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We Need To Talk
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 19 ส.ค. 2024
Welcome to We Need to Talk with Paul C. Brunson. At it's core, this podcast is about one thing: improving your relationships. Every week, I’ll be having conversations that bring together practical experiences and theoretical insights to help you understand and strengthen the relationships that matter most-whether they’re personal, professional, or even the one you have with yourself. Hit the subscribe button to make sure you never miss a moment!
The Sex Doctor: WOMEN'S ORGASMS - What You Didn't Know! Dr. Karen Gurney
Paul sits down with Dr. Karen Gurney, a renowned psychologist and sex expert, to explore the topic of intimate relationships and sexual satisfaction.
From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.
Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.
Follow Dr Karen Here:
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Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb
Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb
Follow us here:
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www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod
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00:00 Introduction
1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life
1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?
3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know
5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?
7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?
10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference
15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios
18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations
21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters
28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?
31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size
34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?
36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?
37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?
41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?
45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond
47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad
48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad
49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?
52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships
1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship
1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting
1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life
1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?
1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?
1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life
1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships
1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?
1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship
1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important
1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?
1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex
1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex
1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad
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From demystifying the concept of being "good in bed" to unpacking the historical biases shaping our perceptions of sex, Dr Karen provides a refreshing perspective that prioritises emotional connection and individual fulfilment.
Join us as we tackle key topics such as the orgasm gap, the complexities of sexual compatibility, and the impact of cultural myths on our intimate lives.Dr. Gurney offers practical advice for fostering meaningful conversations about sex, building trust, and embracing the full spectrum of pleasure. Whether you're navigating a long-term relationship or exploring casual connections, this episode is a thought-provoking guide to cultivating a healthier, more fulfilling sex life.
Follow Dr Karen Here:
Instagram - g2ul0.app.link/MU8rewKCxOb
Karen's Book 'Mind The Gap' g2ul0.app.link/4i3z7QkDxOb
Karen's Book 'How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life' g2ul0.app.link/YjgD9soDxOb
Follow us here:
needtotalk
www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod
--
00:00 Introduction
1:16 How External Influences Impact Your Sex Life
1:52 What Is Sex And Why Does It Matter?
3:07 The Essential Rules Of Sex Everyone Should Know
5:49 Understanding The Sexual Scale: Where Do You Fit?
7:42 The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: Does It Exist?
10:14 Good Sex Vs Bad Sex: How To Tell The Difference
15:37 Rating Sexual Pleasure In Different Scenarios
18:08 The Truth About Orgasms And Society's Expectations
21:06 What Is The Orgasm Gap And Why It Matters
28:17 Does Penis Size Actually Matter?
31:47 Why Society Is Obsessed With Penis Size
34:02 The G-Spot: Myth Or Reality?
36:22 Are Fetishes Becoming More Common?
37:33 Is Pornography Helpful Or Harmful In Today's World?
41:27 Sex Today Vs Past Generations: What’s Changed?
45:11 The Future Of Sex: Robots, AI, And Beyond
47:23 Huel Sponsorship Ad
48:25 Fiverr Sponsorship Ad
49:35 What Is The Kinsey Scale And Why Does It Matter?
52:22 Sexual Currency Explained: Why It's Crucial In Relationships
1:00:40 How To Build Sexual Currency In Your Relationship
1:02:41 How To Make An Invitation For Sex More Inviting
1:04:16 How Sleep Impacts Your Sex Life
1:05:10 How Often Should You Be Having Sex?
1:09:16 How Long Should Sex Last For Maximum Pleasure?
1:15:08 How Conscientiousness Influences Your Sex Life
1:19:20 What Is Self-Expansion And How It Improves Relationships
1:22:44 When Is Lack Of Sex A Valid Reason To Leave A Relationship?
1:27:37 How A Strong Sexual Connection Benefits Your Relationship
1:29:40 Why Understanding Sexual Anatomy Is So Important
1:34:28 Can Having Sex Make Someone More Physically Attractive To You?
1:37:53 The Most Memorable Conversation About Sex
1:41:58 Key Takeaways From This Discussion On Sex
1:43:55 Tinder Sponsorship Ad
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Sponsored by:
Huel: huel.com/paul use code PAUL
Fiverr: fvrr.co/paul
Tinder: tinder.com/en-GB
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Gosh I relate so much when she said she has no one, no friends and is so lonely and doesn’t know why… I am experiencing the exact same thing!! 😢
I went to the same secondary school as Maura. To say it was behind the times is an understatement. Good girl Maura, you're mighty ❤❤❤
You didn't do anything wrong! You should be able to fall asleep in a taxi without being assulted. You should be able to drink without being assaulted. You should be able to wear a skirt without being assaulted. The person shouldn't have assaulted you. It's their fault.
