When my brother was little, we were riding a ferry over a lake. It was a windy day and my mom's hair was growing increasingly tousled. She had a smile on her face. My brother, in his baby boy innocence, put it this way, "Mom, the messier your hair looks, the more beautiful you look!"
Thank you Marie-Anne for your video. It's very true. I remember a story my father told me about how my grandparents met. My grandfather would always see this woman running to work from his office window. Long jet black hair, flying all about her face, running late (always). Well he fell in love with that girl. Over the course of the last two years I let my hair color go naturally gray, mostly white. This morning my husband said "I love the color of your hair." Unprovoked - it wasn't even brushed yet. So there you have it. Desinvolte♥️
Marie-Anne, this is the most profound video you’ve done so far. Just when I thought some of your previous videos couldn’t be beat, you do this one. This particular aspect of the French is the thing that has always stuck out to me the most. I love this about the French mindset. You’ve really helped me to accept a lot of imperfections in myself. Yes, the frizzy summertime hair is a big one for me too. But you’re personality and demeanor, as well as your mindset in your videos is so endearing. You’re really an incredible lady. I don’t know any way other than that to say it. Xx💖💖btw, your little CoCo is adorable too💖😘
Thanks so much for posting Marie-Anne. This may be my favorite one yet and is the exact issue that I am currently working on in my life. Coco is gorgeous. Please include her in some future videos.
Thanks so much for sending the link for this to me. This pep talk was just the tonic I needed. I’m smiling ear to ear right now. Love your little dog , love you too ❤️What I love most is that you are real.
This video made me so happy. My hair is fine and has a mind of it’s own. People always criticize my hair. I love your attitude of non-perfection. A happy woman is always the most beautiful woman in the room. The picture of you on the beach is my favorite one of you as well. When I look at it, it says “freedom “. Thank you for not being perfect. It makes your videos more relatable. We want to enjoy this stage of life, not run around making ourselves miserable trying to attain perfection. I also adore Coco, who just might be perfect.🌷🌺🌹
Those white slacks and the tailored blue shirt is one of my all-time favorite classic styles. You look wonderful and the hair cut is fabulous. Coco is really quite elegant and well behaved. Well bien sur, he's French!
I love this woman - she is the essence of the chic, alluring, intelligent French woman! I love also her philosophy here. Perfection is impossible to achieve - that is such a French concept, that the falling short of it has in itself a kind of attractive style! American women strive to achieve perfection and in doing so end up looking clone-like with no originality. I am an American born and bred woman, but I have always admired the French style and have always felt French in my heart and soul!
Loved this! At 72, the “perfection” of youth not possible. Some days, clean and scrubbed with a dab of good perfume and a lovely old scarf is all that is attainable. Thank you! Loving your comments...❤️
Perfection is the enemy of the good. :) I do not know who said this but I find it a good thing to remember in many things. My Mom taught me this also. The hardest is accepting it in ourselves. Thank you Marie-Anne reminding me again, I can not hear it enough.
5:49 You are channelling Juliette Binoche in that photo! :) :) "I'm okay with the fact that I'm not perfect." I think women need to hear that more and say that more to themselves.
This is quite possibly the most important video you have made. American women seek perfection and miss out on the simple joy that is passing them by. Thank you
Yes! I fought my fine curly hair since age 12 but became a natural ‘curly girl’ 10 years ago. Last year I decided to ditch the dye and am halfway to white and grey. Guess what?! My hair is thicker and easier to manage, I travel light in a carryon without brushes, irons, hairspray, and my plane tickets are ‘free’ by saving the expense of 2-week coloring. Win win win!!
I started turning ehitecat 21....after having g a serious allergic reaction to hair dye..decided my financial resources were going to stay in my purse rather than a cosmetic company and I started investing in a very good stylist and he cuts my hair and styles it wo fearfully fir 30 yrs now neither of us want to see me in a time warp so the hair style changes here and there but I leave his chair confident I can achieve that look at home and for some one to whom is a serious klutz the curling iron does not always have to come out and me end up burning myself somewhere some how.....good cuts are worth their price long or short.
As an art student, one instructor emphasized that it's the irregularities, the imperfections that make a subject look alive. Also, Rodin, the great French sculptor, wrote that his works are meant to give a sense of change and movement from one state to another. Life is imperfection, movement.
Marie Anne, this is your best video ever, and I have seen almost all of them! Style is not about what you wear, style is about who you are and how you build a relationship with the world around you. Thanks for teaching the value of DESINVOLTE. I've always believed it, but now I know how to express my life philosophy in one word! Coco is charming! Invite him more often to star in your videos!
Great video! 2 years ago I chopped all of my damaged hair from straightening it and grew out all my natural curls. Now my hair is long and curly and I constantly look “desinvolte” (great new way to think of my style). I grew up in a society that prizes straight perfect hair, now I feel happy being messy 😊
I completely agree with every point you make. Trying to attain perfection makes us look insecure, lacking in self-confidence and therefore infinitely less attractive. All the perfect selfies on Facebook are very sad. Thank you for this video which is about accepting WHAT IS.
This was such a wonderful and thought provoking video! Being authentic with all of our flaws exposed is much more attractive than the unattainable perfection.
