I couldn't be happier that you are going to continue vlogging. I have, quite literally, been looking forward to Vlogtober and Vlogmas all year, no joke. I love your relaxed approach to making these videos, I LOVE watching you rehearse and walk the streets of Boston ( I really miss that city and it is so gorgeous now, which you capture beautifully). So, I am delighted! Thank you for sharing all the things, good and bad, high and low, joyful and teary-eyed. 💞
From one 40 something, married, city dwelling dog mamma only to another-I am SO glad you’re vlogging! We’re rare lol especially on TH-cam. I LOVE watching and you’re a source of calm in this crazy world. It’s refreshing to see women our age making content. Especially someone without children and there are so many of us. Also, when it comes to grief…it’s such a roller coaster. I’ve been windowed 10 years. Remarried now. And grief still gets me. I’m still processing and grieving new things 10 years on! It will be a lifelong process. You don’t stop loving or thinking about someone just beautiful they’ve died. Your relationship changes. The best advice is to not judge yourself with how you’re feeling. Feel, release, repeat. Sending you so much comfort and love! And again, SO HAPPY you’re here making content!! I wish you continued success!!!
One of the 70 something people who follow you. Enjoy what you are doing here. I like seeing how a singer prepares, learns music, etc. Helps me appreciate the live performances I hear. And, we all need to be reminded we are not too old to try what we have dreamed of doing. (Well, I did give up on that Olympic ice skater thing recently)
💚💚💚😢 For what it’s worth, I’m really proud of you and all you’ve done since I started watching your channel years ago. You really helped me get through the pandemic, and this Vlogtober has been a blast!
I have to say random, unplanned day in the life videos are the most fun. No planning, no perfection, just the raw person. You do you Kay, and we’ll be here!
So many feels for me from this as the daughter of a Dad who was my mentor but is sadly gone. I just love your vlogs, they're a peaceful moment in hectic days. Thanks for vlogtober, it's been fun sharing the month with you!
Re: the fatigue before periods - girl, SAME! I want to be DONE with this nonsense! 😤 I also really enjoy your vlogs. I like the stream-of-consciousness content. I just turn these videos on when I'm alone and they make me feel like I have a friend hanging out with me. ❤
I don't remember how I found you, but I'm 31 and didn't feel the age gap nor did I realize you were older. Now, I feel inspired to pursue new paths even as I enter my 30s. I noticed it's a lot harder for black women to be viral content creators on TH-cam. Idk why or how, but it's like the standards for us are different. I hope you continue to do things for yourself and share your wisdom with others if you want.
Bring it on Kay! I once read a quote by someone I don't recall, that once you stop learning, that's when you start dying. So sometimes I may not learn something frequently, I'm always looking for my next learning opportunity.
I want to thank you for uploading these vlogs. We are approximately the same age and I relate to you in so many ways. It really helps me to see that I'm not the only one. ❤️
What you are going through is normal. Losing your father and also watching the gradual decline of someone who you loved and was your mentor is a lot to handle. Sometimes things catch up to you especially when re-evaluating priorities in life. Especially when he was always there to guide you and now you’re relying on yourself can be scary. It sounds like he gave you the strength to prepare for these times. I would agree with your therapist. Grieving is different for everyone. Don’t beat yourself up! Only go forward and be proud of your accomplishments! Glad you are continuing!!! Looking forward to new videos!
I cannot tell you how much I needed your video today! I was very close with my dad, I took care of him until he passed. He was such a good, truly kind person. The first year after was really difficult -- everything was a first. The second year was so very hard emotionally. It was like the loneliness, the missing him really set in. I still miss him and it will be 8 years soon. Thank you for Vlogtober. You brought me smiles.
Bring it on!! Loving it and Im so pleased you're continuing to enjoy doing the vlogs too. And what a lovely memory of your Dad and how proud he was of you. I still have tears in my eyes of my loss of my Dad. I dont think that altogether goes away but I remember the positive more; funny conversations and more recently of him singing for me. ❤
You light up when you talk about what brings you joy, especially what Vlogtober has been for you...us by extension. When we love what we do, it IS energizing not draining. Tiring at times but it feeds us. Not incidentally, your dad being proud of you...telling you...was such a gift. Thanks so much for sharing this month, Kay, which might have been a watershed.
So happy that you are happy, Kay! Grief can sometimes be all over the place. You are not alone in that department ❤. We're here for Kay and all her lovely Kay-ness 🥰
thank you for sharing this with us. I really needed to hear your words. My dad has been a major influence in my life and his health has been declining since 2020. I have found myself worried about how his loss will effect me. I am so grateful you shared about becoming your own mentor, it’s obviously something we all have to do at some point and some of us earlier than others.
