Things I Wish I Knew Before Having A Baby
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- Becoming a mom has been the biggest life transition yet. Here are some things I wish I knew beforehand. Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video. Get started on your therapy journey here: betterhelp.com...
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Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.
Jenn’s pregnancy journey is one of the most realistic ones. It’s always that I see only happy mothers, holding their child and I have no idea what they’re going through. But when I see videos like this, I have better view on pregnancy and motherhood. Thanks, Jenn. You’re inspiration 💕
Exactly ! I find it so reassuring to know what this "mystical experience" is like... To me pregnancy and being a mom was just a distant scary concept that a lot of women strangely went through and yet no one talked about it and how HUGE it was?
Yesss
Definitely
Aww thank you! I'm trying to share my honest experience with you all. 🤍
Watch Shan Boodram! She goes into the realities of motherhood, very eye opening
Someone once told me for a crying baby: "When in doubt (after you've done all you can to fulfill their needs) go outside and show them a tree." It was the best advice I ever got. Really weird but always effective. It doesn't work for toddlers though 😂
Ahhh that's a good one!! Lennon loves being outside and staring at everything
they get bored easily. babies need to be constantly entertained.
@@KamilRafuson well yeah they’re new here🤣
The best.. It's works for my my son is 8 months. Started when he was about 4 months
1:47 Savor the last moments of your pregnancy
2:26 So this is love
3:08 Parenting is a learn-as-you-go situation
3:52 Breastfeeding is SO emotional
6:11 Take shifts with your partner
6:55 Check for these things when your baby cries
7:52 Your maternal instincts take a while to kick in
9:33 Don't rush your recovery
Tq!!
Not only do I love Jenn for realism and transparency, but she articulates herself EXTREMELY WELL. Let's be honest-- that's a skill; You're awesome, Jenn. Although, I'm only 24, when I'm ready ill be revisiting your videos.
The decision to have a child is knowing that your heart will forever walk outside of your chest. I’m not sure who said it, but it’s so true ❤️
Love that 🥰
It's such a great description of how it feels!
I've always found that so true!
My mum always said that to me growing up! What a deep, immense sensation to go through every single day 🤍
loving your momma content!! i remember when you were pregnant and saying your content won't change because your channel is about you and not the baby. but it's awesome to see that being a parent is a BIG change and in life things can change and i'm glad you're being true to yourself and posting what you want :)
Jenn this is so realistic, it’s like seeing my best friend’s pregnancy journey, thank you for articulating everything so beautiful and realistically 🤗 Sometimes it pains me to see you go through low moments but as I see your journey, you always pick yourself up! That’s so inspiring 🥰🙌
Could you also let Ben talk about his perspective, how he feels as a new dad and what his struggles were?
We can ask him on his channel ☺️
I think he would share it in his channel
Oh! Didn't know he had one
@@cameronfuchs8248 you should check it out. It's good
It's also very difficult for new fathers, since it is all very new to them as well. I would love to hear Ben's perspective; he tries to stay positive and is always so sure of himself. I am also an overthinker like Jen and I feel like it robs me from getting the full experience because I am always in my own head. Hearing Jen open up makes me want to try harder to accept life for what it is and to allow myself to be more in tune with the moment❣️
I cannot tell you how comforting it is to hear someone else experiencing visual disturbances due to anxiety. This has been the case for me for 4 years now. Eyes and brain checked out and all pointed to anxiety. I too struggle with health anxiety. I’m a new mom as of Dec 2021 and recently experiencing a flare up of all these symptoms again. I can’t thank you enough for sharing this - it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
I feel you. You're not alone. 🤍🤍
@@imjennim you can try Regression to past lives therapy, (Brian Weiss)... it's life changing!
Can you please do a newborn things you did not use?!?! Everyone recommends so many things! It would be so helpful!
Yesss, this please!
Yesss
She did one about a month ago. Its called: *My Newborn Essentials* 😊
Yessss
If you are pregnant all you really need are diapers, bottles, a carrier, clothes, wipes and cloths. Just get a LOT of that. Everything else is sooo extra honestly the whole like hand heater things and gadgets can make this so overwhelming. Just do you and take it slow. You can always get things you likr as you so. You won't know what is convenient for you until you have your baby. Not everyone needs or enjoys using the same things. Hope this helps. First rule, don't panic, clothes and diapers are the essential. Back in the day moms didn't have all this nonsense. Also nonsense is expensive, lol
Hi Jenn! I’m also a Type A and experience a lot of anxiety. I’m just like you, a problem solver constantly trying to find ways to manage and fix my anxiety. As a practicing Buddhist what I’ve found works best for me aside for meditation is to not fix it. Allow it to arise and dissolve. You are the watcher, because you watch it occur, you are not it.
