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Men have been emotional, you don't just start worldwide wars, nuclear attacks, concentration camps and napalm on kids by being "rational and logical" 😅
If you think you can stop wars by being rational and logical then you're not rational yourself
@@JACK-OMARI oh look an emotional person being triggered by my comment. 💅🏾 I never said anything about "stopping wars".
@@velzehsedam2060 Wars aren't "rAtiOnal" at all.
@@velzehsedam2060it's ok to be wrong, sweetie
@@velzehsedam2060 Saying that wars aren't rational is calm sweetie 😘
It's great that you acknowledge that killing is wrong.
My mom lives alone in the city and always has to pretend that I man lives with her so people don’t think she lives alone. So sad the world we live in.
💯 I've even heard that women who live alone should get an old, used pair of men's boots to leave outside of their doors, so that predators will assume a man is at their residence.
@@nappyheadedjojobaThat was the first piece of advice my mom and her girlfriend gave me when I moved out on my own for the first time.
@nappyheadedjojoba yep, I was told that before maintenance men or service men come over I need to get some male clothing items and leave them in visible places around my apt so they think a man lives with me. So wild the things we have to do to just exist alongside men's rage and degeneracy. 😔
😭😭😭
That’s a good idea
Saw this report yesterday on Twitter. So disgusting that someone as young as 15 went with the intention of getting his EX back, then had the idea of retaliation in the event she rejected him. So disgusting. Have seen similar things on twitter of men asking for a women's hand in marriage in Egypt then killing them once they were rejected. To think anyone has the right to another person's attention, love, and space is disgusting.
I saw a couple of videos from India where young teenage girls turned down much older men for marriage, and one was beaten to death in public and nobody helped her, and the other had her head chopped off, and the man was carrying her head around in public.
Literally in 2021 45,000 women died in the hands of their ex/current intimate partner's in every hour more then 5 women died like that too and the percentage of women who their deaths is by a man they loved is 34%
Don't you know that only women can't take rejection? 😏
@@LindseyDean-hp7qg yeah basically we the emotional ones 😀
@@yoursnatchedwig2856 I remember social research experts called it the “secret epidemic” or the silent epidemic. It’s really disturbing.
Men will snap out of nowhere and won’t even acknowledge it
I’m so happy someone said it. My brother refused to speak to me for almost a year because I told him to calm down, and stop getting so emotional when he had an adult tantrum when he asked me for something, and I said no. He said I was trying to emasculate him, and I was being disrespectful. He’s 40…. and still refuses to take no for an answer, he literally has a tantrum like a toddler without the crying and rolling on the floor. It doesn’t matter how inappropriate it is, where we are, who’s around, he even had a tantrum in front of my job once, and I was convinced he was trying to sabotage my employment because I out-earn all of my brothers. For the record my brother only speaks to me when he needs something financial. And he hates black women with his whole chest since discovering the manosphere.
Wowww. Be careful!
Hope you cut that trash off. He will only get worse
Omg I dated someone like this. It didn’t take long for me to bounce lol
@@kissit012 it’s hard to cut off family, because it forces other family members to choose a side. And in my traditional family of mostly women, men are valued above all else, because in my very large family, we’ve never given birth to many boys. So I for sure would be put out in the cold from my whole family for him, which is how he got this way.
Don't give him anymore money
"Maleosphere", brilliant and accurate. I had this same revelation after brickgate. Women are not more emotional than men, we are just more communicative. The world would be so much safer if only men had the ability to verbalize their feelings (or just walking away) instead of acting out.
“Women are not more emotional than men, we are just more communicative”…. This is so true!!
I’ve been feeling this way, but I couldn’t find the right words. Thank you ❤
@@kendrajones9708 🥰🙏🏾
Dress it up any way you want. You are talkative children. Children who never reach puberty until around 70.
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brickgate was a lie. she had an allergic reaction and lied on some random workers for attention. however, there was a story where a woman rejected a man and he threw her over a cliff. so now you have cliffgate.
