Self Love Journey: How I Healed My Self Worth 💖

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  • This is my self love glow up story - how I learned to love myself and heal my sense of self worth. Learning to truly love and embrace yourself is a process. There were levels to cultivating my self love & confidence, and each year I continue to unravel more old stories and wounds that I need to heal. There’s so much more I want to share about healing your self worth - so look out for the next video, an in-depth Healing Workshop.
    I hope my story encourages you to heal what you need to heal, to find the love and beauty you have within. You are so worthy, beautiful, and lovable. I truly wish for you to be able to see it fully and completely. You are a gem. And I’m so grateful you exist. 💖
    As you can see, I’m so passionate about healing our self love & self worth because the quality of your entire life stem from these things - how you feel about yourself, how others perceive you, how likely you are to succeed.
    It’s time to let go of all that holds us back (most of the time it’s ourselves & our own minds) and truly live as freely and authentically as can be.
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  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1251

    This was beautiful.

    • @Br0ken_tv677
      @Br0ken_tv677 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Lana! Love your video! ♥️♥️

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      thank you lana

    • @sonamdeki3472
      @sonamdeki3472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      In Love

    • @manofapril2657
      @manofapril2657 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Aww Lana💕
      What a surprise to see you here. The adage of 'Birds of same feathers flock together' made visible.

    • @anjenicabarnedo930
      @anjenicabarnedo930 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You both! I'm your fan😍❣

  • @bloominglune
    @bloominglune 4 ปีที่แล้ว +778

    There's just something about you I love so much. Your voice soothes me, your smile energize me, your words motivates me. 💛
    Please continue to inspire us through your life and lessons.
    I love you. 🍊
    Edit: 👀👀thank you so much for all the likes🍋🍋 I love you all.

    • @Thefitty
      @Thefitty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Lina Rabha definitely soothing! Do you sub to her podcast?

    • @gahrasimran2424
      @gahrasimran2424 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Truly♥️

    • @DrBiohack
      @DrBiohack 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      she is so calming 🙏💞

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      i appreciate this, thank you so much. love you

    • @Thefitty
      @Thefitty 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gahrasimran2424 indeed!

  • @RababAlhunaidi
    @RababAlhunaidi 4 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    I cried watching this. I am going through my self love journey too and let me tell you there is a lot of sobbing and emotional tearing, thanks alot for sharing your personal journey beautiful. love you

    • @minarinrin2850
      @minarinrin2850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      رباب احب فيديوهاتك 🌛💕💕

    • @lesanduellauda2815
      @lesanduellauda2815 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same. Hope we all grow for the better

  • @janalex
    @janalex 4 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    "I wasn't making an effort, I was expecting people to make an effort with me."
    This is so true. All throughout high school, and even my first two and a half years of college I managed to ruin so many friendships and relationships that could have been beautiful because of this way of thinking. I tend to be the person that accepts an invitation, and then the entire time I won't socialize with anyone. I stay in my own little corner and convince myself that no one wants to talk to me and that I made a mistake by showing up. I realize how damaging this can be to my self esteem and the effect it can have on people around me, and your videos have really given me a chance to reflect on myself. I appreciate everything you do Aileen. Thank you

  • @aurora681
    @aurora681 4 ปีที่แล้ว +548

    Seeing this video as a shy 14 year old with strict asian parents, this rly gives me hope. i can relate so much to pretty much everything u say, and it rly helps me :) ty

    • @eylice8091
      @eylice8091 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I'm 17, still healing, it does get better, really slowly you'll be happy

    • @kimayajadhav5566
      @kimayajadhav5566 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@eylice8091 Same here

    • @rimjhimghose
      @rimjhimghose 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm turning 17 this month, I'm on a journey to loving and finding myself again , when I was 14, I completely despised myself to the point where I cried while looking at the mirror, it got better with time,still not fully healed, but I'm working on it, yeah and being Asian is kinda hard though..
      So don't feel hopeless, you'll be okay and will find your true self soon!
      Wish you all the best ♥️

    • @rimjhimghose
      @rimjhimghose 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eylice8091 you're absolutely right!

    • @iamsimran2402
      @iamsimran2402 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@eylice8091 yes i'm 18 and life gets better as you improve your relation with yourself

  • @femmenistas
    @femmenistas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +661

    Girl I totally understand. I am still on this journey. Cause I still feel like I am not worthy when I don't get the results that I or others expect from me. thank you for sharing this.

