Absolutely. I graduated 3 months ago and have been struggling to get my life together. Without really good friends to help, I would never have figured out how to live on my own or even find a place to live, or do taxes. My meds help but getting started on real life stuff is hard.
As someone who graduated with my BSN in 2016 I think this stream is very helpful for how to handle life in general. Replace school with work and classmates with coworkers. Pretty spot on.
Meltdowns: I'm totally aware of what's going on but I'm powerless to stop them once they've begun. How in the world do I recover and also not blame myself??
Well the timing on this could not have been any better. I'm supposed to call my university tomorrow to get enrolled. By the way, I'm 21 because my parents also recognized that I was not ready to deal with this at 18
I had a similar experience Jessica, being with someone with great executive function helped me to form routine, helped hold me accountable to studying, and supporting my friends with their work gave me purpose and drive. Once in high school, I had a friend in Chem and I was doing well, but as soon as she dropped it, my grades started plummeting.
If you aren't diagnosed/have disability services set yet feel the room and see if you can talk to the professor. When I taught I had a number of students ask me if they could do things outside the norm for different reasons. If they came to me early in the semester I often was able to help, even if the didn't have offical accommodations.
YES! A lot of professors want to do whatever they can to help you succeed and, assuming you don't wait until the last minute, you may be very surprised with how much support a professor may offer. I LOVED when people came in after the first exam when they struggled and repeatedly showed up to office hours for help. It also was a factor in me deciding to bump up their grades at the end of the semester ;)
I’m watching this procrastinating/avoiding reading for and writing one of my midterm assignments. college is so hard. I really want to do well but it’s so difficult. high key overwhelmed
I went to college in my 20's and I couldn't handle it with my ADHD. I went back to college in my late 30's and I am now an RN nursing student. I learned I had ADHD in my 30's and I learned how to cope with ADHD. I use Caffeine as a medication because doctors will not prescribe me stimulants and I learned techniques from this channel and other places to help cope with it.
glad to see there are so many people like me, found her through a ted talk and i love the work she has done to pull this off, gives me motivation just knowing the work and time it took
My big question that I never got around to asking is how to deal with hostility from your department head.From COVID and a health scare, I had to ask for extension for my submission of my thesis. Now they ignore me, refuse to spend time answering my emails, or allowing me to join the current cohort to have sparring partners (other students that are currently writing their thesis). I think this is something people will face at university where their instructor, and university refuse to believe you are neurodiverse, and flat out refuse the accommodations you are legally entitled to. My university actually refused to give me the full time off my doctor wrote me out for, and they are not allowed to decide how long a student is sick for, that is only the doctor. So basically how to handle hostility be it in academics or later when working in the real world
Have you gone to anyone higher up in the chain of "command" at the university? I'd assume yes, but I know that I myself have made silly oversights like that before. Outside of that... try to find who the university amswers to on legal matters. Unfortunately I am slightly anticipating a legal battle, which I'm guessing you probably can't afford. Maybe go to an ADHD reddit to ask this, where more eyes will see it and the chances that someone who knows how to proceed increase. I am so sorry to hear that you've had to deal with this.
If you've contacted higher ups at your university and nothing has changed, it might be time to threaten them with legal action. Look online how you can do this, it varies by state and country, but here in the Netherlands I was denied proper accomodations at my high school and I filled in a form to the government that threatened the school with the prospect of withdrawing funding, and it worked! I got the accomodations, but it took a lot of work, wayyy too much.
Every time my family asked about school I would say "everything is fine" even though it totally wasn't. I felt ashamed of my inadequacies. And I just realized why I would plan on doing so well at the beginning of the semester, only for me to slowly abandon my plans and everything falls apart. My undiagnosed ADHD! Woohoo.
You got this. I failed out my first time. I went back ten years later and now I am getting a PhD in theoretical physics. We can do anything, we just need a little help. GET YOUR ACCOMMODATIONS!!!!!
@@eddymison3527 same here. I was already late in enrollments and debating on whether I should continue or not. Well I did. Not that it made anything better (since I still don't like the degree I degree I took even after 3 years but no choice because it's the only one I can) but progress I guess...
This was SUPER helpful and timely. I would love to hear about how to work in groups, cause that seems to be a popular thing in college. I'd also love a video about meltdowns/getting irrationally angry and how to calm myself. I struggle with Anxiety and find myself having days when something/someone sets me off, and I cannot seem to regulate myself back to a baseline. Thanks!!!