They act like anger is no longer an emotion when felt by a man
I remember being 10 or 11 and figuring out that hysterical must share a common origin with hysterectomy but at the time I couldn’t figure out what they had in common
"To the privileged, equality feels like oppression" Many men FEEL oppressed because they're lied to by other men who tell them they should feel that way. Men are largely oppressed by other men, women aren't our problem... We are our own problem.
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@@copperredd Of course. One of our great stumbling blocks is ego and capitalism. A system that is encourages arrogance and ego that gives me the unfortunate opportunity to exert power and exploitation over other men and women. It pushes a hierarchical structure of false importance that stifles empathy and emotional intelligence/regulation. We'd do well by women and ourselves if we got rid of this oppressive system and installed one more egalitarian and equitable. But in order to do that, the most marginalized people need to be at the helm driving the ship.
It’s really sad and scary. I had a co-worker who flipped on me one day out of the blue talking abt how he knew I liked him and we were going to be in a relationship. He literally said he wanted to f*ck me. Mind u we were in his car coming from a party at another co-workers place. Surprised is an understatement. I was so scared, I really thought he was going to r*Pe me in the highway. I’m still in disbelief to this day. I really started questioning myself,if I led him on or something.
You did not led him on! Shame on him. Wishing you healing 🤎
You did not lead him on. I’m glad you were not hurt! I hope you will not get into the car with another male acquaintance again. Men are NOT to be trusted! I hope this does not come off as victim blaming, that’s not my intention. Trust no one and if you are a women certainly don’t trust a man to not try and take advantage of you!
Ma'am I don't trust men as far as I can throw them. Hell even women I don't trust. Handle unhappy people with kid gloves people who are always complaining. People going through stressful situations. My parents are becoming more fustrated with not being able to do things in their 70s and I give them a whole lot of space. I had to learn to accept help after finding out that I'm neurodivergent. My parents do not want to accept that they need help.
In my experience, men see sexual invitation in completely innocuous and non sexual scenarios. Smiling at a man is seen as wanting to f¥ck him.
You didn't lead him on men literally can not tell a smile is friendly or a come on, they can not tell being nice to them it's a come on and invitation. If he buys you something or compliments you or even acts nice to you in his mind of delusion he owns you you're his property so no it's nothing you did at all it's literally his mind is defective & can't processes subtext, and appropriate places this is something he has to improve on it's conditioning he has to get and do for himself not you. So yeah report this rapist & ban him from all contact in your phone & everything.
My ex got so upset with me for trying to talk to him about spending more time together, that he played the entire Hamilton soundtrack loudly in the car, for 3 hours on the way back home. He didn't talk to me once, and he didn't even sleep next to me in the house. It was the most exaggerated over-reaction to anything I had ever seen in my life. And I'll never forget it. It was just... odd.
Yes. Many men are a lot more sensitive than women. And many are also horrible communicators. More than we know.
Guys know women "don't want to do the work for men" emotionally so they don't open up, you can claim that's not how you feel but feeling don't care about your conscious preferences. And of course, you're different, I'm wrong, and that sort of response isn't gaslighting. Glad I tried to share 😅
Listen men are EXTREMELY sensitive.
So true as usual! It is a shame that you could be in danger from exercising your freedom to ignore someone that feels entitled to your attention.
I know right. It's as of women think they own you.😂😂😂
Hey, I studied ancient Greek too. Unfortunately we borrowed the aggressive misogyny from their culture, too. 😒
Closeted homosexual that think women are a trophy for baby making that they then feel they have a right to F until big enough to fight them (females never escape).
There is no misogyny, only rampant misandry😮
@@josephjoy2245Sure, buddy. You're the victim. What a little b*tch.
@@josephjoy2245Misandry Wouldn't Exist If It Wasn't For Misogyny 🤡 Low IQ Trolls Like You Say Anything
@@josephjoy2245 Literal cap but OK.
TESTERICAL is a word though we should use that more.
Well we do have “testy,” but that doesn’t seem adequate enough.
