I never wanted a divorce. But I could not stop my ex wife from having multiple affairs and exiting the marriage. It was the most painful experience in my life. However, there was beauty in the suffering and my relationship with God reached new levels because of it
Ditto brother, same situation!! It’s heartbreaking! BUT GOD!!! I begin to walk in my purpose when I finally let go of the marriage. Prayers for you all! ❤
Same here. I had all biblical grounds for divorce and didn't want it, but he didn't want to honor the marriage and abandoned me again. It was dark and traumatic, but the Lord was with me the whole time and He provided for me to support my kids and myself afterward. He's been so good to me before, during and after the divorce... and once I let it go, I met an amazing man at church.
@@gustavsorensen9301 The topic is on the video is on divorce and marriage...hence I spoke on that issue. Ofcourse being a better person is what people should chase.
@@Matt-28 Your point is well-taken. Women these days want the Joanna Gaines wedding. They want to marry in a fancy barn with their 200 TikTok-loving friends.
Very solid teaching. My wife and I went through a separation until we both realized that neither one of us had grounds for divorce, so we reconciled. We realized it was the best decision when we saw the change in our kids. Their demeanor, their kindness, and their willingness to share what was on their hearts. God reinforced that one strand that held us together, and for that, we are eternally blessed
Currently going through a separation and I wanted to know y'all's reasons if you don't mind sharing. My husband has denied the faith after seven years and asked for a divorce, but has changed his mind but still wants separation and I'm so confused. He stays with his parents and stays the night sometimes . He says his reasons were for being un happy , sprung it on me after our 7 year anniversary . He's very confused and in turn that's left me very confused. I want reconciliation but he he wants to leave as devastating as it'd be I'll let go because I don't deserve to be in limbo for who knows how long
@@brianatucker9982 Hi, just wanted to chime in because I went through that situation. Please get biblical counseling because it's a very turbulent time. You want to be sure that he is genuine and willing to do the work that's needed in your marriage. There's a good YT channel called Marriage Helper that may help you in the meantime as you look for answers. Be very prayerful and cautious about moving forward after separation so you don't have more setbacks.
@@brianatucker9982 I wish I could say something smart....but I don't know details about your lives. But I offer to pray for you. God in Heaven, we ask you for discernment, and wisdom. We pray for the best option, that you could intervene in his heart and mind for a positive outcome. But he needs to be willing to repent and submit himself to you. Lord we ask you, that it wouldn't be long before it would be known to Briana what is the direction of their future. Thank you Lord that you know, you care and you help 🙏🏻 In Jesus's Holy name. Amen.
My wife left and gave me the kids 11 years ago. I entertained the idea of remarrying, but after dating only twice, I realized I have an impeccable ability to attract women that seem sweet and innocent until several months into the relationship, when their true colors start to emerge. This has been EVERY woman I’ve ever dated. I’ve been to therapy over it, and 2 separate therapists came to the conclusion that because I’m soft spoken and emotionally sensitive, I’m a target for women whom seek control and see me as a naive pushover that won’t notice or be confrontational if they’re being unfaithful. Covert narcissists to be specific. I took this as God’s way of saying He won’t bless any further attempts at marriage. I was devastated at first, but now I’m living for God like never before and more than happy to stay single for the remainder of my life. My point is, even if you have a legit reason to be divorced, it doesn’t mean you have to remarry. Sometimes God doesn’t allow us to pursue the same path as our remarried neighbors. If that’s the case, stick around, because He has something else in mind for you.
my ex husband left and was in adultery and there are times Im lonely but I think of all the chaos I was in and the total lack of any desire that I may not remarry. Its like after the dust clears I think of the realities of marriage and its like ehhh Im good. I have seen people who have remarried 4,5,6 times after that first divorce. i dont want that
I'm glad your happy and content but don't be shocked if one day God does bless you with a Godly women who loves the role that God gives to women. A women who looks to her husband to lead her and the family and is submissive in the ways God intends a wife to be. I never thought I would be the submissive wife but I have to admit I love it since I found a husband who is kind and loving in the ways a good husband should be.
As a single woman (no bf, no kids) I am scared to death of divorce. As much as I desire marriage, the failure thereof makes me fearful. Thank you Brother for shedding light on this topic.
It's very scary! So i don't blame you! The Civil government has ruined Marriage as an institution. But just like in the Bible, not everyone will get to lead storybook lives unfortunately! But also like the Bible, we try to stay in the spirit and follow GOD's leadings! Often when we chase a dream or goal, it seems to elude us. But when we stop chasing it, it seems to become available! GOD bless!
Don’t look for a husband. Look for friends. You might find one who’s worth the risk. Or you might have the gift of singleness. Don’t let fear of divorce turn into an anti-idol. If you do escalate a friendship to beau to husband, fear can turn you into a possessive, controlling, suspicious, miserable wife. You should listen to the Focus on the Family podcasts about marriage. Get the right image in your mind before it’s needed.
@@ricksonora6656 thank you for the advice brother. I like "Focus on the Family". Admittedly, I haven't listened to their podcasts in a while. Thanks for the reminder.
I thought I wanted to separate from my wife of 15 years but I asked god to help guide our marriage and thank the Lord I stopped wanting to separate my wife because of no affection from her. She’s more loving and attentive than ever and I’m more in love with her than ever! We have two children who are growing up so fast and even though I’m recovering from a stroke in a nursing home, my wife has been there for me and my boys! I’m so grateful!
Currently going through an unwanted divorce. Our court date is December 9th. I did not sign the papers and I’m not attending the court date, as I want no part in this. If you see this, please take a moment to stop and pray that God reconciles my marriage! Thank you!!
I can only speak for myself, but my biggest regret in my recent unwanted divorce is signing anything or participating in any fashion in something this exceedingly wicked. As a man, I caved to the fear of having my girls largely taken away from me if I did a no-contest divorce. Even though I didn't hire a lawyer to represent me and gave away my home, money, possessions, I would do anything for the chance to go back and take my signature off that cursed document, no matter the cost. I'm assuming by your name that you are a woman, and if that is the case and you have children you probably don't have to worry about losing them at least. Regardless, I would have immense admiration for you or anyone else that did a no-contest divorce based on your Godly convictions. Be well Brooke.
Praying. Jesus Saved our Marriage after being separated for two years. I'm so very happy He did. It was hell on earth, going through divorce. The lawyers were like devil's. I kept Seeking Jesus and Reading my Bible KJV. And Praying. That's what kept me from losing it. Jesus did it for me, He can do it for you. I'm praying for you Brooke. Stay strong. Jesus Loves you.(married 21 years!) Matthew 6:33 KJV❤🙏🏼❤
The fact that adultery isn't illegal in the world like it's a sin in the Bible churns my stomach to no end. If it was illegal, marriage would be more permanent. But forget what the law says, marriage IS permanent in the eyes of GOD our Heavenly Father and in mine
This IS a sensitive topic to me, I've never been divorced but I do come from a family that was broken by adultery & divorce & I had my heart broken by someone whom I believed was the one I would marry. I know that all of God's commandments are important but to me personally his commandment about not committing adultery is the one that resonates with me, I have a personal hatred towards adultery & divorce & I'm so sorrowful to see how divorce is running rampant & destroying our world.
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Divorce is very painful because it happened to me, my ex wife wanted out I tried to convince her to stay and work it out she declined and my life was turned upside down. I was stressed to the max and on top of that, losing my father around the same time coping with his death and being divorced which I never wanted and now I'm going through a healing process from my heart being broken twice my ex wife and my father's death keep me lifted up in prayer.
Hey James, I hope you are doing well brother. I’m going through an unbiblical divorce and my wife stopped wearing her rings and is dating already without even filing for divorce. I understand how much this can hurt but trust that God works everything for the good of those who love Him. Keep on loving him brother and you’ll know you are in His will for your life, there is great comfort in knowing that.
Thank you so much for this message. I was married to my wife for seven years. During those years she chose to find romantic interests outside of our marriage many times. I reconciled to stay in and attempt to heal my marriage through all of this but she then decided to leave me after her last affair. All of this began after we stopped attending church and living in the word I have been struggling with the idea of divorcing her because of my personal beliefs towards marriage. Since our separation of over a year. I have resumed attending church and studying the word. Messages such as these have really helped in allowing me to understand the decision I have had to make and to deepen my connection with our savior and the path that he has chosen for me. God Bless and thank you for all of your wonderful content brother!
The only reason a Christian may initiate divorce is infidelity. But in telling Christians that they may accept divorce from a non believer the Bible says that staying together may benefit the spouse and any children. Only you, your wife and God know your situation. Try to do what God wants. Your pastor might be able to help.
the bible specifically states adultery is a permissible reason for divorce. you’re all good brother. just trust in the Lord and live for Him so he can work through you in Jesus name amen.
I am so sorry (to you too, Alicia😔). You sound like you are in the clear. You didn't up an walk away; she did. She broke the covenant. You did not. I pray that you are ok and can move on, and even for her if she ever turns it around. You are God's child, and He cares & see what you are experiencing. I can't think of a Biblical reason for you to not be allowed to be married again. Infidelity kills a marriage, and even though God can heal that, she chose to leave. Death allows for new beginning, just like if she passed away. It couldn't hurt to fast and pray about it. God cares, don't forget that💝✌️🙏
My husband and I hit a rough patch, we separated for a bit because he lost his path with God.. during that time God pruned him and made him a better husband and father, today he’s so different and such a loving man of God. Thankfully we have had no infidelity in our marriage my heart goes out to those who have felt that hurt 😔 we were blessed with a baby girl after we reconciled, now 6 months pregnant and happy as can we I am sooo grateful for how the Lord has molded my marriage
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
@@hillarysudeikis2264 Mam you have no right telling me to repent of a teaching I never even mentioned in my comment, maybe instead of acting high and mighty telling others to repent you should take the log out of your own eye.
divorce, is not a sin....the options are....reconcile, or remain unmarried.....remarriage is....and one can not be forgiven, unless the sin....adultery, is forsaken.....
It’s not that black and white. Just as killing/murder are not always the same. Or a non virgin marrying is allowed. Unbelievers are not joined by God. If one of them becomes a believer THEN the marriage is at least sanctified-if they are pleased to dwell! Marriage is not joined by God unless they are believers. He has never made covenants with unbelievers. It’s obviously foolishness because if he did then he would be even marriages that are done in evil like Satanists.,
Is it according to your revelation or according to scriptures,the only unpardonable sin is very clear in the scripture that is to speak against the Holy Spirit,therefore your revelation is false. If it's unpardonable why Jesus said one cannot divorce unless in the matter of udultry? and Paul talked about desertion if one spouse decide to leave the other is no longer bound to that marriage. When you have been lucky not to go through what others have gone through in marriage you will speak to make others to feel like loosers or sinners. Udultry and desertion are conditions for biblical divorce.
@@fonelo2215 Violence would be considered divorcible, after which, both parties can get remarried. Obviously, if one remains violent, that one is not saved. But the other one is free to remarry. Anyone who says different believes the devil's lies about divorce and remarriage. Saved people believe what God says to them. Double minded churchgoers are easily fooled by the devil's interpretation of scripture.
There are so many different scenarios. What if you want to be reconciled to an ex spouse but not only are they now an atheist but engaged to someone else and you’ve repented from the divorce situation that had taken place? I understand being single is very valuable, and that it draws you closer in your relationship to God, but I can’t believe that if I met a godly man and wanted to marry him that it would be a sin in God‘s eyes given my past situation.
Christians might find it hard to accept Christ's teaching on divorce/remarriage but ultimately it is what God wants for us that matters. The road to Heaven ain't easy....
I went through this 41 years ago. Got saved and my unsaved wife left. I did everything I could to reconcile and she divorced me. I struggled for a couple years while studying divorce in the bible and came to the same conclusion that you taught in the video. GOD led me to a lady who was in the same situation. We married and GOD has blessed our marriage, testimony, and our home for 39 years. Thank you and GOD bless.
“But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 5:32 NKJV You can’t remarry brother
@@qizvy-7212 Wrong. For a little more info for you, my wife had alread moved in with a man and was pregnant with his child. The lady I am now married to was abandoned by her husband, who left her and their child without support and moved on to another relationship before they were divorced.
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
My husband had an affair 25 years ago. We were able to heal by the grace of God. We will be celebrating 36 years of marriage in December. It was hard but all I can say is fight. The enemy is seeking to destroy lives and marriages. But now it is sweeter than I could have ever imagined. I can honestly say I love my husband more now than I ever have before.
Yes and if you find yourself being led towards something other than these biblical standards, then you know that you are not being led by God, but by something else
It can also be said, Don't substitute reading for leading. We need to understand what God says in the Bible, not what our fallible mind thinks. We need the mind of Christ to receive all that the Honly Spirit reveals.
I never planned on a divorce with my exhusband but I was tired of being belittled and beat up in front of my children.... It took me 10 years to finally be strong enough and break away. However, I was able to meet my current husband and we've been together 20 years and I could not imagine spending my life with anyone else.
He is leaving out Roman 7:2, A man is bound to his wife as long as he lives. 1 Corinthians 7:38 says the same, the wife and husband are bound until death. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 says let not the wife depart from the husband if she departs let her remain unmarried or reconciled. The only grounds biblically for remarriage is if someone dies…death.
This made me cry. Thank you. Ok, please don’t judge me. I know I’m a horrible person….or did horrible things. Idk why I’m even going to spew this out…..I was a heroin addict/stripper/sex work and was also abused as a young girl. I got clean at 21, but I was still a mess. I believed in Christ, I got baptized, I went to church, believed with my whole heart, bible study, I felt God move in my life. It was AWESOME!!! Then……I met a guy. And I was fixated on getting married. I knew I shouldn’t, I had that alarm in my gut going off. But “I want what I want”. Had my first baby, lost my mind after. Then had an affair. Quit my job, reconciled. Had another baby and went off the deep end again. More affairs, like a sex addict. Because of the deep spiritual pain that put me in. I picked up heroin again, and continued to shoot dope for 8 years after being clean for 9 years. 😢HOW AWFUL!! Selling. Drugs, doing drugs and some sex work. Please don’t think I’m disgusting. Well, I guess I was. FINALLY got sober again PRAISE GOD!! Oh lord, I thought I was gonna DIE!! Overdosed twice with paramedics and narcan. Met a man, fell in love, got pregnant right away, had two babies. Instead of losing my mind this time I STAYED sober!! I want to remarry. I know, my order is all messed up. I said to myself, I got a new life AGAIN!! How good is god to me?! But idk what to do. I want to get married but I also don’t want to be living in a continuous state of sin. I feel like I have a new life and should continue moving forward. Stop looking back. I have a long healing process ahead of me and hate myself for all the terrible things I’ve done. I NEVER EVER want to be that person again. EVER. I probably shouldn’t have said all that. But it’s real and it happened. Can you please say a prayer for me and my children? Thank you.
Two months old but cannot bypass this. Prayers for you, friend. You have repented. God has made you clean. You aren't what you once were. Rather, you are a new creation and that is what the Father sees. He is a perfect Father who loves you completely and only wants good for you. He can give you the desires of your heart when you surrender to Him. I believe He can give you a joyous union and help you raise those babies in Him.
Good Morning Allen ! Divorce has become so normal in Todays Generation everyone is SO quick to throw in the towel and run away at the first sign of struggle/pain. People arent looking to God for restoration anymore they are looking to the World ! SUPER STOKED about this LOGOS Class. Already signed up ! Wouldnt miss this ! 💞💞 This was a wonderful message ! 💞 God Bless You For Sharing ! Have a blessed evening ! 💞💞
This is a beautiful and much needed topic. I have turned to the bible during the most challenging times, and used it to decide what should be done, instead of going by the worlds standards. Living a biblical marriage is challenging, but I am able to look at my marriage and my wife (may she rest in peace), in retrospect, and in regards to the decisions I had to make, there is no sorrow that can be added to it. These standards set forth by God, through Paul, are what we are to do...so do it!!
Brother Parr, this has been such a blessing to me because I feel so condemned as a divorce who never wanted it in the first place. Hearing you say, “don’t live in the condemnation “ has been soothing to my ears. Thank you for your continued work in the Kingdom.
Thank you for this. I have always wondered about divorce in the Bible and when it is or is not acceptable. I am still upset that my parents are divorced and it has been 20 years. It is really devastating for a family. If you have kids and are considering a divorce, please try to work it out! All you need is love
My ex left me and my 5 and 8 year old years ago. It broke me and them and we were never the same again! I never saw him as someone not to trust! It was horrible, heartbreaking, devastating tor me and my sons!
