Why Men Shouldn't Date Single Mothers
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ค. 2024
- The origin of this video came when a viewer asked me "Should I date a single mother"? Well... Dating a single mother with children from a past relationship is hard, I've done it, and it comes with challenges.
In this video I reveal my personal experience dating a single mother with two kids from a past relationship, and what you can expect.
I can see now why men are avoiding single moms and going MGTOW
There are many dangers you need to be aware of when dating a single mom, what you should expect from her kids, and how you will be treated when the relationship is stressed over her kids.
Her kids will always come first, even when their behaviour is bad, you wont be respected or valued as you should, and you might just get called an "idiot" by her kids.
Watch the video and learn all the reasons why dating a single mum can be a challenge.
Share you experiences with dating singles mothers in the comments below.
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Whenever I think about liking a single mom: I come back here for refresher training. Problem solved.
Good job, I have a friend with no kids dating a single mother of 5 (got her tubes tied), it’s too late for him now to watch something like this, the pussy put a spell on him and made him fall in love, he thinks he found the one
Me too
Well stated
lol 🤣🤣🤣
Do you want to become lonely like Rich then keep listening to him. He is a lonely 50 yo man that is pathetic. He is not going to get a 25 yo woman without kids trust me. The most she can do is use his old as$ and leave. He will be alone forever. What if he gets a 40 yo woman without kids you think- well she must be mentally struggling because every woman by this age if she never had kids she must have lost her mind because of that. Anyways keep listening to Rich there is already a backlash from his fan base that many dudes haven’t touched a woman in years - Rich Cooper looks like the typical fake guru- what I can guarantee for you is listening to him is that you will be lonely
dated a single mom for like 8 months, ugly break up, the same day we broke up she mentions how she's scared that she left me alone with her son at times....that's the moment i realized how easy it would have been for her to invent some child molestation lawsuit against me...never again with a single mom, not even for a pump and dump....stay smart my dudes.
That's wicked AS FUCK!
Glad you left before she could even dare. Lessoned learned. Good on you.
@@queenb9668 shut up. Not saying this man is a child molestor but don’t act like child molestors don’t exist and prey on their spouse kids. You have to be cautious about who around or left alone with your kids cause its really some sick ass men Out here plus they only dated 8 months trust do nt come easy and who know he haven’t gave her a weird vibe that made her feel that way?
Very common scenario. Unless they were married and divorced or widowed most single moms are immature headcases that will either do this sort of thing out of spite to punish you or they are legitimately paranoid delusional who think you really are a molester based on absolutely nothing,same type that will falsely accuse men of rape based on nothing at all when it didn't happen but somehow convince themselves it did.
That’s what I always say , don’t put yourself in harm’s way !
Lets hope you didn't touch the little guy... because that'd be pretty sad if you did... and evil.
I remember this single mom I dated, her kids were out of control and she did everything she could to alienate the father. It got to the point that I was telling her to let the father see the kids. She tried to get the kids to call me dad after like a month. I got the hell outta there.
😂
Good for you!
That was probably my baby mama and I'm sorry man!
Sounds like you dated my ex wife
Christ what an evil lunatic
Had a gf with a 6 year old. She used to sneak me around and never made it known to the child we were dating. That ended in 4 months.
Years later we tried to make it work but this time I asked if I could be more involved in his life. She thought that was a great idea. Weeks later she told me I was doing to much and that he doesn’t need 2 dads. That relationship ended again in 3 months. Damn I was a dumbass.
Yes you were, i hope youre not anymore
Ya live, ya learn.
Damn. That's unfortunate. Women in their 30s without children feel the same, though.
You were a dumbass wanting to carry a next man's burden but I'm glad that u have realized your mistake.Keep your head up brother
Single mom dating tips:
1. Don’t
2. Her kids are not my financial responsibility
3. Single mothers create the very men feminists they complain about
4. To call a single mom a unicorn is like saying a horse with a bad leg makes a great racing horse
5. Single mothers make life needlessly difficult
6. Single moms should wear a sign that says “Don’t date me I make bad decisions”
7. Single moms raise broken children who grow up to be broken people in a broken society
8. A single mom is a parasite to everything in her environment
9. She makes her life better by making yours worse
10. You can’t please a dead heart
Dating a women with a kid is like starting someone else's saved video game.
Mr. Nick lmmaaooo
lmaoo
Mr. Nick ha very good way of looking at
You forgot that the other person lost the game.
still doesnt mean u take care of someone else sperm..
I once dated a women who had two boys. She was cruel to her ex husband. Would not let him see his children, even though he paid child support and lived locally. He became a heavy drinker and his health deteriorated. I told her that the children were equally his and she should be fair to him. She looked at me like I was speaking Chinese. That was the last time we spoke.
John Tonks good job! She's the toxic one...
John Tonks omg. Poor guy! She is a narcissist! I’m so glad u told her and good thing you walked away!! She is evil. Period. Makes me sick actually.
You did the right thing. A woman who doesn’t permit the children to see their father is a woman you DONT want to associate with. She put herself above her children like the controlling biatch she is. Just because the mum and dad don’t get along, doesn’t mean the kids can’t. You dodged a bullet.
你告诉她搞砸了吗？(Did you tell her to screw herself?)
Im in a similar situation but the single mother tells me that the ex husband is “ too dangerous “ to trust because hes an alcoholic coke head. She has a point but at the same time, im no ones fool and theres two sides to every story !
Was married to a single mother. I coached her sons hockey team taught him everything I knew about the game he was 4 when we met. He's 16 now just got sent divorce papers. I will never see him again. And we didn't have kids now I'm 48 and out of luck I guess.
Don't date single moms!!!!! you will never Truly be apart of the family just a convenience and handyman.
Sorry brother i know exactly how you feel👊👍
Pretty much same here brother
Dated a single mother for 2.5 years with two kids, one 13 boy and a 21 year old girl. Never tried it with her daughter - actually I got along with her. The boy was at times a thorn. The father gave nothing so I spent my resources on them. 9 months later she put me on the street, partly because in her mind I wasn’t going to help her get citizenship. Now some other lame is smashing her on the mattress I bought and lifting the weights I bought.
Single mothers are not worth it.
Same here. I’m 44 and need to leave this woman. You don’t have anything to show when it ends.
I wonder what God has to say about all this Yeah Alright that's enough preaching for me today.
I'll never date a single mother again.
Me either this is my last one final.
dating a woman with kids is like "damn I really need complexity in my life".
Sapher Yep
dating a single mother of 5 kids and living with them literally drove me to alcoholism. i havent been with her in a year and im still in recovery til this day.
you sound like a single mother
conor mcgregor
WoW you have a lot of time to comment....you are replying to every post you disagree with ......your opinion is sooo valued. .
d2dak87 in Chile is impossible no matter the age lol
Children are like farts, you can only really tolerate your own ones.
Oh boy! U cracked me up with your comment🤣🤣😋
LMFAO good one 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Fucking true man. U got my shit out laughing
Rib-Cracking
I am currently in this situation...I have FINALLY seen things for what they are. Oh sht life is hell. This is all true. All of it. It's rough every day. Be safe out here fellas
I too am in this position aiming to emancipate myself from the ignorance. How have you faired from then til now 1 year later? Still in that position?
"the best part of dating a single mothers is all the amazing sex, respect and fun we have together.
They appreciate that i'm steping up to this difficult challenge
they respect me and treat me well"
said no men, ever.
its that they can give honestly
Camille cw elaborate?
single *mothers, I presume you meant..
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Huge price to pay in the near future.
Stand by..
As a kid of a single mom who regularly dated around. It's NOT the kids that matter more to her, but her own desires & escaping loneliness always come first instead. It's sociopathic behavior.