Amen
That’s so funny I think I’m going testerical 😂
It’s so much more fitting. 😂
I liv for it
The crazy thing is people, especially men, dont realize Rage IS AN EMOTION. Being unemotional means being cool, calm, and collected. Rage is not that. The problem is thanks to our biased culture[ against all things commonly associated with femininity] our first thought is to believe that sadness and tears =emotional but not anger. Men are simply socialized to expressed their emotions on one way. To a certain degree, women as well since we arecoften discouraged from being angry[black women] or showing any form of aggression since that is "not lady like"
This is so true!! You articulated this very well.
Every time some dude asserts that "females" are "more emotional" I just reply, "I've never felt nervous in a room full of women."
‘Never trust a person who lacks the will to change’ thank you so much for this. I was missing my ex for a second and that just yeeted those feelings into the stratosphere (not to be confused with the shitsphere 😂)
😂😂😂
"Protection from what? Other men, of course!"
Perfect video. I love you.
THIS is why it is so very important for boys to have positive male guidance.
My family is 85-90% female, but the men in my family that i interacted with as a child were decent, strong men.
Mainly my father.
He was flawed, of course, but he instilled in me common sense, critical thought.
Thank God.
How does this help you see women as people? This literally goes back millenniums
@@Enriquez2222 i think it’s the “common sense and critical thought” part. Women are human and therefore deserve respect.
The women in my family reinforced that logic.
The timing of this is cosmic. Just a few days ago a 15 year old girl in Croydon was stabbed to death by a 17 year old boy, while on her way to school in the morning because she no longer wanted to date him. One minute he was offering her flowers, the next he took her life. You have to wonder what influenced him to even think of doing that.
The males that complain about gold diggers are the ones that have the least wealth/ assets. They shouldnt be worried with what gold diggers are doing, theyre not their target audience anyways.
A guy was trying to punk a woman into being desperate "you'll be too old beyond 25, no value to men". Then the next line they use is "carry your own weight, golddigging whore" and i was like YOU'LL BE LUCKY TO GET A 50 YEAR OLD. TRY AGAIN FOR THE 20 YEAR OLD WHEN 70 AND WORTH 100000 MILLION 🤡 Rocket Science 🤯
Exactly! And the bad part is, they don't even do anything to try and become more desirable. We're supposed to take them at wherever they are.
@@AngelicaAngel888_ yup. Fat, bald, lazy, dirty, obnoxious, broke, ect all while telling females they need makeup, plastic surgery, sexy clothes, and will be worthless if over 25 or "a disgusting feminist" 🤮
The "goldigger" fear stems from two things: 1)A lot of men are attracted to the typical "goldigger" / "Fake" look and they know that they personally would do a lot of stupid things in order to sleep with a woman like that. 2) A lot of men actually want to be with a "goldigger" because it is a financial flex on other men - and they too would do a lot of stupid things in order to have that sort of a flex.
The right to sex by Amia Srinivasan is another good read on the topic if you aren’t familiar.
It’s ridiculous that they don’t count anger as an emotion lol
It’s only an emotion when women are the ones experiencing it … boy math to the highest degree fr 🥴🥴
Sort of like how you land whales can't be bothered to lose weight yet want to bicker about height.
I always wondered why they don’t look at what goes on at supporting events. That’s a lot of emotions going on there.
Who is they here? I've never heard of anger not being an emotion. Ive heard of acting out in anger being justified but that's not the same.
Ikr!!!.. men get angrier, more aggressive and more violent than women. These are all emotions. So why do they not say there are emotional too.
When I heard that a child did this, I was shocked. This child was so angry that he was ready to commit violence if things did go his way. Huh?!
That is expected behavior from a child especially when the parents don’t teach them emotional management. Grow men in the other hand are entirely responsible for their behavior
As a man that just turned 35 last Sunday, it pains me to admit that this entire video is the God's honest truth.
My favorite game franchise, Mortal Kombat just released a new title and before it came out, there was a rather interesting and exhausting discourse surrounding the appearance of the female characters, especially the lone Black female character, Tanya. Ever since Mortal Kombat X, the women in the game have been given less-revealing outfits that directly tie in with their role in the story and character archetype, including in this new game where all the women are pretty much just as covered up as the male characters.
