I was tired of 4 years of loneliness, he convinced me he has changed and I used to think he was the only one who is like that. When I was about to move back thinking he is a different person, it's when I started to see these videos and I was shocked how they described all details about him. God works in a mysterious way. That day I cried and I knew that God saved me for the second time🙏🏽
Please don't think about the time wasted, think about the time you have now. I know it hurts,but it won't do you any good. It was really their lost! Stay blessed 😁
red pilled me too ,because all his ex’s have these look on their face of pain and sorrows when I look at their social media pictures. It’s hurt me cuz I know now what that pain is all about. One of his ex was left Bank Rupp and he slept with her cousin in her own house. He had a baby on me , he slept with a girl who was 19 years old and he was 36 years old. Boy boy I dealt with a lot. But when I started to have boundaries and questioning everything he started to disrespect full blow. When he couldn’t controls me , he’ll say you not giving me your all . At the time I didn’t understand but now I do.
They get you trauma bonded with the love and hate cycle. You are dealing with a person with character flaws They are underdeveloped. Bullies in adult bodies.
They want to injure you as badly as possible because when they leave you it will take you a long time to recover and while you are recovering you are not meeting other people. And the narc has the time to slide back in and save you.
Don't continue to hurt yourself by thinking of the time you spent with them. YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON AND LIVE THE LIFE THAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU! I'm a SURVIVOR, by the grace of God, no contact for one year.
Patricia don't do it. I took someone back after over a year. And I ended up having the worst 2 months. He was far worst more venomous and I am a strong person. I was like bye boy. Changed my # and blocked him off ALL social media
I'm low contact now and have cptsd all b.c of a narc parent and narc ex of 4 years.Ive fasted four months therapy 3 years 4 different medications studied all clinical research on sociopath s and other behavioral disorders read latest scientific and psychological research to heal dropped 30 pounds from b.w excersices in my house listened to sermons everyday prayer all to be stuck and still have night terrors and multiple psycho-sommatic issues all to still be stuck.Im on the verge of giving up everyday.I get all the platitudes and twisted compliments of being a scapegoat child. I get that God himself is using this for me to find self love and spiritual advancement but I'm still down man I try sooo hard to stand up to move on and keep attracting these ppl on jobs a narc neighbor who i don't know never spoken to being catty letting her kids bang on my apartment door talking all types of stuff I was a strong warrior black child I hung out and showed love to neglected ppl in this world even as a CHILD bc of my belief in God.im so close to giving up dude I get I have to set boundaries and that's one of my biggest flaw I get I love too hard and don't know how to accept it.But this sometimes makes me wonder how come I would go to hell if I give up or if I physically find a way to beat the shit out of my female parent who did this to me and KNEW what they were doing knew they were neglecting me emasculating their own son letting their other children pick on me too character assassinating me as a child knowing full well when I become a man my family would see me in the same negative way.I keep keeping the faith but why would God allows this knowing full when ACONs like me will have unconscious programming and SINS bc if this person as a parent all ever wanted in this life is my identity back I've known for years I was disregulated I just didn't know what it was.I get the path of light wants me to continue to push forward to start working out again e.t.c e.t.c but how is it just that these ppl get to get away I now have no friends can't make eye contact with ppl night terrors screaming in the middle of the night shakes lips quivering agoraphobia diagnosis as well and I'm "weak"???? I've mentoredmy black women and men and children I've built ppl up in this world only to keep not fitting in in all circles bc of this programming of my parents who also btw studied psychology a.k.a had the tools to heal the self and their family but didn't b.c oh wait most sociopaths study psychology to continue to use ppl? How can God ask me to forgive these ppl??? I get I need to forgive them just like God forgives my porn addiction (please don't judge me) and my potty mouth I get it I get every angle but it's like I can find that strength and hope if I already trying most methods to heal over YEARS just to keep falling I just want to be loved justly and not hate myself I just want friends who aren't codependent or have ulterior motives I just want a wife to love dearly inside and out don't I deserve peace God? Don't I deserve to have an identity again. Yes I get it's all about self love and affirmations the whole nine but it's like literally Everytime I reach a zenith of spiritual and intellectual enlightenment I crash down like Icarus I'm so close not having hope anymore dude ppl who were my friends since sixth grade aabadoned me when I needed a shoulder and support everyone and everything abandoned me ..I get God doesn't want me to trust in man but in him but doesn't he see how lonely I am and in the words of T.D Jake's broke busted and disgusted.But if I end my life I go to hell tf?? I get its duality I get its yin and yang I get its devil and God death and life...balance but why must my spirit represent the psyche of the world itself why must I represent the woes and joys of humanity God I get everybody has it hard and birth defects and child cancer and extreme poverty etc etc but in most cases those ppl were aware but in our case it's subterfuge and covertly killing the soul identity and consciousness. I get to be an incel b.c my nice guy mentality I get to lose the love of my own black ppl cause of house nigga field nigga mentality all b.c I can talk somewhat ok and think I've had an awesome life bc I'm not hood I get to never make friends bc I don't understand boundaries and don't have a sense of self ? I can't get to believe I can succeed at anything b.c accolades meant more beatings and negative attention from my female narc parent I get to continue to be seen as a weak man b.c the realm of research is still growing but every so slowly I get to be afraid of going outside b.c I'm scared of ppl and the court of puplic opinion which was a concoction mixed up by narcs All bc I was broken by parent I get this gauntlet is part of God's growth system but I would've been better if this person wasn't my parent I get from the research this started with my mother and her traumas as a child and a cycle of narcissism that permeates the entire family I get it I do but it's too much when I look at my life and the research I understand it all the way up to the point that I question my own free will and autonomy the research is there why isn't in the classrooms boardrooms and broadly shown to the populus we could heal the world of crime drug abuse domestic abuse sex abuse ....or could it be that there's money to be made off a sick nation? Could it be that the coping mechanisms means there's money to be made off of of ppl subconsciously trying to hide from themselves or self protect that there's money to be made off of psychological broken lands ghettos and peoples and ideals
Mine broke up with me every time I said something he didn’t like or stuck up for myself he’d ignore me fir months at a time. I couldn’t eat or sleep for months. Last summer I was so devastated I lost 30 lbs. each year the silent treatments got longer & longer. In the beginning it was I month of the silent treatments to two months, then three & the last time was four. I took him back every time. The last breakup was it. I’m four weeks ha was with someone else. We had a long distance relationship. The rebound was long distance too. She was his sister in-laws niece. That’s like family. I heard she dumped him in 5 months. She’s still on his fb friends list. Yet , I was with him 9 years & I’m blocked ! Good luck to you .
I so agree with you. That triangulation shit is for the birds. Don’t you ever pit or compare me against anyone.. the moment I begin to see someone else has stepped into your picture, she can friggen have you.. bye!
Antoinette Rocco Hows it going now? I am one week post discard. I’m now obsessed with finding out more about his disorder. I can’t stop thinking about him even though toward the devaluing and discarding he was stone cold evil. Wtf is wrong with me? I’m not a weak person. How did I let this happen? What a mind fuck.
Scherry Valentine I’m wondering the same thing after nine years. It fucked my head up good. July 26 will be one year and feels like one week. This really sucks it is definitely trauma bonding and it’s really hard to get rid of I can’t lie one year later I’m still struggling bad
Please do as he says RUN!!! 15 years of my life waisted I I filed for divorce yesterday and it hurt like hell because I loved her so much but to watch her cold non emotional face as I was crying packing my things. Thank God I'm free!!! I'm strengthening my relationship with God and I can already feel the peace of mind witch was all I ever wanted... please save your sanity and life RUN!
same here, my husband of 11 years hurted me soooooo badly emotionally, i finally decided to throw in the towel..after days of not coming home, calling my phone by accident while on his journey, calling my phone thinking he is calling the other woman.....after me constantly calling his phone numerous of times, only for he to put my number on block, until it was time for him to come home...when he came home yesterday acting like nothing had happen , i asked him who was this person he thought i was, only for him to continue to lie and act like he don't care at all....i just asked him to just give me my keys, and may we depart ways in peace.....because he have new source, he was humble and kind to do so....at this point it hurts deeply but somehow, i'm total at acceptance...i'm just truly taking it one day at a time.
They even use your own family to harass you to target you. I can't even believe some of the things my people have told me about her,, after I told them what she has done,, chested with family , friends .etc.and my own flesh told me I'm crazy , and I need to just chill and let her do what she does , all because she helps them
That is the hardest thing to deal with...u realize that this person never loved u and had no problem with betraying u...once u wake up, u learn to be more careful with who u let in your space...
