Committed to Being SINGLE?- How To Be Single and Happy

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  • @woopiemiddleman8232
    @woopiemiddleman8232 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I love the content of this topic! I felt the most lonely when I was stuck in a bad marriage. Now I’m alone but not lonely. I free happy, peaceful, and free!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That’s wonderful to hear! ❤

  • @jekalambert9412
    @jekalambert9412 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Great topic!
    Why are you single? My boomer response: "I've never really been happy in a partner relationship. I enjoy my alone time. I enjoy my friends. I prefer being single because I no longer have illusions about how much work partner relationships take. I'd rather focus on things that bring me joy."
    The biggest hurdle for me in getting to this point was the belief that IF I just found the "right" partner, I'd be happy in a relationship. After years of pursuing this dream, I found myself very content in my life and no longer wanting to trade the happiness I'd found for the constant navigation/boundary setting & negotiation required in a partnership. Life is simple, peaceful, fulfilling and joyful now. I think a lot of people my age feel this way.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Great commentary Jeka. Thank you for this commentary and the clearly defined reasons why you are happy with the choices you have made

    • @Jacky06
      @Jacky06 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Relationships are hard work. Rather focus on myself. My time my choice ❤

    • @user-sr1kc6jj2b-p1q
      @user-sr1kc6jj2b-p1q 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I think I am finally feeling the same way. I am tired of partnerships. They wear me out and rarely give me what I need or want. Once the first flush of romance is over relationships become the sort of work that distracts me from other parts of my life. The statistics support what I know from experience: men do not put in the same amount of work that women do. They are not as prepared for the work, so they need convincing and I just don't want to do that any more. It takes all the joy out of being with that person. I don't want to persuade, convince, argue, fawn or anything else. I just don't want them around any more. They are just too difficult to bother with. Yes maybe it's the sort of men I'm attracted to, but I don't really care any more. Partnerships do not live up to their hype, ever.

    • @Jacky06
      @Jacky06 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@user-sr1kc6jj2b-p1q Well said. I completely agree 💯. 💕

  • @marioleclerc4566
    @marioleclerc4566 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It's challenging to meet agreeable, compatible or fun to be with people and mutual attraction at any age or stage of your life. LABT or live apart but together could be seen by many as living a life as single.Thank you Susan!!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are welcome Mario

    • @camellia8625
      @camellia8625 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I personally love the idea of a living apart together style relationship that is meaningful, exclusive, committed and life long.

  • @siriasouza5264
    @siriasouza5264 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    THANK YOU for talking about it! it's been two years that I travel alone on every vacation, and we are penalized for being alone. At restaurants, they give us the worst tables, couples turn hostile like we were a danger(especially woman, look at me like I was doing something wrong or would "steal" their man right there)
    I am just living my life, enjoying the time I planned and paid for, and society seems to not agree at all with that, I mean... grow up people!

  • @gtafotopdx9608
    @gtafotopdx9608 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Welcome back, good to hear your voice of reason and compassion again❤
    That was a great superchat. Single lady with 58 years of living in her books🎉

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for tuning in today. I really appreciate it. And I’m glad that you like the topic.

  • @gemz2894
    @gemz2894 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yep I’m single by choice and I love it now people are just so mentally messed up it gives me anxiety and brings down my emotions so I don’t wanna date

  • @Josephcmiro731
    @Josephcmiro731 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’ve narrowed in on achieving my fitness goal and I won’t pursue a relationship until I feel ready to present the new version of myself.

  • @patriciaware8876
    @patriciaware8876 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Everybody don’t need a bottle people try to escape in a bottle but be free within yourself and with the Spirit that you serve! Be free and live darlings❤

  • @Theysopretty2
    @Theysopretty2 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Susan's like the big sister I never had. Her advice seems to come in such a timely way ❤

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww! Sending you virtual hugs little sis!

  • @mesCheerios
    @mesCheerios 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    btw so happy you are back! Love these livestreams, wish i could make them live once in a while

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you, MES Cheerios. I had a lovely time but it was very weird to be off-line for so long. I was busy living my life and interacting with everyone. I’m glad that you enjoy the live streams. If you have certain topics you’d like me to talk about, please, let me know

  • @rosswardrop465
    @rosswardrop465 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A man who dont drink or smoke and stays single.Has got brains.

  • @HavenHair-ks9yk
    @HavenHair-ks9yk 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love your commentary on superficial thinking .. I completely agree with you ..

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you HavenHair!

  • @hilea.m.z4460
    @hilea.m.z4460 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Outstanding as usual you are stunning my darling Susan I feel like listening to my beautiful dear aunt

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hilea, that’s lovely. My south Asian clients call me auntie. I know that it’s a form of endearment so for that I thank you.

    • @hilea.m.z4460
      @hilea.m.z4460 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤

  • @debbiewitthoft5339
    @debbiewitthoft5339 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Susan, I just found you a few weeks ago on You Tube and I love you! I don't drink either.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Debbie. Thanks for the connection!

