kevc21: that would be okay if women didn't mind sharing, but they demand for free for what men EARNED, as if she's never going to lose her looks; so you get a ten women demanding marriage with every one top man, giving him "free samples" until you have nine single mothers for every married one. Leaving the OTHER nine MEN to clean up the mess. JUST SAY NO!!!
The worst thing about dating a single mom for me was trying to be a dad to her kids and becoming very fond of them then when you break up you lose them and one day you're downtown and you bump into her and the kids and her new man who they now look at as their new father and you realize you never were their father, never will be and it was a mistake to try playing that role. Better to keep your distance.
Been there, done that! Even more stunning is the fact that the woman couldn't care less that not only have you been ripped from their lives, but they often have established a bond with you and they've been ripped from yours! Child's best interests are often LAST. If a divorced woman with children encourages a good relationship with the divorced father it is a good sign that she puts her kids' best interests first, even if she doesn't like their father.
@@NameCallingIsWeak Dude. You dodged a frikkin missile. Especially the fact that it's a girl. You could have been falsely accused of molestation and it could have been the kid's father that manipulated the little girl into falsely accusing you. A similar thing almost happened to me but in my situation the kid's father manipulated the kid to tell the mother that I'm intimidating. Fortunately the single mother I was dating was able to interogate her kid and she found out it was the father's idea and manipulation to set me up.
This is 100% true. I did everything for my step daughter, took her to soccer practice, swimming lessons, doctor appointments, cook for her, took her to the movies, horse back riding lessons, and everything was okay up until the girl turned 16. When she began going wild, there was no way she would listen to me and her mom didn't support me trying to set limits. For the past 5 years it's been hell. I'm telling you this by experience, never, ever marry a woman with someone else's kids.
Do you think that her mom not willing to set limits has to do with the daughter not being your biological child? And yea well, kids turn out to be monsters, when they become teenagers. But it also kinda sounds like the mom wants to give you all the hard decision making and being the no-fun parent, while she can be the cool mom to her daughter.
@@KO-im6sm I have heard many woman complaining in the media that there are almost no " good men " to marry anymore . I can see that would a challenge for them since men are starting to realize the game is fixed and are refusing to play.
How is this guy's golden anniversary? I'm not seeing a ring. Lots of blatherings and one sided wound licking and hating on someone taking the responsibility of their offspring...you usually don't see daddy when mommy's taking charge and taking responsibility for something daddy's clearly failed at. Only victim mindset I'm hearing is the whiney judgement bitch speak griping about someone not paying attention to him. Go ahead, boys. You're just going to try to one up what I said... predictable. Lol.
List of priorities: 1) Her 2) Her Kids (including activities) 3) Social life/social media 4) Pets 5) Shopping 6) Job 7) Trips/clubs/bars 8) Ex, keeping him happy and attached 9) Family 10) YOU. These are normal circumstances... throw in alcohol/drug abuse, personality disorders, feminist friends and or financial issues and you got a beauty 👌
As a former criminal defense attorney, let me tell you, dating a single mom with a daughter is asking to be accused of molestation or rape later on in life. You have been warned.
You drive to your office every day. You drive to the supermarket... You drive to go places here and there... As a Driver myself, I can tell you: you run the risk of getting into a car crash & dying or getting severly injured in car accident... You have been warned. Dude, everything has a Risk in Life. Nothing is 100% guarantee Safe or 100% free from problems. But that can't stop us from Living our Lives and marrying a woman who we LOVE with our hearts just because there is a 1% risk you might be accused of molestation or rape later on when daughter is older.
My step dad was a multiply decorated combat veteran of the airborne forces with over 18 years of service & I loved him with all my heart. He survived war but he couldn't survive his marriage, which eventually drove him to suicide. Never underestimate the psychopathic selfishness of a single mother.
Women are good at manipulation, before they did not vote, now they are the dominant voters. Politicians to get into power must target the largest demographic group which is women. Hence there are bias custody, support, employment and healthcare laws. Men need to dig graves as an insurance policy, because going through the bias divorce courts they will most likely lose.
@@olakthesignpost9175 Women are good at backstabbing while men are at war. Ancient rome collapsed because while the men were at war, being killed on the battlefield, the women would be demanding womens rights while they were away and got them. Happened also in WW1, women got more rights after the war, even though men were killed in the trenches.
I've been on dates where the woman on the first date immediately starts talking about her lousy ex, restraining orders, blah, blah, blah. The first date quickly becomes the last date as well.
wade rivers: and it's even WORSE if she claims he abused her and went to jail, playing the "damsel in distress" routine. Trust me, you ARE next. I almost was.
There's nothing new in what he's saying. A lot of men actually are aware of the dangers of dating single mothers but rarely adhere to the advice to stay away because of low self esteem issues.
i try my best to stick with what he says and i havent dated any single moms yet but man its hard to find something other than singlemoms after college years it seems like. i broke up with my gf the last year of college and its been 4 years since and i cant find anyone besides single mothers that are available, all the girls are pretty much in a relationship already. it gets lonely sometimes.
Here's my story. I was only hooking up with a single of 2 kids. She started doing everything right to win me over and get into a real relationship... as the relationship went further, i couldn't discipline the kids anymore. She didn't do all the nice things she did when we first met. We were getting into arguments. She started talking to another guy and all of a sudden left me for him. YOU ARE NOTHING TO HER! IF SHE LEFT THE FATHER OF HER KIDS, SHE CAN LEAVE YOU JUST AS EASY IF NOT EASIER!
Exactly 😂! Been there done it all! Now I’m 49 and glad I never wanted to get married! My only son is now 19. Ww3 around the corner and I’m going to die happy 😊
I am divorced and have three daughters. I find it amazing how many single moms- particularly the ones who have several children,will say they don’t like men who have children. Hypocrisy at its best. However, they’re certainly doing me a big favor by striking me from their list of datable men..
i agree but at after watching this video and my personal experience dsting a woman w kids is, i can honestly say I dont want a woman w kids, even though I have my own.
If men in a relationship with a single mom are reading this: Take a week off of your job and tell her you lost your job and that you can't afford your current lifestyle now. Then wait.
I've had male friends whose wives divorced them after they've lost their job, the weird thing is they get another job that pays just as well if not more a couple of months later and she still goes through with the divorce. Some of these guys weren't bad looking, at least an 8. How do women think that their sexual market value goes up with age? You ain't going to replace him sweetheart.
I'm a single mom (one kid) and I wasn't offended by this video. I've seen my single mom friends bring baggage to their relationships and wondered why the guy wouldn't commit. I have a good job, nice place and the father lives in a drivable different state. we get along as co-parents but people are terrified to date me. I am not interested in getting married since I'm an older mom and I have a comfortable life - very lucky and rare for my situation. I see why after watching how horrible single moms treat men. Wow. This put it in perspective and the only women that will be offended are the users.
This is embarrassing for you. This guy talks about single mothers all over his channel over and over even though he is a single father and all the same if not worse can be said about him not to mention him saying all this is insulting the mother of his children which says plenty about his character. Him and the “men” agreeing with him in this comment section are disgusting and sick have you read these comments???
@@Cookiebunnysweetumserr the comments seem mostly respectful. For the most part its stories about peoples experiences and non of them are hateful, if anything they seem to be regretful.
I married a woman with a kid when I was young years ago. Her priorities were her self, her kid, her family, everything. I was not even considered. I was young and dumb.
Why did you marry her if you were not a priority? In theory, the kids are as important as the partner. Each play a totally different role in our life. Guys, look for mentally healthy people!! Those that have gone to therapy. I have seen dads just like that, that have no idea about how to establish limits to be a dad and ALSO equaly a partner, and ihave immediately ran away!!!
Just broke up with a single mom last night...I broke all my rules and found out she wanted to make things work out with her baby daddy while we were together....shit killed me inside but made me stronger...thanks for the vids man...keep up the good work
@@wgp8ntballer happy for you man! I've been there also, 1yr relationship with a single mom, drama everywhere, etc. In retrospective I am super glad she ended it,she saved me from a life of misery! 😄
Married a woman with 1 child. I told her something about her kid. She told me not to tell her what to do with her child.....that was the beginning of the end.
Yep, thats why i dont date single moms bc its not YOUR kid if im still providing for it and taking care of it. Its OUR kid now and you WILL let me perform my fatherly role including disciplianrian or you will take YOUR kid and leave
49 and no children. I have found that men don't want to marry they just want to have a good time. With the way that some married men talk about their wives behind their backs and what they do it makes me glad that I didn't get married. That's not to say that I am not open to marriage but he really has to be the right one.
I love the part where he explains, decent looking women arent rare. Succesful well put together men are rare. They are the prize, women want them, and men want to be them. Feeling great after this enlightening talk, high fives all around yah!
1954 was a good year. Same vintage here and I agree with what he says. Too many anecdotes to relate but the bottom line is that such a relationship can open up dynamics you can't hope to anticipate. And you are absolutely not in control, even if you are an alpha.
1. She's a single mum 2. The kids not yours 3. She's a single mum 4. The kids not yours 5. Their not yours responsibility to look after and provide for them 👍
No exceptions. I got talked out of my reluctance to date single mothers or women with tattoos by a female family member about a year and a half ago. I dated a woman who had both. Bad move. What I've noticed is that when things blow up in your face, the woman who gave you the bad advice will be nowhere to be found. It's almost as if they work together to put you in a bad situation even if they don't know each other and the guy is family.
I wish the men in my life (family, and business partners) would take this advice seriously, the amount of money and time they spend to try to please the kids of the moms they date is beyond astronomical. I am a single childless business owner, but also no single dads need apply. I chose no children for a reason, I’m certainly not raising or helping to support someone else’s children and deal with their ex drama.
Your post is extremely spot on. You're absolutely right about not dating single dads. I tell my buddies who don't have children themselves that they have no business dating single moms!
5 years thousands of dollars. Photograph lessons, ski trips, trips to visit family, events, restaurants and school supplies..... I lost my job and said I'm having a hard time. Never asked her for any help just told her things were getting hard and I feel really stressed. She tells me our relationship is over and never contacts me again. What the hell was I thinking?
@Dr.'sorders yeah I know. Like it's the manly thing to doto take care of another man's offspring. And you're not a man if you don't do it. I refuse to follow that logic.
Society not only glorifies single mothers but they shame men for not wanting to date or marry them. It's the mans fault for not wanting to raise another mans kid. How about placing blame on the woman or the father?
@Endless Nameless There are a lot of women with a kid(s) overseas who try to find an American/European husband to take care of them. But thinking about the last two seasons, there really haven't been that many. In the current one the only one is the Filipina Rose who rejected Ed. Varya-no kids. Lana-no kids (definitely a gold digger). Annie from the Dominican Republic-no kids. The model from Brasil who married the rich guy- no kids. But no doubt, just like here, most of them are looking for the ATM.
I'm guilty of this. When I was in my 20s, married a single mom. Almost immediately she got pregnant. Then after that child was born, she became hard to live with. The sex was bad (no more BJs) and she was trying to control all the money. Don't do it, guys!
Next time I date, she will either be blind or have a head injury. A eunuch is a great investment to have too. Some women voluntary blind themselves, and some boys voluntary castrate themselves. A blind women can not steal your kids, steal your money, steal your house, steal your job.
Excuse me, Jax. What you say about those women, and calling them a "Hoe" is wrong. Calling them a whatever is disparaging, and clearly offensive. If you cannot get along then don't have such a relationship with a woman, who has kids. But it is good that I am forewarned about such a woman. For me it is about Miss Right.
Remember when you date or marry a single mom, you're just settling for someone else's leftovers, and the cherry on top is you'll NEVER be a priority... Stop settling! As always, great content, Rich.
oh, come on. We all know that single moms IN THE BEGINNING of a relationship will give you the best sex possible. The legend about MILFs is truth... at lest for a short period of time :) This is why men continue to date single moms.
I am in my late 30’s with no children and this video is exactly why! There are several single mothers that I know who fit this to an absolute tea! The victim role, looking for money, custody battles, etc. Its really sad. That is not a life that I want.