M Halvaresh Very true, I'm around single mom's ALOT. I'm an 18 yr old who loves milfs, and mom's with actually bitch and complain about how horrible you kids are. They'll even tell me how much they hate you kids and how you ruin their lives, but you keep her company when nobody else will. And kids don't have a choice
M Halvaresh Wow, your situation must have been awful... But that's definitely not every single mom's priority.
Single mothers are a disease,
or rather the symptoms of a sick society.
Sorry you had to be one of its victims :(
Wtf is up with these insanely hateful comments...
Maddison Keaton The Truth is most of the time on the side of Hate. Love is biased and easily fooled, only those who hate mediocrity can approach the Truth.
And the deepest truths are the ones that hurt the most.
I notice that if you are the biological father she will still put her kids first, image how bad it will be if you are not the biological father
Ditto. That's why she's now my ex. For her to think I didn't matter destroyed our marriage. Fact is, I was and am still a very involved father and I think that drives her crazy. Good. I will always be in my son's life, no matter what. No matter how shitty she is too me. Get used to it.
Captain James T Kirk so if your a single father you would put your new gf before your kids. Evil !!
If she doesn't though then its usually because she has little to no mothering instinct at all and not because she is rational. Women that have little mothering instincts are usually in the headlines for child neglect.
When the kids grow up and leave the house now the father can put the kids first. Revenge is sweet. Now it's time to pay back the bitch.
Koko Chocolate His name is Captian Kirk you know that's what they call men who saves hoes
You'll find these women in bars every weekend
Frank Herman I never go to bars, I don’t want I waste my time on “men” like you
@@believewomen165 Just as a matter of interest, would you take on the children of a single father?
@@ng7280 Well, I've seen more than enough of them in the street, yelling and swearing at their children and threatening them with violence, and most of them have never been inside a church in their lives, so I don't quite buy your idealised portrait. It may be true of you, but not "women" per se.
I don't go to bars, I've never chased a woman in my life (as a matter of fact, they chased me), or indeed chased anyone or anything in my life. I don't have children because I never married, and I never put myself about, so if you want to deliver a po-faced morality lecture, you've come to the wrong place. My morality is second to none and always was. Mine was a perfectly simple question: men get castigated for not wanting to take on another man/men's child/children, yet women don't when the situation is reversed. We all know how you hold your double-standards close to your collective bosom and your unnecessarily heated response proves that. I also think you protest a little too much, but I'll you the benefit of the doubt.
@@ng7280 Good luck.
@@believewomen165 we are glad you don't go to bars...... but we are still not going to date you LOL.
I wish I knew this stuff years ago. I married a single mom who had a 7 year old daughter. I scolded the daughter once because I saw her wind up and kick my puppy in the guts while wearing boots. The wife threatened to go to the police with a child abuse claim.
After the divorce was filed, and the wife was out of the house, I discovered there was a lot more going on. While watching a video on my ipad of the wife screaming at me (I had the foresight to record things) the dog would start wimpering, cowering, and crying. I tested this by watching the same video a day later, and the dog once again cowered and cried. I'm guessing she abused the dog (pup) when I was at work, and that's where her daughter learned the behavior from.
Wtf!!
I think your suspicions are correct.
Stone Cold Stunner for anyone who abuses my dog
Dating a single mother is like doing time for a crime u didn’t commit 🤣😂
J P that is funny 😁
Samuel Sweetmann Smart man
😂😂😂😂
@Samuel Sweetmann wow 😂😂😂 thanks dude thinking that single moms ........will hate you... Let them love you then dumped them.. Sorry dude single moms can live without a man in there life..
Oh yes y rigth man
Told a single mother who would not leave me alone once what my rules were: MY House, My Money, My Rules, My style of child discipline, never talked to her again after I explained that. She went crying to her daddy about how horrible I was, he told her that I sounded EXACTLY like the man she needed LOL.
You look abusive anyway
Gee rams you mean he looks like he takes no BS from you women, frankly you need someone like him to set you straight
Gee rams..passing a judgement on a guy who values his own personal logical belief is abusive..It's his bed and he decides how he lays on it..mind your business and focus on being a better person, and Not an abusive one
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@@lezel4swarts Your autistic screeching can be heard from far away...REEEEEEEEEEEE
I can't imagine ANY scenerio where I would date a single mother again. Ever.
You are spot on! I am a veteran, world traveled, educated and of means. I fell into this trap, of marrying a single woman with two kids. Worst mistake of my life! Fortunately, I am divorced now, and had enough wealth off-shore to financially break her financially, for a very good divorce settlement. I was on the verge of losing 50-60% of what I had worked 40 years to achieve. I will never make that same mistake twice!
could you elaborate more? sounds like an interesting story
Most single moms I know use their mom as a live-in babysitter whilst going out with a different guy every week.. oh yeah and they are always complaining about how life is so hard for them because they are a single mom 🙄
THIS. All while lying to the guy they’re “dating” in a lot of cases too. Me and my roommate proved this. These girls on tinder will hook up with 1 of us, then put on their Instagram something about her bf (who she never mentioned and is cheating on).
tu sabe mucho ...
Im a single mum, it is hard being a mum. nevermind if you're a mum doing it without the help of a dad. And vise versa. Being a good decent parent is hard, there is no man or women on this earth whom is perfectly awesome at being a parent. And mums and you dads if u wanna go out on weekend remember let ya hair down and enjoy yourself. Remember your not just a parent you is a human.
Yep
My dad was an alcoholic. My Mom basically raised us by herself. You have NO idea what is like for a woman with 0 help. I doubt that you are a mom. If you are, you are probably being helped by your mom and dad so you shouldn’t be giving opinions in such subject. Some woman didn’t choose to be a single mom. I clearly saw how hard it was for my amazing mom. Work + kids. Alone. No one to leave us with. She never dated no one after my father to protect us. We were her priority. Man nowadays love cold hearted abortion type of woman. Please, if making your kids a priority is bad, you have no business being with a hardworking single mom that has no time for games, immaturity and weakness. They are too strong for most man. I am happily married by the way with 2 kids. It’s hard while married imagine alone!
Your channel has allowed me to dodge so many bullets and I'm only 15.
Good thing you started watching early. All these stories of guys who got screwed over by marriage n shit make me sad.
There are not many bullets for you to dodge yet. It’s a good thing you’re getting an early start though, because they will come.
Focus on your career. You'll attract better quality women but be careful due to the gold diggers out there. I would say stay celibate if anything.
Your still a pup. Dont become an incel
I highly, highly, highly, HIGHLY recommend you read "The Tactical Guide to Women". You have no idea how much that book would have helped me back when I was your age!
Dating a single mom is like paying full price for a tub of Pringles with only 2 left in the packet. The majority/ all of the value has been eaten away.
Savage
Lmao!
I genuinely feel like vomiting when some people force us to find single mons attractive. Imagine if women were forced to find single dads attractive even if they were unattractive to those women. Yuck.
I’m a childless woman age 25 (waiting for the right one) and you’re speaking facts! I always avoid having single mom friends. Growing up I always felt weird seeing any single moms dating all the times and it must be confusing for the child to see their mom with many men. My old friend is now a single mom now and the dad is someone she met a short time in a vacation 🤣 What a shame. She couldn’t control her legs doing hook ups even tho she always talked about having a family. It didn’t go well..
Stay away from single moms or any single parents!
all the best finding mr right sister, you are smart
I've always had respect for single mothers bc my mom is one. I have had single mothers as friends. Now I'm just shocked. I feel sorry for the children the most. I also realized what my mother had done to us. I'm also waiting for the right man at 25. I wish you luck!
