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Say …. Just saw u on my Apple News feed -better homes and garden article ! 01-10-2025 !!! Congrats 🎉🎊🎈🍾

Oh my gosh, I'm behind and catching up on Vlogmas, but I have the same towel rack and hooks! The braids are cute and so is the bathroom!

Your singing voice is bada**. I found you from your gaming channel. Beautiful 🎉❤

"I like to be nice to AI because when they take over they'll spare my life." 💀💀💀 All laughing aside, you don't need to justify feeling burnt out. You can be burnt out with kids, without kids, with your dream job, with a job you hate, anything. Good for you for recognizing it and working on being kinder to yourself.

I love this so much! We have some very similar goals. I have been reclaiming time to just be and avoid hustle culture. Self-care is an area of focus for me this year as well.

Take all the rest you need Kay ❤️ Selfcare is really important and it's sadly something I also tend to forget about 😅 I'm kinda struggling myself right now while trying to figure things out so this was a little triggering to me 🙈 Also pls be careful sharing personal struggles online as evil ppl love to attack others when they're down. Stay safe and hope you feel better soon as you truly deserve all the happiness in the world 💐❤

I'm at the point of the video where you talk about struggling with the concept of moving away from grind culture and how hard it is to actually separate yourself from work. Kay, you do SO much ALL the time. Yes, having a child is exhausting, but I see you working at LEAST four full time performative jobs in sync with each other. And to top that off, anxiety is energy sucking. Having a child or no, you worked your BUTT off getting where you are, and it's okay to put a comma between the year and just take a breath. I know that the comma is often a privilege many people do not have in this economy, which is a whole other rant from me. But living to work and your identity being your work is a model of industrial work ethic that chews people up with the hope of a pension that never comes. And we deserve better. Grind culture is crap for creatives. I was so burnt out from making comics 8-15 hours a day I couldn't look at my drawing tablet for a year. Why? Because I thought the only way I could be an artist was making money from art. I thought I'd be immune from that having learned my lesson when I started TH-cam. The lizard brain wants validation regardless, and I've spent all of 2024 unlearning it. Burnout is now being defined separate from depression as a mental disorder that impacts more than we ever realized. (Highly recommend 'Burnout' by Drs Emily and Amelia Nagoski on audiobook BTW!) And though we are more connected through social media platforms than ever before, we've dismantled the village that raises up the voices who are honest about how hard it is, that it's okay to go at your own pace, that meeting goals is another form of grief we don't talk about enough, that society shunning aging is downright debilitating for people needing/wanting to go at a slower pace, how social media has defined "value" by the validation of literal strangers on the internet. It's okay to be tired, because you do so much with your whole heart all. the. time. It's okay to sit with these feelings, because it's human to feel. My main goal in 2025 is to protect my peace. I hope your new year is peaceful, kind, creative, and rewarding. <3 Edit: Editing to say, PLEASE do not delete this video.

Hey Kay, hope you really take it easy on yourself ~ I have to really remind myself always to just breathe and make every minute happy, and its really helped me lately because the more I focus on the the more I realize I have the actual energy and positivity to accomplish bigger things after that, so love you so much!

Nobody has it all together. Hugs ❤️. Glad that talking made you feel better 🙂.

i love to hear from you, and these feelings are valid!

I know i'm late to this one but I think the hair is cute!! And I am glad i'm not the only one who was an anxious child (and adult) always with my mortality looming. I thought I was alone in that. I know we don't know you, but I love your vlog content because it feels like chatting with a friend, real in the great and hard moments. Sending love and prayers as the new year starts.

Hey, hey Kay! Thank you so very much for sharing! I just started morning pages, it has been life changing. What is the name of the podcast you referenced to in the vlog?

“I like to be nice to AI, because when they takeover, that way they’ll spare my life.” 😂😂😂😂 #ChatGPTBestie

Cut yourself some slack. Be Kay's best friend. Some of us just enjoy your content .