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      We are worthy sis:)

    • @beethemuse9985
      @beethemuse9985 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Totally relatable! But I'm sure your unworthy thoughts are just irrational thoughts that prolly are influenced by the opinion of others and not your own!

    • @keepinitrreal
      @keepinitrreal 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly! So relatable when we are goal and approval focused based on how we were parented. Much love✨

    • @henryedewor2152
      @henryedewor2152 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      This was soothing

  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +631

    Thank you all for the amazing feedback on this video. I'm so grateful we could connect and remind each other that we're not alone in any of this 💕 Sending you all my love & seriously wishing you all the best for your growth. What I said at the end of the video, I meant it!! 💖
    P.S. Click the bell to be notified of the Healing Workshop when it comes out!

    • @soanna9394
      @soanna9394 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      can't wait!

    • @juliko3967
      @juliko3967 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's your best video - very emotional and honest. I'm with you on 100 %. I understand you - had the same situation in my childhood. Thank you :)

    • @veganlunchmom
      @veganlunchmom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You are amazing ❤️ And I’m so glad you are sharing your experience to try to help others feel better

    • @trupscorner2989
      @trupscorner2989 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ♥️

    • @GaiaCarney
      @GaiaCarney 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lavendaire - thank you, for your dope, positive, artistic content💐like a touchstone of goodness, take care🕊

  • @lelyguti2014
    @lelyguti2014 4 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I teared up when you talked about feeling invisible/ feeling like nobody wanted to be your friend. That's exactly how I felt the first 18 years of my life. I'm 23 now but I've grown so much mentally the past 5 years. I am so happy I stumbled upon your channel today. I definitely needed this.

  • @beckabronstad8384
    @beckabronstad8384 4 ปีที่แล้ว +425

    You're such a beautiful, old soul! I'm 43 years old and still see my friends struggling with this! I myself have been healing since I was in my early 20s and I can tell you that the process never stops - its a lovely flower that continues to unfold, if we dare to try!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      so true! 💓

    • @sbegum29
      @sbegum29 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Becka Bronstad awwwww love THATS it’s definitely so true!!

    • @katielarsen2630
      @katielarsen2630 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes I think it takes a whole lifetime but it’s so important because otherwise we pass it down to our kids or other family members

    • @ratnaastari3428
      @ratnaastari3428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thankyou for your words 😊❤

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 4 ปีที่แล้ว +277

    *The world begins within*
    Great editing

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Within:)

  • @LizzAngelus
    @LizzAngelus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    Ive been feeling this more now in my mid 20s more than i ever have before. Its true what they say, you are youre worst enemy. Ive always been the FIRST one to tell myself im a failure and im not good enough. Ive had a mental breakdown everyday for the past 4 day. And im just so exhausted from myself. Im constantly having 1 thought lead to another lead to another etc until i just break down... thanks for this video its been so helpful

    • @douloureux.
      @douloureux. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Khalizzi same! I feel like i’m so behind when it comes to ‘living’ and enjoying life in my 20s when looking at others the same age. Not in a negative way. I just know there’s a lot of work to do for me but not sure how to start. I hope you feel better soon! breakdowns and panic attacks are awful

    • @libraryofkayla
      @libraryofkayla 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope you’re doing better this week

  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    French, Indonesian, Portuguese, and Spanish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributors listed in the description 💕

  • @leae2731
    @leae2731 4 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    IM CRYINGGGG, all the time i just really feel i have an older sister in you :'

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aaww:)

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      love uu

    • @lezarnscheepers9219
      @lezarnscheepers9219 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me to it hit me when she spoke about being a bridesmaid's for her friend

  • @Br0ken_tv677
    @Br0ken_tv677 4 ปีที่แล้ว +201

    Omg how many hair colors you have on the past few years? all the colors looks so pretty and pastels love you so much Aileen

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      too many to count :)

  • @Rithuramesh-o3s
    @Rithuramesh-o3s 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm a teenage girl who is trying to achieve my big dreams, and I actually feel so lost. And when you said these words, I was shocked. Because this is who actually I am right now. I'm stuck in that negative cycle. And I am quite lucky that I found out this video. Thankyou sis for creating this channel... 🥺🥺❤️

  • @user-fq7xk4oh5j
    @user-fq7xk4oh5j 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    My story is similar
    I feel invisible and that people don't want to be friends with me
    And I am in the journey of healing and self-love
    Thank you for sharing that you are inspiring

    • @nicholasgermanacos9023
      @nicholasgermanacos9023 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are not invisible. People just don't see the beauty inside of you. Their focus is elsewhere.

