Matthew Perry is actually really good looking, in his younger friends days he reminded me of Tom Cruise. I hate seeing Matthew unwell, he’s definitely the maverick of the cast but generally mavericks can’t live normal lives.
I think men often get married for the 1st time at an older age, that some women have fertility issues roadblocking 1st marriage at an older age. But men, especially good looking, charming, funny, rich and famous, wealthy men can get married for the 1st time at any age.
when i see comments like theese im very confused, he fucking played the characther, did you expected to come here and say , could this be more like al bundy? i dont know...idiot
@@hellvixens117 love how you've phrased that - focusing more on how he used his experiences to make others' life better, instead of "well you're a drunk" etc.
It is fascinating how some actors have the same personality in real life. You don't know if they act or talking for real. I love this guy, he made me watch Friends like it is the only show ever existed.
Read his book Friends, Lover and the Big Thing. I was skeptical, not a huge Friends or Perry fan, and I'm also a recovering drug&alcohol addict myself, so celebs telling their sob stories didn't appeal, but it was recommended by my trusted sister. It's great. Humour, humility, honesty and some really great narrative about his life.
@@thelifeofvicky3091 From what I heard that's fake news. He did, however, have surgery to repair a hole in the GI tract which he spent three months in the hospital for. (he confirmed the three month hospital stay on Twitter)
It’s amazing how the most memorable and hilarious sitcom characters are so similar to the actors who portray them. Being the funny guy is every bit matthew’s thing as it was Chandlers.
1Rdby I think it's because the scriptwriters wrote the character's stories according of their real personalities. If you watch any interview of them they are exactly the same people in/out the camera..they are just themselves doing comedy
There are no actors, but people are acting their lives away until one day they realize it's too late to act another one, then they die. The moral of the story act well in your life because it's the only one you have got.
I definitely want to marry a guy like him. I think Matthew will definitely get married someday. He'll make a great husband. Very funny, sweet, nice, and loving. GOD BLESS.
I really got angry when he told him you will never get married properly he was the reason why Matt never stopped drinking and talking drugs . Nobody could ever tell you what your life is going to be . Live it until the end and always be positive . RIP Matt you deserved more from this world
yeah, after reading that he faced loneliness all his life and sought acceptance in the eyes of anyone who'd offer their gaze, I am sure that comment hit him hard :(
I started watching Friends and yesterday I saw an episode where theyre neighbour dies and Chandler is scared that he will end up alone just like neighbour...
Apparently him and his friends used to bully and pick on Justin Trudeau in school. That is absolutely heroic of them. Matthew Perry is a good man and a Canadian patriot for doing that to Justin in his youth.
I know this clip is already over ten years old but damn. From 2011 to 2021 is a stark change. Grew up watching reruns of Friends and a lot of my humor has been shaped around Chandler’s and, in turn, Matthew Perry’s. I wish this dude all the best.
Here’s how much I love Matthew Perry I’m willing to watch fucking Bill Maher stumble through his unfuniness just so I can here what a fellow ex drunk has to say
I don't get it... I'm a Brazilian Advanced English speaker; I know he's saying he misses drinking heavily, but I've never heard "like a dead brother" before. Could you help me? What is it about?
It's so weird that we can't help laughing at the dark humor of drunken stupidity. I remember thinking it was funny too, until I married an chronic alcoholic from a family of alcoholic. I didn't recognize the red flags and it ruined my life and the lives of my daughters. I don't laugh quite as much about this now, though I admire those who conquer it...
@@thep4897 She is free to say whatever she wants, she is right, alcoolism is not funny, It ruins lives. She has the right to use her personal life as an argument.
@@artyomalekseyevich5927 Hmm, I thought 'she' was a 'he'. In any case, I agree with him/her. When you think of all the destruction alcohol has done to people like Perry and others, the final frames in this video seem a bit perverse. I don't really blame them. Most of us love hearing drinking stories. But it's like that laugh track in Natural Born Killers.
@@Sokrabiades Oh, I'm guessing I kinda assumed that alcoholism is mostly a problem for men which is kinda sexist I guess, I did it unconsciously. Drinking stories are funny when they aren't common, You're basically getting to know a person in a way you've never known him before, so It's pretty funny to see them or hear them acting foolish. But when they become too common it isn't funny anymore, It's worrying, everything in moderation.