Loved this entire interview. They are so geniune and authentic. Amazing how they worked through long distance relationships especially at a time when social media connections gives options not within your immediate vacinity. Requires special attention and consideration for each other. They mention very important ingredients needed for a strong foundation in a relationship. ❤
Some people are naturally good, that's a fact. Saying it's not a skill is wild. Not everyone has Rhythm ...for example. And I can tell you now, after having multiple conversations with my partner over what I needed/how to ect he still just never got it.
You guys are amazing. I’ve never watched a podcast with so much values. Thanks for being so emotionally intelligent 💙
Unfortunately she doesn’t notice her own contradictions. Not really smart, not very emotional, not very funny. Typical muslim woman. Sex makes up only a small percentage of the time spent together, even if that part should be great in a partnership. However the rest of the connection is responsible for a lasting quality in that sector. Single men who watch naked women are not sick, they are just trying to get some pleasure. Well, she got the Allah education. 🙄
How amazing was this! Completed eye opening but also confirming for what I thought deep down but have ignored! Karen your amazing!! Thanks Paul your pulling in the best guests and also confirming how amazing you are at your job ❤
Interesting content and this content lost me when she says penis size doesn't matter. It's not true, sure people can get pleasure from other ways and the size still impacts so much of how sex is experienced on multiple levels. Invalidation of people's experiences creates a lack of credibility , space to have an honest dialogue about this and a disservice to actually acknowledging the impact of it. Penis size does affect how pleasurable penetrative and oral sex is, whether or causes pain or pleasure, because it can do both. And honestly, if a man is in the smaller or larger size it's workable and the reality is that penetrative sex is not as much fun, and doesn't feel as good often as there's more effort and focus on achieving pleasure or avoiding pain. It then causes you also to have a harder time being fully engaged in the moment.. the truth is both length and girth affect things as well as the size and anatomy of the vagina can, if it's heterosexual sex and if there's a mismatch.. I'm sure that in a same sex situation people would have a similar experience
He said a shitty thing, and ahe pulled him up. Albeit loudly. Loved it, he was being a prick
Laura would be a very loyal partner. However, she is so sassy men take this to mean she she can't be trusted. Men fall for the demure clingy type who act as if they wouldn't be able to survive without a man. These ones would be the first to find a replacement in order to pamper and provide for them.
This.
Thank you both for this super insightful conversation 🙏👍🙌
Maura was lucky to have a good relationship with her mother. I believe that is the important key ❤️🩹 I didn't have that 🙏
This is hard to believe about early school days, especially in this day. I don't disbelieve her, please understand. 🙏
It's so sad that I as a young women didn't have the intervention from a third party. ❤️🩹
I haven’t experienced my happiest moments yet 👏👏👏
One thing that she is not mentioning or teaching is how women should be experiencing vaginal orgasms and cervix orgasms, the most powerful orgasms that exist. She is talking from a very low standard point of view not encouraging women to discover their magic within. Nobody taught us to do this. The orgasm from the putside part of the clitoris is the less pleasurable type of orgasm a woman can have! The mystical and powerful, transformational orgasms in women happen inside of the vagina in the cervix. Mystical experiences that will trigger a bunch of superpowers in women such as high intuition, confidence, etc. We need to stop telling men and women that the tip of the clitoris is the pleasure point because it is just a nerve ending point of everything that goes on inside the vagina and in the entrace of the womb itself. Please let's educate ourselves properly and start raising standards.
I’m demisexual
39:00 this right here
Am so sorry am i the only one that thinks paul is pure sexy❤
Paul 😊 you really know how to pick the right people for us to learn from. This podcast is my weekly open university session❤ I gain sooo much insight from your interviewees, she knows her stuff I was nodding all the way through. Solid subscriber from Ep 1. Amazing job🎉
Maura was my favourite love islander of all time. Just absolutely un apologetically herself. I love it
Thanks!
