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Honesty is the best policy and always stay transparent. I have a saying that goes " I would rather be beheaded with the truth rather than be cuddled up with a lie"
First story, I can relate. I was that guy. I asked a lady out on a proper date and she felt terrible that someone liked her for who she was and there was nothing she could do about it because we both knew what she did and she couldn't just stop. I just wanted to make the most of the last few days of my trip getting to know her, but she was stuck to her job. We had a strong connection and she sabotaged it so I cut ties with her. I'm still glad to have met her.
Pea, I like hearing the mailbag from the Filipina side. Communications is the key. Sometimes its difficult and sometimes we don't get the results we want but don't just hope it will all workout before making a lifetime commitment. Additionally, when you are telling a partner something you have never revealed before give them time to process it. You have been thinking about it for months but this is the first time they have heard it. Also if their initial reaction isn't good don't get too upset or yell. Give them some time. I would tell Jessica to not only stop what she is doing (we really do become the choices we make), but to also get a medical exam, to help quell any fears that she or her partner may have. Salamt po.
Hey Pea! You definitely did a good one here, spot on! And good to hear you help the ladies gain a better understanding as well as the men, hats off to you Pea!❤
Hi Pea! First thing that is so nice about you is that you don't past judgement and your main goal is to help with sound advice. I have massive respect for that. Keep it up.
Your understanding of Western culture and ability to explain Filipino culture continues to amaze me , Ms Pea :) You were spot on about the word "love" and how Western guys tend to not use that word often. I myself don't use it (in a relationship) unless I'm ready forthat level of commitment (at least, as I see it) - and it can be a bit awkward when the other person starts using it. Likewise regarding kids - after my divorce, I dated quite a lot, but most of those dates never went beyond the first or second date. I didn't introduce my child to any women unless it was already a long term relationship, or was heading that way. The main reason was I didn't want my child to deal with a "revolving door" of strange women coming in and out of their life. I did have one lady (from Vietnam) who asked me if I loved her on our 2nd date. *That* was awkward....
@@Exalted_Example Exactly. An extension to Chris Rocks joke: "Men love women. Women love children (and Chads and money). Children love pets." So, unless you're a tall, handsome Chad, that means you're loved for what your provide. And providing (money) can't buy love (see Sternberg's triangle). Therefore, all provision including most marriages is just P4P (paying to play). Marriage violates the first rule of P4P: honey before money.
I think your have given the girls great advice and I also feel you chose your words carefully while getting your point across. Great vlog as usual, no wonder your fast approaching 300K and I really expect to see you hit the 1M mark one day soon.
Miss p my advice for the last young lady is. If you don't enjoy it or you're uncomfortable don't do it. It will lead to horrible end.in a relationship. You have to take care of yourself and be happy with yourself also as I said if you're not comfortable you don't do it
You go straight to the key things in all situations! I 100% agree, be honest. Truth is such a big foundation for a good relationship. I would understand the first lady completely. No need for forgiveness, she did what she believed she needed to do to help. I would be careful of the last guy, tread carefully with a porn fan! 😊😘❤️
As a foreigner married to a Filipina, regarding story #1, if my Filipina would have confessed such a situation, i would love her even more and gain so much more respect for her for being honest and trusting me with such a confession. Just my opinion, praying for this situation.
I'm not trying to be judgemental here but i think there is a difference between having had a few boyfriends with benefits and having sold yourself for sex. the more she does it, the easier it gets and it becomes difficult to bond with just one man. Not to mention how tempting it would be to step out and do it any time she wanted more money for something. I think you explained the ILY issue perfectly. Filipina seem to want to jump right to saying it even sometimes on the first date. If she can get the guy to say it, she's got him hooked and she just has to reel him in. But most of us have been burned by at least one western woman. So we aren't going to easily jump to say those words. It could take up to a year because we want to make sure she isn't just trying to hook us. Most women just don't have it in them to pretend for a long time to be someone they are not. So if we wait them out, they will eventually show their true colors or prove they are who they present themselves to be. As for the third girl, if she feels comfortable enough with this man to talk to him about experimenting in the bedroom, that's good. But she must maintain whatever boundaries she is comfortable with. That may mean they are just not a good match and she will have to find someone else.
Great content, as always Pea. I've recommended your channel to several people thinking about relocating and all love the great info. Thanks for bridging the gap on so many valuable topics..
The first story is heartbreaking. I am very impressed with Ms. P's response and advice. The girl has found a path into an unimaginable bad situation that has already caused her great harm and as yet undefined misery. Ms. P's suggested path puts an end to the nightmare, and the advice recognizes that continued deception is unwise for practical reasons and for the girl's own well being. HOPEFULLY the guy doesn't bolt. If I was the guy and she came to me and fessed up and asked for moral and leadership help, I would at least consider if that is worth doing; we don't know how the guy will respond. IF I as the guy figured it out later, which would almost certainly happen, I would dump that girl out on the street with the trash cans and leave instantly. Hopefully this terrible heartbreaking situation is successfully navigated. Gentlemen, prostitution and other moral lapses are not victimless!
I can only imagine how tough living in a third world country is like, and how temptation could get a female. The thing I don’t get is why do they keep having kids they can’t afford? Family is awesome, but it seems that their family orientation takes away from ones being successful and independent and or taking away from the others being lazy and depending on other family members support. It seems like in the west it’s the opposite, parents are financially still helping their grown kids financially instead of kids supporting their parents. But atleast the kids are out of the house.
The problem is she had no forethought. Once you start that financial commitment it's difficult to drop. Impulsivity is a huge red flag and very common in Filipinas.
If you show your genuine self to others, those who don't like you will reject you and those who like you will accept you. Who doesn't want to be accepted at face value?
Considering most are a product of their environment, media manipulation, parents with faults....few get to find out who they really are let alone born to be....?
Being accepted for face value is shallow, liking a lady because she's pretty or accepting her past because you want something from her. Sure I would like to be ACCEPTED for face value so that a person wants to come get to know the REAL ME INSIDE to decide if I'm a person to be around. What men VALUE in a woman he will commit to comes from INSIDE, personal character, who she is as a person, and FAR from face value. The pretty icing on the cake ONLY gets your attention, it's the inside that gets your heart.
@@ejtaylor73I think what is being meant here by being "accepted at face value" is that the "real you" is what people see on the outside.... It's not just hidden in the inside. This would apply to the thumbnail for this video, where the girl on the left holding a Bible really is a believer..... and she does not have a "spicy" side job.
Because you dont get to have a job if you dont act the way they want you to act. Also honest whores are better women than dishonest ones. Shes willing to lie to him to control his behavior. That's strike 3.
It is wonderful to hear questions from the Filipinas. I have a couple of comments. One is that the most important thing in life is accepting of one's self, warts and all. Once you are completely comfortable with 'you', with who you are, with your life circumstances, you can look forward to decide the kind of future you wish to create. In my world, I'm more interested in a woman who is confident, comfortable, no excuses with their life as it is. Being honest with me and with herself. I don't want to fix or save anyone. I seek a partner where we help each other to fill our own glass. Loving oneself is the very bottom line....always. I may not agree with the behaviour of the woman from Manila but I understand her sacrifices for her family. It is both admirable and sad. And.......As a man, I can safely say that men who use porn as a source of ideas and/or sexual desires are living in a fantasy. They see these images and get off on them. And then expect to find them in real life. I'm a film-maker, writer and podcaster so I think you and I understand the reality that media is not the same as real life experience. To expect a woman, especially from a different culture, to play into your fantasy is a recipe for unhappiness. You hit the nail on the head by suggesting open mindedness and doing only what she is comfortable doing. Just as the woman in Manila sacrifices for her family, this woman may find herself sacrificing for the relationship. In this case, the relationship will not last. Your wit, your intelligence, your insights are quite exceptional and I do hope you feel good about these talents of yours. You rock!
Great video, Pea! It's great to hear from the Filipina community out there, and I hope your advice helped some of them. I am pretty much in agreement with all the advice given. Good luck to the ladies out there. I hope everything goes well for you.
"Gotta' do what you can just to keep your love alive, Try not to confuse it with what you do to survive..." -Jackson Browne, from his song Running on Empty. I dedicate this song to you, Jessica...
Good advice from the Pea as usual. It's nice to know that even your fellow Filipinas watch you and ask for you to advise them. Kudos on them for availing themselves to your vast repertoire of knowledge on Western men and our values. God bless you, Pea and I eagerly wait for your next video.
Good video Miss Pea. I really feel bad for the first girl. Big mistake on her part. I knew girls in the Philippines that were strongly urged into prostitution but I think everyone has a choice. I hope it works out for her. I knew several girls in very similar situations when I lived there. Temptation from foreigners and money have hurt a lot of girls there.
@@TheFilipinaPea Sorry but I think these "parents" know well enough what they are pushing their daughter into. Just like those "mothers" that would rent out their minors they only care for the money and when confronted, will put all the blame on her. If he forgives her, they will immediately blackmail her emotionally to send more because she has "the big fish on the hook". Only way out would be choosing for the one that love HER and not HER MONEY. Poverty drives parents to it? BS! I know a guy that paid for his stepsons education and helped them landing both a good job abroad. Both got married. Their wives were sisters. The moment their dear mother-in-law heard about it, she demanded from both daughters each a monthly "support" of 20k Peso. In that time a bit more than what a high school principal made. The parents had jobs! A teacher and a city hall office worker. The foreigner/stepfather told her that he paid the expensive school so his sons would have a better life. Not to feed a money hungry parasite. Afterwards his daughters-in-law told him (in private, of course) that they were glad he told her off as they lack the courage. Like you mention before in another video "utang na loob" not based on love but guilt for being born.
