Thanks, Drew! I appreciate how you draw the connections between instincts of other types; I haven’t seen many (maybe any) enneagram aficionados do that so far.
I love how raw and unscripted this is, especially since it's so on point. Well done, man. Seriously. I'm just getting into the enneagram. Looks like sx6w5 might be where I'm at most often, though it took a minute to rule out type 1. Good to know so I can grow. Thanks, brother. Totally makes sense now why I was so motivated to write my book - the Forest of Insecurities.
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching and digging in to the work! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one. If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again Drew
I love all the knowledge you share! I find learning about the enneagram so much fun! Im a 4W5 btw learning more about the subtypes has been fun and mind blowing🤯
I won’t stop pumping it out for you! I’m currently in Switzerland for a month deciding what I want to teach on next, just me and my mind and no work. You’re inspiring me 🙌🏼 Drew
Sorry for the delay, i’m a bit late on responding to you, I’ve been writing a book and hiding away in the Swiss Alps to do so, haven’t been keeping up. Thanks for watching, even if it is a year late. 😂 Hope you’re following along on Instagram to, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy
10 years ago I randomly found this Murphy's law list and I laughed my arse off, I never felt anxious about it. And I'm ok with it being wrong. It is what it is, after all.
’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼 I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed. Really appreciate this Chris, I’m always trying to find some angles that will help people grow. Thanks for watching and giving me that little boost of inspiration. If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Amazing, Drew. Your knowledge and delivery is lucid! How long does it take to develop a deep level of understanding? And can you recommend any trainings or books?
’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼 I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed. I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years, so I guess I have an advantage of sitting in this kind of work every day. But with the Enneagram, I dug deep for two years straight, and really tried to develop as much understanding as I could. In many ways I was self taught, so I just picked up as many books as possible. I think Riso and Hudson are pretty good and so is Beatrice Chestnut, if you wanna start there. If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Drew, I really need to tell you that you have so much GOOD STUFF to offer. All 4s do. Most of the time we can't even show a normal amount of that because all others don't let us. This is the reality for most 4s, but am glad you have made it. & wish you stay there
Hi Drew, thank you for your content. What are your thoughts on 6's following an authority that is not a person or group but maybe a self developed system or routine?
Just a healthy awareness that everything is flawed, everything is capable of disappointing. Watch out for extremes. But, when you got a good eye you’ll usually pick well… and when you don’t you lick your wounds and keep going with new wisdom
Your videos are super helpful! I'm still not sure if my main type is 4 or 6. I have a lot of 4 qualities and think i might be 4w5 so/sp but also have very strong 6 fear/anxiety/doubt as well as get angry easily and super suspicious of authority. Could that just be tritype? i'm 469 or 468.
I definitely could be that you have 6 or 4 as your second highest score so have a very strong influence there, so yes, definitely part of your tritype I’d say. Keep playing around with the unconscious motivation and see what wins out, wanting to be unique and avoiding mediocrity or creating a safe world for yourself. One might be a stronger motivation. But in the end there’s no rush on this. You are doing the good work of self exploration already which is fundamental, keep it up Drew
@@drewnewkirkhow could you have a 4 as your subtype when it should be a 5 or 7 for 6? That doesn't make any sense to me. The only other numbers is I thought an unhealthy 6 takes on the negative traits of a 3 and we take on the healthy aspects of 9s when we're healthy.
@@tenderlungs2065 second highest score I said, not subtype. Two very different things. We are talking about tritype not subtype’s Give a little TH-cam search of it. Should make sense after 👍🏼
@@drewnewkirk thank you for the clarification and I will check it out. You know how 6s are when we perceive incongruencies or things we think aren't true. 🤣 Thanks for telling me and not being offended.
I am pretty sure I am a type 6, partly because I am never entirely sure of anything, and partly because I have been inventing worst case scenarios in my mind since I was preschool age. However, I don't relate to the usual subtype descriptions. I am consciously more focused on my closest relationships and on intense interests and experiences than anything else, yet I do not fit the profile of a counterphobic sx dominant. I am usually cautious in most areas of my life. I can be reckless and charge into the fire, but only when I have had time to think about it, and have concluded that it is worth the risk, OR if someone I love is being threatened. Otherwise, I prefer strategy and diplomacy over confrontation. I relate most to the self preservation subtype description, although it pains me to admit that. I don't relate AT ALL to the common stereotype of self preservation being about resources, financial security, or physical comfort. I enjoy those things, but I would throw them away in a heartbeat for the right reasons or the right person. In fact, I have often fantasized about being a free spirit who is not tied to anything. This creates a lot of internal conflict, but the need for security usually wins. My relationships always take priority over physical safety and security. I will always prefer compromise and negotiation over conflict, but if I am pushed too hard or backed into a corner, I will come out fighting, and I will win because I know my opponents. I am often underestimated by people who think I am always going to be kind and sweet. I also do not relate to descriptions of the cool, rule bound social six. They annoy me to no end, and I terrify them with my "recklessness". The only thing that makes sense to me is that I am probably a type 6 sp/sx. I am safety oriented, but money, resources, and physical security are not what make me feel "safe". My relationships are what does that for me. I will do almost anything for the people I love, but if they f*** me over or break my trust badly enough, then my relationship with them will be history.