Every student at college or university will have particular needs to thrive there. It is important to any new undergraduate to be aware of what you need and to have the confidence to share this with other students and staff abd seek appropriate support where necessary What impressed me about this stream was the breadth of advice which goes way beyond the ADHD community, and how useful it was. Great stream.
starting community college this week here's how I am for my first year -undiagnosed adhd and autism tried getting diagnosed but was heavily dismissed by professionals and family now I'm scared to try again - struggling to get my first job -still need to get my permit and learn to drive -closeted trans person who wishes they could get top surgery -has one friend let's see how this goes 😃
I have to have music on while driving. I have to be 10% distracted to be able to drive. I immediately stalled my dad's car so hard I sheared an engine mount, so a manual transmission is out of the question for me for a while. But what really works for me is being in a car where I can feel the road surface really clearly, and also having stiffer pedals that have a bit more tactility to them (I also have autism and everything interface I use has to provide a tactile feedback so that I KNOW I'm doing something or else I'm gonna push it too hard or too fast or too many times). I would love it if I could somehow install a tactile switch in my gas pedal so that it made a little thunk when I pushed down in it more.
Oddly, I did much better in college than high school. I think being able to pick when my classes were went a long way. I can hyperfocus on most of the classes I've taken, so that hadn't been as much of the issue as just being on time, which I've been lucky with professors who structured a lot of rough draft check ins and deadlines. That goes a long way. If your professor doesn't ask for that ASK them to demand check ins. If the rough draft editing day is optional, tell them you NEED IT.
So I would love to hear more about when people have also autism on top of ADHD. It is pretty significant portion of ADHD people (up to 50% I read). I do have both for instance and I feel different from folks who only have ADHD or only ASD.
I also have both but i was diagnosed with Adhd almost 5 years before ASD. So I feel (or recognise) more of my ADHD when symptoms show up. I only learned when i was diagnosed with ASD about the similarity of my sypmtoms with asd as well. Seeing more info about having both would be really nice for me too.
Sadly my daughter got this from me. The combination of Covid and losing the structure of college (graduated) has sent her into a spiral. She is not even exercising and does not want to listen to me. I am hopeful she navigates to the other side of this. I did share a couple of these videos, but she was not receptive. I realize I have to give her room to work through this. She knows I’m here, but I cannot prod too much
If only I had this (or known that I would have more difficulty transitioning into college as a person with ADHD so I could try to find other resources) five years ago... It still might be useful to me anyway seeing as I dropped out, which I never thought was even a possibility for *me* until then.
The jump from HS to college is IMMENSE for ADHD brains. I wouldn't be shocked that, if you decided you wanted to go back, you would be much more equipped and prepared to take on the challenge after your brain developed a bit more too :)
It IS still possible! At 59, I began college. Last year, at 65, I graduated with my undergrad in social work. In Jan, I began advanced standing work on my Masters degree which I will complete in May '23. You CAN do this!
I'd like to think this is exactly what I needed to hear when I was at that age, but I don't know if I had enough self awareness then. That's compared to now and decades of experiences and memories that I can look back on and see how so very relevant this is to how my brain works. But I can take this as I go forward with a better sense of self. This was an incredibly informative video and helps so much. Thank you!
Maybe you already are doing this now~ but my suggestion is for the Description, with (Dr. Patrick LaCount) any guest, to link them/ “all the things”- for them that we can click on from right there… I like how he reminds it ‘keeps him accountable (& On the things that he develops to help keep Us accountable too). You’re both amazing at this/ ty so much for All of it, & your genuine honesty/ openness!!
here's a tip 2 months late. try playing a game while listening to it or even better, put it on a secondary screen. games i would recommend are potion craft and btd6. shooters could work but you would have to play at half capacity
Yup, friends are so distant after awhile. I lost touch with so many people after I stopped drinking and moved out of town. I moved back to my hometown a few years ago, but have no friends. Just my husband and immediate family. No one comes to visit and I don’t have a vehicle right now so I can’t go visit anyone.
I am 46 years old and recently got diagnosed. It makes so much sense , I am finally beginning to understand why I am how I am. your videos have been instumental in this journey. I am going back to school to get my RN . Classes start next week for the prereqs . Im worried. My short term memory is so bad. I appreciate you tackling these issues in your content.
10:21 I'm a certified youth mental heath first aider and use grounding a lot for teens who are having panic/anxiety attacks. // As for 12:30 I have a huge problem with this at the moment (I'm currently taking classes to get my degree), but throw on 3 kids...it's rough...super rough. It got to the point where I need a clench guard because the stress caused me to start clenching my teeth (especially when studying...mainly statistics).