This was a lovely, lovely video, Marie-Anne. I love the relaxed style and of course love little Coco! I would really enjoy seeing more videos like this. Tysm for sharing as always. Xx 😘
I love desinvolte! I embrace this philosophy and way of life and it is NOT easy to do here in Los Angeles, California! In addition to perfection being unattainable and therefore, causing unhappiness when it is not achieved, perfection is also BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Another wonderful video----- style + attitude = effortless French chic, and we can all have it!!! Love it!
In the 90's working as a beauty consultant and make up artist for the 3 biggest cosmetics and skin care companies, I had the required "hair helmet" and lot's of makeup that I had access to each day. Nor retired from a long career in the medical field, I no longer color my hair, cut it myself( it looks like yours) and I rarely brush it. Letting my hair air dry, I only use my hands and fingers. In the summer months, the horrific humidity lets my hair get very curly on it's own. And since the grey hair and casual styling, I get so many unexpected compliments. You've certainly helped me get my inner desinvolte out and trusting my instincts. Spending a summer traveling around france and studying women my age was a wonderful experience and part of my travels. Coco seems to be quite the bon vivant. Would Coco like a sweet blonde deerface chihuahua? My Willow Grace would love to have a French Boyfriend. My house pet chicken Yvetter LaFleur is fascinated watching your presentation. She's also available !!
In that photo you are so natural. And it makes you happy, that's the main thing. I have to wear wigs as I've lost my hair due to stress and medical conditions. And I don't care. I get to wear what ever hair style I want and whatever colour. However ever pixie cuts are my favourite!!😄😄
I totally agree, Marie-Anne. An over coiffed, over particular, appearance can make one look self-conscious, and uncomfortable. To me, that look is exactly the opposite of desinvolte. I always favour a more relaxed and natural look. I like hair to move! Merci beaucoup, for this very interesting video topic. :)
This was my FAVORITE video of French Chic!! I LOVE the concept of desinvolte! I'm going to watch it again to make sure I get it! That's the missing ingredient! You can DRESS french chic, but without the right attitude you miss the mark. Thank you!! And I love your dog! I LOVE dogs! :-)
I watched this video when it came out and just rewatched it. A few weeks ago, when I had my long hair cut short, my hairdresser was trying to blow dry an annoying bit of hair that flicks out on one side. I told her not to worry because if it was too perfect, no one would know it was me! Now I realise I am, in fact, desinvolte!
This is so far the best video that I have watched from your channel. It is full of words of beauty wisdom, but yet all the ideas introduced are applicable to people who are trained by the Mass Media or brought up by our parents to be Perfectionist and we are really suffering from it. Thank you for freeing the souls of those people, like me.
Yes ! I love this and that is why your videos make me so happy.!☺ They make me feel I can do this ,and I can do this TODAY and EVERY day.🌹 You have a cute little dog !
I met your videos two days ago and am busy with watching and watching and receive so much pleasure! You are alive, wonderful, real and so human! Very happy that I found your videos. France has always been my dream country of fashion and style. Looking forward to learning more from you! Thank you!
Hello little Coco! Our pets never care how imperfect we are. My Nelly and Ozzy greet me everyday with joy no matter how messy my hair might be or what kind of day I’ve had. Your video is a good reminder to be comfortable with who we are inside and outside 💓🐕💓
Wow. I believe that I'm more French than what I thought---my paternal Grandmother is half French. I love how French women are. All my life, I really don't brush my hair. I shower & go. I started wearing mascara & lipstick when I was in my late twenties. I still do not need blush or foundation. I love small earrings, I love, love scarves, etc. The more that I educate myself about the French woman I'm very happy to say that I have always been very French & proud of it.
You look more relaxed than I've ever seen you in your other videos. I like your advice about perfection. Though darling Coco looks close to perfection!
My grandma always told me, you don’t have to look perfect. Some imperfection is chic and elegant. I saw that in Paris and I really adored the french way. I’m a man but your lessons and videos are so inspiring. Now everyone keeps telling me I look great. The best thing was when last November a lady in Guerlain at Champs thought I was french. Thanks to your wonderful videos and that unique je ne sais quoi francais. By the way Coco is adorable!
I Love this Video Marie-Anne! I realize now My Aunt Evelyne incorporated desinvolte! She Always look chic but effortless. Always in the best materials - linen, cashmere etc but never wearing fads. She moved to France in her early twenties & remained there. Love your channel Marie-Anne❤️
Looking too perfect to me says "tried too hard". Hair, makeup, nails, clothing, shoes, bag, jewelry everything color coordinated and too "done". Like every strand of hair in place...screams I spent hours to attain this look. Aka high maintenance
It's so inspiring since I have been a hopeless perfectionist! I think I will be a little bit desinvolt during the leisure time, but keep being perfect at work, so my boss and clients can take me as a conscientious facilitator:-)
Absolutely. Never stop striving to be better. Exellance over perfection. Your expeirence of writing your first book was very helpful for me to change my habit of procrastination. Thank you very much! Please allow me to share a quote by Ernest Hemingway: "The First Draft of Anything Is Shit".
There is beauty in imperfection but you have to look for it. It is our imperfections that make us unique. Unfortunately many of us want to be like everyone else so we don't stand out. So in many ways we act like teenagers.