I was married to an abuser. His addiction was control. He used gaslighting; disrespect; verbal, psychological, & mental cruelty to keep his “minions” (wife and children) in line. He tried to bait me into arguments so he could win. I’m a Christian and thought he was (he said he was). I kept forgiving years of abuse (intermittently there was the love bombing which may have been his lame attempt at an apology). During this time, I actually won an argument and felt awful for several days. If there’s a winner, then there’s a loser. All these 32 years, he wanted me to be the loser. I realized that he didn’t love me (“husbands, love your wives the way Christ loves the Church). I left him and never looked back. He never asked me if I was coming back and he never asked me to come back. He started dating within four months after I left. Subsequently, he remarried. I have dated over the years. My standards are so strict that nobody can breech them. After reading scripture about divorce, I quit dating and will remain single.
I‘m so sorry you went through that. I can’t believe you lasted 32 years… I’m almost 11 years in and I can’t do it anymore. I already made the decision that I will not date nor remarry. I’ll put all my energy in raising my children. I will probably need 10 years to heal from all these psycho games. I’m so drained and can’t wait till this divorce is finally over!!
Divorce sucks! I’m a child of divorce. My parents got divorced when I was five years old. When people say oh the kid will be just fine yeah let’s hope so. It’s never the same as having two healthy functional parents in the household. Seeing your parents together gives you feelings safety , security, stability.
Brother Allen Thank you so much for this video. Eight years ago I went through a divorce that I did not want. I am a single father and trusting Christ to lead me to find the right woman to marry. Constantly battle condemnation since I never wanted to get divorced... it's like someone amputated my limbs and I had no say on that decision.
Someone likened it to pulling apart a piece of cardboard, it can never really come apart clean. I am separated and one night I was in bed and it just felt soul tearing. I'm still praying God.
@@MatthewKnight05 try the correct....term.....not under bondage is not the same as not bound....something that the writer had just explained.....one is bound to the other as long as the other one is alive....
@@philipbuckley759 No, they are not. If one is loosed, they can remarry. 1 Corinthians 7:27,28a. Read with understanding. If one is loosed, they were married, hence they are not virgins.
@@michaelalbertson7457 Wrong. Jesus in Mark 10:10-11 says "Who soever shall divorce his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall divorce her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." You cannot remarry if your spouse is still alive. 1 Corinthians 9:39 "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the lord."
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Thanks for this video. I've personally witnessed a lot of divorce in my family and I've gone through the divorce in my own personal life. My marriage ended due to adultery and abuse and it was also unequally yoked and a bunch of other problems. I'm biblically able to get married again but am content with Christ and I don't want to remarry if it's not God ordained. I just want to be single and alone for a few decades or however long the Lord allows.
You are not able to get remarried people don’t understand Matt 19:9 and I say unto you who so ever put away his wife except it be for fornication…. which is death according to mosaic law Lev 20:10 Deut 22:13-24 Jesus was saying you can only get remarried if your spouse is dead.
Allen please stop preaching on this subject you telling people they have grounds for divorce is biblically incorrect souls will go to hell based of that grounds for divorce stuff just like you talked with Marcus Rogers I’m more then willing to have a sit down and talk to you about what the Bible really says on this… in fact how about I just link you to a live panel I was on where I confirmed it in the word Of god that there is no divorce on any grounds for anyone saved or not..
@@spanishfly7709 Jesus clearly said that adultery is grounds for a divorce. Yes it would be better to not ne divorced, yet he isn't saying that you can't only that you shouldn't if you don't have to. Has Paul taught an incorrect teaching? Survey he spoke from the Father that we should let those who leave leave. Otherwise hoe shall we hold them? It is unreasonable to ask people to hold to those who don't want to be held. Even God won't do that.
I have been divorced for many years now so a weight was lifted from me when you said divorce was not the unforgivable sin. Thanks brother keep up the good word!
Divorce isn't unforgivable - but remarriage after divorce is adultery, and no adulterer will have any part in the kingdom of heaven - on that subject this man is dangerously wrong! God bless.
@@SuperJ333 Matthew 19:9 says, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.
@@CountryFriedCreations Yes - and I've answered this in a bit more depth elsewhere - if you can find it! However, I'll do my best, but it will have to be brief - no disrespect. I think you're quoting the NIV, but do you find it interesting that it doesn't say 'adultery' twice? Greek is a very precise language, and the the Greek word moichos and it's derivatives are always translated as the English word 'adultery.' So, contrary to the false teaching in this video, Jesus is not saying "except for adultery" - and in fact the Geek translation of what He did say is 'porneia' which doesn't mean "marital unfaithfulness' - that would be adultery (moichos). The KJV does better translating it as 'fornication' which is a sin only single people can commit, and the Amplified does better saying 'unchastity.' So, to understand what Jesus was referring to you have to understand the Jewish betrothal ritual, and in short it's where a woman is unfaithful between the drinking of the covenant cup and the consummation, which could be a long time - it's referred to in Deuteronomy 22 as 'she played the harlot while still in her father's house.' This exception doesn't apply to gentiles, which is why it's mentioned in Matthew, but not in Mark or Luke. However, remarriage after divorce was still adultery - read Romans 7 - and Paul was a Jewish scholar. However, it's also possible to prove that if Erasmus hadn't deliberately meddled with the text, it would read "not even for porneia" rather than "except for." I know this is a bit muddled - I'm tired and I need to sleep - but I hope it helps - God bless!
Divorce is hard. I've been divorced for almost 7 years now. I like to encourage people to remember the vows that were said not just in front of people. We said them in front of God. We promised him that we would trust and look to him for the marriage to thrive. God created marriage and really knows how to keep it together. I'd like to also add Mark 10:9 which says, "what God had joined together, let no man separate." We have to look to God first to make sure that joining together is what he wants. Pray and seek God's wisdom before and during the marriage in order to stay away from divorce. Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾
I will say a hard thing. If a woman wants a husband for excitement rather than true godliness, infidelity and divorce usually happen. And don't usurp the authority God gave him. Marriage is not designed to make you happy. It's designed to glorify God with children raised up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. If no children, then they glorify God in their lives, not live it out for pleasure only. Husbands, love your wives, and wives, obey your husbands.
I have a testimony on this..I was preparing to be a born again Christian and I told my husband if it is okay for me to do so (we are both non believer that time) and my husband says it is okay "as long as I won't force him to convert as well". I agree by lips but that moment, my heart is praying to God. Telling Him, "Jesus, are You willing for me and my husband to be in this situation in the future, where I will be yoked with a non believer?". So, weeks passed and God did a miracle, He allowed a "negative situation" upon my husband which forced him to seek God's face. In the end, both of us were baptized on the same day/time. God is good, He will make a way for his children! 💕💕💕
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PROOF THAT THE BIBLE IS REALLY THE WORD OF GOD - JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that submissive and obedient human beings who believe his BIBLICAL authority and teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths. JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that his teaching about the "Kingdom of God" or "Rulership of God" through him will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without arrogant and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without liars, slanderers, deceivers and hypocrites, without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without funeral homes and cemeteries. JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that his teaching about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is the guarantee that worshippers of the Creator who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, his disciples, and many others will be resurrected back to life in the Creator's own good time. LIARS AND HATEFUL ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, AND FANATICS OF RELIGIONS DON'T KNOW AND UNDERSTAND that worshippers of the Creator and believers of Jesus Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King, his Christ.
This has been a VERY good teaching. May the Word of God push us INTO His will! This world has NOTHING to offer. We are designed to live for Him! May this teaching bless our lives!
All remarriages after the death of a spouse are considered legal in the eyes of God. All remarriages after the divorce of a spouse are considered illegal in the eyes of God.
Thank you we never divorced although I left a few times and came back I was saved after marriage but my husband not although he grew up in Christian home. We were never really happy. I focused on my relationship with Jesus and reading the word. We were married 40yrs 2 weeks before he died he accepted Jesus. After he passed I had a deep sense of gratitude that the Lord kept me from leaving and I got to know Jesus intimately during those difficult years
Thank you so much for this teaching. I am married to a divorcee and we have both accepted the Lord recently. I was truly worried about where we both stood with God because we are aware that God would prefer if no divorce takes place in a marriage. I truly thank Him for wiping our slates clean. He has given me the answer that I was seeking. God bless you. Shalom 😇 🙏 🛐
Please read the post I've just done - I'm sorry, but in the eyes of God you are committing adultery - I didn't say it, Jesus did. This guy is teaching something he hasn't studied, and he's dangerously wrong, because it's a salvation issue - no adulterer will have any final part in the kingdom of heaven. Please look into it. God bless.
The fact that the divorce was part of his past life is pretty clear you are fine. You are new creations in Christ. The blood of Jesus still covers everything anyway.
@@em77775 Yes, but divorce is not the problem - that's a one-off action, and that can be repented of and therefore forgiven. But remarriage is an adulterous relationship, and it's not in the past, it's in the present. The blood of Christ only covers us if we're walking the walk, and if we're not, then we need to repent if we want to receive forgiveness. And repentance isn't feeling sorry - it's turning away and ceasing from the sin - if we deliberately keep doing something that's wrong, then de facto, we haven't repented!
My wife has rejected me for 32 years and whenever I complained, she vilified me endlessly for my anger and frustration. Because of her pain from childhood troubles, she is responsible for nothing! As a man I am responsible for everything. It does not matter what horrible childhood I had...
The Bible is clear the only way to Remarry is if the Spouse dies. I have a playlist of over 400 studies on this from many Pastors and teachers on this. The main church is Lukewarm and won't listen to Jesus on this. Pay attention to his words. It's his opinion not biblical. Even if someone divorces, the Bible mentions no where at all in any scriptures you can remarry unless the Spouse dies.
There is difference between forgiveness only and staying in what Jesus calls adultery. You cannot stay in adultery just because you confessed the Sin. The second part is repentance. Example: you cannot steal something, keep it, ask God to forgive you and not return item. In Divorce, yes you are forgiven but Remarriage is adultery if you had no grounds biblically for Divorce. I also go a step further since Jesus never quantified Remarriage if.... He said, ",Whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery". So Divorce is forgivable but marrying again with first spouse still alive(Covenant Spouse) is still adultery. I know this from experience. I had to Divorce 2nd Spouse based on Remarriage scriptures. It's not easy but you cannot keep what is not yours.💓
@@HopeLives2012 This is absolutely unsound, poor doctrine that has been crippling professing Christians for years. Marriage being indissoluble is rooted in Catholicism and certainly is NOT biblical. Once you get legally divorced (whether biblically justified or not), you are no longer in covenant with that person. Period. You referenced Jesus's teaching on divorce in Matthew's gospel (chptrs 5 &19). Jesus is clearly condemning those who divorce their spouses (in this specific context, Jewish men divorcing their wives) frivolously. Additionally, he is explaining the damage it would cause to the woman who would be stigmatized as an adulterer. Anyone that married her would also be unfairly stigmatized as an adulterer. What does this mean practically? Unjust divorces. or divorces period, have a ripple effect, affecting the innocent spouse, kids, family members, friends, future relationships, etc. Yet, God is perfectly just, merciful, gracious, and loving. If one acknowledges his sin and repents, God forgives. And that includes divorce. How silly is it to compare theft to marriage? In elementary terms, theft is bad. It is sinful. Marriage, on the other hand, is good. It is a beautiful gift from our God. With that being said, can you mess up a good thing, repent, and still be eligible for that good thing? Absolutely. Ever read the parable of the Prodigal Son? Lastly, to think one must divorce from their current spouse in order to retain salvation is absurd, sinful, and unbiblical. This is taught no where in scripture. It rather demonstrates lack of faith in the works and personhood of Jesus Christ. Remember, He is the sole reason why any of us can be saved at all. Let's not add our works to His as means for salvation lest we be in blatant, dangerous error.
I’m currently 27 and at this point in my life, I’ve truly had strong urges to find that special woman in my life to marry. However, I strongly believe the reason I’ve remained single because God knows I cannot handle it. Maybe someday in the future I will, but the responsibility and commitment required is currently not something I’m ready for right now
Pray about it brother lay your heart to him,fear does not come from God. Don't lean on your own understanding trust God. Beware of sexual immorality in the meantime(Please note I am not saying you guilty of it or anything) In your wait guard against the gratifying the flesh.God does not only cater for some things he caters for our every need.
If you KNOW you are NOT READY right now. Wait. My stepfather told me this ..."marriage is easy to get into but hard to get out of." Turns out he was physically abusive. I couldn't even cry when he literally dropped dead in the kitchen.
Regardless of any teaching on any biblical passage concerning divorce and remarriage, consider the actual vows you made before a Holy God in the presence of witnesses. This includes not only your marriage vows, but also the commitments you made in raising your children together in the Lord when you had them dedicated in front of the church. Most Christians initiating divorce today will rush to find whatever twisted interpretation they can to justify their actions biblically. But that will never change the words you spoke to forsake all others until death.
From what I see and experienced, when people have major issues and struggles with their spouse, is because they married the WRONG person in the first place !! The other is not enough teaching on about serving each other, putting your spouse first, pleasing them. Learning what makes them happy. Do not be lazy taking care of home, and children. Don't create unnecessary debt. Mishandling finances is a major problem. Discuss things, do not fight, or even argue!! Be civil.
You sound rather intelligent so you likely have been on this journey, but take time to learn about the pros & the cons of marriage! learn about the areas that couples trip up on ( money & physical intimacy being the most common). Understand what a man is and what he is all about and learn it from men themselves, not from women! These ideas will go along way into bettering the odds that your union survives the inevitable storms!
My wife was cheating on me with another man and refused and didn’t wanna be with me anymore so I divorced that’s not my fault I tried everything I could
Yes you absolutely have every right. I decided to take the option to remain with her as long as I could trying to reconcile, even as she was cheating on me, and even denied me what was supposed to be ours in the marriage bed. When it came to the point that she told me to leave, I decided that it was time and that I had done all I could. Each person's situation is unique, but whatever option you take, as long as it is in line with the biblical standards put forth here, you can walk away from it with a clear conscience. Amen!
I’m so glad you ended up on this subject, not that my marriage is a problem… I’ve just been seeing christian youtubers say if you got remarried at all you need to get divorced again! It’s very frustrating to see the weird doctrines of man show up left and right. I pray they find this and it is helpful to them.
I think you nailed it when you were talking about trying to forgive and reconcile the marriage after infidelity. That's a hard thing to do but if it's possible, I believe it will bring the best outcome. We're called to forgive even when it's not easy or convenient.
That's a very hard one because it takes two to want to make it better. And the one that cheated really needs to understand that they crumbled the trust factor and it takes a heck of a lot to put those pieces back together.
@L Cam I agree! It's not always possible to reconcile. But, if the unfaithful is willing to own up to what they have done to the betrayed AND put in the recovery work, it may be possible to reconcile the marriage and for the betrayed to forgive the unfaithful. I believe God's desired outcome would be forgiveness and reconciliation, but depending on the severity of the infidelity, it may not be possible.
Wow!! I have read this years ago and many who are consider leaders in the church refuse to believe and accept this!! This is a very very very hard teaching and never ever talk about. They stay far, far away from this verse.
Thank you for this series. I was a widow who married a divorced man. I new I was free but kept feeling some weirdness about his divorced status. Thanks for this liberating message. Thanks be to God we're still married (13 years) and believing God for Godly success.
@@TheJude1790 As God can forgive any sin if one confesses to Him, she is free. He is divorced. You believe the living divorced spouse bondage lie, when the law of the land, which came from the Bible, says different. You have not learned 1 John 1:9, nor have you learned 1 Corinthians 7:27,28.
Brother Allen, thanks so much for this video, it is much needed in our community of believers. I can't begin to number the times that I have wanted a divorce from my husband. Not because he has cheated but because as a man of God he has his own standards that he lives by and not God's standards of how as a married couple, we are to live and treat each other. I have become sooooo broken over my marriage and I continue to pray and ask for strength every day. I also continue to pray for him as the Holy Spirit has directed me too. I feel now that I am still in my marriage because first, I love the Lord and I know that HE hates divorce, second, because I'm recovering from a bout with meningitis and I need help with not only the bills but with my health in which I get no support from him. I just went back to work even though I am not 100% because he says that he checked out of our marriage a long time a go and I will have to fend for myself. In a way, I am relieved that he wants to leave because we have been struggling the entire 13 years that we have been married and quite frankly, I'm tired. However, I will continue to pray and seek the face of God because I do know that ALL things are possible through HIM. Please pray for us family!!!!
Im so happy I saw this today, my pastor explained this to me a couple of hours ago among a lot of other things because I separated from my husband a week ago, we’re christians but my husband hasn’t been acting like one lately so I left the house, Im sure the Lord will restore our marriage since I can’t/shouldn’t divorce 😅
The only thing I could add is that marriage is a very difficult thing to succeed in. This is exactly what the disciples said to Jesus after his teaching on marriage and divorce. Feelings change, looks change, faithfulness changes, life's situations change...and you made vows before God. Notice that Paul also commented on the difficulty of remarriage ...especially trying to blend families. "Such will have troubles in this life...but I spare you" said Paul. Remarriage under the right conditions is not condemned by God...but neither is it easier. That's why I like Allen's emphasis on "working" on your marriage and trying to "work it out"...I believe that's what God wants because he wants both spouses to turn to him and he will help change what needs changing...that's what God wants to do in all of us, married or not. May God be Glorified by us as we turn to him in whatever situation we find ourselves in.