@@artyomalekseyevich5927 well, actually alcoholism is more common in men. Go to any AA meeting and you will realize. I have drink problems, although I'm a woman. It's not sexist, it's a fact
I worked in a maintenance dept of a large factory for 38 years so i grewup with a lot my coworkers and . These guys where great people but the ones that drank and the ones that did hard drugs were all dead by age of 6o. These guys started dieing off in there 30's. My first girlfriend out of highschool OD on meth in her upper 20's, and her brother died a few years after she did from drugs n alcohol. I'm retired now and I'm so thankful I made it but it's kinda lonely ,so many people just let alcohol n drugs rule thier lives.
Talking about his alcoholism was his purpose. His foundation helps those that struggle with alcoholism. Its heartbreaking he didn't live to stay in sobriety and help others. To live his life and fulfill his future hopes and dreams ❤️🩹 He was quick witted a naturally funny man who wrote a wonderful play and was a son, brother, friend. He had a life to live it's a staggering loss to many people who loved him❤️🩹🦇
Knowing how much Matthew wants a family, that comment made by Bill about how he likely won’t get married makes me sad 😔 I still hope he can find someone wonderful and compassionate to share his life with
Pretty sure being a celebrity/former celebrity with decent looks he has a much better chance of finding somebody than some random person his age. Also, it's always strange when people wish celebrities well - yes, they're also human, but they have access to so many resources/know so many people that ordinary people never will (for better or worse), that I'd have more sympathy for some average person going through that than a celebrity (with the exception being celebrities with serious conditions like MJF and Bruce Willis etc.)
As for marriage , I would love to see Bill Maher in conversation with Clooney) he was set in his ways and still changed his mind about marriage and even about children 👶
Being an alcoholic doesn't define a person. This has been his story for the past few decades now, and it's sad to see. Perry is a genius actor, promising director, and a seemingly decent person. Give a guy a break.
The thing about him I didn’t know him as Chandler on FRIENDS… I don’t think I watched one episode of that show. I loved his character in the movie Fools Rush In with Salma Hayek. There’s just something so…you just have a feeling of wanting to take care of him, something so vulnerable about him and this was really before I knew he had any addictions, so I’m really sad that Matthew Perry is gone. I really am.
First you said he was smart and then he's never been married, that statement is redundant. If course he's smart, since he never go married. Married people are suckers.
❤️Thanks for your unconditional love and support you have been showing me. It has been a difficult time for me but your love got me standing. Where are you watching from?
These fellas are American. They wouldn't know how to drink. I'm Irish and we are serious drinkers and can laugh about it the next day... Seriously, if drink is messing up your lives and is upsetting your family and your drinking and driving, either give up your family and stop driving... That was a joke but it is not if you think about it.
He's still standing better than he ever did. I love and respect this man so much, people are focused on one thing about him, because we love focusing on flaws, but he readily talks about it so that someone else who is going through what he did may feel validated
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He will always be Chandler
Idk I was actually able to suspend disbelief when he was in Studio 60 and see him as Matt instead of Chandler.
To me always
He is Chandler. They have the same personality.
*Chandler is Matthew
Y
He IS Chandler, even the way he walks when he was introduced.
Perry 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤❤❤❤
Dear lord. Sad story.
Matthew Perry is actually really good looking, in his younger friends days he reminded me of Tom Cruise. I hate seeing Matthew unwell, he’s definitely the maverick of the cast but generally mavericks can’t live normal lives.
"USED to be drunks" 🥱
He’s still chandler and he still make jokes whenever he’s uncomfortable
he's awesome although he's a bad guy
@@TatianaRafikova how so? Just curious
I think men often get married for the 1st time at an older age, that some women have fertility issues roadblocking 1st marriage at an older age. But men, especially good looking, charming, funny, rich and famous, wealthy men can get married for the 1st time at any age.
Yeah, he also helped the writers in friends make the jokes
@@TatianaRafikova He's not a bad guy, wtf are you talking about?
Respect to anyone who can change for the better.
Which is why Matthew Perry has my respect.
