The "make your shower feel bougie and fix harsh lighting" thing is so real. Shower speaker, aurora borealis-style tiktok lights projector, and changing my shower head to one with a hard water filter/better spray/less harsh sound, GAME CHANGING
I'd really love a video like this focused on small spaces. It's really hard to avoid feeling like the hack here is "be able to afford being one person living in a place big enough for more than 4 people"
Woman. You got this down to an art. My place looks NOT as tidy as yours. If this is you "not cleaned" state, most of us are jealous. This would be my "most absolute perfect" state.
I don't like to clean, So I don't do mess. I sth.see houses full of clothes everywhere, pile of dishes etc and the owners are cleaning once a week. That's horrible for me because it means they are living with this mess 6 Day a week
A little tip for the trash bags, they usually come in rolls and you can take them out of the box they come in and put them straight in the bottom of the trash can, then put the bag in like usual. Any time you take a bag out, the new ones are already inside the can and you just unwind one of them off the roll and put it on. Keeps them super close but gets rid of the visual clutter of a box sitting out!
Yeah I've noticed after watching about a hundred vids on ADHD and autism that I already set up so many ways to manage tasks...I'm finally going to a psychiatrist in a month.
Actually when I found out I had ADHD, I also found out a lot of the ways I coped with it to make my life easier. I'm very visual so I usually leave things in my line of sight or near related things. I always just turn around to see what I missed when I'm leaving a room, etc.
I am now finally accepting the fact that I have ADHD and are working towards official diagnosis. My last doctor told me I was 25 and "it didn't really matter", essentially telling me to drop it but I know. I just signed up for all three classes and I am excited to hopefully find a way to make my life and space work well with my brain! Thank you.
I understand the battle, I just got my diagnosis at 25, a week before my birthday, and my first therapist told me "well, you haven't been fired, flunked out of school or exhibited any serious problems that we could use to diagnose you yet, so we'll just wait." This channel was a big help in deciding I was right and to keep looking towards getting help.
Thanks for sharing!! Two laundry hacks I've found that are helpful 1. Put a rack and hangers in the laundry room so (lets be honest, after "de-wrinkling" the clothes in the dryer on the touch-up mode for the 10th time because I forgot that they were in there) I can just pull out the clothes and hang them up RIGHT THERE. 2. Set a timer for 5 minutes - Start folding and putting away the clothes in the basket (that full basket that permanently lives at the foot of my bed) but ONLY for that 5-minute timer - magical!! My brain always thinks the basket is a 45-minute task, when in reality it's usually done in 4 :)
I also have a hanging rack above my dryer (it magnetizes on there!) and it was a game changer! As I accumulate empty hangers in my closet I move them to that rack so they are ready for when I do laundry
There's a "tube of toothpaste" psychology where when a person gives themselves a specific amount of time they will get things done much more easily, but if they give themselves any amount, or too long a time, then they relax and take forever. See also government program budgets. lol
One of the best things I ever did for my AuDHD was shaving my head. I would put off showering for way too long, both because of the sensory unpleasantness that you described of having to be undressed and cold and then wet and cold, but also because my hair was just such a big task. I had A LOT of it and it required a lot of maintenance. Eliminating that task entirely was a GAME CHANGER for my executive dysfunction. I know this isn’t a possibility or a want for everyone, but it made a huge difference for me. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to having long hair
I relate to this, but my hair is so thin that its completely dry in like a 5 minute blow dry session. it always annoyed me because it got into jackets and scarves and bag straps and the car window when rolling it up again, so now I have it at a lenght where a ponytail is possible but its not past my shoulders so it doesnt get caught in everything all the time!
God, I wish! I have thick, naturally curly hair and have ALWAYS hated doing it! Washing, drying, styling, and then cleaning up the shed-fall is SO much work! I WISH I had the guts to shave it! I used to have waist-length hair, which was beautiful, but I NEVER did anything with it besides a ponytail, which didn't look good at all. So, I got it cut to shoulder length, which forces me to style it daily - it LOOKS so much better on me now that I style it daily, but I hate how much work it is! 😢 you look super-cute with short hair in your pfp btw! 😊
Tips for washing/drying long hair and avoiding sensory issues, in case they might help someone (mostly adapted from curly hair care, but using them this way for sensory reasons would work for any type of hair. You'll need 2 old tshirts and a showercap): - Keep an old tshirt and a showercap hanging close enough to your shower you can grab them from in the shower. Wash your hair immediately, then put it in a tshirt hat, and put a showercap over that. Continue showering as normal. No wet hair feeling/cold dripping hair when you get out of the shower. (search 'tshirt plopping' to get an idea for how to do a tshirt hat, but it just has to get the hair off your neck and into the shower cap for this step since you'll redo it when you're out of the shower). - When you get out of the shower, take off the shower cap and the (likely structurally unstable) tshirt hat at least keeps your hair off your skin and from dripping. Redo the tshirt hat properly at this point with a clean, dry tshirt (using a flat surface, etc., so it's also a little more secure). I leave mine in until I'm literally about to leave the house because that is the extent of the styling I do (curly hair is great!), and by the time I take it off it's damp but dried enough that theres not that cold/wet feeling anymore. This hack helped me a lot (in addition to just using showercaps as mentioned to AVOID having to wash my hair!), so I hope this might also be helpful for someone else :) It also gave more purpose to old tshirts that were nostalgic but that I didn't wear as shirts anymore (and otherwise felt guilty/cluttered holding onto), or ones that got relegated to only occasional use as painting or hair-dying tshirts.
@@KitKat10281 I was in the same boat as you! If you are considering, I will say baby steps are a good way to get to it! If after having the shoulder length for a while you think to yourself “screw it, I want to chop it off,” DO IT!!! I went from mid back, to shoulder, and then, after I spent so long doing my hair for an event and it got ruined 10 minutes in because the humidity. The next morning, I got squeezed in for an appointment for a short cut and haven’t looked back! When I did decide to try a full buzz and decided I wasn’t a fan, having done the baby steps was nice since I could just tell myself it would only be 2-3 months before it was back at a length I wanted instead of 6+ haha!
HEY YOU! The one looking at this comment. It's okay that your house doesn't look as beautiful as this one. My 2 bedroom apartment looks like a tornado ran through it every day. I have absolutely no motivation to clean anymore. I started judging myself watching this but remembered that if I wouldn't think that about someone else's house I shouldn't be degrading myself for struggling with my ADHD/Depression symptoms. Your house is absolutely beautiful btw! 💖
Cleaning isn't exciting, that's for sure. But as someone who's older I can tell you… Better clean now than be sorry later. I enthusiastically put my stamp on making it enjoyable, whatever it is. And not putting yourself down if you don't get to it on your anticipated schedule if you try to create a schedule. it can save you a fortune and make it easier to clean your house if you change your HVAC filter regularly. I have to climb a ladder to do that so I try to keep my ladder close to where I have to do that. depending on how long you leave it, dust can become crust that is hard to remove. A lot harder to deal with. Oh and life without hairspray is better. How do you think I discover the dust =>crust? Family member using hairspray in the bathroom, between the hairspray and the moisture in the air and Lack of regular attention to dusting = nasty crusty surfaces that are hard to reach and deal with. I use hairspray maybe four times a year, and I use a baseboard duster on a stick every now and again and my bathroom is in a lot better condition than that one was.
The shower thing! I added a small space heater to all bathrooms with showers, it keeps me from shaking like a leaf when I get out soaking wet. Put it on right before you get in shower and the space will be warm when you get out so you can then turn it off
I used to know someone who had a heat lamp bulb in one of the recessed light fixtures of their bathroom ceiling, right above the shower mat. It was so gloriously cozy to step out of the shower, and since the towel hung nearby, it even absorbed some of the heat from the lamp while I was in the shower, which made it extra nice to wrap around myself. (You can also get heated towel bars!)
My boyfriend bought me a towel warmer for Christmas last year and it is a GAME CHANGER -we both agree it’s the best purchase we’ve made in years. The towels are nice & toasty and dry you off so much better too!
I just don't get out, I get myself 80% dry in there and then open the door / curtain My towel is hung on the end that's farthest from the water source and its going to get wet regardless so...
I store socks in the launch pad! Point of performance with putting on shoes and saves so many trips back to the bedroom! I am putting this here in case anyone (like me for 24 freaking years) always thought clothes must stay a bedroom thing. Genuinely has saved me so much frustration since moving them
Same!! It really makes things so much easier. I also have socks and underwear in the bathroom, because I always forget those things when I’m putting outfits together at night. And on days where showering is hard but I need to clean up and change clothes at least, just for my mental health, having them there removes a hurdle.
Yes! I believe my husband and I both have ADHD and we are constantly looking everywhere for socks 😢 we have a lot of work to do to build systems that work for us.
A few months ago (now that we no longer have a dog who eats shoes!) I put a three tier wheelie rack by the front door. This is where I am training the 2 youngest kiddos and myself to take off socks and shoes so we can find them again! This has cut out so much frustration for everyone on school mornings. And I don't even take their clean socks to their room anymore, just drop them in the appropriate basket of the rack after doing laundry.
I put the donation bags in my car and then drive them everywhere for YEARS before dropping them off at the donation bin that I drive past 10+ times per week.
literally me. I have a box in my car with donation clothes and items that has been sitting in my car for months and months. Not sure when it will get donated 😂
As someone with a lot of clothes, I like to limit the number of pairs of underwear I own, then when I start to run low, I know it's urgent that I need to do laundry! I have a few pairs that I like less that I keep as backups so that I don't actually run out. I helped my partner set up a similar thing where they wear fun t-shirts and we both get a visual reminder when they start wearing boring grey ones.
The underwear thing is great! I have about 17 pairs of my favorites. Enough for two weeks and a little more just in case. As they're black and I wear a variety of colors with mostly black pants, shorts, etc, two weeks is about perfect to have a decent sized load of black. It's usually not quite full even with some blue and grey things sometimes added. It's also easier to face putting it all away as it's not a full load.
I tried doing that lol, it made it worse. I just became stressed all the time and only doing loads of a few pairs of underwear and avoiding everything else. My brain will do everything in its power to do everything but the laundry 😪.
