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Thank you for the word of encouragement. It is difficult when I know TH-cam isn’t sharing my videos as much as others. I’m conservative and believe I’ve been shadow banned. My hope is to help as much as I can do parents feel empowered to be the most effective they can be! If you want to, sharing my videos would really help. Thank you!

I believe I’ve been shadow banned because I’m conservative. If you wouldn’t mind sharing my videos, that would be helpful! Also he sure you have notifications clicked on for the channel. Thank you!!

I think it is understood that this video is referring to an incident of inappropriate aggression by the child. I have had people argue about teaching children not to throw things because they should be able to throw a ball. Children are smarter than that. They will understand context as they grow up.

@@Hipshair So true! Thanks for the comment! 😊

I’m so glad you found it helpful!

@@nicolem.7925 I suggest you do the number thing. Tell her how many she can keep out and then let her make choices. She needs to learn to let go of things and not hoard items she doesn’t use. When she gets new toys, have her choose which others she wants to let go. And use the hideaway box if that helps. That way she can know she has some things that are out of sight she can part with later. Also talk to her about considering others. How some children might enjoy those things she isn’t using. Merry Christmas! 🎁 😊💕

@@fatty002001 No, you have to set it back in front of them for that. Here’s the video about throwing food. th-cam.com/video/CT3cCmdcrPc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=hWfkhI6RtWsYuykY

@@Hafoos483 I believe the plan to teach them to greet others is in this video. But you need to have a clear conversation, practice with her ahead of time, and then don’t let it go if she refuses to be polite. She’s 5. Totally old enough to understand. If she is shy or pretending to be shy--see this video: th-cam.com/video/UqvjErwCYj8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=0UQz3JE32aasqfFt

Thank you very much!!! I did talk to her today and I did some role playing. My question is if she refuses to greet others what should I do? Should I give her a consequence? And what would a good consequence be for such a behavior? ​@@MommyAnswerLady

@@Hafoos483 This video explains what to do if they do not greet as they should. After you watch this, lmk if you have more questions! th-cam.com/video/UqvjErwCYj8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=UOFV-vHv6xilSMxg

@@BlendedBarbieDoll your last question didn’t work out correctly. Possibly spell check got it? Can you rewrite so I know the whole story?

It’s easy to fall into them. Now that you are aware, hopefully that can improve! 👍🏻

@@Hafoos483 Obviously you would say “no” first before they reach for it and look right at them. Then, if they disobey--Eyebrows down, low tone, point to the spill and say “No” again. (We are talking about a little toddler here.) A short quick flick on the back of the hand to accompany it gives an appropriate consequence. The flick doesn’t really have to hurt. Just a shock to let them know this was not acceptable. Then put the glass right back where it was and put water in it. Sit them right by it again and look right at them. Repeat “no” pointing to the water. Wait to see if they do it again. The VAST majority of children will not repeat the disobedience after that. If they do, repeat and with each time, make the consequence a little more uncomfortable. Seriously…most children stop the first time. Second time at most. From then on, when you are in any other situation and you say “no”--they will listen. They know you mean business and obedience comes easily because the teaching and training has been done.

​@@MommyAnswerLadythank you very much for responding this is sooooo helpful, would this work with a 2.5 years old? The flick of the hand? I feel my son is too young to understand consequences and I did use your advice to flick his hand if he throws anything (after telling him no the first time of course)

@@Hafoos483 A little flick on the hand is NOT abusive and it does get the message across that disobedience will not be allowed. 2.5 is absolutely old enough! A child much younger learns what "no" means and a child over two certainly knows. Therefore, if they disobey after NO is stated, it is willful disobedience. They understand your instruction and purposefully choose to disregard it. There must be an unpleasant consequence to that. A formal spanking would not be in order for that age except a swift swat in some cases, on the diaper... again not to really cause pain at all but to shock them into realizing you mean business. But a little flick on the back of the hand that did the action of disobedience is completely called for when they know what you said, they know what you meant, and they defied you anyway. This IS the training that keeps a WHOLE lot of conflicts from happening in the future because when you say NO, they will know to obey you and this is safer and puts them in a secure place of obedience to your instructions. It also helps you parent better because you are listened to when you speak and this leads to calm and peaceful interactions with your child. That, in turn, causes your relationship to grow and flourish! Which in turn leads to happiness and contentment for both of you!

Is she defying your instructions? What is the answer to an appropriate response when a child willfully disobeys?

@@Hafoos483 it really is! I wish other moms who are struggling would learn it. Thank you for your comment!