I've been seriously thinking recently about cutting off my hair to something more desinvolte and after watching your video, I'm more determined to do it. I love your cut, by the way!
Marie Anne, I watch your videos every morning when I am having my morning coffee, this video really hits home for me, I was born with curly brunette hair, I was a teen in the 60s so all I wanted was straight long hair parted in the middle when I was in high school, so all my life I have been trying to have the perfect straight hair and without frizz in the summer months. I would use product after product, blow out my hair, use a flat iron etc, etc BUT this year I have just had enough of that, I decided to buy a product to bring out my natural curl, and not use any heat on it, and it has been liberating. My head is full of natural curl, soft and to be honest not frizzy since I have stopped fussing with it. My husband is wild over my hair, he loves it, my 15 year old granddaughter told me I looked so beautiful with my hair curly, and I have been getting compliments from strangers telling me how blessed I am to have such soft natural curls. So your words really struck a cord with me, as they always do. For the first time in my life I have decided to,let nature take over, and my life is so much easier and happier. I’m just sorry I waited so long. My hair never will be perfect, but that’s ok, curly hair has a mind of its own, and I just decided to embrace what God gave me, if he thought that was was best for me who am I to argue. Have a lovely day, I have messaged you everyday, so please know it’s ok if you don’t message me back, I know your so busy. It’s just I have to because your videos just are so amazing, and bring me such joy ❤️
Oj, I like your Coco! Thanks for a really interesting video!! I even mean that a perfect person doesn't make me feel good. So, you get more friends being as you are. Greetings Heike
Bonjour Marie-Anne! One of the worst things that we are experiencing as a community these days is the (majority of) instagrammers. They set standards so high (yet so fake) that it's impossible to keep up on a daily basis! Thereby causing their audience to feel bad about themselves and become depressed. On the contrary I see you being comfortable in your skin and it's so contagious it makes me happy too
Your room looks so fragrant! And Coco a l air tres sage! I love the way you turned back your sleeves to show the white detail on the inside, with those white jeans I think this is desinvolte. In English, I would probably say 'flair'. There is also the term, 'artfully undone'. Flair is that special individual touch that takes things to another level. It doesn't need to play exactly by the rules. Living from within is the key to happiness how can we live from within if we are totally preoccupied with our appearance the whole time? Our clothes etc. should enhance our self-confidence not destroy it. xx
To me "flair & artfully undone" still have to do with something conscious, striving for beauty, that you can't let go, whereas "desinvolté" is going a bit against the system, a bit sauvage !... Great food for thought, in the video !!. . Tks Marianne ! ...We can't always be posing !....It destroys the happy, carefree attitude.
I love this word desinvolte! I remember your beach video. I loved it and you looked beautiful and desinvolte. This is what happens when you get older. You learn to embrace yourself, imperfect as it is. I have worn my gear in a messy shag for a while now since I have shoulder injuries which make it difficult to blow dry my hair. I have received many compliments for my bed head look. I have been dressing in this French chic way for a while now, not knowing the full reasoning. But it’s wonderful and freeing. Thank you for your videos and very wise advice. I think younger women need to embrace themselves and not try to achieve that instagram look too. Your beach video was the epitome of French beauty. I recently bought a several stripe shirts like your video not remembering who was my inspiration. It was you! That photo is tres Jolie. Merci beaucoup, Marie Anne! Another great video.
One must strive for perfection...but not too seriously because doing so makes one a robot instead of a human and life is for living happily filled with love and laughter.
European women are far more relaxed about their hair! My hair is very fine, like Dandelion fluff, and it will not hold any kind of restrictions on it. I have learned to allow my hair to be what it wants to be, a little untidy and yes, rebellious! C'est la vie! Thank you for reminding us that we are okay and need not aim for that perfection! Je m'en fiche!
I love this video! Your philosophy is so great on beauty, hair and social media. I think this is why French chic is timeless and makes everyone look their best because it recognizes we are all unique rather than promoting a homogenous cookie cutter image of perfection! Thank you 😊
Marie-Anne, thank you so very much for this post! I agree, and it’s a perfect reminder to relax and embrace who we are. Life is so much better désinvolte!💕☀️
Your hair is adorable! I became so happy when I finally quit worrying about my hair and let it do whatever it wanted to do. It is part of who I am. (I have been looking for a blue shirt like you are wearing!)
I love your little friend Coco! She is adorable. As to the message: Marie-Anne, you've nailed it for me. Be who you are and be happy about it. When I moved to Australia 23 years ago I tried so hard to fit in. Naturally. I changed my style - also, to blend in. Only recently, about four years ago I said to myself "this is ridiculous, you can't be who you are not". I worked on the idea of happiness, did a fair amount of journalling, etc. I am happy in my skin now and YES there is a lot of desinvolte in how I look. Thank you, I am always looking forward to your videos.
Bonjour Marie-Anne. I am French living in London for 30 years now. What you are talking about is my way of being everyday. I am anti perfection (boring) Rebellious by nature even if it's not always obvious like a punk would be or so. So I see myself in that French way to be. Sweet and fun. This video make me even more appreciate to be French in London. Merci🤗
I showed this video to my youngest today after she was fussing over her flaws. Those videos from Mexico were also ones I showed her. I'm still trying to decide what i want to do. I am starting as a retail clerk in a local grocery store. I love your videos and quite frankly, when I've been depressed about losing my job, you've been the kick in the seat and the voice of reason for me. I just want to say thank you with all my heart!
