Lets Chat-How I am Overcoming Imposter Syndrome + Anxiety
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ธ.ค. 2024
- I am finally opening up about my imposter syndrom, anxiety and secret struggles. Thank you for watching.
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The second I hit publish, my heart sank a little In fear of how you would perceive this video. Thank you for your light hearts and beautiful words, I appreciate you for taking the time to watch this and comment. I have ready each and every comment. 🥺The good news is that I am in such a better place where I could be open about these issues with you now. Love you all!
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I have watched your videos for many years and told my husband a dream of mine … one day when i conquer my anxiety/panic disorder and the fear of flying I am going to Sam Fran to have my hair done by Silvia. Little did I know that you struggled too… I can identify with almost everything but nothing tears at your heart more than the fear that your child might not be liked.. I am also a very sensitive empathetic person so I feel the weight of the world so much more than a lot of people. I’ve had anxiety since I can remember and it comes in waves where I am ok for few years and then it gets worse again and I’m just at the low point again .. I will check out a couple of your book recommendations as I am a reader but other than Atomic habits have not heard of the others .. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and struggles, I feel you more than you’ll ever k ow and I’d never judge you for that. ❤❤
Absolutely LOVED this vid! Thanks for being so vulnerable with us, VERY helpful!!! ❤
@ellebangs I appreciate your videos! all of them be you because it makes some of us feel ok to be ourselves as well. You inspire me to feel confident in myself. especially with coloring my hair but just as being a mom and woman in this fast crazy world.
Don’t worry !! I DON’T FELL alone I love the family aspect of your beautiful family ……you are an amazing artist and an amazing mother Silvia !!!!❤
Dirty water doesn't stop plants from growing, don't let negative words stop your progress. Wishing you and your daughter all the happiness and success the world can offer xx
Awe I have never heard this saying. But so true!
What a beautiful comment…👏
I agree. And don’t let analytics dictate who you should be. Comments and analytics can be data to consider, but I believe people follow you because they enjoy your authenticity and desire to share your expertise. I think the way you have educated people about all the variables regarding going blonde, has help most of us realize how complicated and unpredictable it can be to do at home! It’s given me added respect for a good colorist!
Girl u have been one of the first people to do you tube and help others get into hair as an art. All of us who have been watching you for all these years are so grateful for you. You got us to level up and cultivate an appreciation for the art of hair and get into how fun this all is. You rock. I have been following u for like 10 years
Me too! I follow her, she's one of the only ones that hasn't changed and is still humble despite the thousands of subscribers, she's so down to earth and calm,I have enjoyed her videos through the years
I'm new at this, her you tube on friobroid was so helpful well done I'm now a subscriber to her I like her Honestly 👌👍👏👏🤗💕❤️❤️❤️
People unsubscribe, not because they don't like Amelia, they just once subscribed to maybe hair or makeup video, and now seeing child/mom content doesn't suit their tastes in general. Maybe it triggers them. You never know. Don't blame yourself or you little Amelia for their choices and preferences. Some go, some come, its natural. You are doing a great job with whatever you post!
Please don't worry about losing more superficial subscribers. There are SO many of us who appreciate you talking about your struggles with PP Depression, and anxiety and general malaise, that SO many of us share. You are doing a BIG SERVICE to others, that goes above and beyond hair and make-up tips. You are on the right path, please keep going.
BTW a big kiss for Amelia, such a beautiful name. 💛🧡
Love her Low tune voice so many so Loud and scream talk to quick and so I haven't been watching any till now for first time ever I'm enjoying Listening to her while in pain all the time do to fibroid that was so humble honest 👏👏💖💖💖❤️
I think overall social media has destroyed more than its helped.
Thank you for sharing your story, you’ve been so brave. This has helped me.
Suggest during morning time: Praying, breathing in the goodness of God, being thankful to whom/what? To God. LOVE all the growth and self reflection. During one marriage slump I said to my husband- “you being less than perfect is actually good for me,” it causes self reflection and growth in me. . . And FYI, I come and go- basically I come when I need hair tips for blondes but don’t want to be in you tube more than I need to be. Thanks.
Sylvia, I started watching your TH-cam videos like 10 years ago. You are a true OG TH-camr. When I moved to San Francisco in 2017, you became my hairdresser and I’ve never had a better one. I’ve loved watching your videos post pandemic - watching you learn and grow within yourself, your work, your relationships, and now motherhood. You are relatable and amazingly vulnerable. I have been having a lot of panic attacks lately (tingly fingers, feeling faint) and it always helps to listen you talk about ways you’ve gotten through it. I love you and will always a fan of you and your work! Amazing job editing btw ❤😘!
I miss you Holly! This is the sweetest message ️thank you
Wow. You just gained me as a fan BIG TIME. I discovered you about two months ago when I had an at home hair disaster. I found you so helpful and started to watch lots of your videos to understand what happened to my hair and I learned so much. I so appreciate what you just shared and totally understand anxiety and panic attacks and marvel that despite struggling with this you chose a public forum to have your business in. It takes guts and so much strength these days with cancel culture and people being offended by literally everything. And also ppl don't get how hard it is to make videos. Talking and smiling at the same time, remember your topic, staying on track, editing all while making it look pro and so easy when it can be really hard! You are SO talented!! Please keep making your videos. I think you are wonderful!!!
Awww Sylvia we are all here for you !!!!!!❤
Thank you!! Your continued support means so so much to me.