Once married, always married until death do us part, no exception. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
My parents divorced for a very different reason. When I was younger my father was very uninvolved in our lives, didn't do his responsibility as far as taking care of us kids, didn't do any house chores, and was constantly berating on my mother. Sometimes he would get physical with her. For the record my mom held a full time job sometimes two jobs at a time to make sure we survived. My father had absolutely no desire of counseling or fixing anything, and made mom severely depressed that she had enough. So one day she kicked him out. I'm not sure if it's biblical or not (I'm still learning), but I think that was Mom's best decision she made as far as her mental health and possibly safety.
Did your mother go to the counseling? For how long and what did she get out of it? Did your father work at all? Was he around the house even if your mom was unhappy with him? There are 2 sides to every story! if you are smart, you would NOT accept your mothers side of the story as the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Women have this nasty habit of lying about what is really happening. As a 50 yr old guy, I have been lied about countless times by women to the point I dont trust must of it. some of this can be explained as the typical: women see with pink glasses & men see with blue glasses! We dont see the same thing in the same way! thats fundamental. but women have a half dozen reasons why they would be tempted to lie about that situation! i am sorry if this hurts peoples feelings, but most modern men are walking away from marriage with modern women because of women lying & womens inability to take personal responsibility (according to other peoples definition, not the woman in question's)! So if women want to know why men dont want to get marriaed any more, these are 2 of many reasons! GOD bless your poor dad!
It told me that my situation is still not under none of the reasons to get a divorce, so I’m praying for God to reconnect us because I am so checked out. But my kids happiness comes before mine and I made this commitment to God.
Thanks Allen. Please pray for me you all! I had a really nasty heart towards my (now ex wife) and now we are divorced. She is a non believer now, and I have idolized marriage before. I wanted to divorce her, but tried to (reluctantly) reconcile with her out of obligation, and now I have the opportunity to marry a believer, but my conscience feels condemned because of my past divorce and my unGodly heart behind it. I'd appreciate your prayers for a clear conscience and a God honoring re-marriage!
It’s good to clear your conscience. Things to consider: The rules about divorce are applications of the Great Commandments: Thou shalt love…. Have you shared the gospel and your conversion with the ex? There may be options that, later, you’d regret shutting the door on. Have you identified and taken responsibility for anything you might have contributed to the conflict? If you haven’t, you risk repetition.
Dear oh dear - so many people led astray by false teaching like this - I wouldn't want to be this guy on judgment day, because this is a salvation issue. Remarriage after divorce is adultery, and no adulterer will have any final part in the kingdom of heaven - please read the post I've just done. God bless.
Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God brings revival to the earth. Pray the Lord of Harvest send forth laborers into the harvest. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment and wakes them up 🆙
This is a great segment! Although I have not been married before I see so much divorce that I cannot understand it. But, I know for sure God is not pleased with this in the church. Thank you for sharing!😇
Thank you so much for this! I have been praying for confirmation and struggling with this subject for a long time. God is surely working through you, dear Brother. Thank you and God bless you and family ❤️
I am divorced. There were many issues. It was scary and police had to be involved. What about issues where there is a dangerous spouse that could harm or kill you or plays mental games to make you think you're crazy?
I got divorced many years ago. I tried everything possible to save the marriage. Prayed went to church and tried to be more loving to my ex husband. My ex husband when we were dating he was a “good man” and he said he was a Christian. Once we got married he completely changed. He rarely went to church with me, became controlling and was abusive. I left my ex husband with two small babies after he put his hands on my neck trying to choke me. He refused couple counseling. He blamed me that everything was my fault. My ex husband is a narcissist and so is his mom. My MIL was the worse evil person. My ex husband has been married 3 times. I have only been once. I’m open to remarriage if God has that as part of my life. I truly think emotional, mental, verbal and physical abuse should be talked about in churches and Christian counseling.
Best advice about marriage after 20 years. 1. Work as a team and make sure you love the person for who they are not for how they look. 2. Dedicate 90 minutes a week to make your partner a proprity talking about your lives in a none sex realated way. 3. Go on dates at lease 1-2 times a month - Breakfast, lunch, Dinner, Movie, a walk, etc. 4. Don't cheat 5. Devide up the labor in the house and taking care of the kids. 5. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. Not nessasarily what you want. 6. Be quick to forgive not to get even. 7. Be kind to yourself in the realationship and relize you nor your partner are perfect 8. Ask for help 9. Be able to say No
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Thank you brother Parr, your ministry is a great help too me. I have been in three marriages; the first ended in divorce because I was involved in an adulterous affair (we did not invite God into our relationship); the second because she was in an affair (God was not included in this relationship either)... I am currently in my third marriage which we entered into a few years after the Lord saved me in 2015. I have been happily married for three years to a beautiful child of God... Praise the Lord!
If your first marriage was to a never-married woman, then that is your covenant marriage if she is still alive. If she is still alive, that makes your current marriage an adulterous marriage (Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21). If you are in an adulterous marriage, God can forgive you if you confess your sin of adultery to Him AND forsake it (Proverbs 28:13). You cannot continue in sin and expect God to forgive you. So many people enter marriages that Jesus calls adultery because the churches have failed to teach the truth about divorce and remarriage. If the churches would do what is right, many would be spared the pain from having to get out of adulterous marriages because they would not have entered them in the first place. I found out that I was in an adulterous marriage because the Lord lead me to study the scriptures about divorce and remarriage. I made the extremely painful decision to get out of my 20+ years of adultery because I want to please and obey Jesus. I have never regret my decision. To follow Jesus is not always easy. In fact, Matthew 7:14 NKJV says it is difficult -- "Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it." I pray that you are truly willing to follow Jesus, even when the way gets difficult.
@@godgavemeeyestosee He was married to unsaved women, he himself was unsaved then and you say he was in a covenant marriage formed by God because of your twisting of scriptures? And now he is in a Christian marriage. How blind you are!!! Jehovah God did not give you eyes to see. The god of this world, Satan, has you blind eyes and deaf ears to God's word and instead eyes and ears that believe him, the father of lies. 1 Corinthians 7:27,28 should straighten you out.
@@michaelalbertson7457 You have read the truth and it is up to you to believe it or not. Nothing in scripture says that you have to be saved in order to be in a covenant marriage. If there is such a scripture, please provide it because I have not found it. If you have read the Bible from Genesis through Revelation, you will not find one verse to support that only saved people can be in a covenant marriage. I pray that you truly seek the one and only true and Holy God who does not violate the covenant He made with His people, but many people violate their end of the covenant. When people, who are in a covenant marriage, divorce and remarry, they violate their marriage covenant. In Matthew 19:8 and Mark 10:5-6, Jesus said that from the beginning when God instituted marriage there was no divorce. Then Jesus made a new commandment, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:9).” Jesus clearly demonstrated that He was abolishing the practice of divorce and remarriage that Moses permitted under the Old Testament. It is incredulous and so very unfortunate that many believe that a Holy God will approve of them doing something that He told them not to do and that God would actually make an exception for them to do what He just forbade them to do. Jesus said do not separate a covenant marriage and it does not matter if the husband or wife or anyone else does the separating. Also, God hates divorce, so why do people believe that He will give His stamp of approval on something that He hates. If God is giving His permission for people to divorce and remarry like people say He is doing, then He is a fickle God who says one thing and contradicts Himself by doing another. That is NOT the God of the Bible because He does not lie and neither is He fickle. God hates divorce from a covenant marriage (Malachi 2:13-16) and He did not make any provisions for people to divorce their covenant spouses. We know this is true because Jesus said that Moses (Not God) permitted the Jewish men to divorce their wives because the men had hard hearts (Matthew 19:8 and Mark 10:5). Notice that Jesus said Moses, NOT God, wrote the precept for divorce. Because people today have hard hearts, they interpret what Jesus said about Moses writing the divorce law, to mean that it was God, Himself, who wrote it. This is a blatant disregard and disbelief regarding what Jesus said. Jesus is God and He NEVER lies. In addition, because God did not stop the people from doing what they already wanted to do, people have taken this as God condoning divorce and remarriage. People believe that God allows them to divorce and remarry, despite what Jesus said about it, because that is what they want to do, and so, that is what they believe. God was simply not intervening to stop the Jewish men from divorcing their wives and He was not intervening to stop both the husbands and wives from remarrying. If God approved of the divorces and remarriages, then why would the wives be defiled (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)? The answer is that God did not approve of them. When God approves of something, then whoever does what He approves of is never called defiled. God not intervening is not a sign of His approval. Those Jewish people had free will just like the people today have free will and God has always allowed people to exercise their free will even if it leads to their destruction. In the case of divorce and remarriage which is adultery, people who divorce and remarry will go to hell if they do not repent and forsake their adulterous marriages. All who divorce their covenant spouses and remarry commit adultery (Matthew 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18 and Romans 7:2-3). Only death breaks the marriage covenant which would then allow the surviving spouses to remarry if they choose (Romans 7:2-3 an 1 Corinthians 7:39). If you truly study all the scriptures in the Bible regarding adultery, fornication, divorce, marriage and remarriage, and if you truly seek God for the truth, you will find it. Instead, many go by what they have heard from their pastors, preachers, teachers, friends and whoever else and they believe what they are told without truly studying the Bible for themselves and going to God for the answer. The majority of people are not like the Bereans when it comes to digging into the word of God. At one time, I used to be that kind of person, but not any more. I previously did not make a diligent effort to study the Bible, but now I am digging deep into the scriptures to find the truth. I am responsible for my own soul and I cannot leave that responsibility to anyone else because my eternal destiny depends on it. I hope that you will take full responsibility for finding the truth for yourself, so that you can make it into the kingdom of God. Right now, you believe that one can divorce and remarry while the covenant spouse is still alive. Believing that and practicing it will not lead you to God's kingdom because adultery is a sin that prevents it. No adulterers have eternal life if they do not repent and forsake their adultery (Galatians 5:19-21 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11). That is the word of God.
@@godgavemeeyestosee You are very deceived. You should know that God is good and will have us do what He wants in every situation. You have a relationship with words in the Bible, making you free to pick and choose as you see fit as to what you think. You need a relationship with God, where the Holy Spirit reveals the truth to you about every situation, if you need to know. Get yourself out of others' business, as you do not know the circumstances. God knows, you don't. Violence, severe verbal abuse, abandonment are divorcible and He allows both parties to remarry, for HE IS GOOD... YOU ARE NOT GOOD! You would rather see someone be physically harmed and worse, rather than divorce, or make them commit adultery because they can't remarry. Sex with your first ex wife is fornication. Ex. Means no more your wife. God is compassionate and will allow remarriage, you're a tyrant. God is not a tyrant, you are. Endless pages of scriptures and comments on how you think people should live. Jesus spoke words not in the Bible, the Holy Spirit shows us them. You know nothing of the Holy Spirit but the Name. God had the Bible written to confound the impure in heart, they won't get into heaven. Why are you confounded? What's your sin? Pride? What else? Be honest with yourself and God. Remember the Pharisee and the publican? Who went home justified? Read it, it may save your soul.
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
You cannot divorce the remarried that is the biggest controversy in the Church if you're one of your living spouses is still alive you cannot remarry only if they are deceased
Never been married but I always like to look at the subject of divorce today and the times when it is necessary and the other tragic times it destroys familial relationships in most cases. Thank you for the valuable reflection from your video.
This was an actual prayer I had not even 30 minutes ago. I was grieved by someone calling my marriage ( I am separated) a soul tie. That made me think of something negative rather than marriage as a covenant. I am praying but I am weary and afraid.
Do not let someone make you afraid..Take everything to the LORD.....and SUBMIT all to HIM. Do not let anyone control your emotions. Tell THE LORD everything....I do. It is so good, it brings you closer to HIM.🌷🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
Marriage is a covenant between God and the man/wife ... There is absolutely nothing negative about the covenant or institution when properly understood and practiced. What we Christians usually teach today is more of a covenant between a husband and a wife, but that's not a covenant, that's just the vows / agreements between each other, the covenant is our agreement to accept God's terms for marriage (his law/command/instructions/rules/structure) and to not end or break it unless for the very few specific reasons he gives.
I look up to you so much, Brother! You’ve helped me understand a part of the scripture here that I’ve been confused about esp in the culture we live with now. God bless your ministry! -Hanna
Thank you. I divorced my ex after he cheated at least twice,. I tried to make it work. But he wanted out. I am saved now. I thought I had to stay single, but just.maybe God will send me someone to share my life with. At least I hope so
I'm glad you added the little speech at the end that ultimately God will forgive and to focus on forward living. (I'm Para phrasing) There is tons of misunderstanding about this topic. I appreciate how plain yet affective your breakdown is.
What if your believing husbands deserts you? You wake up one day and all of his things are gone and you don’t know where he is? Would that be grounds to remarry? Since you didn’t play a roll in the separation? Thank you for such biblical wisdom!
Yes, grounds to divorce and grounds to remarry. Read 1 Corinthians 7:27,28a on remarriage. Pray first. Believe what God puts on your heart. And do not let any deceived person come by and take out what God put in your heart. They will use scripture, but not all scripture that applies to divorce and remarriage. They will misinterpret scripture. The long and the short is that Good of gives you options and sees your heart. Any forgiveness you desire, 1 John 1:9, and a new start.. God has all your answers. He cares for you.
Very good teaching and this is exactly what I was always taught. Can you talk about how a single, never married person should view marrying someone who is divorced under these different scenarios? This is an issue that many singles, especially older singles, are faced with when dating.
If a married man or married woman who are in a covenant marriage divorce for any reason AND remarry, they are committing adultery. If anyone marries a divorced man or woman, who has a living covenant spouse, he or she is also committing adultery. -- Matthew 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18 and Romans 7:2-3 Stay clear of divorced people who have a living covenant spouse. If you have never been married or your covenant spouse has died, you may marry a never-married person or someone whose covenant spouse has died. If you marry anyone else, you will be committing adultery. Adultery will prevent you from inheriting the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21).
@Sasha373 I am in the same boat. Not that I ever really dated a divorced man.. but I have come across a few who claimed to be Christians. My experience had been that they enjoy the attention and the ego boost, but for a serious relationship they only wanted a divorced woman.. who supposedly knows it all in the bedroom and has 'proven' her femininity by having kids. It is tragicomical that I have been told I should not limit my options, but be open to a divorced man.. well, I have tried, and it did not end well at all.. the problem is that they do not seem to be open to a single never married woman. Still trusting God to send me a kind man who has not been sleeping around or married before..
Dear pastor Allen, thank you so much for this teaching 😢 I’ve been divorced 6 years now because my husband committed adultery. This teaching is an eye opening for me, I would love to get married again but, I was scared because of what the scripture said about divorce and remarriage, but after listening to your teaching, I felt a form of relieve. Thank you so much for helping me get a clear understanding of the word of God, and thank you for rightly dividing the word of truth. God continued blessing upon you and your family 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Dear friend - he is dangerously wrong - Christ was abundantly clear that re-marriage after divorce is adultery - and no adulterer will have any part in the kingdom of heaven. Please look into this - see the post I've just done on this video. God bless.
@@SuperJ333 I was married and divorced over 10 years ago back then I didn’t know God I’ve been on this path for only 5 years. I sure don’t want to grow old alone. I’m praying and seeking God all time on this matter. He is the author of my life. God will show me the way if I’m to remain single. God say he hates divorce but he hates all sin. Look what David did and didn’t God forgave him although He married the woman that he cheated with and had her husband kill. God is a forgiving God.
@@LivingMyBestAlways Yes, but forgiveness isn't automatic, it's conditional on repentance, and repentance doesn't mean feeling sorry about something, it means turning away from it - you can't continue in an adulterous relationship and expect forgiveness. Why quote the Old Testament - it's what Jesus said that applies to us, and He clearly said remarriage is adultery. But you don't have to grow old alone - it is possible to learn to delight yourself in the Lord, and if you ask him for grace He will give it - and you have fellowship - but you must remain single and celibate. I appreciate this sounds hard, and that's why the disciples said if this is the case it's better not to marry when Christ gave them the teaching - try watching the TH-cam video "Remarried Preacher Repents - A Divine Revelation About Marriage Divorce and Remarriage."
@@SuperJ333 Just curious did Abraham, Moses, Solomon, Jacob inherit the Kingdom of God? They all had multiple wives and too had to abide by God's laws in the old testament. According to you they were in adultery, how do you reconcile these great men of faith living in adultery. This is a genuine question.
As always Pastor Allen, you present things in a clear, biblical and graceful manner, no matter how difficult the situation. May God continue to grow and bless your ministry and your family!!
