Jenn’s pregnancy journey is one of the most realistic ones. It’s always that I see only happy mothers, holding their child and I have no idea what they’re going through. But when I see videos like this, I have better view on pregnancy and motherhood. Thanks, Jenn. You’re inspiration 💕
Exactly ! I find it so reassuring to know what this "mystical experience" is like... To me pregnancy and being a mom was just a distant scary concept that a lot of women strangely went through and yet no one talked about it and how HUGE it was?
Someone once told me for a crying baby: "When in doubt (after you've done all you can to fulfill their needs) go outside and show them a tree." It was the best advice I ever got. Really weird but always effective. It doesn't work for toddlers though 😂
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
1:47 Savor the last moments of your pregnancy 2:26 So this is love 3:08 Parenting is a learn-as-you-go situation 3:52 Breastfeeding is SO emotional 6:11 Take shifts with your partner 6:55 Check for these things when your baby cries 7:52 Your maternal instincts take a while to kick in 9:33 Don't rush your recovery
Not only do I love Jenn for realism and transparency, but she articulates herself EXTREMELY WELL. Let's be honest-- that's a skill; You're awesome, Jenn. Although, I'm only 24, when I'm ready ill be revisiting your videos.
loving your momma content!! i remember when you were pregnant and saying your content won't change because your channel is about you and not the baby. but it's awesome to see that being a parent is a BIG change and in life things can change and i'm glad you're being true to yourself and posting what you want :)
I cannot tell you how comforting it is to hear someone else experiencing visual disturbances due to anxiety. This has been the case for me for 4 years now. Eyes and brain checked out and all pointed to anxiety. I too struggle with health anxiety. I’m a new mom as of Dec 2021 and recently experiencing a flare up of all these symptoms again. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this - it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
“My heart was aching because it was stretching in size” what a beautiful way to describe the full body and full spirited transition into motherhood 🥺🥺🥺 Blessings and love 🥰
Hi Jenn! I’m also a Type A and experience a lot of anxiety. I’m just like you, a problem solver constantly trying to find ways to manage and fix my anxiety. As a practicing Buddhist what I’ve found works best for me aside for meditation is to not fix it. Allow it to arise and dissolve. You are the watcher, because you watch it occur, you are not it. “To have the courage to go home to yourself, to recognize and hold the suffering inside and look deeply into it, may be the most important thing for you to do as a meditator. The meditator breathes in and says, “Hello, my fear, my anger, my despair. I will take good care of you." The moment you recognize the feeling and smile to it with love and care, embracing the fear with mindfulness, it will begin to change. That is the miracle of mindfulness. It's like morning sunlight shining on a lotus flower. The bud has not opened yet, but as the sunlight pours down, the photons penetrate into the bud, and after one or two hours of being penetrated by the light, the flower opens itself. We have the energy of mindfulness generated by mindful walking, sitting or breathing. With that energy we embrace our fear gently as the light embracing the flower. When the two kinds of energy encounter each other, there will be a change, a transformation. The energy of tenderness penetrates the fear, anger or despair. You hold it as dearly as you might hold a wounded child."
Jenn this is so realistic, it’s like seeing my best friend’s pregnancy journey, thank you for articulating everything so beautiful and realistically 🤗 Sometimes it pains me to see you go through low moments but as I see your journey, you always pick yourself up! That’s so inspiring 🥰🙌
It's also very difficult for new fathers, since it is all very new to them as well. I would love to hear Ben's perspective; he tries to stay positive and is always so sure of himself. I am also an overthinker like Jen and I feel like it robs me from getting the full experience because I am always in my own head. Hearing Jen open up makes me want to try harder to accept life for what it is and to allow myself to be more in tune with the moment❣️
My oldest is now almost 5 and my youngest is 2 and I still deal with the anxiety you talk about. I think the state of the world right now amplifies it so I’ve cut out most social media and regular news watching. You’re very self-aware which is the first step in remedying and healing any mental health issues so I think you’ll do very well. Lennon couldn’t ask for a better Momma. 💕
As a mother of a 7 and 9 year old, It gets much easier, just like with anything. The more practice and experience the easier it becomes. It also helps that their dad is very hands on, I can only imagine how hard it is for single parents.
Love this Jenn. My son is almost 9 months old and I feel so confident in my motherhood instinct now. I didn't feel confident until about 4-5 months, honestly. Now it's so normal and natural. It's a willllddddd ride, tiring and scary at times but so worth it ❤️
If you are pregnant all you really need are diapers, bottles, a carrier, clothes, wipes and cloths. Just get a LOT of that. Everything else is sooo extra honestly the whole like hand heater things and gadgets can make this so overwhelming. Just do you and take it slow. You can always get things you likr as you so. You won't know what is convenient for you until you have your baby. Not everyone needs or enjoys using the same things. Hope this helps. First rule, don't panic, clothes and diapers are the essential. Back in the day moms didn't have all this nonsense. Also nonsense is expensive, lol
I heard that almost 45% of mothers experience trauma during and after birth. The 4th trimester is the least talked about, the period where mothers are least educated on and yet need the most support and help. Thank you Jenn for being so brave and sharing your most vulnerable experiences and lessons. Lennon has a resilient momma he is already so proud of.
Seeing visual disturbance is a sign of stress. I had it too during a stressful period of my life. I thought I was going blind too and I went to the ER. But the doctors didn't take me seriously and just sent me home. It was years later through my acupuncturist that I learned it was due to stress and anxiety. Mental health is so important and I love how you are so raw and open. I started going back to therapy because of you.
I really really appreciate the videos you're making about pregnancy and recovering afterwards. I really want to have kids in the near future and hearing such a candid and honest account of your experiences has been so moving. So happy for you and your sweet lil family Jenn
Hi Jenn! This might be an odd compliment but I had a complicated upbringing and seeing your videos makes my heart so warm. This is the kind of love and warmth that I wish I had and watching yours and Ben's videos make me so so happy .Your baby is going to be raised with so much unconditional love and it makes my heart ache knowing what I missed but it also makes my heart swell knowing that there are parents out there who offer love and this baby is going to be receiving so much love and care. What I'm trying to say is, you give me hope and thank you for sharing this part of your life and journey with all of us. Your baby is surely going to be blessed.
