IT'S WORSE THAN I THOUGHT | Jada Pinkett Smith's Book | Real Psychologist Reacts to reading 'WORTHY'
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ค. 2024
- I made good on my promise to read the book. Here are my thoughts.
00:00 - Intro
01:37 - The writing
03:50 - Jada’s childhood and relationship with her mother
05:55 - Tupac
06:43 - Jada and Will Smith’s dysfunctional relationship
11:41 - Jada’s parenting
19:29 - Ayahuasca
21:30 - Jada’s entanglement with August Alsina
25:07 - Will Smith slapping Chris Rock
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No one loves Jada more than Jada.
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As Jada always say... You know what I mean 😂
Jada is a case study of narcissism 😵💫
Best comment ever!
She slept with her son’s friend. Then she told the world about it and had her husband sit down and talk to her about it on camera. She’s the definition of a narcissist
Not only that but he was 23, which is 21 yrs younger than Jada, his parents were addicted to drugs, his older brother was murdered, they brought him into their home to give him stability but he's also blind and has an autoimmune liver disease, she completely took advantage of him and then humiliated Will on her stupid show. If she was a man we'd speak about her in a completely different way, she'd be a predator.
@@jessicam5712That's the problem. Libtards! We got to get trident of Libtards!
@@jessicam5712While I agree she’s a predator, I must say that August Alsina is not blind…
and BPD up the yin yang
I'm not sure she's the definition. Epitome, paragon, embodiment, incarnation, etc.
there’s this phenomenon where people who become self-obsessed as a result of difficult childhoods think they are very deep, almost sacred, and they don’t realize how stunted and worryingly basic and surface-scratching they are. It’s so bizarre to well adapted people. I hear this stuff and I feel very sorry in a way, that Jada thinks she has pearls of wisdom to offer but they are mostly just warped conclusions.
Very well said.
@@noneofyobiznizz9516 I agree
It's called 'Guru Status Syndrome'. Meghan Markle has it. It's a colossal inferiority complex turned inside out. She's so insecure, unless she is worshipped and idolized, she doesn't like it... The book is embarrassing.
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I worry for her daughter having listened to her mother and grandmother her whole life. I find Jada has no clue how very shallow and immature she is.
It's OK to be confident, and it's OK to be wrong. Just not both at the same time.
Love this
I call it being strong in your wrong.
I think it’s ok to be confident and wrong if you are also willing to be open to correction, and own your mistakes.
Jada emasculated Will
I think the thing that bothers me the most is how confident she is in her wrongness.
I bet🙄. YOU people just won't stop.....
@@dashingnurse5098???
I know what you mean. I think they call it arrogance.
Not saying she is a narcissist but I grew up with one and saw this same style confidence-they front confidence but are very fragile egos. It is confusing and intensely frustrating until you learn to disconnect because they will suck the life out of you with their partial truths and games-honestly, games and weird things they do and deny and for what? Their very fragile ego.
Exactly and there's no room for her to look at it objectively
Anyone who could listen to that toxic narcissist for 14 minutes let alone 14 hrs deserves the Purple Heart.
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Dude 😂😂😂😂
Does Ayahuasca cure Pathological Narcissism. It truly is a panacea.
I agree!👏🏼 💜🎖️
Nobel award!
My five-year-old said he wanted something to eat, so I gave him money and directions to the food store, then placed him behind the driver's seat of my truck and handed him the keys. The rest was up to him. He's very independent.
Spit my coffee out laughing 😂😂😂😭😭😭
Spot on and then lecture all your friends too about it😂
hahhahahaaaaaaaa🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂
Best comment !
🤣🤣🤣Perfect!
Many perfectly healthy boys (and girls) dread their first day of school. Healthy parents comfort and insure their child gets the education and social skills that interacting with other kids provide. If anyone has seen the clip of Will calmly objecting to being filmed by Jada in their home they will have seen a narcissist in action. I think she was live streaming and said to her viewers "do you see the foolishness I have to put up with?" This is a destructive individual.
Putting the kids in the driver's seat by saying you trust their intuition is just a way of absolving herself of responsibility without feeling guilty about it.
Absolutely. It's also an indication that she's incredibly arrogant in her view of herself. I bet Jada absolutely adores the smell of her own farts.
Putting your KIDS in the driver's seat of anything when they're NOT adults is ABUSE.
And she seems to do that a lot!
@@hazeltyler89As someone who has had to come to terms with parentification and neglect in my childhood, this is absolutely true.
OMG! Parents can utilize their own intuition in raising their kids, but they can’t walk away and think intuition alone can raise them. Yes, that is neglect.
Thank you for reading her book so we don't have to.
Exactly. No way I would waste my life on that garbage 😂😂😂😂
My thought exactly! Lol❤
Battle fatigue, lol 😂
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Yes. Thank you for suffering in our behalf.
Chef's kiss! I'm also a psychologist and I've had soooo many similar thoughts about this family. Watching the untreated personality disorders and the Intellectualization Olympics run riot is both infuriating and fascinating. I never ever could have made it through that book on paper, and the audiobook may have killed me. I salute you, sir.
It’s a fantastic train wreck of a book (person) and we love to gawk! Jada makes me love myself by contrast, maybe not her exact goal.
@TheFragrantClerk 😄 Seriously! Normally, I'd agree with the idea that if you don't want to know more about a celebrity, don't pay attention, but if you consume ANY amount of entertainment news, you WILL be subjected to JPS's nonsense. Her ubiquity would almost be impressive if she wasn't so irritating.
@@TiffND This book will be excellent source material for a therapist later in those kids life. Also, I follow almost ZERO news but cannot escape certain stories, maybe a perfect equilibrium.
Who are these supposed “psychologists “?
@@TheFragrantClerk LOL
In regards to the "Holy Slap" I'm amazed that more people don't talk about the verifiable fact that Will Smith was not offended or upset when the joke happened. Regardless of anything he has said after the fact. They had a camera on him and Jada immediately after Chris Rock told the joke and Will was both laughing and clapping while Jada clearly looked angry. It's too bad they didn't keep the camera on the two of them on the broadcast because there is no way Will, of his own volition, completely changed his entire demeanor and decided to go up on stage and slap that dude. 110% she let him know she was displeased and the slap is how he reacted to her- not how he reacted to the actual joke that was told.
It's a shame the camera did not linger on Will and Jada longer- shame on the producers in the truck for cutting away, lol.
Jada is a walking advertisement of red flags.
That clip says everything you need to know about this woman. She's the perfect Narcissist.
@PJPremiere: No. She didn't say a word. He was 'smiling _until_ he saw her expression. He knows how to read her face. She rolled her eyes at what Chris said and that's all it took. Even Will says this himself.
Yeah, I feel like that whole incident actually reflects more on her than him at this point.
@@violetviolet888that's how it works with a manipulator. Victims become mind readers through subtle cues and can't recall how they knew what the other person wanted them to do. Trained.
@@chels9843 With children the process is called "Grooming". In this case it's being in a relationship and observing the patterns of your partner. Will is not a victim. He is a willing participant.
The worst thing that Jada does is try to act like a therapist. As a licensed clinician, this can be very harmful to people who are vulnerable.
This is true...