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent! Luke 16:18 “Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.” Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:9 “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” Romans 7:3 “So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
I grew up in a family where Divorce wasn't an option. As I got older and got married, I felt like I was on cloud 9 and couldn't comprehend the D-word. Not until it happened to me! 7 year itch is what they call it. It was a slow burn of about a year and a half where I was noticing a change in spouses behavior until that one day, I'LL NEVER FORGET, she sat down with me and expressed that she wasn't happy and was ready to leave, and didn't want help (quiet divorce). Spent weeks in prayer and advice to diplomatically tell her the implications of her desertion but felt it was God's will for this to happen. Looking back, I don't disagree. There's a distinction between PERMISSIBLE and BENEFICIAL will. I believe He permitted this to happen since her separation from me, making her the the unfaithful one. I remarried with confidence that God didn't look down on me to one that is faithful. Thanks for the video!
I'm not sure you had grounds for remarriage though. If your wanted wanted to leave, so be it, you can't stand in her way. However so long as she didn't commit adultery on you, that means you're still married to her in the eyes of God and for you to remarry is actually adultery. The best option was just to remain single.
Grocery Grip, Your God is my God. Those other 2 commenters, they have a different god, one who doesn't understand what truly goes on, who doesn't see our hearts. I feel pity for those 2. They need to be saved. They need God's love.
The woman at the well was married 4x so obviously God identified those marriages whether there was adultary involved or not. There are def grounds for divorce and re marriage after adultary as the marriage covenant has already been broken.
Marriage is until death. If you divorce and remarry regardless of whether you are a believer or not,or whether your unbelieving spouse leaves or cheats on you. You are in Sin. The only way that a man can put away his ESPOUSED/FIANCE wife is for fornication (Matthew 19:2-10) "And HE saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." - Mark 10:10-11 KJV "For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband SO LONG as HE LIVETH; but IF the husband BE DEAD, she is LOOSED from the law of her husband. So then IF, WHILE her husband LIVETH, she be married to another man, SHE SHALL be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." - Romans 7:2-4 KJV "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, LET NOT the wife depart from her husband:But and if she depart, LET HER REMAIN UNMARRIED, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." - 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 KJV "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord." - 1 Corinthians 7:39 KJV If you have gone through a divorce and have gotten yourself in a second marriage, please repent and come out of your second marriage. It is not worth your salvation. The Bible says that adulterers will not inherit God's kingdom. I pray that the Lord would heal any emotional scars in your life and mend you and make you whole. Repent and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins and ask God to fill you with the gift of the Holy Ghost (Acts 2:37-38).
YOU ARE CORRECT. THIS PASTOR IS DECEIVED NO WHERE ELSE STQNDS REMARRIAGE IT IS TILL DEATH THE COVENENT. REMAIN UNMARRIED OR RECONCILE TO HUSBAND. NOT EX HUSBAND . PEOPLE OUT THERE ARE DECEIVED. 100 PERCENT RIGHT YOU BROKE IT DOWN WELL
Since most commit adultery eventually, you are talking about less than 1 % of the population. And you make a law that keeps people out of heaven over it? You lie, 1 Corinthians 7: 27,28a says so. Don't change the words !!! Your teaching will keep you out of heaven !
@@calvinclarke2017 So you should remain in a physical, mental or emotionally abusive marriage then, and can't leave, no matter what, even if your life depended on it? You are a fool.
With most people walking away from marriage (especially my generation) and the divorce rates being so high I don't know how the wedding industry is still even a thing, but I digress. 🤷🏾♀
My parents Divorce ruined our lives. It changed the trajectory of who we were supposed to be. It impacted our lives because of the years of stress due to years of pent up hurt and anger. My parents divorce even impacts my brothers children. The true generational curse.
Brother Allen you are in the zone with these teachings. People forget that marriage is the example of Christ and his church and if you view it that way you won’t be so quick to try and end it.
Thank You Allern for touching on one of the most sensitive topic within the Christian faith. May God help us to hold on to our marriages no matter the circumstances to be deemed fit for eternity through the grace of Christ. Haha... I am not married yet anyway
There are many obstacles to enter into eternal life. Many divorcees outside of their first marriage are living in adultery, man and wife are bound till death. But too many marriage have gone bad and Church need numbers.
I want to say thank you. I’m on my second marriage and it’s been rough, my mother is encouraging me to get divorced and using the Bible to justify it, but my husband (semi believer?) doesn’t want me to leave. You have given me hope that our relationship can be renewed!
In 2016, I got divorced from a nonbeliever. My nonbeliever wife was abusing me. She hit me. She used a weapon on me. She faked a pregnancy. She refused to let me go to church or see my family. She yelled at me several hours each day. She found fault in everything that I did. I tried hard to reconcile. She considered all forms of counseling to be a greater embarrassment than ending a marriage and refused to work on these issues with me. She made it clear that the only way for us to stay married was for me to say it was my fault for making her angry. Yet, she continued to find fault in absolutely anything that I did. Not only that, but her abuse of me was hurting her and our child. It was endangering everyone to stay together. Through prayer, I came to realize that recognciliation was impossible. So I filed for divorce. Like many, I consider abuse as abandoning the marriage. I believe that I have biblical grounds for divorce in 1 Corinthians 7:15.
Just wanted to share to my fellow brothers & sisters. Divorce is complex. It is not always straight forward and easily explained, unless you have endured it personally. It's a challenge to understand and heal from. Even still, sin is sin and we owe no explanation to Pharisees or swine. Take time to place yourself before God, His Word, His Spirit and understand what He wants to say to you about your divorce or separation. Thank God that He knows, forgives and loves inspite of it all. Whether you've divorced, lied, done witchcraft, gossiped, been immoral or commited any other sin. No one may cast a stone or act holier than though because they didnt "do what you did". God is faithful, true and gracious to His beloved. Keep His goodness before you and you can't stay down.
@1 Corinthians 15 1-4 The correct translation actually says this for Mark 10:11-12 "And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery against him. The innocent party is allowed to Remarry and the Guilty Party cannot unless they Repent/Turn Away from Evil and then have time to think about their Sin and possibly be Given another Chance after-awhile of Sincere Forgiveness and if not and they Continue in Evil they will end up in Hell. JESUS is talking about a No-FAULT Divorce, it's Illegitimate and used as a Weapon against the Wife and Husband depending on who Divorces who Illegitimately. JESUS is against Malicious Divorce based on Lust, Neglect, and Abusive Spouses. They are the ones who are being Rebuked and whoever is dealing with an Abuser, an Adulterer, Neglecter, and Abandoner, has every reason to Divorce because they are considered Unbelievers because their spirit is Constantly Propelled towards Violence, Wickedness, and Lawlessness. Exodus 21:10-11 talks about taking care of a woman and meeting her needs, if he doesn't meet those needs, she is able to go free.
@@thelogiclockedwithinhuman8285 Praise God. I agree, except on one point. The guilty party can remarry. That one is already unsaved, so God will allow that one to remarry, for being married or unmarried, divorced and remarried has no bearing on salvation.
Thank you for teaching this. So many pastors are afraid to now a days. It breaks my heart that our church has dropped this teaching and has recently allowed a divorced man become an officer. Please pray for pastors and church churches. When we allow one Bible doctormen drop, where do we stop.
Reserved my seat! 😇 Thank you! I'm going through a separation right now due to addiction. My husband is a believer. We have a child together and his relapse has been going on for about 4 years now. It's tough in these grey areas but God is my husband and has been taking care of us the whole time and I'm thankful! 🙏
@@ladym7852 Check the full teachings from the author and another minister of the Gospel, Robert Henderson. I listened to both teachings an bought the ones. I was tired of unanswered prayers to be honest in different areas of my life until I understood that the devil accuses you even of iniquities committed by forefathers. Hurray, Praise be to God, my life has never been the same. They worked and continue to work for me and many other people. Don't be lazy my sister, let not the title throw you off balance
@@ladym7852 Love and peace, my opinion is you're not discerning properly, you just saw the title however I need to respect your opinion. I don't know your spiritual maturity so I can't judge, I can only voice my opinion. It would be nice for your marriage to be restored and your husband free all to the Glory of God Almighty. My heart is yearning for your restoration, please fast and pray on the subject matter, at least 3 days dry fasting I know will help for you to hear clearly on the subject matter. I also got my own revelations and at least answers to prayers are there. Please please child of God the Divihe restraining orders are working against the devil in Yeshua's Name
You haven't mentioned abuse. My husband never laid a finger on me physically, but I was ridiculed, fat-shamed, (he called me a fat pig in front of my then 6 year old daughter). I once spring cleaned the whole house, and he called me lazy because I can't hang a picture straight. I once said to my Dad, "If he blacked my eye just once, I've got him" (Incidentally, I was only about a stone overweight at the time, so hardly morbidly obese!)
I think when the church seems to communicate that abuse (physical or emotional) is not a valid reason leave the marriage, it makes the victim of the abuse feel worthless and like their experience/feelings/safety/emotional wellbeing does not matter. I was married and divorced. My ex husband passed away. I am "free" to remarry, but I actually cannot because I am traumatized
@@jenniferjj2155 Hi Jennifer, thanks for your reply. After your horrible experiences, why on earth would you want to remarry! I did have a boyfriend, but he died suddenly 2 years ago (not COVID related). I'm now single and happy.
Emotional and mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.. even if the bruises aren't visible, they are there, and they can go deep. Toxic relationships can eventually affect our physical health, too, so it is a very dangerous and harmful situation. Please believe that Jesus loves you as one of His dear children, and does not condone abuse. I hope you can find help to get out. (a good exit plan may mean that you never tell him about your intentions of leaving.. stay safe)
My wife filed for a legal separation and didn't need my permission. After a year, she filed for a divorce. To date she has given me no reason for the divorce.
Thanks Allen! This was very clear teaching. I guess I’m still curious about a few scenarios though: -A believing spouse still wants to leave. Personally I think this would coincide in the scenario you laid out with an unbelieving spouse, because if someone who “believes” is really serious on leaving, I think God would still call us to peace -Abuse. Though not laid out in scripture, I just cannot see how God would force someone to stay in a relationship that has become abusive. Perhaps it wasn’t and it became abusive later. I would imagine the most loving thing to do for the abused spouse (and children possibly) is to flee for physical safety. Once again, God has called that person to peace -Abandonment or neglect. Perhaps this is similar to the desertion scenario you laid out. I personally believe that the first thing a couple should do in this situation is to try and reconcile, and maybe find the root of the abandonment. But if one spouse, say after a few years, just simply will not give the other spouse the attention, love, and support that they need in a marriage, I just have a hard time believing that that person should stay. It’s like condemning them to a life sentence, and it’s almost as though the neglectful partner wants out anyways. Again, what are your thoughts? Thanks again Allen, have a blessed day!
Abandonment or neglect. I don't think so. Either husband or wife could easily say at some point in the marriage that they were emotionally or sexually or spiritually abandoned or neglected. Just about every marriage will have a stretch like that. It's easy to make a case for abandonment or neglect, it's like having a ball of Wax and shaping it into whatever you want. I see no scriptural support for such an idea at all. That seems to be a rather new age concept.
@@lcam9241 fair enough, I do recall once on the old Dr Laura show she said it's not uncommon for there to be a 5-year or so time in a long marriage where both couples really have a hard time with each other. If you've been married for 40 50 or 60 years I think that's probably fairly accurate
@@philipbuckley759 Since fornication is involved in just about every separation, and also in marriages where the husband and wife are still together, don't you then realize that very few have to stay together, so why are you jumping down everyone's throat about this issue? You have no knowledge of what's going on. Really, you should stop saying things that do not apply to what's being said. And, you follow the Bible, that DOES NOT contain all the words that God, nor Jesus ever spoke. But the Holy Spirit teaches us all things. Do you know of Him?
My wife divorced me 6 months ago, and I've been struggling to understand how this would work, as I've had this strong desire to get remarried, but am completely unsure if I'm even eligible. I have a couple different meetings with Godly men in my life coming up shortly to discuss this topic, and Allen has given in this video a few more passages to go over in addition to what Jesus said in Mark 10:1-7 and Luke 16:18. Thanks!
I never wanted a divorce. But I could not stop my ex wife from having multiple affairs and exiting the marriage. It was the most painful experience in my life. However, there was beauty in the suffering and my relationship with God reached new levels because of it
Same here. God bless!
Got to love those Rainbows after the storms, right! Thank you LORD for those!
Ditto brother, same situation!! It’s heartbreaking! BUT GOD!!! I begin to walk in my purpose when I finally let go of the marriage. Prayers for you all! ❤
Same here. I had all biblical grounds for divorce and didn't want it, but he didn't want to honor the marriage and abandoned me again. It was dark and traumatic, but the Lord was with me the whole time and He provided for me to support my kids and myself afterward. He's been so good to me before, during and after the divorce... and once I let it go, I met an amazing man at church.
Did u stay single? Or did you remarry?
Chase Marriage....not Weddings. That's a major issue in our society these days.
No, chase being a better Christian, and a better person
@@gustavsorensen9301 The topic is on the video is on divorce and marriage...hence I spoke on that issue. Ofcourse being a better person is what people should chase.
@@Matt-28 Your point is well-taken. Women these days want the Joanna Gaines wedding. They want to marry in a fancy barn with their 200 TikTok-loving friends.
Like I always say. People want the bells and whistles of a wedding, but not the work of a marriage.
This statement is so true!
Very solid teaching. My wife and I went through a separation until we both realized that neither one of us had grounds for divorce, so we reconciled. We realized it was the best decision when we saw the change in our kids. Their demeanor, their kindness, and their willingness to share what was on their hearts. God reinforced that one strand that held us together, and for that, we are eternally blessed
Currently going through a separation and I wanted to know y'all's reasons if you don't mind sharing. My husband has denied the faith after seven years and asked for a divorce, but has changed his mind but still wants separation and I'm so confused. He stays with his parents and stays the night sometimes . He says his reasons were for being un happy , sprung it on me after our 7 year anniversary . He's very confused and in turn that's left me very confused. I want reconciliation but he he wants to leave as devastating as it'd be I'll let go because I don't deserve to be in limbo for who knows how long
@@brianatucker9982 Hi, just wanted to chime in because I went through that situation. Please get biblical counseling because it's a very turbulent time. You want to be sure that he is genuine and willing to do the work that's needed in your marriage. There's a good YT channel called Marriage Helper that may help you in the meantime as you look for answers. Be very prayerful and cautious about moving forward after separation so you don't have more setbacks.
Thanks I have already been watching those videos. Very insightful
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I wish I could say something smart....but I don't know details about your lives.
But I offer to pray for you. God in Heaven, we ask you for discernment, and wisdom. We pray for the best option, that you could intervene in his heart and mind for a positive outcome. But he needs to be willing to repent and submit himself to you. Lord we ask you, that it wouldn't be long before it would be known to Briana what is the direction of their future. Thank you Lord that you know, you care and you help 🙏🏻 In Jesus's Holy name. Amen.
My wife left and gave me the kids 11 years ago. I entertained the idea of remarrying, but after dating only twice, I realized I have an impeccable ability to attract women that seem sweet and innocent until several months into the relationship, when their true colors start to emerge. This has been EVERY woman I’ve ever dated. I’ve been to therapy over it, and 2 separate therapists came to the conclusion that because I’m soft spoken and emotionally sensitive, I’m a target for women whom seek control and see me as a naive pushover that won’t notice or be confrontational if they’re being unfaithful. Covert narcissists to be specific.
I took this as God’s way of saying He won’t bless any further attempts at marriage. I was devastated at first, but now I’m living for God like never before and more than happy to stay single for the remainder of my life.
My point is, even if you have a legit reason to be divorced, it doesn’t mean you have to remarry. Sometimes God doesn’t allow us to pursue the same path as our remarried neighbors. If that’s the case, stick around, because He has something else in mind for you.
my ex husband left and was in adultery and there are times Im lonely but I think of all the chaos I was in and the total lack of any desire that I may not remarry. Its like after the dust clears I think of the realities of marriage and its like ehhh Im good. I have seen people who have remarried 4,5,6 times after that first divorce. i dont want that
Bravo well said. I have embraced being single the rest of my life. I feel happy content and fulfilled in Jesus.
I'm glad your happy and content but don't be shocked if one day God does bless you with a Godly women who loves the role that God gives to women. A women who looks to her husband to lead her and the family and is submissive in the ways God intends a wife to be. I never thought I would be the submissive wife but I have to admit I love it since I found a husband who is kind and loving in the ways a good husband should be.
The Lord being all knowing, knows what our current culture would be we must obey Him. No excuses
@@klauge763 If God reopens that door, He already knows I’m gonna need irrefutable proof that this woman is from Him. lol
As a single woman (no bf, no kids) I am scared to death of divorce. As much as I desire marriage, the failure thereof makes me fearful. Thank you Brother for shedding light on this topic.
It's very scary! So i don't blame you! The Civil government has ruined Marriage as an institution. But just like in the Bible, not everyone will get to lead storybook lives unfortunately! But also like the Bible, we try to stay in the spirit and follow GOD's leadings! Often when we chase a dream or goal, it seems to elude us. But when we stop chasing it, it seems to become available! GOD bless!
