@@Khuman888 I hear you man. I feel that most, if not all virgin men would PREFER a virgin for a wife, if they could choose, love being available too. Wouldn't you agree?
I don't know what is wrong with people like him, men wanting his life partner who never been intimate with another men it's totally his choice like women looks for money and stability
Can a woman truly forget an ex lover when she marries a new man? Can she be truly and wholeheartedly be faithful to this new husband after being with other men? Can she handle it if her new husband isn't as good in bed or in romance as her ex lover? These are some fears some men have that's why they want to marry virgins.
On the first part of your question the answer is "certainly Yes". On the last part of your question "The virgin", maybe her body is virgin but what about her consciousness and manners and worth of her promise and faithfulness and level of her curiosity and temptations in life and so on. It is not our biology that makes the quality of the relationship as no matter how virgin or how beautiful a woman maybe but her mind is the determining factor in the quality of the relationship and how strong it can be and how long it will last and the same with the ones who have had biological experience(s) before marriage, as that is not what will or will not keep the marriage or what would keep the relationship strong and pure, it is her consciousness, manners, qualities, promise, faithfulness, and compatibility on the consciousness level and not her biological beauty or shortcomings. What keeps it all working is the relationship itself and the relationship takes place on the consciousness level and not on the body or the past experiences that keeps the relationship strong or weak. We have live stream on Saturdays at 1 PM Vancouver time and sometimes again at 9 PM Vancouver time. You are welcomed to join us and ask your question. Let me know your age and which country you are watching the videos from. Click on the subscribe button and the bell so hopefully you will be notified ( by TH-cam) when I go live! (This service is free fro all) If you are under the age of 18 I would like you to have permission from your parents to watch my videos or participate in the live stream.
@Juliane M. S. Well well well!!! Women want to mess around and still for men to come and pay big money to marry them, pay huge house loans, car, fancy life, etc for a woman that other men have had for free? What sort of respect do u have for ur husband?
Yes, women certainly can get over past lovers and not compare them to their husband. It's almost like they didnt even exist if a lot of time has passed tbh
@@at6851 you act like women are products that should be sealed before someone "buys" them. If you really care for and value a person you don't think "others had her for free so why should I pay money to build a future with her?" That's misogynistic amd shallow AF
It depends on whether the man is virgin himself. I think you simplify the topic too much. You are only assuming it is because of cultural values but it is not simple as that . There is something called oxytocin (love-hormone) that emotionally binds couples together. This oxytocin hormone can especially be strong among women but the posibility of producing this hormone decreases when you have had more sexual partners. There is always a possibility that a woman will not forget the sexual pleasures of the past relationsships and will miss it because of this oxytocin hormone. There is evidence that people who have had premarital sex have higher divorce rates. Therefore women are not sluts because they have premarital sex indeed, but virgin women are for sure more qualified for getting married with virgin men rather than women who have had premarital sex. I think it is a privilege to be a virgin before marriage, taking into account the overly sexualized immoral society we live in. Being the first for each other with the promises given in the institution of marriage is giving you a stronger foundation for a long term relationship.
This is from a man's point of view and that oxytocin point is nothing but nonsense someone started and it is being used here as a point of value however oxytocin and premarital sex has no such direct relationship as divorce has been part of the history of relationships regardless if one or both of them have been virgin or not. Bonding on the basis of the neurotransmitter oxytocin is just another way to use in such arguments to win the point in the minds of women and to control them one more way otherwise has no scientific basis. If you have premarital sex it is only fair and logical that women can have premarital sex as women are not a commodity to be rapped in rapping paper for man and yet man do whatever they want before marriage. This is a human need and the one's who have not had premarital sex will always wonder how it would be if they had and that itself is one of the many reasons that the marriage falls apart for the temptations of what they had never experienced in another relationship. The feeling between the couple must be voluntary and not due to restrictions of culture or traditions..... Knowing that they can but they do not wish so if different than they can't because some men have made that to be a rule for women and so they should not because their rules and traditions dictate. That is not a free will bonding.
Marrying a virgin is not a matter, marrying a person (if you are a virgin also) who has sexual relations in past is a matter, because She/He , was not as curious about sex as you, and She/He can not enjoy sex as much as you, and sex is a part of love *This is just my opinion
It is your opinion. Reality is quite different. If you are a virgin, you shouldn't marry non-virgin. Especially if you are a man. There are higher chances for divorce.
@@pranjalparmar2504 Yes, with kids. Don't worry, you won't be bad at sex if you wait until marriage. Sex is something that is learning. First sex will be awful. But second,... tenth... You don't need premarital sex to be good in a bed.
@@MehranDadbeh I know it was just an example if women want men who is successful, independent, makes money ,and have great personality, what is wrong if a man expects a virgin beautiful loyal wife , if women expects something its called preferences if a man expects something from his partner it is called double standards , not mature , he is not open minded etc etc , women want men with future and a man want women without past. if man should not judge or ask a womans virginity then why the fuck woman are judging a man because he is poor , broke , they should see their heart not bank balance right ??
