6 Wild Thoughts Men Think When Trying To Pursue You (It's Chaotic Here 🤯 )
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In this video, I'll talk about 6 crazy thoughts a lot of men think when trying to pursue women. Dating and courting is stressful but there's more than meets the eye when it comes to men. We feel like we have to make sure everything is perfect, that we say the perfect things and refrain from saying the slightest thing that can ruin a perfect date. We have to make sure we showcase our masculinity, protection, providing, and a whole lot of other things. But most women will never know the things that go on in our heads when we are trying to make you our lady, girlfriend and possible wife. This video is a great one in understanding the mind of men. Enjoy...
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Sometimes the golden woman is single because all the men she meets assume she is taken so they don't approach her
Yep or they don’t know if they have enough to offer for her
Aaaah!! Maybe that’s what’s up! Ty for saying that, didn’t even think of that ❤
that aint it, most golden woman don't flirt or go out of their way to speak.
Indeed.
@@TheVegasFrequencyyeah because we don't want attention from most men. Most are not worth the energy.
Some of us are so hidden in God that it takes the one that God has for her to find her. We don’t settle and are waiting on Gods timing.
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Amen and Amen!!
Amen ❤
Bless you all.
Can we get a part two ...I strongly dislike when men assume im crazy because im singleeeee ! im healing , happy and waiting
Healing too
Yes. So am I.
Let them assume…continue to do what’s best for you! Many ppl think being in a relationship is the end all be all. Healing is the best way to be better for the next relationship.
Take that as a red flag that he has no business getting to know you if he comes up with that childish reasoning
Healing is very important
1)Why does she really like me?
2)Do she have a roster?
3)How can I show you that I like you without pushing you away?
4)Why are you single!???!
5)Is she into the things I'm into?
6)I hope she is a breath of fresh air.
Thank you!
#2 yet they're the main ones with a roster
Thank you for doing this!!
Women have these same questions.
Why I like to start as a friendship , because u can talk about these things, I’m a communicator, I need that back
I think guys should stop assuming she's single because there's something wrong with her. That's really insulting. Same reason why he's single. Haven't found the right person yet. They should focus on well doesn't matter why, because it's I get an opportunity.
Its harder for men
@ceyciemateo9411 it's not.
Perspective! But if a man thinks like this, I immediately know he’s not for me , for so many reasons
Correct!!👍🏻✨
"Shorty doo-wop!" 😂
I am short too! 🤣🤣🤣 Hilarious!
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Ole School 🤗Love It! 😅
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Very ole school New Jersey of him
I wonder why I'm still single myself, but I guess God is still working on both of us❤
Chile, THAT PART!!
Right . Plus they always assume we are taken
If you weren't single... then why would a man be trying to pursue? They're so illogical
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The truth is that there aren’t many men actually pursuing attractive women who have character and are modestly dressed. I don’t get approached let alone pursued… and I have seen a lot of attractive women who don’t get approached or pursued. Why?????!!!
Because they're liars or hypocrites
Ive heard many attractive men say, they show up with their representative, and most are just not emotionally stable.
Fear Of Rejection.
Those men you’re referring to are more than likely immature, superficial, and unhealed. We wouldn't want those type of men anyway. Instead focus on who respects your boundaries, and appreciates you. Anyone with discernment who understands longevity knows respect, trust, substance, character, and personality mean the most when it comes to long term commitment and healthy relationships not just looks!
Well said.@@Bellissimainfinite
Someone who's jumped from relationship to relationship with no breaks in between would concern me more than someone who's been single for a long-time. Single does not equal bad. People who can be alone and actually enjoy their own company are more secure in themselves than people who need to be in a relationship. If someone jumps from relationship to relationship, I would question if they're interested in me for me or if they just "need" me because they can't be alone.
Well said! 100% 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
Yes I'm single and love every bit of my own company 💃🏽😄
yes
FACTS🔊
Absolutely 💯
We’re single for the same reasons you are….but also bc most guys lead w sex talk too quickly so we try to set the pace (if we know our worth/value) but the man ghosts bc he only wanted to use us anyway. Even if you’re clear about what you’re looking for…it’s treated like a game bc they still want to test the waters and see if you’ll be casual with them. It’s the worst. Boundaries aren’t respected yet we’re called crazy…
Good info to remember that men are nervous and a bit questioning, too, when it comes to dating. If only more people would tell the truth. 🤷🏽♀️
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@@user-mb9jx5tx9y ???
Yup but being that honest means being more open & vulnerable, which is hard for some!
