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last time I checked, not that long ago, it was 92% of divorces the sole custody goes to the mother. I often get that mixed up with alimony which is 94%. So it's one or the other.
The only person to blame here is the guy You date a single woman with a kid...then inevitably she will have to meet the dad now and again...birthdays, religious events, anniversaries for grandparents etc... Yes it's not ideal, but that's what your getting into when dating single mum. She is 100% entitled to meet the ex, as in their child's dad, now and again once it's for a milestone event. If you don't want that suck it up, stop being insecure and move on
@@rogerward3390 I'm not advocating dating a single mom, but there's a HUGE difference between meeting up at a family event and going over to his place for dinner and a movie. That shit's fucked up. MOST of the time, she drops the kid off and goes back later to pick them up if it's scheduled visitation (which it should be).
My cousin married a single mommy with a 12 year old and a 7 year old. Fast forward 27 years of playing the role of daddy the wife says she wants a divorce. Now the grownup kids won’t let him be a grandpa to their kids. The grandkids don’t understand why they can’t see their grandpa. He is devastated. All of the responsibilities and none of the authority: Rich Cooper
@@strangertobluewater thats the whole point!... Biological kids are their fathers responsibility!. Its extremely honourable to take on another mans children, raise them as your own and pay for their upbringing! The betrayal of being disgarded as though it all meant nothing is disgusting.
@@vanessaloermans9563 "it's an honorable thing to be a stepdad, to raise someone else's kids...". No it's not. That's a vicious mind game, meant to trick weak men into crap relationships with single moms who have screwed up their lives, and are looking for a man to help them pay for it. It is honorable to stay with the father of your children though. It's honorable to get married and to have all your kids within that marriage. And it's extra honorable for both mom and dad to do a good job raising their own children. What most dishonorable, and dishonest, are women who make themselves single moms through bad decisions, and then try to trick good men into wasting their lives on them. These "women" get upset with everyone else when they find out their actions have repercussions, and one of those repercussions is good men of high value are taught to avoid them. Instead of rightly getting upset with themselves. But ma'am, don't ever try to tell us again what you wish was honorable for men to be doing, because you don't have a clue.
Learning to love your own company is what helped me out. I used to dislike being alone but now im starting to become addicted to solitude. Im not even worried about dating anymore.
Same ! I had big insecurities and beta tendencies which I am facing head on now . Being alone was so uncomfortable but after facing my fears and truly working on myself , I’m slowly starting to love being alone . Dating just seems like a headache now !
Just the idea that a man can legally be held liable for child support for another man's children is enough of a wake up call to never get involved with a single mother.
🎼After ten years without no spouse Momma's gettin' married in the house Listen, positive over negative for the women and master Mother queen's risin' a chapter Déjà vu, tell you what I'm gonna do When they reminisce over you, my God🎶 When I date back, I recall a man off the family tree My right hand, Poppa Doc, I see Took me from a boy to a man so I always had a father🎶 When my biological didn't bother... -Pete Rock & C.L. Smooth (They Reminisce Over You (T.R.O.Y.)
In Australia only the biological father is responsible for child support. Its disgraceful that a man would be forced to pay for children that are not his!
@@vanessaloermans9563 You are wrong, I just Google it... Family Law Act 1975, a court can impose a duty on a step-parent to financially support a child if it deems this appropriate.
@@veroniquevesta7516 😄 google!? 🤦♀️ You have raised a law that's applied only in specific circumstances. If a man step parents a child from birth or near birth and the biological father is unknown/ unidentified or not alive - then yes that law is applied to not only continue the support of the child, but also the rights of that step parent. So in turn the step father would be given legal access and ongoing custody rights. However if the biological father is known and living - then no, step fathers are not legally ordered to pay child support - unless they fight for visitation rights and take matters further in court. Its a law that was created to protect the step parent relationship. This law must be in place in the event of parent dying and step parent having ongoing legal rights in that scenario. Its an extensive law but most definitely does NOT force step parents to pay child support in place of a biological parent after a relationship break up. I can assure you as a professional that mediates, counsels and acts as a court witness on behalf of fathers (male advocacy rep) I know how it works.
A brief story: I am a single eastern European Slav working construction in the Netherlands. My workmate is 40, has an 11 year old son back in home country. The son lives with the mother. My friend lived with a single mom and her 2 daughters. He'd spend 8 weeks working abroad and 2 weeks back home, splitting time between his son and the single mom and her 2 girls. Dude works SEVEN DAYS A WEEK breaking his back doing heavy physical labour for 8 weeks. Then 2 weeks back in the county Most of the money he'd save he'd spend on the single mom household. Fixing the house, holidays, groceries, gifts, everything. She was on welfare while he was making 5-7 times what would be a month salary back home. He eventually dumped her because she'd give him a hard time if he disciplined the daughters in any way (These are not your kids, he heard). 2 days after he dumped her she was crying tears that she wants him back. She even said they should go to a psychologist!! The nerve. Stay away guys. You will never get the glory of being an actual father and you'll get all the misery of being a plough hourse. Have a great day
No man of value ever locks down a low hanging fruit single mom. Fun for a night, then show her the streets where she belongs. It’s not misogyny, it’s reality.
@@Sammoga_Yeddi who cares how good 5-30 mins of pleasure is. Not worth dealing with some crabby annoying kids who are always #1 and that aren’t yours or some goof ball baby daddy
@@brooklynmadejc4497 yes its best to date someone who has an aligned framework. But again - if a single mom does not discipline her children or believe in letting you bring honour and teach them also, then she is not an option. If you are single man with no kids - its best to match with single women with no kids. Enjoy the alignment and ease of fun, free, single women before delving into responsibility and stress.
Yes, I got played by a single mother who was much older than me. everything was amazing until she accidentally got pregnant right I was just graduating school. Ended the relationship, still paying CS but I know I would’ve been on the hook for her other kids had I stayed in the relationship. My daughter is a blessing but I would never recommend going with a single mother under any circumstances.
@@ryanjensen5897 I got covid 2 years ago and it damaged my heart and lungs and I feel so shitty all the time I haven't felt normal in a long time It feels like I cant breath all the time with a constant pressure squeezing my heart all the time I can burly function let alone work
I think a great thing to add, if it hasn’t already been said, is that when you date a single mother you will have 100% responsibility and 0% of the authority in most cases. It’s happened to me and many people I know. Society has regressed with their ideal “father” figure. Don’t swim where other men have drowned.
I don’t always agree with you Rich, but with this we do agree. My close friend dated a single mom and was basically a baby sitter and a side dude to his ex-gf. She sent him a text saying she was meeting the dad for a an outing. When my friend said he would not take care of the kid she lost it on him. He had an awakening at that moment and broke it off with her. Never dated a single mom ever again.
Yup, their hypergamy is on another level. Single moms spin more plates then the best dudes out there especially if they are attractive. You are never a priority, the dog is more important than you, they are your kids when it can benefit her and they are her kids when it benefits her. They always have EX's on backup as well as hundreds of other dudes waiting in the distance to "save" her when you "screw up." FWBs at best otherwise run for the hills!
my own experince with a single mother; after nearly 2 years we broke up, she tried to pursue me for child support for her 6 yr old daughter. I loved her daughter. I treated he like she was my own. I even took every other friday off and helped at her school. just to spend time and show her not all men are assholes who abandon them. my exs parents had encouraged her and while we were in court I saw I was about to get screwed. So I pleaded with the judge. not to avoid the child support, but to be given the rights to be the daughter legally recognized father. be awarded visitatiation and holidays rights. because I loved her. it was only the out burst of my ex and her father that saved me. the judge gave my ex a choice after that. get the child support and make me her daughters adoptive father with all the rights or to drop it. I will not lie I miss the little girl. but I am glad to be free of that drama. I learned from that one experience and will never date a woman with a child again
Rich is correct on the child support. Child support laws vary widely between jurisdictions. Based on the facts of your case, depending on the jurisdiction, if the child sees you as a “father figure” and the biological mother then dumps you or you decide the relationship is no longer serving you and you leave her, you could still be paying child support for that child (who is not yours, who you have no rights to visit, and have no rights to parent or make decisions about) until the child emancipates. Know the laws where you live BEFORE cohabitating, or living in a “married like state”, or adopting someone else’s child, or marrying a single mom. Stay safe out there!
Yes , I have encouraged my brother not to date single moms, and he had one experience and that was enough. He told me the reason he would not date single moms is in quote “you will always have to deal with the another man.” Women if you are a single mom, the baggage you bring is that you are asking a man to commit to dealing with the guy (or guys) you picked before him as long as he (they) is/are alive.
Damn! I cannot even imagine telling little Johnny or Susie to clean up after themselves, to then have their POS deadbeat dad call your phone or your woman’s phone and threaten you over it. NO…FUCKING…THANKS!!!!
@@mshafer1021 this is real bitch shit. If you’re dealing with any of this then you have no business interacting with women period. It’s not difficult to put a woman’s ex into his new role, and unlike dealing with women typically one placement is good enough to last a lifetime. You set boundaries and consequences for him just as you do her and the children and everything is easy.
@@aarons.7271 that is whisful thinking...be a "single dad" it's a prove that rich failed as a alpha man, his baby girl will grow up without a father figure and turning up a tinder whore just like the women he talk down on his videos
My ex, who's a single mom, has tried to reach me out this week end but i wasn't in my city. She cheated on me and this is finish (after less than 1 year) with his new guy she left me for. Can wait to kindly (stoicly ?) reject her. it seems that she has not found better than me... She burned her chance. Too bad for her i found Rich between the breakup and today.
@@MrOnlineHelper She's blocked since day 1 (this is why she tried to reach me out physically) and when i say "kindly", i must say "coldly", with no emotion, like a male.
@@omarlobster5193 I’m no expert but I think you should move on. By that I mean, don’t care about the reason she wants to meet. She broke your trust shes out. She shouldn’t even be able to contact you, she took you for granted thats on her, don’t give her the “hope”,don’t respond.