I had a step mother and she was vile to me. But I know people with big hearts who are good step parents, and people who adopt children. There's still good stories out there. I know the childless say stupid things all the time. An these self centered men are just as shallow as the women they complain about
@@nervamerc Amen to that. Sorry you had a bad experience with your step mom, she sounds horrible. My husband's step grandpa married a single mom (his grandma) and became one of the greatest role models in his life. He treated him like his own flesh and blood and left an incredibly positive impression in the life of a child. Step parents, grandparents can be great influences on kids and be loved equally back, I guess it just takes a special person to do that, and tbh most people really arent that special as seen in most of the comments on this thread.
@@JahannamHellfire I know a woman who dated an evil guy for five years. Her children had to be dragged through that. The daughter attempted to run away from home twice when she was ten or eleven. The woman chose the boyfriend over the children. She eventually left him and she had to move to another part of the country to do it. I know that she feels bad about it but it would have been nice to at least give her children a genuine apology for it.
You are 100% correct. On all accounts. I just ended a 11 year marriage to a single mom and everything you mentioned is exactly what happened. Wish I saw this 13 years ago
Been there, done that. Her son seemed to constantly, married and in his thirties, want to push in and want attention. Then he had kids. What a wedge. Now with grandkids I was totally on the outs. What the son wanted was be constantly involved. Didn't like us away more than three weeks. I ended it at great expense!
I dated and married a single mom whose husband had died suddenly. That was a nightmare. Imagine being compared to a perfect dead man all the time plus all the things this guy talked about 😐
I've dated single moms; 2, 3 dates TOPS. When it comes time to meet the "kids", I'm out! I've never let it last more than a few dates (for fun). I don't care about your kids, not interested in paying for their dinners & vacations or dealing with the drama. Great video. 100% FACTS!
I say find another playground. There are many attractive, single women without children who are not looking to get into or rush serious relationship. No need to scrape the bottom of the borrow.
Biggest thing to me is that someone had a kid with her.....and still didnt think she was worth having around. If even having a kid couldnt force the last guy to stick around then that's a big red flag. He'd rather pay child support than be with her
you will find as said below that the women make that choice( and in turn remove the children from their fathers lives with the support of the family courts). Tell me how many you know would walk away from their kids knowing that its likely they will never see them again?even men who are abused put up with it for fear of losing their kids... the big red flag is what the prospective single mother you want to date did to the father of her child( because she will do it to you)
To me it shows a few possibilities. 1)She's not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship 2)If it's the guy's fault it means she has terrible judgment in men or deep down she's really only attracted to guys who are a mess and women always cheat when they're not with the type who they're truly attracted to 3)She got knocked up because she was sleeping around The "it just didn't work out" explanation is ALWAYS bullshit.
I got entwined with a single mom of three kids about a year after my last kid left the house (I had full custody). She was beautiful , loved me like crazy, etc, etc. Long story short: she moved out of her cramped tiny apartment and into my large home and I ended up paying about 50% of her and her kid’s living expenses. I had no authority while she doted on her two girls while being overly harsh on her son. About a year later I tried to talk to her about how I thought she was being unfair to her son while refusing to hold her girl’s accountable for their behavior. She basically told me I had no say in the matter. Soo, I said okay you’re out! She moved out a few weeks later and I’ve never looked back nor entertained the idea of dating anyone with kids...other than the occasional hookup.
You dodged a bullet. Your lucky she didn’t accuse you of molesting them. I know that sounds harsh, but lots of women will do that. They make you look bad, than take you to court and since it’s women first whatever they say is believed and whatever you say.” regardless of the facts “ is thrown out the door. You got off easy, count your blessings everyday!
If you're a guy that just started dating a single mom please learn from this video and learn from the comments below. Your new girl is NOT the exception, You will NEVER have your own family with a single mom. You are going to be living in a world of constant disrespect before you know it. Get the hell out of there, I'm telling you from experience. 10 years of giving the mom and her kids everything they dreamed of only to have them turn into enemies without any appreciation after our divorce. Don't raise another man's kids, start your own family.
Married twice. First time, wife was upset one day when I was not at home when she thought I should be with her. She packed my belongings and placed them outside. She later apologized and we reconciled with one strong condition. If her answer to a disagreement was to put my belongings outside, it would be the last time. Four yours later, she broke my trust. When she decided that instead of apologizing, she would pack my things up and put them in the living room, that was good enough for me. She eventually apologized, but I told her to chalk it up for her next relationship. Second marriage, my wife of 7 years thought the grass was greener on the other side. When she realized it was only artificial turf, I was already gone. I loved both with only 3 rules. 1. Know who you are, 2 Don't sabotage our marriage, 3 Don't mistake my cherishing you as my wife as something some one else can do for you. When you are a man, expect to be with a woman. If you choose to be with a girl, expect her to act accordingly.
Seeing as you are a marriage veteran,can I get your advice on my current position? My former fiancee did that to me too. The final dtraw was when she dropped my stuff off at my job. That embarrassment of my boss coming to me and telling me to put my stuff in my car killed me. I didn't care that the invitations were already mailed out, my family hated her anyways, and instead of celebrating our marriage on our wedding day, my family, friends and I celebrated my breakup. Now I've been married for 8 years to a champ. She likes to cook and clean, she's a kindergarten teacher who loves kids, and she keeps me in check, by which I mean she reminds me at times why I'm the man she married just incase I ever forget my purpose in life. Sadly though, we don't have kids yet because she has a condition that's preventing her from getting pregnant. Although the good news is she's slowly getting better. What made me trust her the most was when we had that discussion of possibly not having kids, she responded that as long as she had me, she didn't care, even if we did In Vitro Fertilization with another woman's eggs, because she "would only see me in them". Sadly however, because of my last relationship, I can't tell if she has some ulterior motives or I should just enjoy the ride with her? I'm choosing the latter right now and I'm at a point where I'm thinking it's safe to assume that she's genuine and I can put my guard down around her more and let her get that much closer to me. What do you think?
@@burmiester1 Yeah that's probably going to be the plan for at least the foreseeable future. Sometimes shd just seems to be too good to be true. Now she does have her flaws and somewhat of a troubled childhood (Mom abandoned her, leaving her with her dad, 2 little sisters andbaby brother), although she doesn't see it that way because it brought her and her siblings closer together. Also, we are exact opposites of each other, but we have the same ideals. She can get on my nerves a lot, but I blame that on her parents, because her dad's no prize either; choosing his new wife and her daughter over them. This messed up her siblings, but not her. It was like subconsciously that she understood the nature of humans at a young age. Either way, thanks for the input. I honestly like getting outside advice incase I ever put on rose colored glasses without knowing it. I made that mistake before and it felt like I wasted 6 years of my life.
I went on a date with a single Mum. She invited me back to her house. Her 12 year old son came in to the kitchen while she was making coffee, pointed to me and said 'What the fuck is He doing here!' I left 3 minutes later. Done.
Dated two. One was nuts, one was nice. Done with that now. Points #1, #3 and #4 I did not experience but point #2 is soooo true. Responsibility without authority is absolutely correct. Very well said. You get to a point where you naturally want to start bringing the authority you have in the relationship to the children but have to pull back because they are somebody else's kids. It becomes awkward because by having that natural fatherly role diminished ,it starts to erode you as a man in her eyes as you do not assert your male authority. I'd add a point number 6 too. If you're a decent guy you will begin to bond with the children. If things go south in the relationship you will not only lose your gf but also a proto-family. Bad for you, bad for the kids.
It's true. My cousin's dead beat Dad left them and my Aunt for a younger model who left her husband while he was in a hospital bed after having a stroke. Classy lady. And now my cousin's dead beat Dad is raising that guy's two sons, whilst turning his back on his own sons. WTF? LOL What a loser.
True. I have experienced this recently. A 30 yo hot mom was sending positive feedbacks..but now I know better. When it is too tempting, rewatch Rich Cooper vids ;)
Stay strong, brother. I had one next door some years ago, tried to use me to get pregnant. I despised the girl, so despite spotting the trap, I hate fucked her several times, blowing my load all over her cute arse in the shower before she realised I wasn't the mug she thought I was and got knocked up by someone less disciplined.
I stayed with my ex wife for 14 years. Helped raise her daughter from 4-18. She’s now 21 and we had a coffee together to catch up. My ex has remarried and this little girl who I raised(dad was in jail) said she had 3 fathers. I was dumbfounded. I loved her like my own and I was “just another of the 3” after I put 14 years of PTA meetings, driving her to school, teaching her how to fight, teaching her about boys... and I’m just a number. It didn’t hit me so hard until right now.
You did the right thing but this is why people shouldn't be so concerned about being labeled a jerk you are only a jerk to people who aren't allowed to exploit you. This sounds really difficult hope you bounce back.
The worst thing is, I knew all this stuff, but when my first ever girlfriend confessed to loving me, I didn't care about her two kids. Everything this man said came true, especially being lower on the list of priorities than the spare tire's air pressure. That lasted about 5 months and cost me a lot of stress, but at least now I know what I don't want.
@@kshuf8426 all he says is basic knowledge. Now ask yourself why this message is deemed "provocative" or "savage", when 60 years ago it was normality ?
@@mrhernandez8256 ALL kids are planned, albeit subconsciously. That's why you never tell women you're snipped. Why dodge a bullet when you can shoot blanks?
Also worth noting: As you work towards your goals and become the best version of yourself, the dating pool will get smaller and smaller, and you will attract more low quality women. DO NOT settle. At all. Stay single for as long as possible, if not forever. The amount of pain and regret you will feel for "settling" for trash will undoubtedly leave you in worse shape than before. Inner peace is everything. In today's day and age, it's nearly impossible to get peace with or out of another person.
I work a full time job after retiring from the Navy after 24 years. I never tell a single mom. Because it is Ka Ching! I raised my children and not going to raise someone else's children. Some guys get involved with single moms because they are so scared of "being alone."
I think for most its low self-esteem issues, and going for the easy catch or like someone else said getting a better looking chick than they'd normally get but heck it's definitely not worth it. The gym always helps though
Good point. I wish more men understood that it’s not bad to be alone. It’s more peaceful and costs a lot less money. I was married for 11 years. 3 kids. All the red pill things happened. Never again.
They used to call them "broken homes" - you don't hear that much anymore but it's for a good reason. Kids can develop mental problems or get a wild streak when things go bad. It happens all the time but taking a biological parent out of the house is usually a recipe for disaster.
This is very much true. The myth is that once her kids are grown that she will have tons of free time to “finally have a life of her own” but the reality is it never stops being about “her” family.
@@snigie1 Nice but jesus I Couldnt stand listening to them! Quoth Two And A Half Men Judith(upon seeing Alan-Jon Cryer-'s hot piece of ass 20something squeeze): "What do you talk about?" Alan: "We don't really talk..."
I was dating a women with kids recently, 2 to be exact. She was such an amazing women but i couldn't get over the kids aspect because i wasnt in the position to really be an effective boyfriend and by proxy a step father. I know logically the best decision was to leave her so she could find a man ready now to handle her situation.
a neighbor of mine said the same thing. then he got cancer in his 40s. in one year, he went from being a biker and hiker and loving life, to not even able to walk to the bathroom. he sat for weeks in his own piss and shit. nobody came to help. he didnt even have the energy to push his own wheelchair. he eventually died a painful death since he couldnt make it to the chemotherapy appointments. the last thing he said was that he wished he had someone, anyone, to give him hope of a fighting chance. or a revolver, lol. most people get a brutal cancer, but later in life, and they usually have a spouse or kids to help. just sayin.
@@BobRooney290 I'll probably die of massive heart attack in my 90s like my grandfather if I get cancer I'll deal with it. I had a friend who had cancer for 18 years and she did it on her own. I would go shopping for her and take her to appointments. And also checked on her everyday. Sounds like your neighbor didnt need a wife or kid to take care of him sounds like he just needed a couple real good friends to help out. Too bad he didn't have any good friends. He probably would still be alive today. I'm lucky I got three brothers that got my back and all are younger. Those are the best friends a man can get. I got their back always and they got mine.