There was a reveal trailer in which Tanya was revealed, but since she wasn't shown in a glammed-out manner, there were a bunch of repugnant comments made about how she was ugly, all the women in Mortal Kombat are ugly, the MK girls aren't sexy anymore, and the like. And yes, there were more than a few comments directed at how the feminists that created the game didn't want the women to be attractive. I even got into several back-and-forths with with dudes that proceeded to tell me how men prefer their women to be sexy and that women need to make themselves 'presentable' in public.
It became very clear to me that these guys felt entitled to determine how women look and were angry at the idea that they couldn't have control over them.
Then I realized that since antiquity, the entire idea about what is considered 'feminine' has been wholly shaped by the male gaze and men's desires and requirements, no matter how harmful they may be.
Point is, I am heavily disappointed in men, especially those that find themselves aligning with what I call the 'Penisphere'.
Good/decent men do exist, but are too damn silent in confronting the Andrew Tate/Sneako/Fresh N'Fit acolytes out there that they know. The moment that this changes, men will be better not just to women but to themselves and the world.
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@@copperredd Thank you. I certainly try to be - not just for me, but my wife, family and students.
@user-re6vi1tr3s Simping? For whom??? I'm a happily married man, been so for 9 years, so.....no.
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Loved your reply cause if you really think about all this stuff it’s not that hard to understand.
If you can paint someone as crazy or hysterical, you can do anything to them. Like that cop that got his ex gf committed recently. They committed her for 5 days.
Saw this! Crazy! I'm still trying to understand how he got that done.
@@Rhawn246 he is a cop with power. They get away with so much
Yet another example of the ergreious BS cops can and will pull and why we need to stop with the "a few bad apples" BS. A few bad apples spoil the barrel -- and the barrel has be spoiled. It's particularly startling considering that US cops are trained locally, there isn't one national academy doing this -- it's a systemic, engrained, network that took time and effort to build. It all needs to be pulled down and dragged out into the light.
This also tracks right back to defund the police / refund social services.
Sometimes cops are put in impossible situations -- cops get funding for social services they aren't trained to handle, and even assuming you have a cop who wants, with the best will in the world to do the right thing, does not have the skills to escalate, doesn't have services to bring in as reinforcements, doesn't understand the situation and sees the behavior of a mentally ill person as not compliant, or worse, verging into potential violence -- this is unjustifiable in a country with so much wealth.
Much, much poorer countries with their own blotted histories manage not to murder the mentally ill on the regular, to take charge of a volatile psychiatric situation and safely remove the patient to a treatment facility.
The really horrifying part of this is that it was probably the safest route for her. He overestimated his power in the mental institution and was dumb enough to make a lot of mistakes. This now meant he was exposed. There were so many other things he couldve done to her that wouldnt get exposed because hes protected and believed as a cop.
Here's a radical idea: she is crazy.🤣🤣🤣
Glad this is something in the air. It’s getting tiring dealing with my male friends misdirecting their anger/hurt on women when we could be finally burning down the system. Hope more men can get out of their ego, and realize women (especially black women) are not their enemy.
Humans are irrational.
- Vulcans
live long and prosper lol
Thank you for your sacrifices! I don't know if I could've made a whole video with all of that going on in the background lol
🙏🏾 I was lightweight enraged the entire time, and I'm honestly shocked the audio is even semi passable. 😩
Oh yes! I see that in so many cases, like my mom talks to me when she is upset or angry or sad, my father becomes a dick and starts throwing shit around. The difference between an actual adult and a petulent child.
I'm not a fan of guns, but if anyone should be having guns, it's women, especially single women. Stand your ground ladies!! Don't be a victim, be a hero.
Women been complaining that men aren't in touch with their emotions. Now that men are more emotions women are complaining or making fun of it smh. Make it make sense lol
Male here and I detect no lies. Well done!
I was working at the front desk, dude didn't say excuse me or anything, just stood there. I turned because I was reading something on the computer screen and I answered, "yes?".
Dude was like, "wHy ThE aTtidUe?".
I wanted to laugh in his face so bad. Like really?? The total nonsense of it all.