Wow... you make a super big sister. It's great that phils girls know about your channel. Excellent advice. The first one is really tough but quite common.
This segment reminds me of a syndicated columnist called "Ask ANN LANDERS"....from generations gone by....I like the way you offer possibilities, rather than just handing out advise....shows a broader understanding of the question and your not pushing your own narrative ...well done !
I live in the USA and that double life is common. A unit secretary whose husband was in prison and the salary is not enough to pay rent and feed 4 kids. A financial analyst paying off a student debt while being a single mom to one child.. also living in big city Texas, wont try to list out all the undocumented women walking the streets, working the bailars, and strip bars to send money back home to their families. Do not feel guilty for actions born from desperation as it happens everywhere. Best of luck to that subscriber of yours and thanks for sharing.
Pea. great advice for the Filipinas who date Westerners. The one who is selling herself is in a very tough spot, I feel for her but you are correct. She has to come clean, lying will only make everything much much worse! I love that your phone case matches yourdress! They're both beautiful!
Jessica’s story and your perfect answer really moved me. I’ve seen videos of the extreme poverty there, and can easily understand how she got sucked into that lifestyle. I once dated an ex prostitute and drug addict that had already cleaned up her act. We didn’t last, but not because of her past. Some of us Americans can forgive this, if she is capable of complete honesty and loyalty. I would love to see a follow up interview with her, and I’ll keep my fingers crossed that she will achieve true love and commitment.
I think it goes even deeper than that. The obsession to provide for the parents at you own detriment (and them feeling entitled to your doing this) is based on the Stockholm Syndrome (with heavy dose of narcissism). It's conditional love (like being forced to accept god or being damned for eternity). The power the parent holds over the dependent child in the beginning combined with parental demonstration of their willingness to inflict such power against them is what causes it. I've seen young Pinay being sold to old men and worse. But, I've also seen western men saying they are happy with their PH bride all the while the bride is suffering being forced to make love to them (she finds him repulsive). The lack of empathy all around can be pretty disturbing.
I married a Filipina 14 years ago, and she is a really good gal with only one major fault I see in her. It is that money is more important to her than anything, I mean anything. I see money as a tool, not really that important if you are getting by OK. Like I can take a $10K loss in the markets in stride, because the markets are easy come easy go if you slip up. She will take the same thing as the end of the world. If I were not so old, I would leave just for that, not kidding, you do not prioritize money over spouse, or over anyone for that matter. Great gal, but I lose respect of her for her love of money above all.
@@johnl9977 Not sure if my comment above is visible (they often are automatically blocked). I mention the Stockholm Syndrome attachment the child has to the parents. Is she sending money home? If so, it's not usually just a simple matter of being caring to them (our perspective). It's a love allegiance and she probably never had any feelings for anyone else. Not sure if you'll get this.
@@seanbain1965 I was thinking she might have a chance. But if she carries on working in the Casino, I'm sure she will do it again. (Easy money for them!). Would love to see a follow up video to find out the outcome.
i llived with a girl in the philippines for 7 month, and only after 7 month, i find out she is married, she leave me to go back to her husband,no one tell me she is married, i meet all her family, and some of her friends, and no one say she is married
I gotta tell you, story number 2 (the I love you one). I am from Australia and your advice was EXACTLY correct. If your viewer doesn't follow your advice she will lose this guy. I wish her well, and I really like your insightful observations. Keep up the good work.
Perfect observation. In Western countries men on average take up to three months to say I love you and women even longer at 5 months. Filipinas fall in love, or so they think, in many cases after the first date or first intimacy. There is a huge cultural difference here and if she applies pressure he will actually start thinking the opposite which is how many men has she said this to and how many men has she been with. A man under this type of pressure does not feel special.
Hi Pea, always interesting to hear what's in the mailbag, particularly this one since it gives a new perspective. The first woman really needs to be honest with her man - hiding something like that is taking away his choice of whether he wants to be with her anymore or not - like you said if she doesn't open up about it now it will certainly tear them apart if he finds out about it later. For the last one I think it's quite correct that she needs to have a discussion with her man about bedroom activities. Perhaps he won't be so eager if he realises how reluctant she is. Of course you should never let anyone force you to do something against your will but perhaps there's some things she less worried about that could be explored first.
And even if he never finds out about it, (which I seriously doubt) it would still have a negative impact on the relationship and most likely end up tearing them apart.
Hello Pea!.. Fantastic episode!.. Your advice to the first emailer was spot on.. She has to stop entertaining guys, tell him the whole truth & not make seem like it wasn’t a big deal what she was doing.. He’ll be hurt but I think he’ll forgive you if you truly show him unconditional love & he’ll be there for you..
Another brilliant one Pea, well navigated. I particularly like your advice to number 3. I have found that relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. It's best to find the piece that fits rather than trying to force what will always be an ill fit. Thanks so much for sharing another great one.
I think it’s best to visit the Philippines, single and meet someone there once you get there instead of falling in love with someone first, because you never know if she’s having emotional attachment towards someone else. She probably fell in love with a foreigner before that never showed up and doesn’t want to take that chance again, so they talk to more than one guy at the same time. It’s just the way things are sometimes.
Pea, thanks for sharing these concerns of Filipinas. This is just as important for foreign men to be aware of as their own concerns are. After all, there are two people involved. It would be awfully selfish for guys to have all of their concerns and desires addressed without giving any thought to their Filipina. That's not a loving relationship. That's just using a live, fully interacting sex doll. Might as well just save up your dollars and order a robotic girlfriend from Japan. 🤖 I believe your recommendations for these ladies were all spot on. Especially for the woman who is living a double life. She will feel so much better about herself if she comes clean and explains everything to her beau. If she loses him, at least she can move forward with a clear conscience, and, having learned from this potentially harsh lesson, and she won't do anything to jeopardize a future relationship. If he forgives her indiscretion, and it may take some time while he works it through in his mind, I would expect that it would strengthen their relationship. After all, if she could confess to something like that, what else could she ever be keeping/keep from him that would be worse? I think he'd be pretty safe that she would never have any secrets from him for the rest of their life together, and she would be so grateful for his forgiveness that she would never give him any reason to question her loyalty and love. I hope you'll keep sharing these messages from your Filipina fans. Who knows? Maybe you'll expand your following amongst that demographic.😘❤
One of the problems with porn is that some guys get ideas that all women have the same desires as the ones in the films. The actresses are acting out fantasies that often don't carry over into real life. At best, porn is entertainment--not instructions. Good video, Pea. Let's have a part 2😊
Nice reply Christopher but I can assure you that no matter the gravity of the first transgression, giving a second chance is noble but be ready for the additional deceit. Much like Jessica who wasn't just lying to her bf. She also was lying to her family. The only lie that may be excused is to answer this question with no, "do these pants make my ass look fat. You will be excused if you like but not if you're honest. Hehe
Hi pea , I had mentioned before doing a series of videos that could help Filipinas understand different expats cultures in their country. You did one and I appreciate you taking the time to address this . Expats are almost required to understand the culture of their Filipina and most of us do try and do our homework but we are not perfect. Having a Filipina who is able to meet us halfway would make things much easier. Thanks.
I love my fiance in the Philippines so much but I might have to break off our 4 year marriage cause it's starting to be obvious she's hiding everything she does from me as much as possible and I can't afford to lose everything to another woman like that for the 100th time
Good advice Pea. Come clean and see if he sticks around. If he finds out that his girlfriend is a hooker in a dishonest and embarrassing way, he's definitely gone. Seems the bigger problem (to me, anyway) is the entitled and demanding family. Probably the biggest thing that scares me off of Filipinas.
Pea, You’re a very smart and sweet girl for someone who’s so young. I talked with my wife now for about a year and never told her that I loved her. She always asked me why, and I told her that I couldn’t be sure until we met in person and I had a chance to look into her eyes. We’ve been married for six years together for seven.
Good morning Ms. Pea. Once again you are providing excellent advice. That first one was indeed complicated. I realize things go differently in a third world country and it’s not always black and white. That said, a lie is still a lie no matter what country you’re in. Obviously I don’t know the woman, but you said it right, either tell the truth or else the lie will eat you alive. If he leaves, he leave and so be it. If he doesn’t, then ok. Either way she’s in deep. I don’t think I could be with someone who lies like that. If she’s like about how she makes money by sleeping with other men then what else is she lying about. Hate to say “she belongs to the streets” but that does seem to be the case. Second one is just pushing too hard. Chill out and let the relationship flow. And I’m sorry but that third dude just sounds like a big perv. Porn is fake AF, and it doesn’t only rot your mind but it’ll destroy your relationship/marriage.
I think the first girl doesn't need to ask for forgiveness.. but for understanding 🙏 we all have things I'm our past we are not proud of. If he walks away he wasn't meant to be, there are millions of people in this world, I believe we just have to find it
I honestly believe most people live a double life. ESPECIALLY when you factor in the internet which absolutely demands you keep the real you and the internet you separate if for nothing more than to protect your rights to privacy and your personal data. I am a Youtubber. This isn't my actual account - it's my work TH-cam account. My obligation is keeping my work life, private life and online public life separate. It's like living 3 lives. So now you're a Filipina on the internet. You may have a real life boyfriend, an online boyfriend and a private online life. Juggling them is hard.