“To have the courage to go home
to yourself, to recognize and hold the suffering inside and look deeply into it, may be the most important thing for you to do as a meditator. The meditator breathes in and says, “Hello, my fear, my anger, my despair. I will take good care of you." The moment you recognize the feeling and smile to it with love and care, embracing the fear with mindfulness, it will begin to change. That is the miracle of mindfulness. It's like morning sunlight shining on a lotus flower. The bud has not opened yet, but as the sunlight pours down, the photons penetrate into the bud, and after one or two hours of being penetrated by the light, the flower opens itself. We have the energy of mindfulness generated by mindful walking, sitting or breathing. With that energy we embrace our fear gently as the light embracing the flower. When the two kinds of energy encounter each other, there will be a change, a transformation. The energy of
tenderness penetrates the fear, anger or despair. You hold it as dearly as you might hold a wounded child."
“My heart was aching because it was stretching in size” what a beautiful way to describe the full body and full spirited transition into motherhood 🥺🥺🥺 Blessings and love 🥰
My oldest is now almost 5 and my youngest is 2 and I still deal with the anxiety you talk about. I think the state of the world right now amplifies it so I’ve cut out most social media and regular news watching. You’re very self-aware which is the first step in remedying and healing any mental health issues so I think you’ll do very well. Lennon couldn’t ask for a better Momma. 💕
You deserve the world
Agree 😌🙏🏽
I think I need to reduce the amount of time I read the news too. Thank you for sharing! You're doing amazing. 🌹
As a mother of a 7 and 9 year old, It gets much easier, just like with anything. The more practice and experience the easier it becomes. It also helps that their dad is very hands on, I can only imagine how hard it is for single parents.
I'm loving how your content has evolved with you through all your life stages. So relatable and helpful to your viewers, keep it up!
Love this Jenn. My son is almost 9 months old and I feel so confident in my motherhood instinct now. I didn't feel confident until about 4-5 months, honestly. Now it's so normal and natural. It's a willllddddd ride, tiring and scary at times but so worth it ❤️
Ahhh! Absolutely! Feels good to finally hit my stride too! 🤍
Seeing visual disturbance is a sign of stress. I had it too during a stressful period of my life. I thought I was going blind too and I went to the ER. But the doctors didn't take me seriously and just sent me home. It was years later through my acupuncturist that I learned it was due to stress and anxiety. Mental health is so important and I love how you are so raw and open. I started going back to therapy because of you.
You being a mom is just another addition to your amazing personality! Love yaa 💓
Hi Jenn! This might be an odd compliment but I had a complicated upbringing and seeing your videos makes my heart so warm. This is the kind of love and warmth that I wish I had and watching yours and Ben's videos make me so so happy .Your baby is going to be raised with so much unconditional love and it makes my heart ache knowing what I missed but it also makes my heart swell knowing that there are parents out there who offer love and this baby is going to be receiving so much love and care. What I'm trying to say is, you give me hope and thank you for sharing this part of your life and journey with all of us. Your baby is surely going to be blessed.
I really really appreciate the videos you're making about pregnancy and recovering afterwards. I really want to have kids in the near future and hearing such a candid and honest account of your experiences has been so moving. So happy for you and your sweet lil family Jenn
Lol I love how transparent and blunt you are about your experience. Congratulations!
I love how Jen said "if you have a partner". I'm crying!!! I'm currently considering being an SMBC so it was so nice to hear someone acknowledge some mothers don't have a co-parent.
Not planning on having a baby soon but clicked on this soooo fast!!! Hahahah
So proud of you Jenn , I’ve been watching since the beginning and you’ve grown into such an amazing fearless woman -you’re my role model
I think your voice is perfect for a podcast, never thought of starting one ?
I heard that almost 45% of mothers experience trauma during and after birth. The 4th trimester is the least talked about, the period where mothers are least educated on and yet need the most support and help. Thank you Jenn for being so brave and sharing your most vulnerable experiences and lessons. Lennon has a resilient momma he is already so proud of.
8:55 "Confidence only happens when you do something over and over and over again. That can only come with time and repetition." Love this!
This is extremely helpful. Thank you Jenn! 🥰 Your pregnancy and motherhood journey is so inspiring!