I find White Noise (specifically rain/thunder sounds etc) help me fall asleep way way faster. I recommend a podcast that is literally just different sounds to sleep too, called 'Relaxing White Noise' on Spotify. Definitely recommend trying it out. My mind can be summersaults and the white noise calms it down pretty quickly I find.
For me personally as long as I have the accommodations I think that this pandemic benefited me because now I'm starting to see more and more professors not teach as newer typically and stuff especially using zoom because zoom to me is just as horrifying as an in-person class and so as long as I have the accommodations I can teach myself with the lecture notes and choppers that are on the website and then if I have questions I can ask.
I’m 59. Now I look back on so many moments I was affected by this. “Back then” we learned to hide it - even tho we did not understand what “it” was. This is why I work night shift - hospice nurse. I have one pt and little distraction. People ask why I don’t switch to day. I’m know to do an excellent job at work, but I’m always afraid of being found out if I switch to days.
@how to adhd Just finding you and I so wish I could have seen this live. This is right on topic with what I am currently dealing with. Im 34 and my special brain struggles with ADD, Dyslexia, and Narcolepsy while also caring for my own family, including a ADHD child. I am working to finish up my 8 year college journey (on & off) and its never been more of a struggle than it is right now. Even with accomodations, I feel like Im fighting a loosing battle! HEEEEELPPP!!!!!
whenever i need to stay focused, i literally hide my phone away from me. yes, perhaps in another room, or just under the couch. because i know that out of sight is out of mind, i found that hiding it away from my sight made me forget that i even had a phone in the first place lmao. the only thing not good about this is that i forget to answer calls and respond to texts :'>
For sleep: ask your psychiatrist! I take a mood stabilizer that helps me sleep. It puts a fade out on the random thoughts that keep me awake so I can fall asleep instead of trying to shut my brain up.
Last comment lol. My auto insurance was cancelled in my early 20s. I had to pay a lot. My forever workaround is to always adjust my car to be far enough behind any other car so I will have time always to stop or move my car.
Can you please give some tips on ADHD and work/jobs.. which career to choose , which not to.. how to do your best in your career path... What to do if u are struggling with your job.
There are definitely jobs that are better or worse with adhd. But most important is that you are passionate about your job. It tricks your brain into being motivated for your job
college was hard for me last year I ended up dropping out the course as soon as second set started. sadly I had already paid the school fee. at first I was just masking the disappointment I had and finally broke. im starting school again and honestly I'm so freaking scared.
thanks a lot for the content. I entered in the college about 3 years ago, but heavily struggling. if i can't pass this semester, may be I'll be a drop-out :(
My friend is a psychologist in training, i told her that i have observed some symptoms of ADHD in myself that have aggravated in past one and half year in quarantine/isolation, she dismissed it by saying that , psychiatrists will give you medication which is not good try to avoid that and your problem is that you're not able to manage thing's in your life. Even tho you are on the right track in life, you don't realise it. You don't seem to have ADHD because it comes with hyperactivity, and has a time frame to get diagnosed when you are a child. I have known your since we were kids. So behaviour isn't consistent with ADHD.
Me watching this as I’m about to graduate college in 3 months 👁👄👁 Would greatly appreciate a vid of post-college or post-parents insurance cause I’m also scared of how I’m going to cope with my ADHD once I’m not covered by my parent’s insurance when I turn 26 in a few months
I enlisted. Told them I never had any diagnosis of anything. They didn't check. Coming home was EXTREME. I would definitely not recommend military for ADHD. It was amazing while in, but getting out.....
Make it urgent Is something I did before watching this video, without knowing why lol. For examople, I could never get myself to clean my room, once I set my timer OR took a video time lapse of me doing it, I got it done real fast.
Google docs has a free built in one and I've heard some good things about "dragon" which cost some money. If you're at a university or business, they may be able to offer it to you for free, so always check in with those :)
i've taken three semester in the past two years, since i've graduated and have done almost horrendously in everything. it's not that i'm not interested, it's that i lose interest and feel like i'm not getting enough time to myself or to spend with my family so i give up. i've wasted quite a lot of money and gone into debt and now i'm just terrified to go back after only getting medication a couple months ago and trying to overcome habitual aspects of my ADHD. hopefully this helps because i've almost completely decided that i can't do it🥺
☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻 *OH MY GOSH, YES!!!!!!!!!!* Been using it for almost 9 years! NEVER going back to how I did it before!! I just wish I had known about it in high school - would have made things so much easier, but I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until 2 1/2 months before I graduated high school, and we spent the following year (so through my freshman year of college) learning about and testing out accommodations that would ACTUALLY benefit me (some of the accommodations suggested in my diagnosis report were what Patrick referred to when talking about how sometimes neurotypicals' suggestions are totally useless).
my younger(i.5 yr') sister has ocd. i have adhd. ofc untreated matured 24 yr old woman. how can i be less hated? Would you please make a video on this suggestion?
