bill? Will he be able to cater for that??
Maybe that’s the reason he says something like that, he wants to be able to buy diapers and all that.
@@Jeff_Green that’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard 😂😂😂😂😂
@@Jeff_Greenbroke men usually don't believe in marriage anyways, translation they know they don't have the funds for it and they want to use the coins they do have on themselves. That's completely fine but no true lady should be giving those men the time of day. Our bio clocks are ticking so fast we can't give it up on men who can't and won't afford the diapers and school supplies.
If the man treats you with disrespect at the beginning you really shouldn’t be with him. They do not get better over time.
niki nina dump him
rude is rude
Absolutely
A hard lesson I had to learn
Also, you don't want to spend time trying to change a man because it does not work. Spend time finding the right man.
I once had a man offer to take me shopping. I made ok money but would never buy myself anything extravagant. He walked me into the store telling me that I should get what I liked. Fortunately, I felt bad having him buy me something with too large a price tag, so I chose something cheaper. I did the whole 'oh I dont know...' and he did the 'you deserve it' so I took it up to the counter. And he walked away while the cashier was ringing it up! To save myself from embarassment from being in a store that I would never have otherwise been in, I pulled out my credit card and bought the 350 purse. I never returned the purse and whenever I go on a date I wear that purse to remind myself that some guys are not as high quality as the purse.
he WALKED away when it was time to pay? Oh my god.
What a cruel trick. It's amazing ppl get off on that. Get a real life, dude.
Same thing happened to me at the hair salon. He told me he wanted to see me to get a perm, but I didn't have the money so he offered to pay for it. He drove me to the salon and waited. We both went to the register but as the lady was instructing me how to care for the perm, he went out to wait in the car. Leaving by me at the register and knowing I didn't have the money. I continued to hang out with his friends (girls and guys) after we broke up because they were nice, he wasn't.
so in order 'to save' yourself 'from embarrassment you bought the purse anyway? what embarrassment? the most embarrassing thing is to spend money you can't afford to spend. nobody cares. the person at the store does not care a damn about you. he was clearly not that into you so who cares what he thinks. don't do it again.
@@doriangray2001 Maybe learn to read... I never said I couldnt afford the purse, just that its not something I would normally spend money on. Also, maybe you didnt get that I dont plan to let it happen again. Silly me for thinking that was obvious. As far as the guy goes, he was clearly interested in some way. I believe this was some kind of test. He continued to call me afterward. So thanks for your totally worthless comment.
She is right ladies. I’m studying behavioral psychology and actions speak louder than words. Actions don’t cost money. You are priceless and your mate should always treat you that way.
I went out with a man 15 years older than me, first date he don't let me pay at all, second date- "ok you can pay for the drinks" third date- "let's split the bill". no fourth date for me thank you
Jesus that's crazy! I've never paid for a date ever. No coffee dates either it's always fine dining dinners and restaurants. Gotta show these men exactly what your standard is from the get go.
@@tessy28 For personal experience the men who suggested the first cheapest dates are the worse. They use cheapness to check your boundaries if you accept cheap you'll get cheap treatment.
As Anna said the only time you can accept a coffee date is if you don't know the person irl (like dating app or social media) because he also doesn't know you. But see if he takes the effort to come to you and how he behaves, if when you arrived he asks you if u wanna eat sth (a pastry, a snack, wtv the coffeeshop has) + points
@@tessy28
This just gets me a little mad
Girl, like I always say with a man that much older, he should be making it worth your while to be with him because he’s not going to be around as long as you are. If I have to be a caretaker for the love of my life earlier than I should, he should be spoiling me while he’s younger. Period.
Haha I feel you. Went on a date with a guy who was about 15 older, has 3 kids and divorced. 1st date went really well, he paid for everything and the dinner was great but noticed he didn't get me a taxi to go home which is a small red flag for me. 2nd date paid for everything as well but just to check what he would answer I asked him if I should pay for something. I expected him to say that when I'm with him I never have to pay for anything but instead he said I will take him to a bar in the weekend..Again didn't offer me a taxi even though before going home I mentioned: "Oh, taxis have gotten expensive"😂.
