Are you a soft spoken person?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ต.ค. 2024
- A lot of you in my audience struggle with speaking louder. This one SIMPLE mindset shift called "Neutral Ears" will allow you to practice being louder without feeling judgement from others. It gives you an opportunity to iron out all the kinks and make the new behaviours more natural over time.
Every day we have so many opportunities to practice! Think about it this way... Every time you open your mouth and speak, that's an opportunity to practice.
Share this with a friend who needs to speak up!
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When this professor says "It's so difficult to break out from it" I can almost feel it .... I feel that too with many habits I don't want to have anymore
We all have habits dude.. Most of them beeing plant in our braun through education and environment. Leave the bubble and live the life YOU want.
@@danny24042002That's pretty surface-level advice, but thanks.
The book called atomic habits is a great place to learn about how your mind is wired in regards to habits give it a read if you can. Replacing a habit with another habit works for me, as if I get the urge to do a bad habit, I stop and do it's replacement.
Yeah I lost my confidence due to my height so I can relate
Wow. Now I will try this thing on every random person. will be sometimes soft, loud, more emphasis on certain words, slow, and tonnes of other permutations. To train my vocals and be able to switch between these based on the situation. Thank you again! Who knows maybe we meet, and I use you as a neutral ear. 😂
There is nothing more annoying than someone who speaks too softly if they truly want to carry on a conversation with you. You can politely ask then to speak up or respectfully say that you're sorry you didn't catch what they said, but if they don't make an effort to adjust...I'm done. It's annoying because I REALLY want to hear what they have to say. Who knows, it may be important. So now, if they won't adjust even the slightest bit and I've thrown in, "I'm sorry, what did you say?" a few more times, my mind thinks, "Look, either speak up or shut up" - then I give up and just walk away irritated. At that point they're just wasting my time!!!
That is how you do almost anything. When an interpreter is at work during the day, his or her do not need to "understand" the conversations because they are not present. And so the language issue does not exist.
You're gonna do what with my ear now?!
sometimes i put on an accent with people i’ve never spoken to, it weirdly gives me confidence to use a voice that goes outside the habitual one i’ve built
What a brilliant concept--for just about any change you want to make in your character or personality.
Vinh, I've joined the Stage Academy and am loving it so far. As a naturally soft-spoken person, sometimes just trying to raise my volume isn't very effective. It might be a little louder, but I feel that I'm not accessing a richness and resonance, but rather straining my voice. My pitch also goes up, which I don't want. You have such a wonderful resonance and richness to your voice, which I'm sure you cultivated with specific practices that go beyond just speaking louder. Could you, in a future video, go into developing volume the right way, with depth and richness, rather than strain? Big thanks for your work!
I had the same problem, what helped me was practicing at around 7/8 volume whenever I’m able to - so when you talk at a 5 it feels so much easier and your voice comes out so much richer. I’m sure Vinh has other professional methods he’s learned but try going overboard so you can feel everything out it helps a lot!
Same issue
Voice strain and loss of pitch most likely means your vocal chords are tightening too much. If you are unpracticed, you can often force your voice to be louder and so it responds by increasing pressure. This tightens your jaw and throat muscles and makes you force air through rigid vocal chords causing strain. Don't worry, you're not weird or anything. This is a completely normal reflex. However, this is the opposite of what needs to happen. Your body already knows how to talk loudly, but doing it at will and without strain can take practice.
First thing's first: Take a big deep yawn. It's been a long day, you're a little tired. Do a BIG LOUD YAWN.
A few things happen when you fully yawn. Your mouth and throat open up fully. Your back straightens and your head tilts back slightly. Your stomach swells with the air. Your body relaxes as you exhale. If you put voice to it, it was LOUD!
So let's go over these things. If you want loud, clear sounds coming out of your mouth, you need to open it. Don't expect a big sound to come out of a tiny mouth. Your mouth needs to match your volume. Open that MOUTH!
When you talk, posture is important. If you'ver ever seen an opera singer you can see they draw power from their whole body, staying upright, chest wide, arms out. At the very least, sit upright and keep your arms loose to allow your lungs room to expand. Tilt your head up slightly, about the level that you yawned, to keep your throat open. Too far up or down will crimp your throat and affect your pitch.