LOVED this vlog!! I also get knocked for a loop the day before the loveliness and it seems to be getting more pronounced. When will the loveliness end?!! LOL!! Glad you shared about the unexpected "new phase" of mourning. I know you're not the only one who has felt this way. Glad the rebuilding is happening downstairs. There is some fun in there somewhere, I promise. Speaking of fun, SO glad you've enjoyed Vlogtober as much as we have and that it's refreshing for you. REAL is always best!! Love you. Happy almost November! Also, shout out to all the 40 somethings who are makin' a comeback or blooming "late" It ain't over even if the fat lady sang and went home -- we're still here!!
30 something here meeting a lot of barriers beginning a career in the creative arts due to my age. Plus the child of medical professionals too so I relate. This was a lovely video to remind me that my path to success will be a bit skew-wiff, but I keep persevering! And I cast your video onto MY tv, so you made it to the small screen in a roundabout way 😊 thank you!
late twenty-something here, I've been a fan of your content for awhile across all 3 of your channels! first discovered you through your animal crossing videos. your vlogs have become my fave to put on during my morning routine, I'm so glad you're enjoying making them!
Totally relating to this - my dad was also the person I'd go to for life advice, counsel, support, everything. And I didn't realize as a kid and young adult how great of a mentor he was, until it was too late. Now it's like I'm facing challenges in life and my career and not sure who to turn to. But his motto in every disagreement was "I/we are always on your team". Sounds like your dad and my dad would've gotten along in that way :)
I don’t understand why you don’t vlog and just do fun videos on your other channel. Do whatever you want…cook, clean, organize, sing, chat, whatever! You have more subscribers there.
To be honest, and please don’t take this the wrong way… but I found this channel about 8 months and kinda stopped watching your other channel because it just felt like you were trying to hard. I love your honesty, authenticity, and music that you share with us over here. I really think music is truly your passion!
Yay! I am so glad that you are going to continue with the vlogs! I look forward to watching your vlog at the end of the day. Also, I needed to hear your message about it not being too late to do whatever it is our hearts desire! 💗
Grief comes in waves, and moments can come unexpectedly. 💯 about not being too old to do something new. ❤ the vlog October. Glad to hear an update on the background.
I've loved these vlogs and am excited for them to continue!! You're the reason I felt like I could restart my channel in 2020 or 2021. Which I've taken a big break this year but I do want to get back into it! I'm so glad you're having fun with this!
Yes. No one is ever too old to try something new or make a fresh start or try developing a new skill! A million times, YES!!! You are also not old, dear Kay...made me giggle a bit. I am 74 and life is a new adventure every day!A grand celebration because out trip around the sun does not last forever..... Glad you are getting sorted after the leak disaster in your lovely home, I am looking forward to seeing the video reels on the process of renewal. Go celebrate that awesome voice of yours as you start the rehearsals for a Christmas concert!
I so enjoy your channel!!! Esp the music you start out with for Vlogtober. Just gives me the calming cozy vibes. It's hard to lose a family member and mentor. However it seems as if you will be able to take all that knowledge your dad passed on to you and help others with that same wisdom. That way you keep him alive within yourself. And I am 50 something, I agree, you are never too old. We have different chapters in our lives and we need to keep moving forward. When we chose to no longer grow and learn is when we truly get old.
Thanks for letting us in on where you're at, emotionally :) Can relate to much of what you're describing (despite some demographic differences). I admit that I don't usually watch vlog type content...but I've enjoyed your organizing channel and felt kinship with your personality (that I got to know there). Watched this video bc I wanted to see what was up with you lately, and genuinely got teary-eyed at the part where you talked about your conversations with your dad & discussing it with your therapist. Pursuing that which is "fun" (ignites joy & enthusiasm) for you *is* self-care. It gives you the fuel you need to help get yourself through necessary things that aren't fun, and it fortifies & nourishes you so that you can go on living (well) and be able to share love with those around you (in your orbit-however near or far). Anyway. I'm 51 & live up in Vermont (near NH/MA borders), a similar climate to yours...the weather has been bizarre: as of 10 days ago, there were lilac bushes still putting out new flowers bc of how warm it has been this fall. Makes it all the more jarring when temps revert to more seasonable (chilly) norms-hardly any rain for weeks, makes me wonder how little snow we'll get this winter ? We shall see.