@@jjohnston5406 thank you so much for sharing this thoughtful response my friend. And thanks so much for watching! Glad it helped you play with your ideas about yourself If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com Hope all is well and thanks again for reaching out Drew
Thanks, Drew! I appreciate how you draw the connections between instincts of other types; I haven’t seen many (maybe any) enneagram aficionados do that so far.
No problem Mona! I’ll keep doing it then 😉 And thanks for putting me in the aficionado category 🙌🏼😂
I’ll take it
Drew
I would love to hear your take on 6 and 4 relationship.
Someday I’ll do this for sure
Got some videos I’m working on now but I’ll put it in the que 😉
I love how raw and unscripted this is, especially since it's so on point. Well done, man. Seriously. I'm just getting into the enneagram. Looks like sx6w5 might be where I'm at most often, though it took a minute to rule out type 1. Good to know so I can grow. Thanks, brother. Totally makes sense now why I was so motivated to write my book - the Forest of Insecurities.
So sorry for the delay. Thanks so much for watching and digging in to the work! I put a hard boundary on my time in the last year so I could write a book, which I just finished the first draft 🙌🏼 Know that I always appreciate every remark/response and try to get back to each and every one.
If at all interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again
Drew
Thanks. I'm a 6sx and I learn a some new things here.
Are you like he described? Diving head first into fearful situations all the time.
@@jnx6359 Exactly. And its annoying for me and other people sometimes
@@EsteraBugaian why’s it annoying for you?
@@jnx6359 Because it makes me do things I wouldn't normally do, but I only do them because I'm afraid. But what enneagram type are you?
I love all the knowledge you share! I find learning about the enneagram so much fun! Im a 4W5 btw learning more about the subtypes has been fun and mind blowing🤯
I won’t stop pumping it out for you! I’m currently in Switzerland for a month deciding what I want to teach on next, just me and my mind and no work. You’re inspiring me 🙌🏼
Drew
Excellent content - thank you, Drew, for clarifying my problems and answering my questions about instinctual variant (subtype) stacking 😁☺️.
No doubt! I’m on the job 😉
Awesome video. Found it a bit (one year) late but was super helpful!
Sorry for the delay, i’m a bit late on responding to you, I’ve been writing a book and hiding away in the Swiss Alps to do so, haven’t been keeping up. Thanks for watching, even if it is a year late. 😂
Hope you’re following along on Instagram to, @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy
10 years ago I randomly found this Murphy's law list and I laughed my arse off, I never felt anxious about it. And I'm ok with it being wrong. It is what it is, after all.
Keep alert my friend
Keep alert 😂
@@drewnewkirk Alert for what? 🤔
@@BPopovBG for a 6… everything 😉
Oh! It hit me! I see what you did there. I'm vigilant now.
Can’t wait for you to get to the 3s! I hope we are next.
Just give me a little time. But it’s almost done 😉
I hope we are not the most boring type. I guess because we wear our heart on our sleeve, there is no mystery with us:(
Your perspective is really great drew
’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼
I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed.
Really appreciate this Chris, I’m always trying to find some angles that will help people grow. Thanks for watching and giving me that little boost of inspiration.
If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
Amazing, Drew. Your knowledge and delivery is lucid! How long does it take to develop a deep level of understanding? And can you recommend any trainings or books?
’ve been so behind on responding to TH-cam messages, my apologies 🙏🏼
I’m working on a book this year and fully immersed.
I’ve been a therapist for over 20 years, so I guess I have an advantage of sitting in this kind of work every day. But with the Enneagram, I dug deep for two years straight, and really tried to develop as much understanding as I could. In many ways I was self taught, so I just picked up as many books as possible. I think Riso and Hudson are pretty good and so is Beatrice Chestnut, if you wanna start there.
If you’re interested in being on my mailing list drop your email on instagram @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy or drew@drewnewkirk.com hopefully I’ll continue to create some cool stuff to share
I like the noises. It makes it real. As long as is not to much, all the time
If I wasn’t filming I wouldn’t even hear most of it as my senses are used to it. But I love the background of NYC
Drew, I really need to tell you that you have so much GOOD STUFF to offer. All 4s do. Most of the time we can't even show a normal amount of that because all others don't let us. This is the reality for most 4s, but am glad you have made it. & wish you stay there
I ain’t leaving Leira, I just arrived. I’m gonna be after it all day long
You better believe it 😉
Drew
thank u for this
You got it Janelle. Loved doing it
Drew
Hi Drew, thank you for your content. What are your thoughts on 6's following an authority that is not a person or group but maybe a self developed system or routine?