We know they have chaotic minds lol
Haha Your faces are hilarious😂 ‘how are you single’ 😂
YES!!! 🤣
why does anyone genuinely like someone? chemistry…attraction…confidence…competence…
the energy they bring
Oh, Sealz, you bring out the best topics ever. Women, too, have the same doubts. "Why does he like me so much?" "What's the hidden agenda? I know I am no better than most women, so what does he see in me?" These are the questions in the woman's mind when they meet the real dude who compliments her in the most beautiful ways 😂.
Well, for him, to wonder why she's "a good woman, hot and single" is a profound wonder, you know why, it is usually because she has been hooked to the wrong guy, who is not even compatible with her, yet glued to a difficulty situation. So later when she spots that guy who for no reason, maybe there is, but her thoughts are; wa! "This is the dude who would have been mine from the very beginning." This is why a 'good' woman is single.
Thank you, Sealz. I hope my sense is applicable 😂
Great video 😊…
Why some women are single ?
For me - I got out of a long distance narcissistic relationship… took time to “heal”…
Some women are single because they got hurt, got used, got health issues , got kids to take care of , no time to look after a Man ( hurt big kid) , got divorce bills to pay, got new job or new place to cope with etc ..
Many many reasons
Some women are single because they can’t tolerate the BS coming from men. They are tired !!!
We as women are concerned about the same things.
Part of the reason is people want to meet others at 100% in all perfection and that doesn’t exist. I know why I’m single and men see that as a weakness which is totally unwarranted, disrespectful and belittling to myself. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean that I’m missing anything, yet it means that I am taking my time to find someone that complements me. I don’t need a father figure or a babysitter but I need a man. I need someone who will allow me to love him the way that he needs to be loved while he loves me the way that I need to be loved. thank you so much for your videos they are really insightful. Keep up the good work, we appreciate you😊
We may be single because; we're bettering ourselves ( not just for ourselves, but for others, including a possible future relationship ), healing from other bad relationships so that we can move into healthy relationships, we're protective about the ones around us ( we don't want just anyone around our children that we haven't spent time getting to know ), we enjoying the in between relationships time. There are a lot of logical reasons why we are single.
Idk why a woman needs to explain their singleness when they shouldn't be checking for us of we aren't. 🗣 PSA TO SINGLE MEN: You're supposed to like single women!
@@Heyu7her3 Because it's a double standard thing. Men congratulate men who've been single for a long time but will look at women funny if they're doing the same thing. I think men hate the fact that we can be single and actually like it lol.
if you fall off a horse what do you to to conquer that?
@@TheVegasFrequencyfind a horse that doesn't throw you off
How am I single? ..growing and healing from past trauma to be ready for him.
Man, when you said “why are you single,” and all the beautiful items you brought up around it, it brought tears to my eyes. You’re right. I am bringing something to the table. Let’s continue to remember our value.
Yes, similarities are important, opposites may atttact but may not connect.
You attract who you are. If you keep meeting C level people, then you need to elevate yourself to the B level to attract the same. Teeth, hair, nails, clean car, environment, conversation.....
I got SO MUCH VALUE FROM THIS . Definitely pride myself in being a breath of fresh air and the best kept secret . It’s hard to date sometimes because some people hav been so scorned in the past and I have so much empathy towards that. I believe my aura and my light shines to the right people . Thanks for this !
4:45 don’t worry bout who else I’m talking to. Just focus on being my favorite
Lol I love your expressions. “How are you single “! 😳. 🤣
If only men would open their mouths and use their words… conversation rules the nation
I get asked why I'm single all the time. I am sort of an introvert and extremely selective about giving access to my time and personal space. I've been divorced 5-6 years now, so I don't want to link myself to any old Joe Blow. Being single for some reason is a flag for some men. I took time to work on me so I'd be healthy and whole for my next guy. I want to be seem as an asset and not a liability. There is no winning sometimes in the minefield of a good man's mind lol.
I think dating is very important. I wish a lot of men would see this video. Many men push me away with texting and want pick up the phone or video chat. I am thinking what is he hiding? Communication is very important. We have so many men are very immature. By sending d$$& pics. This is big turn off for me. Honestly I think about the same things. 😂. I pray that I can meet someone that is on the same page as me 🙏🏽😊
Texting all the time is immature. Call me, I’m a grown woman!
I think it's a lack of real interest. Refuse to engage in back and forth texting. Put up a standard to have them call and If they don't, move on.
All that texting is a bunch of 🐂 it's very immature
you're naturally hilarious. lmao That's why come back!