I’m in a similar boat as you Kay. My parents passed away when I was 19 and 21 so they never got to see me really become an adult. I went to school for music education and didn’t end up going into that field. (Im from Bellingham, MA too haha so not tooooo far from Boston). I’m 38 now and have spent my life thus far not happy with whatever I am doing. I’m always thinking about how disappointed my parents would be and I let my anxiety rule/ruin my life. I find something thinking “what do I wanna do when I grow up?” GIRL. I AM grown up lol but I don’t feel like it most days! I am trying to find my passions and I pray everyday that it will come to me. That I will make my parents AND myself proud. Love you and your quirky personality, you are amazing!
Thank you Kaye i loved your vlogtober. My father is gone 2 years this week i am still trying to cope with the loss of my mum 2 years before that grief is a wave it comes and goes like a tide. Thinking of you
Your real is mghty !! I was just thinking about age in re: the current political storm; that is to say ; middle age isn't where it used to be. You've only just begun. Bob Dylan " My Back Pages " is relevant forever. btw ; and bts ; showing the polishing behind the polish ? It's important.
@@celinaquiros9381 Thank you ; that's kind of you to say. I'm 71 , i came into my own at her age . I've seen dozens of women come into their own at her age. We should add it in as a coming of age stage
I couldn't be happier that you are going to continue vlogging. I have, quite literally, been looking forward to Vlogtober and Vlogmas all year, no joke. I love your relaxed approach to making these videos, I LOVE watching you rehearse and walk the streets of Boston ( I really miss that city and it is so gorgeous now, which you capture beautifully). So, I am delighted! Thank you for sharing all the things, good and bad, high and low, joyful and teary-eyed. 💞
From one 40 something, married, city dwelling dog mamma only to another-I am SO glad you’re vlogging! We’re rare lol especially on TH-cam. I LOVE watching and you’re a source of calm in this crazy world. It’s refreshing to see women our age making content. Especially someone without children and there are so many of us. Also, when it comes to grief…it’s such a roller coaster. I’ve been windowed 10 years. Remarried now. And grief still gets me. I’m still processing and grieving new things 10 years on! It will be a lifelong process. You don’t stop loving or thinking about someone just beautiful they’ve died. Your relationship changes. The best advice is to not judge yourself with how you’re feeling. Feel, release, repeat. Sending you so much comfort and love! And again, SO HAPPY you’re here making content!! I wish you continued success!!!
One of the 70 something people who follow you. Enjoy what you are doing here. I like seeing how a singer prepares, learns music, etc. Helps me appreciate the live performances I hear. And, we all need to be reminded we are not too old to try what we have dreamed of doing. (Well, I did give up on that Olympic ice skater thing recently)
The way I got so excited hearing that you'll be recording the decluttering though. :D
💚💚💚😢 For what it’s worth, I’m really proud of you and all you’ve done since I started watching your channel years ago. You really helped me get through the pandemic, and this Vlogtober has been a blast!
I have to say random, unplanned day in the life videos are the most fun. No planning, no perfection, just the raw person. You do you Kay, and we’ll be here!
So many feels for me from this as the daughter of a Dad who was my mentor but is sadly gone.
I just love your vlogs, they're a peaceful moment in hectic days.
Thanks for vlogtober, it's been fun sharing the month with you!
I'm glad you've enjoyed making these because I've enjoying watching!
Re: the fatigue before periods - girl, SAME! I want to be DONE with this nonsense! 😤
I also really enjoy your vlogs. I like the stream-of-consciousness content. I just turn these videos on when I'm alone and they make me feel like I have a friend hanging out with me. ❤
I don't remember how I found you, but I'm 31 and didn't feel the age gap nor did I realize you were older. Now, I feel inspired to pursue new paths even as I enter my 30s.
I noticed it's a lot harder for black women to be viral content creators on TH-cam. Idk why or how, but it's like the standards for us are different. I hope you continue to do things for yourself and share your wisdom with others if you want.
Bring it on Kay! I once read a quote by someone I don't recall, that once you stop learning, that's when you start dying. So sometimes I may not learn something frequently, I'm always looking for my next learning opportunity.
I want to thank you for uploading these vlogs. We are approximately the same age and I relate to you in so many ways. It really helps me to see that I'm not the only one. ❤️
What you are going through is normal. Losing your father and also watching the gradual decline of someone who you loved and was your mentor is a lot to handle. Sometimes things catch up to you especially when re-evaluating priorities in life. Especially when he was always there to guide you and now you’re relying on yourself can be scary. It sounds like he gave you the strength to prepare for these times. I would agree with your therapist. Grieving is different for everyone. Don’t beat yourself up! Only go forward and be proud of your accomplishments! Glad you are continuing!!! Looking forward to new videos!