@@Ellebangs We got you !!!! 💜
@@EllebangsI didn’t even realize there stupid spell check for you’re name sorry !!! ❤please forgive me !
I can understand the feeling of “I’m failing”, yet you’re assessing and adjusting. That’s evolution and growth.
You have a super power which is hair - focus on that. That’s why I watch. There’s no shortage of mommy content there’s an excess. I hear about mommy complaints all day long in my private life from co workers and friends they can’t help it and can’t stop. I’m not even a mom. But I lend a sympathetic ear to them. So if I see it on TH-cam I’m not going to waste my time watching it. Posting about your daughter is signaling to the audience that your priorities have shifted not because we don’t like your child. I also watch you because I admire your beauty, your skill and talent. You also have great taste - the music you choose in your videos and I’ve gained a lot from all the tips and tricks you’ve shared. Keep going.😊
I’m so, so, SO glad to hear that you noticed how scrolling on your cell phone affected your mood. It took me a long time to realize how social media directly correlates with mental health and anxiety. I personally had to quit social media altogether. I’m so much more at peace and have so much more mental clarity. And more importantly I’m present and actually enjoying the current moment. I refuse to live my life on my phone. TH-cam is your job so idk if that’s a realistic option for you but just wanted to share. I wish you the best! Keep going❤️
24:29 I have watched you for 8-9 years, I have spent time scrolling through other TH-camrs throughout the years and find myself ALWAYS coming back to you. This is probably the first video I have EVER commented on but when I watched this video I had to comment. In my opinion, you are extremely too hard on yourself and I know that’s easier for us to say. This is your livelihood. But your heart is in it and that changes things because most of us aren’t lucky enough to have chosen a career that we honestly love with all of our hearts and it’s obvious in your videos that you ARE one of the lucky ones. You can see and hear it in your voice. If your numbers went down a bit, possibly due to a video with your daughter, I would imagine you’re going to gain twice as many back. And I believe that your viewers are lucky to have found you. ❤
I really appreciate you and your generosity in sharing your knowledge on hair coloring and styling. You have helped so many people who are on budgets or who may be home bound. In a genuinely kind way you have given us the formulas and instilled in us the confidence that we can still have good hair. Thank you for all that you do!!☀️🌺💜💜
Analytics arent important
Your child is 100% important ❤
This ❤️
Your channel was the 1st channel I ever subscribed to on TH-cam. I have always loved how insightful and informative you are. You have taught me SO MUCH! I've loved watching you change and grow and come into your own and now that you are a mother and still doing your thing, it's just beautiful to watch! I love that your daughter is blessed to have a mama that cares to cater to people that cannot afford to go to a salon, but you still help us all to have beautiful hair! She gets to see you have a heart for humans all over, whether we can afford to pay salon prices or not. Whether we are your in person client or not. That's amazing and you are the first person I've ever seen take these professional skills and share that knowledge selflessly. I hope you grow tremendously in your in person and online client base because you deserve it! - from another mother trying to make everything work while dealing with the same mental struggles, I appreciate you so much!!
Always absolutely loved your hair videos! You really helped me with my hair colours and opened up a new world of toners that I didn’t know about.
But now you’ve done so much good doing this so honestly! No one is perfect, so don’t go there - you are so beautiful as you are Sylvia. Love that you’re prepared to go on a journey, and take us on your ride.
This might be old school to say, but, ‘go girl, go’. xx
PS I have a diagnosis of anxiety ‘n panic attacks - I’m so glad all these topics are being talked about. Thanks soo much.
You, Sam Ravndahl, Steph Lange and a few others are such authentic women and your audiences love you for it.
You are the best blonde colorist I have seen. I have fine thin hair and have learned so much from your expertise. I have been a nurse for sooo many years and sometimes we all feel imposter syndrome. The trauma codes I have worked in say otherwise. You are not an imposter, but rather an artist. I love your hair videos and that’s what I enjoy watching. Your doing a great job. You will figure out what you need to do for your business and what is best for you and your family. Everything will fall into place.
I’m just here to say that Jesus Christ loves you and wishes to have a relationship with you Sylvia 🫶🏼🤍🙏🏼 I’m praying for you.
Amen to this!
Amen 🙏🏻 ❤
Life is filled with ups and downs . You are a beautiful soul with a beautiful baby and family. Be true to yourself always ~ ❤
Silvia, you are a beautiful and brilliant light, as a hair colorist and as a mom! I've seen you grow and continue to inspire others through the years. Don't allow others to diminish your light. Plus, I ❤ the videos of Amelia. She makes everything better in your channel!
I struggle with severe depression and anxiety. So I can relate to the anxiety. Just you having the courage to do TH-cam videos is ALOT. I remember first watching you and I could feel your anxiety. But I admired your courage to get through it despite you going through it. I do agree with breathing. I had started getting palpitations, so my anxiety was affecting my heart! Breathing was what actually stopped it. Do not underestimate the power of just breathing. So when people say just breath, it makes me mad initially lol but honestly, idk where I’d be if I didn’t do it. I so appreciate your honesty. I really truly enjoy transparent videos like this. It might be hard to film so for that I thank you. But I appreciate having someone to relate to despite your success! You’re an inspiration.
So I am a very well respected person in my profession have worked w many many high profile people in my field. After they noticed I was pregnant, I was “let go.” And they brought in a guy w MUCH less knowledge and skill that I had. I had nothing but praise when I had this one job. I realized what was important and the people who could STILL see me for what I was worth- is where I chose to work!!