Live not in Fear. Trust in God
@@inconnu4961 just what I need to hear! Thank you and God bless :)
Don’t look for a husband. Look for friends. You might find one who’s worth the risk. Or you might have the gift of singleness.
Don’t let fear of divorce turn into an anti-idol. If you do escalate a friendship to beau to husband, fear can turn you into a possessive, controlling, suspicious, miserable wife.
You should listen to the Focus on the Family podcasts about marriage. Get the right image in your mind before it’s needed.
@@ricksonora6656 thank you for the advice brother. I like "Focus on the Family". Admittedly, I haven't listened to their podcasts in a while. Thanks for the reminder.
I thought I wanted to separate from my wife of 15 years but I asked god to help guide our marriage and thank the Lord I stopped wanting to separate my wife because of no affection from her. She’s more loving and attentive than ever and I’m more in love with her than ever! We have two children who are growing up so fast and even though I’m recovering from a stroke in a nursing home, my wife has been there for me and my boys! I’m so grateful!
See, God is also a redeemer ❤️
Thank you for you testimony. May God bless you.
Get well soon brother 🙏
People simply don't take their marriage vows seriously, when they get married.
Thank God u obeyed the Helper, that u r ok, and ur other Helper is respecting u in Jesus mighty name.
Currently going through an unwanted divorce. Our court date is December 9th. I did not sign the papers and I’m not attending the court date, as I want no part in this. If you see this, please take a moment to stop and pray that God reconciles my marriage! Thank you!!
Praying!
Praying,Brooke!!!!
Praying for you Brooke! Do not throw away your confidence. It has great reward.
I can only speak for myself, but my biggest regret in my recent unwanted divorce is signing anything or participating in any fashion in something this exceedingly wicked. As a man, I caved to the fear of having my girls largely taken away from me if I did a no-contest divorce. Even though I didn't hire a lawyer to represent me and gave away my home, money, possessions, I would do anything for the chance to go back and take my signature off that cursed document, no matter the cost. I'm assuming by your name that you are a woman, and if that is the case and you have children you probably don't have to worry about losing them at least. Regardless, I would have immense admiration for you or anyone else that did a no-contest divorce based on your Godly convictions. Be well Brooke.
Praying. Jesus Saved our Marriage after being separated for two years. I'm so very happy He did. It was hell on earth, going through divorce. The lawyers were like devil's. I kept Seeking Jesus and Reading my Bible KJV. And Praying. That's what kept me from losing it. Jesus did it for me, He can do it for you. I'm praying for you Brooke. Stay strong. Jesus Loves you.(married 21 years!) Matthew 6:33 KJV❤🙏🏼❤
The fact that adultery isn't illegal in the world like it's a sin in the Bible churns my stomach to no end. If it was illegal, marriage would be more permanent. But forget what the law says, marriage IS permanent in the eyes of GOD our Heavenly Father and in mine
This IS a sensitive topic to me, I've never been divorced but I do come from a family that was broken by adultery & divorce & I had my heart broken by someone whom I believed was the one I would marry. I know that all of God's commandments are important but to me personally his commandment about not committing adultery is the one that resonates with me, I have a personal hatred towards adultery & divorce & I'm so sorrowful to see how divorce is running rampant & destroying our world.
You are so right. Altho I see broken marriages all around strangely among my small group of friends and family the marriages should last.
Divorce itself is a result of ongoing unrepentant sin and selfishness. Divorce is just the final act.
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Divorce is very painful because it happened to me, my ex wife wanted out I tried to convince her to stay and work it out she declined and my life was turned upside down. I was stressed to the max and on top of that, losing my father around the same time coping with his death and being divorced which I never wanted and now I'm going through a healing process from my heart being broken twice my ex wife and my father's death keep me lifted up in prayer.
Hey James, I hope you are doing well brother. I’m going through an unbiblical divorce and my wife stopped wearing her rings and is dating already without even filing for divorce. I understand how much this can hurt but trust that God works everything for the good of those who love Him. Keep on loving him brother and you’ll know you are in His will for your life, there is great comfort in knowing that.
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Thank you so much for this message. I was married to my wife for seven years. During those years she chose to find romantic interests outside of our marriage many times. I reconciled to stay in and attempt to heal my marriage through all of this but she then decided to leave me after her last affair. All of this began after we stopped attending church and living in the word I have been struggling with the idea of divorcing her because of my personal beliefs towards marriage. Since our separation of over a year. I have resumed attending church and studying the word. Messages such as these have really helped in allowing me to understand the decision I have had to make and to deepen my connection with our savior and the path that he has chosen for me. God Bless and thank you for all of your wonderful content brother!
The only reason a Christian may initiate divorce is infidelity. But in telling Christians that they may accept divorce from a non believer the Bible says that staying together may benefit the spouse and any children. Only you, your wife and God know your situation. Try to do what God wants. Your pastor might be able to help.
Similar situation as well over here 👈🏻 prayers
May the Lord grant you peace and enable you to continue your life’s joy peace and rest is my prayer for you in Jesus name amen
the bible specifically states adultery is a permissible reason for divorce. you’re all good brother. just trust in the Lord and live for Him so he can work through you in Jesus name amen.
I am so sorry (to you too, Alicia😔). You sound like you are in the clear. You didn't up an walk away; she did. She broke the covenant. You did not. I pray that you are ok and can move on, and even for her if she ever turns it around. You are God's child, and He cares & see what you are experiencing. I can't think of a Biblical reason for you to not be allowed to be married again. Infidelity kills a marriage, and even though God can heal that, she chose to leave. Death allows for new beginning, just like if she passed away. It couldn't hurt to fast and pray about it. God cares, don't forget that💝✌️🙏
My husband and I hit a rough patch, we separated for a bit because he lost his path with God.. during that time God pruned him and made him a better husband and father, today he’s so different and such a loving man of God. Thankfully we have had no infidelity in our marriage my heart goes out to those who have felt that hurt 😔 we were blessed with a baby girl after we reconciled, now 6 months pregnant and happy as can we I am sooo grateful for how the Lord has molded my marriage
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
@@hillarysudeikis2264 Mam you have no right telling me to repent of a teaching I never even mentioned in my comment, maybe instead of acting high and mighty telling others to repent you should take the log out of your own eye.
The Lord revealed these things to me years ago. Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. Thank you for this excellent presentation!
divorce, is not a sin....the options are....reconcile, or remain unmarried.....remarriage is....and one can not be forgiven, unless the sin....adultery, is forsaken.....
It’s not that black and white. Just as killing/murder are not always the same. Or a non virgin marrying is allowed.
Unbelievers are not joined by God. If one of them becomes a believer THEN the marriage is at least sanctified-if they are pleased to dwell! Marriage is not joined by God unless they are believers. He has never made covenants with unbelievers. It’s obviously foolishness because if he did then he would be even marriages that are done in evil like Satanists.,
Is it according to your revelation or according to scriptures,the only unpardonable sin is very clear in the scripture that is to speak against the Holy Spirit,therefore your revelation is false.
If it's unpardonable why Jesus said one cannot divorce unless in the matter of udultry?
and Paul talked about desertion if one spouse decide to leave the other is no longer bound to that marriage.
When you have been lucky not to go through what others have gone through in marriage you will speak to make others to feel like loosers or sinners.
Udultry and desertion are conditions for biblical divorce.
@@fonelo2215 Violence would be considered divorcible, after which, both parties can get remarried.
Obviously, if one remains violent, that one is not saved. But the other one is free to remarry.
Anyone who says different believes the devil's lies about divorce and remarriage.
Saved people believe what God says to them.
Double minded churchgoers are easily fooled by the devil's interpretation of scripture.
There are so many different scenarios. What if you want to be reconciled to an ex spouse but not only are they now an atheist but engaged to someone else and you’ve repented from the divorce situation that had taken place? I understand being single is very valuable, and that it draws you closer in your relationship to God, but I can’t believe that if I met a godly man and wanted to marry him that it would be a sin in God‘s eyes given my past situation.
Christians might find it hard to accept Christ's teaching on divorce/remarriage but ultimately it is what God wants for us that matters. The road to Heaven ain't easy....
I went through this 41 years ago. Got saved and my unsaved wife left. I did everything I could to reconcile and she divorced me. I struggled for a couple years while studying divorce in the bible and came to the same conclusion that you taught in the video. GOD led me to a lady who was in the same situation. We married and GOD has blessed our marriage, testimony, and our home for 39 years. Thank you and GOD bless.
“But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
Matthew 5:32 NKJV You can’t remarry brother
@@qizvy-7212 Wrong. For a little more info for you, my wife had alread moved in with a man and was pregnant with his child. The lady I am now married to was abandoned by her husband, who left her and their child without support and moved on to another relationship before they were divorced.
@@akquicksilver so what that scripture means to you
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
You are in adultery dear soul, please repent and turn to Lord Jesus for help, He will help you! Please don’t go to hell!
My husband had an affair 25 years ago. We were able to heal by the grace of God. We will be celebrating 36 years of marriage in December. It was hard but all I can say is fight. The enemy is seeking to destroy lives and marriages. But now it is sweeter than I could have ever imagined. I can honestly say I love my husband more now than I ever have before.
Every major decision you make you should pray about it. God will lead you down the right path
Yes and if you find yourself being led towards something other than these biblical standards, then you know that you are not being led by God, but by something else
Pray, yes. But don’t substitute “leading” for reading.
@@ricksonora6656 love it!!
It can also be said, Don't substitute reading for leading.
We need to understand what God says in the Bible, not what our fallible mind thinks. We need the mind of Christ to receive all that the Honly Spirit reveals.
I agree 100% with this. It says to "Love and Honour until death do us part" If you hate and dishonor your spouse you are breaking your covenant.
I never planned on a divorce with my exhusband but I was tired of being belittled and beat up in front of my children.... It took me 10 years to finally be strong enough and break away. However, I was able to meet my current husband and we've been together 20 years and I could not imagine spending my life with anyone else.
He is leaving out Roman 7:2, A man is bound to his wife as long as he lives. 1 Corinthians 7:38 says the same, the wife and husband are bound until death. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 says let not the wife depart from the husband if she departs let her remain unmarried or reconciled. The only grounds biblically for remarriage is if someone dies…death.
This made me cry. Thank you. Ok, please don’t judge me. I know I’m a horrible person….or did horrible things. Idk why I’m even going to spew this out…..I was a heroin addict/stripper/sex work and was also abused as a young girl. I got clean at 21, but I was still a mess. I believed in Christ, I got baptized, I went to church, believed with my whole heart, bible study, I felt God move in my life. It was AWESOME!!! Then……I met a guy. And I was fixated on getting married. I knew I shouldn’t, I had that alarm in my gut going off. But “I want what I want”. Had my first baby, lost my mind after. Then had an affair. Quit my job, reconciled. Had another baby and went off the deep end again. More affairs, like a sex addict. Because of the deep spiritual pain that put me in. I picked up heroin again, and continued to shoot dope for 8 years after being clean for 9 years. 😢HOW AWFUL!! Selling. Drugs, doing drugs and some sex work. Please don’t think I’m disgusting. Well, I guess I was. FINALLY got sober again PRAISE GOD!! Oh lord, I thought I was gonna DIE!! Overdosed twice with paramedics and narcan. Met a man, fell in love, got pregnant right away, had two babies. Instead of losing my mind this time I STAYED sober!! I want to remarry. I know, my order is all messed up. I said to myself, I got a new life AGAIN!! How good is god to me?! But idk what to do. I want to get married but I also don’t want to be living in a continuous state of sin. I feel like I have a new life and should continue moving forward. Stop looking back. I have a long healing process ahead of me and hate myself for all the terrible things I’ve done. I NEVER EVER want to be that person again. EVER. I probably shouldn’t have said all that. But it’s real and it happened. Can you please say a prayer for me and my children? Thank you.
Two months old but cannot bypass this. Prayers for you, friend. You have repented. God has made you clean. You aren't what you once were. Rather, you are a new creation and that is what the Father sees. He is a perfect Father who loves you completely and only wants good for you. He can give you the desires of your heart when you surrender to Him. I believe He can give you a joyous union and help you raise those babies in Him.
Good Morning Allen ! Divorce has become so normal in Todays Generation everyone is SO quick to throw in the towel and run away at the first sign of struggle/pain. People arent looking to God for restoration anymore they are looking to the World ! SUPER STOKED about this LOGOS Class. Already signed up ! Wouldnt miss this ! 💞💞 This was a wonderful message ! 💞 God Bless You For Sharing ! Have a blessed evening ! 💞💞
This is a beautiful and much needed topic. I have turned to the bible during the most challenging times, and used it to decide what should be done, instead of going by the worlds standards. Living a biblical marriage is challenging, but I am able to look at my marriage and my wife (may she rest in peace), in retrospect, and in regards to the decisions I had to make, there is no sorrow that can be added to it. These standards set forth by God, through Paul, are what we are to do...so do it!!
Brother Parr, this has been such a blessing to me because I feel so condemned as a divorce who never wanted it in the first place. Hearing you say, “don’t live in the condemnation “ has been soothing to my ears. Thank you for your continued work in the Kingdom.
Thank you for this. I have always wondered about divorce in the Bible and when it is or is not acceptable. I am still upset that my parents are divorced and it has been 20 years. It is really devastating for a family. If you have kids and are considering a divorce, please try to work it out! All you need is love
My ex left me and my 5 and 8 year old years ago. It broke me and them and we were never the same again! I never saw him as someone not to trust! It was horrible, heartbreaking, devastating tor me and my sons!
I was married to an abuser. His addiction was control. He used gaslighting; disrespect; verbal, psychological, & mental cruelty to keep his “minions” (wife and children) in line. He tried to bait me into arguments so he could win.
I’m a Christian and thought he was (he said he was). I kept forgiving years of abuse (intermittently there was the love bombing which may have been his lame attempt at an apology). During this time, I actually won an argument and felt awful for several days. If there’s a winner, then there’s a loser. All these 32 years, he wanted me to be the loser. I realized that he didn’t love me (“husbands, love your wives the way Christ loves the Church).
I left him and never looked back. He never asked me if I was coming back and he never asked me to come back. He started dating within four months after I left.
Subsequently, he remarried. I have dated over the years. My standards are so strict that nobody can breech them. After reading scripture about divorce, I quit dating and will remain single.
I‘m so sorry you went through that. I can’t believe you lasted 32 years… I’m almost 11 years in and I can’t do it anymore.
I already made the decision that I will not date nor remarry. I’ll put all my energy in raising my children.
I will probably need 10 years to heal from all these psycho games. I’m so drained and can’t wait till this divorce is finally over!!
Divorce sucks! I’m a child of divorce. My parents got divorced when I was five years old. When people say oh the kid will be just fine yeah let’s hope so. It’s never the same as having two healthy functional parents in the household. Seeing your parents together gives you feelings safety , security, stability.
good word and TRUTH
Brother Allen
Thank you so much for this video. Eight years ago I went through a divorce that I did not want. I am a single father and trusting Christ to lead me to find the right woman to marry. Constantly battle condemnation since I never wanted to get divorced... it's like someone amputated my limbs and I had no say on that decision.
Someone likened it to pulling apart a piece of cardboard, it can never really come apart clean. I am separated and one night I was in bed and it just felt soul tearing. I'm still praying God.
The unbeliever departed brother, God has called you to peace. Don't live in condemnation, that is not from the Lord.
@@MatthewKnight05 try the correct....term.....not under bondage is not the same as not bound....something that the writer had just explained.....one is bound to the other as long as the other one is alive....
@@philipbuckley759 No, they are not. If one is loosed, they can remarry. 1 Corinthians 7:27,28a. Read with understanding.
If one is loosed, they were married, hence they are not virgins.
@@michaelalbertson7457 Wrong. Jesus in Mark 10:10-11 says "Who soever shall divorce his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall divorce her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." You cannot remarry if your spouse is still alive. 1 Corinthians 9:39 "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the lord."
Teaching the Bible as you do is great! I love how you don’t change things; your just the mailman. Lol. Simple delivery of the message. 🙌🏼
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Thanks for this video. I've personally witnessed a lot of divorce in my family and I've gone through the divorce in my own personal life. My marriage ended due to adultery and abuse and it was also unequally yoked and a bunch of other problems. I'm biblically able to get married again but am content with Christ and I don't want to remarry if it's not God ordained. I just want to be single and alone for a few decades or however long the Lord allows.
Beautiful things spoken. May his love guide you in all things
You are not able to get remarried people don’t understand Matt 19:9 and I say unto you who so ever put away his wife except it be for fornication…. which is death according to mosaic law Lev 20:10 Deut 22:13-24 Jesus was saying you can only get remarried if your spouse is dead.
@@spanishfly7709 please watch or rewatch the video.