Karlien I discarded him and because he tried to destroy me afterwards and all the court stuff I’m still dealing with over a year later, it’s still tough on me. But I’m still going to continue to heal the trauma with God and believe that justice will come. This healing is day by day, sometimes minute by minute, but I will heal. U will too. We will both have the people who will love and respect us.
They know exactly what they're doing and know u well enough to know how you'll react to their abuse to get you to cooperate with their sh*t. They'll never change nor do they want to...
It’s just so hard to deal with the thoughts of the memories of pain. It hurts. I find it hard to forgive myself because he made an absolute fool out of me. It is Amazing how 1 person can change your entire EXISTENCE on this earth. One day at a time, ya know...I appreciate you and your work. Thank you.☀️
Omg 😱 you explain me right i’m having a hard time forgiving myself I keep telling God I’m sorry I’m sorry. 23 years off on on change my life. I didn’t know what was I experiencing until awards , when I reflect on his behaviors and his words will come out of his mouth, then it hit me . This hurts badly but 8 months no contact. We share a son together which he really does care about him just fake love , and my son see that . I wasted my good years on him I was 22 years old now I’m 43 years old. My family is very upset 😡.
I feel the same way as you. It’s destroyed my life. I’m seeing a therapist 2 times a week. I never saw this coming. Totally blindsided me. What I don’t understand is if they are weak and insecure, why don’t they run after you ? Why go after other people ? How could they not care at all ? It seems unbelievable that they can just walk away and never look back. It’s crazy. 🙏🏻
@@antoinetterocco3701 because you see though there bs now. so they can't control yo I any more. someone else does not know them so there like fresh meat and easy to control. use that time to run.
Nina Anais I met one a couple of months ago who told me repeatedly on the first day that he would be faithful to me. By day 5 I hung up in his face and blocked him. They are disgusting people...the last narc I was married to told me that his nephew told him not to run me off too. I should have paid attention to that....I missed a lot of red flags with him and others before him. I’ve paid attention to the men I’ve met since him.
@@toniwilliams9817 They wear masks, very smart, they know how to manipulate people and it's hard to real know who they are. Their brain is always working. Last month I met someone, we talk couple days, he seems to be too too perfect in everything he says. My intuition said NO. Someone who is too perfect is already a sign for me!
Nina Anais I know what u mean. I met one back in May. I could see the red flags the first day, but by day 5 I was done. They will tell who they are quickly if you’re paying attention. I make sure to pay attention now lol
From a Super Empath ( U have to give up all love and care for this person. U have to also give up all hope in that person.) Then u will see that person as an enemy of urs. This will activate ur narcissist traits that u let die within u because of the love that u had for that person. The outcome of this is bad, NARCISSIST VS. NARCISSIST. And God will take the side of the Super Empath because the Super Empath represents GOD. It then becomes war. And u fight fire with fire. Narc Vs. Narc
They still want a part of u. They just lose themselves in drugs, so they can’t think about u. We are the ghosts that hunt the narcissist’s’ minds. The One that got away from them. The One in a million that they lost.
I recently got out of a narcissistic relationship and your videos have helped me process everything very much. I blamed myself constantly for failing, i was left in the dust and felt alone... and lost my pride and ego and security to this person. Watching these videos has helped me remind myself of my worth and remind me to work hard on what i was doing before this narcissist came into my life. When she left my house i felt so relieved.. she wanted to leave and i let her leave. Best decision ive made in my life knowing that i always tried to fight for her to stay. Im glad her spell doesnt work on me anymore! Thank you for the great words and videos!
AMEN!!! I no longer feel like I need to figure out where I went wrong or what did I do every single day. I went right when I got out!! 6 weeks stronger and never looking back!!
Ditto. I kept begging mines to stay too…as he left several times. Finally, I didn’t ask him to return and felt relief and looking forward to getting my peace back!
Wow, man you are accurate. Control freaks who demand you respect them while they disrespect you. He kept saying I had to learn to love him unconditionally while he put conditions on everything! "Going Supernova," yes - and may every one of them meet someone who sends the energy back full circle. They truly are cold blooded,
Yessss the disloyalty and betrayal was the hardest part. Especially after putting up with all his bull. He chose to discard when are daughter was only 6months old. Such a loser!
You are so exactly right. The hardest pain does come from knowing deep that you knew but you refused to listen. They’ll never care about the pain or your loyalty because you are dealing with the devil. Literally. That’s truth right there. This is so so great and healing stuff.
Mine has been almost 16 years off and on. He's my daughter's father and I still have to deal with him. It's horrible. Still tough...but I'm still healthier than I used to be. It was bad. I can see my face in the past photos now...I don't want to be back there again!!
Verbally she tried to devalue , belittle , and disrespect me as a man. But I always knew what it was and who she actually is. These videos are helpful.
Old Larry wow yours was evil to the CORE are you saying a narcissist woman punched you or pushed you and was laughing. That is too graphic. I been choked from the ex narcissist but to be punched or something by a woman as a man and she broke your nose. She was truly evil. She truly will not be forgiven by a God.
I was married to a narc for 22 yrs. I remember clearly the first blood drawn, the devaluing. He was sitting on the floor in front of me it was a good night we were watching boxing on ESPN and I grabbed some potato chips and I began to eat them. He turned around with the biggest look of disgust on his face and said " how many of those are you going to eat"? That started the cycle of abuse. As the abuse got worse I got larger. I was always told if I wasn't fat everything would be fine. 18 yrs into the abuse I made a fateful decision to have weight loss surgery. This was after years of dieting without much success. I lost the weight in fact I got pretty smoking hot if I must say so myself. That's when the discard happened. He went hunting one week and just never came back. Found out he was sleeping with a pig of a woman, she was married too. I feel his discard was timed because once I lost that weight he no longer could make me cry over my appearance. Fast forward and he comes back to the marriage ( I still at this point didn't understand what he is) and I had become so skinny because I was devastated that he had left me after I risked my life having surgery to please him. He looks at me one night and says " go fucking eat something you're so skinny you disgust me". Fast forward again its Christmas time we're in the woods gathering pine cones for the tree. I'm having a great time. I feel we are healing and moving past all the indiscretions. We get in the truck to go home and out of the blue he says " you're gaining weight if you get fat I'm leaving you". This sent me into a crying fit and he loved it! He loved inflicting that pain. I'm 15 yrs past the Divorce and I am just now learning about who and what he is. I thank God for people like you who give us insight into these horrid evil people.
I am too. I am on the journey to healing and reclaiming my life. I have to forgive myself for something I didn't even know existed until it reared its ugly head in my life.
It's funny because, he dragged my name through the mud with lies, but I can actually annihilate his entire existence with the truth. It isn't worth it, he's not well.😉
I’m so turned off by this narc I don’t care what they do or who they do it with. The worst thing you can do is TURN ME OFF! And it’s just that... I’m connected enough to care anymore. And I don’t even hate you... I’m just uninterested.
So true, they want respect while they consistently and blatantly disrespect you. I was married to a covert that was Very shallow, emotionally immature, unloyal, cheated n lied, manipulative, inconsistent, played many mind games, terrible parent to his kids in fact he abandoned them from kids to now adults, grandiose ego, took trips at random, felt he owed no explanations for bad behavior thus never apologized for any of his wrong...it was never his fault. Best revenge, leave them and live your best life. U must forgive and become unbothered. Life is too short, its a loss worth it. U will never feel peace and a sense of fulfilment with them. THEY CANNOT Give YOU A REAL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP...just anxiety and emptiness...choose you.
Getting out after eight years. I was tortured almost daily for eight years! Constant cheating and lying. When I called him out, he would get VERY angry. He was very selfish! Everything had to be about him. A couple of weeks ago, I moved into my own place. My mind, body and spirit feels like I have just left a war! I’m finally starting to experience peace. Before I moved out and started watching Harlo, I remember looking at my ex strangely and I blurted out, “you are a demon.” Harlo is so right, these people are demons. There is no way that a child of God can wreak so much havoc on other human beings. I remember that he would curse like a sailor while he slept. I remember him bragging that he can get over on people. I thank God for saving me !!!!
