To be honest, most men don’t ask questions at all. If a man is serious about you, his actions will tell you/ show you everything you need to know. You won’t be confused, you won’t need to question anything. Trust and believe that.
There was a man who asked me those questions but he was someone else's husband...well I took the help but I had to let him know that I wasnt created to be a mans mistress. He was disappointed but I do fear the Lord ...Im not the type to try to build my happiness on another womans tears...besides, I would be making myself unavailable for the right one.
Sealz, I loved this! I'm 73 and getting married for the first time to someone 70. He leaves NO DOUBT in my mind how he feels about me. I love him dearly. When he asked me to marry him [he's a widower who deeply loved his wife]. I knew what the word "wife" meant to him. I cried and answered: "YES, DEAR! "I DO!". You are a VERY wise young man. Blessings to you! 🙏🏾👊🏾
1. What's your goals? 2. Is there any way I can help? 3. How's "so-and-so" doing? (He asks about someone who's important to you) 4. He asks questions about the/your future and makes certain comments about yalls future together. 5. You sure I'm not messing up your bed time? His actions are the best answers
I get the point of the video BUT I feel like "master scammers/manipulative guys" would ask this too just to get in your business or see how they could benefit.
💯👍🏾 every single word I have been asked finally and I'm leaving it.. Lol😂😂 my sleeping pattern has been messed up and it's like you've been watching my relationship, how interesting🤔
I can tell you this, I reconnected with my high school sweetheart, we knew each other from Jr.High.. It's been 35 years and it's like we never lost touch...all.these.things have just naturally fell into place.. I was married to a abusive ex husband for 16years..I took the past 12 years to focus on me and getting my degrees and myself back.. Being patient and loving me again brought me my true love back into my life...
This hit the nail on the head. Coming from separation agreement to divorce world. My BF now (friend then) stuck with me all through that without hinting sex from me. I was so afraid of getting into another realtionship (bcus of my own trust issues) after 6 months of no commitment from me he broke up with me very nicely. I did not realize when he asked these questions he was really into me and wanted a future with me. So FFwrd I waited a day or 2 and hit him up and we heard each other out. Now we are in a committed relationship and I don't regret how slow I took it. I'm just happy I went after what I believe what was right for me. Blessings and abundance to all ♥️🙌🏽💜. Thanks for sharing.
Wow, I'm glad things worked out for you. I wish you both all the best in his new relationship. I don't even have any guy friends I can talk and confide in. Those seem to be the best relationships. You're blessed now. Still take things slow and let the love grow deeper.
Been in the same relationship for about 5 years and most of these questions were asked through time and actions so I feel you! I appreciate the reminder. And he’s a wonderful man. Been there when no one else was, helping me through school, helped me with my health problems. Good men are out there. Trust that. And as a woman, I had to evolve myself. 🥰 I’m grateful
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n put you properity , keep bills paid , keep gas in your car n repairs , send you roses , take you work on your off days , communcations is the key n trust . A real good man will work too bones make should everything is good
A man who is genuinely in love with you will act not just asking you questions. Believe in actions because any idiot can ask you questions to make you think they are genuinely interested in you. Be wise, ladies 🌹🌹🌹
Don't believe a man's WORDS NOR ACTIONS.....BELIEVE HIS ENERGY🙂 Appreciate your singlehood it's peace of mind and serious age reversal💋......a man that has spent time with you with out trying to rush you to the bed is the one. He's studying you and taking his time. THAT'S RESPECT
True, I agree. Appreciation of your singlehood helps to overcome your issues. In doing so you evolve into a better version of you. If you say you dont have issues and, there's nothing wrong with you ... stop lying to yourself. Oh, and get ready to face a repeat.
@@HaahmayanShaalManasseh You have just shown that you dont understand what appreciating singlehood means. It is self-love. Enjoying your own company and embracing who you are and focusing on self-improvement. Being single is a sign of strength and knowing that it is not having a partner that defines you. It is narrow mindedness that makes people think that being single is bad. It is better to die single and have had a happy and peaceful life than to live a life of stress and heartache and moving from partner to partner because you lacked self-development and maturity to be able to even choose a good partner and BE one yourself or stay with a partner that uses you as a doormat.
The only thing that matter is a mans actions .. words are easy .. when a mans actions match his words that’s what tells you a man is serious about you !
Wow, I met a great man almost a month ago and he’s said all of those things and even let me know after a week that he wanted to be exclusive...you know what you’re talking about sir!
Shocked. A man I was dating took me house shopping with him. I was just excited for him getting his house. He was including me in the decision process fully. I said I’d always visit. He said you’ll live here. Lol
Ruth, narcs are patient. But I haven’t seen any of the ones I’ve dealt with be able to fake their behavior past the one year mark. Keep your eyes and ears open and maintain boundaries.
1 What are your future goals 2. Is there any way I can help? 3. Ask about someone who is important to you 4. Ask you questions that involves his future 5. Effortless conversation and interaction
If you are not spitting real FACTS right now....My guy does every single one of these. He'll say things like "I want us to..." or "I want you there when it's done..." I just be straight blushing...we are both in the moment when we're together, laughing, joking, talking crazy, play fighting etcc...just being free and being our authentic selves. It's a breath of fresh air. I'm 45yrs and he's 49 we are both very busy entrepreneurs but always make time and effort to see eachother and help eachother genuinely with eachothers businesses...I'm grateful for him every day 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖💖
Yup. Some men don’t like to ask. They absorve and find answers without asking LITERALLY. These kind of men can also be serious because not every man is the same.. SOME MEN CAN ASK U TO ACT LIKE THEY ARE INTERESTED and u feel pleased thinking ( oh he’s interested ) no. Open your eyes and mind. Not only your heart. Come on ladies. Think and use your mind wisely. Don’t judge every man as one type, nah, again, MEN ARE DIFFERENT. Understand the man who you’re talking to and protect your heart and time.
