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WHAT TO DO WHEN PEOPLE DON’T WANT YOU by RC Blakes
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When you discover that someone doesn’t want you:
1. Put distance between you and them.
2. Reach for a spiritual perspective.
3. In the presence of God make your plans to win.
4. Hold nothing against them.
True and it's been working out for me
All of it is important. Number four is especially important.
Exactly what I did and everyday I work on my plans and I am winning, god is great!
Yes this is what I had to do with my soon to be X Hasband! I was angry at 1st but I’m better, I’m wiser, Much Better in the words f Marvin Sapp! Thank you God!!!!
Pastor wonderful words as always! This came at exactly the right time when I had to make a decision on what action I need to take I literally prayed for a sign,was about to go to bed, about to turn off the TV and this popped up....Thank you....This word was the clarity that I needed.
My grandfather told my grandmother after 13 years of marriage that he did not want her. My grandmother went to the front door opened it; and told my grandfather " If you don't want me; I don't want you too". My grandfather walked out the door and my grandma moved on with her life and sent her 6 children to college by herself. " If they don't want you- Don't want them." Grandma was right.
Your grandmother was a wise woman. 😌✨
Very wise and strong and obviously a strong faith! Mine was strong like that too!❤
Yes!!!!!!!!
That’s so amazing. Grandmother was not playing games! Love that so much
Amen love yourself to know you are worth love with a return
“ When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them” and let them go!
Exactly God has someone BETTER!
Facts
Amen
Amen Cori, people show you who they are just pay attention, they show you how they are just believe them. What's in a person will come out of them!
Going through this now needed to hear this Thank you 🙏
It’s not rejection, it’s redirection….thank you Lord.
Thank u!!!!! Beauitful
That's what I heard from the lord but it's been so hard after the hurt to move on. 5 years at a church and the hate is real by the staff. Unbelievable. I was a volunteer too jezebels.
I like that
Amen..
Having experienced this type of rejection I can say that it took a while to realize that in fact it was a redirection. I was given a chance at a much better life.
Rejection is an illusion. No one can reject you. Process your feelings and keep it moving. Don’t allow him or her to be your friend and still have access to you. Do not be apart of anyone’s harem! No one can reject what God made. Dust your shoulders off and move forward!
well said that is a brilliant way to think that is very powerful
that made me feel good your comment after going on a date with a guy who rejected me he didn't like me because apparently I'm tall 5ft7.. I could tell that he wasn't interested just by his energy
thank you man of God,
Beautifully said
Some people are still single all because they were rejected and some never asked,
❤️💪🏾
"Don't go where you're tolerated, go where you are celebrated"! Amen
🙏
I am slowly starting to realize that nobody wants to celebrate me. I need to be somehow be ok with dying alone.
I needed to hear that....😌
Amen.
@@naffs1069 Even Jesus was rejected, but He continued fasting and praying and going on about His Father's business. I pray that the Lord will uplift and encourage you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made!
Don't reject yourself learn to be alone forgive stay close to God
Amen
Amen
“When people make you feel unwanted, don’t leave to make them feel sad or guilty, They won’t. Leave because you
No longer have a reason to stay. Sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. What is meant to be will end up good and what is not-won’t. Love is worth fighting for, but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you, if they don’t, you just have to move on and realize that what you gave them was more than they’re willing to give you.”
Blessings
Best ❤
Wisdom!
Thanks dear
💯 perfectly articulated ❤
No reason to stay
Rejection can be Gods protection. If we sit and truly think about it. God has other plans ..........
I’ve experienced this first hand. Absolutely! Amen
Yeah jesus didnt take any crap either.
Come on Sista Kiki!!! Say it again for the people in the back. Come on sista Kiki
🗣
Yes
When it's over, leave. Don't continue watering a dead flower.....
HALLAIS VANESSA
Thank you, that was GREAT-! I needed to hear that-!! Many blessings-!!!
❤❤❤
Well said!
Received
I water them till they get a wake up call
Love that response. 👏🏻
Only BLOOM where you are planted in a loving environment.
“Healing can never take place, until you disengage.” -Bishop RC Blakes JR
Leaving someone who doesn’t want you but won’t leave you is so hard.
strong, defended boundaries
I have forced and begged males to like and love me my whole life, even my dad. Now at 34 I'm seeing how desperate I looked. I'm learning to stop doing that from this point forward.
You're not alone. I'm 33 years old and I have done the same thing my whole life. Its heartbreaking and exhausting.
Jesus loves you, Brittany, so very much-! Be blessed, in Jesus name-!!
❤❤❤
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JESUS CHRIST LOVES YOU SO MUCH, AND WANTS A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU-! BE BLESSED IN JESUS NAME-!! AMEN AMEN & AMEN-!!!
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Brittany B I love you just know someone in the world somewhere loves you
Its ok sister ur not alone on this god love us eaven we end up with no men, sometimes its better being single. God blessed everyone on this chat room, and all the ppl who are not loved may god PROCTECT y'all. 💙
The rejection of men is the protection of God!🔥🔥🔥
Or Elevation 👑 May Be the Correct Term We Cannot protect Ourselves in Life is free will since the as we say fall of Humanity ?
