I definitely had a therapist have to excuse themselves for a phone call. It was strange, but they are human and have families. In this case, her older special needs son was having an issue. I didn't hold it against her.
Yes, it is true they have family and all. But when in a session I turn off all phones, I am paid a large amount of money to be there for them. Nothing could be so much more important in a 45 minute time frame than the person paying for my services ($80 to $150+) an hour. That person is my focus to help, that is why they see me. If I have a child like what your therapist has, I can get a message in less than an hour to take care of that. I would have my child with someone professional. I would hope they can handle what is happening for 30min until I can call back. Just my opinion
@@leecat61 What if someone is in an emergency situation. I agree thats very important to get the time you paid for, but life is too unpredictable for strict rules of any kind
One time I had a therapist weirdly look me up and down. They told me I was “pretty, but not gorgeous”. I didn’t know what to say, so I bursted into tears lol.
I think a therapist is definitely there to listen, but giving advice when asked should be a normal thing. I’ve had to go through a couple therapists to find a good one. One of these that didn’t work, would just want me to talk for an hour and not give any advice. It was terrible. I just felt like I was talking to a wall. The one I have now is amazing. He is always trying new ways to help with problems, and he writes down everything I tell him. It’s great that he makes sure to ask me about stuff I told him months ago, and still follows up with it. He is also very welcoming, and makes me feel so much better after talking to him. Also as a side note, I have major depression and anxiety. I took a dna test to find out which meds would work best for me and I’m so glad I did. Out of over 20 something depression meds, only 2 worked with my dna. It really did help and my crappy insurance covered it all! It is called Gene Sight Testing if anyone wants to check it out!
@@tita8202 I had to go to many different therapists to find the right one. Which sucks, but is totally worth it. Online reviews can help, but I have found a lot to be un-true or just blow out of proportion for some therapists.
The awful therapists that I’ve had to deal with has discouraged me from continuing therapy. Sadly the bad ones can do more harm than good and really mess you up.
I had a bad therapist- She always invalidated my feelings and diminished it to make the issue seem smaller than it actually was. She wasn’t understanding me at all and she was absolutely zero help.
My counsellor used to fall asleep in sessions, it was awful because what do you say when they've clearly nodded off? Then she'd wake up and I just didn't know what to say. I ended up blaming myself for their behaviour.
Same to this day I’m scarred from the first time sought therapy and the person fell asleep and then woke up and was like just sign off on oppositional defiant disorder diagnosis. That was not okay.
to be honest I was considering starting therapy.. Now I'm not so sure. The last thing I would want is for someone to just sit and nod next to me while I'm being vulnerable.
From my experience, I've learned that my therapist will ask me with a follow up question like what the emotion i was feeling was blah blah blah and will try to empathize with me. The most important part that matters is she gather all the repetitive behaviors, patterns of behaviors of showing and what types of things would HELP with problems/ coping skills. She writes down important stuff too to help her remember and organize important details. She also makes me realize it's the little things that matters that adds up to the big things in relationships. Idk if that's all what a good therapist does but I believe she's good for me and I like her.
They don't just do that. They allow you to speak and say what you need, then ask follow up question or make suggestion for treatment. They guide you through your issues and help you find your path to healing through various means.
Yes! I finally found a good therapist the analogy she uses is "You are in the driver seat, I'm the GPS and when you make a wrong turn I help you get back on track" And she's not afraid to laugh (while also being professional)
I had a therapist who would just tell me what to do. The added stress of already disappointing my family, but now walking into therapy with bad news that i stayed in bed all week when she expects me to find a job. She made my life so much more stressful. On top of that she told me to break up with my boyfriend?? My life got better once i stopped seeing her 😅
My therapist became ill and was out for 4 months. During that time I was looking for a temporary therapist to hold me over. When I met this one therapist for the first time to fill out an intake form he hinted to me that he takes tips. I didn’t even have a first session with this guy. I left so angry. I guess he got the hint. He never called me to schedule a session. The 2nd one kept forgetting my name and kept saying someone else’s name. I had to keep correcting her. So i stopped with her. After that I just decided to wait it out until my real therapist came back. That was a really rough time for me, but I got through it. 😅
When my therapist took time off my fill-in therapist and I ended up meshing so well together. It was difficult to leave my long-time therapist but it was sorta for the best. I was fortunate and kinda thought that's where your story was going. I hope you're still with a decent therapist.
KEY WORD: UNSOLICITED. I ask my therapist all the time what she thinks would be the best for me to do. She usually helps me weigh options and figure out which route I want to take
Yes! That’s the thing. She is not telling you what to do, she is giving you options and helping you in the decision making process. This is key for self determination and not relying on someone outside of yourself
It took awhile for me to find the right one, but I did and I’ve been with her for 6 years, and have healed from so much and made such good progress with her. My other therapists were either good buck ended up having to stop being my therapist for their own reasons, or weren’t good fits for me and would be very critical and judgemental of how I responded to things like stress, for example.
The best therapist i've ever had or therapist that told me hard truths and gave me homework. Told me what to do! Talk therapy doesn't work with every situation. You don't always need somebody to agree with you and believe you.
there’s different types of therapy for different people. There’s CBT and more that i haven’t named. a youtube short isn’t gonna give u all the information that u need to know, and a lot of this advice was very black and white, not descriptive
My therapist gave me the last two years of his practice for free EMDR. I went and skeptical, and was amazed how it changed my life . People are placed in your path for a reason . If they can’t help you, they may know somebody else who can . You find what you’re searching for . Search for healing . Speak it into being before you walk out the door. If you don’t find a healer, you’ll find a path to one. And read the book or listen to the audiobook “ the body keeps the score” TH-cam has it. So many times people are just treating the symptoms without looking at the root cause. You always have the ability to interview your therapist.You always have the right to a second third or fourth opinion. Just like a relationship you gotta come back tell him you didn’t like what they said or you didn’t do what they said and work it out.
I had a therapist constantly check her phone during one of our sessions. She didn’t say anything about it and it started to distract me and I didn’t say anything because I had hoped that maybe it was because it was an emergency and wasn’t going to happen again, but I stopped feeling comfortable to share my vulnerability with her because of that. I ended up having to stop therapy because I just couldn’t afford it anymore. I’m starting therapy again and I’m looking for someone that fits me better now.
They’re supposed to be guiding you not just sitting there giving you advice. You don’t have to get advice from a therapist you can ask your friends or parents for that…
There's a difference between unsolicited advice and direction. As a therapist, I am careful not to tell clients what to do or to make decisions for them. I may suggest or brainstorm with them how to handle things though.
You'd be amazed at what listening to your own words aloud could do for you. I'd say that at a times, the therapist is trying to get you to express your thoughts in spoken words. Then you'll listen to yourself speaking. And more often than not you'll feel pretty stupid. If that happens, you're on the road to starting to make the changes you need in your life.
I was only attracted to one of my many therapists and she was many years older than me. Nothing happened though because I was too afraid to try anything 😆 but at that point I had also seen she had a professional wall up. Most therapists are good about that, keeping that professional wall up where they send you no signals whatsoever. Most are passionate about their position and take it seriously.