Geez I wish these bloggers would cut it out with the " if he does this then this will happen crap!! The lame questions mentioned can be asked by a complete stranger, coworker, or acquaintance"! Men who are really serious about developing committed relationships will develop intense communication over time and will not just ask asinine, random questions. When the relationship becomes serious, trust me, you will know it.
I felt that and got that when he said it to me " if they're anything I can do to help please let me know" when he said that to me I understood his thought it was on a business level and I embraced it because people who doesn't care or curious doesn't extend themselves.
I am shook!. He has literally asked me almost all, especially the 1st three questions and the 4th indirectly. You have a very good head on your shoulders to know all these.
My boyfriend who I bought a house with(big mistake) asked me all these questions but yet I just found out hes like girls thirsty pics on IG and flirted with girls on snap. 😖 Now hes telling me hes sorry but its no big deal. 🙄
The questions most women get...1) When am I going to see you? 2) When is the last time you had________________? Can we go upstairs? (to your bedroom no doubt) You don't trust me? (this is a question used to guilt you into doing something you don't want). Waiting for the man who asks how can he help me vs. trying to figure out what question will get him to the bedroom faster.
The real talk is here!! I waited for a person of interest for 3 years. He only likes to text; I told him adult people talk on the phone. Just on Christmas Day I challenged him. He called me back. Now I think I will trust my instincts!
Awesome I never knew this type of questioning has such an important purpose. You have a lot of wisdom for a young man and I'm still learning as a mature woman now dating thank you!
Thanks for being positive for a change. Every other TH-camr wants to follow the trend of trashing black women and speaking negativity and launching attacks. Nothing good can come of that at all. So I appreciated your mindset. Joy to hear and allows me to learn something real.
Noted ✅ currently dating & out trying to meet people. This video was very insightful & will pay attn……..the good thing with getting older is, I can spot out red flags way better than I used to. 😊 I will get me a husband sooner or late 🤞🏾
As difficult as it is to accept about DJaxn; the fact that he spoke from personal experiences in regards to a cheating man - you can not get a more clearer insight to an unfaithful mans mindset than the player himself.
What you say is true if the man is a honest person with good intentions over - all . But if the man is a pretender just into playing games then he will do what it takes to have his way and when he feels like he's had enough he is gone . So we women need to be very careful .
Yes y’all. As I’m watching this video I am just smiling 🙂 because I am talking to a guy and I really like him. * I feel butterflies 🦋 when we talk like a first teenage crush 😍 and not to mention he definitely asked me “ really is there anything that I can do to help?” I was shocked when that was one of the signs because he definitely asked me that. We been talking for 4 months so it’s still early but so far it’s off to a good start. We have so much in common
My man is always telling me that "we don't need a plan". He mostly makes decisions behind my back and then shrugs it off like no biggy! I really needed to hear this. Thank s
A close male friend of mine asked me these questions and it was so subtle and within a longer time frame that I started suspecting his interest in me late after he's invested so much. Thanks for the eye-opener.
I don’t comment unless I feel the urgency and need to. Yoooo, I have subscribed! Enough said. These answers and explanations are on point. My brother, you are suppose to be doing this! I felt calm, at ease, I didn’t feel like this was “another one of those videos”. Plus, I’m a little bias, my boo thang is a grown man doing grown man things and yes, he checks all boxes described on this video! I AM GRATEFUL and definitely bless with a great man!
Thank you so much. I am dating someone now that I’ve known for 7 yrs, so I’m watching the signs; but he’s always told me he’s been in love with me since 2014 and continue to remind me that (throughout our friendship ) even when I was with someone else or he was with someone else. Now we’re both single but we’re dating. It’s crazy because I never saw myself with him he was just a friend.
I pray God brings you the right one, if that's what you desire. Trust your intuition & take things at a slow pace. It's BEST to get to know their character & intentions before you offer your heart and body. It's best to wait until commitment before doing this. God wants the best for His daughters.
Understandable things did not work out for the best. please keep in mind there’s three things that a person give away unknowing and there’s one thing a person have to giveaway willingly number one their heart number to there body number three their time, and the thing that a person have to willingly give away is their identity which is their integrity
Thank you for sharing these thought provoking questions that need to be heard, digested, and answered by the potential right person when searching while dating in today's time of uncertainty. Serious marriage minded men will ask these questions when he REAL and READY to settle down. Pay ATTENTION!! Ladies if you come across this video. Men of this caliber don't come along every DAY. Usually their thought process is instant sexual gratification and next! Both Kings and Queens are worth the WAIT for life long gratification. You deserve the BEST because you are the BEST. DO NOT EXCEPT LESS THAN YOU DESERVE, Wise words to follow from a Queen who learned from her own words of WISDOM.
Awww, SealztheMan... This one was close to your heart. Thank you for the sharing. If the person that motivated this video doesn't feel the same way. That's your answer. We all live through experiences... Hopefully to mature and learn.
