My Journey Beating Depression, Anxiety, and Low Self Esteem
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ค. 2020
- This video shares my experiences living with mental health illness specifically depression, anxiety and low self esteem and how I defeated it. I kept my thought records from all those years ago and share some of them in this video as well as the type of thoughts I had at the time.
You are amazing, you can and will beat this illness trust me ❤️
P.s sorry about the tears!!
Ross - กีฬา
Literally cried with you I totally understand how painful this illness really is I have to fight everyday just feel normal ;(
Stay strong my freind, you've got this.
Respect for posting this dude. Lots of people deal with this struggle but don't talk about it. Hopefully your video will inspire people to get the help they need.
Ah thank you mate, yeh def agree talking couldn’t be more important with this
I have came here because I'm really struggling right now , when you cried j cried only because you are giving a really good insight into this condition , and when you talk about something that has effected you it's natural for it to bring up emotions. I find I can't talk to my sons as j don't want to burden them
Brave post. Respect. There are so many like you out there, we need to hear each other’s experience! Take care brother
Couldn’t agree more thank you my friend 😄❤️
Crazy, running my darkest days lately, been clinging to boxing the last few months, never expected to run into this video while looking for MK 1 glove reviews. Just wow. Peace and Blessings all the way from Baltimore, Md
Much love from Nyc, Brother keep your head up… We all have.a story, Just do your best and stay true to you. 💙💥🏁💪🏾💯⚡️
Ross with that accent you should never have low self esteem . I feel the same, I dont date because I dont think I am good enough
I don't understand why someone like you could view yourself like that. You're wonderfully made. ❤️
All the respect to you. I go back to this vid everytime I feel like I hit rock bottom
That really means a lot that it’s helping. Please stay strong, you’ve got this 💙👊💯
I feel like I’m really stuck in it right now and I’ve been looking for videos like this, not necessarily for advice but just to know what other people’s experiences are so that I have people to relate to. The way you articulated your struggle with depression felt so honest and real and I’m so glad that this video exists so that I can feel less alone.
I can’t even fathom getting out of this, and I’m at a point where it’s really hard to even believe it for myself, but seeing clearly that someone else who was in much the same predicament I am in, and who was so clear and open about their experience has gotten through it, does give me a shred of hope for myself that some day I might get out of this hole I’m in. Thank you so much for making me and many others feel less alone.
Thank you for the kind words my friend, by sharing this you’ve already taken one step forward that you hadn’t taken 48 hours before…plan your next step now, even if it doesn’t seem like much. A small win…then another, then another…before you know it you’ll be on your way to recovery I know it 👊
Crazy how we bring ourselves down when it isn't even slightly true. Appreciate you being vulnerable and coming out with your deep issues ❤
@@Oppistru couldn’t agree more my friend, and thank you for the kind words
i have had so many storms run through, with age it seems to have stopped
You are one gutsy and brave man. God bless....hope you are thriving and doing well since you put this vid out. LOVE and RESPECT from across the pond.
Ah thank you so much for the kind words. Yes I couldn’t be in a better place not. So happy in my own body and everything I’m doing. Thankfully a cry from the dark days of 2012-2013 that’s for sure 😃
Glad you are better now.
Here I am, 32yo, still a student, no job, anxious, no confidence, low self esteem, struggling, despair.
I don't know how hard I should be on myself, if it's just not enough what I'm doing.
Definitely do not be hard on yourself my friend. This is an illness and not a true reflection on you. The first step I’d say is talk to your friends and family. And try putting yourself in on situation every day that makes you uncomfortable. For me one was going to the supermarket 2 nights in a row (I used think the staff would laugh at me being pathetic shopping twice in 2 days, nothing better to do with my time!) completely inaccurate! But by doing things I found difficult it really helped me realise these were nonsense thoughts
Your video has hit me harder than anything else I’ve watched/read. I needed those tears man. I cried with ya, so many times. I feel that pain you were going through. Seein you think of that, how it hurts to even think about, and seeing that you’ve made it out is the greatest evidence that there’s some hope. I can’t thank you enough brother.
Thank you for the message and very kind words my friend. It’s funny cause when I was about to do the video I didn’t have any notes or plans, thought I’d just turn the camera on and talk for 2-3 mins. Feel I was still holding onto a lot and doing this really helped get it out and seems to of really helped others which is just brilliant.
I’m so glad it was of some help on your journey, I have no doubt just reading your message that you will also get out the other side stronger and in a better place.
Stay strong brother, you got this 👊💯
I’m glad you didn’t use notes. It really felt like you were speaking from the heart and you just let it out natural. I needed it, I’m at the end of the road, and you’ve convinced me to talk to a therapist. Just want you to know that you have helped me. I promise I’ll return the favor when I make it out the other side. Wish you the best my man.