Allen please stop preaching on this subject you telling people they have grounds for divorce is biblically incorrect souls will go to hell based of that grounds for divorce stuff just like you talked with Marcus Rogers I’m more then willing to have a sit down and talk to you about what the Bible really says on this… in fact how about I just link you to a live panel I was on where I confirmed it in the word Of god that there is no divorce on any grounds for anyone saved or not..
@@spanishfly7709 Jesus clearly said that adultery is grounds for a divorce. Yes it would be better to not ne divorced, yet he isn't saying that you can't only that you shouldn't if you don't have to. Has Paul taught an incorrect teaching? Survey he spoke from the Father that we should let those who leave leave. Otherwise hoe shall we hold them? It is unreasonable to ask people to hold to those who don't want to be held. Even God won't do that.
I have been divorced for many years now so a weight was lifted from me when you said divorce was not the unforgivable sin. Thanks brother keep up the good word!
Divorce isn't unforgivable - but remarriage after divorce is adultery, and no adulterer will have any part in the kingdom of heaven - on that subject this man is dangerously wrong! God bless.
@@SuperJ333 Matthew 19:9 says, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.
Don't believe him he's not god devorse is ugly in the eyes of God but remarriage is a no no
@@SuperJ333 Agreed.
@@CountryFriedCreations Yes - and I've answered this in a bit more depth elsewhere - if you can find it!
However, I'll do my best, but it will have to be brief - no disrespect.
I think you're quoting the NIV, but do you find it interesting that it doesn't say 'adultery' twice?
Greek is a very precise language, and the the Greek word moichos and it's derivatives are always translated as the English word 'adultery.'
So, contrary to the false teaching in this video, Jesus is not saying "except for adultery" - and in fact the Geek translation of what He did say is 'porneia' which doesn't mean "marital unfaithfulness' - that would be adultery (moichos).
The KJV does better translating it as 'fornication' which is a sin only single people can commit, and the Amplified does better saying 'unchastity.'
So, to understand what Jesus was referring to you have to understand the Jewish betrothal ritual, and in short it's where a woman is unfaithful between the drinking of the covenant cup and the consummation, which could be a long time - it's referred to in Deuteronomy 22 as 'she played the harlot while still in her father's house.'
This exception doesn't apply to gentiles, which is why it's mentioned in Matthew, but not in Mark or Luke. However, remarriage after divorce was still adultery - read Romans 7 - and Paul was a Jewish scholar.
However, it's also possible to prove that if Erasmus hadn't deliberately meddled with the text, it would read "not even for porneia" rather than "except for."
I know this is a bit muddled - I'm tired and I need to sleep - but I hope it helps - God bless!
Divorce is hard. I've been divorced for almost 7 years now. I like to encourage people to remember the vows that were said not just in front of people. We said them in front of God. We promised him that we would trust and look to him for the marriage to thrive. God created marriage and really knows how to keep it together. I'd like to also add Mark 10:9 which says, "what God had joined together, let no man separate."
We have to look to God first to make sure that joining together is what he wants. Pray and seek God's wisdom before and during the marriage in order to stay away from divorce. Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yes! Seek God... it’s usually the road less traveled 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏽
I will say a hard thing. If a woman wants a husband for excitement rather than true godliness, infidelity and divorce usually happen. And don't usurp the authority God gave him. Marriage is not designed to make you happy. It's designed to glorify God with children raised up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. If no children, then they glorify God in their lives, not live it out for pleasure only. Husbands, love your wives, and wives, obey your husbands.
I have a testimony on this..I was preparing to be a born again Christian and I told my husband if it is okay for me to do so (we are both non believer that time) and my husband says it is okay "as long as I won't force him to convert as well". I agree by lips but that moment, my heart is praying to God. Telling Him, "Jesus, are You willing for me and my husband to be in this situation in the future, where I will be yoked with a non believer?". So, weeks passed and God did a miracle, He allowed a "negative situation" upon my husband which forced him to seek God's face. In the end, both of us were baptized on the same day/time. God is good, He will make a way for his children! 💕💕💕
PROOF THAT ALL RELIGIONS ARE WRONG -
Fanatic Catholics, JWs, Born Agains, Muslims, Buddhists, Mormons, SDAs, Hindus, Baptists, etc. who believe the LIES and UNBIBLICAL teachings and doctrines of their anti-Christs Pastors and Leaders about "Armageddon", "Hellfire", "Trinity", "Rapture", and "Reincarnation" are LIARS and hateful human beings -
1. who can't be trusted with anything
2. incapable of treating their co-human beings with kindness and respect
3. not worthy and deserving to live and last on earth forever.
They will just grow old, suffer, get sick and weak, die, and become worthless and useless dusts on earth forever like Adam and Eve.
PROOF THAT THE BIBLE IS REALLY THE WORD OF GOD -
JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that submissive and obedient human beings who believe his BIBLICAL authority and teachings about the "Kingdom of God" and "Resurrection of the Dead" will be rewarded and honored by the Creator with ETERNAL LIFE and existence on earth without sufferings, pains, griefs, sickness, and deaths.
JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that his teaching about the "Kingdom of God" or "Rulership of God" through him will ensure that planet earth is safe, peaceful and without arrogant and hateful atheists, agnostics, and fanatics of religions, without liars, slanderers, deceivers and hypocrites, without terrorists, criminals, and militaries, without funeral homes and cemeteries.
JESUS CHRIST KNOWS that his teaching about the "Resurrection of the Dead" is the guarantee that worshippers of the Creator who died even thousands of years ago like Abel, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, King David, his disciples, and many others will be resurrected back to life in the Creator's own good time.
LIARS AND HATEFUL ATHEISTS, AGNOSTICS, AND FANATICS OF RELIGIONS DON'T KNOW AND UNDERSTAND that worshippers of the Creator and believers of Jesus Christ will fully enjoy the eternal love, kindness, compassions, generosities, favors, and blessings of the Creator and his Christ for eternity as submissive and obedient subjects of the "Kingdom of God" under the loving rulership, guidance, and protection of the Creator's Chosen King, his Christ.
Praise God. You prayed and God answered. Glory to God !
This has been a VERY good teaching. May the Word of God push us INTO His will! This world has NOTHING to offer. We are designed to live for Him! May this teaching bless our lives!
All remarriages after the death of a spouse are considered legal in the eyes of God. All remarriages after the divorce of a spouse are considered illegal in the eyes of God.
Thank you we never divorced although I left a few times and came back I was saved after marriage but my husband not although he grew up in Christian home. We were never really happy. I focused on my relationship with Jesus and reading the word. We were married 40yrs 2 weeks before he died he accepted Jesus. After he passed I had a deep sense of gratitude that the Lord kept me from leaving and I got to know Jesus intimately during those difficult years
Thank you so much for this teaching. I am married to a divorcee and we have both accepted the Lord recently. I was truly worried about where we both stood with God because we are aware that God would prefer if no divorce takes place in a marriage. I truly thank Him for wiping our slates clean. He has given me the answer that I was seeking. God bless you. Shalom 😇 🙏 🛐
@@hyperslinky9576 nope
Please read the post I've just done - I'm sorry, but in the eyes of God you are committing adultery - I didn't say it, Jesus did.
This guy is teaching something he hasn't studied, and he's dangerously wrong, because it's a salvation issue - no adulterer will have any final part in the kingdom of heaven.
Please look into it. God bless.
The fact that the divorce was part of his past life is pretty clear you are fine. You are new creations in Christ. The blood of Jesus still covers everything anyway.
She's commiting adultery that's tuff
@@em77775 Yes, but divorce is not the problem - that's a one-off action, and that can be repented of and therefore forgiven.
But remarriage is an adulterous relationship, and it's not in the past, it's in the present.
The blood of Christ only covers us if we're walking the walk, and if we're not, then we need to repent if we want to receive forgiveness.
And repentance isn't feeling sorry - it's turning away and ceasing from the sin - if we deliberately keep doing something that's wrong, then de facto, we haven't repented!
My wife has rejected me for 32 years and whenever I complained, she vilified me endlessly for my anger and frustration. Because of her pain from childhood troubles, she is responsible for nothing! As a man I am responsible for everything. It does not matter what horrible childhood I had...
Oh thank you, thank you! Ive gone through divorce and remarried but still felt condemned. I think its time I accept Gods forgiveness on this .
People LOVE to condemn others, don't they! One of my biggest pet-peeves with our modern-day churches!
Me too love
The Bible is clear the only way to Remarry is if the Spouse dies. I have a playlist of over 400 studies on this from many Pastors and teachers on this. The main church is Lukewarm and won't listen to Jesus on this.
Pay attention to his words. It's his opinion not biblical.
Even if someone divorces, the Bible mentions no where at all in any scriptures you can remarry unless the Spouse dies.
There is difference between forgiveness only and staying in what Jesus calls adultery.
You cannot stay in adultery just because you confessed the Sin.
The second part is repentance.
Example: you cannot steal something, keep it, ask God to forgive you and not return item.
In Divorce, yes you are forgiven but Remarriage is adultery if you had no grounds biblically for Divorce. I also go a step further since Jesus never quantified Remarriage if....
He said, ",Whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery". So Divorce is forgivable but marrying again with first spouse still alive(Covenant Spouse) is still adultery.
I know this from experience. I had to Divorce 2nd Spouse based on Remarriage scriptures. It's not easy but you cannot keep what is not yours.💓
@@HopeLives2012 This is absolutely unsound, poor doctrine that has been crippling professing Christians for years. Marriage being indissoluble is rooted in Catholicism and certainly is NOT biblical. Once you get legally divorced (whether biblically justified or not), you are no longer in covenant with that person. Period.
You referenced Jesus's teaching on divorce in Matthew's gospel (chptrs 5 &19). Jesus is clearly condemning those who divorce their spouses (in this specific context, Jewish men divorcing their wives) frivolously. Additionally, he is explaining the damage it would cause to the woman who would be stigmatized as an adulterer. Anyone that married her would also be unfairly stigmatized as an adulterer. What does this mean practically? Unjust divorces. or divorces period, have a ripple effect, affecting the innocent spouse, kids, family members, friends, future relationships, etc.
Yet, God is perfectly just, merciful, gracious, and loving. If one acknowledges his sin and repents, God forgives. And that includes divorce.
How silly is it to compare theft to marriage? In elementary terms, theft is bad. It is sinful. Marriage, on the other hand, is good. It is a beautiful gift from our God. With that being said, can you mess up a good thing, repent, and still be eligible for that good thing? Absolutely. Ever read the parable of the Prodigal Son?
Lastly, to think one must divorce from their current spouse in order to retain salvation is absurd, sinful, and unbiblical. This is taught no where in scripture. It rather demonstrates lack of faith in the works and personhood of Jesus Christ. Remember, He is the sole reason why any of us can be saved at all. Let's not add our works to His as means for salvation lest we be in blatant, dangerous error.
I’m currently 27 and at this point in my life, I’ve truly had strong urges to find that special woman in my life to marry. However, I strongly believe the reason I’ve remained single because God knows I cannot handle it. Maybe someday in the future I will, but the responsibility and commitment required is currently not something I’m ready for right now
You're not the only one ,currently i'm 26 same situation
Pray about it brother lay your heart to him,fear does not come from God. Don't lean on your own understanding trust God. Beware of sexual immorality in the meantime(Please note I am not saying you guilty of it or anything) In your wait guard against the gratifying the flesh.God does not only cater for some things he caters for our every need.
If you KNOW you are NOT READY right now. Wait. My stepfather told me this ..."marriage is easy to get into but hard to get out of." Turns out he was physically abusive. I couldn't even cry when he literally dropped dead in the kitchen.
@@beesknees213 😳
Midwest Legacy, What are you not committed to, and why? That is what you need to take up with God.
Marriage is secondary to that.
The issue here is if one divorces and remarries it is sinful and leads to hell. What THE LORD wants us as Christians to have is the Fear of THE LORD
Amen!
Regardless of any teaching on any biblical passage concerning divorce and remarriage, consider the actual vows you made before a Holy God in the presence of witnesses. This includes not only your marriage vows, but also the commitments you made in raising your children together in the Lord when you had them dedicated in front of the church. Most Christians initiating divorce today will rush to find whatever twisted interpretation they can to justify their actions biblically. But that will never change the words you spoke to forsake all others until death.
From what I see and experienced, when people have major issues and struggles with their spouse, is because they married the WRONG person in the first place !!
The other is not enough teaching on about serving each other, putting your spouse first, pleasing them.
Learning what makes them happy. Do not be lazy taking care of home, and children. Don't create unnecessary debt. Mishandling finances is a major problem.
Discuss things, do not fight, or even argue!!
Be civil.
People can change to be the right person or the wrong person.
You shouldn't be punished for life over one bad decision.
"One marriage at a time; if a partner passes away, we have the freedom to enter into a new marriage!"
I haven't married yet. But I am thankful to hear wise words before I do.
You sound rather intelligent so you likely have been on this journey, but take time to learn about the pros & the cons of marriage! learn about the areas that couples trip up on ( money & physical intimacy being the most common). Understand what a man is and what he is all about and learn it from men themselves, not from women! These ideas will go along way into bettering the odds that your union survives the inevitable storms!
My wife was cheating on me with another man and refused and didn’t wanna be with me anymore so I divorced that’s not my fault I tried everything I could
Sexual immorality gives you permission to divorce per Jesus Christ
Yes you absolutely have every right. I decided to take the option to remain with her as long as I could trying to reconcile, even as she was cheating on me, and even denied me what was supposed to be ours in the marriage bed. When it came to the point that she told me to leave, I decided that it was time and that I had done all I could.
Each person's situation is unique, but whatever option you take, as long as it is in line with the biblical standards put forth here, you can walk away from it with a clear conscience. Amen!
Why did she go to another man? Never mind. It’s not my business.
@@ricksonora6656 Look at your intent
@@ricksonora6656 Because SHE was unhappy and assumed it was HIS fault! A tale as OLD as time!
I’m so glad you ended up on this subject, not that my marriage is a problem… I’ve just been seeing christian youtubers say if you got remarried at all you need to get divorced again! It’s very frustrating to see the weird doctrines of man show up left and right. I pray they find this and it is helpful to them.
I think you nailed it when you were talking about trying to forgive and reconcile the marriage after infidelity. That's a hard thing to do but if it's possible, I believe it will bring the best outcome. We're called to forgive even when it's not easy or convenient.
That's a very hard one because it takes two to want to make it better. And the one that cheated really needs to understand that they crumbled the trust factor and it takes a heck of a lot to put those pieces back together.
@L Cam I agree! It's not always possible to reconcile. But, if the unfaithful is willing to own up to what they have done to the betrayed AND put in the recovery work, it may be possible to reconcile the marriage and for the betrayed to forgive the unfaithful. I believe God's desired outcome would be forgiveness and reconciliation, but depending on the severity of the infidelity, it may not be possible.
@@timothyfrisch7318 yes, I agree with that. Well put.
Yep, I'm never gonna do that Infidelity and violence are my lines. I'd castrate myself before touching an adulterous woman.
@@wingsoffreedom3589 wow that's pretty extreme lol
Wow!! I have read this years ago and many who are consider leaders in the church refuse to believe and accept this!! This is a very very very hard teaching and never ever talk about. They stay far, far away from this verse.
I've been married more than once. God knows my heart and what happened. I've prayed for forgiveness and know I love a forgiving God.
Thank you for this series. I was a widow who married a divorced man. I new I was free but kept feeling some weirdness about his divorced status. Thanks for this liberating message. Thanks be to God we're still married (13 years) and believing God for Godly success.
No, you maybe unscripturally married
marrying divorced person, is adultery....
@@TheJude1790 As God can forgive any sin if one confesses to Him, she is free. He is divorced.
You believe the living divorced spouse bondage lie, when the law of the land, which came from the Bible, says different.
You have not learned 1 John 1:9, nor have you learned 1 Corinthians 7:27,28.
@@michaelalbertson7457 you have to forsake the sin too
@@michaelalbertson7457 can you provide clarification?
Brother Allen, thanks so much for this video, it is much needed in our community of believers. I can't begin to number the times that I have wanted a divorce from my husband. Not because he has cheated but because as a man of God he has his own standards that he lives by and not God's standards of how as a married couple, we are to live and treat each other. I have become sooooo broken over my marriage and I continue to pray and ask for strength every day. I also continue to pray for him as the Holy Spirit has directed me too. I feel now that I am still in my marriage because first, I love the Lord and I know that HE hates divorce, second, because I'm recovering from a bout with meningitis and I need help with not only the bills but with my health in which I get no support from him. I just went back to work even though I am not 100% because he says that he checked out of our marriage a long time a go and I will have to fend for myself. In a way, I am relieved that he wants to leave because we have been struggling the entire 13 years that we have been married and quite frankly, I'm tired. However, I will continue to pray and seek the face of God because I do know that ALL things are possible through HIM. Please pray for us family!!!!
