How to land a man! || STEVE HARVEY
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- Steve shares tips on how to land a man by Valentine’s Day!
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I'm a guy and he's spot on. Absolutely right!
Dildozer wowww
Aminah A wow what?
So you try to shower them with gifts so that you "could get what you want"?
@@MedicaLabTech EVERYONE does that!
Are you actually a guy cause that was a whole bunch of BS! But then again 98% of what Steve claims about guys is bS
Man...Steve just saved my whole dating life in 2 minutes 14 seconds
Darnesha Grays yessss he sure did
He just ruined it if you took him seriously
@@anubisgod23 Tell her again because Steve Harvey thinks that he is the spokesman for every man. Who knows every man in this world personally, nobody does.
He destroyed your life. What people want is to be happy. How can someone make other people happy? Impossible, only you can find what makes you happy.
@@anubisgod23 why you say that
yup, that's how i ended up with a narcissist. he got to know me, my likes, dislikes, and did everything like a playbook. lesson learnt. listen, don't say anything about what you like or dont like at the beginning. listen and watch, let them show you who they really are.
Molar Bear when he ask me what I like can I lie and say the opposite. Can I say U like guys with Aids, who grew up without a father, who works at McDonald’s. The key is to not let him know what you like?
Or can I just say illl know when I meet him.
Sooooo true!!
MOST Narcissists show signs... YOU chose HIM/HER, its important to tell your standards, YOUR FAILURE OBSERVATION IS YOUR FAULT.
Exactly, tru story
wow! i never looked at it like that before. its like a light bulb just went off in my head
ice angel, girl yes for sure. Raising my standards.
ice angel me too! That dang Steve Harvey!
ice angel same here! Lol
ice angel Steve With The Keysss
It is logical. If you reveal any stranger what you like, you are putting yourself at risk of being hurt because a dishonest person will fake and act to match your standards to get what they want. Dont do anything just observe , dont say much, just basic general stuff and see how they treat you on their own without your instructions and guidance.
Stay away from that Friends With Benefits stuff. In my opinion, that's never to a woman's advantage.
Exactly
I think the bigger problem there is you shouldn't lie and say you want to be Friends With Benefits, when you don't actually want that. If you genuinely want to be Friends With Benefits with someone, you're probably not doing it with someone you think has long term potential. There's no downside, as long as you are both on the same page and not lying about it.
Yep
FWB will ALWAYS lead to a broken heart!!!
@@gionagrace6279 Yep! It usually leads to a broken family for the unborn child that can be conceived in such a meaningless situationship. I pray women in then types of situations, do not allow themselves to get pregnant at all.
Steve the man... completely agree with Steve, let a guy show you his version of love. After 18yrs of marriage I am still finding new ways to show my wife I love her, sure I get it wrong sometime but the more I pay attention to my wife the more I get it right.
ocubex blessings to you & your wife!!!❤️🌹
so u mean even aftr marriage we dont tell a man..wow!
Hina B. 18yrs of marriage too
You are the man!
tell me about her, do she pay the same attention to get to show you how much she loves you? think about it....
damn I've been doing it wrong for years
Tamara Laing me too smh
Tamara Laing me too😭😭
That's alright boo, me too, but we on it now!!!! Steve H - thank you
Me too honey...lol that's why I've been on my man hiatus for some years now....building myself up and getting myself ready❤️❤️
LovinMyCurves&Curls 38 me too
There's nothing wrong with telling a man what you want. Just watch for consistency. Over time, he'll tell you who he is.
YESSSS!!!!! That’s all I could think during this. As a single person I was like “Steve, this is the 21ST CENTURY!!! I ain’t gonna be able to find nobody nowadays if you telling them that!!”😂😂
But it takes time... which mean I might waste my time either😅 just to figure out his true color
That's the problem lol Steve just saved us "time".
It's not that, it's not about material ,i.e flowers,stuff,etc, tell a man what she values in man she want, what type of character she would want in a man, flowers, chocolate,etc etc are just stuff, you are just buying a woman for some mating indirectly.