Kay, what a gift this video is. I thought it couldn't get more relatable and real as I watched but then I dipped into this comment section and saw the gorgeous community of caring and support. Look at what you made space for - what a wonderful thing to experience on New Years Day. So many things in this one I also feel as a woman. I'm so thankful you're here; for you and for us. Keep keeping it real so the rest of us don't feel so alienated by the social media BS we too often are bombarded with - it's mighty admirable work that most aren't strong enough to do Ms. Patterson. Sending all the love, blessings and peace out there to you and for you in 2025

I’m here for the hair! 🙌🏻 your hairs always pretty though

You are doing a great job! We all feel like this from time to time. Rest is an act of Rebellion. Take your time and process it all. We will be here when you feel like talking to us again. ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉Happy New Year!

Thank you for being so honest with us! This is why we’re internet besties 😂 no one has it together but we all think we’re supposed to. But why? I feel like no one will ever be perfect or have a perfect life/perfect experiences but the expectation of it is what’s making us so horribly unhappy. Here’s to giving ourselves some grace in 2025!! (And to fabulous hair as well! I know the struggle and I’m looking to make big changes in my routines this year too!)

1. You're beautiful. 2. When you suddenly said, "Maybe I just don't like my forehead." I spit laughed. (Literally.) I felt that resonate in my soul. 3. You are enough. What you feel is valid. Do what you need to do for you. Take whatever time you need. Your community loves you and is here and will be here. Take the time you need to fill your cup. You can't fill others if you have nothing left. (<-- Something I have to tell myself constantly.) You are not alone. Hoping that pressure can be lifted and anxiety can be relieved soon. 💚 P.S. Have you watched The Trunk?!?!? SO GOOD!

Hugs. It is “just hair” BUT it’s also okay that our hair is a big deal to us. I don’t have a spouse or kids and often used to feel like I should be using the time productively. The only reason this changed is because of the pandemic followed by several years of having to focus on my health. (I’ve had a major surgery followed by complications every year since 2022.) I was forced to rest more and I honestly feel so much better now that I prioritize rest over accomplishing things. I still deal with anxiety but it is so much lower than it used to be. Also, on the scariest day of my life, I shared my biggest fear out loud in front of a bunch of medical professionals. (Having a 4th surgery.) it feels like my body, prayers, everyone else’s prayers, God, and the universe all came together and my body started healing itself. I struggle not to dump my medical traumas on people but I wanted to share because sometimes you just gotta say stuff out loud to someone to lift the weight of it off yourself. I like to be nice to AI too 🤣

Sending you big ❤️ for resting and feeling the big feelings. I'm 47 too and DANG this time of life is a hot mess. Perimenopause is a chaos train and we just gotta hold on. ❤️❤️❤️

Whoever didn't like your hair is jealous you look in your 20s. I have always struggled with anxiety and motivation and one day you had a Q&A and I asked where you get your motivation and you said motivation will never come just start it was the best advice and when I am stuck I just say to myself Just Start. Kay maybe you need the opposite right now just chill give yourself time to process 2024 and all you have accomplished *❤

Sometimes it really just is "get this all out / talk about it" and even if nothing new has resolved, at least it's been processed. I was literally just saying to my partner how much I admire that you "have everything figured out" between physical health and chasing your passions and just being a super lovely human - so I'm glad you brought that back to Earth LOL, but hope you can take a true break for the time you need!! Sending love for 2025 <3

Dear Kay, I’ve been following you for over four years now since finding your gaming channel. You are a real one, and your vulnerability endears you to me, even though we are strangers on the Internet. 2024 has been a hard year for me, I think for women of our generation our mental health has never been prioritized. But as we get older, and that dreaded M comes towards us, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Please know that your feelings resonate with this stranger so much. I find comfort in knowing there are other people out there like me. And I did not cry watching your video (yes I did 😅)

Don't delete this! It's good to see that our favorite TH-camrs, especially those who also happen to be dear friends, are real people. <3 I'm sorry you're burned out but you're allowed to be, even without kids and whatnot, you can be burnt out and your feelings are valid. Take the time you need, do what works for you AND brings you joy on your channels and we'll love all of it and we'll be here if you need breaks, please know we love you!

Gen Mai cha is now Rice krispy tea at my house! Lol. It’s my favorite btw

Please don’t delete this. I relate to the anxiety and never feeling safe. And about time. I feel so seen. 😭❤️

I'm intrigued by your vision board. Resolutions have long gone the way of the dinosaur for me. I usually create a goals list for several different areas that I want to make progress with. I might have to give this a try and see what happens.

