HOW TO HANDLE BEING A NON-PRIORITY
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ส.ค. 2024
- It’s very difficult to navigate the terrain of being an understanding person and someone that allows herself to be back benched perpetually through life. This video will help you manage this dynamic and position yourself to be a priority in your man’s life.
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If people don’t have time for a relationship it’s ok but be upfront with people. Don’t give the illusion of having time for one when you do not. Thank you.
sorry to be offtopic but does someone know of a way to log back into an Instagram account??
I stupidly forgot my login password. I love any help you can give me
Yes say that all the time it’s better to know so time is not wasted
The thing is - I don't know if I care anymore!!
vanessa taylor sounds like you are hurt ❤️
I don’t ..I’ve reached the goal of
Marriage twice ..if there is such a goal
(Most women want it sooo bad) I have children ..I’ve had the home 2 children and a dog and I find that men have one goal and that’s to plant their seeds in what’s available ..it’s an urge they can’t fight and I won’t stand in the way of it ..I no longer date
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy @Chengi's World I just got these notifications! Hurt? Well, maybe - I also just see the big pic now. I am working on myself and also trying to observe as much as possible without giving away my heart to this person.
@@Dee-cu8yr I pray the best for you - only good things 💖
Kids cannot always be a priority or you will have no relationship. They have to be at times but within reason!
Lisa ODierno plz!
I agree! I love my child and I’m with my child all the time but if I throw every waking moment into my child and not anything related to growing my TH-cam channel as my side hustle or spending time with my friends or making time for dating I will be one miserable single mother.
He needs a stable father figure in his life and even though his father is in his life and he goes to see him twice a month his father does not live in the same city
I’m tired of being single although I am happy it does it times way heavy on my heart that I don’t have anyone to share these moments with.
And I am not going to be 50 years old and single with a child and no relationship to show for it
Exactly. However it rarely happens.. so I don’t date men with kids anymore
Exactly
People will put off the person who is most understanding.. I got this..thank u for the video
Ememobong Unah you are most welcome 🙏🏾
I had to rewind to hear this at least 4 times
You’re not supposed to handle being a non priority! Because you can’t be safe in an unsafe environment. Period.
I love this topic! No high value woman wants to be a non priority in a man's life and vice versa. I appreciate it when a man I'm dating understands that my daughter is my priority and he will only be able to spend time with me when she is with her dad. It's all about communication and making plans that work best for both parties.
Suz absolutely 🙌🏽
Chengi's World ok but at what point do you finally blend and spend time esp when the children are young?
Assumptions in this post: (1) a high value women will respect and feel arousal for a man that prioritizes HER over HIMSELF, (2) a high value women who is a single mom expects to be prioritized by a man, but in turn will prioritize her children, so he must accept the fact that she comes first and he comes 2nd, 3rd, or 4th place, (3) there is such a thing as a high value single mom, (4) there is such a thing as a high value woman, (5) there is such a thing as women - just kidding, we know women exist :)
She is so well spoken! The calm but firmness. this is an example of the delicate balance of mas and fem energy. I am working on my calm delivery because I am very fiery lol Good to see a girl like me be a model for elegance in the male encounters.
My relationship isn’t going anywhere, we have a great friendship and understanding. I’m just enjoying the ride... I use to live my life wanting the destination. Focusing on that too much in my opinion makes you lose focus on the present. Been married before done that! Now being single, I’m just having a great time and whenever he has time and our schedules aren’t crazy. Enjoy the moments!!
Thank you for this video. I love how you were receptive to your partners needs when he expressed his concerns. I recently left a relationship with a divorced man with older children and a grandchild.. He has always prioritized them over US. He struggles with setting limits with them and can not let go of his kids growing up. After expressing my needs after a period of no contact I come to the realization that the relationship is going No where. Im better off starting new with someone who does not carry the same baggage.
I've never touched a guy that has kids and it's still practically impossible to get consistency from anyone these days, if it's not kids it will be something else, work etc. It's an uphill battle now as people don't appreciate anything anymore because of dating apps.
You need to figure out your vetting systems. I suggest you enrol in the “Dating Playbook Masterclass” on my website blackswanrelationshipacademy.com/courses/dating-playbook-masterclass/
I love your dress. You have a great sense of style!
Amelia Marshall you are very kind. Thank you 🙏🏾😘
This is a very important discussion
Each relationship has its own special place and purpose . It’s respectful to all involved that reasonable arrangements / time is set up to be spent building , maintaining and sustaining healthy bonds . It’s not easy , takes clear communication and juggling at times . If you treat people with respect and they mean something it’s all possible . If it’s not working then look at what’s going wrong , if things can’t be resolved accept and move on. Thank you Chengi you are amazing , eloquent and so in touch with reality !!
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I don’t even have telephone conversations. I only have good morning texts. I think I’m done. Lovely video btw
No do not prioritise a man over your child that’s already a very sore point for another man to be in your child’s life that’s literally twisting the knife. Yes manage time, but manage it so your child doesn’t see you choosing an outsider to your family over him.