My sister in law is that person and narcissistic. She has turned my brother against my mother and myself. We see her for who she truly is so we are a danger to her life. Now my sister is also very unstable and always has been but my brother was not which is what proves how dangerous these people are. My sister is now more insane due to the “therapy” my sister in law has provided her. She’s now put my mom and I in a horrible heart breaking place of losing access to grand children, children, my nieces and nephews. This has come to a fault recently so it’s painful and fresh.
You ain’t licensed I looked you up
As a person who was too poor to go to college, but has studied abnormal psychology, I can say that it doesn't matter if you have a license, Ph.D., or whatever it may be, anyone on this planet could say that it is widely known that vulnerable people can be easily persuaded into doing almost anything, and a lot of people act like therapists who aren't therapists. Take "Dr." Phil, for example. He hasn't had a degree in anything for decades, yet he thinks he can go on TV and tell people what to do. I find that VERY messy.
They're like a cancer, they're all over the internet & should be banned
Woman has a difficult life, makes poor choices, and has poorly developed relationships.
Woman redefines the messiness of her life in ways that make her sound like she is out of touch with reality.
Woman now believes she is a wise sage imparting wisdom onto us mere mortals.
Well, your review just saved me some money.
You were seriously going to read it? Are you a masochist?
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Sounds like she’s ready to run for office. 😂
I myself was NEVER gonna buy that book
You thought you might have read it!!! 😂
You deserve a whole medal for getting through this torturous book. 🏅👏
I think that because of Jada's background and the success she created for herself, she sees herself as this wise, enlightened person that us misunderstood. Then she tries to explain and justify her actions by making using certain words or imagery that she thinks make her sound so deep but really just make her sound ridiculous. A toddler putting 3 words together makes more sense than Jada's rambling.
Always found her to be someone who so desperately wants everyone to think she is this highly intellectual person. Someone that is on another level of thinking. I think she fails miserably.
It comes off as narcissistic and delusional. honey I can throw together a word salad that doesn't addressed or mean anything too.
She tried far too hard. It’s not believable
She's Kanye in a woman's body and the fact that we're all pretending that that's not the case is crazy to me.
She’s what the hood calls “ a street rat”.
Yes - it makes me cringe so hard I need an ironing.
Jada is an emotional vampire whose alopecia cleared up real fast.
So true. I've suffered w alopecia b4 & I think she just loved the limelight & HOW BEAUTIFUL she looked BALD! How discraseful!
Exactly! Notice how you don't hear her talking about it anymore? A medical condition isn't something you should say you have just to get more attention focused on yourself.@@sandyl.2646
@@sandyl.2646 I think she just wanted to be a victim. Jada has worn over 1,000 wigs. If she was embarrassed about her hair, she could have put a wig on. C'mon now.
Or she was just shilling a medication w who knows what side effects
Omg! I never thought of that, but you could be right. Ugh!, she's the worst.@@HotelSnob
I'm shocked on how far Will is willing to go to make people believe his life & marriage was wonderful. Now I feel sorry for him.
Why feel sorrow for a Cuck?
Will Smith was an amazing, funny, living free spirit until Jada. 😢
I don't, at some point you have to take inventory and do what's best for, not only yourself, but everyone involved. Hell, it certainly hasn't stopped her from doing what's best for her!
That’s what a narcissist does to you.
@@Susannas-ie5xk I think they are 2really screwed up & damaged people who have probably created 2 monster off spring who do not know reality is ! Jada & Will have created this alternateworld called Hollywood which is all facade! I believe she is a spider & Jada is continously weaving her family & anyone else she can snare (the whole world) into believing the world she creates! The whole world revolves around her. Will will never break free because of the pact he made w/her-it's all about control! Sick pysche!
As someone who was suicidal I can confirm you are correct. I will always worry about sinking down to the level I once was, and that is the scariest thing possible. When you are suicidal, there is no light at the end of the tunnel - you really do feel alone and not understood, feel worthless, and feel that there is only one way to end the pain. If you ever get out of that tunnel, you will do everything you can to never get back there again - but that is a constant "worry" (for lack of a better term).
That's why I don't believe Jada was really suicidal - just an attention-seeking manipulator.
Just like meghan markle
I don't know how anyone could feel that they know better than a stranger whether or not the stranger was suicidal _enough._ That's a slippery slope.
@@clairepettie I was just sharing my view and giving my opinion as someone who went through this hell themselves and met other people who have been through this as well. She sounds dodgy, is what I'm saying.
Will Smith was finally seen as a bad guy in the eyes of the public which made her happy.
Is that to say that now she feels like they are equal because he’s now as messed up as she is? I was trying to understand why she felt so connected to him at his worst moment. Was she jealous of him?
Exactly. She wants him to be seen as the damaged, inferior one in the relationship
Wow! Very observant and correctly interpreted. Narcs love to perpetrate the damage of others. They savor their success doing so. And, on the flip side, with the “roof pool jump”, while she voices her undying will to Will,…this is her way of ‘reeling him back in’. Sick stuff. Master Manipulator!
Because it essentially isolated him under her control.
You look like you can read women very well I trust your judgment.
Every interview or conversation involving Jada is a crazy battle of mental gymnastics. Her attempt to justify her bad behavior with distorted higher level enlightenment is insane! A mother doing drugs with your child tells me all I ever need to know!
She thinks she’s smart and smarter than all of us.
Sure but Jada has been traumatized by disfiguring alopecia. A one and a half inch length of bald spot- the width of half a pencil, or thereabouts, upon her skull which, visually, is a horrific cross to bear knowing that people are looking at it and judging her for something which she is not responsible for. Like cancer. Jada means to validate herself as a human being who matters!
Why wasn’t family services involved?
Runaway kids?
Drugs with kids?
Here in Texas, that gets you prison time!
indeed surviving da bullshiiiiiit is paramount survival goals!!! lol
Delusions of grandeur
I hit the like button when you explained you’d listened to her for 14 hrs… out of pity… thanks you for taking one for the team.
Lmao
Nothing like loosing narcissistic children into the world that have been shielded from consequences. Children being told about all their rights and none of the responsibilities. a mother who praises the most mundane actions and transforms those actions into the most Stellar accomplishments. This woman truly has a tenuous grasp of reality.
I'm a therapist and your perspective is clear, grounded, streamlined, wise, and anchored in great principles and character. Wonderful job.
I would generally agree but I suspect that those who have not used psychedelics with a therapy orientation are underestimating what it can do. Not saying it will always work, but it can be like having your deep subconscious talk directly to you about what your issues are AND how to fix them. It knows all your bs and all the ways you are not honest with yourself and it can show the exact things you are doing and thinking that are causing your problems. It can even go in and show you exact snippets of your life to illustrate every point it makes. It can show you your blind spots that you were hiding from yourself. And it also can show you how you can feel if you let go of negative tendencies, for many, that may be something they didn't know could happen because they've not experienced it, thus it can also bring hope. Plus it helps lessen attraction to entrenched negative habits so it becomes easier to change habits afterwards. It can be like the ultimate therapist because it knows everything about you and your deep stuff and also the best ways to untangle your issues and you can never lie to it or even to yourself during the session. Of course like anything, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, the lessons shown will need to be practiced and implemented, but for peeps like Jada, if they have a strong proactive attitude, all that can be especially useful.