OMG I've never heard anyone else discuss the shower!!! God I hate it!!! I'm 64!!! The struggle and the feeling of despising the cold, the wet and cold. Often swimming, particularly fitness swimming at the gym. Ugh! Inching into the water, then inching out freezing. Also, love the fact that having STUFF out is a must!!! Geez! I'm so happy I'm not the only one! 😊
"Is it weird I'm just sitting on the toilet?" She asks her brother who is recording her after she states this is where she absolutely rips and does the biggest smelliest shits. Subscribed.
For me, no cabinet doors in the kitchen works well. Also, we use the following trick for dishwasher: the moment we empty it, we add detergent for the next wash. So, detergent door open->clean, detergent door closed -> dirty.
We use our dishwasher as dripping rack for hand washing sometimes but we have a similar type with the same concept. Put soap in it before the first dirty dish, so you know this is a load or dirty dishes!
AuDHD here and I am so with you on showers! I HATE them and I need to try the candles and putting the towels and robe closer to the shower trick, plus the shower cap! Brilliant! I wish I didn’t hate them so much, but one thing I try to do is make sure that I LOVE the scent of my skin and hair products so I get a good sensory boost from that to partner with the annoying sensory elements of the rest of it. It’s a journey figuring out our brains (mine too constantly thwarts my efforts to not be stinky) but having a loving mindset and sense of humor makes it that much better. Thank you for being authentic and for all that you do!
Yes! Instead of candles, I use a little waterproof LED speaker that glows different colors, I can put it right in the shower and have a little party. It was $17, and BONUS it’s shaped like a little pumpkin!
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent.
I cannot shower in the morning, i find it overwhelming and feels horrible. instead i put my torch on my phone in the sink (as calm lighting) and shower before bed each night. much more enjoyable and not overwhelming. I also use the small shower head that i can move lower so it doesn't go on my head. It's such a game changer when you listen to your body and how you feel and do things to help accommodate it rather than what is considered the 'norm'. Loving all these comments and so nice to relate to people.
Newly diagnosed ADHD adult, I have been struggling to understand what works and what doesn't for me in everyday life and struggling to become more self aware to create functional habits that work. Your house tour helped me start to identify these things as you went from room to room. The biggest eye opener was realizing if some things aren't out in the open or easily accessible I will not use them or forget about them... Everyone always says how I have so many clothes yet I only wear the clothing that I've left out in piles in my room, or laundry I haven't put away yet rather then opening my dark ass closet to dig through the clothes that are hung up or "hidden" in the dark abyss of the back corners. I am so glad TH-cam recommendations brought me to you and this video! :)
When watching your basket of clean laundry, I just realized that not having a dryer helps me tremendously ! Here in Spain, we usually hang our clothes to dry, and that makes me pick up each item infividually from the clothline or the wire thingy.. I then fold it on the spot and take a column of folded clothes to my closet (or sny surface in the surrounding area) That column may live there for weeks, but it's way less daunting to tackle than a basket of stuff that I would have to fold or hang.
Having a process, almost like the production process in a factory with optimisations makes even laundry possible :D I kid you not, this is what I do for a living these days, I opitimize processes and make procedures! Cause I am an expert by now, I’ve done it for myself my entire life and they turn out pretty idiot proof. Very valuable business skill if you seek a new job ;) For laundry my best hacks have been : - hanging my clothes on handers and then putting them on the clothline ( i hope that’s a word, let’s make it a word) This way they go straight in the wardrobe after, nice and unwrinkled. This saves me from ever ironing. (Bought a special steam iron, used it twice… not an iron person) It is the most major hack! - sorting clothes while I hang them to dry. I.e. Socks and undies have a place at the back corner of the clothlines, so people don’t see them from the street. Having to sort them at that stage actually made hanging laundry more fun and less daunting and eases the further steps greatly! - Picking them up is easier, I also fold tshirts and jeans straight there and put them in the laundry basket, already sorted and folded, beginning with big types of items at the pottom and building up to tshirts ets., so it becomes child’s play to put them in their respective space in the wardrobe. Hangers go on top of the laundry basket and keep everyting together until I reach the wardrobe :) - I use a netted sleeve for my undies and delicate clothing. This way I protect them from further damage. Also they are great for socks, I never lose socks anymore. I use the same sleeves when I travel to keep such small pieces of clothing easy to find. They go out of the net only when they are in their respective boxes in the wardrobe or hang in their corner :) - I invite my cat to play on the terrace while I hang clothes to keep me company or listen to podcasts while I pick up and fold it. This makes it more fun. - In good periods I keep to a schedule of doing laundry twice a week. Not letting it pile up and having a routine time makes it far less daunting. In bad periods, when I am sick for example, or while travelling upon return, when I have at least two baskets to wash… it becomes a burden, I avoid this at all cost. If I have a situation, I will spare time for reading and will do the laundry in the meantime. This makes it feel less like a day lost in waiting for a washing machine :D - I try to use two separate baskets when I wast blankets or linen, so it is easier to separate from the rest. Even better is washing large items as soon as you remove them from the bed for example. This way you also avoid the angst ;) I hope this alleviates you as much as it did me!
I love ADHD house tours because everything is just so practical??? I see a lot of tools that I use too, and sometimes it makes me wonder if I need to get assessed (not just from the home lifestyles, but lots of other similarities).
As a plant ADHD person I can give some advice as not everyone is the same. 1) Get plants that are known to be "tolerant". That won't die when do one mistake. That can endure being to wet or to dry. 2) Get information what soil and fertilizer particular plant needs. You only need to re-pot your plant once a year but it is worth to give them what they like in soil. This way they will feel better in general so you have less problems. 3) There are long lasting fertilizers in form of sticks that you put inside once every 3 months. I recommend that. 4) You should go for plants that have similar needs so you can do the same for all of them at the same time. 5) If you already know some of your habits take plants that will work with that. For example I have tendency to water them too much so I don't get cacti. And so far I killed to coffee plants so I don't get them anymore. 6) Same for your home environment. If you know the air is dry don't take on tropical plants. Because you will probably forget to turn on humidifier and you will hate cleaning it so you will stop using it. 7) I like having wall calendar with nice pictures. If you have one as well you can use it to track your activities related to your plants. I use it only for this purpose so I don't mix it with doctor's appointment for example. If something is in this calendar it means it is plant related. Every time I put fertilizer sticks I write when I should do it again so it pops up in three months. Same for different treatments or re-potting. I keep my fingers crossed for you and your plants! It isn't for everyone so don't beat yourself if you don't have a jungle in you place. For me plants are great and calm me down. Also it is a nice hobby that fits well with how we tend to learn. I get new plant, I learn everything about this plant because I'm excited and I'm done. I don't need to repeat it again but knowledge is there.
I used to have bins for all my projects and bags for all my donations too. Then one day I bought an oversized handmade basket for no reason other than I liked it. Now I use baskets for everything. Add people think I'm so organized now. 😂
First though: I am IMPRESSED by the size of that living room. And second though is impressed by tyhe amount of floor you can see, that's tidy in my books.
I love this and do so many of these things. I am ADHD, mom of 4 two of whom are ND probably ADHD. One thing I 've found is with so many people, having all the things out can be very overwelming so while we have a lot of baskets of routine based items, they all need to have a spot where they can be put away and only important and urgent things can stay out. Also, my husband totally makes fun of me for calling it a laundry machine. I have never heard anyone else call it that. ❤ i also hate the getting in and out of the shower and avoid it because it seems like so much work. I keep two deodorants and in my closet with all my clothes that and hung up in my closet that only has shut doors when i am overwhelmed and one in my bathroom get ready basket.
I am 26 and working towards an official diagnosis. I didn’t realize how many of these techniques I’m already implementing without having watched a lot of ADHD content. Like things being out on the counter all the time because otherwise, I will forget about it. Or having a launchpad (stealing this term) otherwise, I don’t know where my keys, wallet, or jacket is and I’ll be 15 minutes late everywhere. I thought for the longest time I was just a very forgetful or spacey person, but it turns out my brains wired a bit more chaotically. Thanks for sharing!
This video is fantastic! I just wanted to note that our vet said that storing kibble directly in plastic bins is a no-no; the airtight bins are great, but you should place the food bags inside them. It’s apparently really easy for tiny scratches to appear in the plastic and kibble dust gets trapped there and makes the food go rancid/encourages bacteria to grow, which can harm your pets or at least ruin an entire batch of food or turn your pets off of a specific food because they can tell it’s rancid even if we can’t.
Putting clothes onto hangers while they are still warm cuts way down on wrinkles and ironing. I set my alarm to check the dryer when it's done. Before I knew I had adhd I didn't bother trying to fix all of my issues, but now that I know it isn't just a personality problem, I like the challenge of finding hacks.
I LOVE socks with funky designs. But what I hated more was having to find a sock’s mate on laundry day. I tried embracing a “mismatched” sock look too- but found it tedious how often people would point it out and I would have to explain that yes, it was on purpose! So, my laundry hack: NO funky socks 😢 Only Black or White, from the same brand & only 2 variants (ankle or crew sock). Now, I just toss them loose in my sock drawer- no matching required. Do I miss cool, funky socks? Absolutely. But I get to keep my sanity. 😂
Love how each of us lands on different solutions to similar problems. I'm pretty sure my Mom also has ADHD - she likes all one style of sock, so there's little matching required. But bc of buying socks at different times and from different brands, there's minute differences in the placement of the seam, the width of the cuff, etc. So the matching requires looking at little details. My solution is to find mostly black socks with some pattern, preferably near the top of the sock, so I can easily spot the pairs in the pile of laundry. I think I would have liked your funky socks!
It's one more thing to remember to do, but amazon sells sockmate clips - you clip the matching socks together and throw them in the wash so they don't get lost. Or you can toss all your socks in a mesh bag like you'd use for delicates.