It’s common honestly. They are someone who genuinely cares about you, who doesn’t love that? it can be hard to distinguish love for another from “love love” ya know? But even that can be communicated and worked out in therapy. No shame there, just be honest
Which is why I prefer to talk to loved ones I’m not going to pay lots of money and waste my time with some rando to vent my issues and traumas for you to just listen when my friends and family already does that Especially when I’m still the person who has to put in 100% of the work to actually improve my well being
I've had a therapist tell me to stop being unhealthy while I was having an involuntary episode. Her archaic knowledge of my issues I wanted help with told her to ignore what it would take to make me feel respected. I asked her for CBT, she wanted group DBT "for learning skills everyone should know". At present, I'm terrified of people and live alone. I haven't been in therapy for months and won't have a consultation until January. My thoughts worry what friends I have left
Why do people go too therapy in the first place? Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse. I'll give you my experience. So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress. It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort. And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool) From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist. I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say. It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone. I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything. Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else. And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily. As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent. As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door. It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in. It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
@@GalaticHunter he could've done a way better job than just send me to neurologist, the session didn't even last 3/4 minutes when I told him I was shaking during the day for a reason I won't specify. Very unprofessional of him to just say "You're going to need a neurologist for this"
When I was younger, I acted like I wanted my therapist to fix everything. I placed too much focus on her being older so more experienced, but she constantly reminded me she couldn't fix everything and she didn't have all the answers. I constantly wanted advice from her. Now I see a different therapist and things have changed. Over time, I've had to learn that therapy doesn't fix everything and i don't rely on therapists for all my answers anymore or any professional for that matter. I've also stopped thinking someone's age means they have answers I don't. I messed up the whole "respect your elders" mindset, which is why I looked at someone far older and thought they could give me direction. They couldn't always do that and I made a lot of mistakes that taught me that the best work you can do is actually outside of therapy, not in the therapist's office. Therapists can give you pointers. They can't run your life or make you do anything. If you want change, you have to do the work. Obviously, there's a case-by-case situation where more sensitivity and compassion is important in a therapist, but as already stated, therapists are not your friends. They're trained professionals and ideally you stop needing therapy after a point. If you really like your therapist, keep in mind people like your therapist can be found as friends outside of a professional setting. Respect your therapist's boundaries. If your therapist is unprofessional, see a different one if possible. It can take awhile to find the right therapist, but it's rewarding to work with the right therapist for you.
Ive had a therapist not only make my situation worse, but ruin my complete relationship with my family. And yet people still want to go to therapy? Many people expect therapist to be people who help you about personal problems and fix your relationship witha fewer words. All they do is just give you pointers, and if you already know what's causing your problem then why go to the therapy in the first place? It's sad how many people know whats causing them daily problems. But they can't do anything about it. And they think therapy is going to help them, yet they get this treatment. The only one who can help you is yourself, no therapist or professional psychologist can..
@@Average_Crack_Addict honestly, sometimes the reason therapy doesnt work is because people go into it with too many expectations and/or they dont have the right therapist for them. and sometimes, you can know whats causing your problems, but it can go deeper than that. like an onion has layers. why did ur therapist ruin ur relationship with your family? did they imply that they were bad people? /gen
So, the therapist won't give me any advice, won't pick up my calls if I'm having a mental breakdown and won't show friendly behaviour. I'm not a fan of paying people thousands just for them to sit in one place and listen without saying anything useful. That's totally ridiculous.
still trying to get to see a therapist after a year - last one told me to get a job even though i’m caring for both parents (my mother suffers with psychosis and my father was recently diagnosed with a mitochondrial disease) and dealing with my own issues, and my normal doctor told me my anxiety is cancer so i’m kinda stuck 😅
Basically.... We need good family & friends that is reducing tremendously & humans need love & trust , that's why we are needing these therapists. But we need love n support, they can't give us & so the problem is never solved. I wish we all find our true love & we all live our dream lives, including myself, ameen. To anyone out there who's holding on so much & still woking each day, I really appreciate u... Plz don't give up.... ❤ Loads of love from Syed Alveera
unsolicited is very important here. it’s better to give clients direction. not only is it to help you - but there’s definitely some people who can take the therapists words the wrong way and do the complete opposite of what was said.
6 things not to expect from therapy 1. For it to work 2. For the therapist to care 3 (same as her #5 and 6). For the therapist to have solutions. 4. For the therapist to understand. 5. For the therapist to be honest about your flaws. 6. For the office to care about anything but your money.
Yh honestly therapy doesn't really do anything but help you understand your problems more. If you feel you already know what your problems are then they can't really do anything beyond that.
Read the book, the body keeps the score. It’s on audiobook in TH-cam. It’s two part. Then ask your therapist if they’ve read the book. Or ask your doctor. Most of them have. And will treat you totally different after you ask them that question. Don’t treat symptoms look for the cause! I also love”Garber Matate “ You can’t take away somebody’s vices, and then start bringing up trauma. The root cause is usually behind the vices. I’m neurodivergent & dyslexic. But didn’t have psychological testing until 50. Why ? Because nobody cared!! I’ve done 10 years of therapy straight, but I’ve had much therapy throughout the years. I’ve had a life full of failure. They were treating my symptoms without looking for a cause. A lifetime of failure. For something I had no ability to change my brain. Would make anybody severely depressed. Had years of EMDR it’s not that hard or complicated. I do it every night.
@@Vladimyrful the sad thing is, most people go to a therapist bc they don’t have friends. someone wouldn’t need a therapist if they had just one real friend.
My mother is so manipulative that she DID make friends with her therapist. They’d go to concerts, the ballet, go out to dinner together (at Olive Garden, the height of fine dining in Ohio in the 90s). Even as a child I found it so weird. As an adult, I find it straight up unethical.
Can you answer my question? I’m 11 and I feel like an adult cause of trauma, people, and the way my “parents” treat me. I ask myself every single day “Why am I still here if all I am is invisible?” I get ignored more that half the time I even try to talk, people talk over me then tell me to shut the h*** up, how am I supposed to live like this anymore? I don’t wanna be here!!
I think she means your therapist shouldn't just serve you a solution on a platter. Instead their job ist to ask the right questions and basically help you figure out which solution works best for YOU. As goes the old proverb : give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, teach a man to fish he will eat every day. Therapy is also alot about aquiring new skills, figuring out how to handle emotions, maybe discovering maladaptive behaviour that might be causing you issues in life and changing that. Therapists are there to be your guide up the mountain and not your sherpa;)
So let me sum that up : we're paying money for someone to listen and let something come out of us which we can already do with our journal and friends right? So if I'm going to the doctor, and say I have cough and headache should I just expect "good luck with that! See you later :)"?
In AA the sponsors think they are highly qualified therapists telling their sponsee's what to do, how to do it, breaking up relationships, disagreeing with your point of view, and generally being assholes. They even tell you that everytime a problem arises it is your fault. The last time I accused myself of being a predator was NEVER! The AA book tells us that the book is only for suggestions, not dictates. I dumped a sponsor a few months ago, and now I have dumped AA. I'm staying sober, but I do have a group of people to go to.