This happened to me from my X 8 yrs younger than me. Everything was fine until I started saying no. She really didn’t like that at all. I told her I’m last in her list. Kids first then the dogs even out bird first. I was a distant 7th Best thing ever happened is when she kicked me to the curb. MY LIFE NOW IS AMAZING
I've been a step-father and in several relationships with single moms (yeah, I know). 100% spot on, especially the part about responsibility without authority. Every one of the women expected all the support of their kids, but when they trashed my place or were disrespectful, it was always, "No, these are my kids." No way in HELL will I ever even date a woman with kids, much less marry one. I don't care how good her kids are or how good a head she has on her shoulders. It never turns out well. I prefer being alone to being a step-parent again.
Sir, I'd like your opinion: I don't see nothing wrong with dating a single mom on a non exclusive fashion. I mean, I don't want to get involved with her children, her life, etc.., I just find her kind of hot and an interesting person to spend some dates, and already asked her not to build expectations towards me. No serious relationship or any of that business. I don't see any big risks; but, am I wrong?
That's what im doing. The woman im talking to has a heart of gold and is doing well financially. Only problem is that she's 4.5 years older :/ I want to have kids and if I were to marry her/get serious, we'd have to move fast. I'm still working on my career/am not sure where in the US I want to settle down. Stuff gets complicated once you move past lust
Wish this chick was at least my age. Then I'd at least take the idea seriously. But the age difference makes it impossible for me to commit beyond friendship
@@ronimatos90 I cannot speak for you. While I wouldn't recommend it, everyone has to do or try what they feel like doing. It's how you gain experience. Just beware of the pitfalls and watch for the signs. You might find a rare unicorn. Personally, I think those chances are very slim, but you are the guy on the ground so you have to make the call. Good luck.
That's good advice but sadly my own sister became a single mother who is now dating a younger man whos family are spoiling her and her children so much, they are even paying for her and her boyfriend to get a deposit on a house for a mortgage.
Nailed it. Single mom's have their place and uses. They can be fun when they get a break from the kids, but keep it in perspective. I avoid any long term involvement. No commitments, no co-habitation, no marriage. I made the mistake of getting involved with one some years ago. Richard is spot on with all 5 points. Learned my lesson. Never again.
I dated a single mother for about a year, and she was certainly wonderful and very beautiful, but the fact that she had children with another man made me not emotionally attracted to her, so I ended the relationship and found another girl without children, and now we have completed 3 years of dating and we are ready for marriage.
You have a positive, strong likelihood of marital success! Key being;; you are exercising friendship first and establishing a deep relationship. God bless you young fellow...and I wish you and your lucky bride happiness and success in all life's endeavors.
I don't believe in marriage in those days , it's rigged for men. There are few exceptions but getting married is like playing russian roulette with 5 loaded chambers. I try to not push my opinions on others though and I respect everyone'se choice and opinion. If you want to get married , okay. Just be prepared and know what is ahead if you want to take that road.@@XVNRX
In my situation, he is 100% expressing the facts! I married a women with 2 kids, 3 and 8 at the time. The 8 year old became a problem and the 3 year old became a part of me because he only knew me. They became her kids in certain situations. Sixteen years later, we are getting a divorce because my help is no longer needed! The youngest, we have a wonderful relationship and she is trying to turn him against me but he knows the truth. I hate to say this but I would not do it again! I will never get involved with a woman with small children again. Her children would have to be gone and out of the house and doing something with their lives. As a younger man, I never got involved with women with kids. That's where I messed up. You roll the dice when you insert yourself in an already made family. My youngest is the only bright light of this horrible marriage! Yes, Happy Valentine's Day to my dam self I just dropped the MIC!
Study in england years ago 20% or so read study? that the women did not marry the father of the child..They went for the best job monies to raise kid.. It was a fantastic read.. Why lawyers test offspring for dna to see if you can avoid child support...Thats a must.. women go for the monies..
I'm almost, 37, single, never married, no kids...getting out of debt...and finding ways to make more money as well as learning new skills. I appreciate all this information.
I’m a female and I will tell u never to date someone with kids no matter how much u think u can do it . No real woman with kids should be dating men anyways ..it’s a sacrifice a mother makes. If they date they want more than just companionship and it isn’t just about love it’s all about the child and responsibilities that u really don’t need to get involved in . Stay single til u are in your forties and find someone in their forty’s that’s a good age for women a lot calmer and wiser and know what they want
@@harmonymomentofbeing5753 we real women with kids are doing just that. we are not dating men. So, why does the issue become that we are "Single moms" instead of just calling the single moms that play games a liar ? There is a big difference between being a single mom and being a liar and a user and someone who plays games. But, somehow if you have kids and are single, you get lumped into the same category with the rest of them and the worse of them. What for?
@@turdferguson5847 so being single with kids automatically means we want a man to use or to fix our life and then we cry victim? It doesn't work that way. in every situation, not to say it doesnt happen at all. Having kids and being single doesnt mean you have no character. This guy is talking like he has every single mother on the planet sized up.
Years ago, my brother listened to men like this and I blew their messages off. Yet, after listening to this man, he basically summarized my relationship with my soon-to-be ex-wife in about 15 minutes. I can't dispute anything he said. I only wish I would have listened.
When my brother was 23 he married a single mother of one little girl. He did not have a college degree, neither did she. They were both on a low income. To make a long story short, he got married on a Saturday, the following Monday he had a family to raise. Over the years his health deteriorated, he didn’t have any time for himself, didn’t play sports, and eventually he had his own daughter. He’s never fulfilled his dream of traveling the world. After he got divorced he had to pay child support for the two kids, his own the the other guy’s as well.
I was engaged to a single mom. She had a little boy. He used to get away with acting like a baby or playing the I'm not going to listen to you to see how far I can push it game. 5 - 6yrs old. Just moving into my place after he only knew living with grandma & mommy at grandma's house we were watching a nature show about lion's at my place. African king of the jungle lion's. The boy said he wished he was a lion & I replied quickly telling him how lucky he was that he wasn't. He asked me why & I said because you wouldn't be here. If we were lion's & I wanted to be with your mommy you'd be dead. He looked at me so confused so I told him to go ask his mother & have her explain it to you. Ha ha ha She did & I swear to you when he figured it out the look on his face was priceless 😂
That‘s a little fucked up, though man. He is just a kid, how is he supposed to understand this. Anyway, I don‘t know shit about raising kids and best believe I don‘t want to raise another man‘s kids.
@@ThaMobstarr hmmm yes and no. I mean it might seem a little fucked up and maybe it wasn’t the best thing to tell a child but young boys will soon be young men and they need to know what will be expected of them and they need to understand the world. The world is harsh and people need to toughen the fuck up.
@@ThaMobstarr He told the fucking truth. That's what young boys are missing these days. Lies lies and more lies. At least someone dropped a tiny little red pill that may end up helping the kid out.
@@MrSchwifty7 Its brutal and probably a bit too early to drop that redpill on the child but I agree. I get wanting to shelter and protect children so they have a "good" childhood, but if we hide these harsh realities for their entire existence, then they will get slapped very hard by reality when adult life for men turns out much different than their childhood. Or even worse, they become delusional and get an abusive wife who runs everything and they stay a beta for their entire life.
@Anal Sex Stinks Just because you don't see a problem, it doesn't mean it's not there. If her kid is over 16 she's probably over 40 or even 50. That's a problem, even if you don't see it as a problem. And the kid is still his first priority, even if the kid is over 30, not over 16.
@Anal Sex Stinks It doesn't matter if I want kids or not, the idea was that any single mom is *not* ok to marry. Let's say I want kids, then for sure I don't want other kids from previous relations/marriages. But it doesn't matter too much, in the end there's a lot of stupid men out there, ready to do anything just to have a woman. That includes ruining their entire life.
Every guy should date or "hang around" with single moms for 2-3 months just to give them life lessons. Single moms are just headaches. Even being a friend with one. For me, it's all recurring phone calls of needing help.
Single mothers see themselves as martyrs because feminism has taught them that their bad choices makes them strong women. She will never give you the energy that the father of her children got. And she'll punish you for whatever wrong she believes in her mind that he did to her. Your love will be returned with lack of effort. She already has the children she wanted so you'll be there for entertainment purposes and usable resources only. No exceptions.
Nope...feminism has no place in this idiot assumption..its MEN that make mothers feel like a prize and nag childfree women about it..you can't play that switcheroo...and its always men harassing childfree women to have children whether she's in a relationship with them or not... you all the ones that created a stupid precedent that 'normal' women experience motherhood and dont' have abortions..it biting you in the ass...feminism tells women its ok to not have children and have abortions too...stop blaming feminism for the bullshit of misogyny
@@TheQueenIsWithin amen....these comments and this overall attitude is pretty shocking and gross to me. I mean, where do they think these single women's kids come from? Asshole men who didn't want to be careful or stick around and who have really shitty misogynistic attitudes about women and what they should be able to do with them. Not in all cases but arguably in the vast majority. And hey, maybe, just maybe it's true that not all single mothers are like this!
Dating a single mother is like picking up someone else's half-finished beer in a bar then drinking it only to find out the beer was off anyway. As for marriage, there's only a few reasons any man does this today: lack of ambition and/or the erroneous belief such a commitment is a two way street, frequently coupled with a scarcity mindset (i.e. she'll marry another poor schmuck if I don't step up).
I've been in a relationship with single mom for 3 years. It cost me a depression and I had a really shitty self esteem. It's a matter of choice - I've learned my lesson, you always can do better and have many options. It's up to you. Great video - you absolutely right, it's a shame that I didn't knew this 3 years ago. Regards from Poland!
Let me just add my experience to validate more what he’s saying. You truly do not matter to single moms. And the women wait at the finish line couldn’t be further from the truth. I was in an off an on relationship with a single mom for 5 years. Talk about dignity. When marriage was proposed it was always a point of contention. Loved her daughter as my own, took care of them sacrificed for them. Yet after all this time the mom wanted the child’s dad to be more of a “dad” to her daughter. Even though I was the one spending time the most time with her. Taking them on trips building memories and being their. You are not a priority, you’re an accessory. Remember that.This guy’s boundaries are a huge tip. Take his advice. You aren’t going to loose. Build yourself know your worth always remember you are the prize. Great video subscribed!
What he said about the victim mind set is spot on. I dated a girl whose mom was a single mom, I later found out she goes hardcore on social injustice stuff and have weekly discussion with her mom, it’s almost like a cult, they always blame some kind of an oppressor for everything. And guess what, she eventually deemed me as the villain in her life and saw me as the source of her unhappiness. But the reality is, she was never happy by herself in the first place. Don’t ever get involved with people with this victim mind set, they will blame everything ok you
Had a single mom of three kids reach out and want to date. I asked if she had kids and she said yes. I then said politely I would not be a good candidate. She said she liked single guys with no kids. I told her I understand that and I feel the same way. Talk about quiet, chirp chirp.
100% true. I was married to a single mother. She would fantasize about eventually changing their last name to my name, loved when I got them things, etc etc. But when it came to real issues and discipline, I was a "bad father". Her words. She ended up having an affair and left. Tried to weaponize her thousands in divorce trial fees from her ex against me, the whole nine yards.
Damn bro.. my ex single mother of recent ended shit bc she wants to be alone. Shes goin thru a divorce with a shitbag and she lives with his parents bc she has no family here in the US. Shes from peru. 10 yr old son who i was always good to and got along well with. Eventually she said i was “too much” bc i actually cared. My problem is i got attached to her and idk how to let it go man. I need some suggestions or something i keep trying to make it work or at least be friends idk why
I'm just discovering this channel. I love the content. You're bald, fit, and my age. If I had a brother he might be like you. I dated a single mom. I had a child with her and I married her. I work and she takes care of the kids. We both parent but she puts in more work. We have our disagreements everyday but we work on our relationship. I'm 48 she's 34. I feel at these ages we have more maturity than if I was in my 20s or 30s. I recognize and can relate to much of what you said. I'm glad I did not see your videos when I began dating my wife. Those times were drama filled and your videos might biased me. Your points are valid and there are exceptions. Because like all relationships, whether single mom or not, it requires maturity, time, and effort. I'm a subscriber. Keep up the great work.