She thought that grass was greener on the other side and probably made her choice based on emotions she felt at that time, nothing to do with logic. It looks as though she got dumped, thus, trying to find out whether she can hook up with you once again to ensure that you still care about her, so she could get her validation back, or because, you either ignored her, or never got in touch with her after she left for that guy, or she just wants sex and will try to lure you with sex, because she maybe starved. If she wants validation and sex and you know you can handle it, then have fun just one last time, do it properly though, no talking, just action, make her feel it, get in her head and body 101%, treat her as if she was 304🤣 and obviously be extra careful at the same time😉. After you are done, walk away without saying anything, be brutally cold as if you have turned yourself into Alaska🤣, and never, ever look back, because from that moment on, she is dead and buried, she is forgotten, distant past. if you do that, she will regret leaving you in the first place, and ironically, she will perceive you as a strong, masculine alfa male, who didn't give a damn about her. It's crazy as f...k, but this is the way it always works with such women. No regrets and no remorse my friend. Take care.
Reminds of a date I had in my very late 30's. We had been introduced by mutual friends. At dinner I learned she had been divorced twice and had children from both marriages. When she learned that I had never married she had the audacity to ask me "what's wrong with you, how come you're so old and never been married" In my head I'm asking what is so right with you? That was the first and last time we saw each other!
I've had two friends ruin their lives over single moms. In both cases they were happy early on and I didn't have the balls to tell them what they needed to know. One of my life's biggest regrets.
Don't beat yourself up,it wouldn't have changed anything if you talked with them about the subject,you would have lost a friend,once theire pussy whipped only a divorce will wake them up
@@Joel-iz6zr Yes. Two dear friends of mine that have been close to me since I was a little kid. Their lives got completely upended by single moms. In both cases I had strong doubts but I bit my tongue not wanting to seem like a bad friend. Huge regret.
I’m 36 years old now and in the last 5-6 years, I’ve had 4 women younger than me offer me money or whatever to donate sperm so they can get pregnant and be a single mom. The specific reason I did not agree with that arrangement is I do not want my kids being exposed to another man in the future when she’s had the kid and keeps dating. Men need to be more protective of themselves
He's completely justified, IMO. Every women with kids I have dealt with has had this issue. Its rarely over between women and the ex depending on how the breakup went. I recently dealt with a women who would flip between being bestie's with her ex, and then enemies, then back to bestie's. Obviously, I walked knowing that someone was still into the relationship 8 YEARS after divorce. Also, as someone who has kids from a marriage. I can't tell you how many times my ex has tried to get back with me WHILE having boyfriends. I lost count honestly. This gets worse as you improve post divorce, and they don't
A single mom has always broken a relationship before. She knows how to do it, how to make profit of it, and is often supported by equally broken women. A snake nest.
"I think we want different things and that you should consider getting back with the father. In any case, this isn't working and I hope you and the kid the best." Block, go about your day.
About 5 years ago, I was pursuing a single mom who had 4 kids by 4 different dudes. Then a female friend (a legit platonic friend) told me to stop it and was yelling at me to let me know how serious she was in letting me know what a huge mistake I was making. She then went over and beyond in sending me The Unplugged Alpha AND Rollo's book! Thank God I stopped, she helped me and I am now all about Red Pill awareness and a newly changed man. As a result, I have read a ton of books on Rich's book list and I'm a changed man!!!!
Can you imagine being saddled with child support for another man's kid with a woman you were not even married to. You'd be crazy to go anywhere near that.
If I see a single mom, she is just for a fun time. So quick you'll hear "don't talk to MY son that way,'' even though he is acting like a little basterd.
As a single dad who’s dated single moms in the past, I’ll tell you that the juice is hardly worth the squeeze on this end too. Mixed families are more complex and most end up comfortably miserable. After seeing others go down a over-weight and alcoholic path just to manage the chaos, I decided that was not for me. Rich you are spot on with your assessments.
@@jessruhl24 if you want to raise his kid and always be number 2 in priority then go for it. Keep in mind you may get interrogated and never fully trusted by baby mama if she’s around… kids ages is a big factor too. Me personally I’m empty nesting so alot of that doesn’t apply… if a guy has been to the circus seen the show and is now taking his life back (red pill) he’ll likely have a vasectomy and you won’t be getting one of your own from him. A wise man knows that the failure rate after the first marriage is around 80% so he will not incur the heavy risk of alimony and child support again… if you found yourself a dummy who doesn’t get this then congratulations you’re going to make bank. My fee for the advice is 1% of your earnings 😉
@@firstlast2973 I’m not looking to make bank. I’m looking for a real connection. And frankly I like his children. The ex may be a problem though 😂 thanks for your thoughts
@@firstlast2973 haha you're terrible. I'm a ballet dancer and I helped put his daughter's hair up for her dance class which means the girl LOVES me and the mom could not hate me more lol
Moral of the story is, don't get serious with any single mothers. It's probably not going to be like on TV and the man will end up in the *hit and unhappy in most cases.
Before I came to the manosphere I was dating a single mom. Even though I believe I was blue pilled, I am SO happy I had the instinct to eventually end the relationship. Something in me just knew I shouldn't be getting into a relationship with a single mommy.
Lol I feel like almost all us red pilled guys have had an experience with single moms. I dated one with three children by two different dudes. Was just desperate for some physical intimacy at the time and ended up helping her with money, and also being the main signee for a bank loan to pay for her car cause her credit was shit. Never was an issue getting money from her to pay for the car payment lol even after we broke up. Luckily she hit a deer and the car was a write off so the insurance company paid the remainder on the car lmao. Anyways so many other stories I could tell about her, honestly I'm glad she was the one who broke up with me. At that point I had already brushed her hand away from grabbing my crotch, and that really annoyed her LMAO. Also her eldest daughter back talking me and then the mother got angry when I clapped back at the kid lol.
Been there done that, just like you bro. I was lucky to walk away with my hands wiped clean. Only difference is I was the one who packed my stuff up and dipppppppeed when she wasn’t home.
dealing with single moms and leftover women is how many of us became redpill. experience is a great teacher but so often gives the test before the lesson
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Single moms are so much trouble altogether, with a lot of drama they carry as well. And if they have grown children too, it makes it much worse. Especially if they don't like you. Been there.
I’m 5’4 and 28 years old. Unfortunately the only genuine desire I’ve had were from older single moms. Thankfully I never took them seriously since being rp aware but my main pool seems to be older used women with kids for my 5’4 short ass 🥵
Yup working on body & game, I’m Asian so money isn’t a problem haha. I work in healthcare so I run into tons of nurses, physical therapists, etc. those healthcare women are wild believe the stereotype
I’ve totally experienced everything you’ve stated in your vid’s about dating single moms. I never wanted to raise children cause was more focused on getting to & through med school after my divorce. I figured I’d go into a career that could replace a marriage cause I saw how dedicated a lot of practitioners were to their profession. Through my younger years after my divorce, I’ve only dated 2 girls with a single kid. I often feel like a hypocrite having a step dad of my own but it is what it is. Having my own crib now only reinforces how I’d rather be alone than date a single mum again. What’s crazy is I once fell hard for a single mum & was open to being a leadership figure to them but my ex’s demons destroyed that possibility. Keep preaching the gospel brotha!
I note videos like this often and I understand the general point. That said, my mother was divorced with a child (me) and she married a good man who raised me and treated me like his own. He was the only father I ever knew. My aunt (my mother's sister) was in the same boat and she also married a man that treated her son like his own. I understand the potential for problems, but there are at least two cases where I know for certain that turned out very well.
So it was nothing like the situation Rich described? Your mother and aunt weren't having dinner movie dates with their baby daddies while dating your stepdad and step-uncle right?
Your example is an exception to the rule, and one that seldom happens comparatively speaking. Ask yourself this, would you yourself take up with a single mom and her kid/kids. Like I don't care what your stepdad did and how well it worked for him, do you trust it enough to think it would work out for you? For every success story like yours, there's a thousand failure stories in regards to single moms.
What she’s doing is completely unacceptable. If she want to hang with her daughter, fine, but the ex BF should be nowhere in sight. An exception would be a birthday party, etc, and new BF should be invited. Guys, dating a single mom is like playing Russian roulette with a semi-auto.
The only reason I needed to not date single moms was my last experience with one a couple years ago. After about a month of dating she asked the "where is this going" type question. Now for the past 5+ years i have only casually dated and the longest "relationship" I have had has been about 5/6 months. She was perfect for me at the time bc she was busy so we would only hang out maybe 2 times a week and it didn't cramp my busy lifestyle. I obviously told her I thought we were in the right spot, busy lives blah blah blah. She didn't like this, masked slipped and a lot of drama ensued. I'm 34 and don't need or want the drama, I have been currently dating a 25 year old elementary school teacher for a couple months and have had no drama so far. Dont put up with the bs guys.
Totally agree you are doing good work warning young men about what they can expect in these situations. Living happily ever after and SM families are not normally phrased together for a reason.
Let me add that if you choose to date a single mom (against advice), then don't be resentful or a mean a-hole to the children. I had a former friend who hooked up with a single mom (with one 5 year old child). The father wasnt in the picture and had abandoned the mom. She was a sweet loving woman though. My friend started out nice but became resentful of the young 5 year old child as the relationship went on. He treated that young child like crap after a while when the mom wasn't looking. They got married and he had 2 children (daughters) with that single mom, but never accepted that kid as his own family. He later admitted his family would have been "perfect" if it weren't for that young kid being around. He resented that kid and EVERYONE (his friends and family) could see it. The kid was a pretty sweet and funny child. But he was really afraid of his step-dad. Whenever he brought his family around for get togethers or vacations, he would spoil his daughters but would yell at the young boy. I could see the kid didn't want to be around him alone without his mom. Anyway, I stopped being friends with him after I saw what he did. And the last words I told him was that he was being a huge absolute a-hole to an innocent boy that didn't deserve it. And that karma would come back to bite him. This was 25 years ago. I hope that kid turned out alright. If you do choose to date a single mom. Be a man. Don't take it out on the kids.
That's a pure natural animal reaction. Women I've dated that have had step father's have had TH-cam inappropriate contact with them. That's why it's essential to avoid single mothers like they are a plague! You're biology and hormones can control you just like it does women. (Poor kid)
What I noticed in your related experience is that you did not hold any Accountability to the Mother. So this Man was so bad, so evil to the Woman's son and the boys Mother #1. did nothing & #2. STILL Married this horrible Man? You noticed this treatment which means she noticed it too. So she willingly chose to do nothing, just to have a Husband. T⁷hat not only make her complicit but even worst than the Step-Father because she's the boy's biological mother. Why don't you Condemn the Mother?
