20 Honest Tips for First Time Moms // WHAT I WISH I KNEW
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Here are the top 20 real and honest tips for first time moms. Having a baby is exciting but a tad nerve wrecking too. These tips will put you at ease and help you realize that you're more than capable. Gosh...I wish I knew a few of these before I sat at the dinner table with a leaking boob. xoxo.
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20 Honest Tips for First Time Moms // WHAT I WISH I KNEW
I am pregnant after a several months of infertility meds. So whenever someone says how hard it is after childbirth, I can't help wondering how miraculous it was for me to get pregnant at all. Thank you for all the positive tips. Best of luck for the second one!
Congratulations!!! I’m so so happy for you. When I tried to get pregnant it was the most discouraging thing when I saw negatives. You’re going to be a wonderful mamma!
@@makaylaboren445 Aww thank you so much!!
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I was dumb forgot the login password. I appreciate any tricks you can give me.
Wow, congratulations!! I'm sorry the way I worded things offended you. Not my intention at all! You're absolutely right! I truly believe all pregnancies and births are miraculous.
@@margaretmatheny No no, you don't need to say sorry at all. In fact you have uploaded one of the most uplifting videos about new parenthood. It's really hard to focus on the positives when people around me keep hanging on to the negatives. I am so excited to meet my little one and best of luck to you too!
“Motherhood is what you make of it”. I love how you said this! It is all about our mindset!
It really is! Thanks for the encouraging words!
Why do they say “ready for no sleep?” I already can’t sleep with this big belly 😂
Girl same
Exactly! And having to pee every 2 hours
SAME. i havent been able to sleep since the first month that i got pregnant, im like at least now ill have some company once my baby is born 😂
I've never been a good sleeper even before getting pregnant 😆
Girl for real. I feellikd it's the training before the baby come
I watched this when I was pregnant. Came back to watch after having baby boy and everything you said is 100% true!
Why does everyone try to frighten the crap out of expectant moms? I hate it!
Same!! Here to change that! I mean reading through all of these comments, everyone feels the same
I feel like it's some weird form of validation for mums who found things difficult to say 'oh, you just wait! HAH. It's going to suck!' as if that makes all the hard work and suffering of motherhood they endured needs recognising. I don't know. I have had it loads too.
@@rainbowdolly Such an interesting point!
@@rainbowdolly yes this has really been bothering me lately and getting under my skin. It’s like moms online are the gate keepers of being tired and miserable and are laughing at anyone who’s not a mom?
I got so frustrated that I started cutting them off and finishing their stupid sentences every time people tried to tell me same old negative stories. 😔
THANK YOU, I could cry... first time mom at the age of 33. People really do make parenthood seem so terrifying the moment you announce you're pregnant, when it's too late to go back. I am slow to accept change and I know that about myself, which is why it's taken me so long to be ready for children, I needed to hear these things. I know in my head that I can do this and we will be fine, but man the encouragement I got from this video really helped.
How are things for you? I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and I also have a hard time with change. Despite stocking up on supplies and my growing belly, the fact that I'm having a baby still hasn't really hit me in a lot of ways I feel, it probably won't until he's here! Curious how your experience has been, hope all is well!
@@AmallieGames we are doing great! I won’t lie, those first few months were tough in a lot of ways, I was induced after being rear ended on a highway exit and labored for three days as my body just wasn’t ready to give birth yet, the epidural was worth it for me! As a result of the accident, I didn’t have a car the whole first month, which was tough. After a 5-day hospital stay, I was very tired coming home, I didn’t expect that the baby wouldn’t sleep all night, but I later learned that is normal! So if it happens for you guys it is ok and you’re not doing anything wrong! Remind yourself everyday, WE ARE LEARNING! That was so helpful for me. Something shifted around that 4 month mark, I loved my baby when he was born, but in the months that have followed, watching him understand that he loves me and all the milestones we’ve reached together… I finally understood the huge shift that is a mother’s love. It’s overwhelmingly wonderful, I would do anything for this kid! The other thing to know, the gross stories and scary sounding stories that people tell: those things you just handle one step at a time, you’re completely in the moment and you don’t really have time to think about anything other than the next step, you’ll reflect later and be like wow that was tough! And you’ll feel proud that you handled it, and that’s why people share those stories. Not to scare you. I still don’t think it’s very nice of them, but I understand from their perspective a bit more now. You have totally got this, momma. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, it will be ok and you and baby and your partner are just learning. It turns out pretty wonderful on the other side. 💜
When you said “welcome to the club, mama” I immediately teared up! Ughhh all these pregnancy emotions. Thank you for this video💕
Ugh same 🥺
SAAAMMMMEEE! LOL I was like...OMG!.. Hey that's me.. I'm gonna be a mama! 😭🥰.