Hey I just joined patron at the $5 level and can't get access to the discord. Said I don't have permission. Does it take time or is there something that can be done?
I had a friend. He studied nuclear physics. And when he was about to get his bachelor degree. He realized that he has to take one more exam, which he totally forgot. So he spends 3 days non-stop cramping. He chugged a cocktail ... take the biggest mug you have (for him it was 1L, yeah that big) fill it with coffee, take two tablespoons out. Add Redbull or your favourite energy drink. shove it into a microwave and eat it. This is, how you destroy your heart, but 3 days, without sleep ... Fun fact. He does not have a Bachelors degree. He went to the exam and fell asleep before his teacher finished the question. Now he has a heart condition, high blood pressure, and a secure job in some grocery shop. And the mark he needed... C or above, to be allowed to continue to a masters degree.
Only read the title and haven't watched the stream yet but a video on 'how to survive the transition FROM college' would be amazing!
Absolutely. I graduated 3 months ago and have been struggling to get my life together. Without really good friends to help, I would never have figured out how to live on my own or even find a place to live, or do taxes. My meds help but getting started on real life stuff is hard.
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Oh yes! I graduate soon as well!
As someone who graduated with my BSN in 2016 I think this stream is very helpful for how to handle life in general. Replace school with work and classmates with coworkers. Pretty spot on.
Oh damn! I'm gonna start my job right after graduation and I'm super afraid of messing it up.
Lmao every single person subscribed to this channel is scrolling the comments while watching this 2 hour video, I know it.
Doing that and replying within the first minute of the video. 😂
😂😂😂🙋🏻♀️
8 seconds in 😅😅
Guilty as charged 🙈
2 hours, is there a summary?!
i wish there was something like this 10 years ago
Was just thinking the same thing. I got tossed out of my high school accommodations and was expected to just be ok without a support system.
NO LIE
@@jmsl910 in gen z world say no cap
@@deveshrupani1459 oops
boomer here!
Had the same thought as soon as I saw the notification. *Sigh*
Meltdowns: I'm totally aware of what's going on but I'm powerless to stop them once they've begun. How in the world do I recover and also not blame myself??
Also Jessica, make sure you keep Tweetering about impending livestreams because I still can't get YT's notifications to actually notify me.
@@GlenHunt no one can unless you pay to play for it
Make a tools kit of things that balm you calm down, I have a folder of like videos to help me chill
Well the timing on this could not have been any better. I'm supposed to call my university tomorrow to get enrolled. By the way, I'm 21 because my parents also recognized that I was not ready to deal with this at 18
Well good for you that you're still going : D. I never finished college and it's one of my biggest life regrets.
Me too! I’m starting college at 21. Good luck!
21 and just started, nice to know I'm not alone :)
I when back school at 22 than agian at 34 i am 35 now planning to get my degree
I had a similar experience Jessica, being with someone with great executive function helped me to form routine, helped hold me accountable to studying, and supporting my friends with their work gave me purpose and drive. Once in high school, I had a friend in Chem and I was doing well, but as soon as she dropped it, my grades started plummeting.
If you aren't diagnosed/have disability services set yet feel the room and see if you can talk to the professor. When I taught I had a number of students ask me if they could do things outside the norm for different reasons. If they came to me early in the semester I often was able to help, even if the didn't have offical accommodations.
YES! A lot of professors want to do whatever they can to help you succeed and, assuming you don't wait until the last minute, you may be very surprised with how much support a professor may offer. I LOVED when people came in after the first exam when they struggled and repeatedly showed up to office hours for help. It also was a factor in me deciding to bump up their grades at the end of the semester ;)
I’m watching this procrastinating/avoiding reading for and writing one of my midterm assignments. college is so hard. I really want to do well but it’s so difficult. high key overwhelmed
I went to college in my 20's and I couldn't handle it with my ADHD. I went back to college in my late 30's and I am now an RN nursing student. I learned I had ADHD in my 30's and I learned how to cope with ADHD. I use Caffeine as a medication because doctors will not prescribe me stimulants and I learned techniques from this channel and other places to help cope with it.
Why won't your doctor prescribe stimulants? If they don't have a specific and good reason for it you should seek a second opinion
How do you find the difference between your 20’s and 30’s! I’m struggling so much but I want ant least a graduate.
I'm in college but I'm taking college classes in highschool and I am so glad we have these resources.