He just said "Yeah".
3rd date he paid for lunch but asked me out of nowhere do i have 5 lev (Bulgarian currency). I was a bit shocked cause I was thinking if he has all this money to pay for an expensive lunch why would he ask me to add just a little bit except maybe to prepare me that i have to pay in the future... ? I decided there's not gonna be a forth date cause no way I'm taking a guy to a bar and spending my money on someone that older that makes 5 times more than me.
I met a guy when I lived in Germany and we went on a couple of dates. He was quite wealthy, had his own company and brand new convertible. In our second date we decided to go for a picnic and we went to a local store to buy food. He complained about the price of everything (at Rossmann!!), he didn't let me pay 10 cents for a bag and made me carry all he stuff in my arms for a long distance. 😬
And that day I understood why a very handsome and wealthy man was still single at the age of 35 😂
Well I make sure I always take enough bags from home, because I don't like paying for a plastic bag either, I am not that stingy, its more about principle.
@@woffordwolf2071 Yes but here the guy did not have his own bags obviously, so he had no choice but to buy some and carry them don't you think ?. But instead he preferred to use his date as a donkey, how shameful is that !
@@nanacolore92 that's true
German guys are stingy...most of them !
That is really stingy , thank god not all germans are like that
Before I seen this video I was actually considering calling my ex boyfriend who I dumped three months ago. Now I won’t bother, thank you for reminding me why I broke up with him! Us women are worth so much more than we settle for
Stevie Hasker This is the sign you needed . I fell for this trap a couple of months ago. I had broken up with my very cheap , stingy ex boyfriend and out of loneliness I decided to give the relationship another try. Guess what? He was still cheap, he was still selfish and he even went as far as asking me to loan him some money. ! So please stay far away run and never look back.
ps: I’m a single mom of 1 yet it never bothered him when asking me for money
Lol me too
Nonya Right, shocking
The reason so many marriages fail is because women settle....Statement made by a Catholic priest.
Cynthia Mubenga hey by cheap what you mean do I need to drive a Ferrari will a 1970 Dodge Challenger do the trick
My absolute worst first date experience was not only he was 10 mins late, but He was so cheap that he waited for me to came back from the bathroom , as the waitress already half way took the billed after he placed his credit card , and he had to called the waitress back and told me that I should split the $13 bills with him. Now I looked back , it was dumb but I am glad I had that experience. Then I met my boyfriend later on which we been friends for two years prior to our two years dating. He remembered things that I mentioned that I would love to do, so on our first date, he surprised me and booked us to the penguins encounter experience at the aquarium, and finish the night with a romantic Italian dinner which he claimed he make the reservation a few days prior since he was nervous he wouldn’t get the table. Till this day , he still treated me like a queen. My point is: sometimes you gotta meet some frogs till you meet the prince that will treat you the way that you deserve. Never settle for less! ❤️
I'd always wanted to be a lady of class since my teen years. I became one. Then fell for a cheap man. Lived together for 4 years. Tried to change him by showing him class, all he wanted to do was hangout with his loud friends and drink cheap beer while i wanted to dine and have lunch at the elegant waterfront restaurants. I paid for outings, I paid rent, furnished the house... Had enough and left. I won't ever settle. I'm back to being my old self, surroundng myself with like Minded individuals. Remember Elegant ladies, birds of a certain feather flock together
Changing a man is like raising a boy. You might teach him good manners, but you become his mom.
Yeah, that's not sexy at all!
Motherzoned
Jung-jee Lee 😂
This is most horrible thing to do. I was about to get married to one such guy, and I had to coach him everything.
Or you’re just preparing him for the next women he’s really interested in
Stinginess and bad manners are becoming a virus it's unbelievable. Everyone is just super selfish these days. Don't let anyone disrespect you ladies! Thank you Anna for this, truly, women need you in this world ❤️
I agree.