@@bellerose5013 I wish you the best luck too! Being a single parent was very normal back in early 00’s I think.. Cause they find a spouse and the marriage stays.. today single parents just go with one person after another without being in stable relationship.. Now that is weird…
@@misscleo_ Thank you very much! I think being a „single“ parent is the most selfless thing in the world. I have realized that single parents in particular are looking for attention from others because of this. And in this day and age, that's easy to do through social media and Dating-Apps. I would love to be selfless for my Family in a healthy way of course.
Did you get picked for this?🤣🤣🤣 are you not embarrassed judging someone
I married a woman with 3 kids got no respect, used my money, no return, kids never thanked me, no authority only disrespect, got taken advantage of . Getting divorced was the best decision and not adopting them thank goodness 😅
I’m really sorry.
Congratulations on being able to divorce her. I’m surprised that the courts did not go after you for Alimony and Child Support. Because even if you did not adopt those children the court can make you pay child support especially if you got envolved either raising them and stuff.
The kids appreciate nothing and will find a way to ruin your relationship.
Don’t do it.
Right
I was the kid in that situation, and I tried to ruin it, so yeah. To be fair though, it really was his fault. Regardless, that was a lesson I didn't need to learn by making my own mistake.
3 of the kids yes. But 2 of the kids werent like that. They wanted it to happen.
Let me tell you. In a nutshell I was talking to a single mom for like 2 weeks. Her Son couldn’t stop pulling my pitbulls tail. Twice, back to back I told him don’t pull his tail or he’ll rush you...what do you think happens next?...she heard him cry and without even talking to me. She scoops him up and she storms out of my place. Then a few hours later she blows up my phone “You need to put Nicco down” “he likes to bite children” “why the fuck did you let that happen you asshole”. I didn’t respond. I simply ignored her and haven’t talked to her since.
so just like you? you were a kid too
If you are dating a woman with children just know that you can be dismissed at the drop of a hat. She can always retreat emotionally to the comfort of being a mother and caring for her children. The state is the father and you are replaceable.
Wow, I was literally about to pay for a therapist to ask these same questions but you just answered them, I’m going to watch this twice a day for the next month, thank you
Same
Twice a day for free. Not only single woman will hate him, therapist too 😂
Read or listen to the book. All the answers are there.
Better go to a therapist.. honestly, it's the best decision I ever made. This here is terrible, generalised advice and an echo chamber of people who had the same shitty experience, which is how they ended up on this video. It's extremely biased. For every bad experience portrayed here, there are good ones which you won't hear about, because those people don't congregate in TH-cam videos to collectively vent their hate.
Women aren't even that nurturing anymore.
No...they expect you to be strong enough to not need nurturing.
think about these kids growing up with these women. i thought incel femenist women buying sperm would create monsters. but, this, omg, if we think 2020 been crazy. the next lvl of crazy shit will be when these grow up into their 20s and above. The new normal for young men will be the psychological profile of Norman Bates from psycho. Or Ed Gain.
@@Shootskas I think he's talking about children here, who do need nurturing. And we expect womyn to be as strong and independent as they claim to be and not expect us to nurture them anymore.
Idk what type of women your dating but i love to caress my man and take care of him , make him dinner . And get in the bubble bath with him give him massage. With a bottle of wine of course .
@@kekesdream3886 u give him massage with a winebottle? Seems painful.
My mom always, since I was a teenager, told me NEVER date a woman / girl with luggage. And listen I did. 😁
“Fortune you have” in my best Yoda voice.
WISE CHOICE!
she gave u good advice
Your mother is a wise woman
Dated a single mom for 7 months after coming out of an 8 year relationship. We had top tier chemistry but she was very aggressive in pushing to advance the relationship and when I tried to slow it down she would emphasize how she “doesn’t have a lot of time and isn’t here to mess around.” She has a victim mindset and brought a lot of drama and tried to pit my friends against me. I broke up with her.
Reached out 4 months later to rekindle and we attempted to give it a shot but she held a grudge against me from the first go around. Kept telling me this most recent time how I needed to earn her back, constantly gave me mixed signals, was selfish, solipsistic, and backed out 3 weeks into the rekindling process. Overall, she was drama ridden, victim mindset, and put down the vast majority of men she dated. The only ones she didn’t put down were blue pilled betas who she used them for their resources and left.
I doubt she will ever find her Hallmark ending. Avoid single moms like the plague, boys.
I had a ex friend like this I don’t talk to her at all
"how I needed to earn her back," Scary. She did you a favor. Be thankful you got out. I dated one like that too for a year. It was a nightmare. She was calling me and dropping by my home un-invited for 20 years. I asked her to pay back the money she "borrow" from me. That set her off and decided to punish me by ending the communication. Im just glad its over.
Sounds like you got issues aswell
This is a video I viewed prior to dating Monica as I was researching what it's like to date a single mom as I had never dated a single mom before. Sadly, almost a year later, the relationship has ended and everything this video speaks to is true and speaks much truth to power.
The vídeo is really HONEST and FAIR, and covers many real aspects of dating a single mom. It took me 4-5 years to see those truths. The actful kid... this hit me particularly hard as the boy was 9-10 yoa and very verbally abusing towards me. I went through so much that now that the kid is almost 14-15y, it just drives me nuts to know that the next men in her line will not experience 1/10 of what I went through. I don't regret dating, but it is so true when Richard mentions the pain of separation from the kids when the relationship comes to an end. Not sure if I want to numb myself in order to protect me emotionally and be able to date another one. It is tough.
Single fathers should only date single mothers and vice versa. Those without children should stick to other people who don't have kids.
The JSB
naw...I have a kid and still avoid most single mothers.
I think men and women handle things differently.
Even though I have a kid, my patience with dating a woman with kids was just slim to none.
The problem with this is you get slim pickens as you get older. I am 38 years old and have no kids. Try finding a woman at my age with no kids
Ryu0rKen
Limiting belief. Get rid of it.
And also, there are plenty of women "your age" without any kids. I've met and enjoyed experiences with them.
Or
Like brnt034 said, go younger, 30 up, or if you feel like robbing the cradle, go 20 something.
My point is this, women without kids are plentiful. Finding a woman with honor and sensible logic, kids or not, is something entirely different.
Not in this area. My company is in the coal region of PA unfortunately. Most people here are blue collar with kids by early 20s and divorced. I can't just leave because I took the transfer in the company for a better position. Back home yea you are correct plenty of women with no kids and middle aged even.
no people should date whoever they want to. if a guy with no kids wants to date a single mother then by all means if he's willing to deal with the children. same thing goes for the other way around. if you're not willing to deal with children then don't date a single mother or father.
The worst part is that they expect you to treat them like they are 18yo virgins again.
Lord Flame not like an 18 yr old but a little respect goes a long way.
What? 😂😂😂 So what are you like a rich prince from Arabia? So we don't deserve respect since we're not 18 year old virgins anymore? 😂😂😂😂😂
lol bro they not 18 year old virgins no more they thought they was when they were 18 but really lost it at 14.
Lord Flame Western country are the place where people don't care about virgin or maybe they lose it before they knew they have it
Liz Madrid so your use up you ability to pair bond decrease more likely to switch partner easily
I married a women who had a 4 year old and a 1 year old when I met her. We are long divorced but the the 1 year old is now 15 and stays at my house 50% of the time. She is the best thing in my life and we couldn’t be closer. She’s always called me dad.