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glad to see there are so many people like me, found her through a ted talk and i love the work she has done to pull this off, gives me motivation just knowing the work and time it took
Yea that Ted talk moved me a lot
can u please share the ted talk link?
highly need that
thanks
My big question that I never got around to asking is how to deal with hostility from your department head.From COVID and a health scare, I had to ask for extension for my submission of my thesis. Now they ignore me, refuse to spend time answering my emails, or allowing me to join the current cohort to have sparring partners (other students that are currently writing their thesis). I think this is something people will face at university where their instructor, and university refuse to believe you are neurodiverse, and flat out refuse the accommodations you are legally entitled to. My university actually refused to give me the full time off my doctor wrote me out for, and they are not allowed to decide how long a student is sick for, that is only the doctor. So basically how to handle hostility be it in academics or later when working in the real world
Have you gone to anyone higher up in the chain of "command" at the university?
I'd assume yes, but I know that I myself have made silly oversights like that before.
Outside of that... try to find who the university amswers to on legal matters. Unfortunately I am slightly anticipating a legal battle, which I'm guessing you probably can't afford.
Maybe go to an ADHD reddit to ask this, where more eyes will see it and the chances that someone who knows how to proceed increase.
I am so sorry to hear that you've had to deal with this.
If you've contacted higher ups at your university and nothing has changed, it might be time to threaten them with legal action. Look online how you can do this, it varies by state and country, but here in the Netherlands I was denied proper accomodations at my high school and I filled in a form to the government that threatened the school with the prospect of withdrawing funding, and it worked! I got the accomodations, but it took a lot of work, wayyy too much.
I would check to see if there is a dean of students or separate graduate advisor as your next person to talk to.
I would contact your accessibility dept and have them contact your professor
go over their head. thats what you do
Every time my family asked about school I would say "everything is fine" even though it totally wasn't. I felt ashamed of my inadequacies. And I just realized why I would plan on doing so well at the beginning of the semester, only for me to slowly abandon my plans and everything falls apart. My undiagnosed ADHD! Woohoo.
I needed this! I'm starting college again (the first time went poorly) next month and I'm nervous. Thanks for talking about this
Good luck :D I'm starting college too (same experience) - but in 2022
@@czarny_kothk4073 Thanks! Good luck to you to!
Good luck!
You got this. I failed out my first time. I went back ten years later and now I am getting a PhD in theoretical physics. We can do anything, we just need a little help. GET YOUR ACCOMMODATIONS!!!!!
@@andrewdiggs9166 thank you! I will!
I found this channel from a panel at a writing conference I was at (How to finish a novel with ADHD) and that panel like CHANGED my LIFE
Damn, just what i needed now, i'm finishing school and transitioning to college this year and i'm really struggling, bless you 😭
I'm still IN college and I'm already getting nearer to becoming a drop-out 😆
Update: I dropped one subject...
I already dropped out last year ahshsshsh
I almost got dropped off in the first semester.. Luckily I somehow managed to finish my degree.
@@eddymison3527 same here. I was already late in enrollments and debating on whether I should continue or not.
Well I did. Not that it made anything better (since I still don't like the degree I degree I took even after 3 years but no choice because it's the only one I can) but progress I guess...
I've dropped out twice and am about to fail out again. It's very hard.
I've dropped out twice and am about to fail out again. It's very hard.
This was SUPER helpful and timely. I would love to hear about how to work in groups, cause that seems to be a popular thing in college. I'd also love a video about meltdowns/getting irrationally angry and how to calm myself. I struggle with Anxiety and find myself having days when something/someone sets me off, and I cannot seem to regulate myself back to a baseline. Thanks!!!
Jessica Thank you so much. I only learned recently that I have ADHD and your videos has made everything so much easier ❤️❤️❤️
I know the music slaps
But the video starts at 2:25
Every student at college or university will have particular needs to thrive there. It is important to any new undergraduate to be aware of what you need and to have the confidence to share this with other students and staff abd seek appropriate support where necessary What impressed me about this stream was the breadth of advice which goes way beyond the ADHD community, and how useful it was. Great stream.
starting community college this week here's how I am for my first year
-undiagnosed adhd and autism tried getting diagnosed but was heavily dismissed by professionals and family now I'm scared to try again
- struggling to get my first job
-still need to get my permit and learn to drive
-closeted trans person who wishes they could get top surgery
-has one friend
let's see how this goes 😃
Hi, how are things going?
@@raapyna8544 have an interview for a job in a few days hope it goes well
Hope you found your footing :)
I’m about to be a freshman and I’ve recently realized that I may struggle with adhd, this has never come at a more perfect time
I have to have music on while driving. I have to be 10% distracted to be able to drive.
