Why Do Women Want To Be Like Men?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 มิ.ย. 2023
- Sadia Khan describes her thoughts on the demonization of femininity. Why are women in crisis according to Sadia Khan? Why does Sadia Khan think women don’t have good role models anymore? Why are privileged women more likely to be feminists according to Sadia Khan?
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Muslim women wear the hijab in public, but they also shop at Victoria secret for their husband at home.
There are others that wear Victoria's secret in PUBLIC and at home tell their partners to go.....
A lot of men have not experienced a woman's personality, femininity and presence, that has not been effected by them receiving constant simping attention, jealousy/competition from other females and media pedestalizing them.
There are good and bad ppl in all groups.
Muslim are amongst the most Conservative, chaste, feminine women in the world. They are family minded and get married without playing expensive dating games that lead to nowhere.
Islam is the fastest growing religion in the USA, UK, Canada, Europe and the whole world.
UK alone sees every year 5000 ppl revert to islam. Of those 5000 about 3000 are women, mostly white women, who are university educated with an average age of 27.
When they come to the dheen (religion) Conservative values follow. And they look to get married and have kids. As muslim women marry Muslim men only. This way we gain an excess demographic of young women.
Nice rant Chris. Cheers!
I find myself watching a lot self improvement videos created for men. That's because there's very little focus on self improvement for women.
The messaging with women is always, you're perfect just the way you are. Which you should never think of yourself as. You could be so much MORE
@@ephraimwinslow You raise an important issue. Lack of self-reflection is especially prevalent in women-dominated (online) spaces.
Especially in women that are highly popular/ pampered.
@@ephraimwinslow and you just assumed that everything about improving yourself is about the dating market.
Also, do you have any evidence that most women would call themselves a 10, or did you just pull that out of nowhere?
@@ephraimwinslow 1. Okay, I couldn't possibly know all of your thoughts on self-improvement, so my use of the word 'everything' is unlikely to be correct.
However 'no, u' is not a good response. I'm not assuming anything about self-improvement.
2. Dating podcasts are a really bad example.
It's a specific context where the hosts try and find the most vain women possible. They've basically found straw-men (or women in this case) to justify their own worldview (not to mention to justify their own podcasts existence).
No, what you really want is a study which samples the general population and asks them that question. As far as I'm away, we don't have a study for that.
I'm afraid your examples of dating podcasts are merely anecdotal, and cannot prove anything, let alone that "most women" put themselves as a 10 on a dating market value scale.
Hell, I don't even like the language of the dating 'market' because it gives the impression that somebody is 'selling', and somebody is 'buying'. It commodifies people and by extension, dehumanises them. Relationships for tens of thousands of years have been partnerships, not transactions.
@@ephraimwinslow That's spoken like someone whos probably a very young man. Thats simply not true. Plenty of girls and women beat themselves up and feel terribly about themselves just like young men do. Some have even attempted to parlay that self-doubt into social media clout. It just behooves most women to promote a confident self assured outer image.
I dont know why there is a dearth of womens self improvement content but i do know, especially amongst average girls that they dont believe deep down that they are perfect.
Even with ugly and average girls being able to clean up on dating apps they still know just because a man is willing to sleep with you doesnt mean hes willing to make you his girlfriend. Alot of men will have sex with women they wouldnt actually date. While if a girl is willing to sleep with a man outside of a one off drunken mistake she is willing to be his girlfriend. Long as he doesnt turn out to be a psycho or something.
A “relationship expert” is someone who is actually in a LTR or marriage and who is “ walking the walk.” Find a female role model in your family , community and or your profession . Most online platforms start with very good intentions , but then it’s all about # views , subscribers, revenue , saying outrageous things to jack the algorithms
Most of the audience is looking for courtship advice though, which is a different ball game than relationship.
@@crimson6172 I’m married , a wife , mother and a professional.
I’ll pass on the advice my parents gave me
1- don’t get pregnant / ( or get anyone pregnant )
2- find someone who is sincere
3- I would personally add , make friends , learn how to socialize , date people in a circle of friends . Avoid dating apps , it’s like insta cart for people
@@Tamar-sz8ox How do u find a good woman? All women I dated in my life seems to be users, I suspect it seems to be a reaction to men just wanting them to have a sex.
I've seen this comment three times while scrolling.
But sadly good and real women are also being talked shit upon nowadays..
Whether by other men or women doesn't matter.
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No they’re not lol, we can’t shit talk something that doesn’t exist.
What’s the difference between a feminist and a nerd? The nerd *knows* he’s fighting a fantasy battle.
best joke ever
Also, a nerd is engaging in a hero's journey that will actually improve him.
She belittled me when I questioned her logic, she implied I was stupid. Not professional.