Tried it once when I was 35. Absolute worst relationship ever. Woman was a closet alcoholic, the Ex was a drug addict with a gun. they fought non-stop, she moved her DAD into the place, the 2 kids were 1-3 and she tried to make me a stay at home dad. I was the 5th priority. When I broke it off after 3 months she lied to me about being pregnant, then gangstalked me with her friends. SHE WAS NEVER PREGNANT. NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOM unless maybe shes a widower and the kid is dead and the ex is out of the picture. LMAO
Made me laugh hard and I a single mother with a GROWN kid
Bro😂 dead kid 🤣
"Never date/marry a single mother" was rule #1 when I was single. Never raise another man's kid...NEVER. Single fellas, learn from this man's past mistakes. Leave those women alone. There are millions more
And those single women are even sexier than those single mothers
@@omegadragoon1544 Sorry we're not interested in promiscuous woman.
I was married for 15 years to a women with two kids from two different men. The part where Rich says, "You Will Never Matter as Must as the Kids"!!!!! is dead on. You are there to help facilitate the support and upbringing of the kids and depending on the type of women the upbringing part is suspect. Your time, money, resources, the stress and B.S that you put up with is never truly appreciated.
Learning that now
@John Billing amen ☺️
Truth.
My wife of 15 years just left me. We have 3 kids. The last 4 years I was pushed back of that line. When I would bring up how I felt, She would make me feel bad and I had to apologize! Lmao. Even after that I never thought of leaving. She’s so consumed by the kids and her mom. She completely kept pushing me aside always prioritized the kids and her mom. Good luck to the next guy!! Not going to lie Best thing thats happened to me. She will regret her decision one day.
Wait those are your biological kids?
Yeah all three are mine, a year later now I’m being alienated from them. Being accused of abuse. All cause I’ve moved on from her.
@@Kai...999 yeah all three. Now I’m being alienated from them. All because I’ve moved on from her. It hasn’t been easy, she’s thrown a lot of crap my way this past year. I dont react to anything she does, drives her crazy. Reason why I’m being alienated now, trying to hit me where it really hurts.
Dated, married and divorced a single mom. One thing I felt when with her and her daughter, was I felt at times I was the daughters older brother... I couldn’t disappoint, and was expected just to be a friend... was very strange and broke me down.
You’re not the dad so why would you think you would be viewed that way
@@Graciehunter32 probably because he was expected to be like a dad, paying bills, time money, doing everything abdad would do, but be called a dad
@@Takedownman you’re not the father and never will be, you’re not related to them, it’s his own fault for forcing his way into someone’s life and expecting them to thank him
@@Graciehunter32 And he should never try he should leave those children to rot
@@Takedownman who said the kids would rot? If they have their own father in their lives they do not need another one
Single mothers priority order: 1. Kids/Herself 2. Cat/Dog 3. Her fellow single mothers 4. You (subject to move up the list briefly if she wants you to buy her something for herself or the kids).
You forgot about all of her baby daddy's. You'll be supporting the women and her bratty kids while the kids sing praises to their daddy's who see them once a year at Christmas time.
you forgot her family (eg mom). so you are #5
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of course her priority is going to be her kids dumbass how selfish are you
One of the hundreds of reasons why I don't date women with kids. I don't want to be number 2\3\4 in a woman's life I want to be her main priority as she will be mine.
Worst experience I ever had in my life. Nine years wasted trying to raise someone else's children. You nailed it bad behavior is never addressed by the mother.
Same here man and she had three kids .We lasted ten years ,seven married .Never again with a woman with kids.
Well that's not due to beeing a single mom that's just her parenting style, Wich is permissive and very damaging to a child, I'm a single mom and I set boundaries for my child.
That is true i lived it for 8 years never again.
@@lizmadrid7996 You have a point..dysfunctional parenting, but also dysfunctional in how she handles her romantic relationship.The problem isn't being a single mother per say, but it can be a symptom of a bigger problem. A person who isn't capable of nurturing healthy relationships will end up alone. Not all single mothers are damaged, but all damaged women with kids will end up single mothers.
@@force9485 I've never heard that before about single mothers and is intersting, I will look into it or ask a therapist if I get a chance!
This is spot on advice. Speaking from experience. 😅 The entire time I watched this memories came to me of being on vacation with my ex’s kid, and all the times “mama bear” protected her little cub. It doesn’t matter how well you and the single mom get along well together either, kids throw an entirely different dynamic into the scenario.
He’s right and I know from being the son of mother that was in a relationship like this.
Thankfully my Step Dad came into my life (I just call him dad) when I was young and I’m so happy he did.
They got married pretty quickly and they stuck it out til my mother passed but I saw how hard she was on him. His life was a living nightmare to the point that I’d step in every once and a while and ask my mom to stop.
I remember many times that I’ve wanted to hang with my dad and do something cool but she always had to ruin it and never let us go anywhere. I felt bad for my Dad, he really tried.
He still my best friends and we love each other so much but my point is that you will have it hard. Don’t do it if you can avoid it.
If you can find a single mother that is a reasonable woman and makes time for your guys relationship, than I think that’s fine but that’s hitting the lotto in this time and age.... unfortunately
I've found a lady, who has a kid but the kid lives with the dad. She only visits every now and then. Do you think this is safe for me? She would like to start a family with me.
@@adamknight5089 there’s a reason why the kid lives with the dad ?
@@LA-lq1zf I'm not totally sure, but she spends about 3 months a year in another state, for financial reasons (more pay). And travels to her home country maybe once a year also.
@@adamknight5089 if you’re okay with her being away for those time periods and she’s shown to be a woman of substance then I see no problem with it. If you think about having a family with her make sure you’d want your daughters to be raised by a woman who will have to leave for months because of work. As long as you’re okay with it.
My step dad has been in my life since I was two. I wish I would have never been forced to know my blood father. My stepdad is who I call dad today
Every date ive gone on with a single mother only revolved around what i could do for her and her kids. There was never anything in it for me. Ill never date a single mother again
Did she stand you up come up with a bullshit excuese that she can not find a baby sitter
That's the way all women are generally but it's worse with single moms.
Single broke moms make the most demands lol.
..........and You are one of the smart one's
East africa in the building
I was about 20 or 21 years old when my granddaddy told me to never get in a ready made family and he said it just like that. He was born in 1914 dropping knowledge like that, I decided to go my own way and I didn't take the advice. I'm now 45 years old and my granddaddy has gone on and now I'm going through it with my soon to be ex wife, who told me after 10 years of raising her two kids who now are 16 and 24 that her kids come before me and not only did she just say it she showed me. I should have took my granddaddy advice. This vid is so on point, no matter how much of yourself you give you will always by the end never get your crown 👑..
Gregory Evans wow, I am learning alot browsing through the comments...
Ill take your lessons to heart!!
As a 20 something year old, ill use your unfortunate experience to grow, learn and avoid the same thing.
Thanks and sry for your shitty experience 😓
Gregory Evans
Noticed the timing of that. You say 10 years.
That's the magic number for her to qualify for your social security benefits.
May the 4th be with you.
Gregory Evans I’m so sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately there are some women who are not ready or that has been hurt.
But every woman is not the same.....
@@latashajohnson1787 jeez i wish feminist believe that bout men too
It took my son marrying and divorcing one single mother and a bad break-up with another to realize single mothers are usually single for a reason. Hopefully this is a lesson that will stick with him.
"realize single mothers are usually single for a reason"
EXACTLY!!!
Lmao some women run from the guy my mom was physically abused and left him lmao don’t just bash women
@@503ashkatchem4 The fact you find that funny tells me you're full of shit.
Appreciated this … seems like a lot of men on here have forgotten why some of us are single… like it was a choice not a safety hazard.
"You will never matter as much to the woman as her children." Well, and in the rare cases where this is not so, then those are the kind of women you certainly don't want to associate with.
What about prominent men who don’t need a mommy to support them ?
@@AN-jz3px , what are you on about? Do you not love your mother?
in the interest of helping others...