I am glad you brought this up, Marie Anne! I feel perfection is a bit of a “prison” we create for ourselves. We should free ourselves from what it’s being imposed to us and embrace our own natural and unique self. Most social media “influencers” show the highlights of their day and its simply their job after all to appear “perfect.” We lack real, authentic content to unite us not to create disengagement. 😘💖
Your videos are inspirational Marie Anne.....Words of wisdom given the pressures woman today put on themselves to be perfect mothers great career women all whilst trying to always look fantastic and "put together." Thank you !
Love the outfit! The light blue shirt and white pants fit your coloring well. It's my favorite outfit I've seen you wear on your channel. It's this great combo of relaxed, professional, and chic all at the same time. Thank you for your interesting videos.
My hair has never wanted to be perfect, and I live in a miserably hot and humid climate that requires way too much fuss for my taste to keep a hairstyle in place. I don’t like to use styling gel and hairspray. It seems so unnatural to me. And windy! I’m never going to be one of those women who look fabulous in a convertible, and that’s that....but once when I was a little girl my sister took it into her head to give me a shag haircut. That was the closest thing to perfection I had ever experienced, hair-wise! I love the feeling of freedom when I shook my head. I loved that my hair fell into place every day just by dragging a comb through it. Do you know how hard it is to get a hairdresser to give you a shag haircut when in their heart, long layers are the way to go? I finally took scissors to my own hair. Chopped those layers right out! I figured, I’m in my late 50s now so this is the perfect time to do it. I’m old enough to not care what other people think, but too young for people to simply decide that I belong in the psychiatric ward of the nursing home! I got more compliments on my hair after that, it was amazing. It transformed my ordinary frumpy Bob haircut into an easy-to-care for, Roll out of bed, run your fingers through style that made me presentable without a lot of fuss. Putting sunglasses on my head is no longer ho-hum: it gives me a lift that is cute as a button! When I want to look more perfect, I blow it, and I know that any wind will simply give me a more casual look. Now it is easy to get my haircut the way I want. Even if I have to do a little doctoring before an appointment!
I really enjoy your little chats! Coco is adorable & has obviously been in the family a long time. I am sitting here in Australia watching you with my small dog & my parrot on my hand.
I agree😀. To be desinvolte in my opinion means to feel comfortable in front others, not because you think to be perfect or the best,but because you love yourself, you love people, and deeply love life and world( also rain and wind that fizz your hair 😁) All people can feel your happyness and your self -confidence,and be influenced, and even feel better. This is beauty, to tell to everyone with our movements, attitude and glances that life is wonderful What has perfection to do with this?
I love your videos. They help me so much. I see you are humble, natural, modest sinseer, and yet very elegant and chic. I thing your pessonality is number one of your success.
Your English is perfect! I am enjoying your videos very much. I spend several weeks every year in France & miss the French way of living when I return to the US. Healthier attitudes about style but also food, raising children, aging, etc. La belle vie. Merci beaucoup!
Wow! This is one of those aspects of French style I have seen and felt but never been able to really put my finger on. You explained it so well, so articulately! And bonjour, Coco!
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When my brother was little, we were riding a ferry over a lake. It was a windy day and my mom's hair was growing increasingly tousled. She had a smile on her face. My brother, in his baby boy innocence, put it this way, "Mom, the messier your hair looks, the more beautiful you look!"
"Out of the mouths of babes" !
Amen!!!❤❤❤
Thank you Marie-Anne for your video. It's very true. I remember a story my father told me about how my grandparents met. My grandfather would always see this woman running to work from his office window. Long jet black hair, flying all about her face, running late (always). Well he fell in love with that girl. Over the course of the last two years I let my hair color go naturally gray, mostly white. This morning my husband said "I love the color of your hair." Unprovoked - it wasn't even brushed yet. So there you have it. Desinvolte♥️
Marie-Anne, this is the most profound video you’ve done so far. Just when I thought some of your previous videos couldn’t be beat, you do this one. This particular aspect of the French is the thing that has always stuck out to me the most. I love this about the French mindset. You’ve really helped me to accept a lot of imperfections in myself. Yes, the frizzy summertime hair is a big one for me too. But you’re personality and demeanor, as well as your mindset in your videos is so endearing. You’re really an incredible lady. I don’t know any way other than that to say it. Xx💖💖btw, your little CoCo is adorable too💖😘
Marie-Anne Lecoeur it was a masterpiece! We need this in the USA, at least speaking for myself, we tend to nitpick ourselves too much...
A great lesson for women of all ages. Thank you. We do our best and sometimes that is excellent. We do not need to be perfect.
load off my mind- merci!
The photo is absolutely gorgeous snapshot of you--carefree style, happy while always classy.
Thanks so much for posting Marie-Anne. This may be my favorite one yet and is the exact issue that I am currently working on in my life. Coco is gorgeous. Please include her in some future videos.
Beautiful message! Thanks 👍👍
Thanks so much for sending the link for this to me. This pep talk was just the tonic I needed. I’m smiling ear to ear right now. Love your little dog , love you too ❤️What I love most is that you are real.