Seems that all or our current issues are "diseases" of affluence. People have lost the struggle for life and they need drama so they create it out of trivial things. And if they don't get it they are willing to smash what they have to get it.
Feminists would not be very pleased if the power went off, that there was no longer any sanitation, that the police stopped keeping the streets safe, if there was no transportation of goods to keep the shops full of food etc.
Ngl tom Mcdonald said it first "Its crazy I'm the one they label as controversial when cardi b is the role model for 12 year old girls, there's rappers pushing xanex and if I mention race in a song I'm scared I'll get killed for it" kinda the most realist segment in a song to come out in a while
So spot on 🎯
Thanks guys
I would take the comment about needing purpose and apply it to society in general for it feels that the purpose of life has become these battles over the actual problems.
Human Beings are TRIBAL. Until we accept that as a GIVEN, we will never figure out how Human interactions work.
Brilliant comment 💯
I’ve always known that it’s a privilege to live a good life without a man, a woman needed to have been born well, raised right, and be in the right location to be self sufficient, not because we’re incapable, but societal rules ruins even men let alone women. There are places in the world where life would truly be hell if you don’t have a man, I’m grateful to be born where I’m born or I would too be wretched.
"people are so almost dying to be a victim" - beautifully ironic and perfectly true
This was me long time ago
Good role models exists but the voices of degenerate wonen are louder, which diminishes the quality of advice you could find.
I despise anyone who keeps using the word "privilege"
In this case, she is blasting their victimization.
Yep!
Really? None growing up? Dian Fossey, Jane Goodall?
Like Bill Burr was saying (about white women): Bitch, you're in the jacuzzi with me!
Wizardliz has good content for women
Self improvement requires accountability. Most women don’t seem to like accountability.
She hit the nail on the head, "There is no specimen that is more priviledged than the English white women." And guess whose at the centre of everyone else's victimhood while propping theirs?
2:07 this
All I know is that I don't need men who cheat on me, and so far, I've never found a faithful man.
If all your men cheat, then you are picking trash men. There are many good men but you are addicted to bad boys for some reason.
Its simply hard to find faithful people in current days. I slept with several woman who turned out (later on) to be either married or having boyfriend. I've been myself also betrayed by few females I've been with. It's very painful and both genders are full of cheaters :(
you only give a chance to men who are cheaters. a lot of men wouldn't cheat on you but you prob aren't attracted to those men
You must hang out with shitty people. Consider getting better peers.
Ive gradually come to realise that when women use the word "men", they have already prefiltered it to include only those she sees as potential mates. She simply does not register the existence of others in that category. So a statement like "I demand the privileges of a man" automatically means she demands the privileges of the MOST privileged men.
Complete bs - we don’t need a hierarchy of sufferings; we SHOULD address THEM ALL
this is about consideration for your fellow human being, male or female
Because I want to be more powerful.
Aren't they usually called "pick-me's" or told they have internalized misogyny? The conversation usually just stops there...
Kelsey Plum.
Keep speaking women like this are needed in society stand tall
I love Sadia. The way she speaks professional and style. I feel sorry for white men esp straight white men it seems these group of people are receiving lot of hate. Most white straight men I know in Australia are not privileged, the white men gave me more support than anybody else.
It's too bad nobody thinks their parents are a good role model. Wait? didn't women completely destroy the family unit with divorce? shame.
Divorce happens when men cheat and break their bonding and can't control their d*cks , Men did it break the marriage before the woman failed for divorce,
Mary :)
What happens to the traditional married woman with little to no work skills when she is ten years into a marriage with several kids,.. and she is ambushed divorced by her husband?
Being traditional is a terrible risk when the rest of the world doesn't live by those values anymore.
_No Fault Divorce_ failed when it became *unilateral ambush divorce!?*
"rest of the world" You mean North America and Europe?
@@Martin-lm8xp ... perhaps
That is many people's thought process. I understand that many women want to be stay at home mothers when their children are born. I have no problem with that. My reservation is what you mentioned. In the situation like you mentioned, hopefully she will receive child support from her ex, receive support from her family and former in-laws as far as the children go, and be intelligent and tenacious enough to adapt to the changes in her life.
I agree that no-fault divorce is a broken idea. It can easily happen either way too, and makes a mockery of the institution.
My anecdote: having been on the receiving end of a "unilateral ambush divorce". I was doing my part (with human level of highly devoted but still human imperfection), she was cheating on me, and I ended up naively on the worse end of twice splitting the assets and paying child support (even though the kids live with me approximately 2/3 of the time, because the court held that I was the only one with any responsibility to provide).
Then she gets half of his stuff + alimony in the divorce…?
As a White man i have the privilege of being treated like shit by everyone.