TTT
This was so lovely ❤❤
My appeal to every Muslim, my brother or sister, the owner of the channel, I know that it is not my right to comment on your channel, but God is my witness that our circumstances are harsh and forced me to do this. Please forgive me. My brother, there is still a brotherhood of faith. I asked you for a bag of flour. My brother, we women cannot go out among men. There is still a woman with you. My brother, God has honored you. You are men. We are women. We cannot go out or work like you. My brother, where is the brotherhood of faith in your hearts? We are women. There is no brotherhood, no mercy, no compassion, no humanity. And give good tidings to the patient. It is the greatest hope while waiting for what we want. '''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' How many times I called and talked and tried hard, but no one responded. Oh man, we are with you. My mother ordered us food from the restaurant. More and today. My mother left. Crying. She said, Why are you crying, my mother? She said, My daughter, I ask. God, that I may be honored by death. She said, Why, my mother. She cursed us. She said, "My daughter, today the restaurant owner insulted me. I said, 'Why?' I said, 'How can I be better than people?' I askGod, my daughter. May God gather me. With death alone, a gathering that is better than this humiliation and this humiliation. It is true. I am saying this. It diminishes my value and respect. But, man. I swear to God that I did not say this. I kiss your boots. I am so hungry that my conscience no longer allows me to let you go and ask us for food. I kiss your boots, man, and I ask you by God Almighty and in the Book of God, man, I kiss your boots, man. He has caused us harm, my brother, so that we can buy a kilo of flour and pay the rent. My brother, have mercy on us. He who is in the show will have mercy on you, He who is in the sky. My brother, this is my WhatsApp number: 00967779509554. Whoever can help us, message me on WhatsApp. We will send him the full name. He will transfer us as much as he can. May Allah reward you. Allah knows that my family and I, our house rent is 15 thousand Yemeni riyals per month, and now we owe 45 thousand for 3 months. The owner of the house is one of those people who do not have mercy. By Allah, my brother, he comes every day and humiliates us and talks about us and wants to throw us out of the house and into the street because we were unable to pay him the rent. We will have until the end of the week, and if we pay him, he will swear by Allah that he will throw us out into the street without mercy. See my situation for yourselves. I ask you by Allah, the Living, the Eternal, to help me. By Allah, the Almighty, even at night we cannot sleep from fear. We do not have mattresses or blankets to warm ourselves from the cold. Everything is flooded from the rain, and we have no one but Allah and then you. My brothers, I kiss your boots, don’t turn me away empty-handed. Help us with whatever you can. Is it acceptable to you that we live in this place? We are girls and we have no one. Our father died in a car accident. Consider us your daughters and your honor, and help me with whatever you can. May God reward you with good =>[[}>] ^][/&;;&;&&;•̥·-•.,¸-•.,¸°·̮ •̥·°,.•¯,.•¯,;;;.≪∫⌈,.≪∫⌈,.≪∫⌈,.≪∫⌈,.≪∫⌈,.------------------------------،-------،---------،;&&;----------،💔😢..............
Wow. Brilliant, insightful, intelligent, impactful.
Extremely interesting this interview ❤❤❤
This was so refreshing to watch. The way Paul converses and Maura’s we’ll spoken story. I even cried listening to the part on losing friends, as I’ve recently lost my brother x
Maura has the bravery that is like a breath of fresh air. Great episode
My data well used❤❤❤❤
Dearest Lauren, what an insightful interview with kind Paul. I'm so sorry for the very hard road you have travelled but please recognise your strengths and how far you have come. You are a lovely, kind lady and please do not lose sight of this. You are still a young lady and you have a lot of life ahead of you and, given the road you are now on, I believe good things are in your future, with the right mindset and support. I wish you all the luck, happiness and love of yourself first. Believe in yourself. Onward and upward, Lauren. Take good care of yourself and I hope Paul stays in your life, guiding you and being a solid friend to you. One of my favourite sayings is, Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes. Please think about this. I'm sending oodles of kindness your way 🥰xxx
Another amazing episode!! Happy to be part of the subscribed %! My new YT home 😁😁
Thank you so much 🫶🏾
This was so good to watch. That’s a solid couple right there❤
I had no idea I am demisexual
Eye opening, heart opening, inspiring! Inspiring to be a vulnerable, honest person and continue growing consciousness and continue the never ending path of growth. I have the strong desire to watch this conversation again with my partner and start our own repeated conversations on the overarching topics of our lives. Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️
I like your energy Paul. Looking forward to this one.
Why am i getting tearing here 19:47
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Just discovered this podcast due to seeing Gabor Matè as your guest. You’re an amazing interviewer, Paul. Possibly the most calming, natural and captivating conversation with Dr Matè that I’ve watched to date. I subscribed 20 minutes in. Love from Scotland 🏴💚
Your questions are so realistic. I love how clear and raw these videos are.
Doctot i feel so ashamed asking but i need an answer .. im doing syntribation and i feel so ashamed the amout of pressure im doing im feeling pain a lot sometimes bc of the pressure i use and now im scared ill have a hernia bc of the pressure im using .. im still a virgin and staying till i get married i had a hernia before in the two sides when i was 6 now im 15 please help im so scared
Peter Gabriel 🤣
Get outta here, Peter Gabriel! 😂
Shout out to South Africa 😊 I am in SA
So so sad and hard to hear her blaming herself saying things like if id gone in into hospital it wouldnt have happened. Know that its noones fault and you did everything you could in the moment. ❤❤
I follow both of them and literally so incredibly happy for them both. Two beautiful, bright, humans blessing others with their love and how they honor themselves and each other❤❤❤
I really love this conversation! Busting myths and replacing them. It’s such a positive, open discussion. Thank you 🙏🏾 😊
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Alot of men dont care for a womans orgasm! Their orgasm is physical so for a woman its like a job to get him there so he can ejaculate. Ive not been with many men and none of them were keen to know if id orgasm'd or went out of their way to give time to make that happen.
Same