Poor kid. Not his fault but that's what happens to the bastards of inferior men. The mom had to bite the bullet and settle for the lesser evil. Having your friend and his resources in the boy's life was still far better than her going it alone. This was the best imperfect choice available to her. He did treat her and the daughters they had together well so still a net win.
@@damondenis9620 - I did tell the mom that her son wasn't being treated nicely by his step-dad, and that she needs to do be aware of it and do something about it. Anyone could see the unfairness, and harshness when we had family and friend gatherings. The boy just wanted to play and have fun, but he treated his step-son very harshly. The step dad would Lash out at him over the smallest things. I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and thought maybe she wasn't aware of what was going on. I told her several times that her son was being treated harshly by the step-dad, but ultimately she just brushed off my words. Or perhaps she chose not to believe me. She seemed very loving, but I think her fatal flaw was that she was blinded by love, and hoped (like many women who married bad men) that he would "change" with time. Very stupid idea. People do not change. I don't think she wanted to face reality that she made a bad choice in a husband. Again, this there's was not much else I could do. I was just a friend, and he never hit or put his hands on the boy in front of us. But the boy seemed scared and didn't want to be left alone with the step-dad. I said my words to each of them. Then I cut ties. Out families were already drifting apart anyway. Hope the boy turned out okay. This was 25 years ago.
@@TheBigExclusive Not trying to argue. Instead of telling Men what to do..... it makes more sense to tell mother's that Men genetically don't like, want to raise nor should be responsible for their bastard children. Mother's of the bastard children are 100% responsible for any neglect or harm the children might incur by their "New Man."
Hi Rich, what advice would you give to girls in their early 20s regarding dating, how to treat men for the sake of the relationship? I’m 23 years old and your videos have been truly helpful. Although truth hurts but it has been really eye-opening. Thanks Rich.
In a nutshell simply understand that you don't have time to waste at all. Keep your man happy, be feminine and you won't have to worry about anything else for the rest of your life. As a rational and pragmatic 27 year old man, I really can't make it any more simple than that, it's a very straightforward formula. The hard part is convincing you (vvomen in general) that that is a better long term decision than riding the cc with Paco and Tyrone during your 20's and then you decide to grab a high value man off the hvm tree. If you understand gambling, put it like this: you are the blackjack player that has managed to double her bankroll. You cash out NOW. Every bad decision means you lose 2 extra chips.
Ask your father. He's responsible for vetting a husband out of the men you choose. Unless he's not leading his own relationship with your mother. Sorry for the unsolicited advice.
Stay feminine, no feminist bullshit attitude, take care of your body and eat clean. Let your man lead. Get married as young as you can as your body has a fertility window. Tick tock, tick tock.
Not only would all men be better off not dealing with SMS but also, if men truly walked away from SMS then that would force SMS to look in the mirror and finally understand the gravity of their situation.
As the son of split parents I couldn't agree more. My parents have only been able to find relationship with other single parents. Birds of a feather 🤷♂
Hell no to chuck e cheese trust me I worked there 35 years ago as a 16 year old wearing the frickin mouse suit. Kids were relentless trying to rip my mouse head off while screaming there’s a man in there! I was punched in the nuts many times. Moral of the story: Stay away from single moms lol.
I got trespassed from chuck e cheese right out of high school. My friend would always wear the rat suit. And I thought he was in the suit. And I tackled the rat. But it was a girl inside of it. Lol
Fit Fogey, your comment wins the internet today. Maybe you should have worn a protective goalie cup under that mouse suit. Sounds like playing the role of that mouse was an occupational hazard. Stay safe out there!
Rich you are doing God's work man. I lived this terrible existence. Met a single mom 44 yo (I'm 45) with two kids. In the beginning everything was good and as time went on I couldn't discipline "her" kids, and also they were avoiding their own dad, so they were around 100% of the time. It was infuriating. She ended up breaking things off because I would push back and would not conform to being a cuckold. Best thing that happened to me. Leveled up got a new job making 35k more a year and met my new girl who's 29 without kids. Listen to Rich guys. Stay away from single moms it's not worth it. Level up and date chicks in their 20's and 30's with no kids in tow.
Another reason - Starve the machine. 40% of children today are born out of wedlock (across all education levels and races) and you dear readers are paying for that. Why? Because a large percentage of these women are on government assistance and it comes out of your taxes. You are paying for it already, so don't pay for it twice with yet more of your hard earned dollars and precious time.
My husband told me from the beginning of our relationship that he would not have considered me if I already would have had a child/children with another man. And you know what, that resonated with me and I respect him for that.
@6:22 "If you want to get into a fwb type of scenario, friends with benefits, fine"....No dude! This is NOT fine. FFS stop telling these guys that it is ok to fwb with single moms. You DO NOT EVER friends with benefits (FWB) with a single mom. She can easily get knocked up again like she did the first, second, or even third time. If you're a guy that takes that advice, then don't cry and whine about it when you add another kid to her collection and you're on the hook.
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The internet has been a lifesaver for so many young men that choose to listen and learn. I wish that there was somebody that I could have turned to thirty years ago to warn me against CUCKing for some single mommy. In spite of the damage that I've allowed her to inflict upon my life, I will still be retiring a millionaire, if that means anything in this crazy digital fiat economy, and enjoying an early retirement. Thank you, Rich for all that you do to help young, and older men.
I strongly disagree with your comment about the internet. I wouldn't trust much of what you see or hear online. All the online BS and outright lies and deceptions are entertaining however.
You are right but the problem is, usually it starts with friends with benefits thing, later on down the road emotions get involved and not easy to 🛑 stop seeing them, basically, your heart will be controlling but not your mind.
This is so true man.....currently going thru this....things are moving fast for me and this single mom and I'm trying to pull out of this situation before it gets too hard to.
Always said a baby momma was a trap. I once asked a mother if she would have gotten with me over her husband if we met first on a date just to hear her opinion and immediately she said no. “I was in love” Ummm... what if he still loves you? “He don’t” Why.... Change subject please. (With a smile) Listen being the rebound guy is BAD!!! Very very BAD!!!! Don’t. Move on. You are a CHECK in her eyes.
My younger brother (has no kids of his own…neither do I.) who is not striving and grinding to become a better version of himself and struggles with managing money got engaged last November to a single mom of 4 kids (they were in High School and got together way later and now lives with them in a duplex) from 3 baby daddies. I can’t help but roll my eyes and sigh every time I think of him. He’s hinted at wanting to buy a house to move into with his “family” but I don’t see how he can pull it off when he sucks with money so bad that he had to recently ask our parents for electric bill money. Pays the bare minimum of his behind bills racking up more by the month. Too cheap with his truck maintenance and skips on a needed repairs and now his truck is done for. It goes on. We’re not close but I assumed he would’ve picked up some inspiration from watching me how I’m doing life by pretty much the opposite of everything he’s doing wrong.
You will always be dead last on her list. It's a Friday night. She had two things left on her list, see you or do laundry for her kid. I agree, she should do laundry. But when you are on a list that includes laundry and you are listed below that, she doesn't have anything invested in you. She never will. Matter of fact, the ex will be listed above you since he will have more to say in that child's life than you ever will. Get off her list.
I’m a recently divorced single mom, I’m 41 years old and my 3 boys are older (11, 14, and 16). I make great money and have no desire to find them a new daddy. They have a dad. I can pay for them myself. I also share custody with their dad and he does not pay me child support (I don’t need it, didn’t ask for it, and I actually pay their dad support when he has them). I’m dating someone new, he’s 34. He’s got no problem with me having kids and hasn’t met them yet except in VR playing video games. They’ll be with me all summer though soon. How can I best handle the intro of my guy and my little guys without it being awkward or infringing on him and our relationship? Or is it best to just keep my kids separate from my boyfriend? I’d like everyone to be happy, and aside from that I have no opinion on whether they meet and interact or not… would appreciate opinions! Also, I think it would be extremely rude/disrespectful for me to have “family” events with my ex with the kids! I’m actually surprised to hear some women do that and think it’s ok! I wouldn’t like it if the shoe were on the other foot and I appreciate you validating that to men that it’s not ok to keep playing house w/ your ex.
In my opinion there will be nothing left but single moms. They practically allow themselves to get knocked up and abandoned 3-5 times in their twenties. Around that age women with one kid were ghosting me only to end up pregnant and alone again, they're seeking adventure and excitement. Now that I've reached thirty, I've got moms that can't have anymore flirting with me. Some are dumb enough to think marriage can still happen while others just invite me over to Netflix and chill. Not arguing with marrying and having kids with a younger women, but most of them are too picky.
That's what happens when Uncle Sam gives them all a free pass in life for accountability. They know the govt will assist and apply the law to milk the money out of whoever knocked them up.
Having no authority over raising the other child is the least of your problems. The child will rarely see you as anything other than a problem in their life. They will talk you down, when you are not around. When the woman starts to tire of you, she will use her own child as a sounding board to also trash you behind your back. They end up supporting each others negative feelings towards you, and you will not win, you will in fact lose and lose big. So I agree....do not get involved with woman with children...period.
If I was hat kid, another man would be a stranger invading my household. And I would neve take orders nor lecturongs from a stranger. So never get in there, no matter how nice you think you are. Pa is the one to raise the kid. Mom oust him, then it's their problem.
I guess it all depends on the how the relationship ends, my ex would always hang out with me and our child doing different things, really had a dislike towards her but did it for child, still friends now, always met her new boyfriends, some I even made friends with , talk about cars, sports, etc so it was all cool.
Thanks brother, just got out of the whole crazy single mom thing. Always had said no and gave it a shot for looks and w.e but you're 100% right. Its a nightmare and sucks you dry. Listen to his advice! Haha
You’re not wrong however I’m 44 and there’s hardly a snowball chance in hell of me finding a woman within twenty years of me that doesn’t have kids. It’s not practical.
Rich tends to paint a picture of "top shelf" guys with lots of resources being able to find attractive, childless, 20-something ladies for LTRs. Like, you busted your ass, made a lot of money, now you wanna settle down with a young lady with no baggage and have a family - ok, the world is your oyster! But, I honestly don't think it's that easy, even if the dude is a fairly attractive and in-shape millionaire. On the whole, I honestly think young ladies naturally prefer younger dudes. If I'm wrong, then please tell me. I asked how a "top shelf" guy can meet those kinds of ladies. I got the answer, "hinge." I've never tried it, but idk... I have my doubts.