@@ravishravi439 LOL yes that is in fact the way it is but then that is what most men hope for but in reality it is not naturally functional as women also like men are with feelings, emotions and programmed for love and interest in sex and procreation so they too like us would fall in love or lust with someone else before finding the right one as we men also sleep with so many women if we could and yet may marry none of them as we find out that we are not exactly what we thought as compatible so we move on but we have had sex with the girls already and that is also somewhat similar to women despite our hope for them to be super human and not have such human feelings, emotions and needs as we all do.
@@MehranDadbeh men and women are biologically different if a high value man had sex with bunch of women his value increases in the dating market and they don't even remember the girl name with whom they slept with , if women had sex with multiple men and think we need equal rights in that way her values decreases in dating market because a high value man will not take her seriously , A man can have sex with multiple women and come back to that one person he loves the most , but in women's cases its totally different because for them its emotional they never sleep with person they don't like . 80% of man don't get sex easily but for 90% woman can have sex with anyone its easier for them , women are born with values but man should create their own to get what they want....
@@ravishravi439 in most parts and in many cultures this what you say is true. However in reality and in many other cultures it is not as black and white as it might seem it is in number of other cultures. So while true but not in every one's minds. Nevertheless no ritual, customs or cultures or traditions can diminish or decimate or disregard the actual feelings that women also have ( not considering the cultural expectations and powers) the same (more or less) desires for such experiences given the right environment welcoming or accepting such behavior. This is very true when we see many families from different and traditional cultural values from different nations when immigrate to USA or Canada or the UK or Germany and most other western countries within a few years they get divorce from their husbands and start dating for this need and desire is only controlled through cultures, customs and traditions or the preference and wisdom of the woman herself and when such environment is no longer enforcing such mentality then many women change their outlook and behavior and follow their natural gravitation ( to some level )towards sexual desire freedom and pleasures or romantic pursuits. You may join one of the live stream when I can discuss this in more detail and others can also enjoy or participate. Thank you for your input.
I am getting married, and quite struggling with retroactive jealousy, yes I have judged her a lot, and after long ups and downs found out that she actually had no fault. But yes I wont lie someone says in my mind continuously being a child from a traditional family she should have respected marriage principles. And yes I try to see these things in different way, from her angle. but this thing keep on bothering me sometimes. Discussed with my mother, trust me she just said exactly the same things. And that even shocked me more. As she has raised me in a very conservative environment, but now she is showing a complete different virtue for her daughter in law.
Brother you must have sex outside marriage you will feel relaxed and good....I am not saying to stop loving your wife but do try for paid sex once...I love my wife but when I married I was a virgin and always used to be upset that she wasn't but when I had sex outside I felt like an alpha and started loving my wife more.....Just make sure no one knows about it.
İt doesn't matter if the man himself is a virgin or not. Marriage is for virgin women, men don't get anything out of marriage already. Men ultimately don't want to get married.
Do you mind if your partner having affair after marriage??????? So how can girl/boy marry with a person who already has that past I believe both should stay away from relationship & stay virgin Hope you answer & not ignore my comment Do that after being married
You are free to make your decisions and choices for your life and that is not my job or place to encourage you to make such decision or change your values. Your question and expectation is based on the conditioning you have receive in the culture you have been raised in as every one else receives their values and conditioning through the culture he or she has been raised in. Having said that, the question is that if you think of a woman as her body or her body and sole both. We all are human beings with feelings and needs, and she does too. So she falls in love as men fall in love and they may have a relationship before marriage as they do not know which one is leading to marriage and which will not so their intention is to follow their love or heart or desire as men do. So you will make a choice if that is understandable , accepted, or not. If yes then you will have a relationship with a woman who has had a relationship before marriage and if not then you move on but expecting every one have the same mentality, values and understanding is not reasonable nor it is logical.
@@MehranDadbeh I understand stand your point But nowadays most of relationship based on lust they think that that is love & they are not aware about that difference & become sexually active So it's better wait for the right time & do marriage I am not against love marriage But if you genuinely think that you want to move 1 step from friend to relationship than why don't you marry??? Is that any doubt that you will marry or not????or it is just for enjoyment & not a serious future decision????
@@pranjalparmar2504 People are different pranjal, and you can only expect from yourself to decide the way you think is right for you but can not expect all others to see it your way and yours, and their opinion and decisions are all valid for each one of you. So don't worry about how other people do or do not base their decision on, if it is not suitable to you then just move on but expecting others to see it the way you say or see will only make you feel stressed , upset or angry, do not allow that and just be ok with your decisions and leave others to their choices and decisions and free yourself to teach or convince others!
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Why do you think many cultures insist on marrying a virgin ? Western world has a higher divorce rate , does the casual attitude towards sex play a part in this ? I have observed, it is comparitively easy for men to move on after a failed relationship but not in the case of women. After losing their virginity women change physically and emotionally, any relationship after this is not as intimate and emotionally binding but a conscious and calculated move. Physically humans may be polygamous but our emotions always long for that one person. Our intention should be towards building strong family bonds and the root to this lies in taking care of our bodies and emotions. If sexual intimacy can be compared to sport then why restrain after marriage, we should still continue having multiple partners after marriage too. It is not a matter of being conservative or liberal rather a matter of understanding the human nature and to tread with caution. Women are emotionally fragile and their bodies are integrated with their emotions. Young people should be shown the way for a better tomorrow by respecting relationships and bodies.