Nonetheless, exceptions validate the general rule. I am really happy that it worked out for you, but there are a lot of young men like me around that would probably get trapped by single-mothers. The advice in this video is something every man should follow, if he doesn‘t want to be used.
@@Josh-rn1em your relationships will be better with single moms or any women in general if you look at the person as what it is, not as "a single mom". A single mom is a person too and she has feelings too. If you can't see that a person, single mom or not - is using you for money, then you don't know how to pick people.
As a dude raised mainly by a single mother, I realized very early on that I could never date a single mom for exactly all these reasons. Bravo my dude.
If wanted to improve society significantly in less than a couple of months get feminism out of family court. Give dads custody. Problem is women crazy karens and would be huge problems for society (more reason they shouldn't keep the kids). Also if know they arent getting the kids they wouldn't be such turd wives cause know they get everything if he doesn't put up with all her crap. Also I hate seeing teen sons with mothers at the mall on a Saturday morning. Kid should be on a sports feild somewhere doing battle.also if si gle mother Karen raised as a teen boy, fill week nights and weekends with partime work till have enough to move out. If have a nephew in this situation get him a forklift ticket course or something (phlebotomy course?) for his birthday so doesn't have to rely on minimum wage. Get a trade apprenticeship asap, fk woke high school. Go to night school while do it. If start apprenticeship at 15 ur full qualified by 19 and on $100k if pick the right trade. Pay off a house by 25. Don't tell the women or get loved bombed and the house is hers thanks to stabbing condoms and the cycle continues. At least u have a trade at that point. I did engineering briefly at university and there was a few electricians, welders amd mechanics in my course.
Before I was RED PILLED, I married a single Mom who lost custody of her kids! It's a long story. I did not realize what a lucky break that was! They would come and visit, 3 of them, and my pantry was EMPTIED that day! lol This was a subconscious preview and I never got caught in a bad situation dating. Now that I am 57 I have dispensed with dating.... need to focus on retirement options and pursuing personal passions. When the need become massive, I find a gorgeous rental, well worth the time and money.
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LOL, first time hearing: "Women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and pick the winners." So true.
1000000% correct
kevc21 great line!
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kevc21: that would be okay if women didn't mind sharing, but they demand for free for what men EARNED, as if she's never going to lose her looks; so you get a ten women demanding marriage with every one top man, giving him "free samples" until you have nine single mothers for every married one. Leaving the OTHER nine MEN to clean up the mess. JUST SAY NO!!!
Absolute truth.
You will never be more important than her worst child.
Good one
Yes nice one 😈
She won't even recognize or care about how the child is treating other people badly. Which is sad... mostly for the child.
Pure wisdom, my brother. You are so right. That worst child might be of legal age but it still won’t matter.
@Greg Pettis True. Sadly Single moms are teaching these daughters how to use and disrespect men.
The problem with single moms is that they find a “ nice guy “ and try to make him clean up after the bad guy who had all the fun. Enough said.
💯💯💯💯💯 yelled at me for telling her how I feel but let her ex who got her pregnant drive her car and break it
TRUTH!!!!
FUCK THAT IS TRUE!!!!!!!!!!💯💯💯💯💯
Them bad ass kids I cant do it
Even worse, they never actually leave the bad boys alone when "dealing" with the nice guy.
The worst thing about dating a single mom for me was trying to be a dad to her kids and becoming very fond of them then when you break up you lose them and one day you're downtown and you bump into her and the kids and her new man who they now look at as their new father and you realize you never were their father, never will be and it was a mistake to try playing that role. Better to keep your distance.
Been there, done that! Even more stunning is the fact that the woman couldn't care less that not only have you been ripped from their lives, but they often have established a bond with you and they've been ripped from yours! Child's best interests are often LAST. If a divorced woman with children encourages a good relationship with the divorced father it is a good sign that she puts her kids' best interests first, even if she doesn't like their father.
Ouch! Yeah, I def wouldn't give it a try. That shit sucks 💀
*Dating a single mother is the equivalent of voluntarily serving a sentence for a crime you didn't commit.*
On point
Preach
You have a philosopher's soul.
A beautiful single mom wanted me. Praise the Lord, I didn't sell myself out to raising another man's daughter.
@@NameCallingIsWeak Dude. You dodged a frikkin missile. Especially the fact that it's a girl. You could have been falsely accused of molestation and it could have been the kid's father that manipulated the little girl into falsely accusing you. A similar thing almost happened to me but in my situation the kid's father manipulated the kid to tell the mother that I'm intimidating. Fortunately the single mother I was dating was able to interogate her kid and she found out it was the father's idea and manipulation to set me up.
This is 100% true. I did everything for my step daughter, took her to soccer practice, swimming lessons, doctor appointments, cook for her, took her to the movies, horse back riding lessons, and everything was okay up until the girl turned 16. When she began going wild, there was no way she would listen to me and her mom didn't support me trying to set limits. For the past 5 years it's been hell. I'm telling you this by experience, never, ever marry a woman with someone else's kids.
Bruh. 16 plus 5 = 21. Which is more than 18. Kick her out of the house, and then she can go maximalist wild all on her own.
@@robharris4646 shit his wife won't let him, only way out of that is divorce
Do you think that her mom not willing to set limits has to do with the daughter not being your biological child? And yea well, kids turn out to be monsters, when they become teenagers. But it also kinda sounds like the mom wants to give you all the hard decision making and being the no-fun parent, while she can be the cool mom to her daughter.
Been there three times!!!!! No more for me!!!!!
Coffee and a donut, maybe. But that’s it. Kindly say “goodbye and have a nice day!”
"Women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and pick the winners." - Damn , that is absolutely true - subscribed !
I know that, so at the finish line just say to them "fuck off" I don't need your useless fake shrugs!!
Omg what about a womans struggle? Get out of your own head. Me me me!!
@@KO-im6sm I have heard many woman complaining in the media that there are almost no " good men " to marry anymore . I can see that would a challenge for them since men are starting to realize the game is fixed and are refusing to play.
And vise versa.
How is this guy's golden anniversary? I'm not seeing a ring. Lots of blatherings and one sided wound licking and hating on someone taking the responsibility of their offspring...you usually don't see daddy when mommy's taking charge and taking responsibility for something daddy's clearly failed at. Only victim mindset I'm hearing is the whiney judgement bitch speak griping about someone not paying attention to him.
Go ahead, boys. You're just going to try to one up what I said... predictable. Lol.
“Don’t let someone else make their problems YOUR problems.”
Solid advice and sums up the whole presentation, and it is spot on.
List of priorities: 1) Her 2) Her Kids (including activities) 3) Social life/social media 4) Pets 5) Shopping 6) Job 7) Trips/clubs/bars 8) Ex, keeping him happy and attached 9) Family 10) YOU. These are normal circumstances... throw in alcohol/drug abuse, personality disorders, feminist friends and or financial issues and you got a beauty 👌
Tzar size truth bomb!
She's a multicorn.
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WHich kind of loser woman do you hang around, lol
You hit the nail on the head my friend !!!
As a former criminal defense attorney, let me tell you, dating a single mom with a daughter is asking to be accused of molestation or rape later on in life. You have been warned.
Sometimes the mothers are dirty gross also
I'm looking to be lawyer .. any tips ? Family law . I already have a bachelor.
@@mrhernandez8256 what is the paper for when all you have to do is use your mind and gut?
You drive to your office every day. You drive to the supermarket... You drive to go places here and there... As a Driver myself, I can tell you: you run the risk of getting into a car crash & dying or getting severly injured in car accident... You have been warned.
Dude, everything has a Risk in Life. Nothing is 100% guarantee Safe or 100% free from problems. But that can't stop us from Living our Lives and marrying a woman who we LOVE with our hearts just because there is a 1% risk you might be accused of molestation or rape later on when daughter is older.
@@xmangel6052 some things are more risky than others. More importantly you don't fall in love and marry women who you don't date to begin with.
"Shut the F up ur not my Dad" expect that at some point
Followed by foot in their ass
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@Salem The Cat sounds like a good deal!
That shit will NEVER happen over here
I would say, well since I'm not your dad I guess I don't have to ever buy you anything then !! No Christmas presents either.....
My step dad was a multiply decorated combat veteran of the airborne forces with over 18 years of service & I loved him with all my heart. He survived war but he couldn't survive his marriage, which eventually drove him to suicide. Never underestimate the psychopathic selfishness of a single mother.
Women are good at manipulation, before they did not vote, now they are the dominant voters. Politicians to get into power must target the largest demographic group which is women. Hence there are bias custody, support, employment and healthcare laws.
Men need to dig graves as an insurance policy, because going through the bias divorce courts they will most likely lose.
Divorce has been the hardest thing I've ever gone through and I'm a vet.
@@olakthesignpost9175 Women are good at backstabbing while men are at war. Ancient rome collapsed because while the men were at war, being killed on the battlefield, the women would be demanding womens rights while they were away and got them.
Happened also in WW1, women got more rights after the war, even though men were killed in the trenches.
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Sorry for your loss
This guy makes sense. Whenever I meet a woman who bashes her ex or ex’s, a little voice shouts in my ear “You’re NEXT!”
I've been on dates where the woman on the first date immediately starts talking about her lousy ex, restraining orders, blah, blah, blah. The first date quickly becomes the last date as well.
wade rivers: and it's even WORSE if she claims he abused her and went to jail, playing the "damsel in distress" routine.
Trust me, you ARE next. I almost was.
You do realize men do the same thing right? Or are you that fucking ignorant?
Yep my ex did that shit all the time now she's rubbing my name in the dirt
Jane Doe Thanks Karen I was unaware of that.
There's nothing new in what he's saying. A lot of men actually are aware of the dangers of dating single mothers but rarely adhere to the advice to stay away because of low self esteem issues.
Definitely agree. Low self esteem and desperation often lead to this regardless of if they know the consequences or not
i try my best to stick with what he says and i havent dated any single moms yet but man its hard to find something other than singlemoms after college years it seems like. i broke up with my gf the last year of college and its been 4 years since and i cant find anyone besides single mothers that are available, all the girls are pretty much in a relationship already. it gets lonely sometimes.
Single moms are easy. It's easy sex. The problem is you got to leave before the 'family illusion" traps and manipulates you.
That is why it is important that it keels being said
Listen young fellas.
Here's my story. I was only hooking up with a single of 2 kids. She started doing everything right to win me over and get into a real relationship... as the relationship went further, i couldn't discipline the kids anymore. She didn't do all the nice things she did when we first met. We were getting into arguments. She started talking to another guy and all of a sudden left me for him. YOU ARE NOTHING TO HER! IF SHE LEFT THE FATHER OF HER KIDS, SHE CAN LEAVE YOU JUST AS EASY IF NOT EASIER!
She can and she WILL. She won't be tamed.
It’s ok. That’s part of your unique journey. God won’t judge you for the self shame you may have felt and may still be feeling.
Ooo she won’t flinch bruh and every other guy that comes in her life, you’re gonna be the bad guy!
She's never yours. It's just your turn.
Exactly 😂! Been there done it all! Now I’m 49 and glad I never wanted to get married! My only son is now 19. Ww3 around the corner and I’m going to die happy 😊
I am divorced and have three daughters. I find it amazing how many single moms- particularly the ones who have several children,will say they don’t like men who have children. Hypocrisy at its best. However, they’re certainly doing me a big favor by striking me from their list of datable men..
It only goes one way
@@Nostradamus_Order33 Certainly seems that way.
i agree but at after watching this video and my personal experience dsting a woman w kids is, i can honestly say I dont want a woman w kids, even though I have my own.
facts...
Isn't that how you get the Brady Bunch? 😊
If men in a relationship with a single mom are reading this: Take a week off of your job and tell her you lost your job and that you can't afford your current lifestyle now. Then wait.