My first question when I meet a woman that I would like to get to know is “what happened to your husband” if the answer is something other than an explanation of how he died then I’m gone. I also meet women that I don’t ask that question of which means they are temporary place holders.
I think that will be my next question lol so now I got a few questions lined up. do you have ink on your body? what happened to your husband? do you drink alcohol ? are your parents still together? Do you know how to cook some Mexican food?? if the answer is no or she is from another culture if she is willing to learn if the answer is no I'm out.
yeah, sure, because all relationships lasts forever and everyone has to endure things like cheating, abusive and so son. Lmao m0ron, no wonder you are alone
Gents, expand this guidance to "pet mommies" who have chosen to give a forever home to a poor, lost, in need of adoption, 4 legged "child". She will always be anchored to the responsibilities of going home to let them out, walk them, feed, take to the vet. You will also be asked to help when she has to " work late". Been there. When I was being mice and agreeable. I was asked to help. Tried to. Couldn't find key. Then via phone was told "never mind". No "thank you" or other recognition. She never brought it up afterward. Lesson: don't ask about kids, pets, etc. She needs to know you can't be relied on for anything to do with them. Set the condition early.
I have been divorced from my wife for over two years. I would never hangout and have dinner with my ex. It is completely transactional between my ex and I. Dated many single moms and they were all plates! No way I would marry a single mom!
I'm an older woman. When I was younger a single mom was a divorced mother not single mom. There was something about being called a divorced woman. You knew a single mother had never been married. I don't like how words have changed.
I dated many and will NEVER again. As the man, you are not the boyfriend. You are the human wallet, chauffeur, fix it man, and most painful...the emotional sponge. Both her and her kids live in a universe of emotional impulsivity that never stops no matter how hard you try to point out logic and reason. You will find yourself depleted with zero appreciation from her or her kids. That soul shaking sex in the beginning just never seems to happen anymore. Many guys want to be the hero especially when there is a 9 or 10 they have great chemistry with and and my vibe is go right ahead.
Great video man, spot on, the dude is right to speak out and tell her she is wrong to go out with her ex. Its respect and if she loves and respects him she will not do it. If she ignores him she needs dumping. Move on bro.
I wish I had thought about this before my last girlfriend. She has two kids from her ex boyfriend. They were still "friends". That is, until he got evicted from his house and needed a place to stay. She didn't even tell me he moved into her house, and we were still together. If you're dating a single mom, that possibility is always just a whim away.
I think it really depends. I'm not my Dads biological daughter, but He adopted me and He is the only Father I know. And Him and my Mom have been married over 23 years now. And I try my best to be a good daughter, and love cooking for my Dad. I think my parents had a very happy ending. They also had my little sister together.
Yeah whatever. Nice try on convincing us that it's okay to date single women, it's fineee, no harm at all. Do us men a favor- don't ruin our lives, thanks witch
I dated and eventually married a single divorced mother. She is beautiful and amazing we have a wonderful relationship. Sometimes it was hard combining families but totally worth it. Granted I dated many women with children and had nightmare stories. You have to take your time and be careful all women are not the same.
@@jasongrady259 I had one boy she had two younger children from a long term marriage. We make a great family and are very happy. I did date women with children that were a disaster I took my time.
I LITERALLY had this happen to me in December 2022 during Christmas Eve, my now ex told me her ex husband was staying the night at her apartment for Christmas morning and I couldn't stay the night or even go there until he left. I've NEVER been so embarrassed in my life, she actually had the nerve to call me immature bc I had a problem with that. That was the end of that relationship but I do regret spending around $1k in Christmas presents for her and her daughter but in the end I learned my lesson to NEVER take single mothers seriously ever again. I was 31 and she was 40, i figured older women would be more mature than women my age or younger but I learned that older women are just as bad mentally, difference is theyre older
Looking back now, she did move WAY too fast for my liking, we'd knew each other for 2 years but lived states apart and she said to move in with her within a month of dating. I was uncomfortable but since my lease was up at the same time and my job is basically around the country by travel, I said why not. Boy that was a mistake lol
I’m a ( relatively attractive) single mom of one child, his father passed away and I am financially independent (child support is not an issue) w/ minimal drama. I will not even consider dating a man without kids because (in my experience) men without kids Only want FWB-
20+ years ago one of my best friends started dating a older women with 2 boys. In a conversation we were having he told me what a bum her 1st husband was ; how he could never hold a job and was lazy lay about ! Then a couple of minutes later the conversation went to where his new girlfriend had such so level headed ;smart and thought things out and had a really good head on her shoulders. So I asked the question that was obvious "If she is so smart why did she marry and have 2 kids with a no-good bum ? Where was the level head then?" I just got a blank stare........he stopped hanging out with me about 6 months later
@@jasonb6315 The worse part of his story is that when he was dating her , he was in his late 20's and he decided to go back to college to get a career going. She said "move in with me and I will help you with your schooling " He got thru 1 1/2 semesters and she said " I cannot afford to have you living here without contributing any money, you have to get a job" needless to say he dropped out of college soon after !!!!
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last time I checked, not that long ago, it was 92% of divorces the sole custody goes to the mother. I often get that mixed up with alimony which is 94%. So it's one or the other.
The only person to blame here is the guy
You date a single woman with a kid...then inevitably she will have to meet the dad now and again...birthdays, religious events, anniversaries for grandparents etc...
Yes it's not ideal, but that's what your getting into when dating single mum.
She is 100% entitled to meet the ex, as in their child's dad, now and again once it's for a milestone event.
If you don't want that suck it up, stop being insecure and move on
@@rogerward3390 I'm not advocating dating a single mom, but there's a HUGE difference between meeting up at a family event and going over to his place for dinner and a movie.
That shit's fucked up. MOST of the time, she drops the kid off and goes back later to pick them up if it's scheduled visitation (which it should be).
Men tolerate too much disrespect from women.
That needs to stop.
A woman respects a man even less if he lets her disrespect him. Just stacks on top of itself.
I agree, but for some men that pussy is a powerful thing that blinds them from the disrespect
Yep. Been married almost 18 years. Facts.
Single mother = You will never be more important than her worst child.
...ALSO her pets, girlfriends, friends & family, her child's friends, even in some cases her ex!......
Kids and family are obviously no 1 regardless. The ex issa violation. Just run😭😭
You should run if it is not like that. Must be something very wrong with her putting some stranger over her kids.
@Justyna R. Just completely stay away from the single mom period!
Then there is no issues!
@@thinblueline5000 it's really naive as a grown man to think that there will just be singles without kids. Real man know that.
My cousin married a single mommy with a 12 year old and a 7 year old. Fast forward 27 years of playing the role of daddy the wife says she wants a divorce. Now the grownup kids won’t let him be a grandpa to their kids. The grandkids don’t understand why they can’t see their grandpa. He is devastated.
All of the responsibilities and none of the authority: Rich Cooper
This can happen with biological children, too.
@@strangertobluewater That isn't the same scenario.
Hey family is family whether through blood or not. Those kids are assholes.
@@strangertobluewater thats the whole point!... Biological kids are their fathers responsibility!. Its extremely honourable to take on another mans children, raise them as your own and pay for their upbringing!
The betrayal of being disgarded as though it all meant nothing is disgusting.
@@vanessaloermans9563 "it's an honorable thing to be a stepdad, to raise someone else's kids...". No it's not. That's a vicious mind game, meant to trick weak men into crap relationships with single moms who have screwed up their lives, and are looking for a man to help them pay for it. It is honorable to stay with the father of your children though. It's honorable to get married and to have all your kids within that marriage. And it's extra honorable for both mom and dad to do a good job raising their own children. What most dishonorable, and dishonest, are women who make themselves single moms through bad decisions, and then try to trick good men into wasting their lives on them. These "women" get upset with everyone else when they find out their actions have repercussions, and one of those repercussions is good men of high value are taught to avoid them. Instead of rightly getting upset with themselves. But ma'am, don't ever try to tell us again what you wish was honorable for men to be doing, because you don't have a clue.
Had an ex try and come back after having 2 kids with 2 daddies. Actually laughed her out the door 😂
As you should. We are all proud of you.
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Now that's funny 🤣
So, you let her in the door?
@@DastardlyHandsome for one time use yeah 🙄😂
Learning to love your own company is what helped me out. I used to dislike being alone but now im starting to become addicted to solitude. Im not even worried about dating anymore.
This is where I’m heading. Not exactly there yet though.
Got it right, dude. If you don't like being alone, you're a crappy person.
Your inspiring me brother
Same ! I had big insecurities and beta tendencies which I am facing head on now . Being alone was so uncomfortable but after facing my fears and truly working on myself , I’m slowly starting to love being alone .
Dating just seems like a headache now !
It has health benefits the science does not admit too
Just the idea that a man can legally be held liable for child support for another man's children is enough of a wake up call to never get involved with a single mother.
🎼After ten years without no spouse
Momma's gettin' married in the house
Listen, positive over negative for the women and master
Mother queen's risin' a chapter
Déjà vu, tell you what I'm gonna do
When they reminisce over you, my God🎶
When I date back, I recall a man off the family tree
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In Australia only the biological father is responsible for child support. Its disgraceful that a man would be forced to pay for children that are not his!
@@vanessaloermans9563 You are wrong, I just Google it...
Family Law Act 1975, a court can impose a duty on a step-parent to financially support a child if it deems this appropriate.
@@veroniquevesta7516 😄 google!? 🤦♀️
You have raised a law that's applied only in specific circumstances.
If a man step parents a child from birth or near birth and the biological father is unknown/ unidentified or not alive - then yes that law is applied to not only continue the support of the child, but also the rights of that step parent.
So in turn the step father would be given legal access and ongoing custody rights.
However if the biological father is known and living - then no, step fathers are not legally ordered to pay child support - unless they fight for visitation rights and take matters further in court.
Its a law that was created to protect the step parent relationship. This law must be in place in the event of parent dying and step parent having ongoing legal rights in that scenario.
Its an extensive law but most definitely does NOT force step parents to pay child support in place of a biological parent after a relationship break up.
I can assure you as a professional that mediates, counsels and acts as a court witness on behalf of fathers (male advocacy rep) I know how it works.
As a woman and a mother I'm totally with you on this.
A brief story:
I am a single eastern European Slav working construction in the Netherlands.