Thank you for discussing men being hunters! Soooooo many people don't understand this principle. When dating, MEN ARE THE HUNTERS NOT THE WOMEN. We're the bait. We can look or smile at a man to show our interest. A lot not all men want the woman to pursue them. Because of this, there are a lot of missed opportunities. If there's something/someone you want, pursue it. Otherwise, you may miss your blessing.
My fiance has asked a bunch of questions including some of these. I used to give him a hard time trying to help me because I'm used to nobody helping me and just doing things on my own. We help each other grow especially facing our demons that we didn't even know was there. Relationships nowadays just seem to not only not have a plan but take what they can get and the moment it gets hard, they bail out
I have had this problem more times than I can count. Allowing someone into my heart and life, and the minute things aren’t perfect, they bail. It’s sad.
I think my husband and I would have been still together if it weren't for the cancer. My son was diagnosed at age 5, then I was diagnosed a year and a half after. He wasn't strong enough to take care of us. I had to do it myself and I had to with no Ohana and being alone watching ur son going through surgery and then chemotherapy, when he got sick. I had to be strong I had to b a warrior, but I had to fight the war Alone! And it hurt. But I showed my son how strong I was, so he could b strong! My son fought a good fight and won! I knew I had cancer I just didn't tell anyone until my son was healed. After he was ok, then I knew it was my turn. My son was the only one who took it hard. He cried and said no mommy. Not cancer! I don't want u to go through what I did! My husband didn't even say anything. He made me drive myself to my chemotherapy appointments. He didn't help me through the who process. We were in love. We got married in Hawai'i cuz I am Hawaiian. We had an Indian wedding cuz he is from Fiji. So we had 2 weddings. And I was so in love we both were, we gave eachother everything. WE SUPPORTED EACHOTHERS DECISIONS! But then when we got sick he just wasn't strong enough.
Cool video. I don't normally watch dating videos even though I'm single and sometimes don't wanna be. But I've actually experienced these questions and you are exactly right! And you actually have a Taye Diggs vibe too! I'm gonna watch a couple more of your videos.
Damn you are so right I appreciate this..I was asked all these questions and just took it for nothing..yet we are just watching each other..thank you..thank you.. blessings
@@SealztheMan I believe men know and understand the reasons and motives on how men think and behave, so I, personally, will rather get that kind of advice from a man than from another woman, because we all think the same and most times we are way off. Men know men, better than women know men. Thanks, Sealz for sharing with us.
So true about the business aspect. If they are a distraction and/or block your progress by wasting time and your energy that's not a good sign. They have to support boundaries when you have said "I work certain times on my business".
I've been asked all these questions I didn't even recognize it. Too accustomed to manipulators and players didn't even recognize a good man and I just walked away. I'm so not ready for love as yet.😔
Hey Sealz! Wow! This was really great info that I haven’t ever heard before! Your video randomly came through as “recommended for you”, and I’m so glad that it did! 🤗 So, thanks so much! And I hope you have an awesome rest of your day! 🙏🏻😊❣️
I just happened on this video. Oh, and the guy is right. This reminds me of the questions my husband would ask, and here we are married for many years and blessed!
I love all your answers to my questions that I didn’t even know that I had I’m an older woman and I’m still looking after my husband passed away it took me a while to get back into the dating scene I’m still not in it yet but I am gradually picking up a few pointers from you I hope I can find a man like you thank you so much
Great Commentary 1. Ask ?; Hunters..energy to know goals 2. Anyway I can help? Ready to stepup 3.When he ask about so n so...? 4. Already n his plan; jokes- scerino-we 5. Mad hours: time fly 6. Absent ?; Acts speak loud! Great Insight,thanks again :) I've seen all above presently... Hilarious....'22 real!
Watch for the joke jabs... one of the most important conversations men have includes the joke jabs because it doesn't leave him completely open to seriously baring his soul.
I believe we are on the right track.A year and a half later we are still laughing and talking til the sun is coming up. Continue Sir,informing us . Keeping it 💯
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n put you properity , send you roses , keep gas in your car n repairs done , help with bills , take you work on your off days , communcations is key n trust . A real good man will work bones too make should everything is goid
@@valerievalerie4366 great minds...its definitely in the works and will be dropped in the future. Most likely will be making a series because it is VERY important for our brothas. I like you already Valerie lol thank you for your support
I always thought that if I told a man that I wanted to be married/have children within a certain timeframe (2 years or so), that I would scare him away. Good to know I can say it now. Lol…
I appreciate you saying the absence of a question ⁉️ to not ask so many questions, as in have faith and notice in his actions, and with the absence of a question , can show how deeply he's feeling for you without needing the words ...
Good ones😍 Also when they are serious...you get introduced to family and friends that means a lor to them.They will also get territorial a bit...but ina good way.not the crazy way.They'll also remember all the simple little things you favor.
I'm 62 nd just had my 2nd pacemaker implanted on April 25th. I was born premature and aquired Scarlet Fever imediately after. My goal is to be the healthiest, happiest version of me I can be. It litterally took dying to learn how to live.
The chap I am with asked me if i was healthy, positive he always asks if there is anything he can do to help, plus a lot about himself. He opens up more to me now. I have been in a relationship for 19 months
Not always the case... He could be divorced. When you divorce, most times you loose everything!!! Trust, I know! Or he could've been released from prison & starting his life for the first time! Ed Hennings is a great example. Spent 20 yrs in the joint. Now he's a licensed barber with his own shop. Has his own trucking company. Has a book. Has a beard line.