Genius!
Genius! I actually did this and she hung up on me, wrote me one email stating she'd call the police for stalking, never heard from her again!
I've had male friends whose wives divorced them after they've lost their job, the weird thing is they get another job that pays just as well if not more a couple of months later and she still goes through with the divorce. Some of these guys weren't bad looking, at least an 8. How do women think that their sexual market value goes up with age? You ain't going to replace him sweetheart.
2 weeks. A week is not long enough. Then just sit on the couch depressed.
@@adamlapinski7590 😂😭✌
I'm a single mom (one kid) and I wasn't offended by this video. I've seen my single mom friends bring baggage to their relationships and wondered why the guy wouldn't commit. I have a good job, nice place and the father lives in a drivable different state. we get along as co-parents but people are terrified to date me. I am not interested in getting married since I'm an older mom and I have a comfortable life - very lucky and rare for my situation. I see why after watching how horrible single moms treat men. Wow. This put it in perspective and the only women that will be offended are the users.
A rational woman...a gift.
They become offended because the shoe fits
This is embarrassing for you. This guy talks about single mothers all over his channel over and over even though he is a single father and all the same if not worse can be said about him not to mention him saying all this is insulting the mother of his children which says plenty about his character. Him and the “men” agreeing with him in this comment section are disgusting and sick have you read these comments???
Looks like the shoe has fit once again. And since it fits so well the anger overflows with some
@@Cookiebunnysweetumserr the comments seem mostly respectful. For the most part its stories about peoples experiences and non of them are hateful, if anything they seem to be regretful.
im broke. i married a single mom. i was used as a money pit. as soon as the kids finished college that i paid for.. i was dumped.
Disgusting, I'm so sorry 😢
Well, you should have seen that coming? There were no clues?
Was she out of your league? Trade down and you won’t have that problem.
At least you got out. She did you a favor.
@@R281 Ha Ha
I was flirting with a good-looking girl until I found out she had 3 kids. HELL NO!!!
Goddamn 😂😂
Same af
Hell naw to the naw naw to the naw naw naw. Hell naw.
Who wants to be a step parent!😮
base d
So many kings in this comment thread. Stay strong my hard working single brothers.
King Kong Kush
Amen bro
FUCK YEAH!
Im not single but this guy spits knowledge. We dont even want kids. Worlds gonna burn soon so why create another mouth to feed
@@jessesdomain444 Plus the world is overpopulated it’s uses up our planets resources faster and it increases poverty as well as pollution
I married a woman with a kid when I was young years ago. Her priorities were her self, her kid, her family, everything. I was not even considered. I was young and dumb.
Why did you marry her if you were not a priority? In theory, the kids are as important as the partner. Each play a totally different role in our life.
Guys, look for mentally healthy people!! Those that have gone to therapy. I have seen dads just like that, that have no idea about how to establish limits to be a dad and ALSO equaly a partner, and ihave immediately ran away!!!
I think she wasn't really into you
Singe mom priorities..
1 God
2 kids
3 job
4 home
5 phone
6 dog
7 ex
8 Mr right now
Best not to get involved
@@idropagearbabye6822 so true!!!
And now you're a wise man👍✌👏
Statistically speaking, I've avoided my first divorce by not getting married.
Lmao good one
Smarter than a lot of men lol
Smart move, Joe. I take my hat off to you.
@@TheCoachRC 39 years old and won't do it. Ever. I've seen way too many good men destroyed by bad marriages to bad women
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Just broke up with a single mom last night...I broke all my rules and found out she wanted to make things work out with her baby daddy while we were together....shit killed me inside but made me stronger...thanks for the vids man...keep up the good work
Lesson learned
been there a few days ago be strong remain a conqueror
You dodged a bullet Jerry. Good job!
@@ValentinMitrofan yes!!! What a waste of time i tell ya!! No more of that b.s! My life is so much better without all that drama
@@wgp8ntballer happy for you man!
I've been there also, 1yr relationship with a single mom, drama everywhere, etc.
In retrospective I am super glad she ended it,she saved me from a life of misery! 😄
They hang around the finishline and pick the winners. Never a truer word said.
Women don't want to do anything, they just want to be there when it happens.
Yup
I heard it as "hang around the finish line and fuck the winners."
I have to admit, that quote really sticks with you.
True, but they have to marketable enough to get the winners.
Its like Nuclear War. The only way to win is not to play
"Shall we play a game?"
"No. No we shall not."
Right from the movie “Tron” nicely said....
War games?
@@ronaldmorrison6013 , that, too.
@@ronaldmorrison6013 like a fallout 76
Married a woman with 1 child. I told her something about her kid. She told me not to tell her what to do with her child.....that was the beginning of the end.
Welp you stepped on that bear trap
@Calamity That is solid advice.
no the momment you married her you sealed your fate my friend
Yep, thats why i dont date single moms bc its not YOUR kid if im still providing for it and taking care of it. Its OUR kid now and you WILL let me perform my fatherly role including disciplianrian or you will take YOUR kid and leave
@@valilucifer9356 Ya live and learn.
I’m a 37 year old woman without kids & I approve this message!!!
Congrats on that you're part of the 1% that's rare asf
I'm 28 and childfree.
I'm 36 and childfree.
🤣🤣
49 and no children. I have found that men don't want to marry they just want to have a good time. With the way that some married men talk about their wives behind their backs and what they do it makes me glad that I didn't get married. That's not to say that I am not open to marriage but he really has to be the right one.
I worked with an old timer once, and I still remember his profound advice: "The screwing you get isn't worth the screwing you get".
Pretty sure it’s “the screwing you GIVE aint worth the screwing you’ll get”. Either way...it’s sound advice
I read this on the bathroom wall in a strip club. "Is the fucking you're getting, worth the fucking you're getting?"
just dont be a fool , go with the flow and enjoy the ride . like all rides the end comes . get off the ride and go to the next .
There’s some real truth
@@carmichaelmoritz8662 I agree with this. Just gotta handle with caution.
Anyone else absolutely love reading these 100% true comments?
It addicting
I love the part where he explains, decent looking women arent rare. Succesful well put together men are rare. They are the prize, women want them, and men want to be them. Feeling great after this enlightening talk, high fives all around yah!
I just left one
Yes. The comments are pure gold. People sharing their stories so we can learn. ❤
I,m 66 years old, this is very good advice!!! Have seen everything he alludes to all my life. Listen up !!!!!!
@She-Ra Princess of Power i like this question. I was expecting more too.
She-Ra Princess of Power there’s no need for extras 😆
Instead of giving young men crosses or crucifixes around their necks,we should put condoms in them.
1954 was a good year. Same vintage here and I agree with what he says. Too many anecdotes to relate but the bottom line is that such a relationship can open up dynamics you can't hope to anticipate. And you are absolutely not in control, even if you are an alpha.
I dated a single mom. I was at her house and she says, "You need to leave before the child gets home from school."
1. She's a single mum
2. The kids not yours
3. She's a single mum
4. The kids not yours
5. Their not yours responsibility to look after and provide for them
👍
Every single mother i know personally is in a constant state of bad decision making.
THEIR ENTIRE LIFE ! !
Par for the course 🕷
No exceptions. I got talked out of my reluctance to date single mothers or women with tattoos by a female family member about a year and a half ago. I dated a woman who had both. Bad move. What I've noticed is that when things blow up in your face, the woman who gave you the bad advice will be nowhere to be found. It's almost as if they work together to put you in a bad situation even if they don't know each other and the guy is family.
Most women are bad at decision making
@@StephenWestSyd or even making Dinner
I wish the men in my life (family, and business partners) would take this advice seriously, the amount of money and time they spend to try to please the kids of the moms they date is beyond astronomical. I am a single childless business owner, but also no single dads need apply. I chose no children for a reason, I’m certainly not raising or helping to support someone else’s children and deal with their ex drama.
Your post is extremely spot on. You're absolutely right about not dating single dads. I tell my buddies who don't have children themselves that they have no business dating single moms!
5 years thousands of dollars. Photograph lessons, ski trips, trips to visit family, events, restaurants and school supplies..... I lost my job and said I'm having a hard time. Never asked her for any help just told her things were getting hard and I feel really stressed. She tells me our relationship is over and never contacts me again.
What the hell was I thinking?
@Dr.'sorders yeah I know. Like it's the manly thing to doto take care of another man's offspring. And you're not a man if you don't do it. I refuse to follow that logic.
@@prepordietryin9119 Good
@@kyleprimetime You were thinking there was still some decency
Society not only glorifies single mothers but they shame men for not wanting to date or marry them. It's the mans fault for not wanting to raise another mans kid. How about placing blame on the woman or the father?
@Endless Nameless There are a lot of women with a kid(s) overseas who try to find an American/European husband to take care of them. But thinking about the last two seasons, there really haven't been that many. In the current one the only one is the Filipina Rose who rejected Ed. Varya-no kids. Lana-no kids (definitely a gold digger). Annie from the Dominican Republic-no kids. The model from Brasil who married the rich guy- no kids. But no doubt, just like here, most of them are looking for the ATM.
Glorifies single mothers?? Everyone in this comment section is talking down on them lol...
I know right. What kind of fucked up logic is that? My pathology does not have to conform to anyone else’s.
You had it right the first time. How about placing blame on the woman and not the father?
Society now shames men for not wanting to date chicks with dicks we can’t win
I'm guilty of this. When I was in my 20s, married a single mom. Almost immediately she got pregnant. Then after that child was born, she became hard to live with. The sex was bad (no more BJs) and she was trying to control all the money.
Don't do it, guys!
Next time I date, she will either be blind or have a head injury. A eunuch is a great investment to have too. Some women voluntary blind themselves, and some boys voluntary castrate themselves. A blind women can not steal your kids, steal your money, steal your house, steal your job.
i did the same thing i convinced her ex to adopt . it was hopeless i got out free and clear. see you guys later
No way.
Cold hard truths. Despite 95% of men won’t follow that advice and still play captain save a Hoe.
did it once...and ran the next time that situation came my way again...
Com on man they can do better
Lmaooo captain save a hoe 🤣🤣
Well spoken pimpin💯
Excuse me, Jax. What you say about those women, and calling them a "Hoe" is wrong. Calling them a whatever is disparaging, and clearly offensive. If you cannot get along then don't have such a relationship with a woman, who has kids. But it is good that I am forewarned about such a woman. For me it is about Miss Right.
Remember when you date or marry a single mom, you're just settling for someone else's leftovers, and the cherry on top is you'll NEVER be a priority... Stop settling!
As always, great content, Rich.
Yea but everyone is someone leftovers.
@@KeenApollo Fr lmaoo
Who wants a well plowed field? 😮
So true!!!! Sooo true Richard!!! I always tell it... Date a single mother if you love to always live in frustration!
Not enough "So true(s)."
No so fast my friend I found a solution a marriage Agency call "Dream Connection " 👌
Yep... it’s why i don’t date dads ... divorced men with kids ... big no no
oh, come on. We all know that single moms IN THE BEGINNING of a relationship will give you the best sex possible. The legend about MILFs is truth... at lest for a short period of time :) This is why men continue to date single moms.
Thank you for the real, sane advice, eljipito. However, it is that a man has not found Miss Right.
I am in my late 30’s with no children and this video is exactly why! There are several single mothers that I know who fit this to an absolute tea! The victim role, looking for money, custody battles, etc. Its really sad. That is not a life that I want.
Not going to lie this one hurts hearing because I owe a ton to my stepdad. He helped raise me into the man I am today
I had a step mother and she was vile to me. But I know people with big hearts who are good step parents, and people who adopt children. There's still good stories out there. I know the childless say stupid things all the time. An these self centered men are just as shallow as the women they complain about
@@nervamerc Amen to that. Sorry you had a bad experience with your step mom, she sounds horrible. My husband's step grandpa married a single mom (his grandma) and became one of the greatest role models in his life. He treated him like his own flesh and blood and left an incredibly positive impression in the life of a child. Step parents, grandparents can be great influences on kids and be loved equally back, I guess it just takes a special person to do that, and tbh most people really arent that special as seen in most of the comments on this thread.