You had a lot going on this year. Between the successes with music and also things you didn’t anticipate like the whole downstairs bathroom ripout. That latter situation is also likely massively contributing to your burnout, honestly. As I was watching this video, I caught my husband also watching it over my shoulder and I think he’s feeling the same way about a lot of things going on in his life. There is a lot going on in our lives right now and he’s taking a break from work and picking up extra hours when he is working and we’ve had a lot of stuff come up as of late. A couple of days ago he told he that he’s struggling a lot with burnout.

Don’t overthink - I enjoy your content and thoughtful reflection . Don’t apologise - you are enough . Ground yourself and embrace 2025 xx

Love you Kay ❤❤❤

Kay, thank you for being so real. I'm also working my way through overwhelm right now, so you have some company through the journey. As long as you are being true to yourself (whatever that looks like at the moment), then you'll find what the best path forward for you is. Sending you all the hugs. 🤗 If you need to take a break from this channel as well, please do. Your health and wellness is the most important thing.

Sending you big hugs Kay. So many people follow and love you. Thank you for being so open and sharing your honest feelings right now. I'm also feeling down and overwhelmed but we will get through this together! Also...I'm totally jealous that you don't get ice cream headaches...they hurt a lot lol!

🎉Happy 🥂New Years 🎉 …M♥️M of 5

I've never had a brain freeze either. Didn't think anything was wrong with me but that I was fortunate. Blessings on you for 2025.

Personally I think no one has it all together. Give yourself some grace. Members of my family experience bad anxiety that can be crippling.

It is not just hair it is your crown!! Be proud of it and take care of yourself, you deserve it your emotions are just an overflow of love❤️. God's timing is perfect this year was the perfect year for you revel in it and let go you are safe now. It's OK to feel overwhelmed tell yourself this everyday it is OK.. You feel this way because your mind and body need you to acknowledge the good and all the blessings you have experienced this year. Celebrate your success and acheivements you worked hard and the journey is worth a pause to take in your successes. You are such a beautiful person. Thank you for your transparency. Don't delete this. Sending you positive vibes and much love. Celebrate yourself🎉❤

I love your hair ❤ think you look beautiful! However I think that all the time. Definitely ok to cry & to take a break! Take care of you ❤ Darling, things happen in their own time. I’m starting over at! I’ve worked in IT for year! Now I’m in med school. I’m in my 30s! I’m not a spring chicken. I’m one of the oldest people in my classes! However, it is just my journey! I have grown so much & will be a better practitioner for it! My life experience has far outweighed some of the smartest people I have met. You learn a different kind of compassion & wisdoms with age you can’t replicate at 20. Congratulations on all You have achieved. It’s ok to be overwhelmed. Take a breath, when you’re ready take the next step. 🥰

Just wanted to add, I have been reading books by David Kessler and watching him on YT for a study group I’m in. He’s an expert on grief and loss and is very very good!! I’ve had a lot of ah ha moments. Just wanted to mention it in case it might help someone. This time of year is so very hard for so many of us.❤

Kay, I am sending you the biggest hug right now. You have had a big year, a busy full year with a very fulfilling singing career plus running *three* YT channels, plus running a household, & being there for your mom, Yves & Clover, the flood, reno, etc..whew!! You have every right to feel all the feels. I too am an anxious person and felt mortality as a kid. I was 5 when my dad died and 22 when my mom died so felt like I lost my safety net early so always set goals for some control & safety over my life and constantly looked to avoid bad things happening. Like you, as a married childless dogmom who had a full & demanding career and did all the things, I see you. Please know you are not alone in any of your feelings! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable and honest with us as so many of us can relate. Yes! Please schedule some regular self-care that makes you feel good about yourself, do things to take care of yourself and also unplug for a while. It really helps. Love you girl!!