I dated (I wanted to marry this girl. loved her to death) a mom with two kids. I made a decision, in my heart and mind to do this. I knew deep down, it was probably going to be a bad idea, but I went through with it anyway... because love... I set my heart on this girl, and her kids... It wasn't long before the well being of her kids became the most important thing in the world to me. and honestly, I still look back at that time like the best time in my life... but, like you said... shit just didn't work out, and in an instant, I was no longer a part of their lives... these children I loved with all my heart, where no longer a part of my life, and there wasn't anything I could do about it... that shit broke me down so bad, it took me literally years before I would even let somebody close again. I don't exactly blame her for my heart ache, but I do look at every woman I meet a bit different now...
My sympathies. I guess you didn't know she was turning those kids on you behind your back ? That's why they could dump on you like that. It's not their fault. Down side is they'll never believe you. Sad fact, it's called parental alienation.
MGTOW I don't think she did that. When I saw them a few times after, they would both run up to me and grab on-to my legs, and tell me they missed me. A couple times, they told me they wanted to come live with me. Which just fucking killed me inside... But what was I supposed to do right.
Thanks for the support. It is appreciated... This was kind of a long time ago, and I'm a grown man now. Live and learn, I guess.
Go /r/redpill or MGTOW, dude.
If you had, you Would have avoided that mess.
TheControlBlue I keep hearing that. What does "red pill" mean exactly? I think of the matrix, Everytime somebody says that. Lol
It's actually /r/theredpill, and yes it's inspired from the Matrix but it's more about the false reality and myths ("Single moms are so great XDDXD", for example) that has been created around the relations between men and women by modern society.
It's kinda like swallowing the Red Pill.
You are up for a ride.
i support single moms every time i go to the strip club.
🤣
Savage 😂
Beast mode!
Or Rub and Tugs .
Luis J Gomez?
I thought this was a well thought out fair video. Rich didn't point fingers, or say single mothers are the worst. He just was straight about the fact that it's serious business, and not to be taken lightly.
I just got rejected by a single mom with an 8y/o. I She complained that I wasn't stepping up enough, so she dumped me. I found out that she was hiding the kid from me to make herself look more appealing, and I never let on that I knew. good thing we were only talking for a few months! Best thing to happen to me!! Lesson learned!! And NEVER looking back!!
Don’t do it it’s ain’t your child from the first start
Even when your their bio father and you divorce I've been told these are my Children only yours when maintenance rears its head
It’s rough because when you’re in your 30’s almost all chicks have kids.
Date younger
I'm 35 & many ladies in their late 20's & early thirties already have kids.. Dating single moms can be hard...
No it's not. You have to date 20 year olds.
@@jellybeans9283 This. Im mid-30s and rarely date older than mid 20's.
u date 20s .....duhhhhhhhh
I made the mistake. Dont do it!!! Run!!!
Its hard enough to stomack a girl wit a high body count. A kid? Nooooo way.
I did a feeble attempts and thank God I did it feebly because I dodged bombs most only had 1 child but I met a woman who at the time had 1 child ok we started talking but she turned me off when the next time I saw her she was pregnant with her 2nd child I never looked at her the same again and she now have 5 kids single mothers with more than 1 child put your tracks shoes on and run as fast as you can.
I did the same but she had a demon kid that put a stop to that relationship. Lol
Im in the process of getting out
Like Di carpio said on the film Wall street "Run motherfucker run!"
I dated a single mom with a daughter who was 4 years old when we started dating. Over 4 years. I spent thousands of dollars traveling to see her and even more on gifts and dinners etc., for both of them. Upon returning home one day from visiting, she just didn’t answer my calls anymore. When I finally talked to her, she only said she “needed to move on”... I thought about all the money I spent during those 4 years. I was mad for about an hour but then thought to myself, I really didn’t wanna be anyone else’s daddy!!! So, I was actually kinda glad she ended it! And like I use to tell her during our arguments, I’ve never had any trouble finding a woman...
Omg , I think this is my third comment ever in internet . I’m so thankful, I’m just coming out of a relationship that you just described . Now I realized how little she valued me. And how much I gave for her. Thank you
Same here
In this order:
1] Men love women
2] Women love kids
3] Kids love puppies
and puppies love men....men if you want unconditional love get a dog..you'll never get it from a single mother
Jus Me Tbh I don't want to fuck dogs.
+Martini Bernardino LOL right?
TheSilentObserver
How true !
Lol so true
💯% Undated a woman with a 12 year old daughter. The daughter like to boss us around and the woman would just go along with it. I brought it up to her and she acted like it was a personal attack on her daughter. I didn't have an issue with the child my issue was with her not correcting the child. So I broke up with her.
Hey Bilbo Baggins - Wow, I had the same situation with a single mom only she had a 12 year old boy who did the same thing, and his mom reacted the same as the mom in your story. Amazing.
You did the right thing. Women need to learn how to correct their own children.
damn it really does seem single moms are all the same. I just broke with my gf. she has a 12yo daughter bossing her around. two days ago I was leaving for a beer or two after spending the whole weekend with them. when her daughter asked where I am going I said I am going for a beer. so the kid started yelling "alcoholic". quite disrespectful since I have my shit together quite well but like my damn beer. mom just laughed and thought what a fun. at the door mom told me "see even the kid says so". that was it for me. I know that little spoiled one is just too stupid to understand but I expected her mom to stand up. nope, not all. when I told her what pissed me off she acted like I was attacking her child; however, what pissed me off was her not doing shit about it and using it for her own agenda. fuck that. always fkn high drama, daily mood swings and at the end of the day I was the bad one. just don't date single moms.
Not only does the single mother allow her kids to disrespect you, but the kids also allow their friends to disrespect you. If its teens it gets worse..the male wants to kick your ass, and gets his friends to help, if its a female, she calls her boyfriend. This mess just mushrooms, and the single mother sits back and watches.
Well done.
This video just made EVERYTHING so clear for me about our breakup! Thank you!!
Did it from the time my stepson was 10 till 21, no thanks, not grateful at all! That was some serious wasted time! My love turned into resentment for him and his mother!
No doubt man
I actually married a single mother... I would not recommend it to anyone
J Bertrand
So did I. It's hard to find a decision I've made that was worse, and I've done meth before. FML
Timothy Farrand I hear ya.
bryan81
Jesus helped me not beat the brains out of her. I was gonna drill her face one time in a rage. Jesus woke me up before that happened, thank GOD. I don't need a DV charge that will take away my rights to own a gun
That’s really sad. What happened that you would recommend it?
J Bertrand Wow - Respect for that insight.
You're NOT my *DAAAD!*
🤣🤣🤣😂😂
Family doesn't end In blood .I got that line from a TV show .
When the kid says that, just cut him off. Don't spend time or resources on him.
Erickk isreal I mean u kinda have to spend resources if u want to be with the mom .😐
alfredo perez sure I'll spend on the mom depending on how she treats me but I definitely won't spend on kids that aren't mine unless its my job (teacher)
Literally, today 29-5-2020 I close a relationship with my girl, a mom with a little girl and a little boy. All right what you said!
Guys, you are good and you are not the problem.
Don’t play the “super hero”, you are not the person that will fix her past.
Move on and check for a good single woman! Don’t waste your time.
Thank you for this video! I was recently hit on by a single mother. I'm in Canada so our laws are messed up. Long story short, you can be on the hook paying support for a child that isn't yours! I explained to her that I don't date single moms, and she came back with the "who hurt you? "... "you're missing out on a great opportunity"... "I'm not like other women". I came back with, the law is the law and thst you can't give me any guarantees that you won't take me for all I have. Thank you Rich!!!!!
Just tell her that you are not trying to waste her time. You are conscious that she doesn’t have all the time in the world to get married so you don’t want to waste her time.