I am very glad it was helpful Goldie 😘🐾
This video made me so happy. My hair is fine and has a mind of it’s own. People always criticize my hair. I love your attitude of non-perfection. A happy woman is always the most beautiful woman in the room. The picture of you on the beach is my favorite one of you as well. When I look at it, it says “freedom “. Thank you for not being perfect. It makes your videos more relatable. We want to enjoy this stage of life, not run around making ourselves miserable trying to attain perfection. I also adore Coco, who just might be perfect.🌷🌺🌹
I completely agree.🌺😊🌹
Those white slacks and the tailored blue shirt is one of my all-time favorite classic styles. You look wonderful and the hair cut is fabulous. Coco is really quite elegant and well behaved. Well bien sur, he's French!
I love this woman - she is the essence of the chic, alluring, intelligent French woman! I love also her philosophy here. Perfection is impossible to achieve - that is such a French concept, that the falling short of it has in itself a kind of attractive style! American women strive to achieve perfection and in doing so end up looking clone-like with no originality. I am an American born and bred woman, but I have always admired the French style and have always felt French in my heart and soul!
Loved this! At 72, the “perfection” of youth not possible. Some days, clean and scrubbed with a dab of good perfume and a lovely old scarf is all that is attainable. Thank you! Loving your comments...❤️
Life doesn’t have to be PERFECT to be BEAUTIFUL, and thankfully, neither do we! Love and treats to Coco! 💐
Ahhhhhh, but I learned from the best-a very wise, beautiful, and insightful French Chic Lady named Marie-Anne!🌹
Perfection is the enemy of the good. :) I do not know who said this but I find it a good thing to remember in many things. My Mom taught me this also. The hardest is accepting it in ourselves. Thank you Marie-Anne reminding me again, I can not hear it enough.
The photo of your's is great, very lively 😊
Well said! Thank you, Marie-Anne. 💙
5:49 You are channelling Juliette Binoche in that photo! :) :) "I'm okay with the fact that I'm not perfect." I think women need to hear that more and say that more to themselves.
Im handicappede,therefore not perfect...but still,im making a effort to look my Best...and i do,so im often told...
Sort of like Italian “sprezzatura”? Love it!
This is quite possibly the most important video you have made.
American women seek perfection and miss out on the simple joy that is passing them by. Thank you
You've given me the word for the way I try to handle the everyday realities and vagaries of life. Merci. Love that beautiful coffee mug. 🤗
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Yes! I fought my fine curly hair since age 12 but became a natural ‘curly girl’ 10 years ago. Last year I decided to ditch the dye and am halfway to white and grey. Guess what?! My hair is thicker and easier to manage, I travel light in a carryon without brushes, irons, hairspray, and my plane tickets are ‘free’ by saving the expense of 2-week coloring. Win win win!!
I started turning ehitecat 21....after having g a serious allergic reaction to hair dye..decided my financial resources were going to stay in my purse rather than a cosmetic company and I started investing in a very good stylist and he cuts my hair and styles it wo fearfully fir 30 yrs now neither of us want to see me in a time warp so the hair style changes here and there but I leave his chair confident I can achieve that look at home and for some one to whom is a serious klutz the curling iron does not always have to come out and me end up burning myself somewhere some how.....good cuts are worth their price long or short.
As an art student, one instructor emphasized that it's the irregularities, the imperfections that make a subject look alive. Also, Rodin, the great French sculptor, wrote that his works are meant to give a sense of change and movement from one state to another. Life is imperfection, movement.
Marie Anne, this is your best video ever, and I have seen almost all of them! Style is not about what you wear, style is about who you are and how you build a relationship with the world around you. Thanks for teaching the value of DESINVOLTE. I've always believed it, but now I know how to express my life philosophy in one word! Coco is charming! Invite him more often to star in your videos!
Love this great attitude. And the dog!!!
Beautiful message. Definitely one of the most personal and warm vlog you have made.
I love the photo of you u. It looks like the white jeans video.
Great video! 2 years ago I chopped all of my damaged hair from straightening it and grew out all my natural curls. Now my hair is long and curly and I constantly look “desinvolte” (great new way to think of my style). I grew up in a society that prizes straight perfect hair, now I feel happy being messy 😊
I completely agree with every point you make. Trying to attain perfection makes us look insecure, lacking in self-confidence and therefore infinitely less attractive. All the perfect selfies on Facebook are very sad. Thank you for this video which is about accepting WHAT IS.
Mais votre table, divan et tous vos effets votre entourage-ils sont tous à la perfection!
Thank you for showing us your real self. Frennch chic, easy as fresh air.😊💝
This was such a wonderful and thought provoking video! Being authentic with all of our flaws exposed is much more attractive than the unattainable perfection.
You are a Wise woman Marie-Anne Le 💚
This was a lovely, lovely video, Marie-Anne. I love the relaxed style and of course love little Coco! I would really enjoy seeing more videos like this. Tysm for sharing as always. Xx 😘
I love desinvolte! I embrace this philosophy and way of life and it is NOT easy to do here in Los Angeles, California! In addition to perfection being unattainable and therefore, causing unhappiness when it is not achieved, perfection is also BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Another wonderful video-----
style + attitude = effortless French chic, and we can all have it!!! Love it!