I love how Jen said "if you have a partner". I'm crying!!! I'm currently considering being an SMBC so it was so nice to hear someone acknowledge some mothers don't have a co-parent.
Amazing video Jen. I too experienced the emotional shift while breastfeeding. It felt like intense moments of depression and anxiety/panic. Thankfully, the social worker at my hospital explained why I was feeling this was and it was so helpful to know it’s normal! I’m thankful for you sharing your experience and to have you as a fellow new mom!
First time mom recently had by baby girl two weeks ago! I followed you along your pregnancy journey and enjoyed your advice now the same for your postpartum journey! I’m glad to hear that everything I’m experiencing, as I navigate through this new wave of life, is actually normal lol
Hi Jenn, I'm due in February with my first baby and I've been freaking out. I've been feeling very unprepared and very scared lately. Thank you for sharing all your experiences with becoming a mom. It helps me and a lot of others (I'm sure) to feel less alone.
thank you for sharing this, and all your tips and experiences so far being a mama ❤️ not a mama yet, but when that time comes for my hubby and i, i’m so glad i can rewatch your videos for a little peace of mind (and support) 😘 blessings to you, ben and baby L!
Love this! Totally agree breastfeeding gets way easier after the first 2 months. I also combo feed with formula and it gives me a very important break physically and mentally every day!
Hey Jenn, I’m not pregnant or with postpartum but I always had the flashes and floating stuff in the eyes, I notice that they appear when I lack sleep or I’m ‘high’ on coffee! Which is linked to anxiety for sure, I did not even think about getting blind but I think we are fine! 😄It’s good to see any type of videos from you even if I’m not on the same journey yet, brings me comfort and good vibes ☁️🌞🤍
She’s on point. Literally first few months of motherhood is extreme physical and mental torture. Pushes your mind and body to the max especially if you’re tackling it alone.
Can I just say- Thank You!! For sharing all of this! I am 5 1/2 months pregnant and to hear a mom say all of the worries they had or the hard times they had really helps us soon to be moms. So many times I see videos of nothing but positivity and I think to myself " I don't think my experience will be like that" Normalizing the struggle of being 1. a new mom 2. having all of these hormones leave your body and change you 3. trying to "keep up" with the world. These are all things we need to have conversations about, and I really want to say thank you! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and the journey you still take. I humbly appreciate it!
Love you Jenn. I am so grateful to watch your videos. My baby is almost 3 months. And I’ve been learning so much from your journey. Been following you years and I feel like you are my little sister but smarter than me ❤️🥰😭
Finally someone talking honestly about what realy dominates the postpartum stage emotionally. Thank you for beenig so opened and honest. I felt understood and I wish I had seen such a video when I was going through it. The subject of postpartum Anxiety is still not comunicated enough so that there are still mamas that feel as if they are alone, but they are not.
Jenn, I've been watching for so long (started watching you when I was 16, I am now 21) and its been crazy to follow your journey. I just love how real you are and I think it takes courage to say these things online and to open up like this. So excited to see where future takes you and to see your little one grow up ♥️ Thank you for being an inspiration for me all these years!
At the height of my anxiety, I had very similar eye issues to you as well. Rainbow zig zags, black floaters and during one particular instance, the center of my vision was just totally gone. Like everything I focused on was blank. Similar to looking at the sun and then at something else or having a brightly lit flash of a camera go off and then looking away. It was terrifying. But it went away when I calmed down. I also would get wicked dizzy spells and just felt so discouraged like I couldn’t trust my body.
Thank you thank you for sharing your journey and being so open/transparent. It is refreshing and SO important. You are absolutely beaming and coming into motherhood so beautifully. So much yourself. Sending love!
New mom here!!! My baby’s 6 months old and omg could I freaking relate to the d-mer part. It’s so good to know that it’s actually a hormonal thing, I remember feeling a wave of anxiousness every time my son latched for the first two months. I always just tried to shrug it off and told myself it was just my mind playing games and that everything is alright. Really felt like you answered a puzzle for me through this video …. Good to know if this happens again with any future children! :) happy to hear your doing well and taking care of your mental health. Definitely something moms need to prioritize!
I’m a mom of an almost 2 y/o and I can say: every single point you hit is sooo accurate (at least to my journey). So good to hear someone talk about it and normalize this for future or current parents.
Jenn! This video was spot on! It feels so good having someone that is going through the same thing. My son was born 2 weeks after Lennon, so that adds to the relevance to my story as well. The eye thing? I mean wow! My husband was the only one I confided in that my eye sight was going blurry. Thank you so much for sharing!
Currently watching this with my 4 month old son sleeping peacefully on me, and omg yes -- the LOVE! The intensity of the pure love you feel for your baby is like nothing else. It's indescribable and overwhelming and just so pure. 😭❤
Not a mom, but I really relate to the medical anxiety. I went to a bunch of eye doctors because I would get these panic attacks where I would literally lose the majority of my vision in one eye. It was so scary. I had scans and everything done. It's amazing the affect of stress, anxiety, and even hormones can have on the body. I'm glad you are finding a better place and the ripple of things is starting to feel better!
Thank you for sharing this. You are not alone with these issues, it’s nice to see someone talk about them online. I have no doubt that this will help other mothers who are struggling.
I have always noticed when my anxiety is more severe, I experience visual disturbances as well. You’re the first person I’ve ever heard say this as well. I’m pregnant now so I’m glad I can be prepared if this happens postpartum. Thank you for being so brave and so real. It’s helped me feel more normal, and prepared.