Dating a single mom = dating a lady in a relationship with 12 other guys
@Lilly i think that the difference relies on that the single mother has lost his man (so to speak) and she knows that her family will never fix back so all that it's left are all the other men that she didn't choose therefore she could choose whomever it just doesn't matter anymore, she already have chosen her children's father, for the better or the worse, her second choice are all the other men so they all worth the same to her. all this happening at an unconscious level
Yup not really a relationship on my end
1. Her baby daddy who cheats on his wife with her. Was with her for 3 years while married too but they hook up on and off
2. Her cousin yes her cousin who is married to her immigration papers but...suspect more
3. Her ex in between her baby daddy
4. Her 1st boyfriend who is now married but still wants too hook up with her by regularly hitting her up
5. Unknown friend who she says wants her.
But says she can't be with me after feeling bad hooking up 20 times because she needs to be good with God....
I dated a son of a single mother. The mother made him into a replacement husband
I dating a chic with a 12 year old son. For whatever reason, in Wal-Mart he decided to kidney punch me, laugh and jump back.
I told him to knock it off, he didn't.
I cracked him one right across the face. He told his mom, she confronted me, I told her what I did, what he did, and that I'll do it again making eye contact with the kid.
He got it. She got mad.
We broke up.
Lul Lipop Bummer
Lul Lipop. You have to set boundaries with these brats.
If you are reasonable and, in a situation like this, the little bastard doesn't react to explanations, then the only way that remains, to set boundaries, is with pain.
If the mother doesn't understand, then you have to leave.
The conflict in this triangle will only escalate.
Then this mom is going to blame the absence of a man (father) for her ending up in handcuffs
🤣
Lul Lipop You would've broken up anyway you might as well show the kid what happens when you like the bear.
I'm catching this late unfortunately. Definitely appreciate this. I spoke up every time when her child was acting out. Even though this was a "conservative" woman she sided with her daughter most of the time. Needless to say, and thankfully, I escaped that hell. I even think she came across the article one day about your opinion on single moms. She brought the details mentioned in the article up to me and while I was still very much with her I said straight up, "the guy is right."
I am 30 years old and now married (2 year) and looking forward to our first child together. This man is dropping knowledge! I once dated a woman with children and he is spot on!
2024. I am 51. In 1996 I was 23 stationed in Germany 🇩🇪 & wanted to marry a 23 year old beautiful Brazilian 🇧🇷 woman with 2 kids. Thankfully, she dumped me. I moved on but 1999 she married another Army guy.
2004 the Army sent me back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 3 weeks & coincidentally, I SAW HER!!! We had lunch! She had 2 more kids so 4 total.
I got married in 2011 & have 2 lovely girls.
2019 I got sent back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 9 months. I did NOT look her up.
2020 back on base during 4 weeks of boring Covid quarantine I found her FB … DIVORCED in 2018 & re-married and OLDER GERMAN GUY!! I dodged a BULLET / TRAIN 🚂 WRECK!! She has left a trail of destruction behind her!!
Guys- PROTECT. YOUR. HEART. RAISE. YOUR. STANDARDS!!!
I was in the same situation. The thing is when you cut ties, CUT TIES! Don't talk to her AT ALL! Not even a hi, text, wave NOTHING! Move on. Women have a tendency to want to "stay friends" with their past relationships which is toxic. Especially for you.
DJ High This is good advice.
I had a toxic ex-boyfriend who tried pulling that crap too. It's largely a sociopathic control thing.
M Halvaresh Not everything a guy does is a sociopathic thing, can't we lay down these ridiculous terms for a minute and just say the guy was a douche!
Yup!
DJ High VERY TRUE BRO
I have experienced this. Now at my age I will never meet anyone who does not have kids. I was always expendable. It is better to be alone than to be expendable.
People are always expendable, that is nature.
Tom Hänel That's fucking bs! Plan well and save and you can hire someone's adult child to wipe your ass...
"Being alone is only possible because of the welfare state" Get real! It's the welfare state that has created these Queens and made men disposable. Sorry it's late for me... I just had to respond to your silly comment.
Tom Hänel I'm sorry man... I thought you were implying that single men are a burden on the system when they get old. It was late...and I made a mistake. Jokes on me! Lol have a nice day!
Gentugo how old are you??
Tom Hänel You worded that horribly, my man. If you wanted that to be the desired result, it should have been something like: "The only reason you have to be alone is due to the welfare state."
A smart mortician can tell when he is working on a single mother. Whenever he turns his back to her gurney she tries to pick his wallet.
I once met a single mom who told me that her next man had to love her in this order: "Jehovah, my children and then me". I never ever asked her out on a date. I stayed far away from this woman.
My best friend had an affair with my wife, we have 2 kids. They've all moved in together now and shes took the kids with her. After watching this it's made me realise what he's gonna be up against. Good luck mate haha :D
The Raph bro sorry that happened!! You may feel like killing the dude.
But let me tell you the relationship won't work! And soon they will spilt and she will try to comeback to you! That's when you bash her face and tell her to FUCK OFF!
The Raph wow your best friend did this? It won't last just never look back at her dude move forward without her, only deal with the kids if she let you, but don't even fight to see them if she's blocking you.
omg dude...they fucked you over. Did you beat his ass up?
Mitch MC I hope you wouldn't beat up any man that got the opportunity to sleep with your wife or girlfriend, that's a simp behavior, a real man would take his pride, and walk away from the situation with no incident, I wouldn't even wanna deal with the kids, unless she willingly provides visitation am fucking running, these people are below your standard, if she lets him fuck her, and she knows he's your friend, you would fight for something like that??? I think it's moronic, at this point I wouldn't want anything to do with it, and you know the kids are living with two people that betrayed their father, why stick around, that bitch would have to hire the U.S MARSHALS to find me put on your best running shoes and get the fuck away from that situation 🏃💨💨💨💨💨💨👨👩👧👦
Mitch MC how long do you think he's gonna stick around raising another mans legacy, he's a simp if he's trying to start a family with his best friend wife and kids, women with kids should just be a piece of ass, only sucker will show up at a thanksgiving reunion talking bout yes this is my new girlfriend, and those are her 3 kids from another man, and he was my buddy at one point lol 😂
I see a lot of guys online this time of year who are complaining about not being able to afford Christmas for their kids and step kids and I'm over here going this is exactly why I live the single life
Chris Kelly84 lol facts
Teach them kids to give not get, that is where most parenting goes wrong, shit... they grow up to be spoiled, manipulative, all about me adults... shit, its about giving not getting, I never stress out on the holidays , I told my kids santa is mexican he got deported hanging with El Chapo long time ago, we don't celebrate xmas😂🤣🤣😂...plus the xmas is not set up for minorities
So I can definitely share my story, I dated my now ex for over 6 years and I am now 46 days single. Her daughter is only 7 years old with no father figure but her dad. I wanted only the best for her, helped her get into one of the best universities in NJ(shes not going anymore), got her a brand new expensive car, put her under my health insurance, had her living with me while her daughter is being taken cared of by her mom, put her under my cellphone plan, literally anything! We were on and off and in the off she decided to date and right away sleep with another dude (hence the 46 days) long story short is exactly how you stated brother, it's sucks because I've developed such a great relationship with her daughter and her family but it's done due to her wanting to move on.