Love the real real you that you are sharing with us!!!❤
I cannot tell you how much I needed your video today! I was very close with my dad, I took care of him until he passed. He was such a good, truly kind person. The first year after was really difficult -- everything was a first. The second year was so very hard emotionally. It was like the loneliness, the missing him really set in. I still miss him and it will be 8 years soon. Thank you for Vlogtober. You brought me smiles.
Bring it on!! Loving it and Im so pleased you're continuing to enjoy doing the vlogs too. And what a lovely memory of your Dad and how proud he was of you. I still have tears in my eyes of my loss of my Dad. I dont think that altogether goes away but I remember the positive more; funny conversations and more recently of him singing for me. ❤
You light up when you talk about what brings you joy, especially what Vlogtober has been for you...us by extension. When we love what we do, it IS energizing not draining. Tiring at times but it feeds us. Not incidentally, your dad being proud of you...telling you...was such a gift. Thanks so much for sharing this month, Kay, which might have been a watershed.
I loved hearing about your relationship with your dad ❤️
So happy that you are happy, Kay! Grief can sometimes be all over the place. You are not alone in that department ❤. We're here for Kay and all her lovely Kay-ness 🥰
Thank you for continuing to vlog, its like hanging out with a friend! Get your cake! Do what makes you happy, life is short.
thank you for sharing this with us. I really needed to hear your words. My dad has been a major influence in my life and his health has been declining since 2020. I have found myself worried about how his loss will effect me. I am so grateful you shared about becoming your own mentor, it’s obviously something we all have to do at some point and some of us earlier than others.
LOVED this vlog!! I also get knocked for a loop the day before the loveliness and it seems to be getting more pronounced. When will the loveliness end?!! LOL!! Glad you shared about the unexpected "new phase" of mourning. I know you're not the only one who has felt this way. Glad the rebuilding is happening downstairs. There is some fun in there somewhere, I promise. Speaking of fun, SO glad you've enjoyed Vlogtober as much as we have and that it's refreshing for you. REAL is always best!! Love you. Happy almost November! Also, shout out to all the 40 somethings who are makin' a comeback or blooming "late" It ain't over even if the fat lady sang and went home -- we're still here!!
30 something here meeting a lot of barriers beginning a career in the creative arts due to my age. Plus the child of medical professionals too so I relate. This was a lovely video to remind me that my path to success will be a bit skew-wiff, but I keep persevering! And I cast your video onto MY tv, so you made it to the small screen in a roundabout way 😊 thank you!
Cried some tears on this one.
Just so that you know, we will take you any way we can get you, Kay. ❤ Great sweater.
we all need a day to just be a bump on a log every so often :)
late twenty-something here, I've been a fan of your content for awhile across all 3 of your channels! first discovered you through your animal crossing videos. your vlogs have become my fave to put on during my morning routine, I'm so glad you're enjoying making them!
Kay, you are a delight. Thank you for being vulnerable and giving encouragement. ❤
Totally relating to this - my dad was also the person I'd go to for life advice, counsel, support, everything. And I didn't realize as a kid and young adult how great of a mentor he was, until it was too late. Now it's like I'm facing challenges in life and my career and not sure who to turn to. But his motto in every disagreement was "I/we are always on your team". Sounds like your dad and my dad would've gotten along in that way :)
I don’t understand why you don’t vlog and just do fun videos on your other channel. Do whatever you want…cook, clean, organize, sing, chat, whatever! You have more subscribers there.
To be honest, and please don’t take this the wrong way… but I found this channel about 8 months and kinda stopped watching your other channel because it just felt like you were trying to hard. I love your honesty, authenticity, and music that you share with us over here. I really think music is truly your passion!
Nah that’s valuable feedback! Thank you! It also makes me feel like I made the right decision to take a break 😅
One 👍🏽 isn’t enough to show just how much I appreciate you.
Yay! I am so glad that you are going to continue with the vlogs! I look forward to watching your vlog at the end of the day. Also, I needed to hear your message about it not being too late to do whatever it is our hearts desire! 💗
Grief comes in waves, and moments can come unexpectedly. 💯 about not being too old to do something new.
❤ the vlog October. Glad to hear an update on the background.