I haven’t watched in a while but I just was going through some of your videos and by some miracle this was posted just a minute ago! Congrats on your new home and family Jenn :)
Jennnn, I found myself soo proud of you while listening to you speak, I love to see the self-assurance kick in and the confidence come through as time goes on, I’m just so happy that you’re adjusting so well and I know you’re putting lots of work and effort into doing so for the sake of your baby and yourself, and that is so so admirable! As long as you have the mental tools and resources you can continue to face anything! Great video 😊 I’m not a mommy yet so it’s good to hear also
Sending you lots of Love 💛💛💛💛 You are doing wonderfully Jenn! Thank you for having the courage and vulnerability to share your story and experiences, it helps to raise awareness and create crucial conversations as well as give comfort to others that they are not alone 🤱🏻🔥💖👑 Stay safe and well xxx
Your honesty during your transition into mommy-hood is so so enlightening and helpful. Thanks for sharing everything! ❤️ I’m not naturally maternal and these videos give me hope that one day should I ever maybe decide to accidentally or by choice become a mom, that I can figure it out too and that not knowing how to is absolutely normal!
5 week mama here! I resonate with everything you experienced, especially the breastfeeding part! The trouble latching, supply worries, pain, the dread every time I was about to do a feed...it almost felt easier to just pump and feed it through a bottle! who knew there was a hormonal reason for it!
Found you randomly and the first video of you I watched was the one where u gave speech and I 've been your viewer for 2 years if I'm not mistaken. It's just so nice to see you bloom and able to witness the chapters of ur life.
We are trying for our first baby and I am super scared and anxious already. My lack of coincidence in being a mother, my already high anxiety and fear of lack of sleep. I really like the idea of what you and Ben did with your sleep arrangement. So did you guys have a bed in the nursery and sleep separately until it was the other ones turn? I’m afraid about sleeping in separate beds for long periods and loosing connection. I know with being a new parent you don’t really have time together anymore and I feel like that’s the only time you both come together after the whole day…
I'm so glad you talked about D-MER and seeing flashes, I experienced both!! And listening to you talk I now realize my PP anxiety was probably more severe than I thought, glad to hear someone else going through the same stuff
I had similar eye disturbances when my second son was a baby and I had glandular fever at same time. Also migraines with aura can cause it. And this is just a random thought but pressure from pushing during labour and swelling can affect the eyes too. I experience horrible health anxiety at times coz I do have health problems and I think when something is off/or different than its natural so you are not alone.
@@imjennim I still have them at times. I experience light sensitivity blurring and pain. I do have sinus headaches and pressure. Your sinus could actually be a bit swollen or congested. ❤❤
They don’t pay me enough to be a woman. My respect and love for our kind is just on a whole other level. We go through so much. I’m still young and not at all ready to be a mom, but I have such a huge appreciation for my mom for going through this 😭
I'm not a mom yet thanks for this information it was so helpful when it especially your a first time thanks again taking us along the journey into pregnancy and into motherhood. We honestly thank you 😊
There are a lot of things that people say to pregnant/new moms that create so much anxiety, like to will feel so much love the first time you see the positive test....the only I felt was fear, shock and anxiety...and felt so guilty because of it. I appreciate videos like this, so real! People except so much of us even when we dont have a clue what we are doing!
love the list you provided about what to check when your baby is crying! it reminded me of one of your previous vids when you were talking about relationship tips / mental health, and you shared a similar list when you’re upset or stressed. the list included checking if you’re hungry, if you’re tired, etc thanks for this vid jenn! I don’t have a baby nor am I pregnant, but it’s still so fun learning all of this from you!
I'm 22, idk if I will ever want to be a mom, I never really had the desire so far.... No mother (including my own) ever discussed with me what it feels like to actually become a mother, so for me it's hard to imagine what it could feel like if I wanted to be one... It's such a common experience that I feel like everyone forgets how HUGE and STRANGE it is. Hearing you talk about it makes me feel less like it's a strange experience no one talks about around me. Your vlogs make me understand what it actually feels like before and after giving birth. Ignorance is scary and so your videos reassure me about an experience that, who knows, I might go through in the future. Love from France
It’s funny how I’m 23 and I’m not ready to have a baby yet but I still watch all your videos on motherhood/pregnancy lol. I like to think I’m preparing myself for when I become a mother in about 5 years 😂
Sometimes I watch your videos cry because they make me feel so understood as a new mom. It really gives me comfort to hear someone articulate the difficulties of the 4th trimester. As a first time mom, your videos have helped me more than you know. Thank you ❤️
I’ve been watching your videos since you were still clothesencounters and Ben wasn’t even around yet! I’ve have pretty much grown up with you, I’m 22 now and am in my second trimester of my first pregnancy with a boy also and watching your content now is just so comforting and always has been, thank you for being here ♥️
I'm not even a mom or planning to be one anytime soon but somehow you make me wanna watch all of your videos, no matter it's about. Love the way you're telling anything 💕
I got hit by a car and almost killed, and in the first few months of my recovery was diagnosed with post traumatic stress.. the vision stuff you describe is somewhat similar to my experience. I was having panic attacks while falling asleep (it's pretty weird when your subconscious takes over and is freaked the f out) and I had craaaazy stuff happening behind my eyelids. Insane geometric patterns, lots of flashes, lots of purple. Anxiety and stress manifest in such strange ways sometimes, and are great at making you feel like you've got some undiagnosed injury/disorder. Glad you're feeling more capable of taking your life back from the worry!
I love the confidence but also know things flux and the rollercoasters will continue to happen. You will feel that confidence about if you are doing motherhood "correctly" drop and grow over and over. The feeling that you don't know what to do will happen over and over. My daughter is 5 and to expect the unexpected helps keep me on my toes.
You are Glowing Beautifully . Motherhood looks so good on you Jenn. Thank You for sharing your experience and Your thought on Motherhood. God bless our kids . Thank You for sharing 👍
Rewatching your pregnancy journey videos again as I'm now expecting. Thanks again for making these honest videos Jen, it addressed alot of my fears and I'm feeling a bit more ready and confident for the things to come.
New mum right here as well and breastfeeding has been so difficult physically and mentally. But watching this video made me a little more hopeful that things will get better. Thanks Jenn❤️❤️
I found out I was pregnant last night and I will say, I have a very similar reaction to your video you posted when you shared your pregnancy. And it made me feel better knowing that it's ok not to feel excited the second you get those two lines. Thank you SO much for sharing your journey and experience. These videos have been so reassuring.
Hi Jenn! As much as I'm glad the visual disturbances have stopped, do not let the optometrists gaslight you! When physicians can't find the answers, they tend to blame anxiety. I hope they're right this time, but do trust your gut if you feel like something is off!