This is really the most important point, Marie-Anne.
I join you in agreement about that photo. It's a great picture that shows you carefree and happy.xx
In the 90's working as a beauty consultant and make up artist for the 3 biggest cosmetics and skin care companies, I had the required "hair helmet" and lot's of makeup that I had access to each day. Nor retired from a long career in the medical field, I no longer color my hair, cut it myself( it looks like yours) and I rarely brush it. Letting my hair air dry, I only use my hands and fingers. In the summer months, the horrific humidity lets my hair get very curly on it's own. And since the grey hair and casual styling, I get so many unexpected compliments. You've certainly helped me get my inner desinvolte out and trusting my instincts. Spending a summer traveling around france and studying women my age was a wonderful experience and part of my travels.
Coco seems to be quite the bon vivant. Would Coco like a sweet blonde deerface chihuahua? My Willow Grace would love to have a French Boyfriend. My house pet chicken Yvetter LaFleur is fascinated watching your presentation. She's also available !!
I needed to hear this today! Merci!
Thank you for teaching me a new word, new concept. How refreshing to hear you discuss this. Good food for thought.
Love this post. Thanks for sharing. We all need to relax and just be ourselves.
In that photo you are so natural. And it makes you happy, that's the main thing. I have to wear wigs as I've lost my hair due to stress and medical conditions. And I don't care. I get to wear what ever hair style I want and whatever colour. However ever pixie cuts are my favourite!!😄😄
@@MarieAnneLecoeur thank you❤️
“Comfortable in your own skin”❤️
You say you are not perfect, however, you are fabulous! I embrace your advice, I am inspired.
I totally agree, Marie-Anne. An over coiffed, over particular, appearance can make one look self-conscious, and uncomfortable. To me, that look is exactly the opposite of desinvolte.
I always favour a more relaxed and natural look. I like hair to move! Merci beaucoup, for this very interesting video topic. :)
Perfectly imperfect. Self acceptance. Make the most of what you have. Words to live by.
This was my FAVORITE video of French Chic!! I LOVE the concept of desinvolte! I'm going to watch it again to make sure I get it! That's the missing ingredient! You can DRESS french chic, but without the right attitude you miss the mark. Thank you!! And I love your dog! I LOVE dogs! :-)
I think what you have is wisdom. 🙂
This light blue is soooo yours...
I watched this video when it came out and just rewatched it. A few weeks ago, when I had my long hair cut short, my hairdresser was trying to blow dry an annoying bit of hair that flicks out on one side. I told her not to worry because if it was too perfect, no one would know it was me! Now I realise I am, in fact, desinvolte!
Great video. The beach photo is very nice. .....wind blown hair, happy day!
You are fabulous and so is Coco❤️
I love this video - a fantastic message for women. This is what I love about the french!
This is so far the best video that I have watched from your channel. It is full of words of beauty wisdom, but yet all the ideas introduced are applicable to people who are trained by the Mass Media or brought up by our parents to be Perfectionist and we are really suffering from it. Thank you for freeing the souls of those people, like me.
Agree, Samantha Lin!
Pearls of fashion wisdom!
Yes ! I love this and that is why your videos make me so happy.!☺ They make me feel I can do this ,and I can do this TODAY and EVERY day.🌹
You have a cute little dog !
I met your videos two days ago and am busy with watching and watching and receive so much pleasure! You are alive, wonderful, real and so human! Very happy that I found your videos. France has always been my dream country of fashion and style. Looking forward to learning more from you! Thank you!
Hello little Coco! Our pets never care how imperfect we are. My Nelly and Ozzy greet me everyday with joy no matter how messy my hair might be or what kind of day I’ve had. Your video is a good reminder to be comfortable with who we are inside and outside 💓🐕💓
Wow. I believe that I'm more French than what I thought---my paternal Grandmother is half French. I love how French women are. All my life, I really don't brush my hair. I shower & go. I started wearing mascara & lipstick when I was in my late twenties. I still do not need blush or foundation. I love small earrings, I love, love scarves, etc. The more that I educate myself about the French woman I'm very happy to say that I have always been very French & proud of it.
You look more relaxed than I've ever seen you in your other videos. I like your advice about perfection. Though darling Coco looks close to perfection!
My grandma always told me, you don’t have to look perfect. Some imperfection is chic and elegant. I saw that in Paris and I really adored the french way. I’m a man but your lessons and videos are so inspiring. Now everyone keeps telling me I look great. The best thing was when last November a lady in Guerlain at Champs thought I was french. Thanks to your wonderful videos and that unique je ne sais quoi francais.
By the way Coco is adorable!
I Love this Video Marie-Anne! I realize now My Aunt Evelyne incorporated desinvolte! She Always look chic but effortless. Always in the best materials - linen, cashmere etc but never wearing fads. She moved to France in her early twenties & remained there. Love your channel Marie-Anne❤️
Looking too perfect to me says "tried too hard". Hair, makeup, nails, clothing, shoes, bag, jewelry everything color coordinated and too "done". Like every strand of hair in place...screams I spent hours to attain this look. Aka high maintenance
And yes, I like Coco, cute little dog 💕
It's so inspiring since I have been a hopeless perfectionist! I think I will be a little bit desinvolt during the leisure time, but keep being perfect at work, so my boss and clients can take me as a conscientious facilitator:-)
Absolutely. Never stop striving to be better. Exellance over perfection. Your expeirence of writing your first book was very helpful for me to change my habit of procrastination. Thank you very much! Please allow me to share a quote by Ernest Hemingway: "The First Draft of Anything Is Shit".