Yeah, I had a therapist answer her cellphone during our first session. I knew it was wrong but thought she has an emergency. It turned it to be a routine reminder for a doctor’s appointment (or something to that effect). I could hear the whole conversation. She wasn’t new at the job but had done it for years.
Therapists say that they will fix all problems when they are not doing it you are just giving them money but it doesn’t work only thing that they are doing is that you tell your problems and then they say oh I’m sorry for you LIKE EVERY SINGLE PERSON IM LITERALLY WASTING MONEY ON A PERSON THAT HASN’T GO THROUGH SHIT
What i don't understand is, why should i waste time talking about things happened without them suggesting nothing to do fix it? I mean, what's the point of just "talking"? I've tried it couple times and seriously it felt pointless
Conclusion I got: don't go to a therapist, coz I ain't gonna pay them if they're insensitive, unresponsive, couldn't give me solutions that actually work. Can't I even expect something? 😂 I'll just call my friends to have a deep talk or pray instead.
With my first therapist she taught me never to rely on her. (She was piss poor) second one (a man) taught me the kind of man husband and father I didn’t want to be ( he was a jackass) third one showed me there was people who cared but that they have there own lives too (she got a better job offer that would make her own life easier) I miss her honesty. My last therapist taught me it is ok to voice my opinion, and that it is ok to say “I think I’m done with therapy, thank you so much for your help.” Hopefully the last two will be a great help to others.
There is AI therapy apps now that will talk to you about your issues your dealing with & provide advice & support. That’s what I do align with my therapy sessions, & journaling, reading, exercising, meditating, watching my affirmations & manifestation video, & having a daily routine all have been helping me with my healing & self development journey.
And the ‘listening to you’ piece is the majority of what they do while offering little in return. Mostly generic insight. Ive found life coaches to be more helpful. Depends on why you feel you need therapy I guess. Good luck. I wasted a lot of money it myself. ❤
The unsolicited advice thing is very controversial to some therapists, but I mostly if not completely agree with your stance because giving advice can go VERY badly
I have had 3-6 happen with half my therapists so many times I expect it. How do I stop picking bad therapists???? And, why do I always stay with ones that make me sad, angry, or insecure? I must be the problem if I keep accepting so much of this that I think it's normal.
That sounds more like talking with someone youre paying than it does therapy. I agreed with a lot of the points but the entire point of a therapist is to get advice, to be critisized so you can grow, and to view things from others perspectives. Therapy isnt a place to vent, its a place to grow; and growing takes actual effort and it WILL be uncomfortable
Me trying to ask my parents if I can go to therapy, thinking all my problems will be solved. (Watches the video) Me not going to therapy because it won’t fix all my problems. Sorry if this offends you, I just have a lot of other stuff I could be doing instead of wasting my parent’s money on something that won’t even help me. This has nothing to do with hating therapists, they’re great people, but I want things to go back too how they were two weeks ago. Not vent with someone just to get more mad at my self like I already do.
I don’t want someone to listen to me only I need questions and tools to help me understand myself and make better choices Other than that therapy that is only about listening is a waste of time and money
I disagree with this. I have friends who are private. They simply love being supportive. There is no such thing as an imbalanced friendship if both part of consent.
some of the therapists i had always commented on the scars i have on my arm, and tried to tell me that me being trangender could be a way of coping because of the loss of my father. i had another therapist who always took calls (that werent emergencies or urgent), always worked on something on her computer, etc. not all therapists will work out, and we'll just have to wait and see if we get a good or bad therapist. maybe therapy isnt a good cut for you, maybe you just need to switch programs, all of that stuff. its good to keep those sort of things in mind, because it helps you figure out what you want and need.
I had a mental health professional laugh at my phobia. Like full on laughing telling me im not a kid and its obvious my fear is irrational. Made me feel like I should never even try to bring it up in therapy since its so ridiculous
My last therapist was highly critical of my cannabis use. She refused to treat me 😂 I told her she could keep the pills because the green does more for me than her bs
I have been smoking heavily for almost 30 years, of course thats my problem, my parents introduced me to it at a very young age. Now I’m supposed to go listen to someone tell me to stop?
@@Ottophil I tried to stop smoking and cant believe the actual anxiety I have needless to say my therapist gives me things that I can try to do. JC Ive tried everything to get my butt moving I dont need that type of advice, I get that from my sister. Truely the reason I went to counseling is because if I dont make it to work that day Im not out partying or having a good time Im in bed cause I cant deal with the world!!! Weed gets me to work!!
Can’t expect them to answer my call and reply to my text? I watched Sixth Sense a few times, and I loved how Bruce Willis makes a strong bond with his patients, even if they potentially could harm him
My therapists often see me as ridiculous. Im too tall for automobiles. Recently its been mentioned that my wardrobe is unorthodox. Simple I layer clothes in winter Wear linen fabric and fishing clothes in summer. My shoes are designed for hiking whilst being casual dress. The rules you indentify are either not enforced or new.
Help what happens is therapy goes on streak or is off how do I get a replacement sorry if I am over reacting but I am really struggling at home and at school and I can’t talk to my parents or teachers or even my boyfriend
You shouldn't expect your therapist to give you advice at all, they need to bring YOU to find the idea/concept/whatever they're trynna explain to you Also for #1, you actually do. That's why we go to therapy. If therapy doesn't help you heal then you need to change therapist
Why do people go too therapy in the first place? Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse. I'll give you my experience. So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress. It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort. And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool) From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist. I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say. It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone. I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything. Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else. And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily. As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent. As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door. It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in. It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
@@Average_Crack_AddictSo basically therapy is my last shot at life and every single time I do the tiniest bit of research about what it's like it just seems worse and worse I should probably just kill myself fuck it 😂
@@Average_Crack_Addictidk If this story relates to yours but it reminded me of this time. I was in 6th grade going through a lot of stuff. I was 12 and always felt depressed. The school would tell us, if we're going through something bad we can always talk to our counselor. I told my counselor that I was going through some stuff at home and I feel depressed or something. Then after few months later there was a social worker (that too they sent someone my parents knew) in my house checking everything and my family found out it was me. I felt like a bad person and stopped trusting them. Now I'm obviously older, seeing my own therapist and getting the help that I need without her making me feel like I'm a mad person or making me feel exposed to the world🙄🙄. Man ever since my experience, I ALWAYS told everyone in school, u better not trust ur consoler🤷🏼♀️
@@Average_Crack_AddictIt is completely flipped. imagine if u had a dangerous family member. And u felt helpless and told ur consoler in school. Then they send people over ur house. LIKE OKAY THANKS FOR MAKING THEM MORE REASONS TO PUNISH ME.
@@Average_Crack_Addictit seems to me like they don't take teenagers serious and just label them with a mental illness tag and take u as a joke tbh it's sad. At least that's what I saw in a mental hospital.
What if you had a fear, you tried to prevent the fear from happening, and the therapist punishes you by transferring you to a male therapist? Specifically to punish you. Is that a good therapist? Or is she going overboard just cuz she couldn't handle the client?