Problem is... Narcissists use everything you say to mirror you.
Why is the message so clear when you’re alone? When someone shows interest, it’s not the same- your senses are being tested all the damn time.
Lol…Reality against Mentality.
Also came back to report that I passed the test, and continue to grow😊🙃.
@@maseengmasitha6212 God gives the same test over & over at times. Until you pass.
Why are you so right! Inside a relationship this stuff is just so difficult
😂😂😂😂
Thank You Steve!! Especially from all of us women who grew up without good fatherly advice! Xoxo
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I have always hated that question. I don't do cheat sheets. I say just be yourself while I observe and decide lol!
J Q Thats the trap a man loves to set up on you. A man can only be himself to a person that trust him, not to someone he doesn't know will have a place in his life
J Q I actually tell him “...while I observe and decide”?
EXACTLY!!! THANK YOU!
Good one..💯
Paul Hogue just be honest ..
lool he's so proud of his own advice lool
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
well he is right
He should be..... That was good stuff!
MultiChristyk Well he should, it made him successful
MultiChristyk ur he does t take his own advice.
I'm a man. But this is too good. When information is so right it make you feel so good.
I nearly died when he said: “We men and we stupid!” Steve must have known my Dad- because he always said that☺️
His daughter must know how blessed they are to have such a wonderful father as Steve Harvey...
I hope they listening cause I am....
Not is she dating p diddy.
He and her mom can talk all day but if she's not ready to listen and wants to do it her way she will have to suffer the consequences just like anybody else who is hard-headed. The unfortunate thing is that we get to see it.
Nah she likes to bang rappers
Without knowledge my people are destroyed... Hosea 4:6a
❤️😃
JESUS IS LORD Lets stick to the wisdom of Almighty God, and wait on the Lord for a spouse.... nevermind Steve!
Cat G but you’re watching the video too lol
Finally someone who gives the word from a place of love instead of weaponizing it to offend people. God bless you.
I like a man who really goes out of his way to treat a woman special, who is filled with chivalry,who is attentive and thoughtful
Totally!
Ok so I'm back from writing that down. What were you saying?
Thank you
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@@rhondagreene7938 ahhahaha ive just written down the most important thing in the video
This all goes back to the notion that character and values, in a person, are paramount; something you have to wait for and observe over time. Many women won't like Steve's advice, even if it's in their best interest, because it won't get them what they want, which is attention now, affection now, pleasure now. So they will tell a guy exactly what they want because they want him to give it to them. They are not invested in the idea of wanting depth of character or having it themselves. It's endemic. Steve's advice will only work for those who value something deeper than shallow, immediate or quick gratification. Some might say or think they are but aren't. This is for the ones who do value more or have been waiting for someone to come along and tell them that there's something more. Great advice.
rembeadgc how do you know what many women think
Well, having never met you, but based simply on your question, I believe I'm getting some idea of what you think right now. If you say or do more I'll have an even better idea. If you know or have had experiences in your life with men, I would imagine that you too might know something about what "many" men think. Do you disagree?
I would like to add also that many women, perhaps the majority, based on my observation, just aren't aware of fundamental differences between men and women when it comes to things like sex, desire and commitment. No one is born knowing these things. I think Steve recognizes this and is trying to help many women avoid unnecessary hurt. When these things are known by women, it also helps men to be more conscientious and accountable. If it hasn't been taught through experiences with fathers and other male relatives and friends or other women who know, how is it then passed on to a young woman who thinks that a guy who is attracted to her is operating under the same motivation with the same intentions that she has? Often she may not fully know, appreciate or understand what is motivating him and to what degree, or how it should be approached without demonizing him. I think this is how many women get turned off through their interactions with certain men and then transfer that to men in general. Enough bad relationships while operating under bad information based on missed understandings are certainly enough to scar anyone's heart. God help those who know no better that to constantly submit themselves to it.