My mother was a beautiful, kind woman but my single man step dad was a evil, evil and a evil stap dad, my stap dad didn't have children of his own...
@@JahannamHellfire I know a woman who dated an evil guy for five years. Her children had to be dragged through that. The daughter attempted to run away from home twice when she was ten or eleven. The woman chose the boyfriend over the children. She eventually left him and she had to move to another part of the country to do it. I know that she feels bad about it but it would have been nice to at least give her children a genuine apology for it.
You get genuinely good step parents out there, but the whole situation you were fortunate enough to experience is quite the exception to the rule.
I was married to a single mom and divorced her after a year due to all these reasons
My brother did the same thing. They are generally really difficult to deal with. It’s not worth it. Good for you getting out quickly.
Used mom = worn out transmission
@@Cbd_7ohm worn out engine, tires and mufflers.
@@Cbd_7ohm time for a trade in 😂
@@Cbd_7ohm oh geezus that was a good one LMFAOO 🤣
be kind, a woman would never speak disparagingly of a man that was no use to her 😉
You are 100% correct. On all accounts. I just ended a 11 year marriage to a single mom and everything you mentioned is exactly what happened. Wish I saw this 13 years ago
Been there, done that. Her son seemed to constantly, married and in his thirties, want to push in and want attention. Then he had kids. What a wedge. Now with grandkids I was totally on the outs. What the son wanted was be constantly involved. Didn't like us away more than three weeks.
I ended it at great expense!
I dated and married a single mom whose husband had died suddenly. That was a nightmare. Imagine being compared to a perfect dead man all the time plus all the things this guy talked about 😐
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Usually you are compared to a living deadbeat. Not sure what’s worse
Lmao
Sorry my man but this shit is funny as hell looooooooool
I've dated single moms; 2, 3 dates TOPS. When it comes time to meet the "kids", I'm out! I've never let it last more than a few dates (for fun). I don't care about your kids, not interested in paying for their dinners & vacations or dealing with the drama. Great video. 100% FACTS!
I say find another playground. There are many attractive, single women without children who are not looking to get into or rush serious relationship. No need to scrape the bottom of the borrow.
More power to you. Just tell them that you have kids of your own to meet. She will bolt.
Obviously...but money get everything done... Bitcoin investment helps
Just be careful not to knock one up
So long you're open about not being interested long term and everyone's happy you do you.
Biggest thing to me is that someone had a kid with her.....and still didnt think she was worth having around. If even having a kid couldnt force the last guy to stick around then that's a big red flag. He'd rather pay child support than be with her
you will find as said below that the women make that choice( and in turn remove the children from their fathers lives with the support of the family courts).
Tell me how many you know would walk away from their kids knowing that its likely they will never see them again?even men who are abused put up with it for fear of losing their kids...
the big red flag is what the prospective single mother you want to date did to the father of her child( because she will do it to you)
ALPA WIDOWED ! !
Women usually do the breaking off, because daddy state takes care of them.
Women are usually the ones breaking up, but that's an even bigger red flag.
To me it shows a few possibilities.
1)She's not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship
2)If it's the guy's fault it means she has terrible judgment in men or deep down she's really only attracted to guys who are a mess and women always cheat when they're not with the type who they're truly attracted to
3)She got knocked up because she was sleeping around
The "it just didn't work out" explanation is ALWAYS bullshit.
I got entwined with a single mom of three kids about a year after my last kid left the house (I had full custody). She was beautiful , loved me like crazy, etc, etc. Long story short: she moved out of her cramped tiny apartment and into my large home and I ended up paying about 50% of her and her kid’s living expenses. I had no authority while she doted on her two girls while being overly harsh on her son. About a year later I tried to talk to her about how I thought she was being unfair to her son while refusing to hold her girl’s accountable for their behavior. She basically told me I had no say in the matter. Soo, I said okay you’re out! She moved out a few weeks later and I’ve never looked back nor entertained the idea of dating anyone with kids...other than the occasional hookup.
Feel-good comment.
That's right brother. Single-moms are for banging only...
You dodged a bullet. Your lucky she didn’t accuse you of molesting them. I know that sounds harsh, but lots of women will do that. They make you look bad, than take you to court and since it’s women first whatever they say is believed and whatever you say.” regardless of the facts “ is thrown out the door. You got off easy, count your blessings everyday!
@@SanDiegoBiz eh, her kids were 14 and 15 at the time and I highly doubt they’d have went along with that lie. Who knows though.
If you're a guy that just started dating a single mom please learn from this video and learn from the comments below. Your new girl is NOT the exception, You will NEVER have your own family with a single mom. You are going to be living in a world of constant disrespect before you know it. Get the hell out of there, I'm telling you from experience. 10 years of giving the mom and her kids everything they dreamed of only to have them turn into enemies without any appreciation after our divorce. Don't raise another man's kids, start your own family.
Thanks you
I agree single moms are very disrespectful and ungrateful void plus they never happy
Married twice.
First time, wife was upset one day when I was not at home when she thought I should be with her. She packed my belongings and placed them outside. She later apologized and we reconciled with one strong condition. If her answer to a disagreement was to put my belongings outside, it would be the last time. Four yours later, she broke my trust. When she decided that instead of apologizing, she would pack my things up and put them in the living room, that was good enough for me. She eventually apologized, but I told her to chalk it up for her next relationship. Second marriage, my wife of 7 years thought the grass was greener on the other side. When she realized it was only artificial turf, I was already gone. I loved both with only 3 rules. 1. Know who you are, 2 Don't sabotage our marriage, 3 Don't mistake my cherishing you as my wife as something some one else can do for you. When you are a man, expect to be with a woman. If you choose to be with a girl, expect her to act accordingly.
❤️
Self preservation brother cause when she leaves she’s with somebody else and don’t give a damn about you.
Seeing as you are a marriage veteran,can I get your advice on my current position?
My former fiancee did that to me too. The final dtraw was when she dropped my stuff off at my job. That embarrassment of my boss coming to me and telling me to put my stuff in my car killed me. I didn't care that the invitations were already mailed out, my family hated her anyways, and instead of celebrating our marriage on our wedding day, my family, friends and I celebrated my breakup.
Now I've been married for 8 years to a champ. She likes to cook and clean, she's a kindergarten teacher who loves kids, and she keeps me in check, by which I mean she reminds me at times why I'm the man she married just incase I ever forget my purpose in life. Sadly though, we don't have kids yet because she has a condition that's preventing her from getting pregnant. Although the good news is she's slowly getting better.
What made me trust her the most was when we had that discussion of possibly not having kids, she responded that as long as she had me, she didn't care, even if we did In Vitro Fertilization with another woman's eggs, because she "would only see me in them". Sadly however, because of my last relationship, I can't tell if she has some ulterior motives or I should just enjoy the ride with her? I'm choosing the latter right now and I'm at a point where I'm thinking it's safe to assume that she's genuine and I can put my guard down around her more and let her get that much closer to me.
What do you think?
@@ShamblesMD Just enjoy the ride, sounds like you found a good woman.
@@burmiester1 Yeah that's probably going to be the plan for at least the foreseeable future. Sometimes shd just seems to be too good to be true. Now she does have her flaws and somewhat of a troubled childhood (Mom abandoned her, leaving her with her dad, 2 little sisters andbaby brother), although she doesn't see it that way because it brought her and her siblings closer together. Also, we are exact opposites of each other, but we have the same ideals. She can get on my nerves a lot, but I blame that on her parents, because her dad's no prize either; choosing his new wife and her daughter over them. This messed up her siblings, but not her. It was like subconsciously that she understood the nature of humans at a young age.
Either way, thanks for the input. I honestly like getting outside advice incase I ever put on rose colored glasses without knowing it. I made that mistake before and it felt like I wasted 6 years of my life.
Heres a classic "SHUT UP YOURE NOT MY REAL DAD!" 😂😂😂
I went on a date with a single Mum. She invited me back to her house. Her 12 year old son came in to the kitchen while she was making coffee, pointed to me and said 'What the fuck is He doing here!' I left 3 minutes later. Done.
I reply with I know ya momma call me daddy
@@KarateWrestler205 whatch em reply with "Okay grandpa!" 😁😁😁
RadiantPunk a lot of people go thru that I feel for you it’s not your fault g
Shan Ming he can call me grandpa all they want I’m still gonna bone their mom later
Keep single mothers single. I'm doing my part.
Ok this one cracked up 😂
jane Wilkinson-Tancock the same. If you’re a woman of high value, there’s no point in dating a single Father either. Other people’s kids suck
jane W. You have a high tolerance level then, for whatever reasons.
jane W. Same
jane W. Why a woman would think dating a man who’s financially attached?
Dated two. One was nuts, one was nice. Done with that now. Points #1, #3 and #4 I did not experience but point #2 is soooo true. Responsibility without authority is absolutely correct. Very well said. You get to a point where you naturally want to start bringing the authority you have in the relationship to the children but have to pull back because they are somebody else's kids. It becomes awkward because by having that natural fatherly role diminished ,it starts to erode you as a man in her eyes as you do not assert your male authority.
I'd add a point number 6 too. If you're a decent guy you will begin to bond with the children. If things go south in the relationship you will not only lose your gf but also a proto-family. Bad for you, bad for the kids.
Richard is right. Divorced fathers will spend more time raising another man's children than his own. THINK. ABOUT. THAT.
It's true. My cousin's dead beat Dad left them and my Aunt for a younger model who left her husband while he was in a hospital bed after having a stroke. Classy lady. And now my cousin's dead beat Dad is raising that guy's two sons, whilst turning his back on his own sons. WTF? LOL What a loser.
It's true.
I'm surrounded by single mothers and it's a real temptation to get involved with some of the hot ones. But being Red Pilled I know better.
True. I have experienced this recently. A 30 yo hot mom was sending positive feedbacks..but now I know better. When it is too tempting, rewatch Rich Cooper vids ;)
Just get laid only
Stay strong, brother. I had one next door some years ago, tried to use me to get pregnant. I despised the girl, so despite spotting the trap, I hate fucked her several times, blowing my load all over her cute arse in the shower before she realised I wasn't the mug she thought I was and got knocked up by someone less disciplined.
Well no one tells you not to bang them and leave next morning 🤔 you don't have to get involved
Sex no relationship only
I stayed with my ex wife for 14 years. Helped raise her daughter from 4-18. She’s now 21 and we had a coffee together to catch up. My ex has remarried and this little girl who I raised(dad was in jail) said she had 3 fathers.
I was dumbfounded. I loved her like my own and I was “just another of the 3” after I put 14 years of PTA meetings, driving her to school, teaching her how to fight, teaching her about boys... and I’m just a number. It didn’t hit me so hard until right now.
You did the right thing but this is why people shouldn't be so concerned about being labeled a jerk you are only a jerk to people who aren't allowed to exploit you. This sounds really difficult hope you bounce back.
maybe you took it out of context. young women are horrible at communication.
This is exactly what happened to my step dad with my real mom...
I wonder why you didn't ask about your ex-wife's past 14 years ago.
This guy just saved you 10's of thousands of dollars and most importantly years of time. 🙌
"Hang out at the finish line, and pick the winners"...I like that line
All you young bulls out there, LISTEN to this man.
Dating a single mother is like buying an expired lottery ticket.
But a lottery ticket implies there's a chance you'll be rewarded.
Not if it's expired 😈
@Anal Sex Stinks yeah true but is her tubes tied
Anal Sex Stinks you’re thinking of pump and dump
@Anal Sex Stinks If the kid is over 16 shes already old. 16 the kid is STILL at home.
I married a woman with two kids and everything he says is true.
My condolences
I will put you in my prayers
Every single word
dead man walking
Ticking 💣
The worst thing is, I knew all this stuff, but when my first ever girlfriend confessed to loving me, I didn't care about her two kids. Everything this man said came true, especially being lower on the list of priorities than the spare tire's air pressure.
That lasted about 5 months and cost me a lot of stress, but at least now I know what I don't want.