First time mom recently had by baby girl two weeks ago! I followed you along your pregnancy journey and enjoyed your advice now the same for your postpartum journey! I’m glad to hear that everything I’m experiencing, as I navigate through this new wave of life, is actually normal lol
Ahh congratulations!!
@@imjennim thank you! 💗💗
I went through exactly the same thing, every detail... now I know I'm not the only one
thank you for sharing this, and all your tips and experiences so far being a mama ❤️ not a mama yet, but when that time comes for my hubby and i, i’m so glad i can rewatch your videos for a little peace of mind (and support) 😘 blessings to you, ben and baby L!
Amazing video Jen. I too experienced the emotional shift while breastfeeding. It felt like intense moments of depression and anxiety/panic. Thankfully, the social worker at my hospital explained why I was feeling this was and it was so helpful to know it’s normal! I’m thankful for you sharing your experience and to have you as a fellow new mom!
I just love the music and the edit.... as well as the content obviously of Jenn's videos!
Thank you Jenn!! So honest and humble - you are inspiring💖
Jennnn, I found myself soo proud of you while listening to you speak, I love to see the self-assurance kick in and the confidence come through as time goes on, I’m just so happy that you’re adjusting so well and I know you’re putting lots of work and effort into doing so for the sake of your baby and yourself, and that is so so admirable! As long as you have the mental tools and resources you can continue to face anything! Great video 😊 I’m not a mommy yet so it’s good to hear also
One thing I learned as a mom is that no matter how hard you try to prepare for the baby’s arrival, you will never be fully prepared. There will always be things you will just have to learn along the way. And you have to accept that thats ok☺️
But If I were to give a tip to all new moms, its that you should still put yourself first no matter what because your baby will need you A LOT. Never stop taking care of yourself too. Don’t ever feel guilty for taking care of yourself because you’re still doing it for your child. Happy and healthy momma = happy baby. ☺️❤️
Oh! I think Jenn can continue her "what would Jenn wear" series, but for motherhood :D?
Found you randomly and the first video of you I watched was the one where u gave speech and I 've been your viewer for 2 years if I'm not mistaken. It's just so nice to see you bloom and able to witness the chapters of ur life.
This is soo beneficial and you always do such a great job explaining your emotions. Love this.
i would seriously watch an hour of you talking about feelings & baby & well anything lol
I always appreciate your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable and open
You’re doing a tremendous job! Love you Jenn! 💗
Hi Jenn, I'm due in February with my first baby and I've been freaking out. I've been feeling very unprepared and very scared lately. Thank you for sharing all your experiences with becoming a mom. It helps me and a lot of others (I'm sure) to feel less alone.
At the height of my anxiety, I had very similar eye issues to you as well. Rainbow zig zags, black floaters and during one particular instance, the center of my vision was just totally gone. Like everything I focused on was blank. Similar to looking at the sun and then at something else or having a brightly lit flash of a camera go off and then looking away. It was terrifying. But it went away when I calmed down. I also would get wicked dizzy spells and just felt so discouraged like I couldn’t trust my body.
Thank you thank you for sharing your journey and being so open/transparent. It is refreshing and SO important. You are absolutely beaming and coming into motherhood so beautifully. So much yourself. Sending love!
Thank you for sharing this. You are not alone with these issues, it’s nice to see someone talk about them online. I have no doubt that this will help other mothers who are struggling.
You are Glowing Beautifully . Motherhood looks so good on you Jenn. Thank You for sharing your experience and Your thought on Motherhood. God bless our kids . Thank You for sharing 👍
I loved the amount of honesty and knowledge you conveyed in this video. I am not yet a parent. But this was reassuring and comforting. Thanks Jenn 💛
Thank you for your honesty Jenn! My daughter is 3 weeks old and watching your video made me so emotional! Motherhood is a wild ride ❤️
I haven’t watched in a while but I just was going through some of your videos and by some miracle this was posted just a minute ago! Congrats on your new home and family Jenn :)
I’m a mom of an almost 2 y/o and I can say: every single point you hit is sooo accurate (at least to my journey). So good to hear someone talk about it and normalize this for future or current parents.
Love you Jenn. I am so grateful to watch your videos. My baby is almost 3 months. And I’ve been learning so much from your journey. Been following you years and I feel like you are my little sister but smarter than me ❤️🥰😭
Jenn, I've been watching for so long (started watching you when I was 16, I am now 21) and its been crazy to follow your journey. I just love how real you are and I think it takes courage to say these things online and to open up like this.