This video was very comforting!! I'm 33 weeks pregnant and let me tell you, I'm scared of post-pregnancy. I love the part where you mentioned that people talk about your relationship being basically over once the baby comes. My husband and I have a tight bond and honestly I don't see us distancing once the baby's here because this is all we ever wanted... but of course... people got to my head. This video got me back on track on my positive vibes and I feel so relaxed!
I'm so so so glad to hear! If I'm being completely honest, my husband and I got closer post-baby. There was just a deeper, more meaningful love that we both had for the child and for one another. Not everyone will have the same experience, but that was ours
While it can be an overwhelming time it’s so rewarding. Take it one day at a time, honour how you feel and spoil yourself loads. Keep your boundaries tall and strong and enjoy your new family dynamic 🌹
This is literally the number video out of the thousands I have seen so far that has eased my anxiety and given me a sense of relief omg! Thank you!! All the best for baby number two and congratulations on mama hood!!
Oh my goodness, that made my heart explode. I'm so happy it helped you. That was my exact intention. Honesty and encouragement! Wishing you the best!!
I was going to say the same thing !! The way most people describe having a baby it’s like going to jail or something. Always saying say goodbye to your friends, say goodbye to alone time with your husband, goodbye to sleep until they turn 18 . I truly believe it’s the reason I’m afraid to have a baby . I was looking for a video like this . THANK YOU !!!
Yes, also such a nice voice of a nice, honest person!
Finally realistic and positive advices ❤️ I needed that thank you
So welcome. Happy to help!
Yeah. Thanks!
Thanks for the video. Im 31 weeks with my Miracle baby girl after 6 years of infertility. 💖I'm so excited but I am starting to get a little nervous. I just hope I can be the best mom ever to my girl 💕🤰☺
currently 38 weeks pregnant and i found your video this is so calming brought me away from pressure and anxiety
Currently 15 weeks pregnant and I am so happy I found this video. Thank you for the positivity. I’ve been having so much fear and anxiety about being a first time mom (losing my freedom & career which I worked so hard for my whole life). Your video helped me feel more calm ❤️
Hope it's going well!
@@TheOrganizedPineapple yes! I just had my baby girl 2 weeks ago and I love her so much ❤️. Still recovering physically and adjusting mentally, but I’ve learned to take things one day at a time and slow down. One of my favorite things is watching my husband love being her dad. She has made both our lives brighter ☀️.
@@alessandrabenner6058 congratulations 🎉 I have 3 littles and my oldest is 11 ! None of these helpful things were around when I was having my babies. Glad they are around now.
I love how straight to the point you are!! I don't have the patience to sit through an hour long video with a bunch of filler info.
I appreciate how direct and to the point this is!
Thank you Margaret for all your positivity, very inspiring and gives me courage for my first coming in 7 months! 👶🏻😊❤️
I'm over here super emotional and teary-eyed because this video was such a blessing to me. I'm about to go into my third month of pregnancy and I literally know nothing about it and don't have much support. But you are such a light! May God bless you, and encounter you. I pray that if you don't know Jesus, that you come to know him in such a real way. He created you beautifully, thank you so much for all of your help!
I love this. Thank you for sharing. I’m 16 weeks with my first at 27 and being scared is definitely on my mind quite a bit. Your positive energy is so calming and helpful. I hope to be a strong mama like you!
I love this! I’ve been so nervous because of all the negativity surrounding postpartum. A lot of people tried to scare me when I got pregnant too about how terrible pregnancy is. They were SO wrong. I have loved my pregnancy, even when it’s been challenging or uncomfortable. You are so right! It’s all about your mindset. Go into pregnancy and motherhood with a positive and grateful attitude and you will have a positive and fulfilling experience!
I'm so glad you enjoyed and that it resonated with you. You've got it!!!
