Discover Why He Doesn't Want To Commit To You

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  • @JonathonAslay
    @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Follow Susan Winter at www.youtube.com/@SusanWinter

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Adore you, Jonathon!!!

  • @richard-wg8pt
    @richard-wg8pt หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Susan is so kind and thoughtful. She always has such spot-on commentary, especially for us men who follow her on You Tube. Thank you Jonathon for having her on your show. We have missed her the last few months!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hi Richard!! Nice to see you here. I adore my buddy Jonathon. He is truly the only colleague who has ever assisted me in anyway… You hear me talking about how he was the one who told me my SEO sucked. And he was right. And it was costing me views. Jonathon is a good guy with good intentions. And in a world of marketers, who have come into this niche to cash out on people's misery and despair, Jonathon is a bright light a a coach who cares.

    • @user-jt7of2ln4h
      @user-jt7of2ln4h หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@SusanWinterI really enjoy watching your videos and your advice have been very helpful. Question: Why did you think it’s ‘shaky’ about the situation where a guy was hesitant to commit and making you wait and auditioning?

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@user-jt7of2ln4h It's a power move. And controlling. Real love and commitment happens much more organically. And the resistance to commit and put another through their paces is attempt to try to gain power over them, psychologically as well as emotionally.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well said, Susan. 💯

  • @OhioGalReads
    @OhioGalReads หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    He doesn't want to commit because he's not that into you also.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      It can also be fears. Common with FA's and DA's. They can sabotage relationships. Patterns of behavior.

    • @lorrainec3673
      @lorrainec3673 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@SherriFlemming agreed, I think like in my case, after about 6 months he said the L word & scared himself away smh 🤦‍♀️

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agreed. In many cases, it is what it is.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​​@@lorrainec3673 The emotional responsibility and commitment was too much for him. Ken Reid has great podcasts on avoidant attachment.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน

      I LOVE Ken Reid. Not only does he have fantastic information and tons on attachment theory, but he is also a friend. He has always been in right order with me and always supportive of my work. So he is certainly a colleague I endorse.

  • @joanmu1053
    @joanmu1053 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    He doesn't want to be responsible for your feedback on his poor behaviour. That hit me hard

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's such an astute comment! Thank you Susan.
      Men know exactly what they're doing.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you Joan, I think that's the counterpoint here.

  • @joanmu1053
    @joanmu1053 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Every second is 100 %
    Limited pool out here

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes. The pickings are slim for aligned men.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes

    • @joanmu1053
      @joanmu1053 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JonathonAslay do you ever sleep?

  • @coach_amy
    @coach_amy หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Spiritual marriage: right on. I follow a pastor who won't do government (marriage license) marriages.

    • @kristinej.4182
      @kristinej.4182 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m with you on this! Spiritual marriage is the way to go!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree.That's the one that counts

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker3811 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m glad Jonathon you invited susan winters!

  • @lisamichelle5311
    @lisamichelle5311 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It gives me hope that someone of your caliber is steering away from the pretty young things to date in your age range!!! 💜

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 😊

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, it's impressive Jonathon. You're high caliber wanting someone mature within your age range.

  • @annieskid
    @annieskid หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Susan Winter was great. I’ll def follow her channel.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      👍🏼

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน

      annie, thank you. I really appreciate your comment

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JonathonAslay Thank you, Jonathon for having me

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      She's great!

  • @tammieprintz3975
    @tammieprintz3975 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    True … I am with one who was terribly hurt; now I am paying the price of him not doing the healing work.

  • @walkaminutewithme4787
    @walkaminutewithme4787 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I said it before she did 😂😂😅

  • @scorpiochic2
    @scorpiochic2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    OMG Susan’s comment, without loven I’ll be bad in bed 😂

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I have to tell the truth. And I know it's funny, but it's true. I wish I could be Modern. I wish I could isolate the playful act to be just that. But in truth, I have no desire to be with a partner unless I truly feel them on a deeper level. Then, all the explosive chemistry comes alive.

    • @scorpiochic2
      @scorpiochic2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SusanWinter the wasp comment punctuated by uh uh uh had me in stitches really explains all my bad experiences trying to get love from a bunch of unavailable losers .. priceless advice ❤️❤️❤️

    • @lorrainec3673
      @lorrainec3673 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m inclined to agree! I say the same thing when this is being discussed. I did a live “hot seat” about someone I reunited with but never slept with… good thing being he was full of excuses. As you said- didn’t want to commit, had excuses about everything- why would I do anything with him? While I’m no Angel, it takes a lot for me to allow these guys do whatever… plus, we need more than one encounter… the first time is usually a bit clumsy 🫣🤭😂 I was cracking up too because it’s true! My first question now is “what are your intentions regarding a connection?” And I picture Jonathan with his rifle lol 😂 great talk!