I had my first son 9 months ago and this was such a great video to go back on. It reminded me how I felt when he was first born and how far we’ve come since then. It definitely gets easier but the first couple of months WERE. A. STRUGGLE. Thank you for making this video and explaining everything so eloquently x
I experienced D-Mer too and it was awful. I've kind of forgotten about it since it's been two and a half years but I remember feeling so relieved after identifying what it was and that it was actually a thing. Thanks for sharing it with others on your platform! As a new mom it was a terrifying thing to experience on top of everything else that was going on.😭
I had it too. But I didn't feel sad, I felt blinding rage upon milk letdown. It really sucked. I held out for as long as I could but I hated breastfeeding. It really wasn't compatible with me, sadly. I wish I could have loved it but I was so relieved when we were weaned and done.
I had the same thing and am still experiencing it with my 2-month old. At its worst, it felt like a wave of dread and depression, as if I just got dumped or fired. Once after a long breastfeeding session with multiple letdowns, I had to ask my husband to hold the baby so I could break down bawling for a few minutes. But just like Jenn said, it goes away as quickly as it comes! And it absolutely has gotten better over time too. So glad that she’s bringing awareness to D-MER. This wasn’t brought up in any of my reading or preparation, so I thought I was losing my mind! Was so incredibly relieved after finding out what it was.
I had D-mer as well and it definitely tied in with PPA and PPD. So glad Jenn talked about this because it’s not talked about enough! I had it for the whole feeding session (30 mins) and ended up weaning at 4 months for my mental health. Strangely, even though I’ve stopped for a year I’m still producing milk in small amounts and my D-mer stuck around. Seems like the experience is subjective to everyone… Sending love to all mamas with D-Mer
Just had my son in November and so much of what u said is relatable already .. 😭I started seeing stuff too and recently they tapered off and I had a feeling it was just anxiety...😓
Jenn, you are always so comforting to listen to. Maybe I think it's because we're both Virgos, but maybe, it's because you are a genuine person who is solution-oriented (a new word I'm adding to my resume). Over the years, it always seemed like you were one to two steps ahead of me, and I always appreciated hearing your words of wisdom. I know you're learning as you're going, and you change your opinions when you learn -- but this is exactly why you will always have a special place in my heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
One of the best quality about your channel, and probably about you, is your honesty. You’re always keeping it real, no sugarcoating, just being honest and real. I’m currently 5 months pregnant, and I feel like your videos about pregnancy and motherhood journey are helping to prepare myself.
Wow! I'm new to the channel and I must say it's the best English pronunciation I've ever heard, the articulation and the choice of vocabulary, everything just sounds so good!
Wow, I'm 6 weeks into motherhood and I can relate to about 90% of all these insights. It's so good to hear the similarities. Thanks for making this video.
I'm not even a parent, but I so appreciate how honest you've been throughout this whole journey. Too often parenthood (especially for the first time) is so glamorized, and parents are so shamed for the smallest misstep... It's a growing experience for everyone involved, and that journey is what matters. ❤
A beautiful video to watch. From a Midwife's perspective you are an amazing mother and a completely normal woman! All mothers have these feelings one day! Shout out to my amazing mummas out there❤️❤️
I watched this to see if our experiences were similar. There were so many experiences that were identical! Even things I thought were just me being me. It’s so nice and validating to hear you share Lol. my baby is 2 now and she is truly magical and we’re making it through!!
This is so true, and so relatable! I really didn’t enjoy having a newborn like I thought I would. Breastfeeding is no joke, and those postpartum hormones were such a shock to my system! I remember feeling like I was dying in the first few weeks, it was that full on. It took me a good few months to get into the rhythm but now my little one is nearly 10 months and I love being a mother and I love her with every fibre of my being ❤️ I’m so glad to see you share these raw emotions and the reality. I feel like I went in blind and would have loved to see this! I hope you all have great times from here on out 🥰
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Jenn’s pregnancy journey is one of the most realistic ones. It’s always that I see only happy mothers, holding their child and I have no idea what they’re going through. But when I see videos like this, I have better view on pregnancy and motherhood. Thanks, Jenn. You’re inspiration 💕
Exactly ! I find it so reassuring to know what this "mystical experience" is like... To me pregnancy and being a mom was just a distant scary concept that a lot of women strangely went through and yet no one talked about it and how HUGE it was?
Yesss
Definitely
Aww thank you! I'm trying to share my honest experience with you all. 🤍
Watch Shan Boodram! She goes into the realities of motherhood, very eye opening
Someone once told me for a crying baby: "When in doubt (after you've done all you can to fulfill their needs) go outside and show them a tree." It was the best advice I ever got. Really weird but always effective. It doesn't work for toddlers though 😂
Ahhh that's a good one!! Lennon loves being outside and staring at everything
they get bored easily. babies need to be constantly entertained.
@@KamilRafuson well yeah they’re new here🤣
The best.. It's works for my my son is 8 months. Started when he was about 4 months
Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
1:47 Savor the last moments of your pregnancy
2:26 So this is love
3:08 Parenting is a learn-as-you-go situation
3:52 Breastfeeding is SO emotional
6:11 Take shifts with your partner
6:55 Check for these things when your baby cries
7:52 Your maternal instincts take a while to kick in
9:33 Don't rush your recovery
Tq!!
Not only do I love Jenn for realism and transparency, but she articulates herself EXTREMELY WELL. Let's be honest-- that's a skill; You're awesome, Jenn. Although, I'm only 24, when I'm ready ill be revisiting your videos.
The decision to have a child is knowing that your heart will forever walk outside of your chest. I’m not sure who said it, but it’s so true ❤️
Love that 🥰
It's such a great description of how it feels!
I've always found that so true!
My mum always said that to me growing up! What a deep, immense sensation to go through every single day 🤍
loving your momma content!! i remember when you were pregnant and saying your content won't change because your channel is about you and not the baby. but it's awesome to see that being a parent is a BIG change and in life things can change and i'm glad you're being true to yourself and posting what you want :)
I cannot tell you how comforting it is to hear someone else experiencing visual disturbances due to anxiety. This has been the case for me for 4 years now. Eyes and brain checked out and all pointed to anxiety. I too struggle with health anxiety. I’m a new mom as of Dec 2021 and recently experiencing a flare up of all these symptoms again. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this - it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
I feel you. You're not alone. 🤍🤍
@@imjennim you can try Regression to past lives therapy, (Brian Weiss)... it's life changing!