Girl. HRT. Sounds like it’s time ❤

Happy New Year, Kay! (& fam) WE LOVE YOU!! 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

I don't know if this is where to put this, but I wanted to recommend youtuber Black Yogi Nico Marie to you. I have gotten so much emotional release from practicing yoga with her videos. I'm just someone who feels emotional so much and needs ways to let it out.

oh my gosh, i was also a very sensitive child who was extremely conscious of her mortality. 9/11 news coverage scared me and still informs my fear of flying to this day. religion made me believe that Jesus could come back at any minute and my life could just end 😂 my parents were overprotective and so many things scared them, so i internalized that too. i was amazed that i made it to my 25th birthday this year. i genuinely didn't believe i could live that long! now for the first time in my life, i can imagine a future where i keep living. and im frustrated that it took me so long to feel this way - i feel like a "late bloomer" even though i know the concept of being on a timeline itself is absurd 😭 it's so hard to not compare my timeline to others. so so hard.

ohhh yes. only 4 minutes in and im feeling this deep in my heart. girl your vulnerability and sincerity changes my life for the better 😭😭😭 i know it takes a lot to do this at all so I hope you don't feel like you owe anyone these precious pieces of your life and your self. so proud of you and inspired by you as a fellow human.

Shut! Up! I can't burp either!!! Sometimes I have tiny , TINY little bits of air come out like a tiny wisp of air, but I have NEVER burped like a normal person! OF course, this causes struggles (and always has, but worse when I was a small child) because I could only get trapped air out one way, and it wasn't always excited about the long journey, traveling to other areas of my body where it caused EXTREME pain. I've always had "tiny tubing" which has presented itself in different ways, but I kind of dismissed it as just me. I also don't like the idea of botox, especially in my throat, but it's good to know that someone has taken notice that this happens to some people and hopefully there will be better treatment soon. Again, vulnerable and kind. Knowing it might be TMI, but more importantly, it might help someone. This is why we love you. You're just you and you recognize the platform you have to help improve the lives of others. :) While I'm being long-winded, you probably haven't had brain freeze because you eat slowly. It comes from eating cold things FAST. I'm a SUPER slow eater, so I have only had it once or twice when I was a teenager. I want to savor my food, and chew it to death (first step in digestion), so it just doesn't happen to me. It's normal.

It's NOT "just hair." That is something people get to say when their hair doesn't require a lot of maintenance and it grows quickly and doesn't cost a lot of money to care for. Also, hair is something that frames our face and can be a way we express things about ourselves without even saying a word. Hair, for some, is very much a part of what makes them who they are. The Bible even says that a woman's hair is her CROWN OF GLORY. It's not everything, but GURL, it's your crown. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're being petty because you have concerns about your hair. It doesn't define you, but it is part of you. No one says, "They're just feet." They don't define us either, but they're part of who we are and help direct where we go. The hair is cute (I've had mine itch too and my previous stylist said that it's important to get PRE-washed hair or it will itch). Never knew that before I took in some that wasn't and had to endure days of itching -- not fun! I also have a few to no people to ask, but can relate to trying to seek out information from my usual crowd and having NO ONE who can relate to what it's like living with this hair. It's a blessing and a curse, depending on the day. LOL!! Glad you've decided to take better care of other parts of yourself. Don't feel bad either. You began by taking care of your soul by allowing yourself to truly pursue your dreams, then you began taking care of your body by working out and changing your eating. Now you're at the beginning of taking care of some of the external parts of you. No one expects you to do everything all at once. We're all works in progress, and it's so vulnerable, brave, and honestly, kind of you to share your journey with us. LOVE YOU MUCH!!

Kay, if you need a rest, then rest. You have kept me company at my job and got me through some dark times. I feel like we could be friends, and as a friend I want to say, You are a wonderful person and have more going for you than you think. Thank you for the blogs and game playing and just being you! I will remain subscribed and await your return!

Hello! Burnout, overwhelm, and anxiety can definitely get worse and be harder to crawl out from under as us girls enter the peri-m portion of our lives. At about your age, I definitely dipped, and my coping skills just left me. It took too long to realize what was happening to me, but now I have hormone support, and life is so much better (although definitely not perfect!) I hope you don't mind me mentioning this, it's about what happened to me and may not apply to you, but I do wish I'd known earlier that hormone depletion can mess with us long before we reach our 50s. Thank you for sharing. Like so many others commenting here, i see you, and I share at least some of the challenges you face. Take care 🙏🏻