I was under his spell for 6 excruciating years. When I woke up from his spell I prayed to God to take him away from me. Finally 3 months ago, after he ghosted me for 2 months he came back saying he just wanted to pick up his clothes because he was moving to another city. Again I prayed to God and that same night the police came and arrested him for domestic violence. He had beat up his new supply. He was in jail for a month. Now he is in an ICE detention center and is facing deportation. I’m not glad, but I am happy and grateful to God that he took him away from me.
I prayed that prayer too because the love I had was trapping me, my heart wouldn't cooperate with reality and logic, it took a few years(5) to un do all the emotion but the prayer was answered also, I prayed dear God take the love in my heart away for this man, and God did it.
Won't he do it. I too prayed that same prayer and while sitting thinking about it sometimes people like the Narcs are put into our lives as a lesson. Glad you're doing better and always watch for those characteristics
Please listen to this man!!!!!!!!!!! EVERYTHING he is saying is 1000% true! I went to hell and beyond....they change alright...THEY GET WORSE! I feel sorry for the next person...OMG!
"You've actually just been cured of cancer". That's a huge and profound analogy to describe the discard. We don't realize it until we are out of the relationship. Their goal was to drain all of our resources and then throw us away. That was the cancer. If you have been discarded, the cancer stops and you will eventually heal. The trash took itself out. You will get to the point where you see that it wasn't your fault. ❤
I spent my 30s in that mess! What a waste!! I had to grieve the fact that I didn't get to have a family with a good man. I did NOT know what I was dealing with...it caused me so much pain in my 40s! I was an awesome beautiful person when he found me, and I ended up so broken, it has taken me until now to truly heal and start to feel joy again...and I am 52...But that relationship ruined my chances for a family. If you know you are with a narc, RUN!!! THEY DO NOT CHANGE!! IT ONLY GETS WORSE!!! Please save yourselves! Much love! 💕🙏🦋🌻
Find the strength to forgive yourself. Forgive them for yourself in your heart (they dont have to know) Assume everything they do is for a reaction from you, remain indifferent. And show them you are nothing but love and light that they cant destroy. Super Nova status.
@@sandygrays4066 i used to think silent is the way to go, but this narc keeps on degrading me infront of the co workers, so one day while IT was doing ITS work I gave IT the same comment IT always give.Then i ask " Do you like to be treated this way?"
That is exactly how I felt - like a slave! I was always accused of not listening, purposely forgetting something from the store, he expected me to memorize his every word, and when you couldn't, you weren't listening. How can you listen to someone that never stops talking?
The sadness is our souls recognizing its being abused. Our inner selves know a lot better than we do cuz our brain always clouds our judgement. If your soul is unsettled and sad then it’s giving you a major clue. Nobody that is for us ever will have us vibrate that low with anxiety.
I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist for only 3 months and it messed me up for over a year. I had no idea about narcissism then. When I started learning about it I was blow away. This person did everything you guys talk about and when he ended it I was in shock. Thank god I found out what that was cause it really messed me up.
Thanks for the word! The pain put on me by the narc was more consistent with what you might expect from the psychopath. It was off the charts and so unexpected. The reason was she felt I needed to be brought under control after I complained about some of her egregious behavior towards others. Some of your subscribers might be surprised to hear that she is not a lover, but rather my mother.
I’m 4 months in still in the relationship with my girlfriend just getting Woke to possibility that she might be a Narcissist. Trying to slowly detach emotionally from the relationship ( I was thinking on proposing to her at one time) the amount of emotional and physiological pain is unbearable sometimes to try to wrap my head around the fact that the most amazing woman and most perfect relationship ( at one point) was probably just fake all a lie .
My x wife was narcissist, I ran like hell so fast I wore out bottom of my gator shoes, she was also a heavy gambler, when you figure out a narcissistic person they will attempt to destroy you in all forms and fashions. They lie cheat steal and they may kill you. For sure. Run run run and don’t look back.
I gave 19 years of my life and l didn't know what I was dealing with but when I did l was mad hurt afraid confused and l was upset cause like you said l can't get that time back but all is well God has our back and we have won, 🙏
I was married for 12 years. He was evil. You are right. Emotional, mental destruction. When he left I was dead inside. Now I have power and hope in Christ. He has helped me and seeking information on this issue. It is better today I have peace and stability now.
It’s a hard pill to swallow until the smoke clears! And they dig those hooks in deep and the confusion is real. You really love them and they use that to toy with you. They don’t love you. It’s a mask. Accept it and forgive yourself❤️
Preach the truth also did 25 years, he cost more than I could calculate, my health suffered. In real estate the loss alone it was more than a million. The time you cant get back. Your self esteem takes a hit, nothing is off limits to narcs. They look to do the maximum damage, break you ALL the way down. Marriage to them is like recurring cancer. No matter what you do, give it is never enough. Life is precious every moment. I am so happy to be WOKE and free the only good from my former marriage is my children. Keep preaching the truth, people need to hear this message especially from a man. Side note, I went supernova, exposed, attacked, came back in full beast mode. They are the devil straight from hell. Leaving them is the only remedy.
First things first ..Hario you are the Man your vids are top ass notch.And for the surviviors your time, your finances, your sacrifices and well being you will never get back. Folks what you have to let sink into your brain is that these people are broken with a disorder that pretty much has set in from childhood and as sad as this may sound they cant be helped its too late.just let them live out their life just not with you. Run away or they will take you out, that"s their plan cause that's what makes them regulate an feel good.They are evil demons Period!
100% my gut told me all along. You are confirming everything!! Thank YOU! 💗 I would rather be alone than with a Narcissist. If it's not God, I don't want it!
I'm glad that I left him after I seen some things that was not right. God has forgiven me and he opened my eyes. God has a better man for me. He wasted my time and my money.
They are demons out to steal your mind and soul. I had a new neighbot. Come in my apartment and stole my iPhone. He swore up and down that he has no knowledge of it but only him and myself were there that day. He has all the narc ways of twisting every thing around. Then out talk you. Which is confusing cause they try to make you feel wrong about being right. Since that day my mind has been replaying the incident over and over and I was on the verge of letting my temper take over but fought against it because that would be fueling his supply
Self betrayal MY GOD...it was the most painful. Lost all identity, I couldn't recognize myself. Self compassion has been challenging. Being a "super empath" not being able to care for yourself like you know you would for someone else, just hurts...
So much embarrassment, shame and guilt...self care people...that's where the work is. Refocusing your energy in yourself rather than focusing on them is difficult, no lie, but 1000% worth it!
Yes - I can’t stand the videos that have an ad every 2 minutes. I stopped listening to those. I don’t mind ppl making money on ads but when it’s every 2 minutes in a 10 minute video, that drives me crazy!
You did 25 bro , I did 28 . With these people it's straight up " Crazy " time in the twilight zone. Great video bro . What your speaking is a total different language . The only people who understands what you're saying are people who are dealing with this poison . God bless you brother.
I just laugh. He going crazy. Lmao. My money...my home...my life...n I'm dancing away. Hahaahha. Superempath here. I got him good. Hahahahahha u right. After all this time he Holla out my window at 2am. I dont even get out of my bed. I just turn over n keep sleeping. I'm done. No Hoovering here. Nope
It’s been two weeks Narc free. I went no contact and now I’m getting loved bomb. The entire eight months we were together. I didn’t get any of that energy. Now he says he love me and always did. I didn’t reply. I know it’s not real
my sons father, a narc once told me that mouth is made to say anything. this was when I reminded him that he told me he loved me. The mouth will say one thing and it does not mean it is speaking truth.
Yes, I left 8 months ago, and his last words that I actually remember "you will never find someone like me".......Okay, I am so fine with that, thank God for small favors. Truth, at least 1 in 10 people are narcissistic or borderline, sad statistics.
I love your lessons ,I am watching your program because of what my daughter is going through with that devil it's too much for her and her two children, you're the best .
Everything gives them an injury. That is so true. Your videos are wonderful. I'm so glad I found your channel. I needed it today. Feeling drained by the narc.
I just found you ptl. I've been married 52 years. It's over !!! And you keep talking your helping so many people. I'm an empath just found that out. I'm strong.
Mine is stalking at the moment and I don’t think he has figured out what level I’m on. He wants to be arrogant and believe I’m gonna be back. I can sense this. This will be interesting watch unfold. Good video👍🏽
Go "gray rock on him" and delete/block him from all forms of social media. He will probably unleash the flying monkeys on you, to spy for him, but keep your head up, and go no contact. Don't be tempted to "tell your side of the story" because it will only sound like "he said /she said" B.S.