It's called prioritizing your needs. Sometimes you need the companionship of the opposite gender and your child CANNOT meet that need. Period. Women are human beings with needs besides being a mommy 24 7.
I’m going through this and I needed to hear this🙏🏾 Thank you so much 😘
Great video. The challenge is having the strength trust and enduring the pain to walk away if one is a person that don't easily find connectable men.
Chibueze Johns that’s right Angel! We have the courage in us we just have to activate it 🙏🏾
I love ur softness. You are beautiful.
Thank you xx
I wish I had seen this video sooner but, I like to believe, there's always a reason for everything including timing. Thank you for this sensitively well done and practical masterpiece of words and insight, Chengi. God bless.
Love your hair, thanks for the video!
Lady Leo welcome Angel 😘
I really needed to hear this ❤ Thank you so much.
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LOVE this hair! The color is perfect on you
Perfect timing!!
U are soooooo very right abt this...thank u fr this tlk...
Love your Videos!
This one was such of trigger!!!😱😱😱 Starting to cry by seeing this video. I always said that I have to be a mans 1st priority, because my father always used to save his money to go on vacation 3x a year instead of taking care of his family and home. We always got called to the principles office at school at a young age because the school wasnt paid! What a shame! Till this day, alot of time a start something and one way or the other I dint finish it. Talking about trauma😓😥
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I needed this right now right on time
Nicole P.SCORPIO I’m so glad!❤️🙏🏾
Thank u Chengi you inspire me.
You are welcome Angel xx
If you are not a priority... yes, have a conversation ONCE! If no change ..... shut it down!!!
this is my problem...when a man ignores me.
Wow i like your eyeshadow
I love your eyebrows in this video better than the recent one ❤️
Vese Biam it’s a hit and miss🤣. Even after 20yrs of being a celebrity makeup artist. I don’t always get them right but I love them anyway 😀
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy Oh, got it. I thought you were trying something different.❣️😁
very insightful chengi love your work
Mandrake Smith ❤️❤️❤️
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Wording 04:00 " managing A long term all time priority and immediate current priority "
Chengi looks so very beautiful.
Solid!
Sherri Taylor 🙏🏾😍
Ha...the problem is how do you balance that with the guy that's overstressed/wanting space (and yes both extreme job AND kid stress)? How much time/leverage do we get him to start spending some/ANY time w/me?
Never wouldn't put my children or child priority number 1. First me, my career and then my marriage. Then child.
If you won't focus on your relationship you'll find yourself after 5-20 years of relationship facing divorce. This happens alot in my current 50/50-country where women don't respect much their own partners and put even pets and relatives before their men.
My mom didn't prioritise me when she met my stepfather. I was important to her ofc, but never priority number 1.
Now after 11, 5 years moving out from childhood home she's got the same man like 21,5 years ago. I'm relieved for her. Children wont pay your bills or make the most important decisions when we talk about financy, Holidays etc. You and your partner will do them together and if you don't have that communication there's not gonna be great future.
Your children are only borrowed, because once they find their own partner they'll prioritise their own family as number 1. You will be important for them, but not the most important.
I'd like to have similiar marriage like my parents have now even their passion seem to be gone, but they're still together and spend time together.
Single parents in general. Very good fathers feel this guilt as well. So if you are dating a single dad or a dad who fights with the mom that kid time does mean a lot to them. Just communicate in a calm manner, very calm
Have to have balance and if you don’t you’ll never have a man let alone have a husband.
Chengi, do you or could you make a video about dating as a single mother ? I have been divorced for a year and none of the guys I meet want a relationship because I have 2 kids. They just want to have a fwb thing. It’s really affected how much value I feel I have and I’ve given up dating altogether out of fear of being put into the fwb category, which I no longer will settle for.
I have videos on my channel about this but you may have more underlying issues to this. I don’t think it has anything to do with you being a mum.
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As it will really help you xx
Most men want fwb even if you aren't divorced and aren't a single mom. Test yourself well, it's only been a year, what's the rush?
What if he has a spoilt 14 year old daughter that fakes her sickness and calls him constantly everytime he’s with me? And he falls for it. Can’t say no you. Can’t go when his daughter is sick. When I tried to talk to him about it politely he said I’m competing with his daughter!
Sounds like a losing battle.
I don't have kids, but I do have a full-time job and write books in my off time. If I met a guy with kids, I would be happy to write when he's with his kids. I'd make an effort to get along with his kids, naturally, but I won't be twiddling my thumbs while he's on Daddy Duty. If you have a life of your own, the man won't be the only one prioritizing. Because as much as I look forward to meeting a great guy, he will have to understand that I'm a writer and need time to ply my craft. If it goes to the point of marriage, the man and I will be one flesh, which means he comes ahead of my writing and I come ahead of his kids. But not being first doesn't mean last, and kids grow up. I wouldn't even want a guy who didn't make his kids a priority, but most guys set things straight when they want them straight. If he's not doing that, then he's not into you.
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No all men have kids
Forget that nonsense
Too dramatic