I’m so sorry you are going through this 💛 you seem like the most genuine, kind person and you deserve happiness!
You have been my go to girl for years. I have watched you grow to being so much more confident in front of the camera. Thank you for being AUTHENTIC. You're more then just wealth of knowledge about hair. Sometimes we viewers forget that. ❤
I've been following you for so long and have always used all the advice you have given and have enjoyed glimpses in your life. A beautiful strong woman like you translates super confident on screen. You just need to be yourself like you have been , authentic - do not worry about those who cannot see you clearly on here. Sending you strength I suffer with anxiety also and it's a daily battle.
I never comment on videos, but I feel like I have to on this since it resonates with me so much. The last couple of minutes, especially. It is inspiring. I have watched your videos for years and appreciate you for teaching me how to color and cut my own hair. I am fascinated with hair but never went to school for it. I am a 47 year old mom of beautiful twin girls in college, an esthetician, a nail tech, and an artist, and I always want to teach others what I know through my experiences. Even more now that I have been receiving therapy for anxiety, ptsd, depression,ADD, perfectionism, etc. I have felt deeply that I should be making and sharing content to help others. But I have never made a video and don't even know where to begin. It feels like time just keeps passing, and making progress toward anything feels so slow when you have anxiety and perfectionism. I admire your vulnerability. It really spoke to my heart.
Remember your content has always been educational first and foremost. You have been generous in teaching skills!! Hair, style, make up, skin care, etc.
You are an educator and your personality and lifestyle and Adam and Amelia are all just icing on top . But please don’t be distracted or analyze how people receive the icing. Many are here for the cake only.
You are my go to! I’ve followed you since the beginning. I also struggle with many similar issues. Totally your “true supporter” Imposter syndrome keeps me from scheduling consultations with you!!! Still doing my own hair and watching your videos! You cultivate a safe place for me on dark days which then motivates me to find my creative/artistic outlet along with self care. I adore you!
I just found your videos for hair - single mama of two, unable to afford salons. I felt so happy to find a professional helping us. I was also drawn to your presence in the videos. I’m very happy you’ve opened up. I too survived PPD. In addition to imposter syndrome. In addition, recently divorced. Thank you for sharing, your vulnerability makes me want to support you even more.
I cannot tell you how many haircuts I have given myself thanks to your channel. Your content has helped me so much with everything from hair to makeup to just chilling and enjoying your content. YOUR baby is everything!! Gorgeous. AND I don't have kids but I loved watching you with her. Thank you for being so open in this video as I imagine it was not easy to do. I am here for all of it....the hair, the life issues and the baby!!!! Sending you love.
Silvia, Forgive, and move forward! It will bring you peace. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers!
I started watching you when I was a hairdresser. I no longer do hair because of disability. I appreciate you sharing your life and your child. I am a mum so I love watching people who have a family and a career. ❤ xx
I never comment on videos but felt you deserved a comment. I’ve been a long time viewer, maybe 5 or 6 years.
I don’t watch every video because most don’t apply to my hair, but the videos I’ve found that do are so so helpful! I appreciate the advice you’ve given. I’ve always admired your hair, makeup, and style. I would love to see lifestyle vlogs, or style tips. I would definitely watch those videos!
I’m glad you posted this. This alone will keep me as a subscriber for years to come. Best of luck to you! :)
I've been watching your channel for some time now, learning how to color my own hair, because to me it's a form of self-expression, and also probably a form of OCD as well if I think about it! But hearing someone else share that they have had the same struggles as me, that there are others out there like me, and no less someone who looks literally as amazing as you do, is just so validating. And I know I'm not the only one thinking this. Thank you - thank you for sharing so authentically, as you are validating the experiences of so many of us who look on instagram, youtube, wherever, and see beautiful people, and can know that not everyone is actually perfect, even if they present themselves this way. You are so tremendously beautiful, smart and talented. Keep up the amazing work!!!
This almost made me cry because I have been subscribed for so long because I have always though you were just amazing. It’s heartbreaking to hear your sadness because to me you *are* all the things you believed you were in your strongest hours.
I understand life has its ups and downs (had a bit of a day myself today) it’s expected, it will pass and if handled correctly, we grow better.
God bless and loads of love ❤
Continuing from my previous comment, I want to thank you for helping me look my best by providing hair care information and tutorials, beauty, fashion etc. You do meet the needs of many people. I love doing my own hair as well as my daughters. I have frequently been let down by hairdressers or just find it unaffordable. You have helped me look after our hair at home and I thank you for that.
Hello Sylvia, I wanted to express how much I appreciate your videos. Your loyal subscribers who admire you for who you are will continue to support you and help grow your subscriber count. I also adore seeing Adam and your beautiful baby, as well as sweet Olive. Your home design and everything you do are truly inspiring. I relate to the emotions you shared in this video and I'm definitely going to read the books you recommended. Looking forward to more “anything you feel like sharing” content! ❤
I love your vulnerability. You’re such a sweet soul! God bless!