I absolutely LOVE being pregnant! With my first pregnancy, I thought I was some kind of freak because it was such a great experience for me. I was pregnant last spring, and it was starting out great again, so I thought, "Maybe not everyone always hates being pregnant." Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage and was devastated. I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant again, and I am SO happy and am enjoying being pregnant SO much again! I know a lot of women have a really rough pregnancy, and I feel for them, but I guess I'm just one of the blessed ones that really love being pregnant! ❤I
Thanks for this video! I needed to hear so many of these things. I'm pregnant with our first and people''s stories are starting to scare me, and its so good to hear your view. Love the line, "If you're negative, it will be a negative experience." Holding on to that one! I'm naturally pretty positive about the whole thing, and I get the sideline glance of "just you wait" from many people for being that way. Glad to hear I'm not crazy!!
Thank you for the boost of optimism! The “just wait” world we live does create fear!
This is SO helpful!! With the guidance of Mamas like yourself and my super gracious boss who has 4 girls of his own, I’ve been nothing but calm throughout these first 3 weeks. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing Margaret!
Due in 2 weeks and everyone around me is freaking me out. They're telling me to live as much as I can in these 2 weeks. Makes me depressed. :(
No! Don't listen to them
Their experience is not your experience.. you are a different person.. different partner different baby ... it’s a like she said it’s all what you make it :) it will be a learning curve for sure but you’ll be just fine!! Have a safe and healthy delivery !
@@christinetavazoei8714 So well said!
I hate that, don’t listen to people. Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby, and don’t be afraid to shut down any kind of negative comments.
@@tinyoddfable Yes x 100.
Thank you so much for your positivity! I stress daily with all the horror stories I read online. I too think how my partner and I will cope with life and being together in just a few more months when our princess arrives! It’s scary but you put my heart at ease knowing we’re gonna need eachother and love eachother more during this beautiful experience. Thank you for this video i really needed it today. and good luck with baby #2 ❤️
I love your calm, positive attitude. Thank you!
"Motherhood is what you make of it" LOVE THAT ADVICE! ❤ I'm going to start telling people "I'm sorry YOU feel that way." And walk away when they say negative crap to me. I don't need that kind of negativity.
We tried to conceive for 14 months. My husband & I are about to celebrate 9 years together ❤ We're so excited to be parents. I know it won't be a walk in the park or all rainbow & sunshine... but I really don't think we will be as miserable as everyone makes it out to be. I feel like the joy of bringing our baby girl home will outweigh all the hard moments. 🥰
I loved this video, such a light hearted presentation and so many helpful tips. We're expecting our first and this made me really pumped for his big debut
True simple and clear. 3 weeks before baby comes! Thanks for the insight and this is one of the few videos where I haven’t felt “pushed” to buy something but it was clear counsel and direction.
I'm nearly 7 weeks and your advice is giving me life! Thanks for sharing. 🥰
I love your video. I am 4 months pregnant now and I super relate with your 1st tip. Dont let people scare you. This is something I've been dreading about but listening to you kind of made me feel better. ❤️
I really enjoyed this video, thank you. All the tips to the point, with no extra info, and positive attitude.
This eased my anxiety so much, it's just hard when my parents don't realize how much has changed since they had kids so I'm always hearing different ways to do things and it's incredibly stressful but I know now they're just trying to help from how they remember things
12 weeks first time pregnant here! This is so true! My dad just told me that baths for babies are absurd because in their times they bathed the baby in the sink. That’s the level. My parents are so stubborn and strong minded though, I’m quite afraid of them pushing on how to take care/raise the baby , because I hate having conflict with them. How did you handle it? Any tip please? 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am a 48 year old grandma to be and I love this video> I recommended it to my daughter soon to be FTM. Love your honesty and positive attitude. Being a mom is awesome!
That's the sweetest thing! Thank you! Being a mom is SO awesome, I agree!
I agree with the whole ‘people around you will freak you out’ thingy. Thank you for the reminder !
Absolutely! Thanks for being here!
Just found your channel. You’re so lovely and helpful. I love how you get to the point but also share some extra bits to get to know you and your family more.
And I love your editing style in this!💞
Thank you!! Those words are so kind and encouraging!!
I’m pregnant w my first and god freaking bless you for these videos😭😭
The other things needed for baby listed at 3:40 made me smile:) “you get the idea”😂
Thank you sm for this video. I feel so reassured and confident. I sometimes get so scared. But i know deep down everything will be okay. Thank you for these tips. Love your energy, your way of thinking❤️
This was so encouraging. Thank you for being so positive and sharing this information! Congratulations on the new baby!!