  • @shawnanowa8197
    @shawnanowa8197 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Susan! Thank you for this teaching ❤ I am an introvert like you and I also enjoy being alone 💖🌈 it’s a win win!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Being an introvert can be so rewarding! ❤

  • @mesCheerios
    @mesCheerios 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Strongly disagree about no drugs no crime - the people who use drugs in places where it is heavily criminalised are often in gaol. Drugs exist on a spectrum and some people have been saved by drugs though it is difficult for them to tell their stories when it is illegal.

    • @charmedprince
      @charmedprince 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No drugs no crime. You're just biased by your prior knowledge.

    • @mesCheerios
      @mesCheerios 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@charmedprince Yes i am biased but so are you. For example, do you think that constant CCTV surveillance is worth not getting robbed? In most countries where murder is low they just need to outlaw guns. Also want to add the Netherlands is an example of a country where decriminalisation of drugs has been successful. And note that I am not anti-Singapore.

  • @btsforever5190
    @btsforever5190 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much🙏I love your content. Yes it’s not easy for frontrunners but we strong 🥰💪🏻

  • @paris3331
    @paris3331 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this. Love you. Such an inspirational woman. Woman empowerer! 👑

  • @Lioness_of_Gaia
    @Lioness_of_Gaia 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is amazing! Thanks, again! ❤

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you dear lioness. Keep roaring.!!!

  • @Marina1686
    @Marina1686 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Not by choice. I’ve been trying for years to meet a good man I’m compatible with. I’m turning 38 this year and I doubt anything will change. I didn’t want to live my life single. I always dreamed of having a beautiful and healthy relationship. All I get is men sexualizing and just wanting one thing even though I don’t dress or behave that way. Its so sad, that I’ve done things right and never get appreciated.

  • @CrystalDatingCoach
    @CrystalDatingCoach 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    If you don't love yourself... How can you expect anyone else too.

  • @Amethysts_moon
    @Amethysts_moon 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Single by choice after being in two serious relationships that lasted for 16 years I'm exhausted and need to love and find myself. I'm
    Not hungry for being in a relationship rn.

  • @RRthee1
    @RRthee1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've just committed to this. 😊

  • @johnmoreno5965
    @johnmoreno5965 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😍😘 I wish I had my older lady i miss her and the life we had. I choose to stay single by choice too. Not that I wanna be single but if it aint the timing its a situation. Think lots of us are going to die single and alone not lonely

  • @scorpiolove674
    @scorpiolove674 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Susan is total eye and ear candy 😘🍭

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Scorpiolove, Sagittarius love is in love with you.❣️❣️❣️ thanks for the fantastic comment

  • @louiselouise8133
    @louiselouise8133 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    All of the smart successful women I know are single. The solo supplement on cruise ships is irritating las year I booked a friend on and then they just didnt show up-best way around it saved around 25%

  • @charmedprince
    @charmedprince 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't drink because I grew up with an alcoholic father and I saw what that can do to a man and his family. Then I learned that President Trump doesn't drink because his brother Fred died because of alcoholism and that just made my choice even firmer. I admire Donald Trump as a businessman.
    Then earlier this month, my brother fell from an open vehicle and passed away. He lacked sleep then drank that morning before he went to do some chores. He fell asleep on the way and lost his grip then fell.
    I am single by choice. I want to be with people who can reciprocate my feelings and my status.
    As I've heard from a conversation in Buffy the Vampire Slayer, "I'd prefer to spend my energies on creating things of beauty."
    I'm an artist and a designer by trade.

  • @marte1376
    @marte1376 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love you Susan. Let me tell you, you're wrong, goldiggers watch you too😂 I'm here because balance is key.
    I sense you have a strong empathy for men but what about women. The point of seeking providers is not non sense and you're the living proof of a person that had to not choose motherhood for her career. Life is not easy for women either. I understand you're a woman that is politically correct and don't expect your thoughts on dating higher for a woman. I have a strong appreciation for you

  • @musicdesign7264
    @musicdesign7264 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Baby boomer single many years. Would love to find a partner. Not easy in my area.

  • @dylannicks1146
    @dylannicks1146 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My ex talked to me intensely when his bf didn’t want him, once they were back together, blocked me.. likely his bf made him do it, I hope to be with him when’s he’s single someday.. I manifest him each night to love me

    • @mannymurillo687
      @mannymurillo687 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That's disrespectful from don't even waste your energy obsessing

    • @mariahclark4271
      @mariahclark4271 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I hope you find someone who prefers to love you first and foremost. You deserve it!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Why would you want this person back? Really… Examine your options. Because I’m sure that there are better people out there. Who value you and don’t just want to waste your time.

    • @jeffphillips7921
      @jeffphillips7921 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We are worth it....let the broken cookies fall off the conveyor belt. Replace that person with a NEW one that likes you first.

  • @lylyanazarela4807
    @lylyanazarela4807 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Susan can you please make a vid about " Fear of getting cheated on"
    Thank you ❤

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have plenty of videos on intuition, trust and cheating.

  • @ralu9457
    @ralu9457 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    enmeshment trauma springs to mind