On the flip side, if you expect to just not try to change or improve anything but hope that psychedelics will just make you feel better like a magic fix it pill while you personally plan to make no effort on your end, I think it is much less likely to help. You can't expect to not change anything or even try but to still feel better long term anyway, you have to meet it half way. Also psychedelics will sometimes sort of ram it down your throat, sometimes you don't wanna know but you might be told anyway. It's often for your own good but you may not at the time want know about your unpleasant habits that you are hiding from yourself. But you need to know if you want to get better. Sometimes the truth hurts. Also change can be destabilizing. Ideally you break down the old you enough to create a new better you, but if peeps are too unstable, that process may be too much for them. IMO it works fairly good for depression that is long term and stable though. I've also known some alcoholics that got greatly helped, often alcoholics are running from other issues by using alcohol and those issues need to be addressed directly. They quit the alcohol but despite a bunch of big pharma meds, still find themselves unhappy.
@@OnceUponaTimelineare you referring to mushrooms/psilocybin as the psychedelics/hallucinogens, or are you referring to dimethyltryptamine (DMT)/Ayahuasca for therapeutic use?
I’ve heard of people using both as tools in their therapy treatment, but I have only ever attempted to use mushrooms/psilocybin twice. First time was a trial of a very small amount (0.5 grams) to make sure I didn’t have any adverse reactions to it. The second time was when I took a full dose of 3.5 grams for medicinal purposes. This was done with the help of my therapist. I was the one that wanted to try it out and at first she was extremely hesitant, but I told her that I was going to do it either way. After many other forms of treatment, she finally obliged. I thought that I was going to have some miraculous success with this treatment, but it was not what I had hoped for. It was strong (if you ask me, it was too strong for me). Enough to make me feel high and experience some hallucinogenic effects. I didn’t have any therapeutic response though? I did try for five hours and we did certain exercises that she suggested. I was able to get through them without much difficulty, but the only thing that I think it did was to help me talk about painful things with a big ol’ smile on my face. In a weird and uncomfortable way though? Even when she pressed me to discuss certain topics, I just diverted my focus to more enjoyable topics. I remember thinking and saying repeatedly that “I would rather talk about this…” or “oh yea that’s true, but let’s not talk about that right now” and then I would just go to the next conversation. As much as I hate to admit this, but my therapist was right. It didn’t give me any dramatic results and I can’t see it doing that, even with repeated treatments. My point being that I was able to deflect from the topics that I didn’t like to talk about normally and I didn’t have any deep feelings or conversations with myself. Even though a decent portion of the experience I was left alone to decompress and reflect. I just smiled, laughed, and was wide awake for a long time. I didn’t have any moments of sincere reflection because I was so giggly and euphoric. Maybe I should have done less? It was very similar to how I felt when I tried ecstasy as a young adult. Like a rush of serotonin and dopamine that makes you feel incredible and you want to love and laugh the whole time. The part that I feel is never talked about is the extreme hangover that you feel afterwards. It took me two days to recover physically, but the mental part took longer. Maybe about 2-3 weeks? The mental fatigue and depression you have from psilocybin/mushrooms is what people should be talking about. I’ve even read that it has been reported that some people have had such “come downs” that they have tried to take their own lives? That is the scary part about psychedelics/hallucinogens that is not discussed enough!
Maybe DMT/Ayahuasca is the one to give you that deep inward reflection that you were mentioning?
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@@OnceUponaTimeline Psychedelics can also leave people with long lasting delusions.
@@OnceUponaTimeline what is it?
On one episode of the “ Red Table “ she told the story of how at 8 her grandmother showed her “ how to pleasure herself “, it made me sick!
She was sexually molested by her grandmother and has turned it around to say it’s ok to do that to children!
It may be a way for her to protect herself but the way she talked about it was horrible. No one should ever “ teach “ a child this.
I never watch another episode.
That girl is so self absorbed it’s scary!
Really really gross
Oh that's awful! She plays such mental gymnastics to avoid any real emotional work. That is heartbreaking.
The way she talked about that was completely disgusting and it made me understand why her mom was a drug addict and why she was soo messed up as well. Its generational trauma.
The grandmother? That’s even worse.
How they act like it was normal and not sexual abuse…terrible
thank you for saving us from the torture of going through this book
I had a friend growing up. We knew each other since we were in nappies, all the way up to graduating uni (2003). What I recognise in him was pure narcissistic behaviour. He thought he was the best, he hated anyone that beat him in anything, he would say that people cheated or they had it easy (he had a VERY easy childhood, teen years and adulthood) and he would do anything to win. What I’ve noticed in the most successful people, or very ambitious people, is this very same trait. It terrifies me. As someone not very ambitious, who measures success based on how genuinely happy I made someone (even if it’s just a simple smile) then I feel like I’ve accomplished something good. Money, fame, accolades etc have never interested me; which is why people who find these things worthwhile feel 2 dimensional.
100% agreement
There are many,many people that achieve success whilst still remaining down to earth and kind!
She's what I call unaware.....unaware of her behavior, unaware of her surroundings....completely disconnected.
FACTS!
. . . which could be rooted in trauma. But she'll never start fixing it if she's not willing to consider it.
For an actress, she sure can't read a room.
and yet, she feels so aware!!!
Typical narcissist. She is completely incapable of empathy, so she can only see things from one perspective - Jada's.
Reading this book would be painful enough but, to listen to her read it!!?! That's next level!!
Totally agree , listening to that book would be excruciating .
That is why I haven't read it yet
She is beyond pompous and arrogant.
😂😂😂😂 should be used at military interrogations
True. It's hard enough, but I have it on Audible and...I just can't
I bet you that if she were to meet a copy of herself, personality wise, she'd hate her and feel about her the way we feel about Jada 😆
Thanks for the audio. Jada’s voice sounds like she is reading a very romantic poem. Nothing is so beautiful and romantic about her life. Grandiosity without self awareness is all I see and hear from her.
“Mental gymnastics” is the perfect way to describe what she does. It’s exhausting. I don’t even know what she’s saying.
She's never actually saying anything, so you're good ;)
Psycho babble!
You don’t get to talk about Jada. Her life is like most black peoples in this suffocating country. She’s doing the best she can, no one can get out of this country without mental illness.
@@cassandrastanton7955 Nice segue into making easy excuses for your own behavior...
I'm like what did she say, I don't understand her most of the time. She just word vomits
Will and Jada live in their own universe of insanity. Thanks for taking the bullet for those of us who couldn't stomach another moment of her nonsense!
Too bad that 'universe of insanity' is still in our reality/dimension. If there is such a thing as other dimensions, I honestly think we're stuck in one of the worst timelines. 😅
I really like him and I always thought he should have divorce her 15 years ago.
@@opa8928 I always felt like the dynamic between them was sort of strange. I could be totally off-base here, but it looked like she made ALL the decisions, & he just tucked his tail & went along with it. IF that is the case, it's emotionally abusive _at least._
Will Smith was so cool until about 10 - 15 years ago. What happened? 🤔💭Jada
It was funny, though.
Wow!! That story of Jada reacting to Will’s comment about the mother of his son by jumping off the roof (along with several of her other traits) SCEAMS BPD to me. I’ll say it. Yes, that screams of extreme fear of abandonment and desperation manipulation. It’s really tragic. And she also appears to have strong narcissistic traits if not NPD.
I concur with everything you’ve said. I’ve always been so annoyed by her self-aggrandizing. Thank you for sharing your experience of the book. There’s no way I could have gotten through it and I’m an avid reader. The one and only time I watched her red table talk show it was so weird. She came across superficially as intelligent but there was an edge to her that I didn’t like at all and never watched the show again. I later worked closely with a narcissistic boss and recognized that’s what Jada probably was.