Christian Sweet baby Jesus! I’ve heard of the new supply stocking the old supply with the narc and things of that nature but I have not experienced that as of yet I just don’t know what to say honestly it’s amazing the stuff they do they’re crazy
Yes,I agree 100 about the betrayal that is worse. And I was loyal. I hurt so badly for a minute. But I made it and I am still healing and still getting knowledge to stay heal. Thanks ,your 100 .
So appreciate all the moral support of this universal support group of healers…healers have to be patient, am patient with my patients, all patients know what they know what they know…Thank you 🤝
It's not worthy. I have done 18 years with a narcissist and it is disaster. He is far from willing to change. Narcs are out to inflict so much pain so that you become a loser like them.
26 years with a Narc. Destroyed me emotionally, professionally and financially! Now using my kids as pawns and waging a custody battle on me after, I called him out on his lies, manipulation and pain upon upon me with lies, smearing my character! Thank you for your videos!!! Never realized how long ago he waged war on me!
Omg...I am leaving my relationship with a narc of 25 years. You have been speaking so many facts to me. I finally got my strength up and seen my self worth. There is no stopping me now.
I was married 12 years, i was discarded 2 months ago, im not over it,i don't reach out to anyone, nobody wants to hear it,they think i can just move on. Im not there at all. He blindsided me and shacked up with the secretary from his work. Devastating
god this is so true. he triangulated me 48 hours after our breakup.. I was devastated even though I was the one who dumped him. sicko. truly just a sick
Hario, who are you? What is your background that you could understand my pain so clearly, concisely, and compassionately? It's crazy!! Thank you for the sharing you do.
God led me to you Hario...I was clearly going down the drain. I was so much in love but when I kept hurting...I realized wasn't worth the stay so I run when he least expected it...am so sure he hates me but am on my path to healing and greatness. Thank God i found you here. I am loving the new me.
Im a super empath and a virgo i have gone supernova and they were literally running scared praying to get away he said he met his match blessings narc slayer
Super Nova is something real and if so what does it mean? I have heard that there are super empaths, but they are very rare. Besides that all people have emphaty. Narcissists have no emotional emphaty but cognitive emphaty.
@@denieldavid1991 first of all i awakened 3 years ago if you have not had a spiritual awakening that tells you that you are a super empath you are not period
Is the spiritual awakening the Phase where you go berserk (I switched into a very exploding mode), and suddenly been able to see the world in a different way. Atleast I asked myself what is hurting so much and why are there suddenly so many vampires. Do not many survivors experience that in a comparable way? Before I realized all this I was the scapegoat in my family without realizing it, like autopilot. I realized all this after I got abused to the point that I could not bare it. Are you triggered by my answer. It was not my intention to do that. Im fine not to be a super empath and wish all survivors a good healing journey. What does it matter if I'm not. Congratulation for beeing a super empath.
@@johnnyblaze2257 I have to say it is a bit ironical because it has some toxic charakter to call himself to be so special. Isn't it the same as I would say I'm super "Anti Toxic Man". Pretty grandiose but who knows.
I don't think people really GET IT....this is REALLY a GAME....u don't LOSE TIME ur skipping back in FORWARD in dementions with them. U get that time back on how well u play the game. TIME TRAVEL IS REAL!!!!!.....im serious
The key to cutting off a narcissist is to give up all hope that u can save them. This is the key
And I did just that,coming up on one year no contact!
U beat the demon. Thank God
Very true!
My ex narc was not expecting me to cut him off. He told everybody he does not know me and I'm dead to him. Narc free April 8, 2018.
Hand them over to God
Yes, don't be an Empath to them !!! 💪😃
YOU'LL THANK YOURSELF LATER FROM WALKING AWAY FROM A DEMON
Amen
@@joeynelson1311 kissek zdx. Ji 2
I was tired of 4 years of loneliness, he convinced me he has changed and I used to think he was the only one who is like that. When I was about to move back thinking he is a different person, it's when I started to see these videos and I was shocked how they described all details about him.
God works in a mysterious way. That day I cried and I knew that God saved me for the second time🙏🏽
@@Josee2030 💙💛💙😍💯
Amen xxxx
What hurts is batrayal and the time waste for years
Please don't think about the time wasted, think about the time you have now. I know it hurts,but it won't do you any good. It was really their lost! Stay blessed 😁
Completely...A decade.
@@sinceresong9907 Same! Just know some folks lost more than us including their lives! I'm grateful I still have a chance to live!
red pilled me too ,because all his ex’s have these look on their face of pain and sorrows when I look at their social media pictures. It’s hurt me cuz I know now what that pain is all about. One of his ex was left Bank Rupp and he slept with her cousin in her own house. He had a baby on me , he slept with a girl who was 19 years old and he was 36 years old. Boy boy I dealt with a lot. But when I started to have boundaries and questioning everything he started to disrespect full blow. When he couldn’t controls me , he’ll say you not giving me your all . At the time I didn’t understand but now I do.
red pilled yess!!! I needed this comment ❤️
Worst part about them is, they project their lying,cheating on you.
"While we plan and dream, they plot and scheme."
Love this!
Exactly
Amen
That's all he know is doing wrong and telling lies
I was doing that I was trying to get my husband help while he was tearing us apart I'm out been 1 year no contact and going through a divorce
""They want you to respect them while they disrespect you"-you nailed it!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
*fucking nailed it !
Amen! 1 way morons
Trash
This!!
Bam!! Hit the nail on the head!
They get you trauma bonded with the love and hate cycle. You are dealing with a person with character flaws They are underdeveloped. Bullies in adult bodies.
.......yep
Yup
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They want to injure you as badly as possible because when they leave you it will take you a long time to recover and while you are recovering you are not meeting other people. And the narc has the time to slide back in and save you.
@@uk9383 ......Yep. The good ol "Do gooder/Super Hero" play......
Don't continue to hurt yourself by thinking of the time you spent with them. YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON AND LIVE THE LIFE THAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU! I'm a SURVIVOR, by the grace of God, no contact for one year.
@@patricia4767 you can and you will do it, by the grace of God, you will make it. DON'T YOU EVER GIVE UP,it will get better, I PROMISE!!
Very smart people in this comment box, I'm glad to know theres still people with a mind out there!
Patricia don't do it. I took someone back after over a year. And I ended up having the worst 2 months. He was far worst more venomous and I am a strong person. I was like bye boy. Changed my # and blocked him off ALL social media
@@patricia4767 it gets easier as time goes by...just got to get through that first week...then its smooth sailing...hope you made it through
Once You Know, You Must Go!!
EXTRA FACTS ✔💯💯
Ain't that the truth!!
🗣🗣say it louder for the PEOPLE in the BACK!!
@@itzshawt OKEY!!
😉
I had to walk away from my whole family to save my life. OMG.
I did too,,, at a very early age of 13, haven't been back since and their hatred is still the same to this day and I'm almost 50.
