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You were absolutely amazing, I must say, and you were definitely a spokeswoman for me!!! And I’m sure many other women out there, it was like you were speaking from my mind… thank you can we get a part 2??
I love Sadia, she makes me feel so seen as a woman, she's so relatable and has a voice and opinion that needs to be heard. Thank you for having her on❤ great talk 🎉
I absolutely love Sadia . The reason I love Sadie is because the importance of values , morals , behaviours and respect she echos which I feel is lacking in today’s Society. I’ve worked in salons for 22 years and I have seen the change in dating scene with my clients . what’s now classed as normal frightens me for my son future. I sound like I’m from the 1920s when I have young people in my salon . To hear Sadia speak so beautifully about the importance of respect, boundaries, self esteem, morals is just music to my ears. A great episode Thankyou so much to you both. Xxx
13:20 minutes into the interview and hands down this the best Sadia Khan interview I've ever seen i mean the questions the analysis the push back , communication 10/10 you can tell The interviewer is *listening* and activity questioning on not only the behalf of the viewers but also the himself Job well done Fam nice interview applaudin .Love the work
Paul these interviews are getting better and better I must say, and I agreed with every word she said, she was spot on definitely a great spokeswoman for myself and probably many out there… I’m 100 percent sure..can we get a part 2???
This was great conversation. Usually men try to be in competition with Ms. Sadia or over talk her. This is one of the best interviews of her I've seen. When Sadia said look at the relationship between a man and his father, I thought well damn black men don't be having fathers... From this statement I'm guessing that's why there is so many problems in relationship with them.
Riveting and bold conversation! "Marriage IS an emotional prison.. it is an institution" Glad to hear her bravely say this. People (both women and men) don't want to admit this and think they can still remain free and do what they want if they decide to get married. Zero sum. Indeed, it is just not for everyone, and that's ok.
I have watched MANY of Sadias interviews… and as much as they have been very good and I enjoy them; the content and the thought provoking questions on this interview has been for me one of the Top interviews so far.. fully enjoyed every minute of the interaction between you both.
I don't even know how to praise Sadia anymore lol. And I'm sure I'm not the only one with that dilemma! I'll just say that I appreciate that the questions in this interview were different and probing enough that we heard some new gems from her.
I loved this. Last couple of years of messaging around relationships especially all that red pill stuff has been so depressing but listening to Sadia today has made me feel so positive and excited about the future. This should be taught in schools.
Love that you are sharing a Muslim perspective ❤ She is so beautiful, wholesome, and classy. I am American and reverted to Islam in my mid-20s. I have a gorgeous, kind, hard-working husband (he was raised Muslim). I used to be a typical American girl although towards the intellectual, conservative side.. now I am very traditional and it shocks me what people think/say is morally neutral/okay or even remotely responsible. There is so much darkness in this world and people are so lost.. meaning that some of them believe this world is all there is and chasing distractions, evil, sin (haram). I used to be on that side of life. I can't even describe how much better it is over here, in the light of Allah and with my faith to guide me. I absolutely know Allah brought me my partner/soul mate. I started to truly believe in fate the day I met him. Something shifted, my soul came alive. He introduced me to my faith and we built a life together that is beyond my wildest dreams.. it is a simple life and so so sweet and beautiful❤Alhamdullilah❤
Paul, i must commend the way you conducted the podcast with our beloved sister Sadia, May Allah bless her good soul. Thank you for doing it so respectfully, smoothly, so organically, yet engaging, felt there was no fluff, more meat more meaningingful thoughts exchanged n your mindfulness n presence during interview can be seen towards the end when you complimented saadia n felt her emotional tears N u were able to DETECT that moment as-well (i too detected it on saadia's face) i was like woa.. this is not just scrripted stuff this is what i call presence n mindfulness. I am similar i detect n am mindful of slightest details being a HSP (highly sensative personality). Great job Paul, hope your podcast shoots off, i like how you pause briefly to explain the msg guest is trying to give n your take on it.. Brilliant work, unique and something otherr's can learn from. A very thoughtful engagement.. indeed. Felt my 1.5 hours spent well. My take was, we are humans, we need connection morre than superficial crush on the physical..that superficial thing is for young teens, when we are grown responsible adults, we need to look for a partner who is willing to invest their life as a team partner. Many times Sadia rightly pointed out, hey why get married? why tie yourself for this.. n not the real purpose of marriage was defined being, hey its a corporation, you going to have to compromise n lose some battles, this is part of marriage institution, otherwise WHY marry. That was key take-away for me. Marriage what it means, not many go into relationship with that mindset. They go for good times only, failing to recognize that hey, there will be some times you will need to take L's in relationship, which is rreasonable in cooperative relationship, tall order for growing narcistic world we live in.
