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My inner child is so reactive to these videos. I really wish I could have been placed in foster care as a child. Home was so bad and back in the 80’/90’s parents got away with so much more. Just a break to know what kindness and peace in a home felt like would have been so nice.

Why do I want to be her foster child now 😭

Crazy to let kids decide where and what to eat.

#nice

I have that book!

My mum would say we’re not sitting in a restaurant 😂

How do you get pictures of the parents to make the photo books? Is there a picture in the file you get or?

Chocolate milk is a dessert .. why is it being served with a meal?

I used to hide food in my room because we weren't very wealthy and couldn't afford snacks or treats. So when we did have them, I would hide some away to save for later

Let’s child have food at anytime? My mom would be very upset with me if I ate food at anytime. I completely understand the kid hiding food under the mattress because I do the exact same thing.

is obsessing over fictional characters in a way you act dress talk like them also similar or a problem? cause that was definitely me until like,,, what 11-12? like i still obsses over stuff now but not as much as 4 hmyears back-

I always like that you always frame these videos as "inexperienced vs experienced" instead of "wrong vs right". Like you're looking out for the wellbeing of potential foster parents and not just for the kids!

Who likes cucumber when they give you milk and fries for dinner?

I have food hoarding tendencies and I don’t even know why. My parents never restricted my eating habits (aside from the common sense stuff like no ice cream before dinner), never said I couldn’t have snacks (within reason), nothin Only thing I can think of is that I’d wake up in the middle of the night hungry and go grab food to bring to my room to eat so they didn’t catch me night eating. I’m going to be 24 at the end of the month and I still hoard food. I’m not adopted or fostered or anything either. No idea how to break my hoarding habit, parents tried the ‘no food in room’ thing over and over again and I never listen. Hell, I’ll have food in my room that i just never eat and forget about. They even tried “you can eat in your room, just clean up after yourself “ and i struggle with that. It’s frustrating for all of us Sorry for the semi unrelated rant, the food thing just made me remember my own problems.

I used to pretend to be a cat when I was little and I remember always getting in trouble for it and being yelled at and that did not help anything

You could give them something that does not make them fat in the longrun..

But every moron can just birth a child. No problem

reminder: your taste evolves and changes. you may not like things like broccoli or cucumbers now, but you may develop a taste for them eventually!

Maybe even double check with them what their triggers are, and let them go into the room first before bed and have them point out to you what needs changed. Remind them that YOU want them to feel safe, and tell them at a comfortable for both parties level if you have any personal experience with certain traumas.

Another tip if someone is hurt by combing the hair. Start brushing from the bottom :)

First, i want to hear morw of this silly frog. Second, first foster kid we had was a child of neglect. He had learned to not poop until bathtime. Then as soon as he was in the tub, he poop. That was always exciting. We almost had him potty trained before DHS found dad.

Ive been watching your vids for a while, because my partner and I want to foster, and ive been loving every video and how much makes so much sense to me as a psych major. But this video really got me. I was 4 when i went into the system and never really had a home like this, they werent twrrible, and i didnt really devwlop any kinds of these issues until later down the line, but seeing someone care about their startling, and the discomfort with jew people. This one made me cry. thank you for your love.

My biological mother wouldn’t treat me like that, but then again we really were treated like shit back in the day😂

Can't love this video enough. Thank you

on the one hand we need more foster parents on the other hand an unrelated property can prevent you from fostering

The trauma-informed parenting makes me cry everytime. If only all parents were like you and did their research.

Watching your videos really brings home how vulnerable these little kids are. It's extremely frightening to think that some of the homes are going into are not like yours. Oh Lord help them.

I always saw the brand names as meaning I was "worth" the extra money- even if they tasted pretty much the same. After a bit I stopped caring, but it really helped me feel valued.