“My heart was aching because it was stretching in size” what a beautiful way to describe the full body and full spirited transition into motherhood 🥺🥺🥺 Blessings and love 🥰
Hi Jenn! I’m also a Type A and experience a lot of anxiety. I’m just like you, a problem solver constantly trying to find ways to manage and fix my anxiety. As a practicing Buddhist what I’ve found works best for me aside for meditation is to not fix it. Allow it to arise and dissolve. You are the watcher, because you watch it occur, you are not it.
“To have the courage to go home
to yourself, to recognize and hold the suffering inside and look deeply into it, may be the most important thing for you to do as a meditator. The meditator breathes in and says, “Hello, my fear, my anger, my despair. I will take good care of you." The moment you recognize the feeling and smile to it with love and care, embracing the fear with mindfulness, it will begin to change. That is the miracle of mindfulness. It's like morning sunlight shining on a lotus flower. The bud has not opened yet, but as the sunlight pours down, the photons penetrate into the bud, and after one or two hours of being penetrated by the light, the flower opens itself. We have the energy of mindfulness generated by mindful walking, sitting or breathing. With that energy we embrace our fear gently as the light embracing the flower. When the two kinds of energy encounter each other, there will be a change, a transformation. The energy of
tenderness penetrates the fear, anger or despair. You hold it as dearly as you might hold a wounded child."
Jenn this is so realistic, it’s like seeing my best friend’s pregnancy journey, thank you for articulating everything so beautiful and realistically 🤗 Sometimes it pains me to see you go through low moments but as I see your journey, you always pick yourself up! That’s so inspiring 🥰🙌
Could you also let Ben talk about his perspective, how he feels as a new dad and what his struggles were?
We can ask him on his channel ☺️
I think he would share it in his channel
Oh! Didn't know he had one
@@cameronfuchs8248 you should check it out. It's good
It's also very difficult for new fathers, since it is all very new to them as well. I would love to hear Ben's perspective; he tries to stay positive and is always so sure of himself. I am also an overthinker like Jen and I feel like it robs me from getting the full experience because I am always in my own head. Hearing Jen open up makes me want to try harder to accept life for what it is and to allow myself to be more in tune with the moment❣️
My oldest is now almost 5 and my youngest is 2 and I still deal with the anxiety you talk about. I think the state of the world right now amplifies it so I’ve cut out most social media and regular news watching. You’re very self-aware which is the first step in remedying and healing any mental health issues so I think you’ll do very well. Lennon couldn’t ask for a better Momma. 💕
You deserve the world
Agree 😌🙏🏽
I think I need to reduce the amount of time I read the news too. Thank you for sharing! You're doing amazing. 🌹
As a mother of a 7 and 9 year old, It gets much easier, just like with anything. The more practice and experience the easier it becomes. It also helps that their dad is very hands on, I can only imagine how hard it is for single parents.
Love this Jenn. My son is almost 9 months old and I feel so confident in my motherhood instinct now. I didn't feel confident until about 4-5 months, honestly. Now it's so normal and natural. It's a willllddddd ride, tiring and scary at times but so worth it ❤️
Ahhh! Absolutely! Feels good to finally hit my stride too! 🤍
I'm loving how your content has evolved with you through all your life stages. So relatable and helpful to your viewers, keep it up!
Can you please do a newborn things you did not use?!?! Everyone recommends so many things! It would be so helpful!
Yesss, this please!
Yesss
She did one about a month ago. Its called: *My Newborn Essentials* 😊
Yessss
If you are pregnant all you really need are diapers, bottles, a carrier, clothes, wipes and cloths. Just get a LOT of that. Everything else is sooo extra honestly the whole like hand heater things and gadgets can make this so overwhelming. Just do you and take it slow. You can always get things you likr as you so. You won't know what is convenient for you until you have your baby. Not everyone needs or enjoys using the same things. Hope this helps. First rule, don't panic, clothes and diapers are the essential. Back in the day moms didn't have all this nonsense. Also nonsense is expensive, lol
I heard that almost 45% of mothers experience trauma during and after birth. The 4th trimester is the least talked about, the period where mothers are least educated on and yet need the most support and help. Thank you Jenn for being so brave and sharing your most vulnerable experiences and lessons. Lennon has a resilient momma he is already so proud of.
Seeing visual disturbance is a sign of stress. I had it too during a stressful period of my life. I thought I was going blind too and I went to the ER. But the doctors didn't take me seriously and just sent me home. It was years later through my acupuncturist that I learned it was due to stress and anxiety. Mental health is so important and I love how you are so raw and open. I started going back to therapy because of you.
I really really appreciate the videos you're making about pregnancy and recovering afterwards. I really want to have kids in the near future and hearing such a candid and honest account of your experiences has been so moving. So happy for you and your sweet lil family Jenn
Hi Jenn! This might be an odd compliment but I had a complicated upbringing and seeing your videos makes my heart so warm. This is the kind of love and warmth that I wish I had and watching yours and Ben's videos make me so so happy .Your baby is going to be raised with so much unconditional love and it makes my heart ache knowing what I missed but it also makes my heart swell knowing that there are parents out there who offer love and this baby is going to be receiving so much love and care. What I'm trying to say is, you give me hope and thank you for sharing this part of your life and journey with all of us. Your baby is surely going to be blessed.
I love how Jen said "if you have a partner". I'm crying!!! I'm currently considering being an SMBC so it was so nice to hear someone acknowledge some mothers don't have a co-parent.
Amazing video Jen. I too experienced the emotional shift while breastfeeding. It felt like intense moments of depression and anxiety/panic. Thankfully, the social worker at my hospital explained why I was feeling this was and it was so helpful to know it’s normal! I’m thankful for you sharing your experience and to have you as a fellow new mom!