I had one who asked me a lot of questions just to open the door for him to tell me his likes, wants, or needs. Initially I thought the questions were a good start but I later felt he wasn’t genuine & used that Q&A to give a false sense of security so I’d be more forthcoming with what he really wanted. He made sure to point out his sexual wants multiple times although I said I wasn’t there yet since we just met. The sexual undertone ultimately turned me off and I had to end it.
Vids with this vibe feels like a scene from the movie Love Jones. I feel like I'm at some nice Friday after work happy hour sexy jazz spot. Thanks for the excellent content.
A man can ask you all these questions and still play you. Pay attention to his actions and trust your instincts.
Has a guy taken you serious that didn’t ask some of these questions?
Lol!! True that!!🤣🤣
True...
That's true
So true my Sister!
Never answer a guy when he asks what are you looking for in a guy... because you’ll start naming off everything he can start pretending to be.
💯💯💯
Your right 👌
True..
Well said.
I say just be yourself. I'll see if I like him that way because I'm tried of the lies and pretending.
To be honest, most men don’t ask questions at all. If a man is serious about you, his actions will tell you/ show you everything you need to know. You won’t be confused, you won’t need to question anything. Trust and believe that.
True he knows if he wants to marry u
Preach!!!!
True that
right
Well said
There was a man who asked me those questions but he was someone else's husband...well I took the help but I had to let him know that I wasnt created to be a mans mistress. He was disappointed but I do fear the Lord ...Im not the type to try to build my happiness on another womans tears...besides, I would be making myself unavailable for the right one.
Truth..well said
Well said
Well said queen
A queen 🤗
That's true. You did the right thing
Observe and trust your instinct, some men are very tricky and manipulative
Y a right
Yep
Yes
Seals a U R the Man
Yesssss
Sealz, I loved this! I'm 73 and getting married for the first time to someone 70. He leaves NO DOUBT in my mind how he feels about me. I love him dearly. When he asked me to marry him [he's a widower who deeply loved his wife]. I knew what the word "wife" meant to him. I cried and answered: "YES, DEAR! "I DO!". You are a VERY wise young man. Blessings to you! 🙏🏾👊🏾
Congratulations honey🎉
Beautiful ❤
Yo…. This is so beautiful ❤❤ Hope you’re well guys. Please live forever 😊😊
Actions speaks louder than words. I pay most attention to his actions when he's upset. It tells me a lot. IJS
Men can manipulate with actions too ugh
@@bloodrose7587 not for long though because they can't be consistent, so consistency is key for me
@@lady_sits yess baby you hear me
Yessssss ma’am them actions when upset tells alot
so true
1. What's your goals?
2. Is there any way I can help?
3. How's "so-and-so" doing? (He asks about someone who's important to you)
4. He asks questions about the/your future and makes certain comments about yalls future together.
5. You sure I'm not messing up your bed time?
His actions are the best answers
I get the point of the video BUT I feel like "master scammers/manipulative guys" would ask this too just to get in your business or see how they could benefit.
I’m not getting asked 🥺
@@belizeanbaby yup
💯👍🏾 every single word I have been asked finally and I'm leaving it.. Lol😂😂 my sleeping pattern has been messed up and it's like you've been watching my relationship, how interesting🤔
Yeah had that and he left after a month lol. I take it as him being curious and asking necessary questions nothing more.
I can tell you this, I reconnected with my high school sweetheart, we knew each other from Jr.High.. It's been 35 years and it's like we never lost touch...all.these.things have just naturally fell into place.. I was married to a abusive ex husband for 16years..I took the past 12 years to focus on me and getting my degrees and myself back.. Being patient and loving me again brought me my true love back into my life...
💙💎🙏🏿
Me too! Since Grade school crushes on each other for us. This must have been the year for that💕
@@a.b.creator ❤❤😘 it must have been. It's a good feeling too. Lost love that should have been from the get go!
And That’s On “Real Life”!!🔥🔥
Aww.I’m happy for you. God works in mysterious ways. I hope you guys keep going strong❤️
This hit the nail on the head. Coming from separation agreement to divorce world. My BF now (friend then) stuck with me all through that without hinting sex from me. I was so afraid of getting into another realtionship (bcus of my own trust issues) after 6 months of no commitment from me he broke up with me very nicely. I did not realize when he asked these questions he was really into me and wanted a future with me. So FFwrd I waited a day or 2 and hit him up and we heard each other out. Now we are in a committed relationship and I don't regret how slow I took it. I'm just happy I went after what I believe what was right for me. Blessings and abundance to all ♥️🙌🏽💜. Thanks for sharing.
Wow, I'm glad things worked out for you. I wish you both all the best in his new relationship. I don't even have any guy friends I can talk and confide in. Those seem to be the best relationships. You're blessed now. Still take things slow and let the love grow deeper.
Best wishes to you. May you find true love and happiness.
His actions are the best answers 🙌🏼
Is very sad some ladies over look these actions
Trust me ur right on that one
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YES!
Seriously true
Some times men put up front like they are into you to get you then ghost you
Righy
So true
Exactly
My life
It’s their lines to hook ya...
Been in the same relationship for about 5 years and most of these questions were asked through time and actions so I feel you! I appreciate the reminder. And he’s a wonderful man. Been there when no one else was, helping me through school, helped me with my health problems. Good men are out there. Trust that. And as a woman, I had to evolve myself. 🥰 I’m grateful
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n put you properity , keep bills paid , keep gas in your car n repairs , send you roses , take you work on your off days , communcations is the key n trust . A real good man will work too bones make should everything is good
Why haven't you two married? Something is remiss....