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can relate to the WASP comment. 👍

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@lorrainec3673 You dodged a bullet, Lorraine.
      Your podcast was great. Thanks for sharing.

  • @taihicks1001
    @taihicks1001 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you Jonathon & Susan! I appreciate the honest answer to my question. That really helped 💚

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Our pleasure!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's fantastic. Thanks for the question.

  • @Sarafara7
    @Sarafara7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Came from Susan’s channel! Love her and her advice!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sarafara!! I really miss my LiveShow. But what I haven't announced publicly that I've had a series of operations that have kept me away from filming as much as I want and the LiveShow. I think you probably read the newsletter? If not welcome and I'm so happy to see you here. Thanks for your support.

  • @jeffphillips7921
    @jeffphillips7921 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have learned alot from the both of you...."Can't say the wrong thing to the right person" and "Let the broken cookie fall off the conveyor belt"...see, I listen to you two. I like Susan so much I pull my semi-truck over for her live shows....Sending big bear hugs to the both of you.

  • @kristinej.4182
    @kristinej.4182 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Loved listening to Susan. She shared such good information.
    I’m all for a spiritual marriage with an agreement put in place for commitment but I think there needs to be some form of penalty or loss if one person breaks the contract. It can’t be only about each other’s expectations in the relationship. Obviously the legal one with the government bears too much loss and that’s why many people nowadays shy away from it. But if there is no consequence to defaulting an agreement then what does it matter if we write one up or not. It doesn’t hold much weight.
    Great discussion Jonathon! I always enjoy tuning in to your videos. 🙌

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for joining us. I really appreciate your commentary. And I feel so honored to be on Jonathon's channel with him.

  • @msarilyn7677
    @msarilyn7677 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Fear of responsibility maybe ?

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love Susan Winter!!! Thank you for having her. You cut her off a few times. Jonathon please work on that.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hi ginam, and thank you. I believe I also cut him off... what you do when you're excited and want to share. I really appreciate your joining the LiveShow and/or watching this replay.

  • @bellabriggs1393
    @bellabriggs1393 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    For God sakes Jonathon let Susan speak !!!!!!! Omg

    • @montanasky2253
      @montanasky2253 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Typical interruptions in every interaction on this channel. So rude

  • @barbara6840
    @barbara6840 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Susan Winter is one of the best relationships coaches I have personally hired that spoke to the high level, self-aware and independent woman I am. She is money well spent even if you are paying for what you already know. Her guidance has never steered me wrong and now I am dating men at my level, at my emotional availability and at my independence. She is brilliant at what she does. Jonathan please share although I have her number and will do so.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤thank you Barbara!!!!!!❤❤

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree... she's brilliant

  • @lorrainec3673
    @lorrainec3673 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi Jonathan & Susan Winter! This was a great segment. Sorry I missed it. Im having a busy work season at the moment & have had some hard situations at home & work as another client is terminally ill. But, Im picking up a new case & studying for a certification in my field. Also, my boys are home for the summer too. But, just checking in to say I love your flow with one another & Susan's style resonates with me as well. As for me, Im still hurting from my recent break up from the Sarg and she helped me understand (as you did too) that waiting was ok, when i reunited with him because he was a man of value. Living in 2 different states, despite not being too far, provided just enough of a barrier between us despite any efforts or suggestions I made or how attracted we are to eachother. Of course the good thing is, I still kept my sovereignty lol. 🤭 😂
    Thank you both for helping us here & me to sort these things out. Because yes, people don't think about the financial nor the value of loyalty and integrity people bring in at our age. Unless you're born into it, we didn't have the financial situations we did when we were younger...and quite honestly, i dont want midlife crisis guy who drives a Lamborghini with a new woman in the passenger seat every other day... I'll take Mr. SUV guy whose going to bring me to the park or the beach with the dog & the kids & throw frisbees, then make smores with wine at the firepit in our outdoor theater until we all pass out...I say my love language is BBQ 😅 -of course everything else will be 💥💥💥 but we just need to sort it out first. I think if you can laugh together and enjoy eachother and have that easy flow, the rest will come...don't you think?
    Thank you both, I feel a little better now & I'm sure many others here do too ❤🥰😘

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Some great points Lorraine.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      She's great...