Selfish 🤔
Once upon a time, a male college friend and I decided to go a see a French (we were studying French) film. He drove as I had a broken foot. When we arrived at the cinema, he announced that we were going to see a different film that the one agreed and has he a had driven I should pay for his ticket. I pointed out that I was going to offer, but has he had the temerity to ask/expect, I would not be doing so. Also he had decided to change the film we had agreed on. The one he had chosen was mildly pornographic and I was not comfortable seeing that film with him. So I hobbled out, called a taxi and went home. He was extremely miffed with me, but that did not bother me and he accused me of being an independent women. I took that as a compliment. He did try to get me to repeat this failed 'date'. But I never repeat my mistakes. If a man is mean like that, then he is mean through and through. So ladies, if you do not look after yourself, who will.
Agree lady
I’m loving this. This is not about money, it’s about respect. Using the economy vs business class plane ticket example: If a man decides to buy you a ticket, but he buys the cheapest for you and he gets one better for himself, he’s not treating you equally and with respect. He’s basically saying you are not worth a business ticket, and putting you on a lower level. And that is a major disrespect!
And for those who may say “well maybe he didn’t have money for two business tickets”, well he should have gotten himself an economy ticket as well and problem solved. :) putting someone down like that is embarrassing and not worth anyone’s time!
Once, a guy invited me to the movies, when I arrived at the cinema he had already bought his ticket, he told me " I can go with. you, so you buy your ticket." and I told him to go by himself to watch the movie instead, and I left.
My boyfriend has never made me pay and has never made go on Uber.
You can. see the difference between a man and a boy.
The difference is within yourself, you didn’t accept trash and didn’t end up with trash , that’s the difference.
Pengoto K he was inviting me, if I invited him I would buy the tickets. It was not polite because he wanted to date me. And I’m a lady I deserve to be invited and invite sometimes as well.
Isabella Soler
The only people I would invite and pay for would be family or friends never a man, jeez no
Marie F I wouldn’t mind , If I ask them out, but because that will never happen, I will never have to pay.
Isabella Soler
EXACTLY ! I’d never be that desperate to watch a movie, I’d sit in cinema alone before I would pay for a man 😂
If a man is rude to anyone (wait staff, coat check person, etc.) that's a no-go for me. I don't care how rich someone is, if they are rude - this is bad form and I walk away. Another good video. Thank you.
Agreed! A gentleman shows his true colors when dealing with others "beneath" his status. If anything, he should treat those people even better than those in his own circle. Then you know he is humble and kind.
Agreed! This is why I get disgusted when I hear stories (fiction or otherwise) about people who supposedly treat their significant others well but are jerks/rude/evil to everyone else. That doesn't make sense to me and should be an indicator of this person's true character.
Yes! I went on a date with a man and he had a Porsche and tried to seem sweet and practically yelled and sneered at the waiter. I took a taxi home (before UbER) bye 👋
Sorry I thought you were talking about a karen
that's what my mom always tells me! a man's true colors come out when he interacts with those who have nothing to benefit him in return
"How a man treats u says a lot about how he feels about you "! Actions speaks louder than words. If a man is interested he will invest. However if he doesn't feel u are worth it he wont even bother buying you a Coke🤣🤣🤣❗
My mother already had a difficult life since she came from a poor family so she worked hard to be financially independent but when she married my dad and it became worse. He did not even provide for me and my sister's education and child support. She had to give up her time and money to give us a better life. If I must say, she gave up on herself to provide for us. It is such a waste that my mom who is a good woman, a graduate of a prestigious university, hardworking and ambitious, never really had that opportunity for her to shine. She really deserves better than this.
I am sorry how your dad treated you and Your mom .
It's so sad
Ladies always secrifice their life their happiness, their love for others .
A high quality man starts with a high quality mother. Ladies, teach your male children how to be a gentleman. Sometimes you look at some men and think to yourself *"who raised you...? Wolves?"*
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I feel like this is unfair to wolves and pigs. 😉
Where the daddy at
wow soo true. I think so myself. Some men act like they weren't raised by human beings
S D yes, maybe it’s how they see their father treat their mother
The worst part is that this type of guys never mind being generous to their side girls but not to their woman
AMEN
That's why you don't accept cheap. This is what they do!