A man that I really like can never push me away. I love a man who can just be himself
OK, let this save everyone some time. If you want to know something, ask. A person who is looking for a relationship will answer. A person who is playing the field will play that off. You'll usually be able to see. And if not, a little more time will tell. Bring your best self meanwhile, and be sure to listen to your gut.
Devine timing on this video, thank you! I’m a blonde green eyed INFP girl. (5’3” 113lb) I JUST finished cycle breaking generational trauma and learning, accepting & healing a life’s worth of C-PTSD. 😂 As of this thanksgiving even my taste in colors and design, clothing, etc. completely changed. I literally removed every man & hi conflict peep off the field then sat and objectively watched new ppl. Approach & maneuver deciding if the alignment worked. Today 12/17/23 I go on a 1st date with man who has been dm unnoticed since 2/19/22. Turns out after a day of messaging I have had ‘Captain America’ patiently hanging in my dm’s. timing! Now that I don’t need him…😊 I can appreciate him. No rush & I have quality ways to help me be transparent. SWEET (life is an amazing adventure) Bless you & I hope you feel damn proud of the work & gifts you share. YOU ARE APPRECIATED! 🥇🏆🎗️🎖️🤌🏻⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💎🎈
I have been single for a little over 6 years. Not because I want to be but because it's important to heal completely or mostly from past hurt.I don't want to take it out on someone that had nothing to do with it. I didn't ask to be treated badly or hit on but back in those days I was a people pleaser and a push over maybe to nice. However now NO I set boundaries
😵💫😵💫 “it’s a struggle sometimes it makes me wonder how I keep from going under” 🎶🎵🎼 I get it. Thanks Sealz this was enlightening.
PART 2 and 3 please!!!
Different in a good 😊 way is a blessing 🙏🏾
I'm a good woman...I'm jus learning how to value myself...I always pick the wrong men
"I always pick the wrong men" - First things first, stop saying this. This is the old story. You keep repeating this to yourself and you will continue to pick the wrong guy. Change your thinking and create a new story. The New Story - Going forward you are picking the most suitable man for you. Say and think this instead: "I AM attracting the most suitable man for me for lifetime commitment". Our words are powerful. Our words eventually become thoughts and they eventually become beliefs and that's what we'll attract. To have better, you gotta starting thinking better.
First mistake...YOU ..."picking"
It always Best!... Too have and be with a person that...likes and loves ...YOU .... MORE!...
Because You Simply Will Get Treated... BETTER!!! Doing it...THAT!... Way. 🙏🏿🫂
Great content! I’ve always wanted to know certain things from a male’s perspective so thank you!
The idea of a woman being crazy because she is single is a big misconception. I have been asked “why are you single” “you must be crazy” “who wouldn’t want to be with you” hahaha. I have been single for a while because I chose to heal first. After I noticed repetitive patterns with different people while dating I knew I played a major role. I had a lot of healing to do which stemmed from early childhood and I never wanted to project unhealthy feelings towards someone who wasn’t deserving. I’ve learned that healing first is the road less traveled which possibly makes it hard for most to understand. ❤
Bingo! This should be pinned.
I love this💯👍
Because 99% are players. We want peace
Oh….your preaching truth!! 80% of male profiles are scammers 😓. I only meet in person locally….
My steps are ordered by the LORD. 🙏
"How are you single?" That whole segment got me to sign in to TH-cam just to hit the Like and Subscribe buttons. All your videos are on point in many ways, but this video and this part in particular...I've been asked soooooo mnay times and in exactly the way you say and express it. Saying "single by choice" never seems to make sense to a man even when he starts showing the same insecurities, passive aggressive tactics, unavailability (emotionally, psychologically, physically), and emotional immaturity that he claims he doesn't exhibit because "he's not like other men or dudes out there." I intentionally stayed single for 8 years after my divorce.
🤣🤣🤣 I'm laughing my head off from 8:20 or 8:30 and on... 🤣🤣🤣💙 Excellent, hilarious and just brilliant! 💝✨✨✨✨😆 Thank you!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I just love your sense of humor!!! I didn't have such a good laugh for a looong time (and I do laugh a lot, but this was different!)
You are like a brother I never had, thank you
You are humorous and make me laugh......not at you.....but with you....just the way you suspect something aint right!!! etc.....I just have to smile and say thank you for being so open about what men think when trying to pursue. And I'm no young'n either....75, a widow dating 77 yr. old....and I can see how he might think about the things you are talking about. Thank you for your openness....it helps me understand a man better.