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It connects with the characters within the viewers, individuals suppressed within our own subconscious. It stays vibrant, fresh, and revolutionizes the art of storytelling and filmmaking while making a damn of statement on what it means to be human. Entertaining, gripping, and simply exhilarating. This might be the most impactful piece of art I’ve come across in my life, and I’m definitely coming back to it in the near future to study it more deeply. this is an absolute masterpiece , I was brought to tears listening to this and seeing the bacon go whirly swirly in a circle countless times. Tt absolutely moved my soul , and i don't think I can ever be the same. this bacon has changed my entire mental state , I am now at peace with who I am and what I will be doing later in my life. i have forgiven all my enemies and now I am a man of a pacifist life. I will move on , gotta move on , as the song says. the bacon is so inspirational , it shares it vast wisdom with all of us , and we are all so lucky that it would bestow it's great words with us. we are all children on bacon. hail bacon. hail bacon. The spinning bacon, rotating in one direction with this music... This made me tear up. How could such a piece of bacon do such a thing? I'm struck by awe by this masterpiece. Especially when the bacon spins, showing its lightly salt covered tan skin. I can hear the crunch just from here, and so as the beautiful sound of the bacon scraping the dark, smooth velvet floor. The flavor, music and everything can be heard, tasted, seen and felt from a screen. You can really hear the breaths between the music artist, empathizing her love for this rotating bacon. Truly what I call modern art. This was the most legendary performance by any bacon I have ever watched. The acting was top tier and very life changing. This is one of the greatest work from a bacon I have ever seen especially on 17:24. I am currently crying so hard right now. This is seriously the most beautiful, well put together story ever. I can’t believe how magical it was 1:12. That part truly made me shed a tear. And especially at 6:34 that part was just so truly heart touching words can not describe the series of emotions I felt. I absolutely loved the climax it had insanely excellent detail. Oh and we can’t forget the conclusion. The conclusion was the greatest and saddest conclusion I have ever seen better than any of the books I have read. Thank you so much for creating this absolute masterpiece. This is essentially the most important masterpiece of film history. It is a tragedy that this, it can’t be called a film, but a transcendent emotional experience, will be inaccessible for most. It beautifully encapsulates the human struggle to its basics; suffering, pleasure, faith, despair. The work put in to this is incredibly inspiring. The graphics, the animation, the music, so much thought was put into it. This has remined me that you can do anything you put your mind to. Not even mentioning the memories, this makes me feel like an infant again, just laying my eyes on this beautiful masterpiece gives me all the good feelings in life. I also understand what happiness is again from this. Not even to mention the most incredible part that is 2:10. Bacon spinning has changed my life for the better. It connects with the characters within the viewers, individuals suppressed within our own subconscious. It stays vibrant, fresh, and revolutionizes the art of storytelling and filmmaking while making a damn of statement on what it means to be human. Entertaining, gripping, and simply exhilarating. This might be the most impactful piece of art I’ve come across in my life, and I’m definitely coming back to it in the near future to study it more deeply. this is an absolute masterpiece , I was brought to tears listening to this and seeing the bacon go whirly swirly in a circle countless times. it absolutely moved my soul , and I don't think I can ever be the same. this bacon has changed my entire mental state , I am now at peace with who I am and what I will be doing later in my life. So much great graphic design, so much suspense, so much greatness in this one video. i have forgiven all my enemies and now I am a man of a pacifist life. I will move on , gotta move on , as the song says. the bacon is so inspirational , it shares it vast wisdom with all of us , and we are all so lucky that it would bestow it's great words with us. we are all children on bacon. hail bacon. hail bacon. The spinning bacon, rotating in one direction with this music... This made me tear up. How could such a bacon do such a thing? I'm struck by awe by this masterpiece. Especially when the bacon spins, showing its lightly salt covered tan skin. I can hear the crunch just from here, and so as the beautiful sound of the bacon scraping the dark, smooth velvet floor. The flavor, music and everything can be heard, tasted, seen and felt from a screen. You can really hear the breaths between the music artist, empathizing her love for this rotating bacon. Truly what I call modern art. This was the most legendary performance by any bacon I have ever watched. The acting was top tier and very life changing. This is one of the greatest work from a piece of bacon I have ever seen especially on 57:42. I am crying. This has made me go through an emotional rollercoaster. I cried, beat off, and also watched a movie while watching this premiere. This has made me go through so much. I passed depression because of this. It really inspired me to become an outstanding young man. Thank you.
My therapist back home, helped me with my ssa case. But, she did a great job, as I left Christianity completely, and why I did, and where I went. She didn't criticize me. I knew she couldn't fix me, I'm a hemorrhagic stroke survivor, and I can't function like I used to. But, with her help, I'm ok with that. I no longer see her, but I moved very far away, actually to a different country.
Don’t totally agree re just listening- might as well talk to the wall- empathy is critical and the therapist has the capacity to put themselves in their clients shoes while still remaining in their own-this is what shifts and motivates change in others- walking beside them in a compassionate way-
The first thing to learn from theRapists is they will NOT fix our problems but definitely leave us with more problems, trauma, and rejection. Traumatized people are profitable and mortgages need to get paid.
Omg!! I had one tell me his unsolicited advice, felt judged by him. He also didn’t have good boundaries, wanted me and my guy to join his church. Just wrong
An observation, therapists are financially secure, and come from well endowed family backgrounds, Their education was paid for, therapists i knew one who wore a two hundred dollar change of clothes, mentioned by inquiry that his family had a swimming pool in their basement. Other therapists vacation on cruises and have an RV with satellite internet. Therapists will be in Shakespeare plays, or play la crosse. These therapist believe theyre middle class. Maybe. I myself have been in therapy too long. Their education when i attended university was watching scenerios videos, clinical experience and on the job training. Upper class students from the wealthy backgrounds. Therapy, its quality of care and mercy is improving, theyre not like us. Its getting better. Therapist now have the internet, therapists can do background checks. No more cautious probability based misdiagnosis.
I definitely had a therapist have to excuse themselves for a phone call. It was strange, but they are human and have families. In this case, her older special needs son was having an issue. I didn't hold it against her.
Yes, it is true they have family and all. But when in a session I turn off all phones, I am paid a large amount of money to be there for them. Nothing could be so much more important in a 45 minute time frame than the person paying for my services ($80 to $150+) an hour. That person is my focus to help, that is why they see me. If I have a child like what your therapist has, I can get a message in less than an hour to take care of that. I would have my child with someone professional. I would hope they can handle what is happening for 30min until I can call back. Just my opinion
@@leecat61 What if someone is in an emergency situation. I agree thats very important to get the time you paid for, but life is too unpredictable for strict rules of any kind
One time I had a therapist weirdly look me up and down. They told me I was “pretty, but not gorgeous”. I didn’t know what to say, so I bursted into tears lol.
@@DonnaChambersonThat is inappropriate and unprofessional! In all settings.
@@tabitas.2719THIS. Jesus christ, that is not a therapist, that is a… well… okay they might be a therapist but that is a BAD ONE.