And yes!! You got a Like from me simply for taking one for the team and enduring her voice. Subscribed!
Will's response should have been: 'Did you have a nice swim hon?'
I think she is an attention seeker.
My take on Jada: literally every word, every movement, every breath is calculated to bring attention to herself.
My take on Will: a goofball who got a little arrogant because he was treated like a god as a teen & young adult.
Their kids are an endless train wreck full of clowns, circus animals, and fireworks.
Edit to add that I'm subscribing just for your Herculean task of plowing through this material. With that kind of dedication, the rest of your contest HAS to be good. 😂
I actually think their parenting style is the only thing that worked out. Willow and Jaden are also extremely successful and they don’t seem to have the same problems as their parents.
I’m just going to say it. She’s an exaggerator, colors outside the lines, is manipulative, is a gaslighter whether she realizes it or not, is a word twister, a controller, destroyer of children and husband’s mindset, has a superior behavior, is an attention seeker etc. You have to escape that goat and run for the hills like your life depends on it. The analogy was on point and that’s because I’ve been around people like that. 1 word 3 syllables: nar•cis•sist.
More like adrenachrome and the golden juice. When you sell your soul to the devil he comes to eventually collect. Their only hope of breaking their curse is Jesus. #Redeamer
@@suemonohand4819 LOL
Jesus isn't going to help anyone.
God helps those who help themselves. It doesn't seem like she's even aware of how much she needs help.
Yep!!! Plain as day.
Yes but!!!!!,,,,, these are also all the characteristics of witchcraft.
I have always thought she thrives on chaos. The slap was a perfect chance for her to get Will back into her control and use that chaos to fuel her.
The night of the slap she posted a pic of herself with a caption that said “keep your eyes on the prize” 🤦🏽♀️ Poor Will couldn’t even be the prize on the night he won an Oscar 😂
You know who thrives on the chaos they create…. A narcissist
@@AriaJade-ys2tqDid she!!?? I still can't bring myself to watch the movie. I just feel so bad for him.
This is 100% on point. I wouldn't waste my time reading that book or my money purchasing it. I know Jada is full of crap and she is damaging everyone around her. Will never called her out and let her run the show and that most likely made things even worse.
Thank you for your personal sacrifice to inform us TH-camrs. I truly appreciate your candor.
Thank you!
I’m new to this…I’m 5:43 into this and I’m out. How can I send him money
It's no wonder their kids are so screwed up. What responsible parent lets their child make all their decisions? Kids don't have the life experience or mental capacity to make all of their own decisions. That's why they have parents or guardians!!!! The more I hear about her, the more I can't stand her. A lot of us had hard childhoods and we didn't become assholes.
AMEN!
Her son basically ran away from home (or his unhappiness) and she twists it into him being mature so that she can live in her utopian delusion.
Absolutely agreed, look into parentification (psychology) to see what this is all about.
Right! I completely agree
That's just it: she doesn't take ANY responsibility.
Her book only tells me that anyone can write a book. 😂 She sounds like a therapist’s nightmare.
😂😂
My takeaway is, I thought I couldn't write a book until I became successful, but she broke that excuse, thanks Jada! 😅
i feel sorry for the kids, they learned the world revolved around them and it ain't. With this upbringing she messed them up. And homescholing with her take on racisme, slavery etc doesn't see healthy to me.
Like she’d ever go to a therapist- or if she did, she wouldn’t stay.
@@SidewaysWalker LOL! Probably true!
She’s gross, anyone who treats the person that loves them like that, is just gross. If I never see her again, or anything about her, I’d be happy as a clam. I’m sorry she went through stuff, but doesn’t excuse her actions.
I knew nothing about their partnership apart from them being a couple and having two kids.
But I was invited - I feel - into the dynamic of their relationship from the Oscar slapping.
It looked at first like Will Smith was sort of OK with Chris Rock's remark.
Then he made a quick check to see how Jada was reacting. And from this he decided to smack Chris Rock.
When Will Smith walked back down from the stage I think he expected her to be very proud and supportive of him.
But she wasn't! She completely ignored him! OUCH!
And I think the reason for Will Smith to continue shouting at Chris Rock was to insure Jada that he did it for her.
Thank you for suffering through that monstrosity of a biography on our behalf 🙂. Your insights were very thought out. Whether she deserves it or not, you were very graceful in your delivery. 👍🏾
Omg I couldn’t last five minutes!
If you truly love someone you are not gonna have a successful open relationship. If I love you why would I want you to be intimate with someone else. Anyone that’s okay with their partner being with someone else intimately is either mentally compromised or isn’t in love with their partner….if I truly love someone just the thought of them with someone else will hurt my feelings let alone having sex with another 😢
I couldn’t do it and I’m an avid reader.
The emphasis on the “we can’t get divorced” nonsense only makes me root for one of them to file. What a toxic mess.
It just reminds me of those "covenant marriages", which they "can't leave". Your experience in a relationship can change your mind, which you are allowed to do. We are not under medieval church law.
I saw a video of Jada's show where Jennette McCurdy was on, discussing her memoir "I'm Glad My Mom Died." Jada sat there with a stone face, but the camera kept cutting to Willow, who was horrified by the stories of abuse (it's a really good book, BTW). I just kept wondering when Jada's kids are going to write their own books, because I bet they could.
She speaks like she’s all mystical and magical and we should believe she is too. But I believe it’s magic of her own making bc she’s so impressed with herself. Feel sorry for Will Smith knowing he can never be rid of her crazy self. There’s something very abnormal and left of center with her. Personality disorder? Etc? I say he should go get a separation agreement then never file for a full divorce. Then he can go live as if divorced. I’ve never liked her…
This woman is the queen of gaslighting IMHO. Manipulating people to her way of doing things, or getting what she wants is evil. For August, Will, and her son! My Gosh. I saw the red table, it was so CRINGE. Will was obviously blind sided. He was hurt and humiliated and she didn't get away with it. I don't give Will a pass at all because those kids are such a total mess. That's his fault as well IMHO.
The son is a real mess - you really hv to worry for him, (& feel rlly
sorry for him, my gosh) between the anorexia & the complete lack of any normal childhood + all of her silliness & sheer Narcissism (& no doubt the often occurring Narc rage which is never v pretty; what a nightmare) Hope her son is getting a lot of therapy (& gets a place of his own soon - & never goes near NOR watches that Red Table rubbish.) What a mess it all is (& Will himself is a mess; she messed up everybody with her antics & the endless manipulation. She cannot stand Will hvg any friends or business associates - bc they take the attention "from her!" (Ouf..)🙏🇬🇧
I think Will’s reaction at the Red Table is because for the first time he was seeing the entanglement not as what they agreed upon and accepted but as the audience would view it.
It’s one thing for her to gaslight everyone in the protected fame bubble of their home but the perspective gets widened when it’s realized how the audience would receive this abnormal behavior.
She may have been ready to justify her actions publicly but I don’t think he was ready to justify his cowardice when it comes to her having free reign over everyone under his provided rooftop.
I think he realized that her myopic truth would not be accepted or forgiven by the masses and His fans would lose respect for him as a man, husband, father and role model.
I do believe that she car wrecked his first happily ever after marriage which caused him to guilt grieve into trying to make the second marriage ‘til death do we part.