Cheers to that! It's hard. Especially with an addiction, because it's such a huge part of your life.
Definitely!!! He's one of my heros!
well, he didn't
Monica: Seven! Seven! Seven!
I read that in her voice. No way not to.
There was waaaaaaaay more sevens on that line :P
✌️ 🤚
5 a 6 then 4 6 7 7 7 7 7
😂😂😂
Matthew was so quick and naturally funny. Good energy. Addiction did a number on him but his spirit was always there.
❤
Sad, pathetic loser. Wasn't even funny. 10 yrs on a ridiculously overrated show, with ridiculously overpaid actors. Nothing funny about him. Just sad.
He looks the best I've seen him since Friends ended.
Sky Black
This video is from 2011
He uses hair fibers, he's balding and angeing badly
@@emfraridades7261 no he’s just ageing. You will too. Give the guy a break!
Look, Chandler can finally grow facial hair
“ I can grow a mustache !”
Well in the show he did grow a goatie, several times, so....
@@octo6829he said when he had a goatie, he was on pills really bad
Could you 'BE' more Chandler than this???
when i see comments like theese im very confused, he fucking played the characther, did you expected to come here and say , could this be more like al bundy? i dont know...idiot
And I always read these in the character's voice ;-)
He said Chandler was him.. he coached his friends trying out for it. But as fate would have it.. he got that role.
Looking good and healthy.
ShallowDepression this was from 5 years ago
Actually seven years ago. They mentioned one of his failed series.
He actually looks the best I've ever seen him after FRIENDS
In 2011
He was on drugs
He is so charming
Ikr .... Oh he is
"I'm suprised I didn't try to drink you", omg, this is priceless
People should stop talking about his alcoholism. He's so much more than that. He's a brilliant artist.
I mean he does a lot for other people and their sobriety so it makes sense, it’s a big part of his life
@@hellvixens117 love how you've phrased that - focusing more on how he used his experiences to make others' life better, instead of "well you're a drunk" etc.
It's brave and commendable to talk about his alcoholism even so casually.
Artist? Lol, relax, he’s been in 1 show that was successful and honestly, the show sucked lol
@@tjsmithers3893 stfu
Could he be anymore Chandler ??!
sadasdas asdasdas i wish
actually it's Miss Chanandeler Bong
Let me Eat cake We steal that TV guide every week!
“I knew It!”
Just watched this episode today
YNWA brother!
Everyone is laughing and cheering but it is a truly sad story, rest in peace sir!
It is fascinating how some actors have the same personality in real life. You don't know if they act or talking for real.
I love this guy, he made me watch Friends like it is the only show ever existed.
Read his book Friends, Lover and the Big Thing. I was skeptical, not a huge Friends or Perry fan, and I'm also a recovering drug&alcohol addict myself, so celebs telling their sob stories didn't appeal, but it was recommended by my trusted sister. It's great. Humour, humility, honesty and some really great narrative about his life.
Definitely tells how the compulsion to use keeps tripping you over and over. The “Big Lie” we continue to listen to ourselves tell over and over.
Kudos to him for turning his life around. And, also for having the courage to share this story so publicly.
Jada Y This is from 2011.
Oh, I did not realise that...Well, I'm glad he turned his life around at that time. Wonder if he's back to using/drinking now
Yeah he is. I remember seeing something a few weeks back that he has really gone down hill again..
That's a huge part of recovery. Good on him!
@@thelifeofvicky3091 From what I heard that's fake news. He did, however, have surgery to repair a hole in the GI tract which he spent three months in the hospital for. (he confirmed the three month hospital stay on Twitter)
It’s amazing how the most memorable and hilarious sitcom characters are so similar to the actors who portray them. Being the funny guy is every bit matthew’s thing as it was Chandlers.
1Rdby I think it's because the scriptwriters wrote the character's stories according of their real personalities. If you watch any interview of them they are exactly the same people in/out the camera..they are just themselves doing comedy
Really? That's surprising? Ok then.
There are no actors, but people are acting their lives away until one day they realize it's too late to act another one, then they die. The moral of the story act well in your life because it's the only one you have got.
Well, generally producers and studio execs are not going to cast sullen, morose-looking actors in lighthearted, funny roles.