I think a therapist is definitely there to listen, but giving advice when asked should be a normal thing. I’ve had to go through a couple therapists to find a good one. One of these that didn’t work, would just want me to talk for an hour and not give any advice. It was terrible. I just felt like I was talking to a wall. The one I have now is amazing. He is always trying new ways to help with problems, and he writes down everything I tell him. It’s great that he makes sure to ask me about stuff I told him months ago, and still follows up with it. He is also very welcoming, and makes me feel so much better after talking to him. Also as a side note, I have major depression and anxiety. I took a dna test to find out which meds would work best for me and I’m so glad I did. Out of over 20 something depression meds, only 2 worked with my dna. It really did help and my crappy insurance covered it all! It is called Gene Sight Testing if anyone wants to check it out!
Good to hear that ……how much does a therapist charge?
How did you find your therapist?
@@ViratMalhotra. It really does vary. But you will definitely need heath insurance. They are outrageously expensive without insurance.
@@tita8202 I had to go to many different therapists to find the right one. Which sucks, but is totally worth it. Online reviews can help, but I have found a lot to be un-true or just blow out of proportion for some therapists.
Thanks for the information on the test!
The awful therapists that I’ve had to deal with has discouraged me from continuing therapy. Sadly the bad ones can do more harm than good and really mess you up.
"but you have to keep trying on therapists till you find the right one!!!"
They also are bad for your bank account too
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Agreed but learning red flags of narcissists will help defend against this a lot
This has motivated me to not try this at all now and like someone else said it takes away money that I simply don’t have.
I had a bad therapist- She always invalidated my feelings and diminished it to make the issue seem smaller than it actually was. She wasn’t understanding me at all and she was absolutely zero help.
My counsellor used to fall asleep in sessions, it was awful because what do you say when they've clearly nodded off? Then she'd wake up and I just didn't know what to say. I ended up blaming myself for their behaviour.
WHAT!!! 😮😂
That's beyond unprofessional! You shouldn't blame yourself. I am sorry you had such a horrible experience!
That is terrible and not your fault at all!
Probably overworked.
Same to this day I’m scarred from the first time sought therapy and the person fell asleep and then woke up and was like just sign off on oppositional defiant disorder diagnosis. That was not okay.
to be honest I was considering starting therapy.. Now I'm not so sure. The last thing I would want is for someone to just sit and nod next to me while I'm being vulnerable.
From my experience, I've learned that my therapist will ask me with a follow up question like what the emotion i was feeling was blah blah blah and will try to empathize with me. The most important part that matters is she gather all the repetitive behaviors, patterns of behaviors of showing and what types of things would HELP with problems/ coping skills. She writes down important stuff too to help her remember and organize important details.
She also makes me realize it's the little things that matters that adds up to the big things in relationships. Idk if that's all what a good therapist does but I believe she's good for me and I like her.
They don't just do that. They allow you to speak and say what you need, then ask follow up question or make suggestion for treatment. They guide you through your issues and help you find your path to healing through various means.
Same TvT
Yes ,especially when your problem is serious
Yes! I finally found a good therapist the analogy she uses is "You are in the driver seat, I'm the GPS and when you make a wrong turn I help you get back on track" And she's not afraid to laugh (while also being professional)
I had a therapist who would just tell me what to do. The added stress of already disappointing my family, but now walking into therapy with bad news that i stayed in bed all week when she expects me to find a job. She made my life so much more stressful. On top of that she told me to break up with my boyfriend?? My life got better once i stopped seeing her 😅
My therapist became ill and was out for 4 months. During that time I was looking for a temporary therapist to hold me over. When I met this one therapist for the first time to fill out an intake form he hinted to me that he takes tips. I didn’t even have a first session with this guy. I left so angry. I guess he got the hint. He never called me to schedule a session.
The 2nd one kept forgetting my name and kept saying someone else’s name. I had to keep correcting her. So i stopped with her. After that I just decided to wait it out until my real therapist came back. That was a really rough time for me, but I got through it. 😅
When my therapist took time off my fill-in therapist and I ended up meshing so well together. It was difficult to leave my long-time therapist but it was sorta for the best. I was fortunate and kinda thought that's where your story was going. I hope you're still with a decent therapist.
Should have reported them to the medical board.
KEY WORD: UNSOLICITED. I ask my therapist all the time what she thinks would be the best for me to do. She usually helps me weigh options and figure out which route I want to take
Yes! That’s the thing. She is not telling you what to do, she is giving you options and helping you in the decision making process. This is key for self determination and not relying on someone outside of yourself
It took awhile for me to find the right one, but I did and I’ve been with her for 6 years, and have healed from so much and made such good progress with her. My other therapists were either good buck ended up having to stop being my therapist for their own reasons, or weren’t good fits for me and would be very critical and judgemental of how I responded to things like stress, for example.
The best therapist i've ever had or therapist that told me hard truths and gave me homework.
Told me what to do!
Talk therapy doesn't work with every situation. You don't always need somebody to agree with you and believe you.
I agree. I'm there to consult with a professional that will keep it real with me. I understand that it takes time to assess.
That’s a life coach
there’s different types of therapy for different people. There’s CBT and more that i haven’t named. a youtube short isn’t gonna give u all the information that u need to know, and a lot of this advice was very black and white, not descriptive
Hey, how did you find a therapist like that?
My therapist gave me the last two years of his practice for free EMDR. I went and skeptical, and was amazed how it changed my life . People are placed in your path for a reason . If they can’t help you, they may know somebody else who can . You find what you’re searching for . Search for healing . Speak it into being before you walk out the door. If you don’t find a healer, you’ll find a path to one.
And read the book or listen to the audiobook “ the body keeps the score” TH-cam has it.
So many times people are just treating the symptoms without looking at the root cause.
You always have the ability to interview your therapist.You always have the right to a second third or fourth opinion. Just like a relationship you gotta come back tell him you didn’t like what they said or you didn’t do what they said and work it out.
I had a therapist constantly check her phone during one of our sessions. She didn’t say anything about it and it started to distract me and I didn’t say anything because I had hoped that maybe it was because it was an emergency and wasn’t going to happen again, but I stopped feeling comfortable to share my vulnerability with her because of that. I ended up having to stop therapy because I just couldn’t afford it anymore. I’m starting therapy again and I’m looking for someone that fits me better now.
If a therapist isn’t giving me advice then what are they offering? 😂
I don’t want someone to just listen
They’re supposed to be guiding you not just sitting there giving you advice. You don’t have to get advice from a therapist you can ask your friends or parents for that…
There's a difference between unsolicited advice and direction. As a therapist, I am careful not to tell clients what to do or to make decisions for them. I may suggest or brainstorm with them how to handle things though.
You'd be amazed at what listening to your own words aloud could do for you. I'd say that at a times, the therapist is trying to get you to express your thoughts in spoken words. Then you'll listen to yourself speaking. And more often than not you'll feel pretty stupid. If that happens, you're on the road to starting to make the changes you need in your life.
I was gonna write the exact same thing.
Ditto.
I was only attracted to one of my many therapists and she was many years older than me. Nothing happened though because I was too afraid to try anything 😆 but at that point I had also seen she had a professional wall up. Most therapists are good about that, keeping that professional wall up where they send you no signals whatsoever. Most are passionate about their position and take it seriously.