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There are exceptions. I've known females who weren't very emotional and males who were devastated to the point of destroying their lives with drugs or other vices after a breakup. I've known people of both sexes who have committed suicide. I think it depends a lot on the individual. I think in many societies females are becoming more masculine and males are becoming more feminine. Personally I'm more of the old-fashioned kind of girl but I have female acquaintances who absolutely aren't. At the same time, I'm not really that old fashioned because I've never once wanted children and haven't bothered to get married whereas my female friends who have been promiscuous seem to want a family one day. I guess my point is you may be right in most cases but there are always exceptions. We are all individuals and can be very complex beings lol
Ok u mean that's not a sin?And another question can someone bilieve a girl or a boy who had sex more than 4-3 times with randoms?I mean u think can they control therselves not to have sex with others after marriage?I dont think so?
That's idiotic. The fact that when they were single they had one night stands doesn't mean they can't control themselves and be loyal in marriage🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@ashley_brown6106 it's not about control but about the president it sets. If you are a virgin man and your woman is a non virgin then it means that there is a man who slept with many women including his wife. Then it creates a notion for young boys that a man should f*** around youth casually without keeping marriage in mind because if they are Virgin till marriage and their wife not then they are loosing all the fun. And you know what we call these men. Jerks, playboy, molester because they become one because they have this thing in their mind that women don't mind with whom they sleep and date so they pursue a woman and break their heart after they are satisfied with her. Think how horrible that society will be like with all men and women having sex casually. Weaker marriage, single parents, low birthrates, high suicide rate, high r*pe rate, lack of trust between men and women because they see each other as tools, more STDs, teen moms and many more. But wait isn't that the reality we live in 😳
@@ashley_brown6106 this is very weak arguement what if the husband works abroad and the wife lives in her country will she not cheat him??logically she will because she has slept with other men before her marriage
Then infidelity shouldnt be a problem either according to your logic. Why is it bad if your girlfriend or spouse goes and sleeps with another guy while in a relationship with you? Her value as a person wont lower right?
If we don't diminish down sex to nothing, then I believe having sex as a human being is atleast unconsciously committing to someone. Atleast when it's the first time. Marriage is a traditional concept of life long commitment and duty. So a virgin woman is someone who have never committed to anyone physically or mentally. She would be ideal wife. Also, with a non virgin woman, there is always that sense of disloyalty remains from the fact that she shared something precious with others. No in short, non virgin girl is a big no when it comes to marriage.
If you think that way then the same principals should apply to men as they also bond with their mate when they have such sexual connection before marriage. If so then ok but if it is just for one side and not the other then this philosophy is not natural and can not be exclusive only for one side of the relationship..After all we are all humans and subject to similar needs and emotional experiences.
@@MehranDadbehthe same applies to men subconsciously, I don’t think a man who isn’t virgin is subconsciously bothered by a woman who had partner before
Listen man, there maybe a problem and there may not be.. You came from iran which is an islamic state where, i know such topics are socially taboo and not acceptable if someone/ especially women have sex before marriage.. You may have sympathy for those women.. That's great.. Be you and support your ideas.. Sex may not be seen by YOU as any important thing which should be kept as a special experience only within martial bond between two people who are going to fulfill their spousal duty with the hope to live a happy life. But this modern idea of relationship should not be imposed upon the people who Don't want it.. You maybe be a liberal in that sense but people have different values which are maybe seen by you as some sort of tyrannical patriarchal thing.. You cannot demonize someone's wish/desire for getting a wife/husband who is a virgin because they have a value based-desire which they have the right to have.. Of course, one cannot be morally hypocrite, it comes from both sides .. You can justify these are all just wrong rules by man, and see these as toxic thing.. But these are seen by many people as something sacred, valuable and special/precious by both genders while agreeing that there maybe some hypocrites out there in both gender. But you assume that the man is a scumbag/promiscuous.. A woman can do whatever she wants with her body. That's fine. I ain't pointing finger at that.. But one may want to find someone who follows the same value as me especially in term of relationship, that's human right as well. One may not want to go with the flow/modern sexualized ways.. But there is a lot of clarity, stability and beautifulness in one on one virgin monogamous relationship.. It makes it more meaningful .. The way you approach, might be your fight Against traditionalism /conservatism and paint this as some sort of activism.. But so far, it’s coming out as a different attempt and an irrational sense for catering towards feminine need to the point that you may demonize this desire of getting a certain wife who follows the same traditional value.. And i know, these values are rare especially in the west and may not be found which is fine .. Hedonism Isn't something i think as valuable.. I Don't know why some people, in the name of freedom, have a sense of unearned moral superiority .. Why not just say, to each to own.. A Classic case for social Engineering.. Let's put the lense on a man for a moment.. My uncle had a relationship which was 2 years and he had every type of sexual relationship with his past.. After marrying my aunt he hid the past.. But he said to me That he still thinks about his past gf and essentially he is emotionally cheating.. Later on he actually met that girl and you can assume what happened next.. Here my aunt is a victim.. Absolutely, she said if she knew this thing about the past, she wouldn’t have chosen him as husband.. What's her fault? She Didn't deserve that.. As the world cannot see a man as a victim, i present you this example where she is a victim out of many other visible examples .. This is an important matter especially as man, as you may know that divorce is worse for men in west with alimony, property Division, child custody etc etc.. Let's get practical, not so much preachy and spiritual.. Pair bonding sexually with someone will make that person exist in the emotions, in the mind and in the romanticism which is a basic psychology .. Now, it’s upto the people to either deal it or not.. Let's not glorify one choice over another because, it has consequences..