@@PapayanPepper I'm so sorry. Painful what we endure
Imagine
Me to .happy now
I'm low contact now and have cptsd all b.c of a narc parent and narc ex of 4 years.Ive fasted four months therapy 3 years 4 different medications studied all clinical research on sociopath s and other behavioral disorders read latest scientific and psychological research to heal dropped 30 pounds from b.w excersices in my house listened to sermons everyday prayer all to be stuck and still have night terrors and multiple psycho-sommatic issues all to still be stuck.Im on the verge of giving up everyday.I get all the platitudes and twisted compliments of being a scapegoat child. I get that God himself is using this for me to find self love and spiritual advancement but I'm still down man I try sooo hard to stand up to move on and keep attracting these ppl on jobs a narc neighbor who i don't know never spoken to being catty letting her kids bang on my apartment door talking all types of stuff I was a strong warrior black child I hung out and showed love to neglected ppl in this world even as a CHILD bc of my belief in God.im so close to giving up dude I get I have to set boundaries and that's one of my biggest flaw I get I love too hard and don't know how to accept it.But this sometimes makes me wonder how come I would go to hell if I give up or if I physically find a way to beat the shit out of my female parent who did this to me and KNEW what they were doing knew they were neglecting me emasculating their own son letting their other children pick on me too character assassinating me as a child knowing full well when I become a man my family would see me in the same negative way.I keep keeping the faith but why would God allows this knowing full when ACONs like me will have unconscious programming and SINS bc if this person as a parent all ever wanted in this life is my identity back I've known for years I was disregulated I just didn't know what it was.I get the path of light wants me to continue to push forward to start working out again e.t.c e.t.c but how is it just that these ppl get to get away I now have no friends can't make eye contact with ppl night terrors screaming in the middle of the night shakes lips quivering agoraphobia diagnosis as well and I'm "weak"???? I've mentoredmy black women and men and children I've built ppl up in this world only to keep not fitting in in all circles bc of this programming of my parents who also btw studied psychology a.k.a had the tools to heal the self and their family but didn't b.c oh wait most sociopaths study psychology to continue to use ppl? How can God ask me to forgive these ppl??? I get I need to forgive them just like God forgives my porn addiction (please don't judge me) and my potty mouth I get it I get every angle but it's like I can find that strength and hope if I already trying most methods to heal over YEARS just to keep falling I just want to be loved justly and not hate myself I just want friends who aren't codependent or have ulterior motives I just want a wife to love dearly inside and out don't I deserve peace God? Don't I deserve to have an identity again. Yes I get it's all about self love and affirmations the whole nine but it's like literally Everytime I reach a zenith of spiritual and intellectual enlightenment I crash down like Icarus I'm so close not having hope anymore dude ppl who were my friends since sixth grade aabadoned me when I needed a shoulder and support everyone and everything abandoned me ..I get God doesn't want me to trust in man but in him but doesn't he see how lonely I am and in the words of T.D Jake's broke busted and disgusted.But if I end my life I go to hell tf?? I get its duality I get its yin and yang I get its devil and God death and life...balance but why must my spirit represent the psyche of the world itself why must I represent the woes and joys of humanity God I get everybody has it hard and birth defects and child cancer and extreme poverty etc etc but in most cases those ppl were aware but in our case it's subterfuge and covertly killing the soul identity and consciousness. I get to be an incel b.c my nice guy mentality I get to lose the love of my own black ppl cause of house nigga field nigga mentality all b.c I can talk somewhat ok and think I've had an awesome life bc I'm not hood I get to never make friends bc I don't understand boundaries and don't have a sense of self ? I can't get to believe I can succeed at anything b.c accolades meant more beatings and negative attention from my female narc parent I get to continue to be seen as a weak man b.c the realm of research is still growing but every so slowly I get to be afraid of going outside b.c I'm scared of ppl and the court of puplic opinion which was a concoction mixed up by narcs All bc I was broken by parent I get this gauntlet is part of God's growth system but I would've been better if this person wasn't my parent I get from the research this started with my mother and her traumas as a child and a cycle of narcissism that permeates the entire family I get it I do but it's too much when I look at my life and the research I understand it all the way up to the point that I question my own free will and autonomy the research is there why isn't in the classrooms boardrooms and broadly shown to the populus we could heal the world of crime drug abuse domestic abuse sex abuse ....or could it be that there's money to be made off a sick nation? Could it be that the coping mechanisms means there's money to be made off of of ppl subconsciously trying to hide from themselves or self protect that there's money to be made off of psychological broken lands ghettos and peoples and ideals
The moment he triangulated me, 3 years ago was the day he was blocked and officially dead. Self worth is the best thing ever.
Mine broke up with me every time I said something he didn’t like or stuck up for myself he’d ignore me fir months at a time. I couldn’t eat or sleep for months. Last summer I was so devastated I lost 30 lbs. each year the silent treatments got longer & longer. In the beginning it was I month of the silent treatments to two months, then three & the last time was four. I took him back every time. The last breakup was it. I’m four weeks ha was with someone else. We had a long distance relationship. The rebound was long distance too. She was his sister in-laws niece. That’s like family. I heard she dumped him in 5 months. She’s still on his fb friends list. Yet , I was with him 9 years & I’m blocked !
Good luck to you .
I so agree with you. That triangulation shit is for the birds. Don’t you ever pit or compare me against anyone.. the moment I begin to see someone else has stepped into your picture, she can friggen have you.. bye!
Antoinette Rocco Hows it going now? I am one week post discard. I’m now obsessed with finding out more about his disorder. I can’t stop thinking about him even though toward the devaluing and discarding he was stone cold evil. Wtf is wrong with me? I’m not a weak person. How did I let this happen? What a mind fuck.
preach 🙌
Scherry Valentine I’m wondering the same thing after nine years. It fucked my head up good. July 26 will be one year and feels like one week. This really sucks it is definitely trauma bonding and it’s really hard to get rid of I can’t lie one year later I’m still struggling bad
Please do as he says RUN!!! 15 years of my life waisted I I filed for divorce yesterday and it hurt like hell because I loved her so much but to watch her cold non emotional face as I was crying packing my things. Thank God I'm free!!! I'm strengthening my relationship with God and I can already feel the peace of mind witch was all I ever wanted... please save your sanity and life RUN!
same here, my husband of 11 years hurted me soooooo badly emotionally, i finally decided to throw in the towel..after days of not coming home, calling my phone by accident while on his journey, calling my phone thinking he is calling the other woman.....after me constantly calling his phone numerous of times, only for he to put my number on block, until it was time for him to come home...when he came home yesterday acting like nothing had happen , i asked him who was this person he thought i was, only for him to continue to lie and act like he don't care at all....i just asked him to just give me my keys, and may we depart ways in peace.....because he have new source, he was humble and kind to do so....at this point it hurts deeply but somehow, i'm total at acceptance...i'm just truly taking it one day at a time.
robdiesel diesel keep your head up man. Focus on things you like to do and act like she fell off the planet bro. Good luck
robdiesel diesel Good job. I’m working on my to divorce now.
@@starr6850 Your life is gonna be blessed. Your finally tired of putting someone else before you because you realize that YOU MATTER!♥️🙏
Zero empathy. Their smirk is their only emotion to giveaway that they enjoy hurting their victim.
"The worse ride of your life" how true your words ...
The Problem is that those Narcs are everywhere. At work, in family, in friendships. You are right, many years get lost by staying around them.
Agreed. However once you discover one, the rest are that easy to spot.
They even use your own family to harass you to target you. I can't even believe some of the things my people have told me about her,, after I told them what she has done,, chested with family , friends .etc.and my own flesh told me I'm crazy , and I need to just chill and let her do what she does , all because she helps them
GTFOOH
FACTS
@@sobossysticky6629 now that sounds encouraging
That is the hardest thing to deal with...u realize that this person never loved u and had no problem with betraying u...once u wake up, u learn to be more careful with who u let in your space...
😪 It is still hard to believe. I got PTSS because of the discard
Karlien I discarded him and because he tried to destroy me afterwards and all the court stuff I’m still dealing with over a year later, it’s still tough on me. But I’m still going to continue to heal the trauma with God and believe that justice will come. This healing is day by day, sometimes minute by minute, but I will heal. U will too. We will both have the people who will love and respect us.
Sounds like my wife
George J Gilles.: people are not connected to their souls when they can be ok with being like this...
@@toniwilliams9817 How About Loving Self...Which Was The PROBLEM... Ignoring UR OWN MIND Feelings n Thoughts.
They know exactly what they're doing and know u well enough to know how you'll react to their abuse to get you to cooperate with their sh*t. They'll never change nor do they want to...
It’s just so hard to deal with the thoughts of the memories of pain. It hurts. I find it hard to forgive myself because he made an absolute fool out of me. It is Amazing how 1 person can change your entire EXISTENCE on this earth. One day at a time, ya know...I appreciate you and your work. Thank you.☀️
It will get better. Hugs!
Omg 😱 you explain me right i’m having a hard time forgiving myself I keep telling God I’m sorry I’m sorry. 23 years off on on change my life. I didn’t know what was I experiencing until awards , when I reflect on his behaviors and his words will come out of his mouth, then it hit me . This hurts badly but 8 months no contact. We share a son together which he really does care about him just fake love , and my son see that . I wasted my good years on him I was 22 years old now I’m 43 years old. My family is very upset 😡.
I feel the same way as you. It’s destroyed my life. I’m seeing a therapist 2 times a week. I never saw this coming. Totally blindsided me. What I don’t understand is if they are weak and insecure, why don’t they run after you ? Why go after other people ? How could they not care at all ? It seems unbelievable that they can just walk away and never look back. It’s crazy. 🙏🏻
you can get your life back, they can't.
you can become happy again.
they never will.
@@antoinetterocco3701 because you see though there bs now.
so they can't control yo I any more.
someone else does not know them so there like fresh meat and easy to control.
use that time to run.