Dani LaRoche oh baby don’t worry. We’re engaged 🥰
Dani LaRoche besides, what does it matter if we are or not? Companionship and partnership expresses itself differently in different types of people 🙂
@@yogialchemist2335 Just trying to help! I pray God gives you your heart's desires and I know He will.
A man who is genuinely in love with you will act not just asking you questions. Believe in actions because any idiot can ask you questions to make you think they are genuinely interested in you. Be wise, ladies 🌹🌹🌹
Don't believe a man's WORDS NOR ACTIONS.....BELIEVE HIS ENERGY🙂 Appreciate your singlehood it's peace of mind and serious age reversal💋......a man that has spent time with you with out trying to rush you to the bed is the one. He's studying you and taking his time. THAT'S RESPECT
“Appreciate your single hood” said No woman ever 🤣 yall gone die alone with a mentality like that.
True, I agree. Appreciation of your singlehood helps to overcome your issues. In doing so you evolve into a better version of you. If you say you dont have issues and, there's nothing wrong with you ... stop lying to yourself. Oh, and get ready to face a repeat.
@@HaahmayanShaalManasseh You have just shown that you dont understand what appreciating singlehood means. It is self-love. Enjoying your own company and embracing who you are and focusing on self-improvement. Being single is a sign of strength and knowing that it is not having a partner that defines you. It is narrow mindedness that makes people think that being single is bad.
It is better to die single and have had a happy and peaceful life than to live a life of stress and heartache and moving from partner to partner because you lacked self-development and maturity to be able to even choose a good partner and BE one yourself or stay with a partner that uses you as a doormat.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 Word! Ignore him he has to be a child. Well said 🤗
@@HaahmayanShaalManasseh are you slow? that’s not what “enjoy your single hood” means
tell me you you a dumbass without telling me you dumbass ?
The only thing that matter is a mans actions .. words are easy .. when a mans actions match his words that’s what tells you a man is serious about you !
The match is what matters yea
Actions always have sooke louder than words..So you right I gree
Absolutely
Love to see intelligent, positive, black men. 👏
@@akankshatiwari8113 wow racist much🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@@mbrilliB Why do you feel triggered enough to call her "Racist much"? Just to let Y'all know that ish is BS teachings. Frfr 💯 Biased prejudice.
Wow, I met a great man almost a month ago and he’s said all of those things and even let me know after a week that he wanted to be exclusive...you know what you’re talking about sir!
These questions reminded me of my love Leroy 💔 may his soul continue to Rest in Peace 😢
RIP hugs
RIP
Awww virtual hug
Rip
Sorry
Shocked. A man I was dating took me house shopping with him. I was just excited for him getting his house. He was including me in the decision process fully. I said I’d always visit. He said you’ll live here. Lol
Wow that's awesome!! Are you still together?
????
BUT DID HE MARRY YOU ? IT'S JUST FREE A$$.
If he's not talking marriage...keep distance. He'll have you on your back, sweetpea. You want to be a girlfriend or a wife?
@@a.m.thomas9366 Exactly!
Or he’s a narcissist trying to manipulate you.
What does his pattern of behavior over months show?
@@ruthbuffington6750 depends on the behavior.
Lol true
Ruth, narcs are patient. But I haven’t seen any of the ones I’ve dealt with be able to fake their behavior past the one year mark. Keep your eyes and ears open and maintain boundaries.
Little shaman on youtube. Best explanations about narcs
1 What are your future goals
2. Is there any way I can help?
3. Ask about someone who is important to you
4. Ask you questions that involves his future
5. Effortless conversation and interaction
If you are not spitting real FACTS right now....My guy does every single one of these. He'll say things like "I want us to..." or "I want you there when it's done..." I just be straight blushing...we are both in the moment when we're together, laughing, joking, talking crazy, play fighting etcc...just being free and being our authentic selves. It's a breath of fresh air. I'm 45yrs and he's 49 we are both very busy entrepreneurs but always make time and effort to see eachother and help eachother genuinely with eachothers businesses...I'm grateful for him every day 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖💖
“When you are lost in a woman, time will not find you" love that line. Very deep and profound. I just found your channel and subscribed. Thank you.
Hope you don't get played.
Time flies when barriers disconnect
Thank you for making good clean content there's no disrespect no profanity just good clean content it's very refreshing
Yeah negativity, drama and cursing isn't my thing. I like to talk and make it so that anyone can listen.
Facts
Thank you for that it is well appreciated God bless you
His actions and how attached he is to you that's what matters
Attachment is not connection though sis
Yup. Some men don’t like to ask. They absorve and find answers without asking LITERALLY. These kind of men can also be serious because not every man is the same.. SOME MEN CAN ASK U TO ACT LIKE THEY ARE INTERESTED and u feel pleased thinking ( oh he’s interested ) no. Open your eyes and mind. Not only your heart. Come on ladies. Think and use your mind wisely. Don’t judge every man as one type, nah, again, MEN ARE DIFFERENT. Understand the man who you’re talking to and protect your heart and time.
Geez I wish these bloggers would cut it out with the " if he does this then this will happen crap!! The lame questions mentioned can be asked by a complete stranger, coworker, or acquaintance"! Men who are really serious about developing committed relationships will develop intense communication over time and will not just ask asinine, random questions. When the relationship becomes serious, trust me, you will know it.
True am looking for future man too
Thanks .. that's how I feel. These guys on TH-cam are full of BS
Glen, and this is coming from a man
You shouldn’t be having all these question in your head because his actions will be your answers 🔥🙌🏼 very well said.