It’s common honestly. They are someone who genuinely cares about you, who doesn’t love that? it can be hard to distinguish love for another from “love love” ya know? But even that can be communicated and worked out in therapy. No shame there, just be honest
Which is why I prefer to talk to loved ones
I’m not going to pay lots of money and waste my time with some rando to vent my issues and traumas for you to just listen when my friends and family already does that
Especially when I’m still the person who has to put in 100% of the work to actually improve my well being
When talking with a therapist you can eventually leave and avoid.
I don't agree. You only need to find a better therapist, family or friends can't always understand us, therapists has studied for it.
I've had a therapist tell me to stop being unhealthy while I was having an involuntary episode. Her archaic knowledge of my issues I wanted help with told her to ignore what it would take to make me feel respected. I asked her for CBT, she wanted group DBT "for learning skills everyone should know". At present, I'm terrified of people and live alone. I haven't been in therapy for months and won't have a consultation until January. My thoughts worry what friends I have left
All my therapist wanted was $190 an hour. I expected support and got none.
Why do people go too therapy in the first place?
Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse.
I'll give you my experience.
So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress.
It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort.
And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool)
From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist.
I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say.
It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone.
I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything.
Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else.
And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily.
As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent.
As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door.
It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in.
It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
Right if someone is spending all that money that therapy cost it should work.
@@Average_Crack_Addict it was not your therapist fault though
@@GalaticHunter he could've done a way better job than just send me to neurologist, the session didn't even last 3/4 minutes when I told him I was shaking during the day for a reason I won't specify. Very unprofessional of him to just say "You're going to need a neurologist for this"
When I was younger, I acted like I wanted my therapist to fix everything. I placed too much focus on her being older so more experienced, but she constantly reminded me she couldn't fix everything and she didn't have all the answers. I constantly wanted advice from her.
Now I see a different therapist and things have changed. Over time, I've had to learn that therapy doesn't fix everything and i don't rely on therapists for all my answers anymore or any professional for that matter.
I've also stopped thinking someone's age means they have answers I don't. I messed up the whole "respect your elders" mindset, which is why I looked at someone far older and thought they could give me direction. They couldn't always do that and I made a lot of mistakes that taught me that the best work you can do is actually outside of therapy, not in the therapist's office.
Therapists can give you pointers. They can't run your life or make you do anything. If you want change, you have to do the work. Obviously, there's a case-by-case situation where more sensitivity and compassion is important in a therapist, but as already stated, therapists are not your friends. They're trained professionals and ideally you stop needing therapy after a point.
If you really like your therapist, keep in mind people like your therapist can be found as friends outside of a professional setting.
Respect your therapist's boundaries. If your therapist is unprofessional, see a different one if possible. It can take awhile to find the right therapist, but it's rewarding to work with the right therapist for you.
Ive had a therapist not only make my situation worse, but ruin my complete relationship with my family. And yet people still want to go to therapy?
Many people expect therapist to be people who help you about personal problems and fix your relationship witha fewer words.
All they do is just give you pointers, and if you already know what's causing your problem then why go to the therapy in the first place?
It's sad how many people know whats causing them daily problems. But they can't do anything about it. And they think therapy is going to help them, yet they get this treatment.
The only one who can help you is yourself, no therapist or professional psychologist can..
@@Average_Crack_Addict honestly, sometimes the reason therapy doesnt work is because people go into it with too many expectations and/or they dont have the right therapist for them. and sometimes, you can know whats causing your problems, but it can go deeper than that. like an onion has layers. why did ur therapist ruin ur relationship with your family? did they imply that they were bad people? /gen
So, the therapist won't give me any advice, won't pick up my calls if I'm having a mental breakdown and won't show friendly behaviour. I'm not a fan of paying people thousands just for them to sit in one place and listen without saying anything useful. That's totally ridiculous.
She sounds like a bad therapist if she believes this. A good therapist will go out of their way for you if you’re actually trying to get better.
still trying to get to see a therapist after a year - last one told me to get a job even though i’m caring for both parents (my mother suffers with psychosis and my father was recently diagnosed with a mitochondrial disease) and dealing with my own issues, and my normal doctor told me my anxiety is cancer so i’m kinda stuck 😅
Basically.... We need good family & friends that is reducing tremendously & humans need love & trust , that's why we are needing these therapists. But we need love n support, they can't give us & so the problem is never solved. I wish we all find our true love & we all live our dream lives, including myself, ameen. To anyone out there who's holding on so much & still woking each day, I really appreciate u... Plz don't give up.... ❤ Loads of love from Syed Alveera
When your therapist is your best friend-
#2 is the only one for me..I'm friends with him..he's a really nice guy.
unsolicited is very important here. it’s better to give clients direction. not only is it to help you - but there’s definitely some people who can take the therapists words the wrong way and do the complete opposite of what was said.
6 things not to expect from therapy
1. For it to work
2. For the therapist to care
3 (same as her #5 and 6). For the therapist to have solutions.
4. For the therapist to understand.
5. For the therapist to be honest about your flaws.
6. For the office to care about anything but your money.
Yh honestly therapy doesn't really do anything but help you understand your problems more. If you feel you already know what your problems are then they can't really do anything beyond that.
Read the book, the body keeps the score. It’s on audiobook in TH-cam. It’s two part. Then ask your therapist if they’ve read the book. Or ask your doctor. Most of them have. And will treat you totally different after you ask them that question. Don’t treat symptoms look for the cause!
I also love”Garber Matate “
You can’t take away somebody’s vices, and then start bringing up trauma. The root cause is usually behind the vices.
I’m neurodivergent & dyslexic. But didn’t have psychological testing until 50. Why ? Because nobody cared!! I’ve done 10 years of therapy straight, but I’ve had much therapy throughout the years.
I’ve had a life full of failure.
They were treating my symptoms without looking for a cause. A lifetime of failure. For something I had no ability to change my brain. Would make anybody severely depressed. Had years of EMDR it’s not that hard or complicated. I do it every night.
@@LegalizeTheNuclearBombyep 💯
Aspects of therapy can help, it's more about growth than solutions. But too many therapists are seriously uncaring or mean
What is the purpose of a therapist, if not to help you with your problems?
We help with your issues but we don't do the work, you do. I brainstorm, and even provide direction but I can't cure you or fix your issues.
@@terseandtiny1746 A good friend can do that, and they don't cost $50+/h.
@@Vladimyrful the sad thing is, most people go to a therapist bc they don’t have friends. someone wouldn’t need a therapist if they had just one real friend.
@@saifxali1 i tried to talk about my problems with friends they all laughed at me so eventually i just learned its best to hold everything in
@@Ottophil Alternatively, you could go see a therapist.
Thank you. Avoid negative people. ❤
My mother is so manipulative that she DID make friends with her therapist. They’d go to concerts, the ballet, go out to dinner together (at Olive Garden, the height of fine dining in Ohio in the 90s). Even as a child I found it so weird. As an adult, I find it straight up unethical.
Therapy is a journey, not a destination. Progress takes patience and self-compassion. 🌱💚
I wish they could fix my problems.... I'd give anything for that.
My therapist gave me problems😅😢
And number 7: That therapy will do anything but take your money and your time.