Thanks!! I'm so glad you found it encouraging. That's exactly why I made it!
Wow this was SUCH a comforting video. You kept it so real and I love how you kept saying how empowering motherhood is. I really needed to hear this! Thank you!
Aw I'm so glad you found this page. That's exactly why I made it. Thanks for your encouragement, means so much!
What a helpful video - You made each point well and succinctly! Thank you!
This is one of my favorite videos I have watched in my entire pregnancy, and I have watched so many haha. Everything you said, and the way you speak is so calming and true. Thank you so much!!! This video I’m saving to watch over and over.
Love your videos and your positivity 🙏🏾❤️thank you i learned a-lot from you
I feel like the thumbs up is not at all enough to say how much I loved your video and your attitude!) You are so wise and so right) I found myself smiling during the video and I keep smiling afterwards)
I have two more months before meeting my previous one ❤️
And if I’m getting nervous or unwell I remind myself that my body is doing such an incredible magic, and I need to trust it. Thank you for all your advices and for the feeling of ease you gave 🥰🌹
Im having my first and this past week has been rough.This really calmed me down
suuuuch a good video! I have had three and i love all of your tips here. Basic but i wish i knew all of this before my kids!
Honestly I’m super glad I found this video I feel so much better about being a first time mom 💗
Thank you so much for sharing! I too have been freaking out because of all of the negative comments. Thank you for the realistic and positive approach. I feel so much better and confident in being a new mom soon.
Thank you! Finally a useful positive video ❤️ I’m pregnant with twins due in October 2021 and I’m pretty excited 😍 I’ll have this video saved when they come 😁❤️
This may be the best TH-cam video I've seen on new motherhood and at 28 weeks let me tell ya, I've watched thousands 🤣 thank you for your positivity!
I watched this before and after having my baby and the words are soooo much more meaningful and relatable now that I have my baby haha thanks so much for the encouraging video!
Ohhh your video made me feel so much nicer! Thanks for all the tips. xx
Congratulations for your second little one on the way.
I had my first baby almost 2 months ago now and am still in the learning curve of accepting that family and friends are genuinely happy to help.
I feel the need to do as much s I can myself, accepting that help tho builds relationships.
Letting people hold my baby too for the first few weeks was so hard, i didn't want to be one of those overprotective mums tho so made myself accept others hold her and I'm so glad I did too
Trusting your mum instinct is so on point too and needed, all we want as mums is to do the best for our child and trusting our Instinkt is like an inbuilt internal GPS it's such an uplifting feeling, makes you feel more trust in yourself I find, so empowering
“It’s not a tired that’s ruining my life…” thank you for putting it that way. I’m 34 with my first and the tired is hard for me but putting it that way is so true and helped me place my feelings about being tired better. Thank you
This may be my favorite new mom advice video.
I just want to say thank you for this video! Im a minimalist with a green heart & I wanted to learn something about this new journey I'm going on. You're tips were fabulous & wonderfully helpful, you were to the point & enjoyable to watch. Thank you so much for putting you & your heart felt ideas out there to the world 🥰
Oh man, that's so good to hear, I love that! "motherhood is what you make of it"
All I have heard from people is negative things like our marriage is gonna be over etc.
But so good to hear! I'm excited!
Best vid I‘ve seen to prepare myself for my child. Thank you so much for your positivity! It gave me so much courage and now I can’t wait. I will watch this video again and again in the months to come. ❤️
Ah, so touched to hear this! Thanks for the kind words. I'm so glad it brought you peace!!
This is one of the best videos I have watched about motherhood. You have certainly put me at ease. Thank you 😍 thanks for the positive vibes.
Aw, thank you for the kind words!!!
Such a positive video! Thank you
I love the idea of putting baby to sleep late! It makes so much more sense, having the morning free to get stuff done, especially if I don’t sleep until 23h/midnight anyways. Great tip, going to try it
Best mom prep advice video I’ve heard yet!! Thank you!❤️😭
Ah, thank you!! Those words are so encouraging. Wishing you all the best!
Excellent advice! Really wish I had some of this info many years ago ❤️
Full of goodness n positivity
I love how your video is not only very comforting for all the new moms, but also straight to the point. I see all those 30 minutes long videos for the same topic, and man, ain't nobody has this much time!
hahaha, I feel you! Thanks for these kind words!