That is deep but so very true
THANK GOD FOR PROTECTION🙏
❤️
Amen! 🙌❤
Sir, this is a timely message for me. I was up all night last night worrying about an issue with someone. I’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. This person is treating me terrible. They are not reasonable to even discuss any of it with them. I really needed to hear this. I pray I will honor God as I work through this.
They are a narcissist
@@cheerstochow8755Not necessarily. Every person who does another wrong is a narcissist. Some people are just jerks.
@@cheerstochow8755 yes NPD has nothing to do with people wronging others but is a pattern of behaviour of which one of the hallmarks is discard without giving the other party closure, which is the case here. In close relationships with NTP mature adults there is usually no confusion as to why a relationship has ended. Both parties are mature enough to talk things through. To ghost a person for any longer than a brief period is psychologically abusive tactic used prevalently by narcissists as punishment.
@@katiew681 100%
@@cheerstochow8755 100%
",Rejection from man is protection of God. - R.C. Blakes" 🤗
It doesn't matter how long you have known someone. They can still switch up on you in a blinking of an eye. Thanks. Much love from Sweden. 🥰🙏
For sure! 30 years!
Yep they do that switch up. Now I'm looking stupid, hurt and confuse. Its so sad smh
Happens all the time...Just give them the ✌️, wish 'em well and move on.
It still hurts what about how we feel. I'm not wishing him nothing. I'm just saying. He lead me on and act like its cool forget him.
Even family"
Never want someone that don't want you ... good byeeeeee!!!
My own daughter's abandoned me , but i still carry on and go on my life. Jesus Christ is my saviour, so i leave everything to HIM
mine also; be strong, loving and don't become bitter.
I was literally explicitly told “ nobody likes you”, ridiculed, laughed at and they intentionally wanted to see me hungry…. I concur! Peace to them all❤
I was told you can't get alone with anyone but I have been in tbe company for almost 17 years.
I was told he sees nothing good in me anymore after 7 years, mocked everything about me from how i dress and do things & performed a smear company with his colleagues and family members.
Humiliated is an understatement
I was told that too 😥
Yes. The rejection of man is the protection of God. My husband rejected me after 23 years of marriage and 3 children. He no longer speaks to me. Throughout the marriage I did him only good. I was faithful and loyal even when he was unfaithful many times. God removed me from that marriage. Thank you for this word. I’m listening Father and I will obey.
Well done for finding the strength to let go and God will bless you in due course making up for loss time on a looser
Wow sounds like the shoes I'm walking in rt mow😔
Sometimes when they decide they no longer want you ( a husband ) then you move on and totally don't want them then they'll have NERVE to want you and get mad because you want nothing to do with them. Goodbye and good riddance...
@@donnajeffreys8252 EXACTLY!!!
That’s exactly what I’m going through right now, after 17 years, it hurts but I’ve got to keep moving forward.
That's why you protect your mind and heart and not give it to the wrong person because they will control you and destroy you ...the only person that should have extreme control over our heart and mind is God 🙏
Amen!
Amen & again I say AMEN!🙌🏽
Yolanda it's true
Amen🙏💓
@sha b
Amen and Amen-!! Yesss,... guard your heart, Give It All to Jesus-!!! Many blessings-!
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When people do not want you. Let them have it!!! Disengage and Heal!✌️💗
Never want someone that don't want you God has something better trust me god bless you 🙏❤️😇
1. Distance yourself from them
2. Reach for a spiritual perspective
3. Make your plans to win
Amen
4.Hold nothing against them (move on)
Amen so true ❤️
Amen
@@ntrasmr87
I will have to work on that, ONLY THROUGH GOD'S GRACE.
THIS IS TRULY A CHALLENGE FOR ME.
PLEASE PRAY FOR ME...
🙏🏿..
THANKS.
When people don’t want you let them go . When they want to walk out your life let them walk ....
AMEN!! And Help them walk away if need be!
They’ll only drain you by using you SO WHY ENTERTAIN them 🤔
They want you to go, and not them
I never had any desire for revenge. I just hesitate to allow myself to be vulnerable and be taken advantage of again. My heart is shattered.
stay by God's side. He will eventually bring you good people!
Thank God for deliverance from codependency, insecurity, worry, and fear.🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏
This breaks my heart!! At 41, I DON'T know what it's like for someone to REALLY want me... I only know pain.
Now, I just stay to myself.
Look how long God kept you. He’s been waiting for you. Utilize this time so The Father can show you just how much he loves he’s daughter. Blessings
@@maristahuddleston6213 💖 Thank you!
@@meditativedestinations3117 Welcome and Blessings 💕
I'm praying for you. I'm several years younger than you but I feel your pain and know your heart!!
@@michelletiaraharris Thank you💜. I appreciate you. It's NOT easy out here.
Go where you are loved for who you are not what you bring to the table.
Sounds good... But why have relationships with people who don't bring anything to the table? They add no value to your life. When they're not adding most times they subtract.
@@monicathebeautiful6483 Some folks are just great spirits to have around, that IS their offer up. Know that!
@chilloften If they're contributing their good spirit, then that means they're bringing something to the table.
@@monicathebeautiful6483 Don't walk, RUN from toxic people, even if you're related to them.
Good luck with that
I needed this because I just divorced and moved away from my narcissist husband. my heart was hurting and you are helping.