@@ekimflow7272 That’s really great news and couldn’t recommend enough speaking to a therapist, the CBT stuff takes time but it genuinely works. I can tell from your messages you’ll get through this 😊👊💯👌
I agree 100% about the Stigma around mental health. Look at you, You're Gorgeous. I had a Wonderful Mother who taught me to Think Positive. I had such negative thoughts.. I wrote super faint in pencil on the wall while I slept my life away.."Think Positive" It's easy for a person to think negative... how hard it is to think Positive and turn it around. It takes work but it can be done. Exercise, Good Music and Humor are my go to's. Good Luck to Everyone
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Thank you so much for sharing this. Feel the same way about not wanting to talk with people about my mental health. But I have started reaching out and it is helping.
That’s so brilliant to hear, sounds like you’re making some amazing progress my friend 😃🙌
amazing and well done sir for being so open - we need more people like you
Thank you so much my friend, appreciate the kind words 🙏
Thank you , I currently have tears in my eyes as I write this comment. My son has all of these signs and is getting the help he needs . Your journey is my sons current journey and we just finished all watching your video which has given us hope, thank you for sharing your story .
Your son will get through this my friend, he's getting help which is the main thing, and sounds like he has a loving family around him which is amazing. Stay strong, you've got this❤
Respect man keep your head up, know how you feel 💯
Thank you Peter appreciate that. Hope you’re doing ok mate 👊
Much love for you and your bravery and sharing this. Thank you ❤️
Thank you really appreciate the kind words 💙💙
Facts bro appreciate the help man 🙌🏽🖤💯
Thank you so much for this brother. This video has been encouraging to me. Thank you for sharing it and I'm so happy you are enjoying life ❤️🙏
Thank you my friend 🙏
I feel you brother, being so hard on oneself is tough and incorrect to a healthy living and mindset. Living with self acceptance
We are enough
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Brilliant video mate I can relate to alot of this and I'm lucky to have come out of it and I'm glad you have too I'm gonna show this to my girlfriend who suffers from low self esteem and and depression and I think this video will really help her because you explained it in a way that so understandable and so much better than I could or that I could find on TH-cam I think this video was brilliant
Thank you for sharing. I admire you for speaking up about it. I cried as you were telling your story because everything you felt is what I am feeling now. Likewise, I have been feeling like this for years now. You inspired me to seek help, I know have a beautiful 2 year old daughter and I want to give her the best version of me. Again, thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for the kind words and just from reading your message it sounds like you're going on the right path my friend. Or have for sure recognised what needs to be done to get on the right path and beat this illness. You've got this, and I'm sure your daughter is and will continue to be so proud of you. I'm so glad the video was of some help.
Ross mate. That’s just a wonderful thing you have done.
No one ever would dare to speak so honestly. What you said was so very refreshing. It’s one of the main reasons I buy from you.. you see that’s the thing, it’s got fuck all to do with cost, but everything about the guy selling you it.
So well done.
Hey thanks for sharing and being so open. I just restarted therapy yesterday after a few years and i feel so much worse right now. I heard that can be normal in the beginning. We have such similar issues. The low confidence no self esteem. Thank you so much. I went on 10 interviews this year and didn’t get anything. But im still pushing. Thanks again brother. Im from usa
Stick in my friend, you'll get through this. Must admit when i wasnt getting the jobs I was going for it felt like nothing good would ever happen. But if I got one of those jobs I'd never have started my business and be as happy as I am today. It will all come good buddy take care
Thank you for this, so honest and unfiltered. Needed this
Really glad it was of some help Robert, thank you for the kind words. You’ll smash this and be back on track in no time I’m sure. Stay strong buddy 👊
THANK YOU!! IN THE MIDDLE OF IT NOW MYSELF!
You’ve got this mate, and will come out the other side stronger for it 💯👊
Amazing video. I can't say just how I admire you courage and selflessness in sharing your journey. I'm so glad that you are now in a better place and now other people through watching this can take inspiration - it may just help them on their journey also.
Thank you John mate appreciate the kind words ❤️❤️
I’m going thru the exact same thing right now and this video gives me so much hope! Thank you so much for sharing your experience it’s very inspiring.
Really glad it was of some help my friend, you will beat this illness I know it. Good times are coming 😊👊💯
Thank you for sharing. I was genuinely moved by you expressing your emotions. You are wonderful. Wishing you the best!
Thank you for the kind words, it’s much appreciated 🙏
Excellent video. Thanks for being so open and honest. A lot in this video rings true with me. Your positivity is inspiring.