Will has been infant-asizing the ‘happy wife, happy life’ with kids since he was 5 years old yet his second wife had to be driven down the aisle kicking and screaming but with the understanding that she’d be in control of the home and kids from that day forward.
The public could see the humiliating ego slap to his face as the message sank in again . . . She doesn’t love or respect me and never did.
The one piece of the puzzle that I could not see clearly was the bottom right corner, the no pre-nuptial agreement if she was allowed to do as she pleased within the home, forever.
I think she knew that no one else on the planet, other than Smith, would have put up with her for a lifetime.
I think he knew that all she ever wanted was to be in the driver’s seat as they headed for the edge of a cliff.
I couldn’t watch the red table. But I did see excerpts. I have to wonder if maybe Will was in on it. Maybe he’s as twisted as she is and was doing some Oscar-worthy acting. Maybe this was all just theater for the normies.
@@edwarddodge7937 If that’s the case, I have no problem writing them both off as no longer worth my time.
I saw a Keeping Up With The Kardashians commercial once, that was enough for me to by-pass all things Kardashian related.
I have no regrets for choosing to spend my time above the sewers instead of getting elbows deep in the poop below.
I never gave her one bit of thought until the infamous Oscar Slap and my very first reaction once I allowed myself to give a rat's arse was recognizing Will's behavior as being familiar to me. I was raised by a mother with narcissistic personality disorder and people who engage in that behavior are often called "flying monkeys". Will was being a flying monkey for Jada. Only people with PDs of this nature have flying monkeys. The NPD pathology is all over this. When a person with NPD has you under that spell you learn to respond to the most imperceptible body language and be fully aware of the magnitude of emotion being expressed by that person's slightest facial twitch. Upon watching the scene, it jumped out at me. Will has been married to an abuser this whole time.
It’s just another template to follow for celebrities when their career is failing. Write a book about their terrible childhood.
But she didn't even write that... What she wrote in her book about her childhood made it seem like she was basically from a well off family who adored her and spoiled her rotten which is right in line with her behavior. I think this dude may see otherwise because from a cultural perspective, his idea of a good childhood may not be shared by the rest of us. Jada was spoiled.
Jada Pinkett Smith's book flopped horribly. It has been a huge disaster. In her million interviews she gave on the book, I believe she talked people out of any interest in it.
She would have done better if she would have released it and said _nothing._
lol
@@starlingswallow, yes, you are absolutely correct!!!
And that's the very thing that's going to make her book popular ten years for now because the next generation will want to read it; but as were in the thick and their scrutiny is always publicized it will happen
💯
I’ve watched a lot of Red Table Talk because from a counselor’s perspective it’s fascinating to watch the way she puts everything she’s got into creating this fake persona - she’s constructed this serene, wise, earthy, glowing façade and for anyone in the mental health care community the glow is from her being totally radioactive. You’re never not aware that this is her presentation, not her true self. Her picture is next to the definition of the phrase “a piece of work.” I’ve often thought watching RTT that she must have been a nightmare as a mother - so much disconnect with who she is and what she’s about but presents as though she’s the fountain of wisdom knowledge and insight. Kids instinctively know what’s true and it must have been so sad and confusing for them.
My daughter, a big fan of Will’s since she was little (b. ‘94), says “Jada Pinkett ruined Will Smith” and I have to agree. She couldn’t stand his excellence and how loved he was so she had to tear him down to her level. She’s grotesque.
My son is almost 11 . He has watched i robot 500 times 😂 when he was like 6 we had to hide the DVD from him because he only wanted to watch that movie. I think i know every word 😂. I hope he finds his true soul mate.
The small clips this guy played of her voice brought the whole mess full circle. IDK why he chose that battle, but gave her far more grace than I would. Deserves a truckload of "Likes," lol. Her poor kids. Poor Will. When the Bible discusses entanglement, this is a prime example of why to avoid it...& women who jump off rooftops for attention! 😮
I work in mental health, too. We've discussed the whole Smith family mess in the office many times. Everyone agrees about the radioactivity.
I never got that from Jada by the way she was presenting herself. She brings up a lot of things she does that would suggest she’s the opposite of serene and wise. She gives you the “horrible” things she has done, and what she learned from it if anything. Idk how telling the world that you slept with your son’s friend is a fake persona. A fake persona would be one where the only thing you’re talking about is saving puppies from China and passing out food to the homeless in San Francisco.
The most interesting one to me is the interview with Gabrielle Union much before the entanglement talk. I don’t see where at all she’s saying that she’s holier than thou to Gabrielle, just seems like they were working through an issue in real time.
@@LRoach79iRobot is a great book and the movie is a betrayal of it. Still, your son might like it (maybe in a few years,11 might be a bit young) as I have have read books quite different from the movie and enjoyed both.
We liked Will in his movies and TV shows. When he and Jada started bringing their life out into the
world for all to see, it wasn't a pretty picture for us. Jada is the type of person that doesn't allow people to politely ignore the parts of her we don't wish to see.
On point!
Best comment! Spot on.
She distorts reality very well. It’s a coping mechanism to ensure never feeling negative emotions and hence dealing with them.
Maybe that’s her way of avoiding the depths of depression, rewrite reality to something appealing to her brain.
No, she just vents them onto others after sugar-coating their toxicity.
She didn't look "surprised" when Will slapped Chris, on the contrary , she looked smug & pleased . Will had initially laughed at what Chris said until he saw Jada's face , then he changed to angrily shouting which escalated into him getting up to slap Chris. It was as if Will knew he'd better defend her or else he'd be in trouble. Jada emotionally manipulates Will & imo their relationship is , he has to comply, do as he's told , do what's expected of him , jump when she says jump or she'll leave him or harm herself. She's using the total & absolute love Will has for her to manipulate & emotionally blackmail him into doing everything her way . And she has zero love or respect for him ...
I think and saw the same thing you saw during the incident with Chris. That woman manipulates her man any way she wants. I dislike her for being the way she is and thinking she is a model of what a wife and a mother should be. They are a model of what a dysfunctional family looks like.
That nasty little smirk/smugness, that you only see on the faces of the cluster B disordered. 🤢🤢👻👻🤢🤢😳☹️☹️☹️🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
You expressed it so well! This is exactly my impression of that incident and their relationship in general. It's very sad.
I believe it was all staged to push award show ratings up and distract us from what's happening in DC.
Yes - me too.
When Will Smith's face changed from smiling to fearful right before "the slap seen round the world" I thought, oh boy, that wife of his is a narcissist. I've seen my dad react that way, I've seen my brother react that way and it is equal parts heartbreaking and terrifying to witness.
Will should have been charged and put in jail!
Yeah he was checking in and saw her face - the rapid shift was fear of the wrath that would be coming later. M.N
@parkcaro - She was sitting side-on at that event. No one has mentioned this. Imagine an overhead camera of the 3 in that studio, it is quite literally the definition of triangulation.
(it can control its zombie/ mannequin if sitting side-on not alongside, i have never seen such blatant and literal triangulation in many decades)
I know nothing about her, or the book. other than that she was in the film ‘Collateral’. But she very clearly is heavily personality disordered and exhibits Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
it should be noted that the majority of full Narcissistic disordered people enjoy negative && positive talk and attention about them. They synthesise this intake as being relevant and are regulated by [all] feedback as there is really no one there.