It's wild out here. I get publicly harassed by BM frequently just for going about my day. They literally act as if anything we do for ourselves or by ourselves is a threat. Even things as simple as enjoying a walk on a public trail.
It is so funny to me how emasculation is play solely on the shoulders of someone else as opposed to it being called what it is which is a self-esteem problem it's a problem that would require the person to work on themselves
Normalize group dating and day time dates
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Or how about normalize concealed carrying like most states do ? What’s group dating gonna do other than ruin intimacy for non crazy daters ?
Literally every modern day concern by most marginalized groups such as women , People of color , etc is alleviated by them being always able to defend themselves and guess what does that ? A gun ….
But no instead we move toward attending to ban guns all together or heavily restrict them to the point of them not being practical or even being useless
@@ghostbuster187the proletariat should be armed. HOWEVER, the idea that any healthy society will normalise carrying around lethal weapons on the daily is moronic in the extreme.
Imagine drawing that gun to defend yourself and then getting taken out by a different "good guy with a gun" because they perceived you as a threat. This stuff is all fine in your head until you have to do it in real life and realise how messy reality is. This isn't COD, you have no idea who is on your team.
@@ghostbuster187she talked about normalizing it. It's not mandatory. Calm down
This.
It’s getting scary as fk out here I’m getting agoraphobia
The way I nodded and agreed with everything you said 👏🏽. I love all of your delivery, intelligence and humor you deliver these videos with. Damn, I might have to join Patreon. I need more lol
Thank you! Supporting folks on Patreon is always a luxury, never a necessity; but, if and when you have the means we'd love to have you in the fold. 🖤
I was just thinking the same thing. I need to be a part of a community of women who think like this so that I can heal from the trauma that men put me through properly. My family and friends still wanna deal with unsafe men and I just can’t anymore. I don’t want them around me or my daughter. I don’t want the influence of desperation for love of a man to rub off on my daughter like it did me when I was younger…
I may need to join that Patreon 😅
„Women are too emotional“ - The gender that punches holes in the wall after losing at a video game
I read The Will to Change based on a previous mention you made to it. Great book! My biggest takeaway was that patriarchy is reinforced by society (both men and women) and really doesn't benefit the majority of men. I won't excuse any violence or intimidation used against women but there is a dissatisfaction among men who don't live up to the patriarchal view of who they should be (again reinforced by both men and women) and these communities speak to that dissatisfaction as it is mostly unaddressed.
Woman's independence is a good thing and relatively new and it's going to take time to catch up with what is and is not acceptable. Especially as woman are becoming more educated than men and larger financial earners. If I read correctly black woman are already out-earning black men on average and have long surpassed them in education.
Society is changing but not all views have caught up yet. Those men left behind are finding community in the wrong places.
Absolutely. The ways in which women reinforce systems that do not serve us (patriarchy) is something that needs to be discussed more. So glad that you took a chance on the recommendation to read the Will to Change, because I think it offers a very useful starting point to getting both men and women to confront the reality that our current, highly prescribed, notions of masculinity (and femininity, to be honest) hurt us all.
@@nappyheadedjojobaI've been having some thoughts Nappy(if I can call you that?) You seem like someone who is intelligent and may be interested in engaging. Do you think colonialism is always bad? If so, do you consider feminism a form of colonialism... Keeping in mind it originated here in America amongst white women in the 1700s (and that they had no interest in including women of color like yourself in the movement initially). Thanks for your time if you decide to reply.
YES! I don’t see any women committing crimes because men refuse to give them number? MEN on the other hand 😅 I just saw a news about a man shot his former client because she blocked his number!!!
Love the history of hysterical from you! Thanks! 👏
And the connection to late-stage capitalism 🤑
It _always_ comes back to capitalism, don't it? 😒
@nappyheadedjojoba Lol I just made a TT comment the other day (re "boy math") that went: "Boy math is males frustrated with late stage capitalism taking their anger out on the wimmenz." 😅
You should look up why the story of how the vibrotor was made lol
Unfortunately this situation was bound to happen. A failed society always always finds a scapegoat to lash on. It's only gonna get worse for women because the reactionary movement is not done until patriarchy comes back with a vengeance as the Handmaid's Tale.