It’s because those women are already doing themselves no favours by being a mistress so they usually want something to compensate for it. It’s the same reason why they spend more money on stripp*ers and call girls than they do on their wives/ girlfriends.
@kshiftkometh I remember you from Shallon videos
Because the mistress won't take his crap like the wife will, and the man sees her as the prize, which he gladly pays for, smh.
I remember when I was a teenager I was asked on a date by a really cute guy. I was soooo excited. Before the date my dad pulled me aside and told me to always remember I am doing the man a favour going out with him. He is not doing me a favour going out with me. It's all in how they treat you not the amount of money they may or may not have.
The pilot story was interesting, I've been meeting what I call "jealous" men, anytime the woman gets treated well or favored by others he is envious because he wishes that treatment happened to him not her.... sometimes i wonder if men like that are "straight" or effeminate in nature.
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣spot on
@@nqobilemsomi3656 LOL! ok at least I'm not the only one that sees that in today's generation of "men"😂🤣😂
My thoughts exactly...
It's happening right now in the comments section. Men getting jealous of women with partners who take care of them.
That is sexist. It doesn't have anything to do with femininity. It is the narcissist behavior of women that we men don't like
Oh, the story's I could tell! Was dating a pilot, he had all kinds of money to buy house after house on the water here in Florida. But the one day we went to the market, I was picking out some nice meats and cheeses for a charcuterie board for us that evening( I had bought breakfast so I asked him if he would help out with dinner expense)He had a complete meltdown, told me that's not how he wanted to spend his money at the deli. He could afford all this waterfront property but I'm not worth some basic meat and cheese from the deli???!! It has always been my experience that if a man is cheap with their money, they will be just as cheap with their emotions..... Unfortunately, I feel like too many women these days put up with this tacky behavior out of loneliness or having low self esteem. So it perpetuates this cycle..Men will continue with this bad behavior unless women develop a sense of worth. .I have been with men who had very little to start out with who have been the most generous. I know this one guy (who eventually became my husband) ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for a week because he knew how much I'd been dying to go to a certain high end restaurant. At the end of the day it's not really about the money, it's about the lack of care and consideration for your partner. People treat you the way you teach them to treat you every time....
Very very true 👏 if you accept crumbs you will receive them, love yourself and put out for the CAKE 🎂 every time!
@YoshiPeach Mario You missed the whole point, congratulations! you must be really stupid
@YoshiPeach Mario 1) she was dating Him
2) she was making dinner for Both of them
3) meat and all of these things is investment too at least to his stomach 😂
@@Amy_omer 4) She had already paid for breakfast. I'm for paying 50% in all relationship expenses that are more expensive than a meal or a movie, and even I find that stingy! And a meltdown, like a toddler! How immature!
Most Pilots are pretty cheap and have the largest egos. Not to mention sexist, and mentally and emotionally unstable.
My cousin, though not incredibly affluent, paid for several high quality hotel rooms for family to attend my mother’s funeral. THAT is a generous man. Even the most wealthy man can lack generosity, and the poorest man can be the most generous
spot on
Would you do the same?
So true .
@@autoblipper3546 yes if I can afford to
I hope your cousin is blessed in his life and all his kind deeds come back to him in some shape or form.
I remember dating this guy who has a very good job and living a good life and driving a sports car. One day I was visiting family and he called me, telling me he missed me and wanted to see me. I declined but he kept on persisting until agreed. So he came over to fetch me, and as we were driving, he stopped at the petrol station, poured some gas and turned to me to ask for gas money. I was shocked, I paid and after I told him I want to go to my place as I wasn't feeling well. After arriving at home, I sent him a message explaining how disappointed I was with him and blocked him.
you shouldn't have paid and ghosted him
Good for you. You did what you done to make sure you came back home safe. Waiting until he was gone and telling him what was up was absolutely correct way to do it. I’m proud of you!!