Wow be strong in the Lord ,u r not alone
Narcissists make up less than 5% of the population. Either you women are sharing the same narcissists or you don’t know what a narcissist is.
I know what one is. and this comment of yours was not necessary.
Same here after 24 years of marriage. You will hurt but when the hurt is over you will live in peace. After 14 years I have a happy life but his life isn’t doing well.
Congratulations you did it 🎉
“They don’t really want you, you’re just an opportunity”. This though! Reminds me of my husband saying when we were courting- “I love you as my distraction” 🚩
I have had people tell me they don't like me BECAUSE I am a really nice person. Something is wrong with me because I am happy all the time and that is not natural. Hey...nothing is wrong with me, maybe something is wrong with them to believe that badness is good and niceness is bad. I feel sorry for them that they do not know God! Thank you Pastor. This came at the right time.
Sounds pretty twisted to me.
That is NUTSO.
@THE WRITER'S TELEVISION
Oh yes it did come just at the right time, indeed-! God is ALWAYS on time-!! Be blessed, in Jesus name-!!!
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@@latinyabenton6148
The world is twisted, thats why we need Jesus-! A full & complete personal relationship with our Savior-!! Be blessed, in Jesus name-!!!
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Gotta pray for them. They sound envious.
when folks dont want you, you leave them alone and go on with life. It will take time but it has to be done
“You and God are enough to pull this off”. AMEN
“If God has allowed it, He has an ultimate plan for it.”
Let the poison pass through you, don't let it plant in you.
Received
Amen
Fantastic expression and will use it regularly now 💪🙏
THAT WAS DEEP
This is great! Thank you 🙏
Rejection is God protection
Amen.
Amen
This has brought peace to my soul.. Hallelujah
@@millykukkiriza5338 yes it is rejection is God protection better believe god is protecting us
@@millykukkiriza5338 god see hear things we don't he know all mmmm
My grandfather told my cousins that he hated me. When they told me that it really affected me for a long long time. My family has a history of saying mean things. I think I just got to a point where I said to myself that I have to get these negative people out of my life, and that’s what I did. I forgave my grandfather and other family members but I still don’t want to be around them. They are too nasty.
I can relate. We have to really learn to make God our Best Friend.
HAPPENING IN MY LIFE FOR A FEW MONTHS. I AM GOING TO BLESS THEM WITH ABSENCE AND SILENCE.
Man I Hope that it's I hope it's the lst one not the second one low down 😊
Don't want nobody that don't want me. Follow your heart, love those who love you. God is good!
Having God is more than enough. HE WILL MEET ALL OF YOUR NEEDS ❤️🙏
Be careful sweetheart, the heart can be deceptive 😮
Amen 🙏 I have been rejected so many times but will not hold it against them 🙏
I’ve been rejected so much...honestly, don’t care anymore. The ONLY friend is God my FATHER. I’ve learned terribly...
I feel the same as you I always feel invisible and unwanted so I just kind of stay to myself and stay quiet
Like you, I have been rejected by a few men in my life.
The last one lasted 12, almost 13 years.
Near the end of it all, I got cussed-out so much for simple stuff...calling to check on him, cooking him something to munch on, washing his clothes, breathing, eating, drinking, driving, thinking, and expressing my own opinion.
But...one regular day...upon the occasion of that last cuss-out...I didn't even get mad nor was I upset; i simply and very gently ended the call and blocked him for life.
Now...I truly THANK GOD for the changed perspective(s) that peace and quiet have brought to me.
If I never experience another intimate relationship with a man in this life, I'm good...for the rest of my life.
@@erikaanthony2726 I can very much relate to this. I currently dealing with this issue.
Don't be sad because sad reversed is das and das not good . In the words of my sister Cherise
As Jesus told us, when people don't want us, then we need to just kick the dust off our feet and move on!
When you are more enlightened than most people, it means you have to meet people that are just as enlightened as you.
A big take-home message is that most people are just selfish and looking out for their own interests. They size you up and all they care about is how you will benefit them, what they can get out of you, how they will feel about themselves by how using you can make them feel. It has nothing to do with you baby, nothing to do with your looks or how good you are in bed because you are there just for their self-love. You are just an appliance to plug in and receive service of some kind from. And you know how it goes; everybody wants an upgrade of their cell phone their washer their dryer and eventually, due to no fault of your own, they've already used you a few times and they want to upgrade from you. that is harsh but when you learn the truth that people are selfish and you cannot use the look in their eyes or their expressions or behavior as your mirrored reflection as to how valuable or beautiful you are, you will be ahead of the game, the game of chess the devil has put you in. sometimes the only way to win a game is not to play it at all.
Simply refuse to be used. Instead read daily Scriptures and regularly watch Videos by R C Blakes to equip oneself and flush out the wolves in sheep clothing and get ahead of them by denying them access to one’s heart 💪❤️🙏
this is the story of my life. When it comes to dating just came from a date with a guy who I know just wants to use me I wasted my petrol dropping him home the sat nav sent me round in circles I told him my petrol has been drained going round and round, he never offered to give me any money towards it, he jumped out of the car and said sorry next day
His 13 years younger than me
@@josee-mariehowman5234 yep. I always end up suffering. After he used me . Then vanished
Yeah I asked out my lecturer , we are around the same age and he had nothing to say apart from no when I asked if he was single. But sometimes he d glance at me in the class and I felt some attraction.