Re: Jessica. I feel like I would understand in a situation like that, especially if she opened up to me before I suspected anything. It's even possible that the guy may have paid girls to come to his rooms in the past too, and was looking for an opportunity to clean up his act. People act like everyone falls into one category or the other, that they're either "good" boys and girls or "bad," but the truth is that people are complicated. It could be that I'm an outlier here, but we can never know these things about each other unless we're brave enough to be intimate with each other.
On one side we have our right to be ourselves and do the things that we want and make us happy. On the other one is society with its laws and codes of conduct. In this digital age, keeping secrets is harder than ever and nearly impossible. My recommendation to all is to think “would it bother me if this becomes public and my friends and family will know?” If it does; don’t do it and move along.
Unfortunately there are a lot of families who quickly change their moral views when it comes to things like that if it means more money. I have heard a lot of prostitutes/of girls saying that when the truth was revealed their parents were mad until they found out the girl makes good money or when she was paying the bills. Then suddenly everything was fine. I wouldn't be surprised if the family of the filippina hooker was fine with it as long as she kept the money flowing. Have seen way worse stories coming to surface in my country.
@@TheFilipinaPeaiam an American in Angeles city. I'm sitting on a scooter waiting to pick up my Filipina best friend. She is a bar girl prostitute doing it for the money. She is the most amazing person I have ever met. She makes me happy to be alive and I have fallen in love with her. Thank you for this video. God Bless and Merry Christmas
Pes: Interesting mail bag video! This brings us Western men the idea what could be going through a Filipina's mind when we get into any type of relationship with them, friend, or girlfriend. Knowing what actually goes or can go through the other gender's mind in relationships is helpful to understand how to keep the relationship going in the most positive way. The first lady, yes I agree should stop doing what she is doing for extra money and come clean about her actions and her reasoning for doing do. Her foreign BF will have a higher chance of understanding, and may actually lend a hand if he moves in with her after accepting her reasoning for quitting the extra curricular work. Best of luck to her.
Excellent advice for #1. Excellent advice for #2. Excellent advice for #3. You are very aware of the human condition. I like hearing about the concerns of the Filipina. It is a fresh perspective not often covered. We each must go through difficult times, and though we often must put on a brave face to the world, others generally know how people feel through muted emotions conveyed, especially in the eyes. But, just knowing that others know but keep respectfully silent, makes it easier to bear as you don’t feel so alone. Another good video.
Well done Pea, sound advice as always. I'm with you on the dishonest thing, big black mark against the partner if that happens. Always best to come clean as sooner or later the truth will come out and make things even worse. Have a great weekend Pea
Hi Pea, Your advice for Jessica was spot on. If she is totally honest with her new b/f, he will be hurt. Sure, some of the shock would be finding out this truth, but if he truly loves her, the pain would be the circumstances which led her to that path. If she had only begun this recently, with just a few, and was stopping it all because she loves this new guy, then if it were me, I'd be there for the long-term plan and rescue her from that path.... ... go over to physically be with her, and take it slow... To not just jump in bed with her, but show her that I was there for her. Chat and be with her... build the relationship from the ground up, and put the rest behind us. Then, after she knows my true intentions, then progress to the intimate details. The love making will be so much more meaningful and the future together would be forever and a day. Good luck to Jessica, and I hope they both find true love ❤️ and happiness. - Bill.
I hate to say it, but the guy will bail. He should. I seriously doubt the guy will attempt a LTR with a prostitute. Yes, I understand the situation, but life isn't fair. Lots of other women available.
The Casino girl should do as you said for the first part tell her family her fortunes have changed. But she should not tell her potential boyfriend that she has been working as a prostitute. He is better off better off knowing that she is a prostitute. But if she were to stay with him and continue being a prostitute pain in his back he will find out
I would of forgiven her. I know because this happened to me in US. She promised to stop and made a huge step to convince me. Guess what though the next time she had money problems she went back to it. SMH, then she blamed me saying I was less then a man because I didn't have money to give her. I give anybody a second chance. Never forget the age old saying once a cheater, always a cheater. Also, don't date a woman with a gambling addiction. The cost is to high. Gambling will always come first. If you ever hear a woman say she is going to the casino to win her rent money, run.
You gave good advice to the lady who is in a phone relationship. I’m in a messaging relationship with someone, distance for now is the reason. I’m really fond of her and impressed, but common sense and maturity will never let me go beyond interests. In time we’ll meet or not, and if we do, such things as person to person chemistry and compatibility will determine the rest of our relationship. I see love in two ways, one is gentle and the other is deeper. It seems ones ability to say “love” is determined by which of the two loves he uses.
Hey pea my beautiful friend, once again you hit the home run ball. I really hope that everything turns out well for these people. And like you pea, I don't judge anyone. You rock my dear friend. Thank you pea my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your beautiful family always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️. BTW, how are your awesome cats?😊❤
As an Australian who spent 12 months in a LDR with my now wife (Cebuana) I can sympathise with that story. Had the man been happy to say he loved her, but unwilling to let her speak to his son, that would be a red flag. He'd sound like he's willing to say he loves her but not act like it. But to neither say it, nor close that distance with her, to both take it slow and keep some separation, thats pretty normal. It's not like he's leading her on and pretending to love her when he doesn't. Still, best to make plans to meet in person sooner rather than later.
For the first one. The past is the past, but I question what was said. I would assume this guy had to of asked about any of her relationships. Granted she didn't date the guys and only had sex with them but no matter what it would be a relationship non the less. The guy wants to be with her and plans on going back for her. She needs to be open and upfront Now before he gets on the plan. He might hang up and not talk to her. But he might hang up and need time to think. I don't think many guys would want to be with a girl that while she is at work and times get hard, she helps guys go soft for a little money. The second one. Saying I love you is something that should only be said if you mean it. I say I love you all the time to everyone, but I mean it as well. For me life is too short to have hate in your heart or on your mind. But it is the way the person says I love you is what matters. Pushing a guy to say I love you will only make it harder on your relationship. now for the third one. Oh Boy. I am kinky and I love to explore a lot. Most guys do not want the basics. Most guys want what they like and if a girl pretends to like it just to get the guy after time stops wanting it then more than likely the guy will find a girl more willing to meet his needs. If you find a guy you like but you do not like what he enjoys doing in the bedroom, then you are better off letting him find a girl that does like the same thing. This is almost the year 2024. No man will be willing to marry a girl without testing what is there to offer and to see how well she will perform. I know it sounds mean but no man in his right mind will marry a girl and then find out she will only lay on her back and ok hurry up stick it in and are you done yet. People never buy a car without looking under the hood and taking it for a test ride. A girlfriend and or wife is an investment. The man is not just willing to spend money but their time as well they will want to know if this investment is going to be worth it. True it is said it is not all about sex. But it is a lot about it. No girl wants to be with a man to find out he is with another girl just because you just are not willing to do the things he likes. better to find out now then after you get married.
I have been to the very poorest places in the Philippines. No one has to do prostitution. I have never seen a Filipino starving. I have been in houses with dirt floors. Many of those were not flat floors by any stretch. It breaks my heart that both Filipinas and Filipinos engage in prostitution.
I disagree with Puppyupper in a way! If You truly believe that you should allow those poor people to swap experiences with you so you allow them to stay in the place you stay and eat and live off your budget and you then go stay in that dwelling with dirt floors and whatever other horrible conditions for at least 30 to 90 days and I'd almost guarantee you'd change your opinion on the desperation of those that are in extremely terrible situations. Get off that high horse! There are those who say that foreigners don't have to go overseas to find a mate, maybe there's truth to that but one Never knows what options someone truly has until they're in the others shoes.
@@David-gv7gf I have lived off grid in the Philippines on and off for 10 years prior to the pandemic. I lived with them. I did have a concrete floor in the bedroom, but not in the main room or kitchen. Yes, I have lived with mosquitos, scorpions, centipedes and cobra. I am not on a high horse. I see the poverty. I also see the reason for it. A reason, which I highly suspect you have absolutely no understanding. Prostitution is not an answer to poverty but part of the driver of it. Track any prostitute in the Philippines and see where she is when she enters her 40's. And your premise that someone who lives with a dirt floor must be desperate and living in extremely terrible conditions is so disrespectful to those who are raising families in those places. They would take your accusations as insults. I was invited into their homes because they knew I lived among them and did not judge them as you are doing in your post. You are the one who needs to climb down from your moral high horse. God has blessed me, He blessed me to go to them. To show them love. He has always met my needs. Now He has blessed me with incredible wealth. I am going back soon to start an orphanage. YES, I am going to build a very nice ocean front home there, but the majority of my money will go to the orphanage. And YES, I am going to marry a Filipina. I have to in order to start an orphanage. I will hire teachers to teach them free market economics, something I bet you despise. It is an absurd position to suggest anyone should swap positions with another. As the saying goes, "If you give a man a fish, he eats for a day; If you teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime." No one would learn anything if they stepped in my shoes without the understanding brought about by the miles I walked in those shoes. No doubt if you swapped life for a day in one of those dirt floor houses, you would truly think you lived in an extremely terrible situation and be desperate to swap back again. Life is not the cookie cutter picture you think it is. May God open your eyes to Truth
I ordered my passport yesterday...I've had two as they both ran out; the last one in 2018. I'm coming to the Philippines', but I'm not quite sure when... it has to be winter....I cant do the heat of summer.....
Honesty: Always the best policy. Lies tend to catch up with you eventually, and the consequences are like a snowball rolling down hill: It gets bigger and bigger over time. Compromise: Plant your feet on some things, but be willing to try others. It's all about how comfortable you are with the person you're with. I've been with women who were prudes to the extreme (missionary, under the covers, lights out, no talking) and total freaks (you don't even want to know and TH-cam wouldn't let me post it here anyway). Finding that perfect "lady on the streets and tiger in the sheets" can be difficult, and finding a man in the same likeness can be as well. Being open with each other on your likes and dislikes early on is important, but again, compromise is key (on all things). Interesting episode, Pea. Thanks for sharing with us!