As a woman I like his advice and I haven’t seen one woman in the comment section yet say they disliked it, or didn’t want to hear it bc it “wouldn’t get them what they wanted” Where are these “most women” that’s all I mean to say. Have I formed some sort of opinion about most men? Yes and no. It’s my opinion and it’s relative
I understand what you are saying and appreciate your sharing it. I didn't say said "most women" though. I did say "many", which, to me, simply means a number that isn't insignificant. I do hope that "most" women take Steve's advice. I'm glad you like it. I love it! Spread the knowledge!
Steve just wiped out the whole male population game and I love it!!!!
Only for t he men who play games. Real man don’t have the time.
@@echomike5097 I like that!
He is really just telling it like it is and I am so glad he does just that. So women can be helped and be aware of some men's tactics.
Hehehehe justice is sweet!😂✊
@@rosettajones1161 lol Most women are too unaccountable and lazy to change. They’ll just fall into the same trap but blame men.
pls we need the full segment..not part of it!!
Yeah, why does it start at #3?
This is excellent advice. I remember when my (now) husband and I started dating 9 years ago he asked me what do I want in a man and I said "For my husband to love me as Christ loves the church". He said that bowled him over and challenged him to up his game. He stiil talks about it to this day lol
This is what I pray for in a husband "A man that loves me like Christ loves the church!"
Perfect way to sum it up 💖🙌🏻
Awweeee that's so sweet
Man,if Steve is my teacher i will fail every year to come back to him xD
he's smart. I didn't even think of that.
I'VE BEEN SAYING THAT!!! Stop telling men what you want. Many will lie to you tryna fit the profile.
True
I understand now
Fit in your pants.
Your profile is largely irrelevant.
Steve isn't entirely correct. Either and way is going to get you hooked and quickly wanting up sex to a man. My sisters and I were always told got our time tested and sound advice from my father and uncles. My father and except for 3 out 10 of have all still married. Steve's been divorced a few times.
There's only been 2 divorce
But how is the man to know what you want? By mind reading, prayer , the stars?
Uncle Steve dropping knowledge right here!
Years ago I did exactly this with my now fiancé. He listened very carefully. I told him that I wanted to be best friends with my partner & that is what he aimed to become. Today he is my best friend & I am his & he executed it perfectly. I wish I listened to Steve’s advice back when I was way younger & dating more frequently. Anyhoo, I am happy with my sweetheart.
Teachings from an old Playa. I love it.
Lol
This is the best advice. 💛set the standards and lay out expectations. Let him do it His way!! 😉
After hearing Uncle Steve's advice for the first time and been using it, I see where I don't have to try discern the bad guys from the good, it's like they know where the fall on the map with my expectations and they leave on their own after realizing they can't match up to this. 💯Only the good ones stick around
SO TRUE!omg my friends would always question why I’m so mysterious but it keeps them coming back
Must be a Scorpio 😌
Yesss 👏🏽👏🏽I love this. For those in early dating phase. But once in a relationship I believe we have to share how we like to be loved and given attention. Some women like flowers, some hate. Your man may have a different idea of what it means to have romance, we have to share in love once the relationship has been established. This is good advice for the daters Steve!
Thank you Steve. I love your advise. I wish I had it 46 yrs ago and would've made a better selection. But it's never too late to have another chance when I'm ready.
Had a guy ask me this recently and I knew I heard the proper response somewhere; I had to search for it before I responded. I wanted to try a different approach this time and see where it goes. …. Thanks uncle Steve 😅
Me too lol
I love this....now im practising on the next man!👏👏👏👏👏💕
Im the woman who told my ex I like flowers, im not ungrateful, the guy did what Steve said, I got flowers every time he visited..e.g twice a week....so now I've learned🙏🙌🙏
It's 2019 and this popped up. Yup, It's meant for me. I literally just met someone and 💡
Kat Natural how it going for you did these answers work
Such a precious wisdom right there!! All ladies need to hear this!