​@@MommyAnswerLadyI am telling every mom about you, you are the best and your ways are great and they work and I wish I found you 5 years ago

@@Hafoos483 I’m so happy to know this has been helpful to you! ❤️

@@Hafoos483 thank you for the comments! 😊

@@ank10858 😂😂😂 Wow. A woke commenter! That’s about the most ridiculous comment I’ve ever gotten! Congrats on accomplishing that status! 😂😂😂

@@MommyAnswerLady😆 they saw your Mike Walsh bobble head in the background, so they just had to. 🤭❤️

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@@ank10858 well, since I have nine children, the oldest of which is 38, and they are all doing great, there are none. LOL This is a call and simple way to teach children not to tantrum which helps them. Nothing about it would cause damage it pain. The idea that any kind of discipline whatsoever damages children is absolutely ridiculous.

@@Hafoos483 What specifically about giving meds do you mean?

​@@MommyAnswerLadythank you very much for all your videos, you saved my family really thank you my toddler is someone else now and I love spending time with him, he even covers his own mouth if he sees my coming closer to cover it for him! I have a question regarding what to do when I tell him to stop doing sth and he would laugh and not comply (like when changing his diaper he would laugh and kick, I told him in a firm tone it's not acceptable and he started crying) And when I was playing with his sister after playing with him he wanted to sit in my lap and tried to hinder me playing with his sister... Told him several times that's he needs to sit beside me and stop moving but he kept laughing and trying to sit in my lap while I kept pushing him away... I feel he is too young to understand consequences(2.5 years old) and I don't have any that suits him... Do you have any suggestion? My 5 years old struggles with drinking medicine we somtimes have to spend half an hour talking to her so should would take it. She gets sick a lot and so once a month she needs to take an antibiotic (liquid form) and it's a struggle.

​@@MommyAnswerLadynever mind, I used your advice from another video and now she takes her medicine with no fussing at all... Thank you from the bottom of my heart you seriously saved my household and my relationship with my kids and my sanity... When I heard you have 9 children I was so shocked but now after using your parenting ways I honestly want more kids

@@Hafoos483 That is a fine endorsement and I appreciate it so much! More children is a good thing. I hope you are successful in achieving a large family full of happiness and love!

@@Hafoos483 thank you!

@@cybilebenedict What has happened is she has a habit of that kind of behavior at that time of day. It is what is expected . If this happens every morning, this is what I would suggest. Get up before she does. Pick her up still sleeping and as she wakes, feed her. Do this every morning until the habit is broken which should only take a few days. That will give you a chance to also work on tantrums at other times so she will start to understand you will not allow them. Then if she wakes and starts that, you can use it and she will quickly understand. I suspect what is happening isn’t really a frustration or anger tantrum in the case you’re describing. I’m guessing what it is is she cried one morning and that resulted in being fed. Now this is a habit and she wakes up thinking it’s time to cry so she can be fed. Of course I don’t know all the details but from what you have said, I think that’s what’s going on. So give my suggestion a try and let me know what goes on! I’m curious to know!

@MommyAnswerLady I really appreciate the quick reply! Indeed my 13 months old is basically doing it by habit. Today I did the CMT twice and I see a huge improvement. I will follow your advice, thank you again 😊

@@arieldawson3447 Did you listen to this entire video??? The main point of it is to be home with your children rather than send them to daycare. The reason I said it’s ok to send them once in a while for a few hours is so they can have fun and experience with other children and learn to be away from Mom for short periods of time. I said Christian not because they would necessarily be better in care vs others, but because of the many woke caregivers that could be in others. I would not recommend any child he out in secular daycare--or school for that matter. It’s too risky at this point. Full time daycare is a NO no matter what.

Yes, I did listen to the entire video. That is why I felt it was ok to share my experience with you. I never said I disagreed with your whole video. You're right about how sending a child to (any) daycare isn't a great choice for them. But early on in the video you had mentioned how it was okay to send children to a (Christian) based daycare for a only few hours if a parent does need or want to receive this type of care for their child. I simply commented that I disagreed with that statement alone. This is why I shared that I currently work at a Christian based daycare and that it being (Christian based) makes it no better quality of care. That was simply MY OPINION. However, it's very condescending in how you asked me, "Did I watch the video?" I don't have to be agreeable with everything you mentioned, but neither does my intelligence have to be insulted by you. But anyway, great video!👍🏾

@ I have a lot of people who comment who only read the title or listen to very little of a video. That’s why I asked. It seemed you didn’t realize I was making the point that mom should stay home and not go full time daycare. Like I said, if I recommend any daycare at all for a few hours a week, I couldn’t just say any daycare because I wouldn’t recommend secular. That’s why I specified my Christian. Thank you for your comments.

@@Hafoos483 I am so happy it helped! Keep it up and let me know how things are going. Thank you for the comment!