The last one was good advice. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable doing; it can turn out very badly. I am aware that some women have had partners in the past that were not very “gentle”. Also I am aware that my Taiong can be scary to a foreign woman because they’re not used to…well, you know. If you decide to try it later make sure that he is someone who will respect your boundaries. You might discover it’s something you like when done correctly
So heres my 2 sense Philippines is all about supporting the wifes family when here in usa we will let our family suffer to buy ourselves a new toy So whos wrong You work for money Dont be a slave
I respect Pea so much for having the honesty to say that Filipina women are only culturally religious , and while it helped me make up my mind not to go there she saved me a trip . She could have easily lied but I hold honesty in high regards . Much respect and ty again
Jessica - additional note from a foreigner... if you dislike the "extra" income activity, then stop that activity AND yes you might lose the current foreigner but if you take a moment to realize the amount of customers you are getting, it is a pretty good indication another love interest is likely to come along and if you are not doing anything to hide then the past stays in the past. No one has the right to your past, what matters is the honesty you have going forward. The only time a detail from the past, from this type of activity, should be shared is if you contracted a gift that keeps on giving and for many foreigners, that detail can be worked around if love is the foundation.
Sorry. If I am buying a car. I want to know how many miles are on it. If you are hiding from your past and ashamed of it. Then change your life. If someone isn’t ok with your past. Then move on. It isn’t fair to the other person to not know your past. Everyone should be able to change their life. But it is the other persons decision to make that for themselves. Not to be deceived into a relationship with a checkered past
In the US we have a saying: " you can't turn a whore into a housewife." She made that choice willingly and there is nothing that will stop her from doing it again because she already found a way to justify it in her mind. Sorry girl, but these are the consequences of your bad choices
I don’t agree with what she did, but you are far to judge mental , and your label is cruel. Until you have been to the Philippines and have been in a situation similar , don’t act so perfect.
@@vlogcritter Poverty is no excuse for immorality. I’ve been poor my entire adult life and once spent a month literally starving because I couldn’t afford to eat and pay the bills. At no point have I ever done anything immoral for money. She doesn’t have an excuse
Love your command of the English language and ability to play with the words thanks for making these videos fun and informative and easy on the eye as well enjoy your day Pea
That was sound advice. I can resinate with the last one as i was more open to different experience but the weird part was that i stayed true to her but ignored her red flags & others warning about her. In the end i became toxic which i changed & she barely felt bad for her mistakes & moved our separate ways 👍🏽
If Jessica comes clean, and the new guy is decent and understanding, then - as long as she is genuine about being only with HIM from now on - I would be pretty sure he would see it for what it is/was, and the reason why. I would. BUT...she would have to be 100% sincere about the future. But everyone is different. Hiding it would be a bad, bad idea imo
@@TheFilipinaPea Realistically, I don't think she has much choice but to come clean now and hope for the best. As a foreigner, I would respect her much more for opening up asap.
20 years ago, a woman said she loves me. She lied, she was pretending to love me. From that day on, I don't allow woman to say they love me & I never never tell a woman I love her.
@@josheakins5137no he shouldn’t get help . This is exactly how you protect yourself when dating until you meet the girl that truly loves you . Look up these 3 words Agape Philia Eros If you and your future lady possess the first 2 qualities Your romantic relationship (Eros) is built upon a rock solid foundation and will last forever . Look up these words :)
@@josheakins5137ha! Not just “one situation”. XXomen are incapable of love. They “love” conditionally. Children, dogs and XXomen are loved unconditionally. Men are ONLY loved for what they provide.
Never place a xxoman above yourself, your purpose, your desires. They are lessers. The moment you treat them above or equal, to yourself, they will look down on you.
Nice video, very helpful. I recently started talking with Filipinas online before I travel. Your videos and others help navigate these subtle difference between cultures.
Jessica, I hope you read this comment. Do not be ashamed of what you have to do to survive and provide for your loved ones. If the guy you are having a relationship with doesn't understand then he is not the right person for you to be with. If he does understand then he should help you to make a plan for you to stop doing this to protect you and your health. I wish you all the best and as Jesus said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
This Isa serious answer? That the guy should just accept that his gf is laying with different men all the time being used by these men to play out their fantasies. He should accept that? Did you eat lead paint chips? It's ok to continue to be as prostitute? Is that what I'm reading? Jesus also wanted you to ask forgives for your sins. AND STOP SINNING. Not continue to sin and make others confirm to your sins. It's not ok to be a prostitute. Yes forgive but first stop.
Have you forgotten, God also said "1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you ABSTAIN from sexual immorality," or what God did to Sodom&Gomorrah for their sexual immorality. @@robertputt7794
@@ispeaktothedead where in Scripture does Jesus tell us to ask God for forgiveness of our sins... I'm pretty sure Acts 5:32 says, God gives the Holy Spirit to those that OBEY Him... Probably why there are so many SO-CALLED hypocrite Christians! I know he said, Father forgive them for they KNOW NOT what they do... He also said, "If YOU will not forgive men their trespasses, then God WILL NOT forgive YOU"! David said, Lord against you only have I sinned... It is crazy how you think her sin is greater than yours... That's why Jesus said, let him who is without sin cast the first stone... So I guess you're sinless since you are casting stones.. Right?
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You are so dope P! Are you taken? Seems like the best ones are not available.😊
Pea, I didn't encounter any adds this go around. Sorry if you take a pay cut.
You are a wise young lady. I know if you are married or have a boyfriend, that gentleman is very fortunate.
# 3... "Kinky is using a feather, perverted is using the whole chicken."
@@49525Bob 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honesty is the best policy and always stay transparent. I have a saying that goes " I would rather be beheaded with the truth rather than be cuddled up with a lie"
First story, I can relate. I was that guy. I asked a lady out on a proper date and she felt terrible that someone liked her for who she was and there was nothing she could do about it because we both knew what she did and she couldn't just stop. I just wanted to make the most of the last few days of my trip getting to know her, but she was stuck to her job. We had a strong connection and she sabotaged it so I cut ties with her. I'm still glad to have met her.
Huh?
you asked out a hooker? lmao ok there
Ask again when you reach 21yo @@GUITARTIME2024
Meaning she was so ashamed that she pushed him away
@@jakeburns2012 That's exactly it.
Pea, I like hearing the mailbag from the Filipina side. Communications is the key. Sometimes its difficult and sometimes we don't get the results we want but don't just hope it will all workout before making a lifetime commitment. Additionally, when you are telling a partner something you have never revealed before give them time to process it. You have been thinking about it for months but this is the first time they have heard it. Also if their initial reaction isn't good don't get too upset or yell. Give them some time. I would tell Jessica to not only stop what she is doing (we really do become the choices we make), but to also get a medical exam, to help quell any fears that she or her partner may have. Salamt po.
STD'S
There is very little Filipina viewpoint and challenges related content. Also very little content relative to financials after the old goat drops dead.
Hey Pea! You definitely did a good one here, spot on! And good to hear you help the ladies gain a better understanding as well as the men, hats off to you Pea!❤
Thanks SotR! I appreciate that 👍😊
I felt like a spy gathering information "on the other side"... and I loved it!
Keep them coming, Pea!
It’s interesting to see what we talk about on the ‘other side’, yes 🤣👍
Hi Pea! First thing that is so nice about you is that you don't past judgement and your main goal is to help with sound advice. I have massive respect for that. Keep it up.
Your understanding of Western culture and ability to explain Filipino culture continues to amaze me , Ms Pea :)
You were spot on about the word "love" and how Western guys tend to not use that word often. I myself don't use it (in a relationship) unless I'm ready forthat level of commitment (at least, as I see it) - and it can be a bit awkward when the other person starts using it. Likewise regarding kids - after my divorce, I dated quite a lot, but most of those dates never went beyond the first or second date. I didn't introduce my child to any women unless it was already a long term relationship, or was heading that way. The main reason was I didn't want my child to deal with a "revolving door" of strange women coming in and out of their life.
I did have one lady (from Vietnam) who asked me if I loved her on our 2nd date. *That* was awkward....
Because when a man says 'i love you' it actually means something.
@@Exalted_Example Exactly. An extension to Chris Rocks joke: "Men love women. Women love children (and Chads and money). Children love pets." So, unless you're a tall, handsome Chad, that means you're loved for what your provide. And providing (money) can't buy love (see Sternberg's triangle). Therefore, all provision including most marriages is just P4P (paying to play). Marriage violates the first rule of P4P: honey before money.
Amazing video
I think your have given the girls great advice and I also feel you chose your words carefully while getting your point across. Great vlog as usual, no wonder your fast approaching 300K and I really expect to see you hit the 1M mark one day soon.
Thanks Bruce! Maybe someday, but I doubt it’ll be soon 🤣👍❤️
Amen to that Pea ! You have to be Honest in all things , lots of People don’t !
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I’m glad you think so, John! ❤️👍
Miss p my advice for the last young lady is. If you don't enjoy it or you're uncomfortable don't do it.
It will lead to horrible end.in a relationship. You have to take care of yourself and be happy with yourself also as I said if you're not comfortable you don't do it
You go straight to the key things in all situations! I 100% agree, be honest. Truth is such a big foundation for a good relationship. I would understand the first lady completely. No need for forgiveness, she did what she believed she needed to do to help. I would be careful of the last guy, tread carefully with a porn fan! 😊😘❤️
Good answers to some really tough questions. You deserve our admiration and respect, Miss Pea.