Will Smith said many years ago in hand-me-down, trite wisdom that “in order to know where you are going, you have to know where you have been”. He fails it seems to register with his own advice.
😢😢😢
I feel for her son, immensely. What a betrayal when she has a relationship with his best friend. She wants to appear normal but is so far from it...she struggles. She wants to appear enlightened but the paradox is..shes NOT
Agreed. And this probably explains a lot regarding his running away. He can’t even turn to his father as he is under her spell- no help there.
But no, she says in the book (according to this video) that he was only his 2nd best friend, so it's all ok 😯😂
@@bluewren65 so you noticed that too?😉
Why didn't she ever fix his teeth? They are sickening to look at. Letting a 15 year old move out and live on his own...poor parenting
The way these act like they reinvented parenting is gross. My parents tried, but after the 1st suicide, my mom admitted they failed! That went a long way toward bridging the miles-long gap between her & me, as "mom #2". Reality for me is, knowing my parent"s odd religious beliefs still messes with my head as an adult with decades of therapy. I can't imagine how confused Jada's kids must be! They probably think everyone ELSE is wrong, because they have $$$. 😮
Her endless pontificating is so annoying because she swears she is so wise but is usually saying nothing, while using way too many words. After the slap, from the outside looking in, Jada seemed indifferent to Will. Her now saying they got back together then, sounds like her lying to suit her agenda.
And the words she uses are meaningless. Communication requires the ability to use the language in a way that there is no doubt to what a person means. There is no lexicon we can use to interpret the words she uses.
@@user-pc7oq9yx4s , right!!!
As Jada always say's.... You know what I mean 😂
She tries to make the worst things seem like the best, but they aren't the best, she's dillusional.
@@user-pc7oq9yx4s So like Meghan Markle. to me anyway.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She will not get the help that she needs because she does not believe that she needs it. Hopefully, one day Will will be able to break away from the narcissistic abuse and find healing for himself.
He’s no prize either
They deserve each other.
sadly in some states even if the wife is the cheater/destroyer of the relationship(if there was on to begin with), she will get half of everything that man owns. now matter if she at fault, all the evidence in the world proves it, nope that man loses. and with will being (was) a big name actor hes stands to lose more then what his losing still being "married" to cousin IT.
I agree, in her mind she thinks she's right, seeing this first step to realise what's wrong isn't happening, she will NEVER change, I'm glad that rediculous " red table" show was cancelled cause shes dangerous for people's minds, shes destroyed her children n will do so to others...hopefully she gets the help she needs.
@@marybarnes6407😂😂😂😂 " cousin IT" your so funny 😁
Thank you for making me laugh 💜
Sometimes you run away as a kid cause you just want someone to say No, we love you too much, please stay.
As a black woman I do appreciate your sensitivity to some of the challenges many of us have experienced. Unanimously, everyone agrees that Jada Pickett is very destructive to everyone around her. If Will dropped today Jada would not give one damn.
As a White Italian woman, we TOO have had our challenges…if you don’t believe it, that’s on you!
After the event with Chris Rock, somebody mentioned her and the relationship with Will Smith in a group that I’m in for narcissistic abuse support. I don’t really follow Hollywood people at all, but those have been abused by NPD, BPDs, psychopaths and sociopaths, learn to read the signs, pretty well, both in the abusers and victims or survivors. This person in the group was pointing out a lot of things about Jada that is very suggestive of a personality disorder, and that Will Smith has been bearing under the weight of this for many years and just finally snapped in the moment. I’m not going to diagnose people with a disorder, especially if I don’t have any first-hand experience with said person, but you definitely start to see the patterns after being with one or two cluster B abusers.
@@interrupted9671Interesting that you felt the need to interrupt to interject that White women have challenges too. The book is about a Black woman’s life. A Black woman appreciates the therapists sensitivity to that. Why does any of that trigger you?
@@WordWoman111exactly! Perfeftly stated. The fact that she is so triggered by this says so much about her quite frankly!
@@interrupted9671he’s not speaking about a white Italian woman.
Thank you for consuming that book because I wasn’t gonna do it. She’s the life coach that no one should ever take advice from lol
So why are you even here, if she's so irrelevant? Honestly just curious.
She says a whole lot of words to really not say anything and the only kind of person I have ever been exposed to that's like that is a narcissist
This is exactly it!! I too have been exposed to narcissism.
Jada screams NARCISSISM
Reminds me of my experience with my peers as a professor at GWU in DC. Full of crap.
Kamala Harris does the same thing.
@@theriddlerUSA I think so too. Thought I was the only one who noticed.
That's time wasted you'll never get back! 😏
painful!
For real 😂
You and your wife are great. Just love listening to you both. Funny and interesting.
It’s time wasted watching this commentary about a person who wrote a book who I could care less about. 7 min in and I’m out.
@@nobodyreally8441 You lasted 5 minutes longer than me! 😆
Thank you for your sacrifice!!!! 🤮 Horrible parenting! Sickening self aggrandizing.
I would rip out my eardrums if I had to listen to that audiobook. My sincere apologies that you endured that for us ❤
He took one for the team.
As for the problem with jada, she gave her kids utter control over their lives and the world around at 5 years old. She failed them by not guiding them and deciding they know better than everyone AT 5 YEARS OLD. That’s her FAILING as a parent. And that’s her narcissism being projected onto her kids. Let’s just say I am beyond happy that I will never meet her or have to interact with her and people affiliated with her in my life. She seems like an all consuming person. I couldn’t handle someone like her.
Excpecting 5 year olds to run their own lives comes straight from Scientology. You know, the cult she definitely wasn't involved in? HA!
I think that is the philosophy of Scientology.
@@j7286yes, that's why they excuse forced child labor.
You are assuming she possesses the skills to properly guide children in the first place
If you listen to Will's song he made for his firstborn, you can see how much he looked forward to being a dad, the best one he could possibly be. It is tragic where his life ended up. He should never have met Jada. His life ended the day he met her.
I don't think I will be reading the book. But thanks for taking one for the team.
Are we getting to the point where she's a gaslighting narcissist and only sees things her way. She wouldn't be who she is today if she want a married Will Smith. She selects to forget that Tupac was engaged when he died in living with his woman. That wasn't her.
Really? Yelp she's delusional!
Who was tupac with? Id like to know what she thinks about jada 😂
Jada is a user of people. She uses her husband and her own kids because she is insignificant in our lives. I wouldn't waste my brain cells reading a narcissist's book. We've all had hard times in our lives but because she is a celebrity (and I use that term loosely) she puts it in print. Airing one's secrets blows my mind. When people use social media to tell everyone about what is going on in their life is exploiting themselves for profit. In fact, I have no respect for anyone who does that and TikTok is the worst.
Her family imploded in front of the public eye. They’re a mess. This was a poor attempt at a “fix” and it’s failing miserably.
Damn
Yeah there is a very fine line between getting things off your chest, or wanting to be truthful about secrets that are weighing on you, and attention-whoring yourself.
Some memoirs are awesome though - I listened to Julia Fox’s Down the Drain on audible and it was incredible. Same with Jeanette McCurdy’s I’m Glad My Mother Died. There is a real power in seeing another’s story and finding…parallel, I guess. Knowing that awful stuff isn’t just done by you or doesn’t just happen to you. Helps with the shame portion that stunts our growth.
Agree 200%… pathetic! And a waste of OUR brain cells entertaining her!