As a man all I am doing is focusing my energy not on what is she doing, who is this guy, we had great memories, i may have feelings for her etc. Thats all a fantasy thats not real anymore. Sometimes your biggest struggle can be your best blessing you just needed to see not what you lost but what you are doing RIGHT NOW to better yourself, the past is the past it's today you have to worry about. Since we broke up, i just got myself a lexus, was promoted for a higher role (senior account manager) with significantly higher pay in my company, just closed on my first condo (i am 30 years old and i feel old haha), have more money in my pocket, I run every morning and training heavy each and everyday at the gym, life so far has been nothing but a blessing from the man above, does it suck being lonely yes but at the end of the day thats all it is a thought, an illusion, a fantasy that is made up in my head and how do i stop it, MEDITATING!
I hope we all can heal if you are going through something like this!
SHE. DID. YOU. A. FAVOR. ! Enjoy young man ! Lol. I am 48. Seize the day bud!!
When I turned 30, I got into a relationship with a divorced lady a bit older than me with several kids aged 5 - 13. The parents had never disciplined them and they ran the house. So I became the only source of boundaries or discipline they had ever known. The woman loved me but wanted to own me like they do, while the kids hated me. Let's just say that those were some challenging times! I finally escaped after 11 years... Got re-married to a childhood sweetheart and had a child, after 8 years the new one went batshit crazy and left. I finally learned to stand on my own feet and invest in myself. I think any future relationships will be just a bit more 'casual'...
He's telling the truth, I dated a woman with a child, the acted like a brat, and the woman totally defended the child
Jack Creaig You’re hundred percent right. I did myself a favor got the fuck out of there. No regrets doing so
I have tried dating several single moms in the past few years. I am coming to the conclusion that there are plenty of reasons they are single.
Vidar D wow
The Big 4: Money, sex, work, and hobbies. They’re divorced for one of those 4....
5. The daddy turned into asshole after short time.
5 reasons a woman is single at 30+:
1- divorced, his fault... all men are at fault
2- divorced, her fault ... she crazy
3- divorced, his fault but ultimately her fault... she crazy
4- widowed... you’ll never be as good as the dear departed
5- never married... she crazy cat lady
I married a divorced, his fault but her fault. He cheated on her, because she is a narcissist crazy woman. He searched for peace.
I’m divorcing her for that same reason.
Yeah her kids were demonic. All I’m going to say on that.
I married a mother of 2 boys, both from different fathers. Yea, it was a mess and I wouldn't advise anyone to try it. She wouldn't let me discipline the boys or give them chores (we lived on a ranch) and made sure I knew they were her boys and she was in charge of them. I had been previously married and had 2 sons that were younger then her boys and she ended up running my boys off and they didn't want to come see me anymore. We went through a messy divorce that cost me close to $400,000. Definitely avoid single moms.
In other words, you abandoned your two sons to raise someone else’s two sons. You give all of us men a bad name.
Honorable men do not go start a new family when the first attempt fails, no matter who is at fault. You stay available for your kids and do NOT start a new family. You are a piece of garbage and your kids know it.
Sadly this was almost to point how my last relationship went wrong with a single mother. Thanks for posting this. You got a sub. Great content here!
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Peace,
R
This video is the pot calling the kettle black. You've made your choices. Single fathers should stick to single mothers and not justify diminishing the dating pool for people who have not yet started a family. Would you want your daughter dating a single father?
Entrepreneurs in Cars You definitely don't want to date black women, and especially black single mothers....👎👎👎
The JSB - What planet do YOU live on? To ask him if he'd want his daughter to date a single father is like saying he'd want his single with kids daughter to remain without companionship for the rest of her life.
When women end up single with kids they EXPECT men with OR without kids of his own to accept them and want to be with them. I guess it's the old idea of "men won't turn down pussy".
However, women (hypocrites that they always are) who DO NOT have kids most often times REFUSE to date a man who already had kids with someone else. EVEN THOUGH the man 99.9% of the time does NOT have full custody and has PLENTY of free time to offer the new relationship.
So....if you want to talk about pots calling kettles black, go talk to all the single mothers who want new BF's but when they didn't have kids yet, they turned down GOOD men based on HIM having already had children.
Karma is a bitch. No...karma is actually a douche bag. ;)
WhereMy DogsAt Absolutely!
dating a single mother of 5 kids drove me to alcoholism. i havent been with her in a year and im still in recovery
Man, is like I'm living right now the exact same thing you talked about. I have been thinking about getting out for the last few weeks, I literally can't take it anymore. I have been in this relationship for about 6 years now, both her kids were 9 and 11 when we got together, they are now 15 and 17, I have raised this kids for the most part and have been with them longer than his real father, but no matter what I have done and provided it was never good enough, on top of that the youngest goes to his biological father's house for 2 weeks out of a year and comes back insufferable, with all kinds of new ideas and believes, I mean we had an argument where he said his parents (mother and father) not me, support him financially for all his expenses, that man has never given a penny towards anything!!!.he was never even put on child support by the kid's mother. He abandoned his family when they were 1 and 3 years old, signed a paper that said he gives up all rights to the kids in exchange for not paying child support and yet this boy thinks this guy is the best father in the world. I have had to deal with all kinds of shit and I am just tired. I mean he wanted nothing to do with them until only 4 or 5 years ago! is a ridiculous situation and I'm convinced after watching this video that I had it.
John Smith Run run like the wind.
city lights Pattaya lol
John Smith leave her fast
MGTOW agree skeet and skedaddle
Get the hell out of this hellhole asap, they are someone else's kids in the end,
you are going to spend your life to raise kids that won't even share your blood.
3 years ago, I watched this video shortly after i started dating my now ex fiance who has a 6 year old daughter, and took your advice with a pinch of salt. 3 years later looking at your video now i realized i should've been honest with myself and left the relationship alot sooner. Going through a mental breakdown amongst other things, i believed staying and sticking it out was the honorable thing to do. I still believe that no matter what you try and work things out but she's the one that felt different and left me. Would be great if you could do a video of life after dating a single mom. Thanks for sharing your experience. Marshall (South-Africa)
Yeah, wish I had understood this a long time ago. Not only dated a single mom, but married her. Worst mistake of my life. Marriage lasted 2-years. When you are a step-parent be prepared to get all of the blame and zero credit. You are just there to shut-up and provide...
I am 48. In 1995 I was 22 US Army stationed in Germany 🇩🇪. Met gorgeous Brazilian who had 2 kids w German and was getting divorced. I fell in lust. Moved in. But, I knew it was a bad call. Army asked if I wanted to extend 1 more year in Germany? I said no, knowing it would hasten our break up. It did. 1998, I was back in USA 🇺🇸, and got a Christmas 🎄 card from her w new last name Tucker and military address. She married another soldier. 2004, I bumped into her in Germany 🇩🇪 again !! She had another kid w the American. I was an officer now. We had a 1 hour conversation. Caught up. They moved to Georgia. 2019, I went back to Germany. I FB peeked her. Divorced. I am happy w my wife and 2 kids in California. I was lucky 🍀. It’s painful. Like cutting off your infected leg. But, you will be better off. Trust me. I wish I could talk to her 2nd ex husband and ask if he felt it was worth it. He got 2 kids out of her, so maybe? But, now I know she is bound to him and Georgia for YEARS due to custody. Oh well. Life.
Dated a separated women with a couple of kids, got to know them, made a big effort, bought them gifts helped with birthdays and halloween costumes. I put up with only seeing her when she was free and didn't make any demands from her. After a year, her divorce became final and she ended the relationship so she could be free. A couple of weeks before I was decorating the Christmas tree with her and the kids. Now I don't see or hear about them or her. You don't matter in this scenario, you're like a treat, a luxury, you're not a necessity.
The last I heard from her was that she was dating men from Bumble because she gets 'lonely'.
It's honestly a lot of investment from you, for very little return and a slim chance of a future. The heartbreak was much worse because you fool yourself into thinking that they're family. They're not. They care about each other, but not you.
Very very true...