I immediately stalled my dad's car so hard I sheared an engine mount, so a manual transmission is out of the question for me for a while. But what really works for me is being in a car where I can feel the road surface really clearly, and also having stiffer pedals that have a bit more tactility to them (I also have autism and everything interface I use has to provide a tactile feedback so that I KNOW I'm doing something or else I'm gonna push it too hard or too fast or too many times). I would love it if I could somehow install a tactile switch in my gas pedal so that it made a little thunk when I pushed down in it more.
touch is my first language, too! also aspie and adhd inattentive.
Thanks!
You're welcome! Thank you so much for watching! 🧡
Oddly, I did much better in college than high school. I think being able to pick when my classes were went a long way. I can hyperfocus on most of the classes I've taken, so that hadn't been as much of the issue as just being on time, which I've been lucky with professors who structured a lot of rough draft check ins and deadlines. That goes a long way. If your professor doesn't ask for that ASK them to demand check ins. If the rough draft editing day is optional, tell them you NEED IT.
I dropped out of CC after 2 years. Now taking 1 class at a time 6 years later, leaving my job and going back full time Fall 2022. Im terrified
Good for you for pacing yourself! I encourage a lot of people to consider that option
you got this!
Starts at 2:25
Wow thank you. Starting college in a week and I feel like I'm gonna crash and burn, but this helps!
So I would love to hear more about when people have also autism on top of ADHD. It is pretty significant portion of ADHD people (up to 50% I read). I do have both for instance and I feel different from folks who only have ADHD or only ASD.
I also have both but i was diagnosed with Adhd almost 5 years before ASD. So I feel (or recognise) more of my ADHD when symptoms show up. I only learned when i was diagnosed with ASD about the similarity of my sypmtoms with asd as well. Seeing more info about having both would be really nice for me too.
@@blossoms_tree It is hard for me too to recognize what is actually ADHD and what is ASD. I was also diagnosed first with ADHD 😄
im starting college in two weeks and this is literally a life saver !!!!
so phenomenal! sharing with high school seniors now, cause so much of this you can take into consideration when you SELECT a school too, you know?
Takk!
You're welcome! Thank you so much for watching! 🧡
Sadly my daughter got this from me. The combination of Covid and losing the structure of college (graduated) has sent her into a spiral. She is not even exercising and does not want to listen to me. I am hopeful she navigates to the other side of this. I did share a couple of these videos, but she was not receptive. I realize I have to give her room to work through this. She knows I’m here, but I cannot prod too much
If only I had this (or known that I would have more difficulty transitioning into college as a person with ADHD so I could try to find other resources) five years ago...
It still might be useful to me anyway seeing as I dropped out, which I never thought was even a possibility for *me* until then.
The jump from HS to college is IMMENSE for ADHD brains. I wouldn't be shocked that, if you decided you wanted to go back, you would be much more equipped and prepared to take on the challenge after your brain developed a bit more too :)
It IS still possible! At 59, I began college. Last year, at 65, I graduated with my undergrad in social work. In Jan, I began advanced standing work on my Masters degree which I will complete in May '23. You CAN do this!
I'm 28, going into 3rd year in undergrad, this advice is gold.
Thank you so much for everything you do
I'd like to think this is exactly what I needed to hear when I was at that age, but I don't know if I had enough self awareness then. That's compared to now and decades of experiences and memories that I can look back on and see how so very relevant this is to how my brain works.
But I can take this as I go forward with a better sense of self. This was an incredibly informative video and helps so much. Thank you!
Wow, incredible timing! I just had my first college orientation through zoom and I was getting nervous 😖 Thank you, how to ADHD!!
Maybe you already are doing this now~ but my suggestion is for the Description, with (Dr. Patrick LaCount) any guest, to link them/ “all the things”- for them that we can click on from right there… I like how he reminds it ‘keeps him accountable (& On the things that he develops to help keep Us accountable too). You’re both amazing at this/ ty so much for All of it, & your genuine honesty/ openness!!
Can anyone give a bullet points or key time stamps? I don’t have the patience to listen to the whole thing 😂
I’m in the same boat you are, so I wish I could help.
I’m trying to watch it in segments instead of sitting down and watching the whole thing
here's a tip 2 months late. try playing a game while listening to it or even better, put it on a secondary screen. games i would recommend are potion craft and btd6. shooters could work but you would have to play at half capacity
OMG I NEED THIS going to campus for the first time next month and I am a bit frightened
There isn't much to be afraid of. College is better than high school IMO.