Thank you for your comment Mathew, I know this is a sensitive topic to many as it is part of their long standing tradition and culture in many countries. If two people find each other virgin, well great for them and may they get to live all their days together. However since this topic (woman has to be a virgin) has been glorified as to be the only thing that makes a woman valuable or not then imagine how much hardship and shaming women who happen to have been tricked by some guy with promises and lost their first time to the guy but he did not fulfil his promises and moved on has to endure? or when two people with all positive and serious intentions get into a relationship for years and somehow they ended up changing their mind or one of them did. There are many other scenarios in which the woman ends up losing her virginity to someone in one way or another and yet due to this whole expression of virginity being the honour of the woman or the man who is with this woman, and that it is the highest value and whatever else it has been dubbed, she is left with a stereotype of being a whore or other untrue and disrespectful nickname causing so much hurt on her psyche to stop her from feeling a good human being when she is a great human beings in fact while the guy who was part of the relationship is hailed as a hero or a stud. This is something that two people decide between the two of them but shaming a woman for not being a virgin and valuing a woman based on her past relationships is not what would properly represent the value of a human being. Perhaps more eastern cultures would be in agreement of the importance of virginity but that should not be the deciding factor in the human value of a human being and that should be left to the way she treats others, approaches life and challenges she wins over rather than getting all the glory just because she is a virgin or better said the one who is not a virgin to get all other contribution of her to life taken away because she is no longer a virgin! Any how do not be so sensitive about the video Mathew as not everyone agrees with my point of view and this video does not stand as a standards of how things should be or is between people and this channel does not have such influence that people will take all their cues from its content! 😊 so you are still in charge of your choices and so are all other people and this video also has it’s own merits and represents one point of views. We should all be free to make choices and not all choices work for everyone.
@@MehranDadbeh i agree, none should demonize or devaluate the females.. But there is a cultural aggression which says that in order to be a right person, one should be accepting anyone with any type of past who Doesn't go aligned with their values.. A lot of time, those people are demonized with saying "you are misogynistic" just for exercising a choice?.. I am against that.. And the notion that it is traditional, thus it has problems is also a hypothetical prejudice.. It's a different conversation whether a rule bounded traditional relationship is better or a modern relationship is better...regardless, i have nothing more to say.. That's it.. Have a nice day..
You should live with the way the world is If you yourself are a virgin then you can hold your partner to the same standard But if you're not a virgin then you can't expect the same. That's being a hypocrite But if you're feeling anxious being virgin but will not get virgin wife then I say don't hold on to your virginity. Lose it with someone you may love in future before marriage or whatever You don't need to be a chump good virgin boy and have a non virgin wife That's my opinion
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Question it. How could God who has created all would declare such thing against his own children? This is not what God has said but the ones who wish to create division and turn religions into cults, so they create these human laws but they are not God's laws.
@@MehranDadbeh Bro no man on this planet who has emotions and a little self respect would be able to picture his girlfriend moaning with someone inside of her. It makes sense Ps: i'm a non religious person
@@omok3709 Women have as much right as men have in experiencing love and sex. I understand what you mean but that is not what is happening these days and so many who got married when virgin then they divorced and married another, then what about them? Is that any different? What makes it ok or make it bad? Just as you want to experience it, women want to experience it as well. While we all prefer to be the first and last for the woman but we men ourselves even though married might wish to be with another woman as well, although most of us will not act on it but we wish it, so why the women should not feel to want to have sex with the man they fall in love with before marriage? Let's be fair, as much as we want women to be exclusive to us but that is not the reality of the century and we are no longer live in the old times. It is not easy for us men to imagine it but it is not a fair expectation when we ourselves can not avoid such feelings and interest in other women before or after marriage, yet we expect women not to be human and not have such feelings!
We men has great ego,,what matter is just love.if yu real love her why bother about virginity you claim hymen as if you put it there,,choose one thing are you marrying hymen or a girl of your life.Men stop ego and jealous that's why we die earlier
In my opinion, Most men that are ok with marrying non-virgins are non virgins themselves.
Most virgin men prefer virgin women, in my opinion.
facts
im a virgin but my gf is not and i prefer her to be my wife because i love her so much
@@Khuman888 I hear you man. I feel that most, if not all virgin men would PREFER a virgin for a wife, if they could choose, love being available too. Wouldn't you agree?
@@Khuman888 She will cheat on you.
you must even the score before getting married.
go try some other women as she tried other men.
@@reasonerenlightened2456 bad idea bro
Never lower ur standards, if u want to marry be the first man of ur wife.
Where can a man find a virign wife today. It's like finding a virgin woman is impossible today
@@xii592 not in the west of the east. Certainly you Won't regret it
@@xii592 Go middle east man. That's the only place left where you can find virgin people.