I’m disgusted that these books have been out forever talking about this and I’m just now learning about it as a woman in my 30s. When I was dating in my 20s I thought something was wrong with me. I felt forced to be in unsafe situations just to find “the one”. Now that I’m married with a daughter, I look at men differently and it’s turning into paranoia. I’m terrified she will have to suffer the (and I’m not even exaggerating) PURE HELL my mother, aunts, cousins, sisters, and best friends have been through (both black and white) dealing with men.
I told my husband I may have to go to jail when she starts to date cause my PTSD will NOT be able to handle it. I also feel guilt because I brought her into this unsafe world and one day she will have to survive it without me or her father 😢.
Women need to come together and create male free communities for our future daughters so that they can live free and only have to deal with men when they choose. I know this sounds like segregation but I don’t think most men should have access to women AT ALL without a chaperone… I don’t know what else to do. We can’t let this continue!!!
@@RicochetForce I agree, most things “men” have made we don’t need anyway. Everything we need we can get from nature. Unfortunately most men own the power companies and farms etc. so we have to go through them to get access to resources the earth provides us with NATURALLY.
So yes, I mean a COMPLETE separation meaning we don’t want anything from them and that includes their capitalism.
I am always amazingly "hysterical" (and intellectual?!?) after hearing brilliant analyses such as THIS!
Thanx so much for your thoughtful discussions of this crazy world we live in NHJ.
Girl, did you always have freckles and I never noticed?
And yea, only men think men aren’t emotional. The ones who think that are usually the most
Bingo
Exactly! And re: the freckles, I have a few but not as many as this -- I'm covering a breakout. New moles/freckles always show up when I have some zits to disguise. Oldest trick in the book. 😅
@@nappyheadedjojoba Same here👍🏽😊
Bingo on the men who state such things are usually the most emotional.
A brilliant commentary on men's emotionality and how patriarchy harms women and also everyone.
I'm a retired soldier, so I can vouch for the extreme version of all negative feelings being routed to anger and anger being exploited to create men who can perform acts of deadly violence on demand. In many circles, anger is the only negative emotion that men are ALLOWED to express. The few of us who have some awareness of this dynamic of the patriarchy are also trapped in it.
You knew that identifying men as emotional would be potentially inflammatory at the beginning of this video, particularly to men... that's because emotional men (meaning men who EXPRESS a full range of emotions) are not generally respected by men or women in our society. A man who does not have the respect of other men and women is very unlikely to be able to succeed in his endeavors in our society... (no money, no sex, no fulfillment). Then incel, then anger (the 'acceptable' emotion), then violence.
So yeah, stay safe out there. The block is indeed hot, and the temperatures rising.
One aspect of life that I think all men and boys need to always practice is introspection. Since boyhood we’re taught to put more importance into performance (outward perception) and it creates sense of lacking that carries into adulthood when we fail to measure up in any sense (physique, finance etc). When we can look inward and acknowledge our insecurities and shame, and learn to live above them, then the anger and violence stops.
Appreciate the vid and shoutout to Black Woman. Ok bye 🖤
Thank you for talking about the book men who hate women. I can't tell you how often this book is overlooked in a lot of these conversations, especially on TH-cam and social media. As a black woman, chapter 9 was exceptionally eye-opening for me. But I remember I stopped talking to my friend because she believes that having this type of concern is all in our head and now it's something that will become more frequent because of how capitalism and patriarchy is impacting everyone.
A story that I can't really get out of my head ever since I saw it and heard about it was the Lauren Landavazo. This whole thing just blows my mind
Adults control themselves. Everyone else is a child. I've met too many men and women who have no control of themselves. The problem is that emotionally unstable women are far less dangerous than emotionally unstable men. Yeah, they're annoying, and they need grow tf up. But their violence is inconsequential compared to a man's.