You already have mine 😊❤️👍
@@TheFilipinaPea From 99% of people I neither solicit nor care. From you? I cherish it.
As a foreigner married to a Filipina, regarding story #1, if my Filipina would have confessed such a situation, i would love her even more and gain so much more respect for her for being honest and trusting me with such a confession. Just my opinion, praying for this situation.
damn you're a weak man
Bruh you are a very rare person to be glad your lover was a professional lover 😅
I'm not trying to be judgemental here but i think there is a difference between having had a few boyfriends with benefits and having sold yourself for sex. the more she does it, the easier it gets and it becomes difficult to bond with just one man. Not to mention how tempting it would be to step out and do it any time she wanted more money for something. I think you explained the ILY issue perfectly. Filipina seem to want to jump right to saying it even sometimes on the first date. If she can get the guy to say it, she's got him hooked and she just has to reel him in. But most of us have been burned by at least one western woman. So we aren't going to easily jump to say those words. It could take up to a year because we want to make sure she isn't just trying to hook us. Most women just don't have it in them to pretend for a long time to be someone they are not. So if we wait them out, they will eventually show their true colors or prove they are who they present themselves to be. As for the third girl, if she feels comfortable enough with this man to talk to him about experimenting in the bedroom, that's good. But she must maintain whatever boundaries she is comfortable with. That may mean they are just not a good match and she will have to find someone else.
Great content, as always Pea. I've recommended your channel to several people thinking about relocating and all love the great info. Thanks for bridging the gap on so many valuable topics..
THANKS for that, Pharaoh! Word of mouth really helps my channel grow 👍❤️
The first story is heartbreaking. I am very impressed with Ms. P's response and advice. The girl has found a path into an unimaginable bad situation that has already caused her great harm and as yet undefined misery.
Ms. P's suggested path puts an end to the nightmare, and the advice recognizes that continued deception is unwise for practical reasons and for the girl's own well being.
HOPEFULLY the guy doesn't bolt. If I was the guy and she came to me and fessed up and asked for moral and leadership help, I would at least consider if that is worth doing; we don't know how the guy will respond. IF I as the guy figured it out later, which would almost certainly happen, I would dump that girl out on the street with the trash cans and leave instantly.
Hopefully this terrible heartbreaking situation is successfully navigated.
Gentlemen, prostitution and other moral lapses are not victimless!
Except Jessica didn't FIND that path, she CHOSE it. She needs to come clean and accept the consequences, good or bad, for HER CHOICES.
I can only imagine how tough living in a third world country is like, and how temptation could get a female. The thing I don’t get is why do they keep having kids they can’t afford? Family is awesome, but it seems that their family orientation takes away from ones being successful and independent and or taking away from the others being lazy and depending on other family members support.
It seems like in the west it’s the opposite, parents are financially still helping their grown kids financially instead of kids supporting their parents. But atleast the kids are out of the house.
It's not the same when you realize shes for sale because it means you're a john to her.
The problem is she had no forethought. Once you start that financial commitment it's difficult to drop. Impulsivity is a huge red flag and very common in Filipinas.
If you show your genuine self to others, those who don't like you will reject you and those who like you will accept you. Who doesn't want to be accepted at face value?
I sure do 👍😊
Considering most are a product of their environment, media manipulation, parents with faults....few get to find out who they really are let alone born to be....?
Being accepted for face value is shallow, liking a lady because she's pretty or accepting her past because you want something from her. Sure I would like to be ACCEPTED for face value so that a person wants to come get to know the REAL ME INSIDE to decide if I'm a person to be around. What men VALUE in a woman he will commit to comes from INSIDE, personal character, who she is as a person, and FAR from face value. The pretty icing on the cake ONLY gets your attention, it's the inside that gets your heart.
@@ejtaylor73I think what is being meant here by being "accepted at face value" is that the "real you" is what people see on the outside.... It's not just hidden in the inside. This would apply to the thumbnail for this video, where the girl on the left holding a Bible really is a believer..... and she does not have a "spicy" side job.
Because you dont get to have a job if you dont act the way they want you to act.
Also honest whores are better women than dishonest ones.
Shes willing to lie to him to control his behavior. That's strike 3.
It is wonderful to hear questions from the Filipinas. I have a couple of comments. One is that the most important thing in life is accepting of one's self, warts and all. Once you are completely comfortable with 'you', with who you are, with your life circumstances, you can look forward to decide the kind of future you wish to create. In my world, I'm more interested in a woman who is confident, comfortable, no excuses with their life as it is. Being honest with me and with herself. I don't want to fix or save anyone. I seek a partner where we help each other to fill our own glass. Loving oneself is the very bottom line....always. I may not agree with the behaviour of the woman from Manila but I understand her sacrifices for her family. It is both admirable and sad.
And.......As a man, I can safely say that men who use porn as a source of ideas and/or sexual desires are living in a fantasy. They see these images and get off on them. And then expect to find them in real life. I'm a film-maker, writer and podcaster so I think you and I understand the reality that media is not the same as real life experience. To expect a woman, especially from a different culture, to play into your fantasy is a recipe for unhappiness. You hit the nail on the head by suggesting open mindedness and doing only what she is comfortable doing. Just as the woman in Manila sacrifices for her family, this woman may find herself sacrificing for the relationship. In this case, the relationship will not last.
Your wit, your intelligence, your insights are quite exceptional and I do hope you feel good about these talents of yours. You rock!
Great video, Pea! It's great to hear from the Filipina community out there, and I hope your advice helped some of them. I am pretty much in agreement with all the advice given. Good luck to the ladies out there. I hope everything goes well for you.
Thanks for the support, Murph! 👍😊
"Gotta' do what you can just to keep your love alive,
Try not to confuse it with what you do to survive..." -Jackson Browne, from his song Running on Empty. I dedicate this song to you, Jessica...
Good advice from the Pea as usual. It's nice to know that even your fellow Filipinas watch you and ask for you to advise them. Kudos on them for availing themselves to your vast repertoire of knowledge on Western men and our values. God bless you, Pea and I eagerly wait for your next video.
For The first lady ,She didn't make a mistake it's a decision. There's a difference.
Good video Miss Pea. I really feel bad for the first girl. Big mistake on her part. I knew girls in the Philippines that were strongly urged into prostitution but I think everyone has a choice. I hope it works out for her. I knew several girls in very similar situations when I lived there. Temptation from foreigners and money have hurt a lot of girls there.
It’s heartbreaking, yes 🥺
Why feel bad though she chose money over self respect. She had a job but she wanted to cut corners.
@@rjsandefurofficialappleeatermaybe have a realistic outlook that random strangers arent gonna be the solution to all your problems out of thin air.
@@TheFilipinaPea Sorry but I think these "parents" know well enough what they are pushing their daughter into. Just like those "mothers" that would rent out their minors they only care for the money and when confronted, will put all the blame on her. If he forgives her, they will immediately blackmail her emotionally to send more because she has "the big fish on the hook". Only way out would be choosing for the one that love HER and not HER MONEY.
Poverty drives parents to it? BS! I know a guy that paid for his stepsons education and helped them landing both a good job abroad. Both got married. Their wives were sisters. The moment their dear mother-in-law heard about it, she demanded from both daughters each a monthly "support" of 20k Peso. In that time a bit more than what a high school principal made. The parents had jobs! A teacher and a city hall office worker. The foreigner/stepfather told her that he paid the expensive school so his sons would have a better life. Not to feed a money hungry parasite. Afterwards his daughters-in-law told him (in private, of course) that they were glad he told her off as they lack the courage. Like you mention before in another video "utang na loob" not based on love but guilt for being born.
@@JaakJacobus
It’s a sickening tradition, and it’s abused in so many ways, yes 🥺
Wow... you make a super big sister. It's great that phils girls know about your channel. Excellent advice. The first one is really tough but quite common.
@TheFilipinaPea Please give us an update about Jessica if you get one! I wish her the best!
I do intend to find out what happens with her, if she’ll answer me 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea I just love how you have such a big channel and still take time to answer your subscribers!
Wow, great answer to the first email. Totally agree with what you said and hope it works out for that girl.
Very good advice Pea. Honesty is the best policy especially sooner than later.
ASAP, yes 😊👍
I don’t agree, it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission 😂😂😂😂
This segment reminds me of a syndicated columnist called "Ask ANN LANDERS"....from generations gone by....I like the way you offer possibilities, rather than just handing out advise....shows a broader understanding of the question and your not pushing your own narrative ...well done !
Thanks Rogue! Yes, I never presume to know the whole story, but I do my best to give options 👍
BUTT Ann Landers never opined about THIS lol.
Hey Pea, one of the realist Filipinas. Alot of them get big and start acting funny, not Pea though.
I’m the same as I was before TH-cam, and the same as I’ll be after it 😊
@@TheFilipinaPea❤
I live in the USA and that double life is common. A unit secretary whose husband was in prison and the salary is not enough to pay rent and feed 4 kids. A financial analyst paying off a student debt while being a single mom to one child.. also living in big city Texas, wont try to list out all the undocumented women walking the streets, working the bailars, and strip bars to send money back home to their families. Do not feel guilty for actions born from desperation as it happens everywhere. Best of luck to that subscriber of yours and thanks for sharing.
Pea. great advice for the Filipinas who date Westerners. The one who is selling herself is in a very tough spot, I feel for her but you are correct. She has to come clean, lying will only make everything much much worse! I love that your phone case matches yourdress! They're both beautiful!