Never mind a like, you deserve a bloody medal!
Thank you for explaining this mess. I would never waste my time , money ,or brain cells on this mess.
Same
I find it hard to believe anyone would be interested in reading her "novel" I really can't take her seriously at this point 😅
Maybe they're hate reading. Is that a thing? Like when people hate watch videos/channels? 😅
Maybe you are making hate assumptions? @@tessajones9393
Yep should be put right in the fiction section at the Goodwill store!
7 billion people on the planet, some see themselves in her and want her to validate there equally awful lives.
Oh no. CNN Syndrome. 😅
My sympathies to you for reading that book.
I can't believe you actually stomached listening to that hyperbolic drivel for 12 hours! You definitely deserved the Like button for that, and probably hazard pay as well. There was a kid once who refused to eat anything except chicken nuggets. I wonder how she'd explain that away. "I let him take the reins and pursue his digestive journey in peace and harmony..."
Just listening to the sound bites you provided was cringey, I can't imagine listening to the whole thing. Props! 👏
Jada’s mom was addicted to drugs and Jada herself sold crack as a teenager at the height of the crack epidemic when it was clear no one was going to help the families, neighborhoods, and cities that were decimated by the drug.
It’s important to bear witness to those stories so we can learn how to better support our people.
The part I’m not interested in are the chapters and the web episodes devoted to the healing she says has achieved but hasn’t. That personal dishonesty is dangerous and is what turns an abused person into an abuser. She’s not the healer she thinks she is.
And in one of episodes of the podcast if I remember correctly she said that her grandma taught her how to masturbate, so I believe that there was sexual abuse
Facts
Exactly
How do you figure she hasn’t healed?
@@FreeBirdee by what she says. I have a brother like this. They something and then do or say something that completely contradicts their first statement.
Imho her weird dishonesty and inability to make substantive changes (starting with not maligning her spouse in public) is a sign to me that she hasn’t healed.
He got through the book! This man is a hero!
I’m SHOCKED by how many people were surprised by how f-ed up Will & Jada are as a couple and as individuals
I’ve never understood how so few could see through Will & Jada’s facade over the years. Mentally and emotionally healthy, stable, unselfish, and giving individuals don’t raise children who’re so obviously messed up.
The thanksgiving photo the kids look really sad in it. The parents look happy. I wonder will the kids break away and have their own lives??
@@sula1529 I think Willow is trying to break away. She has her own music career and I was pleasantly surprised to find I like her music. I wish her well as it can’t have been easy in that household.
The kids are adults now. Jaden is 25, Willow is 23. I am fairly sure they could live any place they so desire at this point. @@sula1529
Totally agree!
Well he's gay so
Between you and Cherie Denise (who is breaking this book down chapter by chapter) I have all the information I need to avoid reading this book. Thank you for your calm analysis.
Lol. That’s perfect. Thank you.
I have a background in psychology and substance abuse counseling; and I think she definitely has some features of a personality disorder. I also believe she has some anti social personality disorder. Climbing on a roof and then jumping off yelling "I love you ", master manipulation.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
@@PsycClips BPD is simply the adjustment children/people must make within themselves to survive in a screwed up world. Not everyone grows up in a loving world, like so many others are blessed with. It is not a maladaptive thing, it is an adaptive thing. The world we live in today has far more in common with those with BPD than those who think they are "normal"... the future is clearly mentally ill.
Displacement of emotions. Instead of owning how the situation made her feel, she opted to display a behavior that would bring all the attention back to her. IMO this probably developed in childhood.
@@sarahalderman3126 that’s not always the case. I’ve known borderlines that have had very loving, supportive family systems.
@@jenjen2744they could have been the outside perspective but maybe a parent or two were narcissistic. Perhaps some abuse was happening in the home…
Jada is the poster child for all the reasons necessary to seek therapy. It is imperative. The damage she has done to those around her can almost be classified as criminal.
You got a like from me David! I would of like it several more times if I could! I'm serious, if people need therapy please seek it. Generational trauma is real and preventive. If we have learned anything from this, we have learned that unless a person seeks treatment and follows through they will get worse; not better.
I know a lot about Tupac. He was the 1st famous person, I actually shed tears for (after his passing). I know a lot of facts about his life. I didn't read her book but I can guarantee, she told a bunch of lies about Pac. As a fan, that's what's so upsetting. Pac was NOT a huge part of her life as she claims.
Unfortunately, she seems to have NPD. Those with NPD even when they seek therapy or are forced into it, do not internalize anything they are taught nor practice it. 😢
I learned that I’m glad I didn’t purchase the book. I learned that Jada sounds very delusional. I learned that the family is a hot mess.
I could have told you that from when she rationalized about Will Smith without one word of apology.
Jumping off the roof while screaming "I love you Will" as a response to an argument feels like the key to understanding Jada's brain. She's got some serious cluster B vibes, and a life of incredible wealth and fame offers her an array of coping strategies
Good drugs for1
Yeah that’s borderline. BPD and NPD together? 😱
Whatever cluster it is, I don't want it! 😂
... reminds me of the 1st horror scene in "the omen" ... when the nanny jumped out the window hanging herself, screaming "this is for you damien"
hahaha! Me too! @@speedtopia2013
Seriously Jada is such a Narcissist. She makes up stories about her kids so that her parenting doesn't come under scrutiny. - narcissist shame. She's screwed up her kids well.
Describing her son giving sneakers away to buy friends, is SO TRUE. I did the same thing, my mother has narcissistic personality disorder.
HG Tudor knows
Yeah. So many red flags for narcissism. The jumping in to the pool is clearly a histrionic tantrum to try and regain control of the situation. A narcissist that can't control every aspect of their reality is constantly on the edge of an abyss of fear that they feel will be their destruction.
That's why their lies and gas lighting are so immediate and extreme to usually trivial situations.
@@iaindcostaYes he does
Ha, Yeah. Now that you say it, its obvious@garyallen8824
@garyallen8824I honestly did not realize she named her son after her until your comment. Wow.
Jada had a dysfunctional upbringing. That's her normal. I've seen this time and time again with dysfunction. People from similar backgrounds will enable and defend the craziest scenarios. Will had a dysfunctional upbringing too. The problem is, Jada has convinced herself she's fine and Will has not learned to be discerning.
That's no excuse. Many (most?) people come from dysfunctional families, (who has a "perfect" family?) especially in the last few decades, but not everyone uses that as a crutch and has turned out quite well.
@@oztrich24Who is excusing them? Not me. My comment is based on the observation that they (Jada and Will specifically, not you) both come from dysfunctional families. Unfortunately they are too comfortable with the dysfunction. If you have managed to move on from your dysfunctional family, and you're able to have healthy relationships with discernment, kudos to you!
I used to think about suicide all the time. Even had it planned out. Then I forgave myself and now I can’t imagine it. It happens. I still know life sucks. I just understand my power and responsibility better now
Well done!
I’m just coming to terms with the fact that after so many years I have recently started waking up not having to talk myself out of not wanting to live. I feel a bit weird, it’s had a foot on my neck for years. I am scared to lean into it in case it comes back, but it could also be a sign that all the work could be paying off.
My best of all wishes to you, so happy you kept on keeping on ❤ 👊🏼
Jada is the personification of the saying: “There are 2 reasons why a person does something. 1. The REAL reason, and 2. The reason that SOUNDS GOOD.