Thank you for being so open and raw. Been here since the beginning and everything you said resonated a lot with me. And I completely relate to crippling anxiety and imposter syndrome. Thank you for not giving up but continuing to grow and learn and create better routines and ways of thinking about yourself. You are appreciated, valued and you MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Aww we love your baby!! Don’t ever hide that part of your life!! ❤❤❤
Since the pandemic, TH-cam has become such a big part of my morning routine. It’s my quiet uninterrupted time to have coffee and enjoy hair and makeup content (I’m not a book reader. lol). To that, I just wanted to say “thank you” for all the amazing, educational, and informative content ❤
Thank you for trusting me/us/your audience with this incredibly beautiful post! Wim Hof methodis amazing!! I have multiple chronic illnesses and his ice bath/shower methods really help me! So glad you have found yourself and are doing your best!! Keep it up mama!!
Thank you for taking the time to share this! You’ve inspired me to try to get up earlier and get back to a routine. I greatly appreciate your honesty throughout your videos, and for a couple of years now I’ve been watching your hair styling tips. As a mom of four, getting in to my favorite salon is difficult physically and financially, and I fully admit that doing my hair at home is never the same as going to a talented professional. Thank you for helping so many of us to “up our game” with our home efforts. What you have gifted us all with, will, I believe, come back to you.
Just randomly fell on your channel looking for lowlight hair info and have come away feeling inspired and motivated. Can relate to so much here. Great tips, good for you, awesome video!
I have struggled for years with anxiety and not feeling like enough...I am proud of you for being vulnerable, for having awareness, for trying to make positive movements forward. You are not alone!!!! Many of the things you have said, I have felt the same way!!! And I TOTALLY hear you about the "complaining thing" because I do the same thing...and I don't consider myself complaining but like you said, needing someone to realize I'm not ok. Hang in there!! I hope you are doing better now!!
I've been watching your videos since day 1. I'm so proud of how you've grown as a person. Your first videos - you had so little self-confidence while speaking, or even just ending a video you didn't seem like you were comfortable saying "see ya next time." You may not see the ways you have grown, but we all have. The problem, like you said, is what you're NOT showing on youtube. In this "now I have to do shorts, too???" culture where there are TOO many content creators it seems like YOU have to be more this, or more that, or give what you don't want to share, or suffer (financially) when you share something that's typically off-topic for you, but ya know - make those videos anyway. People can skip the non-hair related videos - eh, whatever...it's not a reflection of you but a reflection of that persons interests. You don't control that. However, you'll love your "this is my child and husband and family and these are my feelings" videos that you made when years down the road you rewatch them. That could be a part of self love.
I was one of your moderators on Hair Chat on Facebook for years and years and it was consuming so much of my time that I had to leave you there. I even enjoyed working with Adam to make it the best it could be. I wanted people to have gorgeous hair and get to know how to really do it well by following your advice, but there was so much vitriol at times and I was blocking so many people - and that made me uncomfortable. It got to the point where it felt like I was defending you from the "Why are you here when you should go RIGHT to a real stylist!!!?" every week. I put that much time into trying to help you succeed for a few reasons. You seemed like a beautiful person inside that TRULY just wanted to help, but also because I was, and am, completely controlled by panic attacks and anxiety to the point that I truly do NOT leave my home except for short jaunts, but ONLY with my husband. I've lost my life to anxiety and watching you push through your trials and the changes in your life while knowing that you had bad anxiety has always been inspiring to me. And...well, I wanted to be a part of something good.
I love blonde hair. I love all things hair. I have no other way to join in and feel a part of something other than by following your tutorials and feeling like - hey, I can trust Silvia because she's obviously not a total sell-out like others I've watched through the years. It always seemed like every video you made was for US and not just for clicks.
This particular video (that I'm commenting on) was really helpful to ME. I know I'm just one person, but man, if I could affect just one person's life for the better I'd be honored, and you DO seem to appreciate us, so that's NOBLE.
I trust you have a good heart, with or without youtube you would have found a beautiful path in life.
Now I'm going to check out this breath work link you shared because I've never heard of it and anything that I could ever do help get myself to leave this house on my own, or drive again, or hell - work and have an independent life ... I'll try it. Anything. Just anything - I would try it.
So, thank you for being vulnerable and for sharing.
Don't think of those unsubscribers as haters or "what did I do wrong??" - it's just people growing and changing and finding their path.
Find YOU and then BE you.
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Hi! Just realizing what you’re saying and the depth of your truth is so refreshing. Anxiety plus plus plus it’s like throwing a firecracker vs detonating an atomic bomb. Reading choices kinda funny since when you are doing hair, ever notice how people tend to open up about the most while sitting there and I don’t think they’d ever be that open to any other stranger like that. I always felt as though I should’ve went to school to be a psychiatrist or therapist. So many great books out there! You’re also striving to be a perfectionist which isn’t a great thing but you can do ok and at least that’s doing it!
The video was GREAT!!! Especially the advice at the very end!!! the Bible is my book suggestion.
Hello Silvia, I went to get my hair done to your salon in San Francisco and because you are so sweet and carried ❤ with your advise you don’t know this but you brought me out off depression. I had just lost my mom and you shared what your family went through when you lost your grandma that clicked to me and made me and I realized that my THAT family needed me and they really wanted to help so I allowed them to help me and it work beautifully You also recommend go see a professional but after that conversation i just focus on me and my family and I was able to overcome MY depression OF 18 MONTHS What also help me was that you gave me confidence i got many many many complements on my hair. I wish you can do my hair again so I can look and feel beautiful again CUZ you are so talented, but I lost your contact info. Million thanks GOD BLESS YOU
I love learning about hair, you have outstanding and amazing videos with great tips and informative insight on hair care. It’s all detailed and very thorough information you put out which i enjoy. It’s a passion of mine to learn about hair care, I am a licensed cosmetologist but currently not working in the industry. I have a three and five year old and I have sacrificed soo much financially in taking financial cuts and lost so I could have more time to be around for them. This video has touched me in a deeper sense of understanding a lot of the feelings that I have and I just have dealt mostly. Things you mentioned have shined light and understanding, they’re relatable to what I can change and perhaps bring out a better overall me and how to cope. In general. I appreciate your honesty and I appreciate this video. Thank you for putting out this information a
that has brought attention and awareness to some things that no one ever talks about.