You being a mom is just another addition to your amazing personality! Love yaa 💓
First time mom recently had by baby girl two weeks ago! I followed you along your pregnancy journey and enjoyed your advice now the same for your postpartum journey! I’m glad to hear that everything I’m experiencing, as I navigate through this new wave of life, is actually normal lol
Ahh congratulations!!
@@imjennim thank you! 💗💗
8:55 "Confidence only happens when you do something over and over and over again. That can only come with time and repetition." Love this!
Hi Jenn, I'm due in February with my first baby and I've been freaking out. I've been feeling very unprepared and very scared lately. Thank you for sharing all your experiences with becoming a mom. It helps me and a lot of others (I'm sure) to feel less alone.
thank you for sharing this, and all your tips and experiences so far being a mama ❤️ not a mama yet, but when that time comes for my hubby and i, i’m so glad i can rewatch your videos for a little peace of mind (and support) 😘 blessings to you, ben and baby L!
Love this! Totally agree breastfeeding gets way easier after the first 2 months. I also combo feed with formula and it gives me a very important break physically and mentally every day!
Yayy! Nice to see fellow combo feeder! It really takes the pressure off
@@imjennim It's awesome!! Also I did my first cold shower today 💪🏼 felt SO good after!
Hey Jenn, I’m not pregnant or with postpartum but I always had the flashes and floating stuff in the eyes, I notice that they appear when I lack sleep or I’m ‘high’ on coffee! Which is linked to anxiety for sure, I did not even think about getting blind but I think we are fine! 😄It’s good to see any type of videos from you even if I’m not on the same journey yet, brings me comfort and good vibes ☁️🌞🤍
So proud of you Jenn , I’ve been watching since the beginning and you’ve grown into such an amazing fearless woman -you’re my role model
She’s on point.
Literally first few months of motherhood is extreme physical and mental torture. Pushes your mind and body to the max especially if you’re tackling it alone.
Can I just say- Thank You!! For sharing all of this! I am 5 1/2 months pregnant and to hear a mom say all of the worries they had or the hard times they had really helps us soon to be moms. So many times I see videos of nothing but positivity and I think to myself " I don't think my experience will be like that" Normalizing the struggle of being 1. a new mom 2. having all of these hormones leave your body and change you 3. trying to "keep up" with the world. These are all things we need to have conversations about, and I really want to say thank you! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and the journey you still take. I humbly appreciate it!
Love you Jenn. I am so grateful to watch your videos. My baby is almost 3 months. And I’ve been learning so much from your journey. Been following you years and I feel like you are my little sister but smarter than me ❤️🥰😭
Finally someone talking honestly about what realy dominates the postpartum stage emotionally. Thank you for beenig so opened and honest. I felt understood and I wish I had seen such a video when I was going through it. The subject of postpartum Anxiety is still not comunicated enough so that there are still mamas that feel as if they are alone, but they are not.
Jenn, I've been watching for so long (started watching you when I was 16, I am now 21) and its been crazy to follow your journey. I just love how real you are and I think it takes courage to say these things online and to open up like this.
So excited to see where future takes you and to see your little one grow up ♥️
Thank you for being an inspiration for me all these years!
At the height of my anxiety, I had very similar eye issues to you as well. Rainbow zig zags, black floaters and during one particular instance, the center of my vision was just totally gone. Like everything I focused on was blank. Similar to looking at the sun and then at something else or having a brightly lit flash of a camera go off and then looking away. It was terrifying. But it went away when I calmed down. I also would get wicked dizzy spells and just felt so discouraged like I couldn’t trust my body.
Thank you for your honesty Jenn! My daughter is 3 weeks old and watching your video made me so emotional! Motherhood is a wild ride ❤️
Thank you thank you for sharing your journey and being so open/transparent. It is refreshing and SO important. You are absolutely beaming and coming into motherhood so beautifully. So much yourself. Sending love!
This is extremely helpful. Thank you Jenn! 🥰 Your pregnancy and motherhood journey is so inspiring!
New mom here!!! My baby’s 6 months old and omg could I freaking relate to the d-mer part. It’s so good to know that it’s actually a hormonal thing, I remember feeling a wave of anxiousness every time my son latched for the first two months. I always just tried to shrug it off and told myself it was just my mind playing games and that everything is alright. Really felt like you answered a puzzle for me through this video …. Good to know if this happens again with any future children! :) happy to hear your doing well and taking care of your mental health. Definitely something moms need to prioritize!
I feeel you! It's not super common, but it's nice to know we aren't the only ones experiencing it.
Not planning on having a baby soon but clicked on this soooo fast!!! Hahahah
I’m a mom of an almost 2 y/o and I can say: every single point you hit is sooo accurate (at least to my journey). So good to hear someone talk about it and normalize this for future or current parents.
Jenn! This video was spot on! It feels so good having someone that is going through the same thing. My son was born 2 weeks after Lennon, so that adds to the relevance to my story as well. The eye thing? I mean wow! My husband was the only one I confided in that my eye sight was going blurry. Thank you so much for sharing!
Currently watching this with my 4 month old son sleeping peacefully on me, and omg yes -- the LOVE! The intensity of the pure love you feel for your baby is like nothing else. It's indescribable and overwhelming and just so pure. 😭❤
Lol I love how transparent and blunt you are about your experience. Congratulations!
Not a mom, but I really relate to the medical anxiety. I went to a bunch of eye doctors because I would get these panic attacks where I would literally lose the majority of my vision in one eye. It was so scary. I had scans and everything done. It's amazing the affect of stress, anxiety, and even hormones can have on the body. I'm glad you are finding a better place and the ripple of things is starting to feel better!
Ugh I'm so sorry to hear you've gone through this too. Stress, anxiety, and hormones can be a potent cocktail for visual disturbances. 😭
Thank you for sharing this. You are not alone with these issues, it’s nice to see someone talk about them online. I have no doubt that this will help other mothers who are struggling.
I have always noticed when my anxiety is more severe, I experience visual disturbances as well. You’re the first person I’ve ever heard say this as well. I’m pregnant now so I’m glad I can be prepared if this happens postpartum. Thank you for being so brave and so real. It’s helped me feel more normal, and prepared.