Can you answer my question? I’m 11 and I feel like an adult cause of trauma, people, and the way my “parents” treat me. I ask myself every single day “Why am I still here if all I am is invisible?” I get ignored more that half the time I even try to talk, people talk over me then tell me to shut the h*** up, how am I supposed to live like this anymore? I don’t wanna be here!!
You had just made me realized that I had really bad therapists... And really bad therapist experiences
Serious question if they don’t help us with fixing our problems, why am I going to them? Hope that didn’t sound too harsh.
Right? Tf is this lady in the video talking about
I think she means your therapist shouldn't just serve you a solution on a platter. Instead their job ist to ask the right questions and basically help you figure out which solution works best for YOU. As goes the old proverb : give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, teach a man to fish he will eat every day.
Therapy is also alot about aquiring new skills, figuring out how to handle emotions, maybe discovering maladaptive behaviour that might be causing you issues in life and changing that.
Therapists are there to be your guide up the mountain and not your sherpa;)
So let me sum that up : we're paying money for someone to listen and let something come out of us which we can already do with our journal and friends right? So if I'm going to the doctor, and say I have cough and headache should I
just expect "good luck with that! See you later :)"?
In AA the sponsors think they are highly qualified therapists telling their sponsee's what to do, how to do it, breaking up relationships, disagreeing with your point of view, and generally being assholes. They even tell you that everytime a problem arises it is your fault. The last time I accused myself of being a predator was NEVER! The AA book tells us that the book is only for suggestions, not dictates. I dumped a sponsor a few months ago, and now I have dumped AA. I'm staying sober, but I do have a group of people to go to.
Yeah, I had a therapist answer her cellphone during our first session. I knew it was wrong but thought she has an emergency. It turned it to be a routine reminder for a doctor’s appointment (or something to that effect). I could hear the whole conversation. She wasn’t new at the job but had done it for years.
Therapists say that they will fix all problems when they are not doing it you are just giving them money but it doesn’t work only thing that they are doing is that you tell your problems and then they say oh I’m sorry for you LIKE EVERY SINGLE PERSON IM LITERALLY WASTING MONEY ON A PERSON THAT HASN’T GO THROUGH SHIT
What i don't understand is, why should i waste time talking about things happened without them suggesting nothing to do fix it? I mean, what's the point of just "talking"? I've tried it couple times and seriously it felt pointless
Conclusion I got: don't go to a therapist, coz I ain't gonna pay them if they're insensitive, unresponsive, couldn't give me solutions that actually work. Can't I even expect something? 😂 I'll just call my friends to have a deep talk or pray instead.
With my first therapist she taught me never to rely on her. (She was piss poor) second one (a man) taught me the kind of man husband and father I didn’t want to be ( he was a jackass) third one showed me there was people who cared but that they have there own lives too (she got a better job offer that would make her own life easier) I miss her honesty. My last therapist taught me it is ok to voice my opinion, and that it is ok to say “I think I’m done with therapy, thank you so much for your help.” Hopefully the last two will be a great help to others.
Omg, my former therapist would answer calls in the middle of the session and would be critical of my desire of scarifications.
Great information that people need to understand. Thank you 😊
You are so welcome!
I've got a psychology assessment coming up soon so this was helpful. Thank you
I had one who did number 4 and I’m still bothered when I think about it even though it was 4 years ago
There is AI therapy apps now that will talk to you about your issues your dealing with & provide advice & support. That’s what I do align with my therapy sessions, & journaling, reading, exercising, meditating, watching my affirmations & manifestation video, & having a daily routine all have been helping me with my healing & self development journey.
Okay, but what if you are struggling with self harm and they say to call you if you feel like your going to, then they should answer calls tho right?
Not all therapists are created equal. I'd say the vast majority is terrible. Many are jaded or got in to the job because it's "easy"
Therapists are like very expensive friends you have to pay to listen to you. :)
And the ‘listening to you’ piece is the majority of what they do while offering little in return. Mostly generic insight. Ive found life coaches to be more helpful. Depends on why you feel you need therapy I guess. Good luck. I wasted a lot of money it myself. ❤
Love your short content!! ❤❤❤ keep it up!
The only thing worse than falling in love with your therapist is falling in therapy with your lover.
The unsolicited advice thing is very controversial to some therapists, but I mostly if not completely agree with your stance because giving advice can go VERY badly
Love this!!
I have had 3-6 happen with half my therapists so many times I expect it. How do I stop picking bad therapists???? And, why do I always stay with ones that make me sad, angry, or insecure? I must be the problem if I keep accepting so much of this that I think it's normal.
Yeah i wish i knew this before going to therapy for my derealization. 5 months wasted and no real changes. Therapy is the worst form of treatment
That sounds more like talking with someone youre paying than it does therapy. I agreed with a lot of the points but the entire point of a therapist is to get advice, to be critisized so you can grow, and to view things from others perspectives. Therapy isnt a place to vent, its a place to grow; and growing takes actual effort and it WILL be uncomfortable
Really great info!
It's like talking to a robot!
Pay for your hour to complain then get out
Wow, mine did most of these things.
Me trying to ask my parents if I can go to therapy, thinking all my problems will be solved.
(Watches the video)
Me not going to therapy because it won’t fix all my problems.
Sorry if this offends you, I just have a lot of other stuff I could be doing instead of wasting my parent’s money on something that won’t even help me. This has nothing to do with hating therapists, they’re great people, but I want things to go back too how they were two weeks ago. Not vent with someone just to get more mad at my self like I already do.
Do you think ALL your problems have to be fixed for therapy to benefit you? Genuine question.
I don’t want someone to listen to me only I need questions and tools to help me understand myself and make better choices
Other than that therapy that is only about listening is a waste of time and money
Therapist is not your friend. It's a one side relationship. They are here to help you.
I disagree with this. I have friends who are private. They simply love being supportive. There is no such thing as an imbalanced friendship if both part of consent.
some of the therapists i had always commented on the scars i have on my arm, and tried to tell me that me being trangender could be a way of coping because of the loss of my father. i had another therapist who always took calls (that werent emergencies or urgent), always worked on something on her computer, etc. not all therapists will work out, and we'll just have to wait and see if we get a good or bad therapist. maybe therapy isnt a good cut for you, maybe you just need to switch programs, all of that stuff. its good to keep those sort of things in mind, because it helps you figure out what you want and need.
My mom is currently refusing to get me a therapist. Ae there better options?
If a therapist judges or criticizes someone for their words I’m pretty sure they loose their license or something
I had therapists answer texts and calls, I also had dreams about mine
This is why I talked to my friends
I seem to be the kind of person who'd be head over heels for the therapist. Thats why I have my guards really high.
Which is why it'll be forever ineffective
I’ve had an overly agressive therapist 😂
I had a mental health professional laugh at my phobia. Like full on laughing telling me im not a kid and its obvious my fear is irrational. Made me feel like I should never even try to bring it up in therapy since its so ridiculous
Good advice 👍
Don't expect help from therapy. Got it
😂😂
Third point made me realize most of them a crazy
My last therapist was highly critical of my cannabis use. She refused to treat me 😂 I told her she could keep the pills because the green does more for me than her bs
I have been smoking heavily for almost 30 years, of course thats my problem, my parents introduced me to it at a very young age. Now I’m supposed to go listen to someone tell me to stop?