I am still on minute 1 but I just want to tell you that I adore your personality no matter what kind of videos you upload. You have my support, you are amazing!!! ❤
You are the sweetest! I LOVE the videos w Millie and generally love seeing mothers be moms. Its super sweet. You seem to be coming to an awakening stage in your life and that is sooo special! Many people never reach this stage of consciousness. You seem much more spiritual than your husband and that is such a special gift you have! Continue seeking info that is making you feel better in your spirt no matter what anyone says
Remember this one thing-social media invites opinions and ridicule as well as compliments and praise. But you owe us nothing if tomorrow you decided to pull your TH-cam videos and not do anymore. We would surely miss you, but we would probably see it as you wanted time alone with your family and your job. Do you. In everything. You are doing it all right. You’ve even made us all better women because of your videos. Especially this one. You Rock!
There’s no way to
Please everyone, people come and go, if sometimes you are feeling poorly validate that it's okay, let go of what you can’t control.the ones enjoying your channel are here❤
I have been a fan of yours for quite a long time and I’m so glad to hear that you are human as we are. No one honey is perfect and if they say they are, well they are not speaking the truth. I developed anxiety through a high pressured job and being a single parent. I know exactly what you mean when you speak of an panic attack and feel completely in a state of not knowing what is going to happen now whether this is it for me, life as they are VERY SCARY. I normally would dry to an ER AND SIT IN THE PARKING LOT JUST KNOWING THE ER WAS 20 FEET AWAY AS MY BODY WAS COMPLETELY NUMB AND MY BREATHING, JUST A BREATH WAS SO HARD TO TAKE. BY SITTING IN THE ER PARKING LOT, I could actually calm myself down without having to go inside the ER. I most definitely have in the past with a panic attack and felt bad when they said you are just having a panic attack. TO ME ITS NOT JUST A PANIC ATTACK AS I FEEL LIKE IM TOTALLY DYING. My DAUGHTER IS NOW GOING THRU THIS IN HER MIDDLE 20’s WITH 2 YOUNG CHILDREN AS SHE HAS SERIOUS PANIC ATTACKS AND I HAVE FORWARDED THIS VIDEO TO HER!! I HOPE YOU CONTINUE THE TOPIC AS I TRULY ADMIRE YOU OPENING UP AND BEING HONEST IN OTHER WORDS BEING HUMAN!! I want my daughter to try a couple of your suggestions as they sound excellent!! Thank you for sharing and ALWAY ALWAYS BE YOURSELF!! People respect you so much better when you are!! Thank you!!
Book suggestion---- The Holy Bible. Not even trying to be annoying. I think you are a beautiful woman, inside and out. Hearing this video is a blessing, thank you for being transparent and sharing your heart. I just want to tell you you are made with a purpose by a Divine Creator- God!
..in a nice way... please be careful- the breathing and meditation and those types of things are very New Age practices. These tyoes of things arw temporary fixes. I will be praying for you, Sylvia.
Agree 🥰🙏🏽
You are very raw and real with your stories. You do whatever you want to do...Lots of love!
When you mentioned 12 years on TH-cam I had to look back and noticed I have been subscribed for 10 years. Wow time has flown by! I haven’t watched your videos in a long time because you haven’t been shown in my feed until today. I always love your hair color because we share the same eye color and skin tone. I always remember your cool tone and warm tone video.
You are so beautiful inside & out. I really appreciate your authentic offering, raw vulnerability in sharing. As an introvert in a professional public space dealing with anxiety it’s so difficult to do this and I commend you, hear you, respect you, applaud you and thank you.
I think it is beautiful that you are sharing your personal life. I know this is just me talking, but I very much was interested to learn who you were as a person, I used to watch a lot of your videos on how to DIY hair, and if I am being honest, I did not understand you at all at that point, I just learned a lot from you, and I may have, not intentionally, thought you were shallow a little, and you are like the furthest thing from the notions I had from you. You are beautiful on the inside and outside. With that being said, I could be wrong here, but maybe the people unsubscribing are literally just there to learn, or maybe their are some people that don't care to know who you are, they just want your skills, so its not like a personal thing, they have a goal, and maybe they thought you were moving in a different direction, or maybe they learned what they needed to learn from you. I am personally, very very grateful, for what I have learned from you. I do my own hair to this day, and people love my hair. Also, a lot of people were about this during the pandemic, and now they are able to go back to the salon, and you did have your beautiful little girl, and you life kind of being shared around that time, so maybe that played into it as well. I can see that you are a perfectionist, and girl, you have so much going for you, I pray that you don't feel the need to impress anyone anymore! However, I am impressed. God bless you!