I don't know what is wrong with people like him, men wanting his life partner who never been intimate with another men it's totally his choice like women looks for money and stability
Can a woman truly forget an ex lover when she marries a new man? Can she be truly and wholeheartedly be faithful to this new husband after being with other men?
Can she handle it if her new husband isn't as good in bed or in romance as her ex lover?
These are some fears some men have that's why they want to marry virgins.
On the first part of your question the answer is "certainly Yes". On the last part of your question "The virgin", maybe her body is virgin but what about her consciousness and manners and worth of her promise and faithfulness and level of her curiosity and temptations in life and so on. It is not our biology that makes the quality of the relationship as no matter how virgin or how beautiful a woman maybe but her mind is the determining factor in the quality of the relationship and how strong it can be and how long it will last and the same with the ones who have had biological experience(s) before marriage, as that is not what will or will not keep the marriage or what would keep the relationship strong and pure, it is her consciousness, manners, qualities, promise, faithfulness, and compatibility on the consciousness level and not her biological beauty or shortcomings. What keeps it all working is the relationship itself and the relationship takes place on the consciousness level and not on the body or the past experiences that keeps the relationship strong or weak.
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@Juliane M. S. Well well well!!!
Women want to mess around and still for men to come and pay big money to marry them, pay huge house loans, car, fancy life, etc for a woman that other men have had for free? What sort of respect do u have for ur husband?
Yes, women certainly can get over past lovers and not compare them to their husband. It's almost like they didnt even exist if a lot of time has passed tbh
@@at6851 you act like women are products that should be sealed before someone "buys" them. If you really care for and value a person you don't think "others had her for free so why should I pay money to build a future with her?" That's misogynistic amd shallow AF
@Juliane M. S. you shouldn't agree lmfao he's talking bs
It depends on whether the man is virgin himself. I think you simplify the topic too much. You are only assuming it is because of cultural values but it is not simple as that . There is something called oxytocin (love-hormone) that emotionally binds couples together. This oxytocin hormone can especially be strong among women but the posibility of producing this hormone decreases when you have had more sexual partners. There is always a possibility that a woman will not forget the sexual pleasures of the past relationsships and will miss it because of this oxytocin hormone. There is evidence that people who have had premarital sex have higher divorce rates. Therefore women are not sluts because they have premarital sex indeed, but virgin women are for sure more qualified for getting married with virgin men rather than women who have had premarital sex. I think it is a privilege to be a virgin before marriage, taking into account the overly sexualized immoral society we live in. Being the first for each other with the promises given in the institution of marriage is giving you a stronger foundation for a long term relationship.
Very well put.
Excellent
Very well said..
Well cooked
This is from a man's point of view and that oxytocin point is nothing but nonsense someone started and it is being used here as a point of value however oxytocin and premarital sex has no such direct relationship as divorce has been part of the history of relationships regardless if one or both of them have been virgin or not. Bonding on the basis of the neurotransmitter oxytocin is just another way to use in such arguments to win the point in the minds of women and to control them one more way otherwise has no scientific basis. If you have premarital sex it is only fair and logical that women can have premarital sex as women are not a commodity to be rapped in rapping paper for man and yet man do whatever they want before marriage. This is a human need and the one's who have not had premarital sex will always wonder how it would be if they had and that itself is one of the many reasons that the marriage falls apart for the temptations of what they had never experienced in another relationship. The feeling between the couple must be voluntary and not due to restrictions of culture or traditions..... Knowing that they can but they do not wish so if different than they can't because some men have made that to be a rule for women and so they should not because their rules and traditions dictate. That is not a free will bonding.
Marrying a virgin is not a matter, marrying a person (if you are a virgin also) who has sexual relations in past is a matter, because She/He , was not as curious about sex as you, and She/He can not enjoy sex as much as you, and sex is a part of love
*This is just my opinion
It is your opinion. Reality is quite different.
If you are a virgin, you shouldn't marry non-virgin. Especially if you are a man. There are higher chances for divorce.
@@Entertainment-th4kb true
@@pranjalparmar2504 Of course it is true. I was a virgin when I got married, my wife too. No mistake.
@@Entertainment-th4kb you both are lucky 🤘🏻
@@pranjalparmar2504 Yes, with kids. Don't worry, you won't be bad at sex if you wait until marriage. Sex is something that is learning. First sex will be awful. But second,... tenth...
You don't need premarital sex to be good in a bed.
successful man never buy used cars because they don't want someone to say I used and enjoyed it before him with completely free off costs
Women are not cars or things Ravish.
@@MehranDadbeh I know it was just an example if women want men who is successful, independent, makes money ,and have great personality, what is wrong if a man expects a virgin beautiful loyal wife , if women expects something its called preferences if a man expects something from his partner it is called double standards , not mature , he is not open minded etc etc , women want men with future and a man want women without past. if man should not judge or ask a womans virginity then why the fuck woman are judging a man because he is poor , broke , they should see their heart not bank balance right ??
@@ravishravi439 LOL yes that is in fact the way it is but then that is what most men hope for but in reality it is not naturally functional as women also like men are with feelings, emotions and programmed for love and interest in sex and procreation so they too like us would fall in love or lust with someone else before finding the right one as we men also sleep with so many women if we could and yet may marry none of them as we find out that we are not exactly what we thought as compatible so we move on but we have had sex with the girls already and that is also somewhat similar to women despite our hope for them to be super human and not have such human feelings, emotions and needs as we all do.