Never seen this guy before, I'm like 35 seconds in.
This man's a savage. Tremendous.
what you call savage is basic knowledge to us. Now ask yourself why.
@@kshuf8426 all he says is basic knowledge.
Now ask yourself why this message is deemed "provocative" or "savage", when 60 years ago it was normality ?
Don't forget her three rescue dogs...there more important than you too!
@Dr.'sorders - sounds bloody sick!
@Dr.'sorders I girl just told me her dog is her one and only because she is 30 and has no children.
HA HA HA HA HA HA ! ! ! SOOO TRUE ! !
😂so true
Dog lovers yea no thanks!
Remember boys, 1 kid is a mistake, 4 is a pattern.
But either way it's NOT YOUR PROBLEM, so don't take it on.
Tom Evans facts
Some kids are planned . I planned my kids.
@@mrhernandez8256 ALL kids are planned, albeit subconsciously. That's why you never tell women you're snipped. Why dodge a bullet when you can shoot blanks?
LoganKirkman: But YOU could simply be her #2.
Also worth noting: As you work towards your goals and become the best version of yourself, the dating pool will get smaller and smaller, and you will attract more low quality women. DO NOT settle. At all. Stay single for as long as possible, if not forever. The amount of pain and regret you will feel for "settling" for trash will undoubtedly leave you in worse shape than before. Inner peace is everything. In today's day and age, it's nearly impossible to get peace with or out of another person.
Big Facts!
Five reasons to avoid single moms: her, her two kids, and her two baby daddies.
Good enough for me to avoid single mothers.
Lmaooooo
This video could have been 7 seconds long. XD
@@RackedandStacked All he had to say was. "Date a single mom, you'll be sorry."
Ouch! I know someone who has just taken on what the OP has just said.
I work a full time job after retiring from the Navy after 24 years. I never tell a single mom. Because it is Ka Ching! I raised my children and not going to raise someone else's children. Some guys get involved with single moms because they are so scared of "being alone."
I think for most its low self-esteem issues, and going for the easy catch or like someone else said getting a better looking chick than they'd normally get but heck it's definitely not worth it. The gym always helps though
@@Mark-wq5uw yea gym way way better option.
While I can understand that, you like you’re at least 60, how are you going to avoid it?
Good point. I wish more men understood that it’s not bad to be alone. It’s more peaceful and costs a lot less money. I was married for 11 years. 3 kids. All the red pill things happened. Never again.
Rather die alone with honor, dignity and peace of mind, than with a woman who'll make my life a living hell. Stay strong brother
Also, stay away from women who call their cats, dogs, birds, etc. their "children". Nothing but bad news there.
@DR PHIL You've never had or known a cat. Maybe they just don't like YOU. Who can blame them?
Ios5513 cats are less than dogs, it’s a fact
Yes anthropomorphism of their pets is a BIG red flag 🚩!!!
I think it's safe to say there are fanatics and there are people who love their pets. One isn't always indicative of the other.
DR PHIL people who call themselves “pet parents” make me angry
They used to call them "broken homes" - you don't hear that much anymore but it's for a good reason. Kids can develop mental problems or get a wild streak when things go bad. It happens all the time but taking a biological parent out of the house is usually a recipe for disaster.
Now they talk about ADHD
The crazy thing is, even if a woman have grown kids and out of the house, her grandkids take the place of her kids. Its not worth it period.
Lmao might as well turn gay they are always gonna choose them
This is very much true. The myth is that once her kids are grown that she will have tons of free time to “finally have a life of her own” but the reality is it never stops being about “her” family.
this is very true
Wow. Thanks for the heads up.
@@jf2164 heck no. Rosie Palmer is much better.
Dating a hot single mom is like driving a supercar with a salvage title.
Damn.....
Yep and the car is already having serious rust issues, LOL.
Damn so harsh..... but there are also different circumstances and people we should avoid whether they are single parents or not.
@@sandyavalos3305 I agree. A man has to protect themselves, but at the same time I judge character before anything.
Matt T yes I agree that a man has to protect themselves. Anyone has to. Very sad that there are few we can even trust
I'm 53 and date 23 year olds. The older women hate it but too bad.
Nice but jesus I Couldnt stand listening to them!
I'll be like you one day, uncle David!
@@snigie1 Nice but jesus I Couldnt stand listening to them!
Quoth Two And A Half Men
Judith(upon seeing Alan-Jon Cryer-'s hot piece of ass 20something squeeze): "What do you talk about?"
Alan: "We don't really talk..."
Amen amigo! The younger the fresher.
David- she's just waiting for you to croak so she can get whatever you have.
I was dating a women with kids recently, 2 to be exact. She was such an amazing women but i couldn't get over the kids aspect because i wasnt in the position to really be an effective boyfriend and by proxy a step father. I know logically the best decision was to leave her so she could find a man ready now to handle her situation.
I'll never get married. I own my own house, Truck, car and no need to be in that prison.
I knew since middle school that being married is straight 💩
It quite literally could end you in prison. Child support, nut case lies calling police, etc.
a neighbor of mine said the same thing. then he got cancer in his 40s. in one year, he went from being a biker and hiker and loving life, to not even able to walk to the bathroom. he sat for weeks in his own piss and shit. nobody came to help. he didnt even have the energy to push his own wheelchair. he eventually died a painful death since he couldnt make it to the chemotherapy appointments. the last thing he said was that he wished he had someone, anyone, to give him hope of a fighting chance. or a revolver, lol. most people get a brutal cancer, but later in life, and they usually have a spouse or kids to help. just sayin.
@@BobRooney290 I'll probably die of massive heart attack in my 90s like my grandfather if I get cancer I'll deal with it. I had a friend who had cancer for 18 years and she did it on her own. I would go shopping for her and take her to appointments. And also checked on her everyday. Sounds like your neighbor didnt need a wife or kid to take care of him sounds like he just needed a couple real good friends to help out. Too bad he didn't have any good friends. He probably would still be alive today. I'm lucky I got three brothers that got my back and all are younger. Those are the best friends a man can get. I got their back always and they got mine.
You’re a catch! Any woman should be lucky to have you :)
Your time and resources should go towards yourself and your seeds period!
This happened to me from my X
8 yrs younger than me.
Everything was fine until I started saying no.
She really didn’t like that at all.
I told her I’m last in her list.
Kids first then the dogs even out bird first.
I was a distant 7th
Best thing ever happened is when she kicked me to the curb.
MY LIFE NOW IS AMAZING
I've been a step-father and in several relationships with single moms (yeah, I know). 100% spot on, especially the part about responsibility without authority. Every one of the women expected all the support of their kids, but when they trashed my place or were disrespectful, it was always, "No, these are my kids." No way in HELL will I ever even date a woman with kids, much less marry one. I don't care how good her kids are or how good a head she has on her shoulders. It never turns out well. I prefer being alone to being a step-parent again.
Sir, I'd like your opinion: I don't see nothing wrong with dating a single mom on a non exclusive fashion. I mean, I don't want to get involved with her children, her life, etc.., I just find her kind of hot and an interesting person to spend some dates, and already asked her not to build expectations towards me. No serious relationship or any of that business. I don't see any big risks; but, am I wrong?
That's what im doing. The woman im talking to has a heart of gold and is doing well financially. Only problem is that she's 4.5 years older :/
I want to have kids and if I were to marry her/get serious, we'd have to move fast. I'm still working on my career/am not sure where in the US I want to settle down.
Stuff gets complicated once you move past lust
Marrying younger takes a lot of pressure off both the guy and woman. Women shouldn't be having children 35+
Wish this chick was at least my age. Then I'd at least take the idea seriously.
But the age difference makes it impossible for me to commit beyond friendship
@@ronimatos90 I cannot speak for you. While I wouldn't recommend it, everyone has to do or try what they feel like doing. It's how you gain experience. Just beware of the pitfalls and watch for the signs. You might find a rare unicorn. Personally, I think those chances are very slim, but you are the guy on the ground so you have to make the call. Good luck.
I am a woman. I always tell my brother to not date single moms. Never, never, never.
I told my 3 brothers that exact same thing
@@kateholland4102 You seem to love your three brothers as much as I love my 1 brother. As sisters we have to look out for them! Cheers to you!
You are a great sister for that. Not many girls do that anymore.
Listen to the women around you who care enough to warn you; they know themselves better than any man can ever hope to know.
That's good advice but sadly my own sister became a single mother who is now dating a younger man whos family are spoiling her and her children so much, they are even paying for her and her boyfriend to get a deposit on a house for a mortgage.
100% responsibility with 0% authority, so true!
So true
Nailed it. Single mom's have their place and uses. They can be fun when they get a break from the kids, but keep it in perspective. I avoid any long term involvement. No commitments, no co-habitation, no marriage. I made the mistake of getting involved with one some years ago. Richard is spot on with all 5 points. Learned my lesson. Never again.
I dated a single mother for about a year, and she was certainly wonderful and very beautiful, but the fact that she had children with another man made me not emotionally attracted to her, so I ended the relationship and found another girl without children, and now we have completed 3 years of dating and we are ready for marriage.
😂 good luck with that
@@luc1d356 thank you
You have a positive, strong likelihood of marital success! Key being;; you are exercising friendship first and establishing a deep relationship. God bless you young fellow...and I wish you and your lucky bride happiness and success in all life's endeavors.
@@luc1d356why you say that?
I don't believe in marriage in those days , it's rigged for men. There are few exceptions but getting married is like playing russian roulette with 5 loaded chambers. I try to not push my opinions on others though and I respect everyone'se choice and opinion. If you want to get married , okay. Just be prepared and know what is ahead if you want to take that road.@@XVNRX
In my situation, he is 100% expressing the facts! I married a women with 2 kids, 3 and 8 at the time. The 8 year old became a problem and the 3 year old became a part of me because he only knew me. They became her kids in certain situations. Sixteen years later, we are getting a divorce because my help is no longer needed! The youngest, we have a wonderful relationship and she is trying to turn him against me but he knows the truth. I hate to say this but I would not do it again! I will never get involved with a woman with small children again. Her children would have to be gone and out of the house and doing something with their lives. As a younger man, I never got involved with women with kids. That's where I messed up. You roll the dice when you insert yourself in an already made family. My youngest is the only bright light of this horrible marriage! Yes, Happy Valentine's Day to my dam self I just dropped the MIC!
Study in england years ago 20% or so read study? that the women did not marry the father of the child..They went for the best job monies to raise kid.. It was a fantastic read.. Why lawyers test offspring for dna to see if you can avoid child support...Thats a must.. women go for the monies..
Sorry that happened to you.
Brother I feel your pain in this. You got this!
You bring up an interesting point: is there an age of the kids where it becomes ok to date a single mom?
@@AndreAngelantoni Don’t do it, when things get sour, you become an outsider!
I'm almost, 37, single, never married, no kids...getting out of debt...and finding ways to make more money as well as learning new skills. I appreciate all this information.
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I’m a female and I will tell u never to date someone with kids no matter how much u think u can do it . No real woman with kids should be dating men anyways ..it’s a sacrifice a mother makes. If they date they want more than just companionship and it isn’t just about love it’s all about the child and responsibilities that u really don’t need to get involved in . Stay single til u are in your forties and find someone in their forty’s that’s a good age for women a lot calmer and wiser and know what they want
@@harmonymomentofbeing5753 we real women with kids are doing just that. we are not dating men. So, why does the issue become that we are "Single moms" instead of just calling the single moms that play games a liar ? There is a big difference between being a single mom and being a liar and a user and someone who plays games. But, somehow if you have kids and are single, you get lumped into the same category with the rest of them and the worse of them. What for?
@@kaarentamm6423 Same reason that men are supposed to police their behavior because a Harvey Weinstein exists.
@@turdferguson5847 so being single with kids automatically means we want a man to use or to fix our life and then we cry victim? It doesn't work that way. in every situation, not to say it doesnt happen at all. Having kids and being single doesnt mean you have no character. This guy is talking like he has every single mother on the planet sized up.