Breathing correctly greatly expands your endurance and your tone. When you breathe the lungs should be pumping from the diaphragm, not the chest. When you breathe, your stomach should swell, but your chest and shoulders should remain still. You can practice this by laying on your back on a flat surface. You will naturally breathe correctly in this position. The diaphragm is a strong muscle. Speaking from your diaphragm gives you power and control over your breathe.
Finally, practice! While your driving alone say, "Maaa...Maaaaaaa... Maaaa" Try different sounds, vowels. Play with your volume. Slide up and down in pitch. Notice where the sound is coming from in your body. Move the sound from the top of your head down to your stomach and back to the top. Move the sound from the back of your skull to your nose and back again. All of these things can affect your power and your pitch. Speaking from your gut will be the most powerful. Knowing how to move your sound helps with your tonality and expresses emotion.
I hope that helps!
I have an alarmingly deep voice for my age, but I’m also mostly soft-spoken, so my voice doesn’t travel too far and no one really listens sadly. But when I get annoyed or mad my deep voice gets loud enough it startles people.
Maybe try singing
@@Zencba I’ve actually been interested in singing for a while, but just don’t have the nerve for it yet. Plus I don’t even know how to get started
@LMCScout Starting with humming is a good way to build that connection with your vocal chords. Plus, enjoying music that you like, you sometimes can learn the lyrics and start to sing them. I've been practicing singing for years, but only a select few people have heard me, lol. It's easy to sing by yourself once you grow accustomed.
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@@LMCScoutTry singing along to songs first
I prefer soft-spoken people. Don't get me wrong people who have energy and are loud can be nice too. But they usually talk over you and drown your voice out. Talking to a soft-spoken person on the other hand is always nice and calming. They will listen to you and neutrally talk to you.
But people wouldnt take me seriously n i couldnt get promoted even i work hard while my friend work less with ease. I cant see myself being a salesman either. Either way i feel like i dont have a future. I just hope my voice a little bit louder, but not like screaming louder. Sometime i feel like im screaming while talking n people still can barely hear me 😢
This channel is life improving
I'm so glad I found your channel Vinh.❤
You are helping so many people who are at war within against themselves; who want to change but don't know how.😂
Its so refreshing to finally see some confirmation. I always told people how I feel uncomfortable trying new things like these with people I know and prefer to do it with strangers because there’s no bias. And people would always tell me that I should practice first with family and friends because if not I wouldn’t “dare” to do it with strangers. But normally you don’t care what random people think, you care about what important people say or think. So this makes so much more sense to me.
Thanks for sharing your video Vinh. I faced the same problem and decide to join a public speaking club, Toastmasters. The latter helped me dig deeper into the issue, offer training and a practice environment. Beyond not feeling judgement from others, I'm being more confident now.
Respectfully agree and disagree with need to change around strangers. Work and personal folks aren’t necessarily put-off by the change. Try speaking up around friends/family/work, it might be a very welcoming experience for all and you will personally feel better about being heard with the folks that know and love you! I did it many years ago, one of the best changes I’ve ever made!
I try doing it and it’s hard for me but it is working 💗
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THANKS VINH! (sorry just practicing neutral ears!) - Great video once again!
That was nice
this is why when I go on holidays I always go to some far off place
Clever!! Such a good advice
It was by pure chance that I stumbled upon your channel and I'm really glad I did! I think I found a treasure hidden in this platform. Thanks Vinh! Of course, I'm subscribing right now! :D
Wow.... just started watching Vinh a week back. On the 2nd day tried speaking louder and with more expression with my 7 ur old daughter while driving her back from school. She said:- dad you don't sound like this, be yourself . That voice change ended there and stopped watching his videos too for 5 days. Accidentally came upon this video today on a lazy Sunday afternoon . I guess I'll have to find Jessica.
As a soft-spoken person, I will try this technique but I feel like I won't be comfortable with trying to do it for a long time because I have almost always felt uncomfortable whenever I have had to speak louder than the natural volume of my voice, especially when I'm with people that I've just met or known only for a very short period of time. I mean there is nothing wrong with being soft-spoken, actually. The thing is that it just does not work in certain situations and with assertive and extroverted people being around you. Then literally almost nobody hears you because the way those louder and talkative people normally speak catches attention of others more. I wish people would just stop disregarding soft-spoken people just because they are soft-spoken so everyone can speak the way they naturally do and are comfortable with.
This is so amazing!! Neutral ears!! I'll try it.