@@MehranDadbeh men and women are biologically different if a high value man had sex with bunch of women his value increases in the dating market and they don't even remember the girl name with whom they slept with , if women had sex with multiple men and think we need equal rights in that way her values decreases in dating market because a high value man will not take her seriously , A man can have sex with multiple women and come back to that one person he loves the most , but in women's cases its totally different because for them its emotional they never sleep with person they don't like . 80% of man don't get sex easily but for 90% woman can have sex with anyone its easier for them , women are born with values but man should create their own to get what they want....
@@ravishravi439 in most parts and in many cultures this what you say is true. However in reality and in many other cultures it is not as black and white as it might seem it is in number of other cultures. So while true but not in every one's minds. Nevertheless no ritual, customs or cultures or traditions can diminish or decimate or disregard the actual feelings that women also have ( not considering the cultural expectations and powers) the same (more or less) desires for such experiences given the right environment welcoming or accepting such behavior. This is very true when we see many families from different and traditional cultural values from different nations when immigrate to USA or Canada or the UK or Germany and most other western countries within a few years they get divorce from their husbands and start dating for this need and desire is only controlled through cultures, customs and traditions or the preference and wisdom of the woman herself and when such environment is no longer enforcing such mentality then many women change their outlook and behavior and follow their natural gravitation ( to some level )towards sexual desire freedom and pleasures or romantic pursuits.
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I am getting married, and quite struggling with retroactive jealousy, yes I have judged her a lot, and after long ups and downs found out that she actually had no fault. But yes I wont lie someone says in my mind continuously being a child from a traditional family she should have respected marriage principles. And yes I try to see these things in different way, from her angle. but this thing keep on bothering me sometimes. Discussed with my mother, trust me she just said exactly the same things. And that even shocked me more. As she has raised me in a very conservative environment, but now she is showing a complete different virtue for her daughter in law.
Brother you must have sex outside marriage you will feel relaxed and good....I am not saying to stop loving your wife but do try for paid sex once...I love my wife but when I married I was a virgin and always used to be upset that she wasn't but when I had sex outside I felt like an alpha and started loving my wife more.....Just make sure no one knows about it.
Bro don't fall in the trap. Go for virgin girl.
A man should always marry a virgin.
That’s more Honorable Well said!👏
Nope.
@@ranip7644 his body his choice
@@conductingintomfoolery9163 Haha
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İt doesn't matter if the man himself is a virgin or not. Marriage is for virgin women, men don't get anything out of marriage already. Men ultimately don't want to get married.
Why do men propose then if they didn't wanna get married? No one is forcing them to get on one knee 😒
That may be the most sexist, closed minded and misogynistic thing I've ever heard. Here's your medal for misogynist of the year sir🏆
@@I_Am_NiiTAstill some rich guys who wants to bankrupt
He degrades sex to a soccer match ☹️
Do you mind if your partner having affair after marriage???????
So how can girl/boy marry with a person who already has that past
I believe both should stay away from relationship & stay virgin
Hope you answer & not ignore my comment
Do that after being married
You are free to make your decisions and choices for your life and that is not my job or place to encourage you to make such decision or change your values. Your question and expectation is based on the conditioning you have receive in the culture you have been raised in as every one else receives their values and conditioning through the culture he or she has been raised in. Having said that, the question is that if you think of a woman as her body or her body and sole both. We all are human beings with feelings and needs, and she does too. So she falls in love as men fall in love and they may have a relationship before marriage as they do not know which one is leading to marriage and which will not so their intention is to follow their love or heart or desire as men do. So you will make a choice if that is understandable , accepted, or not. If yes then you will have a relationship with a woman who has had a relationship before marriage and if not then you move on but expecting every one have the same mentality, values and understanding is not reasonable nor it is logical.
@@MehranDadbeh I understand stand your point
But nowadays most of relationship based on lust they think that that is love & they are not aware about that difference & become sexually active
So it's better wait for the right time & do marriage
I am not against love marriage
But if you genuinely think that you want to move 1 step from friend to relationship than why don't you marry??? Is that any doubt that you will marry or not????or it is just for enjoyment & not a serious future decision????
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@@MehranDadbeh Sure 🔥
I am from India & I am 21 years old
Why do you think many cultures insist on marrying a virgin ?
Western world has a higher divorce rate , does the casual attitude towards sex play a part in this ?
I have observed, it is comparitively easy for men to move on after a failed relationship but not in the case of women. After losing their virginity women change physically and emotionally, any relationship after this is not as intimate and emotionally binding but a conscious and calculated move.
Physically humans may be polygamous but our emotions always long for that one person. Our intention should be towards building strong family bonds and the root to this lies in taking care of our bodies and emotions.
If sexual intimacy can be compared to sport then why restrain after marriage, we should still continue having multiple partners after marriage too.
It is not a matter of being conservative or liberal rather a matter of understanding the human nature and to tread with caution.
Women are emotionally fragile and their bodies are integrated with their emotions. Young people should be shown the way for a better tomorrow by respecting relationships and bodies.