Thank you Lewis appreciate the kind words and glad it was on help 😄❤️
This was an amazing video and very brave. To see the emotion just set free was therapeutic. Everything you said was so relatable. I really hope to grow to be as strong as you!😢
You’ve got this, I know it 💙💙💙
Hey, thanks for this video. Thanks for being so real and vulnerable. With all the junk on social media, people seeking validation posting their "perfect" lives, it's nice to know some people could still keep it real. As a man, I can relate and so can many more. Thanks for having the courage to post this. You give a lot us hope!
Thank you for the kind words my friend. So glad this video is helping people and I’m wishing you all the best on your mental health journey, you’ve got this 👊
I'm going through the same thing right now. This was really helpful to hear. Thank you
Really glad it was of some help, you’ll get through this too for sure 👌💙👊
Thank you for sharing. Struggling right now and hoping for the future, this was comforting to watch
💙💙💙 thank you my friend, you’ve got this
💙. I know exactly how you felt. I'm so glad you're no longer there.
I’m going through same experience right now.🥺
On the 23rd of February 2024, I was diagnosed with clinical depression.😢
Can someone help me with any other tips to help me pull through this?
Well done brother, if only you could go into more detail about the process, because I'm struggling with the same problem, but your story really inspires me. Thank you
Thank you my friend really appreciate the kind words and you’ll get through this challenge as I did for sure, you’ve got this 💪👊
Inspiring Ross, really insightful. Well done mate
Cheers Jimmy mate appreciate that 👊
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share such personal information. It helps me to see I’m not alone
Thank you for the kind words Sarah, you’re definitely not alone and I’m sure you will get through this as well and come out stronger on the other side ❤️
Incredibly powerful and positive video man, so many people out there who would benefit from hearing you speak so candidly.
Ah thank you mate, always appreciated your support during that time aswell ❤️
Proud of you! well done!
Thank you so much 😃💙
really needed this post man. srsly thank you so fucking much for sharing your story! going through similar shit and it has been extremely difficult. trying to better myself everyday, its a slow process I feel, but got to be patient. also trying to be more kind to myself, because Ive always been really hard on myself, no matter how much effort I put in to something, it was never enough. fuck that, its time to change.
A brilliant attitude my friend and sounds like your mindset is transforming for the better. Love it! Stay strong you've got this!
This helped a lot thanks brother!
I'm going through the exact same thing I've been boxing for 6 months and I absolutely hate myself. I have a fight next month and I'm constantly convincing myself I'm not good enough and going to get battered, for everyone to see. My self esteem makes me hesitant in sparring because I don't believe in my ability. Social anxiety, despising my body, negative thoughts about everything and being a door mat for everybody with no back bone to stand up for myself. This video has seriously resonated with me because we've found similar passions, I love boxing I'm the fittest I've ever been, although still chubby, it's ruined my life for so long that I convince myself I'm just weird. I hope I pull through like you, I think the day I see my abs I will finally begin to believe.
You’ll get there my friend no doubts. Keep doing the right things and don’t stop boxing, heck I got knocked out in my first fight in front of all my friends, it sucked at the time but I got back in there and won my 2nd fight. You’ll never know what will happen unless you try. And trying your best is all you can do. Better to try and fail than never try at all. I’ve got a feel you might just surprise yourself mate 👊
@Seconds Out Fight Store really appreciate the kind words mate I'll be sure to update you on how it goes, proud of you brother you're a huge inspiration.
@Seconds Out Fight Store I can't believe it I actually won my bout, emptied the gas tank in the third two known downs and a standing 8 count won me the fight, went to all my coaches asking if they paid him off lol what is wrong with my head?? I'll upload some footage on my channel just want to say thank you for your video instilled the last bit of self belief I had left.
@@josht2454 aww yes fantastic massive congratulations a very well deserved win, keep up the good work 🥳
@Seconds Out Fight Store if you're interested mate only have footage of the third. th-cam.com/video/AoF8luPrnG8/w-d-xo.html, massive boost to the confidence just need to sort the physique out now. 👊
What an amazing and raw video. Thank you for sharing your heart to help others ❤
Ah thank you, so glad it’s helping people 😃💙
Thank you for sharing❤
great video. it's tough man. communication is the key it is great you put it out there for folks to see
Thank you Carols appreciate that, 100% communication is key my friend ❤️
Thank you for this. It did give me motivation to try to do something about it. Like many other I also cried.