@@Ottophil I tried to stop smoking and cant believe the actual anxiety I have needless to say my therapist gives me things that I can try to do. JC Ive tried everything to get my butt moving I dont need that type of advice, I get that from my sister. Truely the reason I went to counseling is because if I dont make it to work that day Im not out partying or having a good time Im in bed cause I cant deal with the world!!! Weed gets me to work!!
This is so so so true. All of this happens in Pakistan. Here, therapists or people who see therapists fall in love with them!
Why do I get old videos? I want current info and to be able to read and respond to comments.
Can’t expect them to answer my call and reply to my text? I watched Sixth Sense a few times, and I loved how Bruce Willis makes a strong bond with his patients, even if they potentially could harm him
Thank you
You're welcome
My therapist is like a family friend so yaur idk why but i js wanted to say that..
My therapists often see me as ridiculous.
Im too tall for automobiles.
Recently its been mentioned that my wardrobe is unorthodox.
Simple
I layer clothes in winter
Wear linen fabric and fishing clothes in summer.
My shoes are designed for hiking whilst being casual dress.
The rules you indentify are either not enforced or new.
Help what happens is therapy goes on streak or is off how do I get a replacement sorry if I am over reacting but I am really struggling at home and at school and I can’t talk to my parents or teachers or even my boyfriend
Therapists are so affordable right ? Not at all
You shouldn't expect your therapist to give you advice at all, they need to bring YOU to find the idea/concept/whatever they're trynna explain to you
Also for #1, you actually do. That's why we go to therapy. If therapy doesn't help you heal then you need to change therapist
Why do people go too therapy in the first place?
Many said it actually helps people but for me it just made my life worse.
I'll give you my experience.
So, i had a complete month full of costant stress. I was 16 yrs old and basically had no safe room. In school there was complete chaos, and in family too. The problem was when all this settled. I still had rushes of panic and stress.
It got so bad to the point where i and my mom decided to take me to the therapy since we can sort something out if we know what's the cause of my discomfort.
And almost IMEDALTEY, i was sent to a neuropsycologist (all i talked was how i had problems in school, which i still had after i finished 2nd grade highschool)
From that point on as my brother was driving me to the next town where the nearest neuropsycological center was (i think this is how its called in English). We were having fights in the car about what i said to the therapist.
I could feel as our family started to tear appart while we were arguing, we were so done that we all sit in the car, silent. Nobody had words to say.
It got to the point where i just had no will to continue anymore, my brother noticed something was wrong with me and decided to try and cheer me up with jokes, which ive told him to just leave me alone.
I've felt so terrible that whole day i felt worse than wanting to end my life. It felt like everything i was told about kindness and happiness was a utter lie. Never, in my life. Have i felt so done with everything.
Before i arrived, i thought about what I was gonna say there since i dont want them to analyze me as some mentally ill person, and as we arrived. I calmed myself down, and completley lied about how it was just a stressful day and nothing else.
And after that. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. And i didnt need any psychological treatment luckily.
As we returned home, again. Everyone in the car was silent.
As soon as we arrived, I've gone to my room and locked the door.
It was 20 days of me just constantly being in there and only coming out to eat and going back in.
It took whole 4 months for all this to settle down. I still can't understand why people reccomend therapy at all. It's just terrible experience. You think you're safe when you talk to your therapist. Meanwhile its completley flipped.
@@Average_Crack_AddictSo basically therapy is my last shot at life and every single time I do the tiniest bit of research about what it's like it just seems worse and worse I should probably just kill myself fuck it 😂
@@Average_Crack_Addictidk If this story relates to yours but it reminded me of this time. I was in 6th grade going through a lot of stuff. I was 12 and always felt depressed. The school would tell us, if we're going through something bad we can always talk to our counselor. I told my counselor that I was going through some stuff at home and I feel depressed or something. Then after few months later there was a social worker (that too they sent someone my parents knew) in my house checking everything and my family found out it was me. I felt like a bad person and stopped trusting them. Now I'm obviously older, seeing my own therapist and getting the help that I need without her making me feel like I'm a mad person or making me feel exposed to the world🙄🙄. Man ever since my experience, I ALWAYS told everyone in school, u better not trust ur consoler🤷🏼♀️
@@Average_Crack_AddictIt is completely flipped. imagine if u had a dangerous family member. And u felt helpless and told ur consoler in school. Then they send people over ur house. LIKE OKAY THANKS FOR MAKING THEM MORE REASONS TO PUNISH ME.
@@Average_Crack_Addictit seems to me like they don't take teenagers serious and just label them with a mental illness tag and take u as a joke tbh it's sad. At least that's what I saw in a mental hospital.
What if you had a fear, you tried to prevent the fear from happening, and the therapist punishes you by transferring you to a male therapist? Specifically to punish you. Is that a good therapist? Or is she going overboard just cuz she couldn't handle the client?
The last one is unacceptable
I'm paying for everyone's therapy today
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What the fuck are you talking about
doing entirely too much 😂
My therapist back home, helped me with my ssa case. But, she did a great job, as I left Christianity completely, and why I did, and where I went. She didn't criticize me. I knew she couldn't fix me, I'm a hemorrhagic stroke survivor, and I can't function like I used to. But, with her help, I'm ok with that. I no longer see her, but I moved very far away, actually to a different country.
Don’t totally agree re just listening- might as well talk to the wall- empathy is critical and the therapist has the capacity to put themselves in their clients shoes while still remaining in their own-this is what shifts and motivates change in others- walking beside them in a compassionate way-
I thought for a very targeted counseling like social anxiety or phobia, they may give advice? Or is it never the case?
We should provide advice and insight from a objective perspective 💯🙌🏾💯💯
The first thing to learn from theRapists is they will NOT fix our problems but definitely leave us with more problems, trauma, and rejection. Traumatized people are profitable and mortgages need to get paid.
Your experiences aren't universal
Omg!! I had one tell me his unsolicited advice, felt judged by him. He also didn’t have good boundaries, wanted me and my guy to join his church. Just wrong
Therapy is a waste of time that's what I heard
An observation, therapists are financially secure, and come from well endowed family backgrounds,
Their education was paid for, therapists i knew one who wore a two hundred dollar change of clothes, mentioned by inquiry that his family had a swimming pool in their basement. Other therapists vacation on cruises and have an RV with satellite internet. Therapists will be in Shakespeare plays, or play la crosse.
These therapist believe theyre middle class. Maybe. I myself have been in therapy too long.
Their education when i attended university was watching scenerios videos, clinical experience and on the job training.
Upper class students from the wealthy backgrounds.
Therapy, its quality of care and mercy is improving, theyre not like us. Its getting better.
Therapist now have the internet, therapists can do background checks. No more cautious probability based misdiagnosis.
what tf is the point in doing therapy then. I give up I'm checking out fuck that. Found my goddam solution
Yeah been like wanting more counseling appointments but maybe it's just I can't do what they are telling me..