My workmate is 40, has an 11 year old son back in home country. The son lives with the mother. My friend lived with a single mom and her 2 daughters.
He'd spend 8 weeks working abroad and 2 weeks back home, splitting time between his son and the single mom and her 2 girls.
Dude works SEVEN DAYS A WEEK breaking his back doing heavy physical labour for 8 weeks. Then 2 weeks back in the county
Most of the money he'd save he'd spend on the single mom household. Fixing the house, holidays, groceries, gifts, everything.
She was on welfare while he was making 5-7 times what would be a month salary back home.
He eventually dumped her because she'd give him a hard time if he disciplined the daughters in any way (These are not your kids, he heard).
2 days after he dumped her she was crying tears that she wants him back.
She even said they should go to a psychologist!! The nerve.
Stay away guys. You will never get the glory of being an actual father and you'll get all the misery of being a plough hourse.
Have a great day
But it's illegal to treat plow horses so badly...
The mother effing truth !
No man of value ever locks down a low hanging fruit single mom. Fun for a night, then show her the streets where she belongs. It’s not misogyny, it’s reality.
It is extremly hard when sex is great but yes, you have to do that.
@@Sammoga_Yeddi The s3x is great at the beginning to lure you in. It won't last forever.
"it's not misogyny" lmaoooo
@@Sammoga_Yeddi who cares how good 5-30 mins of pleasure is. Not worth dealing with some crabby annoying kids who are always #1 and that aren’t yours or some goof ball baby daddy
For the streets
Never date a single mom. No exceptions. No not even for friends with benefits cause she might accidentally get pregnant. Game over.
So who can date single moms then? Single dads?
@@brooklynmadejc4497 only beta males will date single moms. Even single dads can easily get a women without kids if he’s at least some high value.
It will NOT be an accident.
@@brooklynmadejc4497 yes its best to date someone who has an aligned framework. But again - if a single mom does not discipline her children or believe in letting you bring honour and teach them also, then she is not an option.
If you are single man with no kids - its best to match with single women with no kids. Enjoy the alignment and ease of fun, free, single women before delving into responsibility and stress.
Yes, I got played by a single mother who was much older than me. everything was amazing until she accidentally got pregnant right I was just graduating school. Ended the relationship, still paying CS but I know I would’ve been on the hook for her other kids had I stayed in the relationship. My daughter is a blessing but I would never recommend going with a single mother under any circumstances.
Dealing with a single mother completely destroyed my life
Now it's been 2 years later I'm still trying to pick the pieces up
Never again !!!
@@ryanjensen5897
I'm dealing with health issues and
I'm not able to work and I'm basically homeless I wish it was that simple
@@ryanjensen5897
I got covid 2 years ago and it damaged my heart and lungs and I feel so shitty all the time I haven't felt normal in a long time
It feels like I cant breath all the time with a constant pressure squeezing my heart all the time
I can burly function let alone work
Oh shit it took you two years
Same. I married her. Were seperated and we have been seperated on and off past 2 yrs but this is last straw.
I think a great thing to add, if it hasn’t already been said, is that when you date a single mother you will have 100% responsibility and 0% of the authority in most cases. It’s happened to me and many people I know. Society has regressed with their ideal “father” figure.
Don’t swim where other men have drowned.
Last quote is priceless in most cases
😅dont swim where other men has drowned..that shit was spot on bro🤣🤣🤣
Let me also say that last quote was fucking profound. Damnit man
You should trade mark that quote 😂🙌
I don’t always agree with you Rich, but with this we do agree. My close friend dated a single mom and was basically a baby sitter and a side dude to his ex-gf. She sent him a text saying she was meeting the dad for a an outing. When my friend said he would not take care of the kid she lost it on him. He had an awakening at that moment and broke it off with her. Never dated a single mom ever again.
Yup, their hypergamy is on another level. Single moms spin more plates then the best dudes out there especially if they are attractive. You are never a priority, the dog is more important than you, they are your kids when it can benefit her and they are her kids when it benefits her. They always have EX's on backup as well as hundreds of other dudes waiting in the distance to "save" her when you "screw up." FWBs at best otherwise run for the hills!
After learning about money and freedom I’m not tossing it out the window.
my own experince with a single mother; after nearly 2 years we broke up, she tried to pursue me for child support for her 6 yr old daughter. I loved her daughter. I treated he like she was my own. I even took every other friday off and helped at her school. just to spend time and show her not all men are assholes who abandon them.
my exs parents had encouraged her and while we were in court I saw I was about to get screwed. So I pleaded with the judge. not to avoid the child support, but to be given the rights to be the daughter legally recognized father. be awarded visitatiation and holidays rights. because I loved her.
it was only the out burst of my ex and her father that saved me. the judge gave my ex a choice after that. get the child support and make me her daughters adoptive father with all the rights or to drop it. I will not lie I miss the little girl. but I am glad to be free of that drama. I learned from that one experience and will never date a woman with a child again
Rich is correct on the child support. Child support laws vary widely between jurisdictions. Based on the facts of your case, depending on the jurisdiction, if the child sees you as a “father figure” and the biological mother then dumps you or you decide the relationship is no longer serving you and you leave her, you could still be paying child support for that child (who is not yours, who you have no rights to visit, and have no rights to parent or make decisions about) until the child emancipates. Know the laws where you live BEFORE cohabitating, or living in a “married like state”, or adopting someone else’s child, or marrying a single mom. Stay safe out there!
This guy is a great resource
It's best to just stay away and completely ignore single mothers. Not your kid not your responsibility not your problem.
That's not how it works in California. Probably nowhere in the United States. Maybe in Canada.
It’s called paternity by estoppel. Sickens me
MI is awful.
Yes , I have encouraged my brother not to date single moms, and he had one experience and that was enough. He told me the reason he would not date single moms is in quote “you will always have to deal with the another man.”
Women if you are a single mom, the baggage you bring is that you are asking a man to commit to dealing with the guy (or guys) you picked before him as long as he (they) is/are alive.
Underrated comment.
Damn! I cannot even imagine telling little Johnny or Susie to clean up after themselves, to then have their POS deadbeat dad call your phone or your woman’s phone and threaten you over it. NO…FUCKING…THANKS!!!!
Not only that, having to deal with your woman talking to and texting her ex and fighting with him all the time.
God Bless you.
@@mshafer1021 this is real bitch shit. If you’re dealing with any of this then you have no business interacting with women period. It’s not difficult to put a woman’s ex into his new role, and unlike dealing with women typically one placement is good enough to last a lifetime.
You set boundaries and consequences for him just as you do her and the children and everything is easy.
No more single moms. Everything Rich says is true.
honest question: rich is a "single dad", what it is your opinion?
@@editorahumanas5345 completely different, no matter how unfair you think that is
@@aarons.7271 that is whisful thinking...be a "single dad" it's a prove that rich failed as a alpha man, his baby girl will grow up without a father figure and turning up a tinder whore just like the women he talk down on his videos
Not even for anything casual. I am NOT about to take that risk to be baby daddy number 2,3 or 4.
@@alfredschnozzenstein1657 Because if you accidentally get her pregnant, she WILL have the baby.
My ex, who's a single mom, has tried to reach me out this week end but i wasn't in my city. She cheated on me and this is finish (after less than 1 year) with his new guy she left me for. Can wait to kindly (stoicly ?) reject her. it seems that she has not found better than me... She burned her chance. Too bad for her i found Rich between the breakup and today.
Kindly reject? Blocked her ass and move on
@@MrOnlineHelper She's blocked since day 1 (this is why she tried to reach me out physically) and when i say "kindly", i must say "coldly", with no emotion, like a male.
@@omarlobster5193 I’m no expert but I think you should move on. By that I mean, don’t care about the reason she wants to meet. She broke your trust shes out. She shouldn’t even be able to contact you, she took you for granted thats on her, don’t give her the “hope”,don’t respond.
Why not make her beg for fun? Be like Simon Cowell and ask her what she bring to the table. Then mock her for every lame anwser.
She thought that grass was greener on the other side and probably made her choice based on emotions she felt at that time, nothing to do with logic. It looks as though she got dumped, thus, trying to find out whether she can hook up with you once again to ensure that you still care about her, so she could get her validation back, or because, you either ignored her, or never got in touch with her after she left for that guy, or she just wants sex and will try to lure you with sex, because she maybe starved. If she wants validation and sex and you know you can handle it, then have fun just one last time, do it properly though, no talking, just action, make her feel it, get in her head and body 101%, treat her as if she was 304🤣 and obviously be extra careful at the same time😉. After you are done, walk away without saying anything, be brutally cold as if you have turned yourself into Alaska🤣, and never, ever look back, because from that moment on, she is dead and buried, she is forgotten, distant past. if you do that, she will regret leaving you in the first place, and ironically, she will perceive you as a strong, masculine alfa male, who didn't give a damn about her. It's crazy as f...k, but this is the way it always works with such women. No regrets and no remorse my friend. Take care.
Pro-Tip: Do not get married to involved with single mothers. Do not bring state law into your relationships.
Yeah, that's the point of the video.
Thanks for the 'pro tip'.
How is this relationship going to work if you don't trust me?
@@1986subway Whiimen cannot be trusted.
@@1986subway they definitely shouldn’t trust you at all
@@1986subway I don't trust you.
Reminds of a date I had in my very late 30's. We had been introduced by mutual friends. At dinner I learned she had been divorced twice and had children from both marriages. When she learned that I had never married she had the audacity to ask me "what's wrong with you, how come you're so old and never been married" In my head I'm asking what is so right with you? That was the first and last time we saw each other!
Self control and self respect was what was wrong with you in her eyes.
I've had two friends ruin their lives over single moms. In both cases they were happy early on and I didn't have the balls to tell them what they needed to know. One of my life's biggest regrets.
Usually it's useless, they would have fallen out with you anyway for saying that, probably instigated by the women.
They need to learn on their own skin. You can't do nothing about that.
Don't beat yourself up,it wouldn't have changed anything if you talked with them about the subject,you would have lost a friend,once theire pussy whipped only a divorce will wake them up
one of your biggest regrets, really?
@@Joel-iz6zr Yes. Two dear friends of mine that have been close to me since I was a little kid. Their lives got completely upended by single moms. In both cases I had strong doubts but I bit my tongue not wanting to seem like a bad friend. Huge regret.