I've loved these vlogs and am excited for them to continue!! You're the reason I felt like I could restart my channel in 2020 or 2021. Which I've taken a big break this year but I do want to get back into it! I'm so glad you're having fun with this!
Yes. No one is ever too old to try something new or make a fresh start or try developing a new skill! A million times, YES!!! You are also not old, dear Kay...made me giggle a bit. I am 74 and life is a new adventure every day!A grand celebration because out trip around the sun does not last forever..... Glad you are getting sorted after the leak disaster in your lovely home, I am looking forward to seeing the video reels on the process of renewal. Go celebrate that awesome voice of yours as you start the rehearsals for a Christmas concert!
Glad you are happy
I so enjoy your channel!!! Esp the music you start out with for Vlogtober. Just gives me the calming cozy vibes. It's hard to lose a family member and mentor. However it seems as if you will be able to take all that knowledge your dad passed on to you and help others with that same wisdom. That way you keep him alive within yourself. And I am 50 something, I agree, you are never too old. We have different chapters in our lives and we need to keep moving forward. When we chose to no longer grow and learn is when we truly get old.
Thanks for letting us in on where you're at, emotionally :) Can relate to much of what you're describing (despite some demographic differences).
I admit that I don't usually watch vlog type content...but I've enjoyed your organizing channel and felt kinship with your personality (that I got to know there). Watched this video bc I wanted to see what was up with you lately, and genuinely got teary-eyed at the part where you talked about your conversations with your dad & discussing it with your therapist.
Pursuing that which is "fun" (ignites joy & enthusiasm) for you *is* self-care. It gives you the fuel you need to help get yourself through necessary things that aren't fun, and it fortifies & nourishes you so that you can go on living (well) and be able to share love with those around you (in your orbit-however near or far).
Anyway. I'm 51 & live up in Vermont (near NH/MA borders), a similar climate to yours...the weather has been bizarre: as of 10 days ago, there were lilac bushes still putting out new flowers bc of how warm it has been this fall. Makes it all the more jarring when temps revert to more seasonable (chilly) norms-hardly any rain for weeks, makes me wonder how little snow we'll get this winter ? We shall see.
I’m 35 (will be 36 in January! 😳) and you have inspired me Kay! Hope to see more vlogs whenever you are up to it! 😊 No pressure!
Loved having you around this October too and I can’t believe the month is over already
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and journey. I'm a little behind ...I lot behind. I hope everything is going as planned with the repairs. 😃
I’m in a similar boat as you Kay. My parents passed away when I was 19 and 21 so they never got to see me really become an adult. I went to school for music education and didn’t end up going into that field. (Im from Bellingham, MA too haha so not tooooo far from Boston). I’m 38 now and have spent my life thus far not happy with whatever I am doing. I’m always thinking about how disappointed my parents would be and I let my anxiety rule/ruin my life. I find something thinking “what do I wanna do when I grow up?” GIRL. I AM grown up lol but I don’t feel like it most days! I am trying to find my passions and I pray everyday that it will come to me. That I will make my parents AND myself proud. Love you and your quirky personality, you are amazing!
How sad to lose both of your parents so young
Can’t wait to see what’s next!
i have so enjoyed watching your videos this vlogtober!
Thank you for being you!
Yes Kay yes! Have fun with it :D
❤ you Kay and love this channel. So looking forward to keep watching
Love you Kay! You’re a reminder to me to just go and do the damn thing!
Thank you Kaye i loved your vlogtober. My father is gone 2 years this week i am still trying to cope with the loss of my mum 2 years before that grief is a wave it comes and goes like a tide. Thinking of you
Sending you love, Kay ❤
I really look forward to your vlogs. Thank you for sharing.
What you had to say about your dad was beautiful. I have similar feelings about my own dad. He was flawed, but he was so, so important to me.
Thanks for this raw talk Kay ❤
Good advice, needed this
Im enjoying fun youtube!
I am excited and ready for VLOG-ember
FunTube only.
My husband said you look like your in your late 20s. I won't tell. Lol
Your real is mghty !! I was just thinking about age in re: the current political storm; that is to say ; middle age isn't where it used to be. You've only just begun. Bob Dylan " My Back Pages " is relevant forever. btw ; and bts ; showing the polishing behind the polish ? It's important.
Always love your comments.
@@celinaquiros9381 Thank you ; that's kind of you to say. I'm 71 , i came into my own at her age . I've seen dozens of women come into their own at her age. We should add it in as a coming of age stage
I’m almost 49 and that’s so good to hear!