@@TheDianaJC that’s great news my friend, taking the first step is the most difficult. Your recovery has started 😃🙏
Amazing video...so happy I watched it...congrats for your bravery in posting....all the best
Thank you for the kind words Brendan much appreciated 🙏
Thanks for all of this! im dealing with severe depression low esteem GAD and panic disorder (maybe) its really difficult! Thank you very much! Bless you, you are really brave for helping others and talking about it.
Thank you my friend, all the best on your journey. You’ll get through this 🙏💙
Makes me want to make a video too. This was very brave and thank you so much for posting this
Thank you my friend appreciate that. And yeh definitely do your own video, it’s funny how much helps yourself as well as others as I found out myself, was probably a lot I was still holding onto without knowing it
Great video! One thing I would like to add though: stay away from "Psychiatrists". At least in the USA, all these MD's want to do is throw medications at you. Meds that will mask whatever's going on. I'd strongly urge people with depression or anxiety or anything to first go see a mental health counselor, / mental health therapist. There are so many ways to combat depression/ anxiety including lifestyle changes and cognitive behavioral therapy, and more.
Thanks for sharing mate, I'll be in soon for some gear and a gab
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This will help people as it’s not a celebrity it ur regular guy people can relate to him 💙
Ah cheers mate that’s the goal, of it can help someone like those types of videos helped me it’s great 🙂
Well done Ross 👍🏼
Thank you mate 😄❤️
As someone that struggles with autism and bpd this is so relatable keep doing what you’re doing! sending hella love from Canterbury ( uk,kent)
Ah thank you for the kind words my friend, hope you’re doing ok 👊
Thank you bro! I have been having a really hard time dealing with depression and you have given me some hope. So many videos about depression just don't hit home for me but thankfully yours did. Again, thank you so much!
Thank you my man. Keep battling through, you’ve got this…I know it. The dark times don’t last I promise 👊
@@SecondsOutFightStore I will. You taking the time to reply to my message shows you really care and that means a lot. 👊
Thank you for sharing brother! It takes a man with balls to talk about this!
Ah thank you my man, really glad it was of some help. Had such a positive reaction from it which can only be good. Take care my friend 👊🙏
@@SecondsOutFightStore Thanks, you to friend!
I’m sitting here in one of my darkest days and came across your video. I’m dealing with the exact same issues you’re describing . I don’t know where to turn to or what to do, I don’t want to be like this anymore.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this my friend. My best advise would be to speak to your family/close friends. People are so understanding. Definitely also see psychiatrist and sit down to talk about how you’re feeling. If this is your darkest days find a way to stop the downward spiral, even if it’s not increasing it, just stopping it so it doesn’t get worse. Maybe also plan a day that you can look forward to, might just be a visit somewhere local, a meal with a friend. You’ve got this Ken 100%, and I promise these dark days don’t last forever🙏
Diet too - I started with Nutritional yeast, vitamins D & B1 , fish oils, magnesium, potassium & saffron.
Perspire & sun .
@@SecondsOutFightStoreIt’s great that you’ve found joy in life, but when you mentioned thinking of ending your life but being glad you didn’t because you have things to live for now… what are those things? I am struggling to find anything worth living for other than not wanting to hurt my mum by ending myself.
@@JohnSmith-ns6dp Your Mum sounds like the best reason…the most important woman in any man’s life. If you are struggling to do it for yourself, do it for her. Keep fighting the tough days don’t last forever and you’ll come out the other end stronger guaranteed 😃👊
@@SecondsOutFightStore I don't know man. She's in her 80s and in poor health.
This really helped me, thank you
I'm so glad it was of some help, truly hope you are doing ok and know you will beat any mental battles going on in your head :)
Appreciate the video, this helps.
Ah thank you so glad it was of some help 💙💙💙
God bless you ❤️
I’m so glad you’re here your so valuable ❤️❤️❤️
That’s very kind of you to say, thank you 💙
@@SecondsOutFightStore I mean it too your story is helping a lot of people and it’s provided encouragement to me as well. May the Lord bless you as well. You are more than enough ❤️❤️so happy for you
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Mate, what a brave, respectable and honest person you are. Your thoughts mirror mine in virtually every way. I'm 48 years old and it's taken me over twenty years to admit to myself that I have problems. I don't know how but I managed to get married and have a family and hold down a job but through it all I've put my loved ones through years of distress. I have also missed opportunities as well as alienate numerous friends and associates.
I now face a crisis in my marriage and this has forced me to admit to myself that I have to deal with this. I'm now seeking counselling and hoping that this will get me out of this dark space and save my marriage.
I wish you all the best and judging by what little I know of you, I certainly think you have a lot to offer a lady in a relationship and I sincerely hope you get that in your life because I think you deserve it.