I’m 36 years old now and in the last 5-6 years, I’ve had 4 women younger than me offer me money or whatever to donate sperm so they can get pregnant and be a single mom. The specific reason I did not agree with that arrangement is I do not want my kids being exposed to another man in the future when she’s had the kid and keeps dating. Men need to be more protective of themselves
Child abuse is usually comitted by mom's boyfriends. Or moms themselves when there's no man.
Start putting hot sauce in the condoms and all the toys. Swap the birth control for placebos.
@@bobbyscalchi4013
Lol. The drake method
holy cap
Wisdom
He's completely justified, IMO. Every women with kids I have dealt with has had this issue. Its rarely over between women and the ex depending on how the breakup went. I recently dealt with a women who would flip between being bestie's with her ex, and then enemies, then back to bestie's. Obviously, I walked knowing that someone was still into the relationship 8 YEARS after divorce. Also, as someone who has kids from a marriage. I can't tell you how many times my ex has tried to get back with me WHILE having boyfriends. I lost count honestly. This gets worse as you improve post divorce, and they don't
In short, it becomes a complicated mess for both parties and kids if involved.
Thank God my ex is mental and wants to be "strong and independent ".
My ex-wife and mother of my oldest tried repeatedly to get back with me.
She would say awful shit about her boyfriends-of-the-moment.
A single mom has always broken a relationship before. She knows how to do it, how to make profit of it, and is often supported by equally broken women. A snake nest.
"I think we want different things and that you should consider getting back with the father. In any case, this isn't working and I hope you and the kid the best." Block, go about your day.
The gentleman's way to go about it 👍
Make that a phone call and it’s truly the gentleman’s way out.
Copy that.
True keep it clean, who knows what u may be accused off LOL
Dating a single mom is like buying a used car: You have to wonder why they are selling it and you inherit all potential problems.
Well, yeah, but a 1990s Ferrari F355 is considered one of the best cars they have ever made. Just saying! 😆
Yes there is a reason Why They are single.
@@Biosynchro no woman ages like that car
@@MikeG82 Jennifer Connelly. Checkmate.
@@Biosynchro she aged well, aging well doesn't mean she looked better than her 20's
OMG, anyone notice how nice single moms are when they first meet you?
About 5 years ago, I was pursuing a single mom who had 4 kids by 4 different dudes. Then a female friend (a legit platonic friend) told me to stop it and was yelling at me to let me know how serious she was in letting me know what a huge mistake I was making. She then went over and beyond in sending me The Unplugged Alpha AND Rollo's book! Thank God I stopped, she helped me and I am now all about Red Pill awareness and a newly changed man. As a result, I have read a ton of books on Rich's book list and I'm a changed man!!!!
Not all heroes wear capes.
Not here to judge you but damn 4 kids FROM 4 different dad bro, she must have been a hell of a girl if you pursued her
@@moufou4life She was fine but the problem was that I was a TOTAL blue pill, beta! SMH
Why? Just why?
hahaha, imagine spending energy on targeting a 4x4
Can you imagine being saddled with child support for another man's kid with a woman you were not even married to. You'd be crazy to go anywhere near that.
If I see a single mom, she is just for a fun time. So quick you'll hear "don't talk to MY son that way,'' even though he is acting like a little basterd.
Don't try to come in between a broken family unit otherwise you could end up fighting bogus charges during your best years.
As a single dad who’s dated single moms in the past, I’ll tell you that the juice is hardly worth the squeeze on this end too. Mixed families are more complex and most end up comfortably miserable. After seeing others go down a over-weight and alcoholic path just to manage the chaos, I decided that was not for me. Rich you are spot on with your assessments.
So as a single dad, does the rule apply? Just wondering since I’m talking to a gentleman who is a single dad
@@jessruhl24 if you want to raise his kid and always be number 2 in priority then go for it. Keep in mind you may get interrogated and never fully trusted by baby mama if she’s around… kids ages is a big factor too. Me personally I’m empty nesting so alot of that doesn’t apply… if a guy has been to the circus seen the show and is now taking his life back (red pill) he’ll likely have a vasectomy and you won’t be getting one of your own from him. A wise man knows that the failure rate after the first marriage is around 80% so he will not incur the heavy risk of alimony and child support again… if you found yourself a dummy who doesn’t get this then congratulations you’re going to make bank. My fee for the advice is 1% of your earnings 😉
@@firstlast2973 I’m not looking to make bank. I’m looking for a real connection. And frankly I like his children. The ex may be a problem though 😂 thanks for your thoughts
@@jessruhl24 😂 in that case be the fun cool one for the kids… it’ll drive her nuts
@@firstlast2973 haha you're terrible. I'm a ballet dancer and I helped put his daughter's hair up for her dance class which means the girl LOVES me and the mom could not hate me more lol
Moral of the story is, don't get serious with any single mothers. It's probably not going to be like on TV and the man will end up in the *hit and unhappy in most cases.
Always, I mean ALWAYS, say "NO" to Chuck E. Cheese invitations!!! Guaranteed bad results and a stomach ache from the food.
Before I came to the manosphere I was dating a single mom. Even though I believe I was blue pilled, I am SO happy I had the instinct to eventually end the relationship. Something in me just knew I shouldn't be getting into a relationship with a single mommy.
Your gut is always right
😄 🤣 😂 manosphere dude
You did the best decision. Single moms will drain you of everything
There's nothing yummy about a single mummy 😊
Needed to hear this right now! Smashing the detonate button today.
Lol I feel like almost all us red pilled guys have had an experience with single moms. I dated one with three children by two different dudes. Was just desperate for some physical intimacy at the time and ended up helping her with money, and also being the main signee for a bank loan to pay for her car cause her credit was shit. Never was an issue getting money from her to pay for the car payment lol even after we broke up. Luckily she hit a deer and the car was a write off so the insurance company paid the remainder on the car lmao. Anyways so many other stories I could tell about her, honestly I'm glad she was the one who broke up with me. At that point I had already brushed her hand away from grabbing my crotch, and that really annoyed her LMAO. Also her eldest daughter back talking me and then the mother got angry when I clapped back at the kid lol.
Tell me about it mate, I e got a HUGE story from it, 3 kids, two different dads, they used to be shamed for a reason!!
You're a guy?
Been there done that, just like you bro. I was lucky to walk away with my hands wiped clean. Only difference is I was the one who packed my stuff up and dipppppppeed when she wasn’t home.
dealing with single moms and leftover women is how many of us became redpill. experience is a great teacher but so often gives the test before the lesson
@@nathankenny9278 well said on so many levels bro. Great comment
Since he thinks that’s disrespectful and it is, she is pretty much asking for his permission for her to disrespect him 🤔
2024. I am 51. In 1996 I was 23 stationed in Germany 🇩🇪 & wanted to marry a 23 year old beautiful Brazilian 🇧🇷 woman with 2 kids. Thankfully, she dumped me. I moved on but 1999 she married another Army guy.
2004 the Army sent me back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 3 weeks & coincidentally, I SAW HER!!! We had lunch! She had 2 more kids so 4 total.
I got married in 2011 & have 2 lovely girls.
2019 I got sent back to Germany 🇩🇪 for 9 months. I did NOT look her up.
2020 back on base during 4 weeks of boring Covid quarantine I found her FB … DIVORCED in 2018 & re-married and OLDER GERMAN GUY!! I dodged a BULLET / TRAIN 🚂 WRECK!! She has left a trail of destruction behind her!!
Guys- PROTECT. YOUR. HEART. RAISE. YOUR. STANDARDS!!!
Single moms are so much trouble altogether, with a lot of drama they carry as well. And if they have grown children too, it makes it much worse. Especially if they don't like you. Been there.
I’m 5’4 and 28 years old. Unfortunately the only genuine desire I’ve had were from older single moms. Thankfully I never took them seriously since being rp aware but my main pool seems to be older used women with kids for my 5’4 short ass 🥵
get fucking ripped. hard work is always appreciated.
I'm 5'9 lol not that im hooking up girls left n right but man 5'4 must be ruff bro. Just find an Amazonian so at least ur kids come out tall lol
Go to gym and get ripped. It will change things.
Yup working on body & game, I’m Asian so money isn’t a problem haha. I work in healthcare so I run into tons of nurses, physical therapists, etc. those healthcare women are wild believe the stereotype
you are still lucky. in other countries you would be ιncεl for life.
I’ve totally experienced everything you’ve stated in your vid’s about dating single moms. I never wanted to raise children cause was more focused on getting to & through med school after my divorce. I figured I’d go into a career that could replace a marriage cause I saw how dedicated a lot of practitioners were to their profession. Through my younger years after my divorce, I’ve only dated 2 girls with a single kid. I often feel like a hypocrite having a step dad of my own but it is what it is. Having my own crib now only reinforces how I’d rather be alone than date a single mum again. What’s crazy is I once fell hard for a single mum & was open to being a leadership figure to them but my ex’s demons destroyed that possibility. Keep preaching the gospel brotha!
100% true, Rich. I wish less men were lowering their standards and untimely getting humiliated. Peace
I note videos like this often and I understand the general point. That said, my mother was divorced with a child (me) and she married a good man who raised me and treated me like his own. He was the only father I ever knew. My aunt (my mother's sister) was in the same boat and she also married a man that treated her son like his own. I understand the potential for problems, but there are at least two cases where I know for certain that turned out very well.
So it was nothing like the situation Rich described? Your mother and aunt weren't having dinner movie dates with their baby daddies while dating your stepdad and step-uncle right?
I know several too.
Your example is an exception to the rule, and one that seldom happens comparatively speaking. Ask yourself this, would you yourself take up with a single mom and her kid/kids. Like I don't care what your stepdad did and how well it worked for him, do you trust it enough to think it would work out for you? For every success story like yours, there's a thousand failure stories in regards to single moms.
@@josephtracey4411 right!? Holy shit, 2 cases?! We might as well just line up for single moms problem solved.
@@fcastle right!
So true.. Never ever date a single mom. I did it too and i regret it.
What she’s doing is completely unacceptable. If she want to hang with her daughter, fine, but the ex BF should be nowhere in sight.
An exception would be a birthday party, etc, and new BF should be invited.
Guys, dating a single mom is like playing Russian roulette with a semi-auto.