I didnt push the issue if he was married etc and simply looked at me warmly and his eyes. It was short and we talked about jobs and the course but not about feelings and when I left , when he let me go and he said he hoped I d recommend the course and let them know when I find a job.
I am not saying he is selfish but who knows I dont know how he is but clearly he wants to separate his personal and professional life. I wasnt sure if he liked me anyway and I said to him I wasnt sure if he was single but I thought maybe he was (he doesnt have a wedding ring)
In the end he probably is in a convenient relationship or is in love . Like you said I dont play any games, I met him at his office and he said 'Sit there ,so you want to talk about the course?' I said well are you single ? lol He wouldnt tell me his exact age and I told him my age. I try to guess his age and he would say approximately . Anyway I let it go , I told a friend about it and he told me that man doesnt have the capacity to discuss about his feelings and he is a with a woman who doenst talk about feelings either and that he does fancy me even if he is taken but he didnt say about selfishness or what you say above but I do believe there is a part of it. I told my friend I asked because I sensed some attraction from him and my friend told me that this man was attracted but he is taken and its normal even if you are taken to notice other people but he is a good man.
Barely anyone asks me out and most men are taken, I sometimes , rarely ask them if I like one and its rare I like anyone and maybe its due to the fact they are mostly out there for themselves, It is also possible we aren't on the same level because I know his colleague a senior lecturer but way too old for me would be talkative and have the capacity to talk.
yeah I was attracted to him because of the look in his eyes and behaviour and even when we met the look was still there a bit and he smiled at me maybe it's all. fake , I thought it was genuine . he d smile warmly and I would too and look into his eyes. I realise now you cannot use that as a sign that they like you. Usually im good at spotting fake smiles but that man is next level, I d still sense a bit of attraction when I was looking in his eyes. crazy
"The rejection of man can mean God's protection". I am a living proof.
One of the many reasons why I am where I am today.
Thank you MOG
Yes it happens to me lots of times, but I have moved on with my life, some people they think they break my heart for turning their back on me, I can just say thank you very much God bless you. and Good luck.
Rev. Blakes this message was written for me. When someone betrays you, the best revenge is to live well. Turn them over to God . Work on your self and don't let them still your joy.
Absolutely!!!
Amen!
It's my 3 adult kids. One even told me, face it mom, nobody wants you. I quit drinking, I've been single for over 10 yrs. I've said I'm sorry for my parenting. They just don't like me. It hurts but I stand on the word of God. He loves me and that's all I need to know. Yes, I'm processing it. I don't know where I'm going but when I get there, I'm going to embrace the lesson.
I am in the same situation. I am 69 and a widow of 12 years. I have two adult children. My 44 y.o. daughter told me that she didn't have to accept my apology for my bad parenting and goes for long 2 year periods of time excluding me from her life. Currently, she is angry with me again. My 47 y.o. son calls about twice a year, but he usually likes to cut me down in a "joking" manner. He and his family travel extensively several times each year. I have asked him to come visit, but he said there is nothing to do here in my small town. The last time I saw him was 8 years ago. I needed this message. Thank you, Bishop Blakes.
Sister I want u to know u r not alone!!
I was an awful parent to 3 of my 4 kids. got sober yrs ago, made ammends as much as possible, n still O contact with the only one able to engage.
Eldest died 4 yrs. ago tragically, 2nd in prison, nothing from #3 ever. I gave up n left the state. Was never been invited to just hang out, go to park, see my grandkids or a phone call. It's their loss. Still hurts but Jesus is healing me ALOT THIS LAST YR!!
It's really hard to know that the ones one carry in one's heart don't even care if one exists...
FOR A WHILE NOW, I GET ON MY KNEES AND THANK GOD FOR WHO HE IS.... Even my own family member shocked me. And I believe it was the holy spirit that told me...God is always there for you when all else fails😇😇😇🙏🙏🎺
Estrangement for parents is heartbreaking and common today. My two daughters chose not to have a relationship with me. I have never looked upon this as Gods will and way of protecting me before. Although now after listening, I can see my daughters do not love and respect, cherish or value me as I do them. Although I unconditionally love them and miss them dearly, God is protecting me and guiding me forward. I pray for their wellbeing, happiness and contentment and my own guidance to help me heel and lead me in my future life. Thank you for helping me come to terms with the trauma and heartbreak felt daily ❤
My eldest son😢this sermon is very valuable to me
Can I share something with you Bishop/Dad Blakes?? This time last year I was really wounded after my divorce, but thanks to your ministry and others...I am so much better.
Revelation: I used to wonder why the people I loved didn't value me...they couldn't see me...I felt invisible. I have learned that it's important to value myself...I need to see me. I picked them because I didn't love me and neither did they. If I value ME, I set standards in place, and shut the door to those who can't see my worth.
God has been good to me even in these trying times...I am so much better.
#Queenology
Owning and embracing my Queen mindset. Thank you!
I really can relate to EVERYTHING you said ...just leaving a toxic relantionship after staying for 6 years with a man i knew didnt love or value me and now i am learning how to love myself.