Ah thank you for the kind message my friend. It’s funny because until the last few years this wasn’t spoken about as much so you just think that’s the way you are and not an illness which can be cured. That’s fantastic you have a family and I hope you can sit down and talk to them. People and especially loved ones are generally so understanding 😆
Sorry I meant to put a ❤️ emoji at the end not 😆 soon as I hit send I noticed 😂🤦♂️
@@SecondsOutFightStore No worries and all the best for the future.
@@madlfcdc5890 thank you, and you 👊
Thanks for sharing ❤️
Not a problem Lee, hope it was of some help and you’re doing ok 💙💙💙
I had a fundamental belief I was inherently flawed that I would be found out I couldn't find anything actually wrong with me through hypnosis and then it just ended
thank you.
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I’ve been opening up & telling my loved ones that I’m not myself. I never cried & have been crying almost daily.
My wife says she can’t deal with this. My depression only started after my eye surgery. My entire physiology changed, I had palpitations & couldn’t sleep for days. Prior to that I was always happy & laughing all the time.
But what hurts me is my inner circle have been there during my happy times, but bailed on me during my worst times.
I’ve tried another AD & started vitamins & I’m getting changed. Stopped gluten, take nutritional yeast, vitamins D, B1 fish oils, saffron. I’m saving up for my CBT session. God has not shut the door on me. I’ve stopped crying in the last 3 days.
Were you on any AD ?
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this my friend, please stay strong you got this. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things in terms of health and when you find the right doctor the CBT will definitely helps. Keep doing the right things, the bad times don’t last and sure when it’s over you’ll be more healthy and happier. God will never give up on you, use your faith as strength 💙👊
@@SecondsOutFightStore - Really appreciate your reply- buying the book by Dr David Burns on CBT . Hopefully it will help in the fight
I’ve battled with taking AD’s I feel like it means I’m out of control and not strong enough. But I have really been considering taking them again. I just wish I was able to do it on my own. I’ve been hysterically crying recently. The last two years have been so hard.
@@arianecelestine5620 Talking to your friends or family is key imo. You’ll be surprised how caring and understanding folk are. And you’ll feel a heck of a lot better for getting off your chest guaranteed. The AD’s are fine at times for a short term fix, that’s what I found but it doesn’t solve the route cause of the problem. Try to figure out why you’re feeling depressed…start from there and when you address that it will stop the downward spiral 😃
Thank you ❤️
No problem my friend really hope it was of some help 🙏❤️
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Thank you.
My pleasure Ritchie hope you are ok and this was of some help on your journey 🙏👊
Thanks dude
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Feelings of inadequacy are toxic shame like no other. Truly self-destructive to your sense of well-being and extremely difficult to realize the problem because you don't know your thoughts and feelings are flawed.
Couldn’t agree more my friend
@@SecondsOutFightStore I'm glad you had success with CBT, I've been to a couple therapists without much success. Are you continually going to therapy? Therapy gets expensive fast and you start to feel like a customer instead of a patient. Thanks for sharing your experience.
did anxiety ever make it hard to walk properly, stiff legs etc
Mate, I'm 44 and have been going through this since I was 12. I'm pushing my perfect wife away, still having anger problems for years, and no matter how successful I am in all areas of life I still hate myself and can't break the cycle.
My friend, the first step is recognising the problem, the next step is talking about…you’re already doing both. You’ve got this 😊👊
@@SecondsOutFightStore you’re a legend and inspiration.
You're so cute and a nice accent...you'd make a great boyfriend 🧡🧡Thank you for sharing...depression is just awful.
I cried watching this video. Its excatly how Im feeling righ now...
There is light at the end of the tunnel I promise. I hope watching my video helped even 1% you wouldn’t believe how many folk are going through or have been through the same thing. Stay strong ❤️❤️❤️
Did you get through this without medication?
I was very unsure about medication at first but for around 4 months of my 2 year journey I took medication. Started with Fluoxetine then tried something else (I cant remmeber the name) as that one wasnt working. That did make a difference. Then came off it near then end
this was an illness, not me. indeed
I’m not saying suicidal people should give up but I wouldn’t call it “stupid”. Suicide seems to get stigmatized harshly when I’m sure most victims of it have perhaps avoided suicide for a long time because no one wants to die, and in their case just stop the pain because they are thinking there would be no more pain if they are dead but like any other illness you either beat it or you don’t. The peers around you may think it’s simple but emotional healing is significantly more complicated for the person going through it.
aren't you scott adkins? xD
fist bump.
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@@SecondsOutFightStore if u have the time.Is there an email i can reach you at? Im going through the exact same mental process and it has almost taken my life a few times, i got some questions for ya, no marketing or sales or anything just need advice.