If she hadnt paid hed probably dumped her on the streets. But either pay for your trip back or pay an uber or family to pick you up
@@semekiizuio so I would've just called a taxi ...no way would I have done it
@@Mimi-kf8ey like I said "uber " so taxi lift whatever
I dated this guy and his family was nasty to me. I would always show grace and forgiveness towards his family, but it didn’t change them. They hated me because they were jealous that I was “taking away time from their son”. It was a very dysfunctional family. One time his sister opened up to me and invited me to her wedding, I wanted to get along his family no matter what, I accepted of course! When I showed up, his dad asked him to ask me to LEAVE THE WEDDING. This broke my heart. I broke up with him and learned some self respect. If a man doesn’t stand up for you to his family, ladies, do not wait for him to change. Leave with your head held high.
You dropped this baby
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Once I was dating a guy and he expected me to pay at the restaurant as he didn’t bring any money. He didn’t want the waiter to know I was paying so he made me give him the cash so he could hand it to the waiter himself. LOSER.
I was with a guy for 13yrs, two kids. And we use to do that. This guy was and probably still is a serial cheater. When the year I finally broke up with him, we went out and when he coyly held out his hand under the table I said, "Here babe! [Handing him my bank card in front of the waiter] Don't you need my card?" He looked so embarrassed. I pretended to be totally oblivious to it. Then I followed up with, "Babe, take it so you can pay for dinner." He gave me my card back and paid with his. Im so happy I finally left him.
OMG the fragility of his little ego
Total loser!
Expecting woman to pay for him. Loser.
Afraid to admit his disability to pay for himself in front of others. Double loser.
What a douche!
Reject cheap men at all costs. Cheap man = he doesn't love you. Facts. The cheapness will reflect in every other facet of the relationship. My man is not rich, but the MOST generous person I know and I wouldn't change him for anyone. He gives me everything I want. With how men are these days I feel so lucky to be with someone so kind and generous.
@RightisRight 2019 wouldn't you like to know?
@RightisRight 2019 Ok mr Equality policeman.
@RightisRight 2019 What is a real woman?
Leave gal
@RightisRight 2019 if he wants someone to spoil and love and adore, it's his business? It's her choice to live this life, so what's your problem?
I met my man in Dresden (Germany) at midnight in the train station on the first Night I came there,he is literally the first person I met over there,he was waiting for me because he thaught he schould protect me ..as a lady, he was my Collegue and took contact with me because I was the last missing student of the groupe, he booked the ticket and the Hotel to make sure I ll come safe and on time, he had no money, but took care of me, taught me the language, looked for a place for me, he helped me and acted as a Gentleman before we date, we are married now ,we have a beautiful baby, I want to say to all women, these Men exist just be patient
I’m 18 and have been in my first relationship for a year. Ever since the start my boyfriend has guilted me into paying my way as he says “times have changed and why should men have to pay”. He earns significantly more than me as I work in retail which isn’t the best wage and I pay for my own driving lessons etc. Yet whenever we go out for food he always makes us split or makes me pay for it completely. Whenever I’ve brought it up he turns on the crocodile tears and tells me that he doesn’t think it’s fair and he wants to be “treated” too. I’ve probably spent over £2000 on him over the past year. It’s taken me this long to realise that I don’t deserve this :(
Please say you dumped him
He is using you sis, move on.
You wasted a whole YEAR on this loser, this emotional blackmailer. Stop seeing him as of yesterday!
I lasted 3 months with a guy because I couldn’t take his stingyness a day longer . No thank you! I hope you left this loser
pls end the relationship now
Dear Young Elegant Ladies:
I was only a teen when a young man asked me on a date. I agreed, but he called before picking me up to ask if I could pay my own way. I said no and didn't speak with him again. I had been on enough dates before to know it just didn't feel right. My friends and family laughed, but my current husband has taken me around the world and we are currently in Norway as we were on holiday. The moral of the story is....don't settle no matter how old u are. And know ur worth! 💕💕💕
Facts💞
Thanks for posting this. It's encouraging.
If that's what you like it was the right decision for you. But I, personally, like to pay my own part and I don't mind if I'm asked to do it. I wouldn't say that he was stingy because of this (and I don't say you said this), although I obviously can't be sure based on this story. Different preferences, and I'm happy it worked out for you. 💖
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I think it was actually not a bad move from his side to ask it beforehand rather than assuming it in the era of feminism. I don't exactly know about your stands on things so don't assume I am calling you out on this. But yeah we should pay our own ways out of anything . He doesn't have to be your sugar daddy to treat you like a queen. And yeah queens have responsibilities
What's dense is that many women are looked down upon for having standards, yet men are allowed to vocalize what assets they want in a woman
Exactly! This society is just plain ridiculous!