Get yourself a laundry net, those are usually for bras so it fits a bunch of socks. Put all the dirty socks inside. They will not get lost, when you take em out, they are all neatly in there and finding matching ones super easy :) From a fellow funky socks lover❤
For my “tier 1” times I have a clean basket and a dirty basket and exclusively live out of those baskets. Then when you need new clothes, the dirty basket turns into the clean basket and back and forth lol
This was so interesting because I hate hate hate hanging clothes, and folding is so much easier and doesn't give me that yucky feeling. Part of making my closet useable was installing open cubbies (I also love being able to visually see my clothes) and I can almost always put my clothes away the same day I washed them!
Don't take this the wrong way, but this really affirms that I need more space lol I have been so bogged down by how chaotic my space is but this was a good reminder that my space doesn't work for me, even if I hack it to oblivion. I luckily am looking to move but in the spring/summer so I just need to tide myself over until I'm not living in 500 sq ft with my sister and our dog
Same - my washing machine is in the garage where I have to unlock the door to get to it. It feels like climbing everest to do a washing load 😂 I'm hoping to buy next year & purposely looking for a house with the right kind of living space that enables me to live a low stress/low mental load & I can just exist.
i though the same thing, but its best to declutter, and create a system,organize(every item has a place). without a system even if you get a bigger space same problem+ excuse more stuff to buy
This was so validating! I would love to see a studio apartment version of this, bc all of my life activities are condensed into one room and it makes me feel CRAZY
Great tips! I learned a few things, but I have one to share too. I just recently put up a couple of simple shelves in my bathroom and got a few cheap, plastic baskets (no lids!) that fit on them. I, too, need my stuff to be out and easily accessible, but then I don't clean the surfaces as often as I should if I have a bunch of stuff to move. This solves that problem. I organized the baskets by task: shower, face care, tooth care, hair, ... When it's time for a certain task, I pull down that basket, work right out of it, and put it back on the shelf when I'm done. So far, it's working great and my bathroom looks cleaner than ever, which resolves a lot of background anxiety.
I was just recently (officially) diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t realize that a lot of things you showed are things that I’ve been implementing in my space as well. Crazy how big of a difference they can make
6:55 It's great putting your camera operator onscreen! I was thinking of how great it is that you had someone running your camera and then he sneezed and I got to see him. Thank your brother for me.
It's reassuring to see that some of the things we do are so similar. I wish I had as much space as you! We are a family of 6 NDs and I'm still working on finding hacks that work for the kids spaces. Normalise team NEVER FOLD 😁
The effort you must have put into getting all these systems in place, wow. I space that works with my ADHD is such a great thing. How long have a gone, many decades, feeling like I just can’t “life” the easy stuff. Simple things, like doing laundry, dishes, keeping my apartment organized. Everyone making it seem so obvious but it stresses me out to the point of being emotional about it. Then I remembered I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child. But never being told anything beyond…it makes you hyper. And I’m not hyper. Thank you
I am so glad I found you!!! Thank you for such great tips! Here is one of mine: Turn all your hangers around backwards. When you wear something, hang it back up the right way around. You can easily see what you haven't worn. After a season, or whatever your time limit is, donate everything not turned around.
Clean laundry baskets! I don't put away clothes. I'm currently mentally gearing to get rid of one of the two dressers in my room that neither my husband or I use. The clothes that are in there are never worn because they don't exist. 🤣 Except socks and underwear. Those don't get folded though and putting them in a drawer is fine cuz... well... you can't really forget you need those and digging for them is far more annoying than sorting them all out of the pile at once when the laundry is done. No folding here either. Laundry is sorted into neat... stacks? lines? Turned right side out, laid all the same way and in a stack so you can see and extract what you need. Then those are laid in a laundry basket. (PS That process sounds far neater than it actually is but it works for me.) I also used to have mountains of clothing. I no longer do. I have enough clothes for a week with a few extras for occasions. Socks, underwear, all of it. The less I have, the less laundry there is and the more that forces me to do it. I did the same thing with dishes. I used to hang on to anything that was still good when I had to change things out. No more! Out it goes. I had so many cups, plates, and cutlery that I was washing dishes for 15 people that don't live here. I have 8 of most things so that I can have friends over but that's it. Two days is all we can go in this family before something has to be washed. Paper plates and plastic cups and forks are forbidden on the premises because we will use them instead of dishes. Those are bought for occasions only and we don't keep spares. They go with someone else. My kitchen isn't big enough to have the dishwasher open all the time so I have a sign that hangs over it that says 'Clean' or 'Dirty', sometimes I even remember to use it. 😁I have no other kitchen hacks yet. It's so small I have no choice but to use the cabinets. Every bathroom has its own stuff. Cleaner, toilet paper, towels, plunger, toilet brush. I do not ferry things between them. Most stuff comes in multiples anyway. I have got to figure out my office. It's my first one ever and there are so many things that I need to figure out. Wish me luck!
I can definitely co-sign the landing pad, doom box, and keeping things out so they can be seen tips; they’ve transformed my life. 🙏 so excited to try some of the other suggestions!!
Here's a little tip, how to remember and let your family members know if the dishes in a dishwasher are dirty or clean. Fill out the dishwasher detergent dispenser when you start loading your dishwasher. So if it's closed and filled, that means the dishes are dirty. If the dispenser is open and empty, that means the dishes are clean.
Okay, loving this channel! Just found it a few days ago, and my mind is blown! I’m 51 and thought all my stuff everywhere on every flat surface, a new “system” in every box, dishes never done because touching water often repels me, plants that get watered once a week and are forgiving, and complete shut down every time I try to “clean” or “simplify” was just me or just a family thing. I had never correlated all this to hyper focus + sensory issues maybe ADHD AuDHD combo! Seriously!! That said, I did stumble on my favorite laundry system so far - a five-hook-over-door-mounted coat-hanger with five canvas bags from the grocery store - one bag for each load type - which for me is by color-family - reds-pinks-purples, browns-greens, whites, blues, greys. When I change, clothes go directly into their correct load bag. Nothing on the ground, no stacks of baskets, no sorting later, no boxy laundry station that I forget is there and trip over. Bags are at eye level on my bedroom door. I wash the canvas bag with the load, then pull the clean canvas bag out of the dryer first, then stuff all the clean clothes back into the bag to take back to my bedroom. I like folding, but if I don’t have time, I put the clean laundry bag on the floor next to the dresser, so I can grab what I need until I have time to fold and put away. Thank you for this channel, and thank you everyone for your hack-shares too! So helpful, and great to recognize, ah, this is a thing, and it has REASONS, and hacks to manage those reasons! Love it!!
My hack: Plastic organizer with drawers in bathroom. I get everything out that I'll need for a.m./p.m. routine, bath or hair washing and then 👍put each item back in the drawer as soon as use it!👍 It's like a visual checklist 😊 I organize as follows: Drawer 1: things for a.m. routine: tooth brush, tooth paste, deodorant, etc. DRAWER 2: Hair gel, heat protection, shine serum, etc. Drawer 3: crap I seldom use and extra toothpaste, shampoo, etc. SO, my counter stays tidy, everything is handy and I can do it on autopilot.
I keep my garbage bags at the bottom of the bin, under the current bag. When I take out the full bag, I find the new bags on the bottom. Like this it’s less clutter around.
Thanks for sharing! One thing is, the cats would probably love it if you moved the cat tree in front of the window. Ours love looking outside all day, and the higher they are, the happier they are. It's crazy how a lot of the compensation strategies we've figured out are similar to yours, and good to see it's not just how our brains work xD
Your house is so gorgeous, esp all that natural light in each room. OMG!! I don't know if this is a US thing (big houses?) but you have SO much room, you're blessed! Housing in Australia is getting crazy tight and extremely expensive. Diagnosed only 3yrs ago and I figured out many of these hacks too - esp clothes hanging and visible. My friends tease me that my space is like a fashion showroom - but now I actually put things away. There's zero friction to the act of hanging vs folding! And all products out on bench in bathroom in the order I use them. Not zen nor aesthetic, but functional for us ADHDers. Thanks for the video!
Thank you for your complete honesty!!! I absolutely despise showering, it seems like so much work but I feel fab after a shower so I put out my favourite scents the night before with towels to motivate me while brushing my teeth. I wash my hair in the kitchen sink, it’s long and I only have to wash it 2-3 times a week. It’s an hour long process to wash, dry and style. My choice to have long hair so I deal with it. I do dip in the shower every other day super fast! I’m clean, smell nice and don’t offend myself or others 😂😂. It took me ages to get this system down but it is finally part of my “programme” as I call it! I also have a mantra, Don’t put it down! Put it away! It’s changed my life. I had to find homes for everything first but they have homes and live there happily.
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I am getting more and more convinced I have it. There was some really useful tips in this video, some of which I already do. But one thing you said really hit me and that was when you talked about having your routine up on your wall and you change it up regularly because otherwise it goes into the background and you don't see it. I do that with a lot of my organisation routines and I think if I change my routines every now and again and change the way I've recorded my to-do lists it might keep me more on track. I'm going to give it to go
If you keep the same routine list but want to change the look, if you type it up and decorate it different ways, print all the different versions at once, then randomly select from them to put up and rotate them out. That way you don’t have to remember to print new ones!
@@heathermakesartGood idea! Something as simple as festive borders for whatever holidays you celebrate, or appropriate for the seasons changing where you live.
I make sure I can pull my towel into the shower when I'm done, so that I don't have to open the door and get cold after that warm shower. I just dry off before I get out 😋
Lol your chaotic is my guest-ready tidy 😂 And also i totally feel you on what your brother summarized -- without a reason or visual trigger, I will not shower or use deodorant. Am I stinky? Maybe, I don't really know. I just smell like myself to me. 🤷♀️ Damn your content always makes me feel seen and like less of a freak for my failings. ❤
We need a spin off video on how to own plants as someone with ADHD. It's like food. Needs it's own segment. I am a plant lover, but also a plant killer (accidently). ALMOST ready to phone it in and invest in good faux plants.