I know exactly what he is talking about. I want to change that as well step by step :)
Let‘s goo
Really great advice I did something similar in the past really helped a lot. I mean when you try to grow you can try out things on people you dont know to make it easier for yourself
I’ve found this same thing works with opening up about yourself
That is one amazing advice!!!!!
Broo thank you, after watching you noteing your tips and reflecting on your tips, now I becoming a good conversationalist. Broo thank you, love from bottom of my ❤♥️ ❤❤
That was an eye opener. Thank you!
This is the most headass video I've ever seen.
GREAT ADVICE!!!!! I'm doing this! 😮❤
I really love his advice to him…………..
This is very helpful! Thanks!
Important to remember to stay genuine though, you aren’t changing who you are, just trying to be heard. I recommend also practicing this habit by reading out loud too.
i can learn from your free content, thanks
This was actually how I improved from being only soft spoken, to being soft spoken to my family only but not towards the people I don't know the most. At the end of the day, you're still gonna need to put a filter on, until a time comes that filter finally takes over your previous personality
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Being able to allow yourself to be heard😢
If you want to practice even more, you can do this on deaf ears instead of neutral
If i was in this situation...i would just shake my head😂
Great. I'll try it.
This is useful, thanks!
such a great idea!!
Thank you for your contents vinh❤
Brilliant!
I think I have 2 voices. My common voice, and my formal voice.
Instead of saying but say and.... This guy said it and he ain't doing it himself
My gf said my fingers are oscillating too fast. Thanks for your advice, ill do try it with the hotel receptionists at a slower frequency. I wont see her again anyways.
Thank you
I always trail off. Start loud and end low and mumbling.
Funny how you've mentioned that I've always challenged myself to speak louder when I order coffee at Starbucks.
Cám ơn Anh Vinh
I do this to retail employees to act outgoing and unhinged
Hmm… I thought I sound the way I sound because that’s just how my voice is. I really am not aware of how my voice is most of the time until someone reminds me of it. 🤔
I liked that
Yeah same with me I'm drowned but I think it's more like everyone doesn't listen though I've most of the times a better idea
Okay the thumbnail suggestion of another video, that's thumbnail itself is loud
Meanwhile universities who send rejection letters to students left, right and centre: We don't do that here.
I swear I’m speaking loud enough but people still can’t hear me
I do not understand what he was saying can anyone tell me in briefly?
It's about practising to use your voice "instrument" in different ways so that you can match it to any given situation. Just like a piano can be used to play a soft, Beethoven sonata or some driving rock & roll, so your voice can be used to gently entice people to listen to a story or encourage and inspire them with a strong, confident voice.
Vinh explained to the man that he was living in a "bubble", which means he was only using the one, soft voice-type for everything. To expand his repertoire of different volumes and tones, he needs to practise different speaking styles. And it's easier to do that practice on people who don't already know him and expect him to speak in a particular way.
which part of it?
@@grahamyates2490 Technically that was not his message but the way you added to his message was very interesting. Being a chameleon can help you interact with different people.
@@skyhappy can you tell me what you think I got wrong about Vinh's message or what I omitted? I'm always eager to learn and improve so if you have a different take on what he was saying, I'd be happy to hear it.
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Good advice, too bad I'm the opposite
See how fast it was for him to cut off the soft spoken person?smh
Im iraqi but i was born in egypt and stayed in it 26 years so i mastered Egyptian accent and returned to iraq now cause it is getting better but iraqi accent is totally different can you help me with it cause i dont know what to start to do
In my case it's just opposite, I am a very loud person, sometimes people even think that I am arguing or I am getting angry.
What do you suggest in my case?
Won't that be the same. Try speaking softly to strangers (neutral ears)
done
Am a high pitched person😑, plzz help me how to not be that much high pitched 😫
Maybe try sighing to work on the lower pitch
@@ZencbaThanx , I will try
As a trans person still in their early stages and trying to transition slowly, this is what I did. I got a new job, and at this new job I began to speak more feminine. I basically use my job as a vocal training session for 8 hours. And I settled my nerves about talking feminine with them because "theyre new. They dont know what I sound like".
I dont like loud person the aggressive tone makes me wanna end the conversation
The opposite is hard too. I'm naturally loud and being soft is hard
If he’s soft spoken then I’m mute 😭
plot twist : Jessica is his wife
You are over preferred l powered
I gotta repeat myself constantly