This is the realist advice I've heard on this area. I think my current guy is probably thinking most of these.
I got cut off because I didn’t call enough. I prefer to text than call. And when he confronted me about it I told him I wasn’t being malicious but I just don’t care to talk otp a lot. I really just be wanting to be with him. But oh well. It’s been three months now. We’ve spoken once and I told him I miss him and he said he miss me too. Nothing since then. He don’t think I like him fr but I do🤷🏽♀️
That’s why it’s important to compromise
GIRL CALL THAT MAN ‼️‼️‼️
@@TonnaReign I’m just gone pull up on him eventually. I don’t want to spend more time talking on the phone than spending personal time with him. That’s just me though. Thanks for responding.
@@cynthiareynolds1941 I agree.
He’s found someone else that he thinks is “easier.” When a man likes you, he is not going to quit unless you tell him to. Don’t fall for the mind tricks - he wasn’t 100% sold on you and used a dumb excuse to dip on out.
😂😂😂 Yes you are so true about all fake profile accounts on internet now 👍, I want to talk in a video call before I know they are true about themselves 🤗💖💖
This was so helpful. I'm talking to a guy and he really wanted to know all the questions you brought up. It's annoying but I get it.
This was a really good insight into a man’s mind. Thanks 🙏🏽 ❤
Thanks for sharing because some men are intimidating with women
I like to ease into it all. Start by texting then calls, leading to FaceTime then once we’re comfortable we can meet.
8:18 🤣🤣THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO😂😂😂😂😂 THIS IS SO FUNNY!! REAL😌🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷😆🥰🌷🌸
I'm just gonna come here when I start feeling scared because damn this helps ❤
My guy loves video calls. I wasn't very comfortable at first but I am beginning to understand why. He is a very good man. I am beginning to really love him....I am falling in love Sealz the Man 😀
So Sealz, I met this really great guy a few weeks ago, he’s from Jersey but in TN for the next year working. I’m digging him and he seems to be digging me too. So last night I was going to see him. Instead of me just going to where he’s been staying, I booked a jacuzzi suite a few miles away from where he stays. He was thrown off and seemed like he got upset that I hadn’t told him my plans and like I was on some funny, setup shit instead of just coming to the suite right off. But I ended up texting him and telling him I was just trying to surprising him with something special. He later told me he’s just not use to what a good woman does. So he came into the room I had candles burning and the room smelled lovely and the rest of the night was beautiful. So this morning after we parted ways he texted me and told me how last night was sexy and he enjoyed himself. I told him the next surprise was on him. So aside from me already knowing my next move is to fall back and see what his next move is. But in the meantime what should I do? How is he feeling/thinking? I like him probably too much but I think we both see potential in each other and the future. But I know I gotta keep my cool until he makes the next move. I just need some reassurance to know what’s up with what he might do and think now??
I love your videos and appreciate your insight into how men think. It’s not like in the beginning stages y’all are very easy to figure out. To get thru the manly, rough exterior.
Peace, love, & blessings to you Sealz!!
💖 Crystal from Knoxville, TN
9:39 I Literally Chocked In Laughing Rgt Nw.. How You Explain Abt Men's Monologues! 😆🤣🤣🤣🤣☠️
I was weeeakkkkk at that part 😂😭
I’m an alchemist & clairsentient, so when I start revealing parts of these “personal monologues” … like why do you feel XYZ? We can process & heal the root of that together with no judgment & all love. They turn into track stars 😂
Wow I think these things too. 😂😭I really dislike a roster because it’s to much energy around me. I get anxiety.
I believe these are the six common denominators! Thank you for making this video, some of these things i intuitively knew, perhaps because i got brothera only and my friends were male throughout my childhood, teens and late 20's early 30's 😊 I am compelled to show compassion to theae guys!!
Some of us women also have similar overthinking!! thank you❤
I appreciate your insight on men! 🙏❤
I love your delivery. You make me think and laugh. Keep it up 😊
Can we get some more of these please so impactful, part two please.This was most interesting thank you
Some of us are single because we got burned & have had healing to do..Beautiful people get hurt too.🤍
You are funny but real, simple is better, thanks for that insight 😊
😂🤣🤣🤣 around 9:15 oh my! That was too funny!. I learned so much from your youtube account. Thank-you!
Favorite channel 🫶🏽 the value that you provide is everything women need I swear. You are a big brother to so many🫡keep shining and inspiring brother.
Aww man I appreciate you. Thank you for the real talk and insights you share with us. You’re like the brother I never had 💕
I have only seen a few of your videos.