I got your back brother- the moment you run into those racist anti white nut jobs call me in.
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people are dying to be victims, just saw people saying you have autism if you take your food out of your microwave before it sounts to 0, plz be serious youre literally making up struggles
Candace Cameron Bure is a solid woman, mother, and wife.
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What "nobody" seems to ever get right is, that it doesn't help you much to be white, if you are wearing the wrong clothes, or in any other way don't fit the desired look.. Be a black guy in a nice "non drug lord" looking car, in a nice suit, without "obvious anabolic steroid muscles" bulging under it, and with a non thugish use of words, and I bet, you get treated better, than most young white men in party mode.. Years ago I was stopped and frisked many times (in Denmark) for no other reason than wearing a biker (rocker) jacket.. Never ever found anything on me - but being white (and aaaallways polite) didn't help anything..
Ask that Black man how is he treated.
Couldn’t agree more!
I'm sure they are out there, they are just not celebrated like the "strong independent" blah blah blah
Interesting, shes not into football (I'm not either) but she supported any and all teams, instead of defaulting to support the English national team.
Mmmm, and we are supposed to imagine that migrant diaspora are just as British and belonging to these islands as the natives?
They cant simultaneously be as British as we are, whilst having secondary identity "back home" in Kashmir. I'm English-English, I have no secondary identity, that isnt the same, is it?
She’s benefited from the culture but trashes it’s women 😂! She can go back home 🏡and wear a burka! Who’s stopping her?
Dont be a wuss just make your point
@@o_s_byron2319 wut? I have
This is it. This is the point. Well articulated on all ends.
My ex (an emotional abusive, but beautiful white woman) was pulled over on the freeway going 100 MPH. When she recounted the story she claimed she was scared because the cop might have been white. Turns out the cop was asian and she felt better. I had to remind her that she wasn't a black man - needless to say it started a very fun fight. She got off with a fix it ticket. Trying to become the victim through whatever mental gymnastics to have relevance is absolutely self-centered.
Beautiful and smart. It is good to see women that are not just looks, but brain behind them. Both traits that average feminist lacks.
Masculine and feminine in healthy balance is not patriarchy
Both Masculinity and Feminity are social constructs. There is no such thing as Masculinity and Feminity, to tell you the truth.
I guess that excludes many traditional societies labelled as patriarchal by feminists.
@@NinurtaIshtar1994I'm about to end your entire argument with one phrase: "please expand on this thought. I'd love to hear details and see some proof."
I've not seen a male role model out there with whom I've felt commonality and saw as a role model.
Jordan Peterson isnt a role model for me, but he is a mentor.
Inspired by Hitch, Alan Watts, Marcus Aurelius... latter the best, why imhas the BBC never done a series on him and Stoicism and similar?
My reading so far of Meditations is about the conscious improvement of the self, the rejection of frivolous things, the acceptance of things you cannot control and focus on things you can. It may even be considered to be some of the most foundational principles of Individualism itself. That means the BBC wouldn't be remotely interested in him or his remarkable life.
@@oodlesofnoodles4660 haha absolutely! And it doesn't lead to somebody easily manipulated or tricked...
Woman stopped being feminine 40 years ago. This is nothing new.
Elizabeth Olsen
The Scandinavian women may have the English women beat in being more privileged. Im not sure, Ive never been to England, but I do imagine thats the case. Either way, its good to hear a woman be open and honest about these things. Respect to you, Sadia. Well, I dont think Scandinavian girls, in general, complain as much about their privilege, but I do think they have more of it.
If a species stops getting children, something is wrong. You would not say that they are "privileged" when they are being genocided.
Please stop with that i’m the real victim conversations. I want to hear of people that feel empowerment. Dont talk about rights but about responsibility!!!!!!
So all those men regardless who sacrificed their lives in WWII, was only for the feminism glory. 😂
Underdressed to the point of disrespect
These two would make a gorgous baby
She be dropping facts like nobodys business!
See great ideas from theoretical physicist Sabine Hossenfelder, name of the video is ' I recently learned that waste heat will boil
the oceans in about 400 years.' I like the idea about tunnelling Co2 to the space...
Being treated even as a white man isn’t a great thing either.
Are there any guys worth humoring? 😂🤡
Yessss! She is right….Be AUTHENTIC at all times with yourself 😉Plus…Stop pleasing society and stop comparing yourself to others ….. learn the true meaning of empathy, not just sympathy ….fully understand the values of others with civility … ask the right questions don’t assume with social media.😊
Grifter. Not a real dr.
yesssss
W woman
god shes beautiful
she is bang on about class. class is the most important thing in britain
When you start creating problem because you have none.
I found it so weird when she claimed her skin is white.