@@desij.7487 when you know who you are and your worth, you will never settle or lower your standards again. It's important to love you. The process of healing can come with highs and lows, but it's worth it.
Glad to hear you are doing better. I understand your pain. It’s hard to distance after a divorce when children are involved. Really seeking the Most High for daily direction.
Same here exactly! You’re nit alone
I've walked this same path and what you say is so true 🥰
Amen. People are so fickle. They like you one minute and hate you the next minute. Thank you for this message Bishop. You are a true blessing to the world!!!
I HAVE PEOPLE ON MY JOB THAT SPEAKS ONE MINUTE THAN DONT SPEAKCTHE NEXT.
Thank you for your comment. I can really relate to what you are saying. God bless.
Yes, this can break one’s heart but summon your strength and never look back.
I declare the Lord knows how to pop messages up at just the RIGHT time!! ❤ Thank you Bishop!
Thank you Bishop, held this pain for awhile for myself and my child, OH HOW this message was needed and a BLESSING
Amen.
Sad I didn't have any good men in my family to teach, protect and prepare me which left me open for wolves and being played when I am a precious gem not to be played over. 💔 "When they don't want you let them have it". Don't beg. Thank You Pastor💖Aim for the young ladies so they can avoid devastating heartache.My pain will be my granddaughters blessing. Correct, They want to,"Use you" Flattery and charm means nothing and definitely doesn't mean love..
Deep
Whoo smh,deeper and sadder than anyone can know. Many times the way someone grows up and is treated by thier,"Protectors, parents", dictate which direction thier lives may take or choices they may make. Being a parent is a serious task that shouldn't be taken lightly. I still have life. But boyyyyyy if I had known in my 20's,30's,40's all that the pastor is teaching NOW!!! Tuh!!!! My adult daughter looked at me And said,"Ma,you played yourself".But watch out. Never again and my grands gonna be blessed because of my pain.Generational curse,ignorance,abuse ends here.
Same here!
@@zurigee6 That's very powerful. And i hope God will give us strength to carry on and be strong for our kids sake its a cruel world and it's a lot of us that are hurting and made wrong decisions but its ok. We're still standing and I'm grateful for that..
So very true I like what u said yes a precious gem not to be passed over my late mom named me Rita meaning a pearl she said I was her pearl of great price......mother's and God's love
Priceless
Rejection means REDIRECTION If God's taking you from something he's taking you to something so rejection is always a positive to me plus it can also be God's protection
Love this
Thank you so much. 💓
thank you, could be God's protection. never thought of it that way .
Amen
This video came to me, I didn’t search for it. I believe God knew I needed to hear this. Thank you Sir. 💔
Same, amen.
And Me As Well❤❤❤ Thank You!!!
Yesss same here
Same here. Timely message.
Same here!❤️🙏
Those that rejected you are really rejecting themselves they don't have real love of God and self esteem . You don't want that learn to love yourself and God. Honor him with your life.
Yes my heart is broken right now i asked god to give me the strength
He will my sister. Trust and believe that God has better for you!
You asked the right one . You just be still GOD is on the way don’t worry ...
He will 🙏🏾
Sandra this too shall pass. Your heart will heal and you’ll be stronger than ever.
He already has given you the strength u just have to believe. Don’t give them power over you . They live n the dark u live n the light . U a child of GOD you have won already believe it
You refuse to let go of people who long ago, have let go of you.
That is my favorite statement and so right on
Unbelievable statement, I have been thinking of this all they long. They let go of mr long ago and I felt sorry for them😢
I had this but we had a kid and so i felt i had to stay with her.
I have listened to this 15 times in past 4 days - thank you for the teaching/encouragement
Nothing offends me when I love God. Amen 🙏🙏🙏
Bingo! I always say this when my enemies try me! Straight up you cannot offend someone who’s Lord and Savior sits on the throne!!
This is AWESOME!! As a guy raised by a single mother, with no male role model, this is on point! I've been having to learn how to be a man, and God has been teaching me the same things he is saying! I've been rejected by most people for all my life, even my own family....my wife finally rejected me! But being on my own, is really allowing me to figure these things out! Not angry, or bitter! I'm enjoying life! Depending on God!
You got this!
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So proud of you
I was feeling emotional this morning thinking why are some people in my own family reject me when I have their best interest in my mind and heart. thank you for this video and May God continue to bless you 💕
Most people want what they can take from you not necessarily what your willing to give them.
Same they are probably narc's xxx shake the dust from your feet and go where you are wanted,
and reconnect to yourself and the most high
You may wish to consider the possibility that family of origin reject us bc we were meant to/for growth while many in the f.o.o. were/are unwilling to grow or change, mostly I think bc they perceive of change as too painful.
To be sure growth is/will be painful, but given another chance to choose I would still choose pain over nothing or numbness.
Same situation here @True Love, I haven’t done anything to my maternal family members but for some reason my name stay in their mouth. With the help of Corna I was able to put distance between us this year, this has been good for me mentally, spiritually, and physically . Just goes to show you that blood ain’t thicker than water. I couldn’t believe that my FAMILY who I love dearly would betray me, stab me in the back, speak negatively on me , spread rumors like messy high school women when they’re 50+. It got so bad that my mother is not speaking to them either because she is upset that they are speaking bad of me and she told them in a not so nice way. They’re trying to butter up to my mom but shes not here for the crap. So long story short the distance has been good for me and will be good for you as well. Many blessings and happy new year 🎊🎈🎆.