I felt that and got that when he said it to me " if they're anything I can do to help please let me know" when he said that to me I understood his thought it was on a business level and I embraced it because people who doesn't care or curious doesn't extend themselves.
I am shook!. He has literally asked me almost all, especially the 1st three questions and the 4th indirectly. You have a very good head on your shoulders to know all these.
You might have a good man on your hands, happy to hear that
Same
Don't get too excited. Men will ask those questions also to deceive and manipulate. Time will tell. Much time.
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e true
My boyfriend who I bought a house with(big mistake) asked me all these questions but yet I just found out hes like girls thirsty pics on IG and flirted with girls on snap. 😖
Now hes telling me hes sorry but its no big deal. 🙄
The man that I was talking to gave me mixed signals therefore I decided to leave to avoid a future heartbreak.
The questions most women get...1) When am I going to see you? 2) When is the last time you had________________? Can we go upstairs? (to your bedroom no doubt) You don't trust me? (this is a question used to guilt you into doing something you don't want). Waiting for the man who asks how can he help me vs. trying to figure out what question will get him to the bedroom faster.
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Yup that’s that bs !! 2020/2021 dudes 🤦🏽♀️
Don’t forget, “What do you bring to the table?”
The real talk is here!! I waited for a person of interest for 3 years. He only likes to text; I told him adult people talk on the phone. Just on Christmas Day I challenged him. He called me back. Now I think I will trust my instincts!
Awesome I never knew this type of questioning has such an important purpose. You have a lot of wisdom for a young man and I'm still learning as a mature woman now dating thank you!
Thanks for being positive for a change. Every other TH-camr wants to follow the trend of trashing black women and speaking negativity and launching attacks. Nothing good can come of that at all. So I appreciated your mindset. Joy to hear and allows me to learn something real.
Amen and Amen same here 🙏 😊😮🎉😂❤
Amen and Amen same here 🙏 🙌 ❤ 👏 😊😅😮🎉😂❤
Yes
When he watches you say all these, he will use the exact same words to another woman and still be unserious
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😂😂my thoughts
Noted ✅ currently dating & out trying to meet people. This video was very insightful & will pay attn……..the good thing with getting older is, I can spot out red flags way better than I used to. 😊 I will get me a husband sooner or late 🤞🏾
When a man is serious about you...you are already in his head. SWEET 😇
Exactly darling
So you’re basically examining the differences between MEN and guys, dudes, bro’s, or bruvs,
Bravo 👏
Some will still ask and turn out to be not what he really was
Well we lost Derrick Jaxn, so I'm here lol
yes sis no time for derrick
Okkkk😂😂😂 welp let's see if he doesn't have a hidden lifestyle
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As difficult as it is to accept about DJaxn; the fact that he spoke from personal experiences in regards to a cheating man - you can not get a more clearer insight to an unfaithful mans mindset than the player himself.
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"Time will not find you."
That's deep.
What you say is true if the man is a honest person with good intentions over - all . But if the man is a pretender just into playing games then he will do what it takes to have his way and when he feels like he's had enough he is gone . So we women need to be very careful .
Yes y’all. As I’m watching this video I am just smiling 🙂 because I am talking to a guy and I really like him. * I feel butterflies 🦋 when we talk like a first teenage crush 😍 and not to mention he definitely asked me “ really is there anything that I can do to help?” I was shocked when that was one of the signs because he definitely asked me that. We been talking for 4 months so it’s still early but so far it’s off to a good start. We have so much in common
All these questions and they still cheat on you for any reason whatsoever lol
Stop seeking out the wrong then its a common mistake modern women have these days
@@unhingedconniption5799 and what’s the right old school?
😂😂😂😂😂😂I trust actions
@@thefreedomtodancecamp8858 whatever do u mean dear
Also I Don't see myself as old-school I'm just not like the many modern men these days
My man is always telling me that "we don't need a plan". He mostly makes decisions behind my back and then shrugs it off like no biggy! I really needed to hear this. Thank s
Some men who are already married can ask these questions on a pretense
Yeap well said
True
Exactly!!!
LOOOOOL you didn’t even lieee
So true been there done that and it hurts so bad when the truth was unfold smh
When a guy asks you what you are looking for in a man, tell them you're looking for a man to Profess, Provide and Protect. Let them figure it out.
A close male friend of mine asked me these questions and it was so subtle and within a longer time frame that I started suspecting his interest in me late after he's invested so much. Thanks for the eye-opener.
Good video. My ex however used to purposely keep me on the phone all the time as a form of surveillance. This is what narcissists do.
Actions can tell a lot about someone. Shows his real character
I don’t comment unless I feel the urgency and need to. Yoooo, I have subscribed! Enough said. These answers and explanations are on point. My brother, you are suppose to be doing this! I felt calm, at ease, I didn’t feel like this was “another one of those videos”. Plus, I’m a little bias, my boo thang is a grown man doing grown man things and yes, he checks all boxes described on this video! I AM GRATEFUL and definitely bless with a great man!
Thank you so much. I am dating someone now that I’ve known for 7 yrs, so I’m watching the signs; but he’s always told me he’s been in love with me since 2014 and continue to remind me that (throughout our friendship ) even when I was with someone else or he was with someone else. Now we’re both single but we’re dating. It’s crazy because I never saw myself with him he was just a friend.
Dating or courting? There's a difference. Obey God. Are you following Christ?