  • @MarielaMerino
    @MarielaMerino 4 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    I can relate. To have friends it takes effort both ways. I just always feel like I wish people would reach out to me. Like I’m the only one ever reaching out to others. I’m always make the effort and it’s draining and it makes me feel like somethings wrong with me. I’ve also been trying to reconnect with a friend and I keep reaching out but they’re not making an effort back and it makes me give up and think I’m just not worthy of having friends.

    • @zestygirl
      @zestygirl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I felt this way also.. I was surrounded by those that I helped and it was draining.. I'm not sure the friendship was ever going to go both ways. I stepped away and decided to make an effort to get to know new people which was hard as I was suffering social anxiety! I pushed through and found a new bunch of friends - 1 special one and this new friendship I cherish. You are worthy, I use to pursue friendships because I really wanted people to like me the way I liked them... but sometimes it doesn't work... they are just not our people! XXX

    • @MarielaMerino
      @MarielaMerino 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@zestygirl thank you for sharing! you are right. I need to get to know new people :)

    • @veganlunchmom
      @veganlunchmom 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It’s like I wrote these words! I feel the same way and am going through the
      Same thing ❤️

    • @07ikkin
      @07ikkin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here. I gave up and have been friendless for nearly 10 years. I started to try again last year when I created my own group on meetup.com. Now I am trying again

    • @billysanderson4921
      @billysanderson4921 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Relatable

  • @EmilyHanka
    @EmilyHanka 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    3 minutes in and I'm already ugly crying because I can relate to this so much

  • @lh1881
    @lh1881 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just want you to know that you're the reason I healed my self worth, watching your videos was the beginning of my journey to self love, now I can say that I love myself and y know that's all thanks to you. You're an amazing human being and my role model

  • @lancemorin3967
    @lancemorin3967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My heart goes out to you and all who have struggled with these similar issues all of us have either struggled or suffered with. We are loved, we are worthy, we are beautiful, we are strong, we are powerful, we are enough, I love you even if you don't know, love or understand you yet. We are relatives, we are all family and we are all truly amazing, keep growing, keep shining, keep smiling because no matter what, your all beautiful.

  • @natrideout3864
    @natrideout3864 4 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    this is exactly how i feel now. thank you for showing me i'm not alone - healing seems like such an overwhelming task and i feel like i almost have a comfort zone in the story i have created because it's all ive ever known.. even when its years later. i still cling to who i was, not quite ready to let go because i feel like im almost afraid of who i could be.. anyway! this video helped me see that even though letting go of your story is uncomfortable and painful, its worth it.

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Healing can be overwhelming rather physical healing or other healing. It's definitely a job, mastering the things that have mastered us for so long. Lucky for us our lives use channels like this one to give us much needed reminders of what we can become. High five sis.

    • @natrideout3864
      @natrideout3864 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@geo5954 Thank you!

  • @heatherhanninenfairbairn5582
    @heatherhanninenfairbairn5582 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Aileen, I can identify with feeling my parents’ love was tied to my achievements. I pushed myself very hard in sports because that’s what my dad loved until I totally burnt myself out over many years. I distinctly remember thinking, Nothing I ever do can make this man proud of me = loves me. I’m 50 now and it’s only after a lot of years of self destructive behaviour that I am whole, sober and taking care of myself. Bless you for realizing this crucial truth at such a young age. I get it. Blessed be.

  • @Maddie9185
    @Maddie9185 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am 63 years old and I have learned so much from your meditation videos. I keep a few of them on my favorites and do them in the morning when I wake up. I just recently started experiencing some anxiety and your meditation videos have been a blessing. Thank you ❤

  • @Inventiff
    @Inventiff 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I cried with you, thank you for being vulnerable and talking about self worth, for I am on this journey to seeing the beauty within myself. There are days I try to tell myself that I am one of a kind, but it’s hard to have a consistent mentality, since it’s so easy to compare myself to others. I want to understand my traumas, and what triggers me. I’m so grateful to have stumbled upon your video.