The only reason I needed to not date single moms was my last experience with one a couple years ago. After about a month of dating she asked the "where is this going" type question. Now for the past 5+ years i have only casually dated and the longest "relationship" I have had has been about 5/6 months. She was perfect for me at the time bc she was busy so we would only hang out maybe 2 times a week and it didn't cramp my busy lifestyle. I obviously told her I thought we were in the right spot, busy lives blah blah blah. She didn't like this, masked slipped and a lot of drama ensued. I'm 34 and don't need or want the drama, I have been currently dating a 25 year old elementary school teacher for a couple months and have had no drama so far. Dont put up with the bs guys.
you still dating the 25 year old?
Totally agree you are doing good work warning young men about what they can expect in these situations. Living happily ever after and SM families are not normally phrased together for a reason.
Let me add that if you choose to date a single mom (against advice), then don't be resentful or a mean a-hole to the children.
I had a former friend who hooked up with a single mom (with one 5 year old child). The father wasnt in the picture and had abandoned the mom. She was a sweet loving woman though.
My friend started out nice but became resentful of the young 5 year old child as the relationship went on. He treated that young child like crap after a while when the mom wasn't looking. They got married and he had 2 children (daughters) with that single mom, but never accepted that kid as his own family. He later admitted his family would have been "perfect" if it weren't for that young kid being around.
He resented that kid and EVERYONE (his friends and family) could see it. The kid was a pretty sweet and funny child. But he was really afraid of his step-dad.
Whenever he brought his family around for get togethers or vacations, he would spoil his daughters but would yell at the young boy. I could see the kid didn't want to be around him alone without his mom.
Anyway, I stopped being friends with him after I saw what he did. And the last words I told him was that he was being a huge absolute a-hole to an innocent boy that didn't deserve it. And that karma would come back to bite him.
This was 25 years ago. I hope that kid turned out alright.
If you do choose to date a single mom. Be a man. Don't take it out on the kids.
That's a pure natural animal reaction.
Women I've dated that have had step father's have had TH-cam inappropriate contact with them.
That's why it's essential to avoid single mothers like they are a plague! You're biology and hormones can control you just like it does women.
(Poor kid)
What I noticed in your related experience is that you did not hold any Accountability to the Mother. So this Man was so bad, so evil to the Woman's son and the boys Mother #1. did nothing & #2. STILL Married this horrible Man? You noticed this treatment which means she noticed it too. So she willingly chose to do nothing, just to have a Husband. T⁷hat not only make her complicit but even worst than the Step-Father because she's the boy's biological mother. Why don't you Condemn the Mother?
Poor kid. Not his fault but that's what happens to the bastards of inferior men. The mom had to bite the bullet and settle for the lesser evil. Having your friend and his resources in the boy's life was still far better than her going it alone. This was the best imperfect choice available to her. He did treat her and the daughters they had together well so still a net win.
@@damondenis9620 - I did tell the mom that her son wasn't being treated nicely by his step-dad, and that she needs to do be aware of it and do something about it.
Anyone could see the unfairness, and harshness when we had family and friend gatherings. The boy just wanted to play and have fun, but he treated his step-son very harshly. The step dad would Lash out at him over the smallest things.
I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and thought maybe she wasn't aware of what was going on. I told her several times that her son was being treated harshly by the step-dad, but ultimately she just brushed off my words. Or perhaps she chose not to believe me.
She seemed very loving, but I think her fatal flaw was that she was blinded by love, and hoped (like many women who married bad men) that he would "change" with time.
Very stupid idea. People do not change. I don't think she wanted to face reality that she made a bad choice in a husband.
Again, this there's was not much else I could do. I was just a friend, and he never hit or put his hands on the boy in front of us. But the boy seemed scared and didn't want to be left alone with the step-dad.
I said my words to each of them. Then I cut ties.
Out families were already drifting apart anyway.
Hope the boy turned out okay. This was 25 years ago.
@@TheBigExclusive Not trying to argue. Instead of telling Men what to do..... it makes more sense to tell mother's that Men genetically don't like, want to raise nor should be responsible for their bastard children. Mother's of the bastard children are 100% responsible for any neglect or harm the children might incur by their "New Man."
Hi Rich, what advice would you give to girls in their early 20s regarding dating, how to treat men for the sake of the relationship? I’m 23 years old and your videos have been truly helpful. Although truth hurts but it has been really eye-opening. Thanks Rich.
Aim older
Ask your mother how to be a wife or older sister if they’re married. Start there.
In a nutshell simply understand that you don't have time to waste at all.
Keep your man happy, be feminine and you won't have to worry about anything else for the rest of your life.
As a rational and pragmatic 27 year old man, I really can't make it any more simple than that, it's a very straightforward formula.
The hard part is convincing you (vvomen in general) that that is a better long term decision than riding the cc with Paco and Tyrone during your 20's and then you decide to grab a high value man off the hvm tree.
If you understand gambling, put it like this: you are the blackjack player that has managed to double her bankroll. You cash out NOW.
Every bad decision means you lose 2 extra chips.
Ask your father. He's responsible for vetting a husband out of the men you choose. Unless he's not leading his own relationship with your mother. Sorry for the unsolicited advice.
Stay feminine, no feminist bullshit attitude, take care of your body and eat clean.
Let your man lead.
Get married as young as you can as your body has a fertility window.
Tick tock, tick tock.
Not only would all men be better off not dealing with SMS but also, if men truly walked away from SMS then that would force SMS to look in the mirror and finally understand the gravity of their situation.
Underrated comment.
As the son of split parents I couldn't agree more. My parents have only been able to find relationship with other single parents. Birds of a feather 🤷♂
Hell no to chuck e cheese trust me I worked there 35 years ago as a 16 year old wearing the frickin mouse suit. Kids were relentless trying to rip my mouse head off while screaming there’s a man in there! I was punched in the nuts many times. Moral of the story: Stay away from single moms lol.
hehhehe that's the first time I've laughed this week. Thanks for that story!
I got trespassed from chuck e cheese right out of high school. My friend would always wear the rat suit. And I thought he was in the suit. And I tackled the rat. But it was a girl inside of it. Lol
Fit Fogey, your comment wins the internet today. Maybe you should have worn a protective goalie cup under that mouse suit. Sounds like playing the role of that mouse was an occupational hazard. Stay safe out there!
😆 OMG You poor bastard LOL
@@DutchDansing Geez that's no good. I assume your life is a bit 'meh' ATM. Hope that doesn't last.
Appreciate this one Rich, always good to be reminded
Rich you are doing God's work man. I lived this terrible existence. Met a single mom 44 yo (I'm 45) with two kids. In the beginning everything was good and as time went on I couldn't discipline "her" kids, and also they were avoiding their own dad, so they were around 100% of the time. It was infuriating. She ended up breaking things off because I would push back and would not conform to being a cuckold. Best thing that happened to me. Leveled up got a new job making 35k more a year and met my new girl who's 29 without kids. Listen to Rich guys. Stay away from single moms it's not worth it. Level up and date chicks in their 20's and 30's with no kids in tow.
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Thank You for pushing this topic forward.
Another reason - Starve the machine. 40% of children today are born out of wedlock (across all education levels and races) and you dear readers are paying for that. Why? Because a large percentage of these women are on government assistance and it comes out of your taxes. You are paying for it already, so don't pay for it twice with yet more of your hard earned dollars and precious time.
Well said!
"Don't pay for it twice". Well written.
My husband told me from the beginning of our relationship that he would not have considered me if I already would have had a child/children with another man. And you know what, that resonated with me and I respect him for that.
@6:22 "If you want to get into a fwb type of scenario, friends with benefits, fine"....No dude! This is NOT fine. FFS stop telling these guys that it is ok to fwb with single moms. You DO NOT EVER friends with benefits (FWB) with a single mom. She can easily get knocked up again like she did the first, second, or even third time. If you're a guy that takes that advice, then don't cry and whine about it when you add another kid to her collection and you're on the hook.
I've never understood the whole 'pump and dump' mindset. If people do that they're adding to the problem.
Agree. Stupid and immoral advice Rich gives there. Correct anwser is a man should stay away from single moms like the plague.
Hi Cooper,
I enjoyed your videos since 2021 I found your channel.
you the man, your videos are credible and will helped men and women.
James from Australia
Remember single childless men - it's better to be single than to be with a mother whose children aren't yours.
If great reset or single moms, I love your channel. Best regards from germany 👍🏻🍀
Yep - Do not waste your time with single mums
When I stopped by to pickup my son from my 1st wife's 2nd husband's home we often had a quickie.
The internet has been a lifesaver for so many young men that choose to listen and learn. I wish that there was somebody that I could have turned to thirty years ago to warn me against CUCKing for some single mommy. In spite of the damage that I've allowed her to inflict upon my life, I will still be retiring a millionaire, if that means anything in this crazy digital fiat economy, and enjoying an early retirement. Thank you, Rich for all that you do to help young, and older men.
Fiats are junk
I strongly disagree with your comment about the internet. I wouldn't trust much of what you see or hear online. All the online BS and outright lies and deceptions are entertaining however.
Spot on! If you want her kids, her career, her money and her pets to have priority over you, then date a single mom.
Don't date single moms, or don't get serious with single moms.
Very good advice for avoiding problems.
You are right but the problem is, usually it starts with friends with benefits thing, later on down the road emotions get involved and not easy to 🛑 stop seeing them, basically, your heart will be controlling but not your mind.
This is so true man.....currently going thru this....things are moving fast for me and this single mom and I'm trying to pull out of this situation before it gets too hard to.
Very true I went through this as well
You are so correct in your content. You speak the truth and I wish I had started following you. It could have saved me tons of heart aches
Always said a baby momma was a trap. I once asked a mother if she would have gotten with me over her husband if we met first on a date just to hear her opinion and immediately she said no. “I was in love”
Ummm... what if he still loves you? “He don’t”
Why....
Change subject please. (With a smile)
Listen being the rebound guy is BAD!!! Very very BAD!!!! Don’t. Move on. You are a CHECK in her eyes.
My younger brother (has no kids of his own…neither do I.) who is not striving and grinding to become a better version of himself and struggles with managing money got engaged last November to a single mom of 4 kids (they were in High School and got together way later and now lives with them in a duplex) from 3 baby daddies. I can’t help but roll my eyes and sigh every time I think of him. He’s hinted at wanting to buy a house to move into with his “family” but I don’t see how he can pull it off when he sucks with money so bad that he had to recently ask our parents for electric bill money. Pays the bare minimum of his behind bills racking up more by the month. Too cheap with his truck maintenance and skips on a needed repairs and now his truck is done for. It goes on. We’re not close but I assumed he would’ve picked up some inspiration from watching me how I’m doing life by pretty much the opposite of everything he’s doing wrong.