They are so very negative and will bring nothing but drama...
Phyllis Foster indeed 👍🏽
The first thing he told me when we met "I have been told to be with a positive person" That was the first sign I ignored
Nina Anais I met one a couple of months ago who told me repeatedly on the first day that he would be faithful to me. By day 5 I hung up in his face and blocked him. They are disgusting people...the last narc I was married to told me that his nephew told him not to run me off too. I should have paid attention to that....I missed a lot of red flags with him and others before him. I’ve paid attention to the men I’ve met since him.
@@toniwilliams9817 They wear masks, very smart, they know how to manipulate people and it's hard to real know who they are. Their brain is always working. Last month I met someone, we talk couple days, he seems to be too too perfect in everything he says. My intuition said NO. Someone who is too perfect is already a sign for me!
Nina Anais I know what u mean. I met one back in May. I could see the red flags the first day, but by day 5 I was done. They will tell who they are quickly if you’re paying attention. I make sure to pay attention now lol
From a Super Empath ( U have to give up all love and care for this person. U have to also give up all hope in that person.) Then u will see that person as an enemy of urs. This will activate ur narcissist traits that u let die within u because of the love that u had for that person. The outcome of this is bad, NARCISSIST VS. NARCISSIST. And God will take the side of the Super Empath because the Super Empath represents GOD. It then becomes war. And u fight fire with fire. Narc Vs. Narc
Thank you for these words..
Very Well Spoken💯
This do awesome and powerful, I am a superemphat. I did not think this about me being a superemphat . I was nice now I think I had become a narc
U have to address the pain of failure within urself and fix it. Then u will be able to love urself again.
They still want a part of u. They just lose themselves in drugs, so they can’t think about u. We are the ghosts that hunt the narcissist’s’ minds. The One that got away from them. The One in a million that they lost.
Omg You hit the hammer on the nail. There is nothing worst than betrayal.
You made me laugh so much when you said everything gives them an injury. It is so true. No contact is the only way and educating others keeps me sane.
Cold blooded that’s nothing a dead soul
Yes but the are aware of there own feelings.
I recently got out of a narcissistic relationship and your videos have helped me process everything very much. I blamed myself constantly for failing, i was left in the dust and felt alone... and lost my pride and ego and security to this person. Watching these videos has helped me remind myself of my worth and remind me to work hard on what i was doing before this narcissist came into my life. When she left my house i felt so relieved.. she wanted to leave and i let her leave. Best decision ive made in my life knowing that i always tried to fight for her to stay. Im glad her spell doesnt work on me anymore! Thank you for the great words and videos!
You are worthy of such good things. God bless you.
AMEN!!! I no longer feel like I need to figure out where I went wrong or what did I do every single day. I went right when I got out!! 6 weeks stronger and never looking back!!
Ditto. I kept begging mines to stay too…as he left several times. Finally, I didn’t ask him to return and felt relief and looking forward to getting my peace back!
Love this 🤍🙏🏽🤲🏽✨🕊
i need to do this! you want to leave? leave!! i can’t keep trying to make him stay :(
Wow, man you are accurate. Control freaks who demand you respect them while they disrespect you. He kept saying I had to learn to love him unconditionally while he put conditions on everything! "Going Supernova," yes - and may every one of them meet someone who sends the energy back full circle. They truly are cold blooded,
My mom is a narcissist. It took me a few narcissistic relationships and videos to help me understand she is my enemy.
Yessss the disloyalty and betrayal was the hardest part. Especially after putting up with all his bull. He chose to discard when are daughter was only 6months old. Such a loser!
Devil 👿
Yes the disloyalty and betrayal is beyond me smh 🤬
S.H.E I’m so sorry. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in a relationship. 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
You are so exactly right. The hardest pain does come from knowing deep that you knew but you refused to listen. They’ll never care about the pain or your loyalty because you are dealing with the devil. Literally. That’s truth right there. This is so so great and healing stuff.
Dear Hario, 25 Years !!! You endured a lot. Mine was 12 years and i almost died.
I hope i will never be trapped again by a Narc....🙏🙏🙏
Mine has been almost 16 years off and on. He's my daughter's father and I still have to deal with him. It's horrible. Still tough...but I'm still healthier than I used to be. It was bad. I can see my face in the past photos now...I don't want to be back there again!!
I Tried To Leave Every Year, I Endured 10 yrs Of HELL!!! What Doesn't Kill You Definitely Makes You STRONGER
Same here
Verbally she tried to devalue , belittle , and disrespect me as a man. But I always knew what it was and who she actually is. These videos are helpful.
Old Larry wow yours was evil to the CORE are you saying a narcissist woman punched you or pushed you and was laughing. That is too graphic. I been choked from the ex narcissist but to be punched or something by a woman as a man and she broke your nose. She was truly evil. She truly will not be forgiven by a God.
Old Larry basically it was like a ticket to hell 🤷♀️
I'm loving the way you break the narcissist all the way down.
I was married to a narc for 22 yrs. I remember clearly the first blood drawn, the devaluing. He was sitting on the floor in front of me it was a good night we were watching boxing on ESPN and I grabbed some potato chips and I began to eat them. He turned around with the biggest look of disgust on his face and said " how many of those are you going to eat"? That started the cycle of abuse. As the abuse got worse I got larger. I was always told if I wasn't fat everything would be fine. 18 yrs into the abuse I made a fateful decision to have weight loss surgery. This was after years of dieting without much success. I lost the weight in fact I got pretty smoking hot if I must say so myself. That's when the discard happened. He went hunting one week and just never came back. Found out he was sleeping with a pig of a woman, she was married too. I feel his discard was timed because once I lost that weight he no longer could make me cry over my appearance. Fast forward and he comes back to the marriage ( I still at this point didn't understand what he is) and I had become so skinny because I was devastated that he had left me after I risked my life having surgery to please him. He looks at me one night and says " go fucking eat something you're so skinny you disgust me". Fast forward again its Christmas time we're in the woods gathering pine cones for the tree. I'm having a great time. I feel we are healing and moving past all the indiscretions. We get in the truck to go home and out of the blue he says " you're gaining weight if you get fat I'm leaving you". This sent me into a crying fit and he loved it! He loved inflicting that pain. I'm 15 yrs past the Divorce and I am just now learning about who and what he is. I thank God for people like you who give us insight into these horrid evil people.
I am sorry that you had to go through that , I hope that lesson has made you stronger .
🙏❤️I'm glad GOD delivered you
Narcissists are forever envious of humans because a human being has a soul and the Narc cut themselves off from theirs.
Cowardly is CORRECT!
SHAMELESS COWARDS😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳.
Straight up
They are bullies b/c of their low self esteem.
It’s refreshing to see a black male doing these videos👍🏽
razorsharp redpill one of my favorites 🙏🏽
I did 15 years and you’re right those wasted years is what hurt me the most because I really did love this person🌺
Same here. 16 years. Vulnerable narcissist.
I agree... it's the years wasted that is the hard part but the years of peace and happiness will make up for it.
Be strong sist I’m in the same boat it’s hurt so bad I wasted 11years with 2kids but God will give us strength
I did 9 years
I'm learning how to forgive myself.
It’s not your fault. Who knew that seemingly wonderful people could behave like this? I sure didn’t.
with time, work and healing, you will get there.
we are all here to support one another. you got this 💪
I am too. I am on the journey to healing and reclaiming my life. I have to forgive myself for something I didn't even know existed until it reared its ugly head in my life.
@@vtymes1982 same here...
I had to learn that to not to put that on all people for what 3 others did to me.
The cheating and denying it. Cheating. No loyalty
Serial cheaters 🙄
"Everything about them is cowardly"
BINGO !!!😇
It's funny because, he dragged my name through the mud with lies, but I can actually annihilate his entire existence with the truth. It isn't worth it, he's not well.😉
But then don’t want you to leave
Same. I’m keeping quiet, for my own peace.
It is called the smear campaign......mine did this n had the audacity to ask me to take them back after
@@sweatpea8206 I'm hip. They're delusional!
They are mentally deranged.
I’m so turned off by this narc I don’t care what they do or who they do it with. The worst thing you can do is TURN ME OFF! And it’s just that... I’m connected enough to care anymore. And I don’t even hate you... I’m just uninterested.
Girl we must be twins, because you just beautifully described how I feel... and how I am. ❤️
LittleMsLibra we probably are! 😀
that done feeling, I feel you.