He said in an interview that he knew he'd ace the audition for Chandler because it was HIM
He's never been married!? Who wouldn't wanna marry him! I will Chandler! I do.
maybe chandler's scared of commitment again lol
I definitely want to marry a guy like him. I think Matthew will definitely get married someday. He'll make a great husband. Very funny, sweet, nice, and loving. GOD BLESS.
he dated Lizzy Caplan i think 10-15 years younger than him for 7 years and then they broke off
@@yankeegirl3380 Cuz you know him so well from seeing him on tv 🙄
Oh yeah.. how can he not be married ? Being married to a drug addict with depression is a real catch 🙄
RIP Matthew Perry. Still hard to believe a member of Friends is gone. Few shows will ever have that kind of impact or staying power.
Alcohol is classified as depressant but for many alcolics its like cocaine. Rocket fuel.
I wish they would stop showing that drag of a show. It sucks
@@_west33...😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I never watched Friends!
I’ve seen 5 mins of Friends and … I don’t get it. But he seemed like a good guy.
Anyone who reckons "Friends" had a massive impact on the world? That's someone who seriously needs to broaden their cultural landscape.
I really got angry when he told him you will never get married properly he was the reason why Matt never stopped drinking and talking drugs . Nobody could ever tell you what your life is going to be . Live it until the end and always be positive . RIP Matt you deserved more from this world
So true.
yeah, after reading that he faced loneliness all his life and sought acceptance in the eyes of anyone who'd offer their gaze, I am sure that comment hit him hard :(
I know. I am 40 years old and never been married. I do have a boyfriend though but I have never been married,
He also toldMatthew in a more recent interview about a year ago that he did drugs and Matt said do you have any on you?
Wtf are you talking about? He was sober for years
I hate how Bill Maher jokingly shames him like that; that's Chandler Bing man, Mathew Perry deserved better treatment!
Especially now knowing he relapsed not to long after this interview
it's called "a joke"
it's Bill Maher, Matthew knew what he was walking into
@@criticalem and he said he was afraid to come. He knew.
"Vastly approaching 100" 😂😂😂😂 he has got sooo soooo much chandler in him
I started watching Friends and yesterday I saw an episode where theyre neighbour dies and Chandler is scared that he will end up alone just like neighbour...
Me too😂
Now this has come true. 💔🥺
Seven, seven, sevens?? Monica told you?
Apparently him and his friends used to bully and pick on Justin Trudeau in school. That is absolutely heroic of them. Matthew Perry is a good man and a Canadian patriot for doing that to Justin in his youth.
I know this clip is already over ten years old but damn. From 2011 to 2021 is a stark change. Grew up watching reruns of Friends and a lot of my humor has been shaped around Chandler’s and, in turn, Matthew Perry’s. I wish this dude all the best.
He has his problem but, you know, being 40 or 50 it is a huge change for everybody.
You realize it's not his humor, it's the writers'.
@@jamespfitz yes, I think the third sentence I wrote addresses that when I refer to the Chandler character lol
@@ogmarkerhe probably was taking breaks from drugs and alcohol but never stopped
Here’s how much I love Matthew Perry
I’m willing to watch fucking Bill Maher stumble through his unfuniness just so I can here what a fellow ex drunk has to say
He's best at giving plot twists 😂
Forever Chandler
RIP Matthew
Just heard the news - what a man. RIP
That drinking story is EXACTLY what us alcoholics do. You know you're a drunk if you just nod and go "yup" and are entirely unsurprised by that story!
People this is 2011. He looked great here but this aint the present
Oh damn
Matthew is a legend , I love to watch his interviews cause he's hilarious too
His mind works so fast, he’s brilliant. Most folks who are alcoholics have above average intelligence. He was always my favorite “friend” also.
That’s the thing ! I thought that drugs destroy brain cells …
It's so saddening to hear about Matthew's passing :(
"You were a drunk, I was a heavy drinker." True but did he have to say it?
That's usually what a drunk says to an honest alcoholic who is in denial of his own condition!
"I miss drinking like a dead brother" 😂😂😂
I don't get it... I'm a Brazilian Advanced English speaker; I know he's saying he misses drinking heavily, but I've never heard "like a dead brother" before. Could you help me? What is it about?