Thank you for sharing this! I've been struggling with accepting that I have ADHD for over a year at this point, and am finally getting a diagnosis in two weeks. I'm still masking, saying that I need an official diagnosis before doing anything... Seeing this content, where you're so kind and supportive of yourself, is really encouraging. It helps me see that one day, maybe, I too can love myself for me and not be afraid to show it. ❤ In the meantime, thanks for the hacks! 😊
I love this!!! Thanks for sharing! I too hate showers and tend to try to avoid if i can but these tips will help. Also i have had so much shame in my life for feeling the need to have my laundry and clothing be so visual like leaving closer door open. I love how you work with your brain. This was so helpful
Wow, I love these practical hacks!!! I realized so many similar accommodations that I use too and didn’t know why I did. I’m a newbie to the busy bee adhd fam here and so far really appreciating these videos❤
Thank you for explaining all of these sensory experiences! I am just now accepting and understanding why these some of these things are so hard for me. I 100% agree with the laundry monster. I always have clean clothes in my room waiting for the huge special event of putting them all away. I always have bags full of stuff to donate. I need help with lighting. I'm starting to realize my crappy lighting makes me angry and/or lazy. I am excited to keep following along with you because I do have very similar experiences aesthetically and sensory. Thank you for your help!!!!
Just a note for those having trouble waking up - I'm sure it's nicer to get up in nice warm light rather than a pitch dark room. But for people with real SAD (seasonal affective disorder) those alarm clock lights aren't a replacement for a true light therapy lamp. For one thing, because there's a certain level/degree of light needed to replicate sunlight (trust me, the real light therapy lamps are bright!) and secondly, because you need to have your eyes open and receiving the light straight toward your eyeballs at a particular distance, in order to receive the therapeutic effect. ❤
I have been putting off watching this video, because if I don’t know the life hacks, then I can’t feel bad for not trying them. Thank you for validating my frustration with all my therapists whose only advice was to “start with doing one small thing.” My parents both grew up with hoarders, and their reaction was to keep a very clean house, and when something is put away, you can’t see it. So I really don’t have a gauge for what a functional, organized space looks like. Most of my house is “doom boxes,” which I’ve called “cleverly designed piles.” Plus, all surfaces are covered with things that I was once in the middle of, or the things are “on their way” somewhere else.
my favourite for laundry is having the NYSJÖN laundry cabinet from IKEA. It has two sections - lights and darks. One full basket = one full load in my washing machine. So now whenever it is full I have to immediately take that basket to be washed. It has been a good while since I've done 10+ loads of washing in one day.
This is so interesting! I think because I also have really bad anxiety, I HATE having things out, and having clutter LOL, but, I think having easy access to everything you need is a great idea. For me I would just need to keep it in a box or container or sorts that hides the things I need. Super interesting how everyone experiences ADHD differently 🙌
Yeahhhhh, these things (esp. showering & laundry piles) described me as a teen, but as an adult it's a "Nope" 🙅🏽♀️ Growing up in a hoarder family + being teased for not showering "helped". The trauma will teach ya 😕
9:52 I moved my star projector into the bathroom to make baths and showers magical. I have a specific playlist that it has plays from duration of a bath. It’s all vaporwave pop sounding music that sounds celestial.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Things that immediately come to mind while watching this video: - Please, leave your washing machine lid open otherwise you will get mold/mildew and smells. Eww. - Re: the "doom box", that's a basket. Definitely a basket. - Aesthetics are functional for me. If something looks nice/tidy I function better. Stuff out in the open overwhelms me to a point where I can literally cease to function or simply avoid the thing until it's absolutely intolerable and must be dealt with. I need both aesthetics and functionality. This is why I buy baskets.
for the getting out of the shower transition my best trick is to have a small space heater running and pointing directly at where i’m going to be when i get out of the shower so it’s kinda nice and warm :’)
I'm OCD and prefer a very organized space. Watching videos like this helps me to organize the house in such a way that matches my husband's ADHD needs. So thank you 😊
I have a studio apartment essentially, only extra is an alcove for my bed, and a doom closet. These hacks take a lot of space. Have you done tiny spaces hacks with clients?
i learned a year or two ago that if i don't put my laundry away IMMEDIATELY after it's done, then i simply never will. i also get easily visually overstimulated, so i can tell that having piles of laundry around usually makes me anxious. both of those realizations have been so helpful for building a good laundry system. plus having a great big drop/doom basket in my room for things to deal with later, which usually has things like returns i need to make, clothes that need to be mended, an object idk what to do with, and all of the clothes that would ordinarily end up in the "clothing chair" or on the floor. i tend to go through the clothes once a week when i do laundry to see if anything needs to get tossed in the wash, or if i wore it for 10 minutes and it can actually get put back away. otherwise, i go through the rest of the stuff every month or two once i'm starting to overflow the basket regularly hahaha
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent. was able to get swivel desk chair for school, havent had any more weekly "out of seat complaints"
You know what... i have lived with a too small closet for too long. I have a tiny closet to hang things, and two dressers. I fucking hate folding. Im putting that on my list, to save up for the sort of racks and ikea closet thing where i can just hang *all* of my clothes. The dressers can be for storing my creative stuff or stuff for my hobbies. Racks for clothes. And to trade a tip. One of my weirdly proudest moments was the sock battle i won. I bought socks all in the same color and style. I bought lingerie bags (mostly for bras, but now for socks too). And i put a basket under the chair that is my "launch chair". (Which is where i keep my work sneakers, my purse, umbrella, sometimes a sweat shirt, and reusable grocery bags or anything that needs to go out to the car regularly). So when i come home my socks can come off immediately with my shoes. And they have their own dirty laundry basket that when its full, can be poured straight into a lingerie bag. No picking out socks from the basket. No losing socks or running out. Its entirely its own laundry system. It only gets included into the clothing laundering system as part of the load. It may not be needed for most people, but it is absolutely necessary for me. I never needed validation for the way i set up my area or *why* it was set up a certain way. Im always confident in my reasoning and why i want or need it a certain way. But seeing someone else showcase their space and so specifically echo my own reasonings for things or use similar hacks is such a relief. Its very cathartic to know someone else is using those hacks effectively. Its a relief to see a setup i can actually comprehend in the day to day. I know a lot of lifestyle gurus are showing an "ideal", but its so often on another plane of existence to me that its like a fairy showing me how their magic house works, how they often fly from tree branch room to tree branch room and exercise by dancing on flower petals. This is a *beautiful* system and home and it feels accesible. And that means *so much* to me.
Subscribed! Here's what I love about you and your videos!! You narrate so I can listen if I'm busy. You do a lot of what I do. You do whatever the @#$%&* you want, what works for you! A lot of your tips appeal to self-care and emotional wellness. I relate a lot to the bird songs, lighting, activity centers, launch pads and get ready area, stations for everything...awesome!!! I also love that you're celebrating and being honest with being imperfect. Unapologetically enjoying life! And you're so funny, wish you were my sister!!
You have no idea how happy I am to find there is another person besides me that mixes up dishwasher and laundry machine. Thank you for not editing that out! 😂 ❤
I find it hilarious that your cable management was 'exposed' with all the edits as 'oh god why' but my cable management would probably send anyone crying and running 😂😂
The "make your shower feel bougie and fix harsh lighting" thing is so real. Shower speaker, aurora borealis-style tiktok lights projector, and changing my shower head to one with a hard water filter/better spray/less harsh sound, GAME CHANGING
I'd really love a video like this focused on small spaces. It's really hard to avoid feeling like the hack here is "be able to afford being one person living in a place big enough for more than 4 people"
Woman. You got this down to an art. My place looks NOT as tidy as yours. If this is you "not cleaned" state, most of us are jealous. This would be my "most absolute perfect" state.
I don't like to clean, So I don't do mess. I sth.see houses full of clothes everywhere, pile of dishes etc and the owners are cleaning once a week. That's horrible for me because it means they are living with this mess 6 Day a week
@@ErgalitiousI wish I could not make mess, I leave it everywhere I go 😅 my bf doesn't like it and i dont know how not to.
Exactly what I was thinking, her messy is my like ideal perfect 🤣
A little tip for the trash bags, they usually come in rolls and you can take them out of the box they come in and put them straight in the bottom of the trash can, then put the bag in like usual. Any time you take a bag out, the new ones are already inside the can and you just unwind one of them off the roll and put it on. Keeps them super close but gets rid of the visual clutter of a box sitting out!
This is the way!!
As long as the bag doesn’t rip or something leaks out and soaks the bags at the bottom on the can.
I do this, changed my bag game
^^^ I'm going to try that right now!! BUT ..Make sure they are good trash bags and the in-use bag doesn't leak all over the new ones! Eeew!
@@Kate-zt1twI said the same thing. Lol!
The inverse diagnosis-when you realize you’ve naturally done almost all these EXACT hacks yourself for your own ADHD 😂
I watch a lot of decluttering and organizing channels but stumbling across How to ADHD's house tour video was what made me realize I have ADHD.
I have done a lot of these too...
Yeah I've noticed after watching about a hundred vids on ADHD and autism that I already set up so many ways to manage tasks...I'm finally going to a psychiatrist in a month.
Actually when I found out I had ADHD, I also found out a lot of the ways I coped with it to make my life easier.
I'm very visual so I usually leave things in my line of sight or near related things.
I always just turn around to see what I missed when I'm leaving a room, etc.
I am now finally accepting the fact that I have ADHD and are working towards official diagnosis. My last doctor told me I was 25 and "it didn't really matter", essentially telling me to drop it but I know. I just signed up for all three classes and I am excited to hopefully find a way to make my life and space work well with my brain! Thank you.
Your doctor meant, "it really didnt matter to him"!. Not an intelligent doctor.
Time to find yourself a new Dr! Look for a younger, more recently graduated one.
So proud of you for looking out for yourself!! Definitely time for new support systems!
horrible docter
I understand the battle, I just got my diagnosis at 25, a week before my birthday, and my first therapist told me "well, you haven't been fired, flunked out of school or exhibited any serious problems that we could use to diagnose you yet, so we'll just wait." This channel was a big help in deciding I was right and to keep looking towards getting help.
Thanks for sharing!!