  • @AngelchocoPie
    @AngelchocoPie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The way Aileen talked about the "little Aileen" is so sweet and loving! This is how you nurture your inner child. Thank you for sharing this beautiful and unique journey to self-love. More magic to come to your life!

  • @jh2713
    @jh2713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    This video made me realize that "I'm not alone". I'm not the only one dealing with similar problems related to friendships and self-worth. I always felt like it's me against the world.
    I can so understand and relate to wanting to be wanted by others, expecting others to make the effort to talk to me while I don't try to make the effort to talk to them. And when they don't make the effort probably because they sense that I'm not giving an equal amount of effort in return, I think they simply don't want to be friends with me. So I distance myself. Feeling unworthy to make the effort; insecure. I never knew that side of myself and always wondered why I never really had a stable friendship.
    Thank you so much for sharing. It's so hard to heal and grow and change and be confident when you feel you don't deserve it. And to want to prove to others that you've changed because you're that insecure, questiong -did I really change? But it can be a rocky process that'll take time and I'm working on it!! Love 💛

  • @OllieSmiless
    @OllieSmiless 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can relate to getting emotional over expressions of love and care. I think we've been starved of love, affection, care, acceptance, and support so much that any time we see it being expressed - we are deeply touched.

  • @erramazsoukaina9082
    @erramazsoukaina9082 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can't find the words to thank you sweet girl, you inspire me and you give me the courage to heal myself. I struggled the same insecurity, loneliness, no self-love and esteem,... I tried to seek attention and love from others and I've never dared to fix myself and care of it but now because of you I'll start to build a best version of me and I hope to never give up. Thank you from the bottom of my heart❤

  • @sarahjoymeade3886
    @sarahjoymeade3886 4 ปีที่แล้ว +122

    “Dishonor on your cow...” 😂😂🐲🐄

    • @minimallyn
      @minimallyn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Love that MULAN REFERENCE!!!! HAHAHHAHH

  • @rayasasmr2059
    @rayasasmr2059 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Girl you're so inspiring like I don't even know where to start to describe how helpful your videos are 🥺

  • @sacharymateo1710
    @sacharymateo1710 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I just love how you put this into the world and let us see deeply in your self-love journey and how much you work to be where you are now, I'm working in my own journey and it might see impossible but i know i will get to where i need to be, thank you so much

  • @vishalinarayanan4340
    @vishalinarayanan4340 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    as an asian-canadian living in a difficult home, this has been so healing to watch. It feels like a mirror for us-- we really do feel and hear what you're saying. Thank you.

  • @rhythmaurelio6063
    @rhythmaurelio6063 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    you're the older sister I never have 💖 thank you for sharing such personal story. It's my new favorite video of yours ✨

  • @hood589
    @hood589 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I feel as if i already love you on a personal level. The emotions and feelings you described you felt were my narrative for sooo long . I had heard of self love but never actually deeply thought about it. I had abandoned myself for years to an extent that i felt extremely guilty if i wanted anything for myself whilst my friends and family also needed it. I was never a priority .Ever. I didn’t see my worth .Not that i have fully seen it now but it is a journey .Self love is a journey and i feel as if i have yet so much to learn .Thank you ,for this.

  • @Heyimshrishti
    @Heyimshrishti 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    as someone who has recently embarked on my own self love and acceptance journey, this really moved me. thank you so much. makes me feel like i am not alone and i will get there too.

  • @user-cv4xm6wq2l
    @user-cv4xm6wq2l 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OMGOSH.
    I can truly relate.
    I'm not Asian, though,
    I'm white, with blue eyes and blonde hair.
    Back in 1961, I was abducted at a very young age, & raised by those who abducted me.
    They kept me extremely isolated & hidden from my biological family.
    They always ruled over me and constantly demand their own way,
    I was also traumatized with physical, verbal & emotional abuse.
    Later in my 30's there was a opportunity for me to escape, and I did.
    I am now 63 and working on this new journey, that your are describing.
    Doing my very best to reinvent myself & overcome the traumatic memories of the past.
    I'm doing better now, but it's not easy.
    Thank you for this video and for sharing this part of your life.
    I pray it helps many others who are going through the same thing.
    Your a blessing.❤