Excellent advise! Straight forward and no vague language. Love it so much I had to watch 2 more times to make sure it sticks.
I don’t even have a road map to my heart 😂😂😂😂
M_ Hx 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right lol. It’s a dead end road. You can’t get there.
Lolol
@@miekaash6831 hahahahah
Steve Harvey is a friggin genius, & he's so sweet. I LOVE this man!
Pure Gold! Thank you for this gem Uncle Steve!
BEST ONE EVER Steve. I’m gonna change my answer to these questions starting now
Well hot digitty dog! It’s so simple but we usually make it so complicated. I seriously had to watch this a few times. Thanks Steve! ❤️
How are you doing norma
really goes out of his way to treat me special. chivalry, thoughtful, attentive
I love the way you break it down for us ladies... You, sir, are AMAZING! ♡♡♡
Well said 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I want you to show me what kind of man you really are, then I’ll see if you’re worth my time & heart and potentially worthy of being apart of my future!!!
Dang I wished I would have known this years ago
Crystal Mitchell me too😫 better late then never
@@crissyunpredictable3981 how are you doing
Steve , you are the best ... Thanks for sharing this. God bless you . ☮️💜
YES UNCLE STEVEEEE!!!!!! I love this man so much, it hurts he's not my direct Uncle...Thank you Uncle Steve, thank you xx
Steve is saving me a lot of heartache right now 😂💜
He expressed everything I felt was lacking on all men I dated but not only that what I truly felt I needed but could not express it in that way! Now I know what to say.
I love Steve Harvey. This is sooooo helpful!!!
I like a man that really goes out of his way to treat a woman special, i like a man filled with shivery, i like a man that is attentive, i like a man that is very thoughtful 💖
wow now that was some solid advice 👏
I really need more of this
How've you made out?
Excellent advice. I wish I had known those things 12 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of Heartache. Thank you Steve.
I just got this video...and this is so cool!!! Thank you so much! 💜 from Chile!
THANK YOU, Steve! You make perfect sense, and I'm so appreciative for this wisdom/advice! Thank you for caring for us single ladies out here! ❤
😮 whoa! Holy Toledo, that is mind boggling and mind blowing! I’m in a very happy relationship with the most wonderful man who has great character and he is so amazing to me yet this makes perfect sense and is what he does....as in he thinks of ways (on his own) to make me feel special and is very considerate and on and on. I also have young ladies and girls in my life and I’ll be telling them this! Wow!
You are such a blessing to our generation 💫💫♥️
Preach Uncle Steve ! Thank you for this
thank you!! I always hated this question because I would give specifics and thats not what I wanted
Nathalie Aguirre U would give specifics and that's not what u want????? That don't make any sense.
thank you Steve
I love you Steve !! Thank you
👏🏾This is SO true!
He's slick as hell 😂🙌🏿
I’ve always said this! When a man asks me what’s my type or what I’m looking for, I simply tell them that I don’t answer that question and that i want them to be themselves; however, I never knew how to answer in a way by stating expectations
Mr Steve, you inspire a lot. Thank you.
Love this Steve. I learn something new everytime! Would love to see you live in the audience one day.
I would like to meet Steve and his beautiful wife, Marjorie, someday as well. And to be in his audience while he does his motivational talks would be great!!
Steve is right!!! I was engaged to a man that was like “you like pie? oh I like pie, you like to travel? I like to travel; do you like to hang glide? I love hang gliding ” 😂😂 Yep needless to say he didn’t like the things I did.
love this makes sense!!!
Hmmm please do take care that these things don’t misguide you
Wow.. This is the most thoughtful thing I watched today!
Totally, absolutely, 100% agree!!! I've been saying this for years!
Steve Harvey should be a teacher for children
Angela Bareque adult children 😂
Steve is teaching boys how to be men at his mentoring camp. but some grown men could benefit from his advice as well.
Mr Hightower!