1. girl you look good damn Ti
2. i was just thinking this myself. Men justify their actions against women based on their emotion. i just posted a comment on a true crime channel YESTERDAY saying that i was over relationship based homicide and that people should just move on...mind you i did not specify gender...i got a comment wishing me to die/the same fate and a comment by a devil's advocate saying that "women shouldn't act however to men because they are going to meet 'the wrong one' one day" and when asked to elaborate he says because "women get time, money and effort invested in them and they just walk away. The man in the true crime video killed a toddler and an old woman because of an argument with his ex-girlfriend like what
There was a time when the phrase. Why are you in your feeling ? Was floating around the black community and I fucking hated it!
Men and women are emotional in different ways. Women are more easily able to identify their own emotions, which is why we have more emotional expressiona nd control. While men can not identify their own emotions as readily, and this causes them more frustration, anger, sadness, insecurity, etc. This is why they're so much more emotionally reactive. (also scientifically studied and proven). This is also why while women statistically lead in depression, men lead in self deletion and in the deletion of others. They decide themselves into believing that a lack of emotional intelligence and control is equal to being less emotional.
I'm a woman with Borderline/ Emotionally Unstable Personality disorder. Men are mostly terrified of me. 😅As a child I was not taught to validate my feelings, think about other people's feelings, regulate my feelings and tolerate discomfort, distress and unpleasantness in healthy functional way. So you can imagine how that played out in my adult relationships. I'm also neurodivergent and a trauma survivor so that added 2 layers of complexity. I've been single for the last nearly 10 years. Men are a walking trigger for me and lack a lot of emotional intelligence whereas every day I have to work on my emotional intelligence and track my mood. Men in relationships feel entitled to so many things that i don't see how they wouldn't act out if i couldn't do something because I'm busy regulating my own emotions. This plays out so much in gender roles that you will see pregnant women and newborn mothers go through so much alone and still carry the burden of the needs and the desires of their male co-parent. I'd rather be alone or a single parent by choice. I can't treat a grown man like a child
@marleyhill34 I'd rather your broken self not date either.
It would be to no one's great benefit to deal with your mess. If men are children, you would be akin to an infant.
So true. People who always say people shouldn’t act out of emotion often do things emotionally but just lie to themselves about it.
Did not know the history behind the term 'Incel'. Very interesting!
My male friend felt like his bi-male friend was more accurate on how women feel when he hits on them than me. It annoyed the shit out of me because most of the time I saw him hitting on girls, talked to the girls and tried to translate why to women might feel uncomfortable. Of course a woman such as myself would never know what a woman thinks 🤣
His bi-male friend has lived away from him for five years in another state and hasn’t seen my friend actually try and hit on women.
I think, in short, that some men just don’t like listening to women even if it helps them as far as personal life is concerned.
I absolutely love your videos. The information, the well thought out arguments, the low-key shade. It's always on point.
This is on par with For Harriet’s content! Just absolutely refreshing and convicting to hear these topics fleshed out. Have to watch again to strengthen my arguments for debate, not for intellectualism’s sake though.
This is why I like your videos...thanks for showing up and showing out once again.
Wow, I was just explaining the sense of entitlement that is so profound. Love this! ❤
I told my ex that he should go to therapy. He said therapy was fine for me because I'm a woman and more emotional. The funny thing is, I'm pretty stoic. But he's had a number of interesting outbursts and was kidnapped as a child. Then he would get drunk and feel sorry for himself.
I informed him if you include anger and depression in the lexicon of emotions, men are pretty emotional. ALL people can be emotional. We broke up after that. I had to block him.
It's required watching and listening every time you upload. Thank you for being a light in these very ghetto times.
Too many gems! Ima have to join the discourse love 💕
Why doesnt anyone ever finish the line in James Brown's song. :Its a man's world but its its nothing without a woman.
To deny someone's feelings is to deny thier humanity.
Thank you for the video and the newely found book recommendations.