  • @yasmingalal5
    @yasmingalal5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I resonate with this so much and I don’t think I’ve been able to put how I felt into words so thank you for opening up about something that isn’t the easiest to talk about

  • @aishathsara9332
    @aishathsara9332 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm glad that ppl are realizing how important self love is..I'm thankful to realise it in late teens .I wish all of you guys out their have a beautiful self development journey .lots of love ♡♡

  • @jun4863
    @jun4863 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful experience ❤. I too am on this journey myself and each day I feel and see myself in a better place. Every tear that I shed, and pain that I feel is apart of it all.
    I hope each and one of us continue to bloom, for all of us are like flowers, we bloom differently, but beautifully. It takes time, but its worth it. ❤

  • @andreallomeli94
    @andreallomeli94 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Everything you said is EXACTLY how I’ve felt my whole life. Thank you for making this video. It helps to understand where I need to look within myself and how I can grow from all of it.

  • @chetanakamath
    @chetanakamath 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video has come at a perfect time for me. I recently got out of this illusion that I had to depend on others to make me happy. I searched answers for my self worth in how others perceive me.
    After a terrible phase of anxiety and low esteem, I feel liberated and happy from within. I have realised now that happiness is definitely one's own choice. Yes, I am worthy of all the good things. And I will make it happen.
    I cannot help but feel slightly emotional as I watch this video. All that I had to face in the past, and seeing myself blooming today, makes me feel so so proud of all that I am today.
    You are a beautiful soul, Aileen! Thank you so much for this video. ♥️

  • @hadleyoling1951
    @hadleyoling1951 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    We always feel that pressure to perform in order to feel loved and accepted by others. At the end of the day, we
    we get to realize that it's far more fulfilling to please, love, and appreciate ourselves for who we are, and in whatever stage we are at the moment.
    Love you Aileen!😍😍😍

  • @catpillow9130
    @catpillow9130 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am not the only one crying here watching this... This video was really beautiful and you helped me a lot with my self love journey!😭❤️

  • @user-cq9ps4sl5n
    @user-cq9ps4sl5n 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you! Thank you that you are here, sharing with us. This is what I work for now-learning how to love myself and building my self confidence. I was really moved by your words. I wish you happiness and love! 💕

  • @naturalistic2916
    @naturalistic2916 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I felt many times misunderstood by the people, which makes me feel disconnected from people, worthless, alone...but I think now I realized at some point we all struggle with concept of self acceptance from others, it's normal, and through this journey we learn and grow ourselves. We all have some kind of insecurities but each Soul is special.
    And one thing more, honestly you are the one who introduced me Self Love, its importance in life, I have learned so much from you about this area, you helped me to figure out my self awarenes and self worth more..Thank you dear Aileen 🖤✨, lots of love from India.

  • @KatrinaAglipay
    @KatrinaAglipay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I totally understand. 🤗

  • @AdrianaGirdler
    @AdrianaGirdler 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just beautiful, you are so inspiring. Thank you, Cheers!

  • @dawnmcgovern2842
    @dawnmcgovern2842 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing. Our life’s mirror each other in so many ways. I was a very shy child and felt abandoned too. I lived my childhood with very little confidence always trying to blend in. Not get picked on. My Dad died when I was 1 and my mom sorta abandoned ship. She was emotionally traumatized and did not know how to cope... so she traveled and drank most of my childhood. Everything I our life was about appearance not love. It’s hard for me to express love because it’s not something I experienced unless my mom felt guilty so conditionally at best. I’m 50 now and I’m just starting this journey after failing once again to find happiness in another person. Your perspective is great....thank you!

  • @dineshshaliwal8431
    @dineshshaliwal8431 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I can't thank enough..thankyou girl for helping me to become my better self. I have been a subscriber since really long and very glad that I found your channel. Hope to see such inspiring content in future too....