I like this one, because my head went through all of these thoughts.
My situation triggered all of these thoughts.
Going to the roster point, why are you interested in me?
Why are you In separation with your husband for 2 1/2 years?
And not divorced?
And getting past the dating phase, why am I the bad guy for slowing down the connection between us?
I know I had stuff to work on, but why am I the bad guy for suggesting we work through these things before moving forward?
I know your trying to help women. But I am just a guy and I’m trying to learn both sides of the fence.
I like this video because I thought all of these things.
Thanks. Because I rather text anytime😊 than call. I have a dog and a four year old. Background noise to the 10th degree
Great video! I as a woman learned a lot about not only what a man thinks about in the beginning stages about the woman he’s pursuing but how he vets her too. And your last point really opened my eyes to what they find important. Thank you. Your content is always so valuable and helpful. 👍🏻
Morning find this video the only game changer in dating and relationship videos I ever watched, and I watch a whole lot of them. Thanks
This was soooo gooood!! And I absolutely believe this is what goes on!!😂
I love your breakdown. Is it possible you can do a video if you are in a long-distance friendship building a relationship? Backstory: we were in a relationship with each other 25 years ago. I know his family and friends. So it's more on us reconnecting as adults as I explained in the video 5 lessons every man should learn before committing to you. Please if you can refer to my comment and if possible do a video.
I love this advice, cause I didn't know. Rachel
I like to ease into it all. Start by texting then calls, leading to FaceTime then once we’re comfortable we can meet.
Single because I’m a woman with intention and I was attracting a lot of men with no intentions and try to rush me. I don’t like that. It feels bad. I need to be with someone who aligns with me and actually sees me as a person and not a product. I just can’t get down like that. 😂 I don’t want the same things anymore either.
Yesssss!🙏🏾👏🏾
Trueeee!👏🏾🙏🏾
Beautiful video….thank you for sharing! God bless you King 🥇
We are single because we may just be loving on ourselves we also dont want to settle. If we are spiritual women we are not going to settle for anything less than Divine masculine material and that is why we are celibate for periods of time also. A persons energy matters
I have been married 33 years today. I ask my husband what are you thinking he always says nothing. Nice to know my suspensions were correct and he was thinking.
You are so God sent Sealz! This is very helpful ❤
Sealz, you are indeed "the Man". Your work has acting skills, entertainment, low-key background music, stories from the trenches, character & emotional counseling, descriptive communication, and the best of Grandma's common sense. I made my own Short of 0:01 to 0:26. My new nickname is Shorty Do Wop. HAHHAHEHEH!
So is this what my friend's problem is? He wants to see me but yet he's busy with other "competing priorities." He's not sure if he's ready for a relationship, he thinks he is, maybe in a year (he literally said all 3 in same sentence ) but yet he started off telling me all the things he wants to do with me in the future. So based on this, I deduce that he's busy and hella scared. Nice combo, I'm so confused.
I view if a man views you as precious.. he will arrange his busy schedule to “connect / communicate” with you. No matter what . Time waits for no one… if he is afraid / unsure - then give him time to open up ( a few months)… meantime - go enjoy your happy single life…
Pls don’t wait for years for a man…
Don’t waste time on man who are unavailable & not action oriented !
He's not available. Sorry.
You are so informative 😀.
This is insightful, and cute. Thanks for giving me understanding. Your good person.👍✌🏻😎
Love the way you explain things 🙃 vibes I'm here for
Really appreciate this!
A man that I really like can never do too much.
oh yes lord help us as women . i love your t shirt bless your heart to look out for us as women and help healing us tpo be better so our world be a better place.
blessings to you and your ministry
Refreshing ❤
This is so honest it makes me cry.😢
Thank you for the clarity 🙏🏾 Appreciate you Brother ✊🏾🤍
Yessss Sealz the man i really appreciate you i observe that to my man thank you so much i need to hear this💍👑💪✌️🙏🏽
You are so funny bro😂 Thank you
Yaaaas!! Goodness, gracious and mercy is all on me! 🌟🙋🏾♀️
That was chaotic and hilarious! Thanks for letting us in on a man’s mind. It was very educational. Obviously I have a weird sense of humor.
I like to your hoodie" crown aint for sale"
There can be many men falling but dignity is very important stay cool and the right one God will connect you
Thanks!
This made my day, thank you Ashley, have a great 2023 to 2024!
Oh men, this was helpful!
You are amazing, new subscriber here, THANK YOU!
😂😂😂😂i just love sealz he so real and how he deamatize to get the message over is just so just so amazing