Thanks for saying the first part of the video about negative vibes. Made me rethink how I’ve been feeling ❤️
I'm so so happy to hear that. The mind is everything!
Love this! Thank you for your honesty and positivity about how marriage can flourish with a new baby - this is the most helpful video I've seen, and there are a LOT. Haha! I appreciate it!
Wow, those words are so kind and encouraging. Thank you! That's exactly why I'm here, just to be an honest voice on this platform, so that truly means so much.
So glad I found your channel! Currently 19 weeks pregnant and my anxiety is starting to go in overdrive with anticipation and not knowing what to expect. I love this video and it made me feel so much better! following you immediately and love these realistic, positive videos!!
This is such a beautiful, empowering and calming video, thanks so much 💗💗
Absolutely. So so happy to calm anyones nerves. Thanks for your encouragement too!
This is the best video I’ve watched to ease my thoughts and anxiety levels about this new chapter in my life. Currently 40 weeks and 1 day 😁
You are so wise! This is one of the best advice videos I’ve seen yet (and I’ve seen hundreds by now- due with my first in 6 weeks 😆) You are right about staying positive- our mindset is so important. Feelings are like weather, always changing.
Those are such kind words. Wow, thank you. Feelings are like weather--so well said!!
Thank you! Really good tips ❤
Thanks for your video. You really help me.
This is extremely helpful, thank you so much 🥰 I’m 14 weeks pregnant and so excited to be a mommy.
The most lovely video I’ve seen so far. Thank you.
So much helpful info !!! Thank you so much 😭🙏🏼
This was so helpful!! I’m having my first baby in 5 months and I’m so excited but so nervous at the same time. This brought me a sense of relief and I’m glad you shared these tips!
Ah congrats!! You’re going to do great, trust your instincts, they will kick in dear♥️. That’s exactly why I shared this, hoping to bring relief that I never had. Best wishes to you!!
Thank you. This is my first pregnancy and I'm really nervous but this made me feel a lot better!!
About to have my first baby and just wanted to say thank you for this!! There is so much negativity out there and this is such a breath of fresh air
Hi Margaret! You're funny, I enjoyed your video! I appreciate your realism. I am 4 months in. I look forward to watching more!
Best video I've seen about tips. Thank you.
thank you for your optimism and positivity! really good video!
Absolutely. Thanks for your encouraging words!
Great advice. Love your energy.
I'm saving this to watch again, amazing video! I'm so fed up with the horror stories people tell, I mean the whole "it is what you make of it" advice I've really started to use in my life and it really does change things.
I'm so happy you found hope in this video. Wish you could see my face, means so much! Wishing you the best
I’m 24 and barely 7 weeks. I’m so excited and this really helped ease my anxiety 🥺❤️
So fun! Do you know if it’s a boy or girl?
I loved this video. It made me feel at ease. Thank you 💓
This video is so very helpful! Thank you for taking your time to make this.
Yes, no problem! Thanks for watching
I am so going to recommend this video to anyone who has their first baby! Mine is 4 months now and I agree with everything you said here!
So glad I found your channel ❤
thank you so much for being so positive and so comforting 😊😊😊
absolutely. we're all fighting our own mini battles! Thanks for being here!
Great list! Thank you
This is amazing girl!
Such a great video, you really made me feel hopeful about this journey 🥺😭😭😭 I wish I could give you a hug! Thank you
This is great practical advice! Thanks
I love how positive you are ❤
Thanks, truly that's so kind of you to say. That's my goal for this channel!
What an amazing video to watch, thank you I feel so much calmer about the next few months!!!
Thanks so much, I'm so glad it helped you!
Such a wonderful video! My husband and I were so anxious when we found out we were pregnant but we are feeling more at peace as this little ones due date rolls around!
God bless y’all 🥰🙏
Aw, that makes me so happy. Deepest congratulations! It's the most fulfilling job you guys will do great. God's got you! thanks so so much
I'm 14 weeks and a FTM. I'm so excited but have been nervous about some things. This video is a godsend, thank you. I'll be saving to re-watch with my husband a couple times 😊
I'm due in a couple of weeks and you are the only person who seems to feel the same way as me about not wanting to ask for help and other people wanting to hold the baby. It's made me feel so much better knowing that somebody else feels the same way! Xxx
Yessss, gosh it was so hard for me. But in the end, they are offering to help because they want to! Still have to remind myself of that!