And relief that they moved on 👋🏾👋🏾
Wow !!! Your words just blew my mind !!! Thanks coz this is how I'm gonna look at it from now on xxx
I ran 10 days ago,after 10 months of unexplainable gaslighting,torture,emotionall abuse,pure evil.. I thank God for the grace
He really and totally destroyed his family. So sad. I took so much abuse. It's awful.
When you called them "one of them things" i fell out 😂 sooo accurate cuz they're extremely inhumane nolol
So true, they want respect while they consistently and blatantly disrespect you. I was married to a covert that was Very shallow, emotionally immature, unloyal, cheated n lied, manipulative, inconsistent, played many mind games, terrible parent to his kids in fact he abandoned them from kids to now adults, grandiose ego, took trips at random, felt he owed no explanations for bad behavior thus never apologized for any of his wrong...it was never his fault. Best revenge, leave them and live your best life. U must forgive and become unbothered. Life is too short, its a loss worth it. U will never feel peace and a sense of fulfilment with them. THEY CANNOT Give YOU A REAL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP...just anxiety and emptiness...choose you.
Getting out after eight years. I was tortured almost daily for eight years! Constant cheating and lying. When I called him out, he would get VERY angry. He was very selfish! Everything had to be about him. A couple of weeks ago, I moved into my own place. My mind, body and spirit feels like I have just left a war! I’m finally starting to experience peace. Before I moved out and started watching Harlo, I remember looking at my ex strangely and I blurted out, “you are a demon.” Harlo is so right, these people are demons. There is no way that a child of God can wreak so much havoc on other human beings. I remember that he would curse like a sailor while he slept. I remember him bragging that he can get over on people. I thank God for saving me !!!!
I was under his spell for 6 excruciating years. When I woke up from his spell I prayed to God to take him away from me. Finally 3 months ago, after he ghosted me for 2 months he came back saying he just wanted to pick up his clothes because he was moving to another city. Again I prayed to God and that same night the police came and arrested him for domestic violence. He had beat up his new supply. He was in jail for a month. Now he is in an ICE detention center and is facing deportation. I’m not glad, but I am happy and grateful to God that he took him away from me.
I prayed that prayer too because the love I had was trapping me, my heart wouldn't cooperate with reality and logic, it took a few years(5) to un do all the emotion but the prayer was answered also, I prayed dear God take the love in my heart away for this man, and God did it.
Won't he do it. I too prayed that same prayer and while sitting thinking about it sometimes people like the Narcs are put into our lives as a lesson. Glad you're doing better and always watch for those characteristics
girl i feel you!!
Before that it was 17 years it was horrible. No more I'm educated now. Don't Do it.
Same
Good for you,don't ever go back! I'm coming up on one year, by the grace of God!
27 years and still continues but thank god I am an educated empath.
@@shazawan3226 same here,POWER is knowledge!
@@shazawan3226 hang in there
Everything you say is spot on. My narcissist husband ran off with my neighbor's sister and that is embarrassing.
Please listen to this man!!!!!!!!!!! EVERYTHING he is saying is 1000% true! I went to hell and beyond....they change alright...THEY GET WORSE! I feel sorry for the next person...OMG!
Thanks for shedding light on such darkness in the world ✌️
"You've actually just been cured of cancer". That's a huge and profound analogy to describe the discard. We don't realize it until we are out of the relationship. Their goal was to drain all of our resources and then throw us away. That was the cancer. If you have been discarded, the cancer stops and you will eventually heal. The trash took itself out. You will get to the point where you see that it wasn't your fault. ❤
I took the red pill, I'm out!!!!
I spent my 30s in that mess! What a waste!! I had to grieve the fact that I didn't get to have a family with a good man. I did NOT know what I was dealing with...it caused me so much pain in my 40s! I was an awesome beautiful person when he found me, and I ended up so broken, it has taken me until now to truly heal and start to feel joy again...and I am 52...But that relationship ruined my chances for a family. If you know you are with a narc, RUN!!! THEY DO NOT CHANGE!! IT ONLY GETS WORSE!!! Please save yourselves! Much love! 💕🙏🦋🌻
He tore my life down. Dirty demon.
Find the strength to forgive yourself. Forgive them for yourself in your heart (they dont have to know) Assume everything they do is for a reaction from you, remain indifferent. And show them you are nothing but love and light that they cant destroy. Super Nova status.
They are DEAD CROWS WITHOUT WINGS...
Silence only gives them the green light to step on your head, so give them a taste of their own medicine.
@@fredmad4988 what do you mean give them.... Their own medicine.... Please explain
@@sandygrays4066 i used to think silent is the way to go, but this narc keeps on degrading me infront of the co workers, so one day while IT was doing ITS work I gave IT the same comment IT always give.Then i ask " Do you like to be treated this way?"
That is exactly how I felt - like a slave! I was always accused of not listening, purposely forgetting something from the store, he expected me to memorize his every word, and when you couldn't, you weren't listening. How can you listen to someone that never stops talking?
25 years, wow! I’m so glad u didn’t let it make u bitter. Good message ♥️
Is that why the Narcissists looks at with hate in eyes like he can't stand to look at me. While I try to appear happy eventhough I'm crying inside
The sadness is our souls recognizing its being abused. Our inner selves know a lot better than we do cuz our brain always clouds our judgement. If your soul is unsettled and sad then it’s giving you a major clue. Nobody that is for us ever will have us vibrate that low with anxiety.
I was in a relationship with a covert narcissist for only 3 months and it messed me up for over a year. I had no idea about narcissism then. When I started learning about it I was blow away. This person did everything you guys talk about and when he ended it I was in shock. Thank god I found out what that was cause it really messed me up.
Try 6 years it was hell
Thanks for the word! The pain put on me by the narc was more consistent with what you might expect from the psychopath. It was off the charts and so unexpected. The reason was she felt I needed to be brought under control after I complained about some of her egregious behavior towards others. Some of your subscribers might be surprised to hear that she is not a lover, but rather my mother.
My narcissistic ex husband is stored as “Coward” in my phone. That’s all he ever was!
The Shituationship is more like it. 6 Months was enough for me.
Yes!!! I learned a lot as a result of that refaketionship.
2 months for me 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🚩
Lol mine was 5 months
@@NoName-np3qm thank God
I’m 4 months in still in the relationship with my girlfriend just getting Woke to possibility that she might be a Narcissist. Trying to slowly detach emotionally from the relationship ( I was thinking on proposing to her at one time) the amount of emotional and physiological pain is unbearable sometimes to try to wrap my head around the fact that the most amazing woman and most perfect relationship ( at one point) was probably just fake all a lie .
My x wife was narcissist, I ran like hell so fast I wore out bottom of my gator shoes, she was also a heavy gambler, when you figure out a narcissistic person they will attempt to destroy you in all forms and fashions. They lie cheat steal and they may kill you. For sure. Run run run and don’t look back.
My ex is a narcissist. Gave him 3 years. Never again! His ass is staying in 2019.
I gave 19 years of my life and l didn't know what I was dealing with but when I did l was mad hurt afraid confused and l was upset cause like you said l can't get that time back but all is well God has our back and we have won, 🙏
I was married for 12 years. He was evil. You are right. Emotional, mental destruction. When he left I was dead inside. Now I have power and hope in Christ. He has helped me and seeking information on this issue. It is better today I have peace and stability now.
It’s a hard pill to swallow until the smoke clears! And they dig those hooks in deep and the confusion is real. You really love them and they use that to toy with you. They don’t love you. It’s a mask. Accept it and forgive yourself❤️
Preach the truth also did 25 years, he cost more than I could calculate, my health suffered. In real estate the loss alone it was more than a million. The time you cant get back. Your self esteem takes a hit, nothing is off limits to narcs. They look to do the maximum damage, break you ALL the way down. Marriage to them is like recurring cancer. No matter what you do, give it is never enough. Life is precious every moment. I am so happy to be WOKE and free the only good from my former marriage is my children. Keep preaching the truth, people need to hear this message especially from a man. Side note, I went supernova, exposed, attacked, came back in full beast mode. They are the devil straight from hell. Leaving them is the only remedy.
For real......the devil himself in the flash I promise.
I too wasted soooo many years in a marriage I thought was going to get better....