You will always be dead last on her list. It's a Friday night. She had two things left on her list, see you or do laundry for her kid. I agree, she should do laundry. But when you are on a list that includes laundry and you are listed below that, she doesn't have anything invested in you. She never will. Matter of fact, the ex will be listed above you since he will have more to say in that child's life than you ever will. Get off her list.
Sad. But true.
I’m a recently divorced single mom, I’m 41 years old and my 3 boys are older (11, 14, and 16). I make great money and have no desire to find them a new daddy. They have a dad. I can pay for them myself. I also share custody with their dad and he does not pay me child support (I don’t need it, didn’t ask for it, and I actually pay their dad support when he has them). I’m dating someone new, he’s 34. He’s got no problem with me having kids and hasn’t met them yet except in VR playing video games. They’ll be with me all summer though soon. How can I best handle the intro of my guy and my little guys without it being awkward or infringing on him and our relationship? Or is it best to just keep my kids separate from my boyfriend? I’d like everyone to be happy, and aside from that I have no opinion on whether they meet and interact or not… would appreciate opinions! Also, I think it would be extremely rude/disrespectful for me to have “family” events with my ex with the kids! I’m actually surprised to hear some women do that and think it’s ok! I wouldn’t like it if the shoe were on the other foot and I appreciate you validating that to men that it’s not ok to keep playing house w/ your ex.
In my opinion there will be nothing left but single moms. They practically allow themselves to get knocked up and abandoned 3-5 times in their twenties. Around that age women with one kid were ghosting me only to end up pregnant and alone again, they're seeking adventure and excitement. Now that I've reached thirty, I've got moms that can't have anymore flirting with me. Some are dumb enough to think marriage can still happen while others just invite me over to Netflix and chill. Not arguing with marrying and having kids with a younger women, but most of them are too picky.
That's what happens when Uncle Sam gives them all a free pass in life for accountability. They know the govt will assist and apply the law to milk the money out of whoever knocked them up.
Loving the re uploads
If you hook up with a single mom, her kids will ALWAYS come first. You're just a paycheck helping to support them. RUN!!!
Come out, come out, where ever you are paycheck lol
Facts!
i just subscribed to this channel. Dude, you rock.
Having no authority over raising the other child is the least of your problems. The child will rarely see you as anything other than a problem in their life. They will talk you down, when you are not around. When the woman starts to tire of you, she will use her own child as a sounding board to also trash you behind your back. They end up supporting each others negative feelings towards you, and you will not win, you will in fact lose and lose big. So I agree....do not get involved with woman with children...period.
If I was hat kid, another man would be a stranger invading my household. And I would neve take orders nor lecturongs from a stranger. So never get in there, no matter how nice you think you are. Pa is the one to raise the kid. Mom oust him, then it's their problem.
Thank you for this message brother, God bless!
I guess it all depends on the how the relationship ends, my ex would always hang out with me and our child doing different things, really had a dislike towards her but did it for child, still friends now, always met her new boyfriends, some I even made friends with , talk about cars, sports, etc so it was all cool.
Thanks brother, just got out of the whole crazy single mom thing. Always had said no and gave it a shot for looks and w.e but you're 100% right. Its a nightmare and sucks you dry. Listen to his advice! Haha
You’re not wrong however I’m 44 and there’s hardly a snowball chance in hell of me finding a woman within twenty years of me that doesn’t have kids. It’s not practical.
@@shawnb6775 what 20 something is looking for a 44 year old man? Only if he has millions
Rich tends to paint a picture of "top shelf" guys with lots of resources being able to find attractive, childless, 20-something ladies for LTRs. Like, you busted your ass, made a lot of money, now you wanna settle down with a young lady with no baggage and have a family - ok, the world is your oyster! But, I honestly don't think it's that easy, even if the dude is a fairly attractive and in-shape millionaire. On the whole, I honestly think young ladies naturally prefer younger dudes. If I'm wrong, then please tell me. I asked how a "top shelf" guy can meet those kinds of ladies. I got the answer, "hinge." I've never tried it, but idk... I have my doubts.
Yes you can. Go overseas.
@@hanooi7450 Where?
@@nicetalkintoya Philliphines. Colombia.
Ordered the book, arrives Friday.
My first question when I meet a woman that I would like to get to know is “what happened to your husband” if the answer is something other than an explanation of how he died then I’m gone. I also meet women that I don’t ask that question of which means they are temporary place holders.
I think that will be my next question lol
so now I got a few questions lined up.
do you have ink on your body?
what happened to your husband?
do you drink alcohol ?
are your parents still together?
Do you know how to cook some Mexican food?? if the answer is no or she is from another culture if she is willing to learn if the answer is no I'm out.
Good insight Lar. Only a widower and say after a couple years is a smart move.
yeah, sure, because all relationships lasts forever and everyone has to endure things like cheating, abusive and so son. Lmao m0ron, no wonder you are alone
Gents, expand this guidance to "pet mommies" who have chosen to give a forever home to a poor, lost, in need of adoption, 4 legged "child". She will always be anchored to the responsibilities of going home to let them out, walk them, feed, take to the vet. You will also be asked to help when she has to " work late". Been there. When I was being mice and agreeable. I was asked to help. Tried to. Couldn't find key. Then via phone was told "never mind". No "thank you" or other recognition. She never brought it up afterward.
Lesson: don't ask about kids, pets, etc. She needs to know you can't be relied on for anything to do with them. Set the condition early.
I have been divorced from my wife for over two years. I would never hangout and have dinner with my ex. It is completely transactional between my ex and I. Dated many single moms and they were all plates! No way I would marry a single mom!
I'm an older woman. When I was younger a single mom was a divorced mother not single mom. There was something about being called a divorced woman. You knew a single mother had never been married. I don't like how words have changed.
We don’t care what you think. You are irrelevant as you are way past being put out to pasture.
I dated many and will NEVER again. As the man, you are not the boyfriend. You are the human wallet, chauffeur, fix it man, and most painful...the emotional sponge. Both her and her kids live in a universe of emotional impulsivity that never stops no matter how hard you try to point out logic and reason. You will find yourself depleted with zero appreciation from her or her kids. That soul shaking sex in the beginning just never seems to happen anymore. Many guys want to be the hero especially when there is a 9 or 10 they have great chemistry with and and my vibe is go right ahead.
Great video man, spot on, the dude is right to speak out and tell her she is wrong to go out with her ex. Its respect and if she loves and respects him she will not do it. If she ignores him she needs dumping. Move on bro.
It really is like throwing a hotdog down a cave for those wondering. Just don't do it!
I wish I had thought about this before my last girlfriend. She has two kids from her ex boyfriend. They were still "friends". That is, until he got evicted from his house and needed a place to stay. She didn't even tell me he moved into her house, and we were still together. If you're dating a single mom, that possibility is always just a whim away.
I think it really depends. I'm not my Dads biological daughter, but He adopted me and He is the only Father I know. And Him and my Mom have been married over 23 years now. And I try my best to be a good daughter, and love cooking for my Dad. I think my parents had a very happy ending. They also had my little sister together.
Yeah whatever. Nice try on convincing us that it's okay to date single women, it's fineee, no harm at all. Do us men a favor- don't ruin our lives, thanks witch
@@McGregorsPlumbingandHeating Lol You have problems
"why why why why why".... the last WHY got to me 🤣🤣🤣
I dated and eventually married a single divorced mother. She is beautiful and amazing we have a wonderful relationship. Sometimes it was hard combining families but totally worth it. Granted I dated many women with children and had nightmare stories. You have to take your time and be careful all women are not the same.
@Rick Sparks Did you already have kids of your own before getting into a relationship with this single divorced mother?
@@jasongrady259 I had one boy she had two younger children from a long term marriage. We make a great family and are very happy. I did date women with children that were a disaster I took my time.
Your situation is a little different because you have a kid also but overall dating a single mother is a horrible idea
I was the 3rd in a cuk 3way thing back in my 30's late 90's. They were in there 50's it was awesome 😎
I LITERALLY had this happen to me in December 2022 during Christmas Eve, my now ex told me her ex husband was staying the night at her apartment for Christmas morning and I couldn't stay the night or even go there until he left. I've NEVER been so embarrassed in my life, she actually had the nerve to call me immature bc I had a problem with that. That was the end of that relationship but I do regret spending around $1k in Christmas presents for her and her daughter but in the end I learned my lesson to NEVER take single mothers seriously ever again.
I was 31 and she was 40, i figured older women would be more mature than women my age or younger but I learned that older women are just as bad mentally, difference is theyre older
Looking back now, she did move WAY too fast for my liking, we'd knew each other for 2 years but lived states apart and she said to move in with her within a month of dating. I was uncomfortable but since my lease was up at the same time and my job is basically around the country by travel, I said why not. Boy that was a mistake lol
I’m a ( relatively attractive) single mom of one child, his father passed away and I am financially independent (child support is not an issue) w/ minimal drama. I will not even consider dating a man without kids because (in my experience) men without kids Only want FWB-
Your situation is understandable but definitely not the norm. Sorry for your loss
You are in a more unique situation in that your husband passed away compared to most single moms with kids who are divorced with a ton of baggage.
20+ years ago one of my best friends started dating a older women with 2 boys. In a conversation we were having he told me what a bum her 1st husband was ; how he could never hold a job and was lazy lay about ! Then a couple of minutes later the conversation went to where his new girlfriend had such so level headed ;smart and thought things out and had a really good head on her shoulders. So I asked the question that was obvious "If she is so smart why did she marry and have 2 kids with a no-good bum ? Where was the level head then?" I just got a blank stare........he stopped hanging out with me about 6 months later
You are a good friend and that guy was a fool. Better to not have a fool around anyway.
@@jasonb6315 The worse part of his story is that when he was dating her , he was in his late 20's and he decided to go back to college to get a career going. She said "move in with me and I will help you with your schooling " He got thru 1 1/2 semesters and she said " I cannot afford to have you living here without contributing any money, you have to get a job" needless to say he dropped out of college soon after !!!!