@james b of course of course, you have a choice as well, and are right. However, as I'm middle eastern in our culture men are always talking about wanting a petite woman or this kinda woman or that, and us women arent culturally supposed to vocalize. Tf? I want a man with a degree, and a family man, as im in college working for a degree. Also unfortunately men and women get a bad rep cause of some people. I'm 21 and havent even dated, let alone open my legs.
@james b wrong asshole
Many asked me to commit
to them. *I* choose who 😊
lol @james b
for example if
a guy like YOU
asked me (one
a few have) I’d
say no thanks!
I actually chose
someone a long
time ago but he
died. I chose :)
@james b Either you troll or you are sexist. Sexist.
I had an ex who asked me did I want him to bring back anything from 7-11. I said yes, bring me back a sandwich. He said “A SANDWICH?!!!” and put his hand out asking for money. The sandwich was $5 and he bought himself the same sandwich the week before.
My ex husband bought a new car and made me drive the old one. I worked out of town and he worked 3 blocks away. It was embarrassing. I still don’t understand the logic. I’m much happier being single, making my own money, making all my own decisions. I laugh when a man tries to help me make a decision when I never asked him. Now I’m at the top of my career. I don’t need a man 😄
Cash Uber? Red flag, he's probably married!!!! Occasional cash transactions are one thing, but I'll bet the majority of affluent men use cards - simply because they can manage expenses easier.
FromFlabToFourteener good point!!!
👀👀👀👀 so true
Oh, I didn't think of that, but you might actually have a point...
FromFlabToFourteener I agree these are signs of a married man who’s wife most likely has access to his bank accounts so he tries to hide things.
@Pengoto K You clearly belong to the Cheaters Club
I used to be a first class flight attendant for a major European airline. Once I had a guest in first class. It was a day flight. Nonetheless we always hand out Pyjamas to our guests. When I handed him the Pyjama, he replied: "I'm not going to sleep, so thank you."
I said: "you can keep the Pyjama and give it to someone else as a gift."
He said: "if I wanna make a gift, I buy a gift."
What a gentleman. Too bad he was three times my age.
Another example: guys who invite you to the restaurant, drive you there, but park their car 20min walk from the restaurant, so just they never pay that 1.5 euro/hour for the restaurant parking 🙄🙄🙄
That’s my dad. That was always my dad. I got my standards from my dad, omg.
Sucks growing up poor. We don’t get to see and know any better.
Adding to this: one time Dad and I were traveling along the coast for a week, and being the cheapskate he is, he preferred hunting for some random spots to camp on rather than set our tents on a legit camping site (even if we risked being fined for illegal camping). After 3 or 4 days, I really wanted to have a hot shower and to shampoo my hair, so I insisted we go to a camping site. The night only cost about €17, but he umphed and grumped about it until we were driving off the next day. I might have even paid for it, though I'm not sure I remember.
My now ex asked me for a christmas gift and I saved months to get him the fancy shoes he wanted. He got me hyped for my gift but he just brought me to the drugstore and had me pick out one thing of makeup. :) When we went out to eat, it was either I paid or we split the bill.
This guy likes to collect expensive watches and shoes by the way.
I would’ve kept the gift 🤦🏾♀️
what a sorry dish rag of a man lmao.
Jesus where are these guys made? In a Primark factory??? This is low asf
@@kellykade great idea 👍🏼 lol
i hope he rots in hell
Wow. My boyfriend isn’t rich. He’s excellent with his money and does well (investments and savings etc) but he’s not this cheap! He would never buy me a ticket worth less than his and always gives me the best he can. He’s very generous and kind in all things.
Wealth doesn’t make someone highclass in my opinion. These men sound like snakes and low life’s.