@@Hafoos483 Just a note--I made an updated video about CTM. If you want to share with others, this is a better one to share. th-cam.com/video/LwznKWmNcLk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=3Ly_nihSAtYa1T5_

@@analissamerrill1941 You are in the know! 😂

@@Hafoos483 I’m sorry you are struggling. It will work. If you do it with ALL the instructions. And if you don’t wait until you have to out of desperation. This isn’t for a desperate moment. It’s a training method. That means it’s a plan that you know ahead of time and you watch for the moment to come. Please be sure to watch ALL instruction first. Get the free download too!

Reporting after only 4 days of using your ctm method and it works like magic!!!! I can't thank you enough!! He's 2.5 years old and he would cover his mouth sometimes to stop the tantrum, he even ate all his food today! He even started using his words to tell me what he wants instead of crying and getting angry all day long.... I feel so bad for letting him struggle with his tantrums I honestly believed that his crying and his anger and rage were hard for him to control seeing that since adults can't control their anger, I would sit with him while he flailed and screamed thinking that I am being a good mom trying to acknowledge his feelings, thank God I found your channel Your channel is underrated, it's the best parenting chanel I've ever watched and I'll only watch it from now on, binge watching every video ​@@MommyAnswerLady

​@@MommyAnswerLadyI followed your instructions and now my toddler stopped tantruming thank you very much❤

Thank you for your well thought out comments. I want to respond to a couple of points. First, I do not believe Jill Duggard Dillard abused her children in any way when doing blanket training. That is the assessment of those who think blanket training itself is abusive. It's just more slander they are pushing forward. There is a video on another channel addressing this critique of the Duggar family and blanket training. Actually your point about making abuse claims when something isn't really abuse lessens the truth of what REAL abuse is is ALSO a point I make on that channel. Here is a link to that video regarding the Duggars blanket training: th-cam.com/video/IXjxKgxjfCE/w-d-xo.html I AGREE completely with you that this mindset that children are not capable of self-control is the reason we have so many social problems today. NO DOUBT! Very true. It's really tiring to read those kinds of ignorant comments. Thank you! I have a video that addresses just the point you made about those who use the idea that stopping a child from exploring for any reason and under any circumstances is somehow abuse, are the same people who use baby gates, strollers and cribs. I would LOVE to hear your comments about that video. Here's a link. th-cam.com/video/bTLveXXbcqk/w-d-xo.html Thank you again for your comments here!

I would cup my hand over the mouth instead of lay my hand flat to where they can bite. Id also have a hold of the baby in a way they couldn't move my hand in order to bite... If that makes sense.

Thank you for being so supportive!

@@Apocryphon1 Thank you for the kind words!

@@tazhnaidris8680 This is s a general plan for children who do. But I know many parent belief their children don’t understand much of what they actually do. This will work because it is conditioning them. See this one too: th-cam.com/video/oHLvhSjDfpc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=UswTW9VPCSELVjc3

@@melaniejenkins2013 I’m so glad you have decided to stay home! There is a book I want to recommend that I just read to give you more motivation. It’s “How to Build a Better Life” by Suzanne Venker. She is not a Christian but her book is excellent. You’ll love it!

@@renaudjanie What an encouraging message! ❤️Thank you so much for the kind words. 😊 I’m so glad the content is helpful to you!

Have you tried implementing what is in this video on his level?

@@hamza-ek6gt Hold hand firmly, eyebrows down, look straight in the eye, low tone, “no hitting”. Second time, same thing, hold hand firmer to point of discomfort, same thing. Third time hold hand tightly very uncomfortable, same thing. Be consistent and gradually make each episode more uncomfortable until they get it.

@@healthycleanrecipes thank you for the comment!

When a child has to sit out or you close their mouth or ground or spank them, is that a reward or consequence or a natural consequence?

@@keepingprivate3400 Are you suggesting that unless a person has experienced something, they cannot give advice about it? So drug counselors must have taken illegal drugs? Marriage counselors must have had marriages that have fallen apart? Prison counselors must have committed crimes and gone to prison? I have to disagree with your premise. Does that also mean if none of my children had displayed other specific behaviors, I cannot advise about those behaviors either? That argument has no foundation in truth or in logic. I am very glad to say at this point none of my family members have fallen prey to this and I hope they never do. But that doesn’t mean I don’t know how to love them if they did. And this is exactly how our family would handle it. Love isn’t always doing what the other person wants. It’s doing whatever is best for them regardless of the consequences to yourself. And giving no support to that kind of disordered relationship and behavior is what is best for them.

If you are holding your hand over his mouth, it would be VERY difficult for him to bite it. It will be flat over his mouth. I'm not sure how he could even maneuver that? But, if that happens, a swat on the behind is a reasonable response. Tell him clearly he is not to bite. If he does it again, give him a swat or two on the diaper or bottom OVER his pants. Then continue CTM. Do NOT allow him to control the situation. Only allow him to control his own behavior. There is also a couple of videos on here already about biting/hitting. Have you watched those? You can do this!