Buy Issuing the Divine Restraining Orders from the courts of Heaven by Francis Myles. There are prayers there, one of them addresses marriage
Im so happy I saw this today, my pastor explained this to me a couple of hours ago among a lot of other things because I separated from my husband a week ago, we’re christians but my husband hasn’t been acting like one lately so I left the house, Im sure the Lord will restore our marriage since I can’t/shouldn’t divorce 😅
Buy Issuing the Divine Restraining Orders from the courts of Heaven by Francis Myles. There are prayers there, one of them addresses marriage
Read 1 Corinthians 7 for Paul's advice on marriage. You have options, let God show you and lead you. Do not forget to read the whole bible, too.
I like that Allen presents everyday topics versus tip toeing around to tickle our ears. Stay blessed all!
I praise God that you are speaking on this
Topic! You NEVER hear this spoken about in church
The only thing I could add is that marriage is a very difficult thing to succeed in. This is exactly what the disciples said to Jesus after his teaching on marriage and divorce. Feelings change, looks change, faithfulness changes, life's situations change...and you made vows before God. Notice that Paul also commented on the difficulty of remarriage ...especially trying to blend families. "Such will have troubles in this life...but I spare you" said Paul. Remarriage under the right conditions is not condemned by God...but neither is it easier. That's why I like Allen's emphasis on "working" on your marriage and trying to "work it out"...I believe that's what God wants because he wants both spouses to turn to him and he will help change what needs changing...that's what God wants to do in all of us, married or not. May God be Glorified by us as we turn to him in whatever situation we find ourselves in.
Once married, always married until death do us part, no exception. This applies to all human beings, regardless of whether you are a sinner or a saint.
My parents divorced for a very different reason. When I was younger my father was very uninvolved in our lives, didn't do his responsibility as far as taking care of us kids, didn't do any house chores, and was constantly berating on my mother. Sometimes he would get physical with her. For the record my mom held a full time job sometimes two jobs at a time to make sure we survived. My father had absolutely no desire of counseling or fixing anything, and made mom severely depressed that she had enough. So one day she kicked him out. I'm not sure if it's biblical or not (I'm still learning), but I think that was Mom's best decision she made as far as her mental health and possibly safety.
So brave of your mother. Thanks for sharing.
Did your mother go to the counseling? For how long and what did she get out of it? Did your father work at all? Was he around the house even if your mom was unhappy with him? There are 2 sides to every story! if you are smart, you would NOT accept your mothers side of the story as the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth! Women have this nasty habit of lying about what is really happening. As a 50 yr old guy, I have been lied about countless times by women to the point I dont trust must of it. some of this can be explained as the typical: women see with pink glasses & men see with blue glasses! We dont see the same thing in the same way! thats fundamental. but women have a half dozen reasons why they would be tempted to lie about that situation! i am sorry if this hurts peoples feelings, but most modern men are walking away from marriage with modern women because of women lying & womens inability to take personal responsibility (according to other peoples definition, not the woman in question's)! So if women want to know why men dont want to get marriaed any more, these are 2 of many reasons! GOD bless your poor dad!
@@kamilahdouglas1609 Not really! Not strong, not brave in 2022!
Yes she was very brave and a strong woman, that was the best decision she could have made!
@@inconnu4961 What a mean thing to say. Of course, it’s a bit ambiguous, so maybe you didn’t mean it the way I took it.
I have never been married and this all makes total sense.... Paul writes it all for us
It told me that my situation is still not under none of the reasons to get a divorce, so I’m praying for God to reconnect us because I am so checked out.
But my kids happiness comes before mine and I made this commitment to God.
Thanks Allen. Please pray for me you all! I had a really nasty heart towards my (now ex wife) and now we are divorced. She is a non believer now, and I have idolized marriage before. I wanted to divorce her, but tried to (reluctantly) reconcile with her out of obligation, and now I have the opportunity to marry a believer, but my conscience feels condemned because of my past divorce and my unGodly heart behind it. I'd appreciate your prayers for a clear conscience and a God honoring re-marriage!
It’s good to clear your conscience. Things to consider: The rules about divorce are applications of the Great Commandments: Thou shalt love….
Have you shared the gospel and your conversion with the ex? There may be options that, later, you’d regret shutting the door on.
Have you identified and taken responsibility for anything you might have contributed to the conflict? If you haven’t, you risk repetition.
Dear oh dear - so many people led astray by false teaching like this - I wouldn't want to be this guy on judgment day, because this is a salvation issue.
Remarriage after divorce is adultery, and no adulterer will have any final part in the kingdom of heaven - please read the post I've just done. God bless.
@@SuperJ333 scripture to support? 1 Corinthians 7:15.
@@ricksonora6656 yeah I've done both of those
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Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God brings revival to the earth. Pray the Lord of Harvest send forth laborers into the harvest. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment and wakes them up 🆙
They need repentance not revival.
@@lechatbotte. revival will bring repentance with it
This is a great segment! Although I have not been married before I see so much divorce that I cannot understand it. But, I know for sure God is not pleased with this in the church. Thank you for sharing!😇
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I am so thankful for this teaching and clarification. Your grace and tone are greatly appreciated. ❤️
Thank you so much for this! I have been praying for confirmation and struggling with this subject for a long time. God is surely working through you, dear Brother. Thank you and God bless you and family ❤️
I am divorced. There were many issues. It was scary and police had to be involved. What about issues where there is a dangerous spouse that could harm or kill you or plays mental games to make you think you're crazy?
God does not want you to stay in that. I believe more should be said about abusive spouces. The church does not cover the topuc enough.
I got divorced many years ago. I tried everything possible to save the marriage. Prayed went to church and tried to be more loving to my ex husband. My ex husband when we were dating he was a “good man” and he said he was a Christian. Once we got married he completely changed. He rarely went to church with me, became controlling and was abusive. I left my ex husband with two small babies after he put his hands on my neck trying to choke me. He refused couple counseling. He blamed me that everything was my fault. My ex husband is a narcissist and so is his mom. My MIL was the worse evil person. My ex husband has been married 3 times. I have only been once. I’m open to remarriage if God has that as part of my life. I truly think emotional, mental, verbal and physical abuse should be talked about in churches and Christian counseling.
Best advice about marriage after 20 years.
1. Work as a team and make sure you love the person for who they are not for how they look.
2. Dedicate 90 minutes a week to make your partner a proprity talking about your lives in a none sex realated way.
3. Go on dates at lease 1-2 times a month - Breakfast, lunch, Dinner, Movie, a walk, etc.
4. Don't cheat
5. Devide up the labor in the house and taking care of the kids.
5. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need. Not nessasarily what you want.
6. Be quick to forgive not to get even.
7. Be kind to yourself in the realationship and relize you nor your partner are perfect
8. Ask for help
9. Be able to say No
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
Thank you brother Parr, your ministry is a great help too me. I have been in three marriages; the first ended in divorce because I was involved in an adulterous affair (we did not invite God into our relationship); the second because she was in an affair (God was not included in this relationship either)... I am currently in my third marriage which we entered into a few years after the Lord saved me in 2015. I have been happily married for three years to a beautiful child of God... Praise the Lord!
If your first marriage was to a never-married woman, then that is your covenant marriage if she is still alive. If she is still alive, that makes your current marriage an adulterous marriage (Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18). No adulterers will inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21).
If you are in an adulterous marriage, God can forgive you if you confess your sin of adultery to Him AND forsake it (Proverbs 28:13). You cannot continue in sin and expect God to forgive you.
So many people enter marriages that Jesus calls adultery because the churches have failed to teach the truth about divorce and remarriage. If the churches would do what is right, many would be spared the pain from having to get out of adulterous marriages because they would not have entered them in the first place.
I found out that I was in an adulterous marriage because the Lord lead me to study the scriptures about divorce and remarriage. I made the extremely painful decision to get out of my 20+ years of adultery because I want to please and obey Jesus. I have never regret my decision. To follow Jesus is not always easy. In fact, Matthew 7:14 NKJV says it is difficult -- "Because narrow is the gate and difficult is the way which leads to life, and there are few who find it."
I pray that you are truly willing to follow Jesus, even when the way gets difficult.
@@godgavemeeyestosee He was married to unsaved women, he himself was unsaved then and you say he was in a covenant marriage formed by God because of your twisting of scriptures? And now he is in a Christian marriage. How blind you are!!!
Jehovah God did not give you eyes to see. The god of this world, Satan, has you blind eyes and deaf ears to God's word and instead eyes and ears that believe him, the father of lies.
1 Corinthians 7:27,28 should straighten you out.
@@michaelalbertson7457 You have read the truth and it is up to you to believe it or not. Nothing in scripture says that you have to be saved in order to be in a covenant marriage. If there is such a scripture, please provide it because I have not found it. If you have read the Bible from Genesis through Revelation, you will not find one verse to support that only saved people can be in a covenant marriage.
I pray that you truly seek the one and only true and Holy God who does not violate the covenant He made with His people, but many people violate their end of the covenant. When people, who are in a covenant marriage, divorce and remarry, they violate their marriage covenant. In Matthew 19:8 and Mark 10:5-6, Jesus said that from the beginning when God instituted marriage there was no divorce. Then Jesus made a new commandment, “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate (Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:9).” Jesus clearly demonstrated that He was abolishing the practice of divorce and remarriage that Moses permitted under the Old Testament.
It is incredulous and so very unfortunate that many believe that a Holy God will approve of them doing something that He told them not to do and that God would actually make an exception for them to do what He just forbade them to do. Jesus said do not separate a covenant marriage and it does not matter if the husband or wife or anyone else does the separating. Also, God hates divorce, so why do people believe that He will give His stamp of approval on something that He hates. If God is giving His permission for people to divorce and remarry like people say He is doing, then He is a fickle God who says one thing and contradicts Himself by doing another. That is NOT the God of the Bible because He does not lie and neither is He fickle.
God hates divorce from a covenant marriage (Malachi 2:13-16) and He did not make any provisions for people to divorce their covenant spouses. We know this is true because Jesus said that Moses (Not God) permitted the Jewish men to divorce their wives because the men had hard hearts (Matthew 19:8 and Mark 10:5). Notice that Jesus said Moses, NOT God, wrote the precept for divorce. Because people today have hard hearts, they interpret what Jesus said about Moses writing the divorce law, to mean that it was God, Himself, who wrote it. This is a blatant disregard and disbelief regarding what Jesus said. Jesus is God and He NEVER lies.
In addition, because God did not stop the people from doing what they already wanted to do, people have taken this as God condoning divorce and remarriage. People believe that God allows them to divorce and remarry, despite what Jesus said about it, because that is what they want to do, and so, that is what they believe. God was simply not intervening to stop the Jewish men from divorcing their wives and He was not intervening to stop both the husbands and wives from remarrying. If God approved of the divorces and remarriages, then why would the wives be defiled (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)? The answer is that God did not approve of them. When God approves of something, then whoever does what He approves of is never called defiled.
God not intervening is not a sign of His approval. Those Jewish people had free will just like the people today have free will and God has always allowed people to exercise their free will even if it leads to their destruction. In the case of divorce and remarriage which is adultery, people who divorce and remarry will go to hell if they do not repent and forsake their adulterous marriages.
All who divorce their covenant spouses and remarry commit adultery (Matthew 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18 and Romans 7:2-3). Only death breaks the marriage covenant which would then allow the surviving spouses to remarry if they choose (Romans 7:2-3 an 1 Corinthians 7:39).
If you truly study all the scriptures in the Bible regarding adultery, fornication, divorce, marriage and remarriage, and if you truly seek God for the truth, you will find it. Instead, many go by what they have heard from their pastors, preachers, teachers, friends and whoever else and they believe what they are told without truly studying the Bible for themselves and going to God for the answer. The majority of people are not like the Bereans when it comes to digging into the word of God.
At one time, I used to be that kind of person, but not any more. I previously did not make a diligent effort to study the Bible, but now I am digging deep into the scriptures to find the truth. I am responsible for my own soul and I cannot leave that responsibility to anyone else because my eternal destiny depends on it.
I hope that you will take full responsibility for finding the truth for yourself, so that you can make it into the kingdom of God. Right now, you believe that one can divorce and remarry while the covenant spouse is still alive. Believing that and practicing it will not lead you to God's kingdom because adultery is a sin that prevents it. No adulterers have eternal life if they do not repent and forsake their adultery (Galatians 5:19-21 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11). That is the word of God.
@@godgavemeeyestosee You are very deceived. You should know that God is good and will have us do what He wants in every situation.
You have a relationship with words in the Bible, making you free to pick and choose as you see fit as to what you think.
You need a relationship with God, where the Holy Spirit reveals the truth to you about every situation, if you need to know. Get yourself out of others' business, as you do not know the circumstances. God knows, you don't.
Violence, severe verbal abuse, abandonment are divorcible and He allows both parties to remarry, for HE IS GOOD... YOU ARE NOT GOOD!
You would rather see someone be physically harmed and worse, rather than divorce, or make them commit adultery because they can't remarry. Sex with your first ex wife is fornication. Ex. Means no more your wife. God is compassionate and will allow remarriage, you're a tyrant. God is not a tyrant, you are.
Endless pages of scriptures and comments on how you think people should live. Jesus spoke words not in the Bible, the Holy Spirit shows us them. You know nothing of the Holy Spirit but the Name.
God had the Bible written to confound the impure in heart, they won't get into heaven. Why are you confounded?
What's your sin? Pride? What else? Be honest with yourself and God.
Remember the Pharisee and the publican? Who went home justified? Read it, it may save your soul.
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
You cannot divorce the remarried that is the biggest controversy in the Church if you're one of your living spouses is still alive you cannot remarry only if they are deceased
Never been married but I always like to look at the subject of divorce today and the times when it is necessary and the other tragic times it destroys familial relationships in most cases. Thank you for the valuable reflection from your video.
This was an actual prayer I had not even 30 minutes ago. I was grieved by someone calling my marriage ( I am separated) a soul tie. That made me think of something negative rather than marriage as a covenant. I am praying but I am weary and afraid.
Do not let someone make you afraid..Take everything to the LORD.....and SUBMIT all to HIM. Do not let anyone control your emotions. Tell THE LORD everything....I do. It is so good, it brings you closer to HIM.🌷🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
Marriage is a covenant between God and the man/wife ... There is absolutely nothing negative about the covenant or institution when properly understood and practiced. What we Christians usually teach today is more of a covenant between a husband and a wife, but that's not a covenant, that's just the vows / agreements between each other, the covenant is our agreement to accept God's terms for marriage (his law/command/instructions/rules/structure) and to not end or break it unless for the very few specific reasons he gives.
Buy Issuing the Divine Restraining Orders from the courts of Heaven by Francis Myles. There are prayers there, one of them addresses marriage
I look up to you so much, Brother! You’ve helped me understand a part of the scripture here that I’ve been confused about esp in the culture we live with now. God bless your ministry! -Hanna
Glad I could help
Thank you. I divorced my ex after he cheated at least twice,. I tried to make it work. But he wanted out. I am saved now. I thought I had to stay single, but just.maybe God will send me someone to share my life with. At least I hope so
I'm glad you added the little speech at the end that ultimately God will forgive and to focus on forward living. (I'm Para phrasing) There is tons of misunderstanding about this topic. I appreciate how plain yet affective your breakdown is.
Your heart and desire to teach God’s Word is infectious! I have been blessed watching your videos
What if your believing husbands deserts you? You wake up one day and all of his things are gone and you don’t know where he is? Would that be grounds to remarry? Since you didn’t play a roll in the separation? Thank you for such biblical wisdom!
Yes, grounds to divorce and grounds to remarry. Read 1 Corinthians 7:27,28a on remarriage. Pray first. Believe what God puts on your heart. And do not let any deceived person come by and take out what God put in your heart. They will use scripture, but not all scripture that applies to divorce and remarriage. They will misinterpret scripture. The long and the short is that Good of gives you options and sees your heart. Any forgiveness you desire, 1 John 1:9, and a new start.. God has all your answers. He cares for you.
Very good teaching and this is exactly what I was always taught. Can you talk about how a single, never married person should view marrying someone who is divorced under these different scenarios? This is an issue that many singles, especially older singles, are faced with when dating.
If a married man or married woman who are in a covenant marriage divorce for any reason AND remarry, they are committing adultery. If anyone marries a divorced man or woman, who has a living covenant spouse, he or she is also committing adultery. -- Matthew 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18 and Romans 7:2-3
Stay clear of divorced people who have a living covenant spouse. If you have never been married or your covenant spouse has died, you may marry a never-married person or someone whose covenant spouse has died. If you marry anyone else, you will be committing adultery. Adultery will prevent you from inheriting the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and Galatians 5:19-21).
@Sasha373 I am in the same boat. Not that I ever really dated a divorced man.. but I have come across a few who claimed to be Christians. My experience had been that they enjoy the attention and the ego boost, but for a serious relationship they only wanted a divorced woman.. who supposedly knows it all in the bedroom and has 'proven' her femininity by having kids.