I haven’t watched in a while but I just was going through some of your videos and by some miracle this was posted just a minute ago! Congrats on your new home and family Jenn :)
Jennnn, I found myself soo proud of you while listening to you speak, I love to see the self-assurance kick in and the confidence come through as time goes on, I’m just so happy that you’re adjusting so well and I know you’re putting lots of work and effort into doing so for the sake of your baby and yourself, and that is so so admirable! As long as you have the mental tools and resources you can continue to face anything! Great video 😊 I’m not a mommy yet so it’s good to hear also
Sending you lots of Love 💛💛💛💛
You are doing wonderfully Jenn! Thank you for having the courage and vulnerability to share your story and experiences, it helps to raise awareness and create crucial conversations as well as give comfort to others that they are not alone 🤱🏻🔥💖👑 Stay safe and well xxx
Your honesty during your transition into mommy-hood is so so enlightening and helpful. Thanks for sharing everything! ❤️ I’m not naturally maternal and these videos give me hope that one day should I ever maybe decide to accidentally or by choice become a mom, that I can figure it out too and that not knowing how to is absolutely normal!
5 week mama here! I resonate with everything you experienced, especially the breastfeeding part! The trouble latching, supply worries, pain, the dread every time I was about to do a feed...it almost felt easier to just pump and feed it through a bottle! who knew there was a hormonal reason for it!
I went through exactly the same thing, every detail... now I know I'm not the only one
Found you randomly and the first video of you I watched was the one where u gave speech and I 've been your viewer for 2 years if I'm not mistaken. It's just so nice to see you bloom and able to witness the chapters of ur life.
We are trying for our first baby and I am super scared and anxious already. My lack of coincidence in being a mother, my already high anxiety and fear of lack of sleep. I really like the idea of what you and Ben did with your sleep arrangement. So did you guys have a bed in the nursery and sleep separately until it was the other ones turn? I’m afraid about sleeping in separate beds for long periods and loosing connection. I know with being a new parent you don’t really have time together anymore and I feel like that’s the only time you both come together after the whole day…
I'm so glad you talked about D-MER and seeing flashes, I experienced both!! And listening to you talk I now realize my PP anxiety was probably more severe than I thought, glad to hear someone else going through the same stuff
I had similar eye disturbances when my second son was a baby and I had glandular fever at same time. Also migraines with aura can cause it. And this is just a random thought but pressure from pushing during labour and swelling can affect the eyes too. I experience horrible health anxiety at times coz I do have health problems and I think when something is off/or different than its natural so you are not alone.
Oh wow! Thank you for sharing this! How long did your visual disturbances continue postpartum?
@@imjennim I still have them at times. I experience light sensitivity blurring and pain. I do have sinus headaches and pressure. Your sinus could actually be a bit swollen or congested. ❤❤
im a 15 yrs old girl but still love watching this
thank you so much for sharing with us
They don’t pay me enough to be a woman. My respect and love for our kind is just on a whole other level. We go through so much. I’m still young and not at all ready to be a mom, but I have such a huge appreciation for my mom for going through this 😭
I'm not a mom yet thanks for this information it was so helpful when it especially your a first time thanks again taking us along the journey into pregnancy and into motherhood. We honestly thank you 😊
Loyal fan who is never going to have a baby: watching all of your motherhood videos just to see you talking 🥰🥰 sending love from Ecuador
There are a lot of things that people say to pregnant/new moms that create so much anxiety, like to will feel so much love the first time you see the positive test....the only I felt was fear, shock and anxiety...and felt so guilty because of it. I appreciate videos like this, so real! People except so much of us even when we dont have a clue what we are doing!
love the list you provided about what to check when your baby is crying! it reminded me of one of your previous vids when you were talking about relationship tips / mental health, and you shared a similar list when you’re upset or stressed. the list included checking if you’re hungry, if you’re tired, etc
thanks for this vid jenn! I don’t have a baby nor am I pregnant, but it’s still so fun learning all of this from you!
I'm 22, idk if I will ever want to be a mom, I never really had the desire so far.... No mother (including my own) ever discussed with me what it feels like to actually become a mother, so for me it's hard to imagine what it could feel like if I wanted to be one... It's such a common experience that I feel like everyone forgets how HUGE and STRANGE it is. Hearing you talk about it makes me feel less like it's a strange experience no one talks about around me. Your vlogs make me understand what it actually feels like before and after giving birth. Ignorance is scary and so your videos reassure me about an experience that, who knows, I might go through in the future. Love from France
Thank you Jenn!! So honest and humble - you are inspiring💖
It’s funny how I’m 23 and I’m not ready to have a baby yet but I still watch all your videos on motherhood/pregnancy lol. I like to think I’m preparing myself for when I become a mother in about 5 years 😂
Sometimes I watch your videos cry because they make me feel so understood as a new mom. It really gives me comfort to hear someone articulate the difficulties of the 4th trimester. As a first time mom, your videos have helped me more than you know. Thank you ❤️
I’ve been watching your videos since you were still clothesencounters and Ben wasn’t even around yet! I’ve have pretty much grown up with you, I’m 22 now and am in my second trimester of my first pregnancy with a boy also and watching your content now is just so comforting and always has been, thank you for being here ♥️
I'm not even a mom or planning to be one anytime soon but somehow you make me wanna watch all of your videos, no matter it's about. Love the way you're telling anything 💕
I loved the amount of honesty and knowledge you conveyed in this video. I am not yet a parent. But this was reassuring and comforting. Thanks Jenn 💛
I got hit by a car and almost killed, and in the first few months of my recovery was diagnosed with post traumatic stress.. the vision stuff you describe is somewhat similar to my experience. I was having panic attacks while falling asleep (it's pretty weird when your subconscious takes over and is freaked the f out) and I had craaaazy stuff happening behind my eyelids. Insane geometric patterns, lots of flashes, lots of purple. Anxiety and stress manifest in such strange ways sometimes, and are great at making you feel like you've got some undiagnosed injury/disorder. Glad you're feeling more capable of taking your life back from the worry!