@@danilaroche1156 Were no longer dating lol he's just not my type and NO this wasn't God chosen. 🤗
I pray God brings you the right one, if that's what you desire. Trust your intuition & take things at a slow pace. It's BEST to get to know their character & intentions before you offer your heart and body. It's best to wait until commitment before doing this. God wants the best for His daughters.
Understandable things did not work out for the best. please keep in mind there’s three things that a person give away unknowing and there’s one thing a person have to giveaway willingly number one their heart number to there body number three their time, and the thing that a person have to willingly give away is their identity which is their integrity
I’m in the same situation and I didn’t think we could work but now I’m starting to see it.
Thank you for sharing these thought provoking questions that need to be heard, digested, and answered by the potential right person when searching while dating in today's time of uncertainty. Serious marriage minded men will ask these questions when he REAL and READY to settle down. Pay ATTENTION!! Ladies if you come across this video. Men of this caliber don't come along every DAY. Usually their thought process is instant sexual gratification and next! Both Kings and Queens are worth the WAIT for life long gratification. You deserve the BEST because you are the BEST. DO NOT EXCEPT LESS THAN YOU DESERVE, Wise words to follow from a Queen who learned from her own words of WISDOM.
Awww, SealztheMan... This one was close to your heart. Thank you for the sharing.
If the person that motivated this video doesn't feel the same way. That's your answer.
We all live through experiences... Hopefully to mature and learn.
I've experienced every topic I talk about in some point in my life lol thank you for watching
Wow! I have by passed two man that were really in to me smh 🤦🏾♀️ but I have met another one and now I am engaged today great advice!
Thank you for discussing men being hunters! Soooooo many people don't understand this principle. When dating, MEN ARE THE HUNTERS NOT THE WOMEN. We're the bait. We can look or smile at a man to show our interest. A lot not all men want the woman to pursue them. Because of this, there are a lot of missed opportunities. If there's something/someone you want, pursue it. Otherwise, you may miss your blessing.
My fiance has asked a bunch of questions including some of these. I used to give him a hard time trying to help me because I'm used to nobody helping me and just doing things on my own. We help each other grow especially facing our demons that we didn't even know was there. Relationships nowadays just seem to not only not have a plan but take what they can get and the moment it gets hard, they bail out
Let him help! Forget this Nazi feminism.
Yup
I have had this problem more times than I can count. Allowing someone into my heart and life, and the minute things aren’t perfect, they bail. It’s sad.
Never tell a man what you been thru in your past cause they'll put you thru the same thing....
I think my husband and I would have been still together if it weren't for the cancer. My son was diagnosed at age 5, then I was diagnosed a year and a half after. He wasn't strong enough to take care of us. I had to do it myself and I had to with no Ohana and being alone watching ur son going through surgery and then chemotherapy, when he got sick. I had to be strong I had to b a warrior, but I had to fight the war Alone! And it hurt. But I showed my son how strong I was, so he could b strong!
My son fought a good fight and won! I knew I had cancer I just didn't tell anyone until my son was healed. After he was ok, then I knew it was my turn. My son was the only one who took it hard. He cried and said no mommy. Not cancer! I don't want u to go through what I did! My husband didn't even say anything. He made me drive myself to my chemotherapy appointments. He didn't help me through the who process.
We were in love. We got married in Hawai'i cuz I am Hawaiian. We had an Indian wedding cuz he is from Fiji. So we had 2 weddings. And I was so in love we both were, we gave eachother everything. WE SUPPORTED EACHOTHERS DECISIONS! But then when we got sick he just wasn't strong enough.
Sorry that happened to you. Hope you are doing better & glad you had your son in your corner.
Cool video. I don't normally watch dating videos even though I'm single and sometimes don't wanna be. But I've actually experienced these questions and you are exactly right! And you actually have a Taye Diggs vibe too! I'm gonna watch a couple more of your videos.
I like the straight to the point focused and time saving videos, thank you 😊
I find myself asking all these question….
And when a guy says “I just want to take the time to get to know you”, I’m tempted to RUN!
Also catfished asks those questions as well, be careful with long distance relationships.
So true luv
Damn you are so right I appreciate this..I was asked all these questions and just took it for nothing..yet we are just watching each other..thank you..thank you.. blessings
Sealz is soooooo intelligent. Plus your acting skillz are superb n hilarious! Thanks for making this.
Wow that means a lot, I really appreciate that!
Sealz, you are heaven sent! You have no idea how much you are helping me! May God continue to bless you!
Wow that made my morning, you are a constant supporter, thank you 👑
AMEN
@@SealztheMan I believe men know and understand the reasons and motives on how men think and behave, so I, personally, will rather get that kind of advice from a man than from another woman, because we all think the same and most times we are way off. Men know men, better than women know men. Thanks, Sealz for sharing with us.
@@b4gurl368 thats all I want to provide, an honest and truthful point of view. Theres enough lies and fluff in the world as is. I appreciate that!
Thanks!
So true about the business aspect. If they are a distraction and/or block your progress by wasting time and your energy that's not a good sign. They have to support boundaries when you have said "I work certain times on my business".
Totally Agree! 💯👌🏻🎯
I've been asked all these questions I didn't even recognize it. Too accustomed to manipulators and players didn't even recognize a good man and I just walked away. I'm so not ready for love as yet.😔
Hey Sealz! Wow! This was really great info that I haven’t ever heard before! Your video randomly came through as “recommended for you”, and I’m so glad that it did! 🤗 So, thanks so much! And I hope you have an awesome rest of your day! 🙏🏻😊❣️
Haha “I’m not talking about the psychotic ones, I’m talking about the good hunters” 😂😂
I just happened on this video. Oh, and the guy is right. This reminds me of the questions my husband would ask, and here we are married for many years and blessed!