Amazing interview. Very insightful conversation and what a guest to have on. Love the way she also asks questions back. Completely captivated from the get go and could have even watched/listened for longer!
I have watched Sadia being interviewed on other channels and she definitely had her own perspective, which i thoroughly enjoy listening to. She's brilliant, diversified and stunningly beautiful. Excellent interview !
Sadia is truly insightful. Thank you for interviewing her - as one who works with our military and veteran families, I've recommended her often! And your interview style is very refreshing!! I love how you go deeper on the conversations - especially the masculinity vs femininity and break down in the relationships and dating scenes today. Men need to watch this...and so do women. Especially our young men and women so they know how to prepare for a healthy relationship.
Omg Paul and Saida are amazing !!! I love how Paul listened to Saida without interrupting and how respectfully he raised his disagreement. Loved loved loved it!!!!!!!!!!
I’m glad to see you working with Sadia Khan. The African American culture truly and honestly needs more people like Sadia Khan’s wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. She has the full support of the Black culture in America
Sadia is so insightful ! I love how she says things that are never vocalized amongst female friendships especially being attractive. This channel is so refreshing & im so excited to see what’s next!!! Love from Canada 🎉
love this. I appreciate her and her voice so much. I have been pondering showing up on the socials and in life with my voice, thoughts, ideas and beliefs a lot more. I am truly looking forward to this for myself. Thanks Sadia, for pointing out that a lot of women on the socials aren't showing up enough with their voices. You've lit a fire under my ass.
It's always a pleasure to listen to you Sadia, you're so knowledgeable and reply to questions instantly and that shows how much experience you have. Beautiful and smart. Thank you for your teachings
That last part wow..😮sooo true! "A man through the lens of his mom.."if he had no access to his father he’s going to replicate what his mother taught him…"wow! Makes a lot of sense..curious if these type of men are referred to as mama’s boy even in their mid 30’s🤔 interesting
I really love that you have experts on. I enjoy MAFS, but my favourite part is watching the way you and the experts analyse the relationships and the advice you all give. I like the mix of celebrities and experts on a podcast for that reason, as I feel I can learn from the podcast but also be entertained 😊
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I find she just say things that people want to hear. She always contradicts herself to please her viewers. She just says a few points and states the obvious most of the time.
Such a great interview. I admire how fearless Sadia is in giving her opinion despite it going against what so many in today’s society think. That being said so many of us agree with her on most topics.
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
What a brilliant conversation, love Sadia, she's so charismatic, always a great guest and you really made this conversation a brilliant one, Paul , thank you very much indeed 👍👍
It's great he explains the points that can be difficult to comprehend for a layman (not a psychology student or professional), especially about the narcissism part. So many unaware people accuse sadia of considering most people as clinical narcissists when she's just talking about it as trait that exists on a continuum (can be healthy on one end yet toxic on the other) edit it doesn't always mean NPD
For me, I went into the same mindset as my mother as she was when she was my age because her dating advice resignated with me. Mom did say before she gave her advice out, which was she'd be around lads, hanging around with the guys and listening to them talk, especially about women they'd slept with and how they spoke about them afterwards and some of the comments were cruel and degrading so in that moment my Mom said to herself (which she later told me) I never wanted a lad or a guy to talk about me like that and that she much wanted their respect. So, like my Mother a lot of boys I went to school with held me in high regard and I never minded that but when every guy was more like a friend to me I'd be going away somewhere privately upset thinking why wouldn't anyone want to date, or go out with me? That was my struggle. Perhaps I had too much respect from the boys I went to school with because when my love/dating life took off, it was really after school. I did understand that I had some boys who liked me at school, and I was like, great, someone I like likes me back, but unfortunately, it never progressed further and I never understood why so it got rather frustrating and hurtful
This was a great episode! One that was very captivating and full of insights ! Thanks for sharing such great knowledge you two are an impressive duo!! 🎉
As a Caribbean woman, I didn't think the comment was that deep. I actually found it funny and most certainly not a micro aggression. However, I appreciate that all that matters is how the interviewer felt.