The phone / dress was pure coincidence 🤣👍❤️
It was very cool that they matched even though it was a coincidence. 😁
@TheFilipinaPea Subliminal aesthetics is not beyond your talent. 🤔
You gave some reall GOOD ADVICE and you were spot on (VTS 7:46 - 9:30). If this girl does what you said exactly he'll come around.
Jessica’s story and your perfect answer really moved me. I’ve seen videos of the extreme poverty there, and can easily understand how she got sucked into that lifestyle. I once dated an ex prostitute and drug addict that had already cleaned up her act. We didn’t last, but not because of her past. Some of us Americans can forgive this, if she is capable of complete honesty and loyalty. I would love to see a follow up interview with her, and I’ll keep my fingers crossed that she will achieve true love and commitment.
I think it goes even deeper than that. The obsession to provide for the parents at you own detriment (and them feeling entitled to your doing this) is based on the Stockholm Syndrome (with heavy dose of narcissism). It's conditional love (like being forced to accept god or being damned for eternity). The power the parent holds over the dependent child in the beginning combined with parental demonstration of their willingness to inflict such power against them is what causes it. I've seen young Pinay being sold to old men and worse. But, I've also seen western men saying they are happy with their PH bride all the while the bride is suffering being forced to make love to them (she finds him repulsive). The lack of empathy all around can be pretty disturbing.
I married a Filipina 14 years ago, and she is a really good gal with only one major fault I see in her. It is that money is more important to her than anything, I mean anything. I see money as a tool, not really that important if you are getting by OK. Like I can take a $10K loss in the markets in stride, because the markets are easy come easy go if you slip up. She will take the same thing as the end of the world. If I were not so old, I would leave just for that, not kidding, you do not prioritize money over spouse, or over anyone for that matter. Great gal, but I lose respect of her for her love of money above all.
@@johnl9977 Not sure if my comment above is visible (they often are automatically blocked). I mention the Stockholm Syndrome attachment the child has to the parents. Is she sending money home? If so, it's not usually just a simple matter of being caring to them (our perspective). It's a love allegiance and she probably never had any feelings for anyone else. Not sure if you'll get this.
As soon as she tells him, he's off.
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I was thinking she might have a chance.
But if she carries on working in the Casino, I'm sure she will do it again. (Easy money for them!).
Would love to see a follow up video to find out the outcome.
Pea has this YT thing all figured out. Very entertaining.
i llived with a girl in the philippines for 7 month, and only after 7 month, i find out she is married, she leave me to go back to her husband,no one tell me she is married, i meet all her family, and some of her friends, and no one say she is married
No surprise she's married
Because of money. Or Whatever you did or done for her was a plus.
oo, yeah, you are probably right,@@hi-tych
The Ann Landers and Dear Abby of the Philippines has struck again. Great advice, Pea. Looking forward to Tuesday. Take care of yourself.
I gotta tell you, story number 2 (the I love you one). I am from Australia and your advice was EXACTLY correct. If your viewer doesn't follow your advice she will lose this guy. I wish her well, and I really like your insightful observations. Keep up the good work.
Thanks Woody! I hope she doesn’t scare him away 👍😊
I agree also, we know our own kind of blokes! Hey Knackers?
Perfect observation. In Western countries men on average take up to three months to say I love you and women even longer at 5 months. Filipinas fall in love, or so they think, in many cases after the first date or first intimacy. There is a huge cultural difference here and if she applies pressure he will actually start thinking the opposite which is how many men has she said this to and how many men has she been with. A man under this type of pressure does not feel special.
Love the pea!!! And as for the "HOOTERS" I for one think yours are "PERFECT"
Hi Pea, always interesting to hear what's in the mailbag, particularly this one since it gives a new perspective. The first woman really needs to be honest with her man - hiding something like that is taking away his choice of whether he wants to be with her anymore or not - like you said if she doesn't open up about it now it will certainly tear them apart if he finds out about it later.
For the last one I think it's quite correct that she needs to have a discussion with her man about bedroom activities. Perhaps he won't be so eager if he realises how reluctant she is. Of course you should never let anyone force you to do something against your will but perhaps there's some things she less worried about that could be explored first.
Agreed - I’m all for having an open mind and trying new things unless I have a reason for saying no 👍
And even if he never finds out about it, (which I seriously doubt) it would still have a negative impact on the relationship and most likely end up tearing them apart.
Good advice for the last question.
Number 1... be honest with yourself and accept there will be consequences. Then accept those consequences and become a better person 🙂
Agreed, Bush 👍😊
Hello Pea!.. Fantastic episode!.. Your advice to the first emailer was spot on.. She has to stop entertaining guys, tell him the whole truth & not make seem like it wasn’t a big deal what she was doing.. He’ll be hurt but I think he’ll forgive you if you truly show him unconditional love & he’ll be there for you..
I sure hope she contacts me and tells me what happened 😳👍👍
Another brilliant one Pea, well navigated. I particularly like your advice to number 3. I have found that relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. It's best to find the piece that fits rather than trying to force what will always be an ill fit. Thanks so much for sharing another great one.
Good puzzle analogy, Robert 👍😊
I think it’s best to visit the Philippines, single and meet someone there once you get there instead of falling in love with someone first, because you never know if she’s having emotional attachment towards someone else.
She probably fell in love with a foreigner before that never showed up and doesn’t want to take that chance again, so they talk to more than one guy at the same time. It’s just the way things are sometimes.
Pea, thanks for sharing these concerns of Filipinas. This is just as important for foreign men to be aware of as their own concerns are. After all, there are two people involved. It would be awfully selfish for guys to have all of their concerns and desires addressed without giving any thought to their Filipina. That's not a loving relationship. That's just using a live, fully interacting sex doll. Might as well just save up your dollars and order a robotic girlfriend from Japan. 🤖
I believe your recommendations for these ladies were all spot on. Especially for the woman who is living a double life. She will feel so much better about herself if she comes clean and explains everything to her beau. If she loses him, at least she can move forward with a clear conscience, and, having learned from this potentially harsh lesson, and she won't do anything to jeopardize a future relationship. If he forgives her indiscretion, and it may take some time while he works it through in his mind, I would expect that it would strengthen their relationship. After all, if she could confess to something like that, what else could she ever be keeping/keep from him that would be worse? I think he'd be pretty safe that she would never have any secrets from him for the rest of their life together, and she would be so grateful for his forgiveness that she would never give him any reason to question her loyalty and love. I hope you'll keep sharing these messages from your Filipina fans. Who knows? Maybe you'll expand your following amongst that demographic.😘❤
That would truly be a miracle - I’ve only got 6% female viewers 🤣
One of the problems with porn is that some guys get ideas that all women have the same desires as the ones in the films. The actresses are acting out fantasies that often don't carry over into real life. At best, porn is entertainment--not instructions.
Good video, Pea. Let's have a part 2😊
Excellent points, @christopher. I can tell you understand the issue clearly.
Right on she would have came out and admitted that. You would think she would always be a open book.
Nice reply Christopher but I can assure you that no matter the gravity of the first transgression, giving a second chance is noble but be ready for the additional deceit. Much like Jessica who wasn't just lying to her bf. She also was lying to her family. The only lie that may be excused is to answer this question with no, "do these pants make my ass look fat. You will be excused if you like but not if you're honest. Hehe
Honesty is the best direction to go. If you can’t be honest, you have nothing else.
Hi pea , I had mentioned before doing a series of videos that could help Filipinas understand different expats cultures in their country. You did one and I appreciate you taking the time to address this . Expats are almost required to understand the culture of their Filipina and most of us do try and do our homework but we are not perfect. Having a Filipina who is able to meet us halfway would make things much easier. Thanks.
Your advice to others is spot on. It's exactly how a decent person should be.
I love my fiance in the Philippines so much but I might have to break off our 4 year marriage cause it's starting to be obvious she's hiding everything she does from me as much as possible and I can't afford to lose everything to another woman like that for the 100th time
Trust your gut instincts and don't ignore the red flags
Good advice Pea. Come clean and see if he sticks around. If he finds out that his girlfriend is a hooker in a dishonest and embarrassing way, he's definitely gone. Seems the bigger problem (to me, anyway) is the entitled and demanding family. Probably the biggest thing that scares me off of Filipinas.
The family can present a real problem, yes 👍😳
Pea,
You’re a very smart and sweet girl for someone who’s so young. I talked with my wife now for about a year and never told her that I loved her. She always asked me why, and I told her that I couldn’t be sure until we met in person and I had a chance to look into her eyes. We’ve been married for six years together for seven.
Good morning Ms. Pea. Once again you are providing excellent advice. That first one was indeed complicated. I realize things go differently in a third world country and it’s not always black and white. That said, a lie is still a lie no matter what country you’re in. Obviously I don’t know the woman, but you said it right, either tell the truth or else the lie will eat you alive. If he leaves, he leave and so be it. If he doesn’t, then ok. Either way she’s in deep. I don’t think I could be with someone who lies like that. If she’s like about how she makes money by sleeping with other men then what else is she lying about. Hate to say “she belongs to the streets” but that does seem to be the case.
Second one is just pushing too hard. Chill out and let the relationship flow.
And I’m sorry but that third dude just sounds like a big perv. Porn is fake AF, and it doesn’t only rot your mind but it’ll destroy your relationship/marriage.
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Thanks for your input, CG 👍😊
I think the first girl doesn't need to ask for forgiveness.. but for understanding 🙏 we all have things I'm our past we are not proud of. If he walks away he wasn't meant to be, there are millions of people in this world, I believe we just have to find it
I honestly believe most people live a double life. ESPECIALLY when you factor in the internet which absolutely demands you keep the real you and the internet you separate if for nothing more than to protect your rights to privacy and your personal data.