She should’ve called the book “Ostensibly”
lol. Drag her. 😄
Exactly!!
Lol!!!
She’s also a member of Scientology. I read TroubleMaker by Leah Remini . Excellent read!
She said the teaching is that babies are adults spirits in this body. So children need to learn to be adults. Speaks to how Jada is with her kids.
No way she a Scientologist 😂😂Ex Scientologist here! Only because of her money.
@@gretavains8707 that’s what Leah wrote in her book. Maybe she wasn’t but Leah and Jada did reconnect after having met years prior, at the church of Scientology.
Maybe she was just taking lessons?
@adechalus shocking cult. My step mother is a complete nightmare. So selfish as well. I hate Scientology. My mother and father had marriage problems in the 60s. Foolish mother got my Dad into it. It's made my life hell.
She's not a member of Scientology. She has talked about this for years...she looks some lessons for awhile. She never officially joined. See....this is how lies start. You could have at least looked this up before you shared it as fact.
@@lisacox5405 maybe you could’ve read the thread to see my response to this before attacking.
I have given so much grace to this woman, I defend her in comment sections, because no one really knows what another person is going through and I want to believe the best in people…but now I just feel like an idiot.
I gave you the like because that five seconds was hard to listen to. I can’t imagine going through fourteen hours of that.
I wish them both the best but they need to get away from each other and both get better therapy.
Why does everyone hate her so much? I don't know that much about them but I saw a video recently where Will said his career was his first priority and he knew Jada didn't believe in marriage but talked her into it.
She is so grandiose, nothing is just normal everyday life, it all has such significance. B.S. , thank you for falling on your sword for us and reading this. Excellent review!
Listen, JUST those excerpts were enough to exhaust me for the day. I’m literally lying down now. After that last one, I was like “whaaaaat?”. You deserve ALL the likes.
Same
You deserve a medal for making it through the book. I’m looking forward to it appearing on the Dollar Store shelves, where it belongs.
😂😂
I borrowed this book from someone I consider a peer. We have traded books in the past. I will just say that they were surprised when I returned it so quickly. "Wow. That was fast. What did you think?" It may have been the last time they lend me reading material. I did lay several of their favorite reads at their workstation. I wasn't ugly. I simply said what I say when someone pitches new music and it needs a lot of work. "It's not my favorite. I couldn't get past 50 pages or so." She looked at me like I didn't eat the casserole she brought to a weekend dinner with friends. I felt bad. She knows me to be honest. Nothing has changed there. Time will tell.
Regarding Jada P.S.: what a horrible decision to document such a destructive path. She has hurt so many people. May God bless her children.
It's been my experience that most folks who like and agree with narcissists are unconsciously defending their own narcissist tendencies. And they don't like when someone has their own opinions so this may or may not reveal itself in your book trading relationship. Best of luck.
@@joseymour2574 you may very well be on to something.
May God bless her & Will's children, indeed.
And, PROTECT THEM.
And, bring them SAFETY, FREEDOM, comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, Beauty, & Peace. ❤️
God be with them.💗
And, God bless you. ❤️
I hope her kids therapists take a close read.
God will not bless satan. Scientology is the enemies religion.
Yeah exactly. She's still codependently trauma-bonded to her Mother and hasn't properly processed her attachment traumas AT ALL. Like most of us, we jump straight to forgiveness and engage in new-age, pop-psychology mental gymnastics to avoid feeling the pain. Same with Will. They're both still gaslighting themselves, deflecting, being overly apologetic for their parent's flaws, wanting to be seen as so forgiving and understanding which, unbeknownst to themselves, is still their trauma playing out. Putting their parent's feelings and needs over their own needs because god forbid they ever actually stand up to them and hold them accountable for their abuse. And so Will and Jada find each other, trauma bond to each other and repeat the cycle. If any of them did any REAL work they would do the hard thing, which is to take a LOOOOONG ass break from their parents, long enough for both of them to really feel the hurt and process it, grieve it, and then they would see their own relationship as what it is - a trauma bond that they both also have to walk away from if they ever want to evolve in any way. They thinking being "all-forgiving" and compassionate is the hard thing, but it's the easiest thing when you're hiding behind it, it's emotional/spiritual bypass. They're both avoiding themselves and their pain. They both keep touting this "we stick together, we make it work" shit. The longer they project their problems onto each other and/or their marriage, the more it's going to inevitably fall apart, or they will completely lose themselves and their mental health in it. When you're too afraid to tell your parents how much they hurt you, you're still a little kid vying for their attention and approval, you're still abusing yourself. And when and if you do tell your parents how much they hurt you, and they don't GENUINELY acknowledge it, apologise for it, take accountability for it then you must walk away, for your own healing. That's the real work. That's the hardest thing to do. Staying in toxic dynamics is easy, cuz it's all you know. And you've been conditioned to believe you're a monster if you abandon your blood relatives, but you forget that they're the monsters who emotionally abandoned you first and who abandoned you when you were too young to fend for yourself, when you were weak and vulnerable. Yes they had their own shit going on, that doesn't take away from the impact it had on you. That impact needs to be fully felt and addressed.
Hit the nail right on the head.
Whoa. I wasn’t expecting to read something so deep in the comments. Thank you for sharing this.
Spot on evaluation as far as I'm concerned.
Pop Psych said some things that are similar, or to the same effect anyway, but sometimes phrasing makes the relationship dynamic more understandable.
@@sarahmcdonagh2662oh he did? My apologies for sounding redundant. I didn’t make it all the way through the video. I shouldn’t have commented before finishing the vid!
Wow another book..
My professional background is in behavioural psychology-wild horses couldn’t make me read that book😑thank you for taking the time to read it & to provide commentary on Jada’s very self serving perspective. I have compassion & empathy for their toxic experiences.
totally agree
So as a "professional" do You filter the individuals that YOU are supposed to serve in this manner as well? 🙄
@dashingnurse5098 as a professional they would have an obligation to help or treat a patient. They have no obligation to read a complete strangers book. One would think that would be obvious.
@@dashingnurse5098 why would I be compelled to read anyone’s autobiography-that doesn’t make any sense. My specialisation is positive behaviour support for people who have developmental disabilities; I have no interest in providing therapeutic support to rich, spoiled, self obsessed individuals.
@@kymfrancis4612 Got it. May I suggest that You actually read Your response back to Yourself.
The big thing i don't get is how she can think this makes her look better. She might be dragging Will through the mud with her book but she comes off as a terrible person whenever she opens her mouth. Her book is making her look uglier by the second but she wants to write more books as well?!?
She's trying to spin it to make all the bad stuff look good and valuable with her " amazing insight".
She probably doesn't even realize these things are bad. She seems to take a situation where everyone would do A, and she does B
I want to hear more of your review of the book! You are great ! Need a Part 2
I agree and it was a relief to hear someone talk so honestly about it.
I think it's important for people educated in psychology, like you, to critique books like this and apply some critical thinking to harmful ideas like she is soewing in mainstream media unchallenged. Thank you.
I’m an armchair psychologist- but this poor woman screams BPD. Which is usually based in significant neglect in childhood. I hope she gets help.
not an excuse
@@maureenbrickley8459no one said it was.
Armchair diagnosing is unethical.
@@missJolie85having an opinion is not unethical. You’re a silly goose.
@@missJolie85so demand they turn over their psychologists license...oh, wait...