My husband has the ability to protect and provide, but it didn't stop me at the beginning trying to take care of all his needs like a child. He'd laugh and say I am like a child, my interests are playing games like World of Warcraft, Zelda and Resident Evil, and I'd be doing the cooking and cleaning. I didn't mind doing it but in my head I was babying him I wasn't allowing him to reach his full potential maybe it was because I've a nurturing side and all I've ever wanted for a very long time is a baby I maybe, possibility projected it on to do all these things for him. Then, when of course he developed anxiety it was the most heartbreaking time of my life, I have had to pick that man up off the floor more than once, try and take care of him, I would go to my Nans and cry about it there to her. He stopped eating. Of course, I remained positive and made him sandwiches for work, ham with lettuce and cucumber, and mayonnaise anything that was filling enough, and it would frustrate me when he'd come home with it untouched or when he said hed given it to a mate at work. I bought porkpies anything that I knew he loved but it was only when I broke down (this is what he said to me was his tipping point) when I got emotionally upset at him and started crying did he realise he had to do something. I think he saw it before like he was only hurting himself but when he saw how it affected me and then he made changes in the right direction. That anxiety, has stayed with him, he's on anxiety tablets, and even now, he'll say things that initially when he started first saying them would really upset me. I don't really want to get into them but hearing your husband wants to drive into oncoming traffic and he doesn't care whether he lives or dies is some very deep stuff that upsetting as his wife to hear. When I tell him I love him, he'll say at least you do. At least somebody does, and I've been through all the bad days. When his friend at work took his life, I used the night times to cry because I didn't think I should be crying in front of him. One time, he caught me by surprise, and I didn't get a handle of my emotions, and I cried. So, in terms of looking after someone with anxiety and being a carer, a nurturer - a provider... I have had to step up to be in my masculine energy to do the looking after. At times, I've felt if I don't do this, he's going to sink and I remember saying to him you need to save yourself, because I've been down that rabbit hole of despair, anxiousness and dread in my teenage early twenties and it took me every scrap of energy to come out of it emotionally and mentally. So, I looked for mantras for him to keep saying to himself before work, knowing he's not going to believe them at first but through the act of repetition hopefully he'd start to believe them but it was always me doing that for a long time. My husband has the majority of his head in gear and is doing a lot of things for himself, getting more positive and not letting things affect him. He's always protective of me. He can more than provide but by telling him he is less than a man in any way would really escalate his anxiety, make it drastically worse, and affect the way he sees me so I'd never do that. The balance of who's masculine energy is being stepped into goes from one person to the other, and the majority of the time, there's a perfect balance. Sex increases because who has the drive for it when they are highly anxious and rely on anxiety medications? Not mayself or my husband has gone out and tried to fulfil any desire like that with any other person. I prefer to fix problems talk about how to move forward and he does the same with me.
This was very moving the read, more power to your husband. Life tests us, and it's through these tests that we find out what we are capable of and who we truly are, and you sound like a very resilient and loving person
I really don’t agree with Sadia about women narcissism . Women come into relationships to take ?? Men don’t come into relationships to take ? Those energies vampires ..? Women just tried to get something from those people from years of being USED 🙄
Ok sadia valid points but so many generalizations - you do not speak on behalf of All men and All women . To imply as women we side with the least attractive women is ludicrous . Please stop saying silly things
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This conversation is so mentally stimulating and interesting... thoroughly enjoyed it. Well done 👏🏾
Thank you so much for having me ❤❤
You were absolutely amazing, I must say, and you were definitely a spokeswoman for me!!! And I’m sure many other women out there, it was like you were speaking from my mind… thank you can we get a part 2??