I have been watching your delightful, informative, videos… as a person, I have just truly enjoyed your content, not as I wanted or needed anything specific from you, but more so just welcoming you, your presence, your voice your face into my space, into my home as I listened to you speak, share what you wanted to provide! Your info is extremely helpful and well educated. I trust you should I choose to help myself, or my hair, cut, or color… I have only cut my hair since I was young… but really what I think I want to say is, I’ve learned, the chapters I have gone through, those that love you, stay, grow, strengthen. Those that leave… use you, so, it’s their loss. And I will tell you, I appreciate you as a person, your feelings are real, you are a person, I want to encourage you, and tell you, when you see your reflection those beautiful eyes, love you too!! And all of us watching you, who have been here, and have yet to meet you, I speak for myself, i love you, as a person and even more so now, mumma!
I love all the beautiful loving moms out there!!! And yes I believe in the natural healing, breathing, morning routine based around gratitude!!! I need to practice this more for myself, jus’ sayin’! I will start the wash face routine!! I’m bad at that for some reason.. anyway, thank you for your honesty, and sharing with us (me) your authentic self. I have very much become an introvert… but, I welcome you into my safe space! I support you! Im glad to hear a mom like you loves her baby girl and wants to share with us your passions and holding yourself accountable to want to continue to grow into the best person you can be! It’s exciting to learn new chapters in life!!! I appreciate your humility!! Keeping doing what you love to do! I pray for you to have more Grace for yourself, and for the sake of others!!
Side note, I was writing while watching, I too have gone through extremes in life multiple times, including cancer, and multiple attacks on my life, I have learned, no matter what, forgiveness is most important!! It’s not as much for them, I am learning my well-being is most important, I did not want the bad to continue to have control over my life any longer, that I have learned the ‘bad’ has no more control over me, the minute I learned to forgive, and what that truly means….
Plus, it’s how you go through the challenges in life or how to interpret the challengers in life that allow others to witness the miracle in you in how you grow through it that becomes their blessing!! Live in Love!!
Editor’s note: “in how you choose to grow through it that becomes their blessing!! Live in Love!!”
I have to tell you, I LOVE your hair videos and you have inspired me to get the hair I want from home. When this popped up on my feed I had to watch it, even though it wasn’t a hair video because I saw the title and you showing transparency and vulnerability is amazing. A lot of people are not brave enough to do that, and I love that about you ! Thank you !
Your videos on anxiety posted a few years ago and they helped me ALOT! Advice on looking in the mirror and speaking words of love and appreciation were foreign to me at the time. You are a positive influence on the world ❤
Transparency is brave and beautiful , you are not a failure and your baby is beautiful . ❤
Love Wim Hoff and have dug into Human Design.❤️ I haven't watched any of your videos in a couple years. I'm so excited you are digging into these things and i can relate to you even more now. Meditation has been the best thing over anything that has helped me with anxiety.💝
Sylvia!!! Guess what? I have been engulfed in true crime videos more than any others to the point no other creators even showed up on my suggested videos. A few days ago, I was complaining about how much money I have spent over the past few months over $500 to be exact, so I decided I’m going to try and do my hair myself. I made a post on Reddit and the response I got seems the majority of women do their own hair. So I looked on TH-cam for tutorials and there you were. I was so excited to see how your life has changed and I loved seeing Amelia right there with you. I have binged watched and thanks to you, I feel I now have the confidence (in 3 days) to now cut and color my hair, and I’m still looking through your videos to even learn more.
I too have anxiety and once upon a time I cared what others thought more than what I thought about myself.
If I could give you any advice, I’m 62 btw, is to be you. You are an amazing teacher. You’re teaching so many women so many things. You just be you and know you’re always going to have haters, unfortunately there are people who just live in misery and feel the need to lash out instead of scrolling on. Don’t concern yourself with losing subscribers because you also gained several.
Hugs to you, and thank you again for all the information you share with all of us. I think you’re awesome. Life is hard. Motherhood is super hard. Being a wife is hard. Just don’t be hard on yourself. You will continue to grow every year as you get older. As of now, you are doing the right thing by trying to find out who you are and who you want to be.
Also, I had never heard of e-salon. Omg!!! Thank you so much!
This is also a youtube problem with the algorithm. Ive missed videos from my fav channels because apparently it didnt think i like them anymore? Plus it went from subbing to a channel to having to set all the bells and whistles to on.
As a long-time follower of your channel, you have made a huge difference in my hair care. Your insights and tips have helped me to understand that I can manage and have the hair color I want without the very high price tag some hair stylists charge. And even after paying a lot for my cut and color I would need extra toning or trimming and often it was unsatisfying, and I felt cheated by the higher price.
I also learned that while your information has helped me to get the best hair color I can, I don't replace a good colorist or stylist for myself. But now I know that I can expect to get good results. I have enjoyed watching your growth and your life expand. You are a truly beautiful person. Life is often filled with struggle and there are likely going to be difficult times in your life that you will have some struggle, as I have had many times in my life.
I am sure your story has helped more people than you will be able to really know. We all, at some point, face certain life changes. Your ability to cope and share is what makes you even more important to those of us who are gaining experience and understanding of issues we might not have faced or are able to learn about, if not for your hard work.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. A thousand thanks are not enough for how you made the difference in my hair care. And my understanding of how hard that job is. Happy Holidays! Don't change a thing.
I’ve loved watching your hair videos over the years. Keep being you
'"the truth is I'm a complainer" girl me to and your absolutely right about it being stemmed from anxiety (at least for me too)
Sorry for the challenges you're facing, I'm confident that you'll cope with all of that and become stronger. You're beautiful and seem to be very gentle. Big hug all the way from France
Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate you for being here.