I love the confidence but also know things flux and the rollercoasters will continue to happen. You will feel that confidence about if you are doing motherhood "correctly" drop and grow over and over. The feeling that you don't know what to do will happen over and over. My daughter is 5 and to expect the unexpected helps keep me on my toes.
I am tearing up watching this! So beautiful Jenn 💕 also.. you’re totally glowing and I’d love to know what’s on your lips
This is soo beneficial and you always do such a great job explaining your emotions. Love this.
You are Glowing Beautifully . Motherhood looks so good on you Jenn. Thank You for sharing your experience and Your thought on Motherhood. God bless our kids . Thank You for sharing 👍
Rewatching your pregnancy journey videos again as I'm now expecting. Thanks again for making these honest videos Jen, it addressed alot of my fears and I'm feeling a bit more ready and confident for the things to come.
I think your voice is perfect for a podcast, never thought of starting one ?
New mum right here as well and breastfeeding has been so difficult physically and mentally. But watching this video made me a little more hopeful that things will get better. Thanks Jenn❤️❤️
Omgggg my comfort channel just posted . Love you and your cute little family Jenn 🥺🥰💘
I have so much love and appreciation for you, Jenn! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for being so transparent about your experiences. Take good care 🙏
Oh! I think Jenn can continue her "what would Jenn wear" series, but for motherhood :D?
I found out I was pregnant last night and I will say, I have a very similar reaction to your video you posted when you shared your pregnancy. And it made me feel better knowing that it's ok not to feel excited the second you get those two lines. Thank you SO much for sharing your journey and experience. These videos have been so reassuring.
I just love the music and the edit.... as well as the content obviously of Jenn's videos!
Hi Jenn! As much as I'm glad the visual disturbances have stopped, do not let the optometrists gaslight you! When physicians can't find the answers, they tend to blame anxiety. I hope they're right this time, but do trust your gut if you feel like something is off!
I had my first son 9 months ago and this was such a great video to go back on. It reminded me how I felt when he was first born and how far we’ve come since then. It definitely gets easier but the first couple of months WERE. A. STRUGGLE. Thank you for making this video and explaining everything so eloquently x
Congratulations 🥰
@@simple_naildesigns thank you!! 🥰
I experienced D-Mer too and it was awful. I've kind of forgotten about it since it's been two and a half years but I remember feeling so relieved after identifying what it was and that it was actually a thing. Thanks for sharing it with others on your platform! As a new mom it was a terrifying thing to experience on top of everything else that was going on.😭
I had it too. But I didn't feel sad, I felt blinding rage upon milk letdown. It really sucked. I held out for as long as I could but I hated breastfeeding. It really wasn't compatible with me, sadly. I wish I could have loved it but I was so relieved when we were weaned and done.
I had the same thing and am still experiencing it with my 2-month old. At its worst, it felt like a wave of dread and depression, as if I just got dumped or fired. Once after a long breastfeeding session with multiple letdowns, I had to ask my husband to hold the baby so I could break down bawling for a few minutes. But just like Jenn said, it goes away as quickly as it comes! And it absolutely has gotten better over time too.
So glad that she’s bringing awareness to D-MER. This wasn’t brought up in any of my reading or preparation, so I thought I was losing my mind! Was so incredibly relieved after finding out what it was.
I had D-mer as well and it definitely tied in with PPA and PPD. So glad Jenn talked about this because it’s not talked about enough! I had it for the whole feeding session (30 mins) and ended up weaning at 4 months for my mental health. Strangely, even though I’ve stopped for a year I’m still producing milk in small amounts and my D-mer stuck around. Seems like the experience is subjective to everyone… Sending love to all mamas with D-Mer
@@oblu3berryo what is PPA and PPD?
@@laurachapiano postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression
Just had my son in November and so much of what u said is relatable already .. 😭I started seeing stuff too and recently they tapered off and I had a feeling it was just anxiety...😓
Jenn, you are always so comforting to listen to. Maybe I think it's because we're both Virgos, but maybe, it's because you are a genuine person who is solution-oriented (a new word I'm adding to my resume). Over the years, it always seemed like you were one to two steps ahead of me, and I always appreciated hearing your words of wisdom. I know you're learning as you're going, and you change your opinions when you learn -- but this is exactly why you will always have a special place in my heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
One of the best quality about your channel, and probably about you, is your honesty. You’re always keeping it real, no sugarcoating, just being honest and real.
I’m currently 5 months pregnant, and I feel like your videos about pregnancy and motherhood journey are helping to prepare myself.
Congratulations 🥰
Wow! I'm new to the channel and I must say it's the best English pronunciation I've ever heard, the articulation and the choice of vocabulary, everything just sounds so good!
Wow, I'm 6 weeks into motherhood and I can relate to about 90% of all these insights. It's so good to hear the similarities. Thanks for making this video.
I'm not even a parent, but I so appreciate how honest you've been throughout this whole journey. Too often parenthood (especially for the first time) is so glamorized, and parents are so shamed for the smallest misstep... It's a growing experience for everyone involved, and that journey is what matters. ❤
I always appreciate your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable and open
A beautiful video to watch. From a Midwife's perspective you are an amazing mother and a completely normal woman! All mothers have these feelings one day! Shout out to my amazing mummas out there❤️❤️
I watched this to see if our experiences were similar. There were so many experiences that were identical! Even things I thought were just me being me. It’s so nice and validating to hear you share Lol. my baby is 2 now and she is truly magical and we’re making it through!!
So happy for you to hear that everything you’ve put in place is finally diminishing your anxiety 🙏🏼
This is so true, and so relatable! I really didn’t enjoy having a newborn like I thought I would. Breastfeeding is no joke, and those postpartum hormones were such a shock to my system! I remember feeling like I was dying in the first few weeks, it was that full on. It took me a good few months to get into the rhythm but now my little one is nearly 10 months and I love being a mother and I love her with every fibre of my being ❤️ I’m so glad to see you share these raw emotions and the reality. I feel like I went in blind and would have loved to see this! I hope you all have great times from here on out 🥰
proud of u jenn! i’m so happy you have find ways to better manage ur anxiety and depression! sending you love always 💗
You’re doing a tremendous job! Love you Jenn! 💗