@@cdale211989 Blessings too you❤️
Healing cannot begin until you disengage; Step into the Divine Perspective; Embrace the winning mindset; As a free spirit, harbour no ill! Love it!
I never needed to hear this as much as I did today. Thank you.🌺
I'm growing up.🤨🤔 I've accepted Rejection. Grown use to dealing with Rejection. I read the WORD and it helped me overcome rejection. 😉
Wow this is awsome
That right thank you
God is all you need and everything else will follow as HE directs YOU ❤️🙏
Confirmation that God knows what I am going through.
Psalm 119:165🥰🙏❤
Thank you, thank you. My heart has been breaking for many years trying to get one person to care. This is beautiful.
Yessssss this was on point .we not proving to no one else but the Lord Jesus and ourselves
I know this very well...we all have a limited time on this planet that God graces us with... don't waste it trying to find favor with these people.
I didn't habe Thanksgiving day with my daughters because I didn't hear from the elder one since September. I spent Thanksgiving alone and they did not even call or text me. I am praying for GOD'S guidance.
I pray things get better 🙏🏾
” The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. Who can know it? " Have to come back This morning and watch This video again. You can stay with someone for many years and still dont know them. Many people live a double life and their demons can flip your world up side down and Leave you betrayed, confused and helpless. Thats Why we dont need to make anyone our God. There is only one God and you and your God are enough. Thanks pastor. Watching you from Sweden. I would like you to be my brother from the other side. Much love to you and your beautiful wife Lisa.😘
This word is so good I needed this
i learned this !!! he was soo ambivalent and God is giving me strength to move forward i still have ptsd !
This is is true. Not necessarily as rejection but realizing that individuals may not feel for me as I do them. Once I made that connection internally I pulled back. Funny thing, sometimes when you STOP 🛑 putting energy into people they miss that energy you were putting forth. Others move on. For those who “miss” me I don’t go “back”. When you stop giving yourself to others who are not “into” you regardless to to the type of relationship it was. It creates space for others to enter. Secondly, it removes a weight of trying to hold onto a friendship or relationship that is or was one sided. Mommy told me don’t “love” nobody that don’t love you.
AMEN SISTER. GOING ON THE JOB RIGHT NOW😥I FEEL LIKE IM GIVING MORE
Aww Kings and Queens, we must try to let go of people who have long let us go because we didn't mean anything to them.
I should have known this sooner, I am so grateful to learn it now, especially after two failed marriages. I have been abstinence for 6 years now, and I am learning to live my life from a place of wisdom as a woman in her mid-thirties! This is critical for me as a Queen adjusting her crown. 👑💎💎💎👑
Adjust your crown and keep going Queen
me as a Queen adjusting her crown. -i'm writing this in my healing journal, keeping it, cherishing it and passing it down to younger women
This is an on time message! My Narcissistic mother, my dad and my Narcissistic sister are all rejecting me and trying to paint a false narrative about me to others. And it's heartbreaking. But with God for me, who could be against me.
Same here
Same happened with me, left them and finally walked away 3 yrs ago, no contact, extraordinarily difficult time, many times I thought of just ending if, the smear campaigns, lies, flying monkeys harassing me on online, I had to cut of contact n block anyone who was connected to them, but I'm much happier that I left them, my narc ma, narc younger sister, narc father n enabler second sister planned it well, I was the last to know, they planned my final discard so well, it was so traumatic and incomprehensible to believe or understand such wickedness and cruelty from the ones I would have died for, the ones I worked so hard for.
To top of my suffering my ex also a narc who's mask fell and was using my family situation to hurt me, I was so devastated, it was crippling pain n sadness.
But there is light, Iv been alone for 3 yrs but I'm a happier person, it's been a slow and long road to healing.
God wanted me to watch this as a reminder, thankful it showed up in my feed🤗
@@Kim-vs4vb I am as well. I needed a reminder and some encouragement.
My sister as well have done this, tried to get my parents to dislike me. She didnt talk to me for 4 years and spoke to me last year but she do not invite me for Christmas but invites her friends. I've accepted to let her go.
same with me
Going through all of this right now. I submit myself to His will. He knows better. I am very blessed. I have my diabetes into remission and no longer have to use prescription meds.... Hows that for a blessing?!
Amen!
God is good right many more blessings to you sis
Amen ! Thank you Lord for this blessing!
Praise the living Jesus
Well done YOU 👏🏻💪🙏❤️
NEVER GO WHERE YOU’RE TOLERATED. GO WHERE YOU’RE CELEBRATED.
Thank you for the message. I needed this right now and I don’t know how this came to me. It just appeared.
Thé Lors said this to me a few days ago, ‘’ rejection is sometime for your protection’’. WoW!!!!! This is so timely. Praise Jesus 🙏🏾
It took me 65 years to realise this truth.
It’s great because, when you are rejected by one, God blessed you to find someone who does. I was in a bad relationship with a person and he didn’t want me, but he was bad man. But God allowed a Good man to come and showed me how a king should treat a queen. We getting married soon and we love each other.