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Watching your videos is so comforting for me...gives me hope that the man I'm manifesting is DEFINITELY out there.
I love all your answers to my questions that I didn’t even know that I had I’m an older woman and I’m still looking after my husband passed away it took me a while to get back into the dating scene I’m still not in it yet but I am gradually picking up a few pointers from you I hope I can find a man like you thank you so much
Related to the question about the future, the goals. He’s my soulmate ❤️
Man like this is rare ‼️
No they are not rare. I had married men ask me all these questions. These questions don't mean anything it is his actions.
Yes maybe he was Poly. Lol
Great Commentary
1. Ask ?; Hunters..energy to know goals
2. Anyway I can help? Ready to stepup
3.When he ask about so n so...?
4. Already n his plan; jokes- scerino-we
5. Mad hours: time fly
6. Absent ?; Acts speak loud!
Great Insight,thanks again :)
I've seen all above presently...
Hilarious....'22 real!
I like and admire the way you communicate? Manifesting a communicator that takes me seriously!!
Watch for the joke jabs... one of the most important conversations men have includes the joke jabs because it doesn't leave him completely open to seriously baring his soul.
That’s completely the truth about that because he does do those kind of jokes sometimes with me and my boyfriend
You nailed it...Definitely something to take note of
I’m just smiling because it’s happening as I listen 😂🥰🔥
Thank God I'm not yet in a relationship before listening to this, God bless you 🙏🙏
Questions are nothing honestly. A men’s actions is far more imperative than his words or questions.
@@metsi8445 thank you
I love my single life.
I believe we are on the right track.A year and a half later we are still laughing and talking til the sun is coming up. Continue Sir,informing us . Keeping it 💯
Great job 👏 I love ❤️ your style I learn a lots from you
I appreciate you discussing this subject. I had to take notes.✍ Sometimes it can be a grey area, to know if someone is really into you.
I definitely understand, thank you for watching
@@SealztheMan your welcome. I will be watching your videos. New subbie here. You give sound advice. ✔💯💕
@@ladyjvlogs7463 I appreciate you for that and i'll try my best to keep providing needed content!
@@SealztheMan I will be looking forward to it. 💕
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n put you properity , send you roses , keep gas in your car n repairs done , help with bills , take you work on your off days , communcations is key n trust . A real good man will work bones too make should everything is goid
He's talking about an evolved man. Men like that come by once to hardly ever never
Bingo!
@@SealztheMan maybe you should do a vid for the boys on how to become an evolved man 🤷🏽♀️
@@valerievalerie4366 great minds...its definitely in the works and will be dropped in the future. Most likely will be making a series because it is VERY important for our brothas. I like you already Valerie lol thank you for your support
They’re usually older
Yes, evolved men. Man's man. Men with integrity.
I always thought that if I told a man that I wanted to be married/have children within a certain timeframe (2 years or so), that I would scare him away. Good to know I can say it now. Lol…
I appreciate you saying the absence of a question ⁉️ to not ask so many questions, as in have faith and notice in his actions, and with the absence of a question , can show how deeply he's feeling for you without needing the words ...
Number 2 is so on point. He asked me this 2 weeks into us dating.
Good ones😍
Also when they are serious...you get introduced to family and friends that means a lor to them.They will also get territorial a bit...but ina good way.not the crazy way.They'll also remember all the simple little things you favor.
This set of questions...100% on target. As an avowed feminine woman, I commend you for knowing your stuff 😊
Thank you so much for watching
I love your intellect and your swag!
Thanks for your labor of love!😍
Haha that means a lot thank you!
I'm 62 nd just had my 2nd pacemaker implanted on April 25th. I was born premature and aquired Scarlet Fever imediately after. My goal is to be the healthiest, happiest version of me I can be. It litterally took dying to learn how to live.
The chap I am with asked me if i was healthy, positive he always asks if there is anything he can do to help, plus a lot about himself. He opens up more to me now. I have been in a relationship for 19 months
Yessss I need a man with a plan, who’s serious about ya girl haha 🤸🏾♀️ great video 💕
These questions apply to younger ladies. When you are closer to 50, goals have been reached and so have the 5-10 year plan.
Not always the case... He could be divorced. When you divorce, most times you loose everything!!! Trust, I know!
Or he could've been released from prison & starting his life for the first time! Ed Hennings is a great example. Spent 20 yrs in the joint. Now he's a licensed barber with his own shop. Has his own trucking company. Has a book. Has a beard line.
Yeah I' agree .
I love these conversations am single and I can't wait for that special someone 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Agree. The skits Sealz does with his self, makes his videos more effective.
I had one who asked me a lot of questions just to open the door for him to tell me his likes, wants, or needs. Initially I thought the questions were a good start but I later felt he wasn’t genuine & used that Q&A to give a false sense of security so I’d be more forthcoming with what he really wanted. He made sure to point out his sexual wants multiple times although I said I wasn’t there yet since we just met. The sexual undertone ultimately turned me off and I had to end it.
Vids with this vibe feels like a scene from the movie Love Jones. I feel like I'm at some nice Friday after work happy hour sexy jazz spot. Thanks for the excellent content.
I try to make my night time vids with those vibes lol thank you for watching
So smart
I concur👌🏽💯