Two laundry hacks I've found that are helpful
1. Put a rack and hangers in the laundry room so (lets be honest, after "de-wrinkling" the clothes in the dryer on the touch-up mode for the 10th time because I forgot that they were in there) I can just pull out the clothes and hang them up RIGHT THERE.
2. Set a timer for 5 minutes - Start folding and putting away the clothes in the basket (that full basket that permanently lives at the foot of my bed) but ONLY for that 5-minute timer - magical!! My brain always thinks the basket is a 45-minute task, when in reality it's usually done in 4 :)
I also have a hanging rack above my dryer (it magnetizes on there!) and it was a game changer! As I accumulate empty hangers in my closet I move them to that rack so they are ready for when I do laundry
Yes! Hanging rack next to the dryer is Amazing
There's a "tube of toothpaste" psychology where when a person gives themselves a specific amount of time they will get things done much more easily, but if they give themselves any amount, or too long a time, then they relax and take forever.
See also government program budgets. lol
Yep, I always think a job is going to take forever. I am 74 and still amazed when I accomplish a job in a fraction of the time I thought it would.
That timer thing- I doing!
One of the best things I ever did for my AuDHD was shaving my head. I would put off showering for way too long, both because of the sensory unpleasantness that you described of having to be undressed and cold and then wet and cold, but also because my hair was just such a big task. I had A LOT of it and it required a lot of maintenance. Eliminating that task entirely was a GAME CHANGER for my executive dysfunction. I know this isn’t a possibility or a want for everyone, but it made a huge difference for me. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to having long hair
I complately understand. I use to have realy long hair but now when I have it very short it makes my life easier
I relate to this, but my hair is so thin that its completely dry in like a 5 minute blow dry session. it always annoyed me because it got into jackets and scarves and bag straps and the car window when rolling it up again, so now I have it at a lenght where a ponytail is possible but its not past my shoulders so it doesnt get caught in everything all the time!
God, I wish! I have thick, naturally curly hair and have ALWAYS hated doing it! Washing, drying, styling, and then cleaning up the shed-fall is SO much work! I WISH I had the guts to shave it! I used to have waist-length hair, which was beautiful, but I NEVER did anything with it besides a ponytail, which didn't look good at all. So, I got it cut to shoulder length, which forces me to style it daily - it LOOKS so much better on me now that I style it daily, but I hate how much work it is! 😢 you look super-cute with short hair in your pfp btw! 😊
Tips for washing/drying long hair and avoiding sensory issues, in case they might help someone (mostly adapted from curly hair care, but using them this way for sensory reasons would work for any type of hair. You'll need 2 old tshirts and a showercap):
- Keep an old tshirt and a showercap hanging close enough to your shower you can grab them from in the shower. Wash your hair immediately, then put it in a tshirt hat, and put a showercap over that. Continue showering as normal. No wet hair feeling/cold dripping hair when you get out of the shower. (search 'tshirt plopping' to get an idea for how to do a tshirt hat, but it just has to get the hair off your neck and into the shower cap for this step since you'll redo it when you're out of the shower).
- When you get out of the shower, take off the shower cap and the (likely structurally unstable) tshirt hat at least keeps your hair off your skin and from dripping. Redo the tshirt hat properly at this point with a clean, dry tshirt (using a flat surface, etc., so it's also a little more secure). I leave mine in until I'm literally about to leave the house because that is the extent of the styling I do (curly hair is great!), and by the time I take it off it's damp but dried enough that theres not that cold/wet feeling anymore.
This hack helped me a lot (in addition to just using showercaps as mentioned to AVOID having to wash my hair!), so I hope this might also be helpful for someone else :) It also gave more purpose to old tshirts that were nostalgic but that I didn't wear as shirts anymore (and otherwise felt guilty/cluttered holding onto), or ones that got relegated to only occasional use as painting or hair-dying tshirts.
@@KitKat10281 I was in the same boat as you! If you are considering, I will say baby steps are a good way to get to it! If after having the shoulder length for a while you think to yourself “screw it, I want to chop it off,” DO IT!!!
I went from mid back, to shoulder, and then, after I spent so long doing my hair for an event and it got ruined 10 minutes in because the humidity. The next morning, I
got squeezed in for an appointment for a short cut and haven’t looked back! When I did decide to try a full buzz and decided I wasn’t a fan, having done the baby steps was nice since I could just tell myself it would only be 2-3 months before it was back at a length I wanted instead of 6+ haha!
HEY YOU! The one looking at this comment. It's okay that your house doesn't look as beautiful as this one. My 2 bedroom apartment looks like a tornado ran through it every day. I have absolutely no motivation to clean anymore. I started judging myself watching this but remembered that if I wouldn't think that about someone else's house I shouldn't be degrading myself for struggling with my ADHD/Depression symptoms. Your house is absolutely beautiful btw! 💖
Cleaning isn't exciting, that's for sure. But as someone who's older I can tell you… Better clean now than be sorry later. I enthusiastically put my stamp on making it enjoyable, whatever it is. And not putting yourself down if you don't get to it on your anticipated schedule if you try to create a schedule. it can save you a fortune and make it easier to clean your house if you change your HVAC filter regularly. I have to climb a ladder to do that so I try to keep my ladder close to where I have to do that. depending on how long you leave it, dust can become crust that is hard to remove. A lot harder to deal with. Oh and life without hairspray is better. How do you think I discover the dust =>crust? Family member using hairspray in the bathroom, between the hairspray and the moisture in the air and Lack of regular attention to dusting = nasty crusty surfaces that are hard to reach and deal with. I use hairspray maybe four times a year, and I use a baseboard duster on a stick every now and again and my bathroom is in a lot better condition than that one was.
Thank you! That's what I was thinking the whole time, especially the "reality train".
I have been buying cubicle shelves with plastic baskets because I have NO closet space or pretty much space anywhere 😅 but thank you for this comment
Click below to watch? The video below isn't one of yours. What video? RE: The routines sheet in your bathroom.
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The shower thing! I added a small space heater to all bathrooms with showers, it keeps me from shaking like a leaf when I get out soaking wet. Put it on right before you get in shower and the space will be warm when you get out so you can then turn it off
I used to know someone who had a heat lamp bulb in one of the recessed light fixtures of their bathroom ceiling, right above the shower mat. It was so gloriously cozy to step out of the shower, and since the towel hung nearby, it even absorbed some of the heat from the lamp while I was in the shower, which made it extra nice to wrap around myself. (You can also get heated towel bars!)
Same! A space heater in my bathroom is an absolute essential.
My boyfriend bought me a towel warmer for Christmas last year and it is a GAME CHANGER -we both agree it’s the best purchase we’ve made in years. The towels are nice & toasty and dry you off so much better too!
I just don't get out, I get myself 80% dry in there and then open the door / curtain
My towel is hung on the end that's farthest from the water source and its going to get wet regardless so...
I came here to say this! A space heater in the bathroom is a must for me, especially in the winter.
I store socks in the launch pad! Point of performance with putting on shoes and saves so many trips back to the bedroom! I am putting this here in case anyone (like me for 24 freaking years) always thought clothes must stay a bedroom thing. Genuinely has saved me so much frustration since moving them
Same!! It really makes things so much easier. I also have socks and underwear in the bathroom, because I always forget those things when I’m putting outfits together at night. And on days where showering is hard but I need to clean up and change clothes at least, just for my mental health, having them there removes a hurdle.
Yes! I believe my husband and I both have ADHD and we are constantly looking everywhere for socks 😢 we have a lot of work to do to build systems that work for us.
A few months ago (now that we no longer have a dog who eats shoes!) I put a three tier wheelie rack by the front door. This is where I am training the 2 youngest kiddos and myself to take off socks and shoes so we can find them again! This has cut out so much frustration for everyone on school mornings. And I don't even take their clean socks to their room anymore, just drop them in the appropriate basket of the rack after doing laundry.
My underwear are in the bathroom. My socks in the dining room. How weird I am.
Same
I put the donation bags in my car and then drive them everywhere for YEARS before dropping them off at the donation bin that I drive past 10+ times per week.
So relatable!
Me too
literally me. I have a box in my car with donation clothes and items that has been sitting in my car for months and months. Not sure when it will get donated 😂
As someone with a lot of clothes, I like to limit the number of pairs of underwear I own, then when I start to run low, I know it's urgent that I need to do laundry! I have a few pairs that I like less that I keep as backups so that I don't actually run out.
I helped my partner set up a similar thing where they wear fun t-shirts and we both get a visual reminder when they start wearing boring grey ones.
I've done exactly the same thing 😂 it works! Have to do the laundry every 2 (ish) weeks now
The underwear thing is great! I have about 17 pairs of my favorites. Enough for two weeks and a little more just in case. As they're black and I wear a variety of colors with mostly black pants, shorts, etc, two weeks is about perfect to have a decent sized load of black. It's usually not quite full even with some blue and grey things sometimes added. It's also easier to face putting it all away as it's not a full load.
I tried doing that lol, it made it worse. I just became stressed all the time and only doing loads of a few pairs of underwear and avoiding everything else. My brain will do everything in its power to do everything but the laundry 😪.
That’s genius
OMG I've never heard anyone else discuss the shower!!! God I hate it!!! I'm 64!!! The struggle and the feeling of despising the cold, the wet and cold. Often swimming, particularly fitness swimming at the gym. Ugh! Inching into the water, then inching out freezing. Also, love the fact that having STUFF out is a must!!! Geez! I'm so happy I'm not the only one! 😊
"Is it weird I'm just sitting on the toilet?" She asks her brother who is recording her after she states this is where she absolutely rips and does the biggest smelliest shits. Subscribed.
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For me, no cabinet doors in the kitchen works well. Also, we use the following trick for dishwasher: the moment we empty it, we add detergent for the next wash. So, detergent door open->clean, detergent door closed -> dirty.
We use our dishwasher as dripping rack for hand washing sometimes but we have a similar type with the same concept. Put soap in it before the first dirty dish, so you know this is a load or dirty dishes!