P.s your soooo stunning❤❤❤❤
Nasty piece of work fake therapist 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 FRAUD!
@@SoniaKamara-bw9rystop telling her she’s up her own ass
love your old fashioned values
I love Sadia, she makes me feel so seen as a woman, she's so relatable and has a voice and opinion that needs to be heard. Thank you for having her on❤ great talk 🎉
Love seeing a fellow South Asian sister being successful whilst being classy and so intelligent! Definitely makes me proud of being Pakistani!
Sadia is a breath of fresh air in this instant gratification world. Thanks for having her!
I absolutely love Sadia . The reason I love Sadie is because the importance of values , morals , behaviours and respect she echos which I feel is lacking in today’s Society.
I’ve worked in salons for 22 years and I have seen the change in dating scene with my clients . what’s now classed as normal frightens me for my son future.
I sound like I’m from the 1920s when I have young people in my salon . To hear Sadia speak so beautifully about the importance of respect, boundaries, self esteem, morals is just music to my ears.
A great episode Thankyou so much to you both. Xxx
13:20 minutes into the interview and hands down this the best Sadia Khan interview I've ever seen i mean the questions the analysis the push back , communication 10/10 you can tell The interviewer is *listening* and activity questioning on not only the behalf of the viewers but also the himself
Job well done Fam nice interview applaudin .Love the work
Paul these interviews are getting better and better I must say, and I agreed with every word she said, she was spot on definitely a great spokeswoman for myself and probably many out there… I’m 100 percent sure..can we get a part 2???
This was great conversation. Usually men try to be in competition with Ms. Sadia or over talk her. This is one of the best interviews of her I've seen. When Sadia said look at the relationship between a man and his father, I thought well damn black men don't be having fathers... From this statement I'm guessing that's why there is so many problems in relationship with them.
Best two people to come together for an interview ❤ loved it ❤
Riveting and bold conversation! "Marriage IS an emotional prison.. it is an institution" Glad to hear her bravely say this. People (both women and men) don't want to admit this and think they can still remain free and do what they want if they decide to get married. Zero sum. Indeed, it is just not for everyone, and that's ok.
I have watched MANY of Sadias interviews… and as much as they have been very good and I enjoy them; the content and the thought provoking questions on this interview has been for me one of the Top interviews so far.. fully enjoyed every minute of the interaction between you both.
I don't even know how to praise Sadia anymore lol. And I'm sure I'm not the only one with that dilemma! I'll just say that I appreciate that the questions in this interview were different and probing enough that we heard some new gems from her.
Sadie is AWESOME! Can’t get enough of her wisdom.
I loved this. Last couple of years of messaging around relationships especially all that red pill stuff has been so depressing but listening to Sadia today has made me feel so positive and excited about the future. This should be taught in schools.
Love that you are sharing a Muslim perspective ❤ She is so beautiful, wholesome, and classy. I am American and reverted to Islam in my mid-20s. I have a gorgeous, kind, hard-working husband (he was raised Muslim). I used to be a typical American girl although towards the intellectual, conservative side.. now I am very traditional and it shocks me what people think/say is morally neutral/okay or even remotely responsible. There is so much darkness in this world and people are so lost.. meaning that some of them believe this world is all there is and chasing distractions, evil, sin (haram). I used to be on that side of life. I can't even describe how much better it is over here, in the light of Allah and with my faith to guide me. I absolutely know Allah brought me my partner/soul mate. I started to truly believe in fate the day I met him. Something shifted, my soul came alive. He introduced me to my faith and we built a life together that is beyond my wildest dreams.. it is a simple life and so so sweet and beautiful❤Alhamdullilah❤
Paul, i must commend the way you conducted the podcast with our beloved sister Sadia, May Allah bless her good soul. Thank you for doing it so respectfully, smoothly, so organically, yet engaging, felt there was no fluff, more meat more meaningingful thoughts exchanged n your mindfulness n presence during interview can be seen towards the end when you complimented saadia n felt her emotional tears N u were able to DETECT that moment as-well (i too detected it on saadia's face) i was like woa.. this is not just scrripted stuff this is what i call presence n mindfulness. I am similar i detect n am mindful of slightest details being a HSP (highly sensative personality).