Go girl 👋🏾👋🏾💪🏿
First things first ..Hario you are the Man your vids are top ass notch.And for the surviviors your time, your finances, your sacrifices and well being you will never get back. Folks what you have to let sink into your brain is that these people are broken with a disorder that pretty much has set in from childhood and as sad as this may sound they cant be helped its too late.just let them live out their life just not with you. Run away or they will take you out, that"s their plan cause that's what makes them regulate an feel good.They are evil demons Period!
100% my gut told me all along. You are confirming everything!! Thank YOU! 💗 I would rather be alone than with a Narcissist. If it's not God, I don't want it!
I'm glad that I left him after I seen some things that was not right. God has forgiven me and he opened my eyes. God has a better man for me. He wasted my time and my money.
They are demons out to steal your mind and soul. I had a new neighbot. Come in my apartment and stole my iPhone. He swore up and down that he has no knowledge of it but only him and myself were there that day. He has all the narc ways of twisting every thing around. Then out talk you. Which is confusing cause they try to make you feel wrong about being right. Since that day my mind has been replaying the incident over and over and I was on the verge of letting my temper take over but fought against it because that would be fueling his supply
Self betrayal MY GOD...it was the most painful. Lost all identity, I couldn't recognize myself. Self compassion has been challenging. Being a "super empath" not being able to care for yourself like you know you would for someone else, just hurts...
So much embarrassment, shame and guilt...self care people...that's where the work is. Refocusing your energy in yourself rather than focusing on them is difficult, no lie, but 1000% worth it!
Yes I went through it. Yesterday, don't worry. God is with. You're a child of God. Keep reading your Bible, 🙏🏾 Fast and meditate.
Narcs are most definitely cut from a cowardly cloth 🎯
Exactly! GOSO Get Out Stay Out 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
No contact FOREVER!!
lol....YOLO....You Only Live Once.
1k? You’re at almost 98k now! Love your channel soooo much ❤️🩹
They keep the level of anxiety at a breaking point continually! And your absolutely they are so fragile with the narc injury!
P. S - NOTICING NO ADVERTISEMENTS!!!!! Spreading thee word!!!!!!!! Integrity itself. Well done.
Yes - I can’t stand the videos that have an ad every 2 minutes. I stopped listening to those. I don’t mind ppl making money on ads but when it’s every 2 minutes in a 10 minute video, that drives me crazy!
@@YakkateeYak I ffwd to the end and hit the replay icon in the middle of the screen before I view now & holy moly- no ads 😍🦊🐕🦺 Dingwall
You did 25 bro , I did 28 . With these people it's straight up " Crazy " time in the twilight zone. Great video bro . What your speaking is a total different language . The only people who understands what you're saying are people who are dealing with this poison . God bless you brother.
I said the same thing and what I told her! The email narc! I said it's like I'm in the twilight zone!!
Exactly
Thank you on point Bless You
Yes at first on point good help
I just laugh. He going crazy. Lmao. My money...my home...my life...n I'm dancing away. Hahaahha. Superempath here. I got him good. Hahahahahha u right. After all this time he Holla out my window at 2am. I dont even get out of my bed. I just turn over n keep sleeping. I'm done. No Hoovering here. Nope
Super empath here.
Same thing is going on in my life too
@@human1505 keep going. Sage ya home..listen to music n dance ...
It’s been two weeks Narc free. I went no contact and now I’m getting loved bomb. The entire eight months we were together. I didn’t get any of that energy. Now he says he love me and always did. I didn’t reply. I know it’s not real
my sons father, a narc once told me that mouth is made to say anything. this was when I reminded him that he told me he loved me. The mouth will say one thing and it does not mean it is speaking truth.
He sold me a dream and delivered a nightmare. You're right betrayl is the worst...that and humiliation. You broke it down. It's all game.
Yes, I left 8 months ago, and his last words that I actually remember "you will never find someone like me".......Okay, I am so fine with that, thank God for small favors. Truth, at least 1 in 10 people are narcissistic or borderline, sad statistics.
I love your lessons ,I am watching your program because of what my daughter is going through with that devil it's too much for her and her two children, you're the best .
Everything gives them an injury. That is so true. Your videos are wonderful. I'm so glad I found your channel. I needed it today. Feeling drained by the narc.
I just found you ptl. I've been married 52 years. It's over !!! And you keep talking your helping so many people. I'm an empath just found that out. I'm strong.
Mine is stalking at the moment and I don’t think he has figured out what level I’m on. He wants to be arrogant and believe I’m gonna be back. I can sense this. This will be interesting watch unfold. Good video👍🏽
Same here. My ex thinks I'm going to come back to him... he has no idea how high my vibration is without him.
Go "gray rock on him" and delete/block him from all forms of social media. He will probably unleash the flying monkeys on you, to spy for him, but keep your head up, and go no contact. Don't be tempted to "tell your side of the story" because it will only sound like "he said /she said" B.S.
Me too, with the supply in tow watching me and our children, be careful and take are,the flying monkeys are showing up without calling first
Christian Sweet baby Jesus! I’ve heard of the new supply stocking the old supply with the narc and things of that nature but I have not experienced that as of yet I just don’t know what to say honestly it’s amazing the stuff they do they’re crazy
You are awesome! So true❤ As a super empath I am a supernova now. The coward is being put down!
Yes,I agree 100 about the betrayal that is worse. And I was loyal. I hurt so badly for a minute. But I made it and I am still healing and still getting knowledge to stay heal. Thanks ,your 100 .
So appreciate all the moral support of this universal support group of healers…healers have to be patient, am patient with my patients, all patients know what they know what they know…Thank you 🤝
It's not worthy. I have done 18 years with a narcissist and it is disaster. He is far from willing to change. Narcs are out to inflict so much pain so that you become a loser like them.
26 years with a Narc. Destroyed me emotionally, professionally and financially! Now using my kids as pawns and waging a custody battle on me after, I called him out on his lies, manipulation and pain upon upon me with lies, smearing my character! Thank you for your videos!!! Never realized how long ago he waged war on me!
Omg...I am leaving my relationship with a narc of 25 years. You have been speaking so many facts to me. I finally got my strength up and seen my self worth. There is no stopping me now.
I was married 12 years, i was discarded 2 months ago, im not over it,i don't reach out to anyone, nobody wants to hear it,they think i can just move on. Im not there at all. He blindsided me and shacked up with the secretary from his work. Devastating
god this is so true. he triangulated me 48 hours after our breakup.. I was devastated even though I was the one who dumped him. sicko. truly just a sick
This man is so right
Hario, who are you? What is your background that you could understand my pain so clearly, concisely, and compassionately? It's crazy!! Thank you for the sharing you do.
A walking angel
God led me to you Hario...I was clearly going down the drain. I was so much in love but when I kept hurting...I realized wasn't worth the stay so I run when he least expected it...am so sure he hates me but am on my path to healing and greatness. Thank God i found you here. I am loving the new me.
Im a super empath and a virgo i have gone supernova and they were literally running scared praying to get away he said he met his match blessings narc slayer
Super Nova is something real and if so what does it mean? I have heard that there are super empaths, but they are very rare. Besides that all people have emphaty. Narcissists have no emotional emphaty but cognitive emphaty.
Deniel David brethren, if Tamiko was on a INFJ channel, that person would say “I’m an INFJ”, they are full of shit! Super Empath..🤣😂🤣
@@denieldavid1991 first of all i awakened 3 years ago if you have not had a spiritual awakening that tells you that you are a super empath you are not period
Is the spiritual awakening the Phase where you go berserk (I switched into a very exploding mode), and suddenly been able to see the world in a different way. Atleast I asked myself what is hurting so much and why are there suddenly so many vampires. Do not many survivors experience that in a comparable way? Before I realized all this I was the scapegoat in my family without realizing it, like autopilot. I realized all this after I got abused to the point that I could not bare it. Are you triggered by my answer. It was not my intention to do that. Im fine not to be a super empath and wish all survivors a good healing journey. What does it matter if I'm not. Congratulation for beeing a super empath.
@@johnnyblaze2257 I have to say it is a bit ironical because it has some toxic charakter to call himself to be so special. Isn't it the same as I would say I'm super "Anti Toxic Man". Pretty grandiose but who knows.
When enough is enough walk away, it will be the best walk you have ever had. I needed this 10 years ago.
I don't think people really GET IT....this is REALLY a GAME....u don't LOSE TIME ur skipping back in FORWARD in dementions with them. U get that time back on how well u play the game. TIME TRAVEL IS REAL!!!!!.....im serious
Explain more please
Thanks great video