  • @Chloe-lw1kt
    @Chloe-lw1kt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The way you talk about self-worth and your personal experience with it is so authentic. Like it made me realize that we're all worth truly comes within, and even though that's still hard to believe in for some people (including me), it's the truth. Thank you for this beautiful message Aileen, Love U

  • @niab.3600
    @niab.3600 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm so thankful for TH-camrs like you! You bring to this platform truth, love, healing, soul, happiness, gratitude & peace! Thank you so much💕

  • @anhpham6154
    @anhpham6154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How moving that I found myself in your past story. I’m now a very shy kid and always make a lot of effort to catch people’s attention. I feel insecure when I have to go on with a new chapter of my life and face with changes. Sometimes my life didn’t go that well, so I’ve always doubted myself a lot, like I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy and no one really cares and loves me. I couldn’t talk to someone else and kept those toxic feelings my own. The interesting point is we have something in common. I feel the most confident when I sing because I have a really strong passion for music and I always receive praises from others whenever I start performing. After watching a lot of your videos, I feel relieved and maybe I don’t need to care that much about other’s opinions. Maybe just being myself, knowing my true value and trying to be the best version of myself is exactly the most important thing in life. Many thanks for those positive thoughts and energies that you’ve shared to us, I admire you and support you.

  • @silvia8002
    @silvia8002 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I am going through the same period now, self discovery and mental clarity.
    I feel so deep what you felt during adolescence cause for me it was the same.
    Thank you for this, I needed it today!

  • @baitbyoot9405
    @baitbyoot9405 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are 10 years ahead of me, what you discovered and healed in your twenties is what I'm experiencing now in my thirties.. These videos you are making are of a great benefit to me, thank you so much Aileen ❤️

  • @shiela9297
    @shiela9297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is what I really need right now. Hearing this from you moved me. I don't know how I'm going to heal from the pains and hurt I've been holding for the past weeks, months, and years of my life. I don't know about forgiving, but you are helping me with it. I remembered when a simple hug and whisper of encouragement from a friend really moved my heart and nearly made me cry. This video makes me tear up like, "Yes, I'm worthy, I'm beautiful" I just forget it sometimes because of *hurt people* who's been hurting me and my constant need to seek love from *other people*. I'm really insecure as well, I feel invisible even with my friends around and because of that I became aloof with everyone, I started avoiding people and pushing people away. Thank you so much for this 🥺✨

    • @nicholasgermanacos9023
      @nicholasgermanacos9023 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are more amazing than you can possibly imagine, learn to love yourself and love others. Realise this now and follow what you want!

    • @shiela9297
      @shiela9297 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nicholasgermanacos9023 🥺

  • @lananhnguyenthi4984
    @lananhnguyenthi4984 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you so much! I appreciate evert single word you said. I did cry a lot when i realized how much the love that my friend gave me. I wanna thank you for being a part of my journey seeking for my persona 💜

  • @Angela-un8fh
    @Angela-un8fh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I really related to this in another level. 😔 as an asian child, I also felt the pressure to earn high grades and get in a good collage etc. thank you for this video

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    @lavendaire  ปีที่แล้ว +6

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  • @leah5094
    @leah5094 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I deeply relate with your story! For as long as I can remember I have always believed that I was below everyone else. Only just realised how bad I actually treat myself. Thank you for sharing this! I’m going to begin my journey!

  • @jessicawhite2700
    @jessicawhite2700 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really needed this. I am 27 and over the last 3 years have grown a lot emotionally and mentally. And what you highlighted in this video hit home. Over the last 6 months I have slowly started to feel bigger changes in my mindset and my self worth. As always love all of your videos x

  • @roxymoussavi973
    @roxymoussavi973 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a beautiful girl. I watched this video at the right time as I'm going through my healing process for the first time ever. Thank you for showing me the strength to push through...

  • @TrangTran-zn8qg
    @TrangTran-zn8qg 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    My life has changed so much thanks to your videos. I randomly found you last summer and since then, i've been practicing self-love habits and lifting my self-esteem up a lot. Thank you for healing my wounds and appreciating me. Aileen you are my saviour. Your videos have always been my inspirational morning starters. Looking forward to receiving the next video from you.
    I love you so much.

  • @Vixentopnotes
    @Vixentopnotes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Girl, you’ve made m cry so hard! You are helping so many of us. Thank you so much

  • @MayaPricex
    @MayaPricex 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was literally just having this conversation with my therapist. Thank you for always sharing your wisdom!

  • @novycrysteemallorca267
    @novycrysteemallorca267 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    THIS💖: I never had to change myself in order to receive love and approval and self worth💕👍💕

  • @kiarah7329
    @kiarah7329 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m glad that you are now healed. It moved me so much because it felt like you are talking about my life! I haven’t healed yet I’m trying but it’s hard I hope I will heal someday and forget about my past

  • @damie_z
    @damie_z 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have no words to thank you. I also felt that way in my whole life and yesterday I want to heal my past wound and I found your video. Thank you so much. ❤️❤️

  • @virginiacaraujo
    @virginiacaraujo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You’re such a special human being to me, so inspiring!