Very profound. Thank you. Rene
There is beauty in imperfection but you have to look for it. It is our imperfections that make us unique. Unfortunately many of us want to be like everyone else so we don't stand out. So in many ways we act like teenagers.
I adore your attitude and always feel like I’m visiting with a friend when I watch your lovely videos. Thank you for this! 🥰
I've been seriously thinking recently about cutting off my hair to something more desinvolte and after watching your video, I'm more determined to do it. I love your cut, by the way!
Marie Anne, I watch your videos every morning when I am having my morning coffee, this video really hits home for me, I was born with curly brunette hair, I was a teen in the 60s so all I wanted was straight long hair parted in the middle when I was in high school, so all my life I have been trying to have the perfect straight hair and without frizz in the summer months. I would use product after product, blow out my hair, use a flat iron etc, etc
BUT this year I have just had enough of that, I decided to buy a product to bring out my natural curl, and not use any heat on it, and it has been liberating. My head is full of natural curl, soft and to be honest not frizzy since I have stopped fussing with it. My husband is wild over my hair, he loves it, my 15 year old granddaughter told me I looked so beautiful with my hair curly, and I have been getting compliments from strangers telling me how blessed I am to have such soft natural curls. So your words really struck a cord with me, as they always do. For the first time in my life I have decided to,let nature take over, and my life is so much easier and happier. I’m just sorry I waited so long. My hair never will be perfect, but that’s ok, curly hair has a mind of its own, and I just decided to embrace what God gave me, if he thought that was was best for me who am I to argue.
Have a lovely day, I have messaged you everyday, so please know it’s ok if you don’t message me back, I know your so busy. It’s just I have to because your videos just are so amazing, and bring me such joy ❤️
Merci beaucoup! I love this! Your post is a breath of fresh air amidst the stifling social media focus on perfection. Desinvolte is my new mantra.
Oj, I like your Coco! Thanks for a really interesting video!! I even mean that a perfect person doesn't make me feel good. So, you get more friends being as you are.
Greetings Heike
This is exactly the video I needed today. You inspire me. Thank you for your videos.
I like seeing you relaxed.
Bonjour Marie-Anne! One of the worst things that we are experiencing as a community these days is the (majority of) instagrammers. They set standards so high (yet so fake) that it's impossible to keep up on a daily basis! Thereby causing their audience to feel bad about themselves and become depressed. On the contrary I see you being comfortable in your skin and it's so contagious it makes me happy too
Fantastic video! Such an important lesson for all. Thank you ❤️
Your room looks so fragrant! And Coco a l air tres sage! I love the way you turned back your sleeves to show the white detail on the inside, with those white jeans I think this is desinvolte. In English, I would probably say 'flair'. There is also the term, 'artfully undone'. Flair is that special individual touch that takes things to another level. It doesn't need to play exactly by the rules. Living from within is the key to happiness how can we live from within if we are totally preoccupied with our appearance the whole time? Our clothes etc. should enhance our self-confidence not destroy it. xx
To me "flair & artfully undone" still have to do with something conscious, striving for beauty, that you can't let go, whereas "desinvolté" is going a bit against the system, a bit sauvage !... Great food for thought, in the video !!. . Tks Marianne ! ...We can't always be posing !....It destroys the happy, carefree attitude.
I love this word desinvolte! I remember your beach video. I loved it and you looked beautiful and desinvolte. This is what happens when you get older. You learn to embrace yourself, imperfect as it is. I have worn my gear in a messy shag for a while now since I have shoulder injuries which make it difficult to blow dry my hair. I have received many compliments for my bed head look. I have been dressing in this French chic way for a while now, not knowing the full reasoning. But it’s wonderful and freeing. Thank you for your videos and very wise advice. I think younger women need to embrace themselves and not try to achieve that instagram look too. Your beach video was the epitome of French beauty. I recently bought a several stripe shirts like your video not remembering who was my inspiration. It was you! That photo is tres Jolie. Merci beaucoup, Marie Anne! Another great video.
One must strive for perfection...but not too seriously because doing so makes one a robot instead of a human and life is for living happily filled with love and laughter.
European women are far more relaxed about their hair! My hair is very fine, like Dandelion fluff, and it will not hold any kind of restrictions on it. I have learned to allow my hair to be what it wants to be, a little untidy and yes, rebellious! C'est la vie! Thank you for reminding us that we are okay and need not aim for that perfection!
Je m'en fiche!
I love this video! Your philosophy is so great on beauty, hair and social media. I think this is why French chic is timeless and makes everyone look their best because it recognizes we are all unique rather than promoting a homogenous cookie cutter image of perfection! Thank you 😊
Marie-Anne, thank you so very much for this post! I agree, and it’s a perfect reminder to relax and embrace who we are. Life is so much better désinvolte!💕☀️
Your hair is adorable! I became so happy when I finally quit worrying about my hair and let it do whatever it wanted to do. It is part of who I am. (I have been looking for a blue shirt like you are wearing!)