That’s so encouraging to hear! My ex was so stingy, that i’m traumatized lol
I feel the same my bf and I are broke college kids but I wouldn’t trade him for a rick rude guy
David h We treat each other well. But I also do follow a lot of this channels advice along with being raised with a heavy influence by my grandmother. She was raised affluent and was very high class. I feel that, though I am not wealthy myself, I offer a lot to a relationship and after some mistakes in my youth I am committed to being treated exactly how I deserve. My current partner, whom I mentioned above, is a result of this mind set. Originally I was looking for an affluent man but he surprised me and carry’s himself with class. I know my grandmother would approve of him.
Jessica H you go girl!! out of curiosity, what should a woman offer?
@@ellapark8770 wow me too, I am a little disappointed that I did not realize what kind of man is from the beginning of the relationship
As a man with relatively little money, I am shocked. Wouldn't even treat a woman like this if the relationship was ending. Respect is really key, self respect even more so. Nobody should just settle. Whoever you are dating should make you feel better about yourself. Classy is not the same as rich, apparently.
I want to meet a man like you
@@meenanaicker8999 Thank you. That's very kind.
I agree! This society is messed up
Because you know how to act! 🙌🙌
I wish you health and find a kind wife.
Even if you are NOT an elegant lady, these men from these stories are absolutely unacceptable!
It makes no difference how much money a man has. If he is selfish and stingy, he is selfish and stingy. He is not a gentleman. Tacky, tacky, tacky.
This channel honestly boosted my standards for men. Made me watch out for fake rich people
I know a man who has wealth enough to pay a whole years rent and not blink an eye. However to his wife he was stingy and didn't spend a dime on their home. The man lived in a house for 4 year and never did anything to it. Well his wife left him for being abusive and controlling. After he remarried 6 months later to what I think was his side chick and shes convinced him to buy some stuff. IDK how she does it but it's crazy.
Ladies listen to Anna and listen to her clearly. The route of all evil is selfishness. When a man is selfish, it’s an indicator of his character. I wasted two years of my life with a low life like that and they (these cheap dudes) never get better with time. He will not only treat you badly but will also eventually want your money. I was smart and refused to have his kid and I am free of that looser. Don’t buy into the ‘let’s go half’ lifestyle. A man’s heart is where his treasure is and if his treasure ain’t with you his heart isn’t either.
Safire Carol agree with every word you're saying❤❤❤❤❤❤
I could never go half, seriously whether I was rich or poor, I don’t know I’d rather be alone, honestly and just have a lover if it got to that .
@Pengoto K you don't sound very smart either. She's not with him now so what's it to you and why are you so concerned? You must be broke. Why don't you go get a job and stop wasting time on a woman's channel?
If there were no kid involved it would have been amazing. Kids are the best thing in the whole world even if they come in a hard relationship during hard times. Ladies don’t deny the greatest experience of your lives going after glamour, it is a hunger that never satisfies, but kids are heaven on earth if you keep them close to your heart and educate their minds and spirits.
@@tatiginattosantana There is nothing heavenly about raising children to suffer in poverty. We are here to date/marry well, work on our level-up, and raise our children to have a leg up in life. I fear you have come to the wrong channel with your message...or is this a silent cry for help?
"Stop giving in." Would have saved myself YEARS if I had been more aware of my worth
When I was 19 I happened to find myself in Kiev for the football euro final (Spain vs Italy) I never liked football but I was there for the fun. I met 3 men from Antalusia, Spain, who were in their late 30s. Since I wanted to practice my Spanish, I hanged out with them for three days. There was no flirt between none of us but once, one of them paid for a drink, a cola can that costed the equivalent of 90cents of Euros (9hrv). He was staying in my room at the hostel. The morning of his departure, near 5AM, he literally woke me up to demand the 9 hrv, aka The coins he would never be able to change back in his country. I found it absolutely incredible to wake a teenager up to get 90cts back.
I was with a low level man that everytime I hinted going out, he would go over the date, prices and everything. He would say something like: If we go to the movies, we would spend $$ on gas, $$ buying the movie tickets, $$ buying popcorn and soda, $$ on this and that. I would always either have to pay for everything or settle for staying in watching Netflix. I dumped him and the man I’m dating treats me like a queen. I am so happy now!
debbie downer.
