I am dealing with a loved one in rehab right now and trying to educate myself as much as possible for when they get out. Thank you for creating this channel!!
I love your channel Amber, it’s helped me so much. I’m so glad I found it and subscribed immediately. I haven’t saw one show that didn’t help me !! Thank you, you rock!🤘🏼
Just found this channel and this is the only video I’ve watched. That being said, struggled with alcohol addiction since I was 15 and I’m about to be 46. On day 5 attempt at sobriety. Everything she has said about how the alcoholic thinks is true to the core for me. The one thing a family member needs to know is that when a relapse happens, it is very hard the the alcoholic with good intentions to cope with the failure. That’s why the relapse may extend to a prolonged time. It’s much easier to deal with yourself a a failure than to be seen by your family as a failure. For me it’s like I’d rather stay on alcohol while I’m being berated than deal with it soberly in the moment. I can see that sobrrly device as an effective tool but the person who it’s intended for really has to have their ego in check and I would recommend getting their buy in on its use prior to giving it to them as a surprise gift. For me, more intently given verbal support and physical attention on a very regular basis makes me feel like she understands and appreciates the struggle I deal with concerning cravings and triggers. Even though this alcohol struggle may not be your problem or your fault, it really has to be a team effort to get 1 person through it. When recovering from alcohol, men are not the strong person that you may relate us to in every other factor in life. Asking for help, and coming forward with my need for from my wife to us is like showing vulnerability and weakness. Good video, I’m sure I’ll see more in the future as I search the ends of utube for support and encouragement.
That's me! It does delay it, but ultimately doesn’t prevent him from going out. And i really resent feeling like i can't go anywhere. But i struggle with this because often we have something on the schedule where his sober presence is needed, so i really want him sober for that. And i am SOOO tired of saying my husband's not feeling well to excuse his absence. We are small town and neither of us want to let people know he's a drunk (and yes, i know i shouldn't use that word, but its honestly how i feel - i am SOOO angry).
I’m not sure what my responsibility is in looking after an alcoholic loved one who has given themselves dementia they drink so much. I feel helpless and give up but still need to look after them
This is the reason I had to send my ex packing. Didn't trust him home alone, like a child. Best decision ever!! Regaining my sanity back everyday since he left!! 🎉
I wish I would’ve seen this video two days ago. Because of this phase and my inability to detach from the situation my loved one snapped on my son and I and now have a no contact order in place and I can’t help and feel that if I just had this knowledge in my back pocket we wouldn’t be here right now. 😢
Amber I'm 63 and I been party since I've been 16 and I hold down a full time job got money in the bank and own my own house I've been doing it for years like the buzz
Your channel saved my sanity. Thank you.
The benefits of Soberlink and other alcohol monitoring systems cannot be overstated.
Thank you so much for your kind words of support, and I agree 100% about monitoring systems!
I am dealing with a loved one in rehab right now and trying to educate myself as much as possible for when they get out. Thank you for creating this channel!!
My pleasure, Juggaletta! I'm glad this was helpful. Wishing you the best with your loved one😀
I love your channel Amber, it’s helped me so much. I’m so glad I found it and subscribed immediately. I haven’t saw one show that didn’t help me !! Thank you, you rock!🤘🏼
Awww thanks! You've put a giant smile on my face for the rest of the day! 😀😀😀😀😀😀
I’m guilty of this pretty sad
The best way to help is not denying their pain.
Our lives have been on hold for 10 years. We’re scared to leave because we may not have a home or a loved one to come back to.
Similar situtation. at least 10 yrs. So sorry, thoughts & prayers 🙏🏼💚🙏🏼
@@renee8030 Thank you
Just found this channel and this is the only video I’ve watched. That being said, struggled with alcohol addiction since I was 15 and I’m about to be 46. On day 5 attempt at sobriety. Everything she has said about how the alcoholic thinks is true to the core for me. The one thing a family member needs to know is that when a relapse happens, it is very hard the the alcoholic with good intentions to cope with the failure. That’s why the relapse may extend to a prolonged time. It’s much easier to deal with yourself a a failure than to be seen by your family as a failure. For me it’s like I’d rather stay on alcohol while I’m being berated than deal with it soberly in the moment. I can see that sobrrly device as an effective tool but the person who it’s intended for really has to have their ego in check and I would recommend getting their buy in on its use prior to giving it to them as a surprise gift. For me, more intently given verbal support and physical attention on a very regular basis makes me feel like she understands and appreciates the struggle I deal with concerning cravings and triggers. Even though this alcohol struggle may not be your problem or your fault, it really has to be a team effort to get 1 person through it. When recovering from alcohol, men are not the strong person that you may relate us to in every other factor in life. Asking for help, and coming forward with my need for from my wife to us is like showing vulnerability and weakness. Good video, I’m sure I’ll see more in the future as I search the ends of utube for support and encouragement.
Congrats on getting to 5 days. Those first days are the hardest! Welcome to our little community. I think you'll find lots of good resources here. 👋🏻
That's me! It does delay it, but ultimately doesn’t prevent him from going out. And i really resent feeling like i can't go anywhere. But i struggle with this because often
we have something on the schedule where his sober presence is needed, so i really want him sober for that. And i am SOOO tired of saying my husband's not feeling well to excuse his absence. We are small town and neither of us want to let people know he's a drunk (and yes, i know i shouldn't use that word, but its honestly how i feel - i am SOOO angry).
Great tips. Alanon and AA are also very helpful and tranformative and provide a support group.
Absolutely!
Omg, I haven’t even listened to the whole video yet and I know it’s exactly what I’ve gone through
I'm so glad this video was helpful to you! 😀😀😀 Thank you for your nice comment.
I’m not sure what my responsibility is in looking after an alcoholic loved one who has given themselves dementia they drink so much. I feel helpless and give up but still need to look after them
So true 😳
This is the reason I had to send my ex packing. Didn't trust him home alone, like a child. Best decision ever!! Regaining my sanity back everyday since he left!! 🎉
I like AA. It's the only thing that worked for me even I had relapses. It's stuff like this is why I try to avoid the 13th step as much as I can.
I wish I would’ve seen this video two days ago. Because of this phase and my inability to detach from the situation my loved one snapped on my son and I and now have a no contact order in place and I can’t help and feel that if I just had this knowledge in my back pocket we wouldn’t be here right now. 😢
Amber I'm 63 and I been party since I've been 16 and I hold down a full time job got money in the bank and own my own house I've been doing it for years like the buzz
The person has to do it they will know 🎉
Do you have advice when they become violent?
I call it sneaky and untrustworthy so don't even trust him around woman