    • @lorrainec3673
      @lorrainec3673 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JonathonAslay thanks for responding & in case you're wondering lol this is "Mystical Tarot aka Lola" I guess it depends if I use my phone or tablet my account shows differently. Miss you- 🤗

    • @lorrainec3673
      @lorrainec3673 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SherriFlemming thanks- I've been so broken up because on top of the loss of the relationship, a few of my Clients passed & as noted, lost another account because one more became ill, poor family...My heart hurts from all of this & besides mourning, my business is headed down the tubes as I deal with a very toxic ex. Having the kids home isn't helping much but I'm trying to get them out to camp or anything that I can find... So, I needed to take a step back and just breathe... like the song says... So, yes, if you encounter someone who isn't matching your own energy and are in a different place emotionally than you, why entertain that? Thanks for your support- hugs 🥰

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@lorrainec3673 You're welcome Lorraine. Hugs.

  • @user-jt7of2ln4h
    @user-jt7of2ln4h หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Jonathan: If you don’t know if you want to commit to a person because you don’t know her well yet, do you become exclusively with her while you get to know her being possibly intimate, or you date others? What I find some men do is continue to see others, meaning open relationship while they find a best match.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, juggling on rotation. You may not be aware, you're part of a harem.
      And there are definitely men with the polyamorous and non monogamy lifestyle.

    • @user-jt7of2ln4h
      @user-jt7of2ln4h หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@SherriFlemming That is disgusting. I hate men like that.

  • @juliefrecker3811
    @juliefrecker3811 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yup she said it!

  • @LyndaBustillos-dd8wd
    @LyndaBustillos-dd8wd หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love Susan! Hadn't seen her in a while. She is such a teenager!😂

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I know, right...

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Lynda... You're a doll. And you are absolutely correct. I haven't been posting many videos and I had to stop the LiveShow for a bit of time. I've had back surgery and unfortunately it was not effective so I've been utilizing my time to edify my health. And I hope to return with more videos. I thank you so much for your support, and for your thoughtful words. And yes, maybe I am a teenager.!!!

  • @mariad1151
    @mariad1151 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yeeeeey Susan❤...smart lady🧠

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words. And again, Jonathon, thank you for allowing me this time with you.

  • @susanwohl24
    @susanwohl24 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You and Susan should do a bumpy video together. You guys are great together.

  • @SherriFlemming
    @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

    We have couples contracts for common law in Canada. Equivalent to a preniptual agreement.

  • @coach_amy
    @coach_amy หลายเดือนก่อน

    Among other things, I want to meet someone who isn't obsessed, in awe of, or a sucker for appearances and personas--but rather, the person wants depth, and when there's a true connection, it's only then that the person is attracted to the girlfriend/partner. I don't know if I'm wishful thinking. But that's how I am, so there's got to be another like that somewhere.

    • @zenmaiden1
      @zenmaiden1 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love seeing Susan on the channel Jonathan, I’ve followed her for years , she’s got an amazing way of getting to the point to the aha moments . The snapshot video of hers is what made me have the aha moment . Six years ago. You guys together .. love all the ideas .

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      They're a great team!
      I hear you Coach Amy. Substance and depth over mere superficiality.
      Choose with purpose.

  • @Krystal620
    @Krystal620 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Big hugs 🤗❤️

  • @gjaipgfhjapirkg8581
    @gjaipgfhjapirkg8581 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    For ED, take Maca and thai ginseng, plus L-Lysine.

  • @montanasky2253
    @montanasky2253 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Younger women go for older men because the older guy has money.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not all older men are established.
      Some are intent on "marrying up".or having relationships with women who earn more and have more assets.
      Not all relationships are financially equal.

  • @karenschell9822
    @karenschell9822 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes Susan, the pool is small!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      agreed... And that makes it tough when you have standards!

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      It sure does, Susan.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming หลายเดือนก่อน

      Manipulators dislike standards, boundaries and a backbone.

  • @user-vk8en3vr2k
    @user-vk8en3vr2k หลายเดือนก่อน

    Personal question.In relation to different cultures or countries, would you consider a relationship with a women either from England, Canada, Australia or New Zealand if they were planning to relocate?

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      If she's here when we meet and she already had plans to move, I would consider it. I most likely wouldn't meet her until she's living here though.

  • @marialacerda6593
    @marialacerda6593 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do u trigger childhood wounds in a male?Feedback please.❤

  • @montanasky2253
    @montanasky2253 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Opposite opinions; JA thinks it’s “raining good men”
    Susan says it’s slim pickins - very few good available men out there.
    And in typical form, Jonathon interrupts and doesn’t let the other person finish. 🙄

  • @gamerchristina1079
    @gamerchristina1079 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤❤❤❤