@@marciocruz9059 It's just an expression used to show you miss something very much.
@@nantia07 I'm kinda getting it now, it's like "I miss drinking the same way I would miss a brother of mine who passed away". Right?
@@marciocruz9059 si!
The last ten years haven't been kind for Perry 😞
It's so weird that we can't help laughing at the dark humor of drunken stupidity. I remember thinking it was funny too, until I married an chronic alcoholic from a family of alcoholic. I didn't recognize the red flags and it ruined my life and the lives of my daughters. I don't laugh quite as much about this now, though I admire those who conquer it...
Way too much information
@@thep4897 She is free to say whatever she wants, she is right, alcoolism is not funny, It ruins lives.
She has the right to use her personal life as an argument.
@@artyomalekseyevich5927 Hmm, I thought 'she' was a 'he'. In any case, I agree with him/her. When you think of all the destruction alcohol has done to people like Perry and others, the final frames in this video seem a bit perverse. I don't really blame them. Most of us love hearing drinking stories. But it's like that laugh track in Natural Born Killers.
@@Sokrabiades Oh, I'm guessing I kinda assumed that alcoholism is mostly a problem for men which is kinda sexist I guess, I did it unconsciously.
Drinking stories are funny when they aren't common, You're basically getting to know a person in a way you've never known him before, so It's pretty funny to see them or hear them acting foolish.
But when they become too common it isn't funny anymore, It's worrying, everything in moderation.
@@artyomalekseyevich5927 well, actually alcoholism is more common in men. Go to any AA meeting and you will realize. I have drink problems, although I'm a woman.
It's not sexist, it's a fact
They got their outfit from the same closet ....
Yes, the MIB outlet.
They raided the wardrobe at MIB headquarters.
Wow. Every topic they bring up especially the guy next to him: everything negative. Drunk, single never married like wow. Way to be positive…. Jeez
Look at interviews he did even a year ago compared to this one. He sounds so much better here. The difference is obvious.
I worked in a maintenance dept of a large factory for 38 years so i grewup with a lot my coworkers and . These guys where great people but the ones that drank and the ones that did hard drugs were all dead by age of 6o. These guys started dieing off in there 30's. My first girlfriend out of highschool OD on meth in her upper 20's, and her brother died a few years after she did from drugs n alcohol. I'm retired now and I'm so thankful I made it but it's kinda lonely ,so many people just let alcohol n drugs rule thier lives.
Talking about his alcoholism was his purpose. His foundation helps those that struggle with alcoholism. Its heartbreaking he didn't live to stay in sobriety and help others. To live his life and fulfill his future hopes and dreams ❤️🩹 He was quick witted a naturally funny man who wrote a wonderful play and was a son, brother, friend. He had a life to live it's a staggering loss to many people who loved him❤️🩹🦇
Matthew will be greatly missed!
I still watch friends every night before bed and still laugh every time.
Out of all the friends he will always be my favorite!
He's such a great storyteller. I can't wait to read his autobiography.
Just read it. Not sure why ppl think he's sexist and an a-hole he admits he's not perfect
You mean, his obituary .
His book is phenomenal and I highly recommend it.
Me too! I thought it was excellent
2:06 Cornel West surprises everyone by being the most intense fan of Friends.
Doesn't anyone notice that the dates of the actual broadcast and the upload are different?
Yup. This is an old clip. Matthew doesn't look like that anymore.
Their combined ages are well over 100 now.
What year was this. Matthew P looked great.
He's always my favourite together with Lisa. It's so sad so many years of his life were ruined
Knowing how much Matthew wants a family, that comment made by Bill about how he likely won’t get married makes me sad 😔 I still hope he can find someone wonderful and compassionate to share his life with
Pretty sure being a celebrity/former celebrity with decent looks he has a much better chance of finding somebody than some random person his age. Also, it's always strange when people wish celebrities well - yes, they're also human, but they have access to so many resources/know so many people that ordinary people never will (for better or worse), that I'd have more sympathy for some average person going through that than a celebrity (with the exception being celebrities with serious conditions like MJF and Bruce Willis etc.)
