I stopped telling people i have trouble sleeping. It only gave the sleep issues more power and made me feel even more bad about myself and in return my friends and family would feel sorry or worry for me.
At the beginning of my insomnia I was just telling everyone like you know "more heads, more ideas" hoping that someone will have the idea how to solve this issue. Apparently, no one had good idea, only I got these stupid advices like get a milk with honey in the evening, or they tried to show compassion and told me that "oh, I didnt sleep so good last night or two either - I am also tired" this killed me. Than came last turning point when a friend, after I said I was not sleeping well told me, Come on you're not having fun, you have changed! And that taught me to lie about my insomnia. I never ever mentioned it again. I better said I am sick, or have a migraine...
Hi Veronika! Thanks for sharing this, I think so many in this community can relate. And you know I wouldn’t even call it lying, it’s just choosing not to talk about it with people who probably won’t understand anyway. And I’m so so happy you have this great friend who saw that you needed to have some fun and enjoy 😊
Don't speak the devil's name, or he might really appear. I am guilty of telling people how bad I feel when I don't sleep for many days. Sharing that does just give insomnia a lot of power, thus hurting my sleep confidence big time... I find my mind giving insomnia real power sometimes even though I "know better". Its the defult for me; and its easy to slip into my old suffering mindset.
produceman13 Having this clear insight like you do is the foundation. This in itself will make you hesitate or think twice before telling someone how terribly you slept - and that’s a great start! Hang in there 👍👍
exactly sir, thank you so much Danial sir🙏. i used to tell my family and friends.. it did not game changer at all, instead it makes worst double...time..
Hello Daniel. I’m totally with the education part that comes from watching your videos. But don’t you think excessively watching them bring more attention to the problem which as you said is the oxygen? Thanks And doesnt this concept of telling everyone when we sleep reinforce the idea of win/loose mentality?
Hi Kerry, you know, this is an older video and I’ve changed what I teach since this video. Which you picked up on nicely. So yes, I think neither celebrating nor berating ourselves really helps. Of course we can acknowledge that we feel off or that we are glad we slept well - but without looking at things as win/lose, this I think really helps 🙂
Words are SO powerful. Labelling oneself as an insomniac to friends only gives the monster more power over you.
#truth
I stopped telling people i have trouble sleeping. It only gave the sleep issues more power and made me feel even more bad about myself and in return my friends and family would feel sorry or worry for me.
I think this makes so much sense, thanks for sharing 😊
simple explanation, power of desensitization
At the beginning of my insomnia I was just telling everyone like you know "more heads, more ideas" hoping that someone will have the idea how to solve this issue. Apparently, no one had good idea, only I got these stupid advices like get a milk with honey in the evening, or they tried to show compassion and told me that "oh, I didnt sleep so good last night or two either - I am also tired" this killed me. Than came last turning point when a friend, after I said I was not sleeping well told me, Come on you're not having fun, you have changed! And that taught me to lie about my insomnia. I never ever mentioned it again. I better said I am sick, or have a migraine...
Hi Veronika!
Thanks for sharing this, I think so many in this community can relate. And you know I wouldn’t even call it lying, it’s just choosing not to talk about it with people who probably won’t understand anyway. And I’m so so happy you have this great friend who saw that you needed to have some fun and enjoy 😊
So true too late lol... one of the big mistakes I made in this nightmare world of insomnia. I wish I would have been wiser when this all started.
Ana Navarro You know what they say, better late than never 😃! Stay in touch Ana and thanks me for commenting 🙏😊
Don't speak the devil's name, or he might really appear. I am guilty of telling people how bad I feel when I don't sleep for many days. Sharing that does just give insomnia a lot of power, thus hurting my sleep confidence big time... I find my mind giving insomnia real power sometimes even though I "know better". Its the defult for me; and its easy to slip into my old suffering mindset.
produceman13 Having this clear insight like you do is the foundation. This in itself will make you hesitate or think twice before telling someone how terribly you slept - and that’s a great start! Hang in there 👍👍
exactly sir, thank you so much Danial sir🙏. i used to tell my family and friends.. it did not game changer at all, instead it makes worst double...time..
So glad it made sense Naresh!
So true!
neil fishman Neil! Nice hearing from you and thanks for the support 🤗!
if instead telling people, I keep repeating those thing in my mind, does it have the same effect?
Hello Daniel. I’m totally with the education part that comes from watching your videos. But don’t you think excessively watching them bring more attention to the problem which as you said is the oxygen? Thanks
And doesnt this concept of telling everyone when we sleep reinforce the idea of win/loose mentality?
I always thought it was better to remain neutral with whatever the outcome ?? So you are saying celebrate the wins ????
Hi Kerry, you know, this is an older video and I’ve changed what I teach since this video. Which you picked up on nicely. So yes, I think neither celebrating nor berating ourselves really helps.
Of course we can acknowledge that we feel off or that we are glad we slept well - but without looking at things as win/lose, this I think really helps 🙂
Hello kerry.
How are you now?