Sooo happy to see you back on my screen, you beautiful and intelligent Woman 😍🥰. Thanks for touching on this topic, you nailed it. It's terrifying both IRL and online - even within the so called Black "revolutionary/leftist" spaces such as Black Power Media (BPM) TH-cam channel (it's a recurring theme in Black "leftist" spaces, where their politics don't match their characters/personal values and abuse/violence largely goes unchecked). The amount of rage on that platform (BPM), especially from hosts such as Jared Ball, Diallo et al...it is insane. Do please consider doing a segment on cults/personality cults/demagogues. Do also consider a segment on polarisation and peoples inability to hear difference of opinion or engage in *healthy* debates. The echo chamber are growing by the day and the US vs THEM mentality is metabolising - which explains the BM vs BW vitriol on the net.
You always hit the nail on the head, Ti. 🙌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Men are so emotional - if you elect them, they'll start wars! Oh, wait: they've actually started all of them! Meanwhile, men gotta get with the fact that they've been shortchanged by not being allowed to emote appropriately. PS - I don't mean to bring this to a different level but I love your hair in this!
Bruh queens start just as many wars. The issue is class and motive, not genetics.
Loved this video! I always knew the “women are emotional and do everything with emotions and men are more logical” shit was BS when I started dating. None of these MF make sense! The majority have mommy issues, need a hug and need therapy! A few have been alright tho lol.
I know you dropped all the gems and spoke a word, but the end is hilarious. I never thought it was this bad until I started making TH-cam videos myself 🤦🏾♀🤣
Great discussion👏🏽
I am so glad you came across my feed today.
This was so good. Great content
Thank you so much for this, Ti ❤
This video is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Perfect length, love the resources, and you didn’t have a lot of jargon.
Hair tutorial? Or am I overthinking it 😅 looks great!
I could’ve told you that Ti. Guys and women are hysterical but in different ways for different reasons and different situations.
Just the video I needed
Yes, I feel deeply and I'm proud of that.
Your hair looks great!
Thank you for sharing
An amazing video!
I used to think my ex (20 yrs ago) lived in some bubble that was a warped reflection of the reality I was standing in. Total confusion how that was the reaction he had to “normal”interactions with me or between me and others. I now know it wasn’t my sole experience or perspective of that bubble, now forever deemed “maleosphere”. Thanks for giving voice to that feeling.
"Unhappy people are dangerous." Damn, that's profound, light bulbs are going off.
I'm here for it a video on the relationship between 'late stage capitalism and the heightened tenor of the gender wars'
the atomizing gynecology and torture experiments used on Black Women slaves were developed through the same colonial thinking as the irrational/rational, the natural slave/master, and the inhabitable/habitable.
"a six at best" would actually be a compliment to those of us considered a 4. 🙃
🙌🏾 Speak on it sis! This discussion is so necessary. I just ended a relationship with a man 48 hrs ago due to his irrational feelings of emasculation being projected onto me in the form of anger. I literally left a trip to Six Flags because of a blowout argument! Never again. This video couldn’t have come at a better time. Men nowadays don’t like women they just pretend to and its definitely showing in the dating world.
A toast to your freedom! 🥂
Your points were on point💯💯
❤️👏🏼💯Well said! Excellent video! Shared
Blessings beautiful 🙏🏼🥰😇
so true, and as a man it is absolutely absurd to see how men as a whole are cognitively dissonant on how disgusting incel behavior is the cause for loneliness, or how all the rage that "purely logical and rational" men feel is actually repressed emotion + an emotion in and of itself. i wish i could subscribe 12 times
Girl PREACH!!!!! 🙌
Because there's a Conservative backlash socially, politically and policy.
literally didn't even show up in my subscriptions. at least i got it in my recommended today
A clever, beautiful, wellspoken woman. I love your videos
Im so glad i made it and approaching middle age as they kerp saying that makes me unattractive... i have no interest in being attractive to such people
I am screaming!!!
Love the hairstyle!!!
I heard a lot of m make women in general out to be more emotional but than turn around and run to the noose.
I love every video of yours. The truth never stops on here. Wish you had the time to do more vids, but the need for money is the invisible chain keeping us just out of reach from true freedom and equality.
Godfrey: 👀
ugh I hate him whenever a person does too much pandering they get my side eye. I set my countdown clock when they are going to come anti whatever they are pandering too.
@@confessionsofajadedoptimist Same⏳. Can't imagine where they find the energy🥱🥴