I too have lived with anxiety and the breathing techniques I do have helped me tremendously throughout my life. Routine also helps me. You’re not alone💕
Ugh! Lol. As soon as I saw the name of this video I knew it was one for me to watch right away. I have so many things to say but will not write everything……but I struggle severely with anxiety,depression, adhd just all of it. And I am currently a “single” mom of 3 girls 8,5 & 2. My husband & I separated almost a year ago now and it’s been one of the hardest years of my life. I thought my anxiety was bad before this well it hit a whole new level that just debilitated me. It consumed/consumes my life on a daily basis and it’s so hard to control that let alone everything else in my life I’m trying to deal with. Being the best mom to my girls is of course my first priority and it’s so overwhelming most of time to be honest which again brings that anxiety right back. I so appreciate you making this video and sharing your real raw stories, emotions & experiences with us. It is so incredibly helpful to hear it from someone else,esp someone in your type of career. It just makes it feel better knowing other people struggle with the same things and I’m not the only one or completely crazy. Not that I would wish what I deal with on anyone but it is comforting at the same time. I can also relate to your “morning routine” issue. I am in that place right now still. I’ve never been a good morning person lol and I like you said wake up with my kids and just jump right into mom mode like on auto pilot almost. I’ve heard it from many people about trying to have that routine and wake up earlier for that “me time” because lord knows once the girls are up there’s no such thing as me time. So I am still a big work in progress but hope and pray that I will get it together and figure it out sooner rather than later! I am absolutely going to try the breathing video you spoke about and interested in the books you spoke about, esp Human Design I believe it was. I’ve tried breathing techniques before but they never really helped with my anxiety so I’m very excited to try this one out. Lastly lol I just wanted to say that I think you are incredibly brave and respect what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. I actually had a virtual appointment with you several months ago and recently reached out to you again for a little advice and you were/are so kind and genuine which is what made me continue to follow you and trust you as a “client” but also just as a human being. So I will stop typing now and again just thank you for posting this and I think you were meant to do what you’re doing because you are reaching people who need to hear what you have to say and it’s greatly appreciated. I wish you continued success and happiness for your family esp your beautiful daughter. 💕🦋🙏🏼
I took cosmetology over 25 years ago, & have learned more from just 3 of your videos, than I ever learned in class.
A regular schedule of eating & sleeping is the absolute must for raising non-combative humans & animals (we all get cranky when hungry or sleepy). Just doing those two things will make life so much easier for everyone.
I’d like to insert what you did not; those “free” things are taxed at their retail value. Therefore, any gift from a company or money made off links is taxed.
This means so much to me. So gald you have learned from my videos and hopefully motivated you to continue in this field.
Look, There isn’t anything you have done wrong. You do GREAT HAIR. Your videos have put knowledge into the minds of aspiring hair dressers, as well as the general public- YOU HELP ALOT. You are surely dedicated to your profession. It shows -your passion- your skill-your TH-cam commitment-just want to say Thank you. .
Sylvia you are a beautiful human. I appreciate and commend you on sharing so much of your personal experience. You are successful in raising awareness of anxiety, being a new Mum, and professional young woman. I find you incredibly inspiring, and someone I would enjoy to get to know better. There are a lot of not very nice people in the world who are unable to appreciate your light. Keep going, you are amazing. Thank you for sharing and I love seeing your beautiful daughter and life.
Thank you for being so brave! ❤ you have confronted so many Human hurts that touch all of us.
I’m so happy you’re continuing to grow, accepting yourself, and just plain hangin in!
I had watched half of this, and came back. I don't know how long I have watched you, but its been many years. I have always thought you were perfection. I do makeup videos live on fb. I have anxiety, depression, negative self talk... and for a bit, i think i matched your tones, and delivery because it helped me steady my words. I never thought in a million years how alike we might be. Im so grateful for finishing up this video and hearing your full story. Im doing a lot of self help seeking as well. I'll be checking out your books. Thank you so much for all that you do, and sharing just how normal you truly are, along with your vulnerability ❤️
I started watching you during the pandemic when I wanted to do my own hair. You helped me so much! Thank you! So I just want to say, after watching this video, that I relate to you so much and feel a lot of the same things (wanted to be the perfect mom, love my alone time, reading, have had to learn to forgive others for not meeting my high standards that I set for myself!). Just want you to feel great about being who you are, because you’re perfect just as you are. We all are. It’s taken me 60 years to figure that out. 😉
Sylvia, I’m pretty sure you were the first TH-camr (as far as I knew) who actually taught us how to color and care for our own hair. I’ve been watching you since way back when, but only really when I wanted to know about something “hair”. I would binge watch from time to time and wondered what your life was like. I think most of us actually appreciate when you express more of who you are, as a mom and as a self aware seeker too. (I’m a manifesting generator and my son is a projector 😊). I think it’s actually ideal for you to express what you have on your mind as you’re sharing hair and makeup/style tips and let everyone who would demand that you only share a tiny portion of yourself (and only the part they want for free) fall away. That’s actually making your channel so much more real and engaging for the more authentic viewers who live multifaceted lives too and will find many more reasons to watch more of your content. 🎉
We are our own worst enemy. Keep working hard. You're successful and will continue to grow. 🙏
Love the content with your daughter and everyday life. I’ll be honest I don’t always get to the hair videos you post but the personal vlogs…. Always! My favorite.