Yaay….I love this!!
So true!! When people don't want you, walk away.
I love 2 sayings. When love isn't being served it's time to leave the table. And...Never go where you are not welcome.
I think sometime we forget about the scripture ( shake the dust off your feet)
Fantastic reminder. Move on and be welcomed elsewhere (para phrasing) the remainder of the above Scripture ❤️💪🙏
I've tried to force myself on people to try to help and be with them. But I'm learning to let people and things go. To only keep what makes me happy.
Same here
This prayer has helped me : ," I forgive.... (name) .... for... (transgression), not by my feelings but as an act of my will out of obedience to the words of Jesus on forgiveness."
Never go where you are tolerated, always go where you are celebrated🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🩸🩸🩸
WHEN YOU DISCOVER SOMEONE DOESN’T WANT YOU:
1. Put distance between you and them
2. Reach for a spiritual perspective
3. In the presence of God make your plans to win
4. Hold nothing against them
"Am I helping anybody here?" You absolutely are. This was the message I was meant to hear. Thank you!! 🥰
SAME HERE🙏👍
Amen 😇
Looking forward to this message . My husband is divorcing me. We have 3 children. I strived to be the best wife and Mother . The rejection will make you doubt yourself and “what’s wrong with me”. I am trying to tell myself that it is he who is unwilling to want to be better for the marriage . I know I’ve been my best self but not many husbands divorce their wives so that stigma still stands . I think when a woman leaves her husband society isn’t as harsh on her but the other want around can be embarrassing.
I hope you weren't married to a narcissist. I was, (still am legally) and constantly dealt with him causing issues where there were none, passive/aggressive anger, walking out and coming back (and I let him), he was a hurt person when I met him and he hurt me.
Then there was th ed gaslighting and crazy making. And me being the only one working and trying. We even did a year of couples counseling! After hearing the verse "if the unbeliever leaves, let him go." I told myself that the next time he said "the D word", I will let him go without a word. He did so in the counselor's office and left, I didn't say a word or chase him. You get to the point of this after so much mistreatment. I spent 2+ years trying with an unwilling, angry spouse. I cant believe I allowed this!
Rejection is Gods protection...once we stay away and make plans to win, we will find the life God wants us to have. I'm still picking up the pieces, with Gods help thru vessels like RC Blake's.
Blessings to you!
Just tell everyone he is gay! !
Truth is he probably just wants to be free to indulge in some kind of sin, or some other woman, or maybe even some other man, or maybe just to be footloose and fancy-free. Just because he's not showing you something does not mean that the situation does not exist! Maybe years down the road you will know more fully of why he did this to you and that it had absolutely nothing to do with your looks or your behavior or anything that has anything to do with you.
Don't be embarrassed my sister.Dont let his mistakes and sins wear you down. God will expose him. If anybody asks why he left ...tell them he wasn't the man God sent. You really don't have to explain anything to anybody but your children.Most of the time people are just being nosy. ..God is with you.
@@believes9722 now that is wisdom!
Thanks Bishop Blake for your help. My heart has been broken, but I refuse to be bitter and let my pain take me down a path of self destruction.
I know I have grown because I have not reverted to self inflicted injuries. I know God is healing me because I have open myself to him.
Crying yet again I asked God to direct me and I found this video. THANK YOU Bishop THANK YOU to the Almighty !!
This is beautiful. I was actually crying last night on Christmas about someone who betrayed me around this time last year. Telling God I don’t understand why it still bothers me and telling him I don’t understand why it happened to me or how I deserved that. I was just really letting him know I don’t understand why those people see me as “evil” when I’m good. Asking God why did the story have to go that way. I feel that something bigger is gonna come out of this in the future something really good for me but of course I can’t be sure. Me running across this video confirms God is with me in this and God planned that. It’s amazing how I’m so rejected and was so rejected but in the end I know I’m gonna shine. It’s a beautiful story 🤩
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@michels98 Jesus was also rejected by wicked people, so we are in good company. 🙂
Keep your head up ❤
Traitors will end up in the ninth cirdle of hell at least according to Dante.
Mi chel S, rejections occurs because people don’t have the same values you have, or the dreams or vision you have to be shared with someone who is dignified and willing to compromise. Rejection is like not getting along well with the other person for those reasons, simply you just don’t match. Don’t waste time with people who don’t invest in you as you invest in them. Rejection has nothing to do with your value. Our dignity is above all things. We are precious in Gods sight, and He loves us sooo much, He gave His only begotten Son for the love of us. The right person with your same values will come along sooner or later. Blessings
I have distanced myself from toxic family members after years of bending over backwards trying to get along with people who did not want to get along. It is freeing and very good for peace of mind to walk away from all their disrespect. Thanks Pastor! Good stuff you share here. God bless you! I wonder how David worked out the hate of his own son Absalom... there is nothing new under the sun. Although I fear hateful children are growing in number.
Marie you are right, what is wrong with our children today. Mine are frightening. My eldest is 30.the other one only 20. But I still pray for them. I hope God 🙏 💕 turns them around in His time. 🌺🌸🌼🌹🇬🇧🦋
@@maxinesobers2606 Stay strong and close to God! May God bless your heart and comfort you with His love!