Great job Paul, hope your podcast shoots off, i like how you pause briefly to explain the msg guest is trying to give n your take on it.. Brilliant work, unique and something otherr's can learn from.
A very thoughtful engagement.. indeed. Felt my 1.5 hours spent well. My take was, we are humans, we need connection morre than superficial crush on the physical..that superficial thing is for young teens, when we are grown responsible adults, we need to look for a partner who is willing to invest their life as a team partner. Many times Sadia rightly pointed out, hey why get married? why tie yourself for this.. n not the real purpose of marriage was defined being, hey its a corporation, you going to have to compromise n lose some battles, this is part of marriage institution, otherwise WHY marry. That was key take-away for me. Marriage what it means, not many go into relationship with that mindset. They go for good times only, failing to recognize that hey, there will be some times you will need to take L's in relationship, which is rreasonable in cooperative relationship, tall order for growing narcistic world we live in.
Great interview guys... Some very important gems were dropped here! I appreciate you both
Amazing interview. Very insightful conversation and what a guest to have on. Love the way she also asks questions back. Completely captivated from the get go and could have even watched/listened for longer!
This was a very interesting and thought provoking conversation! My favourite episode so far! X
I have watched Sadia being interviewed on other channels and she definitely had her own perspective, which i thoroughly enjoy listening to. She's brilliant, diversified and stunningly beautiful.
Excellent interview !
Sadia is truly insightful. Thank you for interviewing her - as one who works with our military and veteran families, I've recommended her often! And your interview style is very refreshing!! I love how you go deeper on the conversations - especially the masculinity vs femininity and break down in the relationships and dating scenes today. Men need to watch this...and so do women. Especially our young men and women so they know how to prepare for a healthy relationship.
I listened to it all already! Wil listen to it again and again!!!
Omg Paul and Saida are amazing !!! I love how Paul listened to Saida without interrupting and how respectfully he raised his disagreement. Loved loved loved it!!!!!!!!!!
I’m glad to see you working with Sadia Khan. The African American culture truly and honestly needs more people like Sadia Khan’s wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. She has the full support of the Black culture in America
Sadia is so insightful ! I love how she says things that are never vocalized amongst female friendships especially being attractive. This channel is so refreshing & im so excited to see what’s next!!! Love from Canada 🎉
What an iconic duo! Loved this convo!!
Even though Sadia told me to go back to my home country, I appreciate her open perspectives 😂
love this. I appreciate her and her voice so much. I have been pondering showing up on the socials and in life with my voice, thoughts, ideas and beliefs a lot more. I am truly looking forward to this for myself. Thanks Sadia, for pointing out that a lot of women on the socials aren't showing up enough with their voices. You've lit a fire under my ass.
I'm only 10 minutes in and this interview is amazing!
It's always a pleasure to listen to you Sadia, you're so knowledgeable and reply to questions instantly and that shows how much experience you have. Beautiful and smart. Thank you for your teachings
I really enjoyed this interview. A breath of fresh air.
That last part wow..😮sooo true! "A man through the lens of his mom.."if he had no access to his father he’s going to replicate what his mother taught him…"wow! Makes a lot of sense..curious if these type of men are referred to as mama’s boy even in their mid 30’s🤔 interesting
I really love that you have experts on. I enjoy MAFS, but my favourite part is watching the way you and the experts analyse the relationships and the advice you all give. I like the mix of celebrities and experts on a podcast for that reason, as I feel I can learn from the podcast but also be entertained 😊
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Amazing conversation. Thanks for the enlightenment
Love her self awarness ..beautiful women❤
Love this insightful interview. Seeing things from a different perspective and culture is very eye opening and valuable.
Can’t wait for this!