AuDHD here and I am so with you on showers! I HATE them and I need to try the candles and putting the towels and robe closer to the shower trick, plus the shower cap! Brilliant! I wish I didn’t hate them so much, but one thing I try to do is make sure that I LOVE the scent of my skin and hair products so I get a good sensory boost from that to partner with the annoying sensory elements of the rest of it. It’s a journey figuring out our brains (mine too constantly thwarts my efforts to not be stinky) but having a loving mindset and sense of humor makes it that much better. Thank you for being authentic and for all that you do!
Yes! Instead of candles, I use a little waterproof LED speaker that glows different colors, I can put it right in the shower and have a little party. It was $17, and BONUS it’s shaped like a little pumpkin!
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent.
I cannot shower in the morning, i find it overwhelming and feels horrible. instead i put my torch on my phone in the sink (as calm lighting) and shower before bed each night. much more enjoyable and not overwhelming. I also use the small shower head that i can move lower so it doesn't go on my head. It's such a game changer when you listen to your body and how you feel and do things to help accommodate it rather than what is considered the 'norm'. Loving all these comments and so nice to relate to people.
Newly diagnosed ADHD adult, I have been struggling to understand what works and what doesn't for me in everyday life and struggling to become more self aware to create functional habits that work. Your house tour helped me start to identify these things as you went from room to room. The biggest eye opener was realizing if some things aren't out in the open or easily accessible I will not use them or forget about them... Everyone always says how I have so many clothes yet I only wear the clothing that I've left out in piles in my room, or laundry I haven't put away yet rather then opening my dark ass closet to dig through the clothes that are hung up or "hidden" in the dark abyss of the back corners. I am so glad TH-cam recommendations brought me to you and this video! :)
When watching your basket of clean laundry, I just realized that not having a dryer helps me tremendously ! Here in Spain, we usually hang our clothes to dry, and that makes me pick up each item infividually from the clothline or the wire thingy.. I then fold it on the spot and take a column of folded clothes to my closet (or sny surface in the surrounding area) That column may live there for weeks, but it's way less daunting to tackle than a basket of stuff that I would have to fold or hang.
That totally makes sense!!
I'm in the same boat but nearly 40!the struggle is real😅
No dryer here too, makes it easier for me
Having a process, almost like the production process in a factory with optimisations makes even laundry possible :D I kid you not, this is what I do for a living these days, I opitimize processes and make procedures! Cause I am an expert by now, I’ve done it for myself my entire life and they turn out pretty idiot proof. Very valuable business skill if you seek a new job ;)
For laundry my best hacks have been :
- hanging my clothes on handers and then putting them on the clothline ( i hope that’s a word, let’s make it a word) This way they go straight in the wardrobe after, nice and unwrinkled. This saves me from ever ironing. (Bought a special steam iron, used it twice… not an iron person) It is the most major hack!
- sorting clothes while I hang them to dry. I.e. Socks and undies have a place at the back corner of the clothlines, so people don’t see them from the street. Having to sort them at that stage actually made hanging laundry more fun and less daunting and eases the further steps greatly!
- Picking them up is easier, I also fold tshirts and jeans straight there and put them in the laundry basket, already sorted and folded, beginning with big types of items at the pottom and building up to tshirts ets., so it becomes child’s play to put them in their respective space in the wardrobe. Hangers go on top of the laundry basket and keep everyting together until I reach the wardrobe :)
- I use a netted sleeve for my undies and delicate clothing. This way I protect them from further damage. Also they are great for socks, I never lose socks anymore. I use the same sleeves when I travel to keep such small pieces of clothing easy to find. They go out of the net only when they are in their respective boxes in the wardrobe or hang in their corner :)
- I invite my cat to play on the terrace while I hang clothes to keep me company or listen to podcasts while I pick up and fold it. This makes it more fun.
- In good periods I keep to a schedule of doing laundry twice a week. Not letting it pile up and having a routine time makes it far less daunting. In bad periods, when I am sick for example, or while travelling upon return, when I have at least two baskets to wash… it becomes a burden, I avoid this at all cost. If I have a situation, I will spare time for reading and will do the laundry in the meantime. This makes it feel less like a day lost in waiting for a washing machine :D
- I try to use two separate baskets when I wast blankets or linen, so it is easier to separate from the rest. Even better is washing large items as soon as you remove them from the bed for example. This way you also avoid the angst ;)
I hope this alleviates you as much as it did me!
Goodness why are you so smart??? This is a genius idea!
I love ADHD house tours because everything is just so practical??? I see a lot of tools that I use too, and sometimes it makes me wonder if I need to get assessed (not just from the home lifestyles, but lots of other similarities).
As a plant ADHD person I can give some advice as not everyone is the same. 1) Get plants that are known to be "tolerant". That won't die when do one mistake. That can endure being to wet or to dry. 2) Get information what soil and fertilizer particular plant needs. You only need to re-pot your plant once a year but it is worth to give them what they like in soil. This way they will feel better in general so you have less problems. 3) There are long lasting fertilizers in form of sticks that you put inside once every 3 months. I recommend that. 4) You should go for plants that have similar needs so you can do the same for all of them at the same time. 5) If you already know some of your habits take plants that will work with that. For example I have tendency to water them too much so I don't get cacti. And so far I killed to coffee plants so I don't get them anymore. 6) Same for your home environment. If you know the air is dry don't take on tropical plants. Because you will probably forget to turn on humidifier and you will hate cleaning it so you will stop using it. 7) I like having wall calendar with nice pictures. If you have one as well you can use it to track your activities related to your plants. I use it only for this purpose so I don't mix it with doctor's appointment for example. If something is in this calendar it means it is plant related. Every time I put fertilizer sticks I write when I should do it again so it pops up in three months. Same for different treatments or re-potting.
I keep my fingers crossed for you and your plants! It isn't for everyone so don't beat yourself if you don't have a jungle in you place. For me plants are great and calm me down. Also it is a nice hobby that fits well with how we tend to learn. I get new plant, I learn everything about this plant because I'm excited and I'm done. I don't need to repeat it again but knowledge is there.
I used to have bins for all my projects and bags for all my donations too. Then one day I bought an oversized handmade basket for no reason other than I liked it. Now I use baskets for everything. Add people think I'm so organized now. 😂
For sensory issues with regard to showering: highly recommend a towel warmer. It is *chef’s kiss*
Agreed, that and or a space heater
My biggest takeaway was refreshing visual cues for different routines so it doesn’t blend into the background. Thank you! So helpful ❤
First though: I am IMPRESSED by the size of that living room. And second though is impressed by tyhe amount of floor you can see, that's tidy in my books.
3:16 Leaving the dishwasher open is life changing. One of the lessons I enjoyed reading in Atomic Habits so much. "Make it obvious"
I love this and do so many of these things. I am ADHD, mom of 4 two of whom are ND probably ADHD. One thing I 've found is with so many people, having all the things out can be very overwelming so while we have a lot of baskets of routine based items, they all need to have a spot where they can be put away and only important and urgent things can stay out. Also, my husband totally makes fun of me for calling it a laundry machine. I have never heard anyone else call it that. ❤ i also hate the getting in and out of the shower and avoid it because it seems like so much work. I keep two deodorants and in my closet with all my clothes that and hung up in my closet that only has shut doors when i am overwhelmed and one in my bathroom get ready basket.
I am 26 and working towards an official diagnosis. I didn’t realize how many of these techniques I’m already implementing without having watched a lot of ADHD content. Like things being out on the counter all the time because otherwise, I will forget about it. Or having a launchpad (stealing this term) otherwise, I don’t know where my keys, wallet, or jacket is and I’ll be 15 minutes late everywhere.
I thought for the longest time I was just a very forgetful or spacey person, but it turns out my brains wired a bit more chaotically. Thanks for sharing!
My psychologist said that a normal person, when they have a thought, it goes from point A to point B. An ADHDer goes from A to C to B ro D etc.
This video is fantastic! I just wanted to note that our vet said that storing kibble directly in plastic bins is a no-no; the airtight bins are great, but you should place the food bags inside them. It’s apparently really easy for tiny scratches to appear in the plastic and kibble dust gets trapped there and makes the food go rancid/encourages bacteria to grow, which can harm your pets or at least ruin an entire batch of food or turn your pets off of a specific food because they can tell it’s rancid even if we can’t.
Thanks for sharing that! I’m getting a dog soon and will keep that in mind 🥰
Putting clothes onto hangers while they are still warm cuts way down on wrinkles and ironing. I set my alarm to check the dryer when it's done. Before I knew I had adhd I didn't bother trying to fix all of my issues, but now that I know it isn't just a personality problem, I like the challenge of finding hacks.
I LOVE socks with funky designs. But what I hated more was having to find a sock’s mate on laundry day. I tried embracing a “mismatched” sock look too- but found it tedious how often people would point it out and I would have to explain that yes, it was on purpose!
So, my laundry hack: NO funky socks 😢 Only Black or White, from the same brand & only 2 variants (ankle or crew sock). Now, I just toss them loose in my sock drawer- no matching required. Do I miss cool, funky socks? Absolutely. But I get to keep my sanity. 😂
Love how each of us lands on different solutions to similar problems. I'm pretty sure my Mom also has ADHD - she likes all one style of sock, so there's little matching required. But bc of buying socks at different times and from different brands, there's minute differences in the placement of the seam, the width of the cuff, etc. So the matching requires looking at little details. My solution is to find mostly black socks with some pattern, preferably near the top of the sock, so I can easily spot the pairs in the pile of laundry. I think I would have liked your funky socks!
Same! Although I pair them when I take the washing off the line. Not relying on dryers if you can makes it all SO MUCH EASIER
It's one more thing to remember to do, but amazon sells sockmate clips - you clip the matching socks together and throw them in the wash so they don't get lost. Or you can toss all your socks in a mesh bag like you'd use for delicates.
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Get yourself a laundry net, those are usually for bras so it fits a bunch of socks. Put all the dirty socks inside. They will not get lost, when you take em out, they are all neatly in there and finding matching ones super easy :)
From a fellow funky socks lover❤
For my “tier 1” times I have a clean basket and a dirty basket and exclusively live out of those baskets. Then when you need new clothes, the dirty basket turns into the clean basket and back and forth lol
This was so interesting because I hate hate hate hanging clothes, and folding is so much easier and doesn't give me that yucky feeling. Part of making my closet useable was installing open cubbies (I also love being able to visually see my clothes) and I can almost always put my clothes away the same day I washed them!