Years ago, my brother listened to men like this and I blew their messages off. Yet, after listening to this man, he basically summarized my relationship with my soon-to-be ex-wife in about 15 minutes. I can't dispute anything he said. I only wish I would have listened.
I imagine it's not just an emotionally painful lesson but a financially painful lesson as well. I feel for ya.
When my brother was 23 he married a single mother of one little girl. He did not have a college degree, neither did she. They were both on a low income. To make a long story short, he got married on a Saturday, the following Monday he had a family to raise. Over the years his health deteriorated, he didn’t have any time for himself, didn’t play sports, and eventually he had his own daughter. He’s never fulfilled his dream of traveling the world. After he got divorced he had to pay child support for the two kids, his own the the other guy’s as well.
That's crazy, why wasn't the other guy paying for his kid?
I was engaged to a single mom. She had a little boy. He used to get away with acting like a baby or playing the I'm not going to listen to you to see how far I can push it game. 5 - 6yrs old. Just moving into my place after he only knew living with grandma & mommy at grandma's house we were watching a nature show about lion's at my place. African king of the jungle lion's. The boy said he wished he was a lion & I replied quickly telling him how lucky he was that he wasn't. He asked me why & I said because you wouldn't be here. If we were lion's & I wanted to be with your mommy you'd be dead. He looked at me so confused so I told him to go ask his mother & have her explain it to you. Ha ha ha
She did & I swear to you when he figured it out the look on his face was priceless 😂
Lmao bro 😂😂😂😂😂
That‘s a little fucked up, though man. He is just a kid, how is he supposed to understand this. Anyway, I don‘t know shit about raising kids and best believe I don‘t want to raise another man‘s kids.
@@ThaMobstarr hmmm yes and no. I mean it might seem a little fucked up and maybe it wasn’t the best thing to tell a child but young boys will soon be young men and they need to know what will be expected of them and they need to understand the world. The world is harsh and people need to toughen the fuck up.
@@ThaMobstarr He told the fucking truth.
That's what young boys are missing these days. Lies lies and more lies.
At least someone dropped a tiny little red pill that may end up helping the kid out.
@@MrSchwifty7 Its brutal and probably a bit too early to drop that redpill on the child but I agree.
I get wanting to shelter and protect children so they have a "good" childhood, but if we hide these harsh realities for their entire existence, then they will get slapped very hard by reality when adult life for men turns out much different than their childhood.
Or even worse, they become delusional and get an abusive wife who runs everything and they stay a beta for their entire life.
My dad dated a single mom with 3 kids some months ago. Everything was fun until she starts demanding money.
Did she also use the kids as an emotional weapon like 'But don't YOU want my kids to be HAPPY?' Read: pay up!
First sing of her demanding money I would be gone , unless were together for at least a year or two
Ur dads cheap
It's like continuing someone else's saved game.
Colonel Flagg not your game, so it’s not be taken seriously just fun.
@Anal Sex Stinks Just because you don't see a problem, it doesn't mean it's not there. If her kid is over 16 she's probably over 40 or even 50. That's a problem, even if you don't see it as a problem. And the kid is still his first priority, even if the kid is over 30, not over 16.
@Anal Sex Stinks It doesn't matter if I want kids or not, the idea was that any single mom is *not* ok to marry. Let's say I want kids, then for sure I don't want other kids from previous relations/marriages. But it doesn't matter too much, in the end there's a lot of stupid men out there, ready to do anything just to have a woman. That includes ruining their entire life.
Anal Sex Stinks then what the fuck are you doing? Wasting your fucking time and resources around?
A game you probably didn't even want to play
Every guy should date or "hang around" with single moms for 2-3 months just to give them life lessons. Single moms are just headaches. Even being a friend with one. For me, it's all recurring phone calls of needing help.
“Borrowing Money” that they have No intention on paying back.
@racebannon96 Oh yeah. Been there and I was just a friend to a single mother.
Single mothers see themselves as martyrs because feminism has taught them that their bad choices makes them strong women. She will never give you the energy that the father of her children got. And she'll punish you for whatever wrong she believes in her mind that he did to her. Your love will be returned with lack of effort. She already has the children she wanted so you'll be there for entertainment purposes and usable resources only. No exceptions.
Nope...feminism has no place in this idiot assumption..its MEN that make mothers feel like a prize and nag childfree women about it..you can't play that switcheroo...and its always men harassing childfree women to have children whether she's in a relationship with them or not... you all the ones that created a stupid precedent that 'normal' women experience motherhood and dont' have abortions..it biting you in the ass...feminism tells women its ok to not have children and have abortions too...stop blaming feminism for the bullshit of misogyny
TheQueenIsWithin nobody wants to raise your dumbass mistake
@@TheQueenIsWithin amen....these comments and this overall attitude is pretty shocking and gross to me. I mean, where do they think these single women's kids come from? Asshole men who didn't want to be careful or stick around and who have really shitty misogynistic attitudes about women and what they should be able to do with them. Not in all cases but arguably in the vast majority. And hey, maybe, just maybe it's true that not all single mothers are like this!
or yours
@Coleen West 😂🤣😂🤣😂
Dating a single mother is like picking up someone else's half-finished beer in a bar then drinking it only to find out the beer was off anyway. As for marriage, there's only a few reasons any man does this today: lack of ambition and/or the erroneous belief such a commitment is a two way street, frequently coupled with a scarcity mindset (i.e. she'll marry another poor schmuck if I don't step up).
yea and discovering when you finish it you get the tab for it too.
What about wanting to be a father? Isn't that a worthwhile reason to marry of you've found someone who would be a worthwhile mother.
@EightFrancs
Well I'm convinced. Solid argument there chum
Spiralbear no
@Maw Fah I came here to comment this, lol.
I've been in a relationship with single mom for 3 years. It cost me a depression and I had a really shitty self esteem. It's a matter of choice - I've learned my lesson, you always can do better and have many options. It's up to you.
Great video - you absolutely right, it's a shame that I didn't knew this 3 years ago.
Regards from Poland!
I'dk how it is in Poland,but all the polish girls and friends in USA only party party and vodka
I been watching many similar videos it seems like its bound to fail regardless of the odds.
In Poland too? I guess it's universally-known about single mothers.
Let me just add my experience to validate more what he’s saying.
You truly do not matter to single moms. And the women wait at the finish line couldn’t be further from the truth.
I was in an off an on relationship with a single mom for 5 years. Talk about dignity. When marriage was proposed it was always a point of contention. Loved her daughter as my own, took care of them sacrificed for them. Yet after all this time the mom wanted the child’s dad to be more of a “dad” to her daughter. Even though I was the one spending time the most time with her. Taking them on trips building memories and being their. You are not a priority, you’re an accessory. Remember that.This guy’s boundaries are a huge tip. Take his advice. You aren’t going to loose.
Build yourself know your worth always remember you are the prize.
Great video subscribed!
What he said about the victim mind set is spot on. I dated a girl whose mom was a single mom, I later found out she goes hardcore on social injustice stuff and have weekly discussion with her mom, it’s almost like a cult, they always blame some kind of an oppressor for everything. And guess what, she eventually deemed me as the villain in her life and saw me as the source of her unhappiness. But the reality is, she was never happy by herself in the first place. Don’t ever get involved with people with this victim mind set, they will blame everything ok you
Faaaaaaaacts 💯💯💯💯💯
True, I used to be that way. It's hard to face the "man on the mirror" as Michael Jackson used to say.
She wasn't worth the time you invested to post, or even the time to reply. God speed.
NEVER Date a DUMBOCRAT. Victim mentality in every policy.
Had a single mom of three kids reach out and want to date. I asked if she had kids and she said yes. I then said politely I would not be a good candidate. She said she liked single guys with no kids. I told her I understand that and I feel the same way. Talk about quiet, chirp chirp.
WOW amazing answer LOL. Polite, but "in your face".
"guys, you can do better - if you invest in yourself."
this is the answer - for *everything!!*
learn. train. apply. repeat.
thank you Rich Cooper!
100% true. I was married to a single mother. She would fantasize about eventually changing their last name to my name, loved when I got them things, etc etc. But when it came to real issues and discipline, I was a "bad father". Her words. She ended up having an affair and left. Tried to weaponize her thousands in divorce trial fees from her ex against me, the whole nine yards.
Damn bro.. my ex single mother of recent ended shit bc she wants to be alone. Shes goin thru a divorce with a shitbag and she lives with his parents bc she has no family here in the US. Shes from peru. 10 yr old son who i was always good to and got along well with. Eventually she said i was “too much” bc i actually cared. My problem is i got attached to her and idk how to let it go man. I need some suggestions or something i keep trying to make it work or at least be friends idk why
I'm just discovering this channel. I love the content. You're bald, fit, and my age. If I had a brother he might be like you.
I dated a single mom. I had a child with her and I married her. I work and she takes care of the kids. We both parent but she puts in more work. We have our disagreements everyday but we work on our relationship. I'm 48 she's 34. I feel at these ages we have more maturity than if I was in my 20s or 30s.
I recognize and can relate to much of what you said. I'm glad I did not see your videos when I began dating my wife. Those times were drama filled and your videos might biased me. Your points are valid and there are exceptions. Because like all relationships, whether single mom or not, it requires maturity, time, and effort.
I'm a subscriber. Keep up the great work.
Nonetheless, exceptions validate the general rule. I am really happy that it worked out for you, but there are a lot of young men like me around that would probably get trapped by single-mothers. The advice in this video is something every man should follow, if he doesn‘t want to be used.
The lottery winner telling people anyone can do it 😜
@@Josh-rn1em your relationships will be better with single moms or any women in general if you look at the person as what it is, not as "a single mom". A single mom is a person too and she has feelings too. If you can't see that a person, single mom or not - is using you for money, then you don't know how to pick people.
@@olga4072 I understand what you're saying. But I think you're assuming things about me that aren't true. All good. Have a great day 😊
@@Josh-rn1em as if you aren't assuming things for single moms 🙄
As a dude raised mainly by a single mother, I realized very early on that I could never date a single mom for exactly all these reasons. Bravo my dude.
I'm also a Single Mother Survival.
If wanted to improve society significantly in less than a couple of months get feminism out of family court. Give dads custody. Problem is women crazy karens and would be huge problems for society (more reason they shouldn't keep the kids). Also if know they arent getting the kids they wouldn't be such turd wives cause know they get everything if he doesn't put up with all her crap. Also I hate seeing teen sons with mothers at the mall on a Saturday morning. Kid should be on a sports feild somewhere doing battle.also if si gle mother Karen raised as a teen boy, fill week nights and weekends with partime work till have enough to move out. If have a nephew in this situation get him a forklift ticket course or something (phlebotomy course?) for his birthday so doesn't have to rely on minimum wage. Get a trade apprenticeship asap, fk woke high school. Go to night school while do it. If start apprenticeship at 15 ur full qualified by 19 and on $100k if pick the right trade. Pay off a house by 25. Don't tell the women or get loved bombed and the house is hers thanks to stabbing condoms and the cycle continues. At least u have a trade at that point. I did engineering briefly at university and there was a few electricians, welders amd mechanics in my course.
@@samuraichampionzare u a sonHusband? I swear they clip ur wings to keep u weak and close. How do u cut ties or maintain boundarys I don't know.
Bro it should be the opposite lol😂 that because your dad was an A and left, you should feel with the kid.
But yah choose the best and whatever makes you happy
Before I was RED PILLED, I married a single Mom who lost custody of her kids! It's a long story. I did not realize what a lucky break that was! They would come and visit, 3 of them, and my pantry was EMPTIED that day! lol This was a subconscious preview and I never got caught in a bad situation dating. Now that I am 57 I have dispensed with dating.... need to focus on retirement options and pursuing personal passions. When the need become massive, I find a gorgeous rental, well worth the time and money.
What's the rental mean? Hooker?
Keep pushing forward bro
Coach Red Pill is something else.😊🙌
@@venusbonjour9303 he's 57, alive and enjoying his passions. Its the stress that these women bring that kills us.
@Back Bay Man52 cant go raw on prostitutes tho..