Make college afraid of Allison! 👊
Yup, friends are so distant after awhile. I lost touch with so many people after I stopped drinking and moved out of town. I moved back to my hometown a few years ago, but have no friends. Just my husband and immediate family. No one comes to visit and I don’t have a vehicle right now so I can’t go visit anyone.
I am 46 years old and recently got diagnosed. It makes so much sense , I am finally beginning to understand why I am how I am. your videos have been instumental in this journey. I am going back to school to get my RN . Classes start next week for the prereqs . Im worried. My short term memory is so bad. I appreciate you tackling these issues in your content.
This was an awesome live stream, I'm glad I watched it ☺☺☺
10:21 I'm a certified youth mental heath first aider and use grounding a lot for teens who are having panic/anxiety attacks. // As for 12:30 I have a huge problem with this at the moment (I'm currently taking classes to get my degree), but throw on 3 kids...it's rough...super rough. It got to the point where I need a clench guard because the stress caused me to start clenching my teeth (especially when studying...mainly statistics).
I find White Noise (specifically rain/thunder sounds etc) help me fall asleep way way faster. I recommend a podcast that is literally just different sounds to sleep too, called 'Relaxing White Noise' on Spotify. Definitely recommend trying it out. My mind can be summersaults and the white noise calms it down pretty quickly I find.
For me personally as long as I have the accommodations I think that this pandemic benefited me because now I'm starting to see more and more professors not teach as newer typically and stuff especially using zoom because zoom to me is just as horrifying as an in-person class and so as long as I have the accommodations I can teach myself with the lecture notes and choppers that are on the website and then if I have questions I can ask.
I’m 59. Now I look back on so many moments I was affected by this. “Back then” we learned to hide it - even tho we did not understand what “it” was. This is why I work night shift - hospice nurse. I have one pt and little distraction. People ask why I don’t switch to day. I’m know to do an excellent job at work, but I’m always afraid of being found out if I switch to days.
I wish I would have had this Fall 2019! Thank you ❤️
same!!
same. dropped 4 classes.
@how to adhd Just finding you and I so wish I could have seen this live. This is right on topic with what I am currently dealing with. Im 34 and my special brain struggles with ADD, Dyslexia, and Narcolepsy while also caring for my own family, including a ADHD child. I am working to finish up my 8 year college journey (on & off) and its never been more of a struggle than it is right now. Even with accomodations, I feel like Im fighting a loosing battle! HEEEEELPPP!!!!!
I'm just on minute 8 and I know I will be applying these helpful strategies to my 42yr old work life!
whenever i need to stay focused, i literally hide my phone away from me. yes, perhaps in another room, or just under the couch. because i know that out of sight is out of mind, i found that hiding it away from my sight made me forget that i even had a phone in the first place lmao. the only thing not good about this is that i forget to answer calls and respond to texts :'>
Love ya, Jessica. You're a rare gem.
For sleep: ask your psychiatrist! I take a mood stabilizer that helps me sleep. It puts a fade out on the random thoughts that keep me awake so I can fall asleep instead of trying to shut my brain up.
Thanks for the live stream! Can we do transition into the workforce next?
4 years late but I managed through with only one change in major 🎉😭
AWWWWWW YEAH 🙌
Last comment lol. My auto insurance was cancelled in my early 20s. I had to pay a lot. My forever workaround is to always adjust my car to be far enough behind any other car so I will have time always to stop or move my car.
We need a video on how to survive adulthood with ADHD! It's so hard to get meds prescribed by a GP and psychiatrists are expensive to see😢
Thank you so much for this!
You can always go back. Just because you dropped out does not mean you must stay dropped out.
How ironic that I have struggled to focus on this
Can you please give some tips on ADHD and work/jobs.. which career to choose , which not to.. how to do your best in your career path... What to do if u are struggling with your job.
There are definitely jobs that are better or worse with adhd. But most important is that you are passionate about your job. It tricks your brain into being motivated for your job
I could definitely do more ADHD podcast content!
I wish I had this before failing my first year and dropping out after being one of the smartest students in high school
This is really important for me to watch rn(according to myself) because I have adhd and I'm in my senior year of high school but I CANNOT FOCUS ON IT
Ahhh what? how did you know I needed this? this came at the perfect time!
college was hard for me last year I ended up dropping out the course as soon as second set started. sadly I had already paid the school fee. at first I was just masking the disappointment I had and finally broke. im starting school again and honestly I'm so freaking scared.
thanks a lot for the content.
I entered in the college about 3 years ago, but heavily struggling.
if i can't pass this semester, may be I'll be a drop-out :(
Quizlet helps me study and I got adhd and it has really saved me
School's starting in a month so thank you for this!