@@MarieAnneLecoeur Thank you!
It’s so nice to hear that perfect hair is unattainable! And your hair looks so cute here. Your videos are fun to watch and helpful.
Merci Jamie 🤗 I am very glad you enjoy them 😘
Great video, I like videos that are more relaxed. Love Coco!
I love your little friend Coco! She is adorable. As to the message: Marie-Anne, you've nailed it for me. Be who you are and be happy about it. When I moved to Australia 23 years ago I tried so hard to fit in. Naturally. I changed my style - also, to blend in. Only recently, about four years ago I said to myself "this is ridiculous, you can't be who you are not". I worked on the idea of happiness, did a fair amount of journalling, etc. I am happy in my skin now and YES there is a lot of desinvolte in how I look. Thank you, I am always looking forward to your videos.
Bonjour Marie-Anne.
I am French living in London for 30 years now. What you are talking about is my way of being everyday. I am anti perfection (boring)
Rebellious by nature even if it's not always obvious like a punk would be or so. So I see myself in that French way to be. Sweet and fun.
This video make me even more appreciate to be French in London. Merci🤗
@@MarieAnneLecoeurMerci Marie Anne. I certainly be watching more of your videos. Life is what we make of it, we have the choice every day🤗💃💗💗💗😘
I showed this video to my youngest today after she was fussing over her flaws. Those videos from Mexico were also ones I showed her. I'm still trying to decide what i want to do. I am starting as a retail clerk in a local grocery store. I love your videos and quite frankly, when I've been depressed about losing my job, you've been the kick in the seat and the voice of reason for me. I just want to say thank you with all my heart!
I love getting the benifits of your wisdom. Thank you
This topic was so good for all of us. Very well said and again reminded me why I love spending time with you.
I am glad you brought this up, Marie Anne! I feel perfection is a bit of a “prison” we create for ourselves. We should free ourselves from what it’s being imposed to us and embrace our own natural and unique self. Most social media “influencers” show the highlights of their day and its simply their job after all to appear “perfect.” We lack real, authentic content to unite us not to create disengagement. 😘💖
This was the best! I loved your relaxed delivery and especially all the French phrases and words you include 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
Marie Anne, beautiful video, felt like I was sitting opposite to you and enjoying a wonderful cup of tea and admiring the simplicity of life.
Your videos are inspirational Marie Anne.....Words of wisdom given the pressures woman today put on themselves to be perfect mothers great career women all whilst trying to always look fantastic and "put together." Thank you !
Love the outfit! The light blue shirt and white pants fit your coloring well. It's my favorite outfit I've seen you wear on your channel. It's this great combo of relaxed, professional, and chic all at the same time. Thank you for your interesting videos.
My hair has never wanted to be perfect, and I live in a miserably hot and humid climate that requires way too much fuss for my taste to keep a hairstyle in place. I don’t like to use styling gel and hairspray. It seems so unnatural to me. And windy! I’m never going to be one of those women who look fabulous in a convertible, and that’s that....but once when I was a little girl my sister took it into her head to give me a shag haircut. That was the closest thing to perfection I had ever experienced, hair-wise! I love the feeling of freedom when I shook my head. I loved that my hair fell into place every day just by dragging a comb through it. Do you know how hard it is to get a hairdresser to give you a shag haircut when in their heart, long layers are the way to go? I finally took scissors to my own hair. Chopped those layers right out! I figured, I’m in my late 50s now so this is the perfect time to do it. I’m old enough to not care what other people think, but too young for people to simply decide that I belong in the psychiatric ward of the nursing home! I got more compliments on my hair after that, it was amazing. It transformed my ordinary frumpy Bob haircut into an easy-to-care for, Roll out of bed, run your fingers through style that made me presentable without a lot of fuss. Putting sunglasses on my head is no longer ho-hum: it gives me a lift that is cute as a button! When I want to look more perfect, I blow it, and I know that any wind will simply give me a more casual look. Now it is easy to get my haircut the way I want. Even if I have to do a little doctoring before an appointment!
I really enjoy your little chats! Coco is adorable & has obviously been in the family a long time. I am sitting here in Australia watching you with my small dog & my parrot on my hand.
I agree😀. To be desinvolte in my opinion means to feel comfortable in front others, not because you think to be perfect or the best,but because you love yourself, you love people, and deeply love life and world( also rain and wind that fizz your hair 😁) All people can feel your happyness and your self -confidence,and be influenced, and even feel better. This is beauty, to tell to everyone with our movements, attitude and glances that life is wonderful What has perfection to do with this?
I love your videos. They help me so much. I see you are humble, natural, modest sinseer, and yet very elegant and chic. I thing your pessonality is number one of your success.
Your English is perfect! I am enjoying your videos very much. I spend several weeks every year in France & miss the French way of living when I return to the US. Healthier attitudes about style but also food, raising children, aging, etc. La belle vie. Merci beaucoup!
Wow! This is one of those aspects of French style I have seen and felt but never been able to really put my finger on. You explained it so well, so articulately! And bonjour, Coco!