I am a Youtubber. This isn't my actual account - it's my work TH-cam account. My obligation is keeping my work life, private life and online public life separate.
It's like living 3 lives.
So now you're a Filipina on the internet. You may have a real life boyfriend, an online boyfriend and a private online life. Juggling them is hard.
I know what you mean 😳
Re: Jessica. I feel like I would understand in a situation like that, especially if she opened up to me before I suspected anything. It's even possible that the guy may have paid girls to come to his rooms in the past too, and was looking for an opportunity to clean up his act.
People act like everyone falls into one category or the other, that they're either "good" boys and girls or "bad," but the truth is that people are complicated. It could be that I'm an outlier here, but we can never know these things about each other unless we're brave enough to be intimate with each other.
On one side we have our right to be ourselves and do the things that we want and make us happy. On the other one is society with its laws and codes of conduct. In this digital age, keeping secrets is harder than ever and nearly impossible. My recommendation to all is to think “would it bother me if this becomes public and my friends and family will know?” If it does; don’t do it and move along.
Yup, the digital truth always comes out 👍😳
Unfortunately there are a lot of families who quickly change their moral views when it comes to things like that if it means more money. I have heard a lot of prostitutes/of girls saying that when the truth was revealed their parents were mad until they found out the girl makes good money or when she was paying the bills. Then suddenly everything was fine. I wouldn't be surprised if the family of the filippina hooker was fine with it as long as she kept the money flowing. Have seen way worse stories coming to surface in my country.
@@TheFilipinaPeaiam an American in Angeles city. I'm sitting on a scooter waiting to pick up my Filipina best friend. She is a bar girl prostitute doing it for the money. She is the most amazing person I have ever met. She makes me happy to be alive and I have fallen in love with her. Thank you for this video. God Bless and Merry Christmas
Ah Pea. Well done. I see you have the wisdom and compassion of Solomon as well. No end to your talents and dedication. My respect.
Just don’t argue over a baby in front of me
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Interesting mail bag video! This brings us Western men the idea what could be going through a Filipina's mind when we get into any type of relationship with them, friend, or girlfriend. Knowing what actually goes or can go through the other gender's mind in relationships is helpful to understand how to keep the relationship going in the most positive way.
The first lady, yes I agree should stop doing what she is doing for extra money and come clean about her actions and her reasoning for doing do. Her foreign BF will have a higher chance of understanding, and may actually lend a hand if he moves in with her after accepting her reasoning for quitting the extra curricular work. Best of luck to her.
Once again Pea you are spot on for all of these situations. Honesty is always the best policy in my book no madder how much it hurts.
Excellent advice for #1. Excellent advice for #2. Excellent advice for #3. You are very aware of the human condition. I like hearing about the concerns of the Filipina. It is a fresh perspective not often covered.
We each must go through difficult times, and though we often must put on a brave face to the world, others generally know how people feel through muted emotions conveyed, especially in the eyes. But, just knowing that others know but keep respectfully silent, makes it easier to bear as you don’t feel so alone.
Another good video.
Thanks, Shiroi 👍😊❤️
Well done Pea, sound advice as always. I'm with you on the dishonest thing, big black mark against the partner if that happens. Always best to come clean as sooner or later the truth will come out and make things even worse. Have a great weekend Pea
The truth always does seem to come out - eventually 🥺👍
Hi Pea,
Your advice for Jessica was spot on.
If she is totally honest with her new b/f, he will be hurt.
Sure, some of the shock would be finding out this truth, but if he truly loves her, the pain would be the circumstances which led her to that path.
If she had only begun this recently, with just a few, and was stopping it all because she loves this new guy, then if it were me, I'd be there for the long-term plan and rescue her from that path....
... go over to physically be with her, and take it slow...
To not just jump in bed with her, but show her that I was there for her. Chat and be with her... build the relationship from the ground up, and put the rest behind us.
Then, after she knows my true intentions, then progress to the intimate details. The love making will be so much more meaningful and the future together would be forever and a day.
Good luck to Jessica, and I hope they both find true love ❤️ and happiness.
- Bill.
We need more Bills in the world 😊❤️👍
Miss. Pea, just got the earthquake / tsunami alert. Hope you and your family, friends, and loved ones are safe and well. Stay safe!
I hate to say it, but the guy will bail. He should. I seriously doubt the guy will attempt a LTR with a prostitute. Yes, I understand the situation, but life isn't fair. Lots of other women available.
Lots of fish in the sea, yes - all she can do is come clean and hope 😊
I wouldn't be too sure about that. It is something I could forgive ONCE but not twice
you underestimate how pathetic men can by nowadays
The Casino girl should do as you said for the first part tell her family her fortunes have changed.
But she should not tell her potential boyfriend that she has been working as a prostitute.
He is better off better off knowing that she is a prostitute.
But if she were to stay with him and continue being a prostitute pain in his back he will find out
I would of forgiven her. I know because this happened to me in US. She promised to stop and made a huge step to convince me. Guess what though the next time she had money problems she went back to it. SMH, then she blamed me saying I was less then a man because I didn't have money to give her. I give anybody a second chance. Never forget the age old saying once a cheater, always a cheater. Also, don't date a woman with a gambling addiction. The cost is to high. Gambling will always come first. If you ever hear a woman say she is going to the casino to win her rent money, run.
You gave good advice to the lady who is in a phone relationship. I’m in a messaging relationship with someone, distance for now is the reason. I’m really fond of her and impressed, but common sense and maturity will never let me go beyond interests. In time we’ll meet or not, and if we do, such things as person to person chemistry and compatibility will determine the rest of our relationship. I see love in two ways, one is gentle and the other is deeper. It seems ones ability to say “love” is determined by which of the two loves he uses.
You look so pretty in floral dresses! I love a feminine Philippina ! 🥰
Thanks, I like to look feminine ❤️👍
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@@TheFilipinaPeaMission accomplished. You always do.
Good morning Pea! Girl your dresses are always so nice, your fashion sense is amazing
Thanks Michael 👍❤️
If she's willing to lie about being a prostitute, she doesn't really know what love is.
O think she’s now unwilling to lie about it (at least I hope so) 🤞
Agreed.
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As usual you do surprise us with new topics and down to earth advice Pea.
Hey pea my beautiful friend, once again you hit the home run ball. I really hope that everything turns out well for these people. And like you pea, I don't judge anyone. You rock my dear friend. Thank you pea my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you and your beautiful family always.😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️. BTW, how are your awesome cats?😊❤
The kitties are pretty darn good, Darryl - thanks 👍❤️🤣
As an Australian who spent 12 months in a LDR with my now wife (Cebuana) I can sympathise with that story.
Had the man been happy to say he loved her, but unwilling to let her speak to his son, that would be a red flag. He'd sound like he's willing to say he loves her but not act like it. But to neither say it, nor close that distance with her, to both take it slow and keep some separation, thats pretty normal. It's not like he's leading her on and pretending to love her when he doesn't.
Still, best to make plans to meet in person sooner rather than later.
For the first one. The past is the past, but I question what was said. I would assume this guy had to of asked about any of her relationships. Granted she didn't date the guys and only had sex with them but no matter what it would be a relationship non the less. The guy wants to be with her and plans on going back for her. She needs to be open and upfront Now before he gets on the plan. He might hang up and not talk to her. But he might hang up and need time to think. I don't think many guys would want to be with a girl that while she is at work and times get hard, she helps guys go soft for a little money. The second one. Saying I love you is something that should only be said if you mean it. I say I love you all the time to everyone, but I mean it as well. For me life is too short to have hate in your heart or on your mind. But it is the way the person says I love you is what matters. Pushing a guy to say I love you will only make it harder on your relationship. now for the third one. Oh Boy. I am kinky and I love to explore a lot. Most guys do not want the basics. Most guys want what they like and if a girl pretends to like it just to get the guy after time stops wanting it then more than likely the guy will find a girl more willing to meet his needs. If you find a guy you like but you do not like what he enjoys doing in the bedroom, then you are better off letting him find a girl that does like the same thing. This is almost the year 2024. No man will be willing to marry a girl without testing what is there to offer and to see how well she will perform. I know it sounds mean but no man in his right mind will marry a girl and then find out she will only lay on her back and ok hurry up stick it in and are you done yet. People never buy a car without looking under the hood and taking it for a test ride. A girlfriend and or wife is an investment. The man is not just willing to spend money but their time as well they will want to know if this investment is going to be worth it. True it is said it is not all about sex. But it is a lot about it. No girl wants to be with a man to find out he is with another girl just because you just are not willing to do the things he likes. better to find out now then after you get married.
I tend to agree Dane - I don’t have a problem with test drives at the appropriate time 👍😊
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I have been to the very poorest places in the Philippines. No one has to do prostitution. I have never seen a Filipino starving. I have been in houses with dirt floors. Many of those were not flat floors by any stretch. It breaks my heart that both Filipinas and Filipinos engage in prostitution.
There’s always another way …
If you really believe this then you haven’t been to the poorest places in big cities - there are starving young girls in big city slums
@@rayintoledocebuphilippines5517 show me a picture of a starving young girl. I have been to the garbage heaps. I have been everywhere but Palawan.
I disagree with Puppyupper in a way! If You truly believe that you should allow those poor people to swap experiences with you so you allow them to stay in the place you stay and eat and live off your budget and you then go stay in that dwelling with dirt floors and whatever other horrible conditions for at least 30 to 90 days and I'd almost guarantee you'd change your opinion on the desperation of those that are in extremely terrible situations. Get off that high horse!