Just a healthy awareness that everything is flawed, everything is capable of disappointing. Watch out for extremes. But, when you got a good eye you’ll usually pick well… and when you don’t you lick your wounds and keep going with new wisdom
How do you differentiate between a self-preserving 6 and self-preserving 9?
I’d watch the overview videos on 6’s and 9’s. You have to start with their motivations. Then apply that to the subtypes
Your videos are super helpful! I'm still not sure if my main type is 4 or 6. I have a lot of 4 qualities and think i might be 4w5 so/sp but also have very strong 6 fear/anxiety/doubt as well as get angry easily and super suspicious of authority. Could that just be tritype? i'm 469 or 468.
I definitely could be that you have 6 or 4 as your second highest score so have a very strong influence there, so yes, definitely part of your tritype I’d say. Keep playing around with the unconscious motivation and see what wins out, wanting to be unique and avoiding mediocrity or creating a safe world for yourself. One might be a stronger motivation. But in the end there’s no rush on this. You are doing the good work of self exploration already which is fundamental, keep it up
Drew
@@drewnewkirkhow could you have a 4 as your subtype when it should be a 5 or 7 for 6? That doesn't make any sense to me. The only other numbers is I thought an unhealthy 6 takes on the negative traits of a 3 and we take on the healthy aspects of 9s when we're healthy.
@@tenderlungs2065 second highest score I said, not subtype. Two very different things. We are talking about tritype not subtype’s
Give a little TH-cam search of it. Should make sense after 👍🏼
@@drewnewkirk thank you for the clarification and I will check it out. You know how 6s are when we perceive incongruencies or things we think aren't true. 🤣 Thanks for telling me and not being offended.
@@drewnewkirk oh, I see. It's something fairly new and I'll have to really look into it and see if I think it makes sense and is valid.
I am pretty sure I am a type 6, partly because I am never entirely sure of anything, and partly because I have been inventing worst case scenarios in my mind since I was preschool age.
However, I don't relate to the usual subtype descriptions.
I am consciously more focused on my closest relationships and on intense interests and experiences than anything else, yet I do not fit the profile of a counterphobic sx dominant. I am usually cautious in most areas of my life.
I can be reckless and charge into the fire, but only when I have had time to think about it, and have concluded that it is worth the risk, OR if someone I love is being threatened. Otherwise, I prefer strategy and diplomacy over confrontation.
I relate most to the self preservation subtype description, although it pains me to admit that.
I don't relate AT ALL to the common stereotype of self preservation being about resources, financial security, or physical comfort. I enjoy those things, but I would throw them away in a heartbeat for the right reasons or the right person. In fact, I have often fantasized about being a free spirit who is not tied to anything. This creates a lot of internal conflict, but the need for security usually wins.
My relationships always take priority over physical safety and security.
I will always prefer compromise and negotiation over conflict, but if I am pushed too hard or backed into a corner, I will come out fighting, and I will win because I know my opponents.
I am often underestimated by people who think I am always going to be kind and sweet.
I also do not relate to descriptions of the cool, rule bound social six. They annoy me to no end, and I terrify them with my "recklessness".
The only thing that makes sense to me is that I am probably a type 6 sp/sx. I am safety oriented, but money, resources, and physical security are not what make me feel "safe". My relationships are what does that for me.
I will do almost anything for the people I love, but if they f*** me over or break my trust badly enough, then my relationship with them will be history.
@@jjohnston5406 thank you so much for sharing this thoughtful response my friend. And thanks so much for watching! Glad it helped you play with your ideas about yourself
If interested send me your email through instagram or my email to be on my mailing list
Insta - @drewnewkirkpsychotherapy OR Drew@DrewNewkirk.com
Hope all is well and thanks again for reaching out
Drew
I don't understand sixes.
Very complicated
Very complicated
@@drewnewkirk I'm eager to see your 8 subtypes video. Them I understand well, I want to see the 4s perspective.
Awesome videos.
@@BPopovBG watch the 4’s and 8’s combo video too! No one knows an 8 like a SX 4 😟
I did watch it, I'm more into possession, rather than the 4, what about domination?
@@BPopovBG hmm, very susceptible for 8’s to dominate and if they aren’t aware enough and have too much power than watch out!
Thank you 😼
No doubt my friend! Love the processing, keep digging deep
Drew
Isn't so6 contradictory to feelers
@@NyrVindr btw I am an infj .....and I believe most of intuitives are 6.
@@Amitraghaat10 no most of intuitives are 5 and 4 .. especially 5w4
@@moveordievision can you type me 🤨