So excited to see where future takes you and to see your little one grow up ♥️
Thank you for being an inspiration for me all these years!
Omgggg my comfort channel just posted . Love you and your cute little family Jenn 🥺🥰💘
I’m due in April and wow does this ever serious take the edge off for me. There is so much pressure and expectation, thank you for being so honest about your story and sharing with us the honest truth. ❤️
Finally someone talking honestly about what realy dominates the postpartum stage emotionally. Thank you for beenig so opened and honest. I felt understood and I wish I had seen such a video when I was going through it. The subject of postpartum Anxiety is still not comunicated enough so that there are still mamas that feel as if they are alone, but they are not.
I am tearing up watching this! So beautiful Jenn 💕 also.. you’re totally glowing and I’d love to know what’s on your lips
Please do Lennon’s daily morning and night routine!🙏🏼💕
love the list you provided about what to check when your baby is crying! it reminded me of one of your previous vids when you were talking about relationship tips / mental health, and you shared a similar list when you’re upset or stressed. the list included checking if you’re hungry, if you’re tired, etc
thanks for this vid jenn! I don’t have a baby nor am I pregnant, but it’s still so fun learning all of this from you!
Thank you so much , prayers to you and a happy and healthy pregnancy.
Hey Jenn, I’m not pregnant or with postpartum but I always had the flashes and floating stuff in the eyes, I notice that they appear when I lack sleep or I’m ‘high’ on coffee! Which is linked to anxiety for sure, I did not even think about getting blind but I think we are fine! 😄It’s good to see any type of videos from you even if I’m not on the same journey yet, brings me comfort and good vibes ☁️🌞🤍
Jenn! This video was spot on! It feels so good having someone that is going through the same thing. My son was born 2 weeks after Lennon, so that adds to the relevance to my story as well. The eye thing? I mean wow! My husband was the only one I confided in that my eye sight was going blurry. Thank you so much for sharing!
im a 15 yrs old girl but still love watching this
thank you so much for sharing with us
Wow! I'm new to the channel and I must say it's the best English pronunciation I've ever heard, the articulation and the choice of vocabulary, everything just sounds so good!
I'm not a mom yet thanks for this information it was so helpful when it especially your a first time thanks again taking us along the journey into pregnancy and into motherhood. We honestly thank you 😊
Not a mom, but I really relate to the medical anxiety. I went to a bunch of eye doctors because I would get these panic attacks where I would literally lose the majority of my vision in one eye. It was so scary. I had scans and everything done. It's amazing the affect of stress, anxiety, and even hormones can have on the body. I'm glad you are finding a better place and the ripple of things is starting to feel better!
Ugh I'm so sorry to hear you've gone through this too. Stress, anxiety, and hormones can be a potent cocktail for visual disturbances. 😭
Love this! Totally agree breastfeeding gets way easier after the first 2 months. I also combo feed with formula and it gives me a very important break physically and mentally every day!
Yayy! Nice to see fellow combo feeder! It really takes the pressure off
@@imjennim It's awesome!! Also I did my first cold shower today 💪🏼 felt SO good after!
Loyal fan who is never going to have a baby: watching all of your motherhood videos just to see you talking 🥰🥰 sending love from Ecuador
wow, I started watching you when you had your makeup channel. So happy to see you've grown your platform so much!!
Sending you lots of Love 💛💛💛💛
You are doing wonderfully Jenn! Thank you for having the courage and vulnerability to share your story and experiences, it helps to raise awareness and create crucial conversations as well as give comfort to others that they are not alone 🤱🏻🔥💖👑 Stay safe and well xxx
I admire your honest growth! You’re a great mama Jenn! Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
such an important conversation. learned so much from your sharing. thank you, Jenn :)
Your honesty during your transition into mommy-hood is so so enlightening and helpful. Thanks for sharing everything! ❤️ I’m not naturally maternal and these videos give me hope that one day should I ever maybe decide to accidentally or by choice become a mom, that I can figure it out too and that not knowing how to is absolutely normal!
New mom here!!! My baby’s 6 months old and omg could I freaking relate to the d-mer part. It’s so good to know that it’s actually a hormonal thing, I remember feeling a wave of anxiousness every time my son latched for the first two months. I always just tried to shrug it off and told myself it was just my mind playing games and that everything is alright. Really felt like you answered a puzzle for me through this video …. Good to know if this happens again with any future children! :) happy to hear your doing well and taking care of your mental health. Definitely something moms need to prioritize!