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There are exceptions. I've known females who weren't very emotional and males who were devastated to the point of destroying their lives with drugs or other vices after a breakup. I've known people of both sexes who have committed suicide. I think it depends a lot on the individual. I think in many societies females are becoming more masculine and males are becoming more feminine. Personally I'm more of the old-fashioned kind of girl but I have female acquaintances who absolutely aren't. At the same time, I'm not really that old fashioned because I've never once wanted children and haven't bothered to get married whereas my female friends who have been promiscuous seem to want a family one day. I guess my point is you may be right in most cases but there are always exceptions. We are all individuals and can be very complex beings lol
Statistics?
Agree 💯💯💯
Ok u mean that's not a sin?And another question can someone bilieve a girl or a boy who had sex more than 4-3 times with randoms?I mean u think can they control therselves not to have sex with others after marriage?I dont think so?
That's idiotic. The fact that when they were single they had one night stands doesn't mean they can't control themselves and be loyal in marriage🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@ashley_brown6106 exactly like what
@@ashley_brown6106 it's not about control but about the president it sets. If you are a virgin man and your woman is a non virgin then it means that there is a man who slept with many women including his wife. Then it creates a notion for young boys that a man should f*** around youth casually without keeping marriage in mind because if they are Virgin till marriage and their wife not then they are loosing all the fun.
And you know what we call these men. Jerks, playboy, molester because they become one because they have this thing in their mind that women don't mind with whom they sleep and date so they pursue a woman and break their heart after they are satisfied with her.
Think how horrible that society will be like with all men and women having sex casually. Weaker marriage, single parents, low birthrates, high suicide rate, high r*pe rate, lack of trust between men and women because they see each other as tools, more STDs, teen moms and many more.
But wait isn't that the reality we live in 😳
@@ashley_brown6106 this is very weak arguement what if the husband works abroad and the wife lives in her country will she not cheat him??logically she will because she has slept with other men before her marriage
Someone needs to look into the science of pair-bonding.
Then infidelity shouldnt be a problem either according to your logic. Why is it bad if your girlfriend or spouse goes and sleeps with another guy while in a relationship with you? Her value as a person wont lower right?
If we don't diminish down sex to nothing, then I believe having sex as a human being is atleast unconsciously committing to someone. Atleast when it's the first time.
Marriage is a traditional concept of life long commitment and duty. So a virgin woman is someone who have never committed to anyone physically or mentally. She would be ideal wife.
Also, with a non virgin woman, there is always that sense of disloyalty remains from the fact that she shared something precious with others.
No in short, non virgin girl is a big no when it comes to marriage.
If you think that way then the same principals should apply to men as they also bond with their mate when they have such sexual connection before marriage. If so then ok but if it is just for one side and not the other then this philosophy is not natural and can not be exclusive only for one side of the relationship..After all we are all humans and subject to similar needs and emotional experiences.
You are correct my brother
@@MehranDadbehthe same applies to men subconsciously, I don’t think a man who isn’t virgin is subconsciously bothered by a woman who had partner before
Two words: soul ties
Super Sarah Exactly, or in other words : *Paid Bonding*
What does that mean
Listen man, there maybe a problem and there may not be.. You came from iran which is an islamic state where, i know such topics are socially taboo and not acceptable if someone/ especially women have sex before marriage.. You may have sympathy for those women.. That's great.. Be you and support your ideas.. Sex may not be seen by YOU as any important thing which should be kept as a special experience only within martial bond between two people who are going to fulfill their spousal duty with the hope to live a happy life. But this modern idea of relationship should not be imposed upon the people who Don't want it.. You maybe be a liberal in that sense but people have different values which are maybe seen by you as some sort of tyrannical patriarchal thing.. You cannot demonize someone's wish/desire for getting a wife/husband who is a virgin because they have a value based-desire which they have the right to have.. Of course, one cannot be morally hypocrite, it comes from both sides .. You can justify these are all just wrong rules by man, and see these as toxic thing.. But these are seen by many people as something sacred, valuable and special/precious by both genders while agreeing that there maybe some hypocrites out there in both gender. But you assume that the man is a scumbag/promiscuous.. A woman can do whatever she wants with her body. That's fine. I ain't pointing finger at that.. But one may want to find someone who follows the same value as me especially in term of relationship, that's human right as well. One may not want to go with the flow/modern sexualized ways.. But there is a lot of clarity, stability and beautifulness in one on one virgin monogamous relationship.. It makes it more meaningful .. The way you approach, might be your fight Against traditionalism /conservatism and paint this as some sort of activism.. But so far, it’s coming out as a different attempt and an irrational sense for catering towards feminine need to the point that you may demonize this desire of getting a certain wife who follows the same traditional value.. And i know, these values are rare especially in the west and may not be found which is fine .. Hedonism Isn't something i think as valuable.. I Don't know why some people, in the name of freedom, have a sense of unearned moral superiority .. Why not just say, to each to own.. A Classic case for social Engineering..