  • @aslack6624
    @aslack6624 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was beautiful, vulnerable and touching. I want to reach out through the screen and give you a hug 🤗 Thank you for spreading the self love message and for being so open about your journey. I love your channel and your personality. And I also want to thank you for the Positive Affirmations Audio, which was part of the New Year Challenge. I listen to it every day. It is wonderful and it is helping me a lot. I absolutely love it. Sending love and big thank you for all you do ❤️

  • @devykeynons1844
    @devykeynons1844 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When you said "Self Love is a Journey" I don't know why my tears just fall down, your words diving so deep into my sense😭 I'm sobbing right now, this is so beautiful!! Thank you for this lit message and reminder❤

  • @SoyJGAko
    @SoyJGAko 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for your vulnerability and for sharing your story and gifts with the world. I am so happy for you that you have been able to connect with your self worth and live fully and authentically. I am in my mid twenties and I just started dedicating time to healing my wounds and practicing self love, care, and compassion in my 20s as well and you sharing this makes me feel not so alone, validated, and helps me feel like I should trust the process. I truly appreciate you!

  • @duresameen4497
    @duresameen4497 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This resonated with me on such a deep level and I love your work
    I hope you’re proud of your self and love your self because I love your growth SO MUCH ❤️

  • @cristinaionita4822
    @cristinaionita4822 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This story touched me,because I feel the same with my friends

  • @emiliadelglo
    @emiliadelglo 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    U are beautiful human being, your story is truly moving ❤️ keep spreading love and hope around those who need to accept themselves more! In my teen years I seek the aproval of others, I let ppl walk all over me cause I dont feel as good as them, but as I matured I realized I deserved much more than this - its really amazing feeling to accept myself as a whole

  • @AlittlelostinReverie
    @AlittlelostinReverie 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got teary right at the same time you did. I felt it. You are beautiful thanks for existing.

  • @alenawu5383
    @alenawu5383 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    oh man! im excited for this series! I can see your passion and your true self. Thank you for being so vulnerable with us and sharing. It encourages me to journal more too. I have fallen off my journaling habits and I notice I'm kinda losing myself to my everyday task. I definitely want to recenter myself and work on loving myself and appreciating my self worth. I have to agree, your past sounds so similiar to mine with constant stride for asian parents approval (minus the singing part of course bc i can not sing haha). love your videos and cant wait to see more :)

  • @YuliaAstrea
    @YuliaAstrea 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Starting this journey myself. Good luck to everyone working to improve themselves

  • @TheHeiditennis
    @TheHeiditennis 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Whaouh !!! I totally relate to you on self worth and insecurity around friendships . I’m ready to love myself fully , welcome abundant friendships and willing to work on those limited beliefs during this year 🙏🏾🙏🏾
    Can’t wait for your step by step guide to healing

  • @erindunne7246
    @erindunne7246 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I related to almost everything you said in this video - from having a need for external validation, shyness, detachment from father, and performing. thank you for sharing all of this. I don't think it's a coincidence that I found this at a time I needed the reminder most .

  • @e.dollette23
    @e.dollette23 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Awww I almost cried with you TuT you're so cute and sweet!
    Thanks for everything you do for us cinnamon roll 💖💖💖💖

  • @niamhadairia2956
    @niamhadairia2956 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When you spoke about how you thought that nobody wanted to be friends with you, man, that hit deeeeeeep

  • @julieannsinel6661
    @julieannsinel6661 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I cried!! Thankyou, for reminding me I am so much loved. I love you!

  • @togethernesstxt7540
    @togethernesstxt7540 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Whenever i come back to your old videos omygod you are always beautiful, Open , Good at healing people thru your words . You are beautiful all along yes ❤

  • @annczacorpuz
    @annczacorpuz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I'm 24 and this is something I've struggled a lot. Looking forward to the self healing workshop! All the best! 💚

    • @lorirobinson7357
      @lorirobinson7357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am 60 and STILL struggling with this. I cry myself to sleep so many nights, wanting to be a part of something bigger, but not knowing what my part is.
      Your telling of being a wallflower...that's me.
      When you told how good you felt being asked to be a bridesmaid...I have never had that.
      Your experiences with your singing...I am happy for you but I cried again because I don't have a takent like that.
      I want to feel better, but I just don't know where to go from here.