I find she just say things that people want to hear. She always contradicts herself to please her viewers. She just says a few points and states the obvious most of the time.
Such a great interview. I admire how fearless Sadia is in giving her opinion despite it going against what so many in today’s society think. That being said so many of us agree with her on most topics.
Great conversation - my two favourite people in the industry
Wow, what a beautifully articulate conversation, Especially about the race/colonialism topic. Very raw and honest conversation. New subbie for sure ❤
I enjoyed this interview and I’m a fan of Sadia’s. She’s very beautiful and smart! Wishing you both the best of luck in your endeavors 😊
She looks better here without the filters. Has a cute full face instead of the silly v-shaped jawline that the filter gives her
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Best video I’ve listened to, thank you both 🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I’ve been waiting all week for another ep!
Hi there 😊 thanks for the video! Here to listen to Sadia's wisdom ❤
What a brilliant conversation, love Sadia, she's so charismatic, always a great guest and you really made this conversation a brilliant one, Paul , thank you very much indeed 👍👍
I love Sadia's laugh.
It’s typical mirpuri ghetto type laugh!!
Sigh, Sadia has such gorg long hair! Hope she shares some tips too
Omg she’s so right in everything she says. At least I feel so.
Hands down, best interview I’ve seen with her. Thank you so much!
this conversation was suuuuuper insightful wow wow wow
Such an interesting conversation! 👏
I loved every minute of these 2, we need a part 2 pleassse
Love them both
And Sadia is a truly incredible woman, I get her message 💯
Great guest and episode!
Really enjoyed listening ❤
It's great he explains the points that can be difficult to comprehend for a layman (not a psychology student or professional), especially about the narcissism part. So many unaware people accuse sadia of considering most people as clinical narcissists when she's just talking about it as trait that exists on a continuum (can be healthy on one end yet toxic on the other)
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it doesn't always mean NPD
Sadie is right and this guy is weird he doesn’t say these lifestyles are weird
I appreciate this discussion
This was such a good episode! I learnt so much and was very eye opening. Sadia is such a cool person! And "hyper" attractive 😍
This video was fantastic ❤
Love her!!! She’s so enlightening.
She said good women need to be warmed up , Good women don’t need to be warmed up , if you are that dude she’ll be warm already ♾️ cycle of life
For me, I went into the same mindset as my mother as she was when she was my age because her dating advice resignated with me. Mom did say before she gave her advice out, which was she'd be around lads, hanging around with the guys and listening to them talk, especially about women they'd slept with and how they spoke about them afterwards and some of the comments were cruel and degrading so in that moment my Mom said to herself (which she later told me) I never wanted a lad or a guy to talk about me like that and that she much wanted their respect. So, like my Mother a lot of boys I went to school with held me in high regard and I never minded that but when every guy was more like a friend to me I'd be going away somewhere privately upset thinking why wouldn't anyone want to date, or go out with me?
That was my struggle. Perhaps I had too much respect from the boys I went to school with because when my love/dating life took off, it was really after school. I did understand that I had some boys who liked me at school, and I was like, great, someone I like likes me back, but unfortunately, it never progressed further and I never understood why so it got rather frustrating and hurtful
This was a great episode! One that was very captivating and full of insights ! Thanks for sharing such great knowledge you two are an impressive duo!! 🎉
A fantastic interview, Sadia is such a gem. So much interesting content and made me reflect on all my past and recent relationships.
great talk 😊😊😊
This one blew my mind
We want Sadia again ❣️❣️
Brilliant.interview
Fantastic!!!!!
Absolutely loved the episode!!!! I couldn't expect less from two physiologist I just adore ❤❤❤
How confidently she riffs on things like the culture of dating way before she was even born. Sounds like she doesn’t have any women friends either.
I love you both ❤ so insightful
I know he awkwardly laughed it off but what Sadia said around the 15 min mark was inappropriate.. very much racial micro aggressions
As a Caribbean woman, I didn't think the comment was that deep. I actually found it funny and most certainly not a micro aggression. However, I appreciate that all that matters is how the interviewer felt.