@@yellowblanka6058 MJF? The guy wrestles. He's healthy.
😢
Bill Maher: I grew up watching your show.
Matthew Perry: ...
I really love this man
As for marriage , I would love to see Bill Maher in conversation with Clooney) he was set in his ways and still changed his mind about marriage and even about children 👶
Not everyone needs/wants that.
He was one of my favorites
Hard to believe the difference in ten years. Did he have a stroke? Did the addiction damage just catch up to him?
Seems that way
Being an alcoholic doesn't define a person. This has been his story for the past few decades now, and it's sad to see. Perry is a genius actor, promising director, and a seemingly decent person. Give a guy a break.
He tells stories so well
7 7 7 I think he is remembering Monica's dialogue😂😂😂
Loved you Matthew.❤ RIP
This had to be at least, 6 years ago. Mr. Sunshine got canceled in 2012
Let's see...he wanted to drink seven 7&7's on his 21st birthday. Now that I did the math, I see why.
I came back to see this after seeing Matthew perry at the friends interviews... Im scared for him.
Oh, shut up, and go watch Friends reunion.
yeah he mustve relapsed. here he looks good but the reunion interview he looked rough af
Only him can make a problem like this sound funny. Bravo M. Perry
The thing about him I didn’t know him as Chandler on FRIENDS… I don’t think I watched one episode of that show. I loved his character in the movie Fools Rush In with Salma Hayek. There’s just something so…you just have a feeling of wanting to take care of him, something so vulnerable about him and this was really before I knew he had any addictions, so I’m really sad that Matthew Perry is gone. I really am.
He also had a huge pill problem - for one or more seasons of Friends he was hard to watch. He's lucky to be alive and fairly sane.
I did the exact same thing except I was leaving a strip joint and it was an unmarked cop car, of course I spent the night in jail.
You can tell how badly Bill misses drinking by how drunk he gets on his weekly podcast.
very rude RE 'staying single' from the interviewer. insensitive. (from a guy in a happy relationship). maybe different humour across the pond
And you could see the loom on Matt s face , it crushed him
Matthew is such a truly deeply charming man.
LOL - It was way more than drinking ... come on let's be honest here.
It's brave and commendable to talk about his alcoholism so casually.
First you said he was smart and then he's never been married, that statement is redundant. If course he's smart, since he never go married. Married people are suckers.
So sorry my man.... You were perfection & didn't realize it... ❤
You are GREATLY MISSED. 😢😢💔💔💯🦇🦇🦇
He knows how to tell a story, that's for sure👍🏼
❤️Thanks for your unconditional love and support you have been showing me. It has been a difficult time for me but your love got me standing. Where are you watching from?
@@matthewperry9514Shame on you.
This was what two years ago? In friends reunion Matthew looked like he aged 40 years since then!!! I hope he is doing well💔
No this was filmed in 2011 about 10 year's ago. The clip was uploaded to TH-cam 2 year's ago.
lets appreciate its 4:20 long
He was high here. This is right before his colon blowout. It's a struggle.
Nah this was in 2011, only uploaded in 2018
Man just saw him recently, his brain is absolutely fried, this energy is gone, I hope he is doing okay.
Did he start drinking again after this?
I have more respect for Mattew Willing to talk about his problems, not many admit they have a problem.
9000 aa meetings 60 detox countless rehabs. $9 million in efforts to get sober. That's not excessive
Communist left, communist right. It honestly makes no difference. It’s all a facade. Fight digital ID and digital Currency
I really wish Courtenay n Matthew should marry each other.
RIP
Love love love Matthew Perry
I love him too 😍
He wasn’t so much matthew perry, but a bottle of 7 and 7 walking around in human form
Why are the funniest guys become most depressed in life?
These fellas are American. They wouldn't know how to drink. I'm Irish and we are serious drinkers and can laugh about it the next day... Seriously, if drink is messing up your lives and is upsetting your family and your drinking and driving, either give up your family and stop driving... That was a joke but it is not if you think about it.
He's still standing better than he ever did. I love and respect this man so much, people are focused on one thing about him, because we love focusing on flaws, but he readily talks about it so that someone else who is going through what he did may feel validated