  • @krisydays
    @krisydays 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So vulnerable, so raw! Thank you for sharing this beautiful video. You never fail to inspire me ✨❤️

  • @heidilambauerbuchmann3835
    @heidilambauerbuchmann3835 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so so much for sharing this. This saved my day today and maybe even my year. I’m a new mom and I feel you so bad, now thanks to you I have a new perspective into my life. Thank you!

  • @norikongo8130
    @norikongo8130 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you 💜, thank you for becoming a better version of yourself. Now you inspired many people, and I'm one of them. While listening to you I'd realized that if people doesn't want me, then I will respect them for their choice not wanting me. I don't need them anyway.
    You proved that loving your own self will lead you to people who will truly appreciates and values you as YOU. Stay Gold 💛

  • @VishalaReddy
    @VishalaReddy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Much needed video. Sending Love to everyone who is making efforts to overcome their past and keep moving forward no matter what. Keep going girls.

  • @karchengg
    @karchengg 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I relate to this so much and really needed to see this! This made me feel less alone during my self love journey :')

  • @Selflovewithlena
    @Selflovewithlena 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey I watched this video about 1 year ago and i started my love journey there and I came so far with my self love journey and I realized because I watched a lot of your videos in the beginning and I’m currently write my first book! I could help a lot of people and inspire them! And that’s because of your videos! Thank you so much for the hard work you put in your videos and your TH-cam channel! I’m truly grateful for your existence! 🥰🥰🥰 you Are like my Angel ❤️❤️

  • @Sarahh_
    @Sarahh_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey I’ve been going through a really rough time with severe depression ans just wanted to say your videos have been helping me regain my self love because I didn’t realize my personality stemmed due to childhood trauma. While this really aches and feels like a battle Im fighting alone, I know this is temporary and for my better good. I know when all this is over and the feelings are felt and freed, I will be a better version of myself . You’ve truly been my inspiration. Have a great day 💓

  • @Muse_XoXo_
    @Muse_XoXo_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Self love is the longest journey one has to embark on ;some moments and days are harder than others but you got to keep at because you're doing it for yourself🤗🤗
    Thank you Aileen you're the best 🖤

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hard work, unfolding this character in us!
      Glad we have channels like this to remind us of what we forget sometime.

  • @giea
    @giea 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This has got to be my fave content from you. Thank you, I really mean it.

  • @livinginbalanceu8768
    @livinginbalanceu8768 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm crying with you. Thank you..for your healing words

  • @naamakolin486
    @naamakolin486 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    while i'm still struggeling and going through this journey, I am so grateful that you shared this and iv'e got to see this video because I identified with every word you said and it reminded me not to give up on my self love journey and continue to remind myself that I am worth, amazing, beautiful, no matter what is going outside. thank you!

  • @ilonaleclerclifeinusa
    @ilonaleclerclifeinusa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    *Incredible video! I found your channel recently and absolutely loved it! You inspire me to work hard on my personality and be a better person. Thank you very much for it!*

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Me too, her channel is perfect timing

    • @ilonaleclerclifeinusa
      @ilonaleclerclifeinusa 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Channel 59 ❤️

  • @HushHashBoy
    @HushHashBoy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank u for this video. Got me over here crying. I was already in my feelings when i clicked the video. But ive been trying myself to work on this. Thank you so much!! Bless

    • @geo5954
      @geo5954 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Managing these gifts/feelings!
      Just like a job!
      Gotta win:)

  • @zaynelle1992
    @zaynelle1992 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel like you were talking about me, I have struggled with this all my life. I never felt like people wanted to be my friends like I was invisible and not important. When you said you realized that you were not making an effort to be a good friend, you really hit home. My insecurities pushed away a lot of good people who really cared but did not see it. I have since went on a spiritual journey and what is amazing I feel like all of me kind of woke up to who I really am. I am now more embracing and gentle with myself. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @redphoenix1709
    @redphoenix1709 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    your story really speaks to me. knowing we're not alone .
    i'm only beginning my journey - finding you and listening to your words is really helping