@@danip6648 Thank you Dani, and may God 🙏 bless you too.🇬🇧🌹💕
@@maxinesobers2606 Yes we are responsable as Godly parents to keep praying for them. Sadly that is all I can do at this time. My son had God act in his life and still hardens his heart but I will keep praying. I am so sad for the state of my child's heart. God bless you and comfort you during these days of affliction and tribulation.
People that didn't want me sure did know how to stick around pretending that they did and use me for whatever they could suck out of me. Even when I tried to let go and even verbalized I didn't want them still they remained trying to force themselves on me. It's been a battle but I think I've finally shook them all loose! Thank the goodness of God! Finally starting over in 5...4...3...2....✨💖
The saying goes "Rejection is God's Protection...." Wonderful sermon delivered superbly. Thank you!
The problem comes when they don’t want you the way you WANT them to want you -lol
A lot of the time, that’s when you lose your value in THEIR eyes....
That’s why it’s so important to know your worth within yourself.
Expectations.
Preach 👌
Thats exactly what happened. I laid boundaries and increased expectations and our whole relationship started changing. Lord please help me move on and give me strength for no contact and provision. Ijn
Jennifer Newton
Yep, and I thought I’d make a casual friend of this older man and now he’s saying I’m AFRAID of him cuz I don’t want to travel across the country with him in a semi-
I’ve known him a month.
Makes me so damn mad.
I hope u get to a better place and continue to look out for yourself-
Take care 🙏
Its my husband of 6 years. 😥 hes already having his new object in our bed. Pray for me plz
This was the most profound teaching I should have heard decades ago. Rejection is just God redirecting us in a new direction if we allow it. Being where you're wanted and not tolerated. This statement means so much to me because after hearing it, I now know the difference. I have played this for myself over and over and I am going to put it into practice. Growing up my mother always told me that just because someone smiles at you, it doesn't mean they're your friend. Sometimes the people closest to you, are only taking a front row seat to watch you closer and hope that you fail and when they do, some will actually show you how happy they are they watched you fail, while others secretly dance in delight. Be careful who you help and let into your life. Most people will only pretend to love you because their need is that great. An addict will say anything in order to get his fix.
Most people will only pretend to love you because their need is that great. An addict will say anything in order to get his fix.-- gold!! 🤩🏅
Awesome, But what do you do when it's a close family. Like a grandmother or sister.
My mil was like this , very cantankerous, complaining , and having her own conversations trying to start a fight , low energy , jealous, self centered , self absorbed, & shouting at me for being a Christian ✝️, I remained quiet , & silent , I removed myself from her presence. She lived unhappily & miserable. I prayed 🙏 for her . I went to God for my strength and my blessings. Amen ❤️ 🙏
Thank you brother! I believe God placed this video in my path to help me endure what I’m going through right now. My mother, my sisters and I are traumatized by years of abuse from my father. As an adult, I feel no one wants me and quite honestly feel invisible. Thank God my husband and daughter remain by my side. Currently, my younger sister and I aren’t speaking. She’s bipolar and very manipulative. I distance myself to avoid further conflicts. This Christmas my mom sent me a hurtful text message blaming me for everything that is happening. Never once asked me about how I felt or what my side of the story is. I’m always there to pick up the pieces when my younger sister does my mother wrong. Yet she is quick to defend her and call me a person who does not have God and love in my heart. I’ve felt rejected all of my life and only feel needed when my mother needs something. Please pray for me because this is too much for me right now. Thank you.
Sounds like someone is a narcissist, or even both of them. It might help you to study how to deal with a narcissist. I'm so sorry you're going through this hard time. My daughter is going through hard time divorcing her narcissist husband. Prayers that you would find all you need in your relationship with God. You are his treasure.
I kept wanting revenge up until about a week ago when I realized he is not even worth the energy! But can you do a video on how to co parent with the narcissist! If you have already post the link! Thank you 🙏🏽
God said revenge is mine. The best revenge is to pray for them and turn them over to their Creator GOD.....
New International Version
His feet were like bronze glowing in a furnace, and his voice was like the sound of rushing waters... he can’t run or speak to that
I’m sure he fears GOD
Pastor Blakes has a video on co-parenting with a narc. I'm co-parenting with my ex narc hubby. Search for it on TH-cam
@@juliemiller4461 I found it a few days ago, thank you!
Lord, help cause this has been the difficult situation that I've been going through with me having a 14 yr old son with this guy. My is starting to show some of his dad's
narcissist ways, except for the fact he believes in the Lord and has told me he wants to be like King David ( a man after The Lord's own heart)
Thank you Jesus and I rebuke that spirit and trust in Jesus that his loving power is much more greater than his biological genes.
Ultimately he belongs to The Father, Co - parenting is very hard & challenging. Keep us in your prayers as we'll do the same.
God 🙏 Bless
I am not going to lie, I did not want to hear this because of the title, but once I sat here and start hearing it, Glory!
Thank you for being obedient! It lifted my heart. Thanks be unto God!
I was the same way
This message was 11 months ago but it came through to my feed this morning and I’m so grateful to God for the timeliness of it. Thank you Bishop/Pastor Blakes; I needed to hear this today. May God continue to bless your life abundantly.
What a gift 🎁 Christ coming forth to heal the broken hearted.