He use to be on Steve Hightower
Lol maybe college kids
I'd like to add 3 things to Uncle Steve's teachings. ;-)
1) Work on yourself. Look in the mirror, meditate, pray, see a counselor, ask a couple of friends who only want the best for you to be brutally (but lovingly) honest and have them be the mirror to tell you what you need to work on, 2) Know your self-worth and DO NOT settle. I don't care if you're lonely, need a/any man to provide for you, or he's so fine you have to have him, and 3) DO NOT rush it. Take your time and make sure. I am speaking from experience, thinking I'd found my soul mate, moved in together, split up, all within a matter of months. Don't make long-term plans or commitments until way down the line. Watch him (and yourself) to make you both reach the bar set for a healthy, long-term relationship. Save yourself the heartache that's mostly avoidable.
Good luck! It's hard out there!
Andrea that’s why I’m still single . I’m not gonna bring just anyone to meet my family . Been divorced since 2011 . 2 children (ones already married and doing her own thing) and the others about to fly the nest . Comfortable in my own company ☺️
Best viewpoint I’ve heard from Steve- and he’s got a ton of great points.
Great as always
That's right !!!! ☺
Oh Goodness that question drives me crazy “ what are you looking for “ . I’ve told them how I like a man to be/treat me . whoosh right over their heads . Doesn’t matter what you tell them , they are who they are and they can’t change .
They listen and learn if you withhold/delay the rewards 😉
Maybe you have been having relationships with the wrong type of men?
Beautiful L one of them for sure !!
@@OlderWomenRock well I pray you finally are treated like a queen and you are cherished and respected as you deserve. God bless you.
Beautiful L what an absolutely lovely comment , thank you 🙏 so kind . I’m ok without a guy these days . Check my channel for fun 😊
This is GOLD❤️thank u Harvey!!!
Thanks for this , keep it coming
Not gonna lie, Steve Harvey speaks to my soul💯🙌🏾
Yes!!! Great advice, simple yet profound. I didn’t get good advice from my parents growing up. The only advice I got was to make sure you marry someone who is Christian, and make sure he loves his mother. So guess the first person I choose is a Christian mamas boy who turned out to have the WORST character ever! I don’t want to blame my parents for my choices but now I feel like I’m just learning these valuable lessons in my 30s 🙄 I will take this advice, because it’s actually practical ❤️ Thank you!! Going to keep watching 🙏🏻💋
Such a wise man!! Love this!!
You might be right but many would call that simple logic.
The best advice ever !! Wow I love Steve Harvey
Preach, Steve!
Beware of a man whose getting to know you, and one of the first questions he ask is
"Do you Drink"?
That's a warning sign right there. A man whose trying to get to know you for the right reasons would not ask that question. If you're not one who drinks alcohol, and he's paying attention he'll know you do not drink.
Woooooooow great advice and we get that alot❤️👏🏾👏🏾🇿🇦
"A man who's trying etc. would not ask"?? What if he wants to know if she's compatible for a relationship/marriage? bc HE doesn't drink. What if it's literally the beginning and he doesn't know? He has a right to ask, as opposed to this "paying attention" mind game. How does that even make sense to you? It could be a first date situation.
@@pCOCKPRO11 Thank you Billy, but this is my total opinion. Most men who ask that question, usually want to know so they can get a woman drunk, and ready for the bed. I said what I said. That's a great majority of men.
@Kendl 🙌🏾👏🏾🙌🏾 People miss this. Sad too. Integrity is so lost.
thank you Steve 🤗love you ❤️
That was great advice and showed real insight. Thank you 👍
This has got to be some of the best dating advice ever
Great advice
The best information ever!!!
Excellent thank you Steve💕💖💖💖
Steve can't even stand himself at the end. I don't want him to break his arm patting himself on the back, LOL!
Debbie B.. hahaha you are funny
Please tell me more :)
Bind blowing, amazing perspectives!
Awesome Advice.. Thanks
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh this is good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have to get his books!
Where can i see the full episode?
I love Steve!
Outstanding advice! 👏🏻 Thank you!!!!