How unromantic 🙄
I’m happy you got better now 💯
@Shirley Jackson he can stay single. No one forces a man to do anything, hes a man obviously
Incel
Happy for you dear 😎💗
@Shirley Jackson Why should a woman go broke spending HER hard-earned money on HIS worthless ass? Perhaps she works harder than he ever did.
This is why, in older societies and still in some families today, mothers, aunts, fathers, uncles, more mature friends and relatives act as "gatekeepers", not so much to hinder what young women do, but to weed out the frauds and the bad guys. That wasn't such a bad idea. Make it a little difficult for a man to spend time with you.
That is such a good explanation. This is how it is in my family and my culture. When were younger we saw it as controlling but we understand once we got older and realized how much we've been protected from the bad men out there.
Unfortunately not every has family with the right mind for this. Would be nice though. And those thay do have families don't always care much of their opinion. It'd be nice to have the option of good family stepping in.
Personally, I've found that learning about human biology and human nature is life changing. Biologically, men are driven to achieve success, and a huge part of that is receiving attention from women. When women are giving love, intimacy, and attention to men who haven't achieved anything it sends them a message that they are good enough already. Obviously, some men will be driven internally to achieve, but this is the exception.
This is why we have a large majority of our men that are underachieving, unhappy, and acting like children.
The reality is men who have nothing going for themselves, can be in a relationship with an attractive, financially independent woman. If these women were no longer interested in them....guess what they would be driven to succeed to get these type of women. Obviously, there would still be women that would make themselves available, but these would be less attractive women.
Personally, I've seen a marriage in which the man was unemployed/underemployed but married to an attractive, smart, financially independent woman. Guess what, when that woman left him, he suddenly had a good job, and was driven to win her back by proving he was a better man.
Ladies, the majority of men are biologically driven to prove to "us" they can provide. Accepting a man that hasn't reached his potential only hurts him. Men complain about "golddiggers" but we all know when a man encounters a pretty woman he automatically attempts to attract her with his wealth (real or imagined).
Life changing for me too! I study biology and since I quit feminism. We are so different that’s how we survived for millions of years. Couldn’t agree more with your comment.
@@sweettagada22 Proud you quit feminism sis me too. What she said above is true
Exactly!!
I agree with all her principles but it doesn’t mean I’m not a feminist. We wouldn’t be able to make our own money or get away from bad men if we didn’t have it. So don’t knock feminism but knowing our worth is important. We are different and we need to expect that. Personally with the struggles we women deal with 50/50 in a relationship isn’t fair. Men should want to provide and pick up slack and help their woman, period.
Yes, feminism is about being treated as equals, and to have rights as human beings, not to agree we are the same, even if some may think so. Being a feminist doesn't mean you "hate men".
I went on a date with a guy once who pulled over in a grocery store parking lot, got out of the car & proceeded to urinate. I was HORRIFIED. I asked him to take me home immediately after he got back in the car & never spoke to him again, it was a massive turn off.
Omg 🤦🏻♀️
The hell lmao you dont do that in form of the opposite sex sure with bros but omg
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The problem is not with the money. If a man is not generous with money, he wont be generous with love either. He will always withold it
When out for breakfast with my brother. He hung my coat, brought my food, paid for it, when I needed a napkin he stood up and got it without me asking him. On our way out he held my coat so I can put it on. I thought to myself in that moment: my brother is showing me an example of what I deserve. I should never settle for less.
Loved this video! It isn’t about HOW MUCH money a man has it’s how he treats you. It is the principle!!!
I work for an airline. I see this ALL THE TIME! The husband/Boyfriend buys himself a Business class ticket and the wife/gf an economy class! Then wants us to upgrade her complimentary! Of course NOT. I told the guy one time in front of his wife..”.. we can upgrade your wife immediately, your credit card please! Or you can give her your seat in business class.” OMG. Of course they don’t give her the business class seat. Such a shame.
WW Fan wow, thats sad. Men don't know how to love a woman.