Let's put the lense on a man for a moment.. My uncle had a relationship which was 2 years and he had every type of sexual relationship with his past.. After marrying my aunt he hid the past.. But he said to me That he still thinks about his past gf and essentially he is emotionally cheating.. Later on he actually met that girl and you can assume what happened next.. Here my aunt is a victim.. Absolutely, she said if she knew this thing about the past, she wouldn’t have chosen him as husband.. What's her fault? She Didn't deserve that.. As the world cannot see a man as a victim, i present you this example where she is a victim out of many other visible examples .. This is an important matter especially as man, as you may know that divorce is worse for men in west with alimony, property Division, child custody etc etc.. Let's get practical, not so much preachy and spiritual..
Pair bonding sexually with someone will make that person exist in the emotions, in the mind and in the romanticism which is a basic psychology .. Now, it’s upto the people to either deal it or not.. Let's not glorify one choice over another because, it has consequences..
Thank you for your comment Mathew, I know this is a sensitive topic to many as it is part of their long standing tradition and culture in many countries. If two people find each other virgin, well great for them and may they get to live all their days together. However since this topic (woman has to be a virgin) has been glorified as to be the only thing that makes a woman valuable or not then imagine how much hardship and shaming women who happen to have been tricked by some guy with promises and lost their first time to the guy but he did not fulfil his promises and moved on has to endure? or when two people with all positive and serious intentions get into a relationship for years and somehow they ended up changing their mind or one of them did. There are many other scenarios in which the woman ends up losing her virginity to someone in one way or another and yet due to this whole expression of virginity being the honour of the woman or the man who is with this woman, and that it is the highest value and whatever else it has been dubbed, she is left with a stereotype of being a whore or other untrue and disrespectful nickname causing so much hurt on her psyche to stop her from feeling a good human being when she is a great human beings in fact while the guy who was part of the relationship is hailed as a hero or a stud. This is something that two people decide between the two of them but shaming a woman for not being a virgin and valuing a woman based on her past relationships is not what would properly represent the value of a human being. Perhaps more eastern cultures would be in agreement of the importance of virginity but that should not be the deciding factor in the human value of a human being and that should be left to the way she treats others, approaches life and challenges she wins over rather than getting all the glory just because she is a virgin or better said the one who is not a virgin to get all other contribution of her to life taken away because she is no longer a virgin!
Any how do not be so sensitive about the video Mathew as not everyone agrees with my point of view and this video does not stand as a standards of how things should be or is between people and this channel does not have such influence that people will take all their cues from its content! 😊 so you are still in charge of your choices and so are all other people and this video also has it’s own merits and represents one point of views. We should all be free to make choices and not all choices work for everyone.
@@MehranDadbeh i agree, none should demonize or devaluate the females.. But there is a cultural aggression which says that in order to be a right person, one should be accepting anyone with any type of past who Doesn't go aligned with their values.. A lot of time, those people are demonized with saying "you are misogynistic" just for exercising a choice?.. I am against that.. And the notion that it is traditional, thus it has problems is also a hypothetical prejudice.. It's a different conversation whether a rule bounded traditional relationship is better or a modern relationship is better...regardless, i have nothing more to say.. That's it.. Have a nice day..
Our consciousness carries past sexual partners as bodily memories
Top G only maried virgin woman 😀 dont lister other virgin woman is like gold 😄
5 guys? You're extremely underestimating the power of those curves
So sweet ❤️ I like this take
Is porn addiction have anything to do with this?
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@@KakashiHatake-ze1qw yes it is
You should live with the way the world is
If you yourself are a virgin then you can hold your partner to the same standard
But if you're not a virgin then you can't expect the same. That's being a hypocrite
But if you're feeling anxious being virgin but will not get virgin wife then I say don't hold on to your virginity. Lose it with someone you may love in future before marriage or whatever
You don't need to be a chump good virgin boy and have a non virgin wife
That's my opinion
Hahaha you are so sweet ❤
I like your smile 😘
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please listen to Sadhguru's lecture.
which one?
Yeah. Sadguru has given proper logical & authentic reasons & advice 🙏🏻
According to Christian it's against Out holy Bible 🙂🥺
Question it. How could God who has created all would declare such thing against his own children? This is not what God has said but the ones who wish to create division and turn religions into cults, so they create these human laws but they are not God's laws.
@@MehranDadbeh Bro no man on this planet who has emotions and a little self respect would be able to picture his girlfriend moaning with someone inside of her. It makes sense
Ps: i'm a non religious person
@@omok3709 Women have as much right as men have in experiencing love and sex. I understand what you mean but that is not what is happening these days and so many who got married when virgin then they divorced and married another, then what about them? Is that any different? What makes it ok or make it bad? Just as you want to experience it, women want to experience it as well. While we all prefer to be the first and last for the woman but we men ourselves even though married might wish to be with another woman as well, although most of us will not act on it but we wish it, so why the women should not feel to want to have sex with the man they fall in love with before marriage? Let's be fair, as much as we want women to be exclusive to us but that is not the reality of the century and we are no longer live in the old times. It is not easy for us men to imagine it but it is not a fair expectation when we ourselves can not avoid such feelings and interest in other women before or after marriage, yet we expect women not to be human and not have such feelings!
Well said
We men has great ego,,what matter is just love.if yu real love her why bother about virginity you claim hymen as if you put it there,,choose one thing are you marrying hymen or a girl of your life.Men stop ego and jealous that's why we die earlier