I wish I had this 4-5 years ago... I failed literally every one of my classes my first semester in college
Jason Stephenson has a great sleep meditation channel for sleep. It really helps.
That part about needing to keep going because your work isn't done, so that eats into your self-care time ... that is me
My friend is a psychologist in training, i told her that i have observed some symptoms of ADHD in myself that have aggravated in past one and half year in quarantine/isolation, she dismissed it by saying that , psychiatrists will give you medication which is not good try to avoid that and your problem is that you're not able to manage thing's in your life. Even tho you are on the right track in life, you don't realise it. You don't seem to have ADHD because it comes with hyperactivity, and has a time frame to get diagnosed when you are a child. I have known your since we were kids. So behaviour isn't consistent with ADHD.
Me watching this as I’m about to graduate college in 3 months 👁👄👁
Would greatly appreciate a vid of post-college or post-parents insurance cause I’m also scared of how I’m going to cope with my ADHD once I’m not covered by my parent’s insurance when I turn 26 in a few months
I enlisted. Told them I never had any diagnosis of anything. They didn't check. Coming home was EXTREME. I would definitely not recommend military for ADHD. It was amazing while in, but getting out.....
Great job guys!
I think the paintings are beautiful.💐My eyes like to rest there.
Make it urgent
Is something I did before watching this video, without knowing why lol.
For examople, I could never get myself to clean my room, once I set my timer OR took a video time lapse of me doing it, I got it done real fast.
I really liked that 3D dog video - could you please do more of them?
Thanks for this!
44:00 any particular speech-to-text programs that can be recommended?
Otter is a speech to text app AND records the audio, also.
Google docs has a free built in one and I've heard some good things about "dragon" which cost some money. If you're at a university or business, they may be able to offer it to you for free, so always check in with those :)
i've taken three semester in the past two years, since i've graduated and have done almost horrendously in everything. it's not that i'm not interested, it's that i lose interest and feel like i'm not getting enough time to myself or to spend with my family so i give up. i've wasted quite a lot of money and gone into debt and now i'm just terrified to go back after only getting medication a couple months ago and trying to overcome habitual aspects of my ADHD. hopefully this helps because i've almost completely decided that i can't do it🥺
Hey, how's it going?
really really helpful
I wish this vid had come out 7 years ago ;(
YAAAS MORE LIKE THIS!!!
Stream starts at 2:27
The smart pen is a God send
☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻 *OH MY GOSH, YES!!!!!!!!!!* Been using it for almost 9 years! NEVER going back to how I did it before!! I just wish I had known about it in high school - would have made things so much easier, but I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until 2 1/2 months before I graduated high school, and we spent the following year (so through my freshman year of college) learning about and testing out accommodations that would ACTUALLY benefit me (some of the accommodations suggested in my diagnosis report were what Patrick referred to when talking about how sometimes neurotypicals' suggestions are totally useless).
Where do I find this smart pen?
Would I be called Thrice Exceptional since I have Asperger's, ADHD, and am gifted?
I use fidgets while driving too!
Lolll 'I'm pretty sure I'd walk into a wall [if I walked around while reading]'
Oh, I have. Heh.
my younger(i.5 yr') sister has ocd. i have adhd. ofc untreated matured 24 yr old woman. how can i be less hated? Would you please make a video on this suggestion?
Just staying in college to avoid the ‘after college’… yes ☝️😅
Bruh Adhd helps me in every single except sleep, its like a way of balancing the powers you get when you have adhd
Just graduated, hardly get through. It was though 🙁.
Hey I just joined patron at the $5 level and can't get access to the discord. Said I don't have permission. Does it take time or is there something that can be done?
1:18:15 the entire channel pauses to impulse buy a book.
I am begging for help at this point but I am so scared.
do not be afraid to ask for help, it's really life changimg
I'm like, 4 years late to this
I had a friend. He studied nuclear physics. And when he was about to get his bachelor degree. He realized that he has to take one more exam, which he totally forgot. So he spends 3 days non-stop cramping. He chugged a cocktail ... take the biggest mug you have (for him it was 1L, yeah that big) fill it with coffee, take two tablespoons out. Add Redbull or your favourite energy drink. shove it into a microwave and eat it.
This is, how you destroy your heart, but 3 days, without sleep ...
Fun fact. He does not have a Bachelors degree. He went to the exam and fell asleep before his teacher finished the question. Now he has a heart condition, high blood pressure, and a secure job in some grocery shop. And the mark he needed... C or above, to be allowed to continue to a masters degree.