I dotn let anyone touch my hair cause when I was younger my hair would get really and since I didn’t like brushing it as no one knew I had curly hair or how to care for it so mainly my grandmas would brush my hair and they would always say do I kept crying they’d give me a reason to cry or when I was younger my mom would hit me on the head for crying you want em to do that to you turns out I’m tender headed and they were litterly ripping though my hair now I don’t let anyone near my hair so

You always slay Laura

I’m an adult and I still sleep with a nightlight. I have a strange visual issue at night and if it is too dark with no other light source, my vision will be a very painful wall of green that I cannot see past. It feels like my head is being stomped on by elephants and that I’m trying to look through jars of green slime. It resides for a few minutes even after there is a light on and it can be so scary to be completely blind when there is light. Sleeping with a nightlight and never being in a pitch black room seems to help though and I haven’t been without light ever since. I even have motion detecting lights in my home so when it is dark, they will turn on as I pass them and allow me to safely navigate since I can’t see anything in the dark, not even my hand half an inch from my face. It is not just children who have a fear or problem with the dark. It can be anyone!

I know the feeling...But you know what works for my kid? Might work for yours, is I buy a bag of stir fry, rice stir fry, teriyaki. And I remove the frozen vegetables, and toward the end of cooking the stir fry, I add fresh finely chopped broccoli and you can add another veggie, too if you want. And I lightly cook it towards the end. Just barely. I use a very good teriyaki sauce. And she eats it right up.

i noticed that in the not ideal scenarios you talk a lot like "WE don't do x, WE need to do y" when it really means the child. its unnerving! i really appreciate the use of clear language in the experienced scenarios :)

I'm not sure fi anyone wants to address the elephant in the room when it comes to something like "soccer camp" that's expensive, but it would be interesting to see foster parent education like this actually over it since it's something foster youth frequently encounter where there isn't enough money to pay for something like that. I wish there was more effort to help provide scholarship and funding for foster youth to do activities like that, but I've seen foster parents argue that their bio kids will be jealous that the foster placements get things that they don't or those things might not be available if they return to their parents and the parent can't afford it.

No trauma here but my hair is long, thick, and just wavy enough to tangle like hell if not looked after for a few days. My mom used to brush it in the mornings before school and, due to time restraints, would always do it quickly. Not too brutal, mind, but it still stung a bit. Now, I use a comb instead, and just tease out any tangles very gently. So routine that it's quick for me to do as well, with none of the pain. Once when I wake up so it's good for the day, and once when I go to bed so it's easy to tackle in the morning (I actually find it tangles more throughout the course of the day than when I'm asleep!). If going out for any nice occasions, comb again just so it looks best. If you're able to spare the time it's definitely my preferred way of detangling

Me realizing my bf does this for me with the gatherings, food (other video I saw of you), and etc. because my parents are ab-sive

Thank you! That “no food in the room” rule was a losing battle. Also, yeah, I’m glad I fought for their camp. Their behavior has completely changed-they are so happy every day now! They’re more helpful and affectionate in the house now, and have begun to go outside with their friends instead of just talking to people online in the house all day. They have been apathetic towards everything all year. Going to this camp-the one thing they actually seemed to want to do-really was critical to their mental health. They’re even doing their summer school homework without complaint! 😃

All good except you making healthy fresh veggies turn into a salty fat laden ranch dressing...gross

CRINGE

I want to hear more about the bacon burgers

I love these videos because the first example seems totally reasonable, if you werent aware if a more trauma informed approach. You just simply wouldnt know that it could be harmful/unhelpful if you werent educated otherwise. It shows that we could all make these mistakes and provides simple alternatives with the childs needs in mind

I really like how you make comparison examples. They are informative thnxu

I love the food bin for the kids’ room. This has got to be so validating and comforting! And working the schedule so that camp can happen is wonderful!

I’ve never had a foster parent but my dad used to ask us (my sister and me) which name we liked for the protagonist. He said that is for the kids to interact more or to have a little connection to the story ❤

😢 in my foster home experience we had to sneak food because all the foster mom gave us was cereal one day a week and then quickly take us out to eat before the caseworker showed up so it looked like we were being fed thankfully a manager was able to contact the authority and they told her of 6 kids are to much give up her fostering to not doing it or say she can only house 1-2

Every child deserves that kind of emotional safety 💔

It might sound strange. But how ranch tastes like? Iam from Czech Republic and we don't have it here and I always imagine it like a custard maybe with some herbs 🤔

Anyone watch dumping ground or Tracy beaker

Being a person who has been threw foster care wish they did this stuff.

Give some brat a menu like he's ordering at a restaurant. Great