There are those who say that foreigners don't have to go overseas to find a mate, maybe there's truth to that but one Never knows what options someone truly has until they're in the others shoes.
@@David-gv7gf I have lived off grid in the Philippines on and off for 10 years prior to the pandemic. I lived with them. I did have a concrete floor in the bedroom, but not in the main room or kitchen. Yes, I have lived with mosquitos, scorpions, centipedes and cobra.
I am not on a high horse. I see the poverty. I also see the reason for it. A reason, which I highly suspect you have absolutely no understanding. Prostitution is not an answer to poverty but part of the driver of it. Track any prostitute in the Philippines and see where she is when she enters her 40's.
And your premise that someone who lives with a dirt floor must be desperate and living in extremely terrible conditions is so disrespectful to those who are raising families in those places. They would take your accusations as insults.
I was invited into their homes because they knew I lived among them and did not judge them as you are doing in your post. You are the one who needs to climb down from your moral high horse.
God has blessed me, He blessed me to go to them. To show them love. He has always met my needs. Now He has blessed me with incredible wealth. I am going back soon to start an orphanage. YES, I am going to build a very nice ocean front home there, but the majority of my money will go to the orphanage. And YES, I am going to marry a Filipina. I have to in order to start an orphanage.
I will hire teachers to teach them free market economics, something I bet you despise.
It is an absurd position to suggest anyone should swap positions with another. As the saying goes, "If you give a man a fish, he eats for a day; If you teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime." No one would learn anything if they stepped in my shoes without the understanding brought about by the miles I walked in those shoes. No doubt if you swapped life for a day in one of those dirt floor houses, you would truly think you lived in an extremely terrible situation and be desperate to swap back again. Life is not the cookie cutter picture you think it is.
May God open your eyes to Truth
I ordered my passport yesterday...I've had two as they both ran out; the last one in 2018. I'm coming to the Philippines', but I'm not quite sure when... it has to be winter....I cant do the heat of summer.....
Every pinoy lady i meet is addicted to social media dating and flirting online. Many suiters.
Honesty: Always the best policy. Lies tend to catch up with you eventually, and the consequences are like a snowball rolling down hill: It gets bigger and bigger over time.
Compromise: Plant your feet on some things, but be willing to try others. It's all about how comfortable you are with the person you're with. I've been with women who were prudes to the extreme (missionary, under the covers, lights out, no talking) and total freaks (you don't even want to know and TH-cam wouldn't let me post it here anyway). Finding that perfect "lady on the streets and tiger in the sheets" can be difficult, and finding a man in the same likeness can be as well. Being open with each other on your likes and dislikes early on is important, but again, compromise is key (on all things).
Interesting episode, Pea. Thanks for sharing with us!
Thanks for your input, Thomas 👍😊
Mine sure did live a double life, it was hard when I found out and we had to split. But iam still in love with Filipino women
Thanks for not giving up on us 👍❤️
The last one was good advice. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable doing; it can turn out very badly. I am aware that some women have had partners in the past that were not very “gentle”. Also I am aware that my Taiong can be scary to a foreign woman because they’re not used to…well, you know. If you decide to try it later make sure that he is someone who will respect your boundaries. You might discover it’s something you like when done correctly
So heres my 2 sense
Philippines is all about supporting the wifes family when here in usa we will let our family suffer to buy ourselves a new toy
So whos wrong
You work for money
Dont be a slave
2 sense? 😆
I respect Pea so much for having the honesty to say that Filipina women are only culturally religious , and while it helped me make up my mind not to go there she saved me a trip .
She could have easily lied but I hold honesty in high regards .
Much respect and ty again
Jessica - additional note from a foreigner... if you dislike the "extra" income activity, then stop that activity AND yes you might lose the current foreigner but if you take a moment to realize the amount of customers you are getting, it is a pretty good indication another love interest is likely to come along and if you are not doing anything to hide then the past stays in the past. No one has the right to your past, what matters is the honesty you have going forward. The only time a detail from the past, from this type of activity, should be shared is if you contracted a gift that keeps on giving and for many foreigners, that detail can be worked around if love is the foundation.
Sorry. If I am buying a car. I want to know how many miles are on it. If you are hiding from your past and ashamed of it. Then change your life. If someone isn’t ok with your past. Then move on. It isn’t fair to the other person to not know your past. Everyone should be able to change their life. But it is the other persons decision to make that for themselves. Not to be deceived into a relationship with a checkered past
@nickhummer5775 For real. I doubt any man would want herpes.
Hi pea ,,,,, great 👍 advice to the ladies email's ❤ I hope they take 🙏 the advice you gave them
The first story, she dug her own hole. Most likely, He will run away like another commentor said.
If only I knew something about the guy, but I have no clue - maybe she’ll write me back 👍
solid advice Pea. You really do have a handle on both Filipino and Western mentalities. Great video
In the US we have a saying: " you can't turn a whore into a housewife." She made that choice willingly and there is nothing that will stop her from doing it again because she already found a way to justify it in her mind. Sorry girl, but these are the consequences of your bad choices
ABSOLUTELY agree!!!
sanctimonious prick
You are correct. Once the path of least resistance is taken, it's easy to take it again.
I don’t agree with what she did, but you are far to judge mental , and your label is cruel. Until you have been to the Philippines and have been in a situation similar , don’t act so perfect.
@@vlogcritter Poverty is no excuse for immorality. I’ve been poor my entire adult life and once spent a month literally starving because I couldn’t afford to eat and pay the bills. At no point have I ever done anything immoral for money. She doesn’t have an excuse
I love your ❤ pea ... God say love everyone for he gave us that key to be with him in heaven ....
She belongs to the streets!
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Love your command of the English language and ability to play with the words thanks for making these videos fun and informative and easy on the eye as well enjoy your day Pea
Hello Pea 😘😘👍👍
Soi! Welcome to premier night, as always 🤣👍
Thanks!
Brasov strikes yet again! Thanks for the generous tip, my friend ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's had its ups and downs LOL 😅
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That was sound advice. I can resinate with the last one as i was more open to different experience but the weird part was that i stayed true to her but ignored her red flags & others warning about her. In the end i became toxic which i changed & she barely felt bad for her mistakes & moved our separate ways 👍🏽
If Jessica comes clean, and the new guy is decent and understanding, then - as long as she is genuine about being only with HIM from now on - I would be pretty sure he would see it for what it is/was, and the reason why. I would. BUT...she would have to be 100% sincere about the future. But everyone is different. Hiding it would be a bad, bad idea imo
It really does depend on what attitude her boyfriend has, yes 👍
@@TheFilipinaPea Realistically, I don't think she has much choice but to come clean now and hope for the best. As a foreigner, I would respect her much more for opening up asap.
Miss Pea, you are very thoughtful and use words exceptionally well.
Well thanks, Ken! I do try to be clear and precise 😊👍
20 years ago, a woman said she loves me. She lied, she was pretending to love me. From that day on, I don't allow woman to say they love me & I never never tell a woman I love her.
Love is a feeling not a word
Wow what a sad way to look at life bc of one situation. You should get some help that's crazy
@@josheakins5137no he shouldn’t get help . This is exactly how you protect yourself when dating until you meet the girl that truly loves you .
Look up these 3 words
Agape
Philia
Eros
If you and your future lady possess the first 2 qualities
Your romantic relationship (Eros) is built upon a rock solid foundation and will last forever .
Look up these words :)
@@josheakins5137ha! Not just “one situation”.
XXomen are incapable of love. They “love” conditionally. Children, dogs and XXomen are loved unconditionally. Men are ONLY loved for what they provide.
Never place a xxoman above yourself, your purpose, your desires.
They are lessers. The moment you treat them above or equal, to yourself, they will look down on you.
Nice video, very helpful. I recently started talking with Filipinas online before I travel. Your videos and others help navigate these subtle difference between cultures.
Jessica, I hope you read this comment. Do not be ashamed of what you have to do to survive and provide for your loved ones. If the guy you are having a relationship with doesn't understand then he is not the right person for you to be with. If he does understand then he should help you to make a plan for you to stop doing this to protect you and your health.
I wish you all the best and as Jesus said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
Amen Ken... Obey God and leave the consequences up to Him... He will always bless obedience... Could not have said it better...👍👍❤❤
This Isa serious answer? That the guy should just accept that his gf is laying with different men all the time being used by these men to play out their fantasies.
He should accept that?
Did you eat lead paint chips?
It's ok to continue to be as prostitute? Is that what I'm reading?
Jesus also wanted you to ask forgives for your sins. AND STOP SINNING. Not continue to sin and make others confirm to your sins. It's not ok to be a prostitute. Yes forgive but first stop.
Have you forgotten, God also said "1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you ABSTAIN from sexual immorality," or what God did to Sodom&Gomorrah for their sexual immorality. @@robertputt7794
@@ispeaktothedead where in Scripture does Jesus tell us to ask God for forgiveness of our sins... I'm pretty sure Acts 5:32 says, God gives the Holy Spirit to those that OBEY Him...
Probably why there are so many SO-CALLED hypocrite Christians! I know he said, Father forgive them for they KNOW NOT what they do...
He also said, "If YOU will not forgive men their trespasses, then God WILL NOT forgive YOU"! David said, Lord against you only have I sinned...
It is crazy how you think her sin is greater than yours... That's why Jesus said, let him who is without sin cast the first stone... So I guess you're sinless since you are casting stones.. Right?