Don't take this the wrong way, but this really affirms that I need more space lol I have been so bogged down by how chaotic my space is but this was a good reminder that my space doesn't work for me, even if I hack it to oblivion. I luckily am looking to move but in the spring/summer so I just need to tide myself over until I'm not living in 500 sq ft with my sister and our dog
Same. I am living in a small appartment room and more space would definitely help me to have less clutter 🙈
Right there with y'all! I feel so hopeless some days bc no matter how much rearranging or decluttering I do it's like I'm back to square one
Same - my washing machine is in the garage where I have to unlock the door to get to it. It feels like climbing everest to do a washing load 😂
I'm hoping to buy next year & purposely looking for a house with the right kind of living space that enables me to live a low stress/low mental load & I can just exist.
i though the same thing, but its best to declutter, and create a system,organize(every item has a place). without a system even if you get a bigger space same problem+ excuse more stuff to buy
More space doesn't mean less clutter. It's about habits. People who are cluttered tend to want to "fill up" then "over-fill" any space they have.
This was so validating! I would love to see a studio apartment version of this, bc all of my life activities are condensed into one room and it makes me feel CRAZY
Great tips! I learned a few things, but I have one to share too. I just recently put up a couple of simple shelves in my bathroom and got a few cheap, plastic baskets (no lids!) that fit on them. I, too, need my stuff to be out and easily accessible, but then I don't clean the surfaces as often as I should if I have a bunch of stuff to move. This solves that problem. I organized the baskets by task: shower, face care, tooth care, hair, ... When it's time for a certain task, I pull down that basket, work right out of it, and put it back on the shelf when I'm done. So far, it's working great and my bathroom looks cleaner than ever, which resolves a lot of background anxiety.
I was just recently (officially) diagnosed with ADHD. I didn’t realize that a lot of things you showed are things that I’ve been implementing in my space as well. Crazy how big of a difference they can make
6:55 It's great putting your camera operator onscreen! I was thinking of how great it is that you had someone running your camera and then he sneezed and I got to see him. Thank your brother for me.
I realized, I’m a different kind of ADHD but I need to watch many fellow ADHDrs to finally discover myself.
It's reassuring to see that some of the things we do are so similar. I wish I had as much space as you! We are a family of 6 NDs and I'm still working on finding hacks that work for the kids spaces. Normalise team NEVER FOLD 😁
The effort you must have put into getting all these systems in place, wow.
I space that works with my ADHD is such a great thing.
How long have a gone, many decades, feeling like I just can’t “life” the easy stuff.
Simple things, like doing laundry, dishes, keeping my apartment organized.
Everyone making it seem so obvious but it stresses me out to the point of being emotional about it.
Then I remembered I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child.
But never being told anything beyond…it makes you hyper.
And I’m not hyper.
Thank you
I am so glad I found you!!! Thank you for such great tips!
Here is one of mine:
Turn all your hangers around backwards. When you wear something, hang it back up the right way around. You can easily see what you haven't worn. After a season, or whatever your time limit is, donate everything not turned around.
Clean laundry baskets! I don't put away clothes. I'm currently mentally gearing to get rid of one of the two dressers in my room that neither my husband or I use. The clothes that are in there are never worn because they don't exist. 🤣 Except socks and underwear. Those don't get folded though and putting them in a drawer is fine cuz... well... you can't really forget you need those and digging for them is far more annoying than sorting them all out of the pile at once when the laundry is done. No folding here either. Laundry is sorted into neat... stacks? lines? Turned right side out, laid all the same way and in a stack so you can see and extract what you need. Then those are laid in a laundry basket. (PS That process sounds far neater than it actually is but it works for me.)
I also used to have mountains of clothing. I no longer do. I have enough clothes for a week with a few extras for occasions. Socks, underwear, all of it. The less I have, the less laundry there is and the more that forces me to do it.
I did the same thing with dishes. I used to hang on to anything that was still good when I had to change things out. No more! Out it goes. I had so many cups, plates, and cutlery that I was washing dishes for 15 people that don't live here. I have 8 of most things so that I can have friends over but that's it. Two days is all we can go in this family before something has to be washed. Paper plates and plastic cups and forks are forbidden on the premises because we will use them instead of dishes. Those are bought for occasions only and we don't keep spares. They go with someone else. My kitchen isn't big enough to have the dishwasher open all the time so I have a sign that hangs over it that says 'Clean' or 'Dirty', sometimes I even remember to use it. 😁I have no other kitchen hacks yet. It's so small I have no choice but to use the cabinets.
Every bathroom has its own stuff. Cleaner, toilet paper, towels, plunger, toilet brush. I do not ferry things between them. Most stuff comes in multiples anyway.
I have got to figure out my office. It's my first one ever and there are so many things that I need to figure out. Wish me luck!
I could totally imagine replacing my dressers with bookshelves, just nice neat stacks of folded clothes, like you keep in your laundry baskets!
@@pjp9383 We must think alike! I'm actually considering replacing the dresser with a bookshelf for exactly this purpose. :D
I can definitely co-sign the landing pad, doom box, and keeping things out so they can be seen tips; they’ve transformed my life. 🙏 so excited to try some of the other suggestions!!
Here's a little tip, how to remember and let your family members know if the dishes in a dishwasher are dirty or clean. Fill out the dishwasher detergent dispenser when you start loading your dishwasher. So if it's closed and filled, that means the dishes are dirty. If the dispenser is open and empty, that means the dishes are clean.
My bf places a tea towel on the dishwasher door when he opens it ajar to let the steam out. If there's no tea towel, it means it's dirty :)
Decided to clean my depression room again today lol, ty for this for the future!!
Okay, loving this channel! Just found it a few days ago, and my mind is blown! I’m 51 and thought all my stuff everywhere on every flat surface, a new “system” in every box, dishes never done because touching water often repels me, plants that get watered once a week and are forgiving, and complete shut down every time I try to “clean” or “simplify” was just me or just a family thing. I had never correlated all this to hyper focus + sensory issues maybe ADHD AuDHD combo! Seriously!!
That said, I did stumble on my favorite laundry system so far - a five-hook-over-door-mounted coat-hanger with five canvas bags from the grocery store - one bag for each load type - which for me is by color-family - reds-pinks-purples, browns-greens, whites, blues, greys. When I change, clothes go directly into their correct load bag. Nothing on the ground, no stacks of baskets, no sorting later, no boxy laundry station that I forget is there and trip over. Bags are at eye level on my bedroom door. I wash the canvas bag with the load, then pull the clean canvas bag out of the dryer first, then stuff all the clean clothes back into the bag to take back to my bedroom. I like folding, but if I don’t have time, I put the clean laundry bag on the floor next to the dresser, so I can grab what I need until I have time to fold and put away.
Thank you for this channel, and thank you everyone for your hack-shares too! So helpful, and great to recognize, ah, this is a thing, and it has REASONS, and hacks to manage those reasons! Love it!!
My hack: Plastic organizer with drawers in bathroom. I get everything out that I'll need for a.m./p.m. routine, bath or hair washing and then 👍put each item back in the drawer as soon as use it!👍 It's like a visual checklist 😊 I organize as follows: Drawer 1: things for a.m. routine: tooth brush, tooth paste, deodorant, etc. DRAWER 2: Hair gel, heat protection, shine serum, etc. Drawer 3: crap I seldom use and extra toothpaste, shampoo, etc. SO, my counter stays tidy, everything is handy and I can do it on autopilot.
This is a really clever idea that I'm going to try.
Having a clean/dirty magnet on my dishwasher and keeping trash bags in my trash bins has been so helpful for me. Try it out!
I keep my garbage bags at the bottom of the bin, under the current bag. When I take out the full bag, I find the new bags on the bottom. Like this it’s less clutter around.
Hayley, your home is so warm, cozy, and inviting! I love it!
Thanks for sharing!
One thing is, the cats would probably love it if you moved the cat tree in front of the window. Ours love looking outside all day, and the higher they are, the happier they are.
It's crazy how a lot of the compensation strategies we've figured out are similar to yours, and good to see it's not just how our brains work xD
I freaking love that Hayley went from "dish washer" to "laundry machine" to describe her washing machine
The casual nature of your videos has helped me begin to accept myself as I am. Thank you!!
Your house is so gorgeous, esp all that natural light in each room. OMG!! I don't know if this is a US thing (big houses?) but you have SO much room, you're blessed! Housing in Australia is getting crazy tight and extremely expensive. Diagnosed only 3yrs ago and I figured out many of these hacks too - esp clothes hanging and visible. My friends tease me that my space is like a fashion showroom - but now I actually put things away. There's zero friction to the act of hanging vs folding! And all products out on bench in bathroom in the order I use them. Not zen nor aesthetic, but functional for us ADHDers. Thanks for the video!
Put a space heater in your bathroom! The cold to hot to cold transitions are less unpleasant!
YES! I do this for both of my kids, daughter has ADHD and it helps them get out the door easier.
Thank you for your complete honesty!!! I absolutely despise showering, it seems like so much work but I feel fab after a shower so I put out my favourite scents the night before with towels to motivate me while brushing my teeth. I wash my hair in the kitchen sink, it’s long and I only have to wash it 2-3 times a week. It’s an hour long process to wash, dry and style. My choice to have long hair so I deal with it. I do dip in the shower every other day super fast! I’m clean, smell nice and don’t offend myself or others 😂😂. It took me ages to get this system down but it is finally part of my “programme” as I call it! I also have a mantra, Don’t put it down! Put it away! It’s changed my life. I had to find homes for everything first but they have homes and live there happily.
I've never been diagnosed with ADHD but I am getting more and more convinced I have it.
There was some really useful tips in this video, some of which I already do.