I totally agree
@@shieldoffaith7099Exactly
My husband has the ability to protect and provide, but it didn't stop me at the beginning trying to take care of all his needs like a child. He'd laugh and say I am like a child, my interests are playing games like World of Warcraft, Zelda and Resident Evil, and I'd be doing the cooking and cleaning. I didn't mind doing it but in my head I was babying him I wasn't allowing him to reach his full potential maybe it was because I've a nurturing side and all I've ever wanted for a very long time is a baby I maybe, possibility projected it on to do all these things for him.
Then, when of course he developed anxiety it was the most heartbreaking time of my life, I have had to pick that man up off the floor more than once, try and take care of him, I would go to my Nans and cry about it there to her. He stopped eating. Of course, I remained positive and made him sandwiches for work, ham with lettuce and cucumber, and mayonnaise anything that was filling enough, and it would frustrate me when he'd come home with it untouched or when he said hed given it to a mate at work. I bought porkpies anything that I knew he loved but it was only when I broke down (this is what he said to me was his tipping point) when I got emotionally upset at him and started crying did he realise he had to do something. I think he saw it before like he was only hurting himself but when he saw how it affected me and then he made changes in the right direction.
That anxiety, has stayed with him, he's on anxiety tablets, and even now, he'll say things that initially when he started first saying them would really upset me. I don't really want to get into them but hearing your husband wants to drive into oncoming traffic and he doesn't care whether he lives or dies is some very deep stuff that upsetting as his wife to hear. When I tell him I love him, he'll say at least you do. At least somebody does, and I've been through all the bad days.
When his friend at work took his life, I used the night times to cry because I didn't think I should be crying in front of him. One time, he caught me by surprise, and I didn't get a handle of my emotions, and I cried. So, in terms of looking after someone with anxiety and being a carer, a nurturer - a provider... I have had to step up to be in my masculine energy to do the looking after. At times, I've felt if I don't do this, he's going to sink and I remember saying to him you need to save yourself, because I've been down that rabbit hole of despair, anxiousness and dread in my teenage early twenties and it took me every scrap of energy to come out of it emotionally and mentally. So, I looked for mantras for him to keep saying to himself before work, knowing he's not going to believe them at first but through the act of repetition hopefully he'd start to believe them but it was always me doing that for a long time.
My husband has the majority of his head in gear and is doing a lot of things for himself, getting more positive and not letting things affect him.
He's always protective of me. He can more than provide but by telling him he is less than a man in any way would really escalate his anxiety, make it drastically worse, and affect the way he sees me so I'd never do that. The balance of who's masculine energy is being stepped into goes from one person to the other, and the majority of the time, there's a perfect balance. Sex increases because who has the drive for it when they are highly anxious and rely on anxiety medications?
Not mayself or my husband has gone out and tried to fulfil any desire like that with any other person. I prefer to fix problems talk about how to move forward and he does the same with me.
This was very moving the read, more power to your husband. Life tests us, and it's through these tests that we find out what we are capable of and who we truly are, and you sound like a very resilient and loving person
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🗣️ Why doesn’t this have more views!!!
Sadia is an intellectual queen!!!!!
I really don’t agree with Sadia about women narcissism . Women come into relationships to take ?? Men don’t come into relationships to take ? Those energies vampires ..? Women just tried to get something from those people from years of being USED 🙄
Great interview.
She views relationships and sexuality in such a narrow way... she makes sooo many assumptions and is so judgmental. She seems to live under a rock.
Sadia makes so muchvsense and I love that she advocates for children.
Only people that are truly advocating for children are antinatalist
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such an interesting conversation
Enjoyed it thoroughly! Thank you!
So many truths in this interview.
This was brilliant.
I admire her wisdom
The Sadia giggle is infectious
Ok sadia valid points but so many generalizations - you do not speak on behalf of All men and All women . To imply as women we side with the least attractive women is ludicrous . Please stop saying silly things
Sadia says it perfectly!
She’s right on about porn addiction and marriage.
Sadia comes across very anti-woman. A lot of self-hate but makes some great points.
25:42 Yes, they are
This was perfect ❤
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When did she get married ?? Congrats!