I feeel you! It's not super common, but it's nice to know we aren't the only ones experiencing it.
I'm so glad you talked about D-MER and seeing flashes, I experienced both!! And listening to you talk I now realize my PP anxiety was probably more severe than I thought, glad to hear someone else going through the same stuff
She’s on point.
Literally first few months of motherhood is extreme physical and mental torture. Pushes your mind and body to the max especially if you’re tackling it alone.
thank you Jenn for this realistic, open, vulnerable and inspiring video of yours. it means a lot, that you share those things with us🧡
Rewatching your pregnancy journey videos again as I'm now expecting. Thanks again for making these honest videos Jen, it addressed alot of my fears and I'm feeling a bit more ready and confident for the things to come.
New subie and loving all the content ♥️👌
I always say, alot of times the hard chapters we go through have a way of helping others going through similar experiences. Love how the world is made smaller by technology to experience this.
Showing love all the way from S.A🇿🇦
I got hit by a car and almost killed, and in the first few months of my recovery was diagnosed with post traumatic stress.. the vision stuff you describe is somewhat similar to my experience. I was having panic attacks while falling asleep (it's pretty weird when your subconscious takes over and is freaked the f out) and I had craaaazy stuff happening behind my eyelids. Insane geometric patterns, lots of flashes, lots of purple. Anxiety and stress manifest in such strange ways sometimes, and are great at making you feel like you've got some undiagnosed injury/disorder. Glad you're feeling more capable of taking your life back from the worry!
I’m a first time mom too and our sons are the same age! I love these new series of videos and can’t wait to see more!
Same here, first time month with a 4 month baby boy 👶
Thank you for this. Soon to be new mom and this really helped me and some of my fears/ worries.
You totally hit all the spots i experienced when i had my 1st child!! Grateful that you use this platform to share!
Omg, random, but loving the sweater vest turtle neck combo. This used to be my favorite combo and it’s so nostalgic.
proud of u jenn! i’m so happy you have find ways to better manage ur anxiety and depression! sending you love always 💗
OMG I NEEDED THIS THANK YOU SO MUCH
Wow this is amazing! Thank you Jenn for sharing with us this lovely journey! This video helped me out with some school work!
Can I just say- Thank You!! For sharing all of this! I am 5 1/2 months pregnant and to hear a mom say all of the worries they had or the hard times they had really helps us soon to be moms. So many times I see videos of nothing but positivity and I think to myself " I don't think my experience will be like that" Normalizing the struggle of being 1. a new mom 2. having all of these hormones leave your body and change you 3. trying to "keep up" with the world. These are all things we need to have conversations about, and I really want to say thank you! Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and the journey you still take. I humbly appreciate it!
Where is your office chair from? Looks very aesthetic but comfy still!
hey jenn, thanks for being so vulnerable and honest! postpartum was difficult for me too. you are not alone!!
So happy for you to hear that everything you’ve put in place is finally diminishing your anxiety 🙏🏼
I'm not even a mom or planning to be one anytime soon but somehow you make me wanna watch all of your videos, no matter it's about. Love the way you're telling anything 💕
Expecting my first little boy this June. You’re videos have helped me so much.
I just went to the optometrist TODAY and she mentioned more people coming in with symptoms like seeing floaters and flashes of light and she said it was posterior vitreous detachment! It could be eye strain from working on the computer!
I have so much love and appreciation for you, Jenn! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for being so transparent about your experiences. Take good care 🙏
It’s funny how I’m 23 and I’m not ready to have a baby yet but I still watch all your videos on motherhood/pregnancy lol. I like to think I’m preparing myself for when I become a mother in about 5 years 😂
We are trying for our first baby and I am super scared and anxious already. My lack of coincidence in being a mother, my already high anxiety and fear of lack of sleep. I really like the idea of what you and Ben did with your sleep arrangement. So did you guys have a bed in the nursery and sleep separately until it was the other ones turn? I’m afraid about sleeping in separate beds for long periods and loosing connection. I know with being a new parent you don’t really have time together anymore and I feel like that’s the only time you both come together after the whole day…
I love how well you know yourself. Its rare and tough.
i come back after some months and now you have a baby, so happy for you tho!!!😭💗💗
Omg! I’m so glad I wasn’t only one who was explaining D-mer like you, I would get teary 🥲, but I could actually feel that hormone drop. It’s that feeling when I used to miss Mom, when I would sleep over somewhere 😂😂