It is tragicomical that I have been told I should not limit my options, but be open to a divorced man.. well, I have tried, and it did not end well at all.. the problem is that they do not seem to be open to a single never married woman.
Still trusting God to send me a kind man who has not been sleeping around or married before..
Dear pastor Allen, thank you so much for this teaching 😢 I’ve been divorced 6 years now because my husband committed adultery. This teaching is an eye opening for me, I would love to get married again but, I was scared because of what the scripture said about divorce and remarriage, but after listening to your teaching, I felt a form of relieve. Thank you so much for helping me get a clear understanding of the word of God, and thank you for rightly dividing the word of truth. God continued blessing upon you and your family 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Dear friend - he is dangerously wrong - Christ was abundantly clear that re-marriage after divorce is adultery - and no adulterer will have any part in the kingdom of heaven.
Please look into this - see the post I've just done on this video. God bless.
The law allowed for divorce and remarriage. You can read about it in Deuteronomy chapter 24. It is not the unpardonable sin.
@@SuperJ333 I was married and divorced over 10 years ago back then I didn’t know God I’ve been on this path for only 5 years. I sure don’t want to grow old alone. I’m praying and seeking God all time on this matter. He is the author of my life. God will show me the way if I’m to remain single. God say he hates divorce but he hates all sin. Look what David did and didn’t God forgave him although He married the woman that he cheated with and had her husband kill. God is a forgiving God.
@@LivingMyBestAlways Yes, but forgiveness isn't automatic, it's conditional on repentance, and repentance doesn't mean feeling sorry about something, it means turning away from it - you can't continue in an adulterous relationship and expect forgiveness.
Why quote the Old Testament - it's what Jesus said that applies to us, and He clearly said remarriage is adultery.
But you don't have to grow old alone - it is possible to learn to delight yourself in the Lord, and if you ask him for grace He will give it - and you have fellowship - but you must remain single and celibate.
I appreciate this sounds hard, and that's why the disciples said if this is the case it's better not to marry when Christ gave them the teaching - try watching the TH-cam video "Remarried Preacher Repents - A Divine Revelation About Marriage Divorce and Remarriage."
@@SuperJ333 Just curious did Abraham, Moses, Solomon, Jacob inherit the Kingdom of God? They all had multiple wives and too had to abide by God's laws in the old testament. According to you they were in adultery, how do you reconcile these great men of faith living in adultery. This is a genuine question.
I've always wondered why the church was silent on this subject! Thank you for stepping out and speaking the truth.
Thanks for watching, Heather!
As always Pastor Allen, you present things in a clear, biblical and graceful manner, no matter how difficult the situation. May God continue to grow and bless your ministry and your family!!
Divorce and remarriage are sins, and God will never contradict His word! There are no grounds for divorce, God hates divorce and He said no man should separate what He has brought together. Divorce also leads people to commit remarriage adultery, please repent from this teaching, divorce doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry, it just means they are free from being obliged to remain married. Being born again doesn’t give anyone the freedom to remarry because marriage is not a sin, being born again means you repent and become an obedient saint from being a sinner, if you commit wilful sin you will still account for it before God if you don’t stop sinning and repent. Being born again doesn’t mean we are no longer our earthly parent’s children, or parents to our children, so how can being born again mean you’re free to stop being someone’s lawfully wedded spouse before God’s eyes who joined you as one? Lord Jesus Christ said except for reasons of fornication NOT adultery, this man is very crafty and manipulative with words, repent!
Luke 16:18
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Matthew 19:6
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
Romans 7:3
“So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.”
@@hillarysudeikis2264 i am not going to argue doctrine. I agree with Pastor Parr. Good day!
I grew up in a family where Divorce wasn't an option. As I got older and got married, I felt like I was on cloud 9 and couldn't comprehend the D-word. Not until it happened to me! 7 year itch is what they call it. It was a slow burn of about a year and a half where I was noticing a change in spouses behavior until that one day, I'LL NEVER FORGET, she sat down with me and expressed that she wasn't happy and was ready to leave, and didn't want help (quiet divorce). Spent weeks in prayer and advice to diplomatically tell her the implications of her desertion but felt it was God's will for this to happen. Looking back, I don't disagree. There's a distinction between PERMISSIBLE and BENEFICIAL will. I believe He permitted this to happen since her separation from me, making her the the unfaithful one. I remarried with confidence that God didn't look down on me to one that is faithful. Thanks for the video!
the Bible makes no provision, for the one who has been divorced.....er.....no innocent party, so the remarriage, is....Biblically....adultery...
I'm not sure you had grounds for remarriage though. If your wanted wanted to leave, so be it, you can't stand in her way. However so long as she didn't commit adultery on you, that means you're still married to her in the eyes of God and for you to remarry is actually adultery. The best option was just to remain single.
Grocery Grip, Your God is my God. Those other 2 commenters, they have a different god, one who doesn't understand what truly goes on, who doesn't see our hearts. I feel pity for those 2. They need to be saved. They need God's love.
The woman at the well was married 4x so obviously God identified those marriages whether there was adultary involved or not. There are def grounds for divorce and re marriage after adultary as the marriage covenant has already been broken.
Marriage is until death. If you divorce and remarry regardless of whether you are a believer or not,or whether your unbelieving spouse leaves or cheats on you. You are in Sin. The only way that a man can put away his ESPOUSED/FIANCE wife is for fornication (Matthew 19:2-10)
"And HE saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery." - Mark 10:10-11 KJV
"For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband SO LONG as HE LIVETH; but IF the husband BE DEAD, she is LOOSED from the law of her husband. So then IF, WHILE her husband LIVETH, she be married to another man, SHE SHALL be called an ADULTERESS: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." - Romans 7:2-4 KJV
"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, LET NOT the wife depart from her husband:But and if she depart, LET HER REMAIN UNMARRIED, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." - 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 KJV
"The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord." - 1 Corinthians 7:39 KJV
If you have gone through a divorce and have gotten yourself in a second marriage, please repent and come out of your second marriage. It is not worth your salvation. The Bible says that adulterers will not inherit God's kingdom. I pray that the Lord would heal any emotional scars in your life and mend you and make you whole. Repent and be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins and ask God to fill you with the gift of the Holy Ghost (Acts 2:37-38).
You’re absolutely correct!! Best comment here!! Even brother Alan was wrong on some of his teaching in this video!!
YOU ARE CORRECT. THIS PASTOR IS DECEIVED NO WHERE ELSE STQNDS REMARRIAGE IT IS TILL DEATH THE COVENENT. REMAIN UNMARRIED OR RECONCILE TO HUSBAND. NOT EX HUSBAND . PEOPLE OUT THERE ARE DECEIVED. 100 PERCENT RIGHT YOU BROKE IT DOWN WELL
@@calvinclarke2017 Agree
Since most commit adultery eventually, you are talking about less than 1 % of the population.
And you make a law that keeps people out of heaven over it?
You lie, 1 Corinthians 7: 27,28a says so. Don't change the words !!!
Your teaching will keep you out of heaven !
@@calvinclarke2017 So you should remain in a physical, mental or emotionally abusive marriage then, and can't leave, no matter what, even if your life depended on it?
You are a fool.
With most people walking away from marriage (especially my generation) and the divorce rates being so high I don't know how the wedding industry is still even a thing, but I digress. 🤷🏾♀
Exactly.
My parents Divorce ruined our lives. It changed the trajectory of who we were supposed to be. It impacted our lives because of the years of stress due to years of pent up hurt and anger. My parents divorce even impacts my brothers children. The true generational curse.
Brother Allen you are in the zone with these teachings. People forget that marriage is the example of Christ and his church and if you view it that way you won’t be so quick to try and end it.
Thanks again brother Allen, very good explanation of the marriage/divorce topic~
Great video, straight to the point, and informative. The graphics and transitions are great too !
Thank You Allern for touching on one of the most sensitive topic within the Christian faith. May God help us to hold on to our marriages no matter the circumstances to be deemed fit for eternity through the grace of Christ.
Haha... I am not married yet anyway
Try to avoid marriage for as long as possible! if you think marriage is difficult, try divorce!
There are many obstacles to enter into eternal life. Many divorcees outside of their first marriage are living in adultery, man and wife are bound till death. But too many marriage have gone bad and Church need numbers.
I want to say thank you. I’m on my second marriage and it’s been rough, my mother is encouraging me to get divorced and using the Bible to justify it, but my husband (semi believer?) doesn’t want me to leave. You have given me hope that our relationship can be renewed!
In 2016, I got divorced from a nonbeliever. My nonbeliever wife was abusing me. She hit me. She used a weapon on me. She faked a pregnancy. She refused to let me go to church or see my family. She yelled at me several hours each day. She found fault in everything that I did. I tried hard to reconcile. She considered all forms of counseling to be a greater embarrassment than ending a marriage and refused to work on these issues with me. She made it clear that the only way for us to stay married was for me to say it was my fault for making her angry. Yet, she continued to find fault in absolutely anything that I did. Not only that, but her abuse of me was hurting her and our child. It was endangering everyone to stay together. Through prayer, I came to realize that recognciliation was impossible. So I filed for divorce. Like many, I consider abuse as abandoning the marriage. I believe that I have biblical grounds for divorce in 1 Corinthians 7:15.
Just wanted to share to my fellow brothers & sisters. Divorce is complex. It is not always straight forward and easily explained, unless you have endured it personally. It's a challenge to understand and heal from. Even still, sin is sin and we owe no explanation to Pharisees or swine. Take time to place yourself before God, His Word, His Spirit and understand what He wants to say to you about your divorce or separation. Thank God that He knows, forgives and loves inspite of it all. Whether you've divorced, lied, done witchcraft, gossiped, been immoral or commited any other sin. No one may cast a stone or act holier than though because they didnt "do what you did". God is faithful, true and gracious to His beloved. Keep His goodness before you and you can't stay down.
True, but divorce is not a sin. Although what leads to divorce is sin (adultery, abuse, etc.).
@@em77775 Such a simple statement of truth. Praise God !
LUKE 16:18 Everyone who divorces his wis and marries another commits Adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits Adultery.
@1 Corinthians 15 1-4 The correct translation actually says this for Mark 10:11-12 "And He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her; and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery against him. The innocent party is allowed to Remarry and the Guilty Party cannot unless they Repent/Turn Away from Evil and then have time to think about their Sin and possibly be Given another Chance after-awhile of Sincere Forgiveness and if not and they Continue in Evil they will end up in Hell. JESUS is talking about a No-FAULT Divorce, it's Illegitimate and used as a Weapon against the Wife and Husband depending on who Divorces who Illegitimately. JESUS is against Malicious Divorce based on Lust, Neglect, and Abusive Spouses. They are the ones who are being Rebuked and whoever is dealing with an Abuser, an Adulterer, Neglecter, and Abandoner, has every reason to Divorce because they are considered Unbelievers because their spirit is Constantly Propelled towards Violence, Wickedness, and Lawlessness. Exodus 21:10-11 talks about taking care of a woman and meeting her needs, if he doesn't meet those needs, she is able to go free.
@@thelogiclockedwithinhuman8285 Praise God. I agree, except on one point. The guilty party can remarry. That one is already unsaved, so God will allow that one to remarry, for being married or unmarried, divorced and remarried has no bearing on salvation.
Thank you for teaching this. So many pastors are afraid to now a days. It breaks my heart that our church has dropped this teaching and has recently allowed a divorced man become an officer.
Please pray for pastors and church churches. When we allow one Bible doctormen drop, where do we stop.
Reserved my seat! 😇 Thank you! I'm going through a separation right now due to addiction. My husband is a believer. We have a child together and his relapse has been going on for about 4 years now. It's tough in these grey areas but God is my husband and has been taking care of us the whole time and I'm thankful! 🙏
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@@viriacssa2003 Thank you but I'm good. To be honest, the title throws me off.I stick with scripture, prayer and fasting.
@@ladym7852 Check the full teachings from the author and another minister of the Gospel, Robert Henderson. I listened to both teachings an bought the ones. I was tired of unanswered prayers to be honest in different areas of my life until I understood that the devil accuses you even of iniquities committed by forefathers. Hurray, Praise be to God, my life has never been the same. They worked and continue to work for me and many other people. Don't be lazy my sister, let not the title throw you off balance
@@viriacssa2003 Not lazy, just discerning. I'm good. Be blessed. 💖 🙏
@@ladym7852 Love and peace, my opinion is you're not discerning properly, you just saw the title however I need to respect your opinion. I don't know your spiritual maturity so I can't judge, I can only voice my opinion. It would be nice for your marriage to be restored and your husband free all to the Glory of God Almighty. My heart is yearning for your restoration, please fast and pray on the subject matter, at least 3 days dry fasting I know will help for you to hear clearly on the subject matter. I also got my own revelations and at least answers to prayers are there. Please please child of God the Divihe restraining orders are working against the devil in Yeshua's Name
You haven't mentioned abuse. My husband never laid a finger on me physically, but I was ridiculed, fat-shamed, (he called me a fat pig in front of my then 6 year old daughter). I once spring cleaned the whole house, and he called me lazy because I can't hang a picture straight. I once said to my Dad, "If he blacked my eye just once, I've got him" (Incidentally, I was only about a stone overweight at the time, so hardly morbidly obese!)
I think when the church seems to communicate that abuse (physical or emotional) is not a valid reason leave the marriage, it makes the victim of the abuse feel worthless and like their experience/feelings/safety/emotional wellbeing does not matter. I was married and divorced. My ex husband passed away. I am "free" to remarry, but I actually cannot because I am traumatized
I wish I could black that guy's eye. Evil person.
@@jenniferjj2155 Hi Jennifer, thanks for your reply. After your horrible experiences, why on earth would you want to remarry! I did have a boyfriend, but he died suddenly 2 years ago (not COVID related). I'm now single and happy.
@@wendyboss944 Exactly! I'm so sorry for your loss😔
Emotional and mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.. even if the bruises aren't visible, they are there, and they can go deep. Toxic relationships can eventually affect our physical health, too, so it is a very dangerous and harmful situation. Please believe that Jesus loves you as one of His dear children, and does not condone abuse. I hope you can find help to get out. (a good exit plan may mean that you never tell him about your intentions of leaving.. stay safe)
My wife filed for a legal separation and didn't need my permission. After a year, she filed for a divorce. To date she has given me no reason for the divorce.
Just don't ever get married again !
Thanks Allen! This was very clear teaching. I guess I’m still curious about a few scenarios though:
-A believing spouse still wants to leave. Personally I think this would coincide in the scenario you laid out with an unbelieving spouse, because if someone who “believes” is really serious on leaving, I think God would still call us to peace
-Abuse. Though not laid out in scripture, I just cannot see how God would force someone to stay in a relationship that has become abusive. Perhaps it wasn’t and it became abusive later. I would imagine the most loving thing to do for the abused spouse (and children possibly) is to flee for physical safety. Once again, God has called that person to peace
-Abandonment or neglect. Perhaps this is similar to the desertion scenario you laid out. I personally believe that the first thing a couple should do in this situation is to try and reconcile, and maybe find the root of the abandonment. But if one spouse, say after a few years, just simply will not give the other spouse the attention, love, and support that they need in a marriage, I just have a hard time believing that that person should stay. It’s like condemning them to a life sentence, and it’s almost as though the neglectful partner wants out anyways. Again, what are your thoughts?
Thanks again Allen, have a blessed day!
Abandonment or neglect. I don't think so. Either husband or wife could easily say at some point in the marriage that they were emotionally or sexually or spiritually abandoned or neglected. Just about every marriage will have a stretch like that. It's easy to make a case for abandonment or neglect, it's like having a ball of Wax and shaping it into whatever you want. I see no scriptural support for such an idea at all. That seems to be a rather new age concept.
@@Totem360 a "stretch" is quite different than years of disconnect though.
@@lcam9241 fair enough, I do recall once on the old Dr Laura show she said it's not uncommon for there to be a 5-year or so time in a long marriage where both couples really have a hard time with each other. If you've been married for 40 50 or 60 years I think that's probably fairly accurate
the exception if fornication.....none of these othere issues constitute a Bible reason for divorce and remarriage....
@@philipbuckley759 Since fornication is involved in just about every separation, and also in marriages where the husband and wife are still together, don't you then realize that very few have to stay together, so why are you jumping down everyone's throat about this issue?
You have no knowledge of what's going on. Really, you should stop saying things that do not apply to what's being said.
And, you follow the Bible, that DOES NOT contain all the words that God, nor Jesus ever spoke. But the Holy Spirit teaches us all things. Do you know of Him?
I really appreciate how this is coming from a biblical point of view. Thank you Allen
My wife divorced me 6 months ago, and I've been struggling to understand how this would work, as I've had this strong desire to get remarried, but am completely unsure if I'm even eligible. I have a couple different meetings with Godly men in my life coming up shortly to discuss this topic, and Allen has given in this video a few more passages to go over in addition to what Jesus said in Mark 10:1-7 and Luke 16:18. Thanks!