She’s Asian and she looks Asian.
really that's what you decided to make a comment on ? smh
She got the whole race v sex dynamic completely wrong. Discrimination against men far outweighs any skin colour considerations, she’s so enamoured with her own privilege she cannot see it.
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So true, empirically proven time and again.
I think if you reached in a box and wanted to grab a good woman and role model I think you would pull out Amy Coney Barret.
whenever I want to see someone who's oppressed, I look at the Uighurs.
privileged.. i dont think she has met an Australian white woman
sister needs to wear a hijab.
...Why?
Marlon Moncrieffe This is one reason muslim women wear hijab. Muslim ppl believe it is protection for society/woman.
As they cover their beauty it makes it more important for them to develop their personality, morals and intellect, to be defined by.
This makes them pleasant to talk to and hold real conversations around shared values, beliefs and long-term life goals that are also deep and transcend in nature.
It prevents ppl getting arrogant and getting a superiority complex based on superficial trates.
Keeps ppl down to earth, modesty. Trys to prevent self entitlement and Princess complex.
It trys to prevent the commercialisation/weaponising of "beauty", by it not being a publicly displayed and traded commodity/currency.
Trys to give women a break from having to compete with each other on just beauty, in open public. That can cause feelings of jealousy.
Helps to try to prevent an army of simps and street pestering. As her beauty is for HER and the special people SHE chooses in her life.
Helps to try to prevent insecurities trying to maintain unrealistic and unsustainable beauty standards, that are forever changing and expensive to uphold.
This can cause mental issues in people and the sense of constant judgement and body shaming from people that don't know you or care about your long-term good.
Peace
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728because she is a Muslim lady.
@@muhmuhsini005 Why do women want to be like men: Because I want to be free of motherfuckers telling me what to put on my head. I like showing of my hair and braids. I love the FREEDOM of deciding if I can do that or not. Obviously.
who TF is she?
And this is why I stay away from social media, over dramatic view of entire populations. If you want a roll model find a woman that has been married successfully for 20-30 years. Someone who has rased a family Don't get your information from social media. It's amazing that 20 some year old, life coach. That has not been married a day in their life, has no children. Is teaching the rest of us how to live.
Sadia is one of those women that is just a straight up “10”, she’s literally the whole package, her parents must also have great values.
This is an L take honestly. I am doing my absolute best to take accountability for my independence as a woman and it IS hard. Very hard and I would not recommend doing it alone. However, the traditional patriarchal values predominantly benefits the rich. Especially rich white men or white men wanting to become rich. Capitalism and patriarchy benefit those at the top. Women and people of color are below white men in regard to opportunity. I can’t apologize for leveling the playing field and wanting more opportunity for EVERYONE. Saying a woman’s only role is in the home is degrading and devaluing no matter which way you spin it. I understand this change is confusing and disruptive but it’s spawned from decades of mistreatment, systemic abuse, and a system that isn’t working anymore. Not ALL men want to be rich and wealthy just like not ALL women want to be stay at home moms. There’s nothing wrong with either goal, but EVERYONE should have equal opportunity to pursue their dream. I look at it more as a civil right than a luxury, and if anyone is to blame it’s the mega wealthy hoarding all the worlds GDP while us pawns are left scrambling trying to figure out the best way to survive.
Michelle Obama was my role model as a teen girl, but white men kept calling her a monkey and a man. So I guess good role models for women have to be universally attractive to men to meet the requirements.
That is quite the broad-brush indictment of men, don't you think?
Agreed.
Women definitely should be a 10 and not have a penis.
Only women can truly determine which women are good role models for themselves. Unfortunately, for every person that looks up to Michelle Obama there are two that would rather follow Cardi B. Besides, it's specifically white, conservative, republican men that liked insulting Michelle to "own the libs." She still has tons of male supporters and quite a lot of men would say Michelle Obama is a far better example of a good woman and a First Lady than Melania Trump.
Michelle Obama is a trans man.
The tattoos all over the body. Gross
0:49 -- "What's the point of you if we do everything the same?" Eradication Sequence initiated. 🚷⚠ I suspected she was an A.I. robot. 😆
Is this woman married with children?
Is that a requirement to be considered a good person and role model?
Is that requirement to have an opinion on society at large? Chris isn't married, and he doesn't have kids.
Yes, it is. Cuz that's the way society is.
There seems to be different rules for men and women. I'm not saying I agree with it.
But if you're not married with kids or at least in a relationship as a man.
Now ppl know that your an incel, single, lonely and sexually frustrated. You will also be looked at with suspicion and seen as a nuisance.
Society is clocked onto it now and even the women know that a lot of men are incels......and they keep coping with excuses
He is asking to know if she is taken 🙃