But one thing you said really hit me and that was when you talked about having your routine up on your wall and you change it up regularly because otherwise it goes into the background and you don't see it. I do that with a lot of my organisation routines and I think if I change my routines every now and again and change the way I've recorded my to-do lists it might keep me more on track. I'm going to give it to go
If you keep the same routine list but want to change the look, if you type it up and decorate it different ways, print all the different versions at once, then randomly select from them to put up and rotate them out. That way you don’t have to remember to print new ones!
@@heathermakesartGood idea! Something as simple as festive borders for whatever holidays you celebrate, or appropriate for the seasons changing where you live.
"it's not perfect but it's functioning" I needed that
I make sure I can pull my towel into the shower when I'm done, so that I don't have to open the door and get cold after that warm shower. I just dry off before I get out 😋
I wish i had a kitchen that big omg
Lol your chaotic is my guest-ready tidy 😂
And also i totally feel you on what your brother summarized -- without a reason or visual trigger, I will not shower or use deodorant. Am I stinky? Maybe, I don't really know. I just smell like myself to me. 🤷♀️
Damn your content always makes me feel seen and like less of a freak for my failings. ❤
We need a spin off video on how to own plants as someone with ADHD. It's like food. Needs it's own segment. I am a plant lover, but also a plant killer (accidently). ALMOST ready to phone it in and invest in good faux plants.
The number of times I surprise myself with ice-cream because I've forgotten is amazing. Makes my day every time 😂
This was very helpful. Thank you. Even people who don’t have ADHD can benefit from this.
The perpetual donation bag! I also do that :-) all amazing tips seriously!
I appreciate your transparency and authenticity!
Thank you for sharing this! I've been struggling with accepting that I have ADHD for over a year at this point, and am finally getting a diagnosis in two weeks. I'm still masking, saying that I need an official diagnosis before doing anything... Seeing this content, where you're so kind and supportive of yourself, is really encouraging. It helps me see that one day, maybe, I too can love myself for me and not be afraid to show it. ❤
In the meantime, thanks for the hacks! 😊
I love this!!! Thanks for sharing! I too hate showers and tend to try to avoid if i can but these tips will help.
Also i have had so much shame in my life for feeling the need to have my laundry and clothing be so visual like leaving closer door open.
I love how you work with your brain. This was so helpful
Wow, I love these practical hacks!!! I realized so many similar accommodations that I use too and didn’t know why I did. I’m a newbie to the busy bee adhd fam here and so far really appreciating these videos❤
Those pets are LOVELYYYYYYYYYYYY
Definitely taking notes for updating some adhd techniques myself. Thank you for sharing always. As well being so authentic, and vulnerable. You rule.
Thank you for explaining all of these sensory experiences! I am just now accepting and understanding why these some of these things are so hard for me. I 100% agree with the laundry monster. I always have clean clothes in my room waiting for the huge special event of putting them all away. I always have bags full of stuff to donate. I need help with lighting. I'm starting to realize my crappy lighting makes me angry and/or lazy. I am excited to keep following along with you because I do have very similar experiences aesthetically and sensory. Thank you for your help!!!!
"It's functioning fine so I don't need it to be perfect" why did that ring with me?
I love this everything about it is brilliant
I do candlelit showers for the same reason!! I feel seen af
I never turn the upper lights on. I have a very low wattage lamp on the vanity.
Just a note for those having trouble waking up - I'm sure it's nicer to get up in nice warm light rather than a pitch dark room. But for people with real SAD (seasonal affective disorder) those alarm clock lights aren't a replacement for a true light therapy lamp. For one thing, because there's a certain level/degree of light needed to replicate sunlight (trust me, the real light therapy lamps are bright!) and secondly, because you need to have your eyes open and receiving the light straight toward your eyeballs at a particular distance, in order to receive the therapeutic effect. ❤
I have been putting off watching this video, because if I don’t know the life hacks, then I can’t feel bad for not trying them.
Thank you for validating my frustration with all my therapists whose only advice was to “start with doing one small thing.”
My parents both grew up with hoarders, and their reaction was to keep a very clean house, and when something is put away, you can’t see it. So I really don’t have a gauge for what a functional, organized space looks like. Most of my house is “doom boxes,” which I’ve called “cleverly designed piles.” Plus, all surfaces are covered with things that I was once in the middle of, or the things are “on their way” somewhere else.
Your bathroom humor I love it😂
Me realizing I need Everything to be out for me to use/do it
Reducing your “things” and 😅minimizing your wardrobe is the absolute best thing you can do for ADHD.
I wish you had a never ending series of you sharing ideas like this xD
my favourite for laundry is having the NYSJÖN laundry cabinet from IKEA. It has two sections - lights and darks. One full basket = one full load in my washing machine. So now whenever it is full I have to immediately take that basket to be washed. It has been a good while since I've done 10+ loads of washing in one day.
This is so interesting! I think because I also have really bad anxiety, I HATE having things out, and having clutter LOL, but, I think having easy access to everything you need is a great idea. For me I would just need to keep it in a box or container or sorts that hides the things I need. Super interesting how everyone experiences ADHD differently 🙌
Yeahhhhh, these things (esp. showering & laundry piles) described me as a teen, but as an adult it's a "Nope" 🙅🏽♀️ Growing up in a hoarder family + being teased for not showering "helped". The trauma will teach ya 😕
staring aggressively into the mirror "I LOVE MY BRAIN. I DO. I LOVE MY BRAIN" thats so real hahahaha
9:52 I moved my star projector into the bathroom to make baths and showers magical. I have a specific playlist that it has plays from duration of a bath. It’s all vaporwave pop sounding music that sounds celestial.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Things that immediately come to mind while watching this video:
- Please, leave your washing machine lid open otherwise you will get mold/mildew and smells. Eww.
- Re: the "doom box", that's a basket. Definitely a basket.
- Aesthetics are functional for me. If something looks nice/tidy I function better. Stuff out in the open overwhelms me to a point where I can literally cease to function or simply avoid the thing until it's absolutely intolerable and must be dealt with. I need both aesthetics and functionality. This is why I buy baskets.
for the getting out of the shower transition my best trick is to have a small space heater running and pointing directly at where i’m going to be when i get out of the shower so it’s kinda nice and warm :’)
I'm OCD and prefer a very organized space. Watching videos like this helps me to organize the house in such a way that matches my husband's ADHD needs. So thank you 😊
I have a studio apartment essentially, only extra is an alcove for my bed, and a doom closet. These hacks take a lot of space. Have you done tiny spaces hacks with clients?
i learned a year or two ago that if i don't put my laundry away IMMEDIATELY after it's done, then i simply never will. i also get easily visually overstimulated, so i can tell that having piles of laundry around usually makes me anxious. both of those realizations have been so helpful for building a good laundry system.
plus having a great big drop/doom basket in my room for things to deal with later, which usually has things like returns i need to make, clothes that need to be mended, an object idk what to do with, and all of the clothes that would ordinarily end up in the "clothing chair" or on the floor. i tend to go through the clothes once a week when i do laundry to see if anything needs to get tossed in the wash, or if i wore it for 10 minutes and it can actually get put back away. otherwise, i go through the rest of the stuff every month or two once i'm starting to overflow the basket regularly hahaha
my son has dyspraxia and hates showers. i got him blue loofas and the long one for his back, changed my shower head. added eucaliptis and towel hook. still need to learn to be independent. was able to get swivel desk chair for school, havent had any more weekly "out of seat complaints"
I also do the donation bag!!! For me tho it usually goes to my car and then is in my car for several weeks before I ever bring it to a donation bin 😂
14:29 ah I see 😂😂😂
Only weeks!?
You know what... i have lived with a too small closet for too long. I have a tiny closet to hang things, and two dressers. I fucking hate folding. Im putting that on my list, to save up for the sort of racks and ikea closet thing where i can just hang *all* of my clothes. The dressers can be for storing my creative stuff or stuff for my hobbies. Racks for clothes.
And to trade a tip. One of my weirdly proudest moments was the sock battle i won. I bought socks all in the same color and style. I bought lingerie bags (mostly for bras, but now for socks too). And i put a basket under the chair that is my "launch chair". (Which is where i keep my work sneakers, my purse, umbrella, sometimes a sweat shirt, and reusable grocery bags or anything that needs to go out to the car regularly). So when i come home my socks can come off immediately with my shoes. And they have their own dirty laundry basket that when its full, can be poured straight into a lingerie bag. No picking out socks from the basket. No losing socks or running out. Its entirely its own laundry system. It only gets included into the clothing laundering system as part of the load. It may not be needed for most people, but it is absolutely necessary for me.
I never needed validation for the way i set up my area or *why* it was set up a certain way. Im always confident in my reasoning and why i want or need it a certain way. But seeing someone else showcase their space and so specifically echo my own reasonings for things or use similar hacks is such a relief. Its very cathartic to know someone else is using those hacks effectively. Its a relief to see a setup i can actually comprehend in the day to day. I know a lot of lifestyle gurus are showing an "ideal", but its so often on another plane of existence to me that its like a fairy showing me how their magic house works, how they often fly from tree branch room to tree branch room and exercise by dancing on flower petals. This is a *beautiful* system and home and it feels accesible. And that means *so much* to me.
Subscribed! Here's what I love about you and your videos!! You narrate so I can listen if I'm busy. You do a lot of what I do. You do whatever the @#$%&* you want, what works for you! A lot of your tips appeal to self-care and emotional wellness. I relate a lot to the bird songs, lighting, activity centers, launch pads and get ready area, stations for everything...awesome!!! I also love that you're celebrating and being honest with being imperfect. Unapologetically enjoying life! And you're so funny, wish you were my sister!!
Thank you for posting this, just learning I’m adhd at 35 and have had such a hard time learning to be consistent and keeping it together.
You have no idea how happy I am to find there is another person besides me that mixes up dishwasher and laundry machine. Thank you for not editing that out! 😂 ❤
Okay but can we talk about how cute and cozy your space is! And thanks brother, for pushing through for your sister
I find it hilarious that your cable management was 'exposed' with all the edits as 'oh god why' but my cable management would probably send anyone crying and running 😂😂
Love the tips! Watched all six ads in full to support a girl that supports me so much! 🙌✨