Sylvia, thank you for sharing. Being vulnerable is hard especially in todays world. But, it's so important for our well being. It's definitely something I personally have struggled with and continue to struggle with. It's a journey. Imposter syndrome is also something that resonates with me, you are not alone. It's a huge commitment to work on ourselves and do the inner work and heal from all the childhood and societal conditioning as well as our own trauma, big or small. I've found some books along the way that have opened me up to see life from a different lens. Book 1: How to do the work, by Dr. Nicole LePera, Book 2: Forgiving what you can't forget, by Lysa Terkuerst. This next book is great for relationships, Book 3: Attached, by Amir Levine.
Wishing you all the best...hang in there. ❤
I watched this video 6 months after you put it out. In my opinion you are being too hard on yourself. I have watched hundreds of video on hair and you are by far the best I have seen. You explain things so a non stylist can still comprehend . You seem like a very smart , ambitious beautiful lady. I truly believe you can do anything you set out to do. There will always be haters and very jealous people. Continue being yourself never compromise. Best of luck to you I'll be watching and praying for you
Sylvia you are such an inspiration to me! I love your videos and how approachable and kind you are. Your way of opening up and delivering advice makes you feel like the friend we all need. 🩷
I've had anxiety and panic attacks my entire life started in school middle school escalated really bad at 16 and 17 moving into adult hood it got worse especially when I was driving at work I can totally relate I have not even been on TH-cam that much anymore I'm so glad that I clicked on your video I have been following you for years just happened to see this I'm so glad that I did You have so much to offer and I thank you for that and being so transparent with us I can say it does get better but with every panic attack I felt like I was on the brink of death I literally felt I was dying and then for someone to tell me well calm down was the worst because you can't- just said a prayer for you You are so beautiful and kind and amazing to watch I've always loved your videos This gives me hope for another day and for my life I'm grateful to have you special out for those of us that are silenced by this crippling disease- anxiety panic attacks-I absolutely can totally relate to everything you said and truly understand , God bless you 🙏💜 Your friend always Wendy
I like your business philosophy & I agree it works. I always stuck with your channel for hair & because you are so open and real. I love that! Please trust your instincts & don’t change! There are more stupid comments now everywhere, please ignore them as much as you can.
Thank you for sharing. We all need to hear this because most of us have gone thru or going thru this same experience, finding ourselves as we go through life changes. Again, thank you for being so open and honest💕
Don’t blame your self please I have been watching you for years you are a wonderful person and you are a child of God every one has ups and downs in there life up and down valleys you will get Thur miss it shall you pass you have a lot of followers your life is more important please Stay Strong All the Angels Have there arms around you and are protecting you and your daughter You Are Strong Luv Liz👱♀️🙏🏻🤴🏼😘🌟
It has been a pleasure watching you grow. I have been watching sporadically for at least 10 years. You have patiently helped me when I have not been able to afford the hair I want and I have learned alot. Believe it or not, last night I showed my husband a video I was watching. I've been out of work with health issue and I have long healthy hair and I'm thinking of a change that of course, I can't afford right now. Anyways, I showed him your video and told him how I appreciate the realistic and detailed the advice you give is. I appreciate how care you are with your words and advice. I can really tell how much teaching means to you as a hair stylist. Some of what you have saying about how anxiety manifests for you have been eye opening and so relatable. I'm sorry this has been stressful for you. I think I would have been shocked to see subscribers drop off! You definitely don't need my advice, but try to continue to do what you think is best, I think it will work out. You remain flawless in my eyes queen. Also, don't stop growing. Thank you for your free advice and education. Knowing how serious you do take your job only gives me more confidence to take your advice. ❤
This was SO relatable for me right now. It was so refreshing to hear this video. I needed this. Thank you for opening up. And I also have been learning about my human design over the last year! So interesting.
I have been subscribed to your channel for years and was looking for your videos on toners today . I found that I was unsubscribed, but I did not do that. I love watching your tutorials. God bless you and your family. Keep your head up. Things get better. You're great at what you do.
book recommendation: The Divinity Code to Understanding Your Dreams and Visions.
Forgiveness is absolutely life changing. It just means you have a deeper capacity to love people, even when they have hurt you. Once you make the connection that it isn’t about what it does for the other person but how transformative it is for you and your own growth, the possibilities are endless. ❤
You are so amazing, kind, clever and brave person. Your knowledge about the hair, your beautiful style and kindness has always insired me. I am an introvert and I know how hard is to go through the life without literally worrying abuot an everything and criticising yourself for whatever we find we think is wrong in us. You are my inspiration. Thank you for this video, as it opened my eyes and I know that I need to fight even harder if I really want to achieve what I want in my life xxx
Hello, I'm from Puerto Rico, I don't know how much I follow you but all my friends know you because I say I have a friend on TH-cam who teaches me everything and I send them screenshots of the videos with your techniques which I love. Thank you for sharing your feelings because I feel that You are part of my life so thank you for all your tricks and for your passion to share it with us.❤
Hi Sylvia. Please know that you are so real and truly amazing. I can relate in so many ways. I believe in strong routines. They help me so much. Always take time for yourself no matter what. Don't worry about acceptance from everyone else. You need to be happy first. Having anxiety myself, I understand your struggles. I also agree with Adam about labels. They do put you in a box and make you feel trapped and less than. Just believe in yourself. You are growing and that is good. You are beautiful in and out... I love your channel.