🎯🎯 sums it up... They care about each other, but not you! She needed the help. The kids might've cared about you but they always - ALWAYS chose the mom right or wrong.
Dang bro. That last part hit home.
Yep.. It happening to me now.. After so many efforts, not a ''thank you'' or nothing... She just block me and bye
Absolutely true. You are always the outsider, and no matter how much you do for them it's never appreciated.
The only thing that did not get mentioned a whole lot in this video is dealing with the kid's biological father. Ive heard countless horror stories of a father and step father getting into a violent confrontation which usually ends up with one or both either going to jail or to the morgue.
Glad I found this video. Most of the coaching stuff I watched was for single women w/no kids. I was dating a single mom recently that miraculously fell in love with me in 2 months. I worked a lot and she worked a lot, add 2 kids on top of that... sad to say it lasted 4 months because, in her words- We were to busy to make things work and she was afraid she would never be invested as I was, which I'm betting another toy came along. This video put what I experienced in absolute perspective. Not putting her down because I did love for her from the time we did have but, in the end it will never work, you will never be a priority!
This video really helped me not to be so hard on myself. I am just finalizing a divorce with a woman that has 4 kids and the oldest (now 21) is handicapped and very co-dependent and never liked me in the 6 years that I have known them. I beat myself up trying to be a good role model and fill in for an absent father that left them for 2 years. Anyway, thank you for the knowledge, I will never repeat this mistake along with their mother that had huge daddy issues and grew up in the foster care system. I was dumb in not trusting my gut.
100% spot on. I am just coming out of almost 4 years of the same situation. Zero or inconsistent discipline every day. As a veteran and career police officer, this was more challenging than being on an actual field of battle. I don't think I'd be willing to ever do it again.
I am a widow and have a 15 year old son. My husband died 9 years ago. It's been a struggle ever since his father died. Now he has become a disrespectful holy terror. He's bigger than me and he won't listen to me. I would honestly love to have a big strong good man to whip him into shape!! He would never be acting like this if his father was here. Being a single mother is beyond hard. And to those women that still have their kids father alive and well, either try to work on the marriage for your children, or be fantastic co-parents! Either way, kids don't take mothers seriously, and they desperately need boundaries and discipline! Good men are priceless! I would treasure, at this point having a significant other who would maybe teach him how to grow into a good man and respectful human being. Ladies, don't throw the fathers of your kids away. It's about the kids, not you. So if you still have the opportunity to reconcile, for the love of God, take it.
Christopher Stuart, if she was still grieving it means she was still in love with him therefore not with you, there was no place for you there man, you were just a utility.
@@cstuartdc If it wasn't hurtful for you, then it was good. It's better if you are not in love.
Brielle Lombard I would love to talk with you if you’re serious. I am that male, you’re speaking of, so first things first. I am the father of an 11-year-old daughter, who is ruling her mother with an iron fist, it just seems to me, there is little hope her mother is going to be able to control our daughter‘s behavior. It’s interesting how at the site of me my daughter falls in line quickly and happily. She told her mother she doesn’t have any guidelines, and allow her to do anything she wants, my daughter even told me, she feel it’s wrong for her mother to give her the freedom she’s giving her, but I don’t. My daughter told me for this she feels like I love her more, can you believe that. I told her mother what my daughter said. The mother thinks our daughter doesn’t understand this, what a foolish thing to think, she’s 11 years old. It’s gotten completely out of control, in fact my daughter doesn’t allow her mother to tell me anything when daughter is misbehaving because she knows I am not going to tolerate it. So now she threatens her mother, she’s hits her mother, kicks her mother even spit on her mother......yes yes yes she’s done it all to her mother to the point her mother is completely afraid of her. I am so freakin angry, but not at my daughter, I am angry at the mother because I warned her many years ago these things were going to happen if she does not apply some discipline in my daughter’s life and or behavior, I saw the signs.
You are a widowed mother not a single mother. Don't group yourself in with divorced moms and out of wedlock moms. 💕 sending you good vibes.
In such instances, would you find boys club, or all boys boarding school or a male mentor to help him out? but it needs to be consistent. of course a remarriage would make things easier.
He is saying the truth you will never be her first priority we are just meal tickets.
You are 100% correct. In my case after 9 years and buying a home together with a single mom have realized that as you said the mother will always defend her child regardless of their misconduct. Thank you for making this politically incorrect video.
Yep my dad went through this exact same thing. He got remarried and no matter how bad the boys were, his wife always defended them against her and I think that’s was a huge contention between the two. My father wasn’t allowed to properly discipline them.
The only guy who thinks single mums are an option is a guy with no options.
The only woman who would look at you would be a woman with no options
@@teeve1500 Oh shit, you're right...how am I gonna sleep tonight? XD
@@teeve1500 NAWALT ?. I don't think so.
i beg to differ my friend.
@@teeve1500 u have a preference? Well my preference is no fuckin kids
Woman need to appreciate men who are willing to come in a relationship with a child.
Lol... most usually complain they've been treated poorly and demand to be treated like the queen they are. The load to take on is too high for the return in most cases.
@@nakedglass i dont put anyone on a pedestal. And im not a queen, and neither are they. Most are loud mouths with no dignity. I know how it feels to be treated unfairly. shit happens.
@@justjenny8210 I wasnt talking to you. But you have no proof to your claims
@@nakedglass no proof about what?.
Unfortunately most women are all too quick to let a man into their kids lives especially if she has sons rather than daughters.
This is so true. I wish my dad had stayed away from my mom. My 3 younger siblings and I were born after my dad married my mom and adopted her daughter. What a terrible life we had because of the rift caused by my older half-sister between my parents.
Run if you're a single man without children. You will not be honored or valued by single women with children, and your actual children will be treated like second-class citizens just to make sure that other child doesn't feel jealous of the biological children.
2024. I am 51. In 1996 I was 23 stationed in Germany 🇩🇪 & wanted to marry a 23 year old beautiful Brazilian 🇧🇷 woman with 2 kids. Thankfully, she dumped me. I moved on but 1999 she married another Army guy.
2004 the Army sent me back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 3 weeks & coincidentally, I SAW HER!!! We had lunch! She had 2 more kids so 4 total.
I got married in 2011 & have 2 lovely girls.
2019 I got sent back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 9 months. I did NOT look her up.
2020 back on base during 4 weeks of boring Covid quarantine I found her FB … DIVORCED in 2018 & re-married and OLDER GERMAN GUY!! I dodged a BULLET / TRAIN 🚂 WRECK!! She has left a trail of destruction behind her!!
Guys- PROTECT. YOUR. HEART. RAISE. YOUR. STANDARDS!!!
This guy is speaking the truth. You, as a man, will never be a priority with a woman with kids. Simple fact. My last four ex's had kids and i became an after thought....and a excuse for me to pay for everything. If you like doing what you like and having even just a little bit of money, it won't be yours! Listen and heed the warning!!
I’ve had 2 very bad relationships with single Mothers. In both cases I was shocked at how unruly and disrespectful the kids were.
Damn bro I'm going through this situation right now
Mom's don't know how to punish children. The kids just laugh and mock them. Haha
@ K50 AOK ; Dump her . You will save yourself a lot of hurt . If only I would had listen myself. I got married and now going through a divorce behind her daughter...You will never be able to truly get the respect you deserve from them .
I don't want anything to do with anyome's kids now a Day's!?
@@k50aok12 But I suppose you are still in that relationship because you can't get pussy anywhere else right? Dumb ass
Ah yes.....This is where some strange guy comes up to you,and says,"How's your Wife and MY kids?"
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LMMAAOOOO
This was funny
That puts it into perspective
"Wifes hot, kids are retarded" 😊
Dating a single mother is like putting gas in a car, that another man already wrecked.